WEBVTT 00:00:12.880 --> 00:00:15.019 motherhood where sleep is a rumor and laundry 00:00:15.019 --> 00:00:17.780 is eternal and somehow we're supposed to be raising 00:00:17.780 --> 00:00:20.399 tiny humans through it all we're here to laugh 00:00:20.399 --> 00:00:23.359 at the chaos cry when necessary and remind you 00:00:23.359 --> 00:00:25.440 that none of us actually know what we're doing 00:00:25.440 --> 00:00:28.600 this is no manual a mom cast your mom friend 00:00:28.600 --> 00:00:31.300 group chat but with microphones well welcome 00:00:31.300 --> 00:00:35.640 back to no manual a mom cast today we're excited 00:00:35.640 --> 00:00:38.119 this should be Just kind of like a fun, funny 00:00:38.119 --> 00:00:40.520 episode. We're just going to do a bunch of would 00:00:40.520 --> 00:00:43.820 you rathers about motherhood. I think we'll probably 00:00:43.820 --> 00:00:46.020 try to post these or at least some of these in 00:00:46.020 --> 00:00:48.100 stories so you guys can give us your answers 00:00:48.100 --> 00:00:50.759 too. But we got a bunch that we think are funny. 00:00:50.880 --> 00:00:52.359 We have a couple that are a little sentimental. 00:00:52.820 --> 00:00:55.259 Yes. Yeah. So but before we get started, do you 00:00:55.259 --> 00:00:57.039 want to start with your mom moment of the week? 00:00:57.140 --> 00:00:59.659 I would love to. Well, I guess I wouldn't love 00:00:59.659 --> 00:01:04.859 to because mine is like. Yeah. I'll just hop 00:01:04.859 --> 00:01:09.780 into it. So this last week, I think it was, so 00:01:09.780 --> 00:01:14.260 today, today is Friday. I think this was, no, 00:01:14.379 --> 00:01:17.000 it was Monday, Monday, Monday. And like start 00:01:17.000 --> 00:01:19.719 kind of started the work week for me. I start 00:01:19.719 --> 00:01:21.980 work, my work week on Sundays, but work at the 00:01:21.980 --> 00:01:24.219 church. So I'm like at the church on Sundays. 00:01:24.500 --> 00:01:27.540 Monday is my first like work from home day of 00:01:27.540 --> 00:01:31.780 the week. And I don't know why I just like, hopped 00:01:31.780 --> 00:01:35.579 into the week so negatively like my mindset was 00:01:35.579 --> 00:01:39.299 just negative and I felt like everything was 00:01:39.299 --> 00:01:43.239 going wrong like Cruz was super fussy Colt was 00:01:43.239 --> 00:01:47.700 like tantrum central that day and I just like 00:01:47.700 --> 00:01:51.239 could not hold it together felt like I just like 00:01:51.239 --> 00:01:54.680 wasn't feeling good about myself like felt like 00:01:54.680 --> 00:01:58.359 I I just looked fat i was like looking in the 00:01:58.359 --> 00:01:59.959 mirror and i was like i just don't feel good 00:01:59.959 --> 00:02:02.480 about myself like i don't have time for myself 00:02:02.480 --> 00:02:05.579 and just honestly was just feeling sorry for 00:02:05.579 --> 00:02:10.560 myself and in every aspect and like michael got 00:02:10.560 --> 00:02:13.680 home from work and we like we're facetiming some 00:02:13.680 --> 00:02:18.240 of our friends and um my friend kaylee she was 00:02:18.240 --> 00:02:19.780 on the facetime and she's like how are you doing 00:02:19.780 --> 00:02:22.759 and i was like i i literally just like started 00:02:22.759 --> 00:02:25.599 to cry because i was like I just had a really 00:02:25.599 --> 00:02:28.500 tough day and I'm going to cry now. And so I 00:02:28.500 --> 00:02:31.000 like walked away from the FaceTime and just like 00:02:31.000 --> 00:02:34.379 had a moment and just was like, just felt like 00:02:34.379 --> 00:02:38.340 I wasn't good enough and just was struggling 00:02:38.340 --> 00:02:41.379 in all areas. And Michael was super sweet in 00:02:41.379 --> 00:02:44.639 that time. I like, I hadn't had a shower in probably 00:02:44.639 --> 00:02:47.460 a week. I felt like I've stunk really bad and 00:02:47.460 --> 00:02:50.960 was just gross. So I went to, I got to go take 00:02:50.960 --> 00:02:53.909 a shower and that like just changed. changed 00:02:53.909 --> 00:02:57.750 everything for me i ate some food that makes 00:02:57.750 --> 00:03:00.389 a difference yeah um oh that was the other part 00:03:00.389 --> 00:03:02.689 of it too is i had ordered target pickup groceries 00:03:02.689 --> 00:03:07.229 felt like a ba like going to actually pick up 00:03:07.229 --> 00:03:09.129 the groceries and like felt like we'd accomplished 00:03:09.129 --> 00:03:12.650 a lot got home realized like oh the tortillas 00:03:12.650 --> 00:03:15.379 i bought were frozen The chicken that we were 00:03:15.379 --> 00:03:17.840 going to make quesadillas, chicken quesadillas, 00:03:17.879 --> 00:03:20.680 the chicken, leftover chicken we had, we actually 00:03:20.680 --> 00:03:22.960 only had one piece of chicken left. Oh, perfect. 00:03:23.060 --> 00:03:25.719 And I, like, just didn't account for these things. 00:03:25.780 --> 00:03:27.300 So I, like, bought all these groceries, but we 00:03:27.300 --> 00:03:29.419 didn't have actually anything that we could make 00:03:29.419 --> 00:03:32.199 for a meal. Eat right now, yeah. Yeah. And so 00:03:32.199 --> 00:03:35.520 I just felt like I just was, like, on top of 00:03:35.520 --> 00:03:39.240 the world and then just, like, not so quickly. 00:03:40.080 --> 00:03:42.599 And so that, like, was kind of my breaking point. 00:03:43.789 --> 00:03:46.710 And we've ended up like door dashing food that 00:03:46.710 --> 00:03:49.550 night. And I felt so much better after that. 00:03:50.069 --> 00:03:52.310 It's crazy what eating can do. Yeah. Like some 00:03:52.310 --> 00:03:55.490 protein, you know. And so, yeah, I share that 00:03:55.490 --> 00:03:58.710 mom moment just like, you know, sometimes that's 00:03:58.710 --> 00:04:02.370 just the reality of it. Like those days are tough 00:04:02.370 --> 00:04:06.370 and, you know, we get through. But like, I think 00:04:06.370 --> 00:04:09.789 we all have those days. Oh, for sure. And I think 00:04:09.789 --> 00:04:12.189 any mom who says she doesn't is just lying. Yeah. 00:04:12.750 --> 00:04:16.569 Yeah. So yeah. Or like really good at holding 00:04:16.569 --> 00:04:19.449 it in. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. What's your mom 00:04:19.449 --> 00:04:23.189 moment? Well, mine. So Lloyd is at this point 00:04:23.189 --> 00:04:27.009 where if he wants something to be over, he just 00:04:27.009 --> 00:04:29.910 says all done. So like if I'm feeding Zeta and 00:04:29.910 --> 00:04:33.529 he's getting a little impatient, Zeta all done 00:04:33.529 --> 00:04:36.449 eating. Zeta all done eating. Like actually she's 00:04:36.449 --> 00:04:38.889 not. She literally has been eating for three 00:04:38.889 --> 00:04:44.199 seconds. Yeah, so that kind of thing. And yesterday, 00:04:44.399 --> 00:04:48.819 I was on my phone putting together our grocery 00:04:48.819 --> 00:04:53.079 pickup order. And it was taking a while. And, 00:04:53.120 --> 00:04:54.980 like, that's kind of unfair to him. Like, I get 00:04:54.980 --> 00:04:57.860 it. But he kept, you know, asking for things. 00:04:57.939 --> 00:05:00.339 I was like, buddy, mama's, like, we're getting 00:05:00.339 --> 00:05:02.439 groceries right now. You know, keep trying to 00:05:02.439 --> 00:05:05.439 tell him, like, what I'm doing. Obviously, I 00:05:05.439 --> 00:05:07.079 know he doesn't, like, totally understand this, 00:05:07.240 --> 00:05:09.920 but. trying to like communicate this and finally 00:05:09.920 --> 00:05:13.939 he just says mom i'll done phone and it was one 00:05:13.939 --> 00:05:16.139 of those things that's like simultaneously so 00:05:16.139 --> 00:05:18.459 funny and also just like breaking my heart yeah 00:05:18.459 --> 00:05:21.879 like yeah i know buddy yeah like you're so over 00:05:21.879 --> 00:05:25.220 me looking at my phone i get it also like i'm 00:05:25.220 --> 00:05:27.459 not just ignoring you like it feels like i'm 00:05:27.459 --> 00:05:31.160 just ignoring you but i am like trying to get 00:05:31.160 --> 00:05:34.459 things done like i'm getting you banana chips 00:05:34.459 --> 00:05:37.740 you know yeah like this is also for you buddy 00:05:37.740 --> 00:05:41.620 but just mom all done phone and he's never said 00:05:41.620 --> 00:05:43.839 it before like he says that with other things 00:05:43.839 --> 00:05:46.259 all the time but never said that before and then 00:05:46.259 --> 00:05:49.360 just like all the mom guilt just like pouring 00:05:49.360 --> 00:05:53.060 on immediately right yeah you're like Uh, yeah. 00:05:53.160 --> 00:05:55.379 Mommy, all done phone. You chuck it across the 00:05:55.379 --> 00:05:58.339 room. Do I need a phone anymore? No. Push it 00:05:58.339 --> 00:06:02.079 down the toilet. Yep. Yeah. Oh my gosh. Um, okay. 00:06:02.120 --> 00:06:04.819 So let's just hop into these. Would you rathers? 00:06:05.199 --> 00:06:09.379 Um, and yeah, I just kind of share a little bit 00:06:09.379 --> 00:06:12.939 for each one. Yeah. You go first. Um, okay. First 00:06:12.939 --> 00:06:16.420 one is, would you rather step on a Lego barefoot 00:06:16.420 --> 00:06:19.819 every morning for a week? So like first thing 00:06:19.819 --> 00:06:22.990 when you get out of bed. or would you rather 00:06:22.990 --> 00:06:26.170 listen to baby shark on repeat during every car 00:06:26.170 --> 00:06:32.069 ride for a month i think the lego really i think 00:06:32.069 --> 00:06:37.290 so only because like on repeat for every car 00:06:37.290 --> 00:06:40.790 ride that's like it's not just like you guys 00:06:40.790 --> 00:06:44.350 take a lot of car rides i feel like we you take 00:06:44.350 --> 00:06:46.649 enough for it we take enough and i also feel 00:06:46.649 --> 00:06:50.370 like we take enough that are long enough you 00:06:50.370 --> 00:06:53.529 know where it's like half an hour of baby shark 00:06:53.529 --> 00:06:56.310 you're good that's like 10 rounds of baby shark 00:06:56.310 --> 00:07:00.250 yeah that's rough whereas like you can if you 00:07:00.250 --> 00:07:02.189 start i mean it does start your day bad if you 00:07:02.189 --> 00:07:04.089 just like immediately step on a lego yeah but 00:07:04.089 --> 00:07:05.670 then like you can adjust and then the rest of 00:07:05.670 --> 00:07:08.629 the day is fine where it's like that means driving 00:07:08.629 --> 00:07:11.009 to church's baby shark coming home from church's 00:07:11.009 --> 00:07:13.050 baby driving to the store coming home from the 00:07:13.050 --> 00:07:16.189 store every single one yeah and and honestly 00:07:16.189 --> 00:07:18.720 that's It's not going to just be car ride. It's 00:07:18.720 --> 00:07:21.439 going to be in your head for 24 seven. Yeah. 00:07:21.480 --> 00:07:22.939 You're never getting that song out of your head. 00:07:22.959 --> 00:07:25.779 Yeah. Okay. I think I'm going to go Lego too. 00:07:26.339 --> 00:07:28.860 Like, yeah, it sucks for like the first maybe, 00:07:28.899 --> 00:07:33.319 maybe minute. Yeah. And yeah, like I'll probably 00:07:33.319 --> 00:07:38.199 be pissed off after that for a while, but then 00:07:38.199 --> 00:07:41.899 I can move on from my day. And also a month is 00:07:41.899 --> 00:07:45.319 a long time. Like one week, a week. Yeah. Can 00:07:45.319 --> 00:07:48.519 do it. You'll blink and yeah. And it'll be over. 00:07:48.620 --> 00:07:52.439 Yeah. That's good. Okay. Next one. Never have 00:07:52.439 --> 00:07:55.579 to pack a lunch or we'll say make or pack a lunch 00:07:55.579 --> 00:07:59.000 again or never have to fold laundry again. Never 00:07:59.000 --> 00:08:01.779 have to fold laundry again. 100%. I would say 00:08:01.779 --> 00:08:05.399 lunch. Really? Yeah. I freaking hate laundry. 00:08:06.019 --> 00:08:08.680 I... Well, right now we kind of have a good routine. 00:08:08.779 --> 00:08:10.500 Yeah. So I think that's part of it. We're like, 00:08:10.540 --> 00:08:14.540 I do laundry Mondays and Tuesdays. And then right 00:08:14.540 --> 00:08:17.000 now only murders in the building releases on 00:08:17.000 --> 00:08:19.699 Tuesdays. So we put that on and after the kids 00:08:19.699 --> 00:08:23.759 are down for bed and I fold laundry. So we have 00:08:23.759 --> 00:08:25.879 like a, well, Stuart will help sometimes too 00:08:25.879 --> 00:08:27.779 if he's not doing other stuff. So we have like 00:08:27.779 --> 00:08:30.519 kind of a good routine and it's like, I feel 00:08:30.519 --> 00:08:33.600 like it gets, it's over faster, but lunch. And 00:08:33.600 --> 00:08:36.179 it's also only a once a week thing. Yeah, that's 00:08:36.179 --> 00:08:38.759 good. I don't have a routine like that. It's 00:08:38.759 --> 00:08:42.940 chaos. And honestly, if we could afford a laundry 00:08:42.940 --> 00:08:45.700 service, I would 100 % pay a laundry service 00:08:45.700 --> 00:08:48.480 to my laundry. Yeah, if I could have lunch delivered 00:08:48.480 --> 00:08:52.200 every day, I probably would. And even that, like 00:08:52.200 --> 00:08:54.840 thinking about what I want to order, that's a 00:08:54.840 --> 00:08:57.460 lot. I think we just like we consistently keep 00:08:57.460 --> 00:08:59.399 lunches the same. So it's like I don't really 00:08:59.399 --> 00:09:02.730 have to think about it. We have like two or three 00:09:02.730 --> 00:09:06.429 like same kind of like entree things for it. 00:09:06.490 --> 00:09:08.549 And then like the sides are just like rotating 00:09:08.549 --> 00:09:11.429 veggies and fruits. Yeah. That makes sense. And 00:09:11.429 --> 00:09:13.789 so I don't put a ton of thought into it. It's 00:09:13.789 --> 00:09:15.990 more just like throwing it on the plate. Yeah. 00:09:16.169 --> 00:09:20.389 So laundry. I just. Yeah. Laundry. I've talked 00:09:20.389 --> 00:09:22.649 about laundry a lot on this podcast. I know a 00:09:22.649 --> 00:09:24.690 lot of people like you included hate laundry. 00:09:24.809 --> 00:09:27.190 It's not a chore like that for me. So I don't 00:09:27.190 --> 00:09:29.350 know. That's good. See, I'd rather clean a toilet 00:09:29.350 --> 00:09:32.960 any day. I mean, I don't, I just don't have a 00:09:32.960 --> 00:09:34.740 routine of cleaning our bathrooms, which is. 00:09:34.779 --> 00:09:37.039 Yeah. I mean, I don't really either, but. Yeah. 00:09:37.080 --> 00:09:40.779 Laundry. I think I have a pretty good routine, 00:09:40.840 --> 00:09:43.500 except for I hate our, this is a tangent, but 00:09:43.500 --> 00:09:46.960 I hate our washer dryer. Really? We have all 00:09:46.960 --> 00:09:50.519 Whirlpool appliances and I will literally never 00:09:50.519 --> 00:09:53.120 spend money on a Whirlpool appliance after my 00:09:53.120 --> 00:09:55.559 experience with all of the ones we have, but 00:09:55.559 --> 00:09:58.889 especially a washer and dryer. It is awful. yeah 00:09:58.889 --> 00:10:04.850 yeah i our washer and dryer is like it's so deep 00:10:04.850 --> 00:10:08.470 that like i literally almost have to fall into 00:10:08.470 --> 00:10:11.490 the washer to like get the random socks at the 00:10:11.490 --> 00:10:13.870 bottom like step stool climbing yeah i am not 00:10:13.870 --> 00:10:17.110 a tall person either i'm five two and so like 00:10:17.110 --> 00:10:20.590 it's yeah it's like it's a chore in itself to 00:10:20.590 --> 00:10:23.190 get Get this stuff out of there. That's fair. 00:10:23.370 --> 00:10:26.149 That's annoying. Okay. Next one. Would you rather 00:10:26.149 --> 00:10:29.450 have an endless supply of coffee or Dr. Peppers 00:10:29.450 --> 00:10:33.350 in your case or an endless supply of patients? 00:10:33.870 --> 00:10:36.230 I feel like if I had an endless supply of patients, 00:10:36.490 --> 00:10:39.789 the caffeine wouldn't matter as much. Yeah. Not 00:10:39.789 --> 00:10:43.789 to say it wouldn't matter just as much. That's 00:10:43.789 --> 00:10:47.149 true. That's like, it's kind of like a. Give 00:10:47.149 --> 00:10:49.710 me the patience and I don't need the, I don't 00:10:49.710 --> 00:10:51.850 need the caffeine. Like I would still want it. 00:10:51.870 --> 00:10:54.789 And I'm sure, but if it was like, if I had endless 00:10:54.789 --> 00:10:57.710 patience, the days that like, I don't have a 00:10:57.710 --> 00:11:00.269 Dr. Pepper cold in the fridge or I can't get 00:11:00.269 --> 00:11:02.679 to Sonic or whatever. I wouldn't be as annoyed 00:11:02.679 --> 00:11:04.899 or like it wouldn't feel because you'd be patient 00:11:04.899 --> 00:11:08.120 about it. You're like, I will get my Dr. Pepper 00:11:08.120 --> 00:11:11.740 when I can, when I can. Yeah. Yeah. I would go 00:11:11.740 --> 00:11:14.620 patients on this one too. I just feel like, uh, 00:11:14.779 --> 00:11:17.139 especially with two young kids, patients can 00:11:17.139 --> 00:11:20.220 be a lot more difficult for me on certain days. 00:11:20.830 --> 00:11:22.929 For sure. Some days I'm like, I'm rocking it. 00:11:23.029 --> 00:11:25.870 Like patience comes easy. And it's the very next 00:11:25.870 --> 00:11:28.190 day that you're like, I used all my patience 00:11:28.190 --> 00:11:30.730 yesterday. So it's gone today. Yeah. And it's 00:11:30.730 --> 00:11:32.730 like, if I woke up every hour last night, my 00:11:32.730 --> 00:11:37.710 patience is very thin. Yeah. Yeah. So if I could 00:11:37.710 --> 00:11:41.210 be patient at all times, I would love that. I 00:11:41.210 --> 00:11:44.690 also feel like extremely patient people, like 00:11:44.690 --> 00:11:48.210 overly patient people come off very monotone. 00:11:48.649 --> 00:11:52.289 sometimes yeah or they can I guess and I don't 00:11:52.289 --> 00:11:54.610 want to be that but I just want to like I don't 00:11:54.610 --> 00:11:57.850 know be a fun patient person yeah yeah I don't 00:11:57.850 --> 00:11:59.950 know what that looks like but you know patients 00:11:59.950 --> 00:12:02.570 I'm I'm constantly working on patients and I 00:12:02.570 --> 00:12:06.490 know there's certain things that can set me off 00:12:06.490 --> 00:12:11.049 patients wise me too and so yeah but caffeine 00:12:11.049 --> 00:12:14.940 I'm a big caffeine person now I It's surprising 00:12:14.940 --> 00:12:17.200 to me, like when I was pregnant with Colt, I 00:12:17.200 --> 00:12:20.259 did not have one sip of caffeine. That's impressive. 00:12:20.460 --> 00:12:23.179 Which was very impressive. However, when I was 00:12:23.179 --> 00:12:26.360 pregnant with Cruz, I did not follow that guideline. 00:12:26.600 --> 00:12:29.580 Yeah. And I did drink a lot of caffeine. And 00:12:29.580 --> 00:12:31.740 now, like if I don't have a coffee in the morning 00:12:31.740 --> 00:12:34.679 and a Diet Coke in the afternoon, I don't know 00:12:34.679 --> 00:12:38.480 what I've done with my life. Because then when 00:12:38.480 --> 00:12:42.059 6 p .m. hits, it's like, wow. I'm like, I either 00:12:42.059 --> 00:12:45.470 go to bed or I need to have. caffeine like a 00:12:45.470 --> 00:12:47.830 late caffeine yeah intake and then you're like 00:12:47.830 --> 00:12:50.330 am i gonna fall asleep who knows yeah and then 00:12:50.330 --> 00:12:52.110 we run into the same issue the next day because 00:12:52.110 --> 00:12:55.029 i slept terribly and now i need caffeine yeah 00:12:55.029 --> 00:12:58.210 okay all right next one would you rather have 00:12:58.210 --> 00:13:00.470 a spotless house that stays clean for a week 00:13:00.470 --> 00:13:04.409 or personal chef that cooks every meal i think 00:13:04.409 --> 00:13:09.580 i would go personal chef well no I'm going to 00:13:09.580 --> 00:13:12.080 go spotless house that stays clean for a week. 00:13:12.139 --> 00:13:14.059 I feel like my husband kind of is my personal 00:13:14.059 --> 00:13:17.879 chef. Also, is this just like one week out of 00:13:17.879 --> 00:13:21.840 your life? It's very weird. Yeah. I would say 00:13:21.840 --> 00:13:27.460 a week for both. Because if it's a personal chef 00:13:27.460 --> 00:13:29.960 for forever, I think I would. Oh, yeah. Yeah. 00:13:30.000 --> 00:13:33.240 I think I would have to go with a clean house. 00:13:33.740 --> 00:13:36.059 Partially because I don't know if you feel this 00:13:36.059 --> 00:13:39.720 way, but I know for me. once i like start to 00:13:39.720 --> 00:13:42.379 get a little bit behind on like tours or like 00:13:42.379 --> 00:13:44.700 the house gets messy it's just downhill from 00:13:44.700 --> 00:13:47.259 there and then it's like years before we get 00:13:47.259 --> 00:13:50.539 back but if i once it's clean once i have the 00:13:50.539 --> 00:13:52.759 day where like somehow i have this energy to 00:13:52.759 --> 00:13:55.759 get everything clean and tidied and find spots 00:13:55.759 --> 00:13:58.120 for all the stuff that just like randomly builds 00:13:58.120 --> 00:14:01.919 up when i like when it gets clean i'm pretty 00:14:01.919 --> 00:14:04.279 good at keeping it that way yeah it's just like 00:14:04.279 --> 00:14:07.659 as soon as that effort to get to that To that 00:14:07.659 --> 00:14:09.980 point. It was really tough. Yeah. Yeah. No, I 00:14:09.980 --> 00:14:12.519 feel that. I feel like when my house is really 00:14:12.519 --> 00:14:15.000 messy, it's a good mental picture of what my 00:14:15.000 --> 00:14:17.620 brain looks like. Yes. And if my house is clean, 00:14:17.720 --> 00:14:19.320 then I've, I don't know, there's correlation. 00:14:20.139 --> 00:14:23.899 Yeah. i feel the same yeah and i generally like 00:14:23.899 --> 00:14:26.759 cooking oh that's good i'm not a huge fan of 00:14:26.759 --> 00:14:28.899 cooking i like cooking it is more stressful now 00:14:28.899 --> 00:14:30.919 like i used to like really enjoy cooking and 00:14:30.919 --> 00:14:32.259 that's something like stewart and i would do 00:14:32.259 --> 00:14:34.480 together for fun and now a lot of times it's 00:14:34.480 --> 00:14:38.259 just what can you make sure everyone is eating 00:14:38.259 --> 00:14:41.120 so we're not all grumpy yeah yeah but yeah generally 00:14:41.120 --> 00:14:44.159 i like cooking so i would say if i had to choose 00:14:44.159 --> 00:14:48.159 one spotless house um okay next one would you 00:14:48.159 --> 00:14:52.009 rather get spit up Down your shirt right before 00:14:52.009 --> 00:14:54.009 leaving the house. I would say, like, front of 00:14:54.009 --> 00:14:56.950 your shirt and inside of your shirt to add another 00:14:56.950 --> 00:15:00.549 layer. Or have your toddler spill an entire cup 00:15:00.549 --> 00:15:05.809 of milk in the car seat. Get spit up on. Yeah. 00:15:06.250 --> 00:15:09.870 You can change your shirt. Like, if they spill 00:15:09.870 --> 00:15:11.970 milk in the car seat, your car is going to smell 00:15:11.970 --> 00:15:15.700 like sour milk until. Until what? You throw out 00:15:15.700 --> 00:15:18.139 the car seat? Yeah. Until you get a new car. 00:15:18.279 --> 00:15:22.159 Yeah. Forever. Oh, yeah. Whereas like you can 00:15:22.159 --> 00:15:24.980 change your shirt if you're a few minutes late 00:15:24.980 --> 00:15:30.139 to something annoying, stressful. Yeah. But survivable. 00:15:30.200 --> 00:15:34.039 I would also add that spit up. I have not found 00:15:34.039 --> 00:15:37.080 a great way to get spit up stains out of my shirt. 00:15:37.940 --> 00:15:42.110 Like I feel like spit up has. stained so many 00:15:42.110 --> 00:15:43.850 of my shirts and i don't know if it's because 00:15:43.850 --> 00:15:45.789 i'm not like throwing it in the wash like right 00:15:45.789 --> 00:15:48.230 away i mean i don't do that and i feel like i 00:15:48.230 --> 00:15:49.909 don't have a tennis that's good maybe it's just 00:15:49.909 --> 00:15:52.830 my kids i don't know but yeah i don't know anyways 00:15:52.830 --> 00:15:56.049 tangent i would agree with you spit up cleaning 00:15:56.049 --> 00:15:59.570 the car seat is a chore that i hate in general 00:15:59.570 --> 00:16:03.450 i and they take forever to dry it's like yeah 00:16:03.450 --> 00:16:06.110 most car seats now you can take all the like 00:16:06.110 --> 00:16:07.570 padding and stuff out and throw it in the washer 00:16:07.570 --> 00:16:11.110 but You're not, I don't think you're really supposed 00:16:11.110 --> 00:16:14.450 to put it in the dryer and it's just like forever 00:16:14.450 --> 00:16:17.730 to dry. Yeah. And then you're like locked in 00:16:17.730 --> 00:16:19.169 and not going somewhere. You're committed to 00:16:19.169 --> 00:16:21.149 not going somewhere for however long that whole 00:16:21.149 --> 00:16:24.309 process takes. It's just, yeah. I feel like that 00:16:24.309 --> 00:16:27.429 was, that's an easy one of like. Yeah. It's easy 00:16:27.429 --> 00:16:31.009 to change your shirt, wipe yourself off. It's 00:16:31.009 --> 00:16:33.289 annoying for sure, but I think it's more annoying 00:16:33.289 --> 00:16:36.279 to have a. an entire cup of milk spilled on the 00:16:36.279 --> 00:16:37.960 car seat for sure because then also if they're 00:16:37.960 --> 00:16:40.559 spilling it in the car seat that means it's also 00:16:40.559 --> 00:16:42.559 getting other places in the car that you can't 00:16:42.559 --> 00:16:44.960 throw in the wash all over themselves which you 00:16:44.960 --> 00:16:47.440 can't throw them in the wash either but yes they're 00:16:47.440 --> 00:16:52.399 clothes you can yeah okay have your baby finally 00:16:52.399 --> 00:16:54.580 sleep through the night but wake up at 4 30 a 00:16:54.580 --> 00:16:58.440 .m or keep the 2 a .m wake up but get to sleep 00:16:58.440 --> 00:17:03.029 till late keep the 2 a .m wake up 100 yeah I 00:17:03.029 --> 00:17:05.410 mean, maybe that's partially because that's basically 00:17:05.410 --> 00:17:07.630 the season I'm in right now. Only I get up at 00:17:07.630 --> 00:17:12.230 6 .30 instead of 8. But starting your day at 00:17:12.230 --> 00:17:16.289 4 .30? No, thank you. I'd be crashing by lunchtime 00:17:16.289 --> 00:17:18.589 for sure. I'd be crashing... Probably before 00:17:18.589 --> 00:17:21.549 that. Yeah. I crash at 10 a .m. and I don't get 00:17:21.549 --> 00:17:26.609 up at 4 .30 every day. But also, I feel like 00:17:26.609 --> 00:17:31.599 I get my best sleep from like... Three to seven. 00:17:31.759 --> 00:17:35.539 Yeah. Yep. Like after that wake up. Yeah. Yeah. 00:17:35.980 --> 00:17:40.380 No, I agree. If I can get like right now, I mean, 00:17:40.400 --> 00:17:42.019 Cruz is kind of going through a sleep regression, 00:17:42.119 --> 00:17:45.960 but if he's like right now on a good night, he's 00:17:45.960 --> 00:17:50.759 waking up twice. And that's that like last three 00:17:50.759 --> 00:17:53.740 hours that I can get. If I can get like a solid 00:17:53.740 --> 00:17:56.940 three hours, I can, I can. So much better. Yeah. 00:17:56.960 --> 00:17:59.589 So this is. a little bit of a tangent, but it's 00:17:59.589 --> 00:18:02.630 related, was Zeta. She would sleep through the 00:18:02.630 --> 00:18:05.150 night if we let her. I'm supposed to be getting 00:18:05.150 --> 00:18:08.009 her up to feed her. And they finally, like, the 00:18:08.009 --> 00:18:10.789 recommendation was every three to four hours. 00:18:10.950 --> 00:18:13.650 Last appointment, they recommended five to six 00:18:13.650 --> 00:18:17.349 hours. Oh, nice. Which is really nice, but what 00:18:17.349 --> 00:18:21.009 was happening was I would do a dream feed at, 00:18:21.089 --> 00:18:23.470 like, 10 p .m. or something like that, and then 00:18:23.470 --> 00:18:26.990 six hours gets you to 4 a .m. Mm -hmm. And I 00:18:26.990 --> 00:18:29.690 finally figured out I would rather have a shorter 00:18:29.690 --> 00:18:34.130 window and feed her at 3 than feed her at 4 because, 00:18:34.190 --> 00:18:36.589 again, I get up at 6 .30, between 6 and 6 .30. 00:18:36.670 --> 00:18:40.769 So that means if I feed her between 4 and 4 .30, 00:18:40.970 --> 00:18:43.630 by the time I get back to sleep, I have like 00:18:43.630 --> 00:18:45.849 maybe an hour and a half before my alarm goes 00:18:45.849 --> 00:18:49.190 off. Yeah. And that's way worse than getting 00:18:49.190 --> 00:18:52.130 up at 3, getting her back to sleep, and then 00:18:52.130 --> 00:18:54.829 having like another three hours. Yeah. Yeah. 00:18:54.970 --> 00:18:58.490 Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. All I have to say, wake up 00:18:58.490 --> 00:19:00.950 in the middle of the night once, especially, 00:19:01.029 --> 00:19:03.750 I mean, I guess it also kind of depends on your 00:19:03.750 --> 00:19:05.390 kid, but if your kid just like eats and goes 00:19:05.390 --> 00:19:08.430 back to sleep. Great. Then if it's a whole like 00:19:08.430 --> 00:19:11.089 situation, then yeah. Yeah. Are you changing 00:19:11.089 --> 00:19:13.970 Zeta's diaper at that time too? Not usually. 00:19:14.049 --> 00:19:16.849 Yeah. The other night we did because we knew 00:19:16.849 --> 00:19:19.750 she had a poopy diaper and she had been up. a 00:19:19.750 --> 00:19:21.269 whole bunch of times so that was a whole different 00:19:21.269 --> 00:19:23.789 thing yeah but yeah typically she doesn't really 00:19:23.789 --> 00:19:26.950 get a dirty diaper at night and so i'm like i'm 00:19:26.950 --> 00:19:30.930 fine with her being being wet wet and i would 00:19:30.930 --> 00:19:33.829 rather her i'd rather not change her because 00:19:33.829 --> 00:19:35.490 also like it's not like she wakes up with like 00:19:36.160 --> 00:19:39.140 a huge wet diaper that I, you know, feel bad 00:19:39.140 --> 00:19:42.319 about. It's yeah. I would try to try to not wake 00:19:42.319 --> 00:19:44.960 her up as much as possible. Yeah. I feel like 00:19:44.960 --> 00:19:46.420 we're going through this phase. I don't know 00:19:46.420 --> 00:19:49.460 what it is, but this is a tangent again where 00:19:49.460 --> 00:19:52.400 I have to change Cruz's diaper in the night or 00:19:52.400 --> 00:19:55.319 he's going to wake up soaked through. And so 00:19:55.319 --> 00:19:57.259 I'm like, I might try the double diaper thing 00:19:57.259 --> 00:20:02.269 that I've seen people do or. like sizing up for 00:20:02.269 --> 00:20:06.309 night diapers, but then cruise would be in a 00:20:06.309 --> 00:20:11.069 bigger diaper than cold, which is just crazy 00:20:11.069 --> 00:20:14.089 to me. But I, I hate changing diapers in the 00:20:14.089 --> 00:20:17.750 night. It's yeah. Like if I can just like wake 00:20:17.750 --> 00:20:21.670 up, latch cruise and like, then we can go back 00:20:21.670 --> 00:20:25.690 to sleep. That is, it's not a huge deal for me. 00:20:26.029 --> 00:20:29.869 Yeah. And, but if it's the whole, like, wake 00:20:29.869 --> 00:20:33.089 up like i need a little bit of light to change 00:20:33.089 --> 00:20:36.970 the diaper yeah but i know if i don't change 00:20:36.970 --> 00:20:39.750 his diaper in the night right now then it's like 00:20:39.750 --> 00:20:43.210 he's waking up frustrated at six in the morning 00:20:43.210 --> 00:20:45.190 because he's soaked through then i have to change 00:20:45.190 --> 00:20:47.250 his diaper and his outfit take the sleep sack 00:20:47.250 --> 00:20:50.589 off like wash the sleep sack yeah all the things 00:20:50.589 --> 00:20:54.329 yeah so i don't know that was a tangent but i'd 00:20:54.329 --> 00:20:56.609 still rather wake up in the night than wake up 00:20:56.609 --> 00:21:00.079 super early Me too. Okay. Would you rather deal 00:21:00.079 --> 00:21:02.440 with a diaper blowout in the middle of a photo 00:21:02.440 --> 00:21:06.140 shoot? That's funny. Or have your toddler scream 00:21:06.140 --> 00:21:11.619 poopy during a quiet moment at church? That's 00:21:11.619 --> 00:21:14.839 funny. I kind of wouldn't mind either. Like not 00:21:14.839 --> 00:21:18.700 that I would want either to happen, but like 00:21:18.700 --> 00:21:22.240 said blowout during a photo shoot. I feel like 00:21:22.240 --> 00:21:24.940 it's frustrating in the moment, but then in like 00:21:24.940 --> 00:21:26.759 10 years, I'm going to look back at these pictures 00:21:26.759 --> 00:21:28.319 and be cracking up and it's going to be a funny 00:21:28.319 --> 00:21:32.720 story. Yes. All of that. And I feel like most 00:21:32.720 --> 00:21:34.240 photographers are going to be pretty understanding. 00:21:34.319 --> 00:21:36.779 Yeah. But like, I mean, you usually have like 00:21:36.779 --> 00:21:39.180 a time limit, but I feel like the photographer 00:21:39.180 --> 00:21:42.579 is going to be understanding. At our church, 00:21:42.640 --> 00:21:43.799 I feel like everyone would just think it was 00:21:43.799 --> 00:21:48.430 funny. Oh, for sure. I think I'd go. Like, same 00:21:48.430 --> 00:21:50.890 thing. I wouldn't mind either. I think I'd rather 00:21:50.890 --> 00:21:53.609 go the toddler screaming poopy during a quiet 00:21:53.609 --> 00:21:56.890 moment at church just because I would, of course, 00:21:56.890 --> 00:21:58.809 I'd be like, oh, my God. But I think I would 00:21:58.809 --> 00:22:01.170 think it would be so funny. And, like, that would 00:22:01.170 --> 00:22:03.970 be just the funniest story to tell. For years. 00:22:04.250 --> 00:22:07.509 For years and years. And it would be hilarious, 00:22:07.549 --> 00:22:09.990 like, if it was a really quiet moment. And then 00:22:09.990 --> 00:22:11.970 if you could hear it, like, on the live stream. 00:22:12.470 --> 00:22:16.799 Yes. Just this toddler just yelling poopy. I 00:22:16.799 --> 00:22:18.579 mean, I would save that and blackmail my child 00:22:18.579 --> 00:22:21.359 for years. Oh, for sure. Yeah. Yeah. I think 00:22:21.359 --> 00:22:23.339 if I had to choose, I would probably say that 00:22:23.339 --> 00:22:25.380 one too. Yeah. Because also it's over faster. 00:22:25.779 --> 00:22:28.140 Yeah. Yeah. The blowout is like a whole situation. 00:22:28.140 --> 00:22:31.039 It's a process. You have to like outfit change. 00:22:31.460 --> 00:22:33.819 Do you have an outfit that works for, you know, 00:22:33.819 --> 00:22:38.019 continuing pictures? Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Next one. 00:22:38.099 --> 00:22:40.700 Would you rather get one full night of uninterrupted 00:22:40.700 --> 00:22:43.740 sleep or a house that magically cleans itself 00:22:43.740 --> 00:22:48.400 for 24 hours? One full night of uninterrupted 00:22:48.400 --> 00:22:53.180 sleep. Yeah, I haven't had that. Well, we went 00:22:53.180 --> 00:22:55.200 on a staff retreat a couple weeks ago, and I 00:22:55.200 --> 00:22:57.599 did get one full night of uninterrupted sleep, 00:22:57.759 --> 00:23:01.799 and it was glorious. I have a tough time with 00:23:01.799 --> 00:23:05.599 this one, too, just because, again, I feel like 00:23:05.599 --> 00:23:08.700 if the house was clean, then it, for the most 00:23:08.700 --> 00:23:11.140 part, continues to be clean, but then the sleep. 00:23:11.380 --> 00:23:13.619 Yeah. The sleep sounds nice. But then I'm less 00:23:13.619 --> 00:23:16.420 stressed if the house is clean. Yeah. I think 00:23:16.420 --> 00:23:19.700 I would go with a magical house if I had to choose. 00:23:19.940 --> 00:23:23.339 Yeah. I think that's totally fair. I think that 00:23:23.339 --> 00:23:25.599 there's been so many times recently where I've 00:23:25.599 --> 00:23:28.500 asked Michael if we have enough money to hire 00:23:28.500 --> 00:23:31.119 a house cleaner just to like deep clean our house 00:23:31.119 --> 00:23:34.680 one time. Yeah. Because then I feel like I can 00:23:34.680 --> 00:23:39.440 keep it that way. But it's the... process of 00:23:39.440 --> 00:23:42.140 getting to that that feels so daunting to me 00:23:42.140 --> 00:23:44.900 and i don't want to do it because it just i'm 00:23:44.900 --> 00:23:47.380 like i'm already exhausted and now i don't want 00:23:47.380 --> 00:23:50.579 to clean my floorboards you know yeah so yeah 00:23:50.579 --> 00:23:53.259 i wish we could afford a house cleaner yeah um 00:23:53.259 --> 00:23:56.859 okay would you rather this is the same kind of 00:23:56.859 --> 00:24:00.500 vibe have your toddler loudly announce your boobies 00:24:00.500 --> 00:24:04.440 in public so just yelling boobies or have them 00:24:04.440 --> 00:24:10.670 yell mommy farted in a crowded elevator I feel 00:24:10.670 --> 00:24:14.289 like maybe mommy farted. Really? I don't really 00:24:14.289 --> 00:24:17.029 know. It does depend on the circumstances for 00:24:17.029 --> 00:24:21.690 both. Where are you? You're going to the pediatrician's 00:24:21.690 --> 00:24:24.849 office. Honestly, I feel like that's kind of 00:24:24.849 --> 00:24:29.289 like whatever. And again, for public, you're 00:24:29.289 --> 00:24:31.809 at the zoo. Everyone else there has kids. Everyone 00:24:31.809 --> 00:24:33.809 else there's kids are saying the same things. 00:24:35.660 --> 00:24:38.000 I don't know. This is such a toss up for me. 00:24:39.339 --> 00:24:41.119 I'm going to change it a little bit. Would you 00:24:41.119 --> 00:24:43.160 rather have your toddler loudly announce your 00:24:43.160 --> 00:24:48.859 boobies in a courtroom or have them yell mommy 00:24:48.859 --> 00:24:52.839 farted in a crowded elevator up to you're on 00:24:52.839 --> 00:24:58.579 your way to a CEO's office and you have a bunch 00:24:58.579 --> 00:25:01.480 of business men in the elevator. I think I'm 00:25:01.480 --> 00:25:05.079 going to still go with mommy farted. Okay. I 00:25:05.079 --> 00:25:06.740 mean, that's kind of where we're at right now 00:25:06.740 --> 00:25:09.380 anyways is maybe like everyone toots. Everyone 00:25:09.380 --> 00:25:12.819 toots. Mom toots. Dad toots. Zeta toots. Ricky 00:25:12.819 --> 00:25:17.559 toots. I think I would go with the boobies one. 00:25:19.059 --> 00:25:23.980 Just same vibe. I think it'd be funny. Again, 00:25:24.039 --> 00:25:26.259 story for years for sure. Both of them actually. 00:25:26.759 --> 00:25:29.140 Honestly, and if it was in a courtroom, I think 00:25:29.140 --> 00:25:33.039 I'd just like grab him and just like walk out. 00:25:33.369 --> 00:25:37.230 Yeah. I would think it was hilarious. Maybe not 00:25:37.230 --> 00:25:41.289 the time and place for it. Of course. But whereas 00:25:41.289 --> 00:25:43.329 in the elevator, I feel like I'd have to like 00:25:43.329 --> 00:25:46.130 explain myself like, no, I didn't fart. I promise. 00:25:47.410 --> 00:25:49.289 If you smell anything, it wasn't me. It was my 00:25:49.289 --> 00:25:52.589 toddler. Yeah. He's blaming me. Yeah. Yeah. So 00:25:52.589 --> 00:25:55.750 that's funny. Okay. Next one. Would you rather 00:25:55.750 --> 00:25:59.869 step on an old banana slice barefoot at midnight? 00:26:00.799 --> 00:26:03.640 Or realize mid -drive that you forgot the diaper 00:26:03.640 --> 00:26:07.859 bag and it's blowout o 'clock. Step on a banana 00:26:07.859 --> 00:26:12.079 slice. Same. Yeah. I think, like, it's going 00:26:12.079 --> 00:26:13.579 to freak you out for a second. Then you're going 00:26:13.579 --> 00:26:17.279 to realize what it is. You're fine. Yep. Mid 00:26:17.279 --> 00:26:20.420 -drive. Yeah. Especially, like, the assumption 00:26:20.420 --> 00:26:24.000 on this is that you are going someplace, which 00:26:24.000 --> 00:26:28.019 means you either have to go to that place. with 00:26:28.019 --> 00:26:32.039 a blowout turn around yeah stop at a store like 00:26:32.039 --> 00:26:35.160 still have to get the kids out with the blowout 00:26:35.160 --> 00:26:39.559 yeah yeah versus just like oh now i have to like 00:26:39.559 --> 00:26:42.720 go clean my foot up foot off like it does give 00:26:42.720 --> 00:26:46.059 you that like panic moment of like what the did 00:26:46.059 --> 00:26:49.609 i just step on yeah but But once you figure it 00:26:49.609 --> 00:26:51.990 out, you're over it. Again, I think something 00:26:51.990 --> 00:26:54.829 momentary, I'm much more inclined to lean towards 00:26:54.829 --> 00:26:56.930 than anything that's like, oh, this is a process 00:26:56.930 --> 00:27:00.269 to deal with. Yes. Yes, for sure. And I feel 00:27:00.269 --> 00:27:02.529 like I step on the most random things already. 00:27:02.910 --> 00:27:06.009 Oh, for sure. I probably stepped on a banana 00:27:06.009 --> 00:27:07.690 slice in the past week. Yeah, that's why I picked 00:27:07.690 --> 00:27:09.509 this one. I was like, I've definitely stepped 00:27:09.509 --> 00:27:11.609 on a banana slice in the past week. Lots of weird 00:27:11.609 --> 00:27:14.990 slimy things that I've stepped on. Yeah. Okay. 00:27:15.599 --> 00:27:18.180 Would you rather have your toddler repeat your 00:27:18.180 --> 00:27:23.079 swear word in front of grandma or call your pediatrician 00:27:23.079 --> 00:27:26.160 mom by accident on the phone? So you call your... 00:27:26.160 --> 00:27:30.220 Swear word. Yeah. Yeah. So when I think about 00:27:30.220 --> 00:27:33.119 it with both grandmas, so my mom and my mother 00:27:33.119 --> 00:27:35.880 -in -law, my mother -in -law would be mortified 00:27:35.880 --> 00:27:37.599 and she'd be like, I can't believe you taught 00:27:37.599 --> 00:27:39.740 him that. And then we would just roll our eyes 00:27:39.740 --> 00:27:42.180 and move on. My mom would probably either think 00:27:42.180 --> 00:27:44.799 it's funny or just ignore it, which also... Because 00:27:44.799 --> 00:27:47.079 Lloyd has repeated some things that we've said. 00:27:47.700 --> 00:27:51.240 And we have just treated it like a normal word. 00:27:51.559 --> 00:27:54.799 And like we haven't. You haven't made a big deal 00:27:54.799 --> 00:27:56.400 out of it. Yeah, we've probably laughed. Yeah. 00:27:56.500 --> 00:27:59.009 But. like he's not like going and repeating it 00:27:59.009 --> 00:28:01.190 right but we haven't been like lloyd do not say 00:28:01.190 --> 00:28:03.769 that so he yeah so then he just like moves on 00:28:03.769 --> 00:28:05.910 like we laugh at it the same way he does when 00:28:05.910 --> 00:28:09.009 mom tooted right like that's funny and then we 00:28:09.009 --> 00:28:12.089 move on so the few words that he has picked up 00:28:12.089 --> 00:28:14.769 he hasn't repeated so that is my pro tip with 00:28:14.769 --> 00:28:17.130 swearing is just like treat it like another word 00:28:17.130 --> 00:28:19.230 because as soon as you make a like don't say 00:28:19.230 --> 00:28:21.630 that they're gonna want to say it more and then 00:28:21.630 --> 00:28:24.069 yeah do you think you're because it's like saying 00:28:24.069 --> 00:28:27.539 it to grandma so saying it to either your mom 00:28:27.539 --> 00:28:29.880 or stewart's mom do you think they would react 00:28:29.880 --> 00:28:33.480 in like a oh like lloyd we don't say those words 00:28:33.480 --> 00:28:35.160 that's probably how my mother -in -law would 00:28:35.160 --> 00:28:38.380 act i think my mom would probably just laugh 00:28:38.380 --> 00:28:41.839 and move on that's my guess yeah i would i would 00:28:41.839 --> 00:28:45.279 agree with you on that i think that everyone 00:28:45.279 --> 00:28:48.799 would would laugh yeah i mean i yeah i feel like 00:28:48.799 --> 00:28:51.660 maybe my stepmom would be like oh my gosh what 00:28:51.660 --> 00:28:54.900 are you teaching it yeah yeah well i think with 00:28:54.900 --> 00:28:57.480 that one there's also an extent of every kid 00:28:57.480 --> 00:28:59.400 does this at some point in time like i don't 00:28:59.400 --> 00:29:01.839 think i've heard everything a single parent who 00:29:01.839 --> 00:29:06.839 has kids toddlers or older been like that didn't 00:29:06.839 --> 00:29:09.779 happen to us you know there's always at some 00:29:09.779 --> 00:29:12.059 point a word you don't want repeated repeated 00:29:12.059 --> 00:29:16.730 at a bad time so I don't know. Like, I feel like 00:29:16.730 --> 00:29:19.009 that's kind of just like a rite of passage almost. 00:29:19.130 --> 00:29:21.730 I'm like, it's going to happen. Yeah. And then 00:29:21.730 --> 00:29:23.190 maybe we have to like correct something like, 00:29:23.349 --> 00:29:25.269 oh, that's not a word we use everywhere. Yeah. 00:29:25.549 --> 00:29:28.349 But also it's kind of funny. Yeah. Because they 00:29:28.349 --> 00:29:29.950 don't know what they're saying. They're just 00:29:29.950 --> 00:29:34.470 repeating. Yeah. Okay. Next. Would you rather 00:29:34.470 --> 00:29:37.970 go to bed at 9 p .m. but get woken six times 00:29:37.970 --> 00:29:41.650 or stay up until midnight but sleep uninterrupted? 00:29:43.180 --> 00:29:45.259 Stay up until midnight, but sleep uninterrupted. 00:29:45.279 --> 00:29:48.920 Definitely. We're already night owls. So going 00:29:48.920 --> 00:29:52.059 to bed at 9 p .m. honestly isn't like super appealing 00:29:52.059 --> 00:29:55.359 to me. And I really don't think I could fall 00:29:55.359 --> 00:29:58.460 asleep. I would have to be really tired. Yeah. 00:29:58.740 --> 00:30:02.299 So honestly, the staying up till midnight, we 00:30:02.299 --> 00:30:05.119 pretty much stay up until midnight most nights. 00:30:05.680 --> 00:30:10.150 Like 11 -ish is kind of when we go to bed. Just 00:30:10.150 --> 00:30:12.809 the sleeping and interrupted part is the appealing 00:30:12.809 --> 00:30:15.809 part to me. Well, and I can, when I think back 00:30:15.809 --> 00:30:17.789 on like not just motherhood, but the times in 00:30:17.789 --> 00:30:20.430 my life when I haven't gotten much sleep, like 00:30:20.430 --> 00:30:23.369 there's one situation I can think of in particular 00:30:23.369 --> 00:30:25.789 where I think I got like three hours of sleep. 00:30:25.849 --> 00:30:28.849 To be fair, I was also like 23 or something like 00:30:28.849 --> 00:30:32.710 that. But because it was, it was also, it was 00:30:32.710 --> 00:30:36.119 a stressful situation, but. it's like my body 00:30:36.119 --> 00:30:38.240 knew that's all the sleep i was gonna get and 00:30:38.240 --> 00:30:42.160 tried to like compensate for it yeah versus like 00:30:42.160 --> 00:30:45.079 when you keep getting woken up that's way worse 00:30:45.079 --> 00:30:48.480 yeah because you're like expecting yeah more 00:30:48.480 --> 00:30:52.480 sleep but you're like okay that was it go go 00:30:52.480 --> 00:30:55.420 back to bed and then you almost get in that deep 00:30:55.420 --> 00:30:58.079 sleep and then yeah or you are in that deep sleep 00:30:58.079 --> 00:31:00.619 and get woken up from that which is the worst 00:31:00.619 --> 00:31:04.910 it's the worst yeah okay um This is a sentimental 00:31:04.910 --> 00:31:08.630 one. Would you rather rock your baby to sleep 00:31:08.630 --> 00:31:11.970 one more time or hear your toddler's belly laugh 00:31:11.970 --> 00:31:16.450 on repeat? I don't know if I can pick one. I 00:31:16.450 --> 00:31:21.829 know. It's so tough. I've been feeling super 00:31:21.829 --> 00:31:24.369 sentimental about Zeta the past couple weeks 00:31:24.369 --> 00:31:26.690 because I feel like she's just gone through a 00:31:26.690 --> 00:31:28.849 growth spurt developmentally where she's crawling 00:31:28.849 --> 00:31:32.119 and she... feels like more of a kid now instead 00:31:32.119 --> 00:31:35.339 of just a baby she's babbling and interacting 00:31:35.339 --> 00:31:39.319 way more and so i'm like where do my just tiny 00:31:39.319 --> 00:31:41.940 little peanut baby go yeah and that belly laugh 00:31:41.940 --> 00:31:47.660 is just the best it's the best i would say for 00:31:47.660 --> 00:31:49.839 me i would do the rock your baby to sleep one 00:31:49.839 --> 00:31:53.160 more time yeah i'm thinking about colt specifically 00:31:53.160 --> 00:31:56.319 like we still have our moments of like he wants 00:31:56.319 --> 00:31:59.980 to just snuggle and go to sleep in my arms which 00:31:59.980 --> 00:32:03.660 i try to just take it all in because i know that 00:32:03.660 --> 00:32:05.660 one time doing that it's going to be the last 00:32:05.660 --> 00:32:08.599 time i get to do that and that it literally makes 00:32:08.599 --> 00:32:10.279 me want to cry when i think about that too much 00:32:10.279 --> 00:32:13.880 because i'm like one day this is just it's just 00:32:13.880 --> 00:32:16.849 gonna be gone it's gonna be gone But I think 00:32:16.849 --> 00:32:20.349 about him as a little baby. And I used to rock 00:32:20.349 --> 00:32:24.470 him to sleep every single night. And many times 00:32:24.470 --> 00:32:27.369 per night, too. Yeah. I think I would say the 00:32:27.369 --> 00:32:30.650 same. Partially because I feel like the toddler 00:32:30.650 --> 00:32:32.990 stage and the belly laugh lasts a little bit 00:32:32.990 --> 00:32:36.069 longer. So you have that. And if we're talking 00:32:36.069 --> 00:32:39.269 practically, you can get a video of that. Yes. 00:32:39.269 --> 00:32:41.450 You could put it on repeat, I guess. Yeah. Where 00:32:41.450 --> 00:32:44.309 it's like, I have videos of Lloyd laughing super 00:32:44.309 --> 00:32:49.049 hard. again in 10 20 years when i'm feeling sentimental 00:32:49.049 --> 00:32:51.849 i can go back and look at and i know it's not 00:32:51.849 --> 00:32:54.009 gonna be the same as like being with him in the 00:32:54.009 --> 00:32:57.529 moment laughing yeah but rocking your baby like 00:32:57.529 --> 00:33:00.349 you don't get you can look at pictures of them 00:33:00.349 --> 00:33:03.309 a little but that physical physical like feeling 00:33:03.309 --> 00:33:07.529 yeah my sweet infant newborn yeah yeah today 00:33:07.529 --> 00:33:11.200 i actually before i came over cruise like fell 00:33:11.200 --> 00:33:14.599 asleep on my chest without nursing to sleep and 00:33:14.599 --> 00:33:17.619 like that's a rare occasion for him because usually 00:33:17.619 --> 00:33:19.880 when it's me holding him and he wants to go to 00:33:19.880 --> 00:33:22.240 sleep he wants to just he wants to nurse and 00:33:22.240 --> 00:33:25.160 have that comfort too but he was so tired that 00:33:25.160 --> 00:33:27.200 he just like he just laid on my chest and just 00:33:27.200 --> 00:33:29.240 fell asleep and i was like oh my god this is 00:33:29.240 --> 00:33:31.579 like the best moment of my life right now and 00:33:31.579 --> 00:33:34.059 it was really hard to put him down and but i 00:33:34.059 --> 00:33:37.440 did yeah All right. Would you rather keep them 00:33:37.440 --> 00:33:40.440 little a bit longer or jump ahead to see the 00:33:40.440 --> 00:33:43.160 amazing person they'll become? Keep them little 00:33:43.160 --> 00:33:45.960 a bit longer. I think so, too. I like there's 00:33:45.960 --> 00:33:49.619 so many times that I think about like, oh, when 00:33:49.619 --> 00:33:54.000 they're teenagers or whatever and how how I already 00:33:54.000 --> 00:33:57.980 feel like I'm grieving them like not being little 00:33:57.980 --> 00:34:00.819 anymore while they're still little. Yeah. Like 00:34:00.819 --> 00:34:04.519 I just I do feel like we're living. the good 00:34:04.519 --> 00:34:08.059 old days right now yeah and these moments right 00:34:08.059 --> 00:34:09.940 now with them being little are the moments that 00:34:09.940 --> 00:34:13.039 i'm gonna look back on and wish i was still in 00:34:13.039 --> 00:34:17.699 and so i think yes this season is so difficult 00:34:17.699 --> 00:34:20.619 in so many ways because we're exhausted it's 00:34:20.619 --> 00:34:23.699 like we're navigating so many things and working 00:34:23.699 --> 00:34:27.500 and all the things and it's so hard but like 00:34:27.500 --> 00:34:30.559 if they could just stay little for forever I 00:34:30.559 --> 00:34:32.699 think I would want that. And I think one of the 00:34:32.699 --> 00:34:36.239 things about them being little is you get this 00:34:36.239 --> 00:34:39.079 excitement of looking forward to that. Right. 00:34:39.239 --> 00:34:40.900 Where it's like, if you just like jump ahead, 00:34:41.039 --> 00:34:43.960 then you miss almost seeing this like puzzle 00:34:43.960 --> 00:34:46.400 fall into place of like who this little person 00:34:46.400 --> 00:34:49.199 is and who they're going to become, which I'm 00:34:49.199 --> 00:34:53.179 like, I am so excited to see and like start actually 00:34:53.179 --> 00:34:55.800 hearing opinions, not just the like little sentences. 00:34:56.500 --> 00:34:58.960 And, you know, so I am so excited to see that. 00:34:59.579 --> 00:35:01.659 But I also get to look forward to that. And I 00:35:01.659 --> 00:35:04.099 think on the hard days of them being little, 00:35:04.199 --> 00:35:08.179 that is kind of like a solace or whatever. It's 00:35:08.179 --> 00:35:11.420 like, oh, but what about in the future when, 00:35:11.500 --> 00:35:16.460 you know, whatever. Yeah. Yeah. I think keep 00:35:16.460 --> 00:35:20.059 them a little bit longer. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Last. 00:35:20.099 --> 00:35:23.800 Yeah. Last one. Would you rather have one day 00:35:23.800 --> 00:35:28.900 where they never cry, whine or tantrum? Or one 00:35:28.900 --> 00:35:32.800 day where you don't feel mom guilt at all. I 00:35:32.800 --> 00:35:35.320 feel like when we first put this list together 00:35:35.320 --> 00:35:38.579 and I read this one, I was thinking no cries, 00:35:38.639 --> 00:35:42.599 tears, or tantrums. And now I think I'm feeling 00:35:42.599 --> 00:35:47.659 no mom guilt. Tell me your reasoning. Because 00:35:47.659 --> 00:35:50.619 I think when I first read this, I was like, oh, 00:35:50.739 --> 00:35:54.079 well, the less they're crying and tantruming, 00:35:54.099 --> 00:35:56.760 the less mom guilt I'll feel. But I think there's... 00:35:57.099 --> 00:35:59.059 But I mean, we've talked about this, like there's 00:35:59.059 --> 00:36:00.739 mom guilt for like every single little thing. 00:36:00.820 --> 00:36:04.880 Oh, for sure. And I think I can handle a lot 00:36:04.880 --> 00:36:08.079 of that if there's like not a complex with it. 00:36:08.199 --> 00:36:10.079 Yeah. You know, we're like, honestly, I hate 00:36:10.079 --> 00:36:12.300 to say it this way. I don't mind tantrums too 00:36:12.300 --> 00:36:15.340 much. Yeah. When I'm in a space to handle it. 00:36:15.420 --> 00:36:18.000 Yes. Like if I'm feeling good that day, like 00:36:18.000 --> 00:36:20.800 got some fine sleep and like haven't had enough 00:36:20.800 --> 00:36:22.880 to eat and stuff like that. Then when Lloyd throws 00:36:22.880 --> 00:36:25.619 a tantrum, I can fairly easily like sit down 00:36:25.619 --> 00:36:29.739 with him and like. I'm calm. Yeah. And I think 00:36:29.739 --> 00:36:33.460 a lot of times why the whining and tantrums feel 00:36:33.460 --> 00:36:37.719 so tough is because of the mom guilt. Yeah. Where, 00:36:37.719 --> 00:36:41.900 you know, it's like he's whining because I'm 00:36:41.900 --> 00:36:44.119 working and can't pay super close attention to 00:36:44.119 --> 00:36:48.000 him or he's whining because I'm cooking dinner 00:36:48.000 --> 00:36:50.559 and I'm not paying attention to him. And there's 00:36:50.559 --> 00:36:54.250 like all the guilt that comes with that. of like 00:36:54.250 --> 00:36:56.730 i wish i could like set the thing i'm doing aside 00:36:56.730 --> 00:37:02.809 to take care of you so yeah yeah no i i agree 00:37:02.809 --> 00:37:07.409 with you i i feel like a lot of my i feel like 00:37:07.409 --> 00:37:10.730 these two kind of correlate for me too i feel 00:37:10.730 --> 00:37:13.829 like a lot of my mom guilt comes after a tantrum 00:37:13.829 --> 00:37:18.090 and how i've handled the tantrum yes and a lot 00:37:18.090 --> 00:37:20.369 of it has to do with like okay yeah what type 00:37:20.369 --> 00:37:24.340 of energy am i going into the day with? And then 00:37:24.340 --> 00:37:27.059 how am I regulating myself? And I feel like I'll 00:37:27.059 --> 00:37:29.920 put the caveat on this, that it's like unnecessary 00:37:29.920 --> 00:37:32.380 mom guilt too. Not like the actual like conviction 00:37:32.380 --> 00:37:34.099 of like, I shouldn't have done that that way. 00:37:34.159 --> 00:37:37.119 Cause I think that's the guilt of like, yeah, 00:37:37.260 --> 00:37:40.739 yeah. That you should not be feeling. Yeah. Um, 00:37:40.840 --> 00:37:44.059 but I feel like, yeah, I feel like if I could 00:37:44.059 --> 00:37:46.880 go a day without mom guilt, especially on like 00:37:46.880 --> 00:37:49.019 those, I would say the days that I feel it the 00:37:49.019 --> 00:37:53.179 most are my work from home days. When I'm having 00:37:53.179 --> 00:37:58.300 to maybe put some more energy into my work than 00:37:58.300 --> 00:38:01.739 I want to. And it's take potentially taking away 00:38:01.739 --> 00:38:03.900 from like the energy I could put towards my children. 00:38:04.159 --> 00:38:06.599 Yeah. Those are the days that I feel the most 00:38:06.599 --> 00:38:12.460 guilty. And it's not necessary. And it's just 00:38:12.460 --> 00:38:15.860 if I could go a day without that, that would 00:38:15.860 --> 00:38:19.760 be I think that would. not only help me mentally 00:38:19.760 --> 00:38:22.980 but it would help my kids mentally for sure because 00:38:22.980 --> 00:38:25.480 i think they can they can totally feel my energy 00:38:25.480 --> 00:38:28.039 oh yeah and then it's like we bounce it off each 00:38:28.039 --> 00:38:31.539 other and it's yeah if mom's energy isn't good 00:38:31.539 --> 00:38:35.260 then they're having more tantrums and whining 00:38:35.260 --> 00:38:40.030 and yeah yeah i would agree yeah so Well, we'd 00:38:40.030 --> 00:38:42.969 love if you guys could interact in social media 00:38:42.969 --> 00:38:45.809 and let us know what you would rather. I also 00:38:45.809 --> 00:38:47.650 feel like that wasn't that interesting because 00:38:47.650 --> 00:38:51.150 we agree on so many things. I know. I know. There 00:38:51.150 --> 00:38:53.750 weren't many debates. No, there weren't. But 00:38:53.750 --> 00:38:57.750 yeah, I feel like maybe you guys would have some 00:38:57.750 --> 00:38:59.449 different thoughts and opinions. Yeah, we'll 00:38:59.449 --> 00:39:03.429 post some stories. Yep. And just let us know 00:39:03.429 --> 00:39:05.809 what you guys would rather do. Yeah. Okay, do 00:39:05.809 --> 00:39:09.329 we want to hop into our wins of the week? sure 00:39:09.329 --> 00:39:14.010 i can start with mine so yesterday was just like 00:39:14.010 --> 00:39:18.409 awful so i got up and fed zeta at three which 00:39:18.409 --> 00:39:21.309 is super normal and then she woke up again around 00:39:21.309 --> 00:39:25.349 4 4 15 stewart tried to get her down didn't work 00:39:25.349 --> 00:39:29.570 i fed her she woke up again at 5 30 this time 00:39:29.570 --> 00:39:33.610 lloyd woke up with her so yesterday i was up 00:39:33.610 --> 00:39:36.230 basically from 3 a .m because i didn't really 00:39:36.230 --> 00:39:38.960 fall back to sleep after that first feed just 00:39:38.960 --> 00:39:41.840 all day yeah so from 3 a .m through the whole 00:39:41.840 --> 00:39:44.840 day so like starting the day off you know super 00:39:44.840 --> 00:39:47.619 super great but also there's a thursday which 00:39:47.619 --> 00:39:49.380 means it's the day that stewart's gone in the 00:39:49.380 --> 00:39:51.280 evening because of course why would it happen 00:39:51.280 --> 00:39:54.159 you know any other day yeah fridays are a short 00:39:54.159 --> 00:39:56.000 day obviously not going to happen on that day 00:39:56.000 --> 00:39:58.710 yeah so Yeah, so it was just, like, a really 00:39:58.710 --> 00:40:01.590 long day, obviously. And then everyone's tired. 00:40:01.949 --> 00:40:03.730 Zeta, of course, is looking cute and like, oh, 00:40:03.750 --> 00:40:05.449 who me? Like, I wasn't the one who woke up at 00:40:05.449 --> 00:40:08.030 530 this morning. Yeah, so it was just, like, 00:40:08.030 --> 00:40:10.309 a really long day. And, of course, bedtime was 00:40:10.309 --> 00:40:14.769 not good. Zeta, like, was fighting naps. So I 00:40:14.769 --> 00:40:16.730 don't know if she's going through something, 00:40:16.869 --> 00:40:20.050 too. Yeah, but so bedtime was off literally an 00:40:20.050 --> 00:40:22.690 hour of tears before Zeta fell asleep, which 00:40:22.690 --> 00:40:25.130 also, since Zeta and Lloyd share a bedroom, that 00:40:25.130 --> 00:40:29.059 means. He wasn't falling asleep. And the second 00:40:29.059 --> 00:40:30.800 Stuart texted me that he was on his way home, 00:40:30.880 --> 00:40:34.860 they fell asleep. Of course. But so my win is 00:40:34.860 --> 00:40:37.360 like, honestly, just that I survived. And even 00:40:37.360 --> 00:40:39.940 by the time it was like, by the time Stuart got 00:40:39.940 --> 00:40:45.079 home, we like put on a show and. I was able to 00:40:45.079 --> 00:40:48.019 come down from it and like not let it ruin my 00:40:48.019 --> 00:40:51.179 evening, which I don't think I normally do. Even 00:40:51.179 --> 00:40:53.840 like Stuart commented and he was like, you're 00:40:53.840 --> 00:40:56.440 like happy and giggly right now, which I was 00:40:56.440 --> 00:40:58.800 fully prepared for you to just like, don't talk 00:40:58.800 --> 00:41:02.639 to me. Yeah. Um, you're like, I'm actually delusional 00:41:02.639 --> 00:41:05.539 right now. Right. So yeah, I think my win is 00:41:05.539 --> 00:41:08.380 just that like one, I survived the day fairly 00:41:08.380 --> 00:41:13.250 well. I mean, I lost a couple of times. Um, definitely 00:41:13.250 --> 00:41:17.510 lots of tears but yeah so lost it a couple times 00:41:17.510 --> 00:41:20.570 definitely cried a lot but got to the end of 00:41:20.570 --> 00:41:25.550 the day survived and was also able to then have 00:41:25.550 --> 00:41:28.170 an evening where it's like i actually recovered 00:41:28.170 --> 00:41:31.429 from it instead of just like letting it weigh 00:41:31.429 --> 00:41:33.869 me down yeah for the rest of the night yeah um 00:41:33.869 --> 00:41:36.630 i feel like that's really easy to do and i mean 00:41:36.630 --> 00:41:39.650 that's i feel like that's my normal your normal 00:41:39.650 --> 00:41:42.369 like experience yeah it's like Today was terrible 00:41:42.369 --> 00:41:44.409 and now tonight's terrible too. And that's how 00:41:44.409 --> 00:41:49.010 it's going to happen. And so to be able to just 00:41:49.010 --> 00:41:52.650 like calm down and enjoy some time with Stuart 00:41:52.650 --> 00:41:56.110 before going to sleep. That's good. That's really 00:41:56.110 --> 00:42:00.309 good. What about you? My win. So Cruz just started 00:42:00.309 --> 00:42:04.590 sitting up this week, which it happened at church, 00:42:04.710 --> 00:42:08.150 which was really cute. And he just, when he sat 00:42:08.150 --> 00:42:11.460 up for the first time at church, it was. like 00:42:11.460 --> 00:42:14.639 he was so proud of himself and his like little 00:42:14.639 --> 00:42:17.280 legs like started kicking and he's like giggling 00:42:17.280 --> 00:42:22.119 and so now like he's just like constantly he 00:42:22.119 --> 00:42:25.059 like starts on his belly like rocks up and is 00:42:25.059 --> 00:42:27.559 sitting and he like has his legs like really 00:42:27.559 --> 00:42:29.820 wide it's so cute and he's like he's a really 00:42:29.820 --> 00:42:32.380 chunky boy and so it's like his little fat rolls 00:42:32.380 --> 00:42:35.280 are just kind of like sitting there too and um 00:42:35.280 --> 00:42:37.679 i just feel like that has like opened up a whole 00:42:37.679 --> 00:42:41.280 new world for him and like playing and he's like 00:42:41.280 --> 00:42:44.119 wanting to like sit there and just like just 00:42:44.119 --> 00:42:46.480 play with toys for a really long time also makes 00:42:46.480 --> 00:42:48.880 life easier for you at least that's how it has 00:42:48.880 --> 00:42:51.519 been since Zeta started sitting up or like yeah 00:42:51.519 --> 00:42:54.139 she can do more and so she's less sad and frustrated 00:42:54.139 --> 00:42:56.280 because she's sitting up and like a part of things 00:42:56.280 --> 00:42:59.380 more yes and I think yeah he's just like so proud 00:42:59.380 --> 00:43:01.500 of himself sitting there he's had a couple times 00:43:01.500 --> 00:43:03.820 of like he falls back and hits his head and it 00:43:03.820 --> 00:43:08.900 cries but he he just wants to sit there and play 00:43:08.900 --> 00:43:13.800 for 10 -15 minutes and it just yeah it's opened 00:43:13.800 --> 00:43:17.039 up a whole new world for us and yeah he's not 00:43:17.039 --> 00:43:18.860 as frustrated because he can't like interact 00:43:18.860 --> 00:43:22.880 as much and so I think it's cool to see like 00:43:22.880 --> 00:43:26.559 a glimpse of like oh he's soon it's going to 00:43:26.559 --> 00:43:29.699 be Colt and him playing together yeah and that's 00:43:29.699 --> 00:43:33.019 exciting to me and That's so fun. Also sad because 00:43:33.019 --> 00:43:34.800 I'm like, oh, my God, he's growing up. Like, 00:43:34.820 --> 00:43:38.699 where did my newborn go? Yep. So, yeah, that's 00:43:38.699 --> 00:43:41.360 just it's really cute and fun to see those milestones 00:43:41.360 --> 00:43:44.980 hit and be a part of them. Yeah. All the milestones 00:43:44.980 --> 00:43:46.659 that before you had kids, you're going to be 00:43:46.659 --> 00:43:48.500 like, I don't know. Like, I'm sure I'll be excited. 00:43:48.599 --> 00:43:50.840 But then somehow when you're a mom, it's just 00:43:50.840 --> 00:43:52.800 like the best thing ever. Oh, my gosh. It's so 00:43:52.800 --> 00:43:55.780 fun. Yeah, it really is. And I can't imagine 00:43:55.780 --> 00:44:00.320 missing those milestones. Yeah. Yeah. Well, thanks 00:44:00.320 --> 00:44:03.320 for tuning in today, guys. Yeah, like I said, 00:44:03.360 --> 00:44:05.780 interact with us on social media. 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