Hey everyone, welcome back to The Main Mic. My
name's Harper. And I'm Mackenzie. And I'm Zach.
Yeah, there we go. And today we kind of have
like a different episode. I'm pumped full of
caffeine right now. And I was originally going
to come into this episode really tired. But actually,
let's just scratch that. I'm pumped full of caffeine
and we're reading Reddit stories. Yeah, we're
going to read Reddit stories. We'll get into
some news first and then we're going to just
read some Reddit stories because that's the mood
that we're in today. So we just found out we
could do it, too. Yeah. Why not? Anyways. Well,
first of all, off the top of my head, I know
that the 14th is the last day you can drop out
of a class without it having like an F fail grade
on your. Yeah, it'll just be a withdrawal. So
if you're failing a class or you don't feel comfortable
staying in the class, I don't know, letting you
know that the last day to drop your class is
the 14th. I think that's the Monday after. So
we'll remind you next podcast too. Just the 14th.
In a little over a week, guys, is what I'm trying
to say. No. And then I'll work through like news,
by the way, just like going through as we like
as the week goes by. So like April 6th. So this
podcast today, it will be posted on the 4th.
And there's a new Nerman Museum art exhibit.
It's called Shooting Stars 2025. 2025 is probably
just like the date, but. It's from April 6th
to May 4th. It's created in 1997 by Chairman
Emeritus Robert Endress, I think. Fancy name.
I think is how you say his name. Said it was
made in 1997. It says created in 1997 by Chairman
Emeritus Robert Endress. That's cool. I'm so
sorry if I butchered that name. Like genuinely.
I'm going to have to check it out. Here, do you
want to see how it's spelled? Yeah, I'll try
to pronounce it. Emeritus Robert Andres. So it
was like, that was basically right? Andres. I
don't know if that S in his last name is. Andres
or Andres. I think I said the same thing twice.
I don't know. I'm not going to try. Anyways.
A really cool fancy name. Yeah. Chairman Emeritus
Robert Andres. I'm just reading it off of our
Johnson County events page, but he's a then member
of the Board of Arts and Humanities Association
of Johnson County. So the Shooting Stars is actually
an event. It's not a exhibit. Oh, it's a theater
exhibit, right? No. Shooting Stars? Possibly.
I remember in high school, there's shooting stars.
They go around, at least from what I've heard.
It's like a theater thing. It is in with it.
It has the Midwest Trust Center as a contributor
and partner in the program. But the Shooting
Stars program has recognized over 1 ,000 high
school seniors and awarded more than $400 ,000
in college scholarships and $70 ,000 in teacher
awards. $70 ,000 in teacher awards. So if you
want to participate in this program, it's 12th
grade students. And you have to be nominated
by your high school arts teacher or be a resident.
Or, not or, but you have to be and be a resident
of Johnson County. And once you're nominated,
there'll be, like, auditions or you can submit
a portfolio. So, yeah, it is a part of the theater.
Yeah, it's a theater thing. It's theater and
arts. So, like, there's probably different scholarships.
Like, one for theater, one for... Well, there's
a bunch of different things. Like, there's set
design, there's lighting design, there's acting,
there's singing, there's blah, blah, blah, blah,
blah. And I'm sure there's a bunch for, like...
art pieces for like, you know, actual like art
art. Are you saying Cedar isn't art? I mean like
art art, like drawing art. Yeah, I know. I'm
just playing. Okay. But so the finalists would
audition or submit a portfolio and that will
be reviewed. Then I guess on May, what was that?
May 4th on like May the 4th be with you. On May
the 4th, that's when I guess they pick their
scholarship leads. So this program includes schools
in Blue Valley, like high schools in Blue Valley,
DeSoto, Gardner, Edgerton, Mill Valley, Olathe,
Shawnee Mission, and Spring Hill. The Barstool
School, Heritage Christian Academy. Kansas City
Christian High School, Pembroke Hill Upper School,
St. Thomas Aquinas High School, and St. Teresa's
Academy are also allowed to participate in that.
But let's see. And it looks like, I think your
artist finalists, it would be exhibited at the
Nerman Museum. So your work will be shown off
at Johnson County Community College if you're
in like the leaderboard. I really don't know
how it works. I wish I did. Yeah, I've only been
like people because I've had a couple of friends
who have been nominated. Really? Yeah. So like
I know the process a little bit. I know there's
like a... There's like events that you need to
go to and dress up for at one point if you've
been selected. I don't know. From what I know,
it's really cool and they just kind of hand out
scholarships, I think. Is it anything? It's not
like the Arts Honor or anything like that because
I remember that in high school. I just don't
remember. No, Shooting Stars is its own separate
thing. Well, that's cool. I mean. If any of you
guys are artists and you're, I guess, looking
for a nomination or if you guys know someone,
send the podcast to that person so they can be
informed about the Shooting Stars program. And
then also talk to your teachers about it. I think
that'd be fun. Just be like, hey, I overheard
about this like Shooting Stars program. Hey,
you should nominate me. I'm really good at the
theater or whatever, or like arts, whatever you're
good at. Whatever you're good at. Well, after
that, April 7th, because it starts on April 6th.
So, Monday, April 7th. You know what comes out
on April 6th? Oh my God, the Minecraft movie?
No. No. Wait. One Piece. Oh, really? When's the
Minecraft movie come out? The 4th. The 4th. Oh,
we were talking about that. That's why I was
confused. I'm going on the 3rd, because our...
Our AMC has early releases. Isn't it? Yeah, the
Thursday early movie release. Cinemark does that
too, by the way. Yeah, a lot of theaters do it.
Cinemark also is cheaper to those listeners.
Just by the way, if you don't have AMC money,
like somebody in this room. But like, just saying.
AMC has popcorn buckets, though. I guess Cinemark
does. Cinemark has better popcorn buckets. It
depends. Do they have a popcorn bucket for Minecraft?
Oh, there's like five. Okay. There's one of the
chicken jockey. Really? Chicken jockey. I kind
of want it. But Cinemark has an arcade and a
merch shop for whatever movie's playing. There's
a little arcade in AMC. There is? Where? The
one on the straight line? Oh, yeah, there's,
like, a claw machine. Yeah, there's a couple
machines over there. No, but I'm talking, like,
a full arcade. Some arcade. Those are just machines.
Like, Dance Dance Revolution's in there. Like,
you can sit down and play, like, a racing game
in there, too. But who goes to the movie theater
to go to the arcade? It's, like, a whole experience,
though. If you're, like... I guess maybe after
the movie. Or before the movie, when you're waiting.
I'd be, like, enjoy a nice... game after a nice
movie date or something, I don't know, or movie
with friends. Yeah, a movie date. You're like,
oh, I want to go to Dave and Buster's. No, I
want to go see a movie. Boom, right there. Mix.
Cinemark. I guarantee that Cinemark does not
have the amount of games that Dave and Buster's
does. Okay, well, what I'm saying is without
having to drive a certain amount of miles, you
literally have an arcade and movie theater in
one. Just saying. I think I would just go to
- They also have a bar, guys. They have a bar?
AMC has a bar. Like a bar bar? AMC has a big
bar. It's in the fork and screen section. Oh,
wait. No, you're so right. It's a big bar. Oh,
I'm so - Yeah, no. I've been to like three different
AMCs. The AMC 20 is the one that's usually like
the go -to for me, but like - AMC 28 is my main
one. Is that the one that's on 135th? The one
next to the big Target. Oh, right. And across
the street from the Texas Roadhouse. Uh -huh.
No, yeah. The one on Stringline? Sure. I don't
know the street names. Right in the same parking
lot as Texas Roadhouse and Chicago, whatever.
Pizza place. Chicago style, I think is literally
what it's called. I don't know. Or Chicago pizza.
I don't know. Yeah, but yeah, right there. But
yeah. So what, it's not the movie coming out.
It's like, not New Seasons, the... The simplified
version of One Piece is coming out? The One Piece?
The remake? Yeah. Yeah, they're remaking it.
No, but is that what comes out on the 4th? Oh,
what comes out on the 4th? They're restarting
because they took a six -month hiatus. It was
six months? Yeah. That's such a long hiatus.
It's the first hiatus they've ever taken. Oh.
So, yeah, they're just coming back with the show.
Because they were just giving their employees
a break. First hiatus they've ever taken and
the show's been going for 25 years. I mean, Tully's
not that bad. There's worse companies. Yeah,
we appreciate all that they do. So yeah, they're
remaking The One Piece, which we don't know when
it's coming out yet. But that's made by Witt.
The same people who made Attack on Titan and
Vinland Saga. Oh, I need to finish that. I've
never watched it. Vinland Saga. It was really
good when I was watching it. Is it just like
Vikings? Yeah. And a son trying to get his revenge
for the death of his father. But it's really
good. I like it. The animation looks good. I
mean, from what I've heard, it's really good,
too. It's amazing. I mean, now that I'm caught
up to One Piece, I can actually watch another
show. Right. I wish. So that comes out what Friday?
The next part of One Piece. That's the 6th. That's
the Sunday, isn't it? Yeah, it is the Sunday.
And I think they're doing simulcast now. I don't
know what that means. Meaning it comes out with
English and Japanese dub already. Right off the
bat. So you don't have to wait a week. How smart
for them. It's the first time they've ever done
that, too. So I can switch to watching in dub?
Yeah, you should. Not that I mind the sub. I
actually really like it. No, the sub's good,
but man, I love the dub voice actors. Sometimes
I just want to watch a show in English. And actually
understand what they're saying. Not need to read
his subtitles. Yeah. I feel like, okay, does
anyone else have that issue where they can't
really pay attention to what's going on in a
show unless the subtitle's on? Yeah. Unless they're
on or if they're on? No, unless they're on. Well,
hold on. That sounds right. The only way I can
pay attention to a show is if the subtitles are
on. Say someone mumbles something, but it's an
important line or something. I'm usually really
close to my TV, so when I... I don't usually
watch them with subtitles on, but if there's
a really quiet part or I need to double check
something, I'm like, hold on, go back 20 seconds,
turn on subtitles and rewatch the scene. I've
done that with One Piece a couple of times because
I'm like, did they really just say that? I get
that though because there's Netflix shows especially,
I feel like, that I just kind of need to have
subtitles on. I read along with the subtitles
while looking at them. Especially when they're
speaking the language, it's way easier to follow
along with the subtitles because it's kind of
just like an audio book with a picture. I do
the same thing. I like to keep the subtitles
on even if I'm watching something in English.
Yeah, but I'll turn them small. So I only need
to look at them when I need to look at them.
Otherwise, I'll pay attention to them. The problem
with Crunchyroll, though, they like... I think
this is Crunchyroll, but they outlined the subtitles.
I think you can change that. That's either Crunchyroll
or Hulu. I don't remember. I know there's...
A lot of customization options for subtitles.
I don't remember which platform it was on, and
it might have been Funimation. There was a lot
of customization options for the subtitles, which
was really cool. You could change the color,
you could change the opacity, you could change
if there was a background of it. That'd be helpful.
Considering Crunchyroll bought Funimation, they
might have. done that I don't know so I haven't
looked I feel like Crunchyroll is pretty behind
seeing as how they literally just got profiles
yeah well they've had them for a few months now
at least yeah which is helpful like why did it
take so long I know my friend literally was like
because he had a Crunchyroll account for a while
before and so he's like hey do you want Crunchyroll
and so it's like him me and like his brother
and like one of his friends like we're just all
on it it's really cool so i used to i used to
dream to have crunchyroll i got tired of like
going to kiss anime i know i was like oh country
roll is for the elites right i was like these
people are lucky i wish i could pay for this
they're so rich and that's when country roll
was cheap now it's like 12 exactly at first i
had funimation though which was only i had funimation
for a while yeah and then they were like oh Crunchyroll
bought us. I'm like, are you kidding me? I know,
I was like, I really didn't want to switch to
Crunchyroll. I didn't want to switch either.
And I never bought it. I literally never bought
Crunchyroll. I just stopped watching anime. I
bought it and I have like the premium. profile
i might have bought it we have premium on ours
it's like it's like 16 a month but like worth
it because you get discounts and i think you
also get like a swag bag yeah if you get like
one of the tiers you get us or no i think any
of the tiers you just get it like once a year
yeah i think so i don't know how long i've had
my crunch roll though have you gotten a swag
bag nope so not a year well i mean guys i've
been listening i've never had to pay for a subscription
for anime so i'm not like a part of the conversation
but a swag bag no i mean like i watch stuff on
netflix or hulu you know like i'm a basic person
a swag bag like what do you get in it i don't
know right but like crunchyroll has like a whole
store yeah no the crunchyroll stores and it has
a lot of exclusive stuff yes they just put out
a One piece figurine, actually. Really? I think
it's Luffy and I think it was Zora. I don't remember.
Was it the one with him and Ace? Oh, it was Ace.
Because I've seen that one. It's actually really
cool. It's like $200. Right. $200? Yes. Figurines
are expensive, especially if you get them from
the conventions. Yeah, no. The conventions were
like even more than that. Exactly. Well, that
one is also two people and also. What was I saying?
Sorry. That one's also two people and also. Yeah,
it's like two people. And there's a lot of like
effects on the statue, on the figure itself.
Because there's a lot of like fire on that one
and stuff. So like if it's just a figure of like
a person, they can range up to like a hundred
bucks, which is still quite a lot. But like,
you know, they're realistic usually. Look at
this. Demon Slayer figurine, and it's... I don't
know why I can't get his name. Rengoku? Which
one? Let me look. Yes, Rengoku. Oh, yeah, yeah.
Yeah, and this is like $137. This is the Funko
Pop I need. That's so cute. It's of my favorite
character. It's of Vivi from One Piece. Oh, yeah,
didn't you say you wanted to get the tattoo?
Yeah, I... I think we talked it off air. I think
this is when we were waiting for everybody. I'm
planning on getting the X tattoo on my left arm.
From one of my favorite scenes of One Piece.
So we'll see. Now that I've caught up, that was
like my one goal. I was like, I need to catch
up before I get a tattoo about this show. Yeah,
that's odd. And then I did. And I've watched
two of the movies. I've watched Red and I watched
Gold. I still need to watch Stampede because
that's the third one that's on Crunchyroll. And
then I'm going to have to go out and buy the
others because they're just older. It's worth
it. But yeah. Red was really good. Have you watched
Red? I haven't watched any of the movies. Red
was really good. But if you're looking to buy
them, try... Well, I would try going to FYE at
the mall. Oh, yeah. I love FYE. Yeah. I was going
to say Vintage Stock, but I don't know. Their
prices can be weird sometimes. Yeah. I like going
to Vintage Stock. They also have... I mean, I
personally kind of like going to... vintage stock
because they have those mystery things oh yeah
they do have mystery boxes so they have like
mystery boxes for cds vinyls movies funko pops
um i can't remember what else but i would get
like the vinyl ones because they're cheaper than
buying individual ones and i think it's just
fun to have like a bunch of vinyl like i have
random stuff yeah no it's fun and then uh i got
some or i got like a funko pop one and it came
with three or four yeah my friend actually i
was just there probably like a month or two ago
i remember my friend he got the funko mystery
box he got like four random ones they were like
nothing that he watched which was unfortunate
but like he had them they're yeah they're fun
and um little like life hack i guess like if
you don't like any of them i literally just take
them to half price books and they'll sell them
for you yeah that or i mean Honestly, just wait
like a week and go back to vintage stock and
just sell it again. Go to a different vintage
stock. Or that, yeah. Yup. No, that's super fun.
There's a lot of retro stores around here that'll
buy toys. Yeah. There's like three in the mall.
Which ones? Like Oak Park? Yeah. I mean, GameStop
buys stuff sometimes. That's true. There's the
one next to GameStop. I do not remember what
it's called, but they have, like, a bunch of
retro stuff. They have a lot of Pokemon cards.
They have a lot of figures, a lot of Funko Pops.
There's the Entertain Mart at Oak Park. Don't
they buy things, too? I think, yeah, they buy
stuff. I mean, yeah. There's a lot of stuff.
There's a lot of stories. There's like a retro
arcade in the mall. Yeah, it's right in between
the GameStop and the place I was talking about.
It's all in that strip. That's what I was going
to say. I was like, isn't that an arcade? No,
it's right on the, it's the corner of that little
strip. I know what you're talking about. I think
my friend's parent owns that, but I have no idea
which friend anymore. And I have like, so I just,
I remember that I used to know, or I guess like
I went to high school with her. I knew the person's.
Yeah, that's like, I don't know, me contributing
to the conversation. Well, do we want to switch
gears? Or do you have any more news? Yeah, you
like interrupted me. You said, speaking of the
6th, and I was like, okay, yeah, let's get into
it. No, but Monday, April 7th is why we're like,
you know what else comes on the 6th? No, the
7th. Monday, April 7th. It's a kickoff week for
Library Week and Poetry Month. So, Monday, April
7th, noon to 1pm in Library Room 227. There's
going to be poetry prompts, haikus, and there's
also going to be activities to help break writer's
block. But it's going to be really fun because
it is, obviously, it's Library Week, so they're
going to be doing things throughout the entire
week. And it's Poetry Month, so I think they're
going to do a lot of poetry -inspired stuff.
And then also the grad fair is coming up too.
This is true. Yeah, that's the 9th. So it's going
to be from like 10 a .m. to 3 p .m. And it's
in the student center. So it's like the bookstore
and the little hallway. But the grad fair has
like several different departments to make sure
you're ready for your graduation. Get your gown,
get everything. And I don't even know. Graduate.
Yeah. Get ready for graduation. They have the
cap and gown for $30. That's not that bad. Yeah.
I think it's discounted. Mine was more expensive
for high school. Literally. I think so. I think
mine was like, honestly, I'm taking away. I thought
mine was like $60 or like $80. I was going to
say $60 for mine. Yeah. I don't know. I don't
know how much I spent because I didn't buy it.
Congrats to the people who are graduating. Good
job. All right. Round of applause. Whatever.
You could have just like clapped your hands.
I did this. Okay, fine. Congrats, guys. Happy
graduation. Go you. Yay. Cavalier for real. Cavalier
for real. Okay, but that goes on April 9th and
April 10th. It's both from 10 a .m. to 3 p .m.
So if you can attend one of them, that's actually
pretty smart too because you need to get your
cap and gown if you want to like do the walk
and all that stuff. But if you're not graduating
April 10th, you can still, like, there's still
something for you to do, which is the Crafts
and Cookies in Cav Central. So it's in the room
27 basement, which is Cav Central, which I just
found out. Mackenzie told me. She's like, isn't
that the Cav Central? I was like, oh. That's
what it is? Yeah. There's going to be, it says,
we will break out the bead supplies, button making,
and origami paper. The bead supplies? The bead
supplies. The bead supplies. And origami, though,
too. And origami. Yeah, no. Button making and
origami paper. So that sounds like fun. 9 .30
a .m. to 2 p .m. April 10th at Cab Central. Do
it. And there's cookies. Even if you're graduating,
you can still go. That's true. Like a before
and like after. Yeah. Or like before you go to
crossing cookies, like pick up your gown and
then go do crafts. Yeah. De -stress from all
that stuff. But I mean, that's pretty much it.
I can't really think or find anything else. Basketball
season's over. Baseball season. Season. Ugh.
Basketball season is over. baseball season is
starting so we'll have some baseball games that
we're going to be writing uh about yeah like
our journalists will do that yeah stay tuned
for uh baseball content all of those articles
coming out our sports editor he's working hard
so um and i know our women's basketball team
won the nationals Was that last year, like 2024?
It was this year. We just did it. Oh, right.
Oh, my gosh. Basketball season just ended. I
just said that. Yeah, duh. They just – I saw
it on the Instagram story. Yeah, we had a – It
was one of them. They released – or they showed
off the – The banner? The new banner, which is
really cool. I know we've written some articles
about it, so, yeah. Congrats on the team. Go
– what – are they still, like, Cavaliers, or
do they have a different name? Go Cavaliers.
Yeah, go Cavs, right? I don't know. I mean, I'm
sure they have their own personal name maybe,
but they're probably just the women's basketball
team Cavaliers. Yeah, we have the sickest team
ever. They're the coolest people ever. Yeah,
I mean, they won nationals. They did win nationals.
They lost one game. One game? They lost one game.
Dang. And then they bounced back and won nationals.
They're so good. That's the comeback of the century.
Literally, how can you only win? Or how could
you lose one game for real? I'm being too sarcastic
here. It just sounds like I'm being stupid. No,
that doesn't work. It doesn't matter. Let's read
some Reddit stories. Okay, so yeah. For the rest
of this episode, for the 30 -ish minutes we have
you. We're going to switch gears and read some
Reddit stories for you guys. I'm going to start
it off with one subreddit that you guys may be
familiar with. It is from the am I the asshole
subreddit. So am I the asshole? My cousin moved
in into our house and my parents expect me to
act like her servant. Yeah. So let's see where
this one goes. Okay. So I. female 18, am a senior
in high school, and my cousin, female 12, just
moved from India with her parents. I live with
my younger brother, 15, and two parents in a
house big enough for us, but with seven people
now, it's getting cramped. For the first two
months after they moved in, she slept in my room,
and her parents stayed in our guest room. For
context, my room is the smallest in the house.
We made a makeshift bed for her, but it eventually
got to the point where I couldn't even move around
in my own room. Eventually, her parents got jobs
and relocated to another state, but allowed her
to stay with us since she had already enrolled
in school here and wanted her to finish the year.
I really tried my best to accommodate all her
needs and help with her homework. I constantly
asked what she was learning in India so I could
compare it with the U .S. curriculum and teach
her what she needed to know. I helped her study
for tests, write emails to teachers, explained
homework, and helped pick out her clothes when
needed. I moved her clothes from my closet to
the guest room and tidied it up so my parents
wouldn't have to worry about the room being messy
after my uncle and aunt left. Now, the issue
is that my parents expect me to drop everything
and help her whenever she has a problem. I don't
understand why they don't ask my brother or why
she doesn't just look up the answers to questions
herself, like how to solve a math problem or
who the 12th president of the US was. I don't
get why I have to help her write notes or memorize
flashcards. I liked talking to her at first.
I haven't seen her for six years, but it's getting
exhausting. I can't pretend I want to sit in
her room for hours every day talking about things
I don't care about. So, I stopped. I started
locking my door, putting on earbuds when I study,
leaving for volleyball practice earlier, and
going out with friends more, especially since
it's my last year of high school. I tell them
I'm busy with college stuff, but it's reached
a point where my parents are noticing and have
a talk with me. They say I'm acting antisocial
and making her feel left out. They say, I don't
go out of my way to treat her kindly, which I
did, but I seriously can't keep this facade going.
It's my last year of high school, and I don't
want to keep telling my friends I can't hang
out because my cousin is bored. My brother comes
home from basketball practice, does his homework,
and plays video games with his friends, and no
one says anything to him. The thing is, I don't
even think she wants to talk to me. much either
she locks her door watches tv on her ipad and
calls her friends and parents occasionally so
i don't even feel like i'm doing anything wrong
but my parents think otherwise sorry if this
feels like i'm rambling i am but that's what
it says in parentheses i am but i'm just so frustrated
that my parents think my whole life now has to
revolve around my 12 year old cousin okay So
let's debrief here. So yeah, the OP is 18, is
a senior in high school. Sounds like she's basically
having to babysit her cousin. Yeah, sounds like
she has to babysit her cousin because her parents
left her at OP's parents' house because she was
already enrolled in school there. I don't know.
It doesn't say if she had left, if her parents
or aunt and uncle, but the little cousin's parents,
if they stayed. Or if they left during the middle
of a school year or not. Because I guess if it
was the middle or end of the school year, I guess,
not having them transfer. Because they've already
gotten used to it. But if they just got there.
I feel like they could have taken their kid.
Yeah. They wanted her to finish the school year.
I mean, if it's, like, close to the end, then
I would get that. But if it's, like, the beginning
or, like, even, like, the middle, I think it'd
be fine. But they came from India. Yeah. So I
don't know if the OP is also Indian. And if they've
lived in the U .S., they'll hold their whole
life. I don't know. There's not a lot of information.
I mean, we're not really even talking about the
fact that the cousin moved here. The OP wants
to know if they're the asshole for wanting personal
space. Yeah, no. They're not. No, they're not.
Honestly, what it sounds like is this person
is very... This person is in... Your cousin and
your parents are very dependent on you to be
able to take care of them so they don't have
to take care of a 12 -year -old cousin. I don't
know if this person has siblings, so... Yeah,
it doesn't... No, yeah, it said they had a brother.
The brother that comes home from practice and
just plays video games all night. And they don't
expect him to do anything with the cousin. Is
this a younger sibling? Yeah, they said it was
a younger brother. Okay, so this person is closer
to the age. However... I'm assuming that since
the brother is a brother and these are two, I
assume, females. Yeah. It makes the most sense
that your parents wouldn't want your cousin to
hang around a guy. I mean, if I was a 12 -year
-old who had an older cousin, two older cousins,
I'd prefer to hang out with a girl. Yeah, probably.
My, I guess, advice? Are they asking advice?
I mean, they're just asking if they're the asshole.
This one is a day old, and there is an answer
on it. It's not the asshole. So what's the title
question? Am I the asshole for what? If her parents
expect me to act like her servant, her little
cousin's servant. Yeah, no. Okay. Honestly. I
understand feeling like a servant. It seems like
she's more like a babysitter here. It seems like
your parents aren't really wanting to take care
of your cousin and they're like giving you that
responsibility like they're handing it off to
you. You're a senior. When I was a senior, I
mean, I'm more of like an insider person. I don't
really like going out, but people were doing
their grad parties. They were doing like, you
know, like the last hurrah for like high school.
I was going to say school, but, like, high school.
And, I mean, people are just wanting to, like,
go out and, like, have fun. Like, there's senior
spring breaks for some schools, which is bizarre.
But, like, I completely understand wanting to
have your own personal space. And also, like,
yeah, I'd feel like a servant, too. Like, servant
to my parents, but. I mean, yeah, it's the last
thing you want to be doing. In your high school,
your last year of high school, you don't want
to be babysitting your cousin. You want to be
a senior. You don't want to hang out with 12
-year -olds. Yeah. As an 18 -year -old, and you
can't really bring a 12 -year -old to a bunch
of 18 -year -old functions. So we do have some
comments here that the OP has responded with.
Okay. This one, somebody comments, by American
standards, not the asshole, but it sounds like
there might be some cultural issues here. The
OP responds with, I get what you mean, but I
have no clue how to go about it. without sounding
awful. I obviously love my cousin, but I can't
even talk to my own mom for hours on end. But
I can't even talk to my own mom for hours on
end every single day, you know? And then somebody
says, have you asked your mother to spend more
time with her? OP responds with, I have, but
it's led to some arguments that would make, that
makes sense. Since my mom comes home from work
pretty late and makes dinner for all of us and
feels tired, she spends time with her when they
go downstairs to watch TV or when my mom asks
her how her day went. But it's obviously not
as much time as I guess my cousin would hope
for. Has anyone asked OP if they've tried giving
the cousin to the brother? Somebody else said...
Why is your mother coming home late and in charge
of dinner? Good grief. Show your cousin how to
help you make dinner. Your dad and brother should
be taking turns also. This is ridiculous. OP
responds with, both of my parents work pretty
late and sometimes my dad makes dinner, but it's
mostly my mom. My dad is normally in charge of
the dishes and tea for the family. Guess I've
never questioned this type of dynamic before,
but I am for sure doing so now. honestly that's
like typical american yeah family like you know
housewife that works like everyone needs two
incomes nowadays but like that's just like the
typical like mom takes care of everyone yeah
like that's just that's like a an it's an unfortunate
norm i think the op needs to like set some boundaries
like obviously like she said like you can't even
talk to your mom for hours on end like that like
i can't either i don't even want to talk to my
siblings for hours on end like that sometimes
sometimes i can talk their heads off but if you
don't want to talk to them then i would tell
them in the nicest way possible without being
like i don't want to talk to you you're annoying
you know like i would just be like hey i need
some space some time to myself for like two three
hours like just give me that and then we can
do whatever you want later yeah but she shouldn't
be expected to basically be a servant for her
cousin it's sad yeah like set boundaries like
you're at the age of 12 you're well aware of
everything like it's not like i mean yes you're
still young so there's things that like go over
your head but you know that like people need
boundaries at the age of 12 that's middle school
right Yes. Like fifth grade, middle school, sixth
grade, seventh grade. Yeah, it's early middle
school. Early middle school. Yeah. So like this
child knows that there's like in need of boundaries
and space. Like it's not like something that
we're only taught in high school. Like I feel
like in middle school, that was like one of the
hot topics of like letting you know, like when
you can. hang out with people and when people
get irritated but opie has a comment that they
have just commented themselves um so this was
after the post and they didn't respond to anything
they just posted this they said i didn't really
say it but i feel like the asshole because she'd
moved to the u .s in january her parents left
to work in another state in march and she doesn't
really have a ton of friends since she came in
the middle of the school year I feel bad, and
that's why at first I talked to her a lot and
tried making her get interested in hobbies that
I like, such as reading or volleyball. But it's
gotten to a point where talking to her for several
hours of each day just bores me. I'm a very quiet
person in general, so in the beginning this was
so tough for me. My brother has probably said
like seven sentences to her, but to his benefit,
he also comes home super late too. But I just
hate that the expectation is upon me to fulfill
this best friend role for her when we don't really
have the same interests. Okay. So she did come
in the middle of a school year. And then her
parents moved to a different state, not country.
They didn't go back to India. No, they went to
a different state. I feel like they should have
took her. They should have just taken her. Why
would you abandon your kid in a state? Especially
when they are still... don't know, like, anybody.
Literally. Like, you are the two main people
in this person's life. Honestly. And you're just
leaving them. It does kind of sound like we're
missing some things and maybe the, like, the,
like, reader. Yeah. Not the reader, like, the
OP, original post. Yeah. It sounds like they're
also missing some things. So maybe, like, the...
I think there just needs to be some more communication
between the family and this OP. I think, obviously,
it's not the OP's responsibility to take care
of this kid, but... Yeah, no, they're still not
the asshole. At all. But if you did try getting
this kid into the hobbies that you are interested
in like reading and being quiet and this kid
is the opposite of that or like not interested
in that, you should possibly try if you want
some space and nothing like communicating is
working. See if there's anything that's going
on at school that they can like. In middle school,
I know this sounds kind of lame, but like I moved
to a different middle school. like immediately
or I guess it was like a fifth grade class and
they had like an orientation with the five new
people who had moved there so we can all possibly
be friends and whatever like schools understand
most schools I should say most schools understand
that if a student is new to the school they most
likely or definitely don't have any friends and
that they need help making friends especially
at that young age so she is a counselor That
counselor could recommend friends. I would personally
just recommend talking to your SROs. They're
the coolest people I've ever met. SROs are the
coolest people I've ever met. SROs are really
cool. Yeah, school resource officers. That's
what SRO stands for, if you don't know what that
means. If nobody knows. If nobody knows, SRO
means school resource officer. But, yeah, no,
I mean, obviously, like, talk to her. Like, that's...
really upsetting like i'd be upset if my parents
moved like left me and moved to a different state
like i'd understand like different jobs and whatever
and maybe maybe they left the the cousin like
you know maybe they left their kid with their
cousins because they knew that their jobs like
they would be home alone for like the entirety
of the day and honestly that would be worse so
it makes sense so but even then the only person
that like the The little cousin would have been
left alone here anyways if it wasn't for the
OP. Because the OP is the only one who's home.
That's what I'm saying. At least the cousin now
has company. But that means that the parents
knew that and they didn't even ask the OP. That
is true. I think everybody should have just thought
this through. There should have been a lot more
communication. They definitely could have took
their child. Because if OP wasn't going to be
there, this 12 -year -old would have been left.
In the home alone. No, it would have been left
with the younger brother, but I understand that
he also gets home late. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean.
Just more communication. Yeah. Very poor communicating.
Maybe try, like, asking your cousin what their
hobbies are, what they enjoy. What they want
to do. Like, maybe your cousin's into anime.
Maybe there's an anime club for their middle
school or high school or whatever it is. Get
them interested in it. Like, there's... Obviously,
you can't help them from the school. Like, you
can't go to school with them. But there has to
be, like, a counselor or someone they can talk
to. A social worker. There's always this, like...
Just somebody. There's a school social worker,
like, at almost all schools, right? I think so,
yeah. Yeah, maybe talk to the social workers.
See if there's any, like... flyers for clubs
you might be interested in actually like go and
attend like it'd be a lot more relieving to know
that you have to just pick up and drop off your
cousin rather than hang out with them for hours
like i know that sounds bad but even if i was
the little cousin i like the younger cousin probably
also is exhausted of their cousin now probably
like it's probably a mutual feeling so you're
not the asshole And we're sorry that that's happening.
Jeez. Like, I love my youngest cousin. Well,
my youngest cousin is, like, four. But before
her, my youngest cousin, she's now currently
15, 16. She's, like, a great person. I love,
like, hanging out with her. I connect with her
out of all of my cousins the most because, I
don't know, all my other cousins are older than
me. Yeah, I was going to say, like, all my cousins
are older than me. And around probably 10, you
know, I'd hang out with my cousin who's a little
bit older than me. He's, like, three or four
years older than me. So that's not that bad.
But the thing is, is we had a lot of same interests,
like Legos and video games. And, like, it was
just, it worked. It was guy things, yeah. Yeah,
it was guy things. So it helped, definitely.
But, like, I couldn't even, even. Even being
guys, that didn't change anything because, like,
I couldn't even imagine talking to my cousins
who were, like, eight years older than me, like,
in this situation. Or six, I guess. But, like,
I don't know. It's just I feel like at that age
you do understand that you just don't have the
same interests as people. Yeah. It's like. It's
like when I was a kid, I played with dolls and
all that, and I had like La La Loopsie dolls
and all that. I loved them, and I always wanted
to play dolls with my sisters, and all my sisters
are older than me. And they're like, oh, I don't
want to play dolls. I don't want to play dolls
right now. Like that's little kid stuff. I'm
like, yeah, I understood that. Yeah, I'm a little
kid. I want to play. Please. All right, I'll
play by myself then, you know. But it can be
a little. sad and disappointing obviously because
you want to do these things with people but you
can't because they don't want to do them which
is where it comes in that the OP should just
set the boundary yeah just again more clear communication
between literally everybody between the OP the
cousin the OP and the parents the OP and their
parents just the parents between the other parent
it's just communication All right, guys. I have
a longer one. Okay, I'm ready. It was posted
seven hours ago, but it has 690 comments. Oh.
Yeah. What's the title? Am I the asshole for
telling my husband I will not be getting up in
the morning and making him lunches? Making his
lunches for him? That's crazy. Okay. So this
is underneath my... Favorite podcast, Two Hot
Takes. They have their own subreddit where you
can submit your issues and problems and get obviously
like straight to the point communication from
everyone. Yeah. Because obviously this was listed
seven hours ago and there's almost 700 comments
under. That's insane. That's 100 comments an
hour. I know. So it's underneath the listener's
write -in. So this is for people. So am I the
asshole for telling my husband I will not be
getting up in the morning and making his lunches
for him? Posted seven hours ago. So my husband
works eight to five Monday through Friday. I
work a varying schedule, usually four to five
days a week, and it's mostly evening and nights.
Sometimes I work 6 p .m. to 12 a .m., and sometimes
it's 9 p .m. to 5 a .m. We have an eight -month
-old and a three -year -old, and I am very, very
tired whenever I have an overnight shift, but
I still take care of the kids through the day
and maybe catch a one - to two -hour nap when
the kids nap. I still make dinner every night.
I still make sure the house is clean and the
dishes are done, even when I know I'm going straight
to work when he gets home. For the last five
years, I have gotten up at 6 or 7 a .m. and packed
my husband his lunches for work every day. If
I don't pack a lunch for him, I get guilt -tripped
about it or we have a... I get guilt -tripped
about it, or when we are struggling to make ends
meet, he will go spend $15 out of $60 that we
have left for lunch and tell me, sorry, you should
have got up to make me lunch. So he will be eating
a big nice burger while me and the kids are surviving
off canned foods or cereal from my WIC card.
I told him last night that he's going to have
to start making his own lunch. I tried to make
a deal and said only when our eighth month old
starts actually sleeping through the night will
I get up to start making his lunch. She still
gets up three times a night, definitely not our
first because he was sleeping 10 plus hours straight
by four months. I said I genuinely feel like
a shelva person because I don't get any sleep
from days and days and I don't work my sleep.
I said, I genuinely feel like a shelve of person
because I don't get sleep some days and some
days I don't work my sleep. And some days that
I don't work, my sleep is broken up and sleep
is definitely not eight hours. He says we are
just going to have to figure out a way to work
in his budget so he can buy lunches every day.
New flash, newsflash, that isn't going to work.
I write the budget and we barely have any wiggle
room for rent, utilities, gas, student loans,
food, diapers, wipes, just basic living expenses.
We definitely won't have enough to cover $15
20 days a month for this big burger that he likes
to get. He says my schedule is way more laid
back and he works so hard through the week and
he has to get up and actually get dressed in
the morning so he won't have time to make his
lunch. And since I'm already home and usually
in my comfy clothes, I should still be able to
get up and make his lunch. The problem is when
I get off at 5 a .m., I really just want to go
right to sleep and try to get a few hours before
the kids get up. And days I get home at 12, I
still would like to sleep and get and if I get
up. To make his lunch, I'm usually stuck awake
for the rest of the day and can't get back to
sleep. Am I the asshole for trying to make this
deal or should my husband be a big boy and just
make his own lunch? I would divorce that man
and use that $60 to buy myself some lunch because
that is terrible, a terrible situation. She has
an edit that she added. I thought it would be
worth mentioning that it didn't always feel this
imbalanced. My husband had the best paying job
in a 60 mile radius when we planned our second.
We were really comfortable and I was a stay at
home mom. It says S -A -H -M, stay at home mom,
I assume. Hence why I did not mind getting up
and making his lunches. When we were four months
pregnant, the plant announced their shutdown
and officially closed when she was two months
old. I got a job really quickly, and this issue
about the lunches has only been for the past
five months. Also, to the weirdo saying, I can
take out the trash and clean the gutters now
since I won't be making his lunch. I already
do those manly jobs. The difference is I don't
have to wait till he gets home to do it by myself.
I take the kids with me and let them enjoy the
outside while I take care of those things. And
then I'm seeing a lot of comments saying, not
the asshole, divorce. Exactly. Like, I feel like.
And obviously this is not all men, but I feel
like a fair amount of men think that stay at
home mothers are lazy and they don't do anything
all day, which is just not the case because they're
at home taking care of the kids, taking care
of the house and taking care of you. So calling
her lazy is like really. Yeah. And she has a
job now. Exactly. And she's working overnight
and just wants to get a little bit of sleep.
And she just had a baby. Yeah, her second. Right.
So I know, like, her mental is, like, everywhere.
You can literally wake up an extra 10 minutes
earlier and make yourself a lunch. Literally.
It ain't hard. And it could be the simplest little
turkey sandwich and chips. Yeah, literally. Come
back. Like, meal prep. Come back from work one
day, and as soon as you get home, you know, you're
still not fully relaxed yet. Take advantage of
that. Make your meal for tomorrow. And then you
can still just sleep in your extra 10 minutes
and then go to work with your lunch. Exactly.
It sounds like the husband doesn't want to compromise.
Yeah. He doesn't want to do any of these things.
He doesn't want to make his own lunch. He doesn't
realize how lucky he is. You're right. Yeah.
No, that is... lock in dude like someone said
he should use that 15 that he spends on a burger
to buy himself a big boy pant like to buy himself
big boy pants yeah you might have to like does
he only want this one specific burger that costs
him 15 though like there are cheaper alternatives
if you want if you need to go out also I just
feel bad that they only have $60 to spend with
two jobs. That's kind of insane. Yeah, that is
sad, but I mean, that's kind of the reality.
Yeah, no, that's just whatever. But if he needs
to spend money... Don't spend it on a $15 burger.
Go and get McDonald's. McDonald's, that's cheap.
The $5 McValue meal. Find a Walmart near you.
They have, at least the ones that I've been to,
they have their little food area. That food is
cheap, and it's actually not that bad. Here's
what I'm reading, though. This isn't just about...
him not wanting to make lunch it's the fact that
he also doesn't really care that she's not getting
in a lot of sleep she's working taking care of
the kids and taking care of him and the house
as well like he's only going to work is what
it sounds like yeah no it yeah he's not caring
for his wife's well -being no he is not and in
that little edit slash update she gave us that
They had money prior. They had a well -paying
job to support what they had. And that money
from that plant, like from his job, was going
to be able to support a family of four. Yeah.
But they unfortunately don't. So now he has a
new job. That doesn't make that much money. That
doesn't pay as much. She has a job that doesn't
pay as much. So it's just an unfortunate living
situation. You're getting mad about something
that is completely not worthy about getting upset
about. The smallest little thing. Lunch? And
they have WIC cards, too, that they're using.
Yeah. Like, yeah. There needs to be some talking
in between. Seven hours is this post? Seven hours
ago. So one of these people. So when she goes
to bed tonight. She better not make him a sandwich.
I wouldn't be making him anything. He would not
be getting food from my hands for a while. I
wouldn't be surprised if he's hiding some secret
debt, too. Yeah. If he's willing to spend $15
while they only have $60 in their budget. That's
like college living, you know? Like, I know college
students who have, like, $60 and will spend $15
on food because it's food, you know? Like, they
won't spend $15 on objects or, like, clothes
or anything, but, like, they're hungry, so they're
going to spend money on food. Yeah, that's what
I used to do. So it's immature is what I'm trying
to say for an adult who is married and has a
kid. Two kids. Two kids, yeah. Two kids. I'm
like... Yeah. And, like, to just... Use that
money for yourself and be that selfish when you
have two kids at home. $15 for a burger? I know.
That's like a Five Guys burger. Literally. Like,
what are you getting on that thing? Is it four
patties instead of a big burger? Right. I love
Five Guys, though. Five Guys is pretty good.
I'm not going to get it if I have $60. Exactly.
I understand the stress he might have. I'm not,
like, siding with him. Like, f*** him. For real.
But I can understand the stress of, like, losing
your job and maybe feeling of lesser value now
that you aren't contributing to your family as
much anymore. And maybe just wanting to keep
that same routine anyways. But he needs to realize
that... There's a different routine now. She's
staying up late to go to work or going to work
late. And it's really, like, it's not about him
anymore. They might also be sacrificing, like,
quality time here. Like, they might have had
a schedule where he comes home and, like, they
hang out. Did it ever say that he does things
with the kids? No. So it's... It pretty much
just sounds like... So, like, he's just... If
he's not... Obviously, we don't know the whole
picture, but if he's not paying attention to
his own kids, that's an entire separate issue.
Yeah, but... I mean, I can understand, like,
depression or anger that you get from losing
your job. Just don't take that out on your wife.
Like, she's trying here. She has a job, too.
She got a job for him. She has two jobs, basically,
taking care of the kids. She got... Like, this
affected her, too, not just you. She... he or
she could find a different job to align better
with this obviously finding a job that's mostly
during the day would probably benefit them more
so they can like maybe drop kids off at preschool
or i mean i don't know what age that starts that
they said they have like yeah you can you can
hire a nanny which you know that might cost a
lot it could cost a lot but if you find a better
job that has a better schedule you could probably
that works for you it would It would be worth
it in the long run. Or a job that offers child
care. Yeah. Yeah. Johnson County, if you're a
student here, you get. If you're a student here.
If you're a student here, you get child, like
you have like a daycare here. Yeah. But in addition,
hypothetically speaking, I don't, obviously there's
less details than we'd like to know. Are there
grandparents in this option that can help? Yeah.
I mean, there's family friends even, you know.
Do they have a community they can rely on? Do
they have anybody? Like, obviously, it's not
just this family in the picture. But, I mean,
I'm trying to come up with as many possibilities
that don't just say divorce, you know? Because
it's not always that simple. She is ultimately,
like, going to be relying on him and, like, vice
versa. Like, who's going to end the divorce if
she also needs to get a job, obviously? Like,
she can't just take child support from him. It
has to be like, now I'm saying the like thing
and I'm hearing it. Did she say, because her
job sounded like was weird with its hours. It
was very flexible and she didn't get to really
choose when she worked. It honestly sounded like
FedEx hours or like a nurse hour. Yeah, because
she said she either worked like right in the
morning to afternoon or afternoon to like midnight.
But they're like six -hour shifts. I wonder what
job she has. Honestly, it sounds like a warehouse.
I couldn't imagine. Or like a nurse or like an
overnight school. Yeah. It literally just sounds
like it depends. But because she says it varies,
if you're at a warehouse, they usually like to
stick you to the same schedule. Yeah. Most jobs
usually do. That's why I'm kind of surprised
she has a weird one. I assume it's like. on the
call nurse yeah but i mean it could just be something
totally different that we're like missing it
could be like a truck driver you know yeah like
it really depends i mean thinking of it now waking
up because there's a baby like she obviously
she needs to i'm not pinning this on her I am
very pro -her, anti -him right now because he
just seems very childish. But there are other
things that she can do to help benefit this.
She can, as soon as the husband gets home, be
like, hey, I'm going to take a nap real quick.
Here are the kids. Be like, hey, I made dinner.
I ate. Kids kind of ate. You should eat. And
then I'm going to take a nap before work. Like,
they need to have a schedule. They need to work
together. It can't just be this. And he could
even make his lunches, like, prior or, like,
have leftovers, you know? That's what I was saying,
yeah. Like, it's not, like, how exotic do you
want your lunch to be? It's not hard to put together
a sandwich in a minute. And if she's saying that
they're living off cereal and, like, just snack
foods, basically, what is his lunch? Yeah. Ham
and cheese sandwich? It's literally, like, she's
not cooking steak for you, so I don't know what
the issue is and why you can't just do it yourself.
I feel like that's too much for lunch, a steak.
That's a lot. I don't know, man. Steak is pretty
good. Grilled chicken, maybe? I don't know. But,
like, it doesn't seem like... I don't know. I
feel like there's two things that they both could
be contributing to each other, and I don't know
what his lunches are. But if... If they're nothing
fancy, I assume he's probably spending that money
on food anyways. Like, it doesn't sound normal
for a $15 burger. He probably has, like, three
burgers for $5 each. You said it was a big burger.
Meaning it was probably, like, a Five Guys burger.
Because Five Guys can be, like, $15. That makes
sense. It might come with, like, fries and a
drink, too. Yeah, it probably does. I'd assume
so. Because one burger is not a meal. Yeah. That's
true. But this woman... That sounds so good right
now. Right? This person replied to a comment
saying that they should make their own lunch
before or use leftovers. And they said, maybe
there isn't enough money for leftovers. If she's
making him a PB &J for lunch, it's cheaper than
meat and potatoes. And then someone said, it
isn't an easy solution. The husband has to step
up instead of working around this ridiculous
demand by saying that you need to. give him leftovers
or something um they are claiming that's enabling
so i mean i don't know yeah just another communication
error yeah he needs to actually pay attention
to his wife and listen to her and care about
her and realize that she has a lot on her plate
yes and she's Taking care of him. He needs to
help and be a part of the family. Honestly, a
lot of people in the comments are asking what
else does he do other than work? And I'd like
to know that too. I would also like to know that.
What does he do for work? And then what does
he do with the kids when she's gone? I was going
to say, does he just turn on Cocomelon and...
Sleep? Does he get to sleep? Does he get to sleep?
Does he do chores around the house? Since he's,
or since she's claiming that she works like midnight
to 6 a .m. or whatever those hours were, and
then vice versa, 6 a .m. to noon, I'm assuming
he's letting the kids sleep or sleeping in or,
but again. what if that baby's waking up what
if he feels like those days like he has to wake
up and like he's being burdened by the baby which
you should never feel that by your kid but like
it's an understandable feeling she did say that
the eight month old wasn't sleeping through the
night yet so so it isn't just like a someone
said i'm sorry uh that you're I'm sorry you're
saying that you work overnight, come home and
maybe get two hours of sleep, wake up to make
him a lunch, start taking care of your two young
children, and then maybe get a one -hour nap
during the day. So you get anywhere from three
to four hours of sleep a day, and then he says
his job is hard and yours, working a normal job
and taking care of the children during the day,
is laid back. The audacity. It is amazing to
me how you have not burnt out yet. Wow. He can
make his own lunch. His fingers aren't broken.
Yeah, especially if it's just like a sandwich,
which it sounds like is unfortunately all they
have the money for. But like, it's like just
it's a sandwich. You either smear some peanut
butter and jelly on there or you lay a piece
of turkey in some cheese. A lot of people are
just like, why can't he make his lunch the night
before? Yeah, that's what I was saying. They're
calling him selfish, childish, financially abusing
her. that he should be putting his earnings into
the home and, like, for the kids. Yeah, but five
guys. You never know. See, now I'm going to have
to go get five guys. Well, now we know what we're
all getting after this episode. But, yeah, I
mean, at least we've all come to the conclusion
that both Zach and I's stories are not the asshole.
Yeah. Do you have one? I did find one. Let's
go. It's a... Am I overreacting? Oh, it's a different
one. Yeah. So this one is I, 18 male, don't know
if I should break things off with my girlfriend,
19 female. hmm so he says hello all i'm kind
of lost and don't know how to proceed i'm 18
and my girlfriend is 19 we've been together for
four months and it's been a pretty smooth relationship
with some rocks on the road i've explained my
issues to her but she apologizes cries acts different
the next day but then like a day after that she
goes right back to how she was She baby talks,
talks about having kids, will convince me to
go out with her to show me homes that she wants
me to put applications in for without me knowing
that's what we're going out to do. Constantly
makes me feel bad about my appearance. And anytime
we talk, she's complaining about work and won't
let me get a word in about myself unless I'm
agreeing with her. Not only that, but she's constantly
wanting to do explicit things. I've talked to
her about all of this numerous times. I've told
her I don't want to talk about these things right
now or do the explicit things all the time. It's
not that I'm uncomfortable with the idea. It's
just not a stress I need right now. I feel like
if I break up with her, she'll go crazy. She's
so clingy to the point that I now hardly want
to text her back because it'll just be a text
complaining or her calling me to complain. I
could totally have this all, I could totally
have this all confused and this all be normal
and I get I'm 18, but it just doesn't sit right.
She said I love you after a week when I told
her I definitely wasn't comfortable with it.
Within three weeks, she had me buying her pregnancy
test because her period was late. It had been
late for almost two months. It was something
medical. She's not pregnant. I don't want to
go deep in detail because if she sees this, I'll
be made to feel guilty. Everyone I've talked
to told me to break things off, but I don't know
if I can without her freaking out. What do I
do? Am I overreacting? and there's an edit on
here and he said first I'll start off by saying
no this is not AI unfortunately it is true secondly
I broke up with her and she has since had three
other people text me to ask me to reconsider
because she's so tore up about it she claims
I never said a word to her about how I felt and
what was upsetting me but I clearly stated it
in text message twice and on the phone verbally
on the phone and verbally on multiple occasions.
I approached it as if I was the one needing to
work on myself and told her just to think about
the things I told her. Thank you all for the
advice. It actually helped seeing it from different
perspectives and was kind of sad to see everyone
say to leave her and me still struggling with
the idea of it. Okay. So she's obsessed. Yeah.
Good for him for breaking up. I will say I have
seen a lot of those relationships out of high
school. It's, okay, I know me speaking, I'm 20.
Zach is the youngest here. But like all three
of us. But not by much. No, I know. But what
I'm saying is like all three of us are like still
relatively young. Yeah. But if we're looking
at this from like a long -term thing, like as
in like an entire lifetime, like. relationships
right out of high school, 18, 19 years old, you
don't know much about love, like at all. So in
my mind, this is probably just how she was raised.
So I'm not trying to like blame her. Like obviously,
yeah, still call her a bit crazy and a bit obsessed,
but she doesn't know what that is yet. Like she
does not know how to react in a relationship.
She's obviously seen that love is about, I don't
know. being in love and finding a house and being
together forever. That's what it sounds like
she wanted off the bat. She was rushing into
it. Sounds like she only knows the heights of
love and not like the ups and downs and like
the progress. Or just like the normalcy of it
either. Yeah, it sounds like she just wants to
play house. But also, pause. She asked him three
weeks into the relationship to buy a pregnancy
test because her period was like by two months.
But then it turned out to be a medical issue
and not like a pregnancy. So obviously, to me,
it sounds like she was also rushing into things
because she had the possibility of being pregnant.
And it feels like she was going to blame that
pregnancy on him. It sounds like she wants to
baby trap him, though. Yeah, she's been talking
about kids and stuff. That's what I was saying,
though. Like, if she was late for two months
and they've only been talking for three weeks
or, like, dating for three weeks, that's barely,
like, a month. So it sounds like there was a
possibility that she was pregnant. She is not
in contact with whatever ex. And she had to get
another guy underneath her sleeve as immediate
as possible and, like, tell him how much she
loved him and all this. Are they in school? I
forgot. I don't know. So she was 19. He's 18.
Yeah. So is he still in school? I don't know.
I mean. 19 and 18 -year -old couples is not rare.
That's very, very common. I'm not saying it's
uncommon. I'm saying, is he in school? Oh, like
college? Is he in college? Or high school? Is
he in high school? I mean, is she as well? She
could also be. She could be in high school, but
19 in high school is not that common. But it's
possible. It is a December birthday. It's possible.
But I don't think this guy's overreacting. I
think... I think he did, right? I think it's
very... What's the right word? It's good that
you feel bad about breaking up and worrying about
her. You show empathy. Yeah, that's empathy.
That's good. You feel bad that you have to break
up with her because you see how much she shows
that she cares for you. But she's not showing
him love. yeah she's just she's showing him obsession
obsession yeah obsession love bombing what did
it say can you see you they were only dating
for four months four months four months kind
of this and she was already talking about babies
and him buying a house right at 18 taking him
to see houses right at 18 he was probably working
at mcdonald's like no buy me this house babe
come on okay So if that's how he's saying that
he broke up with her, I kind of think that's
shitty. Like, OK, first of all, I just went through
a breakup. And one of the things that was told
to me is like it needs to like I need to work
on myself. Like it's not it's not you. It's me
kind of thing. Like there was a whole conversation
about it, but it was just stated that. they needed
time to better themselves for me um so dumb i
hate that somebody told me they were breaking
up with me because it was better for me that's
yeah no i was being told that i was being held
back and all that you can't tell me what i'm
feeling exactly you can tell me what you're feeling
so One of my friends had actually, I mentioned
this because it was brought up like a perspective.
He in the, am I the ass or am I over exaggerating?
Overreacting. The OP mentions that he was like,
he needs to do this for himself or he needs to.
Work on myself. He needs to work on himself.
That right there. Again, I'm like all pro him,
but. If he were to do anything, I feel like that's
probably what's driving her crazy to make her
reconsider. Because he is saying, I'm not...
He's basically telling her how she... Like, how
did my friend word this? Can you read what he
said at the end again? Quick overview. I approached
it... I approached it as if I was the one needing
to work on myself and told her just to think
about the things I told her. Yeah, okay. That's
all I needed. So I approached it saying that
I was the one who needed to work on it. That's
lying. What he just did was lie. He knows he's
fine. He knows that this is not working for him.
He knows that she's crazy. He never communicated
that. He said, I need to work on myself. Let's
break up. That's not the case. He was scared
of how she would react because of the way she's
been treating him. Now I'm glad they broke up.
But yeah, no, that was not, he lied to her is
what he did. He also like decided like, I'm not
good enough for you. Well, that's something that
she needs to decide for herself. Yeah. I was
going to say, and I understand, like, there's
certain positions where you do feel like you're
holding certain people back. And those people,
because they love you, they're not going to let
you go. But you ultimately, like, I say that
because she mentioned, or he mentioned that she,
like, reached out through other friends to, like,
say reconsider, reconsider. I think that there's
a possibility that she's reaching out so often
because he blamed it on himself. And that's why
I'm, like, I, after my breakup, went like i i
wouldn't like i couldn't stop texting him for
like three days afterwards and i was just like
no like you said that you needed to like you
were breaking up with me because um you were
like trying to better yourself for me and that
i deserve better and that you're holding me back
and i was like that's for me to decide and i'm
like i want to be with you currently and it was
just upsetting because it made me feel like i
was to blame and i feel like yes, I understand
this girl might be crazy and she was trying to
rush things, but she doesn't know. Yeah. We don't
know what love is at this age. Like we're figuring
it out as we go. It's not a written rule book.
And obviously people find love in different ways.
Like one person can love someone a different
way than the other person. There's different
ways that people want to be loved and different
ways that people want to love someone. So. I
feel like the only thing that you over -exaggerated
on was your breakup. He made it sound like, at
least a little bit, it made it sound like there
was a possibility for them to get back together,
which is just leading her on, which is why I
assume she texted friends to try to change his
mind, because it sounded like there was a chance
they would get back together. So he's leading
her on a little bit. He just needs to tell her
the truth and that it's not going to work out.
It'll be harder, obviously. And her reaction
could, you know, something bad could happen.
You know, you never know. But, like, he needs
to be straight with her. Yeah. Obviously, we
don't know the way that he worded things, but
he did mention at the end, he's like, he gave
her a list of things to think about and not,
like, to work on herself. Yeah. Like, you're
like, hey, like, this might have bothered me,
but it's no big deal. Just think about it. Just
think about it. But, like, all relationships
are different. We may not be hearing the full
side of the stories. Obviously, like, he could
have been saying, like, I need to work on myself.
And that may be true. Like, he may, whatever.
But he's not saying that because he wants to
better himself for her. He's saying that because
he wants to leave her. And he's, yes, like Zach
said, he's giving her. the fantasy of he's leading
her on yeah he's leading her on and he needs
to just be straight up with her and not give
her things to think about but straight up tell
her hey like um you'll find someone who has the
same obsessive behavior as you um i'm not into
that it's not my thing and like i just feel like
we'd be better for different people like i feel
like that yeah yeah i feel like His fear probably
got in the way of him telling the truth. I think
it did. Because you can be afraid of somebody
and you don't want to hurt them. Yeah, you don't
want to hurt them. Because you care about people.
But I think... There comes a line where he needs
to just tell the truth. He's not obligated to
tell her exactly why he wants to break up with
her, but it would have been... better to just
tell her like hey like you're obsessive and crazy
and i'm not comfortable with you anymore like
and then maybe she would have backed off but
since she's obsessive and crazy probably not
i think he could have also just worded it like
you want a very mature and grown relationship
that i don't i'm not ready to own a house i'm
not ready you want things to go fast i want to
take things slow i want it yeah By, like, a year
or a couple months, maybe, but, like... But she's
looking... She's definitely looking for, like,
a man, like, to take care of her. She's looking
to get a baby right now, which, for most... Not
most. For some people, they want to be married
by 22. There's, like, what, BYU, and it's, like,
rings by spring. Really? Yeah, where they go
to college or, like, whatever, and they try to
meet, like, a Mormon on campus. And they try
to get engaged by the end of the year. Oh, no,
I have heard about that. My stomach is still
growling. But yeah, it's called Rings by Spring,
where they try to get engaged by spring. I see
the videos on TikTok where people walk around
BYU and ask them questions. Like insane ones
that I'm not going to say on here, but they're
funny. And it's not just BYU that does that,
too. There are other like... I'm sure they're,
like, religion -based colleges, though. Because
I'm not seeing that at KUMU or anything like
that. Like, it's literally just mostly religious
schools that I see that. But, yeah. I mean, I
think that he's not over -exaggerating breaking
up with her. I think that her behavior is erotic,
right? Exotic? No, yeah, erotic. I said that
the first time correctly. Yeah. It really sounds
like she's trying to trap him. What did the comments
say? Boy run. Truly, she's trying to baby trap
you. How long ago was this made? Two days. Everything
is still fresh that we're coming up with. I'm
sure the update probably happened yesterday.
He broke up with her yesterday. I'm glad that
people gave him the courage. He was looking for
his friends, but then he's like, I need outside
opinions. Somebody said, stop doing explicit
things with her before she baby traps you. Just
break up and say you're not compatible and that
if she wants to be a mother and buy a house so
badly, she needs to find someone who's ready
for that. Then block her on everything because
she is probably going to escalate. But it's going
to get a whole lot worse the longer you draw
it out. And the last thing you want is to be
tied to this girl with a baby for the next 20
plus years. So that was before they broke up,
obviously, it sounds like. But that is word for
word. She is wanting a very serious fall in love
quickly. I think she wants to have a love at
first sight moment. How long were they dating?
Four months. She wants a love at first sight
moment. She said it within a week. Somebody said
if you want to, you can. For what? Just break
up with her. Oh, yeah. If you want to break up
with her, you can. Just do it. Somebody said
you are not in a relationship. You are about
to be held captive and with a baby before you
can blink. Get away from her. This is not normal
and no relationship should look like this. The
longer you wait and keep playing her game, the
worse it'll be. She will control how many times
you can chew your food before swallowing if you
stick around. Yeah, it says feed. Block her on
everything and do not look back, nor seriously.
gtfo yeah no i mean that's it like i can understand
i'm saying this because i'm saying this as a
young person who has thought they've been in
love before um it's understanding that she may
be very certain about what kind of love that
she wants she wants a baby and a husband and
a house he does not want A baby and a wife and
a house. Not yet. Not at that age. Yeah, no.
I'm ready to have kids in my late 40s. Late 30s.
Late 30s. Like, I'll be married. Old mother.
I'm, like, I'm not rushing anything. Yeah. Like,
I want to keep my 20s my 20s. Like, I'm not sharing
that. People should enjoy their 20s. Yeah. And
stress out about their 20s because that's when
life gets real. But, like, also that's when life
gets fun. You shouldn't, like. Okay, we're not
saying don't get married in your 20s. Yeah, do
what you want, but just live your life the way
you want to live it without forcing other people
to do what you want to do. If you're having fun
by getting married by 22 and having a baby by
23, then that's for you. Me personally, I could
not see myself married right now with a child.
I'm too young. Also, I think it's important to
note because A lot of people do struggle with
this. If you're not feeling a relationship, love
isn't the only thing that should be keeping your
relationship together. Like you can't just, I'm
not saying it can't just thrive off love, but
if you only have love for a person and you're
realizing that this isn't it, like you're feeling,
I don't know. different like people grow like
it's fine to grow with someone but you're growing
apart or you're growing and the person is not
growing with you or like she obviously this is
like a different scenario from what I'm describing
now but he cared for this person so he had a
hard time breaking up with her because he would
feel bad he didn't want her to be insane obviously
but like he didn't want the burden of having
to break up and that's fine but like this just
know that you will get over it if you have to
break up with someone because you simply just
are only like maybe not even you may not even
be in love just like know that you can break
up with someone because it's a very difficult
idea to wrap around and even for like me or like
anyone else in this room it's like it's difficult
to break up with someone that you still just
care for like you just you don't want to hurt
someone's feelings And it sucks. Yeah. But sometimes
you have to put yourself first. You should always
put yourself first. But it's difficult to. Yeah.
But good on him for, like, actually feeling care.
And also breaking up with her. He should stay
strong and not cave in. Ever contact her again.
Yeah, don't cave in to her friends or her messaging
him on her friends' accounts. Like, she'll make
fake Snapchats. She'll try to catfish you on.
Instagram. Keep her blocked. Keep her blocked
and block all her friends or just explain like,
hey, like it's not it's not her or it's not me.
It was her. It was it was her. Like just like
be honest. Just start being honest. Like I can't
I couldn't do that relationship. I'm so sorry.
Like it wasn't for me. Like she just needs to
stop reaching out like. Just tell them that you're
moving on and that you moved on. Be like, I'm
not actively trying to find a relationship. I've
already moved on. I've already moved on. I have
a boyfriend now instead of a girlfriend. Yeah.
You secretly come out as gay. Yep. That's how
you do it. Yep. Okay. Well, good on him for like
ending things and he should keep things ended
and just like explain to them that it wasn't
meant to be and that he and her both need to
move on. Yeah. But, I mean. Let us know if you
guys enjoy listening to Reddit stories. And honestly,
maybe we should submit our own Reddit page where
you guys can confess. JCCC Reddit stories. We
had that in high school. Did you really? OE confessions.
Oh my gosh. Oh yeah, there were Instagram pages.
I remember the Instagram pages. We had BV. Blue
Valley North Confessions, or we also had one
that was making fun of really bad parking jobs.
Yeah, no, I had bad parking. There was this account
that raided all the water fountains around the
school. Okay, someone who currently attends my
old high school made a rating that bathrooms.
I think we had one of those. Yeah, I thought
that was funny. I think we had a page for devious
licks. Oh, yeah. We did, too. But that got shut
down. Where they stole things? Oh, you guys were
in school during that. Oh, yeah. It was bad.
It made me feel a little old. But, yeah. No.
I think they stole a sink at one point. A sink?
Yeah. Jesus. I feel like I saw somebody steal
a water fountain. How do you steal a sink? Time
and dedication. Right. And a really low GPA.
You didn't hear that from me, though. Okay, well,
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I actually did really well in my midterm today.
I didn't even have one. I didn't have one. Really?
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