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Hey everyone, welcome back to The Main Mic. My

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name's Harper. And I'm Mackenzie. And I'm Zach.

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Yeah, there we go. And today we kind of have

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like a different episode. I'm pumped full of

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caffeine right now. And I was originally going

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to come into this episode really tired. But actually,

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let's just scratch that. I'm pumped full of caffeine

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and we're reading Reddit stories. Yeah, we're

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going to read Reddit stories. We'll get into

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some news first and then we're going to just

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read some Reddit stories because that's the mood

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that we're in today. So we just found out we

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could do it, too. Yeah. Why not? Anyways. Well,

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first of all, off the top of my head, I know

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that the 14th is the last day you can drop out

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of a class without it having like an F fail grade

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on your. Yeah, it'll just be a withdrawal. So

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if you're failing a class or you don't feel comfortable

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staying in the class, I don't know, letting you

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know that the last day to drop your class is

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the 14th. I think that's the Monday after. So

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we'll remind you next podcast too. Just the 14th.

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In a little over a week, guys, is what I'm trying

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to say. No. And then I'll work through like news,

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by the way, just like going through as we like

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as the week goes by. So like April 6th. So this

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podcast today, it will be posted on the 4th.

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And there's a new Nerman Museum art exhibit.

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It's called Shooting Stars 2025. 2025 is probably

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just like the date, but. It's from April 6th

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to May 4th. It's created in 1997 by Chairman

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Emeritus Robert Endress, I think. Fancy name.

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I think is how you say his name. Said it was

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made in 1997. It says created in 1997 by Chairman

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Emeritus Robert Endress. That's cool. I'm so

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sorry if I butchered that name. Like genuinely.

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I'm going to have to check it out. Here, do you

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want to see how it's spelled? Yeah, I'll try

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to pronounce it. Emeritus Robert Andres. So it

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was like, that was basically right? Andres. I

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don't know if that S in his last name is. Andres

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or Andres. I think I said the same thing twice.

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I don't know. I'm not going to try. Anyways.

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A really cool fancy name. Yeah. Chairman Emeritus

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Robert Andres. I'm just reading it off of our

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Johnson County events page, but he's a then member

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of the Board of Arts and Humanities Association

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of Johnson County. So the Shooting Stars is actually

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an event. It's not a exhibit. Oh, it's a theater

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exhibit, right? No. Shooting Stars? Possibly.

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I remember in high school, there's shooting stars.

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They go around, at least from what I've heard.

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It's like a theater thing. It is in with it.

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It has the Midwest Trust Center as a contributor

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and partner in the program. But the Shooting

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Stars program has recognized over 1 ,000 high

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school seniors and awarded more than $400 ,000

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in college scholarships and $70 ,000 in teacher

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awards. $70 ,000 in teacher awards. So if you

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want to participate in this program, it's 12th

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grade students. And you have to be nominated

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by your high school arts teacher or be a resident.

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Or, not or, but you have to be and be a resident

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of Johnson County. And once you're nominated,

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there'll be, like, auditions or you can submit

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a portfolio. So, yeah, it is a part of the theater.

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Yeah, it's a theater thing. It's theater and

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arts. So, like, there's probably different scholarships.

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Like, one for theater, one for... Well, there's

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a bunch of different things. Like, there's set

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design, there's lighting design, there's acting,

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there's singing, there's blah, blah, blah, blah,

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blah. And I'm sure there's a bunch for, like...

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art pieces for like, you know, actual like art

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art. Are you saying Cedar isn't art? I mean like

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art art, like drawing art. Yeah, I know. I'm

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just playing. Okay. But so the finalists would

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audition or submit a portfolio and that will

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be reviewed. Then I guess on May, what was that?

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May 4th on like May the 4th be with you. On May

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the 4th, that's when I guess they pick their

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scholarship leads. So this program includes schools

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in Blue Valley, like high schools in Blue Valley,

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DeSoto, Gardner, Edgerton, Mill Valley, Olathe,

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Shawnee Mission, and Spring Hill. The Barstool

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School, Heritage Christian Academy. Kansas City

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Christian High School, Pembroke Hill Upper School,

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St. Thomas Aquinas High School, and St. Teresa's

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Academy are also allowed to participate in that.

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But let's see. And it looks like, I think your

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artist finalists, it would be exhibited at the

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Nerman Museum. So your work will be shown off

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at Johnson County Community College if you're

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in like the leaderboard. I really don't know

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how it works. I wish I did. Yeah, I've only been

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like people because I've had a couple of friends

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who have been nominated. Really? Yeah. So like

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I know the process a little bit. I know there's

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like a... There's like events that you need to

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go to and dress up for at one point if you've

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been selected. I don't know. From what I know,

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it's really cool and they just kind of hand out

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scholarships, I think. Is it anything? It's not

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like the Arts Honor or anything like that because

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I remember that in high school. I just don't

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remember. No, Shooting Stars is its own separate

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thing. Well, that's cool. I mean. If any of you

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guys are artists and you're, I guess, looking

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for a nomination or if you guys know someone,

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send the podcast to that person so they can be

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informed about the Shooting Stars program. And

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then also talk to your teachers about it. I think

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that'd be fun. Just be like, hey, I overheard

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about this like Shooting Stars program. Hey,

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you should nominate me. I'm really good at the

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theater or whatever, or like arts, whatever you're

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good at. Whatever you're good at. Well, after

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that, April 7th, because it starts on April 6th.

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So, Monday, April 7th. You know what comes out

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on April 6th? Oh my God, the Minecraft movie?

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No. No. Wait. One Piece. Oh, really? When's the

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Minecraft movie come out? The 4th. The 4th. Oh,

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we were talking about that. That's why I was

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confused. I'm going on the 3rd, because our...

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Our AMC has early releases. Isn't it? Yeah, the

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Thursday early movie release. Cinemark does that

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too, by the way. Yeah, a lot of theaters do it.

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Cinemark also is cheaper to those listeners.

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Just by the way, if you don't have AMC money,

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like somebody in this room. But like, just saying.

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AMC has popcorn buckets, though. I guess Cinemark

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does. Cinemark has better popcorn buckets. It

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depends. Do they have a popcorn bucket for Minecraft?

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Oh, there's like five. Okay. There's one of the

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chicken jockey. Really? Chicken jockey. I kind

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of want it. But Cinemark has an arcade and a

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merch shop for whatever movie's playing. There's

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a little arcade in AMC. There is? Where? The

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one on the straight line? Oh, yeah, there's,

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like, a claw machine. Yeah, there's a couple

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machines over there. No, but I'm talking, like,

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a full arcade. Some arcade. Those are just machines.

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Like, Dance Dance Revolution's in there. Like,

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you can sit down and play, like, a racing game

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in there, too. But who goes to the movie theater

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to go to the arcade? It's, like, a whole experience,

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though. If you're, like... I guess maybe after

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the movie. Or before the movie, when you're waiting.

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I'd be, like, enjoy a nice... game after a nice

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movie date or something, I don't know, or movie

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with friends. Yeah, a movie date. You're like,

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oh, I want to go to Dave and Buster's. No, I

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want to go see a movie. Boom, right there. Mix.

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Cinemark. I guarantee that Cinemark does not

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have the amount of games that Dave and Buster's

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does. Okay, well, what I'm saying is without

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having to drive a certain amount of miles, you

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literally have an arcade and movie theater in

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one. Just saying. I think I would just go to

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- They also have a bar, guys. They have a bar?

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AMC has a bar. Like a bar bar? AMC has a big

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bar. It's in the fork and screen section. Oh,

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wait. No, you're so right. It's a big bar. Oh,

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I'm so - Yeah, no. I've been to like three different

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AMCs. The AMC 20 is the one that's usually like

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the go -to for me, but like - AMC 28 is my main

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one. Is that the one that's on 135th? The one

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next to the big Target. Oh, right. And across

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the street from the Texas Roadhouse. Uh -huh.

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No, yeah. The one on Stringline? Sure. I don't

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know the street names. Right in the same parking

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lot as Texas Roadhouse and Chicago, whatever.

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Pizza place. Chicago style, I think is literally

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what it's called. I don't know. Or Chicago pizza.

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I don't know. Yeah, but yeah, right there. But

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yeah. So what, it's not the movie coming out.

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It's like, not New Seasons, the... The simplified

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version of One Piece is coming out? The One Piece?

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The remake? Yeah. Yeah, they're remaking it.

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No, but is that what comes out on the 4th? Oh,

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what comes out on the 4th? They're restarting

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because they took a six -month hiatus. It was

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six months? Yeah. That's such a long hiatus.

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It's the first hiatus they've ever taken. Oh.

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So, yeah, they're just coming back with the show.

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Because they were just giving their employees

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a break. First hiatus they've ever taken and

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the show's been going for 25 years. I mean, Tully's

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not that bad. There's worse companies. Yeah,

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we appreciate all that they do. So yeah, they're

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remaking The One Piece, which we don't know when

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it's coming out yet. But that's made by Witt.

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The same people who made Attack on Titan and

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Vinland Saga. Oh, I need to finish that. I've

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never watched it. Vinland Saga. It was really

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good when I was watching it. Is it just like

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Vikings? Yeah. And a son trying to get his revenge

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for the death of his father. But it's really

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good. I like it. The animation looks good. I

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mean, from what I've heard, it's really good,

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too. It's amazing. I mean, now that I'm caught

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up to One Piece, I can actually watch another

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show. Right. I wish. So that comes out what Friday?

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The next part of One Piece. That's the 6th. That's

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the Sunday, isn't it? Yeah, it is the Sunday.

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And I think they're doing simulcast now. I don't

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know what that means. Meaning it comes out with

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English and Japanese dub already. Right off the

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bat. So you don't have to wait a week. How smart

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for them. It's the first time they've ever done

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that, too. So I can switch to watching in dub?

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Yeah, you should. Not that I mind the sub. I

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actually really like it. No, the sub's good,

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but man, I love the dub voice actors. Sometimes

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I just want to watch a show in English. And actually

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understand what they're saying. Not need to read

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his subtitles. Yeah. I feel like, okay, does

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anyone else have that issue where they can't

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really pay attention to what's going on in a

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show unless the subtitle's on? Yeah. Unless they're

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on or if they're on? No, unless they're on. Well,

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hold on. That sounds right. The only way I can

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pay attention to a show is if the subtitles are

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on. Say someone mumbles something, but it's an

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important line or something. I'm usually really

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close to my TV, so when I... I don't usually

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watch them with subtitles on, but if there's

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a really quiet part or I need to double check

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something, I'm like, hold on, go back 20 seconds,

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turn on subtitles and rewatch the scene. I've

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done that with One Piece a couple of times because

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I'm like, did they really just say that? I get

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that though because there's Netflix shows especially,

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I feel like, that I just kind of need to have

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subtitles on. I read along with the subtitles

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while looking at them. Especially when they're

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speaking the language, it's way easier to follow

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along with the subtitles because it's kind of

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just like an audio book with a picture. I do

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the same thing. I like to keep the subtitles

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on even if I'm watching something in English.

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Yeah, but I'll turn them small. So I only need

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to look at them when I need to look at them.

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Otherwise, I'll pay attention to them. The problem

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with Crunchyroll, though, they like... I think

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this is Crunchyroll, but they outlined the subtitles.

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I think you can change that. That's either Crunchyroll

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or Hulu. I don't remember. I know there's...

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A lot of customization options for subtitles.

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I don't remember which platform it was on, and

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it might have been Funimation. There was a lot

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of customization options for the subtitles, which

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was really cool. You could change the color,

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you could change the opacity, you could change

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if there was a background of it. That'd be helpful.

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Considering Crunchyroll bought Funimation, they

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might have. done that I don't know so I haven't

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looked I feel like Crunchyroll is pretty behind

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seeing as how they literally just got profiles

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yeah well they've had them for a few months now

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at least yeah which is helpful like why did it

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take so long I know my friend literally was like

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because he had a Crunchyroll account for a while

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before and so he's like hey do you want Crunchyroll

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and so it's like him me and like his brother

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and like one of his friends like we're just all

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on it it's really cool so i used to i used to

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dream to have crunchyroll i got tired of like

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going to kiss anime i know i was like oh country

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roll is for the elites right i was like these

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people are lucky i wish i could pay for this

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they're so rich and that's when country roll

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was cheap now it's like 12 exactly at first i

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had funimation though which was only i had funimation

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for a while yeah and then they were like oh Crunchyroll

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bought us. I'm like, are you kidding me? I know,

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I was like, I really didn't want to switch to

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Crunchyroll. I didn't want to switch either.

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And I never bought it. I literally never bought

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Crunchyroll. I just stopped watching anime. I

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bought it and I have like the premium. profile

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i might have bought it we have premium on ours

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it's like it's like 16 a month but like worth

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it because you get discounts and i think you

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also get like a swag bag yeah if you get like

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one of the tiers you get us or no i think any

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of the tiers you just get it like once a year

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yeah i think so i don't know how long i've had

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my crunch roll though have you gotten a swag

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bag nope so not a year well i mean guys i've

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been listening i've never had to pay for a subscription

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for anime so i'm not like a part of the conversation

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but a swag bag no i mean like i watch stuff on

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netflix or hulu you know like i'm a basic person

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a swag bag like what do you get in it i don't

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know right but like crunchyroll has like a whole

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store yeah no the crunchyroll stores and it has

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a lot of exclusive stuff yes they just put out

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a One piece figurine, actually. Really? I think

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it's Luffy and I think it was Zora. I don't remember.

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Was it the one with him and Ace? Oh, it was Ace.

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Because I've seen that one. It's actually really

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cool. It's like $200. Right. $200? Yes. Figurines

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are expensive, especially if you get them from

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the conventions. Yeah, no. The conventions were

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like even more than that. Exactly. Well, that

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one is also two people and also. What was I saying?

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Sorry. That one's also two people and also. Yeah,

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it's like two people. And there's a lot of like

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effects on the statue, on the figure itself.

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Because there's a lot of like fire on that one

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and stuff. So like if it's just a figure of like

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a person, they can range up to like a hundred

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bucks, which is still quite a lot. But like,

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you know, they're realistic usually. Look at

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this. Demon Slayer figurine, and it's... I don't

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know why I can't get his name. Rengoku? Which

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one? Let me look. Yes, Rengoku. Oh, yeah, yeah.

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Yeah, and this is like $137. This is the Funko

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Pop I need. That's so cute. It's of my favorite

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character. It's of Vivi from One Piece. Oh, yeah,

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didn't you say you wanted to get the tattoo?

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Yeah, I... I think we talked it off air. I think

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this is when we were waiting for everybody. I'm

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planning on getting the X tattoo on my left arm.

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From one of my favorite scenes of One Piece.

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So we'll see. Now that I've caught up, that was

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like my one goal. I was like, I need to catch

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up before I get a tattoo about this show. Yeah,

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that's odd. And then I did. And I've watched

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two of the movies. I've watched Red and I watched

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Gold. I still need to watch Stampede because

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that's the third one that's on Crunchyroll. And

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then I'm going to have to go out and buy the

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others because they're just older. It's worth

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it. But yeah. Red was really good. Have you watched

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Red? I haven't watched any of the movies. Red

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was really good. But if you're looking to buy

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them, try... Well, I would try going to FYE at

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the mall. Oh, yeah. I love FYE. Yeah. I was going

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to say Vintage Stock, but I don't know. Their

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prices can be weird sometimes. Yeah. I like going

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to Vintage Stock. They also have... I mean, I

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personally kind of like going to... vintage stock

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because they have those mystery things oh yeah

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they do have mystery boxes so they have like

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mystery boxes for cds vinyls movies funko pops

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um i can't remember what else but i would get

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like the vinyl ones because they're cheaper than

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buying individual ones and i think it's just

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fun to have like a bunch of vinyl like i have

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random stuff yeah no it's fun and then uh i got

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some or i got like a funko pop one and it came

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with three or four yeah my friend actually i

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was just there probably like a month or two ago

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i remember my friend he got the funko mystery

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box he got like four random ones they were like

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nothing that he watched which was unfortunate

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but like he had them they're yeah they're fun

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and um little like life hack i guess like if

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you don't like any of them i literally just take

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them to half price books and they'll sell them

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for you yeah that or i mean Honestly, just wait

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like a week and go back to vintage stock and

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just sell it again. Go to a different vintage

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stock. Or that, yeah. Yup. No, that's super fun.

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There's a lot of retro stores around here that'll

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buy toys. Yeah. There's like three in the mall.

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Which ones? Like Oak Park? Yeah. I mean, GameStop

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buys stuff sometimes. That's true. There's the

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one next to GameStop. I do not remember what

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it's called, but they have, like, a bunch of

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retro stuff. They have a lot of Pokemon cards.

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They have a lot of figures, a lot of Funko Pops.

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There's the Entertain Mart at Oak Park. Don't

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they buy things, too? I think, yeah, they buy

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stuff. I mean, yeah. There's a lot of stuff.

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There's a lot of stories. There's like a retro

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arcade in the mall. Yeah, it's right in between

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the GameStop and the place I was talking about.

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It's all in that strip. That's what I was going

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to say. I was like, isn't that an arcade? No,

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it's right on the, it's the corner of that little

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strip. I know what you're talking about. I think

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my friend's parent owns that, but I have no idea

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which friend anymore. And I have like, so I just,

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I remember that I used to know, or I guess like

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I went to high school with her. I knew the person's.

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Yeah, that's like, I don't know, me contributing

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to the conversation. Well, do we want to switch

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gears? Or do you have any more news? Yeah, you

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like interrupted me. You said, speaking of the

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6th, and I was like, okay, yeah, let's get into

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it. No, but Monday, April 7th is why we're like,

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you know what else comes on the 6th? No, the

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7th. Monday, April 7th. It's a kickoff week for

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Library Week and Poetry Month. So, Monday, April

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7th, noon to 1pm in Library Room 227. There's

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going to be poetry prompts, haikus, and there's

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also going to be activities to help break writer's

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block. But it's going to be really fun because

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it is, obviously, it's Library Week, so they're

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going to be doing things throughout the entire

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week. And it's Poetry Month, so I think they're

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going to do a lot of poetry -inspired stuff.

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And then also the grad fair is coming up too.

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This is true. Yeah, that's the 9th. So it's going

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to be from like 10 a .m. to 3 p .m. And it's

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in the student center. So it's like the bookstore

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and the little hallway. But the grad fair has

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like several different departments to make sure

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you're ready for your graduation. Get your gown,

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get everything. And I don't even know. Graduate.

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Yeah. Get ready for graduation. They have the

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cap and gown for $30. That's not that bad. Yeah.

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I think it's discounted. Mine was more expensive

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for high school. Literally. I think so. I think

00:23:01.849 --> 00:23:04.309
mine was like, honestly, I'm taking away. I thought

00:23:04.309 --> 00:23:06.049
mine was like $60 or like $80. I was going to

00:23:06.049 --> 00:23:09.170
say $60 for mine. Yeah. I don't know. I don't

00:23:09.170 --> 00:23:10.789
know how much I spent because I didn't buy it.

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Congrats to the people who are graduating. Good

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job. All right. Round of applause. Whatever.

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You could have just like clapped your hands.

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I did this. Okay, fine. Congrats, guys. Happy

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graduation. Go you. Yay. Cavalier for real. Cavalier

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for real. Okay, but that goes on April 9th and

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April 10th. It's both from 10 a .m. to 3 p .m.

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So if you can attend one of them, that's actually

00:23:41.049 --> 00:23:42.869
pretty smart too because you need to get your

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cap and gown if you want to like do the walk

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and all that stuff. But if you're not graduating

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April 10th, you can still, like, there's still

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something for you to do, which is the Crafts

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and Cookies in Cav Central. So it's in the room

00:24:01.700 --> 00:24:05.819
27 basement, which is Cav Central, which I just

00:24:05.819 --> 00:24:08.480
found out. Mackenzie told me. She's like, isn't

00:24:08.480 --> 00:24:11.160
that the Cav Central? I was like, oh. That's

00:24:11.160 --> 00:24:15.099
what it is? Yeah. There's going to be, it says,

00:24:15.160 --> 00:24:18.059
we will break out the bead supplies, button making,

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and origami paper. The bead supplies? The bead

00:24:22.259 --> 00:24:29.759
supplies. The bead supplies. And origami, though,

00:24:29.799 --> 00:24:32.619
too. And origami. Yeah, no. Button making and

00:24:32.619 --> 00:24:35.700
origami paper. So that sounds like fun. 9 .30

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a .m. to 2 p .m. April 10th at Cab Central. Do

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it. And there's cookies. Even if you're graduating,

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you can still go. That's true. Like a before

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and like after. Yeah. Or like before you go to

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crossing cookies, like pick up your gown and

00:24:52.559 --> 00:24:56.059
then go do crafts. Yeah. De -stress from all

00:24:56.059 --> 00:24:59.119
that stuff. But I mean, that's pretty much it.

00:24:59.200 --> 00:25:02.880
I can't really think or find anything else. Basketball

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season's over. Baseball season. Season. Ugh.

00:25:06.480 --> 00:25:09.440
Basketball season is over. baseball season is

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starting so we'll have some baseball games that

00:25:12.359 --> 00:25:15.960
we're going to be writing uh about yeah like

00:25:15.960 --> 00:25:17.660
our journalists will do that yeah stay tuned

00:25:17.660 --> 00:25:20.400
for uh baseball content all of those articles

00:25:20.400 --> 00:25:22.720
coming out our sports editor he's working hard

00:25:22.720 --> 00:25:27.859
so um and i know our women's basketball team

00:25:27.859 --> 00:25:30.579
won the nationals Was that last year, like 2024?

00:25:31.059 --> 00:25:33.000
It was this year. We just did it. Oh, right.

00:25:33.140 --> 00:25:34.940
Oh, my gosh. Basketball season just ended. I

00:25:34.940 --> 00:25:37.799
just said that. Yeah, duh. They just – I saw

00:25:37.799 --> 00:25:40.900
it on the Instagram story. Yeah, we had a – It

00:25:40.900 --> 00:25:42.980
was one of them. They released – or they showed

00:25:42.980 --> 00:25:45.519
off the – The banner? The new banner, which is

00:25:45.519 --> 00:25:48.799
really cool. I know we've written some articles

00:25:48.799 --> 00:25:52.859
about it, so, yeah. Congrats on the team. Go

00:25:52.859 --> 00:25:55.500
– what – are they still, like, Cavaliers, or

00:25:55.500 --> 00:25:58.960
do they have a different name? Go Cavaliers.

00:25:59.359 --> 00:26:02.960
Yeah, go Cavs, right? I don't know. I mean, I'm

00:26:02.960 --> 00:26:05.279
sure they have their own personal name maybe,

00:26:05.400 --> 00:26:07.660
but they're probably just the women's basketball

00:26:07.660 --> 00:26:11.579
team Cavaliers. Yeah, we have the sickest team

00:26:11.579 --> 00:26:13.420
ever. They're the coolest people ever. Yeah,

00:26:13.460 --> 00:26:15.680
I mean, they won nationals. They did win nationals.

00:26:15.680 --> 00:26:19.380
They lost one game. One game? They lost one game.

00:26:19.400 --> 00:26:21.500
Dang. And then they bounced back and won nationals.

00:26:21.500 --> 00:26:24.660
They're so good. That's the comeback of the century.

00:26:25.299 --> 00:26:28.440
Literally, how can you only win? Or how could

00:26:28.440 --> 00:26:33.140
you lose one game for real? I'm being too sarcastic

00:26:33.140 --> 00:26:36.079
here. It just sounds like I'm being stupid. No,

00:26:36.259 --> 00:26:39.240
that doesn't work. It doesn't matter. Let's read

00:26:39.240 --> 00:26:43.140
some Reddit stories. Okay, so yeah. For the rest

00:26:43.140 --> 00:26:47.460
of this episode, for the 30 -ish minutes we have

00:26:47.460 --> 00:26:50.869
you. We're going to switch gears and read some

00:26:50.869 --> 00:26:53.730
Reddit stories for you guys. I'm going to start

00:26:53.730 --> 00:26:56.910
it off with one subreddit that you guys may be

00:26:56.910 --> 00:26:59.609
familiar with. It is from the am I the asshole

00:26:59.609 --> 00:27:03.890
subreddit. So am I the asshole? My cousin moved

00:27:03.890 --> 00:27:06.910
in into our house and my parents expect me to

00:27:06.910 --> 00:27:11.490
act like her servant. Yeah. So let's see where

00:27:11.490 --> 00:27:17.500
this one goes. Okay. So I. female 18, am a senior

00:27:17.500 --> 00:27:21.319
in high school, and my cousin, female 12, just

00:27:21.319 --> 00:27:24.279
moved from India with her parents. I live with

00:27:24.279 --> 00:27:26.859
my younger brother, 15, and two parents in a

00:27:26.859 --> 00:27:30.299
house big enough for us, but with seven people

00:27:30.299 --> 00:27:33.059
now, it's getting cramped. For the first two

00:27:33.059 --> 00:27:35.680
months after they moved in, she slept in my room,

00:27:35.740 --> 00:27:38.309
and her parents stayed in our guest room. For

00:27:38.309 --> 00:27:40.630
context, my room is the smallest in the house.

00:27:40.730 --> 00:27:43.470
We made a makeshift bed for her, but it eventually

00:27:43.470 --> 00:27:45.789
got to the point where I couldn't even move around

00:27:45.789 --> 00:27:49.250
in my own room. Eventually, her parents got jobs

00:27:49.250 --> 00:27:51.730
and relocated to another state, but allowed her

00:27:51.730 --> 00:27:54.470
to stay with us since she had already enrolled

00:27:54.470 --> 00:27:57.089
in school here and wanted her to finish the year.

00:27:57.950 --> 00:28:00.450
I really tried my best to accommodate all her

00:28:00.450 --> 00:28:03.000
needs and help with her homework. I constantly

00:28:03.000 --> 00:28:05.819
asked what she was learning in India so I could

00:28:05.819 --> 00:28:08.799
compare it with the U .S. curriculum and teach

00:28:08.799 --> 00:28:11.940
her what she needed to know. I helped her study

00:28:11.940 --> 00:28:14.940
for tests, write emails to teachers, explained

00:28:14.940 --> 00:28:17.460
homework, and helped pick out her clothes when

00:28:17.460 --> 00:28:21.299
needed. I moved her clothes from my closet to

00:28:21.299 --> 00:28:25.160
the guest room and tidied it up so my parents

00:28:25.160 --> 00:28:27.039
wouldn't have to worry about the room being messy

00:28:27.039 --> 00:28:31.109
after my uncle and aunt left. Now, the issue

00:28:31.109 --> 00:28:33.849
is that my parents expect me to drop everything

00:28:33.849 --> 00:28:37.190
and help her whenever she has a problem. I don't

00:28:37.190 --> 00:28:39.730
understand why they don't ask my brother or why

00:28:39.730 --> 00:28:42.670
she doesn't just look up the answers to questions

00:28:42.670 --> 00:28:45.009
herself, like how to solve a math problem or

00:28:45.009 --> 00:28:48.630
who the 12th president of the US was. I don't

00:28:48.630 --> 00:28:51.450
get why I have to help her write notes or memorize

00:28:51.450 --> 00:28:54.430
flashcards. I liked talking to her at first.

00:28:54.569 --> 00:28:57.390
I haven't seen her for six years, but it's getting

00:28:57.390 --> 00:29:00.460
exhausting. I can't pretend I want to sit in

00:29:00.460 --> 00:29:02.700
her room for hours every day talking about things

00:29:02.700 --> 00:29:06.480
I don't care about. So, I stopped. I started

00:29:06.480 --> 00:29:09.359
locking my door, putting on earbuds when I study,

00:29:09.500 --> 00:29:12.420
leaving for volleyball practice earlier, and

00:29:12.420 --> 00:29:14.500
going out with friends more, especially since

00:29:14.500 --> 00:29:17.099
it's my last year of high school. I tell them

00:29:17.099 --> 00:29:19.099
I'm busy with college stuff, but it's reached

00:29:19.099 --> 00:29:21.180
a point where my parents are noticing and have

00:29:21.180 --> 00:29:24.779
a talk with me. They say I'm acting antisocial

00:29:24.779 --> 00:29:27.900
and making her feel left out. They say, I don't

00:29:27.900 --> 00:29:30.220
go out of my way to treat her kindly, which I

00:29:30.220 --> 00:29:32.779
did, but I seriously can't keep this facade going.

00:29:33.119 --> 00:29:35.220
It's my last year of high school, and I don't

00:29:35.220 --> 00:29:36.980
want to keep telling my friends I can't hang

00:29:36.980 --> 00:29:39.980
out because my cousin is bored. My brother comes

00:29:39.980 --> 00:29:42.079
home from basketball practice, does his homework,

00:29:42.200 --> 00:29:44.039
and plays video games with his friends, and no

00:29:44.039 --> 00:29:46.660
one says anything to him. The thing is, I don't

00:29:46.660 --> 00:29:49.319
even think she wants to talk to me. much either

00:29:49.319 --> 00:29:52.599
she locks her door watches tv on her ipad and

00:29:52.599 --> 00:29:54.960
calls her friends and parents occasionally so

00:29:54.960 --> 00:29:56.980
i don't even feel like i'm doing anything wrong

00:29:56.980 --> 00:29:59.539
but my parents think otherwise sorry if this

00:29:59.539 --> 00:30:02.799
feels like i'm rambling i am but that's what

00:30:02.799 --> 00:30:05.920
it says in parentheses i am but i'm just so frustrated

00:30:05.920 --> 00:30:08.700
that my parents think my whole life now has to

00:30:08.700 --> 00:30:16.619
revolve around my 12 year old cousin okay So

00:30:16.619 --> 00:30:23.799
let's debrief here. So yeah, the OP is 18, is

00:30:23.799 --> 00:30:29.039
a senior in high school. Sounds like she's basically

00:30:29.039 --> 00:30:31.160
having to babysit her cousin. Yeah, sounds like

00:30:31.160 --> 00:30:34.539
she has to babysit her cousin because her parents

00:30:34.539 --> 00:30:40.779
left her at OP's parents' house because she was

00:30:40.779 --> 00:30:47.450
already enrolled in school there. I don't know.

00:30:47.490 --> 00:30:50.670
It doesn't say if she had left, if her parents

00:30:50.670 --> 00:30:55.190
or aunt and uncle, but the little cousin's parents,

00:30:55.269 --> 00:31:00.369
if they stayed. Or if they left during the middle

00:31:00.369 --> 00:31:03.289
of a school year or not. Because I guess if it

00:31:03.289 --> 00:31:05.849
was the middle or end of the school year, I guess,

00:31:05.890 --> 00:31:09.089
not having them transfer. Because they've already

00:31:09.089 --> 00:31:14.630
gotten used to it. But if they just got there.

00:31:16.079 --> 00:31:18.599
I feel like they could have taken their kid.

00:31:19.099 --> 00:31:22.980
Yeah. They wanted her to finish the school year.

00:31:23.160 --> 00:31:26.819
I mean, if it's, like, close to the end, then

00:31:26.819 --> 00:31:30.700
I would get that. But if it's, like, the beginning

00:31:30.700 --> 00:31:33.579
or, like, even, like, the middle, I think it'd

00:31:33.579 --> 00:31:37.859
be fine. But they came from India. Yeah. So I

00:31:37.859 --> 00:31:41.650
don't know if the OP is also Indian. And if they've

00:31:41.650 --> 00:31:43.089
lived in the U .S., they'll hold their whole

00:31:43.089 --> 00:31:45.390
life. I don't know. There's not a lot of information.

00:31:45.910 --> 00:31:48.309
I mean, we're not really even talking about the

00:31:48.309 --> 00:31:50.630
fact that the cousin moved here. The OP wants

00:31:50.630 --> 00:31:54.069
to know if they're the asshole for wanting personal

00:31:54.069 --> 00:31:56.750
space. Yeah, no. They're not. No, they're not.

00:31:57.230 --> 00:32:01.309
Honestly, what it sounds like is this person

00:32:01.309 --> 00:32:05.869
is very... This person is in... Your cousin and

00:32:05.869 --> 00:32:08.809
your parents are very dependent on you to be

00:32:08.809 --> 00:32:10.549
able to take care of them so they don't have

00:32:10.549 --> 00:32:12.750
to take care of a 12 -year -old cousin. I don't

00:32:12.750 --> 00:32:15.609
know if this person has siblings, so... Yeah,

00:32:15.650 --> 00:32:17.490
it doesn't... No, yeah, it said they had a brother.

00:32:17.589 --> 00:32:20.849
The brother that comes home from practice and

00:32:20.849 --> 00:32:23.150
just plays video games all night. And they don't

00:32:23.150 --> 00:32:25.170
expect him to do anything with the cousin. Is

00:32:25.170 --> 00:32:27.410
this a younger sibling? Yeah, they said it was

00:32:27.410 --> 00:32:30.789
a younger brother. Okay, so this person is closer

00:32:30.789 --> 00:32:34.240
to the age. However... I'm assuming that since

00:32:34.240 --> 00:32:39.019
the brother is a brother and these are two, I

00:32:39.019 --> 00:32:43.619
assume, females. Yeah. It makes the most sense

00:32:43.619 --> 00:32:46.339
that your parents wouldn't want your cousin to

00:32:46.339 --> 00:32:50.880
hang around a guy. I mean, if I was a 12 -year

00:32:50.880 --> 00:32:54.019
-old who had an older cousin, two older cousins,

00:32:54.180 --> 00:32:56.660
I'd prefer to hang out with a girl. Yeah, probably.

00:32:59.500 --> 00:33:02.319
My, I guess, advice? Are they asking advice?

00:33:03.160 --> 00:33:05.339
I mean, they're just asking if they're the asshole.

00:33:05.740 --> 00:33:09.000
This one is a day old, and there is an answer

00:33:09.000 --> 00:33:13.839
on it. It's not the asshole. So what's the title

00:33:13.839 --> 00:33:19.680
question? Am I the asshole for what? If her parents

00:33:19.680 --> 00:33:22.160
expect me to act like her servant, her little

00:33:22.160 --> 00:33:26.309
cousin's servant. Yeah, no. Okay. Honestly. I

00:33:26.309 --> 00:33:28.289
understand feeling like a servant. It seems like

00:33:28.289 --> 00:33:31.529
she's more like a babysitter here. It seems like

00:33:31.529 --> 00:33:33.049
your parents aren't really wanting to take care

00:33:33.049 --> 00:33:35.789
of your cousin and they're like giving you that

00:33:35.789 --> 00:33:37.750
responsibility like they're handing it off to

00:33:37.750 --> 00:33:42.630
you. You're a senior. When I was a senior, I

00:33:42.630 --> 00:33:44.549
mean, I'm more of like an insider person. I don't

00:33:44.549 --> 00:33:46.329
really like going out, but people were doing

00:33:46.329 --> 00:33:49.349
their grad parties. They were doing like, you

00:33:49.349 --> 00:33:53.450
know, like the last hurrah for like high school.

00:33:54.039 --> 00:33:55.519
I was going to say school, but, like, high school.

00:33:56.380 --> 00:33:59.819
And, I mean, people are just wanting to, like,

00:33:59.819 --> 00:34:01.680
go out and, like, have fun. Like, there's senior

00:34:01.680 --> 00:34:04.279
spring breaks for some schools, which is bizarre.

00:34:04.779 --> 00:34:08.119
But, like, I completely understand wanting to

00:34:08.119 --> 00:34:09.920
have your own personal space. And also, like,

00:34:10.039 --> 00:34:13.420
yeah, I'd feel like a servant, too. Like, servant

00:34:13.420 --> 00:34:17.480
to my parents, but. I mean, yeah, it's the last

00:34:17.480 --> 00:34:19.760
thing you want to be doing. In your high school,

00:34:19.860 --> 00:34:21.800
your last year of high school, you don't want

00:34:21.800 --> 00:34:24.539
to be babysitting your cousin. You want to be

00:34:24.539 --> 00:34:26.219
a senior. You don't want to hang out with 12

00:34:26.219 --> 00:34:28.800
-year -olds. Yeah. As an 18 -year -old, and you

00:34:28.800 --> 00:34:30.179
can't really bring a 12 -year -old to a bunch

00:34:30.179 --> 00:34:32.840
of 18 -year -old functions. So we do have some

00:34:32.840 --> 00:34:34.820
comments here that the OP has responded with.

00:34:35.039 --> 00:34:38.960
Okay. This one, somebody comments, by American

00:34:38.960 --> 00:34:41.440
standards, not the asshole, but it sounds like

00:34:41.440 --> 00:34:43.980
there might be some cultural issues here. The

00:34:43.980 --> 00:34:46.039
OP responds with, I get what you mean, but I

00:34:46.039 --> 00:34:49.360
have no clue how to go about it. without sounding

00:34:49.360 --> 00:34:52.280
awful. I obviously love my cousin, but I can't

00:34:52.280 --> 00:34:55.159
even talk to my own mom for hours on end. But

00:34:55.159 --> 00:34:57.639
I can't even talk to my own mom for hours on

00:34:57.639 --> 00:35:01.760
end every single day, you know? And then somebody

00:35:01.760 --> 00:35:04.800
says, have you asked your mother to spend more

00:35:04.800 --> 00:35:07.880
time with her? OP responds with, I have, but

00:35:07.880 --> 00:35:10.440
it's led to some arguments that would make, that

00:35:10.440 --> 00:35:14.809
makes sense. Since my mom comes home from work

00:35:14.809 --> 00:35:17.269
pretty late and makes dinner for all of us and

00:35:17.269 --> 00:35:19.789
feels tired, she spends time with her when they

00:35:19.789 --> 00:35:22.809
go downstairs to watch TV or when my mom asks

00:35:22.809 --> 00:35:25.170
her how her day went. But it's obviously not

00:35:25.170 --> 00:35:27.489
as much time as I guess my cousin would hope

00:35:27.489 --> 00:35:34.070
for. Has anyone asked OP if they've tried giving

00:35:34.070 --> 00:35:39.409
the cousin to the brother? Somebody else said...

00:35:39.949 --> 00:35:42.750
Why is your mother coming home late and in charge

00:35:42.750 --> 00:35:45.590
of dinner? Good grief. Show your cousin how to

00:35:45.590 --> 00:35:48.170
help you make dinner. Your dad and brother should

00:35:48.170 --> 00:35:51.730
be taking turns also. This is ridiculous. OP

00:35:51.730 --> 00:35:53.809
responds with, both of my parents work pretty

00:35:53.809 --> 00:35:56.309
late and sometimes my dad makes dinner, but it's

00:35:56.309 --> 00:35:59.050
mostly my mom. My dad is normally in charge of

00:35:59.050 --> 00:36:01.550
the dishes and tea for the family. Guess I've

00:36:01.550 --> 00:36:03.329
never questioned this type of dynamic before,

00:36:03.409 --> 00:36:07.800
but I am for sure doing so now. honestly that's

00:36:07.800 --> 00:36:11.159
like typical american yeah family like you know

00:36:11.159 --> 00:36:14.500
housewife that works like everyone needs two

00:36:14.500 --> 00:36:17.119
incomes nowadays but like that's just like the

00:36:17.119 --> 00:36:19.260
typical like mom takes care of everyone yeah

00:36:19.260 --> 00:36:23.219
like that's just that's like a an it's an unfortunate

00:36:23.219 --> 00:36:30.119
norm i think the op needs to like set some boundaries

00:36:30.119 --> 00:36:33.159
like obviously like she said like you can't even

00:36:33.159 --> 00:36:35.000
talk to your mom for hours on end like that like

00:36:35.000 --> 00:36:36.760
i can't either i don't even want to talk to my

00:36:36.760 --> 00:36:38.780
siblings for hours on end like that sometimes

00:36:38.780 --> 00:36:42.920
sometimes i can talk their heads off but if you

00:36:42.920 --> 00:36:45.739
don't want to talk to them then i would tell

00:36:45.739 --> 00:36:47.960
them in the nicest way possible without being

00:36:47.960 --> 00:36:50.559
like i don't want to talk to you you're annoying

00:36:50.559 --> 00:36:53.800
you know like i would just be like hey i need

00:36:53.800 --> 00:36:57.090
some space some time to myself for like two three

00:36:57.090 --> 00:36:59.610
hours like just give me that and then we can

00:36:59.610 --> 00:37:02.590
do whatever you want later yeah but she shouldn't

00:37:02.590 --> 00:37:07.809
be expected to basically be a servant for her

00:37:07.809 --> 00:37:12.289
cousin it's sad yeah like set boundaries like

00:37:12.289 --> 00:37:15.170
you're at the age of 12 you're well aware of

00:37:15.170 --> 00:37:17.730
everything like it's not like i mean yes you're

00:37:17.730 --> 00:37:19.489
still young so there's things that like go over

00:37:19.489 --> 00:37:22.309
your head but you know that like people need

00:37:22.309 --> 00:37:24.630
boundaries at the age of 12 that's middle school

00:37:24.630 --> 00:37:28.989
right Yes. Like fifth grade, middle school, sixth

00:37:28.989 --> 00:37:32.650
grade, seventh grade. Yeah, it's early middle

00:37:32.650 --> 00:37:35.650
school. Early middle school. Yeah. So like this

00:37:35.650 --> 00:37:41.110
child knows that there's like in need of boundaries

00:37:41.110 --> 00:37:43.909
and space. Like it's not like something that

00:37:43.909 --> 00:37:46.949
we're only taught in high school. Like I feel

00:37:46.949 --> 00:37:48.329
like in middle school, that was like one of the

00:37:48.329 --> 00:37:52.710
hot topics of like letting you know, like when

00:37:52.710 --> 00:37:55.039
you can. hang out with people and when people

00:37:55.039 --> 00:38:00.239
get irritated but opie has a comment that they

00:38:00.239 --> 00:38:04.320
have just commented themselves um so this was

00:38:04.320 --> 00:38:06.440
after the post and they didn't respond to anything

00:38:06.440 --> 00:38:10.039
they just posted this they said i didn't really

00:38:10.039 --> 00:38:12.920
say it but i feel like the asshole because she'd

00:38:12.920 --> 00:38:15.619
moved to the u .s in january her parents left

00:38:15.619 --> 00:38:18.539
to work in another state in march and she doesn't

00:38:18.539 --> 00:38:20.699
really have a ton of friends since she came in

00:38:20.699 --> 00:38:23.929
the middle of the school year I feel bad, and

00:38:23.929 --> 00:38:27.710
that's why at first I talked to her a lot and

00:38:27.710 --> 00:38:30.570
tried making her get interested in hobbies that

00:38:30.570 --> 00:38:33.570
I like, such as reading or volleyball. But it's

00:38:33.570 --> 00:38:36.250
gotten to a point where talking to her for several

00:38:36.250 --> 00:38:40.349
hours of each day just bores me. I'm a very quiet

00:38:40.349 --> 00:38:42.630
person in general, so in the beginning this was

00:38:42.630 --> 00:38:45.289
so tough for me. My brother has probably said

00:38:45.289 --> 00:38:48.670
like seven sentences to her, but to his benefit,

00:38:48.829 --> 00:38:52.369
he also comes home super late too. But I just

00:38:52.369 --> 00:38:54.949
hate that the expectation is upon me to fulfill

00:38:54.949 --> 00:38:57.690
this best friend role for her when we don't really

00:38:57.690 --> 00:39:03.130
have the same interests. Okay. So she did come

00:39:03.130 --> 00:39:06.329
in the middle of a school year. And then her

00:39:06.329 --> 00:39:09.949
parents moved to a different state, not country.

00:39:10.010 --> 00:39:11.869
They didn't go back to India. No, they went to

00:39:11.869 --> 00:39:13.610
a different state. I feel like they should have

00:39:13.610 --> 00:39:15.429
took her. They should have just taken her. Why

00:39:15.429 --> 00:39:18.730
would you abandon your kid in a state? Especially

00:39:18.730 --> 00:39:22.230
when they are still... don't know, like, anybody.

00:39:22.630 --> 00:39:25.570
Literally. Like, you are the two main people

00:39:25.570 --> 00:39:27.150
in this person's life. Honestly. And you're just

00:39:27.150 --> 00:39:29.110
leaving them. It does kind of sound like we're

00:39:29.110 --> 00:39:31.070
missing some things and maybe the, like, the,

00:39:31.090 --> 00:39:33.329
like, reader. Yeah. Not the reader, like, the

00:39:33.329 --> 00:39:36.130
OP, original post. Yeah. It sounds like they're

00:39:36.130 --> 00:39:38.469
also missing some things. So maybe, like, the...

00:39:38.469 --> 00:39:41.130
I think there just needs to be some more communication

00:39:41.130 --> 00:39:44.829
between the family and this OP. I think, obviously,

00:39:44.849 --> 00:39:47.150
it's not the OP's responsibility to take care

00:39:47.150 --> 00:39:48.670
of this kid, but... Yeah, no, they're still not

00:39:48.670 --> 00:39:52.610
the asshole. At all. But if you did try getting

00:39:52.610 --> 00:39:55.429
this kid into the hobbies that you are interested

00:39:55.429 --> 00:39:57.489
in like reading and being quiet and this kid

00:39:57.489 --> 00:39:59.449
is the opposite of that or like not interested

00:39:59.449 --> 00:40:02.530
in that, you should possibly try if you want

00:40:02.530 --> 00:40:04.730
some space and nothing like communicating is

00:40:04.730 --> 00:40:09.329
working. See if there's anything that's going

00:40:09.329 --> 00:40:12.489
on at school that they can like. In middle school,

00:40:12.550 --> 00:40:15.710
I know this sounds kind of lame, but like I moved

00:40:15.710 --> 00:40:18.619
to a different middle school. like immediately

00:40:18.619 --> 00:40:21.219
or I guess it was like a fifth grade class and

00:40:21.219 --> 00:40:24.639
they had like an orientation with the five new

00:40:24.639 --> 00:40:26.579
people who had moved there so we can all possibly

00:40:26.579 --> 00:40:30.300
be friends and whatever like schools understand

00:40:30.300 --> 00:40:34.079
most schools I should say most schools understand

00:40:34.079 --> 00:40:37.400
that if a student is new to the school they most

00:40:37.400 --> 00:40:39.719
likely or definitely don't have any friends and

00:40:39.719 --> 00:40:41.559
that they need help making friends especially

00:40:41.559 --> 00:40:44.539
at that young age so she is a counselor That

00:40:44.539 --> 00:40:47.320
counselor could recommend friends. I would personally

00:40:47.320 --> 00:40:50.579
just recommend talking to your SROs. They're

00:40:50.579 --> 00:40:53.599
the coolest people I've ever met. SROs are the

00:40:53.599 --> 00:40:54.940
coolest people I've ever met. SROs are really

00:40:54.940 --> 00:40:59.000
cool. Yeah, school resource officers. That's

00:40:59.000 --> 00:41:01.400
what SRO stands for, if you don't know what that

00:41:01.400 --> 00:41:04.239
means. If nobody knows. If nobody knows, SRO

00:41:04.239 --> 00:41:08.280
means school resource officer. But, yeah, no,

00:41:08.480 --> 00:41:12.559
I mean, obviously, like, talk to her. Like, that's...

00:41:12.889 --> 00:41:15.469
really upsetting like i'd be upset if my parents

00:41:15.469 --> 00:41:18.030
moved like left me and moved to a different state

00:41:18.030 --> 00:41:20.130
like i'd understand like different jobs and whatever

00:41:20.130 --> 00:41:24.829
and maybe maybe they left the the cousin like

00:41:24.829 --> 00:41:27.250
you know maybe they left their kid with their

00:41:27.250 --> 00:41:29.730
cousins because they knew that their jobs like

00:41:29.730 --> 00:41:32.789
they would be home alone for like the entirety

00:41:32.789 --> 00:41:34.690
of the day and honestly that would be worse so

00:41:34.690 --> 00:41:39.010
it makes sense so but even then the only person

00:41:39.010 --> 00:41:43.570
that like the The little cousin would have been

00:41:43.570 --> 00:41:46.090
left alone here anyways if it wasn't for the

00:41:46.090 --> 00:41:48.710
OP. Because the OP is the only one who's home.

00:41:48.929 --> 00:41:52.210
That's what I'm saying. At least the cousin now

00:41:52.210 --> 00:41:53.250
has company. But that means that the parents

00:41:53.250 --> 00:41:57.750
knew that and they didn't even ask the OP. That

00:41:57.750 --> 00:41:59.789
is true. I think everybody should have just thought

00:41:59.789 --> 00:42:01.329
this through. There should have been a lot more

00:42:01.329 --> 00:42:04.269
communication. They definitely could have took

00:42:04.269 --> 00:42:07.610
their child. Because if OP wasn't going to be

00:42:07.610 --> 00:42:09.989
there, this 12 -year -old would have been left.

00:42:10.429 --> 00:42:12.349
In the home alone. No, it would have been left

00:42:12.349 --> 00:42:14.389
with the younger brother, but I understand that

00:42:14.389 --> 00:42:18.789
he also gets home late. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean.

00:42:18.869 --> 00:42:21.949
Just more communication. Yeah. Very poor communicating.

00:42:23.010 --> 00:42:26.590
Maybe try, like, asking your cousin what their

00:42:26.590 --> 00:42:28.929
hobbies are, what they enjoy. What they want

00:42:28.929 --> 00:42:32.030
to do. Like, maybe your cousin's into anime.

00:42:32.550 --> 00:42:34.570
Maybe there's an anime club for their middle

00:42:34.570 --> 00:42:37.960
school or high school or whatever it is. Get

00:42:37.960 --> 00:42:41.099
them interested in it. Like, there's... Obviously,

00:42:41.139 --> 00:42:44.260
you can't help them from the school. Like, you

00:42:44.260 --> 00:42:46.519
can't go to school with them. But there has to

00:42:46.519 --> 00:42:48.519
be, like, a counselor or someone they can talk

00:42:48.519 --> 00:42:56.300
to. A social worker. There's always this, like...

00:42:56.300 --> 00:42:58.139
Just somebody. There's a school social worker,

00:42:58.320 --> 00:43:02.539
like, at almost all schools, right? I think so,

00:43:02.599 --> 00:43:04.900
yeah. Yeah, maybe talk to the social workers.

00:43:04.960 --> 00:43:07.360
See if there's any, like... flyers for clubs

00:43:07.360 --> 00:43:09.079
you might be interested in actually like go and

00:43:09.079 --> 00:43:13.440
attend like it'd be a lot more relieving to know

00:43:13.440 --> 00:43:15.699
that you have to just pick up and drop off your

00:43:15.699 --> 00:43:17.559
cousin rather than hang out with them for hours

00:43:17.559 --> 00:43:21.699
like i know that sounds bad but even if i was

00:43:21.699 --> 00:43:24.679
the little cousin i like the younger cousin probably

00:43:24.679 --> 00:43:27.639
also is exhausted of their cousin now probably

00:43:27.639 --> 00:43:32.780
like it's probably a mutual feeling so you're

00:43:32.780 --> 00:43:35.369
not the asshole And we're sorry that that's happening.

00:43:35.449 --> 00:43:41.750
Jeez. Like, I love my youngest cousin. Well,

00:43:41.889 --> 00:43:44.829
my youngest cousin is, like, four. But before

00:43:44.829 --> 00:43:47.750
her, my youngest cousin, she's now currently

00:43:47.750 --> 00:43:52.489
15, 16. She's, like, a great person. I love,

00:43:52.489 --> 00:43:54.449
like, hanging out with her. I connect with her

00:43:54.449 --> 00:43:58.869
out of all of my cousins the most because, I

00:43:58.869 --> 00:44:01.050
don't know, all my other cousins are older than

00:44:01.050 --> 00:44:03.309
me. Yeah, I was going to say, like, all my cousins

00:44:03.309 --> 00:44:10.289
are older than me. And around probably 10, you

00:44:10.289 --> 00:44:12.309
know, I'd hang out with my cousin who's a little

00:44:12.309 --> 00:44:15.949
bit older than me. He's, like, three or four

00:44:15.949 --> 00:44:18.690
years older than me. So that's not that bad.

00:44:19.389 --> 00:44:22.030
But the thing is, is we had a lot of same interests,

00:44:22.130 --> 00:44:24.269
like Legos and video games. And, like, it was

00:44:24.269 --> 00:44:26.030
just, it worked. It was guy things, yeah. Yeah,

00:44:26.030 --> 00:44:27.710
it was guy things. So it helped, definitely.

00:44:27.789 --> 00:44:31.940
But, like, I couldn't even, even. Even being

00:44:31.940 --> 00:44:34.340
guys, that didn't change anything because, like,

00:44:34.340 --> 00:44:37.699
I couldn't even imagine talking to my cousins

00:44:37.699 --> 00:44:40.000
who were, like, eight years older than me, like,

00:44:40.079 --> 00:44:43.039
in this situation. Or six, I guess. But, like,

00:44:43.119 --> 00:44:47.719
I don't know. It's just I feel like at that age

00:44:47.719 --> 00:44:50.300
you do understand that you just don't have the

00:44:50.300 --> 00:44:54.260
same interests as people. Yeah. It's like. It's

00:44:54.260 --> 00:44:57.480
like when I was a kid, I played with dolls and

00:44:57.480 --> 00:44:59.179
all that, and I had like La La Loopsie dolls

00:44:59.179 --> 00:45:01.539
and all that. I loved them, and I always wanted

00:45:01.539 --> 00:45:03.920
to play dolls with my sisters, and all my sisters

00:45:03.920 --> 00:45:07.780
are older than me. And they're like, oh, I don't

00:45:07.780 --> 00:45:09.199
want to play dolls. I don't want to play dolls

00:45:09.199 --> 00:45:11.179
right now. Like that's little kid stuff. I'm

00:45:11.179 --> 00:45:14.139
like, yeah, I understood that. Yeah, I'm a little

00:45:14.139 --> 00:45:17.239
kid. I want to play. Please. All right, I'll

00:45:17.239 --> 00:45:20.639
play by myself then, you know. But it can be

00:45:20.639 --> 00:45:24.420
a little. sad and disappointing obviously because

00:45:24.420 --> 00:45:26.300
you want to do these things with people but you

00:45:26.300 --> 00:45:28.800
can't because they don't want to do them which

00:45:28.800 --> 00:45:30.880
is where it comes in that the OP should just

00:45:30.880 --> 00:45:35.420
set the boundary yeah just again more clear communication

00:45:35.420 --> 00:45:38.480
between literally everybody between the OP the

00:45:38.480 --> 00:45:40.440
cousin the OP and the parents the OP and their

00:45:40.440 --> 00:45:44.320
parents just the parents between the other parent

00:45:44.320 --> 00:45:47.599
it's just communication All right, guys. I have

00:45:47.599 --> 00:45:50.300
a longer one. Okay, I'm ready. It was posted

00:45:50.300 --> 00:45:53.820
seven hours ago, but it has 690 comments. Oh.

00:45:54.019 --> 00:45:58.000
Yeah. What's the title? Am I the asshole for

00:45:58.000 --> 00:46:00.320
telling my husband I will not be getting up in

00:46:00.320 --> 00:46:06.679
the morning and making him lunches? Making his

00:46:06.679 --> 00:46:10.860
lunches for him? That's crazy. Okay. So this

00:46:10.860 --> 00:46:14.170
is underneath my... Favorite podcast, Two Hot

00:46:14.170 --> 00:46:15.730
Takes. They have their own subreddit where you

00:46:15.730 --> 00:46:18.869
can submit your issues and problems and get obviously

00:46:18.869 --> 00:46:20.929
like straight to the point communication from

00:46:20.929 --> 00:46:23.489
everyone. Yeah. Because obviously this was listed

00:46:23.489 --> 00:46:26.570
seven hours ago and there's almost 700 comments

00:46:26.570 --> 00:46:29.949
under. That's insane. That's 100 comments an

00:46:29.949 --> 00:46:32.829
hour. I know. So it's underneath the listener's

00:46:32.829 --> 00:46:36.469
write -in. So this is for people. So am I the

00:46:36.469 --> 00:46:38.809
asshole for telling my husband I will not be

00:46:38.809 --> 00:46:40.929
getting up in the morning and making his lunches

00:46:40.929 --> 00:46:45.940
for him? Posted seven hours ago. So my husband

00:46:45.940 --> 00:46:48.420
works eight to five Monday through Friday. I

00:46:48.420 --> 00:46:51.059
work a varying schedule, usually four to five

00:46:51.059 --> 00:46:53.320
days a week, and it's mostly evening and nights.

00:46:54.079 --> 00:46:57.679
Sometimes I work 6 p .m. to 12 a .m., and sometimes

00:46:57.679 --> 00:47:00.219
it's 9 p .m. to 5 a .m. We have an eight -month

00:47:00.219 --> 00:47:02.940
-old and a three -year -old, and I am very, very

00:47:02.940 --> 00:47:05.500
tired whenever I have an overnight shift, but

00:47:05.500 --> 00:47:07.360
I still take care of the kids through the day

00:47:07.360 --> 00:47:09.500
and maybe catch a one - to two -hour nap when

00:47:09.500 --> 00:47:12.190
the kids nap. I still make dinner every night.

00:47:12.250 --> 00:47:14.309
I still make sure the house is clean and the

00:47:14.309 --> 00:47:17.650
dishes are done, even when I know I'm going straight

00:47:17.650 --> 00:47:20.869
to work when he gets home. For the last five

00:47:20.869 --> 00:47:23.929
years, I have gotten up at 6 or 7 a .m. and packed

00:47:23.929 --> 00:47:27.110
my husband his lunches for work every day. If

00:47:27.110 --> 00:47:29.630
I don't pack a lunch for him, I get guilt -tripped

00:47:29.630 --> 00:47:33.800
about it or we have a... I get guilt -tripped

00:47:33.800 --> 00:47:36.579
about it, or when we are struggling to make ends

00:47:36.579 --> 00:47:40.659
meet, he will go spend $15 out of $60 that we

00:47:40.659 --> 00:47:43.019
have left for lunch and tell me, sorry, you should

00:47:43.019 --> 00:47:45.760
have got up to make me lunch. So he will be eating

00:47:45.760 --> 00:47:51.739
a big nice burger while me and the kids are surviving

00:47:51.739 --> 00:47:54.519
off canned foods or cereal from my WIC card.

00:47:55.980 --> 00:47:57.980
I told him last night that he's going to have

00:47:57.980 --> 00:47:59.960
to start making his own lunch. I tried to make

00:47:59.960 --> 00:48:01.980
a deal and said only when our eighth month old

00:48:01.980 --> 00:48:04.000
starts actually sleeping through the night will

00:48:04.000 --> 00:48:06.599
I get up to start making his lunch. She still

00:48:06.599 --> 00:48:09.559
gets up three times a night, definitely not our

00:48:09.559 --> 00:48:11.960
first because he was sleeping 10 plus hours straight

00:48:11.960 --> 00:48:15.619
by four months. I said I genuinely feel like

00:48:15.619 --> 00:48:17.960
a shelva person because I don't get any sleep

00:48:17.960 --> 00:48:21.460
from days and days and I don't work my sleep.

00:48:23.210 --> 00:48:25.389
I said, I genuinely feel like a shelve of person

00:48:25.389 --> 00:48:28.550
because I don't get sleep some days and some

00:48:28.550 --> 00:48:32.170
days I don't work my sleep. And some days that

00:48:32.170 --> 00:48:34.710
I don't work, my sleep is broken up and sleep

00:48:34.710 --> 00:48:37.389
is definitely not eight hours. He says we are

00:48:37.389 --> 00:48:39.309
just going to have to figure out a way to work

00:48:39.309 --> 00:48:41.869
in his budget so he can buy lunches every day.

00:48:42.269 --> 00:48:45.429
New flash, newsflash, that isn't going to work.

00:48:45.869 --> 00:48:48.329
I write the budget and we barely have any wiggle

00:48:48.329 --> 00:48:51.230
room for rent, utilities, gas, student loans,

00:48:51.389 --> 00:48:53.889
food, diapers, wipes, just basic living expenses.

00:48:54.369 --> 00:48:57.210
We definitely won't have enough to cover $15

00:48:57.210 --> 00:49:00.829
20 days a month for this big burger that he likes

00:49:00.829 --> 00:49:04.239
to get. He says my schedule is way more laid

00:49:04.239 --> 00:49:06.900
back and he works so hard through the week and

00:49:06.900 --> 00:49:08.760
he has to get up and actually get dressed in

00:49:08.760 --> 00:49:10.360
the morning so he won't have time to make his

00:49:10.360 --> 00:49:13.460
lunch. And since I'm already home and usually

00:49:13.460 --> 00:49:16.239
in my comfy clothes, I should still be able to

00:49:16.239 --> 00:49:19.940
get up and make his lunch. The problem is when

00:49:19.940 --> 00:49:22.119
I get off at 5 a .m., I really just want to go

00:49:22.119 --> 00:49:24.039
right to sleep and try to get a few hours before

00:49:24.039 --> 00:49:27.099
the kids get up. And days I get home at 12, I

00:49:27.099 --> 00:49:30.039
still would like to sleep and get and if I get

00:49:30.039 --> 00:49:32.519
up. To make his lunch, I'm usually stuck awake

00:49:32.519 --> 00:49:34.199
for the rest of the day and can't get back to

00:49:34.199 --> 00:49:37.280
sleep. Am I the asshole for trying to make this

00:49:37.280 --> 00:49:40.199
deal or should my husband be a big boy and just

00:49:40.199 --> 00:49:45.039
make his own lunch? I would divorce that man

00:49:45.039 --> 00:49:51.099
and use that $60 to buy myself some lunch because

00:49:51.099 --> 00:49:57.159
that is terrible, a terrible situation. She has

00:49:57.159 --> 00:50:00.429
an edit that she added. I thought it would be

00:50:00.429 --> 00:50:02.630
worth mentioning that it didn't always feel this

00:50:02.630 --> 00:50:05.389
imbalanced. My husband had the best paying job

00:50:05.389 --> 00:50:08.090
in a 60 mile radius when we planned our second.

00:50:08.369 --> 00:50:12.309
We were really comfortable and I was a stay at

00:50:12.309 --> 00:50:16.030
home mom. It says S -A -H -M, stay at home mom,

00:50:16.090 --> 00:50:18.710
I assume. Hence why I did not mind getting up

00:50:18.710 --> 00:50:21.019
and making his lunches. When we were four months

00:50:21.019 --> 00:50:23.699
pregnant, the plant announced their shutdown

00:50:23.699 --> 00:50:26.159
and officially closed when she was two months

00:50:26.159 --> 00:50:29.800
old. I got a job really quickly, and this issue

00:50:29.800 --> 00:50:32.639
about the lunches has only been for the past

00:50:32.639 --> 00:50:36.699
five months. Also, to the weirdo saying, I can

00:50:36.699 --> 00:50:38.699
take out the trash and clean the gutters now

00:50:38.699 --> 00:50:41.239
since I won't be making his lunch. I already

00:50:41.239 --> 00:50:43.760
do those manly jobs. The difference is I don't

00:50:43.760 --> 00:50:46.039
have to wait till he gets home to do it by myself.

00:50:46.420 --> 00:50:48.579
I take the kids with me and let them enjoy the

00:50:48.579 --> 00:50:52.679
outside while I take care of those things. And

00:50:52.679 --> 00:50:57.559
then I'm seeing a lot of comments saying, not

00:50:57.559 --> 00:51:03.019
the asshole, divorce. Exactly. Like, I feel like.

00:51:05.420 --> 00:51:08.579
And obviously this is not all men, but I feel

00:51:08.579 --> 00:51:12.460
like a fair amount of men think that stay at

00:51:12.460 --> 00:51:15.780
home mothers are lazy and they don't do anything

00:51:15.780 --> 00:51:18.639
all day, which is just not the case because they're

00:51:18.639 --> 00:51:20.519
at home taking care of the kids, taking care

00:51:20.519 --> 00:51:25.460
of the house and taking care of you. So calling

00:51:25.460 --> 00:51:28.500
her lazy is like really. Yeah. And she has a

00:51:28.500 --> 00:51:31.300
job now. Exactly. And she's working overnight

00:51:31.300 --> 00:51:33.219
and just wants to get a little bit of sleep.

00:51:34.039 --> 00:51:37.440
And she just had a baby. Yeah, her second. Right.

00:51:38.380 --> 00:51:42.059
So I know, like, her mental is, like, everywhere.

00:51:42.400 --> 00:51:45.300
You can literally wake up an extra 10 minutes

00:51:45.300 --> 00:51:47.519
earlier and make yourself a lunch. Literally.

00:51:47.519 --> 00:51:49.440
It ain't hard. And it could be the simplest little

00:51:49.440 --> 00:51:51.380
turkey sandwich and chips. Yeah, literally. Come

00:51:51.380 --> 00:51:54.760
back. Like, meal prep. Come back from work one

00:51:54.760 --> 00:51:57.440
day, and as soon as you get home, you know, you're

00:51:57.440 --> 00:52:00.780
still not fully relaxed yet. Take advantage of

00:52:00.780 --> 00:52:04.389
that. Make your meal for tomorrow. And then you

00:52:04.389 --> 00:52:07.110
can still just sleep in your extra 10 minutes

00:52:07.110 --> 00:52:10.389
and then go to work with your lunch. Exactly.

00:52:10.570 --> 00:52:15.369
It sounds like the husband doesn't want to compromise.

00:52:15.789 --> 00:52:18.789
Yeah. He doesn't want to do any of these things.

00:52:18.869 --> 00:52:20.590
He doesn't want to make his own lunch. He doesn't

00:52:20.590 --> 00:52:25.570
realize how lucky he is. You're right. Yeah.

00:52:25.650 --> 00:52:32.639
No, that is... lock in dude like someone said

00:52:32.639 --> 00:52:35.659
he should use that 15 that he spends on a burger

00:52:35.659 --> 00:52:39.659
to buy himself a big boy pant like to buy himself

00:52:39.659 --> 00:52:42.960
big boy pants yeah you might have to like does

00:52:42.960 --> 00:52:46.360
he only want this one specific burger that costs

00:52:46.360 --> 00:52:49.980
him 15 though like there are cheaper alternatives

00:52:49.980 --> 00:52:53.949
if you want if you need to go out also I just

00:52:53.949 --> 00:52:56.670
feel bad that they only have $60 to spend with

00:52:56.670 --> 00:52:58.969
two jobs. That's kind of insane. Yeah, that is

00:52:58.969 --> 00:53:01.150
sad, but I mean, that's kind of the reality.

00:53:01.269 --> 00:53:05.710
Yeah, no, that's just whatever. But if he needs

00:53:05.710 --> 00:53:10.510
to spend money... Don't spend it on a $15 burger.

00:53:10.949 --> 00:53:14.869
Go and get McDonald's. McDonald's, that's cheap.

00:53:15.670 --> 00:53:21.929
The $5 McValue meal. Find a Walmart near you.

00:53:22.070 --> 00:53:25.329
They have, at least the ones that I've been to,

00:53:25.469 --> 00:53:29.309
they have their little food area. That food is

00:53:29.309 --> 00:53:32.530
cheap, and it's actually not that bad. Here's

00:53:32.530 --> 00:53:36.170
what I'm reading, though. This isn't just about...

00:53:36.940 --> 00:53:40.280
him not wanting to make lunch it's the fact that

00:53:40.280 --> 00:53:43.519
he also doesn't really care that she's not getting

00:53:43.519 --> 00:53:46.639
in a lot of sleep she's working taking care of

00:53:46.639 --> 00:53:49.460
the kids and taking care of him and the house

00:53:49.460 --> 00:53:51.619
as well like he's only going to work is what

00:53:51.619 --> 00:53:59.900
it sounds like yeah no it yeah he's not caring

00:53:59.900 --> 00:54:02.800
for his wife's well -being no he is not and in

00:54:02.800 --> 00:54:05.880
that little edit slash update she gave us that

00:54:06.409 --> 00:54:09.789
They had money prior. They had a well -paying

00:54:09.789 --> 00:54:13.869
job to support what they had. And that money

00:54:13.869 --> 00:54:17.690
from that plant, like from his job, was going

00:54:17.690 --> 00:54:21.269
to be able to support a family of four. Yeah.

00:54:21.530 --> 00:54:23.610
But they unfortunately don't. So now he has a

00:54:23.610 --> 00:54:25.829
new job. That doesn't make that much money. That

00:54:25.829 --> 00:54:27.610
doesn't pay as much. She has a job that doesn't

00:54:27.610 --> 00:54:29.869
pay as much. So it's just an unfortunate living

00:54:29.869 --> 00:54:34.800
situation. You're getting mad about something

00:54:34.800 --> 00:54:39.619
that is completely not worthy about getting upset

00:54:39.619 --> 00:54:42.280
about. The smallest little thing. Lunch? And

00:54:42.280 --> 00:54:44.199
they have WIC cards, too, that they're using.

00:54:44.539 --> 00:54:51.599
Yeah. Like, yeah. There needs to be some talking

00:54:51.599 --> 00:54:56.940
in between. Seven hours is this post? Seven hours

00:54:56.940 --> 00:54:59.400
ago. So one of these people. So when she goes

00:54:59.400 --> 00:55:02.820
to bed tonight. She better not make him a sandwich.

00:55:03.139 --> 00:55:05.960
I wouldn't be making him anything. He would not

00:55:05.960 --> 00:55:08.960
be getting food from my hands for a while. I

00:55:08.960 --> 00:55:11.159
wouldn't be surprised if he's hiding some secret

00:55:11.159 --> 00:55:15.599
debt, too. Yeah. If he's willing to spend $15

00:55:15.599 --> 00:55:17.800
while they only have $60 in their budget. That's

00:55:17.800 --> 00:55:21.389
like college living, you know? Like, I know college

00:55:21.389 --> 00:55:24.150
students who have, like, $60 and will spend $15

00:55:24.150 --> 00:55:26.869
on food because it's food, you know? Like, they

00:55:26.869 --> 00:55:29.469
won't spend $15 on objects or, like, clothes

00:55:29.469 --> 00:55:31.630
or anything, but, like, they're hungry, so they're

00:55:31.630 --> 00:55:33.949
going to spend money on food. Yeah, that's what

00:55:33.949 --> 00:55:36.489
I used to do. So it's immature is what I'm trying

00:55:36.489 --> 00:55:39.630
to say for an adult who is married and has a

00:55:39.630 --> 00:55:42.989
kid. Two kids. Two kids, yeah. Two kids. I'm

00:55:42.989 --> 00:55:46.579
like... Yeah. And, like, to just... Use that

00:55:46.579 --> 00:55:49.420
money for yourself and be that selfish when you

00:55:49.420 --> 00:55:52.500
have two kids at home. $15 for a burger? I know.

00:55:52.619 --> 00:55:56.500
That's like a Five Guys burger. Literally. Like,

00:55:56.539 --> 00:55:58.639
what are you getting on that thing? Is it four

00:55:58.639 --> 00:56:02.579
patties instead of a big burger? Right. I love

00:56:02.579 --> 00:56:04.380
Five Guys, though. Five Guys is pretty good.

00:56:04.699 --> 00:56:09.119
I'm not going to get it if I have $60. Exactly.

00:56:10.030 --> 00:56:12.949
I understand the stress he might have. I'm not,

00:56:12.989 --> 00:56:15.949
like, siding with him. Like, f*** him. For real.

00:56:17.429 --> 00:56:20.690
But I can understand the stress of, like, losing

00:56:20.690 --> 00:56:26.289
your job and maybe feeling of lesser value now

00:56:26.289 --> 00:56:28.329
that you aren't contributing to your family as

00:56:28.329 --> 00:56:30.989
much anymore. And maybe just wanting to keep

00:56:30.989 --> 00:56:34.130
that same routine anyways. But he needs to realize

00:56:34.130 --> 00:56:36.449
that... There's a different routine now. She's

00:56:36.449 --> 00:56:39.489
staying up late to go to work or going to work

00:56:39.489 --> 00:56:43.130
late. And it's really, like, it's not about him

00:56:43.130 --> 00:56:46.849
anymore. They might also be sacrificing, like,

00:56:46.869 --> 00:56:49.510
quality time here. Like, they might have had

00:56:49.510 --> 00:56:51.690
a schedule where he comes home and, like, they

00:56:51.690 --> 00:56:56.369
hang out. Did it ever say that he does things

00:56:56.369 --> 00:57:00.190
with the kids? No. So it's... It pretty much

00:57:00.190 --> 00:57:01.849
just sounds like... So, like, he's just... If

00:57:01.849 --> 00:57:03.710
he's not... Obviously, we don't know the whole

00:57:03.710 --> 00:57:06.090
picture, but if he's not paying attention to

00:57:06.090 --> 00:57:08.269
his own kids, that's an entire separate issue.

00:57:08.690 --> 00:57:11.570
Yeah, but... I mean, I can understand, like,

00:57:11.590 --> 00:57:13.449
depression or anger that you get from losing

00:57:13.449 --> 00:57:15.989
your job. Just don't take that out on your wife.

00:57:16.070 --> 00:57:19.110
Like, she's trying here. She has a job, too.

00:57:19.349 --> 00:57:22.090
She got a job for him. She has two jobs, basically,

00:57:22.190 --> 00:57:24.829
taking care of the kids. She got... Like, this

00:57:24.829 --> 00:57:28.940
affected her, too, not just you. She... he or

00:57:28.940 --> 00:57:31.519
she could find a different job to align better

00:57:31.519 --> 00:57:35.639
with this obviously finding a job that's mostly

00:57:35.639 --> 00:57:37.860
during the day would probably benefit them more

00:57:37.860 --> 00:57:40.900
so they can like maybe drop kids off at preschool

00:57:40.900 --> 00:57:43.860
or i mean i don't know what age that starts that

00:57:43.860 --> 00:57:46.000
they said they have like yeah you can you can

00:57:46.000 --> 00:57:49.900
hire a nanny which you know that might cost a

00:57:49.900 --> 00:57:52.920
lot it could cost a lot but if you find a better

00:57:52.920 --> 00:57:55.940
job that has a better schedule you could probably

00:57:55.940 --> 00:57:58.739
that works for you it would It would be worth

00:57:58.739 --> 00:58:00.920
it in the long run. Or a job that offers child

00:58:00.920 --> 00:58:04.460
care. Yeah. Yeah. Johnson County, if you're a

00:58:04.460 --> 00:58:07.199
student here, you get. If you're a student here.

00:58:07.420 --> 00:58:09.059
If you're a student here, you get child, like

00:58:09.059 --> 00:58:13.780
you have like a daycare here. Yeah. But in addition,

00:58:14.039 --> 00:58:17.059
hypothetically speaking, I don't, obviously there's

00:58:17.059 --> 00:58:20.960
less details than we'd like to know. Are there

00:58:20.960 --> 00:58:24.059
grandparents in this option that can help? Yeah.

00:58:24.079 --> 00:58:26.719
I mean, there's family friends even, you know.

00:58:27.449 --> 00:58:30.170
Do they have a community they can rely on? Do

00:58:30.170 --> 00:58:32.769
they have anybody? Like, obviously, it's not

00:58:32.769 --> 00:58:35.349
just this family in the picture. But, I mean,

00:58:35.449 --> 00:58:38.110
I'm trying to come up with as many possibilities

00:58:38.110 --> 00:58:41.269
that don't just say divorce, you know? Because

00:58:41.269 --> 00:58:44.210
it's not always that simple. She is ultimately,

00:58:44.349 --> 00:58:47.309
like, going to be relying on him and, like, vice

00:58:47.309 --> 00:58:50.929
versa. Like, who's going to end the divorce if

00:58:50.929 --> 00:58:53.170
she also needs to get a job, obviously? Like,

00:58:53.230 --> 00:58:56.860
she can't just take child support from him. It

00:58:56.860 --> 00:59:00.440
has to be like, now I'm saying the like thing

00:59:00.440 --> 00:59:04.699
and I'm hearing it. Did she say, because her

00:59:04.699 --> 00:59:08.179
job sounded like was weird with its hours. It

00:59:08.179 --> 00:59:11.579
was very flexible and she didn't get to really

00:59:11.579 --> 00:59:14.219
choose when she worked. It honestly sounded like

00:59:14.219 --> 00:59:17.840
FedEx hours or like a nurse hour. Yeah, because

00:59:17.840 --> 00:59:19.780
she said she either worked like right in the

00:59:19.780 --> 00:59:22.780
morning to afternoon or afternoon to like midnight.

00:59:23.980 --> 00:59:27.440
But they're like six -hour shifts. I wonder what

00:59:27.440 --> 00:59:33.820
job she has. Honestly, it sounds like a warehouse.

00:59:33.980 --> 00:59:37.199
I couldn't imagine. Or like a nurse or like an

00:59:37.199 --> 00:59:40.860
overnight school. Yeah. It literally just sounds

00:59:40.860 --> 00:59:43.159
like it depends. But because she says it varies,

00:59:43.480 --> 00:59:45.420
if you're at a warehouse, they usually like to

00:59:45.420 --> 00:59:48.559
stick you to the same schedule. Yeah. Most jobs

00:59:48.559 --> 00:59:50.980
usually do. That's why I'm kind of surprised

00:59:50.980 --> 00:59:53.650
she has a weird one. I assume it's like. on the

00:59:53.650 --> 00:59:57.590
call nurse yeah but i mean it could just be something

00:59:57.590 --> 00:59:59.610
totally different that we're like missing it

00:59:59.610 --> 01:00:02.809
could be like a truck driver you know yeah like

01:00:02.809 --> 01:00:09.110
it really depends i mean thinking of it now waking

01:00:09.110 --> 01:00:11.969
up because there's a baby like she obviously

01:00:11.969 --> 01:00:16.559
she needs to i'm not pinning this on her I am

01:00:16.559 --> 01:00:19.460
very pro -her, anti -him right now because he

01:00:19.460 --> 01:00:21.900
just seems very childish. But there are other

01:00:21.900 --> 01:00:24.239
things that she can do to help benefit this.

01:00:24.619 --> 01:00:27.619
She can, as soon as the husband gets home, be

01:00:27.619 --> 01:00:29.260
like, hey, I'm going to take a nap real quick.

01:00:29.440 --> 01:00:32.559
Here are the kids. Be like, hey, I made dinner.

01:00:32.719 --> 01:00:36.519
I ate. Kids kind of ate. You should eat. And

01:00:36.519 --> 01:00:39.079
then I'm going to take a nap before work. Like,

01:00:39.079 --> 01:00:41.980
they need to have a schedule. They need to work

01:00:41.980 --> 01:00:44.760
together. It can't just be this. And he could

01:00:44.760 --> 01:00:47.139
even make his lunches, like, prior or, like,

01:00:47.139 --> 01:00:50.079
have leftovers, you know? That's what I was saying,

01:00:50.179 --> 01:00:53.679
yeah. Like, it's not, like, how exotic do you

01:00:53.679 --> 01:00:56.219
want your lunch to be? It's not hard to put together

01:00:56.219 --> 01:00:59.019
a sandwich in a minute. And if she's saying that

01:00:59.019 --> 01:01:02.659
they're living off cereal and, like, just snack

01:01:02.659 --> 01:01:06.170
foods, basically, what is his lunch? Yeah. Ham

01:01:06.170 --> 01:01:10.090
and cheese sandwich? It's literally, like, she's

01:01:10.090 --> 01:01:13.090
not cooking steak for you, so I don't know what

01:01:13.090 --> 01:01:14.989
the issue is and why you can't just do it yourself.

01:01:15.170 --> 01:01:17.030
I feel like that's too much for lunch, a steak.

01:01:17.690 --> 01:01:19.429
That's a lot. I don't know, man. Steak is pretty

01:01:19.429 --> 01:01:21.010
good. Grilled chicken, maybe? I don't know. But,

01:01:21.010 --> 01:01:25.769
like, it doesn't seem like... I don't know. I

01:01:25.769 --> 01:01:28.090
feel like there's two things that they both could

01:01:28.090 --> 01:01:30.630
be contributing to each other, and I don't know

01:01:30.630 --> 01:01:33.690
what his lunches are. But if... If they're nothing

01:01:33.690 --> 01:01:35.969
fancy, I assume he's probably spending that money

01:01:35.969 --> 01:01:38.710
on food anyways. Like, it doesn't sound normal

01:01:38.710 --> 01:01:41.650
for a $15 burger. He probably has, like, three

01:01:41.650 --> 01:01:45.230
burgers for $5 each. You said it was a big burger.

01:01:45.590 --> 01:01:48.309
Meaning it was probably, like, a Five Guys burger.

01:01:48.570 --> 01:01:50.849
Because Five Guys can be, like, $15. That makes

01:01:50.849 --> 01:01:52.730
sense. It might come with, like, fries and a

01:01:52.730 --> 01:01:54.690
drink, too. Yeah, it probably does. I'd assume

01:01:54.690 --> 01:01:58.570
so. Because one burger is not a meal. Yeah. That's

01:01:58.570 --> 01:02:03.820
true. But this woman... That sounds so good right

01:02:03.820 --> 01:02:07.579
now. Right? This person replied to a comment

01:02:07.579 --> 01:02:10.000
saying that they should make their own lunch

01:02:10.000 --> 01:02:12.679
before or use leftovers. And they said, maybe

01:02:12.679 --> 01:02:14.820
there isn't enough money for leftovers. If she's

01:02:14.820 --> 01:02:17.219
making him a PB &J for lunch, it's cheaper than

01:02:17.219 --> 01:02:20.139
meat and potatoes. And then someone said, it

01:02:20.139 --> 01:02:22.320
isn't an easy solution. The husband has to step

01:02:22.320 --> 01:02:24.000
up instead of working around this ridiculous

01:02:24.000 --> 01:02:32.489
demand by saying that you need to. give him leftovers

01:02:32.489 --> 01:02:35.829
or something um they are claiming that's enabling

01:02:35.829 --> 01:02:44.010
so i mean i don't know yeah just another communication

01:02:44.010 --> 01:02:47.730
error yeah he needs to actually pay attention

01:02:47.730 --> 01:02:51.829
to his wife and listen to her and care about

01:02:51.829 --> 01:02:55.070
her and realize that she has a lot on her plate

01:02:55.070 --> 01:02:58.989
yes and she's Taking care of him. He needs to

01:02:58.989 --> 01:03:03.650
help and be a part of the family. Honestly, a

01:03:03.650 --> 01:03:05.349
lot of people in the comments are asking what

01:03:05.349 --> 01:03:08.269
else does he do other than work? And I'd like

01:03:08.269 --> 01:03:10.329
to know that too. I would also like to know that.

01:03:10.369 --> 01:03:12.570
What does he do for work? And then what does

01:03:12.570 --> 01:03:16.789
he do with the kids when she's gone? I was going

01:03:16.789 --> 01:03:18.949
to say, does he just turn on Cocomelon and...

01:03:19.320 --> 01:03:22.260
Sleep? Does he get to sleep? Does he get to sleep?

01:03:22.400 --> 01:03:26.599
Does he do chores around the house? Since he's,

01:03:26.599 --> 01:03:30.699
or since she's claiming that she works like midnight

01:03:30.699 --> 01:03:33.380
to 6 a .m. or whatever those hours were, and

01:03:33.380 --> 01:03:36.739
then vice versa, 6 a .m. to noon, I'm assuming

01:03:36.739 --> 01:03:39.300
he's letting the kids sleep or sleeping in or,

01:03:39.340 --> 01:03:42.969
but again. what if that baby's waking up what

01:03:42.969 --> 01:03:45.429
if he feels like those days like he has to wake

01:03:45.429 --> 01:03:48.869
up and like he's being burdened by the baby which

01:03:48.869 --> 01:03:50.929
you should never feel that by your kid but like

01:03:50.929 --> 01:03:54.449
it's an understandable feeling she did say that

01:03:54.449 --> 01:03:56.329
the eight month old wasn't sleeping through the

01:03:56.329 --> 01:04:01.869
night yet so so it isn't just like a someone

01:04:01.869 --> 01:04:05.829
said i'm sorry uh that you're I'm sorry you're

01:04:05.829 --> 01:04:07.929
saying that you work overnight, come home and

01:04:07.929 --> 01:04:09.889
maybe get two hours of sleep, wake up to make

01:04:09.889 --> 01:04:12.110
him a lunch, start taking care of your two young

01:04:12.110 --> 01:04:14.230
children, and then maybe get a one -hour nap

01:04:14.230 --> 01:04:16.969
during the day. So you get anywhere from three

01:04:16.969 --> 01:04:19.210
to four hours of sleep a day, and then he says

01:04:19.210 --> 01:04:21.769
his job is hard and yours, working a normal job

01:04:21.769 --> 01:04:23.329
and taking care of the children during the day,

01:04:23.349 --> 01:04:26.630
is laid back. The audacity. It is amazing to

01:04:26.630 --> 01:04:29.710
me how you have not burnt out yet. Wow. He can

01:04:29.710 --> 01:04:31.630
make his own lunch. His fingers aren't broken.

01:04:32.429 --> 01:04:34.329
Yeah, especially if it's just like a sandwich,

01:04:34.510 --> 01:04:37.050
which it sounds like is unfortunately all they

01:04:37.050 --> 01:04:41.130
have the money for. But like, it's like just

01:04:41.130 --> 01:04:43.690
it's a sandwich. You either smear some peanut

01:04:43.690 --> 01:04:46.349
butter and jelly on there or you lay a piece

01:04:46.349 --> 01:04:49.989
of turkey in some cheese. A lot of people are

01:04:49.989 --> 01:04:51.789
just like, why can't he make his lunch the night

01:04:51.789 --> 01:04:54.250
before? Yeah, that's what I was saying. They're

01:04:54.250 --> 01:04:58.429
calling him selfish, childish, financially abusing

01:04:58.429 --> 01:05:02.590
her. that he should be putting his earnings into

01:05:02.590 --> 01:05:07.690
the home and, like, for the kids. Yeah, but five

01:05:07.690 --> 01:05:10.769
guys. You never know. See, now I'm going to have

01:05:10.769 --> 01:05:13.369
to go get five guys. Well, now we know what we're

01:05:13.369 --> 01:05:16.949
all getting after this episode. But, yeah, I

01:05:16.949 --> 01:05:19.070
mean, at least we've all come to the conclusion

01:05:19.070 --> 01:05:22.610
that both Zach and I's stories are not the asshole.

01:05:22.909 --> 01:05:25.750
Yeah. Do you have one? I did find one. Let's

01:05:25.750 --> 01:05:30.420
go. It's a... Am I overreacting? Oh, it's a different

01:05:30.420 --> 01:05:35.260
one. Yeah. So this one is I, 18 male, don't know

01:05:35.260 --> 01:05:37.099
if I should break things off with my girlfriend,

01:05:37.340 --> 01:05:42.099
19 female. hmm so he says hello all i'm kind

01:05:42.099 --> 01:05:44.539
of lost and don't know how to proceed i'm 18

01:05:44.539 --> 01:05:47.139
and my girlfriend is 19 we've been together for

01:05:47.139 --> 01:05:49.880
four months and it's been a pretty smooth relationship

01:05:49.880 --> 01:05:52.500
with some rocks on the road i've explained my

01:05:52.500 --> 01:05:55.739
issues to her but she apologizes cries acts different

01:05:55.739 --> 01:05:58.780
the next day but then like a day after that she

01:05:58.780 --> 01:06:02.170
goes right back to how she was She baby talks,

01:06:02.369 --> 01:06:04.730
talks about having kids, will convince me to

01:06:04.730 --> 01:06:07.769
go out with her to show me homes that she wants

01:06:07.769 --> 01:06:11.750
me to put applications in for without me knowing

01:06:11.750 --> 01:06:15.550
that's what we're going out to do. Constantly

01:06:15.550 --> 01:06:19.929
makes me feel bad about my appearance. And anytime

01:06:19.929 --> 01:06:22.610
we talk, she's complaining about work and won't

01:06:22.610 --> 01:06:25.789
let me get a word in about myself unless I'm

01:06:25.789 --> 01:06:29.230
agreeing with her. Not only that, but she's constantly

01:06:29.230 --> 01:06:32.969
wanting to do explicit things. I've talked to

01:06:32.969 --> 01:06:36.050
her about all of this numerous times. I've told

01:06:36.050 --> 01:06:37.969
her I don't want to talk about these things right

01:06:37.969 --> 01:06:41.170
now or do the explicit things all the time. It's

01:06:41.170 --> 01:06:43.349
not that I'm uncomfortable with the idea. It's

01:06:43.349 --> 01:06:47.530
just not a stress I need right now. I feel like

01:06:47.530 --> 01:06:49.969
if I break up with her, she'll go crazy. She's

01:06:49.969 --> 01:06:52.289
so clingy to the point that I now hardly want

01:06:52.289 --> 01:06:54.409
to text her back because it'll just be a text

01:06:54.409 --> 01:06:58.050
complaining or her calling me to complain. I

01:06:58.050 --> 01:07:01.130
could totally have this all, I could totally

01:07:01.130 --> 01:07:04.010
have this all confused and this all be normal

01:07:04.010 --> 01:07:06.730
and I get I'm 18, but it just doesn't sit right.

01:07:07.690 --> 01:07:10.170
She said I love you after a week when I told

01:07:10.170 --> 01:07:11.929
her I definitely wasn't comfortable with it.

01:07:11.989 --> 01:07:14.730
Within three weeks, she had me buying her pregnancy

01:07:14.730 --> 01:07:18.429
test because her period was late. It had been

01:07:18.429 --> 01:07:20.849
late for almost two months. It was something

01:07:20.849 --> 01:07:25.269
medical. She's not pregnant. I don't want to

01:07:25.269 --> 01:07:27.630
go deep in detail because if she sees this, I'll

01:07:27.630 --> 01:07:30.250
be made to feel guilty. Everyone I've talked

01:07:30.250 --> 01:07:32.710
to told me to break things off, but I don't know

01:07:32.710 --> 01:07:35.289
if I can without her freaking out. What do I

01:07:35.289 --> 01:07:39.099
do? Am I overreacting? and there's an edit on

01:07:39.099 --> 01:07:43.400
here and he said first I'll start off by saying

01:07:43.400 --> 01:07:47.079
no this is not AI unfortunately it is true secondly

01:07:47.079 --> 01:07:50.500
I broke up with her and she has since had three

01:07:50.500 --> 01:07:53.039
other people text me to ask me to reconsider

01:07:53.039 --> 01:07:56.480
because she's so tore up about it she claims

01:07:56.480 --> 01:07:59.159
I never said a word to her about how I felt and

01:07:59.159 --> 01:08:02.500
what was upsetting me but I clearly stated it

01:08:02.500 --> 01:08:05.940
in text message twice and on the phone verbally

01:08:06.829 --> 01:08:10.949
on the phone and verbally on multiple occasions.

01:08:11.550 --> 01:08:14.329
I approached it as if I was the one needing to

01:08:14.329 --> 01:08:16.630
work on myself and told her just to think about

01:08:16.630 --> 01:08:19.470
the things I told her. Thank you all for the

01:08:19.470 --> 01:08:21.430
advice. It actually helped seeing it from different

01:08:21.430 --> 01:08:23.670
perspectives and was kind of sad to see everyone

01:08:23.670 --> 01:08:26.649
say to leave her and me still struggling with

01:08:26.649 --> 01:08:32.869
the idea of it. Okay. So she's obsessed. Yeah.

01:08:32.909 --> 01:08:37.180
Good for him for breaking up. I will say I have

01:08:37.180 --> 01:08:39.699
seen a lot of those relationships out of high

01:08:39.699 --> 01:08:46.340
school. It's, okay, I know me speaking, I'm 20.

01:08:46.520 --> 01:08:50.399
Zach is the youngest here. But like all three

01:08:50.399 --> 01:08:52.479
of us. But not by much. No, I know. But what

01:08:52.479 --> 01:08:54.720
I'm saying is like all three of us are like still

01:08:54.720 --> 01:08:58.500
relatively young. Yeah. But if we're looking

01:08:58.500 --> 01:09:01.239
at this from like a long -term thing, like as

01:09:01.239 --> 01:09:05.739
in like an entire lifetime, like. relationships

01:09:05.739 --> 01:09:08.439
right out of high school, 18, 19 years old, you

01:09:08.439 --> 01:09:12.359
don't know much about love, like at all. So in

01:09:12.359 --> 01:09:15.060
my mind, this is probably just how she was raised.

01:09:15.180 --> 01:09:17.979
So I'm not trying to like blame her. Like obviously,

01:09:18.180 --> 01:09:20.479
yeah, still call her a bit crazy and a bit obsessed,

01:09:20.680 --> 01:09:23.760
but she doesn't know what that is yet. Like she

01:09:23.760 --> 01:09:25.739
does not know how to react in a relationship.

01:09:25.979 --> 01:09:30.619
She's obviously seen that love is about, I don't

01:09:30.619 --> 01:09:33.859
know. being in love and finding a house and being

01:09:33.859 --> 01:09:35.460
together forever. That's what it sounds like

01:09:35.460 --> 01:09:38.460
she wanted off the bat. She was rushing into

01:09:38.460 --> 01:09:40.840
it. Sounds like she only knows the heights of

01:09:40.840 --> 01:09:44.039
love and not like the ups and downs and like

01:09:44.039 --> 01:09:46.380
the progress. Or just like the normalcy of it

01:09:46.380 --> 01:09:48.180
either. Yeah, it sounds like she just wants to

01:09:48.180 --> 01:09:53.300
play house. But also, pause. She asked him three

01:09:53.300 --> 01:09:55.220
weeks into the relationship to buy a pregnancy

01:09:55.220 --> 01:09:57.340
test because her period was like by two months.

01:09:57.500 --> 01:10:00.300
But then it turned out to be a medical issue

01:10:00.300 --> 01:10:05.060
and not like a pregnancy. So obviously, to me,

01:10:05.060 --> 01:10:07.380
it sounds like she was also rushing into things

01:10:07.380 --> 01:10:10.619
because she had the possibility of being pregnant.

01:10:10.659 --> 01:10:13.119
And it feels like she was going to blame that

01:10:13.119 --> 01:10:15.960
pregnancy on him. It sounds like she wants to

01:10:15.960 --> 01:10:19.069
baby trap him, though. Yeah, she's been talking

01:10:19.069 --> 01:10:21.130
about kids and stuff. That's what I was saying,

01:10:21.170 --> 01:10:23.449
though. Like, if she was late for two months

01:10:23.449 --> 01:10:25.430
and they've only been talking for three weeks

01:10:25.430 --> 01:10:28.409
or, like, dating for three weeks, that's barely,

01:10:28.510 --> 01:10:31.869
like, a month. So it sounds like there was a

01:10:31.869 --> 01:10:35.850
possibility that she was pregnant. She is not

01:10:35.850 --> 01:10:39.569
in contact with whatever ex. And she had to get

01:10:39.569 --> 01:10:42.390
another guy underneath her sleeve as immediate

01:10:42.390 --> 01:10:45.390
as possible and, like, tell him how much she

01:10:45.390 --> 01:10:48.100
loved him and all this. Are they in school? I

01:10:48.100 --> 01:10:51.500
forgot. I don't know. So she was 19. He's 18.

01:10:51.819 --> 01:10:55.640
Yeah. So is he still in school? I don't know.

01:10:55.739 --> 01:10:59.159
I mean. 19 and 18 -year -old couples is not rare.

01:10:59.340 --> 01:11:01.640
That's very, very common. I'm not saying it's

01:11:01.640 --> 01:11:04.159
uncommon. I'm saying, is he in school? Oh, like

01:11:04.159 --> 01:11:07.260
college? Is he in college? Or high school? Is

01:11:07.260 --> 01:11:10.479
he in high school? I mean, is she as well? She

01:11:10.479 --> 01:11:12.220
could also be. She could be in high school, but

01:11:12.220 --> 01:11:15.420
19 in high school is not that common. But it's

01:11:15.420 --> 01:11:17.739
possible. It is a December birthday. It's possible.

01:11:18.199 --> 01:11:23.020
But I don't think this guy's overreacting. I

01:11:23.020 --> 01:11:26.180
think... I think he did, right? I think it's

01:11:26.180 --> 01:11:31.739
very... What's the right word? It's good that

01:11:31.739 --> 01:11:34.239
you feel bad about breaking up and worrying about

01:11:34.239 --> 01:11:37.199
her. You show empathy. Yeah, that's empathy.

01:11:37.300 --> 01:11:39.739
That's good. You feel bad that you have to break

01:11:39.739 --> 01:11:43.020
up with her because you see how much she shows

01:11:43.020 --> 01:11:47.119
that she cares for you. But she's not showing

01:11:47.119 --> 01:11:51.159
him love. yeah she's just she's showing him obsession

01:11:51.159 --> 01:11:54.380
obsession yeah obsession love bombing what did

01:11:54.380 --> 01:11:56.439
it say can you see you they were only dating

01:11:56.439 --> 01:12:00.520
for four months four months four months kind

01:12:00.520 --> 01:12:03.720
of this and she was already talking about babies

01:12:03.720 --> 01:12:07.800
and him buying a house right at 18 taking him

01:12:07.800 --> 01:12:10.380
to see houses right at 18 he was probably working

01:12:10.380 --> 01:12:13.060
at mcdonald's like no buy me this house babe

01:12:13.060 --> 01:12:17.930
come on okay So if that's how he's saying that

01:12:17.930 --> 01:12:20.750
he broke up with her, I kind of think that's

01:12:20.750 --> 01:12:25.529
shitty. Like, OK, first of all, I just went through

01:12:25.529 --> 01:12:29.170
a breakup. And one of the things that was told

01:12:29.170 --> 01:12:32.130
to me is like it needs to like I need to work

01:12:32.130 --> 01:12:36.869
on myself. Like it's not it's not you. It's me

01:12:36.869 --> 01:12:39.029
kind of thing. Like there was a whole conversation

01:12:39.029 --> 01:12:45.289
about it, but it was just stated that. they needed

01:12:45.289 --> 01:12:52.670
time to better themselves for me um so dumb i

01:12:52.670 --> 01:12:55.310
hate that somebody told me they were breaking

01:12:55.310 --> 01:12:58.229
up with me because it was better for me that's

01:12:58.229 --> 01:13:00.470
yeah no i was being told that i was being held

01:13:00.470 --> 01:13:02.810
back and all that you can't tell me what i'm

01:13:02.810 --> 01:13:05.270
feeling exactly you can tell me what you're feeling

01:13:05.270 --> 01:13:09.140
so One of my friends had actually, I mentioned

01:13:09.140 --> 01:13:11.260
this because it was brought up like a perspective.

01:13:11.840 --> 01:13:15.859
He in the, am I the ass or am I over exaggerating?

01:13:16.039 --> 01:13:20.000
Overreacting. The OP mentions that he was like,

01:13:20.060 --> 01:13:22.960
he needs to do this for himself or he needs to.

01:13:24.579 --> 01:13:27.100
Work on myself. He needs to work on himself.

01:13:28.319 --> 01:13:32.680
That right there. Again, I'm like all pro him,

01:13:32.800 --> 01:13:35.970
but. If he were to do anything, I feel like that's

01:13:35.970 --> 01:13:38.050
probably what's driving her crazy to make her

01:13:38.050 --> 01:13:41.590
reconsider. Because he is saying, I'm not...

01:13:41.590 --> 01:13:49.449
He's basically telling her how she... Like, how

01:13:49.449 --> 01:13:52.729
did my friend word this? Can you read what he

01:13:52.729 --> 01:13:56.689
said at the end again? Quick overview. I approached

01:13:56.689 --> 01:13:59.539
it... I approached it as if I was the one needing

01:13:59.539 --> 01:14:01.520
to work on myself and told her just to think

01:14:01.520 --> 01:14:03.159
about the things I told her. Yeah, okay. That's

01:14:03.159 --> 01:14:07.779
all I needed. So I approached it saying that

01:14:07.779 --> 01:14:11.279
I was the one who needed to work on it. That's

01:14:11.279 --> 01:14:15.619
lying. What he just did was lie. He knows he's

01:14:15.619 --> 01:14:19.420
fine. He knows that this is not working for him.

01:14:19.520 --> 01:14:24.020
He knows that she's crazy. He never communicated

01:14:24.020 --> 01:14:26.619
that. He said, I need to work on myself. Let's

01:14:26.619 --> 01:14:29.619
break up. That's not the case. He was scared

01:14:29.619 --> 01:14:32.739
of how she would react because of the way she's

01:14:32.739 --> 01:14:36.420
been treating him. Now I'm glad they broke up.

01:14:37.539 --> 01:14:40.960
But yeah, no, that was not, he lied to her is

01:14:40.960 --> 01:14:43.680
what he did. He also like decided like, I'm not

01:14:43.680 --> 01:14:45.819
good enough for you. Well, that's something that

01:14:45.819 --> 01:14:49.920
she needs to decide for herself. Yeah. I was

01:14:49.920 --> 01:14:51.479
going to say, and I understand, like, there's

01:14:51.479 --> 01:14:53.779
certain positions where you do feel like you're

01:14:53.779 --> 01:14:56.479
holding certain people back. And those people,

01:14:56.520 --> 01:14:58.520
because they love you, they're not going to let

01:14:58.520 --> 01:15:04.319
you go. But you ultimately, like, I say that

01:15:04.319 --> 01:15:06.979
because she mentioned, or he mentioned that she,

01:15:07.079 --> 01:15:09.140
like, reached out through other friends to, like,

01:15:09.140 --> 01:15:12.420
say reconsider, reconsider. I think that there's

01:15:12.420 --> 01:15:14.279
a possibility that she's reaching out so often

01:15:14.279 --> 01:15:17.000
because he blamed it on himself. And that's why

01:15:17.000 --> 01:15:21.279
I'm, like, I, after my breakup, went like i i

01:15:21.279 --> 01:15:24.119
wouldn't like i couldn't stop texting him for

01:15:24.119 --> 01:15:26.859
like three days afterwards and i was just like

01:15:26.859 --> 01:15:29.399
no like you said that you needed to like you

01:15:29.399 --> 01:15:32.140
were breaking up with me because um you were

01:15:32.140 --> 01:15:35.039
like trying to better yourself for me and that

01:15:35.039 --> 01:15:37.119
i deserve better and that you're holding me back

01:15:37.119 --> 01:15:39.479
and i was like that's for me to decide and i'm

01:15:39.479 --> 01:15:42.819
like i want to be with you currently and it was

01:15:42.819 --> 01:15:44.720
just upsetting because it made me feel like i

01:15:44.720 --> 01:15:49.890
was to blame and i feel like yes, I understand

01:15:49.890 --> 01:15:52.770
this girl might be crazy and she was trying to

01:15:52.770 --> 01:15:56.510
rush things, but she doesn't know. Yeah. We don't

01:15:56.510 --> 01:15:58.470
know what love is at this age. Like we're figuring

01:15:58.470 --> 01:16:03.149
it out as we go. It's not a written rule book.

01:16:03.270 --> 01:16:06.170
And obviously people find love in different ways.

01:16:06.250 --> 01:16:08.329
Like one person can love someone a different

01:16:08.329 --> 01:16:10.369
way than the other person. There's different

01:16:10.369 --> 01:16:12.770
ways that people want to be loved and different

01:16:12.770 --> 01:16:17.960
ways that people want to love someone. So. I

01:16:17.960 --> 01:16:20.779
feel like the only thing that you over -exaggerated

01:16:20.779 --> 01:16:25.939
on was your breakup. He made it sound like, at

01:16:25.939 --> 01:16:28.180
least a little bit, it made it sound like there

01:16:28.180 --> 01:16:30.119
was a possibility for them to get back together,

01:16:30.340 --> 01:16:35.140
which is just leading her on, which is why I

01:16:35.140 --> 01:16:37.840
assume she texted friends to try to change his

01:16:37.840 --> 01:16:41.439
mind, because it sounded like there was a chance

01:16:41.439 --> 01:16:43.140
they would get back together. So he's leading

01:16:43.140 --> 01:16:46.130
her on a little bit. He just needs to tell her

01:16:46.130 --> 01:16:47.890
the truth and that it's not going to work out.

01:16:47.989 --> 01:16:52.170
It'll be harder, obviously. And her reaction

01:16:52.170 --> 01:16:56.109
could, you know, something bad could happen.

01:16:56.189 --> 01:16:59.770
You know, you never know. But, like, he needs

01:16:59.770 --> 01:17:03.010
to be straight with her. Yeah. Obviously, we

01:17:03.010 --> 01:17:04.409
don't know the way that he worded things, but

01:17:04.409 --> 01:17:06.970
he did mention at the end, he's like, he gave

01:17:06.970 --> 01:17:10.270
her a list of things to think about and not,

01:17:10.270 --> 01:17:14.079
like, to work on herself. Yeah. Like, you're

01:17:14.079 --> 01:17:16.920
like, hey, like, this might have bothered me,

01:17:16.979 --> 01:17:19.000
but it's no big deal. Just think about it. Just

01:17:19.000 --> 01:17:22.239
think about it. But, like, all relationships

01:17:22.239 --> 01:17:23.960
are different. We may not be hearing the full

01:17:23.960 --> 01:17:27.239
side of the stories. Obviously, like, he could

01:17:27.239 --> 01:17:29.600
have been saying, like, I need to work on myself.

01:17:29.760 --> 01:17:32.279
And that may be true. Like, he may, whatever.

01:17:32.380 --> 01:17:34.100
But he's not saying that because he wants to

01:17:34.100 --> 01:17:36.579
better himself for her. He's saying that because

01:17:36.579 --> 01:17:39.539
he wants to leave her. And he's, yes, like Zach

01:17:39.539 --> 01:17:45.930
said, he's giving her. the fantasy of he's leading

01:17:45.930 --> 01:17:48.850
her on yeah he's leading her on and he needs

01:17:48.850 --> 01:17:50.710
to just be straight up with her and not give

01:17:50.710 --> 01:17:52.890
her things to think about but straight up tell

01:17:52.890 --> 01:17:57.289
her hey like um you'll find someone who has the

01:17:57.289 --> 01:18:00.529
same obsessive behavior as you um i'm not into

01:18:00.529 --> 01:18:02.689
that it's not my thing and like i just feel like

01:18:02.689 --> 01:18:05.810
we'd be better for different people like i feel

01:18:05.810 --> 01:18:09.430
like that yeah yeah i feel like His fear probably

01:18:09.430 --> 01:18:11.670
got in the way of him telling the truth. I think

01:18:11.670 --> 01:18:15.069
it did. Because you can be afraid of somebody

01:18:15.069 --> 01:18:19.649
and you don't want to hurt them. Yeah, you don't

01:18:19.649 --> 01:18:21.510
want to hurt them. Because you care about people.

01:18:21.850 --> 01:18:26.090
But I think... There comes a line where he needs

01:18:26.090 --> 01:18:28.369
to just tell the truth. He's not obligated to

01:18:28.369 --> 01:18:30.489
tell her exactly why he wants to break up with

01:18:30.489 --> 01:18:34.039
her, but it would have been... better to just

01:18:34.039 --> 01:18:37.079
tell her like hey like you're obsessive and crazy

01:18:37.079 --> 01:18:40.020
and i'm not comfortable with you anymore like

01:18:40.020 --> 01:18:42.699
and then maybe she would have backed off but

01:18:42.699 --> 01:18:45.199
since she's obsessive and crazy probably not

01:18:45.199 --> 01:18:48.239
i think he could have also just worded it like

01:18:48.239 --> 01:18:52.579
you want a very mature and grown relationship

01:18:52.579 --> 01:18:56.420
that i don't i'm not ready to own a house i'm

01:18:56.420 --> 01:18:59.220
not ready you want things to go fast i want to

01:18:59.220 --> 01:19:03.329
take things slow i want it yeah By, like, a year

01:19:03.329 --> 01:19:06.090
or a couple months, maybe, but, like... But she's

01:19:06.090 --> 01:19:07.949
looking... She's definitely looking for, like,

01:19:07.949 --> 01:19:09.649
a man, like, to take care of her. She's looking

01:19:09.649 --> 01:19:14.369
to get a baby right now, which, for most... Not

01:19:14.369 --> 01:19:18.250
most. For some people, they want to be married

01:19:18.250 --> 01:19:22.050
by 22. There's, like, what, BYU, and it's, like,

01:19:22.050 --> 01:19:25.090
rings by spring. Really? Yeah, where they go

01:19:25.090 --> 01:19:27.930
to college or, like, whatever, and they try to

01:19:27.930 --> 01:19:32.279
meet, like, a Mormon on campus. And they try

01:19:32.279 --> 01:19:34.880
to get engaged by the end of the year. Oh, no,

01:19:34.880 --> 01:19:37.920
I have heard about that. My stomach is still

01:19:37.920 --> 01:19:39.899
growling. But yeah, it's called Rings by Spring,

01:19:40.060 --> 01:19:43.260
where they try to get engaged by spring. I see

01:19:43.260 --> 01:19:46.020
the videos on TikTok where people walk around

01:19:46.020 --> 01:19:51.500
BYU and ask them questions. Like insane ones

01:19:51.500 --> 01:19:53.359
that I'm not going to say on here, but they're

01:19:53.359 --> 01:19:55.699
funny. And it's not just BYU that does that,

01:19:55.699 --> 01:19:58.350
too. There are other like... I'm sure they're,

01:19:58.350 --> 01:20:02.890
like, religion -based colleges, though. Because

01:20:02.890 --> 01:20:07.430
I'm not seeing that at KUMU or anything like

01:20:07.430 --> 01:20:11.390
that. Like, it's literally just mostly religious

01:20:11.390 --> 01:20:14.630
schools that I see that. But, yeah. I mean, I

01:20:14.630 --> 01:20:16.590
think that he's not over -exaggerating breaking

01:20:16.590 --> 01:20:20.489
up with her. I think that her behavior is erotic,

01:20:20.590 --> 01:20:23.529
right? Exotic? No, yeah, erotic. I said that

01:20:23.529 --> 01:20:28.689
the first time correctly. Yeah. It really sounds

01:20:28.689 --> 01:20:31.090
like she's trying to trap him. What did the comments

01:20:31.090 --> 01:20:37.050
say? Boy run. Truly, she's trying to baby trap

01:20:37.050 --> 01:20:41.569
you. How long ago was this made? Two days. Everything

01:20:41.569 --> 01:20:45.029
is still fresh that we're coming up with. I'm

01:20:45.029 --> 01:20:46.430
sure the update probably happened yesterday.

01:20:46.930 --> 01:20:49.989
He broke up with her yesterday. I'm glad that

01:20:49.989 --> 01:20:52.510
people gave him the courage. He was looking for

01:20:52.510 --> 01:20:54.729
his friends, but then he's like, I need outside

01:20:54.729 --> 01:20:58.829
opinions. Somebody said, stop doing explicit

01:20:58.829 --> 01:21:02.010
things with her before she baby traps you. Just

01:21:02.010 --> 01:21:04.409
break up and say you're not compatible and that

01:21:04.409 --> 01:21:06.770
if she wants to be a mother and buy a house so

01:21:06.770 --> 01:21:08.449
badly, she needs to find someone who's ready

01:21:08.449 --> 01:21:11.069
for that. Then block her on everything because

01:21:11.069 --> 01:21:13.770
she is probably going to escalate. But it's going

01:21:13.770 --> 01:21:16.529
to get a whole lot worse the longer you draw

01:21:16.529 --> 01:21:18.430
it out. And the last thing you want is to be

01:21:18.430 --> 01:21:20.350
tied to this girl with a baby for the next 20

01:21:20.350 --> 01:21:23.430
plus years. So that was before they broke up,

01:21:23.510 --> 01:21:27.090
obviously, it sounds like. But that is word for

01:21:27.090 --> 01:21:30.609
word. She is wanting a very serious fall in love

01:21:30.609 --> 01:21:33.130
quickly. I think she wants to have a love at

01:21:33.130 --> 01:21:36.409
first sight moment. How long were they dating?

01:21:36.569 --> 01:21:38.750
Four months. She wants a love at first sight

01:21:38.750 --> 01:21:41.189
moment. She said it within a week. Somebody said

01:21:41.189 --> 01:21:45.050
if you want to, you can. For what? Just break

01:21:45.050 --> 01:21:47.029
up with her. Oh, yeah. If you want to break up

01:21:47.029 --> 01:21:51.430
with her, you can. Just do it. Somebody said

01:21:51.430 --> 01:21:53.750
you are not in a relationship. You are about

01:21:53.750 --> 01:21:56.189
to be held captive and with a baby before you

01:21:56.189 --> 01:21:59.710
can blink. Get away from her. This is not normal

01:21:59.710 --> 01:22:01.989
and no relationship should look like this. The

01:22:01.989 --> 01:22:03.909
longer you wait and keep playing her game, the

01:22:03.909 --> 01:22:06.449
worse it'll be. She will control how many times

01:22:06.449 --> 01:22:11.689
you can chew your food before swallowing if you

01:22:11.689 --> 01:22:17.029
stick around. Yeah, it says feed. Block her on

01:22:17.029 --> 01:22:19.689
everything and do not look back, nor seriously.

01:22:22.060 --> 01:22:26.579
gtfo yeah no i mean that's it like i can understand

01:22:26.579 --> 01:22:29.319
i'm saying this because i'm saying this as a

01:22:29.319 --> 01:22:31.680
young person who has thought they've been in

01:22:31.680 --> 01:22:36.199
love before um it's understanding that she may

01:22:36.199 --> 01:22:38.520
be very certain about what kind of love that

01:22:38.520 --> 01:22:41.479
she wants she wants a baby and a husband and

01:22:41.479 --> 01:22:44.800
a house he does not want A baby and a wife and

01:22:44.800 --> 01:22:46.939
a house. Not yet. Not at that age. Yeah, no.

01:22:47.039 --> 01:22:52.100
I'm ready to have kids in my late 40s. Late 30s.

01:22:52.100 --> 01:22:54.979
Late 30s. Like, I'll be married. Old mother.

01:22:55.699 --> 01:22:59.720
I'm, like, I'm not rushing anything. Yeah. Like,

01:22:59.779 --> 01:23:02.420
I want to keep my 20s my 20s. Like, I'm not sharing

01:23:02.420 --> 01:23:05.399
that. People should enjoy their 20s. Yeah. And

01:23:05.399 --> 01:23:07.420
stress out about their 20s because that's when

01:23:07.420 --> 01:23:09.579
life gets real. But, like, also that's when life

01:23:09.579 --> 01:23:12.750
gets fun. You shouldn't, like. Okay, we're not

01:23:12.750 --> 01:23:14.930
saying don't get married in your 20s. Yeah, do

01:23:14.930 --> 01:23:17.489
what you want, but just live your life the way

01:23:17.489 --> 01:23:20.770
you want to live it without forcing other people

01:23:20.770 --> 01:23:23.569
to do what you want to do. If you're having fun

01:23:23.569 --> 01:23:26.649
by getting married by 22 and having a baby by

01:23:26.649 --> 01:23:30.409
23, then that's for you. Me personally, I could

01:23:30.409 --> 01:23:33.670
not see myself married right now with a child.

01:23:34.470 --> 01:23:39.310
I'm too young. Also, I think it's important to

01:23:39.310 --> 01:23:42.409
note because A lot of people do struggle with

01:23:42.409 --> 01:23:46.829
this. If you're not feeling a relationship, love

01:23:46.829 --> 01:23:49.170
isn't the only thing that should be keeping your

01:23:49.170 --> 01:23:54.909
relationship together. Like you can't just, I'm

01:23:54.909 --> 01:23:57.609
not saying it can't just thrive off love, but

01:23:57.609 --> 01:24:01.729
if you only have love for a person and you're

01:24:01.729 --> 01:24:04.710
realizing that this isn't it, like you're feeling,

01:24:04.970 --> 01:24:09.590
I don't know. different like people grow like

01:24:09.590 --> 01:24:12.310
it's fine to grow with someone but you're growing

01:24:12.310 --> 01:24:15.010
apart or you're growing and the person is not

01:24:15.010 --> 01:24:19.409
growing with you or like she obviously this is

01:24:19.409 --> 01:24:22.069
like a different scenario from what I'm describing

01:24:22.069 --> 01:24:26.050
now but he cared for this person so he had a

01:24:26.050 --> 01:24:27.770
hard time breaking up with her because he would

01:24:27.770 --> 01:24:30.770
feel bad he didn't want her to be insane obviously

01:24:30.770 --> 01:24:34.989
but like he didn't want the burden of having

01:24:34.989 --> 01:24:39.020
to break up and that's fine but like this just

01:24:39.020 --> 01:24:40.899
know that you will get over it if you have to

01:24:40.899 --> 01:24:43.140
break up with someone because you simply just

01:24:43.140 --> 01:24:47.000
are only like maybe not even you may not even

01:24:47.000 --> 01:24:49.800
be in love just like know that you can break

01:24:49.800 --> 01:24:51.739
up with someone because it's a very difficult

01:24:51.739 --> 01:24:56.119
idea to wrap around and even for like me or like

01:24:56.119 --> 01:25:00.000
anyone else in this room it's like it's difficult

01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:02.220
to break up with someone that you still just

01:25:02.220 --> 01:25:04.439
care for like you just you don't want to hurt

01:25:04.439 --> 01:25:08.460
someone's feelings And it sucks. Yeah. But sometimes

01:25:08.460 --> 01:25:11.060
you have to put yourself first. You should always

01:25:11.060 --> 01:25:15.300
put yourself first. But it's difficult to. Yeah.

01:25:15.460 --> 01:25:18.760
But good on him for, like, actually feeling care.

01:25:18.960 --> 01:25:21.659
And also breaking up with her. He should stay

01:25:21.659 --> 01:25:24.939
strong and not cave in. Ever contact her again.

01:25:25.100 --> 01:25:27.840
Yeah, don't cave in to her friends or her messaging

01:25:27.840 --> 01:25:31.840
him on her friends' accounts. Like, she'll make

01:25:31.840 --> 01:25:35.039
fake Snapchats. She'll try to catfish you on.

01:25:36.420 --> 01:25:39.000
Instagram. Keep her blocked. Keep her blocked

01:25:39.000 --> 01:25:41.520
and block all her friends or just explain like,

01:25:41.560 --> 01:25:45.840
hey, like it's not it's not her or it's not me.

01:25:45.880 --> 01:25:49.359
It was her. It was it was her. Like just like

01:25:49.359 --> 01:25:52.640
be honest. Just start being honest. Like I can't

01:25:52.640 --> 01:25:54.600
I couldn't do that relationship. I'm so sorry.

01:25:54.680 --> 01:25:57.020
Like it wasn't for me. Like she just needs to

01:25:57.020 --> 01:25:59.470
stop reaching out like. Just tell them that you're

01:25:59.470 --> 01:26:01.149
moving on and that you moved on. Be like, I'm

01:26:01.149 --> 01:26:03.090
not actively trying to find a relationship. I've

01:26:03.090 --> 01:26:05.729
already moved on. I've already moved on. I have

01:26:05.729 --> 01:26:07.409
a boyfriend now instead of a girlfriend. Yeah.

01:26:07.789 --> 01:26:10.149
You secretly come out as gay. Yep. That's how

01:26:10.149 --> 01:26:13.869
you do it. Yep. Okay. Well, good on him for like

01:26:13.869 --> 01:26:16.729
ending things and he should keep things ended

01:26:16.729 --> 01:26:21.609
and just like explain to them that it wasn't

01:26:21.609 --> 01:26:23.970
meant to be and that he and her both need to

01:26:23.970 --> 01:26:28.779
move on. Yeah. But, I mean. Let us know if you

01:26:28.779 --> 01:26:31.619
guys enjoy listening to Reddit stories. And honestly,

01:26:31.760 --> 01:26:34.159
maybe we should submit our own Reddit page where

01:26:34.159 --> 01:26:38.460
you guys can confess. JCCC Reddit stories. We

01:26:38.460 --> 01:26:41.000
had that in high school. Did you really? OE confessions.

01:26:41.359 --> 01:26:44.180
Oh my gosh. Oh yeah, there were Instagram pages.

01:26:44.359 --> 01:26:47.109
I remember the Instagram pages. We had BV. Blue

01:26:47.109 --> 01:26:49.729
Valley North Confessions, or we also had one

01:26:49.729 --> 01:26:52.350
that was making fun of really bad parking jobs.

01:26:52.430 --> 01:26:55.670
Yeah, no, I had bad parking. There was this account

01:26:55.670 --> 01:26:57.750
that raided all the water fountains around the

01:26:57.750 --> 01:27:02.569
school. Okay, someone who currently attends my

01:27:02.569 --> 01:27:04.510
old high school made a rating that bathrooms.

01:27:05.609 --> 01:27:08.270
I think we had one of those. Yeah, I thought

01:27:08.270 --> 01:27:10.710
that was funny. I think we had a page for devious

01:27:10.710 --> 01:27:14.279
licks. Oh, yeah. We did, too. But that got shut

01:27:14.279 --> 01:27:16.420
down. Where they stole things? Oh, you guys were

01:27:16.420 --> 01:27:19.140
in school during that. Oh, yeah. It was bad.

01:27:19.479 --> 01:27:23.960
It made me feel a little old. But, yeah. No.

01:27:24.279 --> 01:27:27.600
I think they stole a sink at one point. A sink?

01:27:27.899 --> 01:27:31.399
Yeah. Jesus. I feel like I saw somebody steal

01:27:31.399 --> 01:27:34.979
a water fountain. How do you steal a sink? Time

01:27:34.979 --> 01:27:38.300
and dedication. Right. And a really low GPA.

01:27:42.039 --> 01:27:45.159
You didn't hear that from me, though. Okay, well,

01:27:45.340 --> 01:27:47.340
please let us know if you guys enjoyed this.

01:27:47.720 --> 01:27:50.380
We've had such a fun time talking today that

01:27:50.380 --> 01:27:54.279
we almost hit two hours. But we will continue

01:27:54.279 --> 01:27:56.699
this, whether you guys like it or not. We'll

01:27:56.699 --> 01:27:59.539
find more Reddit stories. If you like it, let

01:27:59.539 --> 01:28:01.939
us know. We'll keep doing them because they're

01:28:01.939 --> 01:28:05.659
fun and they're usually relatable. Right. Remember

01:28:05.659 --> 01:28:09.119
the drop deadline is the 14th, I believe. Yeah.

01:28:09.340 --> 01:28:12.979
So if you need to withdraw from a class, just

01:28:12.979 --> 01:28:15.739
letting you know that it is the 14th. Yeah. Check

01:28:15.739 --> 01:28:19.460
out the messenger for all new news and updates

01:28:19.460 --> 01:28:22.920
and stuff going around campus and Kansas City.

01:28:23.000 --> 01:28:25.020
And baseball team is starting up again. Baseball

01:28:25.020 --> 01:28:29.949
team, wish them luck. Yeah. Congrats to basketball.

01:28:30.590 --> 01:28:32.609
And I hope you guys did well in your midterms.

01:28:32.649 --> 01:28:38.630
Yeah. Alrighty. Midterms are stupid. Oh, my God.

01:28:38.850 --> 01:28:42.210
I actually did really well in my midterm today.

01:28:42.210 --> 01:28:44.210
I didn't even have one. I didn't have one. Really?

01:28:44.350 --> 01:28:47.149
No. Jealous. I'm so jealous of you guys. Okay.

01:28:47.210 --> 01:28:49.529
Well, you guys have such a good rest of your

01:28:49.529 --> 01:28:52.869
day, and we'll talk to you next week. Bye. Bye.