WEBVTT 00:00:12.460 --> 00:00:15.939 Welcome back to No Manual, a momcast, where we're 00:00:15.939 --> 00:00:17.879 here to just talk about the reality of motherhood, 00:00:18.000 --> 00:00:20.699 the good, the bad, the funny moments, the hard 00:00:20.699 --> 00:00:23.940 moments. And in today's episode, we're going 00:00:23.940 --> 00:00:27.140 to go through some of our motherhood pet peeves, 00:00:27.140 --> 00:00:30.280 just the things that really get to us. And are 00:00:30.280 --> 00:00:32.219 super frustrating. Some of them are funny. Some 00:00:32.219 --> 00:00:37.020 of them are a little more serious. But do you 00:00:37.020 --> 00:00:38.799 want to start with your mom moment of the week? 00:00:38.899 --> 00:00:41.380 I would love to. Also, I want to phrase that 00:00:41.380 --> 00:00:43.979 now that our kids are getting a little bit older, 00:00:44.140 --> 00:00:47.600 we both have Zeta and Cruz here. You know, you 00:00:47.600 --> 00:00:51.420 might hear some more baby noises as we go along. 00:00:51.719 --> 00:00:53.880 They said they want to be a part of this. Yep, 00:00:53.979 --> 00:00:57.450 they're vocalizing. who they are for sure. Okay, 00:00:57.509 --> 00:01:00.409 so my mom moment, it actually happened, I think 00:01:00.409 --> 00:01:03.469 it was like three days ago. So we live in Colorado 00:01:03.469 --> 00:01:08.250 and it storms here often in the summer. So afternoon 00:01:08.250 --> 00:01:12.950 rain is a super common thing here. And so we 00:01:12.950 --> 00:01:16.870 just got back from a trip on Sunday and we were 00:01:16.870 --> 00:01:20.010 in dire need of groceries. And so I put in a 00:01:20.010 --> 00:01:24.319 Target pickup order. to to go and do drive up 00:01:24.319 --> 00:01:27.959 so um I get the kids in the car and this was 00:01:27.959 --> 00:01:32.659 like after nap time so it had just started raining 00:01:32.659 --> 00:01:35.719 so that common afternoon rain I'm on my way to 00:01:35.719 --> 00:01:38.519 Target you like in the app you put like I'm on 00:01:38.519 --> 00:01:40.379 my way and it tells them to like get your order 00:01:40.379 --> 00:01:44.480 ready and so I I did that and as I did that a 00:01:44.480 --> 00:01:47.900 notification came up that said drive up is not 00:01:47.900 --> 00:01:51.420 available right now it's like it's raining. It's 00:01:51.420 --> 00:01:54.579 like, yeah, hazardous conditions is what it said. 00:01:54.719 --> 00:01:56.959 And I'm like, it's literally sprinkling. It's 00:01:56.959 --> 00:02:00.180 fine. But I was like, we're already in the car. 00:02:00.239 --> 00:02:02.340 We're on our way to Target to pick this up. It 00:02:02.340 --> 00:02:04.819 also said like, your order's only available today. 00:02:05.420 --> 00:02:09.039 And I was like, I needed milk especially. And 00:02:09.039 --> 00:02:13.379 so we, yeah, we drove to Target, parked. And 00:02:13.379 --> 00:02:15.599 I was like, you know what? I like, we just have 00:02:15.599 --> 00:02:17.599 to, we have to go inside to pick up the order. 00:02:18.039 --> 00:02:22.419 And so I park, get the kids unloaded. I get Cruz 00:02:22.419 --> 00:02:24.979 out first. I opened the trunk, and I just stuck 00:02:24.979 --> 00:02:27.740 the car seat in the trunk, then went over to 00:02:27.740 --> 00:02:32.039 get Colt, grabbed him, went over to get Cruz. 00:02:32.099 --> 00:02:35.860 So I've got Cruz in one arm and Colt in the other, 00:02:35.939 --> 00:02:37.919 and then I needed to close the trunk. So I had 00:02:37.919 --> 00:02:40.599 Colt get down for a second. I'm like, wait right 00:02:40.599 --> 00:02:43.639 there, buddy, and closed the trunk, and then 00:02:43.639 --> 00:02:45.900 I lift Colt up, and as the trunk is closing, 00:02:46.039 --> 00:02:50.110 I smacked his head. so hard on the trunk like 00:02:50.110 --> 00:02:54.169 it sounded like i cracked his head open and poor 00:02:54.169 --> 00:02:56.810 buddy he did not even cry at all he was just 00:02:56.810 --> 00:02:58.349 like in shock and i was like did i just give 00:02:58.349 --> 00:03:00.889 him a concussion because they say like well there's 00:03:00.889 --> 00:03:03.909 no tears yeah that's when you should be worried 00:03:03.909 --> 00:03:06.870 and he just like looked in shock like what the 00:03:06.870 --> 00:03:08.849 heck did you just do to me mom and i was like 00:03:08.849 --> 00:03:11.469 i'm so sorry buddy are you okay and he just goes 00:03:11.469 --> 00:03:16.139 yes yes I'm like, okay, good buddy. So then we 00:03:16.139 --> 00:03:18.860 go into Target, get our pickup order, go back 00:03:18.860 --> 00:03:22.180 out. And I was, it just was like, not what I 00:03:22.180 --> 00:03:24.099 was expecting. I was like, I felt like such a 00:03:24.099 --> 00:03:26.900 good mom. I was like, I got my Target drive up 00:03:26.900 --> 00:03:29.840 order ready to go. We're just going to go pick 00:03:29.840 --> 00:03:33.340 it up, go home. And it just turned into like 00:03:33.340 --> 00:03:35.879 more than I wanted. And it ended up being fine, 00:03:35.960 --> 00:03:39.319 but I just felt really frazzled. And yeah, so 00:03:39.319 --> 00:03:42.520 that's my mom moment. But what's your mom moment? 00:03:43.380 --> 00:03:46.740 So my mom moment, we had like a date night a 00:03:46.740 --> 00:03:48.900 couple weeks ago and we're trying to get everyone 00:03:48.900 --> 00:03:50.659 ready. So Stuart's in the shower. I'm trying 00:03:50.659 --> 00:03:51.960 to get ready. We're trying to get the kids ready 00:03:51.960 --> 00:03:54.080 so we can like drop them off with grandparents 00:03:54.080 --> 00:03:56.680 and then get to like our tickets on time and 00:03:56.680 --> 00:03:59.439 all of that. So we got Lloyd up for a nap and 00:03:59.439 --> 00:04:01.479 he had to go potty. So he's like sitting on the 00:04:01.479 --> 00:04:04.729 toilet. Zeta. It's not happy if she's not being 00:04:04.729 --> 00:04:07.449 held. So, and I'm just like trying to like put 00:04:07.449 --> 00:04:10.610 some makeup on and be presentable. So I'm in 00:04:10.610 --> 00:04:13.069 Lloyd's bathroom with him sitting on the toilet 00:04:13.069 --> 00:04:15.590 and Zeta, with Zeta in my arms, just like trying 00:04:15.590 --> 00:04:18.410 to put on mascara. And it was just one of those 00:04:18.410 --> 00:04:20.189 moments where I was like, this is motherhood. 00:04:20.189 --> 00:04:23.470 This is just the perfect picture. Like one kid 00:04:23.470 --> 00:04:26.649 on the toilet pooping, the other screaming if 00:04:26.649 --> 00:04:30.600 I don't have her. in my arms and just like trying 00:04:30.600 --> 00:04:33.240 to do something for myself in the midst of all 00:04:33.240 --> 00:04:36.100 of this yeah oh my gosh I feel that entirely 00:04:36.100 --> 00:04:40.339 anytime I for makeup specifically anytime I try 00:04:40.339 --> 00:04:43.560 to put makeup on for like two I'm like give me 00:04:43.560 --> 00:04:45.980 two minutes like I don't need to do the full 00:04:45.980 --> 00:04:49.620 glam yeah it's Cole is like screaming his head 00:04:49.620 --> 00:04:52.500 off because he wants to do my makeup oh and so 00:04:52.500 --> 00:04:55.180 yeah so then he's trying to grab the brushes 00:04:56.199 --> 00:04:59.439 And I'm like, okay, well, here we go. So motherhood. 00:04:59.899 --> 00:05:02.519 It's so fun. I'm like, have you seen those reels 00:05:02.519 --> 00:05:04.500 where it's like the song is like, you're going 00:05:04.500 --> 00:05:07.939 to miss this. And I'm like, every time there's 00:05:07.939 --> 00:05:10.000 something that frustrates me, I'm like, I'm going 00:05:10.000 --> 00:05:12.060 to miss this. I really am going to miss this. 00:05:12.160 --> 00:05:15.720 Someday. I'll be thinking back on this one. Yep. 00:05:15.740 --> 00:05:18.579 Okay. Do we want to hop into our? Yes. Do you 00:05:18.579 --> 00:05:20.199 want to go first on this one? I would love to. 00:05:20.319 --> 00:05:25.800 So my first one is when people tell me to sleep 00:05:25.800 --> 00:05:27.899 when the baby sleeps. And I know we've talked 00:05:27.899 --> 00:05:32.079 about this before, but this is just like, it's 00:05:32.079 --> 00:05:35.019 such a, I don't know if cliche is like the right 00:05:35.019 --> 00:05:38.800 word for it, but I just feel like this is something 00:05:38.800 --> 00:05:42.110 that you hear all of the time. And it's just 00:05:42.110 --> 00:05:45.329 so unrealistic, especially now. Like, we're both 00:05:45.329 --> 00:05:48.810 back at work. Yeah. And it's really more like 00:05:48.810 --> 00:05:52.170 the phrase of, like, when the baby sleeps, get 00:05:52.170 --> 00:05:56.410 your emails done. That's my thing now. Get as 00:05:56.410 --> 00:05:58.370 much done as you can while the baby sleeps. Yeah. 00:05:58.370 --> 00:06:00.410 I think it's just, like, I don't know, a frustrating 00:06:00.410 --> 00:06:02.850 term because it's just not realistic for everybody. 00:06:02.970 --> 00:06:05.410 And I also feel like most of the people who say 00:06:05.410 --> 00:06:08.529 that either don't have kids or they haven't had 00:06:08.529 --> 00:06:12.230 a baby in, like, 30 years. Yeah. So, like, it's 00:06:12.230 --> 00:06:15.350 different. Like, you just don't maybe remember 00:06:15.350 --> 00:06:17.490 that you also have a million things to get done. 00:06:17.529 --> 00:06:19.610 Or maybe you never went back to work and you 00:06:19.610 --> 00:06:22.069 don't have that experience. Yeah. Yeah. That's 00:06:22.069 --> 00:06:23.829 super frustrating. And I get it. Like, there's 00:06:23.829 --> 00:06:26.259 no harm behind it. Like people are just like. 00:06:26.259 --> 00:06:27.779 That's almost the worst though. Yeah. Is when 00:06:27.779 --> 00:06:30.019 people have like a really good intention behind 00:06:30.019 --> 00:06:31.980 saying something and you're like, but it's also 00:06:31.980 --> 00:06:35.980 not helpful at all. And I'm not like one to correct 00:06:35.980 --> 00:06:38.360 people or anything. Like if someone's like, you 00:06:38.360 --> 00:06:40.180 know, sleep when the baby sleeps. I'm not like, 00:06:40.319 --> 00:06:44.379 actually. Yeah. That's not. Going to be the case 00:06:44.379 --> 00:06:46.980 for us. Yeah, like, I actually have things to 00:06:46.980 --> 00:06:49.759 do, unfortunately. Yeah. I would love to take 00:06:49.759 --> 00:06:51.759 a nap on both of them. I know. Maybe it's a pet 00:06:51.759 --> 00:06:53.420 peeve to me because it's, like, what I desire. 00:06:53.660 --> 00:06:55.899 Like, yeah, I would love. Yeah. I would love 00:06:55.899 --> 00:06:59.540 to sleep when the baby sleeps. Can I? Sometimes. 00:07:00.040 --> 00:07:01.680 Every once in a while. Yeah. Every once in a 00:07:01.680 --> 00:07:03.259 while. Saturdays, usually, I get a good nap in 00:07:03.259 --> 00:07:05.740 while both of them are asleep. Yes. Yeah. But 00:07:05.740 --> 00:07:08.519 other than that, it's, like, weekdays, definitely 00:07:08.519 --> 00:07:11.480 not. Like, the days I do go into the office, 00:07:11.759 --> 00:07:16.560 like, kids. the kids are at childcare, like Cole 00:07:16.560 --> 00:07:19.480 is, takes his nap there. So I'm like, I definitely 00:07:19.480 --> 00:07:21.939 don't get a nap those days. Right. Yeah. So. 00:07:22.769 --> 00:07:26.750 That's one of my top pet peeves for sure. Yeah, 00:07:26.889 --> 00:07:29.329 I feel that one. Yeah, what about you? My first 00:07:29.329 --> 00:07:32.089 one is when people want to hold one of my kids 00:07:32.089 --> 00:07:33.930 and they just put their hands out and don't say 00:07:33.930 --> 00:07:36.689 anything to me and just take them from me. And 00:07:36.689 --> 00:07:40.069 I think the thing I realized is part of it is, 00:07:40.269 --> 00:07:43.389 one, no one who's ever done this has been someone 00:07:43.389 --> 00:07:45.829 who I'd say no to holding my kid. Obviously, 00:07:46.290 --> 00:07:47.910 if a stranger did this, I'd be like, I'm sorry, 00:07:48.029 --> 00:07:50.370 who are you? What are you doing? Please leave 00:07:50.370 --> 00:07:52.300 me alone. But it's always someone who... I'm 00:07:52.300 --> 00:07:54.500 like, yes, you can hold my child. Just, like, 00:07:54.519 --> 00:07:57.319 ask, say something. Like, Stuart doesn't even 00:07:57.319 --> 00:08:00.259 do that, you know. If he was going to take one 00:08:00.259 --> 00:08:02.860 of the kids, he, like, says something. Yeah. 00:08:03.079 --> 00:08:05.120 Yeah, just, like, just acknowledge the fact that 00:08:05.120 --> 00:08:07.980 you're taking my child out of my arms. Yep. I 00:08:07.980 --> 00:08:11.459 think it has the same energy as strangers who 00:08:11.459 --> 00:08:13.540 touch your kid. Oh, yeah. It's, like, there's 00:08:13.540 --> 00:08:15.639 kind of this, it's, like, I need to remind you 00:08:15.639 --> 00:08:18.660 that kids aren't public property. Yes. So true. 00:08:18.819 --> 00:08:21.899 They do deserve some autonomy. Where do you find, 00:08:21.939 --> 00:08:24.279 like, that happens the most? Is it at church? 00:08:25.000 --> 00:08:28.160 I think definitely people at church. Yeah. There's 00:08:28.160 --> 00:08:29.879 a little bit of that vibe. Because I think with 00:08:29.879 --> 00:08:32.159 church, I know there's a lot of strangers who 00:08:32.159 --> 00:08:34.059 touch the kids at church. And there's this level 00:08:34.059 --> 00:08:36.220 of, like, it's church, so it's safe. And, like, 00:08:36.259 --> 00:08:38.039 I don't think that any of these people are, like, 00:08:38.039 --> 00:08:40.240 terrible people. No, no, no. Like, that's not 00:08:40.240 --> 00:08:44.049 it. But also, I don't know you. You know, I don't 00:08:44.049 --> 00:08:45.809 even know your name and you're trying to like 00:08:45.809 --> 00:08:48.590 hold my kid or something like that. That's always 00:08:48.590 --> 00:08:52.009 weird. I find it interesting because like my 00:08:52.009 --> 00:08:56.009 kids go to kids men for both services since both 00:08:56.009 --> 00:08:59.149 Michael and I work there. And a lot of kids know 00:08:59.149 --> 00:09:01.690 or a lot of adults know our kids and I don't 00:09:01.690 --> 00:09:04.470 know them. And it's so interesting to me when 00:09:04.470 --> 00:09:06.450 they like come up to me and they're like, how's 00:09:06.450 --> 00:09:10.429 Colt doing? And I'm like, he's great. Who are 00:09:10.429 --> 00:09:12.730 you? Who are you? I'm Laura. What's your name? 00:09:12.789 --> 00:09:15.789 Yeah. Yeah. So I find that to be really interesting. 00:09:15.809 --> 00:09:17.690 And they will do the same thing where they just 00:09:17.690 --> 00:09:20.610 like try to grab the kids. And I'm like, oh, 00:09:20.649 --> 00:09:23.429 you probably hold them in kids men. Right. But 00:09:23.429 --> 00:09:27.230 I just, I don't know that. Right. So same, same 00:09:27.230 --> 00:09:31.330 situation. But okay. My next one is when I shut 00:09:31.330 --> 00:09:33.789 my eyes and one of my children wakes up and it's 00:09:33.789 --> 00:09:36.049 like clockwork every single time. Like going 00:09:36.049 --> 00:09:39.830 back to sleep when the baby sleeps. Well. If 00:09:39.830 --> 00:09:42.169 I could get both babies to sleep at the same 00:09:42.169 --> 00:09:45.990 time, maybe. But that's a rare, rare situation 00:09:45.990 --> 00:09:48.629 right now. And for some reason, it's substantially 00:09:48.629 --> 00:09:53.019 more frustrating for them to wake up. right when 00:09:53.019 --> 00:09:54.940 you're falling asleep than like after you're 00:09:54.940 --> 00:09:57.480 already asleep yes like i would rather be woken 00:09:57.480 --> 00:09:59.179 up in the middle of the night by one of my kids 00:09:59.179 --> 00:10:02.019 than like get comfy in bed and like close my 00:10:02.019 --> 00:10:04.039 eyes and like that's so true be right in that 00:10:04.039 --> 00:10:06.259 place of like getting ready to drift off and 00:10:06.259 --> 00:10:08.620 then they wake up that's i don't know why that's 00:10:08.620 --> 00:10:11.299 so much more frustrating than it is i swear like 00:10:11.299 --> 00:10:14.059 every time so we don't have like a super consistent 00:10:14.059 --> 00:10:17.360 bedtime routine with routine with Cruz yet it's 00:10:17.360 --> 00:10:19.720 pretty much like we get Colt has a really consistent 00:10:19.720 --> 00:10:22.440 routine and we stick with his routine but then 00:10:22.440 --> 00:10:24.700 like Cruz hangs out with us while we watch tv 00:10:24.700 --> 00:10:27.860 in the house he'll like sleep on the couch and 00:10:27.860 --> 00:10:30.200 then when we're when we go to bed I'll just like 00:10:30.200 --> 00:10:34.080 carry him up to bed with us yeah and um I swear 00:10:34.080 --> 00:10:36.379 almost every single night like when I put him 00:10:36.379 --> 00:10:39.340 in his bassinet and then I get comfy and turn 00:10:39.340 --> 00:10:42.399 off like the hatch light it's like he wakes up 00:10:42.399 --> 00:10:45.519 and then like That is way worse than being woken 00:10:45.519 --> 00:10:48.159 up at 3 in the morning to change his diaper and 00:10:48.159 --> 00:10:51.919 feed, and I feel that for sure. Okay, what's 00:10:51.919 --> 00:10:54.779 your next one? My next one is just generally 00:10:54.779 --> 00:10:57.299 maternity, nursing, and mommy and me clothes. 00:10:58.259 --> 00:11:01.360 There's a very specific style for all three of 00:11:01.360 --> 00:11:05.019 those categories, and that's it. There's not 00:11:05.019 --> 00:11:07.519 a variety. Anytime I've tried to, like, look 00:11:07.519 --> 00:11:09.759 for, like, matching outfits for the family or 00:11:09.759 --> 00:11:12.019 something like that, it's, like, florals and 00:11:12.019 --> 00:11:13.580 ruffles. Oh, yeah. And, like, none of us wear 00:11:13.580 --> 00:11:15.639 those things. You're like, can you get me a graphic 00:11:15.639 --> 00:11:19.080 tee? Yes. Thank you. I do think, because Stuart 00:11:19.080 --> 00:11:24.179 found there's one band that has matching t -shirts, 00:11:24.220 --> 00:11:27.460 like, adult, toddler, and onesie. Oh, nice. And 00:11:27.460 --> 00:11:29.100 they're sold out of the toddler and onesie right 00:11:29.100 --> 00:11:30.629 now. Oh, dang it. So I'm like. As soon as they 00:11:30.629 --> 00:11:33.929 come back and suck, we're buying them. I was 00:11:33.929 --> 00:11:35.330 like, maybe that's just what I need to do is 00:11:35.330 --> 00:11:37.350 stop looking for, like, specifically mommy and 00:11:37.350 --> 00:11:41.950 me and just, like, find stuff that's naturally 00:11:41.950 --> 00:11:43.769 matching. I don't know. But it's just, like, 00:11:43.769 --> 00:11:47.289 a very specific style that I feel like not most 00:11:47.289 --> 00:11:49.909 women wear anyways. Oh, for sure. Like, I for 00:11:49.909 --> 00:11:51.809 sure know women who wear these styles, and that's 00:11:51.809 --> 00:11:54.629 fine. But it's not, like, the overwhelming majority. 00:11:54.929 --> 00:11:56.629 It's not. I don't feel like I'm in the minority 00:11:56.629 --> 00:12:00.710 here. No. I feel like I, like. Whenever I was 00:12:00.710 --> 00:12:03.809 pregnant, especially with Colt, I almost changed 00:12:03.809 --> 00:12:08.289 my style, I think, to match what they had because 00:12:08.289 --> 00:12:11.830 I just didn't know what else to wear. What to 00:12:11.830 --> 00:12:14.950 wear, yeah. I think I just ended up wearing oversized 00:12:14.950 --> 00:12:17.389 t -shirts for the entirety of both pregnancies. 00:12:18.679 --> 00:12:20.820 You had to. That's, yeah. Yeah, you're like, 00:12:20.840 --> 00:12:23.340 it's either that or a crop top of my normal t 00:12:23.340 --> 00:12:26.860 -shirt, so. Exactly. It's fine. Yeah. That's 00:12:26.860 --> 00:12:28.940 so true, though. I feel like, like, especially 00:12:28.940 --> 00:12:31.519 at Target, I would, like, try to shop in their 00:12:31.519 --> 00:12:34.200 maternity section. I'm like, what are we doing 00:12:34.200 --> 00:12:35.919 here? Yeah, I'm never going to wear any of this. 00:12:35.940 --> 00:12:39.620 No, no. Speaking of clothes, my next one is baby 00:12:39.620 --> 00:12:43.720 clothes that only have snaps. I'm like. Also, 00:12:43.779 --> 00:12:45.960 what are we doing here? Like the pajamas. Yes. 00:12:45.960 --> 00:12:48.220 They're like, it takes an hour to snap it up 00:12:48.220 --> 00:12:50.679 and down. I'm like literally counting the snaps 00:12:50.679 --> 00:12:53.519 as they go. I'm like, this outfit has 12 snaps 00:12:53.519 --> 00:12:56.240 on it. Yep. I do not have time for this when 00:12:56.240 --> 00:12:58.500 there's a blowout situation happening. Nope. 00:12:58.840 --> 00:13:01.580 And I also don't have time for this to put it 00:13:01.580 --> 00:13:03.600 back on you, so. Yeah, or in the middle of the 00:13:03.600 --> 00:13:05.919 night, I want a diaper change to be as quick 00:13:05.919 --> 00:13:08.000 and easy as possible. Yeah, definitely no snaps 00:13:08.000 --> 00:13:10.679 in the night, for sure. I'm like. rarely i'll 00:13:10.679 --> 00:13:13.000 put you in snaps if it's like a really cute outfit 00:13:13.000 --> 00:13:17.159 otherwise but other than that i'm like onesies 00:13:17.159 --> 00:13:21.519 with the three snaps in the bottom or the zip 00:13:21.519 --> 00:13:24.700 like two -way zipper yep love it love those those 00:13:24.700 --> 00:13:27.360 are the best options yeah i'm like what are baby 00:13:27.360 --> 00:13:29.679 companies doing i feel like even making stuff 00:13:29.679 --> 00:13:31.980 with snaps anymore i feel like the people designing 00:13:31.980 --> 00:13:35.080 baby clothes have never had a baby in their life 00:13:35.080 --> 00:13:37.200 yeah because then here i'll just jump to my next 00:13:37.200 --> 00:13:39.919 one which is dry clean and hand wash baby clothes 00:13:39.919 --> 00:13:43.980 yeah like i don't have time and energy or care 00:13:43.980 --> 00:13:46.480 enough like there's no baby clothes that are 00:13:46.480 --> 00:13:49.120 cute enough for me to dry clean and baby clothes 00:13:49.120 --> 00:13:52.879 are cute yeah but like who's who's making this 00:13:52.879 --> 00:13:55.259 and who's buying it yeah yeah the one brand i 00:13:55.259 --> 00:13:57.519 can think of that like i actually really love 00:13:57.519 --> 00:14:02.360 the clothes is kite baby they're like not hand 00:14:02.360 --> 00:14:05.960 wash but delicates and then hang to dry is what 00:14:05.960 --> 00:14:09.559 it is and i just i don't pull them out of the 00:14:09.559 --> 00:14:11.960 laundry of other things i just throw them in 00:14:11.960 --> 00:14:14.620 and it's like i have to know okay maybe it's 00:14:14.620 --> 00:14:16.700 not going to last as long as i guess it could 00:14:16.700 --> 00:14:19.980 have but i also don't have the time or energy 00:14:19.980 --> 00:14:23.259 to hang this up i rarely hang my own clothes 00:14:23.259 --> 00:14:27.100 up i have like two things that i think are worth 00:14:27.840 --> 00:14:30.179 Also, our laundry room is literally a closet. 00:14:30.340 --> 00:14:32.740 It's like a stacking washer dryer in a closet. 00:14:32.799 --> 00:14:35.360 So we have zero room in our house to even hang 00:14:35.360 --> 00:14:37.159 stuff. We don't have a backyard, so we couldn't 00:14:37.159 --> 00:14:39.120 put up a clothesline if we wanted to. Yeah, right. 00:14:39.360 --> 00:14:41.039 Like, we don't have anywhere to hang anything. 00:14:41.360 --> 00:14:43.940 I, like, will hang stuff from, like, the shower. 00:14:44.240 --> 00:14:46.620 Oh, that's smart. Yeah. So I'll, like, put it 00:14:46.620 --> 00:14:48.779 on a hanger and then just, like, hang them in 00:14:48.779 --> 00:14:51.840 a line if I even have the time and energy to 00:14:51.840 --> 00:14:54.259 hang something up. Otherwise, I'm like... You 00:14:54.259 --> 00:14:56.320 know what? It's just clothes. It's with baby 00:14:56.320 --> 00:14:58.440 clothes. They grow out of it so fast anyways. 00:14:58.559 --> 00:15:01.019 Yeah. That, like, why do we need this? I mean, 00:15:01.039 --> 00:15:04.059 and I get my kids, like, outfits for holidays 00:15:04.059 --> 00:15:05.679 and, you know, special occasions, stuff that 00:15:05.679 --> 00:15:07.039 they're probably going to wear once anyways. 00:15:07.320 --> 00:15:09.460 But why do we need things that are never going 00:15:09.460 --> 00:15:13.000 to, that we can't wash? Yeah. Because it's, like, 00:15:13.120 --> 00:15:14.639 if you take it to the dry cleaner by the time 00:15:14.639 --> 00:15:16.360 you get it back. Oh, gosh. They're not going 00:15:16.360 --> 00:15:19.639 to fit into it. Yeah. That's so true. I don't 00:15:19.639 --> 00:15:21.840 think I've ever, to be honest, I don't think 00:15:21.840 --> 00:15:24.609 I've ever stepped foot into a dry cleaner. I 00:15:24.609 --> 00:15:27.669 don't feel like I have, but not for dry cleaning. 00:15:27.889 --> 00:15:31.070 Really? It was like a combo. Something like that. 00:15:31.149 --> 00:15:33.549 Yeah, to get alterations or something. Yeah, 00:15:33.649 --> 00:15:35.970 maybe I've done that, but I don't think I've 00:15:35.970 --> 00:15:38.629 ever brought anything to the dry cleaner myself, 00:15:38.809 --> 00:15:42.230 which maybe that is a confession of who I am. 00:15:42.789 --> 00:15:45.129 It's also just a lifestyle. I'm not a fancy enough 00:15:45.129 --> 00:15:48.289 person to do dry cleaning. No, absolutely not. 00:15:49.039 --> 00:15:52.220 Okay, my next one is when someone comments on 00:15:52.220 --> 00:15:54.919 how tired I look. Doesn't that feel great? It 00:15:54.919 --> 00:15:58.159 feels so great. Like, obviously I'm tired. And 00:15:58.159 --> 00:16:01.259 I think that kind of goes along with, like, when 00:16:01.259 --> 00:16:05.480 someone I don't know super well, like, asks me 00:16:05.480 --> 00:16:08.320 how I am. I feel like my default is, like, I'm 00:16:08.320 --> 00:16:11.519 good, but I'm tired. And I'm like, yeah, that's 00:16:11.519 --> 00:16:14.620 the obvious answer for sure because I'm just 00:16:14.620 --> 00:16:17.620 tired. But when someone's like, oh, man, you. 00:16:17.720 --> 00:16:20.960 look so tired i'm like it's because i am yeah 00:16:20.960 --> 00:16:23.340 i didn't sleep last night yeah i was woken up 00:16:23.340 --> 00:16:26.700 three times yeah i am tired yes that's not a 00:16:26.700 --> 00:16:29.779 fave of mine but it's also one of those things 00:16:29.779 --> 00:16:33.700 like you would never like you look sick no one 00:16:33.700 --> 00:16:35.860 wants to hear that even if it's true you know 00:16:35.860 --> 00:16:40.039 you just like look sick yeah like there are some 00:16:40.039 --> 00:16:42.500 things you just It's best not to comment on, 00:16:42.539 --> 00:16:46.059 I feel like. Yeah. Yeah. It's rather just don't 00:16:46.059 --> 00:16:48.379 say anything at all, I guess. I don't know. Can 00:16:48.379 --> 00:16:50.539 I bring you a coffee? That is a better alternative. 00:16:50.539 --> 00:16:53.820 That is a great option. Yes. I love that. All 00:16:53.820 --> 00:16:56.759 right. My next one is that fast food places don't 00:16:56.759 --> 00:16:59.340 have play places anymore. And pretty much any 00:16:59.340 --> 00:17:01.620 place for your kids to play inside, you have 00:17:01.620 --> 00:17:03.659 to pay for. Yeah. It's like, it's one thing to 00:17:03.659 --> 00:17:05.700 like. Go to McDonald's and pay for lunch and 00:17:05.700 --> 00:17:07.619 then you can play for a while. But the play places 00:17:07.619 --> 00:17:10.019 don't exist anymore. Like I literally looked 00:17:10.019 --> 00:17:11.740 the other day because I was thinking about this. 00:17:12.500 --> 00:17:15.460 And we were talking about this off mic. I remember 00:17:15.460 --> 00:17:18.180 going to McDonald's for birthday parties when 00:17:18.180 --> 00:17:22.039 I was a kid. I've asked like four other people 00:17:22.039 --> 00:17:23.779 and no one else has this experience. But then 00:17:23.779 --> 00:17:25.539 I asked my mom and she was like, no, we went 00:17:25.539 --> 00:17:27.000 to so -and -so's birthday party. I was like, 00:17:27.079 --> 00:17:28.740 okay, this wasn't a fever day. I don't think 00:17:28.740 --> 00:17:30.759 I ever went to a birthday party at McDonald's, 00:17:30.759 --> 00:17:33.299 but I do remember specifically as a family going 00:17:33.299 --> 00:17:36.480 and the whole point was to eat and then stay 00:17:36.480 --> 00:17:39.740 there and play for a while. So I pulled up McDonald's 00:17:39.740 --> 00:17:42.720 website and you can search like locations based 00:17:42.720 --> 00:17:45.640 on what they have. Yeah. And within 50 miles 00:17:45.640 --> 00:17:47.680 of our house, there's not a single one with a 00:17:47.680 --> 00:17:50.500 play place. Really? Isn't that crazy? That is 00:17:50.500 --> 00:17:53.359 actually ridiculous. And I was like, as a mom. 00:17:53.380 --> 00:17:55.240 What about Chick -fil -A? So Chick -fil -A is 00:17:55.240 --> 00:17:59.000 still good. We have a Chick -fil -A like 10 minutes 00:17:59.000 --> 00:18:01.079 to the east of us and they have a play place. 00:18:01.319 --> 00:18:03.380 And then I'm pretty sure we're having one built 00:18:03.380 --> 00:18:06.980 like five minutes to the west of us. So, you 00:18:06.980 --> 00:18:09.960 know, we have options. And I think that one will 00:18:09.960 --> 00:18:11.460 hopefully have a play place. I mean, if they're 00:18:11.460 --> 00:18:12.900 smart, they'll have a play place because then 00:18:12.900 --> 00:18:16.240 they have this like. monopoly that other fast 00:18:16.240 --> 00:18:18.960 food places have not yeah but i'm thinking like 00:18:18.960 --> 00:18:21.059 right now it's summer and like you said it's 00:18:21.059 --> 00:18:22.779 been a really rainy summer so there are times 00:18:22.779 --> 00:18:24.240 when it's like you just can't go to the park 00:18:24.240 --> 00:18:26.019 it's not even like a comfort thing it's like 00:18:26.019 --> 00:18:28.359 no we're all just going to be drenched yeah or 00:18:28.359 --> 00:18:30.319 if it's cold out or whatever and you just want 00:18:30.319 --> 00:18:32.220 you need something and it's like let's go get 00:18:32.220 --> 00:18:36.019 lunch or dinner and then play it's a contained 00:18:36.019 --> 00:18:38.980 area so i don't have like i still have to keep 00:18:38.980 --> 00:18:40.619 an eye on you but i don't have to like watch 00:18:40.619 --> 00:18:44.359 you like a hawk yeah That's so true. It's so 00:18:44.359 --> 00:18:46.740 frustrating. It's so frustrating because I'm 00:18:46.740 --> 00:18:49.579 like, I'm trying to, I don't know if you feel 00:18:49.579 --> 00:18:51.720 this way of like, I don't want to just do the 00:18:51.720 --> 00:18:54.099 same things over and over with my kids. Like 00:18:54.099 --> 00:18:57.059 Colt loves to go to the park. So yes, we go to 00:18:57.059 --> 00:18:59.700 the park often. But like the indoor things like 00:18:59.700 --> 00:19:02.460 that, I'm like, if I have to pay a bajillion 00:19:02.460 --> 00:19:06.440 dollars to take him to, I don't know, the children's 00:19:06.440 --> 00:19:10.119 museum or whatever, I'm like. i don't know i 00:19:10.119 --> 00:19:12.720 want to do like a variety of different things 00:19:12.720 --> 00:19:15.319 yeah and things that maybe don't cost anything 00:19:15.319 --> 00:19:18.160 right that's part of it is like there is an indoor 00:19:18.160 --> 00:19:21.440 play place near us that just opened it's we i 00:19:21.440 --> 00:19:23.200 think you told me about it it's like a coffee 00:19:23.200 --> 00:19:24.920 shop thing but i looked at it and it's pretty 00:19:24.920 --> 00:19:26.960 expensive to get in it's like 20 bucks per kid 00:19:26.960 --> 00:19:29.940 or something like that see that's and not yeah 00:19:29.940 --> 00:19:32.740 i'm like but i would be fine just like paying 00:19:32.740 --> 00:19:37.099 for a happy meal and a big mac and then then 00:19:37.099 --> 00:19:40.279 let your kids run Yeah, that's so true. That's 00:19:40.279 --> 00:19:43.119 a maybe just I wonder if it's like a COVID thing 00:19:43.119 --> 00:19:46.299 that kind of just slowly. I don't know. The McDonald's 00:19:46.299 --> 00:19:50.619 closest to us is the most depressing like 1984 00:19:50.619 --> 00:19:54.400 thing in the world. Because so it's all like 00:19:54.400 --> 00:19:57.539 gray, which is already like just depressing. 00:19:57.539 --> 00:20:01.759 Yeah. And then I think technically you can order 00:20:01.759 --> 00:20:03.819 from a person if you're like paying cash or something, 00:20:03.880 --> 00:20:06.880 but it just has the kiosks to order. Which is, 00:20:06.960 --> 00:20:09.279 like, okay, I don't mind that a ton, but when 00:20:09.279 --> 00:20:10.920 that's the only option, it feels weird. So you 00:20:10.920 --> 00:20:13.480 have almost no human interaction. And then the, 00:20:13.539 --> 00:20:15.619 like, quote -unquote play place that they have 00:20:15.619 --> 00:20:17.980 is just two, they're not technically iPads, but 00:20:17.980 --> 00:20:21.259 two essentially iPads set up for kids to play. 00:20:21.500 --> 00:20:25.619 Is this, like, just a hint of our future? I don't 00:20:25.619 --> 00:20:28.259 like it. I don't like it either. But also, as 00:20:28.259 --> 00:20:30.640 a mom, like, I could put my kid on an iPad at 00:20:30.640 --> 00:20:32.859 home. Yes. Like, I can't have a play place in 00:20:32.859 --> 00:20:37.279 my house. Yeah. That's so true. Yeah, I feel 00:20:37.279 --> 00:20:40.500 like I'm doing my best to try to not create an 00:20:40.500 --> 00:20:42.960 iPad kid. And then when things are like that, 00:20:43.019 --> 00:20:45.769 I'm like, well, obviously they're going to. yeah 00:20:45.769 --> 00:20:48.569 be exposed to it i don't know yeah i know they're 00:20:48.569 --> 00:20:51.069 gonna be exposed to it but it's just the future 00:20:51.069 --> 00:20:54.170 which makes me so sad because like technology 00:20:54.170 --> 00:20:57.089 is so cool don't get me wrong like there's some 00:20:57.089 --> 00:20:59.109 things with technology that i'm like oh that's 00:20:59.109 --> 00:21:02.289 super cool like chat gpt i use chat gpt for a 00:21:02.289 --> 00:21:05.430 lot of things that are very beneficial but at 00:21:05.430 --> 00:21:09.430 the same time i'm like where is like the i don't 00:21:09.430 --> 00:21:11.970 know the strive to like learn things now it's 00:21:11.970 --> 00:21:16.019 like so easy to just find the answer so quickly, 00:21:16.200 --> 00:21:19.539 which I appreciate in a sense, but I'm like trying 00:21:19.539 --> 00:21:21.359 to find the balance with our kids. What things 00:21:21.359 --> 00:21:24.099 are worth not worrying about and what things 00:21:24.099 --> 00:21:26.259 are worth like actually using my brain for. I 00:21:26.259 --> 00:21:28.160 know. And I'm like with kids, it's like, they 00:21:28.160 --> 00:21:32.099 have so much to learn. And like now with technology, 00:21:32.200 --> 00:21:35.539 I'm like, they can learn quote, like quotes around 00:21:35.539 --> 00:21:39.000 that, anything they want in two seconds. Yeah. 00:21:39.039 --> 00:21:40.819 Rather than like trying to figure out the answer, 00:21:40.920 --> 00:21:44.500 whatever. I don't know. We're getting, I'm going 00:21:44.500 --> 00:21:47.440 on a tangent, but it's fine. Yeah. Another pet 00:21:47.440 --> 00:21:50.960 peeve, I guess. Technology. Yes. It's really 00:21:50.960 --> 00:21:53.799 hard because you don't want like your kids to 00:21:53.799 --> 00:21:55.980 not be around technology because it is useful 00:21:55.980 --> 00:21:59.339 and it is just part of life. Yeah. But then you 00:21:59.339 --> 00:22:01.039 don't want them to be like so absorbed in it. 00:22:01.369 --> 00:22:03.650 For sure. Anyways, what's your next one? My next 00:22:03.650 --> 00:22:06.509 one is when there's no changing table in a public 00:22:06.509 --> 00:22:09.410 bathroom or if the changing table is like broken, 00:22:09.509 --> 00:22:12.210 which is something I came across not too long 00:22:12.210 --> 00:22:16.130 ago. I was at a restaurant in Boulder and Colt 00:22:16.130 --> 00:22:19.269 had pooped. And so I like, obviously I needed 00:22:19.269 --> 00:22:22.490 to change him. And I went to go change him in 00:22:22.490 --> 00:22:25.230 the bathroom. And this changing table, it was 00:22:25.230 --> 00:22:27.170 also the weirdest configuration of a changing 00:22:27.170 --> 00:22:31.539 table. It was in the big like stall. which is 00:22:31.539 --> 00:22:33.900 fine. So we went in there, but then the changing 00:22:33.900 --> 00:22:37.079 table was above the toilet and it didn't come 00:22:37.079 --> 00:22:40.519 down like horizontally. It came down like vertically, 00:22:40.680 --> 00:22:43.299 if that makes sense. So it was like lengthwise 00:22:43.299 --> 00:22:46.819 down. And then it was also like leaning like 00:22:46.819 --> 00:22:49.720 towards the ground. And so I'm like, I like put 00:22:49.720 --> 00:22:52.079 him up on the changing table and strapped him 00:22:52.079 --> 00:22:54.599 in, which usually I don't like necessarily strap 00:22:54.599 --> 00:22:58.109 my kids in. but um I you're gonna fall if it's 00:22:58.109 --> 00:23:01.309 leaning yes and so I'm like trying to hold him 00:23:01.309 --> 00:23:03.950 strapped in and then also change a poopy diaper 00:23:03.950 --> 00:23:06.829 and it was to the point where like I actually 00:23:06.829 --> 00:23:10.400 complained like I talked to that like the manager 00:23:10.400 --> 00:23:13.160 about it because I and I'm not one of those people 00:23:13.160 --> 00:23:16.400 that like complains often yeah but I was so frustrated 00:23:16.400 --> 00:23:20.039 that I was like okay that is not up to code clearly 00:23:20.039 --> 00:23:23.339 yeah so and yeah I need to be able to change 00:23:23.339 --> 00:23:25.259 my kid and I'm not gonna do it on the floor of 00:23:25.259 --> 00:23:28.740 the bathroom like that's gross no and so yeah 00:23:28.740 --> 00:23:31.559 that really frustrated me and then I just feel 00:23:31.559 --> 00:23:34.220 like I've come across a lot of public bathrooms 00:23:34.220 --> 00:23:36.660 recently that just don't have a changing table 00:23:36.660 --> 00:23:39.200 at all which is crazy which is crazy and I'm 00:23:39.200 --> 00:23:41.299 like okay I guess I just I'm gonna change my 00:23:41.299 --> 00:23:43.640 child out here on the bent like public bench 00:23:43.640 --> 00:23:45.940 that's fine right that's the only option you're 00:23:45.940 --> 00:23:48.759 giving me yeah and I know it's super common for 00:23:48.759 --> 00:23:51.220 men's bathrooms not to have changing tables yes 00:23:51.220 --> 00:23:54.369 which I know Stuart gets annoyed by. It's funny 00:23:54.369 --> 00:23:56.890 because our church does have a tuning table in 00:23:56.890 --> 00:23:59.950 the men's bathroom. Oh, they do. And my mom who 00:23:59.950 --> 00:24:02.750 runs facilities has said she's had dads like 00:24:02.750 --> 00:24:06.250 thank her. Really? Just because it's so uncommon. 00:24:06.390 --> 00:24:08.369 It's like expected to be in the women's bathroom, 00:24:08.470 --> 00:24:11.250 but not the men's bathroom. Yeah. Even like, 00:24:11.309 --> 00:24:14.130 this isn't even just a like. fairness or like 00:24:14.130 --> 00:24:15.829 both people are parents it's like what about 00:24:15.829 --> 00:24:18.150 single dads or sure you know just situations 00:24:18.150 --> 00:24:21.109 where mom isn't around for whatever reason she's 00:24:21.109 --> 00:24:23.950 sick she's yeah she's decided to stay home or 00:24:23.950 --> 00:24:27.890 whatever yeah yeah yeah oh I feel like in today's 00:24:27.890 --> 00:24:31.230 world like that's gotta be I don't know it's 00:24:31.230 --> 00:24:34.609 crazy yeah you just changing tables gotta be 00:24:34.609 --> 00:24:37.250 a thing yep yeah okay what's your next one so 00:24:37.250 --> 00:24:39.089 I'm staying on the fast food restaurants theme 00:24:39.089 --> 00:24:41.809 any place you can get a kid's meal even like 00:24:42.200 --> 00:24:44.039 a chipotle or noodles or something like that 00:24:44.039 --> 00:24:46.839 yeah the drink options are almost always bottled 00:24:46.839 --> 00:24:50.440 water a juice box or one percent milk so true 00:24:50.440 --> 00:24:53.799 and the like we give lloyd whole milk partially 00:24:53.799 --> 00:24:55.819 because that's the pediatrician recommendation 00:24:55.819 --> 00:24:58.119 right and everyone knows like that's the pediatrician 00:24:58.119 --> 00:25:00.480 recommendation yes so it's not just like a preference 00:25:00.480 --> 00:25:02.440 if it was just a preference i would be annoyed 00:25:02.440 --> 00:25:05.869 but whatever But like everyone gives their kids 00:25:05.869 --> 00:25:07.529 whole milk because that's what the doctor tells 00:25:07.529 --> 00:25:09.650 us to do. Yeah. So why is that? I mean, maybe 00:25:09.650 --> 00:25:12.049 I shouldn't be asking fast food places to do 00:25:12.049 --> 00:25:14.990 like the healthy option. But like if that's just 00:25:14.990 --> 00:25:16.609 like the standard across the board of what you 00:25:16.609 --> 00:25:18.289 should be giving your kid, it feels like that 00:25:18.289 --> 00:25:20.819 should just be. It also feels like maybe they 00:25:20.819 --> 00:25:23.519 would make better sales. I don't know. Yeah, 00:25:23.579 --> 00:25:25.680 I never get the milk then. Yeah, I don't either. 00:25:25.819 --> 00:25:27.140 I'm like, okay, this is the time you get a juice 00:25:27.140 --> 00:25:29.279 box, I guess. I know. I'm like, the juice box 00:25:29.279 --> 00:25:33.099 is the better choice here. I don't know. It's 00:25:33.099 --> 00:25:35.640 so annoying. I feel like when I asked you, I'm 00:25:35.640 --> 00:25:37.480 like, oh, do you guys have whole milk? And they're 00:25:37.480 --> 00:25:39.759 like, no. Which, like, also, like, Dutch Bros 00:25:39.759 --> 00:25:41.279 doesn't have whole milk, which is... Which is 00:25:41.279 --> 00:25:43.859 crazy. Interesting. Yeah, it seems like they, 00:25:43.900 --> 00:25:45.579 like, look at me funny when I'm like, do you 00:25:45.579 --> 00:25:48.000 guys have whole milk? And they're like... No, 00:25:48.000 --> 00:25:52.000 or they don't know. They're like, uh, no, it's 00:25:52.000 --> 00:25:55.839 1%. I'm like, oh. Yeah, it's so weird. It is 00:25:55.839 --> 00:25:58.440 weird. And, like, whole milk is my preference, 00:25:58.559 --> 00:26:00.839 like, if I get coffee or something like that. 00:26:01.180 --> 00:26:03.960 But I get that that's not necessarily as common 00:26:03.960 --> 00:26:06.119 for adults. But, again, for kids, like, that 00:26:06.119 --> 00:26:09.500 is the expected thing to give them. Yeah, yeah, 00:26:09.539 --> 00:26:13.319 it's just common. Okay, my next one is when my 00:26:13.319 --> 00:26:16.500 toddler and my baby are crying at the same time. 00:26:17.019 --> 00:26:19.059 And I know this is, it's like a personal pet 00:26:19.059 --> 00:26:22.200 peeve. Yeah. Mostly because I just, I feel like 00:26:22.200 --> 00:26:25.859 I get really frazzled and I don't know what to 00:26:25.859 --> 00:26:30.440 do. And that's just, yeah, I think that's like 00:26:30.440 --> 00:26:33.640 a pet peeve. Like when I'm solo parenting for 00:26:33.640 --> 00:26:36.400 the day. Yeah. And both are crying and. It's 00:26:36.400 --> 00:26:38.960 super overwhelming. Yeah. And I feel like I try 00:26:38.960 --> 00:26:43.180 to, like I try to tend to my toddler first. I've 00:26:43.180 --> 00:26:46.849 read like. That is, it shows them that you're 00:26:46.849 --> 00:26:49.569 not like picking the baby over them because they're 00:26:49.569 --> 00:26:52.630 like more aware of all the situation. So I try 00:26:52.630 --> 00:26:54.910 to tend to him first, but then I like feel like 00:26:54.910 --> 00:26:57.619 I'm neglecting. My baby, in a sense, because 00:26:57.619 --> 00:27:00.559 I'm always choosing my toddler first in that 00:27:00.559 --> 00:27:04.619 situation, and I feel bad. Yep. And so... The 00:27:04.619 --> 00:27:07.839 other thing I've heard is to tend to the fastest 00:27:07.839 --> 00:27:10.519 fix first. Oh, okay, yeah. So if it's, like, 00:27:10.619 --> 00:27:12.519 I mean, and this is, like, a bad example because 00:27:12.519 --> 00:27:14.220 it's still be Colt, but, like, if Colt just wants 00:27:14.220 --> 00:27:16.140 a snack, like, you can grab a snack and give 00:27:16.140 --> 00:27:18.619 it to him in, like, three seconds versus, like, 00:27:18.640 --> 00:27:20.859 nursing crews is going to take however long. 00:27:20.859 --> 00:27:23.680 15 minutes, whatever. Yeah. Yeah, so I've heard 00:27:23.680 --> 00:27:25.900 that, too, which I was like, oh, especially as 00:27:25.900 --> 00:27:28.039 they get older and, like, that starts to matter 00:27:28.039 --> 00:27:29.859 a little bit, the, like, who you pick first. 00:27:29.880 --> 00:27:32.079 I actually really like that, yeah. And, like, 00:27:32.079 --> 00:27:33.960 especially when you're frazzled, that's super 00:27:33.960 --> 00:27:35.519 helpful because you're like, okay, one person 00:27:35.519 --> 00:27:38.099 is going to stop crying. Yeah. I don't know if 00:27:38.099 --> 00:27:41.220 it's, like, a me problem, but I get so frazzled 00:27:41.220 --> 00:27:43.240 in those situations sometimes that I just don't 00:27:43.240 --> 00:27:44.960 know what to do. So then I'm just like. It's 00:27:44.960 --> 00:27:47.640 tough, yeah. I just end up doing nothing for 00:27:47.640 --> 00:27:49.619 a second because I'm just like, I don't know 00:27:49.619 --> 00:27:51.839 what to do. Yeah, no, I feel that, too. Yeah. 00:27:52.250 --> 00:27:54.609 Yeah. Okay, what's your next one? All right, 00:27:54.630 --> 00:27:58.490 my next one is when one of my kids is either 00:27:58.490 --> 00:28:01.750 hurt or just crying and someone else is holding 00:28:01.750 --> 00:28:04.150 them and won't give them back to me. Honestly, 00:28:04.230 --> 00:28:06.069 it drives me crazy when Stuart does this, but 00:28:06.069 --> 00:28:08.549 he's... You're like, okay, you're a parent too. 00:28:08.569 --> 00:28:10.690 You're like, I guess as dad, you have the right 00:28:10.690 --> 00:28:13.589 to take care of your kid too. But yeah, so it 00:28:13.589 --> 00:28:15.210 even drives me crazy when Stuart does it, but 00:28:15.210 --> 00:28:16.890 especially when it's someone who's not Stuart. 00:28:17.190 --> 00:28:18.950 And I know there are always just like trying 00:28:18.950 --> 00:28:20.329 to help. You know, it's not like anyone's trying 00:28:20.329 --> 00:28:21.970 to like keep my kid away from me. They're trying 00:28:21.970 --> 00:28:24.359 to like come. for you know like Lloyd gets hurt 00:28:24.359 --> 00:28:25.759 and they're trying to comfort him and take care 00:28:25.759 --> 00:28:27.859 of him but there's this level for me where it's 00:28:27.859 --> 00:28:30.200 like no like that's my job and yeah it's like 00:28:30.200 --> 00:28:33.240 your motherly instinct I guess inside of you 00:28:33.240 --> 00:28:36.079 because I totally feel the same way of like I 00:28:36.079 --> 00:28:39.779 just think I can fix it quicker right and sometimes 00:28:39.779 --> 00:28:42.220 it's even true like I've noticed there's been 00:28:42.220 --> 00:28:44.940 a couple times when it's like one of the babies 00:28:44.940 --> 00:28:48.210 is crying And like whoever has them can't calm 00:28:48.210 --> 00:28:50.170 them down. And then they're with mom and they 00:28:50.170 --> 00:28:53.049 calm down super fast. And yeah, there's just 00:28:53.049 --> 00:28:57.069 like that attachment, I guess. Yeah. Sadly, sometimes 00:28:57.069 --> 00:29:02.190 Michael and I will kind of use this to our advantage. 00:29:02.430 --> 00:29:06.109 Like if Cole is having a big tantrum and we're 00:29:06.109 --> 00:29:09.009 trying to get him out of the tantrum and Michael 00:29:09.009 --> 00:29:12.890 will like try to pick him up and it it makes 00:29:12.890 --> 00:29:15.720 it worse. But then if. Then he hands Colt over 00:29:15.720 --> 00:29:19.319 to me. Tantrum stops immediately. There you go. 00:29:19.339 --> 00:29:21.259 You've just like, you figured out the trick, 00:29:21.299 --> 00:29:23.279 I guess. I'm like, I don't know if we're really 00:29:23.279 --> 00:29:25.700 teaching him anything good here, but like if 00:29:25.700 --> 00:29:30.200 the tantrum is like in a poor place, like we 00:29:30.200 --> 00:29:34.539 just got to move on. Yeah. And that almost works 00:29:34.539 --> 00:29:37.180 every single time. That's crazy. Yeah. Yeah. 00:29:37.279 --> 00:29:40.849 I know. I don't know what it is. but hey it works 00:29:40.849 --> 00:29:45.329 yeah okay my next one this is a huge pet peeve 00:29:45.329 --> 00:29:50.829 of mine when colt or when my toddler says he's 00:29:50.829 --> 00:29:54.049 all done with eating and I've just started eating 00:29:54.049 --> 00:29:58.569 and then I'm like okay now I gotta I can't sit 00:29:58.569 --> 00:30:01.529 here and eat anymore we try to make Lloyd sit 00:30:01.529 --> 00:30:04.390 for a little bit yeah that's smart I mean obviously 00:30:04.390 --> 00:30:06.940 there comes a point where it's like you're still 00:30:06.940 --> 00:30:08.619 a toddler and you have, like, you're not going 00:30:08.619 --> 00:30:10.680 to sit for super long. But usually if he says 00:30:10.680 --> 00:30:12.319 he's all done, we'll be like, well, mom and dad 00:30:12.319 --> 00:30:13.759 are still eating, so why don't we wait a minute? 00:30:13.940 --> 00:30:15.980 Because half the time he keeps eating then anyways. 00:30:16.900 --> 00:30:18.900 That's smart. Not always, but half the time he'll 00:30:18.900 --> 00:30:21.819 be like, oh, well, we're still sitting here, 00:30:21.880 --> 00:30:24.819 so I might as well eat more. I probably need 00:30:24.819 --> 00:30:28.160 to do that more. I think that I've run into so 00:30:28.160 --> 00:30:30.400 many times where, like, he says he's all done 00:30:30.400 --> 00:30:32.720 and I'm like, oh, mom's still eating. And then 00:30:32.720 --> 00:30:36.960 it's like. he freaks out yeah yeah and then he'll 00:30:36.960 --> 00:30:38.960 even like the other day he chucked his plate 00:30:38.960 --> 00:30:41.519 on the ground that had so much food on it still 00:30:41.519 --> 00:30:46.279 and then i was like take a deep breath okay okay 00:30:46.279 --> 00:30:49.319 buddy we're yep okay mommy's all done right now 00:30:49.319 --> 00:30:51.680 that's not how we handle our food yeah okay yeah 00:30:51.680 --> 00:30:55.779 yeah yeah okay what's okay my next one is that 00:30:55.779 --> 00:30:59.680 the only two options seemingly for moms is either 00:31:00.319 --> 00:31:04.339 Sad beige mom or the, like, 90s primary colors. 00:31:04.920 --> 00:31:07.299 Like, there are thousands of beautiful colors 00:31:07.299 --> 00:31:10.220 in this world. Why are those – those are only 00:31:10.220 --> 00:31:12.839 two options for kids' stuff and for, like, mom's 00:31:12.839 --> 00:31:16.900 stuff. Yeah. Like, I painted Lloyd's room with, 00:31:16.980 --> 00:31:20.400 like, a mountain mural and it's very colorful. 00:31:21.140 --> 00:31:24.019 But none of them are – none of the colors are, 00:31:24.059 --> 00:31:27.339 like, traditional, like, baby colors. So I'm 00:31:27.339 --> 00:31:28.900 like, why can't this just be more of a thing? 00:31:28.960 --> 00:31:31.960 I know. Why can't toys be more aesthetically 00:31:31.960 --> 00:31:35.500 pleasing? Yeah. I completely agree with you. 00:31:35.599 --> 00:31:37.799 I'm like, I was one of those moms where I thought 00:31:37.799 --> 00:31:41.680 I'd be like the fully beige mom. And then as 00:31:41.680 --> 00:31:44.019 you just, I don't know, as I get into it, I'm 00:31:44.019 --> 00:31:46.480 like, I can't. You start to get like the toys 00:31:46.480 --> 00:31:49.420 that they like actually like and stuff. And I 00:31:49.420 --> 00:31:52.440 go, I guess. I guess we're doing all the bright, 00:31:52.579 --> 00:31:58.369 bright colors. Yep. Yeah. Okay, my next one is 00:31:58.369 --> 00:32:01.890 how much of a light sleeper I've become. Like, 00:32:01.910 --> 00:32:05.930 I've never been a heavy sleeper by any means, 00:32:05.990 --> 00:32:09.930 but after having kids, if they even, like, turn 00:32:09.930 --> 00:32:14.089 in the crib or make a little, like, squeak or 00:32:14.089 --> 00:32:16.430 anything like that, I feel like I'm, like, wide 00:32:16.430 --> 00:32:18.809 awake. Then you can't get back to sleep. Yeah, 00:32:18.809 --> 00:32:22.990 and especially, like, when Colt was a baby baby. 00:32:23.819 --> 00:32:26.160 And I just felt like I was paranoid something 00:32:26.160 --> 00:32:27.960 was going to happen in the night. So I felt like 00:32:27.960 --> 00:32:32.180 any single noise, I was looking over at the bassinet 00:32:32.180 --> 00:32:34.779 to make sure he was still breathing. I'd shine 00:32:34.779 --> 00:32:37.920 my phone light on him to see. And then that would 00:32:37.920 --> 00:32:40.759 wake him up. And I'm like, what am I doing? I've 00:32:40.759 --> 00:32:43.819 just become such a light sleeper. The other side 00:32:43.819 --> 00:32:46.119 of that, though, is I feel like I'm wide awake. 00:32:46.180 --> 00:32:49.359 But then I actually can fall asleep pretty quickly 00:32:49.359 --> 00:32:52.200 now. I think I can fall asleep. Faster now than 00:32:52.200 --> 00:32:54.940 I used to be able to. Yeah. I used to lay there 00:32:54.940 --> 00:32:57.660 for a long time and try to fall asleep and be 00:32:57.660 --> 00:33:00.059 in my thoughts and stuff. And now I'm like, I 00:33:00.059 --> 00:33:02.660 can usually fall asleep very quickly. Yeah. Yeah. 00:33:02.700 --> 00:33:05.859 That is the one nice thing about sleep deprivation. 00:33:05.960 --> 00:33:08.980 Yes. I know. Of how exhausted I am. When you 00:33:08.980 --> 00:33:12.359 get the chance to sleep, usually. Usually you 00:33:12.359 --> 00:33:14.279 can. You can. Yes. And you can sleep pretty hard. 00:33:14.339 --> 00:33:16.400 Not every time. Sometimes it's still rough. Yeah. 00:33:16.599 --> 00:33:20.910 Yep. I feel that. My next one is if you complain 00:33:20.910 --> 00:33:23.990 about anything in motherhood, everyone just assumes 00:33:23.990 --> 00:33:27.089 you hate being a mom. Yes. Yes. Which isn't true. 00:33:27.150 --> 00:33:29.089 And, like, it's crazy because there are so many 00:33:29.089 --> 00:33:30.849 other things in life that, like, if you complain 00:33:30.849 --> 00:33:32.329 about one part of it, they're like, yeah, that 00:33:32.329 --> 00:33:34.789 sucks. You know, like, if you complain about, 00:33:34.829 --> 00:33:36.569 like, a piece of your job, no one assumes you 00:33:36.569 --> 00:33:39.539 hate your job as a whole. But with motherhood, 00:33:39.559 --> 00:33:41.579 you can be like, wow, I'm really tired because 00:33:41.579 --> 00:33:43.299 I'm getting up three times a night. Yeah. Well, 00:33:43.440 --> 00:33:45.559 that's motherhood. Yeah. Like, do you just not 00:33:45.559 --> 00:33:48.839 like me? No, I love my kids. It's actually the 00:33:48.839 --> 00:33:51.480 joy of my life. I'm also just very tired and 00:33:51.480 --> 00:33:53.920 would like to take a nap. Yeah. Yeah. I know. 00:33:53.940 --> 00:33:56.140 I think there should be. I think that's such 00:33:56.140 --> 00:33:58.579 a stigma of like, you're not supposed to complain 00:33:58.579 --> 00:34:01.880 in motherhood. And, like, I get also you don't 00:34:01.880 --> 00:34:03.539 want to go to the other extreme where all of 00:34:03.539 --> 00:34:04.759 a sudden you're complaining about everything 00:34:04.759 --> 00:34:07.420 to the point where you're losing the joy of motherhood. 00:34:07.619 --> 00:34:10.039 Yeah. But just, like, having, like, complaints 00:34:10.039 --> 00:34:11.920 every once in a while or frustrations, like, 00:34:11.960 --> 00:34:14.780 doesn't mean you hate everything. No. It's just, 00:34:14.780 --> 00:34:17.500 like, sometimes it's a hard day. Yeah. And just, 00:34:17.519 --> 00:34:19.099 like, if you weren't a mom, you'd have a hard 00:34:19.099 --> 00:34:22.300 day and no one would think twice about it, you 00:34:22.300 --> 00:34:26.340 know? Mm -hmm. That's so true. Okay. My next 00:34:26.340 --> 00:34:30.000 one is laundry. And I know I'm pretty sure I've 00:34:30.000 --> 00:34:32.099 talked about this multiple times on the podcast, 00:34:32.199 --> 00:34:35.800 but laundry is my biggest pet peeve and it's 00:34:35.800 --> 00:34:40.619 only growing. I hate doing laundry. Like if I 00:34:40.619 --> 00:34:44.440 could pay someone to come do my laundry for me, 00:34:44.539 --> 00:34:48.000 I think it'd be an easy sell. It really would 00:34:48.000 --> 00:34:50.619 because the laundry in our house is so neglected. 00:34:51.420 --> 00:34:55.269 Thankfully, we have like enough clothes to. really 00:34:55.269 --> 00:34:57.730 probably make it work for a couple weeks without 00:34:57.730 --> 00:35:02.429 doing laundry but if I neglect the laundry like 00:35:02.429 --> 00:35:04.769 if I don't do one consistent load of laundry 00:35:04.769 --> 00:35:08.309 almost every single day it just stacks up so 00:35:08.309 --> 00:35:10.090 quickly and I'm like how the heck are we going 00:35:10.090 --> 00:35:13.389 through so many clothes yeah so many towels sheets 00:35:13.389 --> 00:35:17.250 all the things it just it never ends and I hate 00:35:17.250 --> 00:35:20.010 that it's a chore that never ends that is yeah 00:35:20.010 --> 00:35:22.289 it's like never satisfying because there's always 00:35:22.289 --> 00:35:25.130 something yeah Also, Zayda keeps farting, so 00:35:25.130 --> 00:35:26.789 I don't know what's picked up on the mic. I heard 00:35:26.789 --> 00:35:32.670 that one. Yes. I love it. Good job. Yeah. Laundry, 00:35:32.670 --> 00:35:35.250 I can usually get all of it washed in one day. 00:35:35.369 --> 00:35:38.269 Yeah. But then it sits in a basket. And any time 00:35:38.269 --> 00:35:40.449 I'm able to get it folded in the same week, I'm 00:35:40.449 --> 00:35:43.420 like, wow, that took so little time. Yeah. It's 00:35:43.420 --> 00:35:45.940 really the putting it away for me. Yeah. I think 00:35:45.940 --> 00:35:49.380 that step is the hardest part for me is the like, 00:35:49.480 --> 00:35:51.780 okay, I'll fold it. You just like throw it in 00:35:51.780 --> 00:35:53.539 and walk away and that's not a big deal. Yeah. 00:35:53.579 --> 00:35:55.400 And that actually makes me feel really good when 00:35:55.400 --> 00:35:57.019 I'm like switching something over to the dryer. 00:35:57.139 --> 00:35:59.380 I'm like, it's a little bit like dopamine. Yes. 00:35:59.500 --> 00:36:02.139 I like check something off the list, but then 00:36:02.139 --> 00:36:03.900 it's like, yeah, that's the putting it away. 00:36:03.980 --> 00:36:06.400 So I have, I think right now I have like three 00:36:06.400 --> 00:36:09.199 loads of laundry that are all clean, ready to 00:36:09.199 --> 00:36:12.070 go. I just need to put them away. And I just 00:36:12.070 --> 00:36:14.289 can't seem to find the energy to do it. One thing 00:36:14.289 --> 00:36:17.329 I heard that I was like super judgy of at first 00:36:17.329 --> 00:36:19.750 and then I started doing it is for baby clothes, 00:36:19.849 --> 00:36:22.269 just don't fold them. Yes. Okay. I've seen so 00:36:22.269 --> 00:36:24.070 many things about that recently. And I was like 00:36:24.070 --> 00:36:25.969 super judgy at first because with Lloyd, I always 00:36:25.969 --> 00:36:28.110 folded all of his clothes. And then one day I 00:36:28.110 --> 00:36:30.769 like looked in his drawer and realized that even 00:36:30.769 --> 00:36:32.630 when I fold it, nothing's folded in the drawer 00:36:32.630 --> 00:36:34.769 because you're looking for like the one onesie 00:36:34.769 --> 00:36:36.610 that you want to put on him or whatever. And 00:36:36.610 --> 00:36:38.090 you move everything around and then everything 00:36:38.090 --> 00:36:40.329 gets unfolded. So after that, I was kind of like, 00:36:40.429 --> 00:36:44.300 oh. nothing's folded in his drawer anyways, so 00:36:44.300 --> 00:36:47.239 why am I taking the time? And especially for 00:36:47.239 --> 00:36:49.380 stuff like pajamas, too. You know, there are 00:36:49.380 --> 00:36:51.300 some shirts and stuff that are worth, you know, 00:36:51.320 --> 00:36:52.940 you want to keep it looking nicer or whatever. 00:36:53.360 --> 00:36:55.260 So for the kids' clothes, I don't fold it. I 00:36:55.260 --> 00:36:56.699 just throw it in their drawers, and that has 00:36:56.699 --> 00:36:58.679 made a huge difference. That has changed your 00:36:58.679 --> 00:37:01.380 life. Yeah, that's so smart. I haven't gotten 00:37:01.380 --> 00:37:04.119 to that point yet. I love the idea behind it. 00:37:04.750 --> 00:37:07.809 And I've also seen like when your kids get a 00:37:07.809 --> 00:37:09.730 little bit older, having like specific laundry 00:37:09.730 --> 00:37:12.570 baskets for them where you just like you throw 00:37:12.570 --> 00:37:15.210 the clothes in and then they have to like they 00:37:15.210 --> 00:37:17.369 can fold it if they want or they can like they 00:37:17.369 --> 00:37:19.789 can put it pretty much wherever they want. Right. 00:37:19.889 --> 00:37:23.590 And I like that idea, too, of like having them 00:37:23.590 --> 00:37:25.889 do a little bit of the cleanup as well. Yeah. 00:37:26.590 --> 00:37:28.849 Yeah. Laundry. Laundry is going to be the death 00:37:28.849 --> 00:37:32.170 of me. I feel it. I think it's going to happen. 00:37:33.789 --> 00:37:36.909 One of the, again, that's one thing I think actually 00:37:36.909 --> 00:37:39.050 for me, I think it'd be dishes. If I could hire 00:37:39.050 --> 00:37:40.929 someone to do one thing, it'd be dishes. I could 00:37:40.929 --> 00:37:42.710 probably do laundry if I didn't have to worry 00:37:42.710 --> 00:37:48.449 about dishes. Okay. My next one is people doing 00:37:48.449 --> 00:37:50.489 things that they're trying to be helpful, but 00:37:50.489 --> 00:37:52.349 it's like kind of not in their responsibility 00:37:52.349 --> 00:37:57.329 to do and not in a situation like if it's a safety 00:37:57.329 --> 00:37:59.289 thing and you're like making sure my kid doesn't 00:37:59.289 --> 00:38:01.269 get hurt. Totally different. Right. Like super 00:38:01.269 --> 00:38:04.900 appreciative. But, like, if I don't really know 00:38:04.900 --> 00:38:06.480 you and you're trying to, like, help my kid with 00:38:06.480 --> 00:38:10.039 their water or, you know, something like that 00:38:10.039 --> 00:38:12.860 where it's, like – Yep. It just – I guess it's, 00:38:12.920 --> 00:38:14.139 like, a boundary thing where it's, like, you're 00:38:14.139 --> 00:38:15.820 kind of overstepping a boundary. Like, you didn't 00:38:15.820 --> 00:38:18.059 offer to help. You just, like, tried to step 00:38:18.059 --> 00:38:20.920 up, which, like, it makes me sound just so ungrateful 00:38:20.920 --> 00:38:23.320 when I say that. But then there's, like, different 00:38:23.320 --> 00:38:25.559 levels of it, too, where there's times when it's, 00:38:25.579 --> 00:38:27.679 like, you're not the parent. So, like – This 00:38:27.679 --> 00:38:29.900 isn't really your role unless I ask you to do 00:38:29.900 --> 00:38:34.019 X, Y, or Z. Yeah. So people like who I know the 00:38:34.019 --> 00:38:36.179 heart is good. They're like trying to be helpful 00:38:36.179 --> 00:38:39.780 and be supportive. But when it's like this isn't 00:38:39.780 --> 00:38:41.719 your job right now. Yeah. And I didn't ask you 00:38:41.719 --> 00:38:43.960 to do it. Yeah. And again, like if it's a safety 00:38:43.960 --> 00:38:46.579 issue, that's totally different. I, you know. 00:38:46.599 --> 00:38:50.550 Do you find yourself like trying to. correct 00:38:50.550 --> 00:38:53.170 the situation in the moment or are you just like 00:38:53.170 --> 00:38:55.510 kind of watch and like I think it depends on 00:38:55.510 --> 00:38:57.949 who it is it's like if it's someone I don't know 00:38:57.949 --> 00:38:59.630 as well then I think it's easier to be like oh 00:38:59.630 --> 00:39:01.789 like generally they're not doing anything huge 00:39:01.789 --> 00:39:03.349 and I can just be like oh he doesn't need help 00:39:03.349 --> 00:39:06.619 with that or you know I got it or whatever I 00:39:06.619 --> 00:39:09.280 think if it's someone I know better, that's almost 00:39:09.280 --> 00:39:11.820 harder to correct them then because there's a 00:39:11.820 --> 00:39:13.380 relationship there that you care about and you 00:39:13.380 --> 00:39:15.920 don't want that to be like a point of tension. 00:39:16.460 --> 00:39:18.260 Especially if they like have kids themselves 00:39:18.260 --> 00:39:21.579 or have raised kids. Right. You're like, they, 00:39:21.719 --> 00:39:24.059 I mean, they have some knowledge. Right. And 00:39:24.059 --> 00:39:25.699 I'm not even necessarily correcting you because 00:39:25.699 --> 00:39:26.960 you're doing something wrong. You're just doing 00:39:26.960 --> 00:39:29.019 something, maybe not doing something the way 00:39:29.019 --> 00:39:30.559 that we're going to do it or something like that. 00:39:30.679 --> 00:39:32.519 Yeah. So I think if it's someone I'm closer to, 00:39:32.559 --> 00:39:34.380 it does depend on the situation where I kind 00:39:34.380 --> 00:39:36.949 of like weigh it like. Is this worth bringing 00:39:36.949 --> 00:39:39.230 up? And sometimes it is. It's like, hey, this 00:39:39.230 --> 00:39:43.250 is a boundary that is, you know, not okay for 00:39:43.250 --> 00:39:45.650 you to cross. And here's why. And then other 00:39:45.650 --> 00:39:48.369 times I kind of just have to be like, okay. Yeah. 00:39:48.690 --> 00:39:51.429 You know, I just need to. get over myself maybe 00:39:51.429 --> 00:39:53.409 isn't even the right way to put it but just like 00:39:53.409 --> 00:39:56.030 yeah let it go like this isn't as big of a deal 00:39:56.030 --> 00:39:58.210 as i'm making it my head as long as it's not 00:39:58.210 --> 00:40:00.750 hurting my child right or if it like not life 00:40:00.750 --> 00:40:02.789 -altering right or if it comes up consistently 00:40:02.789 --> 00:40:05.469 then i might say something like hey you know 00:40:05.469 --> 00:40:07.349 this isn't how we're doing things or like i appreciate 00:40:07.349 --> 00:40:08.989 that you're trying to help whatever yeah but 00:40:08.989 --> 00:40:11.570 if it's like a one -time thing then it's not 00:40:11.570 --> 00:40:16.719 a big deal yeah yeah Okay, my last one is kind 00:40:16.719 --> 00:40:19.460 of more on the serious side, like a pet peeve, 00:40:19.460 --> 00:40:22.780 internal pet peeve, is that I feel like I still 00:40:22.780 --> 00:40:25.920 maybe don't know who I am. I know it's like the 00:40:25.920 --> 00:40:29.159 hormonal shift and everything like that and just 00:40:29.159 --> 00:40:31.820 becoming a mother, but you're almost expected 00:40:31.820 --> 00:40:34.539 to get back to like your normal routine and normal 00:40:34.539 --> 00:40:38.280 life, work, everything. And life is just different. 00:40:38.400 --> 00:40:42.500 And like my mindset is just different. Who I 00:40:42.500 --> 00:40:44.599 am is different, but the world has stayed the 00:40:44.599 --> 00:40:47.360 same, I guess. And there's not really anything 00:40:47.360 --> 00:40:50.699 I can do about it, I don't think, other than 00:40:50.699 --> 00:40:53.559 the fact that it's just frustrating to me. Do 00:40:53.559 --> 00:40:55.599 you feel like it was worse this time than it 00:40:55.599 --> 00:40:59.800 was with Colt? No. Yeah. No, I think the first, 00:40:59.940 --> 00:41:03.219 like, going from zero to one was worse because 00:41:03.219 --> 00:41:08.579 it just was an entire life shift. Yeah. And then, 00:41:08.599 --> 00:41:11.170 like... I had a C -section, so that was just 00:41:11.170 --> 00:41:15.590 like a long recovery. And the hormonal drop was 00:41:15.590 --> 00:41:18.389 like something I'd never experienced before. 00:41:19.110 --> 00:41:22.570 And then you just, like my husband only had two 00:41:22.570 --> 00:41:25.650 weeks of paternity leave. And so it just was 00:41:25.650 --> 00:41:30.909 a huge, everything changed. Right. And so in 00:41:30.909 --> 00:41:33.030 that I was like, it almost was like an identity 00:41:33.030 --> 00:41:36.670 crisis, I feel like. Yeah. And I don't know if 00:41:36.670 --> 00:41:40.550 you felt that at all, but like. I, yeah, I really 00:41:40.550 --> 00:41:43.489 was like, what the heck? Like, who even am I? 00:41:43.949 --> 00:41:46.809 And this time around, I'm like, oh, I'm, I know 00:41:46.809 --> 00:41:49.949 who I am. Like, I know I'm a mom, like, but I'm 00:41:49.949 --> 00:41:54.449 also a person on my own too. So I know that in 00:41:54.449 --> 00:41:57.050 my mind, it's still just like, I don't know, 00:41:57.090 --> 00:42:00.309 hormones are wild. For sure. Yeah. Yeah. It's 00:42:00.309 --> 00:42:03.170 all up and down. And I, I think that's still 00:42:03.170 --> 00:42:06.530 like four months in, hormones are still kind 00:42:06.530 --> 00:42:09.500 of all over the place. Yeah, I know there's, 00:42:09.519 --> 00:42:11.079 like, more and more studies that show the six 00:42:11.079 --> 00:42:13.960 -week thing is, like, kind of just BS, and the 00:42:13.960 --> 00:42:16.860 hormonal shift happens for, like, almost two 00:42:16.860 --> 00:42:19.219 years. Yeah. Which neither of us even got there 00:42:19.219 --> 00:42:24.340 before we had a second, so here we are. Okay, 00:42:24.480 --> 00:42:28.500 my last one is people assuming Zeta's a boy. 00:42:28.820 --> 00:42:32.280 Now, I don't put her in super girly clothes, 00:42:32.360 --> 00:42:34.940 but I also don't put, unless we're, like, At 00:42:34.940 --> 00:42:36.960 home, I'll put her in Lloyd's old pajamas or 00:42:36.960 --> 00:42:39.320 whatever. But, like, if we go in public, I don't 00:42:39.320 --> 00:42:43.320 put her in, like, masculine or boyish clothes. 00:42:43.500 --> 00:42:45.139 But it's a lot of, like, gender -neutral stuff. 00:42:45.960 --> 00:42:48.679 And I don't mind if people ask. I get it. Newborns 00:42:48.679 --> 00:42:51.599 all look pretty. You know, even just under a 00:42:51.599 --> 00:42:54.099 year, babies all kind of look the same, and it's 00:42:54.099 --> 00:42:55.800 hard to tell if they're a boy or girl. That's 00:42:55.800 --> 00:42:57.940 fine. But I've had a couple times when people, 00:42:58.019 --> 00:43:00.900 like, very confidently have, like, said she's 00:43:00.900 --> 00:43:05.480 a boy without asking, without, like, Do you say 00:43:05.480 --> 00:43:07.539 something? Are you like, she? Yeah, we'll usually 00:43:07.539 --> 00:43:10.500 correct them. No, there was one time in particular 00:43:10.500 --> 00:43:13.900 that it was at church, and there were two people 00:43:13.900 --> 00:43:16.420 we didn't know, and one of them asked, and the 00:43:16.420 --> 00:43:19.980 other one was like, oh, that's a boy. Like, answered 00:43:19.980 --> 00:43:22.400 for? Yeah, I was like, I've never even met you 00:43:22.400 --> 00:43:24.519 before. That's so funny. And you were very confidently 00:43:24.519 --> 00:43:27.380 saying that this is the boy. Oh, my gosh. So 00:43:27.380 --> 00:43:29.670 I don't mind if people ask. Again, I get babies 00:43:29.670 --> 00:43:32.070 look the same. Yeah. And again, I don't put her 00:43:32.070 --> 00:43:33.769 in lots of like pink or anything like that. No, 00:43:33.789 --> 00:43:35.610 she's wearing a cute little lemon outfit right 00:43:35.610 --> 00:43:39.889 now. Yeah. I have a story to that too. So one 00:43:39.889 --> 00:43:44.630 time we went to, I think it was Chili's. We went 00:43:44.630 --> 00:43:49.289 to Chili's and Colt was probably like seven months 00:43:49.289 --> 00:43:51.469 old or something like that. And he was in his 00:43:51.469 --> 00:43:53.869 car seat. We like carried him in, go up to the 00:43:53.869 --> 00:43:58.510 hostess and like say like two plus baby. What 00:43:58.510 --> 00:44:01.670 was so funny is that not only did she get his 00:44:01.670 --> 00:44:05.250 gender wrong, she said, does she need a kid's 00:44:05.250 --> 00:44:08.869 menu? And it's clearly. The amount of times I've 00:44:08.869 --> 00:44:12.289 had people ask that when Lloyd is like a baby. 00:44:12.409 --> 00:44:16.550 Yeah. It's crazy. I'm like, no, no, we don't. 00:44:16.550 --> 00:44:20.570 Yeah. Like still in the car seat, sleeping soundly. 00:44:21.150 --> 00:44:25.230 Also, you just called him a girl and we just 00:44:25.230 --> 00:44:29.070 had a. Great chuckle about it. Yeah. Yeah, I 00:44:29.070 --> 00:44:30.690 usually don't get offended. I'm just annoyed. 00:44:30.909 --> 00:44:34.090 Like, come on. Again, at least just ask. That's 00:44:34.090 --> 00:44:36.809 fine. I know. It's not an offensive thing to 00:44:36.809 --> 00:44:40.309 be like, sorry, is your baby a boy or a girl? 00:44:40.530 --> 00:44:42.929 Yeah. Yeah. I actually had the pediatrician, 00:44:42.929 --> 00:44:45.789 too. One of the pediatricians that we don't normally 00:44:45.789 --> 00:44:50.739 see ask me if Cruz was a girl. And I was like, 00:44:50.840 --> 00:44:54.099 oh, no, like, he's a boy. And he was like, oh, 00:44:54.119 --> 00:44:57.440 well, he's a very beautiful boy. Thank you. I 00:44:57.440 --> 00:44:59.659 was like, I think that's a compliment. It's a 00:44:59.659 --> 00:45:04.199 weird thing to say, but yes. Yeah. Did you have 00:45:04.199 --> 00:45:06.539 any more pet peeves you wanted to add in? The 00:45:06.539 --> 00:45:10.260 one other one I think I can share is when people 00:45:10.260 --> 00:45:13.659 act like they know my kids better than me. Does 00:45:13.659 --> 00:45:15.659 this happen to you ever? Uh -huh. Where people 00:45:15.659 --> 00:45:18.800 will be like, oh, like, he... He likes this. 00:45:18.820 --> 00:45:22.239 Yeah. Yeah. Or something like that. Like, I know 00:45:22.239 --> 00:45:25.780 my... I spend 24 -7 with my kids. Yes. Like, 00:45:25.900 --> 00:45:28.360 I never have a... I mean, that's not true. I 00:45:28.360 --> 00:45:31.119 do get breaks. But... Yeah. I spend more time 00:45:31.119 --> 00:45:33.699 with my kids than literally anyone else. Mm -hmm. 00:45:33.699 --> 00:45:36.239 Mm -hmm. You don't have to, like, explain things 00:45:36.239 --> 00:45:39.380 to me about them. I think the hardest part is 00:45:39.380 --> 00:45:42.039 when people, like, tell me something that I know 00:45:42.039 --> 00:45:44.199 isn't true. They'll be like, oh, people always 00:45:44.199 --> 00:45:46.460 say that, like, that Lloyd likes to be the center 00:45:46.460 --> 00:45:48.519 of attention, which I know isn't true because 00:45:48.519 --> 00:45:51.500 he gets super, like, closed up when he is the 00:45:51.500 --> 00:45:54.440 center of attention. Unless he's around family, 00:45:54.500 --> 00:45:58.019 that's a little bit different. But, yeah, they're 00:45:58.019 --> 00:45:59.579 like, oh, he just likes to be the center of attention. 00:46:00.269 --> 00:46:02.150 Like, no, he doesn't. I watch him every day. 00:46:02.230 --> 00:46:04.570 Yeah. Like, I see how he changes around people. 00:46:04.710 --> 00:46:07.170 Like, no, he doesn't. He really doesn't. He is 00:46:07.170 --> 00:46:10.889 shy. Yeah. Yes. Yeah, you've seen him. He doesn't 00:46:10.889 --> 00:46:13.309 perform. No, he doesn't. When you tell him to 00:46:13.309 --> 00:46:14.889 say something, he's going to say it on his own 00:46:14.889 --> 00:46:18.900 terms. He's not going to just do it. Yep. Well, 00:46:18.920 --> 00:46:21.760 cool. Thanks for listening to all of our pet 00:46:21.760 --> 00:46:23.559 peeves. We'd love to hear what your guys' pet 00:46:23.559 --> 00:46:26.139 peeves are in motherhood. I know we're kind of 00:46:26.139 --> 00:46:28.980 like at that toddler baby stage, but I know a 00:46:28.980 --> 00:46:31.960 lot of our listeners are like, you know, in the 00:46:31.960 --> 00:46:35.780 teen stage. Yeah. But we'd love to hear some 00:46:35.780 --> 00:46:39.340 pet peeves of yours. So we'll post on our stories 00:46:39.340 --> 00:46:42.849 the week that this comes out. Have you guys let 00:46:42.849 --> 00:46:44.530 us know what your pet peeves are. Yeah, you can 00:46:44.530 --> 00:46:46.550 share some of those. Yeah. Well, do you want 00:46:46.550 --> 00:46:50.889 to share your win of the week? Sure. So we pray 00:46:50.889 --> 00:46:54.230 before bedtime every night. And lately, Lloyd 00:46:54.230 --> 00:46:57.829 will hold Zeta's hand during prayers. And it's 00:46:57.829 --> 00:47:00.429 the cutest thing in the whole world. I love that. 00:47:00.769 --> 00:47:02.949 She doesn't really care about holding his hand 00:47:02.949 --> 00:47:04.510 yet because she doesn't really know how to use 00:47:04.510 --> 00:47:06.889 her hands yet. Yeah. But he tries to hold her 00:47:06.889 --> 00:47:09.449 hand, and so he'll hold my hand and hold Zeta's 00:47:09.449 --> 00:47:14.530 hand, and Stuart holds Lloyd, and it's so cute 00:47:14.530 --> 00:47:18.110 and so sweet. I love that. What about you? Okay, 00:47:18.150 --> 00:47:22.610 my win. So Cruz just started rolling over, and 00:47:22.610 --> 00:47:26.190 it actually happened. It was such a win. So we 00:47:26.190 --> 00:47:29.250 went on a trip to California to visit our families, 00:47:29.349 --> 00:47:33.710 and he rolled over for the first time at my mom's 00:47:33.710 --> 00:47:37.320 house. And she just was like, it just was so 00:47:37.320 --> 00:47:40.960 exciting that it happened there. And it was also 00:47:40.960 --> 00:47:43.699 so exciting that he's like, he did that. But 00:47:43.699 --> 00:47:47.179 also like just the timing of it. And it was like 00:47:47.179 --> 00:47:50.000 we were saying goodbye to my mom and my stepdad 00:47:50.000 --> 00:47:53.119 because we were leaving the next day. And then 00:47:53.119 --> 00:47:55.920 he just like rolled over and it was just really 00:47:55.920 --> 00:47:59.969 cute. Yeah, it was just good timing. And also 00:47:59.969 --> 00:48:03.269 I'm like sad that he's growing up so fast. I 00:48:03.269 --> 00:48:05.590 don't know. It felt like a big milestone. I don't 00:48:05.590 --> 00:48:08.469 know. Zeta's been sitting up like assisted. Oh, 00:48:08.469 --> 00:48:11.269 nice. We've been able to put her in like, we 00:48:11.269 --> 00:48:13.050 have a different brand, but like the bumbo seat 00:48:13.050 --> 00:48:16.590 kind of thing. And the first time I put her in 00:48:16.590 --> 00:48:18.170 it, I was like, oh, she's going to last like 00:48:18.170 --> 00:48:20.809 a minute and a half and then get so mad. And 00:48:20.809 --> 00:48:24.489 that's fine. But she sat in it for like 15 minutes 00:48:24.489 --> 00:48:27.150 the first time I put her in it. steward a picture 00:48:27.150 --> 00:48:29.650 he's like no she's not old enough to be in that 00:48:29.650 --> 00:48:32.769 yet like what the heck that's it's impossible 00:48:32.769 --> 00:48:36.170 she's just our little tiny baby i know guess 00:48:36.170 --> 00:48:37.969 it's time to have another one i guess so all 00:48:37.969 --> 00:48:42.449 right well thank you so much for listening like 00:48:42.449 --> 00:48:45.670 we said we'll put a comment box in our stories 00:48:45.670 --> 00:48:47.909 this week so you can share your pet peeves and 00:48:47.909 --> 00:48:50.050 we can maybe share some of those on instagram 00:48:50.050 --> 00:48:54.309 yeah thank you for listening Rate, review, subscribe, 00:48:54.530 --> 00:48:57.690 and like us on Instagram or follow us on Instagram. 00:48:57.829 --> 00:49:00.650 And we will see you next week. See you next week.