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you're a bold and daring rebel who wants more options on your life journey
than you have now, keep listening. Welcome Jen Lin.
And welcome back to the unpopular playground. This is Jen Lin and welcome
to season three where we are going to be discussing in this episode what's to
come and also what our demographics and different possible avatars about what
our demographic will look like you know to see if you can identify with these
situations and these people that I'm imagining it and the reason why I went
into such detail is because I have been all of these people in one way or another
at different stages of my life myself and my friends and so these are the
specifics that I'm referring to and also I'm going to go over again in a little
bit more detail on who this is not for if the warning I I thought it was a
proposal to have in our introduction the little warning because you know when
you speak the truth about certain things about the way that things are as is not
a lot of people like to look at that not a lot of people like to look at
themselves in the mirror and see themselves the way that other people see them a
lot of the times we are biased out what we see and of course we want to see the
best in everything and we're really good at doing that for ourselves and not
excusing other people as much as we do ourselves for our faults and our and what
we try to accomplish if we were to look at other people and try to understand
this situation a little bit more maybe investigate a little bit more as to the
why maybe some other things not that you excuse their behavior but that you could
understand it them a little bit more and see what we can do to try to help
instead of always throwing in that bias because we were really good at doing it
for ourselves but not so much for others but if we can see ourselves the way that
other people see us I'm not sure if you're familiar with that story the
emperors knew close when the king thought he was a great somebody and he was
fooled into believing that the he had a magical outfit with this thread and he
didn't want to believe he kind of thought it was a scam but you know they
hadn't believed that well only rich and regal people can see it and and because
the king believed it gaslighted them into believing that he had this outfit on
and it was really invisible it was nothing and he was out of it but the
people didn't want to hurt the king's feeling and he's parading off you know
practically have naked in this parade until some kids saw him the way as is and
you know it's called out he's naked and then all of a sudden you know he felt
stupid all of the other people felt stupid that wow this is really me this
is who I am this is at some point we need to take responsibility for ourselves
and see ourselves as we are and as other people see themselves you know I'm sorry
as other people see you as is and we a lot of times don't want to look and see
that deep and if you're not ready for that this is probably not going to be
your podcast but if but the only way that you can overcome yourself and to be
able to overcome your obstacles and your problems you need to face things as is
and so some of the things will be the warning of specifics on that that if
you're not ready to deal with yourself and some realities of the way that things
are in the world it's not the pretty picture that everybody paints and well
we know that because we have the mass media to tell us that the world is
going to hell in a handbasket we had a lot of that in over the pandemic in 2020
that basically everything is hopeless and why bother well we know that it's not
to that extreme either but we do need to look deep inside and take some
accountability for our decisions that we've made that were responsible for and
we can't change anybody else but we can change our behavior and based off of
that we can start climbing out of our situation the situation you don't want
to be in to be able to get to where you want be can't do that until you're
ready to face facts and it's brutal it's not pretty and just look at the
conversations on social media you can't even have a conversation with a lot of
people because they get triggered when you point out things as is they can't
have a adult conversation and look at different points of view you can't make
a judgment on anything until you look at all sides of the coin and sadly not
everybody presents that and it's up to you to be able to find investigate and
find all sides of the story so that you can make a decision then and that's
that's what real journalists do that's what how real decision makers people who
make good decisions they can do that so that you can have all of the cards all
of the facts laid out before you so that you can look at them and then see is
this good for me it might not be good but it might be good for somebody else
because it's depending on their perspective and where they're at in life
it can be a very good decision for somebody else but what you know you've
got the scammers and what they do is they only present certain sides of the
story when you look on social media and you see all of these great profiles and
pictures and ways of life well it's not always as you would imagine look at all
of the suicides and and everything caused from either comparing themselves or
maybe even the creators themselves presenting such a facade that they can't
they can't live up to what they're presenting themselves to be and the
close the sooner that you can get to the truth of who you are what you have to offer
the sooner you can get out of your bad situation if you're in that and if you're
in a good situation or a mediocre you can always become better or do what you
can to be able to stay in that life is a cycle you're not gonna be in that good
position forever and you'll want to know how to brace up so if you get in
when those times come you're prepared and you can buffer it and deal with it a
little bit easier than you could if you're not prepared and we've all seen
that you got people having breakdowns I mean I don't know everybody's different
but I I just could never see myself holding a camera to my face and and
just crying in front of the screen just to get reactions from somebody I think
there's better way to go about it and are they presenting solutions to their
problems that are they coming up in brainstorming ideas that's what you
want to be you get a lot farther faster being a problem-solver than a
complainer I mean things shit happens but you can there's ways to be able to
pull out of that and so that is what we're gonna be going over in this
episode the many different faces of our league little warning relations in real
people and our intention to build an organic library of meaningful content
with different categories that we can show you some options for solutions and
to give you opportunity to practice them to build a community and based off of
your contact with us your engagement and interaction we can make this the library
that we're gonna build up a lot more meaningful than you know the research a
lot of it I'm basing it off of my experience and what I wish I would have
had because it's still not out there it's still not been created and that is
probably one of my main one of the main things that's driving me to do this
podcast and to share these things with you so coming to our warning when you
hear that warning in the beginning of every episode this is it it's if any of
these points trigger you it's probably not a good time to listen to this podcast
because I'm not gonna change it's a free country and I'm gonna say what I need to
say and if it bothers you and you're offended by this it's probably because
you might be part of the problem even if you're not doing any of these things
actively if you're gonna get so mad and upset that you're gonna pull somebody
else down and trash them and and just want to be contrary just to be contrary
because you're so unhappy this isn't the place for you until you are ready to
come down your attitude and want to do something about it then then you'll be
welcome with anybody that wants to come in and troll is not welcome and you will
be immediately dismissed because you don't have to be here you don't have to
be in this community to tear other people down it's not a thing of I mean and
that's the thing isn't it you have a free community to or you know they say
it's a free country you can say what you need to say but also it's a free
country and that if somebody else is just like fruit if you have poisoned
fruit or something that's molding and it gets next to healthy things it's gonna
make it's mold and and disgusting it's all of that's gonna spread like a fire
it can be if you light a flame and catch something on fire it's gonna spread
very quickly and it can be for good or for bad and if your intention is to
start a fire of destruction to spread your toxicity if you're so unhappy that
yeah I'm gonna do all I can to protect this community from trolling from toxic
toxicity and just people want all the downers who want to just crap on
everything if you're that unhappy this is not the place for you if you're easily
offended if you can't handle brutal facts if you feel easily overwhelmed or
demoralized if you don't want to explore solutions if all you want to do is
complain I talked about in the last episode if you have a problem or
concern try and have a solution with it an idea for a solution something have
something else in your hand to try to overcome it it might not work for you
but you know what it might work for somebody else and we can put that in the
pool for somebody else to grab because it might work for somebody else if you
want to stay the same or the status quo you want to be safe this is not the
arena because we're some risky people and we are radical and want to try to find
solutions and motivated if you're closed-minded and you can't open up your
mind to at least listen to other people for solutions if you think that your way
is the only way this is not the place for you and if you can't have
conversations about things that you disagree with this is not your community
we want to have active live discussions that excite and motivate other people
not to drag people down and criticize and it's not that we don't want constructive
criticism criticism can be very helpful because it's to try to help somebody to
get better if something is wrong I will correct you on it and I will say yeah
that's wrong because there is objective right and wrong but you know what I'm
gonna give you some ideas on how to overcome it and I'm gonna help you
research ideas on how to overcome whatever it is that you're going through
and that's just the way that it is so I hope I've made that clear and I'm okay
with that if this if you're struggling with these things I think it's best for
you to maybe go get some professional help if that's what's needed or to work
on yourself and do a point to where you're able to open up a little bit more
to where you can take handle some responsibility and take accountability
for where how you got to where you've gotten and then move on from there and
that brings me to another situation that faces of our league so we're in a little
league I mentioned and these are some situations that might help you so if you
are feeling clueless maybe just starting high school don't know where to begin
this podcast could be for you so this podcast could be for you if you're in
any one of these situations and you identify with the these situations then
you'll definitely want to keep listening if you have graduation pressures and
you don't know where to begin maybe you're just coming in you know whatever
stage you're coming into the party into the community these are some things real
concerns that you might have maybe you're a postgraduate now you're thinking
now what I have to go find a home maybe you might be forced to move out forced
job feeling behind now what what do you do and this can be this way for high
school and college maybe you're in just finished high school graduating high
school
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let's create a community where every young voice is heard you know do you go
to college do not are there other options and here's the tough one is your
life being planned by others maybe you have family members that are pressuring
you to go into a certain line of work and you're not interested in that you
know there are advantages of doing that man I think they just want the best for
you they want you to be successful but at the same time if you're unhappy but
maybe you know you might have to go somewhere halfway down the road and do
that and meanwhile work on what you want to be doing and eventually you would be
able to switch over so I mean the nuances of all of these things are very
very touchy and very tricky so you it's hard and you want to have all the
information and options at your hand before you make these life-changing
decisions you might be a kid you know babies having babies may you might be a
very young mother or father and feel like is my life over a single parent
surprise are you have you been labeled an at-home loafer and you're scared maybe
just to go maybe you don't know how you want to be independent but with as high
as rent is on many things it's very very hard to to go out on what people what
employers are paying versus the expenses of just living is you know and then you
have all the I call them creditor predators and scams seeking to take
what little that you have off of you and just basically having you to be a
financial slave nobody wants to be reduced to that and then you've come to
30 and you wonder how did I get here and I have nothing to show for it well try
being older feeling that way because I certainly never had anything like this
they didn't have podcasts and anything to get where I did get I had to research
and do it myself and how cool is it to be able to have podcasts and other
resources at hand that you can look up you have Google you have libraries of
content and information that you can go search to get the information that you
want videos we didn't even have that I had encyclopedia Britannica okay and
then I had my grandma for Google because I think she knew just about everything so
that these are examples of people and situations on why I'm so driven to do
what I'm doing and to help build solutions and options for you and
relations and real people a lot of you maybe may feel clumsy that you're
coming late to the party maybe you know that's how I feel anyway I feel like
I'm clumsy and coming late to the party I wanted to start this in September but
I feel mandated internally to continue on for you so yes I'm starting a little
bit later but I am invested in this a million percent and I want to create
what I didn't have I want to I'm imagining the little Jen in her high
school years the Jen and me that was just sprouting out from high school life
and in my early 20s as a young mother and just try and trying to figure it out
what do I even want to be doing because once you graduate high school you're
forced to work and that and if you're not doing what you want to do then you're
having to work and then figure it out along the way and on top of that I was
raising a child and then dealing with all of those things of just living and
then you got you know so this is a real person for real people wants to give you
options ideas and a trial space to be able to practice I'm intending to the
things that I see that I think might be helpful I want to curate that information
of things that that I don't know or things that have been helpful to me if
it's helpful to me I know that it can be helpful to somebody else the
information that I use and apply and the knowledge that the knowledge stacking
that I do because I'm an avid reader I I'm a I'm addicted to information
information that's gonna help me with my life it to make it easier so that I have
more time to do the things that I want to do there's no algorithms no bots there's
no diversity requirements where I need to have so many of a certain group of
people now this is for people it's intended for high school as people which
is an age range of about 14 to 29 who want to learn and have a space to be a
part of a real community that you can learn and practice to learn those lessons
some people call it failing I call it learning lessons learning trial by error
figuring out the things that you don't want you have certain situations and
people that you come across and you're thinking hmm I'm never gonna let that
happen again or ooh I tried that and I don't like it and maybe you had an easy
way in but you know what the thing that you hate somebody else is probably gonna
love and if you're involved in that industry that you hate you can help
somebody else get into that you can introduce them to people who can get
them into that industry and vice versa can you imagine the I don't know I think
of I when you study the brain you think of all those networks and synapses and
those aha I get it moments a little they have something called a you know
you think of that brainstorm so you're making connections and getting those
aha moments brain sort they I forget what that what that what those meetings
are called I can't even think of the term now but mind meetings oh my gosh I
can't think of the term you know what I'm talking about put it in the comments
but masterminds that's it okay yeah the masterminds were people who want to
raise their game they get together and they brainstorm and that's what I want
this community to be one giant mastermind of young people who want to
really rock their world and you know what when you're happy and you're rocking
your life you are an inspiration for other people you attract goodness people
want to be around you because you're confident you're able to think for
yourself and do what you need to do and people want that that is contagious and
instead of spreading negativity around let's see if we can spread some
inspiration and responsibility the like you know I think we should make
accountability and responsibility that desire for intrinsic motivation because
it makes you feel good and it's addicting instead of having our being
depend on people outside of us to tell us that oh yeah you're cool you're a good
person that's toxic and that's what social media has become but if you want
something different you'll definitely want to be a part of this and that brings
us to the organic library of content we want to build content courses in the
future and things that are meaningful to you so that like I said you can rock
your life to be on you know health communications logical thinking analyzing
decision-making but also being able to bring out your creativity what you need
for domestic life just to be able to function to be able to run a household
even if you don't have a family you might not have a family now you might be
single but you still have to be able to know how to do laundry know how to cook
food safely to know to be able to have a clean environment so that you're not
living in a pig's eye you can find your things and paying your bills on time all
of that kind of stuff not over extending your your time and resources and your
cash not being taken by scammers being able to get along with people increasing
your self-knowledge making sure to take time for self-care and your overall and
all of this will come through in your presentation when people see you they're
gonna look at you are you are you hygienically presentable and do you care
about yourself and when you look this shovel a lot of it's weird it seems like
the homeless look is really and and those are the people that don't get
opportunities people who look good and you know you might not have won the
genetic lottery but if you're clean and you your clothes are clean and you can
think for yourself and you can give value that's gonna come across and and a
lot more than somebody you get a Chad that's got the homeless look and and
looks like he doesn't care the people that look like they care perception is
everything you look like you care about what you do and what you're where you're
going and you have some integrity internal integrity that's gonna shine
through it's gonna glow it's gonna be blinding and with that opportunities will
come to you and you want to have those skills and knowledge in hand so that when
they are presented you'll be in a position to take them and I just reach
my 30 minutes and actually that is the end so I reached my goal again so yep we
talked about those few things this is the final segment these are some things
to come I mentioned in the last podcast that I wanted to I want to my first goal
is to build a community of 5,000 people and I will do a separate episode on this
on the significance of that but right now it's going to be I'm currently working
on building a community through with a combination through buy me a coffee and
with that will be an invitation to our discord community group and it's the whole
idea right now is to build the podcast community and so there'll be a lot tons
and tons of value and engagement initial engagement and when I reach when we
reach that magic number then I'm going to take anybody else that comes after
that 5,000 will be transferred over to another platform that will be I would
imagine by that time it will be at a point to where I can actually start
building courses and things like that but the first in this discord community
the first 5,000 people who join it's going to be as such a very intimate
community where hopefully I can get to know each and every one and I'm gonna
write I'm gonna have a little book of all the people who join that community so
that I can really get to know our team can really get to know who you are it
seems like a lot but it's it's actually a pretty small number but like I
mentioned that twig you know individually or that twig that can snap and
break but more community we can be strong and powerful and create a movement
and spread it and to be able to build it on and that's what we're gonna build
our content library for but all of the people that are gonna be in the discord
community is you'll be it'll be like a learning lab just imagine like a Costco
where you have those free samples that's what it's gonna be about where we can
test I can test my I can test courses and we can do little groups and things
like that and then the things and tweak we can tweak them and once they're
perfected then I can put it in put it out to the rest of the world who might
not know and we can market those and make them available to everybody but
could you imagine being part of the creation and all of the things that we
produce you can say yeah that was my idea I came up with that question yeah and
so in a very you might think it's small but you're gonna make just even by
helping voice your concerns on the things that matter to you that's gonna
help me and my team to create content that matters to the world and you can
say yeah I was a part of that and until you figure out what you want to do and
how you want to impact the world you can do it just by being a part of the
community and that first big group the first big haul it's gonna it's gonna be
epic and I'm very excited and the biggest thing that will be coming up will
be our field trip summer field trip festival that we're going to do in
2026 that will be at a location it's think of it like the Olympics but every
year and it will be a hands hands-on workshops and conversations and topics
where we can all get together and meet one another and have fun and learn
things and network and build together how fun is that and also be in a
location where you can have fun at the same time and we can have fun together
because one of the things that I loved about teaching was going on field trips
going to different places and not just in the classroom learning all the time
but also having fun and pulling the lessons from play because that's where
you get a lot of your greatest ideas to be able to apply it to what you're doing
and I'll just conclude on that note so thank you for listening and I think I
am going to describe some a little bit more in the next episode about the
5000 the significance of that and what that's going to look like I'm almost done
building that community up and the discord I do have those set up I'm still
working on that but my goal is to have that done by the end of the month that
people can join in you can support either in support us individually or become a
part of that community which is probably the most affordable community that you
could possibly imagine for all of the value that you're gonna get and and it's
just a one-time fee or you can do it incrementally but it's designed to be
you know I like that idea of buy me a coffee that it's not gonna be worth
more than two coffees so if you can afford two coffees a month that's what
it's gonna be and then if you pay a one-time it's gonna be even cheaper than
that so we're excited about that because you do have to invest a little bit
otherwise you're not gonna take seriously take it seriously people it's a
scientific fact that if you anything that's for free don't take it you don't
value it but when you invest and it's more of an investment of time in your
thoughts and the time that you put in outside to be able to apply the things
that we're talking about it's ultimately an investment in yourself but it's real
investment it's more of a personal investment in yourself than anything else
so if you're prepared to do this and to move through to take accountability
responsibility invest in yourself personally with your time and your
thoughts and your reflections so that you can figure out take the skills and
the knowledge to figure out what you want and what you don't want you will
rock your life by the time we're 30 and you can help other people along the way
your cohorts so thank you for listening and stay curious I'll see you in the
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