Welcome, guys, to the Full Armor of Game Dating
Podcast, Episode 74. Why she flaked on you, and
what to do about it like a man. I am your host,
the Czar of Dating, alongside the texting prince,
also known as Adam. Flaked? Here's the truth
she won't tell you. She seemed into you. You
locked in the date. Everything felt smooth. Then,
out of nowhere, Hey! Something came up with a
sad emoji face. She flaked. Now you're sitting
there overthinking everything, wondering if you
were too eager, not charming enough, or just
plain unlucky. But here's the truth. Women don't
flake on men they're excited to see. In this
episode, We're giving you the truth she won't
say out loud. You'll learn why flaking really
happens, how to spot it before it's coming, and
how to handle it like a man who values his time,
not the one who begs for hers. You bring the
crowns and heads of conquered kings to my city
steps. You insult my queen. You threaten my people
with slavery and death. This is Sparta! So we're
going to start today by reading an email I got
of someone that got stood up. And I'm warning
you guys, it's really bad. This is probably The
worst story I've ever heard about a guy being
stood up and a guy being flaked on. We're going
to keep them anonymous. So, I got stood up in
the worst and most confusing way. A gal, actually
one that I know in a professional manner, and
I seemed to hit it off. She let me come by her
house to borrow an item that I wished to try
out before I committed to one. In a later phone
conversation, she told me how much she likes
me. I responded, in a kind manner and oh no i
responded in kind so he's saying like uh i also
told her i liked her ah i think that's actually
a big point oh okay that's good okay okay and
suggested a dinner date she agreed to it i called
her the next afternoon and asked her out to dinner
she suggested that i come by her house and watch
a movie instead I came by at 8 o 'clock and rang
the doorbell. She opened the door and stared
at me blankly for a moment and then asked me
what I wanted. I said to her, you invited me
over to watch a movie with you. She then told
me that she had me confused with someone else.
My thoughts were, how in this day and age can
someone not know who they are talking to on the
phone with? With the caller ID and the fact that
she talked to me at length, the night before.
I apologized and left, hyperventilating for a
good hour afterwards. She later texted me apologizing
for the huge misunderstanding. I was pretty burnt
in my response. She seemed genuinely concerned
about losing me as a friend. I backed down and
let the matter drop. Predictably, I haven't heard
from her since. My confusion about the situation
is if she genuinely confused me for another gentleman,
something that I have a hard time accepting,
or if she flaked out on me in the most cruel
way imaginable. I planned to stay away from her,
but this really messed with my psyche. Ah, man,
Adam, I felt that burn. There's a lot to break
down. Yeah, because... And theoretically, she
could have actually confused him. But I'm just
curious how that happened. Like maybe did she
have him not saved in her phone? I don't think
she got him confused. I don't think she got him
confused, Adam. So you think that he came over
and she had the buyer's remorse? Yeah. And she
had the buyer's remorse. And she realized how
repulsive he was and gave her that ick feeling
where she had to basically bail out. acting as
if there was a misunderstanding and she confused
him with the wrong guy yeah this is such a interesting
thing too because even how he says she suggested
i come by her house and watch a movie and said
i came by at 8 p .m and ring the doorbell like
did did she just say come by sometime tonight
and he just showed up randomly like how did this
is there's so many things that i'm confused by
with this but I could see already just in some
of the ways that he played it of why that girl
would have got buyer's remorse. And he was hyperventilating
for an hour, he said, which basically tells me
he's more of a beta male who was probably in
that friend zone. We'll start off the episode
by talking about reasons a woman may have flaked.
And just from this example already, a woman will
flake on a man if she's bored. And the boredom
can come in different ways. There's obviously
the emotion, you know, you're not getting your
emotions engaged and all that. But boredom also
comes strictly like when the challenge is over.
So again, when we talk about hypergamy, she wants
the highest status man that she feels she can
attain. So once a woman feels that she can attain
you by you being eager, by you being really excited
to take her on a date, this guy by. So he said,
in the phone conversation, she told me how much
she likes me. I responded in kind and suggested
a date. So the fact that he responded in kind,
and this is where it sounds so confusing for
men, but women could say they really like you.
Me, knowing the game, that doesn't matter. I'm
not going to be like, oh my gosh, I really, really
like you too and all that. Like Zara, how would
you play that off again? Like a girl says, I
really like you. And I remember I mentioned this
story. You remember as well with the Blonde Bomb
show when I was, I think, 20, 21. And on the
car ride after we got done hanging out, she was
on the car ride back with her friend. She texted
me and she said, I really like you. And I responded,
I really like you too. And you could just feel
the pullback that just happened, that energy
shift. And I never saw her ever again. Challenge
over, like you said. And then like right now,
Zar, you would say, I say, I really like you.
And you say, I know you do with the wink face.
Exactly. Yes. So just in this example right there,
when we say a woman might flake on you because
she's bored, her hypergamy is bored, the challenge
is over. In those two examples, a girl says,
I like you. If you say, I really like you too.
Now she's like, oh, I know where he stands. Oh,
he does like me. Oh, he really wants to see me.
He wants to take me out. And then. women even
in the moment she might go i really like this
guy and then he says it back and she's like uh
i don't know why i don't have the butterflies
anymore but when a girl says i really like you
and then czar is like i know you do that girl's
hypergamy is still engaged because there's still
a challenge there she's like gosh this guy i
can't figure him out i can't get a read on read
on him but he is funny so i definitely want to
see him and so now That keeps her engaged to
where she wants to hang out on the date. But
if you make her bored, her hypergamy bored by
becoming too easy, too eager, then that girl
is just going to be like, I would rather flake
on this guy. And hopefully I'm going to text
Zara here. I'm going to text Adam because this
guy's really fun. I can't figure him out. And
she'll go for that guy every time because she's
bored of. The guy in front of her. And Adam,
I was actually in a similar situation. I can't
hate on this guy. This was a couple of years
ago at the gym where I approached this girl that
kept checking me out. And I eventually got her
number talking to her the first time. You guys
know my rule of waiting the third time when you
see them at the gym. I broke my own rule. And
this is what happens, right? So I got her number.
I said, oh, cool. Let's go out. I want to take
you out for drinks. And she said, OK, but I'm
going to Miami. for the week. It was for New
Year's. When we come back, we'll hang out. She
comes back and she's in the cycling studio by
herself. She's on the cycling bike. My dumb ass
goes in the cycling studio right before I'm about
to leave. I walk up to her, invaded her privacy,
which was very repulsive. And I said, I'm going
to call you tonight. And she looked at me and
she said, Don't do that. And she just started
shaking her head. And she basically was rejecting
me right then and there, giving me an attitude.
She's like, please don't do that. And told me
to fuck off. And she didn't want to go out with
me anymore. I never talked to that girl ever
again. I just walked away. But I know the feeling.
I wasn't hyperventilating like this guy. I knew
she was a hoe too. So I really didn't give a
fuck. But some things you guys can learn from
that. Never invade a woman's privacy. If she's
in the studio by herself or a cycling studio,
leave her be. Remain a challenge. And definitely
don't tell a girl that you're going to call her
after she already gave you her number. Like when
she comes back on vacation or you see her a week
later. That's just retarded. She gave you her
number. Just call her at your earliest convenience
if you want to go. talk to her and see her. Don't
do what I did. And I learned very quickly. So
that's how women are. Sometimes they're in the
moment, they're excited, they think you're attractive,
and then they get buyer's remorse. For whatever
reason, they get buyer's remorse. Yep. And other
ways that a girl will become bored of you and
flake is if you try to get to know her over texting
or over the dating app. That's a big one. Yeah,
you try to play 20 questions with her. Again,
these are things I used to do. I used to actually
play 20 questions with girls and get to know
their whole life story. And then I'd wonder why
they didn't want to meet up with me. So getting
to know a girl where you're talking on the phone
going, oh, well, I need to build comfort and
connection so that she wants to meet up with
me. But that's not really true with women. Really,
a girl just wants to have the comfort that you're
not going to be a stalker. You're not going to
be. clingy and needy that's the only comfort
you really need to build with a woman early on
you do not need to tell her where you went to
college and what you majored in and tell her
you know all about your family and learn all
about her family or whatever because if you do
play this fun getting and i know every guy listening
to this knows the feeling when you you know match
with a really attractive girl you just meet this
really cute girl And she's texting you and she
seems excited. So in the moment, it seems like
a good idea to keep going like, oh my gosh, we're
learning so much about each other. This is so
awesome. Yeah, on one hand, she's investing in
you. On one hand, she's putting effort in the
conversation. But if you get to know, she gets
to know the whole picture of you as a guy or
she feels like she knows enough about you. Now,
when you set up the date with her. she has less
urgency to actually need to show up on the date
because she's kind of like, I know a lot about
this guy. There's not a lot of mystery left is
with the guy that she maybe only had a few conversations
with on a dating app. All she was was making
funny, playful jokes and just teasing her and
all that. She knows nothing about this guy. But
because that guy was a playful challenge, now
she has to go on the date to actually. find out
more about this guy versus the guy that she can
learn everything about over the cell phone or
you know texting and phone calls that girl can
like oh I'm sorry I don't feel good tonight can
we reschedule she could stay home she could be
like I'll call you tonight though and she can
still get her fix of getting to know a guy and
getting that validation and attention without
any urgency to actually need to meet up on the
date Yeah, and I know we've all been there before
where you meet a hot girl, you chit chat for
a bit, you get her number, text a few times,
you set up a meeting and she doesn't show. When
I was first building my confidence and learning
the game, this was like a punch in the chest
for me. A girl not showing up made me feel worthless.
Like everything I was learning and trying to
better myself with was a lie. As I started learning
game seduction patterns and the traits of a masculine
alpha man, I also noticed my filters, the mental
roadmaps of my world changed. So when a girl
first stood me up, my thoughts were to immediately
assume it was all about me. I wasn't good enough.
I was too short, old, bald, whatever it is, guys,
too fat. But the truth is, it could be a multitude
of issues. She could have been in a car wreck.
She could be sick. She could have lost her phone
with your number. Her dad could have died. She
was stranded at an airport or captured by pirates
and held for ransom. The simple act of realizing
there are a lot of possible reasons releases
the stress we tend to put on ourselves, which
allows us to be more calculating in our response.
So there's many reasons why women flake. Doesn't
mean it's you guys, but we want you to learn
from the mistakes of not revealing your hand
too early on messaging a girl. And I told you,
I think I mentioned this, how this happened to
me with a beautiful Arabic woman I matched with
on a dating app. Everything was going smoothly.
Everything. Got her number. We were texting that
entire week, set up a date the weekend, on the
weekend, and she would send me pictures of her
at work. I would send her pics of me working
out. She seemed like she was interested. Eight
o 'clock at night comes. I'm waiting at the tavern
and she doesn't show up. She doesn't show up.
She doesn't hit me up. Nothing. I didn't ask
her, oh, where are you? Are you still coming?
I already got the hint. Like I got the hint.
I'm not going to give her any more of my attention.
Like that's it. It's gone. When a girl ghosts
you. or she flakes on you without a valid reason,
you do not ever talk to her again. Ever. Under
any circumstances. Unless that she was kidnapped
by pirates and she was held ransom and she apologizes
to you. Other than that, I am never talking to
that girl ever again. I don't care if she said,
come over, I want to bang the shit out of you.
Because to me, it's just so disrespectful. But
I learned, like you said, Adam, I revealed my
hand too quickly. I was being too available,
which is also another reason where you're too
available. You're constantly texting her back
and forth. You're not having time in between.
You're not busy enough. And another reason is
being too sexual right off the gate. Fellas,
it takes time. You do not be too sexual right
off the gate directly with a woman. you have
to kind of do it in a smooth way. We're not being
too direct about it, but you're sending out those
sexual innuendos. You're misinterpreting what
she's saying, and you're spinning it into a sexual
message. That's very powerful. Once again, we
teach you that in the Players University, but
misinterpreting what a woman says is very powerful,
okay? A lot of guys make the mistake of being
too horny, right off the gate, too sexual, asking
for nudes, doing all this dirty talk, and she
doesn't even know you yet. Fellas, that takes
time. There are some women that will be sexual
right off the gate with you, some low -hanging
fruit, and if that's all they want, that's all
they want, whatever. But you will scare off every
good quality girl you meet if you're going to
be too sexual right off the gate. Yeah, and it's
a blueprint for failure because I actually know
that there's some guys that will teach that.
They'll say all these direct dirty lines and
they'll be like, yeah, it's a numbers game. Someone
won't play back. But the ones that do, that means
you're in. It's like you're just creating habits
of poor attraction skills with women. If you're
just going for those tiny little low -hanging
fruit, you are. creating bad habits and then
dating apps will literally kick those guys off.
Like guys get blocked off dating apps and then
their one plan didn't work. It's so much better
to substitute flirtiness for sexual energy. It's
like all you got to do on early dating apps is
have flirty energy, but it doesn't have to be
sexual or derogatory energy. If a girl said Let's
just say she goes, oh, I just, you know, finished
watching blah, blah, blah movie or whatever.
If I don't know this girl, I could just be like
rude. And then she's like, what? And I go, you
didn't even invite me. That's mean negative two
points. So that is flirty. That's me showing
her like I can flirt and I can be playful on
that. Me being overly sexual with her being like,
oh, I just finished watching a movie and me being
like. oh well uh hey why don't i come over right
now like we can netflix and chill wink face or
something like that that is like overly gross
sexual energy and girls are gonna be turned off
by that and i'll never forget when when i first
started creating my own reality i had girls flake
on me all the time this was back in the day when
i first started learning game So I was old school.
I would set up the coffee date where I would
invite them to meet me for a cup of coffee at
the local cafe. When the women would ask me why
coffee, I would tell them. So if you are a crazy
stalker, I can leave very fast. It was a low
risk venue. I was also very broke and didn't
want to spend money on dates. So after a few
times of girls flaking on me, I knew I had to
get it handled. I hadn't yet realized that my
underlying mental programming, such as lack of
confidence and incongruent communications, were
the real culprits. So I tried several physical
techniques to prevent or handle the flake. So
for example, guys, if a girl flaked on me, she
didn't text, call, or show, I would wait till
the next morning and then text her something
like, I'm sorry. for not showing up i know how
rude it is i had a family emergency still waiting
on results obviously it was a lie but a nice
open loop pattern a lot of girls would text me
wanting to know more about the drama with my
family and saying it was okay most girls that
text back showed up if i set up a second meeting
but i don't like lying i don't want to trick
a girl into bed with me so this was short -lived
so i remember one girl who was okay not the prettiest
but cute and she flirted all the time with me.
I wasn't all that into her at first, but over
time her flirty ways started to build attraction
inside of me. I set up the time for our meet
and she completely flaked. I text a few times
with no response. It was really pissing me off
since she was the one that always hinted at us
getting together. Now she is standing me up and
not even texting back. So I started reframing
the situation through different patterns when
several things occurred to me. Number one, I
really didn't want to meet her at first. So I
felt like I was doing her a favor until she flaked.
Two, the fact that she flaked actually attracted
me more to her. Basic human nature. We want what
we can't have or what is hard to obtain. Number
three. Because the flake increased my attraction
in her, I could use this dynamic on girls to
increase their attraction to me. So sometimes
I'll flake on girls or I'll reschedule when something
better comes up or a hotter girl shows up that
I want to go out with. And it actually makes
them more attracted to you. Women want, well,
human nature, we want what we can't have, what's
hard to obtain. Because anytime those women would
flake on me, even if they weren't the prettiest,
it made me more attracted to them. It made me
much more attracted to them. Yeah, that's kind
of how I started thinking about redesigning my
texting is like knowing how it felt when I was
waiting on a girl I liked to text me back. I
was like, wait a second, human nature. Women
feel the same things. Just most guys don't give
them that feeling because most guys are too eager.
Most guys are too excited. So I was like, oh,
if I restrain myself and I started to do that
and I started to realize women were the ones
that got eager and started chasing me versus
I used to be the guy being eager and chasing
women. The flaking thing you mentioned too there
is like being able to flake on a girl is what
makes your value go up. Because women want a
man whose time's in demand, a man that is wanted
by other women. So if you're able to flake on
a pretty girl, that sub communicates so many
of those high status things of like abundance,
like, wow, this guy wasn't scraping, dropping
everything for a date with me. He had to cancel
on me. What the heck? That's the same thing as
like when I tell guys it's okay to not text a
girl back, especially a pretty girl. Pretty girl
text me. I love not texting them back. That is
like a subtle her setting up a date with me and
me flaking on her because she's like, no guy,
no guy ever doesn't respond to me. What is going
on? And that, again, reshapes the dynamic to
where you are the prize. So if I think about
for guys getting flaked on with women, one of
the biggest things that happens is guys show
their hand in the fact that they even want a
date with the girl. This is like a huge moment
I hope the guys can listen to and understand
is that when I'm on a dating app with a girl
or I'm early texting a girl, she knows I have
interest, we matched. She knows I have interest,
we're texting. I do not need to show her any
more than that by like me saying, I really wanna
take you on a date. So I will always wait for
a girl to be the one that is hinting at or subtly
bringing up, we should get together, we should
meet up. If a girl doesn't bring it up to me,
I can still move it forward. But even how I frame
it is to where it's not me wanting the date.
So again, how I would frame this is sometimes
I'm just like, ah, you seem fun so far. So when
are you going to ask me out on a date? So even
if I say that to a girl instead of me going,
hey, we should go out sometime, even that subtle
difference of, again, I would rather wait and
wait and wait and let women bring up the date
first in different ways. But I can still move
it forward by just being like, ah, you seem you
seem cool. Plus two points. When are you going
to ask me out on a date? When are you going to
take me out for drinks? And just by me putting
that role reversal of like, when are you going
to ask me out? That subtle shift is so much better
in the power dynamics with women than a guy just
going, hey, you seem fun. I want to take you
out. That subtle tiny shift is huge in keeping
a woman engaged and not flaking on you guys early
on. Because again, if a girl feels you want the
date more than she wants the date, her hypergamy
says this challenge is over. I might still hang
out with them. But if anything, any other guy
more interesting comes around. I'm going to flake
on this guy and go with the more interesting
one that I haven't figured out yet. And being
in the Players University, one thing I learned
from you, Adam, especially with the dating app
messaging game, is the longer I wait to reply,
the higher the chance I have of getting her number
and being seen as high value in her eyes. And
also, there were times where I waited about a
week. Before I even responded to a girl because
of the abundance mindset, getting all these matches,
and I was just too busy. And I was like, oh,
I forgot. She replied to me. And they would respond
to me right away after I waited a week. They
would still respond to me right away because
they realized, wow, this guy is a challenge.
All these other guys are messaging me right away,
right away. This guy must have options. There's
something intriguing about him. Even when you
flake on a girl, what happens, Adam? She starts
telling all her friends about you that she got
flaked on, which is good because she's still
talking about you. She's probably stalking you.
She's probably stalking you on social media.
Like, is he doing something else? Why did he
flake on me? Her and her girlfriends are now
game planning how to get you, how to get this
guy interested, how to get this guy hooked. Now
that's what their mind goes on. Because you flaked
on them. They're still talking about you. Bad
publicity is still publicity. It's still good
publicity. They're talking about you while her
phone is dinging off of all these other guys
saying, hey, I really want to take you out. Oh,
when can we hang out? Oh, you want to hang out
this Saturday? It's like those dings are going
off in her phone, and she's looking at them with
a disgusted face, putting her phone down. Let
me keep talking to my girlfriends about this
exciting guy, Zar, that flaked on me. I still
can't believe he did that. And that is where
her mind is. That's where she's engaged. Which
again, the overall energy is it, if you're on
that more of, I'm willing to flake on you energy
versus the, I can't wait to see you energy. The
I'm okay flaking on you energy is a thousand
times more powerful than the guy giving off the,
I really want to see you. Oh, you're so pretty.
Wow. You seem like a catch. And another cool
tip and trick I want to teach you guys, this
is game right here. So if I could start to feel
or calibrate that a girl was likely to flake
on me, I would use this dynamic on them. I would
wait till just before the date and send them
a, I can't make it tonight. Maybe next time text
by being vague. By being vague and not giving
a reason, the girl tends to let her imagination
run wild, just like it did for me anytime I got
stood up. And then I wouldn't even respond to
her text for the rest of the day, night, maybe
even until the next day. Even if they aren't
that into you and they had no intentions on showing
up, fellas, they now feel you have increased
value as their mind goes through the, did he
meet another girl? Or why doesn't he want me
type thoughts? I actually had quite a few girls
that weren't that into me start chasing me after
breaking a date like this. And it hasn't happened
in a while since that Arabic woman I told you
about. I could feel, like I said, I felt a shift
in her energy. I should have canceled the date
before she flaked on me. I was smiling when you
were saying that because that's such a great
idea. But you have to be calibrated, Adam. Most
guys aren't calibrated enough to realize her
energy is off or she's texting me less and less.
This is going to be a huge piece that people
can use now because so many guys get into the
habit. I always say, I set a date with a girl.
I make up an excuse why I have to leave the conversation.
whatever, I'll see you then. Got to head to the
gym or got to finish a project. So I end the
conversation and then I expect the girl will
show up. And a lot of times the girl will text
me before the date, like checking in. Hey, we
still in and all that, but it won't come from
me. So when I tell guys this, guys get into this
very scared mindset where, oh, it's two days
till the date and she hasn't texted me. There's
a day before the date, she hasn't texted me.
The day of the date. And they're so wanting to
be like, hey, are you still going to show up
to that girl? And that text screams neediness
and desperation. So the girl sees that and she's
like, ah, that wasn't very confident. Now she's
going to make up her tears. No, I'm so sorry.
I can't make it. But if a guy is in that situation
and he's worried, she's not going to show up.
And like you said, there is that feeling in your
guts, like the bottom of your stomach where you
go, oh, I don't think this girl is going to show
up. That's when you as the man just play it cool,
calm and collected and just go, all right. two
hours or three hours before the date time at
8 p .m. tonight, I'm going to just text her just
what Zar said and just say, hey, sorry, I can't
make it. My bad, something came up. And just
send that text. So now, instead of worried about,
oh, is she going to show up, getting all worried,
sending the desperation text, now you just reframe
your mindset to go, ooh, this is going to be
a way that maybe I can get this girl more engaged.
In your mind, you're already planning the date's
not happening tonight. And now you're just waiting
for three hours for the date to send that. My
bad. Something came up. I can't make it. And
you send that to her and then you play off the
dynamic like you were the one that flaked on
her, even though, you know, if you waited, she
would have flaked on you because you could feel
it. And then the dynamics totally where you're
scratching, you know, trying to get back in her
life. But this way, like you said, that's a great
way. And you're absolutely right. That can actually
really shift the girl into. Kind of going, whoa.
She was like, no, no, no, no. I'm not fired.
I quit. She's almost like, no, no, you can't
flake on me. I was going to flake on you. And
then in her mind, she's going to be like, why
did that guy flake on me? And that might make
her go, shoot, I thought I had this guy. I want
to go on a date with him now. So that's an excellent
piece. That's the position I would rather be
in. Sometimes you have to sacrifice the queen
in chess in order to still win the game. And
most men don't have that type of an abundance
mindset. to pull a move like that they have no
type of an abundance copious mindset where they're
saying you know what her energy has shifted i
have a feeling she's not going to show up tonight
let me sink the ship myself before she does it
yeah and in a very non -emotional way like you
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all you send her. Yeah, just text her. I can't
make it tonight. Maybe next time. And don't respond
to anything she texts you after that. For at
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another reason i want to talk about and this
also happened where i think two years ago or
a year ago this young girl flaked on me when
we were supposed to hang out we had plans to
hang out She was supposed to meet me at Starbucks
because she was 20 years old and she never showed
up. So two nights later, I reached out to her
again. I wasn't butthurt, acted as if nothing
happened. And she actually apologized to me.
She reached out and apologized to me and asked,
what am I doing tonight? She said she wanted
to come over. And I said, sure, no problem. So
unbeknownst to me, I found out that. She was
with someone. She was with another guy. And they
got into their little argument or domestic strife.
And I was the rebound that she used to forget
about him. Because I could tell when she called
me, she was very emotional over the phone. You
could just tell. She just got done having a fight
with someone. But I could feel that her emotions
were through the roof. And she was going to use
me to get back at whoever she was sleeping with.
living with at that time, some guy that wifed
her up without even knowing her or without making
her earn it. And she actually came over and we
had a good night that night, but she explained
why. And she was honest with me. So sometimes
a woman will be eager to see you maybe because
her and her ex just broke up or her and her boyfriend
just got in a fight and maybe she's excited to
meet you and forget about him. And then they
work things out and she flakes on you. So there's
many reasons, guys. That's what I'm saying. The
whole point is I didn't get butt hurt. I knew
this girl personally because we worked out together.
I knew her from the gym. I didn't act emotional.
I just said, listen, it's cool. I understand.
It's no big deal. Come over. You know, we could
talk about it and we can hang out and hang out.
We did. And we had a we had a great night together.
A transition from why women flake. to then also
when we can talk about what should you do when
a woman flakes. This is kind of a hybrid because
to me, why women flake, a lot of times it's again
with messaging, dating apps, texting. If you
want to get women to stop flaking and have a
much better chance of showing up, you gotta understand
that your texts and your dates have to be valuable
to a woman. And so what is the easiest way to
make something valuable is to give her less of
it. So if I text a girl one time in a day, And
another guy that this girl is talking to texts
her five times in a day. The guys with no abundance
mindset think, oh, this guy's getting edge up.
He's communicating with her five times a day.
So it's like, oh, if you don't message her more,
she's going to forget about you. But that's not
at all how I think about it because I know attraction.
If I'm sending one text a day and that guy's
sending five texts a day, over time, my texts
become five times more valuable than his. Because
he's sending five times more texts than I am
sending to that girl. So when she's sitting looking
at her phone and she gets a text from that other
guy, every time he texts her more and more, they
lose value. They're not as valuable like anything.
The more of a commodity there is, the less value
it has. So the guy sending her five texts a day
is slowly losing value compared to the guy that
is sending one text a day because now every text
I send, that girl cares more about it. Because
now it's a more valuable commodity. So she thinks
about that text more. She's like, well, how can
I respond? How can I have something more witty
to say? And I think the same thing with dates.
If you think about every time you try to hint
at asking a girl out, that is like making your
dates less valuable. So I want to save that ammo
in my cannons where... to where I know this girl's
interested. She's double texting me. She's responding
quicker than all my texts. She's, you know, trying
to keep conversations going. Like I'm going to
wait till I see that before I fire off the, Hey,
when are you going to ask me out? Or when are
you going to take me for drinks type message?
Cause I don't want my, my dates to become less
valuable, but the guy that is matching with a
girl and he's saying like, Hey, what are you
doing Saturday? We should get together. And she's
like, oh, I'm sorry. I already have plans with
my girlfriends or whatever. And then he keeps
texting her and he's like, hey, well, this Thursday
I'm going out. You know, can you meet up? And
she's like, oh, I can't Thursday. I got work
and blah, blah, blah. Well, that guy has now
offered two dates. Even if he thinks he's being
smooth or subtle about it, he's offered her two
dates that she said no to. So every time he keeps
offering her a date now, those dates become less
valuable. She has less. likely have a chance
to show up versus me who if i send that one like
i all right you seem cool enough like maybe i'll
let you take me out on a date i send that one
and now that date's very valuable because i'm
not offering it up all day long so guys think
about that early messaging early texting the
more you text a girl and the more you offer up
trying to you know hang out with her trying to
pin her down for a date the less your texts become
valuable, the less your dates become valuable.
So women will flake more when she does agree
to one. And I believe that a girl flaking is
part shit test and part rudeness. It may be she
wants to see how you handle the situation. Are
you needy? Do you text her a dozen times or do
you even care? Does she matter even enough to
try again with? or she truly doesn't care about
your feelings and time, which means she places
no value on you whatsoever. Hurts, I know, but
better to see the truth and learn from it than
to continue to have to deal with these issues.
I'll never forget where I met this one guy. who
talked about calling a girl out on her bad behavior.
Some girl would be rude to him out in a club
and he would calmly give her a lecture on human
interaction and why he was more valuable and
how she should treat people in public, etc. It
sounds like solid material. And I know you guys
want to replicate that. You want to call out
random girls on their bad behavior or for not.
valuing your time girls that you haven't even
made an investment on she hasn't made an investment
on you girls that you haven't even slept with
i'm talking about like say if a girl flakes on
you and you try calling her out and saying how
that's so messed up you don't value my time and
you try putting her in her place and lecturing
her that girl is going to look at you like a
fucking goofball yeah Like a fucking goofball,
fellas. She doesn't care. The reason why she
doesn't care, it's because she has no attachment
to you. You guys haven't even had sex yet. And
that's repulsive. You don't know this fucking
girl for you to be her father all of a sudden.
Trying to lecture her and discipline her. I remember
back in the day, Adam, like I would call and
leave women a stern voicemail or give them the
text message of my time is valuable and let them
know how rude it was of them to ghost me or to
flake on me. Seriously, no matter how confident
you are, trying to punish the bad behavior of
a girl you haven't fucked yet and who hasn't
yet invested into you will completely backfire.
No matter how good your delivery, you will look
crazy. butthurt, and less than confident. It
actually helps the girl justify not feeling guilty
about standing you up. It was just one of those
feelings she had that you just proved correct.
Yes. Yeah. And we talk about this all the time,
right? Girls just want to have fun. So if a girl
flakes on you, the right way to make that girl
realize she made a bad decision, is to give her
FOMO, fear of missing out, because you're such
a fun, cool guy. You're a good vibe to be around.
The wrong way to make a girl jealous or guilty
of her flaking on you is to do, like Zar said,
is to call her out, to try to challenge her about
her, to get very stern. Remember, women want
to have fun. If a girl flakes on you and then
you show her that you're all like serious, stern
and like all like, oh, I can't believe you did
that. And she gets this scolded feeling. That's
not fun. That doesn't make her go, oh, well,
next time I'm not going to flake on him because,
oh, you know. No, she just goes, oh, this guy's
a loser. Versus like if a girl flaked on me,
in my mind, I'm like. awesome. I have free time.
I can do something else. I don't even worry about
it. I'm not, you know, whatever. I'm just like,
oh, no worries. And then I make it really, really
hard for her. She's not going to hear from me
much. And so she is going to get FOMO. She didn't
get fear of missing out. Like, oh, why didn't,
did I miss out? Did I miss my chance? Whoa. Is
this guy not going to text me again? Like, oh
no, I should not have flaked on him because I
might never see him again. That's fear of missing
out. But And scolding a woman makes her go, oh,
this guy was not fun at all. I'm so glad I bailed
on him. Think if I would have been stuck with
them. And that's another reason women flake is
that they get scared of being emotionally drained.
So it's like, remember, women are the emotional
ones. They want to be emotional. They want to
be able to let their emotions out. So if a guy
gets emotional, he scolds her. He's like, oh,
I can't believe you wasted my time. And he gets
all butthurt. she she doesn't want to get emotionally
drained women want to be able to let their emotions
loose so they want the more cool calm and collected
guy not the emotional baby that's going to be
high and low and this and that and unpredictable
that's draining to her so if a girl feels like
you might emotionally drain her by um you know
Trying to text her every day, being too needy,
trying to check in on her all the time. She's
going to be like, I don't want to put the emotions
into this conversation every time he texts me.
She's not going to give that guy a chance. She's
going to say, hey, I just don't feel a spark,
blah, blah, blah. And she's going to just excuse
you from her life because she doesn't want to
deal with that. Yeah, punishing a girl. that
has already invested in you and slept with you
for her bad behavior actually increases your
alpha standing in her eyes. Punishing a girl
not yet invested into you lowers your value in
her eyes, your alpha standing in her eyes. So
how do we handle the flake? We talked about women
flaking. how do we handle the flake we're gonna
break this down to me it depends on a couple
of different items number one did she text or
call saying she couldn't make it number two did
she just not show up and leave you hanging number
three how much did you truly want the girl if
she did text you that she couldn't meet you even
if it was last minute i would give her the benefit
of the doubt while waiting for her to offer a
new time She doesn't offer you a new time. She
doesn't offer to reschedule. You never talk to
that girl ever again. Within a week, if she hadn't
offered a new time for our get together, I would
just start gaming her as if she was a girl I
just met. Lots of cocky and funny with open loops
to keep her drawn in. I've teased girls about
breaking a date and how they have to pick me
up, bring me flowers, and take me out to a nice
dinner. And several have just done that. picking
me up, bringing me flowers, taking me out. I
actually had a lot of fun role reversing the
typical date situation to the point where I just
stood by the car door waiting for her to open
it. Every girl that I teased into this situation
slept with me that night. Now. So let's first
say the first move though. So if a girl flakes
on you, at least for me, yeah i am yeah i'm gonna
take a while to respond uh just you know i'm
not gonna like respond like right away but i'm
gonna take a little while to respond but i'm
not gonna have any emotions i'm gonna play it
off like it's no big deal and whatever way that
comes up she's like hey i'm sorry i blah blah
had to stay at late at work and this and that
happened after or get up early tomorrow whatever
blah blah whatever the excuse is i'm going to
take at least a couple hours to reply And then
I'm going to play it off like, hey, no big deal.
I'm just like, hey, no big deal. I had a lot
of stuff I had to get done anyway. And that's
all I'm going to say. So I guess my first step
is basically I'm going to take a little bit of
time to reply and I'm going to play it off like
it's no big deal. Are you the same on that or
would you do it differently? No, I would do it
exactly the same. And once again, I would do
a lot of cocky and funny, a lot of teasing. I
would. But how would you do that if if you just
said the like, right, if I just say, hey, no
big deal, no worries, whatever. And that's all
I say. Let's say if she reengages again and this
happens, Adam, let's say if she finds my social
media and then she realizes that there is this
other side to me or because of my status, whatever
it is, and then she decides to reach out again.
Gotcha. So so let's say, OK, so maybe the next
step then, at least in my book, is. after that
i reply no big deal and i send that text i don't
care whether she responds or not even if she
responds i'm not going to keep texting her that
night like i'm not going to now give up her night
after i set aside a night so i'm just going to
send that you know whatever text no worries add
some stuff to get done anyway and then if she
says something else i'm not even going to respond
even if she's like oh okay whatever i'm so sorry
what are you going to do tonight or something
like that i'm just not going to respond to that
because now i'm busy doing my other thing So
I would reply and then I'm going to give multiple
days before I would ever think. And I probably
wouldn't reach out to her again. I guess you
could theoretically if you wanted later, but
I would just send that text and then I'm going
to wait multiple days and I'm going to expect
that that girl will come in and try to drum up
some conversation with me. But I don't want to
be the one now kind of firing back in and trying
to, you know, drum something up with her after
she flaked on me. Yeah, I thought you were going
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to what Adam was saying, you guys don't want
to go back and forth messaging a girl after she
already canceled or flaked. Let her mind wonder.
That's it. You said what you had to. Okay, no
problem. Maybe we'll see each other in the future.
That's it. Now you go do your own thing. Go meet
up with another girl. Text one of the girls that
you know will stop what they're doing just to
see you, to hang out with you. Go out to a tavern,
local bar, wherever, to meet other women. That's
personally what I would do because my night's
not going to get ruined. Okay? Yeah, well, and
then how... when we mentioned before about like
how i'm trying not to like bring up dates even
early on with a girl like i'd rather have her
bring up hey when are we gonna get together and
all that especially if a girl has flaked on me,
then I will, if we wait multiple days and then
she texts me and she's like, hey, how are you
doing? How was your weekend? I'm not going to
play it off about her. I'll still, you know,
message her back and have like a little flirty
vibe and still be fun to message. But if a girl
flaked on me, now she has to be the one to bring
up a date before I would agree to even trying
to set up another date with her. Like if a girl
is flaked on you. even if she texts you a few
days later and it's like hey how are you and
then you're like oh this is good everything's
going good again you cannot then freely give
out another date like hey so we should hang out
when you want to hang out again after she's flaked
that's got to be on her and it's like i want
her to be the one kind of almost like crawling
back in going hey that date you were going to
give me can i please have it now it's like she's
got to work because I offered her a date. She
didn't show up. And now she's going to really
have to say something about, like, I really want
to go out. Hey, when can we go out? Hey, can
we go on that date now, please? Like, I want
that energy. I'm not going to bring it back up
to her, though, unless she is the one initiating
that. You can't just be quick on the trigger
again. Like, hey, when can I see you again? And
make it so easy for her. Yeah. If a girl flakes
on you, absolutely not. She can't just come back
in and all of a sudden you're like, Here's your
date again because, again, your dates will start
losing complete value in that girl's eyes if
she knows she can flake and still come back and
get a date with you. And she knows she can have
you whenever she wants. He could wait, challenge
her. Maybe I'll text Zara or Adam. Let's see
what they're doing. Maybe they're free tonight.
So if she was the one that didn't text or show.
the most likely situation i would just go to
the next girl on my list for the evening seriously
if you are meeting or sleeping with a lot of
women one girl not showing up isn't that big
of a deal typically i just invited them yeah
yeah typically i just invited them to my house
so a girl not showing is an oh well moment with
me in the comfort of my own home I typically
gave a girl about 15 minutes past the point where
she was supposed to show up like that Arabic
woman. And when she didn't, I simply text other
girls for the meet. Every girl gets a hole in
their calendar. And there were usually girls
in my social circle willing to come join me on
a spontaneous, I have dessert, come help me eat
it text. they stop what they're doing they drop
what they're doing to come see you but you don't
tell them oh i just got flaked on oh no no yeah
exactly this girl just stood me up all the players
out there like if camille's listening to this
shout out to camille if if if you do are in that
situation where you set up a date with a girl
you go out and then that girl doesn't show that's
the beautiful thing about when you have a rotation
is like It gets easier and easier. Guys, the
better you get with texting and messaging, it
gets so easier and easier and easier to keep
these girls hooked to where if that happened
to me, I could literally pull out my phone. Oh,
there's like three girls I got in mind. I can
literally just say, hey, H -E -Y, just hey. I
just send that to three different girls. And
that's all I need to say for the girl to be like,
oh, hey, what's up? Blah, blah, blah. And then
all of a sudden, I'm just like, what are you
up to tonight? She's like, oh, blah, blah, blah,
blah. And then that's where I could get that
girl to come over. But yeah, that's why the building
the rotation is so crucial for the abundance
mindset so that you don't worry. Or you bring
a book on your dates. You bring a book, and if
a girl flakes, you go, nice, I got myself a beer
and a book, and I'm just going to read a couple
chapters tonight and then go home and enjoy myself
relaxed tonight. So let's say you're out at a
tavern, you get ghosted, girl doesn't show up
15 minutes past the meeting point. So I would
just start meeting other people. Actually, I
usually talk to other people anyways. I always
practice my social skills this way. And if there
were pretty girls in the area, I would be flirting
with them. When a date did show up and I was
talking with other girls, my perceived value
always went up in her eyes and the chance of
a same night lay was almost guaranteed. And if
I was at the tavern, I still might text another
girl to join me. Like we've mentioned, if I was
meeting someone or was stood up, I would just
text another girl, hey, drinks at such and such
spot now. That usually worked on girls I was
already sleeping with and a few that were slightly
on the fence. If the girl does not show up, are
we on the same page that like, for me, if I went
out and a girl didn't show up, she didn't call,
she didn't text, I'm not going to say anything
to her. Me personally, I don't, like, I am just
like, I just go, I took, I get the hint. She
didn't show up. Yeah, it was rude and disrespectful.
She didn't even give me any notice. But in my
mind. She's just gone from my life. I'm not wasting
any more emotional energy into sending that girl
a text. Hey, did you forget? Oh, I showed up.
You didn't get here. It doesn't matter. All I
need to know is this girl's not into me. Why
am I going to waste more of my time? She told
me she's not into me by flaking on me and not
even having the decency to give me notice. That
tells me she doesn't like me. There is no point
that I need to check in with her. Text her again.
I just move on. I just go, oh, well, no big deal.
I'm going to enjoy the night I have now. And
I am moving on with my life because I don't need
a girl in my life that is willing to make plans
with me and then not show up and not even communicate
that with me. So I don't call her out. I don't
care if she does that to the next guy or whatever.
She's a big girl. She can deal with her own problems.
I'm not going to fix her. I'm just going to move
on. And I'm not even going to say anything about
it. yeah so let's say if she does ever reach
out adam she already showed you her true colors
so i'm not going to put aside time to make a
date for her she's coming right over i'm telling
her sure exactly if you still want to see me
listen i'm exhausted it's been a long day you
can come over though but i'm not investing any
money and i'm not investing my time on this girl
again until she proves herself she can come over
and get that grade a grass -fed free range, rabbi
blessed, that scrambling and scraping for shit,
hot beef injection. That's what she's going to
get, Adam. She ain't getting my money. She ain't
getting my time anymore. Yes, that's a good way
to put it. The date is now off the table. If
a girl did that, she didn't communicate, and
then she comes back in, I'm going to be so low
effort, so low energy when I respond to her,
so short text. And if she battles through that
and gets through that and keeps trying to work
for me and then wants to see me, that's, again,
when I'm just getting back. And now I'm pretty
busy this week, like, blah, blah. Or she goes,
well, what about Thursday? Can I see you Thursday?
Nah, I'm going to be working until, like, 830.
I mean, maybe at 9 you can come over if you want.
And that, again, it's going to be where if she
wants to come over. no skin off my back if she
wants to flake if i'm like you can come over
at nine it's like i am not gonna go meet out
with her i'm not gonna go get dressed up she
either comes over at nine or we don't hang out
but that is gonna be where she would have to
earn spending time with me after doing something
like that yeah now let's say if it's a girl that
you will have to see again like from school the
gym social yes good point or god forbid adam
work then when you see her just ask hey we missed
each other did something go wrong you don't act
mad you don't act hurt you don't act angry or
too cool for her give her the opportunity to
explain if she acts aloof or bitchy then start
with a few cocky and funny lines some pattern
interrupts and begin the process as if you were
in the build attraction mode again That's it.
Indifference is very powerful. Well, that's what
I was going to say because that's a great point
you brought up is that this could happen from
like a work girl or school and all that. And
if that was the situation, I probably wouldn't
say anything to her and I wouldn't act any different.
I would pretend that I had an etch -a -sketch
and we drew up these plans and oh, we're supposed
to meet up. She flaked on me. I'm taking that
Etch -A -Sketch and I am shaking it and everything's
disappearing and starting fresh. So what I mean,
if I'm doing that, I'm going to pretend like
nothing happened. If I see that girl, I'm going
to act completely the same as I've always acted
with her. And it's amnesia. She didn't flake
on me. I didn't set up a date and she flaked
on me. None of that happened. So I'm just going
to play it off very, very cool, calm and collected.
Nothing different. Nothing weird. but I'm just
going to know, all right, that girl flaked on
me, so I'm not going to overstep and try to flirt
with her at work or whatever, but I'm going to
still play it off very cool, calm, and collected,
try not to change my energy at all so that we
don't make anything weird and awkward at work,
and then that girl might start to go, what did
happen? Did I flake? She might forget. If I have
amnesia about it, she might have amnesia about
it too and kind of forget, and then I don't look
like I got rejected in a sense. And lastly, you
could always just choose to let it go. There
have been many times I've decided it just wasn't
worth the energy for this one girl. And go back
to that Arabic woman that completely ghosted
me. After like 5, 15, after 5, 10, 15 minutes,
I just forgot about her. I moved on. I got more
matches on a dating app. I had better sex with
other more beautiful women. What do I give a
fuck? At one point in my life, I was actually
dating over a dozen women while still trying
to add more to my stable. This was exhausting
and incredibly fun. At this time, if a girl flaked,
I took it as a blessing. I went to bed early
to catch up on my sleep. I would get more work
done. I saved money. A few of these girls who
were rude by not calling, texting, or showing
up actually started texting me after a week or
two. A girl that blows you off, then you ignore,
who then calls you, has lost her starting pitcher,
the guy in line before you. Or her mind has kept
building you up and your lack of influence, being
around, calling or texting, has created you as
a fantasy image in her head. Just invite her
straight to your house and have a drink, along
with the HBI. You won. You never lose, fellas.
You always win in the end. Yeah, and I guess
that maybe the last piece that we didn't potentially
cover was if the girl did have a legit excuse
and she flaked, then that's where, again, I played
off like it's no big deal. I wait a couple hours
to reply. Hey, no worries. I had some stuff I
had to finish up anyway. Hope you get that figured
out. And that's all I send or whatever. And then
that girl, if it was a legit excuse, she's going
to now try to reschedule with me. It's not me
going, oh, that's no problem. You can't make
it. When can you make it work? Let's just rain
check it. Never. Remember, guys, that energy,
you can't be freely handing out dates to women.
So if a girl cancels, even if it's a legit excuse,
well, if it's a legit excuse and she did want
to see me, then she'll show me that she wanted
to see me. So I just still played off. Hey, no
worries. No big deal. Things happen. Hope you
figure it out. I send that. And then now that
girl might go, yeah, but I really want to see
you. What about next Thursday? Or what about
blah, blah, blah. And that's what I would want
to see. That girl is actually trying to reschedule
with me. And then if it's a legit excuse, I'm
like, okay, fair enough. She tried to reschedule
with me. Now she set up this date. If I can make
that work, I'll be like, all right, yeah, that
sounds good. Let's just do next Thursday. You
know, enjoy your weekend. And then I text her
and I let that go. And I let that girl text me
again if she wants. I'm not going to come back
and check in on her. But then if she were to
flake on me that that next time, then then it
goes back into that. Like she's never getting
a date from me. She can come Netflix and chill
if she wants. Yeah. And let's say if you're in
a relationship or you've been dating a girl for
a couple of months and she flakes on you once.
This is my rule, fellas. She flakes on me once.
She has a legitimate excuse. Okay, no problem.
We had plans. I'll see you next time. Just let
me know when you're available. If she does it
a second time, that's when I'm going to call
her out on that. I'm going to talk to her and
say, hey, babe, listen, I understand things happen,
but... I set aside time for you a second time
and you flaked on me once again. We can't keep
doing this. And that's how you set your boundaries.
You have to set your boundaries because if a
woman doesn't respect your time, she's going
to start flaking on you. Yeah, and that's a good
point because if you're in a relationship, again,
the dynamic that I always want with a woman is
that she needs to pry my time away. Because my
time is scattered. I have so many things I want
to do with my time. And it's not just hang out
with her. It's like girls need to pry away my
time. So like in a relationship, if a girl flakes
on me, I'm like, okay, no worries. I got more
alone time. But now that girl is going to have
to pry in to try to make the next time hang out.
I'm not just going to say, hey, no problem. Can't
wait. Hey, can I see you tomorrow, babe? Oh,
what about Monday? Can I see you Monday, babe?
It's the same. The same rule applies is that
if that girl flakes on you, you can't be like
offering up these dates so easily again. It's
like a girl flakes on me. I'm like, sweet. I
got some alone time. I can hang out. I can do
whatever I want. But now that girl is going to
have to come into my life and carve out that
time. Because again, if I make it known to her
girlfriend or just a random girl on a dating
app you met that I want to see her. more than
she wants to see me, whether it's a random girl
on a dating app or your girlfriend, they will
both lose attraction and they will both have
less fun hanging out with you because that hypergamy
challenge is gone. So either way you look at
it, women have to be excited trying to grab all
your time. You can't be the guy trying to be
like, I want to grab your time. I can't wait.
Oh, will this work in your schedule? Will this
work in your schedule? It's like, no, no, no,
no. She needs to be that one going, hey, will
this work? Hey, I'm planning a few weeks ahead
of time because I know you have a busy schedule.
Will this work? And this girl's like giving me
a date for a couple weeks out because she knows
I'm busy. You want that energy coming from that
girl, never the guy. Exactly. And last thing
I want to say, when your girlfriend begins to
flake on you and you notice she's doing this
several times now, it's because you never set
your boundaries with her. When you set up dates,
let's say if you set up a date for 8 o 'clock
or you told her to be at your house by 8 o 'clock
or you made reservations for 8 and she starts
showing up even 5, 10, 15 minutes late and you
don't say anything, what happens next? She doesn't
value your time. So she eventually will flake
on you. This is why it's so important to tell
a girl, babe, listen, I said 8 o 'clock. I didn't
say 8 .15. I didn't say 8 .20. If you're not
going to be on time next time, I'm canceling
altogether. Because you set the tone. It's something
that small that guys might think they don't want
to make a big deal about it. But guess what?
It's those little disrespectful behaviors that
build and build until she's flaking on you altogether
and it started with you not valuing your time.
Yeah. That's how it starts. That's a good point
too. That's how it fucking starts. Women don't
just flake on you that you're dating or in a
relationship with out of the blue. They start
showing up late and then they realize, oh shit,
you know what? I'm just going to cancel on him.
We could just see each other another time. yeah
if a girl changed up plans and to me it's okay
to change up plans so like if a girl let's just
say you did have plans with a girl your girlfriend
that you're going to take her out like you know
how is our and i feel about dinner dates on you
know early dating but let's just say you're going
to take your girlfriend out and you did have
the reservations at eight and she's showing she's
late to your place so that you're not going to
make your reservation well how do i penalize
that girl i know she wants to go out i know she
wants to get done up and go out i literally just
cancel i call the place i cancel my reservation
she shows up hey what what are we gonna do we
gotta go we're gonna be late i'm just like oh
no we already we're gonna miss our reservation
anyway so i cancel it but you know we got wine
here and we got a movie and it's like now her
going getting to go out and do that whole thing
well it was on her and i'm not i'm not butthurt
about it i'm like ah no worries in my mind i'm
like oh good i don't gotta spend any money it's
like yeah you just lost your date you didn't
show up on time and that's again how she's going
to learn It's like, oh, shoot. Well, next time
I say 8 o 'clock, I better be there at 8 o 'clock
or else I might not get what I thought I was
going to get. Yeah, it's a little subtle power
move, but I definitely love that approach as
well because women can read right between the
lines. They're very smart. Yeah. They're very
smart, even if you do it indirectly, Adam. Exactly.
Yeah. That was the entire podcast. I think we
gave him a little too much info. I know it's
a lot to absorb, but listen, the whole point
is every man gets flaked on. We've been flaked
on. I told you I recently a month ago was flaked
on. It's all good. We don't give a fuck. We always
have options. We're always learning. We always
see the positive in things. We see. the light
at the end of the tunnel. Don't start hyperventilating.
Don't start disrespecting the girl or putting
her in her place. Just realize, you know what?
You got some more alone time. You can get more
work done. You can go to sleep earlier. Maybe
go to the gym. Maybe go and meet other women,
meet other people. And you know what, too? It's
a blessing sometimes to get flaked on. You can
look at it this way, too, because it's like how,
you know, Michael Jordan, the best athletes always
say it's like. I was kind of getting complacent.
I'm glad this young rookie came in the league
and made me go, whoa, I better show him who's
boss. If a girl flakes on me, again, I'm just
like, nice. I get to go back to the drawing board
and I get to figure out how to improve my game
to make this better. Maybe I go back to the drawing
board and I realize I played everything well.
I'm cool with that or whatever. But if a girl
flakes on me, I'm not upset. I'm not desperate.
I enjoy the free time I have. And then I go back
to the drawing board and I get better for the
next time. Yes. Thank you guys for tuning in.
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