WEBVTT 00:00:00.040 --> 00:00:02.700 Hi, and welcome back to a new How Did You Make 00:00:02.700 --> 00:00:06.139 It? I'm Yosra, your host, and today we have a 00:00:06.139 --> 00:00:09.419 bonus episode. As you can imagine, I'm consistently 00:00:09.419 --> 00:00:11.980 reflecting on the content I'm sharing with you, 00:00:12.160 --> 00:00:15.439 what makes sense, and how to make those conversations 00:00:15.439 --> 00:00:18.839 as clear as possible for you to keep on finding 00:00:18.839 --> 00:00:22.980 them useful, insightful. So, what about making 00:00:22.980 --> 00:00:26.039 this episode? For the one who are trying to empower, 00:00:26.280 --> 00:00:29.989 and for the one who need to feel empowered. And 00:00:29.989 --> 00:00:33.090 if this is your first time joining the pod, first, 00:00:33.250 --> 00:00:36.090 thank you so much for being here. And secondly, 00:00:36.210 --> 00:00:39.509 let me introduce you the ambition of the podcast. 00:00:40.310 --> 00:00:44.049 This podcast wants to empower you from your early 00:00:44.049 --> 00:00:46.929 teenage year to the moment where you feel like 00:00:46.929 --> 00:00:50.210 you finally made it to where you want to be. 00:00:50.429 --> 00:00:54.109 Essentially, you get to learn what others have 00:00:54.109 --> 00:00:59.420 done, how they made it. But what exactly? how 00:00:59.420 --> 00:01:02.039 they made it through difficult moments how they 00:01:02.039 --> 00:01:04.560 made it through the self -doubts the external 00:01:04.560 --> 00:01:07.959 challenges how they made it through confusing 00:01:07.959 --> 00:01:11.459 moments and how they find what makes sense for 00:01:11.459 --> 00:01:15.400 them so here you go on one side you'll get to 00:01:15.400 --> 00:01:18.439 discover their path and get to learn what opportunities 00:01:18.439 --> 00:01:22.560 exist out there but also and most importantly 00:01:22.560 --> 00:01:26.019 what it takes to reach it through advice they 00:01:26.019 --> 00:01:29.439 wish they received or they did receive advise 00:01:29.439 --> 00:01:33.200 they have themselves for you from their own learnings 00:01:33.200 --> 00:01:38.340 and as well as brilliant tools. So for you, younger 00:01:38.340 --> 00:01:42.060 human, let me share five steps for you to follow 00:01:42.060 --> 00:01:45.819 when listening to each episode. Okay, so let's 00:01:45.819 --> 00:01:48.579 start with you, younger human. Let me share five 00:01:48.579 --> 00:01:51.019 steps for you to follow when listening to the 00:01:51.019 --> 00:01:57.560 podcast. Okay, step one. Prepare yourself. Set 00:01:57.560 --> 00:02:01.069 a goal. Determine why you're listening to this 00:02:01.069 --> 00:02:03.530 episode today. What do you want to learn today? 00:02:03.670 --> 00:02:07.810 Which leads me to the second step. Put away all 00:02:07.810 --> 00:02:11.090 the potential distractions. Even if you decide 00:02:11.090 --> 00:02:14.889 to listen to 10, 15 minutes, just part of the 00:02:14.889 --> 00:02:19.069 episode, put the distractions away. And listen 00:02:19.069 --> 00:02:22.729 actively. There are higher chances for you to 00:02:22.729 --> 00:02:24.949 remember what the guests are sharing with you 00:02:24.949 --> 00:02:28.639 if you're actively listening to them. And to 00:02:28.639 --> 00:02:31.460 do that, you can do three things. Or maybe more. 00:02:32.319 --> 00:02:36.460 But here are your options. First, you can pause 00:02:36.460 --> 00:02:39.659 when you think that something is kind of hitting 00:02:39.659 --> 00:02:42.500 you. The second thing, and I probably said it 00:02:42.500 --> 00:02:46.800 a lot of times, is replay. Replay the parts which 00:02:46.800 --> 00:02:50.099 were interesting or you think we spoke too fast 00:02:50.099 --> 00:02:54.340 to understand what was shared and said. The third 00:02:54.340 --> 00:02:56.340 thing is also something I've been consistently 00:02:56.340 --> 00:03:01.310 sharing is Write down the elements. Write down 00:03:01.310 --> 00:03:04.229 the things that are being asked. The things that 00:03:04.229 --> 00:03:07.270 are being shared. The things that resonate with 00:03:07.270 --> 00:03:10.389 you. And my favorite part would be the third 00:03:10.389 --> 00:03:14.729 step. The reflection piece. What can you do? 00:03:15.050 --> 00:03:17.789 What are you learning? And that you can apply 00:03:17.789 --> 00:03:21.150 for your own life. We are bringing you information. 00:03:21.830 --> 00:03:25.969 But the only person who's able to tailor it. 00:03:26.729 --> 00:03:29.150 It's either someone very, very, very close to 00:03:29.150 --> 00:03:32.430 you and yourself. So you can ask yourself some 00:03:32.430 --> 00:03:36.389 questions like, what behavior can I adopt? What 00:03:36.389 --> 00:03:39.610 did I learn that I didn't know before? Where 00:03:39.610 --> 00:03:42.530 can I start? And a concrete example would be, 00:03:42.650 --> 00:03:47.990 most of the guests have had habits or passions 00:03:47.990 --> 00:03:50.870 or activities outside of school, for instance. 00:03:51.569 --> 00:03:58.090 Some have played basketball, football. or took 00:03:58.090 --> 00:04:01.590 theater classes and for each of them it has brought 00:04:01.590 --> 00:04:05.270 them something very different bringing them peace 00:04:05.270 --> 00:04:08.210 of mind bringing them an opportunity to fight 00:04:08.210 --> 00:04:12.210 their shyness or simply to just have fun so following 00:04:12.210 --> 00:04:16.790 this what kind of activity can you do and if 00:04:16.790 --> 00:04:20.410 you don't know what can you try and if it doesn't 00:04:20.410 --> 00:04:23.129 work that's fine move to the next thing but i'm 00:04:23.129 --> 00:04:25.050 sure you understand now there's just something 00:04:25.629 --> 00:04:28.610 They share why they did it or simply the impact 00:04:28.610 --> 00:04:32.350 it had at the time and how it helped them at 00:04:32.350 --> 00:04:35.810 any capacity. And this takes us to the fourth 00:04:35.810 --> 00:04:39.350 step, taking action. You have the knowledge, 00:04:39.490 --> 00:04:42.889 as I said, you reflect it. Now it's time for 00:04:42.889 --> 00:04:48.050 action on both your personal side and the academic 00:04:48.050 --> 00:04:52.069 professional side, right? The thing is, you don't 00:04:52.069 --> 00:04:54.970 need to start everything at the same time. Actually, 00:04:54.990 --> 00:04:58.750 it will be better if you start small and you 00:04:58.750 --> 00:05:01.990 remain consistent. You need to make it very specific 00:05:01.990 --> 00:05:05.569 though. I don't want to influence you, but I 00:05:05.569 --> 00:05:07.970 will still share examples to make it very concrete. 00:05:08.610 --> 00:05:12.449 On the academic side, it can be the guests shared 00:05:12.449 --> 00:05:15.329 their love for math, their love for science, 00:05:15.470 --> 00:05:18.350 and they could not stop talking about it, which 00:05:18.350 --> 00:05:21.370 was quite inspiring. But in my situation now, 00:05:22.009 --> 00:05:25.069 Not only those classes were very difficult, but 00:05:25.069 --> 00:05:28.610 also teachers have not been helpful. So the one 00:05:28.610 --> 00:05:30.730 action I'm going to take, because they inspired 00:05:30.730 --> 00:05:35.829 me, is for the next few weeks I will be watching 00:05:35.829 --> 00:05:39.829 YouTube videos teaching me more about those specific 00:05:39.829 --> 00:05:43.509 classes. Or if watching video is not my thing, 00:05:43.649 --> 00:05:47.290 I will be doing more research at the library. 00:05:48.149 --> 00:05:52.199 On the personal activities side, For the next 00:05:52.199 --> 00:05:55.540 few weeks, I will be looking into what's available 00:05:55.540 --> 00:05:59.819 in the location I am now. Anything sporty, anything 00:05:59.819 --> 00:06:02.819 artistic, anything that works for me. To clearly 00:06:02.819 --> 00:06:06.220 understand what are my options. And the fifth 00:06:06.220 --> 00:06:10.920 and best step is the experiment. You're going 00:06:10.920 --> 00:06:14.920 for it. You're testing. If you're trying it and 00:06:14.920 --> 00:06:17.579 you're loving it, you keep going. And if you 00:06:17.579 --> 00:06:21.240 don't like it, you find something else. And during 00:06:21.240 --> 00:06:25.040 that process, you've been reflecting. What you 00:06:25.040 --> 00:06:28.220 tried, what you liked, what you disliked. Was 00:06:28.220 --> 00:06:30.759 it something which was in your control, outside 00:06:30.759 --> 00:06:32.839 of your control? Let me give you an example. 00:06:33.160 --> 00:06:36.839 You signed up for a sport activity. A month in, 00:06:36.959 --> 00:06:40.000 you feel like it's not for you. Why do you think 00:06:40.000 --> 00:06:43.839 that? What is bothering you now? Is it the activity 00:06:43.839 --> 00:06:47.779 itself? Is it your level in comparison to other 00:06:47.779 --> 00:06:50.379 people who are there? Are you willing to give 00:06:50.379 --> 00:06:53.060 it more time? Ask yourself as many questions 00:06:53.060 --> 00:06:56.600 to make sure that you're not rushing into a decision. 00:06:58.120 --> 00:07:01.819 So now you're ready. You need to prepare to actively 00:07:01.819 --> 00:07:05.620 listen, to reflect, to take action, and then 00:07:05.620 --> 00:07:09.879 to review and revisit and test as much as possible. 00:07:10.399 --> 00:07:13.199 I really hope that helps. And if you have any 00:07:13.199 --> 00:07:17.639 questions, please do send them my way. On socials, 00:07:17.920 --> 00:07:20.240 on the comment section of the episode anywhere 00:07:20.240 --> 00:07:26.120 and for the one who wants to empower i got you 00:07:26.120 --> 00:07:29.540 we are starting with the same foundations so 00:07:29.540 --> 00:07:34.000 the step one is also preparing followed by actively 00:07:34.000 --> 00:07:36.980 listening those two first steps are going to 00:07:36.980 --> 00:07:41.899 help you reflect on the takeaways the things 00:07:41.899 --> 00:07:45.379 that you are perceiving that could help the person 00:07:45.379 --> 00:07:48.319 you want to empower So you can ask yourself the 00:07:48.319 --> 00:07:52.199 following questions. How did the guest made it 00:07:52.199 --> 00:07:56.220 through each chapter of his or her life? What 00:07:56.220 --> 00:07:59.660 helped them grow? What behaviors, what actions 00:07:59.660 --> 00:08:04.620 changed their lives? What suggestions can I share 00:08:04.620 --> 00:08:07.819 to the person I want to empower based on what 00:08:07.819 --> 00:08:11.439 I've learned, what I've heard? This third step 00:08:11.439 --> 00:08:15.810 will allow you to tailor the next step. This 00:08:15.810 --> 00:08:19.170 fourth step is not necessarily applicable to 00:08:19.170 --> 00:08:22.829 anyone who wants to empower. But the idea of 00:08:22.829 --> 00:08:25.350 the fourth step would be to inspire through actions. 00:08:25.889 --> 00:08:29.230 What do I mean by that? Actions speak louder 00:08:29.230 --> 00:08:32.909 than words. To show them. To show the person 00:08:32.909 --> 00:08:35.450 you're trying to empower what a healthy behavior 00:08:35.450 --> 00:08:38.169 looks like. Because it's through episodes you've 00:08:38.169 --> 00:08:41.750 decided that discipline is definitely something 00:08:41.750 --> 00:08:45.519 that the person you want to empower need to adopt? 00:08:45.799 --> 00:08:50.700 Are they able to see it through you? Are you 00:08:50.700 --> 00:08:54.039 behaving as a disciplined human? Because then 00:08:54.039 --> 00:08:57.159 the fifth step is going to be smoother for you 00:08:57.159 --> 00:09:01.639 to have conversations about those elements. I 00:09:01.639 --> 00:09:03.879 chose discipline because I think discipline looks 00:09:03.879 --> 00:09:06.799 different for everyone. As long as you have an 00:09:06.799 --> 00:09:09.700 example, as long as they can witness that example, 00:09:09.899 --> 00:09:14.220 it will help you empower them. It will then allow 00:09:14.220 --> 00:09:17.399 you to ask this question. What do you think? 00:09:18.080 --> 00:09:21.440 What's one step you can take? Or what's one step 00:09:21.440 --> 00:09:24.480 we can take together to try something new, something 00:09:24.480 --> 00:09:27.480 different? And from there, you'll be able to 00:09:27.480 --> 00:09:31.620 do three things. Discussing it, testing something 00:09:31.620 --> 00:09:35.120 new, and revisiting if it didn't work. But essentially, 00:09:35.399 --> 00:09:41.440 taking action together. Well... Thank you so 00:09:41.440 --> 00:09:43.740 much for joining. You know what you have to do 00:09:43.740 --> 00:09:47.299 now. Go back to those previous episodes and I'll 00:09:47.299 --> 00:09:50.480 see you next week with a brand new one where 00:09:50.480 --> 00:09:53.720 you can already use all those strategies and 00:09:53.720 --> 00:09:56.220 get to learn more about someone else and yourself. 00:09:56.720 --> 00:09:59.159 And before you leave, don't forget to subscribe. 00:09:59.299 --> 00:10:01.500 Don't forget to share this episode with someone 00:10:01.500 --> 00:10:05.480 who you know will definitely need it and give 00:10:05.480 --> 00:10:09.379 the podcast five stars. See you.