WEBVTT 00:00:15.840 --> 00:00:18.739 Hey everyone, my name is Austin and welcome back 00:00:18.739 --> 00:00:21.019 to another episode of the Unfiltered Faith Podcast. 00:00:21.440 --> 00:00:23.640 If this is your first time tuning in, thank you 00:00:23.640 --> 00:00:25.739 for doing so. And if you've been here before, 00:00:25.859 --> 00:00:28.940 welcome back. Today we're finishing off our three 00:00:28.940 --> 00:00:30.899 -part mini -series on the fruit of the Spirit 00:00:30.899 --> 00:00:33.159 for wrapping up with faithfulness, gentleness, 00:00:33.320 --> 00:00:35.679 and self -control. So if you like to take notes, 00:00:35.840 --> 00:00:38.020 I encourage it. And while you're at it, have 00:00:38.020 --> 00:00:40.100 your Bibles up because we're going to be looking 00:00:40.100 --> 00:00:42.979 at several passages of scripture that will help 00:00:42.979 --> 00:00:46.659 us with our discussion today. But the fruits 00:00:46.659 --> 00:00:49.479 of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, 00:00:49.899 --> 00:00:52.219 kindness, goodness, faithfulness, devilness, 00:00:52.320 --> 00:00:54.659 and self -control. Against such things, there 00:00:54.659 --> 00:00:58.920 is no law. Galatians 5, 22, and 23 lists faithfulness 00:00:58.920 --> 00:01:01.259 as one of the fruits of the Spirit, meaning it 00:01:01.259 --> 00:01:03.859 is a characteristic that naturally grows in us 00:01:03.859 --> 00:01:07.040 when we walk closely with God. But faithfulness 00:01:07.040 --> 00:01:09.920 isn't just about believing. It's about being 00:01:09.920 --> 00:01:12.879 unwavering in our commitment to God and others 00:01:12.879 --> 00:01:14.819 even when times are tough. What does it mean 00:01:14.819 --> 00:01:17.299 to be truly faithful? How do we live it out? 00:01:17.879 --> 00:01:20.680 And what does the Bible teach us about it? One 00:01:20.680 --> 00:01:22.840 of the most famous verses about faithfulness 00:01:22.840 --> 00:01:26.420 is found in Lamentations 3, 22, and 23. Because 00:01:26.420 --> 00:01:29.000 of the Lord's great love, we are not consumed, 00:01:29.180 --> 00:01:32.359 for His compassions never fail. They are new 00:01:32.359 --> 00:01:34.799 every morning. Great is your faithfulness. His 00:01:34.799 --> 00:01:37.700 verse reminds us that God Himself is the ultimate. 00:01:37.840 --> 00:01:41.280 Example of faithfulness. He never changes, never 00:01:41.280 --> 00:01:43.599 breaks his promises, and never abandons this. 00:01:44.060 --> 00:01:46.500 Have you ever experienced God's faithfulness 00:01:46.500 --> 00:01:48.400 in a difficult time? Take a moment to reflect 00:01:48.400 --> 00:01:51.739 on his unchanging love. Throughout scripture, 00:01:51.920 --> 00:01:55.280 we see incredible examples of faithfulness. Abraham, 00:01:55.519 --> 00:01:58.260 the father of faith, was faithful in his obedience. 00:01:59.140 --> 00:02:03.200 Hebrews 11 .8 says, By faith, Abraham, when called 00:02:03.200 --> 00:02:05.700 to go to a place he would later receive as his 00:02:05.700 --> 00:02:08.580 inheritance, obeyed and went. Even though he 00:02:08.580 --> 00:02:11.599 did not know where he was going Abraham trusted 00:02:11.599 --> 00:02:14.819 in God's promise even when they seemed impossible 00:02:14.819 --> 00:02:17.979 His faithfulness was rewarded with God's covenant 00:02:17.979 --> 00:02:21.180 and countless descendants Then we have Daniel 00:02:21.180 --> 00:02:23.879 who remained faithful to God despite being thrown 00:02:23.879 --> 00:02:26.800 into the lion's den He didn't waver in his commitment 00:02:26.800 --> 00:02:30.560 to prayer even when it meant risking his life 00:02:30.560 --> 00:02:33.639 Consider also Ruth who displayed extraordinary 00:02:33.639 --> 00:02:36.199 faithfulness not only to God but to her mother 00:02:36.199 --> 00:02:40.219 -in -law Naomi In Ruth 1 .16, she declares, where 00:02:40.219 --> 00:02:42.599 you go, I will go, and where you stay, I will 00:02:42.599 --> 00:02:45.180 stay. Your people will be my people, and your 00:02:45.180 --> 00:02:48.539 God my God. Her unwavering commandment led to 00:02:48.539 --> 00:02:52.120 her becoming part of the lineage of Jesus. And 00:02:52.120 --> 00:02:54.479 of course, the ultimate example is Jesus Christ, 00:02:54.879 --> 00:02:57.080 who remained faithful to his mission, even to 00:02:57.080 --> 00:02:59.520 the point of death on the cross. Faithfulness 00:02:59.520 --> 00:03:03.039 manifested in various forms across all kinds 00:03:03.039 --> 00:03:05.840 of connections we have. like our relationship 00:03:05.840 --> 00:03:09.400 with partners, friends, or family. How does faithfulness 00:03:09.400 --> 00:03:12.340 look in different types of relationships? Let's 00:03:12.340 --> 00:03:14.919 start with romantic relationships. Faithfulness 00:03:14.919 --> 00:03:17.479 here goes beyond the traditional understanding 00:03:17.479 --> 00:03:20.919 of loyalty. It's about being emotionally present, 00:03:21.039 --> 00:03:23.479 supportive, and honest with your partner. Imagine 00:03:23.479 --> 00:03:26.419 being in a relationship where both partners feel 00:03:26.419 --> 00:03:28.460 secure enough to share their feelings, dreams, 00:03:28.580 --> 00:03:31.199 and vulnerabilities. This sense of safety is 00:03:31.199 --> 00:03:34.219 often built on the foundation of faithfulness. 00:03:34.439 --> 00:03:37.300 When we know our partner is committed to us, 00:03:37.300 --> 00:03:39.740 not just physically, but emotionally and mentally, 00:03:39.960 --> 00:03:43.099 we can blossom together. But what does that look 00:03:43.099 --> 00:03:46.099 like in practice? It might mean actively listening 00:03:46.099 --> 00:03:49.159 when our partner shares how their day went or 00:03:49.159 --> 00:03:51.620 supporting them during tough times. It's about 00:03:51.620 --> 00:03:54.280 being there, reliable, and showing up for each 00:03:54.280 --> 00:03:57.039 other. These small acts of faithfulness create 00:03:57.039 --> 00:04:00.479 a ripple effect, nurturing a deeper bond that 00:04:00.479 --> 00:04:03.310 would withstand the trials of life. Now let's 00:04:03.310 --> 00:04:06.509 shift our focus to friends. Faithfulness in friendships 00:04:06.509 --> 00:04:10.409 is equally crucial. It's about being a dependable 00:04:10.409 --> 00:04:12.409 friend who stands by their side through thick 00:04:12.409 --> 00:04:15.349 and thin. True friends celebrate our successes, 00:04:15.650 --> 00:04:17.769 listen to our troubles, and offer a shoulder 00:04:17.769 --> 00:04:20.769 to cry on when life gets tough. They keep our 00:04:20.769 --> 00:04:23.470 secrets safe and never waver in their support. 00:04:23.930 --> 00:04:26.360 Think about it. When you have a faithful friend, 00:04:26.600 --> 00:04:29.540 you feel valued and understood. This faithfulness 00:04:29.540 --> 00:04:32.259 cultivates an environment of trust where both 00:04:32.259 --> 00:04:34.600 friends can be authentic and without fear of 00:04:34.600 --> 00:04:37.560 judgment or betrayal. It's this trust that strengthens 00:04:37.560 --> 00:04:39.759 the bond and allows friendships to flourish. 00:04:40.500 --> 00:04:43.079 And then there's family. Faithfulness in family 00:04:43.079 --> 00:04:45.500 relationships can sometimes be the most challenging, 00:04:45.699 --> 00:04:48.279 yet rewarding. Families are our first teachers 00:04:48.279 --> 00:04:51.759 of love and loyalty. When we demonstrate faithfulness 00:04:51.759 --> 00:04:54.500 to our family members. parents, siblings, or 00:04:54.500 --> 00:04:56.939 extended family, we create a sense of belonging. 00:04:57.839 --> 00:05:00.519 This might mean making time for family gatherings, 00:05:00.740 --> 00:05:03.339 checking in on each other regularly, or simply 00:05:03.339 --> 00:05:06.040 being there to lend an ear. It's about showing 00:05:06.040 --> 00:05:08.740 that no matter the distance or the disagreements, 00:05:08.839 --> 00:05:10.980 we are committed to each other and will always 00:05:10.980 --> 00:05:14.100 return to our roots. This unwavering commitment 00:05:14.100 --> 00:05:17.120 fosters a deep sense of security that can carry 00:05:17.120 --> 00:05:19.800 us through life's ups and downs. So how does 00:05:19.800 --> 00:05:22.439 faithfulness in these relationships foster trust 00:05:22.439 --> 00:05:25.779 and security? The answer lies in our innate need 00:05:25.779 --> 00:05:28.399 for connection. When we feel that others are 00:05:28.399 --> 00:05:31.860 faithful, we feel safe. We can lean on each other 00:05:31.860 --> 00:05:34.839 and grow together. Faithfulness reassures us 00:05:34.839 --> 00:05:37.180 that we are valued and that our relationships 00:05:37.180 --> 00:05:40.819 are built on solid ground. I encourage you to 00:05:40.819 --> 00:05:43.579 reflect on the relationships in your life. Consider 00:05:43.579 --> 00:05:46.660 embodying faithfulness in romantic relationships. 00:05:46.970 --> 00:05:50.370 friendships, and family ties. Remember, faithfulness 00:05:50.370 --> 00:05:53.110 isn't just about being physically present. It's 00:05:53.110 --> 00:05:55.550 about showing up with love, support, and understanding. 00:05:56.250 --> 00:05:59.189 So how can we cultivate faithfulness in our own 00:05:59.189 --> 00:06:02.649 life? Here are four practical examples. Number 00:06:02.649 --> 00:06:07.490 one, stay reheated in God's word. Psalm 119 verse 00:06:07.490 --> 00:06:11.170 105 says, your word is lamb to my feet, ally 00:06:11.170 --> 00:06:14.509 to my path. Reheating and meditating on scripture 00:06:14.509 --> 00:06:17.819 strengthens our faith. and reminds us of God's 00:06:17.819 --> 00:06:21.360 promises. Number two, be consistent in prayer. 00:06:21.680 --> 00:06:25.560 Faithfulness means trusting God in all circumstances. 00:06:26.199 --> 00:06:28.839 Like Daniel, we should pray regularly and depend 00:06:28.839 --> 00:06:32.120 on God no matter what trials come. Number three, 00:06:32.480 --> 00:06:34.660 honor commitments and relationships. Whether 00:06:34.660 --> 00:06:36.860 it's our marriages, friendships, or workplace, 00:06:37.199 --> 00:06:40.720 we should strive to be dependable and loyal for 00:06:40.720 --> 00:06:43.779 reflecting God's faithfulness in all we do. And 00:06:43.779 --> 00:06:46.480 number four, Serve God and others with devotion. 00:06:46.899 --> 00:06:49.860 Colossians 3 .23 encourages us, whatever you 00:06:49.860 --> 00:06:53.519 do, work at it with all your heart, as work for 00:06:53.519 --> 00:06:56.819 the Lord, not for human masters. Our work ethic, 00:06:57.079 --> 00:06:59.879 service, and dedication demonstrate faithfulness 00:06:59.879 --> 00:07:03.259 to others. Take a moment and ask yourself, where 00:07:03.259 --> 00:07:05.519 do I need to grow in faithfulness? Maybe it's 00:07:05.519 --> 00:07:07.939 your relationship with God, family, or work. 00:07:08.980 --> 00:07:11.800 Faithfulness isn't always easy, but it is always 00:07:11.800 --> 00:07:16.290 rewarding. As 2 Timothy 2 .13 says, if we are 00:07:16.290 --> 00:07:19.149 faithless, He remains faithful, for He cannot 00:07:19.149 --> 00:07:22.529 deny Himself. God's faithfulness to us is unchanging, 00:07:22.769 --> 00:07:25.610 and as we grow in Him, we too can reflect His 00:07:25.610 --> 00:07:28.610 steadfast love to the world. Remember that God's 00:07:28.610 --> 00:07:30.569 grace is sufficient if you're struggling with 00:07:30.569 --> 00:07:33.529 faithfulness. Start where you are and trust that 00:07:33.529 --> 00:07:38.709 He will strengthen you day by day. Though distinct, 00:07:39.069 --> 00:07:41.569 faithfulness and generous are deeply interconnected. 00:07:42.009 --> 00:07:45.129 virtues that shape how we interact with others 00:07:45.129 --> 00:07:47.930 and uphold our commitments. Faithfulness reflects 00:07:47.930 --> 00:07:51.389 our reliability and steadfastness, ensuring we 00:07:51.389 --> 00:07:53.949 remain true to our word, values, and relationships. 00:07:54.730 --> 00:07:58.250 However, how we express faithfulness is important 00:07:58.250 --> 00:08:01.350 to our commitment to itself. This is where gentleness 00:08:01.350 --> 00:08:04.129 comes in. It allows us to uphold our promises 00:08:04.129 --> 00:08:06.509 and convictions with kindness, patience, and 00:08:06.509 --> 00:08:10.310 humility. Faithfulness can become re -re -re 00:08:10.310 --> 00:08:10.870 -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re 00:08:10.870 --> 00:08:13.730 -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re 00:08:13.730 --> 00:08:13.750 -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re 00:08:13.750 --> 00:08:13.970 -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re 00:08:13.970 --> 00:08:21.550 -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re 00:08:21.550 --> 00:08:21.910 -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re 00:08:21.910 --> 00:08:21.910 -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re 00:08:21.910 --> 00:08:23.269 -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re 00:08:23.269 --> 00:08:37.289 -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re -re - 00:08:36.830 --> 00:08:39.509 And how does the Bible teach us about it? Jesus 00:08:39.509 --> 00:08:42.509 himself describes gentleness in Matthew 11, 29. 00:08:42.809 --> 00:08:46.490 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me. I am 00:08:46.490 --> 00:08:49.029 gentle and humble and hard, and you will find 00:08:49.029 --> 00:08:52.269 rest for your souls. True gentleness is not weakness, 00:08:52.570 --> 00:08:55.929 but strength committed to God's will. When did 00:08:55.929 --> 00:08:58.730 you last respond to a situation with gentleness 00:08:58.730 --> 00:09:01.529 instead of anger or frustration? How did it change 00:09:01.529 --> 00:09:04.379 the outcome? Another powerful scripture about 00:09:04.379 --> 00:09:07.799 journalists is Proverb 1632, which says, better 00:09:07.799 --> 00:09:10.779 a patient person than a warrior, one with self 00:09:10.779 --> 00:09:14.320 -control than one who takes the city. This reminds 00:09:14.320 --> 00:09:17.299 us that true strength lies in restraint and wisdom, 00:09:17.860 --> 00:09:21.419 not aggression and domination. The Bible provides 00:09:21.419 --> 00:09:24.480 many examples of journalists in action. Jesus 00:09:24.480 --> 00:09:28.360 and the woman caught in adultery in John 8, with 00:09:28.360 --> 00:09:30.940 him the Pharisees brought a woman caught in sin 00:09:30.940 --> 00:09:34.740 to Jesus expecting him to condemn her. He responded 00:09:34.740 --> 00:09:37.519 with ominous. Instead of harsh judgment, he said, 00:09:37.840 --> 00:09:40.759 let any one of you without sin be the first to 00:09:40.759 --> 00:09:43.720 throw a stone at her. Jesus showed mercy while 00:09:43.720 --> 00:09:46.960 still upholding righteousness. Number two, Moses. 00:09:47.240 --> 00:09:49.919 Scripture calls Moses more humble than anyone 00:09:49.919 --> 00:09:52.779 else on the face of the earth. Despite liheeding 00:09:52.779 --> 00:09:56.480 a Rehabilite nation, he demonstrated genuineness 00:09:56.480 --> 00:09:59.799 in his liheedership by interceding for the Israelites 00:09:59.799 --> 00:10:03.899 when they sinned against Gok. 3. Paul's Instruction 00:10:03.899 --> 00:10:09.100 to Timothy 2 Timothy 24 -25 Paul remind Timothy 00:10:09.100 --> 00:10:12.460 that the Lord's servant must not be quarrelsome, 00:10:12.759 --> 00:10:15.960 but must be kind to everyone, able to teach not 00:10:15.960 --> 00:10:19.149 resentful. Opponents must be gently instructed, 00:10:19.289 --> 00:10:23.370 hoping God will grant them repentance. Gentleness 00:10:23.370 --> 00:10:26.850 is key to guiding others toward truth. Number 00:10:26.850 --> 00:10:31.549 four, David's kindness to Mephibosheth. Second 00:10:31.549 --> 00:10:35.289 Samuel 9, King David showed extraordinary gentleness 00:10:35.289 --> 00:10:38.669 when he sought out Mephibosheth, the crippled 00:10:38.669 --> 00:10:41.490 son of Jonathan, and restored his family's land. 00:10:41.720 --> 00:10:44.460 He treated him with dignity and respect, showing 00:10:44.460 --> 00:10:47.279 that gentleness extends to how we care for others, 00:10:47.659 --> 00:10:50.799 especially the vulnerable. So how can we practice 00:10:50.799 --> 00:10:53.240 gentleness in our daily lives? Here are five 00:10:53.240 --> 00:10:56.480 ways. Number one, control your words. Proper 00:10:56.480 --> 00:11:00.720 15 -1 reminds us a gentle answer turns away wrath, 00:11:01.000 --> 00:11:03.820 but a harsh word stirs up anger. Pause before 00:11:03.820 --> 00:11:06.799 speaking and choose words that bring peace rather 00:11:06.799 --> 00:11:10.039 than conflict. Number two, respond with humility. 00:11:10.350 --> 00:11:13.850 Gentleness requires humility. Philippians 2, 00:11:13.950 --> 00:11:17.509 3, and 4 says, do nothing out of selfish ambition 00:11:17.509 --> 00:11:21.750 or vain conceit, rather than in humility. Value 00:11:21.750 --> 00:11:25.149 others above yourself. Recognizing our weakness 00:11:25.149 --> 00:11:28.710 helps us extend grace to others. Number three, 00:11:29.049 --> 00:11:32.649 show patience. Ephesians 4, 2 encourages us to 00:11:32.649 --> 00:11:35.509 be completely humble and gentle. Be patient, 00:11:35.870 --> 00:11:39.500 bearing with one another in love. closely tied 00:11:39.500 --> 00:11:42.100 to patience, especially when dealing with difficult 00:11:42.100 --> 00:11:46.320 people or situations. 4. Rely on the Holy Spirit. 00:11:46.840 --> 00:11:49.299 We cannot cultivate gentleness on our own. It 00:11:49.299 --> 00:11:52.460 is the work of the Holy Spirit in us. Ask God 00:11:52.460 --> 00:11:55.659 daily to help you develop a gentle heart. 5. 00:11:56.039 --> 00:11:58.700 Practice acts of kindness. Gentleness is shown 00:11:58.700 --> 00:12:01.720 in how we treat others, holding the door open 00:12:01.720 --> 00:12:04.580 for someone, speaking with kindness, or offering 00:12:04.580 --> 00:12:07.309 help to those in need. are simple ways to live 00:12:07.309 --> 00:12:09.389 out the fruit of the spirit. Think about a time 00:12:09.389 --> 00:12:11.669 when someone treated you with gentleness. How 00:12:11.669 --> 00:12:14.070 did it impact your relationship with them? Now 00:12:14.070 --> 00:12:16.529 consider how you can be that person for someone 00:12:16.529 --> 00:12:19.950 else. Gentleness can transform conversations 00:12:19.950 --> 00:12:23.230 and conflict situations. In our fast -paced lives, 00:12:23.610 --> 00:12:27.009 conflicts can arise unexpectedly. At home, at 00:12:27.009 --> 00:12:30.490 work, or even in our communities. When tensions 00:12:30.490 --> 00:12:32.909 run high, it's easy to respond with frustration 00:12:32.909 --> 00:12:36.620 or defensiveness. But what if I told you that 00:12:36.620 --> 00:12:39.679 a gentle approach could diffuse anger or foster 00:12:39.679 --> 00:12:42.000 understanding and connection? Well, let's take 00:12:42.000 --> 00:12:43.960 a moment to consider the concept of gentleness. 00:12:44.600 --> 00:12:47.100 It's not about being weak or submissive. Rather, 00:12:47.320 --> 00:12:49.740 it's about embodying kindness, patience, and 00:12:49.740 --> 00:12:53.360 empathy, even in the heat of the moment. Research 00:12:53.360 --> 00:12:56.220 in psychology has shown that gentle communication 00:12:56.220 --> 00:12:59.360 can profoundly impact the outcome of our interactions. 00:12:59.870 --> 00:13:03.389 For instance, consider a study published in the 00:13:03.389 --> 00:13:06.009 Journal of Conflict Resolution, which examined 00:13:06.009 --> 00:13:09.070 how different communication styles affect conflict 00:13:09.070 --> 00:13:12.590 resolution. Participants who employed general 00:13:12.590 --> 00:13:15.269 communication, soft tones, non -threatening body 00:13:15.269 --> 00:13:18.190 language, and active listening were more likely 00:13:18.190 --> 00:13:21.549 to reheat a positive resolution than those who 00:13:21.549 --> 00:13:23.889 approached the conversation with aggression or 00:13:23.889 --> 00:13:27.059 hostility. Isn't that fascinating? Let's bring 00:13:27.059 --> 00:13:29.379 this to real life with a real -world example. 00:13:29.519 --> 00:13:32.399 Imagine a workplace disagreement between colleagues. 00:13:32.940 --> 00:13:35.399 One colleague approaches the other with gentleness 00:13:35.399 --> 00:13:38.360 instead of launching into accusations or blaming. 00:13:38.899 --> 00:13:41.580 They might say, I understand that we have different 00:13:41.580 --> 00:13:43.799 perspectives on this project and I'd like to 00:13:43.799 --> 00:13:46.419 hear your thoughts. This simple shift in tone 00:13:46.419 --> 00:13:49.460 and wording invites dialogue rather than defensiveness. 00:13:50.220 --> 00:13:53.179 It creates a safe space and for both parties 00:13:53.179 --> 00:13:56.480 to share their feelings without fear. of escalation. 00:13:57.159 --> 00:13:59.820 You might wonder, how can I incorporate gentleness 00:13:59.820 --> 00:14:02.879 into my conversations? It starts with mindfulness. 00:14:03.500 --> 00:14:06.000 Before responding in a conflict, take a deep 00:14:06.000 --> 00:14:08.980 breath, reflect on your emotions, and ask yourself 00:14:08.980 --> 00:14:11.600 how you can communicate in a way that acknowledges 00:14:11.600 --> 00:14:13.860 the other person's feelings. Let's talk about 00:14:13.860 --> 00:14:17.320 active listening. Let's talk about active listening, 00:14:17.620 --> 00:14:19.879 an essential component of general communication. 00:14:20.480 --> 00:14:22.519 Instead of thinking about your response while 00:14:22.519 --> 00:14:27.460 others is talking, Truly listen, nod, maintain 00:14:27.460 --> 00:14:30.379 eye contact, and validate their feelings. You 00:14:30.379 --> 00:14:33.399 might say, I hear that you're feeling frustrated, 00:14:33.620 --> 00:14:36.539 and that's completely understandable. This shows 00:14:36.539 --> 00:14:39.159 that you value their perspective and calms the 00:14:39.159 --> 00:14:42.779 situation, allowing for a more constructive conversation. 00:14:43.519 --> 00:14:46.039 Psychological research also highlights the importance 00:14:46.039 --> 00:14:49.779 of emotional regulation during conflicts. When 00:14:49.779 --> 00:14:52.980 we respond gently, we're better equipped to manage 00:14:52.980 --> 00:14:57.059 our emotions. The emotion regulation theory suggests 00:14:57.059 --> 00:14:59.539 that individuals who practice gentleness are 00:14:59.539 --> 00:15:02.840 more resilient to stress and can maintain composure 00:15:02.840 --> 00:15:06.399 in challenging situations. So by choosing gentleness, 00:15:06.679 --> 00:15:09.460 we're transforming our conversations and nurturing 00:15:09.460 --> 00:15:12.820 emotional well -being. Let's commit to creating 00:15:12.820 --> 00:15:15.220 a ripple effect of gentleness in our community. 00:15:15.519 --> 00:15:18.299 We can transform conflict into collaboration, 00:15:18.700 --> 00:15:20.919 misunderstanding into empathy, and anger into 00:15:20.919 --> 00:15:23.799 compassion. Where in your life do you need to 00:15:23.799 --> 00:15:26.279 grow in gentleness? Maybe it's how you speak 00:15:26.279 --> 00:15:29.500 to your family, handle conflicts, or treat yourself. 00:15:30.559 --> 00:15:33.240 And remember, gentleness isn't about being passive. 00:15:33.360 --> 00:15:35.840 It's about responding with grace, strength, and 00:15:35.840 --> 00:15:40.580 love. As 1 Peter 3 .15 reminds us, always be 00:15:40.580 --> 00:15:43.779 prepared to answer anyone who asks you to give 00:15:43.779 --> 00:15:46.639 the reason for the hope that you have. But do 00:15:46.639 --> 00:15:49.809 this with gentleness and respect. When we embody 00:15:49.809 --> 00:15:52.470 gentleness, we reflect the character of Christ 00:15:52.470 --> 00:15:55.230 and draw others to Him. If you struggle with 00:15:55.230 --> 00:15:58.210 gentleness, don't be discouraged. Guard His patience 00:15:58.210 --> 00:16:01.690 with us. As we seek Him, He transforms our hearts. 00:16:02.730 --> 00:16:05.470 Gentleness and self -control are deeply interconnected, 00:16:05.870 --> 00:16:09.210 as both involve a conscious choice to respond 00:16:09.210 --> 00:16:13.490 thoughtfully rather than act impulsively. While 00:16:13.490 --> 00:16:17.309 gentleness empathizes kindness and patience in 00:16:17.309 --> 00:16:19.909 interaction with others, self -control ensures 00:16:19.909 --> 00:16:23.769 that these qualities are constantly maintained 00:16:23.769 --> 00:16:26.970 even in challenging situations. Exercising self 00:16:26.970 --> 00:16:29.730 -control allows one to manage their emotions, 00:16:30.690 --> 00:16:34.230 preventing frustrations or anger from undermining 00:16:34.230 --> 00:16:39.110 the gentleness they strive to embody. Therefore, 00:16:39.269 --> 00:16:41.669 self -control is the foundation upon which gentleness 00:16:41.669 --> 00:16:45.490 can flourish, creating an environment where compassion 00:16:45.490 --> 00:16:49.190 and calmness thrive, regardless of external pressures. 00:16:52.110 --> 00:16:54.789 Last up on our discussion today is the most crucial 00:16:54.789 --> 00:16:57.470 yet challenging fruit of the spirit, self -control. 00:16:58.070 --> 00:17:00.289 How do we cultivate self -control in our lives? 00:17:00.830 --> 00:17:04.029 What does the Bible say about it? And why is 00:17:04.029 --> 00:17:07.109 it so essential for our spiritual growth? Let's 00:17:07.109 --> 00:17:10.470 explore together. Self -control regulates our 00:17:10.470 --> 00:17:13.410 emotions, desires, and behaviors to align with 00:17:13.410 --> 00:17:17.130 God's will. Proverbs 25a gives us a powerful 00:17:17.130 --> 00:17:20.910 vision. Like a city whose walls are broken, through 00:17:20.910 --> 00:17:24.190 it is a person who lacks self -control. Without 00:17:24.190 --> 00:17:27.369 self -control, we leave ourselves vulnerable 00:17:27.369 --> 00:17:30.630 to temptation and destruction. Have you ever 00:17:30.630 --> 00:17:33.950 made a decision based on impulse that you later 00:17:33.950 --> 00:17:37.109 regretted? How might self -control have changed 00:17:37.109 --> 00:17:42.809 the outcome? Titus 2, 11 -12 says, for her the 00:17:42.809 --> 00:17:46.170 grace of God has appeared that offers salvation 00:17:46.170 --> 00:17:50.589 to all people. It teaches us to say no to ungodliness 00:17:50.589 --> 00:17:53.690 and worldly passions and to live self -control, 00:17:53.789 --> 00:17:57.549 a bright and godly lives in this present age. 00:17:58.309 --> 00:18:00.710 Self -control is not just about resisting sin, 00:18:00.950 --> 00:18:04.910 but choosing a life that honors God. Bible is 00:18:04.910 --> 00:18:08.289 filled with stories of both success and failure 00:18:08.289 --> 00:18:13.289 regarding self -control Joseph's history in Genesis 00:18:13.289 --> 00:18:18.990 39 6 to 12 when Potiphar's wife tried to seduce 00:18:18.990 --> 00:18:22.730 him Joseph portrayed a man's self -control He 00:18:22.730 --> 00:18:25.730 chose to honor God rather than given to temptation 00:18:25.730 --> 00:18:29.470 even though it cost him his freedom number two 00:18:29.470 --> 00:18:33.529 David's patience with Saul and 1 Samuel 24, 1 00:18:33.529 --> 00:18:36.589 -7. Even though Saul sought to kill him, David 00:18:36.589 --> 00:18:39.369 were refrained from taking revenge when given 00:18:39.369 --> 00:18:42.430 the opportunity. His self -control allowed God's 00:18:42.430 --> 00:18:50.599 plan to unfold in his timing. Through 16, Daniel 00:18:50.599 --> 00:18:54.359 and his friends exercised self -control by refusing 00:18:54.359 --> 00:18:58.039 the kid the king's rich food and instead choosing 00:18:58.039 --> 00:19:01.339 a diet that honored God. Their discipline led 00:19:01.339 --> 00:19:04.460 to a greater strength and wisdom. Number four, 00:19:04.700 --> 00:19:08.000 Paul's teachings on self -control. 1 Corinthians 00:19:08.000 --> 00:19:12.700 9, 25 and 27. Paul compares self -control to 00:19:12.700 --> 00:19:15.819 an athlete training for a competition. emphasizing 00:19:15.819 --> 00:19:18.940 the need for discipline in our spiritual lives. 00:19:19.779 --> 00:19:22.799 Number five, Jesus' self -control in the wilderness. 00:19:23.500 --> 00:19:27.299 Matthew 4, 1 through 11, Jesus demonstrates the 00:19:27.299 --> 00:19:30.640 ultimate self -control when he resists Satan's 00:19:30.640 --> 00:19:35.579 temptations after fasting for 40 days. His reliance 00:19:35.579 --> 00:19:38.900 on scripture teaches us how to combat temptation. 00:19:40.140 --> 00:19:43.660 And number six, Samson's lack of self -control. 00:19:43.880 --> 00:19:47.900 Judges 16 1 through 21. In contrast, Samson's 00:19:47.900 --> 00:19:51.019 inability to control his desires led to his downfall. 00:19:51.420 --> 00:19:54.960 His weakness for Delilah ultimately cost him 00:19:54.960 --> 00:19:57.259 his strength and his freedom. So how do we develop 00:19:57.259 --> 00:19:59.859 self -control? Here are seven practical steps. 00:20:00.200 --> 00:20:03.779 Number one, renew your mind daily. Romans 12 00:20:03.779 --> 00:20:06.519 2 tells us, do not conform to the patterns of 00:20:06.519 --> 00:20:09.980 this world, but be transformed by the renewing 00:20:09.980 --> 00:20:13.210 of your mind. Fill your mind with God's Word 00:20:13.210 --> 00:20:17.630 so that you can resist temptation. 2. Set boundaries. 00:20:18.170 --> 00:20:21.130 Proverbs 4 .23 says, Above all else, God can 00:20:21.130 --> 00:20:23.549 guard your heart, for everything you do flows 00:20:23.549 --> 00:20:27.130 from it. Setting boundaries in relationships, 00:20:27.390 --> 00:20:30.589 finances, and habits help maintain self -control. 00:20:31.609 --> 00:20:36.390 3. Pray for strength. Matthew 26 .41 reminds 00:20:36.390 --> 00:20:39.509 us to watch and pray so that you will not fall 00:20:39.509 --> 00:20:42.430 into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the 00:20:42.430 --> 00:20:45.869 flesh is weak. Ask the Holy Spirit to empower 00:20:45.869 --> 00:20:49.670 you. Number four, surround yourself with accountability. 00:20:50.509 --> 00:20:53.410 Ecclesiastes 4, 9, and 10 teaches us that two 00:20:53.410 --> 00:20:56.170 are better than one. If either one of them falls, 00:20:56.690 --> 00:21:00.089 one can help the other. Behind a mentor or accountability 00:21:00.089 --> 00:21:03.150 partner to encourage you. Number five, practice 00:21:03.150 --> 00:21:06.880 small acts of self -control. Luke 16 10 says, 00:21:06.940 --> 00:21:09.859 whoever can be trusted with very little can also 00:21:09.859 --> 00:21:13.599 be trusted with much. Start by exercising discipline 00:21:13.599 --> 00:21:16.819 in small areas and it will grow over time. Number 00:21:16.819 --> 00:21:21.019 six, recognize and avoid triggers. James 1 from 00:21:21.019 --> 00:21:25.339 14 to 15 warns everyone is tempted when they 00:21:25.339 --> 00:21:30.220 are dragged away by their evil desire and enticed. 00:21:30.380 --> 00:21:33.519 Then after a desire has conceived, it gives birth 00:21:33.519 --> 00:21:37.460 to sin. Identify the situations, people, or habits 00:21:37.460 --> 00:21:40.900 that lead you into temptation and take proactive 00:21:40.900 --> 00:21:43.680 steps to avoid them. Number seven, depend on 00:21:43.680 --> 00:21:46.160 God's power, not just your own. Philippians 4 00:21:46.160 --> 00:21:49.660 .13 reminds us, I can do all things through Christ 00:21:49.660 --> 00:21:53.019 who strengthens me. Self -control is a partnership 00:21:53.019 --> 00:21:55.720 between our efforts and God's grace. Think about 00:21:55.720 --> 00:21:58.619 when self -control protected you from harm or 00:21:58.619 --> 00:22:01.640 led to a blessing. Now consider applying that 00:22:01.640 --> 00:22:04.680 same principle in another area of your life. 00:22:05.019 --> 00:22:07.980 Self -control is not about relying on our strength, 00:22:08.700 --> 00:22:11.799 but surrendering to God's power. 2 Timothy 1 00:22:11.799 --> 00:22:15.599 .7 reminds us, for the spirit God gave us does 00:22:15.599 --> 00:22:18.680 not make us timid, but gives us power, love, 00:22:18.779 --> 00:22:22.619 and self -discipline. When we rely on Him, He 00:22:22.619 --> 00:22:25.140 enabled us to live with wisdom and restraint. 00:22:25.839 --> 00:22:27.960 If you're struggling with self -control, know 00:22:27.960 --> 00:22:30.589 that you're not alone. Keep seeking God and He 00:22:30.589 --> 00:22:34.190 will transform your heart and habits. Remember 00:22:34.190 --> 00:22:38.049 Proverbs 16 -32. Header, a patient person, the 00:22:38.049 --> 00:22:40.250 hand of warrior. One will have self -control 00:22:40.250 --> 00:22:43.609 than one who takes the city. True strength lies 00:22:43.609 --> 00:22:46.329 in a self -mastery through the Holy Spirit. In 00:22:46.329 --> 00:22:50.269 a world where instant gratification reigns supreme, 00:22:51.230 --> 00:22:54.130 mastering self -discipline can feel like an uphill 00:22:54.130 --> 00:22:56.089 battle. By the end of this episode, you'll have 00:22:56.240 --> 00:22:59.259 practical strategies to improve your self -discipline 00:22:59.259 --> 00:23:02.180 and insights into psychological aspects of the 00:23:02.180 --> 00:23:05.619 impulse to control and delaying gratification. 00:23:06.059 --> 00:23:08.619 In today's fast -paced environment, self -control 00:23:08.619 --> 00:23:12.099 is under constant siege. Social media platforms 00:23:12.099 --> 00:23:15.240 have designed their experiences to keep us engaged 00:23:15.240 --> 00:23:18.779 for longer. Notifications, likes, and the endless 00:23:18.779 --> 00:23:22.099 scroll create a dopamine -driven cycle that can 00:23:22.099 --> 00:23:25.799 lead to addiction. On the other hand, fast food 00:23:25.960 --> 00:23:29.619 culture bombards us with convenience and pressures 00:23:29.619 --> 00:23:33.519 and pleasure, making it too easy to opt for the 00:23:33.519 --> 00:23:36.059 quick fix instead of healthier, more nourishing 00:23:36.059 --> 00:23:39.940 options. Oh, what's going on in our brains when 00:23:39.940 --> 00:23:43.359 we face these temptations? Neuroscience has shown 00:23:43.359 --> 00:23:46.920 that our brains are wired for pleasure. The release 00:23:46.920 --> 00:23:49.519 of dopamine when we indulge in our favorite foods 00:23:49.519 --> 00:23:52.960 or receive likes on our posts creates a feedback 00:23:52.960 --> 00:23:56.759 loop that reinforces these behaviors. This immediate 00:23:56.759 --> 00:23:59.480 reward can overshadow the long -term benefits 00:23:59.480 --> 00:24:02.599 of exercise and self -control. So how can we 00:24:02.599 --> 00:24:06.140 implement our self -control? to improve our self 00:24:06.140 --> 00:24:08.960 -discipline and combat the challenges posed by 00:24:08.960 --> 00:24:12.619 social media and fast food culture. Well, number 00:24:12.619 --> 00:24:15.099 one, let's set clear goals. Define what self 00:24:15.099 --> 00:24:17.420 -control means to you. If you want to reduce 00:24:17.420 --> 00:24:21.000 your screen time, eat healthier meals, hide down 00:24:21.000 --> 00:24:24.750 your goals and keep them visible. constantly 00:24:24.750 --> 00:24:27.390 remind you of your intentions and help you stay 00:24:27.390 --> 00:24:30.309 focused. Razor shows that people who write their 00:24:30.309 --> 00:24:33.809 goals are more likely to achieve them, so grab 00:24:33.809 --> 00:24:37.309 a journal or even note them on your phone. Just 00:24:37.309 --> 00:24:41.990 make them tangible. Number two, create a structured 00:24:41.990 --> 00:24:45.970 environment. If the whole community is your Achilles 00:24:45.970 --> 00:24:48.960 heel, Consider using apps that limit your screen 00:24:48.960 --> 00:24:52.140 time or block certain sites during specific hours. 00:24:52.339 --> 00:24:55.019 You could also turn off notifications, allowing 00:24:55.019 --> 00:24:57.940 you to engage with your devices on your terms 00:24:57.940 --> 00:25:00.319 rather than being at your mercy. When it comes 00:25:00.319 --> 00:25:03.660 to fast food, try meal prepping for the week. 00:25:04.220 --> 00:25:07.759 Having healthy meals will make it easier to resist 00:25:07.759 --> 00:25:12.339 the lure of convenience foods. Remember self 00:25:12.339 --> 00:25:15.480 -control isn't about deprivation. It's about 00:25:15.480 --> 00:25:18.839 making choices that align with your values. Number 00:25:18.839 --> 00:25:21.920 three, practice mindfulness. Mindfulness is another 00:25:21.920 --> 00:25:25.220 powerful tool for enhancing self -control. You 00:25:25.220 --> 00:25:28.200 can create space between the impulse and your 00:25:28.200 --> 00:25:31.160 reaction by developing awareness of your thoughts 00:25:31.160 --> 00:25:35.039 and feelings. Try incorporating mindfulness practices 00:25:35.039 --> 00:25:38.579 like meditation or deep breathing into your daily 00:25:38.579 --> 00:25:41.349 routine. Can you feel the urge to reach your 00:25:41.349 --> 00:25:44.730 food or indulge in junk food? Take a moment to 00:25:44.730 --> 00:25:47.410 pause. Ask yourself, is this decision serving 00:25:47.410 --> 00:25:50.329 my long -term goals? This simple practice can 00:25:50.329 --> 00:25:52.430 help you cultivate a greater sense of control 00:25:52.430 --> 00:25:55.930 and make more intentional choices. Number four, 00:25:56.410 --> 00:25:59.950 reward yourself. It's essential to celebrate 00:25:59.950 --> 00:26:02.720 your victories, no matter how small. When you 00:26:02.720 --> 00:26:05.759 resist a temptation or stick to your goals, treat 00:26:05.759 --> 00:26:09.240 yourself to something rewarding like a sweet 00:26:09.240 --> 00:26:12.160 treat, a good book, or even a night out with 00:26:12.160 --> 00:26:15.599 friends. These positive reinforcements can help 00:26:15.599 --> 00:26:19.400 reshape your relationship with self -control, 00:26:19.640 --> 00:26:23.519 making it less of a chore and more of a rewarding 00:26:23.519 --> 00:26:26.579 journey. Remember, self -control is like a muscle. 00:26:26.940 --> 00:26:29.839 The more you exercise it, the stronger it becomes. 00:26:30.220 --> 00:26:34.109 5. build a support system. Surround yourself 00:26:34.109 --> 00:26:36.250 with supportive friends and family who understand 00:26:36.250 --> 00:26:38.930 your goals and can encourage you. Share your 00:26:38.930 --> 00:26:41.730 struggles and successes with them and don't be 00:26:41.730 --> 00:26:45.589 afraid to lean on them when feeling weak. Consider 00:26:45.589 --> 00:26:48.369 joining a group or finding an accountability 00:26:48.369 --> 00:26:51.210 partner who shares your goals. This sense of 00:26:51.210 --> 00:26:54.970 community can be a powerful motivator and a source 00:26:54.970 --> 00:26:58.470 of inspiration. Reflect on the challenges you 00:26:58.470 --> 00:27:01.329 face. with either social media or fast food culture. 00:27:01.890 --> 00:27:04.670 And remember that you can make choices that align 00:27:04.670 --> 00:27:07.650 with your goals. You can build the self -control. 00:27:07.970 --> 00:27:12.069 You can desire for yourself in a supportive community 00:27:12.069 --> 00:27:15.210 with clear intentions, a structured environment, 00:27:15.910 --> 00:27:18.369 and mindfulness practices. Before we wrap up, 00:27:18.549 --> 00:27:21.210 I have three challenges for you this week. Write 00:27:21.210 --> 00:27:23.349 down three ways to show faithfulness in your 00:27:23.349 --> 00:27:26.099 life. prayer, reheating the word, or keeping 00:27:26.099 --> 00:27:28.440 a promise. Keep yourself accountable and see 00:27:28.440 --> 00:27:34.019 how God works through your faithfulness. 2. Practice 00:27:34.019 --> 00:27:37.920 responding with gentleness. When you might normally 00:27:37.920 --> 00:27:41.599 react with frustration, reflect on how it changes 00:27:41.599 --> 00:27:44.579 the atmosphere of your heart. 3. Identify one 00:27:44.579 --> 00:27:47.019 area where you struggle with self -control. Make 00:27:47.019 --> 00:27:49.460 a plan to overcome it with God's help and take 00:27:49.460 --> 00:27:51.380 one small step towards victory. Thank you for 00:27:51.380 --> 00:27:53.640 joining me today on the Unfiltered Faith Podcast. 00:27:53.900 --> 00:27:55.960 If you enjoyed today's episode, share it with 00:27:55.960 --> 00:27:58.039 a friend and follow for more episodes in the 00:27:58.039 --> 00:28:00.700 future. Until next time, keep seeking those fresh 00:28:00.700 --> 00:28:03.240 perspectives and having those unfiltered conversations 00:28:03.240 --> 00:28:05.380 to better understand the world around us.