WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.259 Welcome back to Real Talk with Rayne and Gabe. 00:00:04.700 --> 00:00:08.839 So today, the topic that was voted on is protecting 00:00:08.839 --> 00:00:11.539 your peace and energy, which is a good continuation 00:00:11.539 --> 00:00:15.939 from our last episode. So I think to start off 00:00:15.939 --> 00:00:19.160 the conversation, this is definitely a spiritual 00:00:19.160 --> 00:00:23.940 take on how you're living your life. And protecting 00:00:23.940 --> 00:00:26.839 your peace and energy is so incredibly important 00:00:26.839 --> 00:00:29.870 because people don't actually realize that when 00:00:29.870 --> 00:00:33.109 you're burnt out, it's because you're not protecting 00:00:33.109 --> 00:00:35.229 your peace and energy. You're not protecting 00:00:35.229 --> 00:00:37.909 your boundaries. You're not looking out for yourself. 00:00:38.549 --> 00:00:41.549 And that's extremely important because if you 00:00:41.549 --> 00:00:43.229 can't show up for yourself, you can't show up 00:00:43.229 --> 00:00:44.969 for other people that you care about either. 00:00:46.210 --> 00:00:49.810 So I would say, to start things off, my biggest 00:00:49.810 --> 00:00:53.490 advice in my spiritual journey that I've recently 00:00:53.490 --> 00:00:57.299 been endeavoring on is that... When it comes 00:00:57.299 --> 00:01:01.979 to things that bring negative energy or negative 00:01:01.979 --> 00:01:04.939 attention into your life, you really have to 00:01:04.939 --> 00:01:08.180 sit back and have the emotional maturity to dissect 00:01:08.180 --> 00:01:11.099 the situation and think about it in a way of, 00:01:11.840 --> 00:01:15.019 is this really worth me putting energy into this 00:01:15.019 --> 00:01:20.019 or is this silly? Am I over analyzing what my 00:01:20.019 --> 00:01:23.120 boss said at work today about Like, I do this 00:01:23.120 --> 00:01:25.140 all the time and I have to stop myself when my 00:01:25.140 --> 00:01:27.519 boss says something like, oh yeah, there's definitely, 00:01:28.120 --> 00:01:30.459 you're doing awesome, but I'd like to work on 00:01:30.459 --> 00:01:33.400 this. And then it's hard to not internalize that 00:01:33.400 --> 00:01:35.959 and then spin out and be like, oh my God, it 00:01:35.959 --> 00:01:39.099 means I'm doing everything wrong. That's very 00:01:39.099 --> 00:01:41.920 harmful to your psyche and very harmful to your 00:01:41.920 --> 00:01:46.180 energy. Yeah. And it goes back to that let them 00:01:46.180 --> 00:01:48.299 theory as well to help you protect your peace 00:01:48.299 --> 00:01:53.140 and energy because You have to learn that you're 00:01:53.140 --> 00:01:57.760 not in control at the end of the day. You are 00:01:57.760 --> 00:01:59.700 not in control of anything other than yourself, 00:01:59.700 --> 00:02:02.939 and even then, there's aspects about yourself 00:02:02.939 --> 00:02:04.840 and your spirit that you can't control either. 00:02:05.159 --> 00:02:07.819 The mystery of the universe. Like, we're walking 00:02:07.819 --> 00:02:11.060 around in a flesh body, but our spirit's something 00:02:11.060 --> 00:02:17.379 completely different. So, what can we do to continuously 00:02:18.889 --> 00:02:20.889 protect our peace and our energy. It doesn't 00:02:20.889 --> 00:02:23.490 need to be a toxic positivity kind of mindset, 00:02:23.650 --> 00:02:28.129 but more practicing being mindful about what 00:02:28.129 --> 00:02:30.770 we're spending our energy on, if that makes sense. 00:02:32.569 --> 00:02:36.129 What do you think, Gabe? Definitely agree. Because 00:02:36.129 --> 00:02:41.310 I have definitely experienced burnout many times 00:02:41.310 --> 00:02:45.870 in my artist career as a college student, as 00:02:45.870 --> 00:02:49.789 a freelancer, even just like casually in what 00:02:49.789 --> 00:02:54.030 I want to draw for myself. And it's really easy 00:02:54.030 --> 00:02:58.830 to have that burnout be inspired by your own 00:02:58.830 --> 00:03:03.930 views about yourself as an artist. I will definitely 00:03:03.930 --> 00:03:06.469 be the first to admit that I have very low self 00:03:06.469 --> 00:03:09.110 -esteem when it comes to my art. But I feel like 00:03:09.110 --> 00:03:11.430 that's with every artist, like every writer, 00:03:11.629 --> 00:03:14.969 every sculptor, like. Everyone is either this 00:03:14.969 --> 00:03:18.189 piece is like the fucking bomb diggity or it's 00:03:18.189 --> 00:03:19.949 a piece of shit and it should never see the light 00:03:19.949 --> 00:03:26.550 of day. But. Yeah, the way. I am still struggling 00:03:26.550 --> 00:03:30.430 with protecting my piece from burnout for fairer, 00:03:30.430 --> 00:03:34.270 because it's very easy, especially for me to 00:03:34.270 --> 00:03:37.370 beat myself up for not doing work or for not 00:03:37.370 --> 00:03:40.449 doing art. This is your job, motherfucker, you 00:03:40.449 --> 00:03:43.360 got to do it, but. I think that's something that 00:03:43.360 --> 00:03:46.740 a lot of people should keep in mind is that work 00:03:46.740 --> 00:03:50.639 life balance to begin with, because sometimes 00:03:50.639 --> 00:03:53.259 it's OK to just be like, I'm not going to do 00:03:53.259 --> 00:03:55.860 art today. I'm going to do something else. I'm 00:03:55.860 --> 00:03:58.020 going to do something that I never done before. 00:03:58.460 --> 00:04:00.979 Like very recently, I've actually have been struggling 00:04:00.979 --> 00:04:03.639 with not burnout, but I'm definitely like on 00:04:03.639 --> 00:04:08.259 the cusp of it. And what actually gave me. this 00:04:08.259 --> 00:04:12.419 sense of rejuvenation was my mom came to visit 00:04:12.419 --> 00:04:15.759 this past weekend. And I was able to basically 00:04:15.759 --> 00:04:18.779 show her the state parks near me in West Virginia, 00:04:18.939 --> 00:04:20.939 because West Virginia is very known for its nature. 00:04:20.939 --> 00:04:24.420 And I haven't been outside in months since it 00:04:24.420 --> 00:04:28.560 was cold. So being able to actually go outside 00:04:28.560 --> 00:04:34.139 and experience, like, the world with stuff. Oh, 00:04:34.399 --> 00:04:38.060 my gosh. That's crazy. Wow. And it's not even 00:04:38.060 --> 00:04:40.560 just like, I know touch grass is used as like 00:04:40.560 --> 00:04:42.860 a joke, but it's not even just touching grass. 00:04:42.920 --> 00:04:45.279 Like, obviously people go outside to go to work 00:04:45.279 --> 00:04:48.040 or to go get groceries or to go run errands. 00:04:48.040 --> 00:04:51.100 I'm talking outside of that. Just going outside 00:04:51.100 --> 00:04:55.759 to exist. Yeah. Basically. And that was like 00:04:55.759 --> 00:05:00.079 the first time I ever saw, like, my local national 00:05:00.079 --> 00:05:02.759 park that is literally like 30 minutes up the 00:05:02.759 --> 00:05:04.879 road. And it was great and it was beautiful. 00:05:04.920 --> 00:05:07.449 And I'm like, oh, my God. I love being outside. 00:05:07.610 --> 00:05:10.189 I always liked the mountains. I always liked 00:05:10.189 --> 00:05:12.610 walking trails with my family. Why can't I do 00:05:12.610 --> 00:05:15.810 that by myself? It's the fact that hadn't occurred 00:05:15.810 --> 00:05:19.790 to me until literally I needed it. But it's going 00:05:19.790 --> 00:05:23.199 outside, just changing it up. I feel is a great 00:05:23.199 --> 00:05:27.120 way to protect your peace and to rejuvenate yourself 00:05:27.120 --> 00:05:30.240 and to give yourself a fresh slate because it's 00:05:30.240 --> 00:05:34.160 very easy to fall into the routine of okay every 00:05:34.160 --> 00:05:37.339 weekend I gotta do chores or I gotta catch up 00:05:37.339 --> 00:05:40.920 on stuff that I didn't do during the week and 00:05:40.920 --> 00:05:43.120 I gotta go get groceries and I gotta go it's 00:05:43.120 --> 00:05:45.699 very easy to fall into that routine and it's 00:05:45.699 --> 00:05:48.980 very easy to get very depressed doing the same 00:05:48.980 --> 00:05:52.769 thing every single week. every single month so 00:05:52.769 --> 00:05:55.069 that would be my advice is to just change it 00:05:55.069 --> 00:05:59.250 up go outside actually go outside and exist and 00:05:59.250 --> 00:06:01.870 maybe you're like oh man i always wanted to go 00:06:01.870 --> 00:06:04.889 to that coffee shop that i see every time i drive 00:06:04.889 --> 00:06:07.790 past to go to the grocery store maybe just stop 00:06:07.790 --> 00:06:11.389 in order something you've never heard of before 00:06:11.389 --> 00:06:15.569 or something that you know and just sit and just 00:06:15.569 --> 00:06:18.509 exist it doesn't have to be for long it doesn't 00:06:18.509 --> 00:06:21.810 have to be like this huge, profound thing, because 00:06:21.810 --> 00:06:23.930 I have social anxiety. I know what it's like 00:06:23.930 --> 00:06:27.689 to just feel weird existing around other people 00:06:27.689 --> 00:06:31.709 and interacting with them. But I promise you, 00:06:32.449 --> 00:06:36.050 it's very nice to just take a step back and just 00:06:36.050 --> 00:06:39.170 be like, wow, I'm not going to think about anything 00:06:39.170 --> 00:06:42.670 and just exist. I think it's hard too, because 00:06:42.670 --> 00:06:47.089 we, most people, not all people, but... A lot 00:06:47.089 --> 00:06:49.350 of people, especially people I feel like us, 00:06:49.550 --> 00:06:52.730 that have that social anxiety. I'm like an ambivert, 00:06:52.930 --> 00:06:56.410 so I'm either like, oh my god, yay, or I'm like, 00:06:56.670 --> 00:06:59.189 oh, I need to sit in my booth in an enclosed 00:06:59.189 --> 00:07:01.889 space for five hours and no one talk to me and 00:07:01.889 --> 00:07:04.810 I'm gonna be in the fetal position. Like, it's 00:07:04.810 --> 00:07:07.350 one or the other and it's not like, I'm never 00:07:07.350 --> 00:07:10.449 like in the middle. I'm either - Yeah. so ready 00:07:10.449 --> 00:07:12.829 and my energy bar is full and I'm ready to hang 00:07:12.829 --> 00:07:15.569 out but then once I crash and my social battery 00:07:15.569 --> 00:07:18.629 is out I just need to be alone or just like with 00:07:18.629 --> 00:07:22.649 my wife because it's the shared energy I feel 00:07:22.649 --> 00:07:25.930 like as well something that kind of has been 00:07:25.930 --> 00:07:28.370 interesting to me recently is that we find people 00:07:28.370 --> 00:07:32.250 that we vibe with so well that match our energy 00:07:32.250 --> 00:07:35.509 and a lot of times our energy can be replenished 00:07:35.509 --> 00:07:38.649 when we're around those people and it's not necessarily 00:07:39.040 --> 00:07:42.459 That you enjoy that person's company over anybody 00:07:42.459 --> 00:07:46.120 else's it's more like the difference in energy 00:07:46.120 --> 00:07:50.420 that you're feeling is With my wife. I'm very 00:07:50.420 --> 00:07:53.240 comfortable. I'm very at home. Like she is my 00:07:53.240 --> 00:07:57.139 person. She is my rock. She is everything to 00:07:57.139 --> 00:08:01.389 me like I still sometimes get butterflies, but 00:08:01.389 --> 00:08:03.230 it's not like that all the time because once 00:08:03.230 --> 00:08:05.689 you're married and you've been together for half 00:08:05.689 --> 00:08:09.350 a decade, you're just there and you're my best 00:08:09.350 --> 00:08:13.209 friend and I just know I'm safe here. And that 00:08:13.209 --> 00:08:16.050 energy almost becomes a core part of who you 00:08:16.050 --> 00:08:19.290 are, which is why when people go through like 00:08:19.290 --> 00:08:21.790 separations and stuff like that's really traumatic 00:08:21.790 --> 00:08:25.540 because it's like... having that safety and that 00:08:25.540 --> 00:08:28.019 normalcy and that feeling of home taken away 00:08:28.019 --> 00:08:30.100 that you thought was never going to be broken. 00:08:32.639 --> 00:08:36.399 But having that feeling of having somebody who 00:08:36.399 --> 00:08:38.799 you feel like completes you as your other half, 00:08:39.019 --> 00:08:41.820 or if you have multiple partners or other parts, 00:08:42.179 --> 00:08:44.259 I'm just going to say partner in terms of monogamy 00:08:44.259 --> 00:08:47.539 because that's what I'm doing with my life. So 00:08:47.539 --> 00:08:50.740 not to be against anybody who's Collie, do you? 00:08:50.799 --> 00:08:54.789 No judgment. Just for me, And for my wife, we're 00:08:54.789 --> 00:08:59.409 monogamous. And so sometimes I feel like when 00:08:59.409 --> 00:09:02.090 I'm with friends, my energy is higher than when 00:09:02.090 --> 00:09:05.370 I'm with my wife, or I appear to be more excited 00:09:05.370 --> 00:09:07.789 to hang out with friends or people that I haven't 00:09:07.789 --> 00:09:10.090 talked to in a while or people that I haven't 00:09:10.090 --> 00:09:13.350 seen or hung out with in a while. And I think 00:09:13.350 --> 00:09:15.629 at the beginning of our relationship, it came 00:09:15.629 --> 00:09:17.549 across as I didn't want to spend time with her. 00:09:17.710 --> 00:09:21.179 That was not the case at all. It just... because 00:09:21.179 --> 00:09:23.460 when you start getting so comfortable with the 00:09:23.460 --> 00:09:25.759 person that you're with and people you're around, 00:09:26.159 --> 00:09:28.399 it's almost like it becomes part of your energy. 00:09:28.860 --> 00:09:31.820 And you're looking for a different stimulus, 00:09:31.879 --> 00:09:34.159 if that makes sense. Something where it's not 00:09:34.159 --> 00:09:38.899 as normal, it's not as routine. That kind of 00:09:38.899 --> 00:09:41.620 interaction tends to get more of an excitement 00:09:41.620 --> 00:09:44.919 from you. And that's a good thing a lot of times, 00:09:45.179 --> 00:09:47.840 because if your energy is positively heightened, 00:09:48.770 --> 00:09:51.929 by associating with somebody else, that's a good 00:09:51.929 --> 00:09:53.669 sign that you're creating that bond with them 00:09:53.669 --> 00:09:56.409 as well. Like having that sense of normalcy and 00:09:56.409 --> 00:10:00.389 comfort with your partner, your friends, your 00:10:00.389 --> 00:10:03.350 family, that's the ideal situation. You don't 00:10:03.350 --> 00:10:05.610 always need to have that, oh, I'm so excited 00:10:05.610 --> 00:10:09.370 feeling. Protecting your energy and your peace 00:10:09.370 --> 00:10:12.909 is having more of those people around you that... 00:10:13.100 --> 00:10:17.240 become your support system and become your family, 00:10:17.279 --> 00:10:21.480 whether they're blood related or not. And that 00:10:21.480 --> 00:10:25.220 excitement isn't really necessary once you feel 00:10:25.220 --> 00:10:28.279 like you're at home and you have that core kind 00:10:28.279 --> 00:10:31.240 of group of people that you can rely on. That 00:10:31.240 --> 00:10:34.700 way your energy becomes more relaxed and it doesn't 00:10:34.700 --> 00:10:36.460 mean you're bored with the people that you're 00:10:36.460 --> 00:10:38.600 hanging out with or the people that you're with. 00:10:39.120 --> 00:10:42.009 It just means that you're just comfortable and 00:10:42.009 --> 00:10:44.509 you're safe. And that's a good feeling to have 00:10:44.509 --> 00:10:49.070 that you can go home and be with somebody that 00:10:49.070 --> 00:10:51.049 loves you for who you are, that's always going 00:10:51.049 --> 00:10:53.429 to be in your corner and have your back. And 00:10:53.429 --> 00:10:55.870 same thing with your friends. Like protecting 00:10:55.870 --> 00:11:00.110 your peace and energy is knowing where to put 00:11:00.110 --> 00:11:03.929 the energy. If you have a friend who, I'm trying 00:11:03.929 --> 00:11:06.570 to think of a good example. I used to have a 00:11:06.570 --> 00:11:11.289 friend who was extremely depressed all the time. 00:11:12.669 --> 00:11:17.309 And for not any fault of theirs, just, they just 00:11:17.309 --> 00:11:20.370 were going through it. And the thing is, you 00:11:20.370 --> 00:11:22.570 can't help somebody that doesn't want to be helped, 00:11:22.690 --> 00:11:25.470 and it's not your job to fix them. Even if you 00:11:25.470 --> 00:11:28.730 feel like you're doing a good thing. A lot of 00:11:28.730 --> 00:11:31.669 times it's gonna push people away if you try 00:11:31.669 --> 00:11:34.330 to be overly nurturing, which is something that 00:11:34.330 --> 00:11:37.350 I definitely have done in the past where I was 00:11:37.350 --> 00:11:39.750 way too nurturing of people, way too protective 00:11:39.750 --> 00:11:41.690 of people. I still am and it's still something 00:11:41.690 --> 00:11:44.710 I need to work on because I put so much of my 00:11:44.710 --> 00:11:49.129 energy onto protecting other people, like in 00:11:49.129 --> 00:11:51.990 situations that either I've been through before 00:11:51.990 --> 00:11:54.210 or that I've been similar because in my brain, 00:11:55.139 --> 00:11:58.679 My toxic trait is literally like, I'm going to 00:11:58.679 --> 00:12:03.019 protect them so they never feel hurt ever. And 00:12:03.019 --> 00:12:06.960 then, but then my wife is, you're really overbearing. 00:12:08.080 --> 00:12:14.220 And I'm like, oh, that's valid because I'm coming 00:12:14.220 --> 00:12:17.899 from a good place and the intention is good. 00:12:18.100 --> 00:12:20.980 My energy is in the right place. It's coming 00:12:20.980 --> 00:12:24.960 from a place of care and love, but to somebody 00:12:24.960 --> 00:12:27.740 else, that might come across as smothering. That 00:12:27.740 --> 00:12:30.080 might come across as overbearing. It might come 00:12:30.080 --> 00:12:32.240 across as, do you think I'm a child? Do you think 00:12:32.240 --> 00:12:35.240 that I can't make my own decisions? That's not 00:12:35.240 --> 00:12:38.879 the way I want to come across. It's just my natural 00:12:38.879 --> 00:12:44.980 mode is like mother bear kind of energy. So it's 00:12:44.980 --> 00:12:47.980 very difficult for me to not put all of my energy 00:12:47.980 --> 00:12:50.879 towards that. And then almost in a way when I'm 00:12:50.879 --> 00:12:54.230 not doing it and I'm holding myself back, It's 00:12:54.230 --> 00:12:56.289 a constant feeling of anxiety of, well, what 00:12:56.289 --> 00:12:57.870 if they get hurt? Well, what if something happens 00:12:57.870 --> 00:12:59.850 and I could have stopped it, but I didn't. And 00:12:59.850 --> 00:13:03.309 so that's where I have to learn for myself, protecting 00:13:03.309 --> 00:13:08.169 my peace and energy that it is normal for people 00:13:08.169 --> 00:13:11.990 to go through life, make mistakes and fuck shit 00:13:11.990 --> 00:13:15.309 up on their own. And you need to let them. Yep. 00:13:15.500 --> 00:13:18.559 You just need to let them make mistakes and do 00:13:18.559 --> 00:13:21.059 stupid shit and learn their own life lessons. 00:13:21.159 --> 00:13:23.399 Just be there when they need you. And that's 00:13:23.399 --> 00:13:26.980 what you need to do. So for me, that's the hardest 00:13:26.980 --> 00:13:29.460 thing because I've been through so much shit 00:13:29.460 --> 00:13:34.159 in my life as well. And I always was like the 00:13:34.159 --> 00:13:37.240 rock in my family for everybody. Sometimes even 00:13:37.240 --> 00:13:40.019 including my parents. I didn't feel like I had 00:13:40.019 --> 00:13:44.600 anybody like that for me. So I conditioned myself. 00:13:45.049 --> 00:13:48.450 to be the rock for everybody else and the protector 00:13:48.450 --> 00:13:50.789 for everybody else so that they never had to 00:13:50.789 --> 00:13:52.789 feel alone. They never had to feel like what 00:13:52.789 --> 00:13:56.289 I felt like growing up. And it's taken a lot 00:13:56.289 --> 00:13:58.870 of time and it's still something I'm struggling 00:13:58.870 --> 00:14:02.669 with for me to be able to step back and tell 00:14:02.669 --> 00:14:06.029 myself this is not something that I'm responsible 00:14:06.029 --> 00:14:09.309 for and I can't continue putting my energy towards 00:14:09.309 --> 00:14:13.259 this because I'm gonna burn out. If things don't 00:14:13.259 --> 00:14:15.379 work out the way that I want them to work out, 00:14:15.539 --> 00:14:18.740 like that control aspect again of having the 00:14:18.740 --> 00:14:22.419 let them theory sneak in. Like you just have 00:14:22.419 --> 00:14:25.639 to let it happen. And it feels really shitty 00:14:25.639 --> 00:14:28.860 because you don't want to just sit there and 00:14:28.860 --> 00:14:31.000 want somebody you love or care about go through 00:14:31.000 --> 00:14:33.259 something and feel like you have the power to 00:14:33.259 --> 00:14:37.480 stop it, but you don't. Yeah. And just, but that's 00:14:37.480 --> 00:14:40.580 the thing is you have to let people have their 00:14:40.580 --> 00:14:43.990 own experiences. and acknowledge that at least 00:14:43.990 --> 00:14:46.269 they have that support system, at least they 00:14:46.269 --> 00:14:51.289 have you there to be a safe place to fall when 00:14:51.289 --> 00:14:54.370 they mess up and when they go through these really 00:14:54.370 --> 00:14:57.870 hard life lessons. Whereas, like me, I didn't 00:14:57.870 --> 00:14:59.850 really have a lot of people like that when I 00:14:59.850 --> 00:15:02.370 was growing up, except the people that were very 00:15:02.370 --> 00:15:05.990 far away from me, unfortunately. I'm rambling, 00:15:06.190 --> 00:15:09.470 but... My point in this section before I hand 00:15:09.470 --> 00:15:13.950 it back over to Gabe is that you have to understand 00:15:13.950 --> 00:15:18.190 Your energy is precious as well. And if you're 00:15:18.190 --> 00:15:20.190 putting all of your energy onto other people, 00:15:20.190 --> 00:15:22.409 you're not saving any for yourself So you're 00:15:22.409 --> 00:15:25.970 not working on You know helping yourself grow 00:15:25.970 --> 00:15:28.230 as a person you're not helping on looking at 00:15:28.230 --> 00:15:31.350 your own faults or looking at your own needs 00:15:31.350 --> 00:15:34.870 that are being skipped because You have this 00:15:34.870 --> 00:15:37.669 mindset of I need to protect and be everything 00:15:37.669 --> 00:15:41.710 for everybody else and my needs can wait. It's 00:15:41.710 --> 00:15:45.669 not selfish to prioritize your needs and take 00:15:45.669 --> 00:15:49.809 care of yourself. With that. I totally agree. 00:15:50.450 --> 00:15:52.190 Yes. Gabe, take it away. I've been rambling. 00:15:52.690 --> 00:15:55.529 Okay. I'm taking the baton from you. Right here. 00:15:55.750 --> 00:15:59.549 I have it. I'm sorry. I'm covering it with my 00:15:59.549 --> 00:16:03.710 body. Oh, I can't wait for this to be an animatic. 00:16:04.149 --> 00:16:06.629 Oh, this will be great. Sorry. I just had to 00:16:06.629 --> 00:16:09.769 stretch and break all my bones. But of a similar 00:16:09.769 --> 00:16:15.029 vein, I feel like it's also important to surround 00:16:15.029 --> 00:16:21.379 yourself in your environment by stuff that Is 00:16:21.379 --> 00:16:23.860 not necessarily a hundred percent positive like 00:16:23.860 --> 00:16:26.240 you shouldn't coddle yourself, but at the same 00:16:26.240 --> 00:16:34.340 vein You should not go looking or allowing negative 00:16:34.340 --> 00:16:38.960 Spaces or rage bait or any kind of defeatism 00:16:38.960 --> 00:16:41.620 or triggers that you know you have to encroach 00:16:41.620 --> 00:16:44.480 on your space especially on social media like 00:16:44.480 --> 00:16:47.279 It's fine to be informed. You should be informed. 00:16:47.279 --> 00:16:51.279 You should watch the news if if you can We should 00:16:51.279 --> 00:16:53.139 definitely be important on stuff. I'm not saying 00:16:53.139 --> 00:16:58.139 you shouldn't be but Sometimes you enter that 00:16:58.139 --> 00:17:02.039 spiral that really dangerous spiral where you 00:17:02.039 --> 00:17:05.480 feel like what's the point? Everyone's against 00:17:05.480 --> 00:17:10.500 me because I'm we're a person of color XYZ woman 00:17:10.500 --> 00:17:14.559 like literally anything or They specifically 00:17:14.559 --> 00:17:18.390 create content trying to get a rise out of you 00:17:18.390 --> 00:17:22.490 like rage bait. I've seen so many people fall 00:17:22.490 --> 00:17:26.730 for rage bait. Drama channels. Like drama channels 00:17:26.730 --> 00:17:30.190 or TikToks where they're like on the bigoted 00:17:30.190 --> 00:17:34.890 side of views and they just use bigoted buzzwords 00:17:34.890 --> 00:17:38.349 just to get engagement, just to get the comments 00:17:38.349 --> 00:17:41.430 really heating up. I forget the name of this 00:17:41.430 --> 00:17:44.160 content creator, which is... Unsurprising, because 00:17:44.160 --> 00:17:46.500 she was very unimportant. But there was this 00:17:46.500 --> 00:17:51.420 content creator on TikTok who basically was using 00:17:51.420 --> 00:17:56.579 all of these bigoted buzzwords in order to get 00:17:56.579 --> 00:18:00.740 Republican men to want to date her. She was basically 00:18:00.740 --> 00:18:04.440 the picnic girl for Republicans. She was taking 00:18:04.440 --> 00:18:08.519 applications? She just wanted to be seen by men 00:18:08.519 --> 00:18:11.900 and the mana sphere is very toxic. So she just 00:18:11.900 --> 00:18:15.160 fed into she was the woman who was like, yeah, 00:18:15.240 --> 00:18:18.359 I believe you're toxic views. And obviously that 00:18:18.359 --> 00:18:21.220 created rage bait and created content and just 00:18:21.220 --> 00:18:24.490 continued to write rank up. or money but that's 00:18:24.490 --> 00:18:26.990 what I mean by like rage bait is you do not have 00:18:26.990 --> 00:18:29.789 to engage with these people you don't have to 00:18:29.789 --> 00:18:32.390 comment you can literally just continue swiping 00:18:32.390 --> 00:18:35.309 in the case of instagram reels or tiktoks or 00:18:35.309 --> 00:18:37.630 shorts or whatever you can just keep going you're 00:18:37.630 --> 00:18:40.029 allowed to have your own mind and your own brain 00:18:40.029 --> 00:18:43.049 and use it it's fine you do not have to follow 00:18:43.049 --> 00:18:45.609 the herd it's yeah you don't and not everyone 00:18:45.609 --> 00:18:48.990 deserves a comment either like sometimes you 00:18:48.990 --> 00:18:53.150 can just mind your own business or not even mind 00:18:53.150 --> 00:18:57.069 your own business just like you know that what 00:18:57.069 --> 00:19:00.430 they're saying is bigoted and hateful and wrong 00:19:00.430 --> 00:19:04.029 you're not going to change them nor the hundreds 00:19:04.029 --> 00:19:07.009 of thousands of comments calling them out is 00:19:07.009 --> 00:19:09.390 going to change them because that's the content 00:19:09.390 --> 00:19:12.230 they're making is for rage bait because they 00:19:12.230 --> 00:19:14.309 want you to be angry they want you to engage 00:19:14.309 --> 00:19:19.069 so i feel like i'm a strong believer in Blocking 00:19:19.069 --> 00:19:21.829 people without a reason. Yeah, I say without 00:19:21.829 --> 00:19:24.630 a reason but if I don't like your content or 00:19:24.630 --> 00:19:28.950 if I'm like Hey, this content actually triggers 00:19:28.950 --> 00:19:32.309 me I'm just gonna block you from this part of 00:19:32.309 --> 00:19:34.829 the fandom that I'm in just so I don't have to 00:19:34.829 --> 00:19:37.509 see it Yeah, I'm a huge advocate for that They 00:19:37.509 --> 00:19:39.450 could be like the nicest person in the world, 00:19:39.490 --> 00:19:42.509 but I just don't I don't vibe with that content 00:19:42.509 --> 00:19:44.549 So I'm just gonna hit block and I'm not gonna 00:19:44.549 --> 00:19:48.269 talk to them. I'm not gonna see it It's so much, 00:19:48.630 --> 00:19:51.289 it feels like I have clear skin every time I 00:19:51.289 --> 00:19:53.390 do that because it's just like I'm minding my 00:19:53.390 --> 00:19:56.349 business. I'm protecting my energy. I'm protecting 00:19:56.349 --> 00:20:00.450 my space. And it's not, I'm trying to like not 00:20:00.450 --> 00:20:05.289 use the word safe space, but it's not like I'm 00:20:05.289 --> 00:20:09.609 trying to force everyone else to have the same 00:20:09.609 --> 00:20:12.549 space I'm in. It's catered to me. This is my 00:20:12.549 --> 00:20:16.119 section of the internet. And I have decided that 00:20:16.119 --> 00:20:18.880 I don't want to see any transphobes. I don't 00:20:18.880 --> 00:20:23.480 want to see any turfs. I don't want to see any 00:20:23.480 --> 00:20:26.500 weird, funky art styles I don't vibe with. It 00:20:26.500 --> 00:20:28.380 can just be personal opinion. It doesn't have 00:20:28.380 --> 00:20:30.619 to be the deepest cut in the world. It could 00:20:30.619 --> 00:20:33.039 literally be like, you know what? I actually 00:20:33.039 --> 00:20:35.460 find this person annoying. I'm just going to 00:20:35.460 --> 00:20:38.190 block them. It's not that deep. No, I don't even 00:20:38.190 --> 00:20:39.869 have to tell them that I'm blocking them because 00:20:39.869 --> 00:20:42.390 it doesn't matter. Or just don't follow them 00:20:42.390 --> 00:20:45.309 and be like, hide this content. Exactly. Hide 00:20:45.309 --> 00:20:48.089 this content is also a great way to do it because 00:20:48.089 --> 00:20:51.990 it's never as deep as everyone tries to make 00:20:51.990 --> 00:20:55.029 it out to be. And you're not like this special 00:20:55.029 --> 00:20:59.069 snowflake because you're catering your content 00:20:59.069 --> 00:21:01.450 to what you want. That's literally the point 00:21:01.450 --> 00:21:05.069 of an algorithm anyway. You're just helping it 00:21:05.069 --> 00:21:07.470 along by being like, I definitely don't want 00:21:07.470 --> 00:21:10.910 this. So don't show me that. I feel like it's 00:21:10.910 --> 00:21:14.509 something that is so simple that a lot of people 00:21:14.509 --> 00:21:18.849 treat as taboo or being a sissy or being like 00:21:18.849 --> 00:21:21.430 a coward or something like that where it's just, 00:21:21.630 --> 00:21:24.789 no, I'm just protecting my energy and I don't 00:21:24.789 --> 00:21:27.940 want to see that shit. when all I want is to 00:21:27.940 --> 00:21:30.859 see my two favorite gay boys kiss. That's it. 00:21:30.960 --> 00:21:32.819 That's all I want to see when I scroll through 00:21:32.819 --> 00:21:35.019 Tumblr is two gay boys kissing. I don't need 00:21:35.019 --> 00:21:38.859 to see all this other shit that I don't want 00:21:38.859 --> 00:21:40.880 to see. And I think, yeah, it goes back into 00:21:40.880 --> 00:21:43.160 that inclusion of people want to be a part of 00:21:43.160 --> 00:21:46.059 something bigger, and they don't want to be against 00:21:46.059 --> 00:21:48.380 something that's bigger because then they're 00:21:48.380 --> 00:21:51.279 outcasted. And then my piece is going to be disturbed 00:21:51.279 --> 00:21:55.319 because... People are disagreeing with me instead 00:21:55.319 --> 00:21:58.680 of agreeing with me. I'm not fitting in to this 00:21:58.680 --> 00:22:04.420 narrative and I found that even though it feels 00:22:04.420 --> 00:22:07.740 nice for a while to be involved in things where 00:22:07.740 --> 00:22:11.339 like you're in a community or you're sharing 00:22:11.339 --> 00:22:15.759 similar mindsets with people that maybe in the 00:22:15.759 --> 00:22:19.460 back of your mind you're like And you're like 00:22:19.460 --> 00:22:26.019 having second thoughts or maybe your own thoughts 00:22:26.019 --> 00:22:32.140 that differ from your friend's thoughts or the 00:22:32.140 --> 00:22:34.559 people that you follow, their thoughts. You're 00:22:34.559 --> 00:22:36.240 like, those are my friends and those are people 00:22:36.240 --> 00:22:38.500 I follow and these are the people that I want 00:22:38.500 --> 00:22:41.660 to be around. Because if you're listening to 00:22:41.660 --> 00:22:44.579 that little voice, in the back of your head that's 00:22:44.579 --> 00:22:47.079 nagging you and giving you that anxiety of, I 00:22:47.079 --> 00:22:50.380 don't fully support this or I don't fully agree 00:22:50.380 --> 00:22:53.799 with this, but I'm scared of being alone. I can 00:22:53.799 --> 00:22:59.319 tell you in my experience as a 33 year old woman 00:22:59.319 --> 00:23:03.279 that I have been isolated before and I have been 00:23:03.279 --> 00:23:06.880 parts of communities before and it does feel 00:23:06.880 --> 00:23:10.900 very... lonely when you're not a part of something, 00:23:11.059 --> 00:23:14.140 but it's also in a way, it's more peaceful when 00:23:14.140 --> 00:23:16.359 you don't feel like you need to answer to somebody 00:23:16.359 --> 00:23:20.359 or agree with them all the time. And you're able 00:23:20.359 --> 00:23:23.500 to make your own judgment and your own decision. 00:23:23.720 --> 00:23:27.440 And that gives you the power and gives you your 00:23:27.440 --> 00:23:30.519 own energy and your own peace back because eventually 00:23:30.519 --> 00:23:34.019 you're going to learn as you get older and as 00:23:34.019 --> 00:23:38.119 you grow and mature that... the right people 00:23:38.119 --> 00:23:41.640 that either share your mindset or are open to 00:23:41.640 --> 00:23:44.440 hearing your mindset and exchanging mindsets 00:23:44.440 --> 00:23:47.240 with you, even if they differ, they will come 00:23:47.240 --> 00:23:50.839 to you, even if it's just like one person. That's 00:23:50.839 --> 00:23:54.039 enough because you don't need to be a part of 00:23:54.039 --> 00:23:57.119 something big that you don't fully agree with 00:23:57.119 --> 00:24:00.839 just because you're afraid of being ostracized. 00:24:01.490 --> 00:24:04.410 You need to be true to yourself and that is the 00:24:04.410 --> 00:24:06.849 best way to protect your energy because if you're 00:24:06.849 --> 00:24:09.049 lying to yourself and you're giving into these 00:24:09.049 --> 00:24:13.549 narratives and you're Not doing what truly feels 00:24:13.549 --> 00:24:17.549 right for you That's gonna weigh on you for the 00:24:17.549 --> 00:24:20.210 rest of your life. It may not hit you now, but 00:24:20.210 --> 00:24:25.339 it'll hit you at some point It always does And 00:24:25.339 --> 00:24:27.480 at some point in your life, you'll come to the 00:24:27.480 --> 00:24:29.500 crossroads where you'll be like, okay, I need 00:24:29.500 --> 00:24:31.619 to make a decision, like how I'm going to live 00:24:31.619 --> 00:24:34.940 my life. And I can either continue down the path 00:24:34.940 --> 00:24:36.599 that I've been going where I'm comfortable. And 00:24:36.599 --> 00:24:39.940 I have all of these friends that I'm very popular, 00:24:39.940 --> 00:24:43.799 but I have some regrets or have things that they 00:24:43.799 --> 00:24:47.019 agree with that I don't. But it's easier to just 00:24:47.019 --> 00:24:50.779 stay there than starting over. Or I can start 00:24:50.779 --> 00:24:54.990 over and I can... really sit down with myself 00:24:54.990 --> 00:24:58.730 and think about what I want and what I believe 00:24:58.730 --> 00:25:02.950 and what my morals are. And maybe it'll be lonely 00:25:02.950 --> 00:25:05.970 for a little bit, but the right people will find 00:25:05.970 --> 00:25:11.549 you. And finding comfort within yourself, that's 00:25:11.549 --> 00:25:14.289 also going to bring a lot of peace to you, even 00:25:14.289 --> 00:25:16.990 if it doesn't seem like it will. It definitely 00:25:16.990 --> 00:25:20.470 will. and it'll help you be more okay with the 00:25:20.470 --> 00:25:23.170 silence and more okay with your own company. 00:25:23.509 --> 00:25:26.910 That's what makes you stronger and attracts better 00:25:26.910 --> 00:25:29.490 people to your life. Yeah, to add on to what 00:25:29.490 --> 00:25:33.430 you said about being okay with yourself, like 00:25:33.430 --> 00:25:37.910 just being present in yourself. There's so many 00:25:37.910 --> 00:25:40.849 distractions that I feel like we'd never check 00:25:40.849 --> 00:25:46.150 in with ourselves truly, because like... We never 00:25:46.150 --> 00:25:52.190 just take the moment to exist, to quiet all the 00:25:52.190 --> 00:25:55.029 noise, turn off social media, turn off YouTube, 00:25:55.869 --> 00:26:00.430 turn off music even, and just have 20 minutes 00:26:00.430 --> 00:26:04.309 where you just sit there and maybe like your 00:26:04.309 --> 00:26:08.269 house outside or you're sitting in your car during 00:26:08.269 --> 00:26:10.349 your lunch break and you're like, I just want 00:26:10.349 --> 00:26:15.619 to exist for a second. I just want to... Realize 00:26:15.619 --> 00:26:20.779 what do I want? What do you want for yourself? 00:26:21.380 --> 00:26:25.980 What does peace look like to you? Because it's 00:26:25.980 --> 00:26:34.420 so hard to really put emphasis on the self without 00:26:34.420 --> 00:26:40.700 being told that it's extremely selfish or extremely 00:26:40.700 --> 00:26:45.859 wrong or Too individualistic because that's I 00:26:45.859 --> 00:26:48.599 don't know if you were raised entirely in the 00:26:48.599 --> 00:26:52.240 American society or not, but I know that like 00:26:52.240 --> 00:26:55.559 in American society, we are very individualized. 00:26:56.140 --> 00:27:02.519 We are very like. Focusing on. Ourselves being 00:27:02.519 --> 00:27:05.819 perceived by everybody else in the grand scheme 00:27:05.819 --> 00:27:10.339 of things. What do I as a cog mean to the machine 00:27:10.339 --> 00:27:16.400 that is America? And sometimes it sucks to think 00:27:16.400 --> 00:27:20.819 about yourself as a cog in this machine that 00:27:20.819 --> 00:27:25.299 you may not even want to be doing the thing that 00:27:25.299 --> 00:27:27.400 you're doing. I personally don't want to be a 00:27:27.400 --> 00:27:30.660 cog. I want to be proud of myself. I want to 00:27:30.660 --> 00:27:34.440 have peace with who I am. Like you mentioned 00:27:34.440 --> 00:27:37.039 in a previous podcast episode, or may have just 00:27:37.039 --> 00:27:39.900 been in front of our conversations about defining 00:27:39.900 --> 00:27:44.079 success. and what that means to you personally. 00:27:44.940 --> 00:27:49.559 And that's a really hard question to answer because 00:27:49.559 --> 00:27:51.339 a lot of people will be like, oh, I want to have 00:27:51.339 --> 00:27:54.059 a career. I want to be married. I want to have 00:27:54.059 --> 00:27:56.880 a family, blah, blah, blah, blah. But even though 00:27:56.880 --> 00:27:59.799 I'm very young in the grand scheme of things, 00:27:59.799 --> 00:28:04.119 because I'm like, I'm only 26. So like, I still 00:28:04.119 --> 00:28:09.779 have 50 to 70 years left. There's a lot of years 00:28:09.779 --> 00:28:14.640 to be had. And even now, even as someone who's 00:28:14.640 --> 00:28:18.240 like a baby in the timeline of a human span, 00:28:18.660 --> 00:28:25.519 I feel so much failure because I didn't get my 00:28:25.519 --> 00:28:30.759 degree in four years. I don't have this big corporate 00:28:30.759 --> 00:28:33.839 career job. I have something that's the equivalent 00:28:33.839 --> 00:28:36.619 to retail, but I love it. It's still a good job. 00:28:36.619 --> 00:28:38.799 I like it. It's the least in my degree. That's 00:28:38.799 --> 00:28:42.099 another thing. is the excuse that I just about 00:28:42.099 --> 00:28:45.539 made about it being related to my degree is something 00:28:45.539 --> 00:28:49.720 that shouldn't matter to me. It shouldn't matter 00:28:49.720 --> 00:28:52.299 that my degree is being put to work. It shouldn't 00:28:52.299 --> 00:28:57.660 matter that I am not that well known as a freelance 00:28:57.660 --> 00:29:03.710 artist. It's not the success that I want. Yeah. 00:29:03.869 --> 00:29:06.650 I have these affirmative statements and I just 00:29:06.650 --> 00:29:09.109 believe it. And I'm just like, no, that's a failure. 00:29:09.109 --> 00:29:13.670 And it's like, I still have 50 to 70 years left 00:29:13.670 --> 00:29:16.730 to figure that out. Art could blow up and you're 00:29:16.730 --> 00:29:19.589 like 90 and you'd be like, cool, bro. Yeah, exactly. 00:29:19.890 --> 00:29:23.769 You never know. Yeah, exactly. And it's also 00:29:23.769 --> 00:29:26.549 just like the fact that like these well -known 00:29:26.549 --> 00:29:29.769 actors, Harrison Ford was a carpenter when he 00:29:29.769 --> 00:29:33.920 was 30 and Oprah Winfrey. she was fired before 00:29:33.920 --> 00:29:38.460 because she wasn't Oprah yet. Right. You're not 00:29:38.460 --> 00:29:43.500 the person you could be. You just continue to 00:29:43.500 --> 00:29:48.619 allow yourself to have this defined failures, 00:29:49.000 --> 00:29:51.960 I would say. Unrealistic expectations for yourself. 00:29:52.099 --> 00:29:57.980 Yeah, because it's like, there's no way that 00:29:57.980 --> 00:30:01.670 every person who quote unquote, has success when 00:30:01.670 --> 00:30:05.069 they're 26, when they're 30, is going to define 00:30:05.069 --> 00:30:09.390 that success when they are older. Or even just 00:30:09.390 --> 00:30:11.130 in this current moment, they would be like, oh, 00:30:11.130 --> 00:30:13.089 I need to be bigger. I need to be better. And 00:30:13.089 --> 00:30:19.190 it's like, sometimes it's OK to be satisfied 00:30:19.190 --> 00:30:25.009 with what you have. Yeah. And obviously. Do you 00:30:25.009 --> 00:30:27.390 got ambitions? Go for it. Like obviously, I want 00:30:27.390 --> 00:30:29.630 to be known for my art. I want to be able to 00:30:29.630 --> 00:30:33.049 just do art full time. Even if I don't get there, 00:30:33.329 --> 00:30:36.529 I should be able to be proud of my art and be 00:30:36.529 --> 00:30:39.109 proud of the work that I have done for people. 00:30:39.630 --> 00:30:42.549 Be proud of your growth too. The whole journey, 00:30:42.589 --> 00:30:46.009 not just the good parts. Like you can have massive 00:30:46.009 --> 00:30:50.970 failures and just... That helps set up the path 00:30:50.970 --> 00:30:54.130 for you to get to your success because the road 00:30:54.130 --> 00:30:56.630 to success is literally paved with all of your 00:30:56.630 --> 00:31:00.289 failures like you need those failures in order 00:31:00.289 --> 00:31:04.309 to Learn from them and be cognizant of them to 00:31:04.309 --> 00:31:06.349 then be like, oh, you know what? I did it that 00:31:06.349 --> 00:31:09.789 way that didn't work I'm gonna do it this way 00:31:09.789 --> 00:31:13.609 now and it's life is trial and error. So it's 00:31:13.609 --> 00:31:18.160 so unfair to do that to yourself which Like, 00:31:18.279 --> 00:31:20.259 when I was running my company, I was not paying 00:31:20.259 --> 00:31:23.420 attention to myself at all. I was in over my 00:31:23.420 --> 00:31:26.619 head. I was making bad decisions. Like, there 00:31:26.619 --> 00:31:29.440 was nothing ever malicious that happened. It's 00:31:29.440 --> 00:31:32.400 just, I didn't know what I was doing. I was so 00:31:32.400 --> 00:31:35.559 focused on numbers, performance, blah, blah, 00:31:35.559 --> 00:31:38.079 blah, everything that other people were in my 00:31:38.079 --> 00:31:42.369 ear about. Yeah. That... I just got so, like, 00:31:42.710 --> 00:31:45.369 confused and frazzled, and then I just made a 00:31:45.369 --> 00:31:47.410 lot of impulsive decisions and a lot of, I'll 00:31:47.410 --> 00:31:51.990 figure it out. And it was a massive... I wouldn't 00:31:51.990 --> 00:31:54.789 even... I don't even see it as a failure anymore. 00:31:54.869 --> 00:31:57.410 Like, I did it first when I first closed it. 00:31:57.730 --> 00:32:02.349 But it skyrocketed me into this new way of thinking, 00:32:02.430 --> 00:32:05.170 into really looking at myself as a person and 00:32:05.170 --> 00:32:09.450 being like, wow, I am a doormat. I need to stop 00:32:09.450 --> 00:32:13.660 that. because that's not serving me and that's 00:32:13.660 --> 00:32:16.940 making me do stupid shit that's not helping me 00:32:16.940 --> 00:32:21.039 get to where I need to be. So I need to stop. 00:32:21.920 --> 00:32:25.220 I need to fix it. And then I need to reassess 00:32:25.220 --> 00:32:28.940 and move forward because staying in a situation 00:32:28.940 --> 00:32:33.359 and in a spot or a mindset like that, it's going 00:32:33.359 --> 00:32:36.299 to eat you alive. Like in the moment, it's OK 00:32:36.299 --> 00:32:38.579 to feel those feelings. It's always OK to feel 00:32:38.579 --> 00:32:41.299 your feelings. You just have to make sure that 00:32:41.299 --> 00:32:43.539 you move on from that and that you grow from 00:32:43.539 --> 00:32:46.519 them and you don't let those moments define you 00:32:46.519 --> 00:32:49.640 or let other people let those moments define 00:32:49.640 --> 00:32:54.160 you. Like, you can't do that to yourself because 00:32:54.160 --> 00:32:58.380 you are an ever evolving person and human that's 00:32:58.380 --> 00:33:01.380 gonna make mistakes and is gonna do stupid shit. 00:33:01.779 --> 00:33:04.420 And as long as you're not going out of your way 00:33:04.420 --> 00:33:09.079 to hurt people on purpose, You have room to grow 00:33:09.079 --> 00:33:12.519 everybody has room to grow and it's really unfair 00:33:12.519 --> 00:33:15.940 For you to try to take that away from yourself 00:33:15.940 --> 00:33:20.460 Yeah And I like you know, I totally agree with 00:33:20.460 --> 00:33:23.720 that and to add on it's the whole idea of self 00:33:23.720 --> 00:33:27.720 deprecating yourself. Yeah based off of past 00:33:27.720 --> 00:33:32.460 mistakes or just like Comparing yourself to others. 00:33:32.460 --> 00:33:37.049 It's not a motivator. A lot of people think If 00:33:37.049 --> 00:33:41.210 you continue to hold this guilt, it'll motivate 00:33:41.210 --> 00:33:44.910 you to be better. It'll motivate you to want 00:33:44.910 --> 00:33:49.950 to draw more, or it'll motivate you to, I don't 00:33:49.950 --> 00:33:54.089 know, just keep it in your head forever. Doing 00:33:54.089 --> 00:33:59.829 great, sweetie. Thanks, mom. I imagine that with 00:33:59.829 --> 00:34:03.069 your company, a lot of people want you to feel 00:34:03.069 --> 00:34:07.500 the guilt of not succeeding. But a lot of people 00:34:07.500 --> 00:34:10.760 want you to feel that guilt forever. And that's 00:34:10.760 --> 00:34:15.280 not productive to anybody. There's so many companies 00:34:15.280 --> 00:34:18.679 that have failed, have picked themselves up, 00:34:18.920 --> 00:34:21.219 rebranded, and started again. And that does make 00:34:21.219 --> 00:34:24.739 them failures. That just makes them people who 00:34:24.739 --> 00:34:28.519 have learned, grabbed their shit, and we're like, 00:34:28.539 --> 00:34:31.519 let's try again. There's no guilt in failure. 00:34:31.599 --> 00:34:37.380 There's no guilt in wanting, like, in the example 00:34:37.380 --> 00:34:41.199 of art. Someone can be a tracer, right? Someone 00:34:41.199 --> 00:34:45.219 who traces artwork and posts it online. I don't 00:34:45.219 --> 00:34:49.219 think a person should be known for tracing forever. 00:34:49.659 --> 00:34:53.139 Tracing is a tool in some cases for artists to 00:34:53.139 --> 00:34:56.900 get better. And there's nothing wrong with that. 00:34:57.039 --> 00:34:59.719 No one should have the guilt of being a tracer 00:34:59.719 --> 00:35:02.539 over their head forever. Same with having a failed 00:35:02.539 --> 00:35:07.190 business or having Failed relationship or being 00:35:07.190 --> 00:35:10.670 a cheater like all that stuff if you genuinely 00:35:10.670 --> 00:35:17.090 Feel bad for what you did. Yeah, you should be 00:35:17.090 --> 00:35:20.750 able to let go of that guilt for yourself at 00:35:20.750 --> 00:35:26.329 least yeah and Move forward because I'm I don't 00:35:26.329 --> 00:35:31.010 think it's very fair to yourself to hold all 00:35:31.010 --> 00:35:34.230 this guilt Just so that way you can feel like 00:35:34.230 --> 00:35:37.949 a martyr of sorts being like, oh, I'm so strong 00:35:37.949 --> 00:35:41.369 because I'm carrying all this guilt No, Jimmy, 00:35:41.409 --> 00:35:44.250 you're just not doing art anymore. And here's 00:35:44.250 --> 00:35:47.769 the thing. It's nobody's fucking business. Yes 00:35:47.769 --> 00:35:51.449 Like your growth and your journey is your growth 00:35:51.449 --> 00:35:54.010 in your journey If it's online, obviously people 00:35:54.010 --> 00:35:55.489 are gonna see it. Don't put things out there 00:35:55.489 --> 00:35:58.510 online. These people are gonna see it. Okay Thanks, 00:35:59.110 --> 00:36:01.920 Gerald I don't, what if I just wanted to share 00:36:01.920 --> 00:36:03.780 my passions with the world and it just ended 00:36:03.780 --> 00:36:07.480 up not working out? It doesn't mean that at that 00:36:07.480 --> 00:36:11.519 point, like you have to do things, whether it's 00:36:11.519 --> 00:36:14.239 in the public eye or not, whether it's just in 00:36:14.239 --> 00:36:16.820 your own personal life with your career. Like 00:36:16.820 --> 00:36:20.619 when I, I did not have a good track record with 00:36:20.619 --> 00:36:24.440 jobs and longevity at jobs because of my medical 00:36:24.440 --> 00:36:26.840 disability and most jobs wouldn't work with me. 00:36:27.159 --> 00:36:29.900 So. I had to explain that to a lot of jobs where 00:36:29.900 --> 00:36:31.780 they're like oh why were you only here for a 00:36:31.780 --> 00:36:33.400 couple months and then there for a couple months 00:36:33.400 --> 00:36:38.539 and I'm like because I get sick very easily I'm 00:36:38.539 --> 00:36:41.800 sick very often I'm sick right now as we're recording 00:36:41.800 --> 00:36:46.440 I'm sweating and trying not to pass out but I'm 00:36:46.440 --> 00:36:50.800 here but that's the thing is like I push myself 00:36:50.800 --> 00:36:56.929 so hard and it really It was, when I was working 00:36:56.929 --> 00:36:59.590 full -time and running the company, it was, my 00:36:59.590 --> 00:37:02.590 health was getting so much worse because I was 00:37:02.590 --> 00:37:05.070 like, I would imagine so. Oh my God. Like I already 00:37:05.070 --> 00:37:07.449 have a chronic illness girl. Calm down. What 00:37:07.449 --> 00:37:10.250 are you doing? And it's because I wanted to be 00:37:10.250 --> 00:37:14.070 so much to prove the people that told me I couldn't 00:37:14.070 --> 00:37:18.570 do it wrong to in my, again, in my head from 00:37:18.570 --> 00:37:21.929 the core of my being, I always came from a place. 00:37:22.559 --> 00:37:25.500 of caring and wanting to make things better for 00:37:25.500 --> 00:37:28.699 the creative world, I take on way too much. And 00:37:28.699 --> 00:37:32.139 I have way too big ambitions and aspirations 00:37:32.139 --> 00:37:35.639 for myself sometimes, like I'm a dreamer. And 00:37:35.639 --> 00:37:40.920 all of that really came tumbling down because 00:37:40.920 --> 00:37:44.659 I was not being realistic with myself about it. 00:37:44.800 --> 00:37:47.920 And not taking the time to sit with myself, I 00:37:47.920 --> 00:37:52.139 was just go. And it just constantly made me sicker 00:37:52.139 --> 00:37:54.599 and sicker. And unfortunately with the chronic 00:37:54.599 --> 00:37:58.639 illness, I was screwing myself over more because 00:37:58.639 --> 00:38:03.420 now I'm at a worse place with my illness than 00:38:03.420 --> 00:38:06.139 I was before I started my company because of 00:38:06.139 --> 00:38:09.699 all of that. But it's all, it's all a learning 00:38:09.699 --> 00:38:15.079 process and it's okay to not be where you want 00:38:15.079 --> 00:38:17.739 to be. It's okay to not reach your goals or your 00:38:17.739 --> 00:38:21.980 dreams. What's not okay is going out of your 00:38:21.980 --> 00:38:24.639 way to hurt people so you feel better about yourself. 00:38:25.099 --> 00:38:27.679 Or going out of your way to do horrible things 00:38:27.679 --> 00:38:30.059 and never learning from them and never doing 00:38:30.059 --> 00:38:32.179 anything to redeem yourself or better yourself. 00:38:32.360 --> 00:38:35.519 It's never okay to tear other people down for 00:38:35.519 --> 00:38:38.460 your own gain. It's never okay to be that kind 00:38:38.460 --> 00:38:40.900 of person who is so miserable within themselves. 00:38:40.980 --> 00:38:44.079 That's how you sleep well at night. I can't understand 00:38:44.079 --> 00:38:49.269 that. And for me, like... The whole thing that 00:38:49.269 --> 00:38:52.809 happened with my company is that taught me that 00:38:52.809 --> 00:38:56.510 I was going too fast and I just needed to stop 00:38:56.510 --> 00:39:00.010 because I was living, regardless of what anybody 00:39:00.010 --> 00:39:02.429 says about me, I don't fucking care. I know who 00:39:02.429 --> 00:39:06.449 I am. I know what my intentions were. And the 00:39:06.449 --> 00:39:09.250 thing is, I always came from a place of... Oh, 00:39:09.289 --> 00:39:11.030 I like this person. This person's talented. Let 00:39:11.030 --> 00:39:12.769 me see if I can incorporate them in some way. 00:39:12.949 --> 00:39:14.369 Let me see if I can do this. Let me see if I 00:39:14.369 --> 00:39:17.369 can do that. And coming from a place of wanting 00:39:17.369 --> 00:39:19.449 to celebrate not just my creative talent, but 00:39:19.449 --> 00:39:23.010 other people's talent as well, it's just I didn't 00:39:23.010 --> 00:39:25.510 have the business know -how or experience or 00:39:25.510 --> 00:39:29.389 money management skills. And at the end of the 00:39:29.389 --> 00:39:34.789 day, it didn't work. And I paid everything I 00:39:34.789 --> 00:39:38.599 needed to pay, closed it down. which was my decision, 00:39:38.679 --> 00:39:43.519 nobody else's. And then after that, I sat with 00:39:43.519 --> 00:39:48.019 that. And my energy, my peace was very disturbed 00:39:48.019 --> 00:39:51.780 at the end of this. But I had to sit with that. 00:39:51.920 --> 00:39:54.519 I went to therapy. I talked to my therapist about 00:39:54.519 --> 00:39:59.599 it. And after a little while, I just started 00:39:59.599 --> 00:40:02.789 feeling lighter. because I wasn't doing it anymore 00:40:02.789 --> 00:40:05.110 and I didn't have those expectations, not from 00:40:05.110 --> 00:40:08.269 other, even from other people on me, but expectations 00:40:08.269 --> 00:40:13.309 on myself that were unrealistic. And I still 00:40:13.309 --> 00:40:15.829 don't consider that a failure. I consider it 00:40:15.829 --> 00:40:20.670 a huge life lesson for me. And I'm still gonna 00:40:20.670 --> 00:40:22.710 celebrate my creative passions. I'm still gonna 00:40:22.710 --> 00:40:25.010 try to get my stories out there. I'm always gonna 00:40:25.010 --> 00:40:28.090 try to find a way to be creative. And no one 00:40:28.090 --> 00:40:31.480 can take that away from me. No one should because 00:40:31.480 --> 00:40:36.159 as people we have the right to protect our energy 00:40:36.159 --> 00:40:39.679 and our peace and know that we know who we are 00:40:39.679 --> 00:40:41.659 as people and the people that are around you 00:40:41.659 --> 00:40:44.260 know who you are know where your intentions are 00:40:44.260 --> 00:40:46.260 it's people that don't know you that are making 00:40:46.260 --> 00:40:48.659 assumptions and that really have something that 00:40:48.659 --> 00:40:52.519 they need to work on within themselves and go 00:40:52.519 --> 00:40:57.260 to therapy to work on that because for me I firmly 00:40:57.260 --> 00:40:59.659 believe in every single life lesson that you 00:40:59.659 --> 00:41:02.900 get is moving you towards something better. As 00:41:02.900 --> 00:41:06.280 long as you're able to get through it and reflect 00:41:06.280 --> 00:41:09.860 and take accountability and say, oh yeah, that 00:41:09.860 --> 00:41:11.880 didn't work and this is what I did wrong. These 00:41:11.880 --> 00:41:14.199 are the things I did incorrectly and then I need 00:41:14.199 --> 00:41:17.219 to change. And then this is what I'm gonna do 00:41:17.219 --> 00:41:21.780 differently next time. Coming. from a problem 00:41:21.780 --> 00:41:24.360 -solving mindset, similar to the first episode 00:41:24.360 --> 00:41:26.420 that we did on the podcast, where, what's my 00:41:26.420 --> 00:41:29.619 objective? Stuart said. And it can sound cold, 00:41:29.639 --> 00:41:34.199 but what am I trying to do? And am I doing this 00:41:34.199 --> 00:41:36.059 for myself or am I doing this for other people? 00:41:36.159 --> 00:41:39.539 I need to live my life for myself, not for others, 00:41:39.579 --> 00:41:41.639 because I can't constantly be trying to please 00:41:41.639 --> 00:41:45.960 other people. It's unrealistic. Yeah. So your 00:41:45.960 --> 00:41:50.389 growth and your success... at the very core should 00:41:50.389 --> 00:41:54.590 come with the very first thing to know that you've 00:41:54.590 --> 00:41:57.969 been successful is knowing that you were growing 00:41:57.969 --> 00:42:00.329 as a person and you were learning from your mistakes. 00:42:00.769 --> 00:42:04.389 That is number one. If you can't take accountability 00:42:04.389 --> 00:42:06.630 and you can't look at yourself and your actions 00:42:06.630 --> 00:42:10.570 and say, oh, you know what? Yeah, fucked up there. 00:42:11.929 --> 00:42:15.650 And use that to make it better, then that's a 00:42:15.650 --> 00:42:19.179 problem. But should those moments in your life 00:42:19.179 --> 00:42:23.159 define you forever? No. A lot of celebrities 00:42:23.159 --> 00:42:25.519 talk about cancel culture, which we also talked 00:42:25.519 --> 00:42:28.039 about. And I feel like everything kind of ties 00:42:28.039 --> 00:42:30.300 in at the same time with protecting your peace 00:42:30.300 --> 00:42:33.760 and energy because it's like the way that you 00:42:33.760 --> 00:42:36.239 protect your peace and energy is not letting 00:42:36.239 --> 00:42:39.800 other people decide where you put your peace 00:42:39.800 --> 00:42:44.070 and your energy. You decide. And as long as, 00:42:44.070 --> 00:42:45.590 like I said, you're not going out of your way 00:42:45.590 --> 00:42:47.829 to hurt people on purpose and being a malicious 00:42:47.829 --> 00:42:51.989 person or an evil person, that's completely different. 00:42:52.230 --> 00:42:54.670 There are people out there like that and they're 00:42:54.670 --> 00:42:57.710 completely separate from this conversation. Yeah, 00:42:57.809 --> 00:43:00.670 that's not protecting your energy. That's being 00:43:00.670 --> 00:43:03.969 a fucking asshole. Yes. You are not protecting 00:43:03.969 --> 00:43:06.730 yourself by attacking people. You are not protecting 00:43:06.730 --> 00:43:11.780 yourself by instigating... Conflicts by calling 00:43:11.780 --> 00:43:15.980 people out for minor mistakes that can just be 00:43:15.980 --> 00:43:19.440 in the DMS or like the hatchet is already buried 00:43:19.440 --> 00:43:22.980 Why are we talking about the hatchet like? Right 00:43:22.980 --> 00:43:27.280 there protecting your energy Does not mean you 00:43:27.280 --> 00:43:31.059 should go instigate and damage the energy of 00:43:31.059 --> 00:43:34.179 somebody else, right? You are protecting yourself. 00:43:34.179 --> 00:43:38.610 You're being a warmonger and you're Not nice 00:43:38.610 --> 00:43:41.329 word. Okay, you're gonna have to bleep that. 00:43:41.550 --> 00:43:45.150 Yeah, it's pride month I'm allowed you get one 00:43:45.150 --> 00:43:46.969 you get one, but I'm gonna have to bleep it. 00:43:47.010 --> 00:43:50.829 Sorry dusty Okay in case Google day, you can't 00:43:50.829 --> 00:43:54.090 say that word on a podcast. Okay fine. See you 00:43:54.090 --> 00:43:57.710 next time figure it out. Yeah, see you next Thursday 00:43:57.710 --> 00:44:02.230 We all know what I'm spelling right, but yeah, 00:44:02.389 --> 00:44:07.650 you are not protecting your energy by being a 00:44:07.650 --> 00:44:14.530 terrible person by just... Like you said, there's 00:44:14.530 --> 00:44:17.570 no way that you could protect your peace or your 00:44:17.570 --> 00:44:20.670 energy by being hateful to somebody else. There 00:44:20.670 --> 00:44:23.710 is no way that anyone would feel better about 00:44:23.710 --> 00:44:26.090 that. Because those people don't have peace. 00:44:26.389 --> 00:44:28.869 And it's not going to bring you more peace to 00:44:28.869 --> 00:44:31.690 tear other people down. You might feel high and 00:44:31.690 --> 00:44:35.010 mighty for a little bit. You might get... a high 00:44:35.010 --> 00:44:37.250 off of being like, oh, I'm part of something, 00:44:37.349 --> 00:44:40.130 but it's going to come to an end as everything 00:44:40.130 --> 00:44:42.949 does. And eventually you're alone with yourself 00:44:42.949 --> 00:44:46.070 looking in the mirror and you're like, okay, 00:44:47.710 --> 00:44:50.849 something's got to give. And in order for you 00:44:50.849 --> 00:44:53.829 to have peace and to surround yourself with good 00:44:53.829 --> 00:44:56.579 people who share that peace, You have to have 00:44:56.579 --> 00:44:59.019 that peace within yourself first. Like you... 00:44:59.019 --> 00:45:00.980 I'm not sitting here on this podcast with Gabe 00:45:00.980 --> 00:45:04.079 being like, I'm a martyr and I'm perfect. No, 00:45:04.079 --> 00:45:07.480 I am a good person who has made a shitload of 00:45:07.480 --> 00:45:10.679 mistakes. So many fucking mistakes. I have done 00:45:10.679 --> 00:45:14.460 really stupid things that I could have just been 00:45:14.460 --> 00:45:16.380 like, yeah, you know what? I would have been 00:45:16.380 --> 00:45:18.539 better off just not doing that. But I wanted 00:45:18.539 --> 00:45:21.059 to try. I wanted to have these experiences. And 00:45:21.059 --> 00:45:23.059 that's what happens when you live your life. 00:45:23.139 --> 00:45:26.019 Like you do things that... work out or they don't. 00:45:26.199 --> 00:45:28.780 But I have never gone on in my way to hurt somebody 00:45:28.780 --> 00:45:31.400 on purpose and just to be like, oh, because I 00:45:31.400 --> 00:45:33.780 just want to feel like I did something. Like, 00:45:34.099 --> 00:45:37.139 you don't have peace in your heart or in your 00:45:37.139 --> 00:45:40.059 life if that's what you're doing. There needs 00:45:40.059 --> 00:45:44.059 to be a lot of soul searching and emotional maturity 00:45:44.059 --> 00:45:47.480 that happens for you to even get to the point 00:45:47.480 --> 00:45:51.199 of having any peace come into your life. And 00:45:51.199 --> 00:45:53.579 if you're somebody that's contributing to that, 00:45:54.289 --> 00:45:57.269 You're not allowing yourself peace. The peace 00:45:57.269 --> 00:46:01.250 is there for you to take, but you need to be 00:46:01.250 --> 00:46:05.489 able to sit alone with yourself and really look 00:46:05.489 --> 00:46:09.010 at things objectively and not from the voices 00:46:09.010 --> 00:46:13.250 from other people, but look at it and see what 00:46:13.250 --> 00:46:16.150 you think about it. You and your own morals and 00:46:16.150 --> 00:46:19.010 your own mind, you are allowed to have your own 00:46:19.010 --> 00:46:21.150 opinions. You are allowed to think for yourself. 00:46:21.710 --> 00:46:23.949 I promise you, you are allowed. That's why we 00:46:23.949 --> 00:46:25.969 are given free thought. You know what I mean? 00:46:26.210 --> 00:46:32.329 So it's there. Use it. And don't let other people 00:46:32.329 --> 00:46:37.030 constantly control you because the world is so 00:46:37.030 --> 00:46:40.429 obsessed with controlling and being controlled 00:46:40.429 --> 00:46:45.090 and being contained in something for safety. 00:46:45.489 --> 00:46:47.590 Like you're in this box or this box for safety. 00:46:47.949 --> 00:46:53.139 That's no way to live your life. So Would you 00:46:53.139 --> 00:46:57.079 rather challenge the narrative and grow and then 00:46:57.079 --> 00:47:01.199 become a better person to teach others about 00:47:01.199 --> 00:47:03.920 your failures and your slip -ups like I'm trying 00:47:03.920 --> 00:47:07.780 to do? That way I can help others hopefully who 00:47:07.780 --> 00:47:11.719 listen to this podcast be like, oh, owning up 00:47:11.719 --> 00:47:14.420 to your shit isn't a horrible thing to do. It's 00:47:14.420 --> 00:47:16.440 actually something that helps you in the long 00:47:16.440 --> 00:47:20.179 run to not continuously make the same mistakes, 00:47:20.639 --> 00:47:25.179 to see Wow, I'm in a way different spot now than 00:47:25.179 --> 00:47:28.719 I was before I met my wife. Oh my God. Don't 00:47:28.719 --> 00:47:32.559 even talk to me six years ago, Rain. Please. 00:47:32.860 --> 00:47:35.599 Like, I will talk to her. Like hug your inner 00:47:35.599 --> 00:47:37.860 child, hug your past selves and stuff like that. 00:47:38.539 --> 00:47:42.760 But it's, you have to have that moment of I've 00:47:42.760 --> 00:47:45.940 come so far and I've learned so much, no matter 00:47:45.940 --> 00:47:50.110 how long it's taken me. to realize that your 00:47:50.110 --> 00:47:53.130 energy and peace is now finally settling into 00:47:53.130 --> 00:47:57.849 the right place. Those things had to happen for 00:47:57.849 --> 00:48:00.550 you to get to this point. It's all leading you 00:48:00.550 --> 00:48:04.969 to a point of, are you going to continue down 00:48:04.969 --> 00:48:09.150 this path or are you going to learn and grow 00:48:09.150 --> 00:48:13.719 and continue challenging yourself as well? To 00:48:13.719 --> 00:48:16.219 be the best version of yourself and to continue 00:48:16.219 --> 00:48:18.539 growing into that best version of yourself Because 00:48:18.539 --> 00:48:20.780 we're going to learn until the day we die. We're 00:48:20.780 --> 00:48:24.780 never gonna be too old To learn something new 00:48:24.780 --> 00:48:30.880 or to be better It's just You're never too old. 00:48:31.400 --> 00:48:37.300 Yeah, that's not a thing so Try to really my 00:48:37.300 --> 00:48:41.300 advice for finding your peace and protecting 00:48:41.300 --> 00:48:45.920 it and protecting your energy is learning to 00:48:45.920 --> 00:48:51.340 be lonely without other people, but having the 00:48:51.340 --> 00:48:54.079 company with yourself where you can have those 00:48:54.079 --> 00:48:56.480 conversations and you can look within yourself. 00:48:56.480 --> 00:48:59.099 It's like shadow work and spirituality. If you 00:48:59.099 --> 00:49:01.719 go to therapy, awesome. If not, highly recommend 00:49:01.719 --> 00:49:05.179 it. That's one thing that you can do to really 00:49:05.179 --> 00:49:07.460 have them challenge your way of thinking. A good 00:49:07.460 --> 00:49:09.719 therapist is going to challenge your way of thinking. 00:49:10.090 --> 00:49:12.829 And it is going to be like, so what do you think 00:49:12.829 --> 00:49:17.050 they feel? Like helping you to have that empathy, 00:49:17.170 --> 00:49:22.630 helping you to realize that without empathy for 00:49:22.630 --> 00:49:25.869 others, you're never going to really know what 00:49:25.869 --> 00:49:29.750 it's like to have peace for yourself. If that 00:49:29.750 --> 00:49:35.929 makes sense. It does. So that's my spiel. I'll 00:49:35.929 --> 00:49:37.849 give it back over to Gabe because I went on another 00:49:37.849 --> 00:49:41.440 long rant. Thank you for the baton. And now I'm 00:49:41.440 --> 00:49:45.039 thirsty and I'm going to drink my big 64 ounce 00:49:45.039 --> 00:49:50.980 gallon of water thing. Sorry, that was so much 00:49:50.980 --> 00:49:54.380 and I was so into it. I was totally paying attention. 00:49:54.659 --> 00:49:59.219 I was just like, oh, what do I talk about? I 00:49:59.219 --> 00:50:05.000 love your thoughts. My thoughts had empty. Smooth 00:50:05.000 --> 00:50:08.500 brain. Smooth brain. That's me. I really use 00:50:08.500 --> 00:50:11.099 like that sometimes. Honestly, I'm flying by 00:50:11.099 --> 00:50:14.960 the seat of my pants. Okay. Aren't we all? There 00:50:14.960 --> 00:50:16.880 you go. That's how you protect your energy. Yeah. 00:50:17.019 --> 00:50:19.480 Fly by the seat of your pants. Just hang on for 00:50:19.480 --> 00:50:22.780 dear life, man. Yeah. And also don't be afraid 00:50:22.780 --> 00:50:25.079 of being cringe. I feel like that's another thing 00:50:25.079 --> 00:50:29.719 is there's so much self -shame about your interests 00:50:29.719 --> 00:50:33.119 or the fact that you draw silly anime figures 00:50:33.119 --> 00:50:36.139 or you write little stories. Let people enjoy 00:50:36.139 --> 00:50:41.309 shit. God damn it. Exactly. Fucking haters. Get 00:50:41.309 --> 00:50:44.989 into that crunchy mic and just say it. But yeah, 00:50:44.989 --> 00:50:47.889 let people be cringe. Let yourself be cringe 00:50:47.889 --> 00:50:51.389 for sure. Like life is way too short to not be 00:50:51.389 --> 00:50:54.929 cringe. Dad does a fucking rat dance. What does 00:50:54.929 --> 00:50:58.989 that mean? How am I supposed to conceptualize 00:50:58.989 --> 00:51:03.329 that? I'm so sorry to interrupt you, but it popped 00:51:03.329 --> 00:51:07.360 into my fucking head. My dad. If he's listening 00:51:07.360 --> 00:51:08.960 to this, he's going to text me and be like, why 00:51:08.960 --> 00:51:10.860 would you expose me like that? And I'll be like, 00:51:10.860 --> 00:51:12.940 I'm sorry, it had to be said. The world needed 00:51:12.940 --> 00:51:15.280 to know all 20 people in the world needed to 00:51:15.280 --> 00:51:18.059 know. But if I was depressed, like sometimes 00:51:18.059 --> 00:51:20.260 he would do like really stupid things. And I 00:51:20.260 --> 00:51:22.380 was younger, even as an adult, because it would 00:51:22.380 --> 00:51:25.519 be much more cringy now as an adult, but he put 00:51:25.519 --> 00:51:29.579 like his hands like to his mouth and dance around. 00:51:29.800 --> 00:51:31.960 And I was like, you're the weirdest man I've 00:51:31.960 --> 00:51:36.820 ever met in my life. But I laughed. Like, big 00:51:36.820 --> 00:51:39.559 belly laughs every time, even though I was like, 00:51:40.019 --> 00:51:43.679 you're so stupid. See, that's a guy protecting 00:51:43.679 --> 00:51:48.260 his fucking piece. He's in his 70s now, and he's 00:51:48.260 --> 00:51:50.460 still... When babies come into the office and 00:51:50.460 --> 00:51:52.380 they're afraid of getting their shots, like, 00:51:52.519 --> 00:51:54.420 he'll, like, hold them and make a moonwalk on 00:51:54.420 --> 00:51:58.239 the table. Oh, my God. He'll distract them, and 00:51:58.239 --> 00:52:02.329 I'm like, this man... is forever gonna be a child 00:52:02.329 --> 00:52:05.570 at heart. And it's cringey as his daughter, but 00:52:05.570 --> 00:52:09.650 at the same time, I wouldn't have him any other 00:52:09.650 --> 00:52:13.690 way. And it's, you know, it's so silly and fun 00:52:13.690 --> 00:52:17.909 and just let yourself have fun. You're not hurting 00:52:17.909 --> 00:52:20.809 anybody. Do silly things, make people laugh. 00:52:20.989 --> 00:52:24.429 Yeah, definitely be yourself for sure. Have fun. 00:52:25.130 --> 00:52:30.440 Be unapologetically cringe or... weird or silly 00:52:30.440 --> 00:52:37.219 just to be yourself. That's entirely so fucking 00:52:37.219 --> 00:52:41.940 important. Not in a malicious way. No. Never 00:52:41.940 --> 00:52:45.679 in a malicious way. Don't be cringe to the point 00:52:45.679 --> 00:52:48.539 of being an asshole. If you're just having fun 00:52:48.539 --> 00:52:50.940 and you're like, yeah, I'm going to make this 00:52:50.940 --> 00:52:56.239 Mary Sue insert OC into my favorite media. I'll 00:52:56.239 --> 00:52:59.460 be like, yeah, man. Do it. Fuck it, everyone 00:52:59.460 --> 00:53:02.860 likes her. It's just for fun. Just let people 00:53:02.860 --> 00:53:04.840 enjoy what they enjoy. Why are you hating on 00:53:04.840 --> 00:53:07.320 people for things that they enjoy, like the fandoms 00:53:07.320 --> 00:53:10.900 in the world? Yeah. There's so much hate. Oh 00:53:10.900 --> 00:53:13.780 my god, I hate this panel. Can you just let somebody 00:53:13.780 --> 00:53:17.639 like a piece of media without being villainized? 00:53:17.780 --> 00:53:20.059 Are you really that insecure and miserable in 00:53:20.059 --> 00:53:22.119 your own life that you don't want other people 00:53:22.119 --> 00:53:25.030 to enjoy things that make them happy? New topic 00:53:25.030 --> 00:53:29.730 idea, we just talk about fandoms. Honestly, we're 00:53:29.730 --> 00:53:32.590 literally a couple episodes away from the finale. 00:53:33.150 --> 00:53:35.809 Maybe fandoms is the finale. That would be cool. 00:53:36.230 --> 00:53:38.730 I'd be down for that. Oh my gosh, I could talk 00:53:38.730 --> 00:53:42.570 about so many. I'm not a part of a lot of fandoms, 00:53:42.610 --> 00:53:46.369 but I've dabbled in different fandoms, but I 00:53:46.369 --> 00:53:49.719 don't ever get hardcore into it. because hardcore 00:53:49.719 --> 00:53:53.900 fandoms scare me. Oh, absolutely. But I see it 00:53:53.900 --> 00:53:58.699 a lot, and so I do have thoughts. Speaking of 00:53:58.699 --> 00:54:01.320 thoughts, let's talk about the end of them. Yes, 00:54:01.360 --> 00:54:06.000 the ending thoughts. My ending thought is that 00:54:06.000 --> 00:54:08.079 protecting your peace and your energy looks different 00:54:08.079 --> 00:54:10.519 for everybody based on your needs, based on your 00:54:10.519 --> 00:54:13.239 upbringing, your environment, your access to 00:54:13.239 --> 00:54:18.099 resources around you that'll be helpful. Ultimately, 00:54:18.099 --> 00:54:22.280 try to be a better person every day. Try to challenge 00:54:22.280 --> 00:54:25.940 yourself in the way that you think every day. 00:54:26.400 --> 00:54:29.579 Try to get others' opinions around you and hopefully 00:54:29.579 --> 00:54:31.440 you have people around you that can challenge 00:54:31.440 --> 00:54:34.659 your way of thinking or can be like, hey, why 00:54:34.659 --> 00:54:36.639 don't we look at, I'm not saying you're wrong. 00:54:36.800 --> 00:54:39.300 I'm just saying, let's look at all different 00:54:39.300 --> 00:54:41.860 sides and perspectives. That way you have a more 00:54:41.860 --> 00:54:46.949 rounded idea and complete idea of the situation 00:54:46.949 --> 00:54:49.869 rather than it being so narrowly like you have 00:54:49.869 --> 00:54:52.809 blinders on because that's not a way to live 00:54:52.809 --> 00:54:55.570 and that's not a way to give back to the people 00:54:55.570 --> 00:55:00.010 that are around you. So my biggest advice is 00:55:00.010 --> 00:55:03.010 you have to work on yourself in order for you 00:55:03.010 --> 00:55:07.449 to have peace in your life and be something peaceful 00:55:07.449 --> 00:55:11.039 for others and offer good energy to others. You 00:55:11.039 --> 00:55:12.980 have to take care of yourself first. You have 00:55:12.980 --> 00:55:15.719 to put the oxygen mask on first before you help 00:55:15.719 --> 00:55:18.159 somebody else. You got to give yourself that 00:55:18.159 --> 00:55:22.440 air before you help somebody else. So be kind 00:55:22.440 --> 00:55:26.599 to yourself, be kind to others, and try to always 00:55:26.599 --> 00:55:30.800 do better than you were the day before. Herd. 00:55:31.219 --> 00:55:35.179 Yes. Yay, cheers, and they're screaming and stuff. 00:55:35.300 --> 00:55:36.960 I'm pretty sure you have to give your closing 00:55:36.960 --> 00:55:39.360 thoughts too. You don't just get out of it. But 00:55:39.360 --> 00:55:42.800 no, oh, look, it's time. Oh, great. Anyway, you 00:55:42.800 --> 00:55:45.619 can support us on Patreon. No, I'm kidding. Okay, 00:55:45.820 --> 00:55:51.579 my ending thoughts are like flatline noise. Okay, 00:55:52.519 --> 00:55:57.500 be present. Just take the time to just exist. 00:55:58.219 --> 00:56:00.280 I recommend 20 minutes a day. Just don't look 00:56:00.280 --> 00:56:02.340 at your phone. Don't listen to music if you could 00:56:02.340 --> 00:56:06.719 help it. And just exist wherever you are for 00:56:06.719 --> 00:56:10.590 10 to 20 minutes. and just really check in with 00:56:10.590 --> 00:56:15.670 yourself and exist and also don't be afraid to 00:56:15.670 --> 00:56:18.590 avoid triggers and rage bait and just negative 00:56:18.590 --> 00:56:21.050 spaces. There's no harm in doing that because 00:56:21.050 --> 00:56:23.829 you're just protecting yourself and just figure 00:56:23.829 --> 00:56:28.110 out what you want to do. What is something that 00:56:28.110 --> 00:56:33.730 you want that makes you feel happy and feel accomplished 00:56:33.730 --> 00:56:41.440 and feel like you Are who you are? Yes Without 00:56:41.440 --> 00:56:43.659 malicious intent foot without malicious intent 00:56:43.659 --> 00:56:45.880 I feel like we should just have that like at 00:56:45.880 --> 00:56:47.719 the bottom of the screen is just in a little 00:56:47.719 --> 00:56:50.739 asterisk that says without malicious intent Because 00:56:50.739 --> 00:56:52.699 people will take things and be like, oh look 00:56:52.699 --> 00:56:58.179 at the advice that they're giving it stop Stop 00:56:58.179 --> 00:57:02.400 it go in the corner and think about what you 00:57:02.400 --> 00:57:05.760 did man. We can't say anything anymore That's 00:57:05.760 --> 00:57:08.280 a whole nother topic for another podcast. Write 00:57:08.280 --> 00:57:11.460 it down. Write that down. Thank you for joining 00:57:11.460 --> 00:57:13.159 me, Gabe. And if you would like to let them know 00:57:13.159 --> 00:57:18.179 where they can find you. I'm on YouTube as Galen 00:57:18.179 --> 00:57:22.820 Quest, G -A -E -L -I -N Quest. I do art YouTube. 00:57:23.219 --> 00:57:25.840 I do like little speedpaints. I do little fun 00:57:25.840 --> 00:57:30.210 videos. Slay. I have like, I have plans for videos, 00:57:30.230 --> 00:57:32.989 hopefully by now. You say that and then I always 00:57:32.989 --> 00:57:36.469 do. But listen, okay, after this, because the 00:57:36.469 --> 00:57:38.929 let them theory, I talked about my OCtober video, 00:57:38.949 --> 00:57:41.090 so that's probably definitely out by now. Good. 00:57:41.630 --> 00:57:44.070 But I'll probably have another video out super 00:57:44.070 --> 00:57:47.369 soon where I talk about my experience entering 00:57:47.369 --> 00:57:51.050 an art exhibition for the first time. And I talk 00:57:51.050 --> 00:57:58.210 a little bit about the art world shit. As a new 00:57:58.210 --> 00:58:02.909 artist, I don't know. Good job. It worked. Good 00:58:02.909 --> 00:58:06.050 job. I'm proud of you. Thank you. Thank you guys 00:58:06.050 --> 00:58:08.909 for watching. And we'll be back with another 00:58:08.909 --> 00:58:11.630 podcast soon. I'm trying to do two podcasts a 00:58:11.630 --> 00:58:14.869 month now, if possible. The goal is to reach 00:58:14.869 --> 00:58:17.369 10 for season one of this podcast. Let's see 00:58:17.369 --> 00:58:19.110 how it goes. If we're going to make a season 00:58:19.110 --> 00:58:22.269 two, I'm not really sure. But if you would like 00:58:22.269 --> 00:58:25.510 to leave a comment, leave a like. And yes, we 00:58:25.510 --> 00:58:28.510 do have a Patreon. It's patreon .com slash song 00:58:28.510 --> 00:58:31.429 of rayne, R -A -Y -N -E, if you'd like to support 00:58:31.429 --> 00:58:35.269 me there. And we will be back soon. So drink 00:58:35.269 --> 00:58:38.630 water, take care of yourself and be kind for 00:58:38.630 --> 00:58:43.010 real. Be kind. Or we'll kill you. With kindness 00:58:43.010 --> 00:58:46.309 but kindnesses. Oh my god