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Okay, no introduction, just going to jump right

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into it. So, Dochi had a Hot Ones Q &A with Miss

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Milan, and they were asking questions back and

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forth, and one of the questions asked to Dochi

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was what her red flag was for dating, and her

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response was straight men. I believe she said

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something along the lines of, like, maybe I'm

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quoting here, like, I mean, strike one, you're

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a man and you're heterosexual, right? So straight

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men seems to be a red flag for Dochi. Now, I

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want to be clear about something. I personally

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don't care what Dochi says in the sense that

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her view is her view. And, you know, she has

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preferences and she has her own history in dating

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and she has her own red flags. And this just

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happens to be hers, right? If anything, it just

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made me a little bit more curious, like, oh,

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what were her experience like? As, you know,

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anybody who's having a conversation with somebody

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might want to ask if they're actually trying

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to get to understand the other person. And to

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find out, like, oh, why is this a red flag for

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you? What has your experience been that this

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is serving as a red flag? But that was just my

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response. What did fascinate me, because those

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of you who know me know I just don't honestly

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care what most other people think. What did fascinate

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me, though, was the range of responses that came

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flooding in after her interview, right? Some

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people responded with, well, this is just nothing.

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Who cares? Like I did, right? This is just her

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personal preferences. Others, interestingly,

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took it as a joke of some kind, although I don't

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see where the joke is. In fact, if you watch

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the video, she seems to just report it fairly

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matter -of -factly. And so, you know, some people

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thought because it was a joke. that it was nothing

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to get worked over, like get over it. Sounds

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kind of dismissive to me, but, you know, that

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was some of the responses. Others responded with

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a little bit more curiosity and wanted to find

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out exactly why she responded in the way that

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she did. And some people just didn't know that

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she identifies as queer and bisexual. So they,

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you know, might have wanted to find out about

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her own history. Others actually use that knowledge

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that she does identify as bisexual and queer

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and use it as a way to make sense of her response,

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that her response was just simply to say that

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she just wants to be with other queer people

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or something along these lines, right? I don't

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know how you would know that that's what she

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meant because there was nothing in the interview

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that actually said it, but okay, neither here

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nor there. Seems like a lot of people are responding

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and... you know, adding a lot of things into

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the interview that wasn't actually at least explicitly

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there. So a lot of people seem to be reading

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into it. Now, I personally was most interested

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in the, I think, a larger portion of the responses,

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at least in social media. And this is part of

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the reason I hate social media. But, you know,

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there's a large number of people who seem to

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have taken offense with her statement as some

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sort of attack on straight men. So they took

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her statement that her red flag is straight men

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to respond with, so what's wrong with straight

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men? Are you saying that straight men are a problem,

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that they're awful people? And many of them started

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claiming that Dochi is going to lose a chunk

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of her audience, that a lot of people who once

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supported her will no longer support her because

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they feel personally attacked or insulted being

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identifying as a straight male. I'm a straight

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man, okay? All right, so I want to talk about

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the backlash. I don't care about, you know, Dochi's

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actual response. I think there was nothing to

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her response. It's more the responses that are

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really fascinating. Okay, so I'm looking at the

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people who are offended. I mean, I understand

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that you are offended. I will acknowledge that,

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right? But the question here is why were you

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offended, right? Why instead of being curious

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about her claims, wanting to know more about

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why she felt that way, why is it that you automatically

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went to the realm of you're attacking straight

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men? This is not a good thing to do. This is

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insulting. This is demeaning. It's disrespectful.

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Why did you jump into that realm so quickly?

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Now, look, I'm not going to play armchair psychologist

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here. I'm not going to try to assume that I know

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what it is that any of these people are thinking

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or feeling. I'm not going to assume anything

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about what Dochi meant. I think this is where

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a lot of the responses have gone wrong, is that

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people start assuming, you know, this is what

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Dochi meant when, you know, there's nothing,

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I mean, there's no follow -up question here.

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There was nothing, you know, added to her discussion

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that indicated what she actually believed in

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her response or what she meant by her response,

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right? I don't know either. So, you know, I'm

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not going to try to pretend I do, okay? I just

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know what the reactions are, right? So I know

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that some people were offended. A lot of people

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felt that it was an insult to straight men to

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claim that's a red flag. And I can see where

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they're coming from because red flags usually

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indicate that it's something that is wrong, right?

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At least for the person who claims it's a red

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flag for them, that it's something that they

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are going to be cautious of, that they don't

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want to engage with people of that kind, right?

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For whatever reason. It might be their own personal

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experience. It might just be their general views

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of people with those qualities. But red flags

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are often seen as a bad thing, right? We don't

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say like red flags, like, yay, let's go date

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somebody with somebody with all these red flags,

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right? So I could understand where it's coming

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from to some degree. And, you know, I'm even

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going to go one step further. Let's just assume

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for the sake of argument that she actually genuinely

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believes that straight men are a red flag in

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the sense that straight men are a problem, right?

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As in, in dating life, For her, she thinks that

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with straight men, you need to be kind of cautious

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or be a little bit hesitant to date them because

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they are straight men, okay? So the question

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I have is this. Those of you who are getting

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all worked up over Dochi's comments, why are

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you offended? Why are you getting so defensive?

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And don't start... here by claiming that you're

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not defensive, because that just sounds honestly

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defensive. The fact that you are offended and

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you're getting worked up and you feel a need

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to comment on social media, that you are expressing

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how you're feeling, you're clearly offended,

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you clearly are wanting to defend straight men

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or yourself, I'm not sure what, right? But...

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I'm asking you this in all honesty because my

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guess is you know the reality. You're not going

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to be dating Doji, right? You're not even going

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to meet her at any point, I'm guessing, right?

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And, you know, maybe you're a fan and you feel

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like she owes you something to consider, like

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straight men to be, I don't know, great or something

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in order for you to... support an artist maybe

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that's what it is I'm not sure exactly what right

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but what's clear is that you have no personal

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relationships or connections to Dochi right and

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you still seem to have taken some issue with

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her comments so I want to just sit for a second

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with your reaction and I want to sit with your

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reaction for a reason it's because at least from

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my experience I think that your reaction might

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actually reveal why straight men are a red flag.

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Now, I'm not saying that all people who were

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offended were straight men. I saw a comment and

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people going after Dochi that were not straight

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men. It was women. It was people who identify

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in all different ways. I'm not going to speak

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on all of them. What I do know is that There

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is something to the idea that straight men on

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the whole, I'm not talking about any particular

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individual, but straight men on the whole, maybe

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it's because of culturally what is or isn't accepted,

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right? I don't know about individual personal

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history, like I said, but, you know, at least

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generally culturally, right? Straight men often

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tend to be a certain way. And I mean, there's

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even research that kind of bears this out. Let

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me kind of just point to You know, an antidote

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or actually just an SNL episode. There was a

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whole SNL skit where Bo and Yang and who was

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it? I think it was like Travis Kelsey were doing

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this whole skit about being friends with a straight

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male. Right. So Bo and Yang. talking about how

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he loves his girlfriends, but sometimes he needs

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a break from all that because it's emotionally

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very, you know, you have to invest a lot emotionally

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and financially. But with straight men, things

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come kind of easy. You don't have to be emotionally

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invested. And in the skit, if you go and watch

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it, right, you look at the conversations and

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the kind of conversations they have, they don't

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talk about anything personal. In fact, I think

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Travis Kelsey was saying something like, you

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know, I'm sorry for talking about my dad dying.

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I won't be like that again. right? Apologizing

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for expressing feelings, right? And, you know,

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it works as a joke in part because there is some

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truth to it, right? I'm speaking from my own

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experiences. Like, most of the men in my life

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tend to be terrible at identifying and expressing

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their feelings. I'm probably one of the few men

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that I know of like that actually go to therapy

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regularly and have reflected on my own feelings

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and my often inability to kind of express myself

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in an accurate way, right? Or lashing out at

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people because I didn't understand how I was

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really, what was really behind it. This is actually

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a fairly common experience for a lot of men.

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And I say that the research bears it out because

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one of the major issues with men is that, at

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least according to research anyways, is that

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there's a disproportionate number of men who

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end up being depressed, suffer from loneliness,

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and commit suicide. This is an actual real problem

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for men. And at the root of a lot of this, in

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part anyways, in large part I would say, is that

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men have a terrible time. identifying, sitting

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with their feelings, acknowledging their feelings,

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expressing their feelings, learning how to deal

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with their feelings in a healthy way. These are

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things that affect men generally, but I think

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it actually affects straight men probably more

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than anything. Straight male culture is very

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different than the gay or queer community and

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what is kind of acceptable for men in those spaces

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to actually do. So I'm pointing all this out

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because, again, individually, you individually,

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it might not apply to you, but you're also kind

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of living under a rock and not acknowledging

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reality if you think that there's not a general

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issue with men across the board, and specifically

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with straight men. And one of the things that

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comes out... from straight men, something about

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the culture is that oftentimes they get very

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defensive. They get very, how do you say this?

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They take it personally when things are not personal,

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right? So if somebody makes a comment about men

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generally, not the individual, but men generally,

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many of them will take it personally as an attack

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on them specifically, right? Now, I want to be

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clear, right? I think this is a normal human

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reaction. I think all humans experience this,

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right? Children have to kind of learn at an early

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age and constantly kind of practice this to be

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able to differentiate between, you know, they're

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feeling a certain way and other people being

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wrong for making them feel this way, right? I

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mean, this is one of the things I learned in

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therapy, like therapy 101. One of the things

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I learned was... You're responsible for your

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own feelings, right? Like you need to learn to

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acknowledge and accept your feelings and not

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put the responsibility on others for how you

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feel, right? You feel how you feel because that's

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just how you feel, right? You can't point to

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other people and say, you made me feel this way.

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But I've learned from my own experience that

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it happens, at least for me, more often with

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men that they get defensive in this way and take

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it as a personal slight on them. Or as my insulting

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them specifically, right? Now, sometimes I might

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just be guilty of, you know, implying a little

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too heavily. And so, like, it makes sense why

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they would connect the dots in that way, right?

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But at the same time, sometimes it's just true.

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And this is why I am so fascinated by the response,

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the response I've seen. And the reason I'm surprised

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is I... I was hoping that at least, you know,

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not that I expected men to, you know, make major

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drastic changes in their life to address it in

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any way or think of it as a problem. But I was

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surprised that a lot of men do not even like

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see that, you know, male culture is the way that

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it is, right? When men get together and some

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of the behaviors that they engage in, that the

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fact that they can't understand why others. just

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don't like it. They think that they find it to

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be a problem, that they find it to be something

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that we shouldn't be encouraging people to do.

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Let me give you another example. I'm guilty of

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a lot of these, so I'm not trying to throw other

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people under the bus and say I'm better than

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anybody. I have had to learn because I was guilty

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of a lot of this. I'll just use an example for

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myself. One of the things that I had a hard time

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doing especially in married life, but even prior

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in previous relationships, is to be able to talk

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openly and to address the other person's feeling

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in that relationship. And part of the reason

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I had difficulty doing so was that I would often

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get wrapped up in my own feelings, right? I would,

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instead of hearing their concerns or their anger

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or frustration with me, instead of actually listening

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to what it is that they were trying to communicate

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to me about how they felt, I was quick to focus

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on my own feelings about their feelings, right?

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In other words, I saw their feelings as somehow

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a threat to the relationship or as an indication

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that they were rejecting me. And so I would get

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up all up in my own feelings, right? And, you

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know, now, you know, after years of kind of working

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on this, I look back on it and say, wow, like

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there are so many chances where I could have

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really connected with the other person by listening

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and empathizing with their. feelings, but instead

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I just completely cut them off, right? I put

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a barrier between us in our relationship because

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I was not able to actually hear their heart.

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I wasn't able to hear how they were feeling.

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And instead I was so focused on my own feelings

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that I just basically ignored everything that

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they were saying, or I would end up twisting

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what they were saying into something about me,

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right? And how I felt. And, you know, I didn't

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realize just how much kind of pain and hurt I

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was causing the other person in that relationship.

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But upon reflection now, I could actually see

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like, oh yeah, that makes so much sense why,

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you know, the person that I was in a relationship

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with felt so alone and didn't feel like I actually

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saw them or noticed them or, you know, understood

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them, right? I could understand exactly why they

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felt that way. And it had everything to do with

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the way that I responded to them, right? Had

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everything to do with my response. OK, but here's

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the thing, like the way that I was responding,

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that's how most guys I meet, that's how they

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respond. Right. I've tried with men to be able

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to have deeper conversations and talk about feelings.

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Right. I have a chat group with college buddies,

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all dudes. Right. Um, where I tried to do this

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exercise, I found a wonderful set of, uh, cars

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that are being sold. I think it was like a startup

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somewhere of, uh, of people doing it out of their

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home, but a little card game where, you know,

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friends are, it's called friends are human, uh,

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too. And it asks questions that are at a various

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level, like questions about the relationship

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you have with the other person. And I suggested,

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you know, cause we're not like physically next

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to each other. We can't meet up. you know, as

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frequently as we would like, that I would put

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these things, these questions out there for us

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to answer so that we could really get to know

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each other. And I see the responses and I'm like,

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these are not very deep responses. These are

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kind of like very surface level responses. There's

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a lack of depth in the responses. And it didn't

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surprise me, right? And I think this is what's

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shocking. I feel like it's okay to be like, well,

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yeah, that's how guys are. And, you know, acknowledge

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like, yeah, this is something that other people

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might not necessarily like. To acknowledge it

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would be great. But what's fascinating is that

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I think a lot of people just don't even realize

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that this is something that is detrimental to

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building relationships, right? Like you can't

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have deeper, meaningful relationships unless

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you're able to go into that space. Where you

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understand and learn about the other person and

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their inner workings and their history and their

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lives and how that impacted who they are now,

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right? Until you actually go into that space

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and are willing to have those deeper, more vulnerable

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conversations, you're just not going to have

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a deep connection with that person. You could

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have a great working relationship. You could

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have a lot of fun together, right? It's an easy

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relationship. I mean, this is what the SNL skin

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is talking about, right? The relationship becomes

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easier. You're friends, but you're not really,

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you know, friends in any deep sense. You're friends

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in the sense that they're always down to hang

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out. You always have a good time. But then any

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sort of emotional baggage, you don't go to them

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to talk about it. Because one of the reasons

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is you're not going to feel heard. You're not

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going to feel understood. They could distract

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you from whatever you're dealing with. but they're

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not going to help you work through it, right?

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But the fact that people don't see this as a

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predominantly, again, not exclusively, but a

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predominantly straight male problem, that's what's

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fascinating here about the responses. In other

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words, like the fact that people are getting

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so defensive is the very thing that I at least

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would consider a red flag in a relationship.

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Right? That's what I would consider a red flag

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in a relationship. If somebody gets defensive

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about something I say about my own preferences,

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instead of responding with curiosity, you respond

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with getting defensive about it as if it's an

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attack on you specifically, is for me a red flag.

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That itself is the red flag. So I was reading

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all these responses and I found it to be so...

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funny in some ways because there's this kind

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of like this lack of awareness about the very

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thing that you're doing that could at least potentially,

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like I said, I don't know what Dochi meant by

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straight men being a red flag. What I can tell

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you myself is that there's a lot of things that

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specifically mostly straight men do that I consider

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to be a red flag, right? If my daughter was dating

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one of these men, Right. I only have one kid

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and I have a daughter. Right. So, you know, she

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was going around dating and, you know, it doesn't

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even matter if it was a man, if it was any person

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who demonstrated this sort of response in response

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to her expressing her feelings or her preferences.

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Right. Or something that should have been an

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opening to a deeper, meaningful discussion about

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personal life experiences. Right. If somebody

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responded with this sort of defensiveness, for

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me as a parent, I would see that as a red flag.

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I would see that as a red flag. And I'm not going

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to lie to myself and then say that this is something

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that affects everybody, all humans in the same

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way. It clearly doesn't. It clearly doesn't.

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It clearly seems to be an issue that exists mostly

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with men. Mostly with men. And it's backed up

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by all the data that we see. It is a serious

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problem, at least in the United States. But I'm

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imagining, I wouldn't be surprised if this also

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existed in a lot of other countries where there

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was a long history of, you know, what is it,

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of men being touted as, like, leaders or people

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who had to be strong and people who had to, like,

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not really show their emotions and have a lot

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of grit, right? Like, it wouldn't surprise me

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if this is a problem in those areas as well,

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which is, you know, at least from my experience,

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again, And at least backed up with some data,

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men have a really hard time connecting with other

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men, other people generally, in any deeper way

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because there's something about the culture that

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it gets ingrained in them that they never learn

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how to be deeper emotionally in relationships.

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They don't know how to build these deeper connections

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with other people. And as a result, you're seeing

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the kind of consequences of it. A lot of lonely

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men. who don't have any deep friendships, who

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don't turn to other people, friends, in order

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to talk out whatever they're going through, that

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if they don't have a therapist, then they really

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don't have any other people to rely on to talk

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about their feelings. They don't even know how

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to identify their feelings, right? They can't

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even tell that they're being triggered or that

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they are reacting to things in ways that have

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nothing to do with the thing that they're facing

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in the first place, like in the Xochitl case,

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right? It's a person you don't know that is just

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speaking her mind. Why are you getting so worked

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up? Maybe that's the first place to start. Maybe

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that's the first place to start. But I don't

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know. I don't know if maybe I'm just seeing things.

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I don't know if other people are noticing what

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it is that I'm noticing. But I find that, and

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this is just generally on social media, this

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is what I find is the responses seem to be a

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lot more telling. than the initial thing that

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let off all these reactions. And in this case,

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that holds very true for me. In any case, I'd

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like to know what you think. If you find me on

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YouTube, please leave comments. I'm curious about

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other people's thoughts. I've been wanting to

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have conversations about this because I just

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find it to be a fascinating social phenomenon.

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And I'm curious to hear what your experiences

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have been. And, you know, if you disagree with

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me, that's fine. You know, I'd like to have a

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conversation because I want to hear what it is

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that maybe I'm missing here because I find this

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whole thing to be hilarious, but hilarious in

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a very sad way. And maybe I'm on the wrong track.

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So if you can show me otherwise, please, I'd

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like to hear from you. All right. Until next

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time.