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We're in a series of messages on the Ten Commandments,

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some good heart-to-heart talks regarding God's ten rules for living.

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And the little heart-to-heart talk that we're going to have today

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is the second in the series that I am bringing on the Seventh Commandment.

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Thou shalt not commit adultery.

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When I left you in the first of these heart-to-heart talks regarding the Seventh Commandment,

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I showed you something.

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God gave this commandment five short words.

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It follows, thou shalt not kill.

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Therefore, we know the importance of the Seventh Commandment.

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No argument is used, no reason given,

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because this is one commandment that needs no argument.

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It needs no reason.

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God states it, He makes it a commandment,

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and any man or woman who breaks it will suffer.

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It's just like that.

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Immediately after the commandment,

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declaring the sacredness of human life, thou shalt not kill,

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follows that which safeguards the highest earthly relationship that we know,

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the relationship between man and woman.

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Now, I left you with just the answer to what is adultery.

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I know there's no subject more difficult to deal with faithfully.

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There's no subject, probably, that needs more finesse in dealing with it, especially publicly.

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There's no subject that needs greater tact in dealing with it than this one.

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We must deal with it reverently.

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And yet, there is none demanding more fearless handling than this subject.

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It's that important.

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And I reminded you that 50% of all human misery is caused by the violation of this commandment.

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For the next several minutes, I shall ask and I shall try to answer three questions.

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What is adultery?

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Why is it wrong?

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What can one who has violated the law do about it?

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Simple, yet vitally important.

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All right, first of all, what is adultery?

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Adultery is violation of the marriage law of faithfulness to each other.

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It's just that simple.

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There it is.

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Adultery is violation of the marriage vow of faithfulness to each other.

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Watch it.

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I'm going to go a little further.

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Any sex experience outside the marriage bond is adultery.

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And it's wrong because God says it's wrong.

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Even though 10 million people may say it's right, it does not make it right,

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because 10 million people believe that it's right and have their own personal ideas regarding it.

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If God says it's wrong, it's wrong.

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And it's so important to keep this thing right that God lists it next to the sacredness of life itself.

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Thou shalt not kill.

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And there it is.

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Take it or leave it.

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If you leave it, take this law in your own hands, live contrary to it, you'll suffer.

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You'll pay the price.

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And not only you, you may find that the next generation will be suffering because of it, even to the third generation.

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This is something that is very sacred in the sight of God.

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There seems to be an increasingly popular notion, very popular.

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It's extremely popular among our high school, our college students, this young present generation,

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that the marriage relation is a civil one only.

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You can do just as you please.

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As common as eating your three meals a day.

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As common as a date.

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This present generation gets the idea that when you talk about marriage,

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that the marriage relationship is a civil one only.

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This is a vital error.

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It is wholly divine.

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Once the union is consummated, it is for the period of life.

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And there's only one reason for its disannulling.

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Until death itself.

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And that is fornication.

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Which is far more awful than death.

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I think that I'm giving you my opinion.

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You may call me old-fashioned.

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I'm telling you something.

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Don't you dare call me old-fashioned.

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I'm just about as modern as they come.

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That's right.

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But I'm old-fashioned in just one thing, and that is the Word of God.

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I'm as old-fashioned, and I think that's the only thing that I am old-fashioned into

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when it comes right down to it.

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That's right.

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But I'm just as old-fashioned as the Scripture.

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I'm as old-fashioned as God's Word.

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I'm as old-fashioned as the Bible.

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And when God says it, I'm a sticker for it.

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I believe it.

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And I'm a fool if I would live contrary to it.

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Because I would be the one who would suffer.

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You cannot break any one of God's rules without suffering for it.

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And it's just like that.

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And when it comes to the seventh commandment,

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it's something that's very delicate.

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It's something that's very vital.

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It's something extremely sacred.

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Yes, ma'am, I've given you the definition for adultery.

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And remember, this thing of husband and wife, this thing of marriage,

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is a whole lot more than just a piece of paper.

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Much more than just a minister signing a piece of paper

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or a judge signing a piece of paper.

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Or paying out two bucks for a marriage license.

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Once the union is consummated, it is for the period of life.

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And in the sight of God, there is only one reason for its disannulling,

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and that is fornication.

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All right?

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Right here and now, let's clear up something once and for all,

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because there are so many letters that come in week after week with questions.

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Now, I'm going to make this so clear that after I get through bringing these little heart-to-heart talks,

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don't just want me with letters with 10,000 questions,

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because in analyzing your questions, I usually find that they come from people

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who try to argue God into believing that they are right,

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and they are trying to fit the problems of their own life with the Bible

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or bring the Bible down to their level.

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It is so simple, it's like A-B-C.

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There'll be no questions in your mind unless you are trying to make parts of the puzzle fit where they aren't supposed to fit.

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All right.

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So, for a few minutes, we're going to go into this matter of divorce.

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Let me first of all give you what the Lord says, His own words.

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When I get it out, when I get my Bible, it's Matthew the 19th chapter.

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You get your Bible out too.

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I'm turning the pages of mine.

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The 19th chapter of Matthew, let's begin with that 9th verse.

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Jesus is speaking, and I say unto you, He's talking,

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whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication.

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Now, there is one license for a divorce and remarriage.

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It's one thing.

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God looks upon fornication, God looks upon adultery as such a great sin

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that He uses it as a license for divorce and remarriage.

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Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication,

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and shall marry another, committeth adultery,

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and whosoever marryeth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

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So both of you are guilty.

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If you've got a husband that you're sick and tired of,

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oh, you'd give anything in the world if you could get rid of the old boy.

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Oh, he was so wonderful.

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When you married him and now you're so tired of him,

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you forgot when the moon was shining and you were so romantic

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that you were going to have to sit across the table from that same face three meals a day.

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Oh, you were so romantic that night.

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You forgot you'd have to wash his old dirty socks.

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You forgot about all those dishes that had to be washed.

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The drudgery of keeping house is like a young fella.

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And if I were to give you his name, a great many of you folk would know whom I speak.

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He came to me, oh, this has been years ago.

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Oh, he said, Catherine.

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I got myself in a mess. I said, what did you do?

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I got myself engaged.

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I said, you didn't.

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Yes, and I knew he'd been down in San Diego singing.

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I said, you didn't.

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You don't even have the money to support yourself, much less getting engaged.

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And if there's anybody that doesn't need a wife, you're the guy.

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What made you do it?

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And I'll never forget the look on his face.

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He looked at me and this was the only answer he could say.

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Oh, the moon was so beautiful.

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You know something?

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That sounds silly, but you were just as foolish.

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Now watch.

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You were going to have him.

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You got him.

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He's a good old plug.

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But he's not just what you want right now.

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And you got eyes on somebody else.

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Listen, according to the Word of God, you cannot get rid of him.

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If he is true to you, if he is not committing adultery, he is faithful to you,

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you do not have the license to divorce him and marry somebody else.

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If you do, you commit adultery and the one who marries you commits adultery.

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That's the Word of God.

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If your husband is untrue to you and living with another woman,

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you have a right to get a divorce and to marry someone else.

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But listen, you better be dead sure that your husband is committing adultery.

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That is not only your imagination.

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Some women have the wildest imaginations.

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They want to believe that their husbands are committing adultery

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when he's just as true to you as can be.

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Be sure it's not your imagination.

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I'm going to pause and let that soak in.

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You just think so.

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You better be dead sure.

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Now the Lord goes on.

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His disciples say unto him, if the case of the man be so with his wife,

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is it not good to marry?

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And the Lord goes right ahead and gives the rest of the Scripture.

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It's found in the 19th chapter of Matthew.

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Now let's see what Paul says.

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We got that straight. It's simple as can be.

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Turn to 1 Corinthians, the 7th chapter.

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Oh, Paul is great.

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He begins by saying, now first of all I'm going to give you my opinion.

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This is my opinion.

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I speak this by permission and not of commandment.

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In other words, he's saying, this is my idea.

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God didn't say it, I am giving you my idea first.

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Then after he gives his own, then he goes on and gives God's word.

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I would, this is Paul's idea, that all men were even as I myself.

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In other words, don't get married.

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But every man has his proper gift of God, one after this manner and another after that.

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I say therefore to the unmarried and the widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I.

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In other words, you'll certainly save yourself a lot of trouble.

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I hear somebody saying, that's the truth.

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I know. You'll save yourself a lot of trouble, a lot of worry.

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That's what I don't understand about some of these men.

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My goodness, the life.

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I've gotten some of their prayer requests.

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They had such a hard time with their first wife and then she dies.

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I watched the procedure. They practically crawl into the casket with her and six months later,

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they've gotten themselves into a mess worse than the first one.

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They can't wait to get married again.

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I see some of these women.

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They can't get along with the husband they have.

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He dies, they become widows.

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And I breathe a sigh of relief and say to myself,

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my, she'll at least have five, ten good years of happiness

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because she's wept on my shoulders and told me her troubles in the flesh,

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trying to live with the husband she had.

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I am shocked.

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Eight months haven't passed in the history before.

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She's got another one.

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Paul says if you want to save yourself a lot of heartache and a lot of trouble,

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do like I do.

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Don't get married.

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Now he says unto the married I command,

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yet not I but the Lord.

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The Lord is saying, let not the wife depart from her husband,

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but and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband.

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And let not the husband put away his wife, but to the rest speak I not the Lord.

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If any brother hath the wife that believeth not,

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and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.

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And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not,

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and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not put him away.

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In other words, if you're a Christian and your husband's unsaid,

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that's no cause for divorce.

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If he's willing to stay with you, go right ahead.

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Same way with the husband and wife.

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But he says, if you're going to get a divorce,

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and we see here that divorce is not a sin,

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but to remarry is a sin,

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except in the case where the other party has been untrue.

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That's the Scripture.

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That's God's Word.

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Amen.