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back to no manual a mom cast this week laura
is actually enjoying some time with her family
they're on vacation so my Co -host today is my
husband, Stuart, and we're just going to do a
fun episode where you're going to talk kind of
about, really you're running this one. I've done
like almost no prep, which is kind of nice, but
you're going to kind of talk about what you want
to teach our kids more or less. Yeah, things
that I want to pass on to our kids. Yeah. But
before we start that, do you have a mom moment
you'd like to share for this week? Yes. I have
kind of become the parent that I said I never
would who dishes out empty threats. Which also
drives me crazy. I know because they can't be
enforced. Like last week we were at church and
Lloyd was running off like right before Sunday
school opened. And I said, Lloyd, do you want
to go to class or do you want to go home? And
you had no intention of taking the kids home
after you got them up, got them to church, got
the whole day ready. There's no way you're just
going to bail. It did mean something to him.
And he was like, oh, I want to go to Sunday school.
So we dodged a bullet there. There was another
time at dinner that I said, Lloyd, do you want
to finish your dinner? Do you need to go to bed
right now without a book? And it was like six
o 'clock. There's no way we're doing bedtime.
That's going to make the whole next day just
hell for you. So that was a complete empty threat.
And I don't know if that one took. I can't really
remember. Completely empty. I think for a second
he was like, go to bed. And we're like, you want
to go to bed right now? And then he kind of changed
his mind. Well, the other terrible thing that
we both have a hard time with is when there's
something that like we're looking forward to.
So I think it was probably last week. We were
like, Kate, tonight is our family movie night.
We're going to watch Cars 3 together. We tried
to convince Lloyd to watch a different movie,
but he said Cars 3 was the only choice. And he
was just like not behaving well at dinner. And
we were both like, we don't want to take this
movie away from us. We've both had a long week.
We're tired. We're getting the futon out. Yeah,
we just want to have like a fun, snuggly movie
night. But he's not behaving. So like this also
punishes ourselves if we take this away. But
also he needs some sort of discipline and punishment
for spitting his milk on the floor. Yeah. What
about your mom moment? So mine. You were there
for, of course. But we took the kids to the playground
one day this week and Lloyd was on the big kid
swings for the first time. Like we've set him
on the big kid swings a couple times, but usually
he gets scared and he just wants to get down.
But he swung for probably like 20 minutes. Yeah,
it was great. So also like very proud of him,
core memory. But since he's not used to them,
we both kept reminding him to like hold on really
tight. And the thing he kept doing to let us
know that he was holding on really tight is he
would let go and then show us his fists of holding,
like, how tightly he was holding on. So he would
let go to let us know he was holding on tight.
It was great. It was so funny. And I think one
time he did almost slip and he like caught himself,
which he's like, I shouldn't do that. I should
hold on tight. And then when I was looking at
the pictures we took, it's funny to look at his
hands. Cause he's like white knuckle. So, so
much. Yeah. Which at this age is what I want
him to do. And yeah, safe. In a year, he'll learn
to jump off and do flips and stuff like that.
And that will be great. Rule number three, safety
first. Exactly. All right. Well, do you just
kind of want to take off then with what you got?
Yeah, for sure. Okay. Well, some things I want
to instill in our children that some of these
are like uniquely dad. Some of these are things
I wish had been done for me. And some of them
are just things that are uniquely me. that I
know you probably won't do. I think you should
specify the ones that your parents did terribly.
Yeah, just straight childhood trauma. That's
all this episode is, is a dump. My first one
is kind of mushy and basic, is Christ comes first.
And I feel like since Lloyd is starting to understand
things and gain some rationale and situational
awareness, we're doing better about introducing
the Bible verses and teaching him that God loves
him even more than mom and dad do. And things
like that, because my parents, I mean, they were
Christian when I was born, but they didn't really
get super into it until I was like three or four.
And so Lloyd's approaching that age where he's
going to start understanding. And I think that
we can really take opportunities that present
themselves to instill like faithfulness and God's
love into him. Yeah, obviously, I agree with
that one. And that's something that's important
to me, too. I mean, you know this, I just got
like a box of... I think it's like 600 Bible
verses or something like that on index cards.
So we can have like a weekly Bible verse. And
part of that is for myself to better my knowledge.
And I mean, there's a lot of Bible verses that
I know I know, but kind of remind myself of that
and then learn new ones along with him. So I
also think so many now adults. When they look
back at their Christian childhood, they're like,
well, this was like, quote unquote, instilled
on me. But in my home, like no one practiced
anything. Right. Which is like, yes, the hard
part of like literally practicing what you preached
to your kid. And having the flashcards around
is even like a reminder to do it. And it takes
away the analysis paralysis of like, well, what
do I want to teach him? Do I want to teach him
Jeremiah or like Proverbs? Yeah. Well, and the
other reason I decided to get the flashcards
is there's that of like. Where do we even start?
But then there are verses that I know I would
never think. So like we literally, I got the
box, I think two days ago and I pulled one out
today. So like, that's how new this is for us.
And naturally at the very front of the box is
Genesis one, one, the very first verse of the
Bible, which is funny. Cause I never would have
thought to teach him that. But when I was thinking
it through, I was like, Oh, I have. like probably
the first three verses memorized because that
was something I was taught when I was a kid.
Um, so like, obviously this is one that makes
sense to teach him, but it would not have occurred
to me on my own. God created the heaven and the,
well, he does it through a mouthful of Ebbabas.
Heaven and the earth. It's great. And he can
kind of pronounce Genesis, which is really impressive.
Genesis one, one. Yep. The next one I have is
you can always afford to help other people. And
I feel like we've talked about this before that
you've commented on my generosity and I just
thought it was like a good thing to help other
people financially or do what you can for other
people. But the more I think about it, the more
I realize that's not a universal value. And no,
there was even like one time that I think I spent
my last $2 in my bank account to buy you a Red
Bull because you asked for one. I was like, well,
of course I'm going to do that. Like, why would
I not? Yeah, definitely. We live in a very selfish
culture. It's really easy to justify. We can't
afford to help people because of X, Y, and Z.
And obviously there comes a point where it is
unwise. You probably shouldn't have spent your
last $2 to buy me a Red Bull at that time. But
yeah, so there are times when it's like... You
can still be generous. It just maybe looks a
little bit different, right? Where it's like,
okay, maybe it's not spending money, but it's
spending time. Or, you know, like actually this
happened today. We were getting gas and you saw
someone, we saw someone who was pushing their
car into a gas station. And so you just like
pulled the car over and helped them push. I mean,
it was like 50 feet. It wasn't much. And it's
not like it made us late to anything or anything
like that. But that's also like a form of generosity.
It was cold and windy and like a miserable day
to do that. But that's another form of generosity
that I think you were really good at showing
to our kids. Like, yeah, we help people. That's
what we do. It looks different from time to time.
And again, what's a wise way to help people?
What's not a wise way to help people? Like that.
Maybe next time that happens, our kids will be
in front facing car seats. They'll see dad push
a car instead of just try and make it out through
some mirrors. Yep. Yep. But I think generosity
should. just be a given in our family even if
it's not given back or even sometimes like when
it's not totally necessary like yeah we had a
friend who just got in a car accident like a
month or two ago and so we just without thinking
gave them a hundred dollar door dash and we thought
she was like in the hospital and everything and
then it turns out it's just like oh no she just
needed a new car But we know that that helped
them and that that took some stress off of their
week. So even if it's not like the biggest, most
necessary gesture, it was appreciated and it
was helpful. Yeah. And I think actually going
back to the first thing of Christ first, like
that is such a good way to show that, right,
is taking care of people. Like that's the number
one command is love God and love people. So doing
things like sending a gift card or pushing someone's
car. as minimal as they may seem or unimportant
as they may seem that shows that we love people
in reality yeah next i have never assume or act
like you're better than someone else and i think
that that's a uniquely like a dad can instill
that better than a mom could because you come
from the point of authority in the house you
come from like the person who supposedly has
the whole ship running smoothly just knowing
that other people have complete other lives that
you know nothing about they they are guiding
their own ships through the night and you can't
judge how they're running things or you can't
judge them from the outside on what's happening
on the inside and really it's just better to
come from a place of humility when you're approaching
people is just assume that you can better your
life through their experience and through their
past experience. Like one example is we have
someone at church who is just on the video team,
like he runs mobile cam. And it took like a year
for me to find out. His job is buying and selling
businesses. And whenever he sells a business,
he and his partner celebrate by buying luxury
cars. So he's got like a Lamborghini, some Porsche.
He's just rolling in it. But he just runs mobile
cam. On stage and he's the nicest guy. Yeah,
you would never assume that he is an extremely
wealthy man Lives in a wonderful neighborhood
like a mile away from us. That doesn't mean we
live in a wonderful neighborhood He loves our
kids loves holding our kids But I think that
it's better that we didn't know anything like
that about him when when we first met him I mean
you met him before I did. Yeah for a while. Yeah,
I had no idea I knew because I knew him from
a youth group and I knew he like gave jobs or
like helped some like high schoolers out getting
jobs and stuff like that but that could be anyone
right you know it's like oh you might just like
have a connection with whatever so yeah i didn't
know until you told me that like that's his yeah
one of my friends like hung out with him and
he's like oh sorry i couldn't bring the lambo
out today so we got a ride in the porsche it's
fine next i have fixing your own car and your
own stuff is about more than saving money And
I think some of this is just learning the value
of a dollar or the value of your own possessions
or what it's worth to have nice things. Because
my dad, he didn't make us like do big fixes on
the car, but he would say like, okay, next weekend,
the car needs an oil change. It's not leaving
the house until it gets an oil change. And I'm
pretty sure your parents said like, you have
to learn how to change a tire, right? Yeah, I
had to know how to change a tire and drive a
manual transmission. I was told to move out of
the house if I wanted to move out of the house.
I only got like 16, though. My parents grew up
in the inner city, so they did not like driving
stick. Yeah. Yeah. But they also did not like
paying for oil changes. So on all the cars we've
had, I've done like big fixes. I've done some
big fixes. I've done... All the minor stuff.
I will not mess with belts, so I won't do alternators.
Yes, there is a few things we've learned. Like,
oh, this is not a home fix. We'll pay for that
one. But like even on your dying Xterra, it was
like, oh, the leaf suspension. I can figure that
out in a weekend. And then my brother and I,
yeah, we had so much fun just getting under the
car and risking our own lives changing the leaf
suspension on an Xterra. And now I know how.
Yeah. So next time. That was not the thing that
killed the Xterra. No. It was something that
I... Don't think you could have fixed or prevented
anyways. No, it was a bent rod. No, just total.
Yeah, I mean, I did not grow up. My dad is not
really a car guy. So, you know, he didn't fix
our cars or anything like that. But there is
so much value in, and it's not even car specific,
right? Just like knowing how to take care of
your own things, even if you can and do pay for
someone else to do it sometimes. Like you said,
the value of your things and your own work. And
also, I think being able to. Just knowing that
you are able to do that is huge. And really just
a willingness to learn. Yeah. Like even our KitchenAid,
it's still not usable yet, but we're not giving
up on it. We're not buying a new one. It's got
to be something simple. It is. It does technically
work. The motor works. Yes. Everything works.
It just doesn't lock. Yes. But fixing your stuff,
keeping your things nice, being able to work
on your stuff and not just discarding it. and
not relying on planned obsolescence. Yeah, and
I think what you were saying about being willing
to learn, going back to my dad, one of the things
that you and I have joked about is there's an
ongoing joke about the Simpson cult of just like
our family. all of our extended family so parents
and aunts and uncles and everything buying some
land and we all just like live off the grid together
on this land and we were talking about our family
specifically like with our parents and siblings
we're like actually our family's fairly well
set up for this situation in when it comes to
skill sets and I joked that my dad is probably
the most useless because of his skill set, but
he is willing to learn. Like if we were in a
situation where we're like, we all need to get
off the grid, the skills that he already has,
like we don't need a software engineer for getting
off the grid, but he would be so willing to learn
to build a house and garden and engineering and
whatever we needed. He'll be our tractor repair
man. Exactly. He would figure it out because
yeah, that's, I think something that. I was taught
by life is you always want to learn something
new. And be willing to and open to it. Yeah.
Also with cars is I have drive stick and drive
well. Yes. And my parents, like I said, completely
against stick. I think the last manual car that
they had, they gave to a homeless man when I
was eight or nine. Until Nick bought his Porsche.
Until my dad bought a Porsche. But I don't remember
them ever driving stick. They swear that our
two family cars. When we were really, really
young, we're both manual, the station wagon and
the Nissan. But I do not recall either of those
at all having a gear shift in the middle. But
my brother got a stick when I was in high school
and I was like, well, that's cool. And then it
also just opens up a whole new world of cars
you can get like a Porsche or other luxury cars
or old cars. I mean, the thing that I say now
is I'm the only daughter -in -law who's gotten
to drive the Porsche. That's because I'm the
only daughter -in -law who knows how to drive
a stick. Yeah. other reasons too because i'm
the only daughter -in -law who knows how to drive
a stick so you know it opens up possibilities
the batmobile we know is a manual transmission
if batman ever offers that how much of a bummer
would it be like sorry can't take the batmobile
for a spin because no or i know someone who straight
up does not want to drive stick like i've offered
to teach him and he's like no i i never do and
he i he's a cop yeah like how how many cops have
the fantasy of like, police, I need to commandeer
this vehicle. I don't know if that actually happens
in real life. No, but it happens in movies and
shows. And what if you're in that situation,
then you get into the Ferrari that you just commandeered
and you're like, ah, well. Very realistic situation
in this person's scenario. I'll get him. But
he deserves that experience. And to drive well,
I feel like you're a good driver. I mean, you
don't drive me around very often. Usually when
I do, you've had a couple drinks, and then you're
always very complimentary. Am I? Always. That's
great. It's not that I don't remember. It's just
that I don't realize that. But I learned how
to drive. I don't know how I did this, but I
learned how to drive at 17 in a rear -wheel drive
minivan in the Colorado winter. And somehow I
survived, never got in an accident. It almost
blew over on Marshall Road a couple times. But
never flipped it, never spun out, never rear
-ended anyone. That's impressive. Yeah. So maybe
that's the key to our kids is just get them a
94 Ford Aerostar. Go have fun. Just come back
in one piece. The car, one or two. It's fine.
Next I have, I want our kids to know how to play
and record music. And, I mean, obviously they
both love music so much. And I feel that growing
up with the equipment, that i have and the experiences
that we've put them in like at church seeing
all the instruments up close seeing everybody
play music i think they're both going to take
a real interest in it and yeah i mean they already
do lloyd knows the difference between an electric
guitar and a bass guitar yeah it's like i don't
think either of us taught him that he just knows
last week on our way to church he was not behaving
well he was not listening to me he was Getting
out the door was a bear. And his punishment was
that he wasn't allowed to play drums at church.
And that was a rough punishment. He was so sad.
And I like, it's one of those times where I feel
kind of bad, but also you needed to listen to
me and you didn't. And we didn't have time for
a timeout, so no drums at church. And then Zeta,
she already has more rhythm than I ever will.
13 months do you have her sitting on the drum
set and she does really well yep she's using
one hand on the hi -hat one hand on the snare
it's crazy yeah neither of them can reach or
push down the kick pedal yet not yet Lloyd's
getting there and then we got Zeta like a little
electric keyboard for her birthday and both of
the kids love it and are just like learning things
because they'll just sit there and noodle on
the piano yeah so now they know that the left
side is low and the right side is high yeah figuring
that out Yeah, so they both already love music
so much, and Lloyd is always asking for different
songs to play. Good songs. Good songs, yep. No
wheels on the bus. No, we do not allow that in
our house. No, he's never heard Baby Shark. No,
then yeah, like today in the car, he requested
a song, and then Zeta was just like bopping to
it. She was so excited. She was singing along
and clapping, and yeah, it's so fun. Yep, thanks
Dan Auerbach for the Cars 3 soundtrack. Run that
race. And then recording music for kids. I think
it's so cool to not just learn something, but
to see it, like see the fruits of it. And if
you record a song, no matter what it is, if you
can hear it back, you're like, oh, wow. I did
that. I made that. And it came out and I can
show other people. And I think that'll give them
an extra enthusiasm for playing music and learning
how to do it well. Also, they're just going to
be so much better than me, even without being
music majors or audio engineer majors. They're
just going to have it kind of inherent. Whenever
they learn like what a computer is and what it
really does and how it works, they're going to
know how to press record on a logic session and
yell into a microphone or plug in a keyboard.
Yeah. And I mean, even just like. They both already
know how to open the cameras on our phones. Lloyd
knows how to swipe through pictures on our phones.
So they're just learning these skills so young
that you never thought you'd be the parent that's
like, technology. But that's for sure going to
be us. They're just going to be like, oh my god,
mom. This is how you do this. And yeah, I think
they'll learn recording so quickly. And they'll
get so good at it. Yeah, inherently. Hopefully,
like my dream is for them to have friends over
and be like, oh, let's go downstairs and record
a song. You play drums, you play guitar, you
play bass guitar. That's different because it
has four strings. It'll be so great. And the
thing is with... All of the people we know who
have kids, they're all already going to know
these instruments. Like we have different bands
that our kids can be a part of. And then they
can all switch instruments and just keep it fresh.
Yeah. Change your name a little bit. Yeah. Skinnered
Leonard. Exactly. The last one that I have is
not just a dad thing, but I think it's uniquely
me is you're never too cool to have fun and be
goofy. And I've heard that I'm a goofy person.
I've been told directly. And I don't think you
would say that. I think you would say I'm strictly
professional, just straight up business. Like
never have fun. I never have to be like, stop.
Yeah, like picture of fuddy -duddy is me. For
sure. In the dictionary. That sentence made no
sense. But I've seen so many people who just
like lose their sense of wonder and lose all
joy that you can have in life in little things
like throwing rocks in a pond or jumping off
of the slide way too high. Or having fun on the
swings. Like, obviously, these aren't things
that an adult should do by themselves. You shouldn't
go to the playground and go on the swings. But
if you're going to swing with your kids. But
maybe that's the problem. Yeah, that might be
the issue. But if you're going to go on the swings
with your kids, you should have fun with it.
You shouldn't just be a robot and a total professional
adult. You should be able to smile and laugh
and make your kids laugh. and make memories for
them and get them excited about stuff like that.
I think one thing we've done well is since we
do so little screen time, they're still really
young, obviously, but it just kind of makes childhood
magical again. I think so many people our age
are like, how do we make the 90s happen again?
Which is hard because there are certain things
like... I would never just let my kids like run
rampant outside. But part of it is the neighborhoods
we live in and stuff like that. Yeah, I just
think with like we just get instant gratification
and technology and we're always being entertained
and all of that all the time. It does take away
the joys and like just swinging on the swings
with your kids. And I think that's just been
like an unexpected side effect of making the
decision to have like we have kind of limited
toys. limited screen time and stuff like that
is we get to just like have fun with, you know,
well, he just wants to run outside and we're
like, great. Just run. Go on a little walk, run
in the grass. Yeah. Like absolutely. See the
cats. Yeah. That's what he wants to do. The best
walk to the mailbox. Yeah. And he just wants
to run and sometimes take a car and put it in
the dirt. And there's just so much joy in that.
Well, you also wanted me to say if there's anything
that. you didn't add on your list that I had.
So the first one that I had was kind of just
like practical. Is there skills that you have
that I do not, or I would have to learn better
to teach our kids like fixing cars. I could potentially
teach them those things, but I would have to
learn it all first. Stuff like building things
and using power tools. Again, like I know the
basics of how to build things. You have been
doing that professionally for four years now.
So I think they're just like, those are the two
main ones that come to mind. And I'm sure again,
music is another one, just like practical skills
that I want our kids to have, whether they use
them long -term or not. Like one of the things
we've kind of joked about with music is it's
way more impressive to have someone who's like
an accountant. who then whips out a guitar or
a piano and is just amazing at it than it is
to have someone be a professional musician at
a party just playing their instrument. Yeah,
even if our kids are doctors or lawyers, they're
going to be competent at an instrument. Yeah,
just for fun. So yeah, I think that was the first
one I came up with was just practical skills
that I don't have that you do and you can teach
them. And then the other two are like... Different
sides of the same coin and very like overarching
and maybe a lot of pressure. But that's also
your job as a dad. It's just like showing each
of our kids like what a man is for who they are.
It's like we have a boy and we have a girl. and
I remember when I was pregnant with Lloyd, of
course we didn't know if we were having a boy
or a girl, and someone was, like, asking me about
it. And I remember saying something about, well,
if I have a boy, I want to make sure he's a man.
And with who I was with, I don't know if they,
like, quite took it the way I meant it. I'm like,
I don't care if he's, like, big and buff. Obviously,
I want him to be healthy and strong. But more
importantly, it's like, how do you use the strength
that you do have? Whether that's power in a situation,
physical strength, obviously, taking care of
people when you can. What does that look like?
And that's something that I could be the best
mom in the world, but I can't show him how to
behave as a good man. And of course, Lloyd also
has other good men in his life, but he's going
to look to you first before he's going to look
to grandpas or friends or uncles or anything
like that. What does a good man look like? What
does using your strength appropriately look like?
Again, physical strength or strength of character
and situation. Are you in a situation where someone's
like kind of being a jerk and you call them out
on it? That kind of thing. And then for Zeta,
of course, it's the same thing, but on the flip
side, right? Where it's like, okay, what do you
look for in a good man? You know, how do you
want to be treated? both hope that if she gets
married, she has really high standards and doesn't
end up with a deadbeat. And that starts with
how she sees how you treat her, how you treat
me, how you treat the other women in our life.
Yeah, I mean, we have a couple friends who have
daughters who are a little bit older, like three
and four, and they're starting to do like daddy
-daughter dances. And I don't know if we'll have,
I'm sure we can find one somewhere at like rec
center or something if our kids don't go to school,
but it's really sweet to see like. the daughters
get really excited and like want to get dressed
up and go out with dad and like get flowers from
dad and stuff like that. So I am excited for
that kind of stuff. And just her to see like,
this is how you deserve to be treated. And don't
settle for, not that like you're going to do
it perfectly, not to settle for someone who's
not going to treat you really well. So that was
one that I. thought about didn't write down was
strength comes from bridled power and knowing
that you could beat someone up but you know when
to like i feel like it's appropriate to say our
kids should probably have swung a punch and had
a punch swung at them by the time they're eight
or nine because it's just something that happens
i mean lloyd has a big cousin so it's probably
gonna happen yeah absolutely but just to to not
be afraid of plus there's a story there yeah
What a story. And a good one. But sometimes it's
appropriate to show your strength, like, if anyone's
harming someone that you care about or one of
your siblings. That is one thing we've explicitly
told Lloyd, because right now, like, he doesn't
really pick on Zeta too much, but every once
in a while he'll, like, push her around or something.
And so, like, Lloyd, you do not hurt Zeta. You
don't hit people. Unless they're hurting Zeta.
You're allowed to hit someone. Then you can hit
them a lot. Yeah, if they're hurting your sister,
you're allowed to hit them. Well, thank you for
hopping in for Laura and sharing your perspective
on what you want to teach our kids. Yeah, this
is a bit of an abridged. So maybe if I come up
with some others and we need another episode,
we can do it again. Yeah. Just behind the scenes
for us, we were planning on recording two nights
ago, and then our whole house was sick and we
were dying, so we were like, okay, we're not
going to do this tonight. Then we were going
to record again last night, and it was just not
a good day, and we weren't really happy with
each other. So we were like, we don't want to
fake it that much. But look at us now, less than
24 hours later. Yeah. Both of us are alive. We
haven't killed each other. No, and our kids are
probably alive. We haven't checked the monitors
in an hour. Yeah. I'm sure they're fine. Well,
do you have a win you want to share? Yeah. Mine
is just that it has really come in clutch this
week that I am competent with the snot straw.
Yes. Probably four nights this week it has really
saved the night. Yeah. And gotten some people
some sleep is that I'm not squeamish with the
actual Frida straw. Not the mechanical one or
the electric ones. Those don't work apparently.
I did find out there's one that's like $100 that
is actually worth it. But the normal one's $12.
No, no, like an electric one. Yeah, I know. But
then the normal just is $12. Yeah, and I can't
do it. No. But really, you have been the bravest
of all. You've let me do it while the kid's in
your lap and you only gagged like twice tonight.
I know. And that was both kids without cleaning
in between. Yeah, that's better than them getting
their brains sucked out. So middle of the night,
like two nights, I've just gone in and given
Zeta a good snot sucking and it saved it. Yeah.
Yeah, I don't know what I would do if... If you
couldn't do that. Well, you would just have to
change the litter and do your own snot straws
all by yourself. I guess so. And also clean up
the vomit along the way. Oh, yeah. Your own?
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, because that's the biggest
issue. What's your mom win of the week? Mine
is this morning we were getting ready for church.
You were already at church. And we were, like,
about to go downstairs to the garage. And Lloyd
had his car in his hand. And I said something
about how Zeta didn't have a car. like a toy
car to take in the car with us. And he stopped,
ran, and got his Lightning McQueen and came back
and handed it to Zeta to make sure that she had
a car to take in the car with her and had a toy.
And he loves his Lightning McQueen. So that's
also like a very kind toy for him to share. He
didn't just pick like the random one that he
doesn't care about. That's like sharing your
blankie. Pretty close. Yeah. I mean, I don't
think he would ever share Eboba. No. But so it
was just very sweet that not only did he share
like a really important toy, but when he realized
that she didn't have a toy to take in the car
with her, he went out of his way to go and get
something. His favorite. One of his favorites
to share with her to make sure she had. a toy
in the car, which, of course, she threw on the
floor within 37 seconds of being in the car.
Yeah, it doesn't matter. It's the gesture. It's
the thought. Yeah, it was very sweet. And which
car did he have? He had Ramon. Oh, it wasn't
even Cruz. It wasn't Cruz this time because Ramon
is new. And fancy. I was going to say he probably
had Cruz, which is Zeta's car anyways. Well,
he wanted to take Ramon and Cruz. typically have
a one toy in the car policy so i told him he
had to choose and it's so funny watching him
now because he like for sure actually considers
it like you see him with a car in each hand like
looking back and forth which car do i want to
take and then but he's really good about setting
one down after you tell him we're just taking
one it's a real sophie's choice it is yeah Ramona
Cruz. Lightning Cruz. Well, thank you for listening
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