1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:05,200 Hey, welcome to the Keep It Real AF podcast. 2 00:00:05,200 --> 00:00:09,440 I'm Amy and I started this podcast because I missed my friends. 3 00:00:09,440 --> 00:00:13,360 Life in your 50s isn't always easy and it can feel like you're doing it all on your 4 00:00:13,360 --> 00:00:15,120 own, but you're not. 5 00:00:15,120 --> 00:00:18,240 We're here to talk about the things that matter and maybe even have a laugh along the 6 00:00:18,240 --> 00:00:19,240 way. 7 00:00:19,240 --> 00:00:21,200 My vote, we start with skincare. 8 00:00:21,200 --> 00:00:25,600 I can now wait to tell you guys about this amazing new product line I just found. 9 00:00:25,600 --> 00:00:29,680 Meanwhile, I'm just over here trying to figure out my next career move and how to find a 10 00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:30,680 man. 11 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:31,680 Priorities, right? 12 00:00:31,680 --> 00:00:34,080 Yep, this is what we're about, Keep It Real. 13 00:00:34,080 --> 00:00:36,600 A little friend time makes everything better. 14 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:37,600 So glad you're here. 15 00:00:37,600 --> 00:00:38,600 Can't wait to hang out. 16 00:00:38,600 --> 00:00:48,600 All right, this is our first podcast. 17 00:00:48,600 --> 00:00:49,800 So welcome, listeners. 18 00:00:49,800 --> 00:00:51,480 And I think we have to start with the obvious. 19 00:00:51,480 --> 00:00:53,760 Like, why do we have club music? 20 00:00:53,760 --> 00:00:59,520 Well, we're having fun with this podcast and you're here to have some girl chat with 21 00:00:59,520 --> 00:01:00,520 us. 22 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:04,880 And fun girl chat means that we're going to have a little shoulder shrug and occasionally 23 00:01:04,880 --> 00:01:09,760 and we want to play music that makes us happy and bring this back to the good old days, 24 00:01:09,760 --> 00:01:14,360 to the days and we would have some fun in the club and go out with the girls, which 25 00:01:14,360 --> 00:01:15,360 isn't happening. 26 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:19,840 Hence the reason why we need to do a podcast to see each other. 27 00:01:19,840 --> 00:01:21,640 Love it. 28 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:25,960 What did we say we're going to talk about today? 29 00:01:25,960 --> 00:01:27,960 I'm already on track. 30 00:01:27,960 --> 00:01:28,960 Resolutions. 31 00:01:28,960 --> 00:01:29,960 Yes. 32 00:01:29,960 --> 00:01:30,960 Twitter's day. 33 00:01:30,960 --> 00:01:31,960 Twitter's day? 34 00:01:31,960 --> 00:01:32,960 Yes. 35 00:01:32,960 --> 00:01:35,400 That is a thing. 36 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:38,320 And apparently it was last Friday. 37 00:01:38,320 --> 00:01:46,120 So listeners, we promise that you will walk away with something practical about lifestyle, 38 00:01:46,120 --> 00:01:48,680 lifestyle, products, health, a lot of stuff. 39 00:01:48,680 --> 00:01:50,720 But you, we want to hear from you too. 40 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:54,680 We want to understand what do you want us to talk about, but we're going to have some 41 00:01:54,680 --> 00:02:00,840 fun girls talk and make sure you have some ideas to start, to jumpstart your new year 42 00:02:00,840 --> 00:02:03,200 in a way that makes you feel good. 43 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:05,000 And I'm sure we'll have a product or two. 44 00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:07,120 And if you laugh so long the way. 45 00:02:07,120 --> 00:02:08,120 Okay. 46 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:14,400 So speaking of that, before we jump in to whether or not we're quitters, help ready. 47 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:15,400 Emily. 48 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:19,360 Emily, you've got some fun updates. 49 00:02:19,360 --> 00:02:22,800 So we want a little bit of scoop on your outer. 50 00:02:22,800 --> 00:02:23,800 This is what I'm waiting. 51 00:02:23,800 --> 00:02:28,080 I'm just going to sit back and I am, I want to hear. 52 00:02:28,080 --> 00:02:29,080 Okay. 53 00:02:29,080 --> 00:02:32,600 So for our listeners, just to give you a little background. 54 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:38,720 So I've been divorced for nine years and I have, I know nine years. 55 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:39,720 Can you believe it? 56 00:02:39,720 --> 00:02:46,240 So I've been divorced for nine years and I've done the dating apps. 57 00:02:46,240 --> 00:02:49,880 I've done, it's just lunch. 58 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:51,720 Everything you could possibly think of. 59 00:02:51,720 --> 00:02:53,600 And you know, relationships with us. 60 00:02:53,600 --> 00:02:56,280 It's just lunch. 61 00:02:56,280 --> 00:02:59,080 So it's a service that you pay for. 62 00:02:59,080 --> 00:03:02,200 You pay a shit ton of money for. 63 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:04,640 And they set up dates. 64 00:03:04,640 --> 00:03:10,880 So they get your profile and stuff and things that you have similar interests in. 65 00:03:10,880 --> 00:03:14,640 And then they set you up with someone that has similar interests. 66 00:03:14,640 --> 00:03:18,080 And you go out to your lunch or dinner. 67 00:03:18,080 --> 00:03:19,080 A matchmaker. 68 00:03:19,080 --> 00:03:20,080 Okay. 69 00:03:20,080 --> 00:03:21,080 It's like a matchmaker. 70 00:03:21,080 --> 00:03:22,080 Yeah. 71 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:23,080 Yeah. 72 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:26,960 I'm like, how much money would you say you've spent between apps and matchmaking? 73 00:03:26,960 --> 00:03:30,840 Oh, probably thousands, thousands of dollars. 74 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:32,600 Oh, I know. 75 00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:33,600 I know. 76 00:03:33,600 --> 00:03:38,800 This is the goal of the podcast to find Emily. 77 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:39,800 Right here. 78 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:40,800 Right here. 79 00:03:40,800 --> 00:03:46,560 I've been with you through this journey and I mean, I, we've, I've heard crazy stories. 80 00:03:46,560 --> 00:03:48,200 So okay. 81 00:03:48,200 --> 00:03:49,920 So what you're done with all idea, right? 82 00:03:49,920 --> 00:03:50,920 You're done with all idea. 83 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:58,000 I did have a whole podcast on just stories of dating apps and what to do, what not to 84 00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:03,560 do and just the craziness things and like, that's a whole other thing. 85 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:04,560 But so yeah. 86 00:04:04,560 --> 00:04:11,880 So I've been going on this journey for nine years and a year and a half ago I said, I'm 87 00:04:11,880 --> 00:04:12,880 done. 88 00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:14,880 I'm not doing dating apps anymore. 89 00:04:14,880 --> 00:04:20,320 I want to find someone naturally, whether it's out and about doing concerts because 90 00:04:20,320 --> 00:04:21,320 I love music. 91 00:04:21,320 --> 00:04:28,600 I know this isn't probably the right place at a bar or just being out and about and social. 92 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:31,000 That is how I want to meet someone. 93 00:04:31,000 --> 00:04:39,800 So last year I was at a Brett Michaels concert meet and greet up in out of town. 94 00:04:39,800 --> 00:04:44,360 I was out of town and met someone. 95 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:46,080 He's still a Lodge? 96 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:47,080 He is. 97 00:04:47,080 --> 00:04:48,080 Sorry. 98 00:04:48,080 --> 00:04:49,080 He's rocking it. 99 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:50,080 Let me tell you. 100 00:04:50,080 --> 00:04:51,080 I'll be back. 101 00:04:51,080 --> 00:04:52,280 Hi, Sam. 102 00:04:52,280 --> 00:04:53,280 But yeah. 103 00:04:53,280 --> 00:04:55,840 So I met someone out of town. 104 00:04:55,840 --> 00:04:58,360 He's 10 years younger. 105 00:04:58,360 --> 00:05:00,480 And we've been, yes. 106 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:07,240 So we've been casually dating and things are, you know, things are going good. 107 00:05:07,240 --> 00:05:11,800 We're going out of town this Saturday. 108 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:16,160 But things have been very casual, like non-committal. 109 00:05:16,160 --> 00:05:22,960 So I want to get some answers this weekend of, you know, where do you see this going? 110 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:29,280 Because 2025 is a year for me that I really want to be in a committed relationship. 111 00:05:29,280 --> 00:05:34,200 And if he's not down with that, I don't want to, I don't want to say it's like I'm wasting 112 00:05:34,200 --> 00:05:40,360 time, but, you know what, being single, it gets lonely. 113 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:47,480 And sometimes being in a relationship, even though you know it may not go anywhere, it 114 00:05:47,480 --> 00:05:54,520 fills a void and, you know, and just comfort and intimacy, things that you just need. 115 00:05:54,520 --> 00:06:00,520 So, you know, I'm willing to continue this until, you know, Mr. Wright comes along if 116 00:06:00,520 --> 00:06:01,520 he's not. 117 00:06:01,520 --> 00:06:02,520 So anyway. 118 00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:03,520 Yeah. 119 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:07,200 Well, I give you a ton of credit because I've been along for the ride too. 120 00:06:07,200 --> 00:06:09,120 And there's been a lot of ups and downs. 121 00:06:09,120 --> 00:06:12,120 And you've kind of been unlucky. 122 00:06:12,120 --> 00:06:17,120 So what do you, like, what do you share, like with anybody who's listening, who might be, 123 00:06:17,120 --> 00:06:22,160 you know, end of this kind of similar phase in their life, and they're having a hard time 124 00:06:22,160 --> 00:06:25,640 finding someone like you, like you seem to always be up to eat. 125 00:06:25,640 --> 00:06:28,760 And I don't know, like, you've got a great attitude about it. 126 00:06:28,760 --> 00:06:33,680 What advice would you give to a listener who's at the stage of their life and trying to find 127 00:06:33,680 --> 00:06:35,560 them in? 128 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:41,880 I would say, one, you need a really good girlfriend network to do activities and go out and do 129 00:06:41,880 --> 00:06:45,320 things, to put yourself out there. 130 00:06:45,320 --> 00:06:49,840 You can't just sit at home and swipe and wait for Mr. Wright to come. 131 00:06:49,840 --> 00:06:52,360 Granted, apps work for some people. 132 00:06:52,360 --> 00:06:57,200 They just, you know, it wasn't my cup of tea. 133 00:06:57,200 --> 00:07:03,720 But I would say just put yourself out there and you've got to be vulnerable to be able 134 00:07:03,720 --> 00:07:08,200 to meet people and go out and just do things. 135 00:07:08,200 --> 00:07:10,640 It's, and just be positive. 136 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:14,280 Have a positive attitude about it. 137 00:07:14,280 --> 00:07:17,040 And, you know, that's my advice. 138 00:07:17,040 --> 00:07:22,840 I do have to say, like, first of all, I can't wait to hear about how the weekend goes and 139 00:07:22,840 --> 00:07:26,480 how you approach this, like, such an awkward phase in a relationship. 140 00:07:26,480 --> 00:07:32,840 You're like, yeah, we're doing things like this, but like, is it time to get serious? 141 00:07:32,840 --> 00:07:37,280 And the one thing that I just have to ask, like, Emily's, if you're listening, just know, 142 00:07:37,280 --> 00:07:42,280 I'm looking across the board and it's two beautiful women in their fifties. 143 00:07:42,280 --> 00:07:46,600 We'll talk about Steph's hair, who's this luscious looking here in a minute, but Emily's 144 00:07:46,600 --> 00:07:49,320 teeth, they look like white chicklets. 145 00:07:49,320 --> 00:07:52,120 And this, is this an AI feature that I need to get? 146 00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:53,120 No, it's not. 147 00:07:53,120 --> 00:07:55,120 It's like, you look like you have white chicklets. 148 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:56,200 These are my teeth. 149 00:07:56,200 --> 00:07:59,240 So just, are they real teeth? 150 00:07:59,240 --> 00:08:00,240 Are they what? 151 00:08:00,240 --> 00:08:01,240 Are they real? 152 00:08:01,240 --> 00:08:02,240 I mean, they're real. 153 00:08:02,240 --> 00:08:03,240 Like a veneer? 154 00:08:03,240 --> 00:08:05,240 These are real teeth. 155 00:08:05,240 --> 00:08:06,240 These are real teeth. 156 00:08:06,240 --> 00:08:09,720 So that's the first thing, y'all, I have a teeth fetish. 157 00:08:09,720 --> 00:08:12,720 That is the first thing that I look at on a person. 158 00:08:12,720 --> 00:08:17,160 So if they have nasty teeth with a guy, I would not. 159 00:08:17,160 --> 00:08:21,040 I'm sorry, I can't because I would constantly be looking at their teeth. 160 00:08:21,040 --> 00:08:25,960 So no, this is, you know, I do crest white strips maybe twice a month. 161 00:08:25,960 --> 00:08:26,960 You all need to quit. 162 00:08:26,960 --> 00:08:28,040 You all have beautiful teeth. 163 00:08:28,040 --> 00:08:29,040 You all have beautiful teeth. 164 00:08:29,040 --> 00:08:30,040 No, but. 165 00:08:30,040 --> 00:08:31,040 And they're just white. 166 00:08:31,040 --> 00:08:34,840 They're not normal crest white strips. 167 00:08:34,840 --> 00:08:35,840 What is the power level? 168 00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:39,600 My son told me that he got the 24 times strength. 169 00:08:39,600 --> 00:08:41,280 I didn't even know that existed. 170 00:08:41,280 --> 00:08:42,400 Like, what is it? 171 00:08:42,400 --> 00:08:44,800 Is it 18, 12? 172 00:08:44,800 --> 00:08:50,640 So next week, I will, you know, our next podcast, I will come with, here is the exact crest 173 00:08:50,640 --> 00:08:53,960 strips that I use, but I don't do for like the 14 days. 174 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:59,920 I will basically just do for 45 minutes and then I'll do it two weeks later. 175 00:08:59,920 --> 00:09:02,000 I don't do it like every day. 176 00:09:02,000 --> 00:09:04,040 It's, it's just maybe twice a month. 177 00:09:04,040 --> 00:09:05,040 Coffee drinker? 178 00:09:05,040 --> 00:09:06,040 Tea drinker? 179 00:09:06,040 --> 00:09:07,040 I am a coffee drinker. 180 00:09:07,040 --> 00:09:08,040 A drink drinker. 181 00:09:08,040 --> 00:09:10,040 One to maybe two cups a day. 182 00:09:10,040 --> 00:09:11,040 And it doesn't. 183 00:09:11,040 --> 00:09:16,480 I'm from a coffee drinker, so I don't, I don't know, but I, I heard that that can really 184 00:09:16,480 --> 00:09:19,200 wreak havoc on the color of your tea, but. 185 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:20,200 But you drink coffee. 186 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:22,320 You don't have. 187 00:09:22,320 --> 00:09:23,720 I do, I do. 188 00:09:23,720 --> 00:09:28,440 And Colgate, I love my Colgate optic white toothpaste. 189 00:09:28,440 --> 00:09:29,440 I use that. 190 00:09:29,440 --> 00:09:31,520 I also love Colgate. 191 00:09:31,520 --> 00:09:36,040 I am a coffee, like I used to have a sign behind me that said like coffee first, everything 192 00:09:36,040 --> 00:09:37,040 up later. 193 00:09:37,040 --> 00:09:40,960 Now I'm like finding every freaking supplement I can to give me an extra boost. 194 00:09:40,960 --> 00:09:41,960 So I. 195 00:09:41,960 --> 00:09:42,960 I don't know what it is. 196 00:09:42,960 --> 00:09:49,480 I'm not in for any brand, but I am like loving, loving this everyday dose coffee. 197 00:09:49,480 --> 00:09:50,480 And I know stuff. 198 00:09:50,480 --> 00:09:51,480 Didn't you say? 199 00:09:51,480 --> 00:09:52,480 Yeah. 200 00:09:52,480 --> 00:09:53,480 Your son uses that? 201 00:09:53,480 --> 00:09:54,480 Yeah. 202 00:09:54,480 --> 00:09:56,760 So the story behind, so I'm not a coffee drinker. 203 00:09:56,760 --> 00:09:58,840 I just don't. 204 00:09:58,840 --> 00:10:07,800 But my, so when I saw the story on the guy, the founder of that company, he was, did you 205 00:10:07,800 --> 00:10:08,800 just fill? 206 00:10:08,800 --> 00:10:11,280 I did, but I'm a dribbler. 207 00:10:11,280 --> 00:10:12,280 I'm okay. 208 00:10:12,280 --> 00:10:19,040 But he was a, so I guess he was on ADHD for a long time. 209 00:10:19,040 --> 00:10:21,040 Didn't like how it made him feel. 210 00:10:21,040 --> 00:10:26,120 And so he, you know, got really into like functional mushrooms and then kind of created 211 00:10:26,120 --> 00:10:33,600 this product and really talks about the benefits of, you know, of the, of the product. 212 00:10:33,600 --> 00:10:39,120 So I mean, I have a high school son and he also does not really enjoy coffee, but really, 213 00:10:39,120 --> 00:10:40,560 you know, wants to keep that focus. 214 00:10:40,560 --> 00:10:42,200 And so he likes it. 215 00:10:42,200 --> 00:10:46,000 So he, he takes it every morning. 216 00:10:46,000 --> 00:10:48,560 You know, we are, it's got lion's mane in it. 217 00:10:48,560 --> 00:10:52,480 And so for anybody listening, I'm a nutritionist and I love like making sure I'm staying on 218 00:10:52,480 --> 00:10:53,680 the trends. 219 00:10:53,680 --> 00:11:00,840 And trends for 20, 25 is all about new tropics and into tropics in, hold on, tropics going 220 00:11:00,840 --> 00:11:06,000 everything, everything, every service when she's mooting yours like this. 221 00:11:06,000 --> 00:11:12,840 So even like, even a alcohol, alcohol, it, well it's alcohol, it's a non-alcoholic option. 222 00:11:12,840 --> 00:11:13,840 It's called little saints. 223 00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:18,800 They've got their newer brand, but they have lion's mane mushroom in it too. 224 00:11:18,800 --> 00:11:22,280 So it's, and there's some good research on it. 225 00:11:22,280 --> 00:11:27,560 But it's, yeah, so that's a non-alcoholic alcohol. 226 00:11:27,560 --> 00:11:28,640 Yeah. 227 00:11:28,640 --> 00:11:33,520 You know how I experience, experiment with being super curious. 228 00:11:33,520 --> 00:11:38,760 I don't know if anybody can relate that's listening, but I have rooms dedicated to wine 229 00:11:38,760 --> 00:11:45,560 and I, you know, red wine has been a saying like our, like we have vacations and experiences 230 00:11:45,560 --> 00:11:49,360 around that, but I, it totally triggers my anxiety. 231 00:11:49,360 --> 00:11:52,440 I mean, and I just can't sleep. 232 00:11:52,440 --> 00:11:57,680 And so I've been just trying to figure out like, how do I enjoy that experience at ritual 233 00:11:57,680 --> 00:12:03,320 of chilling out with something in my glass that doesn't wreak havoc on my sleep. 234 00:12:03,320 --> 00:12:08,680 And so I'm always experimenting, but like, so this lion's mane, back to the lion's mane, 235 00:12:08,680 --> 00:12:11,480 had this in Utah at a coffee shop, loved it. 236 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:14,120 I literally put it on my coffee. 237 00:12:14,120 --> 00:12:19,920 That was a chai tea and I just get this like general list without some, you know, after 238 00:12:19,920 --> 00:12:24,200 my second cup of coffee, I need something that's a little less caffeinated, but I love 239 00:12:24,200 --> 00:12:26,600 the lift and I did some research on it. 240 00:12:26,600 --> 00:12:30,240 And there is some great science that shows that it's helpful for stress. 241 00:12:30,240 --> 00:12:33,600 It's helpful for mental clarity, all the cognitive benefits that you're talking about 242 00:12:33,600 --> 00:12:36,280 that the founder that I've read up on the founder. 243 00:12:36,280 --> 00:12:38,360 And we're experimenting with the two. 244 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:43,960 And I'm not saying like, none of us are doctors here, but we are moms and women who are, you 245 00:12:43,960 --> 00:12:48,920 know, our automation to find anything that helps us feel good and our kids feel good. 246 00:12:48,920 --> 00:12:51,640 So I'm actually trying this supplement version of it too. 247 00:12:51,640 --> 00:12:56,840 It's a lot stronger than the powder, not for me, but for my son that also has ADHD just 248 00:12:56,840 --> 00:12:59,720 to experiment with a few things that might help him. 249 00:12:59,720 --> 00:13:07,200 So, but yeah, I throw this in my coffee for a little extra bounce and a little extra clarity 250 00:13:07,200 --> 00:13:08,200 and also as collagen. 251 00:13:08,200 --> 00:13:09,200 So I'm loving it. 252 00:13:09,200 --> 00:13:10,520 I think it tastes good. 253 00:13:10,520 --> 00:13:13,920 I put it with almond milk, warm it up for two minutes and a little bit of monk fruit. 254 00:13:13,920 --> 00:13:15,640 And that's my afternoon like try. 255 00:13:15,640 --> 00:13:18,120 So there's one of your products. 256 00:13:18,120 --> 00:13:19,120 Yeah. 257 00:13:19,120 --> 00:13:20,120 There's one of your products. 258 00:13:20,120 --> 00:13:21,120 No, I'll try it. 259 00:13:21,120 --> 00:13:22,120 I'll try it. 260 00:13:22,120 --> 00:13:23,120 Well, speaking of products though. 261 00:13:23,120 --> 00:13:25,640 This will be my resolution. 262 00:13:25,640 --> 00:13:29,040 My resolution is that I will try it. 263 00:13:29,040 --> 00:13:30,040 Does that count? 264 00:13:30,040 --> 00:13:31,040 Yes. 265 00:13:31,040 --> 00:13:32,440 I love that. 266 00:13:32,440 --> 00:13:33,440 So I love it. 267 00:13:33,440 --> 00:13:34,840 We need to talk about resolution before we do that. 268 00:13:34,840 --> 00:13:36,360 Your hair looks luscious. 269 00:13:36,360 --> 00:13:38,200 It looks beautiful. 270 00:13:38,200 --> 00:13:39,200 It's so pretty. 271 00:13:39,200 --> 00:13:40,200 Like it's such. 272 00:13:40,200 --> 00:13:41,800 So something looks a little different. 273 00:13:41,800 --> 00:13:42,800 Yeah. 274 00:13:42,800 --> 00:13:45,920 You would have been so upset if you didn't notice. 275 00:13:45,920 --> 00:13:55,760 So you guys know my hair is my, my hair is so fine and so thin and I just, yeah. 276 00:13:55,760 --> 00:14:00,280 And I mean, you know the struggle and it's just like every day I have to wash it and 277 00:14:00,280 --> 00:14:04,640 I have to blow it out and it's just, it's such a drag. 278 00:14:04,640 --> 00:14:15,320 And so my amazing, it is a trusted hairdresser recommended just a few extensions and I didn't 279 00:14:15,320 --> 00:14:16,600 want any length. 280 00:14:16,600 --> 00:14:18,400 I didn't want any length at all. 281 00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:19,400 Can't even tell. 282 00:14:19,400 --> 00:14:20,400 Can't tell. 283 00:14:20,400 --> 00:14:25,000 So it's, it's no longer, but it just gives, and it's only one. 284 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:27,480 So I'm learning extension terminology now. 285 00:14:27,480 --> 00:14:28,480 Okay. 286 00:14:28,480 --> 00:14:30,200 But it's only one pick. 287 00:14:30,200 --> 00:14:35,560 Most people do, I guess like three packs, which my, I mean, I would be out to hear. 288 00:14:35,560 --> 00:14:40,560 I would have a lion mane literally on my head. 289 00:14:40,560 --> 00:14:46,640 But it's just one pack and it's super subtle, but I like, I woke up like this. 290 00:14:46,640 --> 00:14:48,720 I mean, I hit it with a straight eye. 291 00:14:48,720 --> 00:14:51,280 Oh, but how many days have you gone without washing your hair? 292 00:14:51,280 --> 00:14:53,200 But it's the game changer for me. 293 00:14:53,200 --> 00:15:00,440 I cannot have to wash and blow out my hair just to feel like I'm put together for the 294 00:15:00,440 --> 00:15:01,440 day. 295 00:15:01,440 --> 00:15:02,440 So let's see. 296 00:15:02,440 --> 00:15:04,000 You know, I don't know. 297 00:15:04,000 --> 00:15:05,000 What day you on stuff? 298 00:15:05,000 --> 00:15:06,520 How many, how many days have you gone? 299 00:15:06,520 --> 00:15:08,360 Like what day for, for the hair? 300 00:15:08,360 --> 00:15:09,360 How many days have you gone? 301 00:15:09,360 --> 00:15:10,360 So it's two weeks. 302 00:15:10,360 --> 00:15:11,360 Yeah, two weeks. 303 00:15:11,360 --> 00:15:14,440 Now granted, it looked better after she, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, 304 00:15:14,440 --> 00:15:16,440 I haven't washed the hair in two weeks. 305 00:15:16,440 --> 00:15:18,880 Wait, what was the question? 306 00:15:18,880 --> 00:15:22,080 How many days have you gone without washing your hair? 307 00:15:22,080 --> 00:15:26,280 Um, I went one full week. 308 00:15:26,280 --> 00:15:29,520 Oh, one full week. 309 00:15:29,520 --> 00:15:34,840 So don't, you guys, don't you think we need to have a whole podcast on hair setting? 310 00:15:34,840 --> 00:15:35,840 Yes. 311 00:15:35,840 --> 00:15:39,640 Like, it's all hormonal bullshit that we hear. 312 00:15:39,640 --> 00:15:41,040 By the way, think about it. 313 00:15:41,040 --> 00:15:42,040 I forgot about my T-S-M. 314 00:15:42,040 --> 00:15:43,760 Before we go there, think about this. 315 00:15:43,760 --> 00:15:50,240 So if I wash my hair every day, I went one week and I woke up and I felt great. 316 00:15:50,240 --> 00:15:54,040 Like I literally would wake up and be like, oh, I'm ready to go. 317 00:15:54,040 --> 00:16:02,160 And so I think about the time that I saved every day, not washing and blowing out my hair. 318 00:16:02,160 --> 00:16:11,040 And it just, it, like that for me is worth every penny of extra of just whatever it costs 319 00:16:11,040 --> 00:16:12,120 to get the extensions. 320 00:16:12,120 --> 00:16:16,440 And they were really, it wasn't really outrageous. 321 00:16:16,440 --> 00:16:17,760 And so there we go. 322 00:16:17,760 --> 00:16:18,880 Well, we'll see. 323 00:16:18,880 --> 00:16:25,600 So she, um, I mean, she thought probably if, you know, with, with good care, I mean, 324 00:16:25,600 --> 00:16:30,840 you know what that means, like I brush on my wash on, but, um, but she thinks you, you 325 00:16:30,840 --> 00:16:34,280 know, it's probably three to four months with good maintenance. 326 00:16:34,280 --> 00:16:35,280 So, okay. 327 00:16:35,280 --> 00:16:36,280 Yeah. 328 00:16:36,280 --> 00:16:40,400 What kind of, what kind of investment is that? 329 00:16:40,400 --> 00:16:45,240 So I think in total, her, I mean, I don't know, it was just, I got my hair highlighted 330 00:16:45,240 --> 00:16:49,120 on top, so like the whole, the bill seemed really high. 331 00:16:49,120 --> 00:16:55,760 Um, I'm guessing it was probably for one pack for the purchase of the extensions plus the 332 00:16:55,760 --> 00:17:02,680 having them put in was probably 300, maybe a little bit more than, yeah. 333 00:17:02,680 --> 00:17:03,680 Yeah. 334 00:17:03,680 --> 00:17:04,680 That's not too bad. 335 00:17:04,680 --> 00:17:09,160 I thought you were going to tell me a thousand because I have friends that have extensions. 336 00:17:09,160 --> 00:17:10,160 Yeah. 337 00:17:10,160 --> 00:17:13,960 And they're like, it's 1500 to 2000. 338 00:17:13,960 --> 00:17:17,560 Well, if they're doing many, I just have one pack. 339 00:17:17,560 --> 00:17:18,560 Yeah. 340 00:17:18,560 --> 00:17:19,560 I love that idea. 341 00:17:19,560 --> 00:17:22,080 I mean, luckily I don't, I'm very fortunate. 342 00:17:22,080 --> 00:17:23,080 I don't deal. 343 00:17:23,080 --> 00:17:27,040 I don't have a lot of spending here, but I know that it's an issue for women. 344 00:17:27,040 --> 00:17:29,800 It's, it's, it's menopause ladies. 345 00:17:29,800 --> 00:17:33,800 And so it is about our hormones changing, but I think we should dedicate a whole podcast 346 00:17:33,800 --> 00:17:34,800 to this. 347 00:17:34,800 --> 00:17:35,800 Let's bring on, I agree. 348 00:17:35,800 --> 00:17:36,800 Our hair, our hair friends. 349 00:17:36,800 --> 00:17:37,800 Yeah. 350 00:17:37,800 --> 00:17:43,920 There's, there are some nutritional things we can be doing, but I mean, for, I mean, 351 00:17:43,920 --> 00:17:46,600 anybody would want to have your hair. 352 00:17:46,600 --> 00:17:47,600 That's great. 353 00:17:47,600 --> 00:17:51,560 And I'm sure there's a lot of things we could, we could talk about, but thanks for being 354 00:17:51,560 --> 00:17:52,560 so honest about that. 355 00:17:52,560 --> 00:17:53,560 Yes. 356 00:17:53,560 --> 00:17:54,560 You know, of course. 357 00:17:54,560 --> 00:17:55,560 I'm very jealous. 358 00:17:55,560 --> 00:17:58,720 I've never been proud of my hair before. 359 00:17:58,720 --> 00:17:59,720 So this is a first. 360 00:17:59,720 --> 00:18:00,720 I love it. 361 00:18:00,720 --> 00:18:02,800 I can't stop touching. 362 00:18:02,800 --> 00:18:10,560 So for me, my hair is very thin and it started after I had my daughter. 363 00:18:10,560 --> 00:18:18,360 I like, I can't grow it past this because it gets really thin on the ends and my hair, 364 00:18:18,360 --> 00:18:24,840 I used to love my, used to freaking love my hair, but my daughter has the most amazing 365 00:18:24,840 --> 00:18:25,840 hair. 366 00:18:25,840 --> 00:18:28,120 Like she has amazing hair. 367 00:18:28,120 --> 00:18:29,520 She took my hair. 368 00:18:29,520 --> 00:18:33,040 So now I'm like left with this thin hair. 369 00:18:33,040 --> 00:18:36,000 So I should look at extensions when I get a job. 370 00:18:36,000 --> 00:18:37,000 Oh, yes. 371 00:18:37,000 --> 00:18:38,000 Money. 372 00:18:38,000 --> 00:18:39,000 Yes. 373 00:18:39,000 --> 00:18:41,760 I'm going to get some extensions. 374 00:18:41,760 --> 00:18:47,520 And by the way, listeners, we are totally using Emily as a person, subperson content. 375 00:18:47,520 --> 00:18:53,560 Emily is in her fifties, not only transitioning, a couple of big transitions in her life, career, 376 00:18:53,560 --> 00:18:54,560 new career. 377 00:18:54,560 --> 00:18:56,720 Actually, I'm kind of doing that too, but you're in a different space. 378 00:18:56,720 --> 00:18:59,920 So Emily's got a really important interview today. 379 00:18:59,920 --> 00:19:04,960 So we are going to wish her luck and hopefully this next time. 380 00:19:04,960 --> 00:19:09,360 But man, it's been a, like I know the job market's a little bit challenging out there 381 00:19:09,360 --> 00:19:10,360 right now. 382 00:19:10,360 --> 00:19:11,360 It's a tough market. 383 00:19:11,360 --> 00:19:13,960 It's a really, really tough market. 384 00:19:13,960 --> 00:19:14,960 Hundreds and hundreds. 385 00:19:14,960 --> 00:19:17,960 And so this is your whole career. 386 00:19:17,960 --> 00:19:18,960 Yeah. 387 00:19:18,960 --> 00:19:20,360 This career is all in. 388 00:19:20,360 --> 00:19:23,360 Like, yeah, my career is always out there. 389 00:19:23,360 --> 00:19:29,880 But if somebody's out there who is either thinking about a job change, I mean, we are, 390 00:19:29,880 --> 00:19:36,360 like middle-aged moms, middle-aged women, like what advice do you have staff if someone 391 00:19:36,360 --> 00:19:40,160 is again, this new year, maybe it's a career change. 392 00:19:40,160 --> 00:19:42,200 What advice do you have to someone? 393 00:19:42,200 --> 00:19:47,240 And then Emily, you can share your advice of living through it in this last seven, eight, 394 00:19:47,240 --> 00:19:48,240 nine months. 395 00:19:48,240 --> 00:19:49,240 Yeah. 396 00:19:49,240 --> 00:19:51,840 It's really two things. 397 00:19:51,840 --> 00:19:58,000 One is, and they, they're somehow related or they are related. 398 00:19:58,000 --> 00:20:02,760 But the first one is you have to use your network. 399 00:20:02,760 --> 00:20:04,880 You have to use your network. 400 00:20:04,880 --> 00:20:09,840 The applying to jobs and just waiting, it doesn't work. 401 00:20:09,840 --> 00:20:16,520 With all the AI that is sitting on top of the job application systems today, it's filtering 402 00:20:16,520 --> 00:20:17,520 out. 403 00:20:17,520 --> 00:20:21,440 The AI, the AI has a place, but it's not perfect. 404 00:20:21,440 --> 00:20:28,720 And so, you know, I think we're really starting to see in the, in the HR space that AI doesn't 405 00:20:28,720 --> 00:20:34,560 necessarily do the good job of filtering, but nevertheless, with thousands of applications, 406 00:20:34,560 --> 00:20:37,040 companies need something to filter. 407 00:20:37,040 --> 00:20:40,720 So how do you get around the AI when you're applying to a job? 408 00:20:40,720 --> 00:20:42,800 You have to reach out. 409 00:20:42,800 --> 00:20:47,400 You have to, and it may seem incredibly uncomfortable. 410 00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:49,540 It may seem incredibly pushy. 411 00:20:49,540 --> 00:20:57,080 It may seem obnoxious, but you have to reach out to people, reach out to people on LinkedIn 412 00:20:57,080 --> 00:21:00,920 that may know somebody that works at the company that you're interviewing for, ask them for 413 00:21:00,920 --> 00:21:05,800 an introduction, direct message, the person that works there. 414 00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:12,920 They may respond and who cares, but you just have to keep putting yourself out there. 415 00:21:12,920 --> 00:21:14,080 And this is not just jobs. 416 00:21:14,080 --> 00:21:17,560 I mean, I'm helping my son right now try to find an intern position. 417 00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:18,560 Same thing. 418 00:21:18,560 --> 00:21:23,440 He's in the red full market right now, and he's super uncomfortable reaching out to people 419 00:21:23,440 --> 00:21:26,960 he doesn't know asking for help. 420 00:21:26,960 --> 00:21:28,800 But this is how it's done. 421 00:21:28,800 --> 00:21:29,800 Yeah. 422 00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:30,800 You have to have an in. 423 00:21:30,800 --> 00:21:31,800 You just, you have to. 424 00:21:31,800 --> 00:21:35,320 Emily's been living this. 425 00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:37,560 Like you were telling me a job that you're interviewing there. 426 00:21:37,560 --> 00:21:42,600 How many applications did you see submitted on LinkedIn for this one position? 427 00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:43,600 1,700. 428 00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:44,600 Yeah. 429 00:21:44,600 --> 00:21:45,600 Holy cow. 430 00:21:45,600 --> 00:21:51,720 1,700 for this position, and I'm on my third interview today. 431 00:21:51,720 --> 00:21:58,040 So prayers for me that it would be an amazing job. 432 00:21:58,040 --> 00:22:03,760 My experience is off the chart for this position. 433 00:22:03,760 --> 00:22:12,280 But it is, it's a grind and really even going for positions that I know I'm overqualified 434 00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:16,440 for and it, you know, but it's been a grind. 435 00:22:16,440 --> 00:22:17,440 So yeah. 436 00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:18,440 Yeah. 437 00:22:18,440 --> 00:22:20,960 Well, we wish you luck too. 438 00:22:20,960 --> 00:22:21,960 Yeah. 439 00:22:21,960 --> 00:22:24,960 And the other thing is you've got to stay relevant. 440 00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:30,360 And you've got, if a company's interviewing 20, which is a lot, they shouldn't interview 441 00:22:30,360 --> 00:22:35,160 20, but let's say they're interviewing, it's even six candidates for a job. 442 00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:37,240 They start to all blend together. 443 00:22:37,240 --> 00:22:40,720 You've got to stand out and you've got to figure out, I can't tell you how to stand 444 00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:41,720 out. 445 00:22:41,720 --> 00:22:45,720 I can't tell anybody how to stand out individually, but you have to figure out what that is. 446 00:22:45,720 --> 00:22:51,160 Some of the old school tactics, like sending a thank you letter after you interview, sounds 447 00:22:51,160 --> 00:22:54,800 corny and it sounds old school, but it matters. 448 00:22:54,800 --> 00:22:56,440 It does matter. 449 00:22:56,440 --> 00:23:01,560 People still like getting thank you notes and it keeps, you have to keep yourself front 450 00:23:01,560 --> 00:23:06,120 and center and on top of mind in situations like that. 451 00:23:06,120 --> 00:23:08,200 You know, find something that resonates. 452 00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:11,320 Maybe you talked about, you know, I mean, in my past. 453 00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:15,600 I happened to talk about Chihuly art with somebody I was interviewing with and I sent 454 00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:20,440 a thank you card and I found a card that had like a Chihuly art piece on the front of it 455 00:23:20,440 --> 00:23:24,680 and sent a thank you card because it was just, that was the connection. 456 00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:27,480 So you've got to really look for those that will not get. 457 00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:34,840 So, you know, someone, someone wanted a job to come work for me and they did something 458 00:23:34,840 --> 00:23:36,040 that was memorable. 459 00:23:36,040 --> 00:23:40,920 Like, yeah, just this past year, someone wanted to come be a coach with me. 460 00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:43,880 And they found out that I do endurance events. 461 00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:49,600 I do endurance events for 29029 and they were like, oh, this is so cool. 462 00:23:49,600 --> 00:23:52,600 This is like a really cool thing that you're doing. 463 00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:55,120 They were just, you know, like asking lots of questions. 464 00:23:55,120 --> 00:24:02,280 The thank you note was inside a book about a runner who, you know, did like some ungodly 465 00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:04,160 number a mile than like his story. 466 00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:08,320 I was like, holy, so I actually have a package and I was like, I remember this person's name. 467 00:24:08,320 --> 00:24:11,120 I couldn't, it didn't work out, but you better believe it. 468 00:24:11,120 --> 00:24:15,520 I'll think of him for like for the future, but I really, I thought that was really cool. 469 00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:16,520 Yeah. 470 00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:19,160 Even if they didn't get the job, now you have a connection. 471 00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:24,240 Now you have somebody that you can reach out to, you know, so it's just, these are really 472 00:24:24,240 --> 00:24:31,160 meaningful, yeah, really meaningful connections that may transpire into success down the road. 473 00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:38,280 So one of the things that you are going to crush it, this is, and I love that you, you 474 00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:42,720 have been keeping a positive attitude, but one of the things to our listeners out there, 475 00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:45,560 like every week we'll get a chance to get some updates from Emily. 476 00:24:45,560 --> 00:24:50,240 So whether you want to call the real housewives or as a world turns, we'll get some updates 477 00:24:50,240 --> 00:24:51,240 from yeah. 478 00:24:51,240 --> 00:24:52,240 Oh, look at those chicklets. 479 00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:55,240 Oh, look at those nice chicklets. 480 00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:58,840 I'm telling you, if you have a video today, I guarantee you're going to be like the girl 481 00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:00,400 with the white teeth. 482 00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:01,400 That's what they're going to call you. 483 00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:02,400 White teeth. 484 00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:03,400 Yeah. 485 00:25:03,400 --> 00:25:04,960 It is a video interview. 486 00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:10,800 What other ways, so is this like appropriate this shirt maybe button up one more or do 487 00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:14,600 you think because I think we're going to get more titties, show some more. 488 00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:15,960 No, don't. 489 00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:18,600 No, no. 490 00:25:18,600 --> 00:25:25,280 I mean, when you're going out, when you're with like out of town, yes, person, yes, all 491 00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:27,320 the way, but yeah, interview. 492 00:25:27,320 --> 00:25:31,600 Should she button it up or is that like, what do you think? 493 00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:32,600 Probably one more button. 494 00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:34,200 I want you one more. 495 00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:35,200 Yeah. 496 00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:36,200 Yeah, I would do one more. 497 00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:39,360 But this shirt, you think it's appropriate or I need to put a jacket on? 498 00:25:39,360 --> 00:25:41,200 No, I think it's good. 499 00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:42,200 Okay. 500 00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:43,200 I think it's good. 501 00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:44,200 I don't want to ask you to do it. 502 00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:45,200 Okay. 503 00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:46,200 It's a video interview. 504 00:25:46,200 --> 00:25:50,200 Yeah, it's a video interview. 505 00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:52,200 Yes. 506 00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:54,000 You have some good earrings then. 507 00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:56,440 I can see a little bit of pink. 508 00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:58,680 I can see a little peekaboo cleavage. 509 00:25:58,680 --> 00:26:01,000 So I give it one button. 510 00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:02,000 One more button. 511 00:26:02,000 --> 00:26:03,000 Yeah, one more button. 512 00:26:03,000 --> 00:26:04,000 Yeah. 513 00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:05,000 I'm going to leave the booth for Miami. 514 00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:06,000 Leave the booth for Miami. 515 00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:08,000 It needs to be my skills. 516 00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:09,400 All right. 517 00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:11,200 So I'm trying to be the facilitator. 518 00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:14,920 I'm not really about doing a great job, but I do want to make sure we kicked it off and 519 00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:19,280 told our listeners we were going to talk a little bit about quitters day and resolutions 520 00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:22,520 and I'm in the business of change. 521 00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:30,520 So I have been talking a lot to my clients about how they can just have a restart, have 522 00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:34,320 a jumpstart to health and wellness, but let's just put it on the table. 523 00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:38,000 Do you guys even want to be quit? 524 00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:40,520 But what's your take on resolutions? 525 00:26:40,520 --> 00:26:44,080 Are you someone who loves them, hates them, believes in them? 526 00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:45,760 What do you think? 527 00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:48,720 I am all about resolutions. 528 00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:53,320 So this year for me, I lost a good amount of weight last year. 529 00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:57,040 So this is a year of building muscle and tightening things up. 530 00:26:57,040 --> 00:27:04,800 And then I love music, so I want to be able to take little weekend trips and concerts. 531 00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:07,880 So I want to be able to do at least maybe one a month. 532 00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:10,360 So that is my new year's resolution. 533 00:27:10,360 --> 00:27:11,360 I love that. 534 00:27:11,360 --> 00:27:13,800 Experiences loving that. 535 00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:17,360 You know, they say that I have a huge fan of Jesse Itzler. 536 00:27:17,360 --> 00:27:22,080 He is just an awesome entrepreneur, but he has this thing called the Big Ass Calendar 537 00:27:22,080 --> 00:27:23,360 Club. 538 00:27:23,360 --> 00:27:30,040 And I actually have it out here, but he sell these huge calendars where you plan experiences. 539 00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:34,200 And he has this thing called Kevin's Rule. 540 00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:35,480 And Kevin is his best friend. 541 00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:36,480 I feel lucky enough. 542 00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:41,280 I actually climbed with Kevin and Jesse on a mountain for 29.09. 543 00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:49,440 And so Kevin's Rule is that once every two months, you do something on a weekend that 544 00:27:49,440 --> 00:27:50,640 you normally wouldn't do. 545 00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:55,920 It doesn't have to be a trip or money, but instead of just settling in on a weekend, 546 00:27:55,920 --> 00:28:02,760 watching games or doing your normal routine, you step out of the norm and you just plan. 547 00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:06,480 You put in some intention behind it and you plan some experiences. 548 00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:08,680 And that's kind of his formula. 549 00:28:08,680 --> 00:28:11,160 You put Kevin's Rule into effect. 550 00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:16,480 You plan those experiences and you plan for one thing that is your misogy. 551 00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:23,280 One hard thing that you will take on for you that will help to define the year for you. 552 00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:28,600 And through some of these approaches, his whole perspective is that's how you slow down 553 00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:32,920 time is by being really intentional about your experiences. 554 00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:37,720 So just when you think of that, when you talked about that being like a resolution, I think 555 00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:38,720 that's awesome. 556 00:28:38,720 --> 00:28:39,720 I have more experiences. 557 00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:40,720 How about you, Steph? 558 00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:45,240 I've seen that little skeptical face of yours. 559 00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:52,360 I'm not a resolution person. 560 00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:59,080 I feel like I kind of know what I want to keep doing, things that make me feel good, 561 00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:01,320 things that don't make me feel good. 562 00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:04,480 And so I'll be intentional about continuing those. 563 00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:09,960 But I also feel like I'm just a point in my life where I have a million things on my 564 00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:15,160 plate with raising a family and a job and my job and career. 565 00:29:15,160 --> 00:29:19,320 And so I'm not interested in taking on anything else. 566 00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:26,720 And so whether it's fear of failure or I just, I don't have room for another calendar entry 567 00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:28,960 kind of thing is where I'm at. 568 00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:35,800 So I just intentionally don't make a resolution because it just feels a little bit daunting 569 00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:36,800 to me. 570 00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:37,800 Yeah. 571 00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:40,080 Well, first of all, I totally relate. 572 00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:42,120 And we promised that we would keep it real. 573 00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:46,400 I mean, I really truly, like, get the stuff that's his friend chat. 574 00:29:46,400 --> 00:29:49,680 Like, I know when we started this podcast, you were like, what's wrong? 575 00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:52,440 Because you can tell, first of all, I can write circles. 576 00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:56,000 But I can totally relate to that. 577 00:29:56,000 --> 00:30:00,720 I think that resolutions are different a little bit, but we'll talk about that in a minute. 578 00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:06,480 But I've had a couple of days where I just feel like I suck at everything. 579 00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:12,040 Like I'm not good at one thing because there's so much on my plate. 580 00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:18,120 And like, if I'm just completely re keeping it real, like I, that's why I wanted to start 581 00:30:18,120 --> 00:30:24,680 this podcast because like I'm usually alone with those thoughts, like thinking like, you 582 00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:29,520 know, just like, you know, we had an issue with one of our sons and just something happened 583 00:30:29,520 --> 00:30:37,920 with college and just figuring life out for him and like, you know, after I process how 584 00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:44,320 mad I'm at him for doing some things, it makes me think, why didn't I prepare him better 585 00:30:44,320 --> 00:30:45,320 as a mom? 586 00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:47,440 Like, why did I go wrong? 587 00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:51,520 And then it's like, well, I'm too busy doing this and too busy doing that. 588 00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:54,720 And like, you can get in your head. 589 00:30:54,720 --> 00:30:58,240 And I, like, I just remember reaching out to you with stuff. 590 00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:03,200 I mean, I reach out to Emily all the time, just, you know, being honest about that and 591 00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:08,320 having a converse no matter how often I might come out of that and just feel like, okay, 592 00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:10,040 all right, I just had a bad day. 593 00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:11,040 Like it happens. 594 00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:15,160 Like I just feel like we have such high expectations of ourselves and you just kind of feel like 595 00:31:15,160 --> 00:31:16,160 crap. 596 00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:20,920 But sometimes like just feeling like there's that mom guilt that like rears its head like 597 00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:25,840 a lot is all of our kids are like, it's such distinct moments in their lives where you 598 00:31:25,840 --> 00:31:30,520 feel like there's just bigger kids, bigger problems. 599 00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:40,040 And anyway, so yeah, but back to the resolution, like I can see why you wouldn't want to put 600 00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:44,200 anything else on your list because I, if I'm keeping it real, like I can't get everything 601 00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:45,200 off my list. 602 00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:50,640 But what I think about resolutions, I just think it's the calendar change is just a great 603 00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:52,600 opportunity for an audit. 604 00:31:52,600 --> 00:31:59,480 Like it just, whether you do it now or you call it June 1st, whatever it is, but just 605 00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:07,200 I'm a huge believer that if I'm like growing, then I'm like, I'm able, if I'm able to evolve 606 00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:11,360 and grow, then I'm like, that helps me to be positive. 607 00:32:11,360 --> 00:32:16,440 It helps me to be a better, to show up better than like constantly thinking about what things 608 00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:23,320 should I keep doing to make myself, you know, to help myself be a better mom, a better friend. 609 00:32:23,320 --> 00:32:29,520 And to me, that just mirrors just whether you call it realization resolution, you know, 610 00:32:29,520 --> 00:32:34,360 whatever it is, like I think it marks an opportunity and it's just the calendar change. 611 00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:36,120 But I don't know. 612 00:32:36,120 --> 00:32:37,120 Okay. 613 00:32:37,120 --> 00:32:38,120 So I'm talking a lot. 614 00:32:38,120 --> 00:32:39,920 What, what do you guys like? 615 00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:42,480 I don't want to be the big time talker today. 616 00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:45,120 I'm going to try the mushroom coffee. 617 00:32:45,120 --> 00:32:47,360 That was my resolution. 618 00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:48,640 I made it earlier. 619 00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:53,120 So I feel positive and I can succeed on it. 620 00:32:53,120 --> 00:32:54,120 Yeah. 621 00:32:54,120 --> 00:33:01,000 Maybe, just maybe, like for me, like when we think about like other ways to approach the 622 00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:02,840 New Year's like to not quit. 623 00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:06,600 Have any, I haven't quit yet, even though I feel like this year has gotten off to like 624 00:33:06,600 --> 00:33:09,640 kind of a slow start for the things that I'm thinking about. 625 00:33:09,640 --> 00:33:17,560 But when this has been such a big topic for a lot of the people that I talk to and I, 626 00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:23,600 we've been thinking about a word or a theme that can define 2025. 627 00:33:23,600 --> 00:33:30,120 So rather than saying a long list, because, you know, people, people quit because they 628 00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:36,080 make these radical changes or they put these like severe restrictions on things or go to 629 00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:40,440 work out an hour a day when they've never worked out or like they change, the change 630 00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:42,200 is too big. 631 00:33:42,200 --> 00:33:46,200 So for God's sakes, like every day is a different day for me. 632 00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:52,360 So my word this year is space, just finding a little bit more space and it's changed 633 00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:54,280 just every day how I might do that. 634 00:33:54,280 --> 00:34:01,680 But so a little food for thought, no pun intended to think maybe about some themes this year. 635 00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:03,240 I can commit to a theme. 636 00:34:03,240 --> 00:34:05,080 Let me, let me give it some thought. 637 00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:08,520 And yeah, I can commit to it. 638 00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:09,520 Yes. 639 00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:11,520 Paul, let me think about my theme. 640 00:34:11,520 --> 00:34:12,520 Okay, so what's up? 641 00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:14,880 Yeah, what do you know, Emily? 642 00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:16,920 Like you have, it could be experiences. 643 00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:18,920 I love that you're already thinking about that. 644 00:34:18,920 --> 00:34:20,420 Yeah, you know what? 645 00:34:20,420 --> 00:34:28,640 Experiences would be a great theme because experiences of reshaping my body, experiences 646 00:34:28,640 --> 00:34:36,240 of music, a new job, experiences of being in a really good relationship. 647 00:34:36,240 --> 00:34:38,640 So I could totally see experiences. 648 00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:40,640 I like that theme. 649 00:34:40,640 --> 00:34:46,320 Okay, let's give listeners, we promise to keep things around 30ish minutes. 650 00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:47,320 Well again, yes. 651 00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:53,840 Yes, well we are going to talk to you in weeks to come about a lot of fun topics. 652 00:34:53,840 --> 00:35:00,120 So it might be how are we doing like tips and ideas and how we're successfully or unsuccessfully 653 00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:06,160 navigating menopause, Emily's weight loss story, we'll talk about skincare, one of 654 00:35:06,160 --> 00:35:12,600 Steph's favorite topics and how do we do with sitting here? 655 00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:16,840 How are we navigating our kids living from college? 656 00:35:16,840 --> 00:35:19,880 What else might we talk about? 657 00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:22,560 I have a new favorite, her jeans. 658 00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:23,560 Yes. 659 00:35:23,560 --> 00:35:28,560 Are they flare or are they shiny? 660 00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:33,800 No, no, no, yeah, we're saving it. 661 00:35:33,800 --> 00:35:36,320 Yeah, we'll do a full. 662 00:35:36,320 --> 00:35:37,320 I'm excited. 663 00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:44,920 Yeah, let's, yeah, maybe we can think about coming back with some of our go-to. 664 00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:48,320 Like maybe we'll think about like what's your holy grail? 665 00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:54,120 We wouldn't start at skincare, but maybe that's a good topic. 666 00:35:54,120 --> 00:36:00,160 I was thinking of you when you said your eyes were puffy. 667 00:36:00,160 --> 00:36:03,160 I have a good product recommendation. 668 00:36:03,160 --> 00:36:05,480 I don't know, thank you. 669 00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:07,040 Yeah, I like skincare. 670 00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:08,040 Let's sign off. 671 00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:09,040 All right. 672 00:36:09,040 --> 00:36:10,040 Let's sign off. 673 00:36:10,040 --> 00:36:11,040 A little friend sign. 674 00:36:11,040 --> 00:36:12,040 Good luck. 675 00:36:12,040 --> 00:36:13,040 Prussian. 676 00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:14,040 Yes. 677 00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:15,040 Ladies, thanks. 678 00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:20,840 I can't wait to give you guys the update of job, man, all that. 679 00:36:20,840 --> 00:36:22,880 So I'm looking forward to it. 680 00:36:22,880 --> 00:36:23,880 Love it. 681 00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:24,880 All right. 682 00:36:24,880 --> 00:36:25,880 All right. 683 00:36:25,880 --> 00:36:26,880 Make it a great week. 684 00:36:26,880 --> 00:36:27,880 All right. 685 00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:28,880 Have a good one. 686 00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:29,880 See ya. 687 00:36:29,880 --> 00:36:33,400 Thanks for joining. 688 00:36:33,400 --> 00:36:34,400 Share this with your friends. 689 00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:44,960 We'll see you next time.