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motherhood where sleep is a rumor and laundry

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is eternal and somehow we're supposed to be raising

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tiny humans through it all we're here to laugh

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at the chaos cry when necessary and remind you

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that none of us actually know what we're doing

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this is no manual a mom cast your mom friend

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group chat but with microphones welcome back

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to no manual mom cast Hi, everyone. Welcome back

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to No Manual, a mom cast. We are super excited

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to just chat about our spouses a little bit more

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today. And before we hop into what we're really

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talking about today, do we want to talk about

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our mom moments of the week? Sure. I can go first.

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Okay. So I think I've talked about it before,

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but part of our bedtime routine is I nurse Zeta.

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And then while I do that, Stuart and Lloyd have

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dad snuggles, which really don't involve much

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snuggling because Lloyd is usually like jumping

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on the bed and trying to keep himself awake.

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That's funny. As a two -year -old does. Yeah.

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So I'll just like tell this whole experience

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from my perspective. Okay, great. Which is...

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I'm like in the kid's room, dark, nursing Zeta.

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She's like pretty much asleep. And I hear something

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fall from our bedroom. And I didn't hear tears

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right away. So I was like, okay, I mean. You're

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like, pause. Let me just listen. Because also

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like, you know how it is when you hear something

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fall. Like a phone and a kid can sound the same.

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For sure. Right. So I'm like, okay, maybe it

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was a kid. Maybe it was a cat jumping down from

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a bed. I don't know. So I'm like, okay, get Zeta

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down. And then as soon as I like open the nursery

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door to walk to our room, just hear like. sobbing

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something okay so it was lloyd so i go in there

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and stewart's like it finally happened lloyd

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fell off the bed and our bed like isn't short

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oh really it's probably like two feet off the

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floor okay so it's like a decent fall yeah and

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it also has like a ledge on it So that on the

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way down. So we're like, we know he hit that

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at some point. We're like, buddy, like trying

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to get him to calm down, finally get him to calm

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down. Then we go to take him to bed and we see

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his face for the first time because he had just

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been like crying into Stewart's chest. And he's

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just got a fat bloody lip. That's like gushing

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blood. He's got blood all over his elephant that

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he sleeps with every night. So we're like, well,

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okay, we got to get this cleaned up and taken

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care of. Like this is not how we were expecting

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bedtime to go. That's fine. So we like go to

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get them cleaned up. And it's like a whole process

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because every time we like do something that

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you're supposed to do to like get. bleeding to

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stop or to help you know ice cold water alcohol

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hydrogen peroxide we tried a styptic pen we tried

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like all the things and like any mouth related

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injuries bleed way more oh yeah um so like we're

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already we're already there um but then also

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he just he does not want us to touch it he doesn't

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want us to do anything yeah um so like i have

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to right so we like get him calmed down and then

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we do something to like you know we even just

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like cold water on a paper towel yeah and he

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starts freaking out again and so it took us probably

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45 minutes we had to do like a quick wash of

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his elephant quick wash and dry because it was

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drenched in blood at that point like we obviously

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can't send him to bed with a bloody a bloody

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stuffy stuffy yeah so yeah it was probably 45

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minutes to an hour of us like calmed down and

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you know that thing where like you're upset about

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something and you get calmed down and then like

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you remember yeah you could tell that was happening

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in his brain oh and then at the end of all this

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i looked down and the shirt that i was wearing

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for the second time just covered covered in blood

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and that does not come out super easy it actually

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came out faster better than i expected i just

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like as soon as we got him down i took it off

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and soaked it and then washed it so it surprisingly

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it did oh good but of course i was like this

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isn't like my pajama shirt that has graduated

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to a pajama shirt because it already is disgusting

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and assholes in it no this is a shirt that i

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bought a week ago yeah you're like i actually

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like this shirt yeah yeah so also i feel like

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people probably think i'm a terrible mom because

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half my mom moments are just like so my kid got

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hurt this week and here's how no it's called

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having a two -year -old boy for real though yeah

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i feel that 100 Okay, my mom moment. So as you

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can tell by my voice, I sound like I smoke a

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pack a day right now. So you picked up smoking?

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Yeah, picked up smoking just really hard. No,

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I've been sick for – so Michael actually was

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sick first this time with some head cold. Then

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Colt got it. Then Cruz got it. And then I got

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it. And that's just how it works in our family.

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So I have this like gnarly cough right now. Pretty

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much every time I get like a head cold, I either

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get a sinus infection or bronchitis. Oh, great.

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And so I think I have like just like the end

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of bronchitis at this point where I just cough

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and it just sounds like I have croup basically.

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So maybe I have croup. I don't know. So sorry.

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I apologize in advance if you hear that on this

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episode. But pretty much every time I like have

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a coughing fit, I don't know if you feel this

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way. But my muscles like down there are just,

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you know. They're not what they used to be for

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sure. They're not what they used to be. And the

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amount of times that I've peed my pants in the

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last three days, like not like a full bladder,

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but like enough to be like, I should go change

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my pants. Great. Is countless. Because also you

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have one more thing that you need to think about

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anyways. Yeah. Yeah. And so the amount of times

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in. in public. This has happened the past couple

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of days, definitely at home a bunch of times.

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And yeah, it's just my muscles are not the same.

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No, just a lot of coughing and peeing at the

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same time. Might be TMI, but. you know what is

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this podcast i feel like yeah oh my gosh well

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today we kind of have like a fun and also like

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loving episode i guess you would say i feel like

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if you know a new dad this is maybe a good one

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to send him yeah yeah absolutely yeah really

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we just we're going to talk about all the ways

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that our husbands have helped us make mom life

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easier Yeah. Yeah. And so we're just going to

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kind of go back and forth and I'm sure some of

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our things will be similar or the same. Yeah.

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I'm going to make sure that my husband listens

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to this episode so that he can listen to it whenever

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we're mad at each other or something. Perfect.

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Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Do you want to go first? Sure.

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Yeah. So my first one is showers. So Stuart has

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been really good about making sure I have time

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every day to shower. And of course right now

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it's... less of a big deal because so i shower

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at night before bed and so usually it's like

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kids are asleep and there's a little bit of time

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it's not a big deal but there have definitely

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been times like with newborns where my entire

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shower he's just like had a screaming baby yeah

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and just like dealt with it But, yeah, he's just,

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like, always been really good about making sure

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I have time to shower. Like, he never brings

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me the screaming baby while I'm in the shower.

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It's just, like, okay. Like, you take your time.

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Yeah, you take your time. And then, you know,

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obviously there are times when it's, like, five

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minutes and you do the basics and get out. And

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then you have to deal with, you know, whatever

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a kid's upset about. And, yeah, now there's definitely

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been times when I've, like, gotten out of the

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shower and he's nowhere to be found. And then

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I look on the camera and he's. taking care of

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one or two kids that were started crying while

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i was in there but it is like i mean i think

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as a mom we all know like i mean it's basic hygiene

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but it is like super important for just like

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your mental health and taking care of yourself

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yep just like those 10 minutes like yeah yeah

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that you couldn't get and especially unbothered

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or like okay no one's gonna knock on the door

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and say they need something unless it's like

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life or death so yeah that's my first one and

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it's definitely been huge yeah Okay, my first

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one is Michael does the dishes and takes out

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the trash every night. And yeah, there's the

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occasional like if he's gone at youth group or

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whatever, like I take care of it. But it's a

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no questions. Like we try to – after the kids

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go to bed, we try to reset the house at nighttime

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just to like gently pick up the – like it's not

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like a deep clean or anything like that usually.

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But he always, we run the dishwasher every single

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night. So he'll unload the dishwasher from the

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night before, load it again, start it, and then

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he takes the trash out. And that is like super

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helpful. I also don't like doing those things.

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I don't like doing a lot of chores. Who really

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does? That's why they're chores. Yeah. But he,

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yeah, just he takes care of it. I don't have

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to like ask him to do it. I don't have to, yeah,

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I don't have to question it. He's just like.

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on it yeah he does it and yeah i don't know i

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could probably count like on my hands the amount

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of times i've taken out the trash in our marriage

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yeah because I mean, like, obviously there are

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times that I have. Yeah. When you have to. Right.

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Yeah. But yes, it's the same thing. Stuart just,

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he takes out the trash. I don't think I've ever

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had to pull the trash cans to the curb. Yeah.

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That's definitely something I've never done in

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our marriage. But, you know, sometimes it's like

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taking it downstairs or, you know, to the dumpster

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or whatever, but. But never out to the street.

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Yeah. Yeah. That's great. All right. What's your

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next one? Okay. My next one kind of goes hand

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in hand with my last one, but it's, we call it

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dadder day breakfast. And then I have Saturday

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showers. Nice. So every Saturday morning, Stuart

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makes breakfast. And then I have usually about

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an hour where I take like a full shower. I wash

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my hair. So even if it's like, that's the only

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time that week I wash my hair sometimes. And

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they're definitely more than one time that that's

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the case. For sure. Like I wash my hair if I

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want to, you know, do an everything shower. Yeah.

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You know, that can happen. And then he makes

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breakfast and watch the kids. Nice. And it takes

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a full hours to make breakfast because he has

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to watch the kids. For sure. Yeah. But that is

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pretty much every single Saturday unless like

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we have plans or, you know, something differs

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in our schedule. Yeah. And again, it's super

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nice to one, have a meal a week that. I don't

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think about and take care of and sometimes he

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goes crazy and it's like this week I made like

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this week he made french toast with sourdough

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that we bought from like our friend's bakery

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you know there are weeks where he like goes crazy

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and then sometimes like here is eggs and bacon

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yeah and that's it but I don't have to make it

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I don't have to think about it every once in

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a while I'll make a request but yeah I don't

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have to worry about it so yeah I don't have to

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worry about the meal and then I just have this

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time to like actually take my time getting ready

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yeah and yeah that's so great clean hair sometimes

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even have time to style it but that you know

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those that's crazy that's um whoa slow down so

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yeah and it's nice to just like kind of have

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a reset yeah between like the week and the weekend

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and yeah I definitely don't have time to do that

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on Sunday getting both kids ready for church

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by myself so I feel that yeah yeah Okay, my next

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one is Michael always asks if I need anything

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on the way home. So yeah, so he works in office

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full time and I'm home with the kids. Two out

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of the four, like. work days during the week

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and then on the days that we do have child care

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I still get home earlier right and so he comes

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home a little bit later he always will be like

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I'm on my way do you want me to stop and get

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anything or do we need anything and most of the

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time it's nope we're good sometimes it's like

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I'll take a McDonald's Diet Coke Or, yeah, or

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like, hey, can you grab me a Starbucks? Or, hey,

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I put in a Target pickup order. Can you just

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pick that up on the way home? Things like that,

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that it's just like, it's like a little extra

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special thing that he would maybe get me. A sweet

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treat, if you will. Yeah, a sweet treat after

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maybe a hard day. But, yeah, he's just always,

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it's not just a, I'm on my way home. It's a,

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I'm on my way home. Do you need anything? That's

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super nice. Yeah. Super nice. And I also feel

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like logistically, I know, so Stuart and I have

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each other's locations on our phone, which I

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know is controversial for some people, but I

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don't get that. I definitely have his location.

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I mean, that's a different conversation, but

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I have definitely like tracked him to be like,

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okay, have you left? So if I call you now. Yeah.

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It won't be inconvenient. Yeah. Can you still

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pick up hot dog buns or whatever thing I inevitably

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forgot on our grocery picket this week? Because

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you always forget something. Oh, every single

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time. And it makes me so angry. And it's always

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like for weeks now we've been meaning to buy

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sriracha, which it's like sometimes hard to find.

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It's hard to find. Stuart is a huge sriracha

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guy. So when there was a shortage, it was like

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a whole thing. I feel like I have a harder time

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with the staples because I'll be like, oh, there

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was something that this happened just the other

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day where I didn't put it on our grocery list

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because we always have it. And I didn't realize

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how little we had. And I needed like a cup and

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we had a tablespoon or whatever that is. Yeah.

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So then Stuart had to run to the store. Special

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trip. Yeah. Yeah. No, I feel that for sure. Thankfully

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with like Target pickup, it's like, do you want

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to order your usuals? And so I can like. Usually

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I just go, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. But always,

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I always still forget something. It's terrible.

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Every time. Yeah. Okay, what's your next one?

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My next one is he always takes care of things

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during meals. So when we sit down to dinner and

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you swear you've gotten everything for everyone

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and then Lloyd's like. Cup of water, please.

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Yeah. Stuart gets up and gets it. Nice. And then

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when we forget to grab napkins or when we forget

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to grab sriracha or when we forget, you know,

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when Lloyd threw his fork on the floor and needs

00:14:02.919 --> 00:14:04.840
a new one. No, we actually just pick it up and

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we don't give him a new one. No. He's fine. Pretty

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much every request at dinner, he gets up and

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takes care of it. And is that just like something

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you guys have established or like he just automatically

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started doing it? He just automatically started

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doing it. As I was like writing these down. And

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actually, this is one of the things that made

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me think of this idea for an episode. Because

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I always hear the, like, stories of moms never

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having a warm meal. Like, that's the joke, right?

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Moms don't have warm meals. And obviously, like,

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that's been situations in my life where it's

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like. Never get to eat it. Yeah. Right when it's,

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yeah, ready. So consistently, I'm like, I don't

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relate with that because Stuart has always been

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really good at making sure I eat, probably partially

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because I get hangry and he doesn't want to deal

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with that. And then for getting stuff for the

00:14:54.259 --> 00:14:56.379
kids, I mean, I think it might partially be like

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his chair is actually just closer to the kitchen.

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I don't know. Like this isn't something. He's

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like, I might as well grab it. Right. This isn't

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something we've ever like talked about or established.

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But it's one of those moments where it's like,

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oh, you're serving me without me asking. It's

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like, oh, I can just eat my dinner and I feel

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a little bit bad because I'm like, no, you're

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the one that's eating the cold dinner. You haven't

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had a bite of dinner by the time everyone else

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is done or whatever. He's like, I can relate

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to those moms that say that. But yeah, it is

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nice, especially since like being in a situation

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I'm in and we're in of being like a stay -at

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-home working mom. That means for most of the

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meals, I'm by myself with the kids. So to have

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this one meal where it's like, oh no, he's taking

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care of this stuff. Yeah, that's nice. It's just

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like. It's really nice. Again, I don't know if

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he even intentionally does this, but it feels

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super thoughtful and caring. Yeah, it's so nice.

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That is nice. I saw this. We actually, our No

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Manual page we follow, Chaos with Kara. I feel

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like she always pops up right when I go to our

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page. But she talks about how she's established

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a rule that no kid can sit on her lap while she's

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eating. That's a good one. And I'm like, oh,

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that. I think that's a really great rule. I don't

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think my kids would understand that at this moment.

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Yeah. It is, I feel like, an age thing because

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her kids are a little – like I think her youngest

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is two, which is very different than your oldest

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being two. Yep, exactly. And so I'm like, oh,

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that's a great rule of like, hey, mommy's eating

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right now. Like it can either wait or you can

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figure it out. Yeah. And I think that's a good

00:16:34.570 --> 00:16:36.909
way to establish like it's important for me to

00:16:36.909 --> 00:16:39.860
eat too. Yeah. Yeah. Mom needs to take care of

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herself so everyone else can like also be taken

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care of. Yeah, exactly. Okay. My next one, this

00:16:46.019 --> 00:16:48.559
is going to be cheesy, but Michael solo parents

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so I can record this podcast. And so we like

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our rhythm is kind of, we record like almost.

00:16:54.590 --> 00:16:57.090
probably biweekly, every two weeks. Yeah, and

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we'll record like two episodes at a time. And

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it's a no questions asked. Like if I figure out

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a time with you and I just tell Michael like,

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hey, I'm going to go record with Erica on Saturday

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at 11. He says, okay. And it's not like a, ugh.

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Can you push it later? Yeah, can you push it

00:17:15.470 --> 00:17:18.369
later? Can you help me with nap time before you

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go? It's just. he understands that this is important

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to me and is like cheering us on. Yeah. I just

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feel like he's really in my corner on it and

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wants to see like us succeed in this. And so

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him being like on the other side of it and solo

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parenting through when we record is just like,

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it's so, I don't think he realizes how, how much

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it means to me and how intentional it is. Yeah.

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I think cause Stuart does the same is exactly

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the same. And I honestly don't think people who

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listen realize how much this wouldn't exist if

00:17:54.359 --> 00:17:56.279
it wasn't for Stuart and Michael. Absolutely.

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There's the week -to -week, like, they take care

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of our kids. And they're not babysitting. No.

00:18:02.440 --> 00:18:04.980
They're just being dads. Yeah. But also, like,

00:18:05.039 --> 00:18:09.839
logistically, if they didn't want to, like, we

00:18:09.839 --> 00:18:12.220
wouldn't be able to make this happen. And then

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also there's... Other pieces of it, too, like

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no one obviously saw you saw it. Stuart just

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spent like half an hour before we started this

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episode trying to get something set up for us

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that unfortunately didn't work this time. Yeah.

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Yes. But and Michael has done a bunch of our

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graphic design and stuff like that. So there's

00:18:29.450 --> 00:18:31.670
just. Yeah. They're in our corner. And that's.

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It's so nice. Yeah. That's invaluable. So. Yeah.

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Yeah. Yeah. OK. What's your next? All right.

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My next one. So this is especially important.

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early on when i'm breastfeeding but he does this

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all the time is making sure i have snacks nice

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um and so yeah like when the kids were like little

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babies and you're just like breastfeeding constantly

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because that's what you do starving and ravenous

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yeah he always makes sure i have like a snack

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close by and refills my water nice um and then

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now of course zeta is almost a year she's turning

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a year next week which is crazy now it's less

00:19:06.700 --> 00:19:09.940
of like that and more like we're at the stories

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like what Do you have snacks at home? What snack?

00:19:12.329 --> 00:19:14.309
Like, do you want a snack treat? And I mean,

00:19:14.309 --> 00:19:16.250
he gets me my water before bed very frequently,

00:19:16.390 --> 00:19:18.789
which is, you know, classic husband move, but

00:19:18.789 --> 00:19:23.069
so important. And like, I, I don't know if you're

00:19:23.069 --> 00:19:25.210
this way. I have to have a snack before bed.

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If I don't have a snack before bed. Always a

00:19:27.250 --> 00:19:30.589
bowl of cereal or popcorn for me. It's like 1130

00:19:30.589 --> 00:19:33.390
or 12. And I'm like, well, now I'm starving.

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Yes. And you're like, I've already brushed my

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teeth. Do I... Do I just power through and go

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to sleep and then wake up really hangry? No,

00:19:40.180 --> 00:19:43.960
never power through. Or do I get up now that

00:19:43.960 --> 00:19:46.299
I'm comfortable in bed and go have a snack and

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then give a... Then do I brush my teeth? What's

00:19:48.279 --> 00:19:53.099
your go -to snack? So right now, cereal is a

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big one. The other one, so for Christmas, Stuart

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got me this, a cast iron pan that's probably

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like... Ooh, cute. This big, so like... maybe

00:20:03.630 --> 00:20:05.529
six inches i don't something like that pretty

00:20:05.529 --> 00:20:08.509
small it's a great size for a large chocolate

00:20:08.509 --> 00:20:12.410
chip cookie so that is my go -to nice it's a

00:20:12.410 --> 00:20:14.829
cast i'm gonna make a singular chocolate chip

00:20:14.829 --> 00:20:17.630
cookie it's great um so that's my go -to but

00:20:17.630 --> 00:20:20.309
so yeah then in the evening if he like notices

00:20:20.309 --> 00:20:22.529
it's getting late i'll be like have you had your

00:20:22.529 --> 00:20:25.279
bedtime snack yet You should have a snack. Have

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you had your bedtime snack? So sweet. He makes

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sure I'm fed, which again, might be a little

00:20:31.220 --> 00:20:33.359
bit selfish because I do get hangry and I'm not.

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He's like, I'm actually just looking out for

00:20:35.079 --> 00:20:37.759
myself. My own well -being. Yeah. Yeah. But it

00:20:37.759 --> 00:20:39.619
comes across as loving. So that's what matters.

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Yeah. My go -to is usually honey bunches of oats.

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Makes me sound like I'm 80 years old. No, when

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I was pregnant with Zeta, that's what I had constantly.

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I love it. And then Michael always has a. bag

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of popcorn and i've recently like picked up on

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that too and so we'll we don't share a bag we

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have our own perfect bags and mine's usually

00:21:01.539 --> 00:21:05.220
kettle corn and his is like full butter popcorn

00:21:05.220 --> 00:21:08.900
we the like spice shop that I get all of our

00:21:08.900 --> 00:21:10.480
spices from because I'm a little bit bougie that

00:21:10.480 --> 00:21:13.680
way. They have popcorn seasonings. And they've

00:21:13.680 --> 00:21:15.339
all been really good. Stuart got me a cookies

00:21:15.339 --> 00:21:17.339
and cream one for Christmas that we haven't tried

00:21:17.339 --> 00:21:19.880
yet. Cookies and cream? Popcorn? What? So we'll

00:21:19.880 --> 00:21:21.960
have to try it and report back. Interesting.

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Yeah, they have like a cinnamon roll one that's

00:21:25.559 --> 00:21:28.740
really good. And they had like a garlic and dill

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or something like that. That sounds very good.

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I'll just send them your way. Are you like an...

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Sorry, I'm going on a popcorn rant. Are you an

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M &M's in the popcorn person? Because I am. I

00:21:39.339 --> 00:21:40.880
don't know if I've ever actually done that, but

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I feel like I would like it. I like salty sweet.

00:21:43.019 --> 00:21:45.900
It is good because the M &M's get a little bit

00:21:45.900 --> 00:21:48.660
melty. Very good. And there's also a little bit

00:21:48.660 --> 00:21:51.180
of a different crunch with the M &M's. So I could

00:21:51.180 --> 00:21:52.420
see it being really good, but I don't know if

00:21:52.420 --> 00:21:54.640
I've ever actually done it. Very good. Okay,

00:21:54.680 --> 00:21:58.980
rant over. My next one is Michael lays with Colt

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every night so I can focus on Cruz. Kind of similar

00:22:01.420 --> 00:22:03.799
to what you were saying with... in your mom moment

00:22:03.799 --> 00:22:07.339
and you know there's the occasional night where

00:22:07.339 --> 00:22:09.619
i'm putting both kids to bed and we just we make

00:22:09.619 --> 00:22:13.759
it work but right now so we finally moved colt's

00:22:13.759 --> 00:22:18.059
recliner into cruz's room so i can now feed cruz

00:22:18.059 --> 00:22:20.700
in his room by not like sitting on the ground

00:22:20.700 --> 00:22:24.019
or whatever and so yeah that's just kind of been

00:22:24.019 --> 00:22:26.700
our routine now so colt and michael will go in

00:22:26.700 --> 00:22:29.829
his room and read books and Colt wants us to

00:22:29.829 --> 00:22:32.849
lay with him until he falls asleep. And so then

00:22:32.849 --> 00:22:35.829
I can focus on Cruz and feed him and get him

00:22:35.829 --> 00:22:39.329
down. And usually I am out of the room before

00:22:39.329 --> 00:22:42.029
Michael's out of the room. So then I'll like

00:22:42.029 --> 00:22:44.869
start cleaning or whatever. But it's just like

00:22:44.869 --> 00:22:48.609
that divide and conquer mentality is, is totally

00:22:48.609 --> 00:22:51.150
where, like where we're at right now. For sure.

00:22:51.170 --> 00:22:54.849
Yeah. And so, yeah, it's just super nice that

00:22:54.849 --> 00:22:57.589
it's like, it's a no, no brainer. Like I'm going

00:22:57.589 --> 00:23:00.009
to put Cruz down while you put Cole down. And

00:23:00.009 --> 00:23:03.069
obviously he doesn't have lactating boobs to

00:23:03.069 --> 00:23:08.569
be able to feed Cruz, but. Right. Yes. To know

00:23:08.569 --> 00:23:11.509
that like you are both accomplishing what you

00:23:11.509 --> 00:23:15.450
need to. Yeah. I'll actually skip ahead because

00:23:15.450 --> 00:23:18.000
I have one that is. goes hand in hand with that

00:23:18.000 --> 00:23:21.279
which is stewart always gets up with lloyd so

00:23:21.279 --> 00:23:25.980
at night if one of the kids cries if it's lloyd

00:23:25.980 --> 00:23:28.759
it's pretty much no question to ask that stewart

00:23:28.759 --> 00:23:30.779
will be the one up to get him like obviously

00:23:30.779 --> 00:23:33.039
if it's like stewart is dead asleep i'm not gonna

00:23:33.039 --> 00:23:36.589
just let lloyd cry or whatever yeah but And again,

00:23:36.589 --> 00:23:39.150
it's not because he's not taking care of Zeta.

00:23:39.190 --> 00:23:41.130
It's just because nine times out of 10, if he

00:23:41.130 --> 00:23:42.630
goes and gets Zeta, then it's going to end up

00:23:42.630 --> 00:23:46.349
being like, she just wants to nurse. She doesn't

00:23:46.349 --> 00:23:50.349
want me. Yeah. But because again. because i'm

00:23:50.349 --> 00:23:52.130
the one that has lactating boobs and i'm the

00:23:52.130 --> 00:23:55.089
one that can nurse her and for zeta i'm usually

00:23:55.089 --> 00:23:57.650
the only answer at night yeah that means that

00:23:57.650 --> 00:24:01.170
when it is lloyd he kind of just handles yeah

00:24:01.170 --> 00:24:03.009
because lloyd will take either of us most of

00:24:03.009 --> 00:24:05.369
the time yeah and so he's the one that gets up

00:24:05.369 --> 00:24:07.390
and takes care of lloyd which is super nice yeah

00:24:07.390 --> 00:24:10.730
again the divide and conquer and not feeling

00:24:10.730 --> 00:24:12.690
like you're the only one taking care of everyone

00:24:12.690 --> 00:24:16.240
is so nice yep yeah Absolutely. Okay. My next

00:24:16.240 --> 00:24:19.480
one is Michael's always willing to help when

00:24:19.480 --> 00:24:23.000
I ask for it. So not only is it during the night

00:24:23.000 --> 00:24:26.180
or whatever, it's literally any time if I'm like,

00:24:26.240 --> 00:24:29.180
can you help me? It's a no, not a like, what

00:24:29.180 --> 00:24:32.730
do you need help with? Or what do you? It sounds

00:24:32.730 --> 00:24:36.470
so bad. What do you want? Yeah. Yeah. It's always

00:24:36.470 --> 00:24:39.470
like a, yep, I'll be right there or what can

00:24:39.470 --> 00:24:43.170
I do? And it goes back to like he's a parent

00:24:43.170 --> 00:24:46.589
too. Absolutely. Right. But sometimes it is like,

00:24:46.690 --> 00:24:50.069
hey, can you take both the kids so I can go to

00:24:50.069 --> 00:24:53.950
the bathroom or like take a quick shower or can

00:24:53.950 --> 00:24:56.990
I just go lay down for 15 minutes? Like the other

00:24:56.990 --> 00:25:00.230
day, yeah, I was like super not feeling good

00:25:00.230 --> 00:25:02.940
just with. this whole head cold thing and and

00:25:02.940 --> 00:25:05.740
I like texted him on his way home from work and

00:25:05.740 --> 00:25:08.180
I'm like he's had a long work day he's tired

00:25:08.180 --> 00:25:11.500
too it's a different type of tired but I text

00:25:11.500 --> 00:25:13.630
him and I was like when you get home can I Can

00:25:13.630 --> 00:25:16.049
I just go lay down for 15 minutes? And I ended

00:25:16.049 --> 00:25:17.950
up falling asleep and I slept for like over an

00:25:17.950 --> 00:25:21.609
hour. And he like, it was like a, yeah, of course

00:25:21.609 --> 00:25:25.049
you can go lay down. And when I come down, I'm

00:25:25.049 --> 00:25:27.009
like, I'm so sorry. I didn't mean to fall asleep

00:25:27.009 --> 00:25:28.390
for so long. And he's like, you don't need to

00:25:28.390 --> 00:25:31.529
be sorry. You needed the rest. Yeah. Yeah. It's

00:25:31.529 --> 00:25:34.109
very understanding. And in my head, I'm like,

00:25:34.170 --> 00:25:36.769
oh, I feel so bad that you had to watch your

00:25:36.769 --> 00:25:39.849
kids for. Yeah. I don't know what that like.

00:25:40.779 --> 00:25:43.200
complex is because i definitely run into that

00:25:43.200 --> 00:25:46.119
too where yeah like i feel bad for asking you

00:25:46.119 --> 00:25:49.299
to be a parent even though you are a parent and

00:25:49.299 --> 00:25:53.220
yeah yeah yeah it's totally a and i do the same

00:25:53.220 --> 00:25:55.160
thing if the roles are reversed yeah without

00:25:55.160 --> 00:25:59.500
being asked usually so yeah absolutely yeah so

00:25:59.500 --> 00:26:02.319
he's just always super helpful and always it's

00:26:02.319 --> 00:26:05.440
a no -brainer that he's gonna help and i can

00:26:05.440 --> 00:26:08.660
rely on him and that is something that i feel

00:26:08.660 --> 00:26:11.619
really lucky to have yeah yeah that's so nice

00:26:11.619 --> 00:26:15.480
yeah all right my next one is he always says

00:26:15.480 --> 00:26:18.839
bath time nice i think i don't think i've done

00:26:18.839 --> 00:26:20.619
a single bath time since ada was born actually

00:26:20.619 --> 00:26:24.700
yeah maybe once um but he always handles bath

00:26:24.700 --> 00:26:27.759
time i help him get the kids into the bath and

00:26:27.759 --> 00:26:30.900
out of the bath and then To be honest, usually

00:26:30.900 --> 00:26:33.740
I'm like cleaning or putting laundry away or

00:26:33.740 --> 00:26:35.920
changing sheets or something during bath time.

00:26:36.140 --> 00:26:37.900
Trying to get something done that you can't get

00:26:37.900 --> 00:26:40.359
done. Right. But then also that's kind of nice

00:26:40.359 --> 00:26:42.579
because that means once the kids are down and

00:26:42.579 --> 00:26:45.059
asleep, I don't have to do that. Yeah. Totally.

00:26:45.059 --> 00:26:46.099
Because it's like this has to happen at some

00:26:46.099 --> 00:26:48.339
point. And then every once in a while it's like,

00:26:48.380 --> 00:26:49.880
no, I'm just going to sit and brain rot on my

00:26:49.880 --> 00:26:51.799
phone for 15 minutes while bath time happens.

00:26:52.339 --> 00:26:55.759
But yeah, typically it's like. How often do you

00:26:55.759 --> 00:26:57.960
guys do bath? Is it? So we usually do like three

00:26:57.960 --> 00:27:00.670
days a week. Okay. Yep. same obviously if there's

00:27:00.670 --> 00:27:03.869
like we have sour cream for dinner yeah almost

00:27:03.869 --> 00:27:05.809
a guarantee that you know bath time's gonna happen

00:27:05.809 --> 00:27:10.430
because sour cream makes great hair gel um but

00:27:10.430 --> 00:27:12.829
yeah so typically like three days a week and

00:27:12.829 --> 00:27:16.849
he never complains no it's just you know that's

00:27:16.849 --> 00:27:18.650
like part of the routine it's part of the routine

00:27:18.650 --> 00:27:21.269
yeah That's super sweet. Again, it's just like

00:27:21.269 --> 00:27:22.769
one of those things that's super nice to be like,

00:27:22.869 --> 00:27:25.710
I don't have to worry about that. This is a kind

00:27:25.710 --> 00:27:28.430
of you responsibility. Yeah. I remember like

00:27:28.430 --> 00:27:30.529
a little while ago you talked about how Stuart

00:27:30.529 --> 00:27:34.150
does kids' bath time together and that you're

00:27:34.150 --> 00:27:36.470
like, I don't know how he does it, but he does

00:27:36.470 --> 00:27:38.589
it. And I remember that week I went home and

00:27:38.589 --> 00:27:41.190
I was like, all right, I'm going to try to get

00:27:41.190 --> 00:27:42.509
the kids in the bath together. Stuart can do

00:27:42.509 --> 00:27:45.549
it. I can do it. Yes. And so ever since then

00:27:45.549 --> 00:27:47.430
I've been doing bath time together and it works

00:27:47.430 --> 00:27:49.769
out so much better because it's like, I'm not

00:27:49.769 --> 00:27:53.890
draining the water, refilling it. And it's just,

00:27:53.950 --> 00:27:56.750
I don't know. Yeah, I mean, now it is a lot easier.

00:27:56.829 --> 00:27:59.809
When he first started doing their bath time together,

00:28:00.049 --> 00:28:02.890
Zeta was like itty bitty. Teeny tiny. So it was

00:28:02.890 --> 00:28:05.609
like we had the baby bath in the tub and then

00:28:05.609 --> 00:28:08.089
Lloyd and Zeta in that and then Lloyd in the

00:28:08.089 --> 00:28:11.650
tub outside of the baby bath and trying not to

00:28:11.650 --> 00:28:14.670
like. To drown her. Drown her. Yeah. And so now

00:28:14.670 --> 00:28:17.210
that she can like sit up and she's not standing

00:28:17.210 --> 00:28:19.450
quite on her own yet, but she can stand assisted

00:28:19.450 --> 00:28:21.710
and stuff like that. Yeah. Yeah. Anytime I go

00:28:21.710 --> 00:28:24.150
in there, it's like, you know, it's like a cartoon

00:28:24.150 --> 00:28:26.630
of kids in a bath where, you know, the water's

00:28:26.630 --> 00:28:28.390
up and they're playing with their toys. Cute.

00:28:28.970 --> 00:28:32.869
Yeah. That's really cute. Okay. My next one is

00:28:32.869 --> 00:28:36.309
Michael always, if he's home, he always makes

00:28:36.309 --> 00:28:41.730
dinner. And that is like. I mean, I cook. Yeah.

00:28:42.450 --> 00:28:45.009
It's not going to be elaborate. If it's anything

00:28:45.009 --> 00:28:48.750
that I have to follow a recipe for, I follow

00:28:48.750 --> 00:28:52.410
it to a T. Like I'm not creative in the kitchen

00:28:52.410 --> 00:28:56.009
at all. And so, and Michael's like a no recipe,

00:28:56.170 --> 00:29:01.970
just, yeah, chef it up. And so, yeah, even after

00:29:01.970 --> 00:29:05.190
a long day at work, like. No matter what, obviously

00:29:05.190 --> 00:29:07.410
if he's like getting home at seven o 'clock or

00:29:07.410 --> 00:29:11.170
whatever, I'll handle it. But he makes dinner,

00:29:11.250 --> 00:29:13.849
no questions asked. I usually plan what we're

00:29:13.849 --> 00:29:17.490
going to eat and order it or whatever we need

00:29:17.490 --> 00:29:18.569
to do. Make sure you have the ingredients. Yeah,

00:29:18.569 --> 00:29:21.250
make sure the meat is defrosted. But he always,

00:29:21.390 --> 00:29:25.549
he makes it. And that's super, like, I don't

00:29:25.549 --> 00:29:27.930
have to think about it. And I love that. That's

00:29:27.930 --> 00:29:30.710
so nice. Yeah, yeah. All right. My next one is

00:29:30.710 --> 00:29:33.329
he always makes sure I have playtime with Lloyd

00:29:33.329 --> 00:29:36.569
at parks. So I feel like, I don't know if other

00:29:36.569 --> 00:29:39.829
moms feel this way, but as mom, it's really easy

00:29:39.829 --> 00:29:42.829
to fall in the like boring parent role or like

00:29:42.829 --> 00:29:46.269
even maybe the main parent role where like you're

00:29:46.269 --> 00:29:48.049
the one doing the scolding and being like, no,

00:29:48.150 --> 00:29:50.309
don't throw a ball at your sister's face. Yes.

00:29:50.349 --> 00:29:53.119
No, don't. jump off the couch because you're

00:29:53.119 --> 00:29:55.900
gonna get hurt no no like don't don't do that

00:29:55.900 --> 00:29:57.579
no we can't go to the park today no we can't

00:29:57.579 --> 00:30:00.339
do this no we can't do that and especially like

00:30:00.339 --> 00:30:03.859
again working it's like if he wants to go to

00:30:03.859 --> 00:30:06.039
the playground like i would love to do that buddy

00:30:06.039 --> 00:30:09.519
but like mom's gotta mom's gotta do emails so

00:30:09.519 --> 00:30:12.920
right so like it's really easy to fall into that

00:30:12.920 --> 00:30:15.500
role which is really really frustrating so when

00:30:15.500 --> 00:30:18.299
we do go to the park as a family almost always

00:30:18.299 --> 00:30:21.619
like we always we switch off at some point but

00:30:21.619 --> 00:30:23.640
he'll be like go play with lloyd so that way

00:30:23.640 --> 00:30:26.019
we can like you know i chase him around and we

00:30:26.019 --> 00:30:27.680
go down slides together and push him on the swings

00:30:27.680 --> 00:30:29.619
then usually at some point you know it's like

00:30:29.619 --> 00:30:31.619
we switch off and so i do like you know some

00:30:31.619 --> 00:30:34.640
of the calmer stuff with zeta too but it's really

00:30:34.640 --> 00:30:36.859
nice that he just like prioritizes and knows

00:30:36.859 --> 00:30:39.940
that hey i need to like also have fun with my

00:30:39.940 --> 00:30:42.500
kids because like that's one of the joys of motherhood

00:30:42.500 --> 00:30:45.380
yeah and that can get lost super super easily

00:30:45.380 --> 00:30:48.160
but also to like kind of establish that's like

00:30:48.160 --> 00:30:50.599
mom's not just like stick in the mud parent and

00:30:50.599 --> 00:30:54.400
like she has fun with you too yeah so yeah and

00:30:54.400 --> 00:30:56.980
pretty much every time like we get out of the

00:30:56.980 --> 00:31:00.019
car at the park or we like show up you know drive

00:31:00.019 --> 00:31:02.200
the stroller up to the park whatever he's like

00:31:02.200 --> 00:31:05.299
okay go have fun with lloyd and then you know,

00:31:05.299 --> 00:31:08.559
20 minutes in or whenever we'll switch off. That's

00:31:08.559 --> 00:31:11.240
really sweet. A really nice, that is one of those

00:31:11.240 --> 00:31:13.140
things I know he does intentionally. Yeah. And

00:31:13.140 --> 00:31:15.099
it's a very sweet thing that he prioritizes for

00:31:15.099 --> 00:31:18.119
me and for us and like Lloyd and I's relationship.

00:31:18.160 --> 00:31:21.480
And it's so important for like our olders to

00:31:21.480 --> 00:31:25.220
not forget that, like that we can really just

00:31:25.220 --> 00:31:27.539
giving them the full attention that they don't

00:31:27.539 --> 00:31:30.180
necessarily get the majority of the time. Yeah.

00:31:30.240 --> 00:31:34.890
So I feel that for sure. OK, my next one is this

00:31:34.890 --> 00:31:38.190
is just going to sound cheesy again, but Michael

00:31:38.190 --> 00:31:41.430
goes to work full time to provide for us. And,

00:31:41.509 --> 00:31:44.349
you know, he could choose not to do that. He

00:31:44.349 --> 00:31:47.069
could choose to just say, hey, we're going to,

00:31:47.069 --> 00:31:49.829
I don't know, figure it out along the way. But

00:31:49.829 --> 00:31:53.029
it's like he knows the importance of working

00:31:53.029 --> 00:31:58.009
and his job and knows that. it provides for us.

00:31:58.190 --> 00:32:00.809
And I view it as like a way that he leads our

00:32:00.809 --> 00:32:03.970
family well. And he's also like establishing

00:32:03.970 --> 00:32:08.529
a good work ethic for Colt and Cruz for like

00:32:08.529 --> 00:32:11.210
for the future. Yeah. Yeah. And showing like,

00:32:11.329 --> 00:32:14.950
hey, sometimes you don't necessarily want to

00:32:14.950 --> 00:32:18.289
go to work or yeah, do these things, but you

00:32:18.289 --> 00:32:22.410
do it because you have to or or it provides for

00:32:22.410 --> 00:32:25.859
your family or yeah. That is just something that

00:32:25.859 --> 00:32:28.160
I don't take for granted. Like we're very blessed

00:32:28.160 --> 00:32:32.700
with our jobs and he goes to work every day no

00:32:32.700 --> 00:32:35.420
matter what. And I really appreciate that. That's

00:32:35.420 --> 00:32:37.859
great. Yeah. Mine actually kind of goes with

00:32:37.859 --> 00:32:41.240
that, which is Stuart always has energy for our

00:32:41.240 --> 00:32:44.839
kids. So he did recently change jobs, but up

00:32:44.839 --> 00:32:49.779
until like less than a month ago, he was working.

00:32:50.539 --> 00:32:54.759
10 plus hour days in a wood shop yeah so physical

00:32:54.759 --> 00:32:58.880
labor all day long and then he'd come home and

00:32:58.880 --> 00:33:02.059
still be down on the floor playing with the kids

00:33:02.059 --> 00:33:05.640
and doing things for the kids no just no matter

00:33:05.640 --> 00:33:08.420
what yeah um he has changed jobs so he's still

00:33:08.420 --> 00:33:11.460
working at the same place yeah he's still working

00:33:11.460 --> 00:33:13.569
in the same place but an office job which does

00:33:13.569 --> 00:33:15.750
mean he has more energy for them just inherently

00:33:15.750 --> 00:33:18.250
which is really nice but he still works at long

00:33:18.250 --> 00:33:20.289
hours he still gets there at 6 a .m every day

00:33:20.289 --> 00:33:23.569
day works till like four yeah that's a long day

00:33:23.569 --> 00:33:26.309
so yeah he works really long days he definitely

00:33:26.309 --> 00:33:29.569
gets not a lot of sleep just because of how life

00:33:29.569 --> 00:33:34.849
works then yep um and yeah he just always has

00:33:34.849 --> 00:33:37.630
energy to play with it to go on little walks

00:33:37.630 --> 00:33:41.549
and to go to the park and you know do whatever

00:33:42.430 --> 00:33:46.630
Read books. It's like unexplained energy. Are

00:33:46.630 --> 00:33:51.329
you getting this? I don't know if part of it

00:33:51.329 --> 00:33:54.049
is just looking back historically and knowing

00:33:54.049 --> 00:33:56.509
how little time dads used to spend with their

00:33:56.509 --> 00:34:01.789
kids. Anytime I see statistics, it's like, boomer

00:34:01.789 --> 00:34:05.470
dads spent 2 % of their time with their kids

00:34:05.470 --> 00:34:09.670
or something crazy like that. Knowing just how

00:34:10.780 --> 00:34:13.000
honestly like he could do that if he wanted you

00:34:13.000 --> 00:34:15.980
know i would not be happy and we we would be

00:34:15.980 --> 00:34:19.519
fighting a lot yeah but you know it's like it

00:34:19.519 --> 00:34:23.900
is an option that other dads have and i'm sure

00:34:23.900 --> 00:34:26.260
still do take to just be like i'm tired i'm not

00:34:26.260 --> 00:34:29.360
gonna help and that's never his attitude where

00:34:29.360 --> 00:34:32.199
it's like he gets home from work and the kids

00:34:32.199 --> 00:34:34.340
are Like as soon as they hear the garage door

00:34:34.340 --> 00:34:36.480
open, they run to the living room window to watch

00:34:36.480 --> 00:34:38.840
him. And he's like excited to see them in the

00:34:38.840 --> 00:34:40.760
window and that he gets excited to like come

00:34:40.760 --> 00:34:43.760
in and see them. They're, you know, dad. And

00:34:43.760 --> 00:34:46.760
Lloyd usually has a card that he's showing him

00:34:46.760 --> 00:34:49.719
as he walks up the stairs. And yeah. And so it's

00:34:49.719 --> 00:34:51.420
like they're so excited to see him and he meets

00:34:51.420 --> 00:34:55.679
that energy. Even when he's exhausted and doesn't

00:34:55.679 --> 00:34:58.019
have it in him, I'm sure. I'm sure it gives him

00:34:58.019 --> 00:35:00.920
a little bit of energy, like seeing the kids

00:35:00.920 --> 00:35:04.159
like that, be so excited. Yeah, when someone's

00:35:04.159 --> 00:35:06.059
happy to see you, it always makes you feel good.

00:35:06.119 --> 00:35:09.940
Yeah, absolutely. Okay, my next one is going

00:35:09.940 --> 00:35:14.119
back to postpartum and just that Michael was

00:35:14.119 --> 00:35:18.480
the most attentive during postpartum and especially

00:35:18.480 --> 00:35:21.440
during like his paternity leave and allowing

00:35:21.440 --> 00:35:24.090
me to really spend time with. cruise as a newborn

00:35:24.090 --> 00:35:27.789
and take not necessarily take colts off my hands

00:35:27.789 --> 00:35:31.349
but like yeah but he would yeah yeah he would

00:35:31.349 --> 00:35:34.369
take him on walks or take him on errands like

00:35:34.369 --> 00:35:38.710
always go get us coffee or whatever and it just

00:35:38.710 --> 00:35:41.590
it he was the most attentive and caring he would

00:35:41.590 --> 00:35:44.489
always you know make my little postpartum uh

00:35:44.489 --> 00:35:48.070
ice packs and nice yeah would just ask me what

00:35:48.070 --> 00:35:52.570
i needed and would always He just same with the

00:35:52.570 --> 00:35:54.510
water and snacks, make sure I had water, make

00:35:54.510 --> 00:35:57.250
sure I had snacks, make sure I was eating. Cause

00:35:57.250 --> 00:36:00.989
like I said, you're like ravenous and postpartum.

00:36:00.989 --> 00:36:03.449
Like I just remember being starving and we had

00:36:03.449 --> 00:36:06.880
a lot of people that. Brought us meals and we

00:36:06.880 --> 00:36:08.719
were super grateful for that. So we'd always

00:36:08.719 --> 00:36:10.800
make sure like, okay, have you eaten lunch yet?

00:36:10.920 --> 00:36:14.219
Let me heat this up for you. Yeah. So I'm super

00:36:14.219 --> 00:36:17.199
appreciative of that time. And I didn't like

00:36:17.199 --> 00:36:20.219
feel like I was just navigating it alone or.

00:36:20.300 --> 00:36:24.500
Yeah. Yeah. That's great. My next one is he takes

00:36:24.500 --> 00:36:27.659
lots of pictures of us. Now, to be fair, not

00:36:27.659 --> 00:36:29.679
all of them are the most flattering of me. For

00:36:29.679 --> 00:36:35.099
sure. But I also know that someday I'm going

00:36:35.099 --> 00:36:37.260
to look back and be like, I'm glad that that

00:36:37.260 --> 00:36:41.699
picture exists, even if it's not, you know, even

00:36:41.699 --> 00:36:44.639
if my hair hasn't been washed in seven years

00:36:44.639 --> 00:36:50.119
and I'm in holy sweats and all of that. But he's

00:36:50.119 --> 00:36:53.519
really good at taking pictures of the kids and

00:36:53.519 --> 00:36:57.920
of me and the kids. And every time I like end

00:36:57.920 --> 00:37:00.199
up. looking at his phone for something, like

00:37:00.199 --> 00:37:02.119
I'm looking at his pictures for whatever reason,

00:37:02.199 --> 00:37:04.519
I realize how many more he has than I realized,

00:37:04.659 --> 00:37:06.739
which is really sweet. That is sweet. That is

00:37:06.739 --> 00:37:11.360
really sweet. Okay. My next one is Michael. This

00:37:11.360 --> 00:37:13.480
is, I just feel like my neural is so cheesy,

00:37:13.539 --> 00:37:16.940
but that Michael's really just the best dad.

00:37:17.639 --> 00:37:20.960
And I think that he's kind of broken the cycle.

00:37:21.260 --> 00:37:25.170
Like, so his dad. did not raise him. And so I

00:37:25.170 --> 00:37:27.269
have an episode about that. Yes. If you'd like

00:37:27.269 --> 00:37:29.969
to tune back to like a year ago or whatever.

00:37:30.309 --> 00:37:35.530
So yeah, he just has broken the, broken the cycle

00:37:35.530 --> 00:37:38.030
and that, and I know he was like really a little

00:37:38.030 --> 00:37:42.809
bit nervous going into fatherhood about. I always

00:37:42.809 --> 00:37:44.849
– I mean I knew he was going to be a great dad.

00:37:44.969 --> 00:37:46.469
I wouldn't have had kids with him if I didn't

00:37:46.469 --> 00:37:50.329
know that. Right. And he just has like exceeded

00:37:50.329 --> 00:37:53.989
my expectations, like always so attentive and

00:37:53.989 --> 00:37:55.989
getting on the ground and playing with the boys

00:37:55.989 --> 00:37:59.309
and like roughhousing all the things and also

00:37:59.309 --> 00:38:03.150
caring for me on top of that and reading about

00:38:03.150 --> 00:38:07.210
different ways to be the best dad. Like just

00:38:07.210 --> 00:38:12.000
all the avenues that I think – aren't necessarily

00:38:12.000 --> 00:38:17.179
the norm in today's world unfortunately but I

00:38:17.179 --> 00:38:19.239
think I'm just really proud of him that's great

00:38:19.239 --> 00:38:22.380
yeah yeah Stuart's such a good dad too yeah he's

00:38:22.380 --> 00:38:23.840
just like the perfect dad for our kids which

00:38:23.840 --> 00:38:27.820
is so fun it is it's seriously so fun to be in

00:38:27.820 --> 00:38:30.699
this stage of life when like you've dreamt about

00:38:30.699 --> 00:38:32.460
it for so long or you're talking about it for

00:38:32.460 --> 00:38:34.800
so long and then you you're like I just can't

00:38:34.800 --> 00:38:37.300
wait to see you step into that role yeah and

00:38:37.300 --> 00:38:40.070
then when you do it's like it seems like the

00:38:40.070 --> 00:38:42.429
perfect role for them like it's they don't have

00:38:42.429 --> 00:38:44.750
to get used to it or anything like that it's

00:38:44.750 --> 00:38:47.070
just it's just so natural yeah exactly exactly

00:38:47.070 --> 00:38:50.469
okay okay i think this is my last one but i do

00:38:50.469 --> 00:38:52.190
have a bonus one that's just like kind of funny

00:38:52.190 --> 00:38:56.489
cool so my last one is when he plans a date night

00:38:56.489 --> 00:39:01.389
he just like does it like he talks to grandparents

00:39:01.389 --> 00:39:04.590
about babysitting and nice There have been a

00:39:04.590 --> 00:39:07.130
couple times when it's funny because my mother

00:39:07.130 --> 00:39:10.889
-in -law always asks me the questions. And you're

00:39:10.889 --> 00:39:12.909
like, I have no idea. There have literally been

00:39:12.909 --> 00:39:14.869
multiple times I'm like, I don't know. Like,

00:39:14.889 --> 00:39:17.170
oh, we're going on a date? Cool. Yeah. I mean,

00:39:17.190 --> 00:39:19.889
usually I know that much. But yeah, where she'll

00:39:19.889 --> 00:39:21.230
be like, what time should I be there? I'm like,

00:39:21.329 --> 00:39:23.630
Stuart actually didn't tell me what time our

00:39:23.630 --> 00:39:26.670
plans were. So you've got to talk to him, which

00:39:26.670 --> 00:39:29.320
is like just kind of a nice. thing to not have

00:39:29.320 --> 00:39:31.639
to deal with and there are times that i plan

00:39:31.639 --> 00:39:33.860
it too you know i mean typically like if my parents

00:39:33.860 --> 00:39:36.599
are babysitting i talk to them yeah um like the

00:39:36.599 --> 00:39:39.000
last date night we had there was a movie that

00:39:39.000 --> 00:39:41.360
i wanted to see so it's like okay i found the

00:39:41.360 --> 00:39:44.639
showing and the all of that and then planned

00:39:44.639 --> 00:39:46.920
it all i kind of planned it all but when he plans

00:39:46.920 --> 00:39:50.300
it he Even if it's not like this big extravagant

00:39:50.300 --> 00:39:52.239
date, which it pretty much rarely is because

00:39:52.239 --> 00:39:54.659
that's just not our life right now. He makes

00:39:54.659 --> 00:39:57.260
sure the kids are taken care of and that there's

00:39:57.260 --> 00:39:59.980
a plan. And yeah, frequently I'm like, I know

00:39:59.980 --> 00:40:03.519
generally what we're doing. Yeah. But he. He's

00:40:03.519 --> 00:40:06.420
got all the logistics down and. Yeah. Or. All

00:40:06.420 --> 00:40:08.199
the details. There have also been multiple times

00:40:08.199 --> 00:40:10.179
that afterwards he's like, I actually had no

00:40:10.179 --> 00:40:13.039
plan and it was super fun anyways. I just knew

00:40:13.039 --> 00:40:14.960
we were going on a date. I didn't know what we

00:40:14.960 --> 00:40:18.409
were doing, but yeah. Yeah. I love it. The kids

00:40:18.409 --> 00:40:20.050
were taken care of and we got out of the house

00:40:20.050 --> 00:40:22.610
and had dinner and the rest of the night we kind

00:40:22.610 --> 00:40:24.750
of just figured out as we went. That's so fun.

00:40:24.909 --> 00:40:28.650
But it was fun. Nice. Yeah. That's really nice.

00:40:28.849 --> 00:40:31.489
Yeah. Okay. I've got one more. And you kind of

00:40:31.489 --> 00:40:33.469
already talked about this too, but Michael does

00:40:33.469 --> 00:40:37.809
not stray away from the difficult. And I would

00:40:37.809 --> 00:40:40.130
say we're in one of the most difficult stages

00:40:40.130 --> 00:40:42.570
of parenting we've experienced right now just

00:40:42.570 --> 00:40:45.230
with like, I mean, Cole is two and a half, so

00:40:45.230 --> 00:40:49.019
he's got. a big personality that we love so much,

00:40:49.219 --> 00:40:53.039
but also his tantrums are really big. And now

00:40:53.039 --> 00:40:55.980
that Cruz is like really on the move, it's just

00:40:55.980 --> 00:41:00.260
adds a whole nother level there. And Cole is

00:41:00.260 --> 00:41:02.219
like, totally wants to roughhouse with Cruz.

00:41:02.320 --> 00:41:04.280
So literally like, we'll come up behind Cruz

00:41:04.280 --> 00:41:06.400
and like headlock him and like pull him down.

00:41:06.739 --> 00:41:08.079
Which you're like, that's going to be really

00:41:08.079 --> 00:41:10.460
fun in like five years. Yeah. Right now he's

00:41:10.460 --> 00:41:14.699
too little. Yes. And so Michael, like, I would

00:41:14.699 --> 00:41:17.179
say especially in the nighttime, like with Colt,

00:41:17.179 --> 00:41:22.059
it's like 25 % of the time when Colt wakes up

00:41:22.059 --> 00:41:23.579
in the middle of the night, which is an every

00:41:23.579 --> 00:41:27.079
night sort of situation right now, he will wake

00:41:27.079 --> 00:41:31.960
up inconsolable. And since I'm with Cruz or like

00:41:31.960 --> 00:41:36.699
I need to be available for Cruz, he always handles

00:41:36.699 --> 00:41:41.099
Colt and goes in there and is just so patient.

00:41:42.119 --> 00:41:45.059
Whereas like me at two in the morning, I am not

00:41:45.059 --> 00:41:48.800
a patient human being. Go back to sleep as fast

00:41:48.800 --> 00:41:51.800
as you possibly can, please. Yes. And he just

00:41:51.800 --> 00:41:54.800
is so patient with him. And yeah, some of the

00:41:54.800 --> 00:41:56.460
times it just looks like Michael just laying

00:41:56.460 --> 00:41:59.920
there and just like kind of waiting it out. And

00:41:59.920 --> 00:42:02.340
for me, that is, I don't know how he does it.

00:42:02.360 --> 00:42:05.119
Because when someone's screaming, crying in my

00:42:05.119 --> 00:42:08.460
face at two in the morning, it's like so difficult

00:42:08.460 --> 00:42:11.980
for me to be. and just like let it happen without

00:42:11.980 --> 00:42:16.539
saying something. And so he just, he's the most

00:42:16.539 --> 00:42:19.219
patient human being I know. That's so great.

00:42:19.579 --> 00:42:21.860
Stuart definitely has way more patience. Yeah.

00:42:22.019 --> 00:42:25.500
And I don't know if it's like my hormones or

00:42:25.500 --> 00:42:28.400
what, but like I feel like my patience has been

00:42:28.400 --> 00:42:31.599
lacking in some areas and Michael just makes

00:42:31.599 --> 00:42:34.639
up for that. And I don't know how he does it.

00:42:34.699 --> 00:42:38.170
He's like, he has so much on his shoulders. And

00:42:38.170 --> 00:42:41.489
he like balances it all so well. And yeah, I'm

00:42:41.489 --> 00:42:44.789
sure his mind would say otherwise. Sure, yeah.

00:42:44.829 --> 00:42:47.710
But on the outside, it looks like he's handling

00:42:47.710 --> 00:42:50.429
it. And even if there's something stressful at

00:42:50.429 --> 00:42:53.909
work or stressful with us or whatever, he never

00:42:53.909 --> 00:42:57.309
shows that to the kids and is always just super

00:42:57.309 --> 00:43:00.269
patient and attentive to them. That's great.

00:43:01.079 --> 00:43:02.840
Okay, what's your bonus one? My last bonus one

00:43:02.840 --> 00:43:05.980
is he hates it when people call it babysitting.

00:43:06.039 --> 00:43:08.480
Yes. When he's taking care of his kids. Yep.

00:43:08.539 --> 00:43:12.480
Or dad duty. He's like, what are you talking

00:43:12.480 --> 00:43:16.239
about? I am not babysitting my children. They're

00:43:16.239 --> 00:43:21.179
my children too. That is so true. Yeah, dad duty

00:43:21.179 --> 00:43:24.159
is the other one because it kind of signifies

00:43:24.159 --> 00:43:26.239
that like there are times you're not on dad duty,

00:43:26.360 --> 00:43:28.500
which like. Michael totally has a hat that says

00:43:28.500 --> 00:43:32.969
on dad duty. so he just wears it constantly yeah

00:43:32.969 --> 00:43:37.409
right uh yeah we're like if he it's especially

00:43:37.409 --> 00:43:39.550
with zeta i don't know maybe if it's because

00:43:39.550 --> 00:43:42.349
she's a girl or what or because she's so little

00:43:42.349 --> 00:43:46.679
um if he like runs an errand with her obviously

00:43:46.679 --> 00:43:48.679
he draws all the attention yeah in the entire

00:43:48.679 --> 00:43:51.280
world like oh you must be a single dad and apparently

00:43:51.280 --> 00:43:53.679
yeah because why else would you be running an

00:43:53.679 --> 00:43:55.980
errand with your small child by yourself yeah

00:43:55.980 --> 00:43:59.360
um that deadbeat mom you know yeah right must

00:43:59.360 --> 00:44:02.139
be at home drinking a whole bottle of vodka yeah

00:44:02.139 --> 00:44:05.900
um but he yeah he just hates it when people call

00:44:05.900 --> 00:44:09.039
it babysitting or dad duty or like yeah just

00:44:09.039 --> 00:44:11.719
implicate that he's not an equal parent in this

00:44:11.719 --> 00:44:15.019
and like obviously It looks different because

00:44:15.019 --> 00:44:17.239
he's not home with them all the time. But like

00:44:17.239 --> 00:44:19.679
if I called him during his work day because our

00:44:19.679 --> 00:44:22.139
house was burning down and, you know, I mean,

00:44:22.159 --> 00:44:24.119
obviously this wasn't literal. But the other

00:44:24.119 --> 00:44:27.280
day, like that did happen where it was like we're

00:44:27.280 --> 00:44:29.800
really struggling. And he went into work late

00:44:29.800 --> 00:44:31.719
because he like called his boss. He's like, hey,

00:44:31.739 --> 00:44:34.900
listen, the one year old, she woke up screaming.

00:44:35.039 --> 00:44:37.559
We don't know what's going on. We like we honestly

00:44:37.559 --> 00:44:39.260
thought maybe she needs to go to the hospital

00:44:39.260 --> 00:44:41.800
because of how much she was screaming. He's like,

00:44:41.840 --> 00:44:43.840
I'm going to be in late. And yeah, so it's just

00:44:43.840 --> 00:44:45.860
like stuff like that where it's like he just

00:44:45.860 --> 00:44:48.980
understands like he's a dad and he hates it when

00:44:48.980 --> 00:44:51.119
people imply that like. Like, oh, this is just.

00:44:51.179 --> 00:44:53.679
You're a lesser parent for some reason. Yeah.

00:44:53.920 --> 00:44:58.800
Because you're not. Yeah. That is. I love. Yeah.

00:44:58.920 --> 00:45:02.119
I love to when people say like babysit. Yeah.

00:45:02.340 --> 00:45:05.679
Babysitting their kids. I'm like. No. Actually,

00:45:05.719 --> 00:45:07.500
he's not babysitting his kids. I'm not paying

00:45:07.500 --> 00:45:11.210
him. I'm not paying him and he is a parent. So

00:45:11.210 --> 00:45:13.530
yeah. Well, and it's funny because my parents

00:45:13.530 --> 00:45:16.190
even get upset, like not like upset, upset, but

00:45:16.190 --> 00:45:18.730
like they don't call it babysitting. They're

00:45:18.730 --> 00:45:20.909
like, we're grandparents. We're grandparents

00:45:20.909 --> 00:45:23.429
taking care of our grandkids. Yeah. Babysitting

00:45:23.429 --> 00:45:25.989
is like when you hire someone or like when you

00:45:25.989 --> 00:45:29.110
get additional help that's outside of like, we're

00:45:29.110 --> 00:45:32.349
not babysitting. So yeah. I think it's really

00:45:32.349 --> 00:45:35.869
funny because he's like. so avidly against it

00:45:35.869 --> 00:45:37.750
and i am too like i think it's so dumb if someone

00:45:37.750 --> 00:45:40.389
says that to him will he will he say like oh

00:45:40.389 --> 00:45:43.190
i'm not babysitting my kids i'm or will he just

00:45:43.190 --> 00:45:45.570
be like i think typically he kind of just like

00:45:45.570 --> 00:45:48.170
rolls his eyes it also depends probably like

00:45:48.170 --> 00:45:51.730
circumstance and like the mood he's in i think

00:45:51.730 --> 00:45:54.090
if he was in like a really feisty mood he would

00:45:54.090 --> 00:45:55.690
say something he would definitely say something

00:45:55.690 --> 00:45:58.050
oh i like that i want to be on a fly on the wall

00:45:58.050 --> 00:46:02.570
for when that happens yes yeah okay well hopefully

00:46:02.570 --> 00:46:06.050
for those of you that are parenting alongside

00:46:06.050 --> 00:46:10.590
somebody, I hope that this helps you to stop

00:46:10.590 --> 00:46:13.610
and slow down and realize the intentionality

00:46:13.610 --> 00:46:16.309
that each of you are putting into it and maybe

00:46:16.309 --> 00:46:19.530
point some of that out. I know I definitely need

00:46:19.530 --> 00:46:22.170
to point it out with Michael, like my appreciation.

00:46:22.550 --> 00:46:25.489
And yeah, I think when someone appreciates me

00:46:25.489 --> 00:46:27.929
for something I do for them, it can really like

00:46:27.929 --> 00:46:31.550
change my demeanor. And so, yeah, maybe try it

00:46:31.550 --> 00:46:34.530
out as an encouragement for you this week. But

00:46:34.530 --> 00:46:38.349
you want to hop into your win of the week? Sure.

00:46:38.570 --> 00:46:42.030
So Zeta had her first eye appointment. Oh, nice.

00:46:42.289 --> 00:46:45.829
Which also just like as kind of a side note.

00:46:46.280 --> 00:46:48.219
I meant to look this up and didn't have time

00:46:48.219 --> 00:46:50.079
because I don't know if this is a national program

00:46:50.079 --> 00:46:53.099
or not, but at least in Colorado, there's a program

00:46:53.099 --> 00:46:56.840
called Infancy, like infant and then S -E -E.

00:46:56.940 --> 00:47:00.719
Oh, S -E -E. That some pediatric eye doctors

00:47:00.719 --> 00:47:04.920
will do free eye exams for babies under a year.

00:47:05.159 --> 00:47:07.460
Oh. And it's like part of kind of like some sort

00:47:07.460 --> 00:47:09.820
of study that they're doing for like progressive

00:47:09.820 --> 00:47:12.440
diseases or something like that. I don't know

00:47:12.440 --> 00:47:15.030
all the details, but. We have a friend who's

00:47:15.030 --> 00:47:16.630
an eye doctor, and so she told us about that.

00:47:16.690 --> 00:47:19.110
So that's who we go see. Yeah, so Zeta had her

00:47:19.110 --> 00:47:21.809
first eye appointment yesterday, and she just

00:47:21.809 --> 00:47:23.690
did so good. Because, like, obviously it's hard

00:47:23.690 --> 00:47:26.050
to check a baby's eyes because they're moving.

00:47:26.730 --> 00:47:29.969
And they obviously do it different than, you

00:47:29.969 --> 00:47:31.690
know, they're not like, do you see the letter

00:47:31.690 --> 00:47:34.949
A? A or B? Which one do you see better? Yeah,

00:47:34.949 --> 00:47:37.349
which one's better? Obviously we're not doing

00:47:37.349 --> 00:47:40.119
that. They do like kind of an old school like

00:47:40.119 --> 00:47:43.340
exam of the actual eyes themselves. And she just

00:47:43.340 --> 00:47:46.079
did so good. Like they had to dilate her eyes

00:47:46.079 --> 00:47:49.679
and she didn't cry with the eye drops. Wow. Or

00:47:49.679 --> 00:47:52.360
after because that's like a weird. She cried

00:47:52.360 --> 00:47:54.539
once we got in the car. But the sun was like

00:47:54.539 --> 00:47:56.260
kind of blasting her. So I'm like, yeah, that

00:47:56.260 --> 00:47:58.860
makes sense. So but yeah, she just did so good.

00:47:58.880 --> 00:48:00.780
I was so proud of her. Yeah, that's awesome.

00:48:01.000 --> 00:48:03.619
That's that reminds me. I still need to get.

00:48:03.949 --> 00:48:06.050
Colton for a night doctor appointment. So thanks

00:48:06.050 --> 00:48:10.809
for that reminder. Cool. Okay. My win. So we've

00:48:10.809 --> 00:48:13.210
been really working on the crib with Cruz and

00:48:13.210 --> 00:48:16.670
Michael and I, we were actually away for two

00:48:16.670 --> 00:48:19.409
nights this last week for a work, like a work

00:48:19.409 --> 00:48:21.630
trip conference thing that we were putting on

00:48:21.630 --> 00:48:25.829
in Boulder. And we had Michael's aunt. She was

00:48:25.829 --> 00:48:28.489
in town and she watched the boys for us for two

00:48:28.489 --> 00:48:31.929
nights. And I no longer have frozen milk available.

00:48:32.010 --> 00:48:34.849
So Cruz drank formula for like those two days.

00:48:35.409 --> 00:48:38.789
And I mean, sleep is like not a thing in our

00:48:38.789 --> 00:48:41.929
home right now. And so I just felt really bad

00:48:41.929 --> 00:48:45.369
like leaving the boys and being like, fend for

00:48:45.369 --> 00:48:48.150
yourself. And it's just one person like having

00:48:48.150 --> 00:48:52.909
to handle both kids. They both did like fairly

00:48:52.909 --> 00:48:55.730
good sleeping wise. And of course they would

00:48:55.730 --> 00:48:57.989
whenever we're not there. But then the first

00:48:57.989 --> 00:49:00.650
night back, Cruz did a six and a half hour stretch

00:49:00.650 --> 00:49:03.469
in his crib. Wow. Which was just like. That's

00:49:03.469 --> 00:49:06.090
a huge stretch even on his crib for him. Yeah.

00:49:06.090 --> 00:49:08.230
For him, it was just, I was like, what's wrong?

00:49:08.429 --> 00:49:12.409
But I, I think I've amounted it to that. He had

00:49:12.409 --> 00:49:15.250
had formula a little bit that day, which I think

00:49:15.250 --> 00:49:18.369
fills his belly. Yeah. I know formula babies

00:49:18.369 --> 00:49:19.929
are more likely to sleep through the night faster.

00:49:20.590 --> 00:49:23.989
And so it hasn't happened again since then. But

00:49:23.989 --> 00:49:26.929
you got the one. Yes. And so I literally like,

00:49:26.989 --> 00:49:29.309
I think I put him down at like eight or something

00:49:29.309 --> 00:49:32.309
and he was up at like, it was like 2 .45 was

00:49:32.309 --> 00:49:35.989
his first wake up. Wow. And I, yeah, I like slept

00:49:35.989 --> 00:49:38.670
in my own bed for like almost four hours or something

00:49:38.670 --> 00:49:40.090
like that. I feel like there was one night that

00:49:40.090 --> 00:49:41.869
you text me and you're like, I got three hours

00:49:41.869 --> 00:49:44.650
of consecutive sleep last night. Yeah. And it

00:49:44.650 --> 00:49:47.329
like, when he woke up, I like, I was not frustrated

00:49:47.329 --> 00:49:50.099
at all. I was just like, all right. That's so

00:49:50.099 --> 00:49:51.699
nice when you get to the point where you're like,

00:49:51.780 --> 00:49:53.840
okay, like I can feed you and go back to sleep.

00:49:53.900 --> 00:49:56.420
Yeah, yeah. And at that point, like I brought

00:49:56.420 --> 00:49:57.920
him into bed with me because I was like, eh.

00:49:58.099 --> 00:49:59.440
I don't want to fight this. Yeah, I don't want

00:49:59.440 --> 00:50:03.360
to fight this. But even just like that six and

00:50:03.360 --> 00:50:05.139
a half hour stretch, I was like, I kept checking

00:50:05.139 --> 00:50:07.900
the monitor like, are you breathing? Yeah. Are

00:50:07.900 --> 00:50:10.960
you breathing? But yeah, it was just a glorious

00:50:10.960 --> 00:50:13.539
situation. That's so nice. So I'm hoping, I'm

00:50:13.539 --> 00:50:16.139
hoping. that it can be a little more consistent.

00:50:16.800 --> 00:50:19.039
Now, as we continue to like, we're trying to

00:50:19.039 --> 00:50:22.519
do the crib for all naps and like just be consistent.

00:50:22.940 --> 00:50:26.139
Yeah. Yeah. Cause he's just, he's just getting

00:50:26.139 --> 00:50:28.940
too big. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. We definitely got

00:50:28.940 --> 00:50:31.380
to, I mean, not too big, but too wiggly at least

00:50:31.380 --> 00:50:35.030
in our bed for Zeta. Yep. Okay, well. Thanks

00:50:35.030 --> 00:50:37.610
for listening. Yeah, maybe we'll put some question

00:50:37.610 --> 00:50:39.769
boxes out this week for, you know, if you guys

00:50:39.769 --> 00:50:41.789
want to share some of the things your spouse

00:50:41.789 --> 00:50:43.590
or your partner does that really support you

00:50:43.590 --> 00:50:47.289
in motherhood. And we'll see you next week. See

00:50:47.289 --> 00:50:49.949
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00:50:49.949 --> 00:50:52.570
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MomCast, where motherhood is messy. At least

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we can laugh about it together. Chocolate chip

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cookie. That's so cute.