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Welcome back to No Manual, a mom cast, where

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we're here to just talk about the realities of

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motherhood, the good, the bad, the funny, all

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of those things, and just make you feel less

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alone. Today, we are doing what we swore we'd

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never do as moms, because before you're a mom,

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you always have the idealistic like I'm gonna

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do this and not do that and then motherhood hits

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and sometimes those things change so do you want

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to start with your mom moment of the week I would

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love to okay so I mentioned in another episode

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that we've been dealing just with sickness in

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our in our house and I feel like I mean that's

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just inevitable of like Sickness after sickness,

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it just keeps going around and around. So our

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two and a half month old Cruz has also been a

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little bit sick and he just has like a little

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cough and it's so sad. Like a little cough is

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so sad. Yeah. And along with the cough, like

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he already has reflux. So he spits up a good

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amount and he just has been like projectile vomiting

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when he like gets a coughing attack. And I feel

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like I can kind of tell when it's going to happen.

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And probably four out of like the last six times

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it's happened this week, it has been while I'm

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nursing him on my bed. You have to change the

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sheets. Yes. Yeah. So just TMI, I haven't changed

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the sheets as much as I probably should have

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because it's just like, I don't know. It's just

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going to happen again. It dries. And then you're

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like, I'm too tired. I just put my pillow over

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it. But yeah. And it's like, it's not just one

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like projectile vomit. It's like one happens

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and then it's followed by three more. And in

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that, in that moment, I'm just like, I almost

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like freeze. I don't know what to do. And like,

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he's okay, but I'm just like covered in spit

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up. I'm like boob out right now, just covered

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in spit up. It's going, I can feel it running

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down my leg and I just know it's getting all

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over the bed. And poor buddy is just like, is

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crying and I'm just sitting there frozen. And

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thankfully, like most of the times Michael has

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been home. And so I just yell for him. I'm just

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like, Michael. And he like comes up and he, I,

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I know he knows what's happened at this point.

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So he like the last time he like came in with

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a towel because he knew I would need the towel,

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but it's like, yeah, thankfully he's like the

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voice of reason in my life because I just think

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I would freak out and just, I don't know what

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I would do. I would just sit there in the spit

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up for the rest of my life. I don't know, but

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it's rough. It's been a fun time. Who gets cleaned

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up first? Like, is it bad if I clean up myself

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first, but also I feel like I have to. So, cause

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then if I clean you up and then like hold, yeah.

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Yeah. Yep. So that's been really fun. How about

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you? What's your mom moment? Uh, so Stuart has

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been off work for the last couple of weeks, which

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has been super nice. But then the one morning

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that he was gone, so he went to church and we

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stayed home because we've been potty training

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and I wasn't going to put Lloyd in kids ministry

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during that. So Stuart went to church. He was

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gone all morning. And that was just the morning

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everything went wrong. We're like, you've been

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home all week and this is the day. So I actually

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have a video that's very funny now out of the

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moment. But what had happened is Zada needed

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a diaper change. So I changed her diaper. literally

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turn around to throw away the diaper and wash

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my hands Lloyd throws a toy at her face so she

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got her first black eye um so she i you know

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you know the difference between just like a baby

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crying and like hurt crying so i hear her hear

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that cry i'm like oh no what happened so i go

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over there figure out what happened i take Lloyd's

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car away the car that he threw at her away

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and like this is the punishment you get for,

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you know, the discipline, whatever consequences

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of throwing your toy at your sister as it gets

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taken away. So then she screamed crying because

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she's still hurting. He's crying because I took

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his toy away. And this is the only time that

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there's been like a total meltdown from everyone

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in the past, like week that Stuart was off was

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this like couple hours that he was gone, which

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everything was awful. Isn't that how it always

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works? Yeah. Yep. Yep. Gosh, I feel that. It

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was actually, Cruz got his first shiner this

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week, too. Oh, good job. Yeah. What did he do?

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He chucked a cane at, or Colt chucked a cane

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at Cruz. Nice. Got him right in the face. So

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both the second babies got their first black

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eyes, I was just thankful that it went away.

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Because she had her four -month checkup like

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a few days later. And I was like, are we going

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to have to go to the doctor? And I'm going to

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have to explain why my four -month -old has a

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black eye. You know she has a... older brother

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so I think hopefully he'll understand but it

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did go away I mean it wasn't that bad no yeah

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it felt so bad and it was so pathetic and sad

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I know I know one thing that Michael told me

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he's like you know unfortunately Cruz is just

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gonna have to get used to it he's got older brother

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yeah he's gonna have to be tough and he's gotta

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start learning at two and a half months old So

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sad. But okay. Well, let's hop into some of the

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things we swore we'd never do as moms. And maybe

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this is like when I was reflecting on it. I don't

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know if you felt this way. I was like, oh, these

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were a lot of things that like my mom did whenever

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I was growing up that I'm like, oh, mom, I'm

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never going to do that. Yeah. But then I do.

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Yeah. I did feel like there were a lot of things

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that I was like, oh, I'm. I like stuck with the

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thing that I said. And then there are a few things

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like, oh, no, I definitely didn't think I was

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going to do that. So do you want to go first?

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Sure. OK, so my first one is I never thought

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I would lick my finger to get like crap off my

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child's face all the time. I absolutely hated

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that when my mom because my mom did that all

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the time. She would lick her finger and like.

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Rub it on my face. And it was so gross. I felt

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like I could smell her spit, which just is so

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gross. But I totally do that to Colt, especially

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because he gets, I mean, he gets food everywhere

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all over his face. And if he's like, not at mealtime,

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but if he's like playing and I'm like, oh, let

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me just get this off his face. I just like lick

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my finger. By the time that you get a wipe or

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something like that, he's. Yeah. I'm like, I

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could just get it right now. Yeah. So I swore

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I would never do that. And I have found myself

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many, many times doing that. And in my head,

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I'm like, oh, I'm like, this is so gross. But

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like, I just do it. Along with like picking my

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child's nose. Yeah. I never thought about picking

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my kid's nose. And now like you have to. I just

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do. And I'm not like grossed out by it. I don't

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know. I can't do the snot sucker. Stuart always

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has to do that. Oh, I can do the snot sucker.

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And if I can get something, I'm like, I feel

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so great about it. And it's like satisfying to

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me. This sound makes me want, like Stuart can't

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even do it in the room. This sound makes me want

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to throw up every single time. Yeah. So that's

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Stuart's job. But I can do the picking. That's

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fine. Oh, yes. I love the nose picker. That's

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like, that's like a fun thing. I'm like, Ooh,

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you got a booger. Let me, let me go get that.

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Yeah. Yes. Okay. My first one is co -sleeping

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before I had kids. I wrote that down too. Well,

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they like tell you it's super dangerous, all

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the things. And like, I understand there are

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risks, but I was when, before Lloyd was born,

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I was like, obviously we're never going to do

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that. He's going to sleep in his bassinet. We're

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going to do all things. But then with Lloyd specifically,

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We would not have slept for the first six months

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if we did not go sleep. Yep. And to be honest,

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I wish I had done more research before he was

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born just to go into it knowing, like, these

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are the, you know, things to do that are safer.

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You know, the things to avoid. Yeah. But, yeah,

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we would not have slept. And I swore I would

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never do it because they tell you not to do it.

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Yeah. And Zeta has been better about sleeping

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in her bassinet, but pretty much every day at,

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like. 5 a .m. he wakes up and that's the only

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way to get her back to sleep yeah and I would

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like the extra two hours of sleep that we can

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get while Lloyd is still sleeping yeah yeah I

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mean while you're talking about it like that's

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one that I wrote down too and I I feel like I

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like specifically with Colt at the beginning

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it same thing is like when that four month sleep

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regression hit for for him like we would not

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have slept Probably at all, honestly, unless

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we had co -slept. And that was one thing like

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Michael was like, I do not. He was like dead

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certain on like not wanting to go to sleep. Stuart

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was way more against it than I was, too. And

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he like Michael's a really heavy sleeper. And

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so he I mean, rightfully so. He was like, I am

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afraid to roll over and roll on to roll on to

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him and not not wake up or not notice. And it

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got to the point where even he was like, no,

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we need to, we will do anything to get sleep.

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And when it came down to it, like doing research

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on it, like I know there's going to be sides

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to each, but most countries co -sleep. fully

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yeah until their kids are like two at least yeah

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yeah and it is just so biologically normal yeah

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and i know like so now with cruz like same thing

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is he starts in the bassinet usually after the

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first feed which is like 2 a .m ish it's really

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hard to get him back down and so it's super easy

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to get him back to sleep if we co -sleep yeah

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and so To help us get better sleep, we've done

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that. And, I mean, we don't have him swaddled.

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He's sleeping next to us. He's in his little

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marshmallow suit, the Merlin sleep sack. It just,

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it actually brings me comfort, too. And I don't

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know if you feel that way about it. I think I

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am less stressed. Like, as I think about it,

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when she's right now. Zeta's in the bassinet.

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I definitely like still wake up to like you're

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breathing. Cool. Or I don't think I do that as

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much when she's like right next to you. Like

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there's probably some sort of biological thing

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that like feels her breathing and senses it.

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Yeah. Yeah. That's for sure. Something that like

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whenever I was pregnant the first time I like

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would see all the videos about like safe sleep,

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like the seven rules to safe sleep. And I was

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like, I'm never going to do that. Like co -sleeping

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is. i was like co -sleeping is not safe at all

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yep and i yeah again there are risks and there

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are things that we're like i'm mentally aware

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of yeah so it's like okay i don't take a melatonin

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or z -quil for sure those are things that i would

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normally take if i'm having a hard time sleeping

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whereas you know i make sure not to do that um

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again make sure like blankets are especially

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heavy blankets are like tucked away you know

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not any place that could cover her up. But yeah,

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I wish I had done more research while I was pregnant

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before Lloyd was born because then I think I

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would have been less stressed about making that

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change when it was necessary. Yeah, I wouldn't

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have felt as stressed about just figuring out

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what worked for us. Yeah, so I feel that. I feel

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that. Okay, another one that I wrote down was

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Screen Time. I have that one too. Do you? Oh

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my gosh. Maybe we should have talked about these

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before. I don't know. So obviously I try to limit

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screen time, but I went into parenthood and I

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was like, my child is not going to watch TV.

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They're not going to look at an iPad or look

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at. Well, the thing I heard is that like. just

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with how development works under two screen time

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doesn't do have anything beneficial. Like once

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they're over two, they start to learn some things,

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but under two they don't. So it's like, that's

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it. No screens under two. Yeah. Yeah. That's

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never going to happen. And so, you know, I, I

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really tried, I tried my best and it came to

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a point where it just, sometimes mommy needs

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just 15 minutes to just eat some food or just.

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sit there for a second and so especially on days

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when like Michael's at work and now especially

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with two kids I have to say the screen time has

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probably picked up just a little bit but then

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there's there's boundaries we've put on screen

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time and so I think so like on the flip kind

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of like the co -sleeping thing One of the reasons

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I was so against screen time was because of all

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the research I had done. Yeah. But that also

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helped me when I caged to be like, okay, so what

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decisions are we going to make? So we don't do

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YouTube. We only do movies and some TV shows.

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For us, we pretty much exclusively do Pixar movies,

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VeggieTales, sometimes Bluey if we're like, we

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just need 10 minutes. Yeah. That's one nice thing

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about Bluey. Like one episode. Is that it's like,

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okay. We're just trying to make it till dinner

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time or whatever. So it helped me go, okay, these

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are the TV shows or the movies that are absolutely

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never going to play in our house. And I can confidently

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say that now because here are the ones that we'll

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slide with. And then he's not really allowed

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to, like he doesn't have an iPad. The only thing

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he, like he'll play with our phones, which usually

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just means he's like taking pictures. And so

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we have a thousand pictures of our floor in my

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camera roll. And then he likes to look at. pictures

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so sometimes he'll sit with us and and we'll

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just scroll through some like pictures and you

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know he'll say oh you know mama dad yeah you

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know whoever so those are things it's like he's

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not allowed to have like unlimited access to

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phones or ipads or anything and then I also have

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the rule right now for the most part that if

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he requests it, we're not watching TV. Yeah.

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No, I think that's really smart. Yeah, we for

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sure have like our certain shows that we watch.

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Like Michael's done a lot of research on like

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the most overstimulating versus understimulating

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shows. And so we try to stick to like, it's mostly

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like the old school shows that we grew up with.

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So like Little Bear. This is the worst animation

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I've ever seen in my life. And that's exactly

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what I want for my kids. Yes. Yeah. I want the

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dull colors. Actually, Bluey is one of the most

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understimulating shows because of the dull colors.

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Yeah. And there's not a lot of like quick cuts.

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Yeah. So we do, yeah, Little Bear, Curious George,

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which I'm surprised Curious George is actually

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one of the most understimulating shows because

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it's so bright. But it's like it's because it's

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slow moving. And then there's this other show

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on Netflix called Trash Truck that. I think you've

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told us about that. Yeah. It's like 12 minute

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episode shows, but Cole is obsessed with the

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trash truck. So why not watch the show about

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it? So, but yeah, screen time was definitely

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something that I went into parenthood. Like,

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oh my gosh. Yeah. My child's not, my child will

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not even want to watch TV because they'll. be

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so outdoorsy and want to explore. We're going

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to have all these activities that are pre -planned.

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Yeah. All these sensory activities ready for

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you at all times. And that's just not reality.

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And that's okay. And I have to give myself grace

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with it because it's like some days are just

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harder than others. And so some days are going

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to consist of a little bit more screen time and

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especially being. a mom of two now and I'm starting

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work again next week. Like it's just reality

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kind of hits. And I think grace has to kind of

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kick in a little bit more. When you have a balance

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too, it makes it easier. Right. Cause it's like,

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we can go days where it's like, we spent so much

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time outside and went to the park and, you know,

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we did have all the fun activities. And then

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I think of, there was one day, I think it was

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in, it was last fall. I was pregnant with Zeta

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and I had food poisoning. Oh, yeah. So I was

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like, that's all we did. We watched movies from

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the second we got up till Stuart got home. Yep.

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because that's because I couldn't move yeah and

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sometimes that happens so yeah having grace with

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myself has been good for that yeah I have to

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think too like some of my favorite days growing

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up were like when we would just have movie nights

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as a family and like those were some of the best

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memories that we had and I have to think too

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like I am not like I feel like I'm pretty with

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it. I'm a smart person. I'm not totally addicted

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to technology. It's not like I didn't have screen

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time growing up. Stuart and I have been trying

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to figure out because we're looking at the difference

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of us as kids and our experience with screens

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and even just us as adults and our experience

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with screens. When I was a kid... My parents

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like watching Seinfeld and they would watch it.

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It was on TBS every day from like four to five

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or five to six, something like that. So when

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my dad would get home from work, they'd put it

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on while my mom was making dinner. And then after

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that hour was over, something that they didn't

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want to watch was on. So they just turn it off.

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Whereas now if we wanted to have the same experience

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and we put on like even same thing, Seinfeld,

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it's on Netflix. you have to consciously make

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the decision of like, we're going to watch two

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episodes and turn it off. Cause otherwise it's

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just going to keep playing. Right. And it's so

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easy to just like, let it keep playing. And so,

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or, you know, Saturday morning cartoons when

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we were a kid, right. It's like, you had to be

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up at a certain time if you want to watch your

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cartoon and you had to fight with your siblings

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to decide like what, you know, channel you're

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going to be on. So we're trying to figure out

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like, how can we replicate that for our kids

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so that we can have the fun parts of like, yes,

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Saturday morning cartoons are fine. but you don't

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necessarily get the like instant gratification

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that is makes like unlimited and all of that.

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That's so true. Yeah. Yeah. I think it's just

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figuring out what works for your family and giving

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yourself grace along the way. Yeah. Um, and then

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there's going to be seasons of like, a little

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bit more and, or a lot less. Yeah. You know,

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then it's summer and yeah. Now that it's nice

00:18:36.880 --> 00:18:39.359
out, we're getting outside all the time. We're

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going to the park after dinner, going walks,

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all that. Yeah. Okay. My second one is I swore

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I would never have two kids in diapers at the

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same time. Oh yeah. Even when I got pregnant

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with Zeta, I was like, we're going to find a

00:18:51.599 --> 00:18:54.299
way to potty train Lloyd before Zeta is born.

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And that definitely did not happen. And now four

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months into having, two in diapers yeah we're

00:19:00.730 --> 00:19:02.430
trying to potty train lloyd right now so we'll

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see hopefully that we'll be down to one again

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but i was like absolutely not we're not having

00:19:07.730 --> 00:19:10.089
two kids in diapers at the same time i felt that

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way too and here we are yeah i found myself like

00:19:13.809 --> 00:19:16.130
okay when i change cruz's diaper i'm like well

00:19:16.130 --> 00:19:18.589
i might as well change colt's diaper too so let's

00:19:18.589 --> 00:19:20.970
just line them up and yep just get the diapers

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all over with yeah so yeah i feel that i and

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just how many diapers like There was one time

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we went to Costco and I think we had to buy wipes

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and stock up on diapers for both of them. That's

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like 150 bucks right there. Honestly. Yeah. Like

00:19:36.900 --> 00:19:39.240
that's already super expensive. Like we actually

00:19:39.240 --> 00:19:41.440
can't buy food now because I just spent my entire

00:19:41.440 --> 00:19:46.039
food budget on diapers. Yeah. I feel that a hundred

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percent. Like I can't wait for you to give me

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all the tips and advice about you guys potty

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training because I feel like it is right around

00:19:52.839 --> 00:19:56.859
the corner for us and it has to be because. man,

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I, yeah, it's not fun. Yeah. Yeah. I know. I'm

00:20:01.200 --> 00:20:03.099
not going to send my child to kindergarten and

00:20:03.099 --> 00:20:07.319
in diapers, hopefully. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Okay.

00:20:07.759 --> 00:20:12.839
My next one is sleep training. I never, I never

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thought I would sleep train and still in my head,

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I'm like, I don't know if I'll sleep train my

00:20:19.259 --> 00:20:22.910
second, but I probably will, but sleep training.

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So for us, we didn't sleep train Cole until he

00:20:26.190 --> 00:20:30.650
was just over a year old. And we, I mean, we

00:20:30.650 --> 00:20:33.069
talked about like co -sleeping and all that.

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And I mean, sleep was just so terrible for us

00:20:36.809 --> 00:20:39.869
for the first year of his life. It's still not

00:20:39.869 --> 00:20:43.170
great. I think we just have a poor sleeper, unfortunately,

00:20:43.210 --> 00:20:48.720
but sleep training saved our lives. We did like,

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it's not the full cry it out method. We did like

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the taking care of babies method, 5, 10, 15 method.

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And, and I did, we did a lot of research on it

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leading up to it because I was like, I didn't

00:21:03.299 --> 00:21:06.599
want to like ruin my child's life. I felt like

00:21:06.599 --> 00:21:10.059
I was like, I was going to create a bunch of

00:21:10.059 --> 00:21:12.859
trauma for them and I didn't want to hurt them.

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And we went into it just so desperate for sleep.

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had just found out I was pregnant with Cruz and

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Cole at this point was waking up literally every

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single hour of the night. And he was in his own

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room at this point, but we, then we would, we

00:21:30.029 --> 00:21:32.509
would co -sleep halfway through. And it just

00:21:32.509 --> 00:21:36.029
was like, we were so miserable. And Michael's

00:21:36.029 --> 00:21:40.369
like, you know, the benefits for sure outweigh

00:21:40.369 --> 00:21:43.660
the, the negatives here. And he needs like, Cult

00:21:43.660 --> 00:21:46.740
needs to be part of it. By the time we actually

00:21:46.740 --> 00:21:48.700
wake up for the day, we're having a terrible

00:21:48.700 --> 00:21:50.960
day because everyone's in a bad mood because

00:21:50.960 --> 00:21:54.200
nobody got sleep. And I'm like, developmentally,

00:21:54.200 --> 00:21:57.039
our child needs to sleep at this age. And so

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I was like, we, yeah, at that point I was like,

00:22:00.119 --> 00:22:03.140
okay, like we have to do it. And I mean, it was

00:22:03.140 --> 00:22:06.259
not easy. It was not fun. It's not fun to just

00:22:06.259 --> 00:22:08.839
let your child cry for a little bit of time,

00:22:08.920 --> 00:22:12.759
but it worked. And there's things that like,

00:22:13.210 --> 00:22:16.950
that for sure make it not work if he's sick or

00:22:16.950 --> 00:22:19.470
whatever. If we travel, obviously those things

00:22:19.470 --> 00:22:22.150
kind of hinder it. And you have to restart and

00:22:22.150 --> 00:22:25.930
retrain. But overall, that was something I was

00:22:25.930 --> 00:22:29.470
like, I'm never going to let my child cry. If

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they're crying, I'm going to tend to their needs.

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And yes, there comes a time when, yes, you have

00:22:37.849 --> 00:22:40.490
to do that. But this is going to sound really

00:22:40.490 --> 00:22:44.049
bad, but kids can also manipulate. us in a sense

00:22:44.049 --> 00:22:48.210
of like, he, he knew that if he cried, I would,

00:22:48.210 --> 00:22:50.869
I would come to, yeah, I would show up and I

00:22:50.869 --> 00:22:53.490
want him to know that too. But there was also

00:22:53.490 --> 00:22:57.289
a training aspect of it that he needs to learn

00:22:57.289 --> 00:23:02.109
how to sleep too. So, yeah. So I never, I never

00:23:02.109 --> 00:23:05.690
thought I'd sleep train and until I was like

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in it. I like still probably would have never

00:23:08.750 --> 00:23:10.750
said I would have until it was like first night.

00:23:10.849 --> 00:23:13.069
And I was like, OK, we're doing this thing. Yeah.

00:23:13.130 --> 00:23:15.750
Yeah. And you I really had to commit to it, too,

00:23:15.849 --> 00:23:17.630
because it wasn't just a one night thing. It's

00:23:17.630 --> 00:23:20.029
like multiple nights of committing to like at

00:23:20.029 --> 00:23:23.730
least a week. Yeah. Yeah. And it was worth it

00:23:23.730 --> 00:23:27.369
for sure, at least for us. And and like everyone's

00:23:27.369 --> 00:23:29.579
going to find out what works for them. For sure.

00:23:29.720 --> 00:23:33.119
And again, you have like, for us, Lloyd was not

00:23:33.119 --> 00:23:35.180
a good sleeper. I mean, he wasn't like the worst

00:23:35.180 --> 00:23:38.279
sleeper in the world, but he was waking up until

00:23:38.279 --> 00:23:41.579
he was a year old. Yeah. And the night Zeta would

00:23:41.579 --> 00:23:43.519
let, she would sleep through the night if I let

00:23:43.519 --> 00:23:46.319
her. Yeah. So I'm like different kids need different

00:23:46.319 --> 00:23:48.279
things. And then, but then also we have more

00:23:48.279 --> 00:23:51.240
issues with her eating. Yeah. So, you know, it's

00:23:51.240 --> 00:23:53.960
like just figuring out what works for your family.

00:23:54.000 --> 00:23:58.359
And the one thing I had to like, come to a conclusion

00:23:58.359 --> 00:24:01.740
in my head was that i wasn't like i wasn't creating

00:24:01.740 --> 00:24:05.299
this trauma for colt like i was actually helping

00:24:05.299 --> 00:24:09.500
him developmentally by helping him train and

00:24:09.500 --> 00:24:11.319
learn how to sleep because that's not something

00:24:11.319 --> 00:24:13.859
kids know how to do which is crazy you have to

00:24:13.859 --> 00:24:17.359
teach them how to how to sleep and fall asleep

00:24:17.359 --> 00:24:19.740
on their own or whatever that looks like but

00:24:19.740 --> 00:24:23.140
um that was something i had to like come to a

00:24:23.559 --> 00:24:26.220
conclusion in my head is like yeah i am not hurting

00:24:26.220 --> 00:24:30.880
my child by doing this to help him yeah and like

00:24:31.420 --> 00:24:33.119
They say you're not supposed to have like anything

00:24:33.119 --> 00:24:36.140
loose in their crib before, I think like a year.

00:24:36.180 --> 00:24:39.000
Before a year, yep. But Lloyd has his levy and

00:24:39.000 --> 00:24:42.640
that helped him so much. I think I started giving

00:24:42.640 --> 00:24:44.380
it to him at naps because I was like, okay, then

00:24:44.380 --> 00:24:46.319
I can keep an eye on you. And then once I was

00:24:46.319 --> 00:24:47.720
like, oh, you're definitely not smothering yourself

00:24:47.720 --> 00:24:50.420
with this. Then that helped him sleep at night

00:24:50.420 --> 00:24:54.380
so much more. And yeah, he's still like. We've

00:24:54.380 --> 00:24:56.079
created a little bit of a monster because he

00:24:56.079 --> 00:24:59.759
will not sleep without it now. And how many do

00:24:59.759 --> 00:25:02.339
you have on backup just in case? We only have

00:25:02.339 --> 00:25:04.480
one on backup. That's actually my parents went

00:25:04.480 --> 00:25:06.099
and bought another one. And so it's at their

00:25:06.099 --> 00:25:09.279
house. But we do have one on backup. Oh, good.

00:25:09.359 --> 00:25:11.759
We also don't take it places, which helps. Yeah,

00:25:11.779 --> 00:25:14.519
that's smart. So. Yeah. Yes. It stays in the

00:25:14.519 --> 00:25:16.200
crib. It pretty much stays in the crib. Sometimes

00:25:16.200 --> 00:25:17.940
we'll let him take it around the house if he's

00:25:17.940 --> 00:25:19.480
not feeling well or something, but. You're like,

00:25:19.539 --> 00:25:21.579
you better not lose that, Lloyd. Ebba Buss stays

00:25:21.579 --> 00:25:24.359
in the crib for the most part. Right. Okay. What's

00:25:24.359 --> 00:25:28.059
your next one? My next one was, I swore that

00:25:28.059 --> 00:25:30.720
our house would not be just covered in toys all

00:25:30.720 --> 00:25:34.079
the time and that we were going to be the people

00:25:34.079 --> 00:25:36.859
who didn't look like our kids lived in our house.

00:25:36.900 --> 00:25:41.750
Yeah. And that is not true. I mean. I do like

00:25:41.750 --> 00:25:43.490
clean up every night and tidy and everything

00:25:43.490 --> 00:25:46.630
like that. But we, we have a almost two year

00:25:46.630 --> 00:25:49.670
old and we have toys everywhere. And I feel that's

00:25:49.670 --> 00:25:53.250
just the season we're in and that's okay. But

00:25:53.250 --> 00:25:56.890
yeah, I was always like, we're going to have,

00:25:56.990 --> 00:25:59.109
you know, toys are going to stay in his room

00:25:59.109 --> 00:26:00.910
or we're going to have a spot for them so that

00:26:00.910 --> 00:26:04.589
things get put away. And I mean, you have not

00:26:04.589 --> 00:26:07.190
been upstairs yet today, but if you went up,

00:26:07.250 --> 00:26:10.500
there are. cars to step on and right now he likes

00:26:10.500 --> 00:26:13.339
playing with red solo cups so it looks like we

00:26:13.339 --> 00:26:14.920
have a rager every night because they're just

00:26:14.920 --> 00:26:19.400
everywhere i love it and uh anything that he

00:26:19.400 --> 00:26:21.339
can grab is on the floor books are everywhere

00:26:21.339 --> 00:26:24.799
yep and you know i'll clean it up tonight and

00:26:24.799 --> 00:26:28.180
yeah it'll be fine oh my gosh no i feel that

00:26:28.180 --> 00:26:30.700
a hundred percent i wanted like the picture perfect

00:26:30.700 --> 00:26:34.450
like I don't know, Magnolia House. Yes. Yeah.

00:26:34.569 --> 00:26:37.230
Everything has a place and everything's organized

00:26:37.230 --> 00:26:40.190
in these wicker baskets. And they're pretty.

00:26:40.490 --> 00:26:44.390
Yes. Yeah. But, you know, we have a great ball

00:26:44.390 --> 00:26:47.710
pit that we just throw all the toys in. It's

00:26:47.710 --> 00:26:51.029
great. Yeah. Yeah. So I know I feel that 100

00:26:51.029 --> 00:26:53.910
percent that, you know, that's just the stage

00:26:53.910 --> 00:26:56.390
of life we're in. Well, I think we'll look back

00:26:56.390 --> 00:26:59.140
like. I don't know when we're empty nesters and

00:26:59.140 --> 00:27:02.299
be like, we miss the, we miss the toys all over.

00:27:02.420 --> 00:27:05.099
So I'm trying whenever I have those moments of

00:27:05.099 --> 00:27:07.700
like, Oh man, I just want my house to be clean.

00:27:07.819 --> 00:27:10.319
I have to be like, I'm going to miss this. I'm

00:27:10.319 --> 00:27:13.299
going to miss this. Yes. Yeah. Okay. My last

00:27:13.299 --> 00:27:16.759
one is I swore I'd never call the advert advice

00:27:16.759 --> 00:27:22.839
nurse weekly. And I, I'm pretty sure I should

00:27:22.839 --> 00:27:25.559
ask for a punch card. because I'm surprised they

00:27:25.559 --> 00:27:27.400
don't have them already honestly I was like can

00:27:27.400 --> 00:27:30.559
I get like my 10th visit for free please because

00:27:30.559 --> 00:27:34.880
I call the advice nurse weekly about pretty much

00:27:34.880 --> 00:27:37.559
anything and everything with my children and

00:27:37.559 --> 00:27:40.380
yes we've been sick a lot so it's like I feel

00:27:40.380 --> 00:27:43.559
like a lot of it is reasonable but pretty much

00:27:43.559 --> 00:27:47.420
any I mean Colt has eczema pretty bad so like

00:27:47.420 --> 00:27:52.470
any skin thing any yeah like projectile vomiting

00:27:52.470 --> 00:27:56.250
from my newborn like things you know things like

00:27:56.250 --> 00:27:58.529
that like I don't know if I just have bad luck

00:27:58.529 --> 00:28:01.089
or like or if we just like have weakened immune

00:28:01.089 --> 00:28:04.829
systems over here in my house but they for sure

00:28:04.829 --> 00:28:09.150
know me by name and I'm like is every mom like

00:28:09.150 --> 00:28:12.410
this or am I just Am I just kind of extra in

00:28:12.410 --> 00:28:14.589
that sense? I don't know. But I need a punch

00:28:14.589 --> 00:28:17.750
card because the co -pays are racking up. Yeah,

00:28:17.769 --> 00:28:20.670
that's expensive. Yeah. So thankfully, like not

00:28:20.670 --> 00:28:23.890
every call then turns into like a visit into

00:28:23.890 --> 00:28:26.150
the doctor. Usually the advice nurse can give

00:28:26.150 --> 00:28:31.329
me advice as they do. Calm down. Yes. But I think

00:28:31.329 --> 00:28:35.829
my husband is he's really patient with me overall.

00:28:36.640 --> 00:28:38.880
But his advice to me is like, well, if you have

00:28:38.880 --> 00:28:40.299
a question, why don't you just call the advice

00:28:40.299 --> 00:28:45.119
nurse? And so then I do. And so I think. And

00:28:45.119 --> 00:28:46.539
then all of a sudden you're at a doctor's visit.

00:28:46.700 --> 00:28:49.740
Yeah. And then the $25 copay, blah, blah, blah.

00:28:49.960 --> 00:28:53.519
And here we go again. But yeah, I just, I swore

00:28:53.519 --> 00:28:57.079
I'd never take my kids to the doctor slash call

00:28:57.079 --> 00:29:00.440
the advice nurse as much as I do. Because I thought

00:29:00.440 --> 00:29:02.519
I would just be like, well, they just need rest

00:29:02.519 --> 00:29:08.440
or water or this or that. Yeah. Again, so we're

00:29:08.440 --> 00:29:10.740
still first -time moms because our oldest are

00:29:10.740 --> 00:29:13.140
still our first kid and we've never had two kids

00:29:13.140 --> 00:29:16.079
before. And I think one of the things that's

00:29:16.079 --> 00:29:18.920
hard is there's just so much you don't know that

00:29:18.920 --> 00:29:20.420
it doesn't matter how much someone tells you

00:29:20.420 --> 00:29:23.859
beforehand that you just don't know. And kids

00:29:23.859 --> 00:29:26.059
getting sick is one of them. I know one of the

00:29:26.059 --> 00:29:28.480
things I've struggled with is kids get sick.

00:29:28.829 --> 00:29:30.670
And I know that's going to happen. I know he's

00:29:30.670 --> 00:29:32.109
going to get fevers and I know he's going to

00:29:32.109 --> 00:29:34.190
have colds. I just want to know when to panic.

00:29:34.349 --> 00:29:37.769
Yes. And that's it. Otherwise, I can stay home

00:29:37.769 --> 00:29:40.170
and be fine. And I don't want to get him uncomfy

00:29:40.170 --> 00:29:41.809
and take him out of the house for a doctor's

00:29:41.809 --> 00:29:44.309
appointment if it doesn't mean anything. But

00:29:44.309 --> 00:29:46.470
just like give me the list of when to panic.

00:29:46.690 --> 00:29:48.430
Yep. And then we're fine. But you don't know

00:29:48.430 --> 00:29:51.349
that before you have the list. I feel like I'm

00:29:51.349 --> 00:29:53.569
always in panic mode. So I just need someone

00:29:53.569 --> 00:29:58.339
to bring me down from that. So, yeah. That was

00:29:58.339 --> 00:30:02.299
my last one. Do you have one more? Yes. So my

00:30:02.299 --> 00:30:05.480
last one was I swore we'd never be ruled by a

00:30:05.480 --> 00:30:08.400
nap time schedule. I was like, you know, we're

00:30:08.400 --> 00:30:10.140
going to be the parents who our kids will sleep

00:30:10.140 --> 00:30:11.619
wherever we're going. We're just going to have

00:30:11.619 --> 00:30:14.599
fun. Nap time will happen when it happens. And

00:30:14.599 --> 00:30:16.799
when Lloyd was really little, that was more the

00:30:16.799 --> 00:30:19.240
case and he could sleep anywhere. And then there

00:30:19.240 --> 00:30:22.559
just got a point where he. would get distracted

00:30:22.559 --> 00:30:24.259
and then he would have a bad nap and then we'd

00:30:24.259 --> 00:30:25.779
all have a bad day because he had a bad nap.

00:30:25.920 --> 00:30:28.160
Yeah. And so he started to have a much more set

00:30:28.160 --> 00:30:29.920
schedule and I would like to get a little more

00:30:29.920 --> 00:30:33.259
flexible on it. But it's so hard. Yeah. Yeah.

00:30:33.259 --> 00:30:34.900
Cause I'm like, I don't want him to be grumpy

00:30:34.900 --> 00:30:37.079
and if he's grumpy, then the rest of us have

00:30:37.079 --> 00:30:40.799
a rough day. So yeah, we're trying to find the

00:30:40.799 --> 00:30:42.359
balance of like, okay, there are going to be

00:30:42.359 --> 00:30:45.819
days like we want to go swimming. So yeah. So

00:30:45.819 --> 00:30:47.640
maybe a nap's going to be pushed or maybe there's

00:30:47.640 --> 00:30:49.839
not going to be a nap at all. Or a car nap or

00:30:49.839 --> 00:30:52.319
something like that. Yeah. Trying to find that

00:30:52.319 --> 00:30:55.579
balance. But yeah, before he was born, I was

00:30:55.579 --> 00:30:57.359
like, we're going to be the family that just

00:30:57.359 --> 00:31:00.359
like, we're fun. And we, of course we can go

00:31:00.359 --> 00:31:03.519
to whatever at any time because now we're like,

00:31:03.579 --> 00:31:06.900
oh no, nap time is at noon. So we got to get

00:31:06.900 --> 00:31:10.180
home or, you know, bedtime is 730. So it's time

00:31:10.180 --> 00:31:12.599
to start wrapping up. Yeah. Yeah. I feel like,

00:31:12.599 --> 00:31:14.779
I don't know if you feel this way, but whenever

00:31:14.779 --> 00:31:17.700
Colt switched to one nap, it almost made the

00:31:17.700 --> 00:31:21.589
day. like more difficult because it's like right

00:31:21.589 --> 00:31:23.930
in the middle of the day too, where it's like,

00:31:23.950 --> 00:31:26.470
okay, we were either going to do something right

00:31:26.470 --> 00:31:28.450
when we wake up in the morning or it's going

00:31:28.450 --> 00:31:31.210
to be after nap. And then it's like, you're running

00:31:31.210 --> 00:31:34.380
into. to dinner time. Yep. When I, when he was

00:31:34.380 --> 00:31:36.579
on a two nap schedule, I feel like there, I was

00:31:36.579 --> 00:31:38.480
able to be more flexible cause I was like, ah,

00:31:38.579 --> 00:31:41.079
if he can get like his morning nap in the car,

00:31:41.259 --> 00:31:43.960
that's fine. And then we'll have a shorter nap

00:31:43.960 --> 00:31:45.759
in the morning and longer in the afternoon. Yeah.

00:31:45.839 --> 00:31:48.940
And so I felt like I was a more flexible parent

00:31:48.940 --> 00:31:51.839
then, but now it's like, yeah, same thing. If,

00:31:51.900 --> 00:31:55.380
if he doesn't get down for his nap at the right

00:31:55.380 --> 00:31:58.160
time, then we're like messing with like, The

00:31:58.160 --> 00:32:00.619
rest of the day after nap, like we're going to.

00:32:00.640 --> 00:32:03.140
And the afternoon is way rougher too. Yeah. Like

00:32:03.140 --> 00:32:06.220
if he sleeps bad at night and the morning time

00:32:06.220 --> 00:32:10.559
is not fun, but it's doable. But if he has a

00:32:10.559 --> 00:32:14.099
bad nap time, then the afternoon is. Is rough.

00:32:14.339 --> 00:32:17.119
We're all just trying to survive. Yeah. And for

00:32:17.119 --> 00:32:20.640
us too, it's like, okay, nap is at 12 or 1230.

00:32:21.200 --> 00:32:23.859
We have to be leaving. Like if we do anything

00:32:23.859 --> 00:32:26.059
in the morning, it's like. No, we have to be

00:32:26.059 --> 00:32:29.299
leaving to get home like by 1030 because otherwise

00:32:29.299 --> 00:32:31.660
he's at that point where he's too tired and he's

00:32:31.660 --> 00:32:33.920
going to fall asleep in the car. And then the

00:32:33.920 --> 00:32:35.839
car nap is the worst. The car nap's the worst.

00:32:35.880 --> 00:32:38.819
There's like maybe a 50 -50 chance we could transfer

00:32:38.819 --> 00:32:42.920
him. Otherwise it's like, you got 15 minutes

00:32:42.920 --> 00:32:44.740
in the car. You're not going to go back down

00:32:44.740 --> 00:32:47.519
for another nap. I'm tired too. I was hoping

00:32:47.519 --> 00:32:49.380
to get a nap while you were taking a nap. Yeah.

00:32:49.559 --> 00:32:53.119
It's just, I feel it. I feel it 100 % on like.

00:32:53.559 --> 00:32:56.640
i swore i'd never be ruled by that but but here

00:32:56.640 --> 00:33:00.259
we are here we are and even now we're like i'm

00:33:00.259 --> 00:33:02.900
thinking about his birthday party because his

00:33:02.900 --> 00:33:04.759
birthday's coming up in a little bit so like

00:33:04.759 --> 00:33:06.160
oh what do we want to do for a birthday party

00:33:06.160 --> 00:33:07.900
and mid -afternoon is a perfect time because

00:33:07.900 --> 00:33:10.039
you don't have to like serve a meal yeah but

00:33:10.039 --> 00:33:11.740
then that's right during nap time so i'm like

00:33:11.740 --> 00:33:15.099
do we skip a nap that day and just do we have

00:33:15.099 --> 00:33:18.119
his birthday party without him there we go do

00:33:18.119 --> 00:33:22.509
we have it at uh 11 a .m. I don't know. Honestly,

00:33:22.630 --> 00:33:24.650
I've thought about that too. I'm like, do we

00:33:24.650 --> 00:33:28.170
do a morning party? Probably. 9 a .m.? I also

00:33:28.170 --> 00:33:29.809
don't want to get up that early to get everything

00:33:29.809 --> 00:33:33.809
planned and prepped. We just have a rager at

00:33:33.809 --> 00:33:38.450
like 9 .30 at night. I don't know. If you guys

00:33:38.450 --> 00:33:42.250
have any advice on how to not be ruled by naps,

00:33:42.390 --> 00:33:47.369
please do share. I feel like I like structure

00:33:47.369 --> 00:33:52.039
in my life. being ruled by the nap isn't necessarily

00:33:52.039 --> 00:33:56.299
terrible but in in certain times it's like yeah

00:33:56.299 --> 00:33:59.259
it would be nice to be able to like go out to

00:33:59.259 --> 00:34:02.359
lunch right now where yeah go and grab coffee

00:34:02.359 --> 00:34:04.660
but and not run into him falling asleep in the

00:34:04.660 --> 00:34:07.359
car yep Yeah. My dad will bring us lunch every

00:34:07.359 --> 00:34:08.679
once in a while. And I'm like, well, you have

00:34:08.679 --> 00:34:11.679
to bring it by like 11. Yeah. Because he's going

00:34:11.679 --> 00:34:15.000
to go down for a nap. So. Yeah. Like we're eating

00:34:15.000 --> 00:34:18.239
lunch at 1130. So this is brunch for most people.

00:34:18.380 --> 00:34:21.599
Yes. Yeah. But second meal over here. Yep. Yeah.

00:34:21.780 --> 00:34:24.300
Oh, my gosh. I feel it. Well, we'd love to hear

00:34:24.300 --> 00:34:28.099
what you guys would, you know, swore you'd never

00:34:28.099 --> 00:34:31.380
do in motherhood, but find yourself doing. Because

00:34:31.380 --> 00:34:34.960
I think all of us find ourselves doing that.

00:34:35.239 --> 00:34:37.920
Yes, for sure. Yeah. Okay. Do you want to share

00:34:37.920 --> 00:34:43.500
your win of the week? Yeah. So Zeta's four month

00:34:43.500 --> 00:34:46.320
checkup was this week and Lloyd came with us

00:34:46.320 --> 00:34:48.800
and it was just like a terrible timing where

00:34:48.800 --> 00:34:52.179
she was getting hungry. It was also nap time

00:34:52.179 --> 00:34:54.840
for her. Nap time had been messed up. Speaking

00:34:54.840 --> 00:34:56.500
of nap time, nap time had been messed up for

00:34:56.500 --> 00:34:59.199
her all day. And so when the doctor went to do

00:34:59.199 --> 00:35:01.480
like the exam and check everything, she was just

00:35:01.480 --> 00:35:04.440
not having it and was so mad that he was checking

00:35:04.440 --> 00:35:06.099
her heart and breathing and poking and prodding

00:35:06.099 --> 00:35:09.659
her. And Lloyd was so concerned. Like, he walked

00:35:09.659 --> 00:35:12.139
up to the little, like, exam table and was looking

00:35:12.139 --> 00:35:14.119
at the doctor like, what are you doing to my

00:35:14.119 --> 00:35:15.860
sister? Like, do not hurt my sister. Who do you

00:35:15.860 --> 00:35:18.239
think you are? And it was just really sweet that,

00:35:18.320 --> 00:35:20.659
like, on the flip side of him throwing a car

00:35:20.659 --> 00:35:24.300
at her from my mom moment, he was, like, clearly

00:35:24.300 --> 00:35:27.519
concerned that she was upset and also that he

00:35:27.519 --> 00:35:29.619
thought someone was doing something to her that

00:35:29.619 --> 00:35:31.599
they weren't supposed to be doing. And he would,

00:35:31.679 --> 00:35:33.699
like, look at me and Stuart. Stuart was there,

00:35:33.699 --> 00:35:36.579
too. And, like. Like you're not doing anything,

00:35:36.679 --> 00:35:40.059
so I think it's okay. But she's crying and she's

00:35:40.059 --> 00:35:42.360
clearly upset. But it was really sweet. Just

00:35:42.360 --> 00:35:44.460
a sweet big brother moment. Yeah, that is really

00:35:44.460 --> 00:35:49.460
sweet. Okay, my win of the week. So at mealtime,

00:35:49.519 --> 00:35:53.400
we've been trying to pray before we eat. And

00:35:53.400 --> 00:35:55.340
Michael's grandparents are in town right now.

00:35:56.710 --> 00:35:58.829
They know sign language really well. So they

00:35:58.829 --> 00:36:02.989
taught Colt how to say amen in sign. So we've

00:36:02.989 --> 00:36:04.590
been praying at the beginning of every meal.

00:36:04.670 --> 00:36:07.190
And so Colt folds his hands. And then he waits

00:36:07.190 --> 00:36:10.289
for all of us to fold our hands. And if you don't

00:36:10.289 --> 00:36:12.690
have your hands folded, he points it out. So

00:36:12.690 --> 00:36:15.289
he'll be like, mama, mama. And so then I have

00:36:15.289 --> 00:36:17.820
to fold my hands. Dada, fold. Fold your hands.

00:36:18.139 --> 00:36:21.219
And so then we'll pray. We always say, dear Jesus.

00:36:21.320 --> 00:36:23.519
And he goes, Jesus. He says the last word of

00:36:23.519 --> 00:36:26.940
each phrase, Jesus. And we say, thank you for

00:36:26.940 --> 00:36:29.500
our food. And he goes, food. And thank you for

00:36:29.500 --> 00:36:32.420
our family. Family. And then amen. And he goes,

00:36:32.519 --> 00:36:37.579
amen. And he wants to not only pray at the beginning

00:36:37.579 --> 00:36:40.980
of our meals, but many times also during the

00:36:40.980 --> 00:36:44.250
meal. And so we pray, I think the other day during

00:36:44.250 --> 00:36:46.610
a meal, we prayed like six times and it was great.

00:36:46.690 --> 00:36:50.710
So our food was extra blessed and yes, we got

00:36:50.710 --> 00:36:53.610
all the nutrition we needed because it was extra

00:36:53.610 --> 00:36:55.989
blessed. So the six prayers, that's what does

00:36:55.989 --> 00:36:58.809
it. Yeah. So that has just been really cute and

00:36:58.809 --> 00:37:01.110
sweet. And I love how he, I mean, he's just picking

00:37:01.110 --> 00:37:04.929
up on things so quickly now and it's just fun

00:37:04.929 --> 00:37:07.599
to. Fun to watch it. I feel like Lloyd just like

00:37:07.599 --> 00:37:09.960
hit, it was like one day came and then all of

00:37:09.960 --> 00:37:12.380
a sudden, like he's learning a new word every

00:37:12.380 --> 00:37:15.380
single day. He's picking up on things. That's

00:37:15.380 --> 00:37:18.820
how I totally feel too. And it's like, I keep

00:37:18.820 --> 00:37:21.139
saying like, oh no, this is my favorite age.

00:37:21.360 --> 00:37:24.000
I really do think Colt right now is at my favorite

00:37:24.000 --> 00:37:27.920
age. been yeah and i just think that i'll keep

00:37:27.920 --> 00:37:31.860
saying that probably so forever yeah but um thanks

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