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Welcome, guys, to the Full Armor of Game Dating

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Podcast, Episode 74. Why she flaked on you, and

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what to do about it like a man. I am your host,

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the Czar of Dating, alongside the texting prince,

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also known as Adam. Flaked? Here's the truth

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she won't tell you. She seemed into you. You

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locked in the date. Everything felt smooth. Then,

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out of nowhere, Hey! Something came up with a

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sad emoji face. She flaked. Now you're sitting

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there overthinking everything, wondering if you

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were too eager, not charming enough, or just

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plain unlucky. But here's the truth. Women don't

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flake on men they're excited to see. In this

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episode, We're giving you the truth she won't

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say out loud. You'll learn why flaking really

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happens, how to spot it before it's coming, and

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how to handle it like a man who values his time,

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not the one who begs for hers. You bring the

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crowns and heads of conquered kings to my city

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steps. You insult my queen. You threaten my people

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with slavery and death. This is Sparta! So we're

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going to start today by reading an email I got

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of someone that got stood up. And I'm warning

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you guys, it's really bad. This is probably The

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worst story I've ever heard about a guy being

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stood up and a guy being flaked on. We're going

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to keep them anonymous. So, I got stood up in

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the worst and most confusing way. A gal, actually

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one that I know in a professional manner, and

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I seemed to hit it off. She let me come by her

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house to borrow an item that I wished to try

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out before I committed to one. In a later phone

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conversation, she told me how much she likes

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me. I responded, in a kind manner and oh no i

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responded in kind so he's saying like uh i also

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told her i liked her ah i think that's actually

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a big point oh okay that's good okay okay and

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suggested a dinner date she agreed to it i called

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her the next afternoon and asked her out to dinner

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she suggested that i come by her house and watch

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a movie instead I came by at 8 o 'clock and rang

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the doorbell. She opened the door and stared

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at me blankly for a moment and then asked me

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what I wanted. I said to her, you invited me

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over to watch a movie with you. She then told

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me that she had me confused with someone else.

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My thoughts were, how in this day and age can

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someone not know who they are talking to on the

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phone with? With the caller ID and the fact that

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she talked to me at length, the night before.

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I apologized and left, hyperventilating for a

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good hour afterwards. She later texted me apologizing

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for the huge misunderstanding. I was pretty burnt

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in my response. She seemed genuinely concerned

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about losing me as a friend. I backed down and

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let the matter drop. Predictably, I haven't heard

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from her since. My confusion about the situation

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is if she genuinely confused me for another gentleman,

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something that I have a hard time accepting,

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or if she flaked out on me in the most cruel

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way imaginable. I planned to stay away from her,

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but this really messed with my psyche. Ah, man,

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Adam, I felt that burn. There's a lot to break

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down. Yeah, because... And theoretically, she

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could have actually confused him. But I'm just

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curious how that happened. Like maybe did she

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have him not saved in her phone? I don't think

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she got him confused. I don't think she got him

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confused, Adam. So you think that he came over

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and she had the buyer's remorse? Yeah. And she

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had the buyer's remorse. And she realized how

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repulsive he was and gave her that ick feeling

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where she had to basically bail out. acting as

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if there was a misunderstanding and she confused

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him with the wrong guy yeah this is such a interesting

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thing too because even how he says she suggested

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i come by her house and watch a movie and said

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i came by at 8 p .m and ring the doorbell like

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did did she just say come by sometime tonight

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and he just showed up randomly like how did this

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is there's so many things that i'm confused by

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with this but I could see already just in some

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of the ways that he played it of why that girl

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would have got buyer's remorse. And he was hyperventilating

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for an hour, he said, which basically tells me

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he's more of a beta male who was probably in

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that friend zone. We'll start off the episode

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by talking about reasons a woman may have flaked.

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And just from this example already, a woman will

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flake on a man if she's bored. And the boredom

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can come in different ways. There's obviously

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the emotion, you know, you're not getting your

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emotions engaged and all that. But boredom also

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comes strictly like when the challenge is over.

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So again, when we talk about hypergamy, she wants

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the highest status man that she feels she can

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attain. So once a woman feels that she can attain

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you by you being eager, by you being really excited

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to take her on a date, this guy by. So he said,

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in the phone conversation, she told me how much

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she likes me. I responded in kind and suggested

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a date. So the fact that he responded in kind,

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and this is where it sounds so confusing for

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men, but women could say they really like you.

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Me, knowing the game, that doesn't matter. I'm

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not going to be like, oh my gosh, I really, really

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like you too and all that. Like Zara, how would

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you play that off again? Like a girl says, I

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really like you. And I remember I mentioned this

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story. You remember as well with the Blonde Bomb

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show when I was, I think, 20, 21. And on the

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car ride after we got done hanging out, she was

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on the car ride back with her friend. She texted

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me and she said, I really like you. And I responded,

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I really like you too. And you could just feel

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the pullback that just happened, that energy

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shift. And I never saw her ever again. Challenge

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over, like you said. And then like right now,

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Zar, you would say, I say, I really like you.

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And you say, I know you do with the wink face.

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Exactly. Yes. So just in this example right there,

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when we say a woman might flake on you because

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she's bored, her hypergamy is bored, the challenge

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is over. In those two examples, a girl says,

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I like you. If you say, I really like you too.

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Now she's like, oh, I know where he stands. Oh,

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he does like me. Oh, he really wants to see me.

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He wants to take me out. And then. women even

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in the moment she might go i really like this

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guy and then he says it back and she's like uh

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i don't know why i don't have the butterflies

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anymore but when a girl says i really like you

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and then czar is like i know you do that girl's

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hypergamy is still engaged because there's still

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a challenge there she's like gosh this guy i

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can't figure him out i can't get a read on read

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on him but he is funny so i definitely want to

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see him and so now That keeps her engaged to

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where she wants to hang out on the date. But

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if you make her bored, her hypergamy bored by

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becoming too easy, too eager, then that girl

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is just going to be like, I would rather flake

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on this guy. And hopefully I'm going to text

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Zara here. I'm going to text Adam because this

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guy's really fun. I can't figure him out. And

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she'll go for that guy every time because she's

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bored of. The guy in front of her. And Adam,

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I was actually in a similar situation. I can't

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hate on this guy. This was a couple of years

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ago at the gym where I approached this girl that

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kept checking me out. And I eventually got her

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number talking to her the first time. You guys

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know my rule of waiting the third time when you

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see them at the gym. I broke my own rule. And

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this is what happens, right? So I got her number.

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I said, oh, cool. Let's go out. I want to take

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you out for drinks. And she said, OK, but I'm

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going to Miami. for the week. It was for New

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Year's. When we come back, we'll hang out. She

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comes back and she's in the cycling studio by

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herself. She's on the cycling bike. My dumb ass

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goes in the cycling studio right before I'm about

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to leave. I walk up to her, invaded her privacy,

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which was very repulsive. And I said, I'm going

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to call you tonight. And she looked at me and

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she said, Don't do that. And she just started

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shaking her head. And she basically was rejecting

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me right then and there, giving me an attitude.

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She's like, please don't do that. And told me

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to fuck off. And she didn't want to go out with

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me anymore. I never talked to that girl ever

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again. I just walked away. But I know the feeling.

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I wasn't hyperventilating like this guy. I knew

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she was a hoe too. So I really didn't give a

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fuck. But some things you guys can learn from

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that. Never invade a woman's privacy. If she's

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in the studio by herself or a cycling studio,

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leave her be. Remain a challenge. And definitely

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don't tell a girl that you're going to call her

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after she already gave you her number. Like when

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she comes back on vacation or you see her a week

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later. That's just retarded. She gave you her

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number. Just call her at your earliest convenience

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if you want to go. talk to her and see her. Don't

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do what I did. And I learned very quickly. So

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that's how women are. Sometimes they're in the

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moment, they're excited, they think you're attractive,

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and then they get buyer's remorse. For whatever

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reason, they get buyer's remorse. Yep. And other

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ways that a girl will become bored of you and

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flake is if you try to get to know her over texting

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or over the dating app. That's a big one. Yeah,

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you try to play 20 questions with her. Again,

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these are things I used to do. I used to actually

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play 20 questions with girls and get to know

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their whole life story. And then I'd wonder why

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they didn't want to meet up with me. So getting

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to know a girl where you're talking on the phone

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going, oh, well, I need to build comfort and

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connection so that she wants to meet up with

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me. But that's not really true with women. Really,

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a girl just wants to have the comfort that you're

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not going to be a stalker. You're not going to

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be. clingy and needy that's the only comfort

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you really need to build with a woman early on

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you do not need to tell her where you went to

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college and what you majored in and tell her

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you know all about your family and learn all

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about her family or whatever because if you do

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play this fun getting and i know every guy listening

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to this knows the feeling when you you know match

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with a really attractive girl you just meet this

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really cute girl And she's texting you and she

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seems excited. So in the moment, it seems like

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a good idea to keep going like, oh my gosh, we're

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learning so much about each other. This is so

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awesome. Yeah, on one hand, she's investing in

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you. On one hand, she's putting effort in the

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conversation. But if you get to know, she gets

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to know the whole picture of you as a guy or

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she feels like she knows enough about you. Now,

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when you set up the date with her. she has less

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urgency to actually need to show up on the date

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because she's kind of like, I know a lot about

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this guy. There's not a lot of mystery left is

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with the guy that she maybe only had a few conversations

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with on a dating app. All she was was making

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funny, playful jokes and just teasing her and

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all that. She knows nothing about this guy. But

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because that guy was a playful challenge, now

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she has to go on the date to actually. find out

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more about this guy versus the guy that she can

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learn everything about over the cell phone or

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you know texting and phone calls that girl can

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like oh I'm sorry I don't feel good tonight can

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we reschedule she could stay home she could be

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like I'll call you tonight though and she can

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still get her fix of getting to know a guy and

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getting that validation and attention without

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any urgency to actually need to meet up on the

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date Yeah, and I know we've all been there before

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where you meet a hot girl, you chit chat for

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a bit, you get her number, text a few times,

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you set up a meeting and she doesn't show. When

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I was first building my confidence and learning

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the game, this was like a punch in the chest

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for me. A girl not showing up made me feel worthless.

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Like everything I was learning and trying to

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better myself with was a lie. As I started learning

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game seduction patterns and the traits of a masculine

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alpha man, I also noticed my filters, the mental

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roadmaps of my world changed. So when a girl

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first stood me up, my thoughts were to immediately

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assume it was all about me. I wasn't good enough.

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I was too short, old, bald, whatever it is, guys,

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too fat. But the truth is, it could be a multitude

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of issues. She could have been in a car wreck.

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She could be sick. She could have lost her phone

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with your number. Her dad could have died. She

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was stranded at an airport or captured by pirates

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and held for ransom. The simple act of realizing

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there are a lot of possible reasons releases

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the stress we tend to put on ourselves, which

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allows us to be more calculating in our response.

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So there's many reasons why women flake. Doesn't

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mean it's you guys, but we want you to learn

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from the mistakes of not revealing your hand

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too early on messaging a girl. And I told you,

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I think I mentioned this, how this happened to

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me with a beautiful Arabic woman I matched with

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on a dating app. Everything was going smoothly.

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Everything. Got her number. We were texting that

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entire week, set up a date the weekend, on the

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weekend, and she would send me pictures of her

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at work. I would send her pics of me working

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out. She seemed like she was interested. Eight

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o 'clock at night comes. I'm waiting at the tavern

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and she doesn't show up. She doesn't show up.

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She doesn't hit me up. Nothing. I didn't ask

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her, oh, where are you? Are you still coming?

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I already got the hint. Like I got the hint.

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I'm not going to give her any more of my attention.

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Like that's it. It's gone. When a girl ghosts

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you. or she flakes on you without a valid reason,

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you do not ever talk to her again. Ever. Under

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any circumstances. Unless that she was kidnapped

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by pirates and she was held ransom and she apologizes

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to you. Other than that, I am never talking to

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that girl ever again. I don't care if she said,

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come over, I want to bang the shit out of you.

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Because to me, it's just so disrespectful. But

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I learned, like you said, Adam, I revealed my

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hand too quickly. I was being too available,

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which is also another reason where you're too

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available. You're constantly texting her back

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and forth. You're not having time in between.

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You're not busy enough. And another reason is

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being too sexual right off the gate. Fellas,

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it takes time. You do not be too sexual right

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off the gate directly with a woman. you have

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to kind of do it in a smooth way. We're not being

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too direct about it, but you're sending out those

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sexual innuendos. You're misinterpreting what

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she's saying, and you're spinning it into a sexual

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message. That's very powerful. Once again, we

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teach you that in the Players University, but

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misinterpreting what a woman says is very powerful,

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okay? A lot of guys make the mistake of being

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too horny, right off the gate, too sexual, asking

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for nudes, doing all this dirty talk, and she

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doesn't even know you yet. Fellas, that takes

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time. There are some women that will be sexual

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right off the gate with you, some low -hanging

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fruit, and if that's all they want, that's all

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they want, whatever. But you will scare off every

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good quality girl you meet if you're going to

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be too sexual right off the gate. Yeah, and it's

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a blueprint for failure because I actually know

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that there's some guys that will teach that.

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They'll say all these direct dirty lines and

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they'll be like, yeah, it's a numbers game. Someone

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won't play back. But the ones that do, that means

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you're in. It's like you're just creating habits

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of poor attraction skills with women. If you're

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just going for those tiny little low -hanging

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fruit, you are. creating bad habits and then

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dating apps will literally kick those guys off.

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Like guys get blocked off dating apps and then

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their one plan didn't work. It's so much better

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to substitute flirtiness for sexual energy. It's

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like all you got to do on early dating apps is

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have flirty energy, but it doesn't have to be

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sexual or derogatory energy. If a girl said Let's

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just say she goes, oh, I just, you know, finished

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watching blah, blah, blah movie or whatever.

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If I don't know this girl, I could just be like

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rude. And then she's like, what? And I go, you

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didn't even invite me. That's mean negative two

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points. So that is flirty. That's me showing

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her like I can flirt and I can be playful on

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that. Me being overly sexual with her being like,

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oh, I just finished watching a movie and me being

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like. oh well uh hey why don't i come over right

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now like we can netflix and chill wink face or

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something like that that is like overly gross

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sexual energy and girls are gonna be turned off

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by that and i'll never forget when when i first

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started creating my own reality i had girls flake

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on me all the time this was back in the day when

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i first started learning game So I was old school.

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I would set up the coffee date where I would

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invite them to meet me for a cup of coffee at

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the local cafe. When the women would ask me why

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coffee, I would tell them. So if you are a crazy

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stalker, I can leave very fast. It was a low

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risk venue. I was also very broke and didn't

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want to spend money on dates. So after a few

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times of girls flaking on me, I knew I had to

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get it handled. I hadn't yet realized that my

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underlying mental programming, such as lack of

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confidence and incongruent communications, were

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the real culprits. So I tried several physical

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techniques to prevent or handle the flake. So

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for example, guys, if a girl flaked on me, she

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didn't text, call, or show, I would wait till

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the next morning and then text her something

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like, I'm sorry. for not showing up i know how

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rude it is i had a family emergency still waiting

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on results obviously it was a lie but a nice

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open loop pattern a lot of girls would text me

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wanting to know more about the drama with my

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family and saying it was okay most girls that

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text back showed up if i set up a second meeting

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but i don't like lying i don't want to trick

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a girl into bed with me so this was short -lived

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so i remember one girl who was okay not the prettiest

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but cute and she flirted all the time with me.

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I wasn't all that into her at first, but over

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time her flirty ways started to build attraction

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inside of me. I set up the time for our meet

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and she completely flaked. I text a few times

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with no response. It was really pissing me off

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since she was the one that always hinted at us

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getting together. Now she is standing me up and

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not even texting back. So I started reframing

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the situation through different patterns when

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several things occurred to me. Number one, I

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really didn't want to meet her at first. So I

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felt like I was doing her a favor until she flaked.

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Two, the fact that she flaked actually attracted

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me more to her. Basic human nature. We want what

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we can't have or what is hard to obtain. Number

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three. Because the flake increased my attraction

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in her, I could use this dynamic on girls to

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increase their attraction to me. So sometimes

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I'll flake on girls or I'll reschedule when something

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better comes up or a hotter girl shows up that

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I want to go out with. And it actually makes

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them more attracted to you. Women want, well,

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human nature, we want what we can't have, what's

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hard to obtain. Because anytime those women would

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flake on me, even if they weren't the prettiest,

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it made me more attracted to them. It made me

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much more attracted to them. Yeah, that's kind

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of how I started thinking about redesigning my

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texting is like knowing how it felt when I was

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waiting on a girl I liked to text me back. I

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was like, wait a second, human nature. Women

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feel the same things. Just most guys don't give

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them that feeling because most guys are too eager.

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Most guys are too excited. So I was like, oh,

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if I restrain myself and I started to do that

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and I started to realize women were the ones

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that got eager and started chasing me versus

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I used to be the guy being eager and chasing

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women. The flaking thing you mentioned too there

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is like being able to flake on a girl is what

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makes your value go up. Because women want a

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man whose time's in demand, a man that is wanted

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by other women. So if you're able to flake on

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a pretty girl, that sub communicates so many

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of those high status things of like abundance,

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like, wow, this guy wasn't scraping, dropping

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everything for a date with me. He had to cancel

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on me. What the heck? That's the same thing as

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like when I tell guys it's okay to not text a

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girl back, especially a pretty girl. Pretty girl

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text me. I love not texting them back. That is

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like a subtle her setting up a date with me and

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me flaking on her because she's like, no guy,

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no guy ever doesn't respond to me. What is going

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on? And that, again, reshapes the dynamic to

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where you are the prize. So if I think about

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for guys getting flaked on with women, one of

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the biggest things that happens is guys show

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their hand in the fact that they even want a

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date with the girl. This is like a huge moment

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I hope the guys can listen to and understand

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is that when I'm on a dating app with a girl

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or I'm early texting a girl, she knows I have

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interest, we matched. She knows I have interest,

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we're texting. I do not need to show her any

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more than that by like me saying, I really wanna

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take you on a date. So I will always wait for

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a girl to be the one that is hinting at or subtly

00:23:31.549 --> 00:23:33.690
bringing up, we should get together, we should

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meet up. If a girl doesn't bring it up to me,

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I can still move it forward. But even how I frame

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it is to where it's not me wanting the date.

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So again, how I would frame this is sometimes

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I'm just like, ah, you seem fun so far. So when

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are you going to ask me out on a date? So even

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if I say that to a girl instead of me going,

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hey, we should go out sometime, even that subtle

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difference of, again, I would rather wait and

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wait and wait and let women bring up the date

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first in different ways. But I can still move

00:24:03.920 --> 00:24:06.019
it forward by just being like, ah, you seem you

00:24:06.019 --> 00:24:08.140
seem cool. Plus two points. When are you going

00:24:08.140 --> 00:24:10.559
to ask me out on a date? When are you going to

00:24:10.559 --> 00:24:13.480
take me out for drinks? And just by me putting

00:24:13.480 --> 00:24:16.660
that role reversal of like, when are you going

00:24:16.660 --> 00:24:20.730
to ask me out? That subtle shift is so much better

00:24:20.730 --> 00:24:23.130
in the power dynamics with women than a guy just

00:24:23.130 --> 00:24:25.750
going, hey, you seem fun. I want to take you

00:24:25.750 --> 00:24:29.789
out. That subtle tiny shift is huge in keeping

00:24:29.789 --> 00:24:32.230
a woman engaged and not flaking on you guys early

00:24:32.230 --> 00:24:35.630
on. Because again, if a girl feels you want the

00:24:35.630 --> 00:24:38.730
date more than she wants the date, her hypergamy

00:24:38.730 --> 00:24:42.170
says this challenge is over. I might still hang

00:24:42.170 --> 00:24:44.809
out with them. But if anything, any other guy

00:24:44.809 --> 00:24:47.190
more interesting comes around. I'm going to flake

00:24:47.190 --> 00:24:49.029
on this guy and go with the more interesting

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one that I haven't figured out yet. And being

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in the Players University, one thing I learned

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from you, Adam, especially with the dating app

00:24:56.769 --> 00:25:00.509
messaging game, is the longer I wait to reply,

00:25:00.890 --> 00:25:05.170
the higher the chance I have of getting her number

00:25:05.170 --> 00:25:09.269
and being seen as high value in her eyes. And

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also, there were times where I waited about a

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week. Before I even responded to a girl because

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of the abundance mindset, getting all these matches,

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and I was just too busy. And I was like, oh,

00:25:20.660 --> 00:25:23.759
I forgot. She replied to me. And they would respond

00:25:23.759 --> 00:25:28.160
to me right away after I waited a week. They

00:25:28.160 --> 00:25:30.839
would still respond to me right away because

00:25:30.839 --> 00:25:33.940
they realized, wow, this guy is a challenge.

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All these other guys are messaging me right away,

00:25:37.019 --> 00:25:39.700
right away. This guy must have options. There's

00:25:39.700 --> 00:25:43.779
something intriguing about him. Even when you

00:25:43.779 --> 00:25:48.059
flake on a girl, what happens, Adam? She starts

00:25:48.059 --> 00:25:51.119
telling all her friends about you that she got

00:25:51.119 --> 00:25:53.359
flaked on, which is good because she's still

00:25:53.359 --> 00:25:55.839
talking about you. She's probably stalking you.

00:25:55.859 --> 00:25:57.680
She's probably stalking you on social media.

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Like, is he doing something else? Why did he

00:26:00.480 --> 00:26:02.279
flake on me? Her and her girlfriends are now

00:26:02.279 --> 00:26:05.640
game planning how to get you, how to get this

00:26:05.640 --> 00:26:08.039
guy interested, how to get this guy hooked. Now

00:26:08.039 --> 00:26:10.759
that's what their mind goes on. Because you flaked

00:26:10.759 --> 00:26:13.940
on them. They're still talking about you. Bad

00:26:13.940 --> 00:26:16.960
publicity is still publicity. It's still good

00:26:16.960 --> 00:26:19.059
publicity. They're talking about you while her

00:26:19.059 --> 00:26:21.339
phone is dinging off of all these other guys

00:26:21.339 --> 00:26:23.039
saying, hey, I really want to take you out. Oh,

00:26:23.119 --> 00:26:25.119
when can we hang out? Oh, you want to hang out

00:26:25.119 --> 00:26:27.099
this Saturday? It's like those dings are going

00:26:27.099 --> 00:26:29.059
off in her phone, and she's looking at them with

00:26:29.059 --> 00:26:31.319
a disgusted face, putting her phone down. Let

00:26:31.319 --> 00:26:33.299
me keep talking to my girlfriends about this

00:26:33.299 --> 00:26:36.619
exciting guy, Zar, that flaked on me. I still

00:26:36.619 --> 00:26:38.660
can't believe he did that. And that is where

00:26:38.660 --> 00:26:41.279
her mind is. That's where she's engaged. Which

00:26:41.279 --> 00:26:44.980
again, the overall energy is it, if you're on

00:26:44.980 --> 00:26:47.400
that more of, I'm willing to flake on you energy

00:26:47.400 --> 00:26:51.579
versus the, I can't wait to see you energy. The

00:26:51.579 --> 00:26:55.259
I'm okay flaking on you energy is a thousand

00:26:55.259 --> 00:26:57.299
times more powerful than the guy giving off the,

00:26:57.380 --> 00:27:00.019
I really want to see you. Oh, you're so pretty.

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Wow. You seem like a catch. And another cool

00:27:04.680 --> 00:27:07.059
tip and trick I want to teach you guys, this

00:27:07.059 --> 00:27:12.400
is game right here. So if I could start to feel

00:27:12.400 --> 00:27:15.500
or calibrate that a girl was likely to flake

00:27:15.500 --> 00:27:19.900
on me, I would use this dynamic on them. I would

00:27:19.900 --> 00:27:24.079
wait till just before the date and send them

00:27:24.079 --> 00:27:27.960
a, I can't make it tonight. Maybe next time text

00:27:27.960 --> 00:27:32.329
by being vague. By being vague and not giving

00:27:32.329 --> 00:27:35.329
a reason, the girl tends to let her imagination

00:27:35.329 --> 00:27:39.769
run wild, just like it did for me anytime I got

00:27:39.769 --> 00:27:42.589
stood up. And then I wouldn't even respond to

00:27:42.589 --> 00:27:45.049
her text for the rest of the day, night, maybe

00:27:45.049 --> 00:27:48.029
even until the next day. Even if they aren't

00:27:48.029 --> 00:27:50.730
that into you and they had no intentions on showing

00:27:50.730 --> 00:27:54.369
up, fellas, they now feel you have increased

00:27:54.369 --> 00:27:58.430
value as their mind goes through the, did he

00:27:58.430 --> 00:28:01.750
meet another girl? Or why doesn't he want me

00:28:01.750 --> 00:28:05.250
type thoughts? I actually had quite a few girls

00:28:05.250 --> 00:28:07.990
that weren't that into me start chasing me after

00:28:07.990 --> 00:28:11.269
breaking a date like this. And it hasn't happened

00:28:11.269 --> 00:28:13.769
in a while since that Arabic woman I told you

00:28:13.769 --> 00:28:17.190
about. I could feel, like I said, I felt a shift

00:28:17.190 --> 00:28:21.029
in her energy. I should have canceled the date

00:28:21.029 --> 00:28:27.099
before she flaked on me. I was smiling when you

00:28:27.099 --> 00:28:29.039
were saying that because that's such a great

00:28:29.039 --> 00:28:33.259
idea. But you have to be calibrated, Adam. Most

00:28:33.259 --> 00:28:35.579
guys aren't calibrated enough to realize her

00:28:35.579 --> 00:28:38.960
energy is off or she's texting me less and less.

00:28:39.420 --> 00:28:41.680
This is going to be a huge piece that people

00:28:41.680 --> 00:28:44.559
can use now because so many guys get into the

00:28:44.559 --> 00:28:47.059
habit. I always say, I set a date with a girl.

00:28:47.140 --> 00:28:50.259
I make up an excuse why I have to leave the conversation.

00:28:51.240 --> 00:28:53.200
whatever, I'll see you then. Got to head to the

00:28:53.200 --> 00:28:55.039
gym or got to finish a project. So I end the

00:28:55.039 --> 00:28:57.099
conversation and then I expect the girl will

00:28:57.099 --> 00:28:59.779
show up. And a lot of times the girl will text

00:28:59.779 --> 00:29:01.980
me before the date, like checking in. Hey, we

00:29:01.980 --> 00:29:03.500
still in and all that, but it won't come from

00:29:03.500 --> 00:29:06.099
me. So when I tell guys this, guys get into this

00:29:06.099 --> 00:29:08.799
very scared mindset where, oh, it's two days

00:29:08.799 --> 00:29:11.000
till the date and she hasn't texted me. There's

00:29:11.000 --> 00:29:12.380
a day before the date, she hasn't texted me.

00:29:12.420 --> 00:29:14.759
The day of the date. And they're so wanting to

00:29:14.759 --> 00:29:17.019
be like, hey, are you still going to show up

00:29:17.019 --> 00:29:20.579
to that girl? And that text screams neediness

00:29:20.579 --> 00:29:22.859
and desperation. So the girl sees that and she's

00:29:22.859 --> 00:29:24.799
like, ah, that wasn't very confident. Now she's

00:29:24.799 --> 00:29:26.440
going to make up her tears. No, I'm so sorry.

00:29:26.559 --> 00:29:29.599
I can't make it. But if a guy is in that situation

00:29:29.599 --> 00:29:32.200
and he's worried, she's not going to show up.

00:29:32.220 --> 00:29:34.279
And like you said, there is that feeling in your

00:29:34.279 --> 00:29:36.559
guts, like the bottom of your stomach where you

00:29:36.559 --> 00:29:38.420
go, oh, I don't think this girl is going to show

00:29:38.420 --> 00:29:42.339
up. That's when you as the man just play it cool,

00:29:42.400 --> 00:29:46.069
calm and collected and just go, all right. two

00:29:46.069 --> 00:29:48.569
hours or three hours before the date time at

00:29:48.569 --> 00:29:51.869
8 p .m. tonight, I'm going to just text her just

00:29:51.869 --> 00:29:54.630
what Zar said and just say, hey, sorry, I can't

00:29:54.630 --> 00:29:57.750
make it. My bad, something came up. And just

00:29:57.750 --> 00:30:00.869
send that text. So now, instead of worried about,

00:30:00.990 --> 00:30:02.970
oh, is she going to show up, getting all worried,

00:30:03.109 --> 00:30:06.009
sending the desperation text, now you just reframe

00:30:06.009 --> 00:30:08.150
your mindset to go, ooh, this is going to be

00:30:08.150 --> 00:30:10.130
a way that maybe I can get this girl more engaged.

00:30:10.329 --> 00:30:12.190
In your mind, you're already planning the date's

00:30:12.190 --> 00:30:14.200
not happening tonight. And now you're just waiting

00:30:14.200 --> 00:30:16.640
for three hours for the date to send that. My

00:30:16.640 --> 00:30:18.740
bad. Something came up. I can't make it. And

00:30:18.740 --> 00:30:22.180
you send that to her and then you play off the

00:30:22.180 --> 00:30:24.240
dynamic like you were the one that flaked on

00:30:24.240 --> 00:30:27.019
her, even though, you know, if you waited, she

00:30:27.019 --> 00:30:28.559
would have flaked on you because you could feel

00:30:28.559 --> 00:30:31.559
it. And then the dynamics totally where you're

00:30:31.559 --> 00:30:34.259
scratching, you know, trying to get back in her

00:30:34.259 --> 00:30:36.740
life. But this way, like you said, that's a great

00:30:36.740 --> 00:30:39.799
way. And you're absolutely right. That can actually

00:30:39.799 --> 00:30:44.069
really shift the girl into. Kind of going, whoa.

00:30:44.650 --> 00:30:47.990
She was like, no, no, no, no. I'm not fired.

00:30:48.130 --> 00:30:49.990
I quit. She's almost like, no, no, you can't

00:30:49.990 --> 00:30:51.490
flake on me. I was going to flake on you. And

00:30:51.490 --> 00:30:53.410
then in her mind, she's going to be like, why

00:30:53.410 --> 00:30:55.309
did that guy flake on me? And that might make

00:30:55.309 --> 00:30:58.789
her go, shoot, I thought I had this guy. I want

00:30:58.789 --> 00:31:01.470
to go on a date with him now. So that's an excellent

00:31:01.470 --> 00:31:03.970
piece. That's the position I would rather be

00:31:03.970 --> 00:31:06.109
in. Sometimes you have to sacrifice the queen

00:31:06.109 --> 00:31:08.730
in chess in order to still win the game. And

00:31:08.730 --> 00:31:11.170
most men don't have that type of an abundance

00:31:11.170 --> 00:31:16.380
mindset. to pull a move like that they have no

00:31:16.380 --> 00:31:20.299
type of an abundance copious mindset where they're

00:31:20.299 --> 00:31:23.099
saying you know what her energy has shifted i

00:31:23.099 --> 00:31:25.279
have a feeling she's not going to show up tonight

00:31:25.279 --> 00:31:29.259
let me sink the ship myself before she does it

00:31:29.259 --> 00:31:32.180
yeah and in a very non -emotional way like you

00:31:32.180 --> 00:31:34.539
did that was great not not the you would never

00:31:34.539 --> 00:31:37.019
guys never send the uh you don't seem like you're

00:31:37.019 --> 00:31:39.839
interested so let's not do it tonight Never send

00:31:39.839 --> 00:31:41.759
that. You look butthurt and needy. Send exactly

00:31:41.759 --> 00:31:45.160
what Zara said. Something came up. I can't make

00:31:45.160 --> 00:31:47.960
it tonight. My bad. Or whatever. And then that's

00:31:47.960 --> 00:31:50.259
all you send her. Yeah, just text her. I can't

00:31:50.259 --> 00:31:52.799
make it tonight. Maybe next time. And don't respond

00:31:52.799 --> 00:31:57.539
to anything she texts you after that. For at

00:31:57.539 --> 00:32:00.700
least a day. Yeah, exactly that. At least a day.

00:32:00.859 --> 00:32:04.099
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another reason i want to talk about and this

00:34:44.619 --> 00:34:47.980
also happened where i think two years ago or

00:34:47.980 --> 00:34:51.260
a year ago this young girl flaked on me when

00:34:51.260 --> 00:34:53.019
we were supposed to hang out we had plans to

00:34:53.019 --> 00:34:56.219
hang out She was supposed to meet me at Starbucks

00:34:56.219 --> 00:35:00.420
because she was 20 years old and she never showed

00:35:00.420 --> 00:35:04.820
up. So two nights later, I reached out to her

00:35:04.820 --> 00:35:07.840
again. I wasn't butthurt, acted as if nothing

00:35:07.840 --> 00:35:10.760
happened. And she actually apologized to me.

00:35:11.099 --> 00:35:14.059
She reached out and apologized to me and asked,

00:35:14.199 --> 00:35:16.460
what am I doing tonight? She said she wanted

00:35:16.460 --> 00:35:20.239
to come over. And I said, sure, no problem. So

00:35:20.239 --> 00:35:24.030
unbeknownst to me, I found out that. She was

00:35:24.030 --> 00:35:27.630
with someone. She was with another guy. And they

00:35:27.630 --> 00:35:31.170
got into their little argument or domestic strife.

00:35:31.489 --> 00:35:34.409
And I was the rebound that she used to forget

00:35:34.409 --> 00:35:37.289
about him. Because I could tell when she called

00:35:37.289 --> 00:35:39.469
me, she was very emotional over the phone. You

00:35:39.469 --> 00:35:42.269
could just tell. She just got done having a fight

00:35:42.269 --> 00:35:45.210
with someone. But I could feel that her emotions

00:35:45.210 --> 00:35:48.289
were through the roof. And she was going to use

00:35:48.289 --> 00:35:51.510
me to get back at whoever she was sleeping with.

00:35:52.090 --> 00:35:54.869
living with at that time, some guy that wifed

00:35:54.869 --> 00:35:57.110
her up without even knowing her or without making

00:35:57.110 --> 00:36:00.690
her earn it. And she actually came over and we

00:36:00.690 --> 00:36:02.510
had a good night that night, but she explained

00:36:02.510 --> 00:36:05.610
why. And she was honest with me. So sometimes

00:36:05.610 --> 00:36:09.349
a woman will be eager to see you maybe because

00:36:09.349 --> 00:36:13.869
her and her ex just broke up or her and her boyfriend

00:36:13.869 --> 00:36:16.030
just got in a fight and maybe she's excited to

00:36:16.030 --> 00:36:18.369
meet you and forget about him. And then they

00:36:18.369 --> 00:36:22.000
work things out and she flakes on you. So there's

00:36:22.000 --> 00:36:24.179
many reasons, guys. That's what I'm saying. The

00:36:24.179 --> 00:36:26.619
whole point is I didn't get butt hurt. I knew

00:36:26.619 --> 00:36:29.000
this girl personally because we worked out together.

00:36:29.099 --> 00:36:31.440
I knew her from the gym. I didn't act emotional.

00:36:32.079 --> 00:36:34.179
I just said, listen, it's cool. I understand.

00:36:34.539 --> 00:36:37.059
It's no big deal. Come over. You know, we could

00:36:37.059 --> 00:36:40.239
talk about it and we can hang out and hang out.

00:36:40.280 --> 00:36:45.039
We did. And we had a we had a great night together.

00:36:45.159 --> 00:36:49.199
A transition from why women flake. to then also

00:36:49.199 --> 00:36:51.800
when we can talk about what should you do when

00:36:51.800 --> 00:36:53.940
a woman flakes. This is kind of a hybrid because

00:36:53.940 --> 00:36:56.260
to me, why women flake, a lot of times it's again

00:36:56.260 --> 00:36:59.300
with messaging, dating apps, texting. If you

00:36:59.300 --> 00:37:02.320
want to get women to stop flaking and have a

00:37:02.320 --> 00:37:04.400
much better chance of showing up, you gotta understand

00:37:04.400 --> 00:37:07.920
that your texts and your dates have to be valuable

00:37:07.920 --> 00:37:10.980
to a woman. And so what is the easiest way to

00:37:10.980 --> 00:37:13.880
make something valuable is to give her less of

00:37:13.880 --> 00:37:18.489
it. So if I text a girl one time in a day, And

00:37:18.489 --> 00:37:20.909
another guy that this girl is talking to texts

00:37:20.909 --> 00:37:24.570
her five times in a day. The guys with no abundance

00:37:24.570 --> 00:37:26.989
mindset think, oh, this guy's getting edge up.

00:37:27.010 --> 00:37:28.849
He's communicating with her five times a day.

00:37:29.250 --> 00:37:31.969
So it's like, oh, if you don't message her more,

00:37:32.130 --> 00:37:34.750
she's going to forget about you. But that's not

00:37:34.750 --> 00:37:36.630
at all how I think about it because I know attraction.

00:37:37.170 --> 00:37:39.530
If I'm sending one text a day and that guy's

00:37:39.530 --> 00:37:42.869
sending five texts a day, over time, my texts

00:37:42.869 --> 00:37:45.380
become five times more valuable than his. Because

00:37:45.380 --> 00:37:47.719
he's sending five times more texts than I am

00:37:47.719 --> 00:37:50.400
sending to that girl. So when she's sitting looking

00:37:50.400 --> 00:37:52.780
at her phone and she gets a text from that other

00:37:52.780 --> 00:37:56.099
guy, every time he texts her more and more, they

00:37:56.099 --> 00:37:58.059
lose value. They're not as valuable like anything.

00:37:58.199 --> 00:38:01.820
The more of a commodity there is, the less value

00:38:01.820 --> 00:38:04.920
it has. So the guy sending her five texts a day

00:38:04.920 --> 00:38:08.699
is slowly losing value compared to the guy that

00:38:08.699 --> 00:38:11.599
is sending one text a day because now every text

00:38:11.599 --> 00:38:14.329
I send, that girl cares more about it. Because

00:38:14.329 --> 00:38:17.329
now it's a more valuable commodity. So she thinks

00:38:17.329 --> 00:38:19.489
about that text more. She's like, well, how can

00:38:19.489 --> 00:38:21.210
I respond? How can I have something more witty

00:38:21.210 --> 00:38:23.829
to say? And I think the same thing with dates.

00:38:24.429 --> 00:38:28.469
If you think about every time you try to hint

00:38:28.469 --> 00:38:31.570
at asking a girl out, that is like making your

00:38:31.570 --> 00:38:35.010
dates less valuable. So I want to save that ammo

00:38:35.010 --> 00:38:37.900
in my cannons where... to where I know this girl's

00:38:37.900 --> 00:38:40.119
interested. She's double texting me. She's responding

00:38:40.119 --> 00:38:43.219
quicker than all my texts. She's, you know, trying

00:38:43.219 --> 00:38:45.639
to keep conversations going. Like I'm going to

00:38:45.639 --> 00:38:48.320
wait till I see that before I fire off the, Hey,

00:38:48.360 --> 00:38:50.059
when are you going to ask me out? Or when are

00:38:50.059 --> 00:38:51.659
you going to take me for drinks type message?

00:38:51.860 --> 00:38:54.619
Cause I don't want my, my dates to become less

00:38:54.619 --> 00:38:57.179
valuable, but the guy that is matching with a

00:38:57.179 --> 00:38:59.159
girl and he's saying like, Hey, what are you

00:38:59.159 --> 00:39:01.559
doing Saturday? We should get together. And she's

00:39:01.559 --> 00:39:03.500
like, oh, I'm sorry. I already have plans with

00:39:03.500 --> 00:39:04.860
my girlfriends or whatever. And then he keeps

00:39:04.860 --> 00:39:07.440
texting her and he's like, hey, well, this Thursday

00:39:07.440 --> 00:39:09.699
I'm going out. You know, can you meet up? And

00:39:09.699 --> 00:39:12.199
she's like, oh, I can't Thursday. I got work

00:39:12.199 --> 00:39:14.480
and blah, blah, blah. Well, that guy has now

00:39:14.480 --> 00:39:17.420
offered two dates. Even if he thinks he's being

00:39:17.420 --> 00:39:19.199
smooth or subtle about it, he's offered her two

00:39:19.199 --> 00:39:22.300
dates that she said no to. So every time he keeps

00:39:22.300 --> 00:39:24.900
offering her a date now, those dates become less

00:39:24.900 --> 00:39:27.420
valuable. She has less. likely have a chance

00:39:27.420 --> 00:39:31.659
to show up versus me who if i send that one like

00:39:31.659 --> 00:39:34.500
i all right you seem cool enough like maybe i'll

00:39:34.500 --> 00:39:37.119
let you take me out on a date i send that one

00:39:37.119 --> 00:39:39.320
and now that date's very valuable because i'm

00:39:39.320 --> 00:39:42.260
not offering it up all day long so guys think

00:39:42.260 --> 00:39:45.239
about that early messaging early texting the

00:39:45.239 --> 00:39:47.960
more you text a girl and the more you offer up

00:39:47.960 --> 00:39:50.059
trying to you know hang out with her trying to

00:39:50.059 --> 00:39:52.900
pin her down for a date the less your texts become

00:39:52.900 --> 00:39:55.239
valuable, the less your dates become valuable.

00:39:55.320 --> 00:39:58.340
So women will flake more when she does agree

00:39:58.340 --> 00:40:02.079
to one. And I believe that a girl flaking is

00:40:02.079 --> 00:40:06.699
part shit test and part rudeness. It may be she

00:40:06.699 --> 00:40:09.340
wants to see how you handle the situation. Are

00:40:09.340 --> 00:40:12.820
you needy? Do you text her a dozen times or do

00:40:12.820 --> 00:40:16.159
you even care? Does she matter even enough to

00:40:16.159 --> 00:40:19.090
try again with? or she truly doesn't care about

00:40:19.090 --> 00:40:22.010
your feelings and time, which means she places

00:40:22.010 --> 00:40:27.010
no value on you whatsoever. Hurts, I know, but

00:40:27.010 --> 00:40:29.730
better to see the truth and learn from it than

00:40:29.730 --> 00:40:32.269
to continue to have to deal with these issues.

00:40:32.829 --> 00:40:37.519
I'll never forget where I met this one guy. who

00:40:37.519 --> 00:40:40.000
talked about calling a girl out on her bad behavior.

00:40:40.239 --> 00:40:42.659
Some girl would be rude to him out in a club

00:40:42.659 --> 00:40:45.860
and he would calmly give her a lecture on human

00:40:45.860 --> 00:40:49.480
interaction and why he was more valuable and

00:40:49.480 --> 00:40:53.579
how she should treat people in public, etc. It

00:40:53.579 --> 00:40:57.019
sounds like solid material. And I know you guys

00:40:57.019 --> 00:40:59.760
want to replicate that. You want to call out

00:40:59.760 --> 00:41:04.000
random girls on their bad behavior or for not.

00:41:04.659 --> 00:41:08.380
valuing your time girls that you haven't even

00:41:08.380 --> 00:41:10.739
made an investment on she hasn't made an investment

00:41:10.739 --> 00:41:12.800
on you girls that you haven't even slept with

00:41:12.800 --> 00:41:15.519
i'm talking about like say if a girl flakes on

00:41:15.519 --> 00:41:17.579
you and you try calling her out and saying how

00:41:17.579 --> 00:41:21.659
that's so messed up you don't value my time and

00:41:21.659 --> 00:41:24.840
you try putting her in her place and lecturing

00:41:24.840 --> 00:41:27.920
her that girl is going to look at you like a

00:41:27.920 --> 00:41:32.739
fucking goofball yeah Like a fucking goofball,

00:41:32.780 --> 00:41:35.880
fellas. She doesn't care. The reason why she

00:41:35.880 --> 00:41:38.860
doesn't care, it's because she has no attachment

00:41:38.860 --> 00:41:43.119
to you. You guys haven't even had sex yet. And

00:41:43.119 --> 00:41:45.860
that's repulsive. You don't know this fucking

00:41:45.860 --> 00:41:48.960
girl for you to be her father all of a sudden.

00:41:49.079 --> 00:41:53.489
Trying to lecture her and discipline her. I remember

00:41:53.489 --> 00:41:55.929
back in the day, Adam, like I would call and

00:41:55.929 --> 00:41:58.670
leave women a stern voicemail or give them the

00:41:58.670 --> 00:42:02.650
text message of my time is valuable and let them

00:42:02.650 --> 00:42:05.349
know how rude it was of them to ghost me or to

00:42:05.349 --> 00:42:08.730
flake on me. Seriously, no matter how confident

00:42:08.730 --> 00:42:12.369
you are, trying to punish the bad behavior of

00:42:12.369 --> 00:42:15.170
a girl you haven't fucked yet and who hasn't

00:42:15.170 --> 00:42:18.469
yet invested into you will completely backfire.

00:42:18.550 --> 00:42:21.510
No matter how good your delivery, you will look

00:42:21.510 --> 00:42:25.320
crazy. butthurt, and less than confident. It

00:42:25.320 --> 00:42:28.940
actually helps the girl justify not feeling guilty

00:42:28.940 --> 00:42:32.539
about standing you up. It was just one of those

00:42:32.539 --> 00:42:35.519
feelings she had that you just proved correct.

00:42:36.780 --> 00:42:39.059
Yes. Yeah. And we talk about this all the time,

00:42:39.079 --> 00:42:42.780
right? Girls just want to have fun. So if a girl

00:42:42.780 --> 00:42:47.099
flakes on you, the right way to make that girl

00:42:47.940 --> 00:42:50.460
realize she made a bad decision, is to give her

00:42:50.460 --> 00:42:52.559
FOMO, fear of missing out, because you're such

00:42:52.559 --> 00:42:57.579
a fun, cool guy. You're a good vibe to be around.

00:42:58.119 --> 00:43:01.760
The wrong way to make a girl jealous or guilty

00:43:01.760 --> 00:43:06.159
of her flaking on you is to do, like Zar said,

00:43:06.260 --> 00:43:08.260
is to call her out, to try to challenge her about

00:43:08.260 --> 00:43:10.159
her, to get very stern. Remember, women want

00:43:10.159 --> 00:43:13.650
to have fun. If a girl flakes on you and then

00:43:13.650 --> 00:43:16.690
you show her that you're all like serious, stern

00:43:16.690 --> 00:43:19.210
and like all like, oh, I can't believe you did

00:43:19.210 --> 00:43:21.550
that. And she gets this scolded feeling. That's

00:43:21.550 --> 00:43:23.989
not fun. That doesn't make her go, oh, well,

00:43:24.050 --> 00:43:25.889
next time I'm not going to flake on him because,

00:43:25.949 --> 00:43:28.750
oh, you know. No, she just goes, oh, this guy's

00:43:28.750 --> 00:43:31.489
a loser. Versus like if a girl flaked on me,

00:43:31.630 --> 00:43:34.969
in my mind, I'm like. awesome. I have free time.

00:43:35.030 --> 00:43:37.289
I can do something else. I don't even worry about

00:43:37.289 --> 00:43:39.550
it. I'm not, you know, whatever. I'm just like,

00:43:39.590 --> 00:43:41.869
oh, no worries. And then I make it really, really

00:43:41.869 --> 00:43:43.690
hard for her. She's not going to hear from me

00:43:43.690 --> 00:43:46.730
much. And so she is going to get FOMO. She didn't

00:43:46.730 --> 00:43:49.170
get fear of missing out. Like, oh, why didn't,

00:43:49.170 --> 00:43:52.469
did I miss out? Did I miss my chance? Whoa. Is

00:43:52.469 --> 00:43:54.570
this guy not going to text me again? Like, oh

00:43:54.570 --> 00:43:57.989
no, I should not have flaked on him because I

00:43:57.989 --> 00:43:59.869
might never see him again. That's fear of missing

00:43:59.869 --> 00:44:02.900
out. But And scolding a woman makes her go, oh,

00:44:02.940 --> 00:44:06.039
this guy was not fun at all. I'm so glad I bailed

00:44:06.039 --> 00:44:07.960
on him. Think if I would have been stuck with

00:44:07.960 --> 00:44:10.380
them. And that's another reason women flake is

00:44:10.380 --> 00:44:14.019
that they get scared of being emotionally drained.

00:44:15.260 --> 00:44:17.420
So it's like, remember, women are the emotional

00:44:17.420 --> 00:44:19.500
ones. They want to be emotional. They want to

00:44:19.500 --> 00:44:22.800
be able to let their emotions out. So if a guy

00:44:22.800 --> 00:44:25.719
gets emotional, he scolds her. He's like, oh,

00:44:25.840 --> 00:44:27.599
I can't believe you wasted my time. And he gets

00:44:27.599 --> 00:44:30.349
all butthurt. she she doesn't want to get emotionally

00:44:30.349 --> 00:44:33.170
drained women want to be able to let their emotions

00:44:33.170 --> 00:44:36.070
loose so they want the more cool calm and collected

00:44:36.070 --> 00:44:40.010
guy not the emotional baby that's going to be

00:44:40.010 --> 00:44:42.349
high and low and this and that and unpredictable

00:44:42.349 --> 00:44:45.190
that's draining to her so if a girl feels like

00:44:45.190 --> 00:44:48.730
you might emotionally drain her by um you know

00:44:49.279 --> 00:44:51.820
Trying to text her every day, being too needy,

00:44:51.820 --> 00:44:54.559
trying to check in on her all the time. She's

00:44:54.559 --> 00:44:56.519
going to be like, I don't want to put the emotions

00:44:56.519 --> 00:44:58.980
into this conversation every time he texts me.

00:44:59.500 --> 00:45:01.360
She's not going to give that guy a chance. She's

00:45:01.360 --> 00:45:03.039
going to say, hey, I just don't feel a spark,

00:45:03.219 --> 00:45:05.280
blah, blah, blah. And she's going to just excuse

00:45:05.280 --> 00:45:08.239
you from her life because she doesn't want to

00:45:08.239 --> 00:45:11.760
deal with that. Yeah, punishing a girl. that

00:45:11.760 --> 00:45:15.340
has already invested in you and slept with you

00:45:15.340 --> 00:45:18.880
for her bad behavior actually increases your

00:45:18.880 --> 00:45:22.539
alpha standing in her eyes. Punishing a girl

00:45:22.539 --> 00:45:28.019
not yet invested into you lowers your value in

00:45:28.019 --> 00:45:31.539
her eyes, your alpha standing in her eyes. So

00:45:31.539 --> 00:45:34.159
how do we handle the flake? We talked about women

00:45:34.159 --> 00:45:36.889
flaking. how do we handle the flake we're gonna

00:45:36.889 --> 00:45:40.289
break this down to me it depends on a couple

00:45:40.289 --> 00:45:44.349
of different items number one did she text or

00:45:44.349 --> 00:45:48.309
call saying she couldn't make it number two did

00:45:48.309 --> 00:45:52.170
she just not show up and leave you hanging number

00:45:52.170 --> 00:45:56.829
three how much did you truly want the girl if

00:45:56.829 --> 00:45:59.170
she did text you that she couldn't meet you even

00:45:59.170 --> 00:46:01.570
if it was last minute i would give her the benefit

00:46:01.570 --> 00:46:03.889
of the doubt while waiting for her to offer a

00:46:03.889 --> 00:46:07.239
new time She doesn't offer you a new time. She

00:46:07.239 --> 00:46:10.079
doesn't offer to reschedule. You never talk to

00:46:10.079 --> 00:46:13.460
that girl ever again. Within a week, if she hadn't

00:46:13.460 --> 00:46:16.559
offered a new time for our get together, I would

00:46:16.559 --> 00:46:18.980
just start gaming her as if she was a girl I

00:46:18.980 --> 00:46:22.239
just met. Lots of cocky and funny with open loops

00:46:22.239 --> 00:46:24.940
to keep her drawn in. I've teased girls about

00:46:24.940 --> 00:46:26.940
breaking a date and how they have to pick me

00:46:26.940 --> 00:46:29.639
up, bring me flowers, and take me out to a nice

00:46:29.639 --> 00:46:33.199
dinner. And several have just done that. picking

00:46:33.199 --> 00:46:36.519
me up, bringing me flowers, taking me out. I

00:46:36.519 --> 00:46:38.639
actually had a lot of fun role reversing the

00:46:38.639 --> 00:46:41.079
typical date situation to the point where I just

00:46:41.079 --> 00:46:43.360
stood by the car door waiting for her to open

00:46:43.360 --> 00:46:46.559
it. Every girl that I teased into this situation

00:46:46.559 --> 00:46:52.179
slept with me that night. Now. So let's first

00:46:52.179 --> 00:46:56.300
say the first move though. So if a girl flakes

00:46:56.300 --> 00:47:02.800
on you, at least for me, yeah i am yeah i'm gonna

00:47:02.800 --> 00:47:07.480
take a while to respond uh just you know i'm

00:47:07.480 --> 00:47:09.019
not gonna like respond like right away but i'm

00:47:09.019 --> 00:47:11.119
gonna take a little while to respond but i'm

00:47:11.119 --> 00:47:13.539
not gonna have any emotions i'm gonna play it

00:47:13.539 --> 00:47:16.019
off like it's no big deal and whatever way that

00:47:16.019 --> 00:47:18.559
comes up she's like hey i'm sorry i blah blah

00:47:18.559 --> 00:47:21.059
had to stay at late at work and this and that

00:47:21.059 --> 00:47:23.139
happened after or get up early tomorrow whatever

00:47:23.139 --> 00:47:26.840
blah blah whatever the excuse is i'm going to

00:47:26.840 --> 00:47:30.519
take at least a couple hours to reply And then

00:47:30.519 --> 00:47:33.300
I'm going to play it off like, hey, no big deal.

00:47:33.559 --> 00:47:37.099
I'm just like, hey, no big deal. I had a lot

00:47:37.099 --> 00:47:39.480
of stuff I had to get done anyway. And that's

00:47:39.480 --> 00:47:42.860
all I'm going to say. So I guess my first step

00:47:42.860 --> 00:47:44.940
is basically I'm going to take a little bit of

00:47:44.940 --> 00:47:46.840
time to reply and I'm going to play it off like

00:47:46.840 --> 00:47:49.639
it's no big deal. Are you the same on that or

00:47:49.639 --> 00:47:52.000
would you do it differently? No, I would do it

00:47:52.000 --> 00:47:55.400
exactly the same. And once again, I would do

00:47:55.400 --> 00:47:58.800
a lot of cocky and funny, a lot of teasing. I

00:47:58.800 --> 00:48:01.539
would. But how would you do that if if you just

00:48:01.539 --> 00:48:03.920
said the like, right, if I just say, hey, no

00:48:03.920 --> 00:48:06.239
big deal, no worries, whatever. And that's all

00:48:06.239 --> 00:48:10.079
I say. Let's say if she reengages again and this

00:48:10.079 --> 00:48:13.159
happens, Adam, let's say if she finds my social

00:48:13.159 --> 00:48:16.239
media and then she realizes that there is this

00:48:16.239 --> 00:48:18.920
other side to me or because of my status, whatever

00:48:18.920 --> 00:48:21.320
it is, and then she decides to reach out again.

00:48:21.980 --> 00:48:25.059
Gotcha. So so let's say, OK, so maybe the next

00:48:25.059 --> 00:48:28.039
step then, at least in my book, is. after that

00:48:28.039 --> 00:48:32.000
i reply no big deal and i send that text i don't

00:48:32.000 --> 00:48:34.179
care whether she responds or not even if she

00:48:34.179 --> 00:48:36.699
responds i'm not going to keep texting her that

00:48:36.699 --> 00:48:38.780
night like i'm not going to now give up her night

00:48:38.780 --> 00:48:40.900
after i set aside a night so i'm just going to

00:48:40.900 --> 00:48:42.699
send that you know whatever text no worries add

00:48:42.699 --> 00:48:44.380
some stuff to get done anyway and then if she

00:48:44.380 --> 00:48:46.179
says something else i'm not even going to respond

00:48:46.179 --> 00:48:48.719
even if she's like oh okay whatever i'm so sorry

00:48:48.719 --> 00:48:50.639
what are you going to do tonight or something

00:48:50.639 --> 00:48:52.000
like that i'm just not going to respond to that

00:48:52.000 --> 00:48:55.519
because now i'm busy doing my other thing So

00:48:55.519 --> 00:48:59.659
I would reply and then I'm going to give multiple

00:48:59.659 --> 00:49:03.760
days before I would ever think. And I probably

00:49:03.760 --> 00:49:05.300
wouldn't reach out to her again. I guess you

00:49:05.300 --> 00:49:07.039
could theoretically if you wanted later, but

00:49:07.039 --> 00:49:09.639
I would just send that text and then I'm going

00:49:09.639 --> 00:49:11.380
to wait multiple days and I'm going to expect

00:49:11.380 --> 00:49:14.179
that that girl will come in and try to drum up

00:49:14.179 --> 00:49:16.260
some conversation with me. But I don't want to

00:49:16.260 --> 00:49:18.860
be the one now kind of firing back in and trying

00:49:18.860 --> 00:49:21.239
to, you know, drum something up with her after

00:49:21.239 --> 00:49:23.460
she flaked on me. Yeah, I thought you were going

00:49:23.460 --> 00:49:25.800
to say I'm going to give multiple women the hot

00:49:25.800 --> 00:49:29.980
beef injection, which got me excited after. So

00:49:29.980 --> 00:49:32.480
back to the point before we forget, make sure

00:49:32.480 --> 00:49:35.199
you guys leave us a five star review. And once

00:49:35.199 --> 00:49:38.480
again, Adam is holding his part of the bargain

00:49:38.480 --> 00:49:41.920
here where he will give you the best handy dandy

00:49:41.920 --> 00:49:44.420
in the world. If you guys prefer the left or

00:49:44.420 --> 00:49:48.920
the right hand, just email Adam. And if you refer

00:49:48.920 --> 00:49:51.440
a friend to also give a five star review, I will

00:49:51.440 --> 00:49:57.019
give you guys a foot job. Yes. The VIP clients.

00:49:57.059 --> 00:50:00.880
So, you know, you get you and a buddy, both five

00:50:00.880 --> 00:50:03.619
star reviews, screenshots, you get a footy. Two

00:50:03.619 --> 00:50:07.519
for one special guys. And but going going back

00:50:07.519 --> 00:50:09.840
to what Adam was saying, you guys don't want

00:50:09.840 --> 00:50:12.500
to go back and forth messaging a girl after she

00:50:12.500 --> 00:50:15.260
already canceled or flaked. Let her mind wonder.

00:50:15.340 --> 00:50:17.780
That's it. You said what you had to. Okay, no

00:50:17.780 --> 00:50:20.199
problem. Maybe we'll see each other in the future.

00:50:21.059 --> 00:50:24.280
That's it. Now you go do your own thing. Go meet

00:50:24.280 --> 00:50:27.300
up with another girl. Text one of the girls that

00:50:27.300 --> 00:50:29.519
you know will stop what they're doing just to

00:50:29.519 --> 00:50:32.780
see you, to hang out with you. Go out to a tavern,

00:50:32.800 --> 00:50:36.099
local bar, wherever, to meet other women. That's

00:50:36.099 --> 00:50:38.059
personally what I would do because my night's

00:50:38.059 --> 00:50:41.519
not going to get ruined. Okay? Yeah, well, and

00:50:41.519 --> 00:50:44.809
then how... when we mentioned before about like

00:50:44.809 --> 00:50:47.050
how i'm trying not to like bring up dates even

00:50:47.050 --> 00:50:49.329
early on with a girl like i'd rather have her

00:50:49.329 --> 00:50:50.869
bring up hey when are we gonna get together and

00:50:50.869 --> 00:50:54.800
all that especially if a girl has flaked on me,

00:50:54.900 --> 00:50:58.960
then I will, if we wait multiple days and then

00:50:58.960 --> 00:51:00.900
she texts me and she's like, hey, how are you

00:51:00.900 --> 00:51:02.500
doing? How was your weekend? I'm not going to

00:51:02.500 --> 00:51:04.260
play it off about her. I'll still, you know,

00:51:04.260 --> 00:51:06.980
message her back and have like a little flirty

00:51:06.980 --> 00:51:10.719
vibe and still be fun to message. But if a girl

00:51:10.719 --> 00:51:15.239
flaked on me, now she has to be the one to bring

00:51:15.239 --> 00:51:18.019
up a date before I would agree to even trying

00:51:18.019 --> 00:51:20.179
to set up another date with her. Like if a girl

00:51:20.179 --> 00:51:22.920
is flaked on you. even if she texts you a few

00:51:22.920 --> 00:51:24.820
days later and it's like hey how are you and

00:51:24.820 --> 00:51:26.559
then you're like oh this is good everything's

00:51:26.559 --> 00:51:30.199
going good again you cannot then freely give

00:51:30.199 --> 00:51:32.880
out another date like hey so we should hang out

00:51:32.880 --> 00:51:35.320
when you want to hang out again after she's flaked

00:51:35.320 --> 00:51:38.179
that's got to be on her and it's like i want

00:51:38.179 --> 00:51:40.719
her to be the one kind of almost like crawling

00:51:40.719 --> 00:51:43.400
back in going hey that date you were going to

00:51:43.400 --> 00:51:45.800
give me can i please have it now it's like she's

00:51:45.800 --> 00:51:48.710
got to work because I offered her a date. She

00:51:48.710 --> 00:51:50.829
didn't show up. And now she's going to really

00:51:50.829 --> 00:51:53.630
have to say something about, like, I really want

00:51:53.630 --> 00:51:55.889
to go out. Hey, when can we go out? Hey, can

00:51:55.889 --> 00:51:58.010
we go on that date now, please? Like, I want

00:51:58.010 --> 00:52:00.230
that energy. I'm not going to bring it back up

00:52:00.230 --> 00:52:03.250
to her, though, unless she is the one initiating

00:52:03.250 --> 00:52:05.750
that. You can't just be quick on the trigger

00:52:05.750 --> 00:52:09.329
again. Like, hey, when can I see you again? And

00:52:09.329 --> 00:52:13.190
make it so easy for her. Yeah. If a girl flakes

00:52:13.190 --> 00:52:15.670
on you, absolutely not. She can't just come back

00:52:15.670 --> 00:52:17.469
in and all of a sudden you're like, Here's your

00:52:17.469 --> 00:52:20.329
date again because, again, your dates will start

00:52:20.329 --> 00:52:23.369
losing complete value in that girl's eyes if

00:52:23.369 --> 00:52:25.750
she knows she can flake and still come back and

00:52:25.750 --> 00:52:27.690
get a date with you. And she knows she can have

00:52:27.690 --> 00:52:31.929
you whenever she wants. He could wait, challenge

00:52:31.929 --> 00:52:35.769
her. Maybe I'll text Zara or Adam. Let's see

00:52:35.769 --> 00:52:37.869
what they're doing. Maybe they're free tonight.

00:52:38.989 --> 00:52:43.690
So if she was the one that didn't text or show.

00:52:44.239 --> 00:52:47.079
the most likely situation i would just go to

00:52:47.079 --> 00:52:50.079
the next girl on my list for the evening seriously

00:52:50.079 --> 00:52:52.780
if you are meeting or sleeping with a lot of

00:52:52.780 --> 00:52:56.039
women one girl not showing up isn't that big

00:52:56.039 --> 00:52:59.480
of a deal typically i just invited them yeah

00:52:59.480 --> 00:53:02.539
yeah typically i just invited them to my house

00:53:02.539 --> 00:53:06.260
so a girl not showing is an oh well moment with

00:53:06.260 --> 00:53:09.429
me in the comfort of my own home I typically

00:53:09.429 --> 00:53:12.510
gave a girl about 15 minutes past the point where

00:53:12.510 --> 00:53:14.750
she was supposed to show up like that Arabic

00:53:14.750 --> 00:53:18.289
woman. And when she didn't, I simply text other

00:53:18.289 --> 00:53:21.409
girls for the meet. Every girl gets a hole in

00:53:21.409 --> 00:53:23.650
their calendar. And there were usually girls

00:53:23.650 --> 00:53:26.889
in my social circle willing to come join me on

00:53:26.889 --> 00:53:30.449
a spontaneous, I have dessert, come help me eat

00:53:30.449 --> 00:53:33.039
it text. they stop what they're doing they drop

00:53:33.039 --> 00:53:35.099
what they're doing to come see you but you don't

00:53:35.099 --> 00:53:38.619
tell them oh i just got flaked on oh no no yeah

00:53:38.619 --> 00:53:41.860
exactly this girl just stood me up all the players

00:53:41.860 --> 00:53:43.739
out there like if camille's listening to this

00:53:43.739 --> 00:53:47.900
shout out to camille if if if you do are in that

00:53:47.900 --> 00:53:49.719
situation where you set up a date with a girl

00:53:49.719 --> 00:53:52.940
you go out and then that girl doesn't show that's

00:53:52.940 --> 00:53:54.920
the beautiful thing about when you have a rotation

00:53:54.920 --> 00:53:58.030
is like It gets easier and easier. Guys, the

00:53:58.030 --> 00:54:00.269
better you get with texting and messaging, it

00:54:00.269 --> 00:54:02.510
gets so easier and easier and easier to keep

00:54:02.510 --> 00:54:05.429
these girls hooked to where if that happened

00:54:05.429 --> 00:54:08.409
to me, I could literally pull out my phone. Oh,

00:54:08.489 --> 00:54:10.150
there's like three girls I got in mind. I can

00:54:10.150 --> 00:54:13.809
literally just say, hey, H -E -Y, just hey. I

00:54:13.809 --> 00:54:16.050
just send that to three different girls. And

00:54:16.050 --> 00:54:18.789
that's all I need to say for the girl to be like,

00:54:18.889 --> 00:54:20.730
oh, hey, what's up? Blah, blah, blah. And then

00:54:20.730 --> 00:54:22.150
all of a sudden, I'm just like, what are you

00:54:22.150 --> 00:54:24.179
up to tonight? She's like, oh, blah, blah, blah,

00:54:24.199 --> 00:54:26.420
blah. And then that's where I could get that

00:54:26.420 --> 00:54:31.739
girl to come over. But yeah, that's why the building

00:54:31.739 --> 00:54:35.699
the rotation is so crucial for the abundance

00:54:35.699 --> 00:54:38.539
mindset so that you don't worry. Or you bring

00:54:38.539 --> 00:54:41.320
a book on your dates. You bring a book, and if

00:54:41.320 --> 00:54:44.699
a girl flakes, you go, nice, I got myself a beer

00:54:44.699 --> 00:54:47.860
and a book, and I'm just going to read a couple

00:54:47.860 --> 00:54:51.400
chapters tonight and then go home and enjoy myself

00:54:51.400 --> 00:54:55.130
relaxed tonight. So let's say you're out at a

00:54:55.130 --> 00:54:57.550
tavern, you get ghosted, girl doesn't show up

00:54:57.550 --> 00:55:02.210
15 minutes past the meeting point. So I would

00:55:02.210 --> 00:55:04.809
just start meeting other people. Actually, I

00:55:04.809 --> 00:55:07.849
usually talk to other people anyways. I always

00:55:07.849 --> 00:55:10.929
practice my social skills this way. And if there

00:55:10.929 --> 00:55:13.449
were pretty girls in the area, I would be flirting

00:55:13.449 --> 00:55:16.219
with them. When a date did show up and I was

00:55:16.219 --> 00:55:19.260
talking with other girls, my perceived value

00:55:19.260 --> 00:55:22.619
always went up in her eyes and the chance of

00:55:22.619 --> 00:55:26.000
a same night lay was almost guaranteed. And if

00:55:26.000 --> 00:55:28.920
I was at the tavern, I still might text another

00:55:28.920 --> 00:55:32.199
girl to join me. Like we've mentioned, if I was

00:55:32.199 --> 00:55:34.440
meeting someone or was stood up, I would just

00:55:34.440 --> 00:55:37.719
text another girl, hey, drinks at such and such

00:55:37.719 --> 00:55:40.400
spot now. That usually worked on girls I was

00:55:40.400 --> 00:55:42.860
already sleeping with and a few that were slightly

00:55:42.860 --> 00:55:46.179
on the fence. If the girl does not show up, are

00:55:46.179 --> 00:55:50.019
we on the same page that like, for me, if I went

00:55:50.019 --> 00:55:52.199
out and a girl didn't show up, she didn't call,

00:55:52.280 --> 00:55:54.860
she didn't text, I'm not going to say anything

00:55:54.860 --> 00:55:58.440
to her. Me personally, I don't, like, I am just

00:55:58.440 --> 00:56:01.639
like, I just go, I took, I get the hint. She

00:56:01.639 --> 00:56:03.840
didn't show up. Yeah, it was rude and disrespectful.

00:56:04.159 --> 00:56:06.519
She didn't even give me any notice. But in my

00:56:06.519 --> 00:56:10.199
mind. She's just gone from my life. I'm not wasting

00:56:10.199 --> 00:56:14.260
any more emotional energy into sending that girl

00:56:14.260 --> 00:56:17.139
a text. Hey, did you forget? Oh, I showed up.

00:56:17.139 --> 00:56:19.599
You didn't get here. It doesn't matter. All I

00:56:19.599 --> 00:56:22.039
need to know is this girl's not into me. Why

00:56:22.039 --> 00:56:23.760
am I going to waste more of my time? She told

00:56:23.760 --> 00:56:26.719
me she's not into me by flaking on me and not

00:56:26.719 --> 00:56:30.860
even having the decency to give me notice. That

00:56:30.860 --> 00:56:33.639
tells me she doesn't like me. There is no point

00:56:33.639 --> 00:56:37.380
that I need to check in with her. Text her again.

00:56:37.500 --> 00:56:41.880
I just move on. I just go, oh, well, no big deal.

00:56:42.019 --> 00:56:44.619
I'm going to enjoy the night I have now. And

00:56:44.619 --> 00:56:47.659
I am moving on with my life because I don't need

00:56:47.659 --> 00:56:50.360
a girl in my life that is willing to make plans

00:56:50.360 --> 00:56:53.239
with me and then not show up and not even communicate

00:56:53.239 --> 00:56:57.179
that with me. So I don't call her out. I don't

00:56:57.179 --> 00:56:59.539
care if she does that to the next guy or whatever.

00:56:59.900 --> 00:57:01.820
She's a big girl. She can deal with her own problems.

00:57:02.119 --> 00:57:04.179
I'm not going to fix her. I'm just going to move

00:57:04.179 --> 00:57:05.900
on. And I'm not even going to say anything about

00:57:05.900 --> 00:57:08.429
it. yeah so let's say if she does ever reach

00:57:08.429 --> 00:57:11.190
out adam she already showed you her true colors

00:57:11.190 --> 00:57:16.429
so i'm not going to put aside time to make a

00:57:16.429 --> 00:57:19.349
date for her she's coming right over i'm telling

00:57:19.349 --> 00:57:21.909
her sure exactly if you still want to see me

00:57:21.909 --> 00:57:23.789
listen i'm exhausted it's been a long day you

00:57:23.789 --> 00:57:26.550
can come over though but i'm not investing any

00:57:26.550 --> 00:57:29.090
money and i'm not investing my time on this girl

00:57:29.090 --> 00:57:31.570
again until she proves herself she can come over

00:57:31.570 --> 00:57:38.300
and get that grade a grass -fed free range, rabbi

00:57:38.300 --> 00:57:41.699
blessed, that scrambling and scraping for shit,

00:57:41.880 --> 00:57:45.039
hot beef injection. That's what she's going to

00:57:45.039 --> 00:57:48.019
get, Adam. She ain't getting my money. She ain't

00:57:48.019 --> 00:57:50.300
getting my time anymore. Yes, that's a good way

00:57:50.300 --> 00:57:53.460
to put it. The date is now off the table. If

00:57:53.460 --> 00:57:56.659
a girl did that, she didn't communicate, and

00:57:56.659 --> 00:57:59.360
then she comes back in, I'm going to be so low

00:57:59.360 --> 00:58:01.880
effort, so low energy when I respond to her,

00:58:01.940 --> 00:58:05.619
so short text. And if she battles through that

00:58:05.619 --> 00:58:08.079
and gets through that and keeps trying to work

00:58:08.079 --> 00:58:10.900
for me and then wants to see me, that's, again,

00:58:11.000 --> 00:58:13.199
when I'm just getting back. And now I'm pretty

00:58:13.199 --> 00:58:15.559
busy this week, like, blah, blah. Or she goes,

00:58:15.719 --> 00:58:17.159
well, what about Thursday? Can I see you Thursday?

00:58:17.360 --> 00:58:19.719
Nah, I'm going to be working until, like, 830.

00:58:19.820 --> 00:58:22.119
I mean, maybe at 9 you can come over if you want.

00:58:22.320 --> 00:58:24.639
And that, again, it's going to be where if she

00:58:24.639 --> 00:58:27.760
wants to come over. no skin off my back if she

00:58:27.760 --> 00:58:29.440
wants to flake if i'm like you can come over

00:58:29.440 --> 00:58:32.000
at nine it's like i am not gonna go meet out

00:58:32.000 --> 00:58:34.199
with her i'm not gonna go get dressed up she

00:58:34.199 --> 00:58:36.880
either comes over at nine or we don't hang out

00:58:36.880 --> 00:58:39.679
but that is gonna be where she would have to

00:58:39.679 --> 00:58:42.460
earn spending time with me after doing something

00:58:42.460 --> 00:58:45.420
like that yeah now let's say if it's a girl that

00:58:45.420 --> 00:58:48.260
you will have to see again like from school the

00:58:48.260 --> 00:58:53.079
gym social yes good point or god forbid adam

00:58:53.079 --> 00:58:57.920
work then when you see her just ask hey we missed

00:58:57.920 --> 00:59:01.099
each other did something go wrong you don't act

00:59:01.099 --> 00:59:04.460
mad you don't act hurt you don't act angry or

00:59:04.460 --> 00:59:07.219
too cool for her give her the opportunity to

00:59:07.219 --> 00:59:10.320
explain if she acts aloof or bitchy then start

00:59:10.320 --> 00:59:13.139
with a few cocky and funny lines some pattern

00:59:13.139 --> 00:59:16.139
interrupts and begin the process as if you were

00:59:16.139 --> 00:59:19.480
in the build attraction mode again That's it.

00:59:20.380 --> 00:59:22.880
Indifference is very powerful. Well, that's what

00:59:22.880 --> 00:59:24.400
I was going to say because that's a great point

00:59:24.400 --> 00:59:26.300
you brought up is that this could happen from

00:59:26.300 --> 00:59:29.820
like a work girl or school and all that. And

00:59:29.820 --> 00:59:33.079
if that was the situation, I probably wouldn't

00:59:33.079 --> 00:59:36.619
say anything to her and I wouldn't act any different.

00:59:37.420 --> 00:59:39.980
I would pretend that I had an etch -a -sketch

00:59:39.980 --> 00:59:44.519
and we drew up these plans and oh, we're supposed

00:59:44.519 --> 00:59:46.869
to meet up. She flaked on me. I'm taking that

00:59:46.869 --> 00:59:50.329
Etch -A -Sketch and I am shaking it and everything's

00:59:50.329 --> 00:59:52.849
disappearing and starting fresh. So what I mean,

00:59:52.889 --> 00:59:55.889
if I'm doing that, I'm going to pretend like

00:59:55.889 --> 00:59:58.269
nothing happened. If I see that girl, I'm going

00:59:58.269 --> 01:00:00.690
to act completely the same as I've always acted

01:00:00.690 --> 01:00:03.530
with her. And it's amnesia. She didn't flake

01:00:03.530 --> 01:00:05.210
on me. I didn't set up a date and she flaked

01:00:05.210 --> 01:00:07.269
on me. None of that happened. So I'm just going

01:00:07.269 --> 01:00:09.309
to play it off very, very cool, calm and collected.

01:00:09.809 --> 01:00:13.480
Nothing different. Nothing weird. but I'm just

01:00:13.480 --> 01:00:15.260
going to know, all right, that girl flaked on

01:00:15.260 --> 01:00:17.880
me, so I'm not going to overstep and try to flirt

01:00:17.880 --> 01:00:19.320
with her at work or whatever, but I'm going to

01:00:19.320 --> 01:00:21.179
still play it off very cool, calm, and collected,

01:00:21.400 --> 01:00:24.199
try not to change my energy at all so that we

01:00:24.199 --> 01:00:26.039
don't make anything weird and awkward at work,

01:00:26.099 --> 01:00:28.659
and then that girl might start to go, what did

01:00:28.659 --> 01:00:31.139
happen? Did I flake? She might forget. If I have

01:00:31.139 --> 01:00:33.079
amnesia about it, she might have amnesia about

01:00:33.079 --> 01:00:36.340
it too and kind of forget, and then I don't look

01:00:36.340 --> 01:00:39.380
like I got rejected in a sense. And lastly, you

01:00:39.380 --> 01:00:42.019
could always just choose to let it go. There

01:00:42.019 --> 01:00:44.320
have been many times I've decided it just wasn't

01:00:44.320 --> 01:00:47.900
worth the energy for this one girl. And go back

01:00:47.900 --> 01:00:50.360
to that Arabic woman that completely ghosted

01:00:50.360 --> 01:00:54.519
me. After like 5, 15, after 5, 10, 15 minutes,

01:00:54.559 --> 01:00:57.400
I just forgot about her. I moved on. I got more

01:00:57.400 --> 01:01:00.059
matches on a dating app. I had better sex with

01:01:00.059 --> 01:01:03.460
other more beautiful women. What do I give a

01:01:03.460 --> 01:01:07.550
fuck? At one point in my life, I was actually

01:01:07.550 --> 01:01:09.869
dating over a dozen women while still trying

01:01:09.869 --> 01:01:13.250
to add more to my stable. This was exhausting

01:01:13.250 --> 01:01:16.909
and incredibly fun. At this time, if a girl flaked,

01:01:16.949 --> 01:01:19.690
I took it as a blessing. I went to bed early

01:01:19.690 --> 01:01:22.489
to catch up on my sleep. I would get more work

01:01:22.489 --> 01:01:25.630
done. I saved money. A few of these girls who

01:01:25.630 --> 01:01:28.070
were rude by not calling, texting, or showing

01:01:28.070 --> 01:01:31.630
up actually started texting me after a week or

01:01:31.630 --> 01:01:35.079
two. A girl that blows you off, then you ignore,

01:01:35.340 --> 01:01:38.940
who then calls you, has lost her starting pitcher,

01:01:39.280 --> 01:01:43.280
the guy in line before you. Or her mind has kept

01:01:43.280 --> 01:01:46.119
building you up and your lack of influence, being

01:01:46.119 --> 01:01:49.440
around, calling or texting, has created you as

01:01:49.440 --> 01:01:52.639
a fantasy image in her head. Just invite her

01:01:52.639 --> 01:01:55.780
straight to your house and have a drink, along

01:01:55.780 --> 01:02:00.340
with the HBI. You won. You never lose, fellas.

01:02:01.050 --> 01:02:04.489
You always win in the end. Yeah, and I guess

01:02:04.489 --> 01:02:07.190
that maybe the last piece that we didn't potentially

01:02:07.190 --> 01:02:10.469
cover was if the girl did have a legit excuse

01:02:10.469 --> 01:02:14.690
and she flaked, then that's where, again, I played

01:02:14.690 --> 01:02:17.090
off like it's no big deal. I wait a couple hours

01:02:17.090 --> 01:02:21.250
to reply. Hey, no worries. I had some stuff I

01:02:21.250 --> 01:02:23.949
had to finish up anyway. Hope you get that figured

01:02:23.949 --> 01:02:26.340
out. And that's all I send or whatever. And then

01:02:26.340 --> 01:02:30.199
that girl, if it was a legit excuse, she's going

01:02:30.199 --> 01:02:34.679
to now try to reschedule with me. It's not me

01:02:34.679 --> 01:02:37.019
going, oh, that's no problem. You can't make

01:02:37.019 --> 01:02:39.699
it. When can you make it work? Let's just rain

01:02:39.699 --> 01:02:42.219
check it. Never. Remember, guys, that energy,

01:02:42.300 --> 01:02:44.179
you can't be freely handing out dates to women.

01:02:44.260 --> 01:02:47.099
So if a girl cancels, even if it's a legit excuse,

01:02:47.420 --> 01:02:49.940
well, if it's a legit excuse and she did want

01:02:49.940 --> 01:02:52.340
to see me, then she'll show me that she wanted

01:02:52.340 --> 01:02:54.400
to see me. So I just still played off. Hey, no

01:02:54.400 --> 01:02:57.880
worries. No big deal. Things happen. Hope you

01:02:57.880 --> 01:03:00.760
figure it out. I send that. And then now that

01:03:00.760 --> 01:03:02.780
girl might go, yeah, but I really want to see

01:03:02.780 --> 01:03:05.260
you. What about next Thursday? Or what about

01:03:05.260 --> 01:03:07.639
blah, blah, blah. And that's what I would want

01:03:07.639 --> 01:03:11.400
to see. That girl is actually trying to reschedule

01:03:11.400 --> 01:03:13.639
with me. And then if it's a legit excuse, I'm

01:03:13.639 --> 01:03:17.099
like, okay, fair enough. She tried to reschedule

01:03:17.099 --> 01:03:19.780
with me. Now she set up this date. If I can make

01:03:19.780 --> 01:03:21.099
that work, I'll be like, all right, yeah, that

01:03:21.099 --> 01:03:23.820
sounds good. Let's just do next Thursday. You

01:03:23.820 --> 01:03:26.480
know, enjoy your weekend. And then I text her

01:03:26.480 --> 01:03:29.039
and I let that go. And I let that girl text me

01:03:29.039 --> 01:03:30.940
again if she wants. I'm not going to come back

01:03:30.940 --> 01:03:33.139
and check in on her. But then if she were to

01:03:33.139 --> 01:03:36.099
flake on me that that next time, then then it

01:03:36.099 --> 01:03:38.340
goes back into that. Like she's never getting

01:03:38.340 --> 01:03:40.280
a date from me. She can come Netflix and chill

01:03:40.280 --> 01:03:42.699
if she wants. Yeah. And let's say if you're in

01:03:42.699 --> 01:03:45.920
a relationship or you've been dating a girl for

01:03:45.920 --> 01:03:50.739
a couple of months and she flakes on you once.

01:03:51.369 --> 01:03:54.969
This is my rule, fellas. She flakes on me once.

01:03:55.010 --> 01:03:58.510
She has a legitimate excuse. Okay, no problem.

01:03:58.730 --> 01:04:02.670
We had plans. I'll see you next time. Just let

01:04:02.670 --> 01:04:06.170
me know when you're available. If she does it

01:04:06.170 --> 01:04:10.409
a second time, that's when I'm going to call

01:04:10.409 --> 01:04:12.829
her out on that. I'm going to talk to her and

01:04:12.829 --> 01:04:17.050
say, hey, babe, listen, I understand things happen,

01:04:17.150 --> 01:04:20.519
but... I set aside time for you a second time

01:04:20.519 --> 01:04:24.119
and you flaked on me once again. We can't keep

01:04:24.119 --> 01:04:28.039
doing this. And that's how you set your boundaries.

01:04:28.360 --> 01:04:31.400
You have to set your boundaries because if a

01:04:31.400 --> 01:04:33.940
woman doesn't respect your time, she's going

01:04:33.940 --> 01:04:37.400
to start flaking on you. Yeah, and that's a good

01:04:37.400 --> 01:04:39.500
point because if you're in a relationship, again,

01:04:39.579 --> 01:04:42.679
the dynamic that I always want with a woman is

01:04:42.679 --> 01:04:47.539
that she needs to pry my time away. Because my

01:04:47.539 --> 01:04:51.000
time is scattered. I have so many things I want

01:04:51.000 --> 01:04:52.860
to do with my time. And it's not just hang out

01:04:52.860 --> 01:04:55.820
with her. It's like girls need to pry away my

01:04:55.820 --> 01:04:59.039
time. So like in a relationship, if a girl flakes

01:04:59.039 --> 01:05:02.219
on me, I'm like, okay, no worries. I got more

01:05:02.219 --> 01:05:04.659
alone time. But now that girl is going to have

01:05:04.659 --> 01:05:08.059
to pry in to try to make the next time hang out.

01:05:08.159 --> 01:05:10.679
I'm not just going to say, hey, no problem. Can't

01:05:10.679 --> 01:05:12.659
wait. Hey, can I see you tomorrow, babe? Oh,

01:05:12.739 --> 01:05:15.079
what about Monday? Can I see you Monday, babe?

01:05:15.159 --> 01:05:18.179
It's the same. The same rule applies is that

01:05:18.179 --> 01:05:21.099
if that girl flakes on you, you can't be like

01:05:21.099 --> 01:05:23.219
offering up these dates so easily again. It's

01:05:23.219 --> 01:05:25.820
like a girl flakes on me. I'm like, sweet. I

01:05:25.820 --> 01:05:28.880
got some alone time. I can hang out. I can do

01:05:28.880 --> 01:05:32.380
whatever I want. But now that girl is going to

01:05:32.380 --> 01:05:34.400
have to come into my life and carve out that

01:05:34.400 --> 01:05:38.400
time. Because again, if I make it known to her

01:05:38.400 --> 01:05:41.480
girlfriend or just a random girl on a dating

01:05:41.480 --> 01:05:44.550
app you met that I want to see her. more than

01:05:44.550 --> 01:05:47.130
she wants to see me, whether it's a random girl

01:05:47.130 --> 01:05:49.269
on a dating app or your girlfriend, they will

01:05:49.269 --> 01:05:51.809
both lose attraction and they will both have

01:05:51.809 --> 01:05:56.289
less fun hanging out with you because that hypergamy

01:05:56.289 --> 01:05:59.110
challenge is gone. So either way you look at

01:05:59.110 --> 01:06:03.389
it, women have to be excited trying to grab all

01:06:03.389 --> 01:06:05.489
your time. You can't be the guy trying to be

01:06:05.489 --> 01:06:07.949
like, I want to grab your time. I can't wait.

01:06:08.130 --> 01:06:10.949
Oh, will this work in your schedule? Will this

01:06:10.949 --> 01:06:12.130
work in your schedule? It's like, no, no, no,

01:06:12.230 --> 01:06:14.960
no. She needs to be that one going, hey, will

01:06:14.960 --> 01:06:17.639
this work? Hey, I'm planning a few weeks ahead

01:06:17.639 --> 01:06:19.099
of time because I know you have a busy schedule.

01:06:19.179 --> 01:06:21.099
Will this work? And this girl's like giving me

01:06:21.099 --> 01:06:22.780
a date for a couple weeks out because she knows

01:06:22.780 --> 01:06:25.360
I'm busy. You want that energy coming from that

01:06:25.360 --> 01:06:29.900
girl, never the guy. Exactly. And last thing

01:06:29.900 --> 01:06:32.820
I want to say, when your girlfriend begins to

01:06:32.820 --> 01:06:35.719
flake on you and you notice she's doing this

01:06:35.719 --> 01:06:38.980
several times now, it's because you never set

01:06:38.980 --> 01:06:41.590
your boundaries with her. When you set up dates,

01:06:41.869 --> 01:06:44.510
let's say if you set up a date for 8 o 'clock

01:06:44.510 --> 01:06:46.869
or you told her to be at your house by 8 o 'clock

01:06:46.869 --> 01:06:50.489
or you made reservations for 8 and she starts

01:06:50.489 --> 01:06:54.889
showing up even 5, 10, 15 minutes late and you

01:06:54.889 --> 01:06:58.949
don't say anything, what happens next? She doesn't

01:06:58.949 --> 01:07:03.489
value your time. So she eventually will flake

01:07:03.489 --> 01:07:05.909
on you. This is why it's so important to tell

01:07:05.909 --> 01:07:08.840
a girl, babe, listen, I said 8 o 'clock. I didn't

01:07:08.840 --> 01:07:12.860
say 8 .15. I didn't say 8 .20. If you're not

01:07:12.860 --> 01:07:15.380
going to be on time next time, I'm canceling

01:07:15.380 --> 01:07:18.000
altogether. Because you set the tone. It's something

01:07:18.000 --> 01:07:21.000
that small that guys might think they don't want

01:07:21.000 --> 01:07:22.920
to make a big deal about it. But guess what?

01:07:23.239 --> 01:07:25.960
It's those little disrespectful behaviors that

01:07:25.960 --> 01:07:29.039
build and build until she's flaking on you altogether

01:07:29.039 --> 01:07:32.019
and it started with you not valuing your time.

01:07:33.279 --> 01:07:35.079
Yeah. That's how it starts. That's a good point

01:07:35.079 --> 01:07:37.139
too. That's how it fucking starts. Women don't

01:07:37.139 --> 01:07:38.860
just flake on you that you're dating or in a

01:07:38.860 --> 01:07:41.119
relationship with out of the blue. They start

01:07:41.119 --> 01:07:44.039
showing up late and then they realize, oh shit,

01:07:44.119 --> 01:07:46.280
you know what? I'm just going to cancel on him.

01:07:46.320 --> 01:07:48.679
We could just see each other another time. yeah

01:07:48.679 --> 01:07:51.099
if a girl changed up plans and to me it's okay

01:07:51.099 --> 01:07:53.059
to change up plans so like if a girl let's just

01:07:53.059 --> 01:07:55.300
say you did have plans with a girl your girlfriend

01:07:55.300 --> 01:07:57.179
that you're going to take her out like you know

01:07:57.179 --> 01:07:59.199
how is our and i feel about dinner dates on you

01:07:59.199 --> 01:08:01.059
know early dating but let's just say you're going

01:08:01.059 --> 01:08:02.599
to take your girlfriend out and you did have

01:08:02.599 --> 01:08:05.539
the reservations at eight and she's showing she's

01:08:05.539 --> 01:08:07.980
late to your place so that you're not going to

01:08:07.980 --> 01:08:10.360
make your reservation well how do i penalize

01:08:10.360 --> 01:08:12.500
that girl i know she wants to go out i know she

01:08:12.500 --> 01:08:14.539
wants to get done up and go out i literally just

01:08:14.539 --> 01:08:17.199
cancel i call the place i cancel my reservation

01:08:17.199 --> 01:08:20.380
she shows up hey what what are we gonna do we

01:08:20.380 --> 01:08:21.699
gotta go we're gonna be late i'm just like oh

01:08:21.699 --> 01:08:23.560
no we already we're gonna miss our reservation

01:08:23.560 --> 01:08:26.560
anyway so i cancel it but you know we got wine

01:08:26.560 --> 01:08:29.260
here and we got a movie and it's like now her

01:08:29.260 --> 01:08:31.479
going getting to go out and do that whole thing

01:08:31.479 --> 01:08:34.539
well it was on her and i'm not i'm not butthurt

01:08:34.539 --> 01:08:37.060
about it i'm like ah no worries in my mind i'm

01:08:37.060 --> 01:08:39.100
like oh good i don't gotta spend any money it's

01:08:39.100 --> 01:08:41.060
like yeah you just lost your date you didn't

01:08:41.060 --> 01:08:43.699
show up on time and that's again how she's going

01:08:43.699 --> 01:08:47.359
to learn It's like, oh, shoot. Well, next time

01:08:47.359 --> 01:08:49.199
I say 8 o 'clock, I better be there at 8 o 'clock

01:08:49.199 --> 01:08:51.739
or else I might not get what I thought I was

01:08:51.739 --> 01:08:54.319
going to get. Yeah, it's a little subtle power

01:08:54.319 --> 01:08:57.640
move, but I definitely love that approach as

01:08:57.640 --> 01:09:00.420
well because women can read right between the

01:09:00.420 --> 01:09:04.220
lines. They're very smart. Yeah. They're very

01:09:04.220 --> 01:09:07.640
smart, even if you do it indirectly, Adam. Exactly.

01:09:08.340 --> 01:09:12.060
Yeah. That was the entire podcast. I think we

01:09:12.060 --> 01:09:14.039
gave him a little too much info. I know it's

01:09:14.039 --> 01:09:16.720
a lot to absorb, but listen, the whole point

01:09:16.720 --> 01:09:20.779
is every man gets flaked on. We've been flaked

01:09:20.779 --> 01:09:24.020
on. I told you I recently a month ago was flaked

01:09:24.020 --> 01:09:27.960
on. It's all good. We don't give a fuck. We always

01:09:27.960 --> 01:09:30.579
have options. We're always learning. We always

01:09:30.579 --> 01:09:33.649
see the positive in things. We see. the light

01:09:33.649 --> 01:09:36.689
at the end of the tunnel. Don't start hyperventilating.

01:09:37.130 --> 01:09:39.890
Don't start disrespecting the girl or putting

01:09:39.890 --> 01:09:42.170
her in her place. Just realize, you know what?

01:09:42.229 --> 01:09:44.090
You got some more alone time. You can get more

01:09:44.090 --> 01:09:46.310
work done. You can go to sleep earlier. Maybe

01:09:46.310 --> 01:09:49.050
go to the gym. Maybe go and meet other women,

01:09:49.130 --> 01:09:52.850
meet other people. And you know what, too? It's

01:09:52.850 --> 01:09:55.949
a blessing sometimes to get flaked on. You can

01:09:55.949 --> 01:09:58.029
look at it this way, too, because it's like how,

01:09:58.170 --> 01:10:00.909
you know, Michael Jordan, the best athletes always

01:10:00.909 --> 01:10:03.630
say it's like. I was kind of getting complacent.

01:10:03.630 --> 01:10:05.789
I'm glad this young rookie came in the league

01:10:05.789 --> 01:10:09.470
and made me go, whoa, I better show him who's

01:10:09.470 --> 01:10:12.010
boss. If a girl flakes on me, again, I'm just

01:10:12.010 --> 01:10:14.949
like, nice. I get to go back to the drawing board

01:10:14.949 --> 01:10:17.449
and I get to figure out how to improve my game

01:10:17.449 --> 01:10:19.569
to make this better. Maybe I go back to the drawing

01:10:19.569 --> 01:10:21.829
board and I realize I played everything well.

01:10:22.229 --> 01:10:25.170
I'm cool with that or whatever. But if a girl

01:10:25.170 --> 01:10:28.050
flakes on me, I'm not upset. I'm not desperate.

01:10:28.600 --> 01:10:30.720
I enjoy the free time I have. And then I go back

01:10:30.720 --> 01:10:32.539
to the drawing board and I get better for the

01:10:32.539 --> 01:10:36.380
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