You Will Find Love When…

When people want a new relationship, they either look for someone to complete them or they imagine sharing their life with someone just like them. Which means they try to present themselves in the best possible light for their imagined future partner—either as one perfect half of a whole or as an ideal version of what they believe their future partner will want.
In my experience, finding your soul mate requires a different, far more deeper, soul-enriching approach. 

Stop looking for your soul mate and find the missing parts of YOU.
I stopped looking for “the one” after my past relationship ended, which I had believed was the one. I decided to turn my attention inward—to get to know and accept myself to heal past wounds, and to explore and develop new parts of myself.

In the past, I needed/wanted to be with someone in order to feel content, to have someone love me in order to feel loved. 
What I discovered was that I had to learn to be whole. And when I started to work on that, my entire life changed.

Live your life as YOU want to live it.

When I started to discover more about myself and followed my own path, I started to live a life that was meaningful to me. I was no longer following someone else’s rules and ideas about what I should do.
This can disappoint people close to you, such as family, exes, and friends. But if you want to find fulfillment in your life, you have to fulfill yourself, not someone else!

Doing what is right for you means you will be in places, jobs, and near people that are aligned with your life path, and with you. You will have a much better chance of meeting your soul mate, because your soul mate will also be connected to your life path.

Stop trying to appeal to an imagined, potential partner.

A side effect of leading the life you choose is that you automatically become more attractive. You become more real, authentic, substantial, valuable, passionate, happy, and present. This makes you more beautiful in a natural and effortless way, and it will also make you attractive to your soul mate.
Whereas when you try to make yourself attractive in order to find someone, you alter the way you behave and present yourself so that if your soul mate were to show up, he or she might not even recognize you.
So, just be yourself whether that means you dress in corporate attire or resort wear, or casual clothing or more formal, or if your preference changes at different times.

A partner who you will be with over the long term will not make a decision about your worth based on a superficial aspect of your appearance. So, tap into what feels right for you, do the activities you enjoy, wear the clothes that suit you and in which you feel comfortable.

You will be far more attractive to your soul mate if you look like yourself when you meet them.

If you are attracted to particular qualities in someone else, find or develop those qualities in yourself.

Most of us express only a small part of who we are. We limit ourselves to the personality—or self—we have become in response to our childhood environment. This is an unavoidable stage in our developmental process because we have to form a self—or ego—that enables us to survive and 
hopefully thrive in our family and social setting.

And the way we do that is by developing characteristics that meet our survival needs and pushing away any characteristics that aren’t valued or needed.

So, we all have hidden or disowned parts of ourselves that at some point we need to unearth.

When we haven’t yet unearthed and embraced our disowned parts, we are drawn into relationships with others who express those parts. It’s like we are unconsciously trying to complete ourselves through our relationships.

These relationships usually involve intense attraction at first and are characterized by feelings of completeness. But inevitably, they become stifled by strong relationship patterns that form where people get stuck relating to one another from one main part of themselves that bonds with its opposite in the other person. These are called bonding patterns.

So, for example, a very responsible man might become a “responsible father” in relation to his partner’s inner “pleasing daughter,” and a nurturing woman might become a “nurturing mother” to her partner’s inner “needy son.”
If the woman doesn’t become conscious of her own responsibility, she will rely on her partner to be responsible. And if the man doesn’t connect with his nurturing side, he will want to be nurtured by her. But then when stresses and vulnerabilities arise in the relationship, these bonding patterns turn negative, and the partners turn on each other.

To learn about bonding patterns makes you aware of them. Not only will this help enormously in your relationship, but they also act as a guide for which parts of yourself you have lost connection to.

When you become aware that you are attracted to other people because of what you have disowned in yourself, and then work on owning those qualities in yourself, your relationships transform and will become richer.

When you meet someone, don’t hurry things; allow the relationship to unfold.

When you meet someone, you have a good connection with, allow that connection to develop and grow. Do not force. If the person is a soul mate, he or she will also be into you, so if you both pay genuine attention to each other then something will develop.

There is no need to play games or to try particular seduction techniques or to achieve milestones by a particular time. A successful long-term relationship is 
not a game. It’s a waste of time.

Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone you had to manipulate into it? Do you want your partner to be enchanted by an image you have created so that you have to hide yourself in some way? Or do you want your partner to love you wholeheartedly? What kind of relationship do you want to bring children into if you end up having them?

Each relationship is unique, just as each person is unique, so how your relationship unfolds will be unique too. You can’t plan for it to go a particular way. You have to engage with the process of it and with each other, and then make decisions as you go. There is nothing you can say or do that will lead to a particular result.

All you can do is live your life more fully, learn to accept and love yourself more fully, and you will love and be loved more fully.

You will meet someone who shows you why those other connections didn't work. Somebody who's truly aligned with who you are, who you’re becoming and where you want to be in life. Once you make the decision to let go and release something or someone spirit will move on your behalf to bring in somebody who's on your level or at the level you’re heading towards. This connection will be nothing like your past connections where you had to learn hard lessons and experience some harsh things. Your new person will help elevate you and maybe challenge you, but for the better. He or she will take pride in their intellect, conversations and communication. If there is a disagreement or an issue, they will want to talk about it and get to the root of it. They will want to see your perspective on things and will actually want to hear you. They won’t be somebody who's just going to brush off your feelings and emotions. They truly are going to want to fix it and get to some sort of compromise agreement. You will feel emotionally fulfilled and safe like you can actually trust them. You are stepping out of one chapter into another chapter. You will experience love like you never experienced before. And it's because you finally chose YOU. You finally chose yourself. You finally realize YOUR worth. You know what you deserve and you're not taking less than that. You no longer want to be a doormat because I am afraid to be lonely. I no longer want to sit here and allow you to treat me this way just because I feel something for you. It's not about what I feel. It's about what I know I deserve. You will then be aligned with everything you always wanted. 

I love you all.

God Bless.