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This is a public service announcement. Drake is a bitch, alright?

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So please, do not try to be like Drake. Do not support Drake. Do not go near Drake, okay?

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Stay the fuck away from him.

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Alright, here we go. This is a bonus episode. This probably would have gone into a Tuesday tirade at some point,

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but you know, I think it's important to talk about it right now. I want to talk about Drake, okay?

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Well, not necessarily Drake. I'm going to use Drake as an example, but there's a, you know, we've been talking a lot about college admissions.

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We've been talking about personal statements and how you are presenting yourself to a college.

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And I think one thing that I haven't emphasized enough is that colleges are looking for more than just academic ability, right?

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They're wanting people that they can trust will be good people, okay?

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They're wanting people that will represent the university well. People who will invent things that help a bunch of people.

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They're not looking for sociopaths. They're not wanting people that are going to destroy the world.

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They're not looking for just horrible people in whatever way that you're thinking of horrible people, right?

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And so this is why I think it's a good time to talk about Drake, because Drake is a horrible, horrible person.

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But see, here's the thing. My hate for Drake, you know, it's not just like I just hate him and I hate his music.

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I mean, I hate his music. His music is trash, right?

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But it's more what Drake represents that I think we need to talk about and be aware of, because it's not just Drake, right?

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It's figures like Elon Musk and Bezos. And, you know, I mean, I'm just talking about people that like everybody else would probably be familiar with.

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But there's people in my own lives where I'm like, hmm, don't be like that person, okay?

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That's what I want to talk about. Okay? But I'm going to use Drake as an example, because it's honestly, it's really easy to shit on Drake, okay?

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Because Drake is such a horrible person and he puts his horribleness out there for the world to see.

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He's not like one of those people who are sneaky about it and doesn't hide it.

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He's just horrible and then he just gets caught all the time because he's just out there.

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It's out in the lyrics of his music. It's out in all the things that he does.

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Okay, so what exactly is my issue with Drake? Okay.

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I am going to justify my hatred in the best way possible.

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But to do that, I need to give you a little bit of a background about myself. Okay?

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All right. So I grew up in the Inland Empire. Okay?

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And I grew up not like a lot of the classmates that, you know, went to that had that was from a middle class and had all their needs met.

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No, I lived in a shitty neighborhood, okay, where there was violence. There was like, you know, daytime, like holdups, stabbings, drive-bys, right?

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Theft was pretty common. Okay.

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If you don't know, like if you want to get a sense of the kind of environment I was in, right,

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the main place people in my neighborhood would go to shop is a Swam meet, right?

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If that is any sort of indicator. Okay. Like that's where I lived. Okay.

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That's what I grew up with. I grew up without much of anything. Okay.

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And when I went to school, it was pretty day and night that other students didn't have to struggle in the way that I did. Right.

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I at least weren't, you know, very familiar with people, at least in my circle, because I luckily was able to get into some of these more advanced classes in high school.

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And luckily that kind of shielded me from being exposed to other people like me where, you know,

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I would have to starve some meals in order to have money to go out to watch a movie.

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Like that's how much that's what I had to siphon some of the money that my parents gave me for gas to try to save up a few dollars so that I could go out to eat, you know, once a week, if that.

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And even then it was like a fast food joint. Okay.

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Like I'm trying to kind of paint a picture for you here. Okay.

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And growing up in that environment, there was a specific type of music that really hit me to my core.

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Now, I listened to a range of different kinds of music. My parents tried to get me into classical and it was kind of like a hit or miss with that.

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And I enjoyed a lot of rock music. Right. In fact, I was growing up in a period where Nirvana came in and, you know, punk rock also left a significant impact on me. Right.

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Grunge music. Right. All those things. Right.

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But hip hop specifically gave me life in a way no other music did. Hip hop was like it was like the music was my love language. Right. That's what it felt like.

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Okay. And this in part because what a lot of these rappers, these MCs were, you know, rapping about, though I am not black and I wasn't necessarily going through exactly the same thing they were, I felt a certain certain kind of kinship.

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Okay. Let me give you an example of this. Right. So like, you know, when I listened to DMX, it was like life changing in many ways. Okay. DMX was kind of like my, how do you say this, was like my spiritual advisor.

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Okay. A lot of his tracks where he's having that struggle with being good and doing bad. Like that was my struggle. Right. Like, I mean, I was trying my best to do well in school, stay out of trouble.

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But there was also a side of me where I was hanging out with people like, you know, the Vietnamese and Cambodian community out in San Bernardino. I believe a lot of them were refugees. Right.

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They were living in the slums. I was hanging out with some of them and we were doing a lot of things that we should not be doing. Right. That if I was caught for my life would have gone in a very different direction. Right.

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I was constantly struggling with doing good versus doing a lot of things that were terrible. Right. You know, I wanted some days, right, to be violent. Right.

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Just because the world just felt like so oppressive that I just wanted to break something. Right.

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And so when I hear DMX and he's having these talks with the devil and he's having these conversations with God in his prayers. Right. Like that moved me and touched me in ways that other music just didn't. Right.

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I fell in love with lyricism. Right. When Eminem came out, I just like he was like an expression of channeling my anger. Right. NWA was another example of that as well. Right. NWA, Dr. Dre.

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A lot of the West Coast rappers. Tupac. Right. Even though Tupac wasn't necessarily my favorite. Right.

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I understood why so many people viewed him as a modern day prophet because of the kinds of things that he was saying about what people in marginalized communities were experiencing in L.A. Right.

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When the L.A. riots happened and Koreatown was, Korean businesses were in flames. Right.

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My parents are from Korea. Right. They were clearly empathizing with the Korean business owners.

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I, on the other hand, did not. And the reason I did not is that, you know, the Korean people in my neighborhood too. I mean, I was their business owners. Right. Like people who ran the swap meets and so on. Right.

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And I would be there to help out sometimes. And I saw firsthand how they bought into these racial stereotypes that are being pushed on show that were being pushed on shows like cops.

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And so, you know, the black community, the Mexican community, Latinos generally in that neighborhood was predominantly Latinos where I live. Right.

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They were, you know, they were seen as bad people, suspicious. Right. I remember at one time helping out, you know, one of the business owners, a friend of my parents, right, at their work.

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And I was a kid at that time and I was like an eye opening experience. Right. A black person comes into the store and they told me explicitly to walk around, you know, be cool about it. Right.

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Don't make it obvious, but make sure they don't steal anything. Right. They told me that. And seeing that just enraged me.

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I think at an early age, I had this thing about justice and fairness, but I think being, you know, one of the people that were feeling what society leaves the least of the people in that community. Right.

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The kind of shit they leave them with. Okay. Like that made me want to side with the other marginalized communities that I faced in the United States.

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And so hip hop has a kind of meaning to me that I think it might not have for everybody else. Right. And for me, it wasn't just music.

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It was something. It was like a voice for the oppressed. That's what it felt like. It was a voice for the oppressed. And that's part of the reason that although I accept that hip hop has a portion where there's like that fun dance, right.

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Beats that you can really jive, you know, like, you know, you can really like jam to, right. Whatever, you know, the party side of hip hop. Right. Even though I acknowledge that that's there.

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That wasn't what for me the core of hip hop was. It was about the lyricism. So if you look at my top list of like favorite rappers, right, it's going to include figures like most death. Right.

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Black Star, Talib Kweli, right. It's going to include like, you know, Nas. Right. And it's going to include figures like, you know, Biggie and Tupac.

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Now, if you're somebody who values the culture in this way, when somebody comes in and uses it in order to benefit themselves, where it's solely focused on their own gain to edifying themselves, to lifting themselves up financially, but in terms of fame as well.

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Right. You are going to be, how do you say this, a little bit protective. I personally see the parallel, not the same, but I see the parallel with other kinds of cultures that people might truly value. Right.

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So I know that people from all over the world, right, there's something about their own culture that they might value. And again, it varies within communities how much they value it. Right.

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But there are aspects of, for instance, for my parents, right, there's aspects of their Korean culture that they absolutely value. Right. They value so much. And somebody shouldn't on it or using it simply to profit themselves would be extremely offensive.

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Right. And the reason it's offensive is that there's a kind of seeing each other as humans and showing due respect for fellow humans that's been broken. You're taking something that's valuable to me and you're using it like it's a tool to help yourself without acknowledging that for other people, it's not about money.

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It's not about fame. It's not about the things you're turning it into. Right. It's something much more meaningful. It's something much more personal. Right.

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So, look, Drake is not the first one to do this. There have been other rappers that have come and done this as well. Okay.

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But Drake is just more the most recent example where he came into the culture and he is the living epitome of a culture vulture. This has nothing to do with his blackness. Right.

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It might have something to do with his Canadian-ness, but not necessarily his Canadian-ness either. Right. That's probably a part of it. That's probably why there's a cultural gap.

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If you know anything about Drake, you know where he comes from. He does not come from the streets. He knows nothing about the life in Houston, Atlanta, Vegas. Right.

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What he knows about it is what he experienced partying in these places as a grown man. That's what he knows. He doesn't know what it's like living in the streets.

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He doesn't know what it's like living in these neighborhoods that he claims to understand. So here's the thing. I had no problem with Drake. I had no problem with Drake, at least when it was his take care era.

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At that point, he was just a new guy that came in. In fact, I didn't even consider him a rap artist at all. I didn't consider him an MC. He wasn't very good at rapping.

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And to be honest, he wasn't very good as an R&B singer either. Right. I always thought of him as a pop star. But I liked Take Care. I liked that album.

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There were some songs that really hit me pretty hard. It hit me pretty hard, probably in part because I think I was going through a breakup at that point in life.

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And so the songs, you know, I could understand. I could really like it was meaningful for me.

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But at some point, Drake did something. I don't know exactly when it was, but at some point Drake was coming out with songs where he was trying to rap like he was hard.

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And I was like, oh, no, no, no, no, no. I know you. You are not this. You're a cornball. You're equivalent to me. You're equivalent to someone like Nick Cannon. Right.

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Ever seen Nick Cannon try to rap? It's like, why do you try so hard to rap and try to rap like you're good at it? You're terrible. Right.

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I don't know if it was 50 Cent or somebody else who said this in an interview. Right. But it's like, yo, you suck. Stop trying so hard.

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It's like going around dissing Eminem. Like you're not in the same level. You're not a real MC. Right. You're a cornball. OK.

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And Drake was doing the same thing. Oh, at least that's how I viewed him.

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And so when he was trying to be more than what he really was, there that inauthenticity is offensive to hip hop.

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In hip hop, you could rap about stuff that is in your past and maybe it doesn't apply to you today.

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But one of the cardinal rules for me anyways in hip hop is you need to be authentic. OK.

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You don't go in and you just fake shit. You don't fake shit. OK. You need to be authentic to yourself.

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I wish that Drake would have taken Lil Wayne's advice and then kept a Canadian. Right.

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Like speak about his own life experiences instead of hopping on, going to Atlanta, going to Houston, going to all these other places and adopting other sounds.

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UK. Right. Like he's just he's going around colonizing all over the place. All right.

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That's who he is. He is not somebody who came from the bottom.

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I knew instantly when I heard that song. So from the bottom now here, I was like, you're full of shit.

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And that line specifically, it's offensive to people like me where I had to come from the bottom.

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I know what it was like. I know what it was like having days when you just weren't sure you could pay the rent, when you didn't know if you could pay the bills.

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Right. Days when you're just like, I need to get out of this place because this place is sucking out the soul for me.

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Like, you don't know what it's like. You didn't experience that. OK.

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I'm not saying you didn't go through hard times, but you didn't experience that.

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Don't talk. Don't rap about rap about no coming from the bottom. OK.

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You know, I heard the Knife Talk song with 21 Savage. I was like, yeah, this is a good song. I just wish Drake wasn't on it.

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And the reason for it is, I honestly don't even know if, you know, this is authentic 21 Savage, right?

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If 21 Savage is really this kind of person. But, you know, there's some kind of bravado that exists in hip hop. That's a part of it.

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But at least with Drake, it's like, yo, you're not that guy. You're not that guy.

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Every story that exists out there about you shows that you're not that guy. So why are you talking tough? Why are you talking Knife Talk?

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Shut the fuck up. I don't want to hear it. That's not you.

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So when people, when the Kendrick and Drake beef started happening, people were surprised to hear me being so adamant in my hatred for Drake.

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But I need you to understand something. I hated him long before this beef happened.

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I actually wanted him out of hip hop years ago. It's been over a decade now, man. I've been wanting him gone for a long time.

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I didn't want him profiting off of this music genre. I didn't want it at all.

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And here's the thing. I'm not even black. And I'm pissed off. Why? Because I actually care about hip hop.

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And I think anyone who actually does care about hip hop, like where it's actually meaningful, should hate Drake.

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Should be offended by the kinds of things he does.

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So that's honestly, if you're talking about personal level, why I hate Drake so much, that's really the root of it.

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That's the root of it. Is I don't like people who are A, inauthentic, but B, inauthentic in a way that takes advantage of other people,

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of other cultures, of things that have meaning for other people. I think it's disrespectful.

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I think it's offensive. I think people who actually care about hip hop, right, and are not just looking to make a dollar out of making hip hop music

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or participating in the hip hop community, y'all need to all hate Drake.

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Because Drake is that guy that comes in, the snake in the grass, that comes in and utilizes the culture in ways that he wants to,

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without actually respecting and giving back to the community.

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That's a fucked up person. That's what that is.

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So if you want to know the root of my hatred, that's where it starts.

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But here's the thing, it doesn't end there. It doesn't end there because Drake is a horrible person on a lot of different levels.

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And so there's a lot of different reasons that I end up hating him. And the more I learn about him, the more I end up hating him.

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Even more, right? So like for instance, I told you about how much I like to take care.

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And then come to find, The Weeknd had a major part in writing those songs.

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In fact, I'm firmly convinced that at least several of the probably the bigger hits on that album were written by The Weeknd.

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And the reason I feel this way is that when I listen to the entire catalog of Drake's music and listen to the entire catalog of Weeknd's music,

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Take Care sounds like a Weeknd album. That's what it sounds like, doesn't it?

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You can't unhear it once you hear it, right? So if you are familiar with The Weeknd's music, go back and listen to Take Care, the entire album.

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Tell me that 90% of that album don't sound like The Weeknd. It sounds like Abel. It don't sound like Drake everywhere else.

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There's some Drake there, but really it sounds mostly like a Weeknd album.

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So I believe the stories when they say, you know, when Weeknd's like, yo, he took like half the album is mine. Right?

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I believe that. I believe it because I believe in the actual work and how it compares to the other works that these artists have created.

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OK, now why does this matter? Because, look, I am an academic, but it doesn't have to do with necessarily with being in academia.

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I hate people who cheat. I hate people who steal and take credit for other people's work. I hate it.

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This is just on some moral principleship. OK, if you take my work and take credit for it, I am offended.

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Now, I'll be honest with you. I have made this mistake myself.

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And luckily, I have learned and grown from those mistakes and I've been called out for it.

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And I appreciate that I've been called out for it. I wish more people in Drake's life would have called him out for it.

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But it seems like the people around him are enablers or people who are tied to his lifestyle in ways that he wants to go ahead and continue doing this shit.

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Because it seems like there are so many stories of other people telling, you know, telling us, hey, Drake's been stealing my music. Right?

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XXXTentacion is a good example.

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A lot of people have claimed Drake takes their music. The most recent album, some sexy songs for you, more like some shitty songs for you. Right?

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That shit. Right? The art.

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Immediately, right when it dropped, of course, artists are coming up and saying that Drake stole that idea. Drake stole the cover art ideas. Right?

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Doesn't surprise me. Drake's been doing this for years. Right? Drake's been doing this for years.

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I mean, I already knew he was a mediocre at best R&B singer. I don't even think he's that.

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He's a mediocre rapper at best. And again, I don't even think he's that.

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His talent might be knowing what music it seems to be hitting. But again, he's a wave writer.

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He's a wave writer. That's what he is. He doesn't. He's not an innovator. He's not creative.

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And he steals other people's shit and takes credit for it. That's offensive to me.

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There's a difference between somebody who took an idea that they got from somebody else, but they didn't realize it.

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But once they're told that they did so, they'll acknowledge it. Right?

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Versus somebody who is much more malicious and purposely taking from other people in order to make themselves bigger.

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That's what Drake does. So I'm offended on a moral level. Forget the culture stuff.

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I'm offended on a moral level by the kind of person that he is where he has no integrity.

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So before it was about lacking authenticity. Now it's about lacking integrity and stealing other people's shit.

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Putting your name on other people's work. Right?

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As an academic, I hate it. I don't like it when students are doing that stuff, when they're plagiarizing. Right?

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As a person, I hate it. Because you're a liar. You're a cheat. Right?

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And that's not the kind of person that we should be emulating or looking up to.

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We should not be looking to be that kind of a person. Look, I have a lot of grace on people.

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People who know me best will know this about me. Right?

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That I understand that people need the opportunity to make mistakes and grow.

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I always tell this even to my students. I have a mantra I like to have my students say out loud, which is mistakes are good.

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Mistakes are OK. Mistakes help us learn. I'm OK with you making mistakes.

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What I'm not OK with is you making excuses for your mistakes and trying to escape actually doing the work of fixing the mistake.

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That's what I have a problem with.

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It can wait a long time for you to work on your mistakes and to be better at it.

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And it might take you a really long time. I am loyal to the T.

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But what I am not is somebody who's going to tolerate somebody who has made a mistake, but really does not genuinely accept that they made a mistake.

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Now, again, I'm guilty of this as well. So I'm not trying to say I'm perfect in my own right.

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I would hope that other people call me out for doing the same things that I get offended by other people doing. Right?

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I would hope that people who love me love me enough to tell me outright.

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And I have learned over the years to be able to receive that without being overly hurt and offended and taking it out on the messenger.

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Rather, they're there to love me.

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I would hope the same for Drake, because clearly something's not getting through and he continues to go around stealing other people's shit.

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OK, so let's see. We're already at lax authenticity, lax integrity.

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You know, a lot of these kind of overlap, I feel like. Right. But here's the other thing.

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There's a kind of emotional immaturity that Drake displays, and he does not hide it.

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I don't know why people have a hard time seeing it. I saw it fairly early on.

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I don't know why people have such a hard time seeing it, but his emotional immaturity is ever so present in the lyrics of his own music.

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He the things he actually, you know, raps about.

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I feel like that's the kind of stuff that people should be experiencing and going through and learning from while they're in their teen years in their 20s.

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Not when they're near 40 and a grown, full ass man. OK.

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Now, this is not again, not just about Drake. I do know because I've mentioned this before that I've been going to therapy for over 10 years now.

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All right. That emotional maturation, that growth doesn't happen overnight.

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It takes years of working on yourself to really grow in these ways.

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And it doesn't happen just by living life and having experiences. It requires you to reflect on those experiences and really to sit with your own shit.

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That's what it requires. OK. So most people from my experience did not have that.

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Most people don't do this. This is something that I think a smaller subset of the population has a chance to do.

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And in fact, I think it's a luxury. I think I have been lucky enough to be in a position now to be able to invest that sort of time in myself where I know that people like I mean,

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I'm thinking of what my parents had to struggle through. Right.

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Like they did not have the opportunity for that kind of self reflection because they were too busy trying to make ends meet.

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You're too busy trying to just fulfill your basic human needs.

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So you don't have time to do any of this. Like it's extracurricular activity. Right.

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Working on yourself in these ways. Plus, therapy is expensive. Hiring a professional gets really expensive.

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So, you know, there are a lot of reasons that people are not able to do it. So I'm not expecting this of everyone.

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But what I don't want is for people to not acknowledge when there is this sort of emotional immaturity.

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And what I don't want is for people to emulate it or to look up to it as if it's a good thing.

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I don't know why Drake has so many of these dumbass loser male fans that look up to him.

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It makes absolutely no sense to me because when I see Drake, I see an immature little teenager that's still stuck in his teenage years,

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that feels so insecure that he is constantly feeling slighted by other people,

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constantly pointing his finger at other people's for his own misery without realizing that a lot of the shit

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that comes on him is stuff that he brought on himself. He brought it on himself.

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There's so many stories about him going around being shady and trying to get with women that are already in a committed relationship to somebody else.

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That's some shady ass behavior. Look, if I had a friend like that, I don't want that friend around.

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Why would I want that friend around? Why would I want a friend around that I can't trust to be around my spouse or my girlfriend?

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Why would I want that? I don't want that. That's not a friend. That's a shady little piece of shit. That's what that is.

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If you don't fix your behavior, if you don't fix your attitude, if you don't fix your approach, if you don't fix your mindset,

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we can't be friends. That just can't happen because I can't trust you. You're not a trustworthy person.

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Drake is constantly using women in this way.

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Emotional immaturity, I think, is reflected in why he has this propensity to be drawn to younger girls.

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I have a theory. It's just a theory. Somebody who's a psychologist, please, I want to hear from you.

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I have a theory about men or women who are into people that are much younger than them. I have a theory about this.

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I think that people are attracted to other people that are at the same emotional level as them.

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Because, like I said, emotional maturation is not something that just happens through aging. It doesn't happen through just experience.

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It happens through maybe a combination of that, but also you need to actually work on it.

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When I talk to friends, I work at a college, and the question does come up when I tell people I work at a college.

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Am I ever tempted by students who are in their teen years or in their 20s?

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I look at them side-eye. First of all, that's a weird-ass question. I don't know why you're bringing that up.

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The second thing that pops into my mind is, hell no, because for me, they feel like children.

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I'm over 40 now. When I look at 20-year-olds, they look like children to me.

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It's not because of their physical appearance. It's because I have one conversation, and I realize that I am in a very different place.

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I can't even imagine myself being attracted to somebody that young.

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It has nothing to do with their age, the number itself. It has to do with the fact that emotionally, we're at different places.

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Is it possible that there's somebody who's young in age, but like an old soul? It is possible.

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I think I've met people like that that I was attracted to. I think sometimes I've felt myself to be kind of like an old soul,

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and I've found myself attracted to older women.

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But it's a theory. It's a theory that people are attracted to others that are of the same emotional age, at least in terms of real relationships.

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Not like physical attraction, but in terms of feeling connected with them, the way that you might expect in a real, intimate, deep relationship.

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One that's not just merely physical. That's why often I'm turned off after having a conversation with somebody, if they're not on the same sort of level and same place as me.

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I'm not saying that they're not worthy of me, or it's not like I'm better than you kind of thing, but rather it's just more like we're in a different place.

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We're in a different place, and I don't feel connected to somebody that is not in the same, at least in the same, vicinity as where I'm at right now.

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So I have a theory that Drake is attracted to younger girls, and trust me, he is. There's too many stories of him hanging out with younger girls.

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Let's be honest, there's a whole article written on this, this creepy ass behavior with Millie Bobby Brown,

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where he was texting back and forth giving relationship advice at the age of when she was like 15. That's creepy ass grooming behavior.

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That is not acceptable behavior. If anyone is around that, they should be calling it out, and we should be making a bigger fuss about it,

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because that is the kind of behavior where you might say, like, oh, it's technically legal, nothing happened.

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Yeah, it might be legal, but it's morally pretty offensive. It's pretty appalling.

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I have a theory he's attracted to younger girls that are in that range, that not quite 18 yet range, because his emotional maturity level is still there.

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It's kind of like the people who try to live their glory days, right? They're grown adults. They're like in the 40s.

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I remember watching, what's that TV show, Married with Children, right?

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Al Bundy would always talk about his glory days back in high school when he was playing football, right?

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That's the image that comes to mind, right? Somebody who's stuck in the past because they haven't grown.

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That's what it feels like when I hear Drake's lyrics, because Drake's lyrics talks about this kind of stuff.

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Drake's lyrics, if you actually pay attention, it's sus as hell, right?

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He's talking about comparing women's basketball or high school, Sierra Canyon High School or something, to—

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somebody correct me if I'm wrong, right? But comparing it to a strip club.

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That's disturbing as—why didn't nobody call him out for that and make a big enough fuss about it?

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Why didn't we pack him out then?

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So he just kept on going. There's just so many lyrics you could point to where he's saying some really sus ass stuff about women.

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Which doesn't surprise me because it also is reflected in the other behavior that he engages in where he uses women as a weapon to try to get at other people, right?

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He's doing that now.

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People are like, oh, why is Kendrick going so hard on Drake?

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Why Drake tried to use Kendrick's fiance in this way?

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That's disgusting behavior.

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If he did that to me, I am coming after him and I am not holding back.

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There will be no mercy.

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I don't know if there's some cultural difference in how people think it's—what people think is appropriate to—appropriate way to respond.

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But I am not going to hold back. I'm going to do everything I can to respond with the same level of disrespect.

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I am not going to let it stand. Why?

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Because it's dirty behavior. It's morally offensive.

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And the part of me that is wanting better, knowing that—for women especially—knowing that women have been treated in such, you know, painful ways, at least historically, and particularly women of color.

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It pisses me off when there's another man representing other men behaving in this way, right?

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I talked about this, right? We don't—like, colleges don't want students that go out there and make a bad name for the university.

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Well, I don't want other men going out into the world and making a bad name for men.

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I want to stand up and call out the men that is shitty as fuck and giving us a bad name, and then try to get them to do better.

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Trying to create a culture where all the men do better.

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Because I think that it's possible. But I think it's not going to be possible if we just let this kind of shit slide.

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So you want to know why I hate Drake? I hate Drake for all these reasons.

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And on top of that, even when he steals shit, his music still sucks balls. It just is terrible. It is not good music.

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Every time I hear his voice come on, I just think, I wish somebody else would have sung this hook. I wish somebody else—he might be a great writer.

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Maybe that's what he should focus on. He should be writing songs. But let other people sing, right? Let other people sing it.

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Let other people rap it. Because you, you're not it. You're not it.

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You're disgusting, right? Deadbeat, colonizing everything that Kendrick said in Meet the Grams, in Not Like Us, in Euphoria.

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This rings true to me, and it has nothing to do with my trust in Kendrick to tell the truth. It has nothing to do with that.

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It has to do with everything that I've seen out of Drake.

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Now, I don't know Drake personally. And maybe he is completely different than all the things he put out there.

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But here's the thing. Does it really matter when what he puts out there is the thing that's causing harm?

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Is the thing that's actually causing harm to hip-hop? Causing harm to women? Causing harm to musical integrity?

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Does it matter if this is who he really is behind closed doors? Because what he's showing is a piece of shit.

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And that piece of shit has an impact. And it's a negative one. And it's one that I don't want to see anymore.

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So trust me, I say it wholeheartedly without any hesitation when I say, fuck Drake.

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And please, for the love of God, stay away from him.