1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,000 Hey guys, it's me. 2 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:06,000 You know, I'm just sitting here looking outside of my window. 3 00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:09,000 It's pretty snowy out there and quite chilly. 4 00:00:09,000 --> 00:00:14,000 And I'm thinking about the people I have forgiven in my life. 5 00:00:14,000 --> 00:00:18,000 But don't forget to forgive yourself. 6 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:20,000 Right? 7 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:23,000 If there are people that have done you wrong. 8 00:00:23,000 --> 00:00:25,000 You have to forgive them. 9 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:30,000 But you also have to forgive yourself for allowing those people to do you wrong. 10 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:32,000 Right? 11 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:34,000 I mean, think about it. 12 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:39,000 If you didn't have self-worth or self-love, right? 13 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:41,000 We've all been there. 14 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:45,000 I'm not saying I'm perfect by any means. 15 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:47,000 Nobody is. 16 00:00:47,000 --> 00:00:50,000 But if you didn't have self-love and self-worth, 17 00:00:50,000 --> 00:00:53,000 you would have allowed people to step and stomp on you, 18 00:00:53,000 --> 00:00:58,000 disrespect you, cheat on you, lie to you. 19 00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:00,000 I mean everything, okay? 20 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:04,000 Everything beneath the sun that's negative. Not only did you allow it 21 00:01:04,000 --> 00:01:10,000 You will attract it. 22 00:01:10,000 --> 00:01:13,000 So just remember, 23 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:18,000 to live a very happy, and peaceful life, 24 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:23,000 you must forgive those that did you wrong. 25 00:01:23,000 --> 00:01:28,000 You also must forgive yourself for allowing them to mistreat you. 26 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:33,000 You can't do one or the other. 27 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:36,000 You have to do both. 28 00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:38,000 It takes time. 29 00:01:38,000 --> 00:01:42,000 It's not an easy road. 30 00:01:42,000 --> 00:01:44,000 So do what you have to do to live the life you want 31 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:49,000 Heal your heart, heal your mind, heal your soul for the shit that you've gone through 32 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:52,000 with certain individuals. 33 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:54,000 It doesn't matter who. 34 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:56,000 And forgive them. 35 00:01:56,000 --> 00:01:58,000 Forgive them. 36 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:01,000 And forgive yourself. 37 00:02:01,000 --> 00:02:05,000 Let's take friends as an example, 38 00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:10,000 I have one friend in particular who has not talked to his brother 39 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:14,000 for a very long time. I'm talking about 20 fucking years. 40 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:16,000 20 years, you guys. 41 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:18,000 Think about that. 42 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:20,000 That's a long time! 43 00:02:20,000 --> 00:02:26,000 And it's always over something so stupid or so small. 44 00:02:26,000 --> 00:02:29,000 Why? Why waste time like that? 45 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:31,000 Why waste your life like that? 46 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:33,000 We have one life, you guys. 47 00:02:33,000 --> 00:02:36,000 One life to live 48 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:38,000 How do you want to live it? 49 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:40,000 Do you want to be happy? 50 00:02:40,000 --> 00:02:42,000 Of course you do. Who doesn't? 51 00:02:42,000 --> 00:02:48,000 Who in their right mind will respond with a "no", I don't want to be happy. 52 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:53,000 I dare each and every one of you that's hearing this recording, 53 00:02:53,000 --> 00:03:00,000 or just one person who has the audacity, the balls, 54 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:05,000 to call up a sibling (if you have a beef with a sibling) 55 00:03:05,000 --> 00:03:07,000 and apologize (if you started something) 56 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:09,000 or let them know how they hurt you 57 00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:12,000 but you've forgiven them and want them back in your life (for example) 58 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:16,000 If it's someone you dated you can forigve them from afar 59 00:03:16,000 --> 00:03:20,000 you do not need closure. The closure is you forgiving them for you! 60 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:22,000 For YOU! 61 00:03:22,000 --> 00:03:24,000 If you bump into them on the street, feel free to 62 00:03:24,000 --> 00:03:28,000 open up and let them know that you have forgiven them. 63 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:30,000 It's freedom. 64 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:33,000 You must let things go to move forward. 65 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:36,000 Let the fucking shit go, because that's all it is. 66 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:38,000 It's just shit. 67 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:41,000 And it's going to hold you back 68 00:03:41,000 --> 00:03:44,000 from the path that you're supposed to be on. 69 00:03:44,000 --> 00:03:52,000 And when you're on the right path, oh my God, what a blessing that is. You'll know. 70 00:03:52,000 --> 00:03:57,000 I'm well into my 50s, okay? 71 00:03:57,000 --> 00:04:05,000 I can honestly say I live the most peaceful and happiest life...finally! 72 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:08,000 Because I've forgiven anyone who has done me dirty. 73 00:04:08,000 --> 00:04:15,000 Most times I forgive from my end without closure. It's difficult but well worth it. 74 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:21,000 Once you forgive, you can't go back and think, oh, that fucking asshole or that stupid bitch etc, etc. 75 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:24,000 You can't do that. 76 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:26,000 When you forgive, you forgive...period. 77 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:28,000 You have to let it go. 78 00:04:28,000 --> 00:04:29,000 What's done is done. 79 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:33,000 Bury it and it's finito, okay? 80 00:04:33,000 --> 00:04:36,000 It's finished. 81 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:43,000 But if you keep rehashing shit and in a negative tone or manner, you're not ready. 82 00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:45,000 You haven't quite forgiven yet. 83 00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:47,000 You're not quite there yet. 84 00:04:47,000 --> 00:04:49,000 Keep doing it. 85 00:04:49,000 --> 00:04:50,000 Keep practicing. 86 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:51,000 Keep forgiving. 87 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:55,000 I dare everybody right now or one person to forgive someone in their life. 88 00:04:55,000 --> 00:04:57,000 Just one fucking person. 89 00:04:57,000 --> 00:04:58,000 Just one. 90 00:04:58,000 --> 00:05:01,000 You have to start somewhere. 91 00:05:01,000 --> 00:05:05,000 Let's say you're actually forgiving someone over the phone or in person 92 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:07,000 and explained how they hurt you when they did this or that. 93 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:10,000 And how angry and upset you were to the point you couldn't speak to them 94 00:05:10,000 --> 00:05:11,000 If their response is negative (ex: fuck you, it wasn't me...) 95 00:05:11,000 --> 00:05:14,000 Well, that should tell you everything 96 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:16,000 Walk away 97 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:18,000 That person is clearly not ready 98 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:20,000 Hasn't done the work to heal 99 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:21,000 Or to grow from life's lessons 100 00:05:21,000 --> 00:05:23,000 Leave that person alone as their time will come 101 00:05:23,000 --> 00:05:25,000 where they will be pushed by the Universe to heal 102 00:05:25,000 --> 00:05:26,000 And that's that. 103 00:05:26,000 --> 00:05:38,000 it's not your circus (don't take it on) 104 00:05:38,000 --> 00:05:44,000 Remember, not everyone is on the path you're on 105 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:48,000 To talk to somebody like that, they're not ready. 106 00:05:48,000 --> 00:05:50,000 So don't waste your time. 107 00:05:50,000 --> 00:05:52,000 You've forgiven them. 108 00:05:52,000 --> 00:05:54,000 You've forgiven yourself. 109 00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:59,000 And now you carry on with your life. 110 00:05:59,000 --> 00:06:07,000 You will feel lighter and happier just from that one action 111 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:15,000 When you forgive someone, you're forgiving them for YOU, to set YOU free so you can 112 00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:16,000 move forward in life. 113 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:21,000 If you don't forgive, you can't take a step forward. 114 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:24,000 Think about that. 115 00:06:24,000 --> 00:06:29,000 Anyway, guys, that's all I need to say for now. 116 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:34,000 I love you all and I dare you to forgive just one person. 117 00:06:34,000 --> 00:06:37,000 You will shock the shit out of them. 118 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:42,000 And then in time, they in time will turn around and forgive someone because they will notice 119 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:45,000 how fruitful your life has become. 120 00:06:45,000 --> 00:06:49,000 How good you feel because you've let it go. 121 00:06:49,000 --> 00:06:52,000 Don't hang on to things that weigh you down. 122 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:53,000 Okay? 123 00:06:53,000 --> 00:06:55,000 It's not worth it. 124 00:06:55,000 --> 00:06:59,000 Again, we have one life to live. 125 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:03,000 Live it to the best of your ability. 126 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:04,000 You deserve love. 127 00:07:04,000 --> 00:07:06,000 You deserve happiness. 128 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:08,000 You deserve freedom. 129 00:07:08,000 --> 00:07:10,000 You deserve trust. 130 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:12,000 You deserve respect. 131 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:13,000 Right? 132 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:17,000 You deserve all of these things and more. 133 00:07:17,000 --> 00:07:22,000 Now, you just have to show others that you do. 134 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:23,000 Exclude the ego. 135 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:26,000 I'll talk about that another time 136 00:07:26,000 --> 00:07:27,000 No ego. 137 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:34,000 It never, ever gets you anywhere except down a spiralling rabbit hole and a dark one at 138 00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:35,000 that. 139 00:07:35,000 --> 00:07:38,000 All right, guys. 140 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:40,000 I love you. 141 00:07:40,000 --> 00:07:46,000 If you have any questions, if you have anything you'd like to chat about, feel free to email me 142 00:07:46,000 --> 00:07:51,280 at wordsofwisdom@telus.net. 143 00:07:51,280 --> 00:07:53,720 I would love to help you live the life you deserve. 144 00:07:53,720 --> 00:08:16,720 Take care.