WEBVTT 00:00:01.040 --> 00:00:05.459 Proverbs 9. Wisdom has builded her house. She 00:00:05.459 --> 00:00:08.419 has hewn out her seven pillars. She has killed 00:00:08.419 --> 00:00:11.580 her beasts. She has mingled her wine. She has 00:00:11.580 --> 00:00:14.560 also furnished her table. She has sent forth 00:00:14.560 --> 00:00:17.260 her maidens. She cried upon the highest places 00:00:17.260 --> 00:00:20.500 of the city. Whoso is simple, let him turn and 00:00:20.500 --> 00:00:23.280 hither. As for him that wanteth understanding, 00:00:23.600 --> 00:00:26.859 she sayeth to him, Come, eat of my bread, and 00:00:26.859 --> 00:00:29.699 drink of the wine which I have mingled. Forsake 00:00:29.699 --> 00:00:32.880 the foolish and live, and go in the way of understanding. 00:00:33.899 --> 00:00:36.100 He that reproveth a scornor geteth to himself 00:00:36.100 --> 00:00:39.700 shame, and he that rebuketh a wicked man geteth 00:00:39.700 --> 00:00:43.020 himself a blot. Reprove not a scornor, lest he 00:00:43.020 --> 00:00:45.979 hate thee. Rebuke a wise man, and he will love 00:00:45.979 --> 00:00:49.179 thee. Give instruction to a wise man, and he 00:00:49.179 --> 00:00:52.859 will be yet wiser. Teach a just man, and he will 00:00:52.859 --> 00:00:55.950 increase in learning. The fear of the Lord is 00:00:55.950 --> 00:00:58.090 the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of 00:00:58.090 --> 00:01:01.670 the Holy is understanding. For by me thy days 00:01:01.670 --> 00:01:04.409 shall be multiplied, and the years of thy life 00:01:04.409 --> 00:01:07.650 shall be increased. If thou be wise, thou shalt 00:01:07.650 --> 00:01:11.569 be wise for thyself. But if thou scornest, thou 00:01:11.569 --> 00:01:15.030 alone shall bear it. A foolish woman is clamorous, 00:01:15.269 --> 00:01:18.579 she is simple, and knoweth nothing. For she sitteth 00:01:18.579 --> 00:01:21.400 at the door of her house, on a seat in the high 00:01:21.400 --> 00:01:24.540 places of the city, to call passengers who go 00:01:24.540 --> 00:01:27.579 right on their ways. Whoso is simple, let him 00:01:27.579 --> 00:01:30.700 turn in hither, and as for him that wanteth understanding, 00:01:30.920 --> 00:01:34.599 she sayeth to him, Stolen waters are sweet, and 00:01:34.599 --> 00:01:38.079 bread eaten in secret is pleasant. But he knoweth 00:01:38.079 --> 00:01:40.599 not that the dead are there, and that her guests 00:01:40.599 --> 00:01:46.099 are in the depths of hell. Choosing wisdom is 00:01:46.099 --> 00:01:51.700 forsaking the foolish. Verse six says, forsake 00:01:51.700 --> 00:01:55.859 the foolish and live and go in the way of understanding. 00:01:56.659 --> 00:01:59.159 We've been studying chapter nine comparing the 00:01:59.159 --> 00:02:01.659 house of the wise woman and the foolish woman. 00:02:03.060 --> 00:02:07.040 We know that wisdom prepared her table, mingled 00:02:07.040 --> 00:02:10.340 her wine, furnished her table, made her meat 00:02:10.340 --> 00:02:14.280 or her bread, and she has bread she owns. She 00:02:14.280 --> 00:02:17.520 cries at the high places. She calls to the simple 00:02:17.520 --> 00:02:20.800 who wants understanding. We know that the foolish 00:02:20.800 --> 00:02:24.979 woman has stolen waters or secret bread and she 00:02:24.979 --> 00:02:29.020 has a seat at the high places and calls to the 00:02:29.020 --> 00:02:33.280 simple who want understanding. Wisdom has built 00:02:33.280 --> 00:02:36.080 her house. She's killed the animal, prepared 00:02:36.080 --> 00:02:40.659 the food, set the table. Wisdom is diligently 00:02:40.659 --> 00:02:46.759 and daily built. When we hear wise things, it's 00:02:46.759 --> 00:02:49.039 important that we understand it must be put into 00:02:49.039 --> 00:02:52.659 practice. We must also understand that it is 00:02:52.659 --> 00:02:55.520 consistency over time that brings the life we're 00:02:55.520 --> 00:02:58.780 looking for. It is not always easy to apply wise 00:02:58.780 --> 00:03:01.800 things to our lives. We can't occasionally make 00:03:01.800 --> 00:03:04.719 good food choices and expect to be healthy. We 00:03:04.719 --> 00:03:07.439 can't occasionally exercise and expect to be 00:03:07.439 --> 00:03:11.939 fit. Wisdom says, come and eat of my bread. She 00:03:11.939 --> 00:03:14.740 owns the bread because it is her preparation 00:03:14.740 --> 00:03:17.759 and hard work that has brought forth the bread. 00:03:18.340 --> 00:03:21.599 There are no shortcuts to Wisdom's house, to 00:03:21.599 --> 00:03:25.039 building our own house. It is brought about by 00:03:25.039 --> 00:03:27.340 getting up in the morning and doing the basics 00:03:27.340 --> 00:03:30.740 each day. You know the work that must be done 00:03:30.740 --> 00:03:34.740 to prepare spiritual and physical food for yourself 00:03:34.740 --> 00:03:38.400 and your family. In contrast, the foolish woman 00:03:38.400 --> 00:03:42.319 doesn't prepare or make her own bread. She says 00:03:42.319 --> 00:03:45.719 bread that is stolen is better than bread obtained 00:03:45.719 --> 00:03:49.740 by diligence. Secret bread is better than bread 00:03:49.740 --> 00:03:54.680 that was honestly obtained. We know that she 00:03:54.680 --> 00:04:00.580 is clamorous or attention seeking. This woman 00:04:00.580 --> 00:04:03.840 is appealing to our senses, to our sensual nature. 00:04:04.780 --> 00:04:09.560 When she says that bread that is stolen or secret, 00:04:09.759 --> 00:04:14.099 better, she's saying it's better because it will 00:04:14.099 --> 00:04:19.060 give you a thrill. Stolen waters, secret bread. 00:04:20.180 --> 00:04:23.660 One of the things that makes sexuality so exciting 00:04:23.660 --> 00:04:30.360 is because it can be bad when outside of marriage. 00:04:31.379 --> 00:04:34.920 It is thrilling because you're getting away with 00:04:34.920 --> 00:04:39.009 something you should not do. You kinda get a 00:04:39.009 --> 00:04:45.970 rush because it's dangerous or not permitted. 00:04:46.930 --> 00:04:49.970 The problem is that once you've crossed a barrier, 00:04:50.370 --> 00:04:52.709 it doesn't hold the same thrill that it used 00:04:52.709 --> 00:04:56.149 to hold. That's why people watch increasingly 00:04:56.149 --> 00:04:59.949 scarier movies, increasingly violent video games 00:04:59.949 --> 00:05:03.670 or books or movies. It is also why once you cross 00:05:03.670 --> 00:05:06.189 a barrier physically with someone in a sexual 00:05:06.189 --> 00:05:09.970 way, you go further the next time. If you watch 00:05:09.970 --> 00:05:13.370 pornography, it gets increasingly explicit and 00:05:13.370 --> 00:05:16.410 violent because you're trying to get the thrill 00:05:16.410 --> 00:05:20.410 that you had before. The Call of the Foolish 00:05:20.410 --> 00:05:24.310 Woman says that the things built in the consistent, 00:05:24.569 --> 00:05:28.329 faithful way are actually boring and unfulfilling, 00:05:28.769 --> 00:05:31.670 and this argument is appealing to our senses. 00:05:31.980 --> 00:05:35.319 If it wasn't, they wouldn't advertise our shampoo 00:05:35.319 --> 00:05:38.420 socks and shoes and chocolate with an emphasis 00:05:38.420 --> 00:05:41.560 on the sexy. I remember seeing a burger commercial 00:05:41.560 --> 00:05:43.959 and the person was making out with his hamburger 00:05:43.959 --> 00:05:47.639 and I'm like, this is so weird. It's so gross. 00:05:48.319 --> 00:05:52.160 But the sexual appeal is an effective way to 00:05:52.160 --> 00:05:55.620 get attention. It's very important that you can 00:05:55.620 --> 00:05:58.699 identify the foolish woman and that you have 00:05:58.699 --> 00:06:02.439 an answer prepared for her call. First, you need 00:06:02.439 --> 00:06:05.699 to be able to identify when something is appealing 00:06:05.699 --> 00:06:08.819 to your sensual nature. You need to ask yourself, 00:06:09.199 --> 00:06:12.399 what is appealing to me about this brand? What 00:06:12.399 --> 00:06:16.199 is the story this brand is telling? What is the 00:06:16.199 --> 00:06:18.620 appeal of what I'm putting in front of my eyes? 00:06:19.680 --> 00:06:22.759 Are there sexual cues that I'm glossing over 00:06:22.759 --> 00:06:26.980 that I'm not looking at? Secondly, a prepared 00:06:26.980 --> 00:06:29.660 answer does a lot toward helping us turn away 00:06:29.660 --> 00:06:32.259 from the foolish woman. You need to set up some 00:06:32.259 --> 00:06:35.220 boundaries. If I read a post that has swearing, 00:06:35.759 --> 00:06:38.279 I'm going to stop reading that post. I'm not 00:06:38.279 --> 00:06:40.600 going to follow people that post using swear 00:06:40.600 --> 00:06:43.680 words. If I see a funny video of a man dressed 00:06:43.680 --> 00:06:47.060 as a woman, I'm not going to watch it. I'm not 00:06:47.060 --> 00:06:49.560 going to like it. I'm not going to pass it on. 00:06:49.899 --> 00:06:52.459 I'm not going to watch influencers that make 00:06:52.459 --> 00:06:55.459 fun of sexual things or dress in a sensual way. 00:06:55.689 --> 00:06:59.730 These are examples of boundaries. The great thing 00:06:59.730 --> 00:07:04.110 is if we ask God for wisdom He will show us some 00:07:04.110 --> 00:07:08.129 boundaries He will unveil the foolish call and 00:07:08.129 --> 00:07:10.730 we'll be like, wow, I never noticed that before 00:07:10.730 --> 00:07:14.769 because all we have to do is ask for God to show 00:07:14.769 --> 00:07:19.100 us wisdom and he will So I'm going to set boundaries 00:07:19.100 --> 00:07:22.360 for myself sexually. I'm gonna find someone who 00:07:22.360 --> 00:07:24.740 will keep me accountable for the dates I go on, 00:07:24.980 --> 00:07:28.480 for the men that I date, keeping in mind that 00:07:28.480 --> 00:07:32.540 I will probably go several steps beyond the boundary 00:07:32.540 --> 00:07:36.139 I set. You need to prepare yourself before you 00:07:36.139 --> 00:07:39.699 get there. You need to have a plan and the character 00:07:39.699 --> 00:07:42.709 before you are in the situation. I'm going to 00:07:42.709 --> 00:07:44.949 set up boundaries for myself as a married woman. 00:07:45.310 --> 00:07:47.430 I'm going to purposefully include my husband 00:07:47.430 --> 00:07:50.029 in my electronics. I'm going to have shared accounts, 00:07:50.290 --> 00:07:52.829 shared passwords. I'm going to be on guard against 00:07:52.829 --> 00:07:55.810 relationships with men at work as friends. I 00:07:55.810 --> 00:07:59.410 am going to not be alone with a man that's not 00:07:59.410 --> 00:08:03.389 my family. We are going to have a boundary so 00:08:03.389 --> 00:08:06.470 that when we're invited out, we already have 00:08:06.470 --> 00:08:09.879 an answer. When we notice we're being drawn close, 00:08:10.399 --> 00:08:13.920 we cross a boundary and then an alarm bell rings 00:08:13.920 --> 00:08:17.120 and we're like, oh wait, I wasn't going to do 00:08:17.120 --> 00:08:22.720 this. The foolish woman advertises their sexual 00:08:22.720 --> 00:08:26.240 appeal. That's why there are hookup apps and 00:08:26.240 --> 00:08:29.459 apps to sell your body. All parts of your body 00:08:29.459 --> 00:08:33.159 can be sold, which side note is prostitution. 00:08:33.720 --> 00:08:37.379 A girl is selling her body for sexual gratification 00:08:37.379 --> 00:08:41.700 of someone else. Maybe not as drastic as that 00:08:41.700 --> 00:08:45.480 is how we can use our sexual appeal to flirt 00:08:45.480 --> 00:08:48.700 with men. We need to be careful about the messages 00:08:48.700 --> 00:08:51.419 we're sending as women of God. We need to make 00:08:51.419 --> 00:08:54.419 sure that the people are attracted to our heart 00:08:54.419 --> 00:08:57.779 more than they're attracted to our outfit or 00:08:57.779 --> 00:09:01.080 our flirting. The foolish woman uses her body 00:09:01.080 --> 00:09:04.580 to increase her followers. She reveals more of 00:09:04.580 --> 00:09:07.220 her body to increase her appeal to the opposite 00:09:07.220 --> 00:09:10.480 sex or alters her body through makeup, jewelry, 00:09:10.820 --> 00:09:14.019 surgery, tattoos. So many things that can be 00:09:14.019 --> 00:09:16.740 done to alter the body that God created. People 00:09:16.740 --> 00:09:21.659 are infinitely creative. How do you think it 00:09:21.659 --> 00:09:25.559 would go over? If someone wanted to change the 00:09:25.559 --> 00:09:28.919 outside of the tabernacle that was in the wilderness 00:09:28.919 --> 00:09:31.720 to make it more appealing to the surrounding 00:09:31.720 --> 00:09:35.559 nations, what if they added a little paint, they 00:09:35.559 --> 00:09:38.740 added a sign, dyed the skins a different color? 00:09:39.740 --> 00:09:42.720 Or let's look at it this way. If you're angry 00:09:42.720 --> 00:09:47.240 with someone, what do you want to do with what 00:09:47.240 --> 00:09:50.889 they made? Scribble it? Crinkle it up? Wreck 00:09:50.889 --> 00:09:55.570 it. This is what Satan wants to do to us. We 00:09:55.570 --> 00:09:59.990 are the creation of God. We bear his image. We 00:09:59.990 --> 00:10:03.210 are the temple of the Holy Spirit. So the enemy 00:10:03.210 --> 00:10:07.309 wants to destroy that, mar that, wreck the beauty 00:10:07.309 --> 00:10:11.750 that God built into each one of us. Isaiah 55 00:10:11.750 --> 00:10:14.970 2 says, why do you spend your money on that which 00:10:14.970 --> 00:10:17.710 is not bread? Why do you work for things that 00:10:17.710 --> 00:10:20.960 don't satisfy? Part of listening to the wise 00:10:20.960 --> 00:10:24.320 woman is deciding what is fulfilling or eternal 00:10:24.320 --> 00:10:29.120 and what is empty or temporary. So then we need 00:10:29.120 --> 00:10:34.460 to exercise self -control and self -discipline. 00:10:34.940 --> 00:10:39.820 Preparing yourself to meet these challenges cultivating 00:10:39.820 --> 00:10:43.200 godly desires and appetites through what you 00:10:43.200 --> 00:10:49.509 consume is how we're going to overcome. the foolish 00:10:49.509 --> 00:10:53.090 woman. And there is a great thing about the Holy 00:10:53.090 --> 00:10:57.269 Ghost. We can ask God to grow things in our lives, 00:10:57.649 --> 00:11:00.909 to teach us to hate things that we don't want 00:11:00.909 --> 00:11:04.730 to grow, that we don't want in our life. Ask 00:11:04.730 --> 00:11:09.470 the Lord to teach you to be modest, to love holy 00:11:09.470 --> 00:11:13.870 living, to be a godly woman. Ask him to teach 00:11:13.870 --> 00:11:18.450 teach you to hate evil and the wicked way. Proverbs 00:11:18.450 --> 00:11:24.409 16, 6b says, by the fear of the Lord, men depart 00:11:24.409 --> 00:11:28.269 from evil. You will find that wisdom has the 00:11:28.269 --> 00:11:32.370 same root, the fear of the Lord. What is the 00:11:32.370 --> 00:11:35.490 fear of the Lord? It is the recognition that 00:11:35.490 --> 00:11:39.990 God has all power and he's made everything. Because 00:11:39.990 --> 00:11:43.870 he made everything, He owns everything and as 00:11:43.870 --> 00:11:46.750 the creator and owner he gets to say how things 00:11:46.750 --> 00:11:50.909 run. He made the rules to the game and when we 00:11:50.909 --> 00:11:56.549 recognize that and respect that we will learn 00:11:56.549 --> 00:12:00.809 his ways and follow his ways, that's where wisdom 00:12:00.809 --> 00:12:05.669 starts. That's where wisdom begins. The fear 00:12:05.669 --> 00:12:11.429 of the Lord teaches us to depart from evil. Proverbs 00:12:11.429 --> 00:12:17.190 9 -6 says, forsake the foolish and live and go 00:12:17.190 --> 00:12:19.330 in the way of understanding.