WEBVTT 00:00:12.720 --> 00:00:15.019 Hi everyone, welcome back to No Manual, A Mom 00:00:15.019 --> 00:00:18.239 Cast, where this is a podcast for moms to connect, 00:00:18.539 --> 00:00:21.719 hear different stories, and hear a little bit 00:00:21.719 --> 00:00:25.120 about motherhood and the... highs and lows, ups 00:00:25.120 --> 00:00:27.760 and downs. And we're all just kind of in the 00:00:27.760 --> 00:00:30.339 thick of it, of motherhood, whether you're raising 00:00:30.339 --> 00:00:33.679 a newborn, whether you're an empty nester, motherhood 00:00:33.679 --> 00:00:37.979 is a journey. So welcome back to No Manual. And 00:00:37.979 --> 00:00:40.719 today we get to, Erica and I are just chatting 00:00:40.719 --> 00:00:45.380 about what's saving our lives right now in motherhood. 00:00:45.619 --> 00:00:49.079 So we did get this idea from Kendra Adachi over 00:00:49.079 --> 00:00:51.619 at the Lazy Genius podcast, and we did get permission 00:00:51.619 --> 00:00:54.600 to use her idea. But it's just kind of a fun 00:00:54.600 --> 00:00:58.359 practice that she does of noting things in your 00:00:58.359 --> 00:01:00.679 life that are going well and are helping you 00:01:00.679 --> 00:01:03.020 get through each day. And so we thought we'd 00:01:03.020 --> 00:01:06.780 do that specifically for momming and motherhood. 00:01:06.959 --> 00:01:10.439 Yes. Well, let's start with our mom moments of 00:01:10.439 --> 00:01:14.400 the week. Do you want to go first? Sure. So every 00:01:14.400 --> 00:01:16.879 week we FaceTime my sister. She lives out of 00:01:16.879 --> 00:01:21.159 state. So we FaceTime her so she can see. quote 00:01:21.159 --> 00:01:23.219 -unquote talk to lloyd as much as he wants to 00:01:23.219 --> 00:01:24.920 talk and see the kids and we chat for a little 00:01:24.920 --> 00:01:28.239 bit and lloyd knows how to hang up facetime oh 00:01:28.239 --> 00:01:32.060 yeah so that's how he tells us that he's he's 00:01:32.060 --> 00:01:34.459 done he's over it which is nice that he's able 00:01:34.459 --> 00:01:36.920 to communicate that much usually he can't press 00:01:36.920 --> 00:01:41.439 the button on his own totally so he like I can 00:01:41.439 --> 00:01:42.819 figure it out. And then we're like, okay, let's 00:01:42.819 --> 00:01:44.719 wrap up. But this week he figured out how to 00:01:44.719 --> 00:01:46.620 do it on his own for the first time. So I'm like 00:01:46.620 --> 00:01:48.680 mid -sentence talking to my sister about whatever. 00:01:49.000 --> 00:01:51.819 And he presses it. He says, I'm done. Right. 00:01:51.879 --> 00:01:53.819 So I was like, oh, buddy, like we have to say 00:01:53.819 --> 00:01:56.060 bye before we hang up on people. So we call her 00:01:56.060 --> 00:01:58.500 back so that we can finish our conversation and 00:01:58.500 --> 00:02:02.319 say bye. And the entire time we're like calling 00:02:02.319 --> 00:02:05.950 her back. And I'm finishing talking about whatever. 00:02:06.189 --> 00:02:09.289 He's going, bye, bye, and waving at the screen. 00:02:09.710 --> 00:02:12.330 I'm all done. But he was over it. He communicated 00:02:12.330 --> 00:02:14.789 that. So hopefully now he knows and he can just 00:02:14.789 --> 00:02:17.650 say bye. That's amazing. But it was really cute 00:02:17.650 --> 00:02:20.030 and really funny. And at least he's communicating 00:02:20.030 --> 00:02:23.169 when he's done. Yes. See, I love that he's like. 00:02:24.710 --> 00:02:26.889 He communicates when he's done because Colt has 00:02:26.889 --> 00:02:28.810 figured out how to hang up, and he just thinks 00:02:28.810 --> 00:02:30.969 it's the funniest thing to hang up. So he just 00:02:30.969 --> 00:02:33.469 does it any time we call somebody. He hangs up 00:02:33.469 --> 00:02:35.430 the phone. It's the joke. The phone, FaceTime, 00:02:35.569 --> 00:02:38.289 Google Meet, whatever. He sees the red button. 00:02:38.430 --> 00:02:40.729 He's done. It's his bit. Yeah, and he laughs. 00:02:40.789 --> 00:02:45.150 He loves it. Okay, my mom moment. Erica was present 00:02:45.150 --> 00:02:48.289 for this mom moment. This was a good one. So 00:02:48.289 --> 00:02:51.530 I think it was last. It was two weeks ago. Yeah, 00:02:51.550 --> 00:02:53.629 two weeks ago. Erica and the kids came over, 00:02:53.729 --> 00:02:56.330 and both of our husbands were at a men's event 00:02:56.330 --> 00:02:59.689 at our church. And so we were like, you know, 00:02:59.729 --> 00:03:02.870 let's get together, and we can do this parenting 00:03:02.870 --> 00:03:05.909 thing together with four kids. And so Erica came 00:03:05.909 --> 00:03:09.449 over. We had a great night for the most part, 00:03:09.569 --> 00:03:13.409 ate some pizza, the kids played outside. And 00:03:13.409 --> 00:03:17.870 then it was getting close -ish to bedtime, and 00:03:17.870 --> 00:03:23.210 Colt was... digging in the soil of Michael's 00:03:23.210 --> 00:03:26.590 new garden and so I like I told him like hey 00:03:26.590 --> 00:03:28.689 buddy you can't like we can't dig in the soil 00:03:28.689 --> 00:03:33.210 and he did not like that so this whole big tantrum 00:03:33.210 --> 00:03:36.949 started and Lloyd Erica's son is just like playing 00:03:36.949 --> 00:03:40.030 so nicely in the water table and Colt is literally 00:03:40.030 --> 00:03:43.770 on the concrete having just the biggest tantrum 00:03:43.770 --> 00:03:47.509 of his life like trying to hit his head on the 00:03:47.509 --> 00:03:51.250 concrete, which is like a fairly normal thing, 00:03:51.349 --> 00:03:54.409 sadly, that he likes to do. And so I like grab 00:03:54.409 --> 00:03:57.810 Colt, go inside. I think at this point, like 00:03:57.810 --> 00:04:01.030 maybe he had pooped or no, that was a different 00:04:01.030 --> 00:04:03.550 tantrum that he had that he had pooped and didn't 00:04:03.550 --> 00:04:06.530 want his diaper changed. But at this point he's 00:04:06.530 --> 00:04:08.490 just like, I was like, I just need to get him 00:04:08.490 --> 00:04:12.090 inside to like a safe surface. Not concrete. 00:04:12.210 --> 00:04:14.650 Yeah. I'd appreciate it not to be concrete. So 00:04:14.650 --> 00:04:18.139 I like. Carried him inside. I think I put him 00:04:18.139 --> 00:04:21.360 on the couch and he like moved down to the ground. 00:04:21.399 --> 00:04:24.759 And he's just, I swear this is probably one of 00:04:24.759 --> 00:04:28.600 the biggest tantrums that he's had. Because this 00:04:28.600 --> 00:04:30.740 whole thing was going on. Erica ends up like 00:04:30.740 --> 00:04:34.899 getting Lloyd changed. Because he was also soaked 00:04:34.899 --> 00:04:36.259 from the water table. Yeah, soaked from the water 00:04:36.259 --> 00:04:39.540 table. also colt and lloyd were pouring water 00:04:39.540 --> 00:04:43.000 on each other yes yeah yeah and so erica like 00:04:43.000 --> 00:04:46.920 changes lloyd gets zeta like in her car seat 00:04:46.920 --> 00:04:50.439 packs up like they end up leaving colt is still 00:04:50.439 --> 00:04:53.100 having this terrible tantrum poor lloyd is just 00:04:53.100 --> 00:04:57.439 like staring at colt like wow like what is happening 00:04:57.439 --> 00:04:59.800 right now he's just like perfect little angel 00:04:59.800 --> 00:05:02.439 kid lloyd is just like i would never throw a 00:05:02.439 --> 00:05:04.379 tantrum in front of people yeah i saved that 00:05:04.379 --> 00:05:06.959 for at home yes right i know i was surprised 00:05:06.959 --> 00:05:10.480 because colt usually does not do that like in 00:05:10.480 --> 00:05:12.600 front of people but i'm like okay he must feel 00:05:12.600 --> 00:05:14.699 comfortable enough yeah i'll take that as a compliment 00:05:14.699 --> 00:05:17.779 yeah yeah that he's comfortable with us so then 00:05:17.779 --> 00:05:21.079 they proceed to leave and this it's like 7 30 00:05:21.079 --> 00:05:23.000 at this point and i'm like okay it is bedtime 00:05:23.000 --> 00:05:26.870 and i'm like trying to get Colt in his pajamas 00:05:26.870 --> 00:05:30.149 as he's, like, flailing. I'm, like, Cruz is starting 00:05:30.149 --> 00:05:34.970 to get fussy and wants to eat. And this tantrum 00:05:34.970 --> 00:05:39.790 lasted well over an hour. Yeah, I texted you. 00:05:39.790 --> 00:05:41.050 And that was a long time, yeah. And you were, 00:05:41.089 --> 00:05:43.189 like... It's still happening. You had gotten 00:05:43.189 --> 00:05:46.350 home, and you were starting to put the kids to 00:05:46.350 --> 00:05:50.149 bed. The kids to bed, yeah. And Colt was still, 00:05:50.170 --> 00:05:52.269 like, losing his mind, and I'm, like, forcing 00:05:52.269 --> 00:05:55.540 him into his pajamas. We usually do like the 00:05:55.540 --> 00:05:59.160 two piece like long sleeve jammies and I like 00:05:59.160 --> 00:06:01.740 ended up putting him in like zip up jammies because 00:06:01.740 --> 00:06:05.560 it was just easier to like get him in. And finally, 00:06:05.600 --> 00:06:09.920 finally, I got Colt down. Honestly, I was impressed 00:06:09.920 --> 00:06:13.480 that he was just. had that energy oh yeah well 00:06:13.480 --> 00:06:16.240 when he did fall when i finally did get him in 00:06:16.240 --> 00:06:20.379 to bed and he fell asleep so quickly like usually 00:06:20.379 --> 00:06:23.079 he'll like yeah he'll like chat in his bed for 00:06:23.079 --> 00:06:26.259 a little bit he'll roll around and um but he 00:06:26.259 --> 00:06:29.560 was conked out so quick that would i mean it 00:06:29.560 --> 00:06:31.980 had to have taken every ounce of energy he had 00:06:31.980 --> 00:06:34.459 because that was a serious tantrum yeah and it 00:06:34.459 --> 00:06:36.779 lasted a long time but finally then i ended up 00:06:36.779 --> 00:06:39.759 getting cruised down to bed and i like sat on 00:06:39.759 --> 00:06:42.819 the couch and just like enjoyed some ice cream 00:06:42.819 --> 00:06:47.100 and I was like I did it survive yeah gosh it 00:06:47.100 --> 00:06:49.139 was at that and that was my first night putting 00:06:49.139 --> 00:06:51.420 the kids to bed on my own oh yeah and so it was 00:06:51.420 --> 00:06:54.620 just a doozy and I was like I do not know how 00:06:54.620 --> 00:06:56.800 people do this although is it better or worse 00:06:56.800 --> 00:06:59.339 to have your first night go terribly honestly 00:06:59.339 --> 00:07:01.399 probably better because I'm like because now 00:07:01.399 --> 00:07:03.819 maybe it can only go up from here and I'm like 00:07:03.819 --> 00:07:06.439 we survived that now everything else is gonna 00:07:07.149 --> 00:07:09.790 It's going to be better. Yeah, for reals. So 00:07:09.790 --> 00:07:14.529 there's my mom moment. But yeah. All right. Should 00:07:14.529 --> 00:07:19.269 we hop into? Yeah. Okay. So what's saving my 00:07:19.269 --> 00:07:23.009 life right now? I have some more like more important 00:07:23.009 --> 00:07:26.149 ones down the line. But the first thing that 00:07:26.149 --> 00:07:29.389 popped into my mind was my morning coffee and 00:07:29.389 --> 00:07:32.170 my afternoon diet Coke. I feel that for sure. 00:07:32.350 --> 00:07:36.490 So pretty much every morning. We'll go and get 00:07:36.490 --> 00:07:39.670 coffee somewhere or I'll make coffee at home. 00:07:39.730 --> 00:07:43.069 But a Dutch Bros just opened up like less than 00:07:43.069 --> 00:07:46.209 a mile from our house. And we've been waiting 00:07:46.209 --> 00:07:48.930 like we've seen it being built. And it finally 00:07:48.930 --> 00:07:52.589 opened up like a week ago. And you have a new 00:07:52.589 --> 00:07:56.350 Starbucks right there too. Yep. And so every 00:07:56.350 --> 00:07:58.730 single morning I've pretty much gone to Dutch 00:07:58.730 --> 00:08:02.629 Bros. And then my afternoon Diet Coke is like. 00:08:03.079 --> 00:08:05.779 If I could just crack open a cold Diet Coke at 00:08:05.779 --> 00:08:09.540 like 1 p .m., that is like, oh my gosh, that's 00:08:09.540 --> 00:08:12.740 gold. So satisfying. If it's cold and crispy, 00:08:13.000 --> 00:08:17.439 it just, yeah. Yep. Okay. How about you? What's 00:08:17.439 --> 00:08:20.339 your first one? My first one, so a little backstory. 00:08:20.500 --> 00:08:22.459 I know I've told you some of this. I don't know 00:08:22.459 --> 00:08:25.490 how much I've said on mic, but. Zeta of course 00:08:25.490 --> 00:08:27.230 was small when I was pregnant and then she was 00:08:27.230 --> 00:08:29.730 born small and then they've had like some concerns 00:08:29.730 --> 00:08:32.070 about her growth because it's kind of fluctuated 00:08:32.070 --> 00:08:33.649 where it's like one week she'll be growing fine 00:08:33.649 --> 00:08:35.690 and then the next week she'll grow like one ounce 00:08:35.690 --> 00:08:38.629 and it's been all over the place um but I've 00:08:38.629 --> 00:08:41.570 I have a lactation consultant who's been just 00:08:41.570 --> 00:08:45.710 amazing and it's been so nice of like It like 00:08:45.710 --> 00:08:48.649 very much feels like she's on my team and every 00:08:48.649 --> 00:08:50.450 appointment it's like, okay, here's our plan 00:08:50.450 --> 00:08:52.029 going forward. This is what we're going to try 00:08:52.029 --> 00:08:54.450 this week. See if it works. See if she gains 00:08:54.450 --> 00:08:56.269 the amount that she needs to or like make sure 00:08:56.269 --> 00:08:58.389 she's eating enough, all of that. So that's just 00:08:58.389 --> 00:09:02.179 been huge to like have someone who. knows way 00:09:02.179 --> 00:09:04.240 more than me and can like give me the information 00:09:04.240 --> 00:09:07.759 I need to know when, like when I actually need 00:09:07.759 --> 00:09:10.019 to panic. And when it's like, ah, that's a little 00:09:10.019 --> 00:09:11.580 bit of a concern, keep an eye on it, but not 00:09:11.580 --> 00:09:14.620 like panic yet and all of that. And just to like 00:09:14.620 --> 00:09:17.440 get on track and feel supported. Yeah. It gives 00:09:17.440 --> 00:09:19.720 you reassurance that everything's okay. So that's 00:09:19.720 --> 00:09:21.179 been super good. Yeah. If you're in the area 00:09:21.179 --> 00:09:23.179 and need a lactation consultant, I would definitely 00:09:23.179 --> 00:09:25.659 recommend her. So you can message me if you need 00:09:25.659 --> 00:09:28.059 one. That's awesome. But she's been super great 00:09:28.059 --> 00:09:32.409 and just supportive. And Zeta's growing, so that's 00:09:32.409 --> 00:09:35.570 what we need. Yep. That's been it. So that's 00:09:35.570 --> 00:09:38.629 the first thing. That's awesome. Okay, my next 00:09:38.629 --> 00:09:43.389 one, honestly, probably the most important, if 00:09:43.389 --> 00:09:46.129 not the second most important one, is my husband. 00:09:46.590 --> 00:09:50.590 He is saving my life right now. All power to 00:09:50.590 --> 00:09:53.570 all the single moms out there, but I do not know 00:09:53.570 --> 00:09:56.840 how. I could not do this. I don't know how they 00:09:56.840 --> 00:10:02.759 do it. No, no. My husband is so patient and so 00:10:02.759 --> 00:10:07.379 gentle and just so fun with, especially with 00:10:07.379 --> 00:10:12.820 our toddler. And he knows and knows exactly what 00:10:12.820 --> 00:10:14.980 I need, especially in those times of stress. 00:10:15.080 --> 00:10:17.980 And with him, he went back to work this week. 00:10:18.139 --> 00:10:21.779 And when he gets home from work, he like. takes 00:10:21.779 --> 00:10:26.080 colt to the park or on an errand or like just 00:10:26.080 --> 00:10:29.500 to give me a moment to breathe after and that 00:10:29.500 --> 00:10:33.759 in itself like has helped me survive each day 00:10:33.759 --> 00:10:37.500 and yeah and he like helps in the night and i 00:10:37.500 --> 00:10:40.740 don't know how i could do it i i couldn't do 00:10:40.740 --> 00:10:44.370 it without him Yeah. Every night that Stuart 00:10:44.370 --> 00:10:46.230 is like gone for something, like evening that 00:10:46.230 --> 00:10:48.169 Stuart's gone and I do like bedtime by myself 00:10:48.169 --> 00:10:51.190 or something like that. I'm like, I, again, I 00:10:51.190 --> 00:10:52.929 literally don't know how a single mom does it. 00:10:52.970 --> 00:10:56.570 I couldn't do it by myself because the one night 00:10:56.570 --> 00:11:00.470 a week that I do have to do bedtime and everything 00:11:00.470 --> 00:11:03.549 by myself is rough and it's exhausting. Yeah. 00:11:04.110 --> 00:11:06.350 you'll have sure all right my next one is nice 00:11:06.350 --> 00:11:08.850 weather it's been really nice lately gosh that's 00:11:08.850 --> 00:11:12.009 one of mine too even the days like because we've 00:11:12.009 --> 00:11:13.990 had some rainy days but even on those days it's 00:11:13.990 --> 00:11:15.730 nice enough to like open the windows in the house 00:11:15.730 --> 00:11:18.049 so you get fresh air and it's not like freezing 00:11:18.049 --> 00:11:20.370 rain yeah but then the last few days have been 00:11:20.370 --> 00:11:23.330 like nice enough to go to the park or go on a 00:11:23.330 --> 00:11:26.509 walk and just how big a difference it makes to 00:11:27.100 --> 00:11:29.059 A, even just have fresh air in the house. I don't 00:11:29.059 --> 00:11:31.320 know what that is. That puts everyone in such 00:11:31.320 --> 00:11:33.580 a better mood. But to be able to get to the park 00:11:33.580 --> 00:11:38.679 and go on walks and be out of the house is huge, 00:11:38.799 --> 00:11:40.279 especially when everyone's losing their mind. 00:11:40.299 --> 00:11:42.480 It's like, okay, we're all just going to go outside 00:11:42.480 --> 00:11:45.559 and then you can run, you know, Lloyd can run 00:11:45.559 --> 00:11:48.860 around in an appropriate space and not break 00:11:48.860 --> 00:11:51.620 everything in our house. And I'm happier because 00:11:51.620 --> 00:11:54.639 I'm getting sunshine. Yeah. all of that. Yeah. 00:11:54.860 --> 00:11:57.100 That's, that's actually one of mine too. And 00:11:57.100 --> 00:12:00.340 I don't know if you feel this way. I mean, we 00:12:00.340 --> 00:12:03.519 have, so we have like a fenced in backyard and 00:12:03.519 --> 00:12:07.019 I don't know what it is about being outside. 00:12:07.340 --> 00:12:10.799 I feel like I don't have to supervise Colt as 00:12:10.799 --> 00:12:13.700 much being outside as compared to inside. And 00:12:13.700 --> 00:12:15.799 I don't know if it's like, cause we have stairs 00:12:15.799 --> 00:12:19.860 in our house and like, who knows? He like likes 00:12:19.860 --> 00:12:22.960 to climb under or go under our bed and just like, 00:12:23.360 --> 00:12:26.120 I don't know. He's just a, he can be like a terror 00:12:26.120 --> 00:12:28.480 in the house. But when he's outside, he like 00:12:28.480 --> 00:12:31.259 does his fun, like he'll play at the water table. 00:12:31.320 --> 00:12:33.899 Then he'll play with his like little bubble lawnmower. 00:12:33.980 --> 00:12:37.200 It almost just feels like there's an energy that 00:12:37.200 --> 00:12:40.460 can only be gotten out outside. That when you're 00:12:40.460 --> 00:12:42.460 in the house, it just like turns into havoc. 00:12:42.960 --> 00:12:44.960 Yeah. Cause yeah, I kind of feel the same way. 00:12:44.980 --> 00:12:47.500 Even just like going to the playground where 00:12:47.500 --> 00:12:49.220 I'm like, I know you can get hurt climbing on 00:12:49.220 --> 00:12:51.480 things. Like obviously I don't want him to get 00:12:51.480 --> 00:12:55.029 hurt. but it feels less dangerous than him climbing 00:12:55.029 --> 00:12:57.730 on certain things in our house or going up and 00:12:57.730 --> 00:12:59.909 down the stairs by himself. Maybe it's because 00:12:59.909 --> 00:13:02.870 there's a level of I know that he's aware it's 00:13:02.870 --> 00:13:06.730 more dangerous. I know I heard something a while 00:13:06.730 --> 00:13:09.909 ago about how we need to let kids do dangerous 00:13:09.909 --> 00:13:14.649 things safely so that they learn to handle climbing 00:13:14.649 --> 00:13:17.570 up things and doing stuff like that. And a playground 00:13:17.570 --> 00:13:20.230 is more of that energy or just being outside 00:13:20.230 --> 00:13:22.950 is like, okay. you're aware that you can get 00:13:22.950 --> 00:13:24.590 hurt more yeah i don't know if that's what it 00:13:24.590 --> 00:13:26.870 is but yeah i definitely feel you on that one 00:13:26.870 --> 00:13:30.690 yeah okay what's your next one since i also had 00:13:30.690 --> 00:13:35.629 nice weather so my next one is it's a chat gbt 00:13:35.629 --> 00:13:39.570 so you recommended this for meal planning which 00:13:39.570 --> 00:13:43.350 as mom has made a huge difference and then stewart 00:13:43.350 --> 00:13:46.940 had this idea the other day and it's game -changing 00:13:46.940 --> 00:13:49.559 because it was a rainy day we were both tired 00:13:49.559 --> 00:13:51.240 we're like we can't really get out you know it's 00:13:51.240 --> 00:13:52.879 way too rainy and muddy to like really go to 00:13:52.879 --> 00:13:55.740 a park it's also i think it was a sunday so it's 00:13:55.740 --> 00:13:57.960 like everything's closed like you can't go to 00:13:57.960 --> 00:14:00.039 the you know the museum or anything like that 00:14:00.039 --> 00:14:03.779 so we just looked up like educational activities 00:14:03.779 --> 00:14:07.740 for an 18 to 24 month old and then chat gpt's 00:14:07.740 --> 00:14:10.139 like here are my recommend recommendations do 00:14:10.139 --> 00:14:12.419 you want like more this way more that way and 00:14:12.419 --> 00:14:15.370 so then i was like What are things that I have 00:14:15.370 --> 00:14:18.169 in my, you know, using household items. And it 00:14:18.169 --> 00:14:20.669 gave me like four different options. That's awesome. 00:14:21.070 --> 00:14:24.289 Of just activities to do for Lloyd. And all of 00:14:24.289 --> 00:14:26.070 them were, or at least the ones that we did, 00:14:26.149 --> 00:14:29.090 kept him entertained for a while. And it was 00:14:29.090 --> 00:14:31.789 way easier than just like trying to survive. 00:14:32.919 --> 00:14:34.740 You know, it's different than stuff we normally 00:14:34.740 --> 00:14:37.639 do, so he's excited about it. That's cool. Yeah, 00:14:37.659 --> 00:14:39.480 so, like, one of the ones we did is we got the 00:14:39.480 --> 00:14:41.799 muffin tin out and put, like, different things 00:14:41.799 --> 00:14:43.799 in the different spots for him to move around. 00:14:43.940 --> 00:14:46.320 He didn't quite understand, like, categorizing 00:14:46.320 --> 00:14:48.860 it. Yeah. But he, like, was definitely interested. 00:14:49.080 --> 00:14:51.980 Yeah. Yeah, so that is my recommendation right 00:14:51.980 --> 00:14:54.179 now. Okay, that's cool. I'm going to use that. 00:14:54.860 --> 00:14:57.799 That's awesome because I feel like we do, like, 00:14:57.820 --> 00:14:59.600 the same thing every day, especially when it's, 00:14:59.620 --> 00:15:02.460 like, we're at home for the day. Yeah. And I'm 00:15:02.460 --> 00:15:04.840 like, I don't feel like I'm one of those moms 00:15:04.840 --> 00:15:07.980 that's like, I have a nice sensory activity ready 00:15:07.980 --> 00:15:13.059 for you after each nap. Right. Yeah. But if it's 00:15:13.059 --> 00:15:14.620 easy, then I'm great. I have a balance of like, 00:15:14.720 --> 00:15:16.960 I want him to be bored to a certain extent because 00:15:16.960 --> 00:15:19.340 there's a certain amount of healthy boredom. 00:15:19.340 --> 00:15:21.559 But then there comes a point where like, you 00:15:21.559 --> 00:15:23.980 need an activity because also you're making me 00:15:23.980 --> 00:15:27.259 crazy because you're causing chaos in the house 00:15:27.259 --> 00:15:29.720 for whatever reason. Yeah. So yeah, so Stuart 00:15:29.720 --> 00:15:31.320 came up with that idea the other day and I was 00:15:31.320 --> 00:15:33.059 like, I will be using this all the time now. 00:15:33.279 --> 00:15:35.980 Yes, that's cool. What's your next one? Okay, 00:15:36.019 --> 00:15:38.759 my next one is Target pickup orders and Amazon 00:15:38.759 --> 00:15:43.679 Prime. And I feel like I'm just not in my days 00:15:43.679 --> 00:15:46.659 of like going and wandering around Target anymore. 00:15:46.980 --> 00:15:50.879 Yeah. But the convenience of Target pickup order 00:15:50.879 --> 00:15:54.539 and Amazon Prime obviously has always been convenient, 00:15:54.620 --> 00:15:57.299 but... I feel like Target pickup order, especially 00:15:57.299 --> 00:16:00.440 for like groceries. I mean, most grocery stores 00:16:00.440 --> 00:16:04.240 do like you could do pickup and, you know, they 00:16:04.240 --> 00:16:07.480 bring it out to your car. But the other day I 00:16:07.480 --> 00:16:10.840 was home alone with the kids and we needed some 00:16:10.840 --> 00:16:12.899 groceries. So I put in my Target pickup order, 00:16:13.059 --> 00:16:16.919 loaded up the kids and we were home like we were 00:16:16.919 --> 00:16:20.059 gone for 20 minutes total. And I just felt like 00:16:20.059 --> 00:16:24.509 such a like a such a bad mom, actually. I was 00:16:24.509 --> 00:16:28.509 like, you know, my kids survived and I went grocery 00:16:28.509 --> 00:16:31.710 shopping. That's huge. I was like, this is great. 00:16:32.289 --> 00:16:35.029 And with Amazon Prime, we live close to a fulfillment 00:16:35.029 --> 00:16:37.830 center, so you can blink and you're like, how 00:16:37.830 --> 00:16:40.029 did this get here this quickly? Yep. If you need 00:16:40.029 --> 00:16:42.340 it. Yep. exactly i've definitely i think i've 00:16:42.340 --> 00:16:44.259 done that with cold medicine specifically for 00:16:44.259 --> 00:16:46.940 lloyd i'm like the groceries i either don't want 00:16:46.940 --> 00:16:48.559 to go to the grocery store or they're out of 00:16:48.559 --> 00:16:51.379 it amazon's actually quicker than amazon's quicker 00:16:51.379 --> 00:16:54.559 they're gonna get it here by 5 p .m yep exactly 00:16:54.559 --> 00:16:59.720 yep so yeah all right my next one is it goes 00:16:59.720 --> 00:17:01.600 hand in hand with the nice weather actually is 00:17:01.600 --> 00:17:04.440 i try to get outside almost every day some days 00:17:04.440 --> 00:17:07.190 obviously it doesn't happen but Whether it's 00:17:07.190 --> 00:17:09.450 going to a park, going on a walk, or just, like, 00:17:09.450 --> 00:17:13.210 sitting on our patio. Lloyd has a little basketball 00:17:13.210 --> 00:17:15.009 that he's obsessed with right now, so we'll just, 00:17:15.089 --> 00:17:17.650 like, bounce out on the patio sometimes or blow 00:17:17.650 --> 00:17:21.029 bubbles. You know, it's never, like, a really 00:17:21.029 --> 00:17:23.529 exciting, fun event. You know, the park is probably 00:17:23.529 --> 00:17:26.190 as exciting as we get. But just getting outside 00:17:26.190 --> 00:17:30.329 every day or most days, again, it does wonders 00:17:30.329 --> 00:17:34.269 for my mood. Lloyd has energy that he can get 00:17:34.269 --> 00:17:37.109 out. He likes getting outside. You know, I think 00:17:37.109 --> 00:17:39.190 it's good for all of us. So that's been really 00:17:39.190 --> 00:17:43.329 good. That's great. My next one is Tuesday childcare. 00:17:43.730 --> 00:17:50.769 So Colt goes to childcare at, we call her Mimi, 00:17:50.990 --> 00:17:54.569 at Mimi's house on Tuesdays for, he goes for 00:17:54.569 --> 00:17:59.529 like six hours. And I, it's actually been so 00:17:59.529 --> 00:18:04.000 good for Colt. So good for me to feel like I 00:18:04.000 --> 00:18:07.839 can reset for the week. Not only mentally, but 00:18:07.839 --> 00:18:11.900 I like I try to reset my house in that time and 00:18:11.900 --> 00:18:15.420 maybe even try to get a nap in or a shower and 00:18:15.420 --> 00:18:19.099 like make the bed and some laundry folded and 00:18:19.099 --> 00:18:22.420 put away. But Tuesday child care has been like 00:18:22.420 --> 00:18:26.559 a saving almost. Yeah, it's been a saving grace 00:18:26.559 --> 00:18:30.799 for me and something to look forward to. All 00:18:30.799 --> 00:18:33.539 that to say, like, I love my time with Colt, 00:18:33.539 --> 00:18:37.160 but it is healthy for me to have a little bit 00:18:37.160 --> 00:18:41.680 of time separate from him, too, just for me to 00:18:41.680 --> 00:18:44.960 mentally reset and then for us to, like, go into 00:18:44.960 --> 00:18:47.160 the rest of the week with a more positive attitude. 00:18:47.640 --> 00:18:50.759 Yeah. I know I had, like, a couple weeks ago, 00:18:50.779 --> 00:18:53.559 I just had, like, an event to go to with my mom. 00:18:55.279 --> 00:18:57.680 I was gone for like five hours or something like 00:18:57.680 --> 00:18:59.720 that and came back and I was like, oh, I want 00:18:59.720 --> 00:19:01.819 to play with you. Yeah. This is crazy. Like, 00:19:01.859 --> 00:19:03.740 I mean, not that I don't want to play with him 00:19:03.740 --> 00:19:06.019 on a daily basis, but the energy is just different. 00:19:06.059 --> 00:19:09.660 Yeah. It's kind of the absence makes the heart 00:19:09.660 --> 00:19:12.380 grow fonder kind of thing. Yeah. But yeah, I 00:19:12.380 --> 00:19:14.000 got back and I was like, I'm excited to like 00:19:14.000 --> 00:19:16.660 be silly with you and have fun. Yeah. Exactly. 00:19:16.799 --> 00:19:19.599 It does make such a huge difference. Yeah. Okay. 00:19:19.720 --> 00:19:24.750 So my next one is baking. So. Nice. I have only 00:19:24.750 --> 00:19:27.630 done this like a couple times regularly and I 00:19:27.630 --> 00:19:29.910 want to make it like a weekly thing where we 00:19:29.910 --> 00:19:31.910 just bake something together. Obviously, it's 00:19:31.910 --> 00:19:34.369 nothing like super exciting. The thing we did 00:19:34.369 --> 00:19:37.569 last week, we had M &M's leftover from an event. 00:19:37.569 --> 00:19:41.630 So we made M &M cookies. Nice. This week, my 00:19:41.630 --> 00:19:43.509 sister -in -law gave us a bunch of rhubarb from 00:19:43.509 --> 00:19:45.849 their garden. So we made like rhubarb oat bars. 00:19:46.150 --> 00:19:49.450 So it's all like super easy. Lloyd can just like 00:19:49.450 --> 00:19:52.880 pour the flour in. you know we're not doing like 00:19:52.880 --> 00:19:55.319 actually pour it in the bowl or is he trying 00:19:55.319 --> 00:19:58.160 to um most of the time yes uh this week we also 00:19:58.160 --> 00:20:01.400 he just like grabbed because we made it was something 00:20:01.400 --> 00:20:03.200 with oats in it so he just grabbed the oats and 00:20:03.200 --> 00:20:05.500 threw it across the kitchen and then i had to 00:20:05.500 --> 00:20:09.960 like breathe and you'd be like he is 22 months 00:20:09.960 --> 00:20:12.500 old of course he's gonna throw oats across the 00:20:12.500 --> 00:20:14.700 kitchen and i need to be in control of my emotions 00:20:14.700 --> 00:20:17.140 you know it's one of those moments yeah That 00:20:17.140 --> 00:20:20.980 was Colt with an egg the other day. It was actually 00:20:20.980 --> 00:20:25.400 two eggs. And usually he, like, will help us 00:20:25.400 --> 00:20:26.960 make scrambled eggs in the morning and we'll 00:20:26.960 --> 00:20:29.559 let him, like, carefully carry the eggs over 00:20:29.559 --> 00:20:33.940 to the stove. Yep. And there was, like, something 00:20:33.940 --> 00:20:36.539 that, like, I think I said that, like, startled 00:20:36.539 --> 00:20:38.920 him. And then he literally chucked the eggs. 00:20:39.519 --> 00:20:42.019 Perfect. And then I, yeah, I was like. And you're 00:20:42.019 --> 00:20:44.119 like, oh, yes, he doesn't have impulse control. 00:20:44.279 --> 00:20:49.000 No. I forgot. Gosh. Yeah. I will say I probably 00:20:49.000 --> 00:20:51.980 won't give anyone outside of our family any of 00:20:51.980 --> 00:20:54.779 these baked goods without full warning that the 00:20:54.779 --> 00:20:56.940 dough probably has been in Lloyd's mouth. Yeah. 00:20:58.799 --> 00:21:00.700 It's fine. Enter at your own risk. If you want 00:21:00.700 --> 00:21:02.220 it, that's fine. I'm not going to stop you, but 00:21:02.220 --> 00:21:05.000 I at least need to give you fair warning that 00:21:05.000 --> 00:21:07.460 he probably, like, put his hand in the bowl, 00:21:07.599 --> 00:21:09.539 took a bite of something, and then put it back. 00:21:09.640 --> 00:21:12.380 Yeah. That's fine. It cooks off. Yeah, it's fine. 00:21:12.480 --> 00:21:14.680 But, yeah, it's been a lot of fun to just, like, 00:21:14.759 --> 00:21:17.920 that's. That's a fun little thing, yeah. He gets 00:21:17.920 --> 00:21:19.619 to learn some stuff, and then we have, like, 00:21:19.640 --> 00:21:21.599 a treat throughout the week that we get to munch 00:21:21.599 --> 00:21:25.500 on. That's fun. Okay, my next one is my nighttime 00:21:25.500 --> 00:21:29.880 TV. Pretty much every single night I'll usually 00:21:29.880 --> 00:21:34.220 watch, like, one episode of a show. And I feel 00:21:34.220 --> 00:21:38.319 like if I watch any more or anything that's, 00:21:38.319 --> 00:21:40.180 like, I can't watch movies right now because 00:21:40.180 --> 00:21:43.359 I feel too overstimulated and that's too long. 00:21:44.109 --> 00:21:47.470 for my brain to like yeah at one point I think 00:21:47.470 --> 00:21:49.769 this is when I was pregnant but it took us like 00:21:49.769 --> 00:21:51.549 a week and a half to get through walk the line 00:21:51.549 --> 00:21:53.829 yeah I watched it in like 30 minute increments 00:21:53.829 --> 00:21:56.730 yeah you get I just feel like I can't focus but 00:21:56.730 --> 00:21:59.670 right now I'm like a big like trashy reality 00:21:59.670 --> 00:22:03.930 tv person so secret lives of mormon wives on 00:22:03.930 --> 00:22:07.630 hulu is our show right now and we've been watching 00:22:07.630 --> 00:22:11.839 one episode a night and that has just like given 00:22:11.839 --> 00:22:15.440 me so much life and then i maybe we'll have to 00:22:15.440 --> 00:22:18.259 start watching it honestly oh my gosh it's so 00:22:18.259 --> 00:22:21.539 like i'm so glad my life is not that dramatic 00:22:21.539 --> 00:22:25.960 but that i also love that their lives are so 00:22:25.960 --> 00:22:29.359 that i can i can sit there and enjoy it yeah 00:22:29.359 --> 00:22:33.420 so yeah my night tv is something i look forward 00:22:33.420 --> 00:22:37.720 to every single day that's awesome yeah uh my 00:22:37.720 --> 00:22:41.950 next one is Diaper change books. So Lloyd is, 00:22:42.049 --> 00:22:45.769 of course, he's 22 months old, so changing his 00:22:45.769 --> 00:22:49.690 diaper is, you know, a competition sport, and 00:22:49.690 --> 00:22:54.230 there should be awards for it. Yes. But if I 00:22:54.230 --> 00:22:58.690 give him a book nine times out of ten, he's totally, 00:22:58.769 --> 00:23:01.289 he'll let me change his diaper with zero fight. 00:23:01.690 --> 00:23:05.470 We get it done in record time. That's amazing. 00:23:05.470 --> 00:23:08.200 And we go on with our day. So, and it's gotten 00:23:08.200 --> 00:23:09.759 to the point where he'll ask for it sometimes. 00:23:09.940 --> 00:23:12.019 Where, like, I lay him down to change his diaper 00:23:12.019 --> 00:23:14.920 and he goes, and he points to his books and I 00:23:14.920 --> 00:23:18.019 hand him a book and he'll just, like, read it. 00:23:18.160 --> 00:23:21.079 Yeah. Which is, it's super cute, but then it 00:23:21.079 --> 00:23:23.000 also makes my life so much easier because there's 00:23:23.000 --> 00:23:27.680 just one less fight to be had. Yes. And then 00:23:27.680 --> 00:23:29.519 I can have a diaper change done in, like, 30 00:23:29.519 --> 00:23:32.759 seconds instead of a five minute plus. Well, 00:23:32.759 --> 00:23:35.440 it's the worst when it's a poopy diaper. Yes. 00:23:35.559 --> 00:23:38.059 You're like, please don't throw this. Yeah. I 00:23:38.059 --> 00:23:40.680 really need you to lay here still. Yep. Yeah. 00:23:41.660 --> 00:23:45.660 Okay, my next one, what's saving my life is having 00:23:45.660 --> 00:23:48.900 a hobby. I don't know if you feel this way, but, 00:23:48.940 --> 00:23:51.279 like, when you're an adult, especially with kids, 00:23:51.460 --> 00:23:54.380 like, having a hobby or when someone asks you, 00:23:54.420 --> 00:23:57.259 like, what do you like to do for fun? I never 00:23:57.259 --> 00:23:58.440 have an answer to that question. Yeah, I'm like, 00:23:58.559 --> 00:24:00.759 I could have answered this easily when I was 00:24:00.759 --> 00:24:03.980 in high school. Um, when I played sports and 00:24:03.980 --> 00:24:06.519 I don't know, like hanging out with my friends 00:24:06.519 --> 00:24:09.339 and, but as an adult with kids, it's like, I 00:24:09.339 --> 00:24:11.460 do not know how to answer that question. But 00:24:11.460 --> 00:24:16.140 now, honestly, my hobby is this podcast. It has 00:24:16.140 --> 00:24:20.059 been. Yeah. And it's been so fun. And it's like 00:24:20.059 --> 00:24:25.099 a little treat away, like out of reality in a 00:24:25.099 --> 00:24:27.099 sense, like, yes, we're talking about motherhood, 00:24:27.180 --> 00:24:30.470 but like, it's been such a fun. a fun thing to 00:24:30.470 --> 00:24:33.190 look forward to when we record and a fun thing 00:24:33.190 --> 00:24:36.009 to like, I don't know, like every week I get 00:24:36.009 --> 00:24:40.170 to mentally prepare and, and prep for like recording 00:24:40.170 --> 00:24:42.809 the next episode and, and what the prep looks 00:24:42.809 --> 00:24:46.490 like for that. And yeah, now I feel like I know 00:24:46.490 --> 00:24:49.210 how to answer that question. What do I like to 00:24:49.210 --> 00:24:51.970 do for fun in this season? Yeah. That's great. 00:24:52.069 --> 00:24:55.630 Yeah. So my next one is watching Pixar movies 00:24:55.630 --> 00:24:59.210 in release order. So we don't do a whole lot 00:24:59.210 --> 00:25:01.990 of screen time. But usually when we do, it's 00:25:01.990 --> 00:25:05.170 because it's like the last resort of like everyone's 00:25:05.170 --> 00:25:07.869 exhausted. We just need something. And at that 00:25:07.869 --> 00:25:10.509 point, you really don't even want another decision. 00:25:10.769 --> 00:25:13.309 Yeah. Even, you know, and even just should I 00:25:13.309 --> 00:25:16.049 put on Bluey or VeggieTales or a movie? That 00:25:16.049 --> 00:25:19.309 much can sometimes even be too much when you're 00:25:19.309 --> 00:25:22.349 just at the end of your rope. I made the decision 00:25:22.349 --> 00:25:25.970 that if we watch a movie, we're watching a Pixar 00:25:25.970 --> 00:25:29.210 movie, and we might not finish it, but we're 00:25:29.210 --> 00:25:31.170 watching a Pixar movie, and we started watching 00:25:31.170 --> 00:25:33.089 them in release order. So we started with Toy 00:25:33.089 --> 00:25:36.410 Story 1, and the most recent one we watched was 00:25:36.410 --> 00:25:39.150 Cars. And so that way, the decision is off my 00:25:39.150 --> 00:25:43.269 plate. It's already been decided. The next one, 00:25:43.309 --> 00:25:46.630 I think, is... Yeah, how far are you guys into 00:25:46.630 --> 00:25:51.690 it? So Cars was released in 2006. Okay. So Ratatouille 00:25:51.690 --> 00:25:54.269 is next. Ooh, that's a good one. Yeah. So it's 00:25:54.269 --> 00:25:56.170 just made my life so much easier to have that 00:25:56.170 --> 00:25:59.430 decision already made. And. That's one of the 00:25:59.430 --> 00:26:01.930 hardest decisions I feel like is whenever you're 00:26:01.930 --> 00:26:04.430 so like, you're so exhausted, you're overstimulated. 00:26:04.450 --> 00:26:06.690 And then it's like, let me sit down and decide 00:26:06.690 --> 00:26:09.450 what to watch. Yeah. I'm like half the time I 00:26:09.450 --> 00:26:11.690 end up not watching anything. Cause the decision 00:26:11.690 --> 00:26:14.869 is too much. Yeah. Yeah. That's like same with 00:26:14.869 --> 00:26:17.670 picking out meals. I feel like. Yes. Thank God 00:26:17.670 --> 00:26:20.789 for chat GPT. Yeah. Yeah. So, but yeah, so that's 00:26:20.789 --> 00:26:22.230 been a big one. It's just already having the 00:26:22.230 --> 00:26:24.210 decision made. And then also I like Pixar movies 00:26:24.210 --> 00:26:28.890 because I feel like they make movies for adults 00:26:28.890 --> 00:26:31.849 that are kid appropriate. Yes. So I'm like, you 00:26:31.849 --> 00:26:33.529 know, it's not something that I don't enjoy. 00:26:33.849 --> 00:26:37.410 And yeah. Yeah, that's cool. That's really a 00:26:37.410 --> 00:26:41.809 fun little thing. Okay, my next one is, it's 00:26:41.809 --> 00:26:44.289 for sure the most important one. What's saving 00:26:44.289 --> 00:26:49.000 my life right now is Jesus. Honestly, I couldn't 00:26:49.000 --> 00:26:52.259 do anything without Jesus and just in my everyday 00:26:52.259 --> 00:26:55.900 life. And I have been relying on him more than 00:26:55.900 --> 00:27:00.200 ever right now. And yeah, especially in the middle 00:27:00.200 --> 00:27:03.640 of the night. But yeah, I think that I'm just 00:27:03.640 --> 00:27:08.960 so grateful to to know Jesus and to be a believer. 00:27:09.740 --> 00:27:14.849 So, yeah, reality is like to be. The most real 00:27:14.849 --> 00:27:17.369 is, like, I couldn't do this without Jesus. Yeah, 00:27:17.390 --> 00:27:20.430 that's another one where I'm, like, absolutely 00:27:20.430 --> 00:27:22.869 no shade to anyone. I just don't know how you 00:27:22.869 --> 00:27:25.069 do it without Jesus. Like, this is hard enough 00:27:25.069 --> 00:27:29.890 with him. Yes, yeah, for reals. All right, my 00:27:29.890 --> 00:27:34.039 next one is not nearly that serious. But Costco 00:27:34.039 --> 00:27:37.259 has these meat and cheese roll -ups. Oh, yes, 00:27:37.400 --> 00:27:39.900 I know those. Yeah, it's like prosciutto and 00:27:39.900 --> 00:27:43.200 salami and stuff like that wrapped in provolone. 00:27:43.259 --> 00:27:45.940 And they just make great snacks for Lloyd or 00:27:45.940 --> 00:27:49.460 easy lunches. He loves them. I'm sure they would 00:27:49.460 --> 00:27:52.319 be cheaper if I made them. But it's so convenient. 00:27:54.170 --> 00:27:57.589 I just have them ready to go for the days that 00:27:57.589 --> 00:28:00.589 I can't think about lunch or he's hungry and 00:28:00.589 --> 00:28:03.549 I want him to have a little bit of a healthier 00:28:03.549 --> 00:28:07.269 snack. That's how I feel about Uncrustables. 00:28:07.289 --> 00:28:09.329 Obviously not very healthy, but convenience. 00:28:09.369 --> 00:28:11.410 You know, sometimes just the convenience and 00:28:11.410 --> 00:28:14.470 not having to think about something is what you 00:28:14.470 --> 00:28:18.690 need. Yeah. Oh, yeah. And I also like them. Yep. 00:28:18.930 --> 00:28:22.779 They're delicious. They are. Um, okay. My next 00:28:22.779 --> 00:28:26.039 one, um, I think we have, yeah, two left. Yeah. 00:28:26.920 --> 00:28:31.359 So, um, is trying to close my eyes during nap 00:28:31.359 --> 00:28:38.480 time. Um, I am not well if I do not sleep. So 00:28:38.480 --> 00:28:42.180 it's a better thing for all people around me 00:28:42.180 --> 00:28:45.119 if I get a little bit of sleep. And so thankfully 00:28:45.119 --> 00:28:47.920 right now with a two month old, like he pretty 00:28:47.920 --> 00:28:52.259 much is like sleeping. pretty often and so when 00:28:52.259 --> 00:28:55.460 I get Colt down for his nap and if I get Cruz 00:28:55.460 --> 00:28:58.960 to sleep like I really try to close my eyes too 00:28:58.960 --> 00:29:02.900 during that time and so we can all get some some 00:29:02.900 --> 00:29:06.539 good shut eye and that I can have like a good 00:29:06.539 --> 00:29:09.859 rest of the day like a better half of the day 00:29:09.859 --> 00:29:12.000 if I mine is pretty much the same thing really 00:29:12.000 --> 00:29:16.069 I just said nap time because I haven't So this 00:29:16.069 --> 00:29:17.890 week in particular, I haven't slept during nap 00:29:17.890 --> 00:29:19.769 time because I was trying to get a project done. 00:29:19.950 --> 00:29:22.089 But then that was also nice to be like, okay, 00:29:22.150 --> 00:29:24.069 there's a period of time throughout the day when 00:29:24.069 --> 00:29:27.630 both kids are asleep. Sometimes it doesn't, Zeta 00:29:27.630 --> 00:29:31.450 still loves a contact nap. So sometimes I get 00:29:31.450 --> 00:29:34.789 less done than I want to. But yeah, so some days 00:29:34.789 --> 00:29:37.369 nap time is me cleaning so that I feel better 00:29:37.369 --> 00:29:40.410 about the house. But frequently it is, I need 00:29:40.410 --> 00:29:42.150 to also take a nap while you're both sleeping. 00:29:42.150 --> 00:29:44.759 So that way. I'm a better mom for both of you. 00:29:44.839 --> 00:29:48.079 I'm in a better mood. Yeah. All of that. Yeah, 00:29:48.180 --> 00:29:51.519 I know. You reminded me because I was like, Cruz 00:29:51.519 --> 00:29:54.079 only wants to sleep on me. You're like, you know, 00:29:54.119 --> 00:29:57.200 one day we're going to look back and miss those 00:29:57.200 --> 00:29:59.259 contact naps. So we got to take them in now. 00:29:59.720 --> 00:30:03.559 And it's so true. And again, I still am like, 00:30:03.599 --> 00:30:05.140 I would like five minutes a day when someone's 00:30:05.140 --> 00:30:08.519 not touching me. Yes. Being touched out is like 00:30:08.519 --> 00:30:12.809 such a real thing. It is. I feel it 100%. Yeah. 00:30:12.890 --> 00:30:15.970 I feel so bad for Stuart because I'm like, the 00:30:15.970 --> 00:30:18.029 kids touch me all day. And I'm like, please don't 00:30:18.029 --> 00:30:21.630 come near me. Yes. Or the cats too. Yeah. They're 00:30:21.630 --> 00:30:23.470 like, we want affection. We haven't gotten affection 00:30:23.470 --> 00:30:26.730 all day. You're like, I cannot. Please leave 00:30:26.730 --> 00:30:29.089 me alone. If you try to lay on my lap, I will 00:30:29.089 --> 00:30:34.990 throw you. Yes. Okay. My last one is something 00:30:34.990 --> 00:30:38.390 to look forward to is what's saving my life. 00:30:39.279 --> 00:30:41.259 And it doesn't necessarily have to be something, 00:30:41.319 --> 00:30:43.640 like, I don't know, the next day. But, like, 00:30:43.640 --> 00:30:46.240 right now I'm really looking forward to, like, 00:30:46.299 --> 00:30:48.599 we have a family vacation planned at the end 00:30:48.599 --> 00:30:52.059 of June. And so I'm really looking forward to 00:30:52.059 --> 00:30:54.259 that. And, like, we're trying to plan and get 00:30:54.259 --> 00:30:58.220 logistics all put together for that. So I feel 00:30:58.220 --> 00:31:01.420 like, like, in the midst of, like, the weeks 00:31:01.420 --> 00:31:05.299 can be really similar. And, like, you know, work. 00:31:06.509 --> 00:31:08.490 I don't know, every day kind of looks the same. 00:31:08.970 --> 00:31:11.789 But when there's something like out of the ordinary 00:31:11.789 --> 00:31:16.029 to look forward to, I feel like that helps me 00:31:16.029 --> 00:31:19.630 get through like the mundane weeks. I think having 00:31:19.630 --> 00:31:22.970 things to look forward to is super underrated 00:31:22.970 --> 00:31:25.230 and underappreciated. Because I found that for 00:31:25.230 --> 00:31:28.470 myself too. I'm like, oh, I'm so much happier 00:31:28.470 --> 00:31:31.769 when, or at least I can have a different attitude 00:31:31.769 --> 00:31:35.750 when. I have something to look forward to, again, 00:31:35.809 --> 00:31:37.869 whether it's a vacation or even just like we're 00:31:37.869 --> 00:31:41.190 going to this event or, you know, we know we're 00:31:41.190 --> 00:31:43.029 going to a ball game with our family, you know, 00:31:43.029 --> 00:31:45.549 something like that. Then you're like, oh, okay, 00:31:45.630 --> 00:31:47.890 today sucked, but at least we're doing that next 00:31:47.890 --> 00:31:49.609 weekend or at least we have this coming up in 00:31:49.609 --> 00:31:52.789 a couple months. Yeah, that's huge. I feel like 00:31:52.789 --> 00:31:56.210 now more than ever as a mom, like those types 00:31:56.210 --> 00:32:00.549 of things are what get me, can help get me through 00:32:00.549 --> 00:32:03.450 like the mundane. Yeah. The days that are really 00:32:03.450 --> 00:32:07.170 rough. Yeah. Yeah. Yep. All right. My last one 00:32:07.170 --> 00:32:10.549 is what I call 10 minute tidies. We're just at 00:32:10.549 --> 00:32:13.769 the end of the day. Once Lloyd is down, uh, you 00:32:13.769 --> 00:32:15.450 know, Zeta isn't really, we don't really like 00:32:15.450 --> 00:32:17.329 get her down for bed in the same way as Lloyd 00:32:17.329 --> 00:32:19.069 right now, but we'll get Lloyd down for bed. 00:32:19.250 --> 00:32:21.210 I usually put her in her swing for a few minutes 00:32:21.210 --> 00:32:23.569 and then I just take five to 10 minutes to like 00:32:23.569 --> 00:32:26.109 tidy up the house. I don't get it like pristine 00:32:26.109 --> 00:32:28.089 or anything. I don't do any actual cleaning. 00:32:28.269 --> 00:32:30.529 Yeah. It's just like toys get thrown into, I 00:32:30.529 --> 00:32:33.230 have a couple of baskets, books get put away, 00:32:33.309 --> 00:32:35.789 you know, dishes get put in the dishwasher, that 00:32:35.789 --> 00:32:38.589 kind of stuff. And it makes such a big difference 00:32:38.589 --> 00:32:41.049 for me, both like in the evening, once I'm like 00:32:41.049 --> 00:32:44.170 trying to unwind and then also like getting up 00:32:44.170 --> 00:32:46.329 for the day when I come downstairs, I'm like, 00:32:46.390 --> 00:32:49.450 oh, the house isn't a complete disaster. Yeah. 00:32:49.509 --> 00:32:51.900 It just makes such a big difference. I did hear 00:32:51.900 --> 00:32:53.519 something at one point, I don't know if this 00:32:53.519 --> 00:32:56.180 is true, that your brain just spends a significant 00:32:56.180 --> 00:32:58.880 amount of time or a significant amount of energy 00:32:58.880 --> 00:33:02.420 blocking out clutter and that can cause stress, 00:33:02.460 --> 00:33:03.700 which I'm like, that makes sense. That's why 00:33:03.700 --> 00:33:05.640 I'm stressed when the house is cluttered. So, 00:33:05.740 --> 00:33:07.660 and obviously I can't keep it pristine all the 00:33:07.660 --> 00:33:09.220 time with a toddler running around. That's just 00:33:09.220 --> 00:33:12.680 not realistic at all. But even being able to 00:33:12.680 --> 00:33:15.259 like go to bed knowing it's like kind of tidy 00:33:15.259 --> 00:33:19.019 and wake up. to a not disastrous house yes makes 00:33:19.019 --> 00:33:21.059 a huge difference that way you can especially 00:33:21.059 --> 00:33:23.680 in the morning like you're not starting your 00:33:23.680 --> 00:33:26.779 day like oh my gosh this place is a disaster 00:33:26.779 --> 00:33:32.299 yep yeah i feel that 100 if if we can get like 00:33:32.299 --> 00:33:34.259 we try to run the dishwasher every single night 00:33:34.259 --> 00:33:37.059 so if we can at least do that and i can like 00:33:37.059 --> 00:33:39.460 start a load of laundry and just kind of pick 00:33:39.460 --> 00:33:42.920 up the toys i feel like a totally different person 00:33:42.920 --> 00:33:46.519 and that i can actually relax at night yeah compared 00:33:46.519 --> 00:33:49.259 to when the nights like that doesn't happen yeah 00:33:49.259 --> 00:33:51.900 yeah then you just are like even if it's not 00:33:51.900 --> 00:33:53.819 consciously i feel like you're noticing all the 00:33:53.819 --> 00:33:56.039 different things that are you know yeah the toys 00:33:56.039 --> 00:33:58.019 that are out and the books that are thrown everywhere 00:33:58.019 --> 00:34:00.380 and yeah i feel like the laundry that needs to 00:34:00.380 --> 00:34:03.720 be done at least for the next day like you don't 00:34:03.720 --> 00:34:05.859 feel like you're starting the day already behind 00:34:05.859 --> 00:34:10.460 yes too yeah like you feel like yeah like i feel 00:34:10.460 --> 00:34:12.619 like when there's dishes in the morning already 00:34:12.619 --> 00:34:16.380 i'm like There's too much. There's too much. 00:34:16.559 --> 00:34:18.699 Yeah. Anytime I don't run the dishwasher at night, 00:34:18.739 --> 00:34:20.559 we do the same thing. We run it at night and 00:34:20.559 --> 00:34:22.960 then I empty it in the morning. It's like my 00:34:22.960 --> 00:34:24.980 entire week is thrown off. Yeah. So I'm like, 00:34:25.039 --> 00:34:27.059 now we have dishes stacking up because I have 00:34:27.059 --> 00:34:28.440 to run the dishwasher even though it's full. 00:34:28.860 --> 00:34:32.980 Yes. So my project has been I'm painting one 00:34:32.980 --> 00:34:34.940 of our bathrooms. And so things have been like 00:34:34.940 --> 00:34:39.280 kind of disrupted because of that. That has made 00:34:39.280 --> 00:34:41.800 it feel like so much messier just because there's, 00:34:41.800 --> 00:34:45.679 I mean, A, because it is, but it does, it feels 00:34:45.679 --> 00:34:47.659 like the things that are not connected to like 00:34:47.659 --> 00:34:50.820 the mess of this project are also messier. Like 00:34:50.820 --> 00:34:52.599 dishes aren't getting done and toys aren't getting 00:34:52.599 --> 00:34:55.219 put away and all of that. Yep. It gets worse 00:34:55.219 --> 00:34:58.079 before it gets better. Yep. Promise. It's fine. 00:34:58.480 --> 00:35:01.079 Well, that was, I feel like that's fun. We should 00:35:01.079 --> 00:35:03.360 do that more often. I like that one, yeah. Yeah. 00:35:03.440 --> 00:35:06.119 What's saving our lives? What's saving your lives, 00:35:06.360 --> 00:35:09.000 guys? Yeah. Let us know. We'll have like a post 00:35:09.000 --> 00:35:11.260 and you guys can all comment. Yeah. What's saving 00:35:11.260 --> 00:35:14.059 your life right now in motherhood? It could be 00:35:14.059 --> 00:35:17.420 as simple as, yeah, target pick of orders or, 00:35:17.420 --> 00:35:21.320 you know, as deep as Jesus. Yeah. Yeah. Like 00:35:21.320 --> 00:35:24.449 I said, we got this idea from... the lazy genius 00:35:24.449 --> 00:35:27.769 podcast. And I really liked the, this idea of 00:35:27.769 --> 00:35:29.530 looking at the little things, you know, obviously 00:35:29.530 --> 00:35:31.190 there are the big things that are super important 00:35:31.190 --> 00:35:33.809 too, but even just remembering that like, Oh, 00:35:33.929 --> 00:35:36.630 having my Dr. Pepper diet Coke every day does 00:35:36.630 --> 00:35:38.789 make a difference in like me being in a good 00:35:38.789 --> 00:35:42.349 mood or just getting through the day. Yeah, really 00:35:42.349 --> 00:35:46.469 does. Um, okay. Well, what, uh, what was your 00:35:46.469 --> 00:35:51.460 win of the week? So my win is I think it was 00:35:51.460 --> 00:35:53.760 yesterday. Lloyd like came up to me and he was 00:35:53.760 --> 00:35:56.039 like kind of whining and I'm trying to teach 00:35:56.039 --> 00:35:58.400 him like you don't whine to get what you want. 00:35:58.559 --> 00:36:00.679 And he doesn't have a lot of words, but he uses 00:36:00.679 --> 00:36:02.920 a few that he has. So if he was whining, I'm 00:36:02.920 --> 00:36:06.000 like, what, you know, what do you want? And he 00:36:06.000 --> 00:36:07.960 said up and he like actually wanted me to pick 00:36:07.960 --> 00:36:09.739 him up. And so I was like, okay. So I picked 00:36:09.739 --> 00:36:11.739 him up and he just like gave me the biggest hug 00:36:11.739 --> 00:36:14.420 and that's all he wanted. And it was so sweet. 00:36:14.500 --> 00:36:17.840 That's so sweet. Yeah. I don't know, it was just, 00:36:17.860 --> 00:36:21.119 like, so sweet, and I loved it. Like, all you 00:36:21.119 --> 00:36:25.300 need is a hug? It's your mama right now. Yeah, 00:36:25.360 --> 00:36:28.719 especially, I mean, not that I am ever super 00:36:28.719 --> 00:36:30.739 annoyed with what he wants. Sometimes it's bad 00:36:30.739 --> 00:36:33.719 timing. But usually it's, like, he wants a snack 00:36:33.719 --> 00:36:35.579 or he wants me to read him a book or, you know, 00:36:35.599 --> 00:36:38.679 he just wants my attention. But for him to just, 00:36:38.780 --> 00:36:44.349 like, need a hug was so sweet. I loved it. You're 00:36:44.349 --> 00:36:47.469 like, anytime, buddy. Anytime. Exactly. That's 00:36:47.469 --> 00:36:51.449 so sweet. Okay, my win of the week is Colt has 00:36:51.449 --> 00:36:56.130 just started. He like would sign, please. But 00:36:56.130 --> 00:37:01.250 he started to say it more often, like vocalize 00:37:01.250 --> 00:37:05.389 it. And he'll say it like after what he wants. 00:37:05.429 --> 00:37:08.949 So like snack, he'll say like, I don't know, 00:37:08.949 --> 00:37:12.340 he wants a bar. So he'll say bar. peas bar bar 00:37:12.340 --> 00:37:14.739 peas and then he'll just like keep saying it 00:37:14.739 --> 00:37:17.360 over and over again but i'm like it's so cool 00:37:17.360 --> 00:37:21.300 to see him connect the two together like something 00:37:21.300 --> 00:37:24.820 he wants and then saying please yeah um and i'm 00:37:24.820 --> 00:37:27.760 like yes i feel like we've modeled that for him 00:37:27.760 --> 00:37:30.559 but now it's like actually registering it's connecting 00:37:30.559 --> 00:37:33.619 and it's just like the cutest thing especially 00:37:33.619 --> 00:37:36.829 when he's like it could be something like we 00:37:36.829 --> 00:37:39.210 can't give him right now like he'll he'll want 00:37:39.210 --> 00:37:42.510 to watch tv right and he'll be like watch he 00:37:42.510 --> 00:37:45.369 says a little a little different but like watch 00:37:45.369 --> 00:37:48.550 please please and i'm like i love that you're 00:37:48.550 --> 00:37:50.829 saying please buddy we're not gonna do that right 00:37:50.829 --> 00:37:54.110 now but i love i love you saying please good 00:37:54.110 --> 00:37:57.230 job trying to encourage that yeah yeah and it's 00:37:57.230 --> 00:38:00.610 just so cute like that's so sweet as he's learning 00:38:00.610 --> 00:38:03.070 like seeing the things that he's learning and 00:38:03.070 --> 00:38:06.559 seeing them come to life i love it it's so fun 00:38:06.559 --> 00:38:09.300 this age it's hard with like the tantrums and 00:38:09.300 --> 00:38:13.099 all the things but it is super fun to see the 00:38:13.099 --> 00:38:16.239 yeah the dots connecting and then Just learning 00:38:16.239 --> 00:38:18.739 so much. Yeah. I feel like they're at like that 00:38:18.739 --> 00:38:22.619 age, both Lloyd and Colt are at that age where 00:38:22.619 --> 00:38:25.300 like just so many things developmentally are 00:38:25.300 --> 00:38:28.239 happening. And like there's just so many things 00:38:28.239 --> 00:38:32.139 connecting. And it's just, yeah, I feel like 00:38:32.139 --> 00:38:34.619 it's just such a fun age. Yeah. It's a lot of 00:38:34.619 --> 00:38:38.159 fun. Yeah. But anyways, thanks for tuning in 00:38:38.159 --> 00:38:41.659 today to this fun little episode of what's saving 00:38:41.659 --> 00:38:44.800 our lives right now in motherhood. Yeah. Like 00:38:44.800 --> 00:38:46.719 we mentioned before, we'd love to hear what's 00:38:46.719 --> 00:38:49.780 saving your life and we'll, yeah, we'll leave 00:38:49.780 --> 00:38:52.480 a little question box on Instagram and yeah, 00:38:52.519 --> 00:38:55.380 let us know what's saving your life in this season. 00:38:55.699 --> 00:38:59.070 Yeah. 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