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Hey guys, it's me again. I'm always talking about know your worth, self-love, self-respect,

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and how critical it is, how important it is. That's step number one to becoming who you

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want to be. Without it, you're just going to keep being who you are now, and if you're

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not happy, then you don't want to do that. You want to do something different. So to

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give you an example about, because I keep talking about self-love and self-everything,

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I'm going to give you an example of when I did not have self-love. Okay? I was an over-giver.

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I would give, give, give, give, oh my God, I would do everything and have no energy left

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for me. Okay? So I meet this guy who's extremely successful. Okay? Good looking dude, very

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smart, has it all, properties all over the world, in the city where we both lived in.

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Those are rental properties, right? The cars, traveling, his own company, very successful,

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et cetera, et cetera, had it all. Okay? His company was in the U.S. and he used to fly

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back and forth to see me, and it would be like every week and then every weekend and

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then whatever, whatever, whatever, right? After 14 years, I dated this person. I was

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probably in my late 20s. I dated this person for 14 years, 14 long years. Some marriages

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don't even last that long anymore. So 14 years. Why I didn't ask this question, you know,

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even 13 and a half years earlier, like it's just boggles my mind now that I think about

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it. I had said to him when he arrived, I was making a chakutery board, et cetera. I said,

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you know what, it would be nice to go to your place. I had never been to your fucking place,

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and it would be nice for me to get out of here for a different scenery. He agreed. I

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went over to one of his places only to later find out that that was one of his rental properties

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that he fixed up and took some of his furniture and put it in there. It was a condo close

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to the house that he really lived in. And where I'm going with that is we went, we ended

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up going to his place, made something to eat, was a great night, had a couple glasses of

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wine, went to bed, and whatever happened, happened there. So apparently I'm sleeping

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over I guess. He didn't seem very comfortable with it, and nor did I for some reason. He

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falls asleep. I try to sneak out of the house. I don't know the lay of the land. I hit something

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or whatever, and it made noise. He woke up, asked what I was doing. I said I was going

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to go home because I just want to be in my own bed, right, having a hard time sleeping.

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He said, okay, well, let me take you home. I said, no, that's okay. I'll just hike it,

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or Uber it, or cab it, or whatever. So we end up sitting there on the edge of his bed.

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He tells me to come and sit down, go and sit down, right, beside him. So I sat beside him.

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And he proceeds to tell me that he's been married for 20 years and he has two kids that

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they're currently battling over court about. Like is this fucked up or what? After 14 years,

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the first time I've been over to his place, he proceeds to tell me he's been married for

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20 years, he's in the midst of a divorce, and they're battling for custody right now

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over two children. What the fuck? So I didn't get upset. I said, okay, this is exactly what

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I said. I said, okay, you know what? Do what you have to do. Take care of your shit, okay?

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And please don't call me anymore. Just don't call me anymore. Don't, if you see me on the

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street, don't look at me. Don't approach me. You don't even know who I am. Just leave me

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alone, okay? So there I go off, wee early, wee hours of the morning. It's fucking cold.

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I'm in a summer dress and flip flops because it was nicer during the day and it gets chilly

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at night here sometimes. So off I go. I had sign after sign after sign that I ignored

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from the universe. One was never being invited over. There's no point in arguing about it.

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If you ask your man or you ask your woman if you could go over if you've never been

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over to their place, and you get a no or not today or whatever, get the hell out of there.

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Just leave. Don't even go, what? What the fuck? Why can I never go over to your place?

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It's not gonna get you anywhere. It does not get you anywhere. Trust me. It just pisses

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you off. It raises your blood pressure, makes you unhappy. It doesn't get you anywhere.

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So just go, oh, okay, well, okay, I'll call you later and block him and don't call him.

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Or just say, okay, I'm okay with this, but please just don't call me anymore. Please.

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If you ever loved me or respected me or cared for me or liked me or whatever, just don't

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call me anymore, okay? Sorry. This is where I draw the line. No need to yell and just

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get out. Go forward, look forward, keep pushing forward. Did I do that after that relationship?

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I did. But when it came into a relationship? No, I didn't. Again. Anyway, I just felt like

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I wanted to tell you the story because I don't want to be here and just talk to you and tell

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you how I fucking... Oh, she thinks she knows everything or whatever. No, I know a lot.

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I know so much, you guys, because I've endured so much in my life. The stories get better.

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They're kind of the same, but not. But I want you to know that I'm human too, and I did

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not know my worth, and I did not have boundaries up, and I obviously didn't love myself because

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if I did, I wouldn't have allowed somebody to treat me like that. Period. We all know

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this. Anyway, I love you all. I'll be on shortly to talk about my second relationship that

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helped me grow, and I'm so grateful for it. Bye.