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Welcome back to No Manual, A Momcast, where we're

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here to just talk about the reality of motherhood,

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have some laughs along with it, maybe some tears.

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This week we have kind of a different and fun

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episode. We thought it'd be fun for you guys

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to get to know us kind of just not as moms. So

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we asked you all to send us some questions. We

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got a few questions and then we also put together

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just almost some icebreaker style questions.

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Some of them are mom related and parenting related

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and some of them are just. completely random.

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Yep. So that is what we're going to do today.

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And we're just going to have some fun. But first,

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do you want to start with your mom moment? I

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would love to. So my mom moment happened yesterday.

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Actually, both of our boys were crying like just

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yesterday was a really tough day. Like Colt was

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just inconsolable and Cruz was, I don't even

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know, hungry all day. I felt like But both the

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boys were just crying and Michael and I just

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like looked at each other and it was just that

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moment of like, what are we doing? What is this

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life? And... Yeah. And then on top of that, so

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our dog, Brisket is his name. He's crazy. Our

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dog is crazy. But recently he's had these allergies

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pop up. So he's like at the same time that both

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boys are crying, inconsolable, our dog is just

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sneezing in the background and like, like reverse

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sneezing. I don't know if you ever heard a dog

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do that. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And like he's, he's

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inconsolable almost. Michael and I are just like

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hysterically laughing because we were like, what

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is happening here? Yeah, I'm like, I don't know

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what I'm doing. What is happening? And yeah,

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it was just a moment of like, OK, let's take

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a deep breath. Let's get both boys calm down.

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Let's put the dog outside. He'll figure his sneezing

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out. And yeah, that's my mom moment. What is

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yours? So this past weekend, Stewart's mom took

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Lloyd overnight so that we could have like kind

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of a date night and obviously Zeta was still

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with us but so we had like kind of a chill night

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and then we're planning to have like a breakfast

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date and so Zeta's been really good at sleeping

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for how little she is where she'll give us like

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sometimes a like seven to eight hour stretch

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which is great and we're like thriving but for

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some reason this was just the night that she

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was like absolutely not yeah so the one night

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that like Lloyd is gone we have like a little

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bit of peace to ourselves she was up probably

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every two to three hours which of course is normal

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for her age and like i can't complain that much

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because she's still a baby but i was like the

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one night that we're like We're gonna try to

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use this to relax. No was just it was not it.

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She was up early She we had a hard time putting

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her down Just every kind of like issue you have

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with a baby sleeping. Yeah, we had it that night,

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which again She's usually a pretty good sleeper.

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So this felt even worse like if this was the

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norm You just get used to it if it's the norm.

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But at this point, we're like, Zeta, this never

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happens. You're not like this. Why though? So

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that was my fun time of this week. Well, yeah,

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let's hop into these questions. So we're going

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to do some just some fun random questions first,

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just so you can get to know us as your hosts

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a little bit more. The reality is, is yeah, we're

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moms, but we're also our own selves. Like we

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have hobbies and interests. And I think oftentimes

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in motherhood, we forget that we're like people.

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Yeah. We're people too. We're not just, just

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moms. So, okay. First question. If you have or

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had to choose a go -to karaoke song, what is

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it or what would it be? I would say mine is,

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year 3000 by the Jonas Brothers. Yeah, which

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they're not like the original artists, but I

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prefer their version. I'm like, I was a huge

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Jonas Brothers fan growing up. I still am. Honestly,

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they're like my, anytime they come to town, like

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I have to go to their concert. Yeah. Um, and

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I all, for the longest time, I thought I was

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going to marry Nick Jonas. I'm sorry. Yeah, it

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didn't work out too young for him. Yeah. Yeah,

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that's true. I have a great husband. So. you

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know no harm but yeah year 3000 that's just like

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it's a fun song people can sing along with you

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you're not just like everyone's staring at you

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while you sing it yeah that's the worst that's

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been my go -to i like that yeah i i don't know

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exactly what i would have to do in order to like

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actually want to do karaoke because there's never

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been a time when i've been like at a bar or anything

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where i'm like i'm gonna do karaoke but if i

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had to pick a song i would pick You're So Vain

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by Carly Simon. I think it's just like, it's

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a funny thing, cause you can like kind of perform

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with it, but it's not like a Broadway song where

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you have to perform with it. It just like has

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kind of a vibe. Yeah. So I think that would just

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be like a really funny go -to karaoke song. Nice.

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All right. Next question. How would you describe

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your parenting style? I would say honestly, I'm

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more of like the gentle parenting style. I didn't

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think I would be this way. I think just like

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Colt, especially like with Cruz, I'm sure it'll

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be the same way, but Colt is at that age where

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he just like tugs on my heartstrings a little

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bit. And like, I just want to make him happy.

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So like, Michael always tells me like, okay,

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in the middle of a tantrum, like I can't just

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give in and give. hold what he wants, but it's

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just, I'm like, oh, he's so sad and I just want

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to help him and give him what he wants because

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it makes him happy. And Michael's like that,

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you cannot do that. But that's totally just like

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a reflection of like pretty much all of my parenting

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style, which I know I'm like, okay, I need to

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work on certain aspects of it. But I think I'm

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more the gentle parent and Michael's more like

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the disciplinarian and and more like more strict

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in that fashion. Yeah. What about you? I think

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I like definitely have some of the like gentle

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parenting. Like when Lloyd has a tantrum, I try

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to like talk through it with him if I can. Obviously,

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like sometimes that's really easy to do and sometimes

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I'm not in the headspace to do that. And then

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I like the concept and what I try to do is like

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correlated discipline. So it's like you hit your

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sister with that toy. So now you don't get to

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play with that toy. Yeah. Or we've talked about

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he likes to throw things down the stairs. So

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if he throws things down the stairs, he doesn't

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get to play with it for the rest of the day because

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it's gone. Good. So we tried. I try to do a lot

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of that. I feel like I have kind of like a mix

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of like different parenting styles, because then

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I'm like, we try to not have a lot of screen

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time and we try to have minimal toys around.

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which is kind of Montessori -ish, I guess. But

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then I would never say that that is what we're

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doing for parenting. There's just little aspects

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of it. And then there's some kind of more old

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school stuff like, well, this is dinner and I'm

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not going to make you mac and cheese even though

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you don't want dinner. You can finish this. You're

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going to have milk before bed. I know you're

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not going to starve tonight. No. But you get

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to make the decision if you're going to eat or

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if you're going to... wait till breakfast. And

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so I've tried to start communicating that way

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with him too of like, okay, you can like, again,

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for dinner, next time you're going to have milk

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tonight, but the next time you're going to eat

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is breakfast. So do you feel good till breakfast?

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And I don't know if he understands me yet, but

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like I've been trying to use that, add that communication.

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And I try to be calm when I discipline him. Sometimes

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it's hard. Sometimes that doesn't happen. In

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the moment. It can be difficult for sure. Okay,

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what is something everyone loves and you hate

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or can't get on board with? For me, I would say...

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I don't know if you've heard of these. My sister

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-in -law actually just told me about them. They're

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called la -boo -boos. It's like a little like

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stuffed animal thing that it looks like a little

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gremlin, I think. Yeah. And, but people are like...

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They go live on like Friday nights or something

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like that and they sell out in seconds these

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stupid labooboos they're like $50 and What people

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use them for is like it's literally like a keychain

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like a stuffed animal keychain that you put on

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like your purse or your keys and it's Yeah, they're

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like selling out in seconds. And my sister -in

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-law was in town this last week and she found

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a store in Denver that carried them and she went

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like before they opened and like got in line

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for it just to get like a different color that

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she didn't have. I don't know if there's anything

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I would like go to a store before I opened for.

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I'm sure in like a couple months, it's like,

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it's like one of those things where it's like,

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oh, I'll never wear that. Right. Or when you

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start ironically saying something and then all

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of a sudden it's like in your vocabulary. Yeah.

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Yeah. It's one of those things. But this one,

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this time I'm like, there's no way I don't think

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I could spend 50 bucks on this. Yeah. I don't

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get that for sure. Yeah. So for me, I have two.

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One is Nutella. I don't think it's that good.

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Really? Oh, I love Nutella. I think it's super

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overrated and there are like better chocolate

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sauce options. Yeah. And better nuts than hazelnuts.

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Interesting. Then the big one that I feel like

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so many people hate me for is Beyonce. I don't

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get the obsession with Beyonce. I actually agree

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with you on that. I've never like, she has some

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songs I'm like, okay, like I get it, single ladies,

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you're gonna play it at the wedding. It's fun.

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For sure. Whatever. But like, I don't think she's

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as good of an artist. I don't think she's good

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enough of an artist to have the like... She's

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like an icon. The legendary and iconic presence

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that she has. She's fine. So I don't get it.

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So those are my two big ones. I actually agree

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with you on the Beyonce one. Alright, next question.

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What is your favorite parenting activity right

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now? I think... I really like that it's nice

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out and we get to do a lot of stuff outside.

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So like Lloyd really likes the bubbles, which

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has been super fun. We also recently got him,

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I guess grandparents got him one of those Strider

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bikes. Oh, yeah. And he still hasn't quite figured

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it out, but that's been like kind of our evening

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activity. If it's nice enough out is we like

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go help him practice riding that. And that's

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just been like super fun to like watch him. be

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a little bit scared but also like try to be brave

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and just learn this new thing that's like this

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is probably the biggest thing that's not just

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like a natural development thing that he's had

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to actually learn and it's been super fun that's

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fun ours is or mine my favorite parenting activity

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is probably our park trips we have a park in

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our neighborhood that we walk to and does not

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really like being in the stroller but if he knows

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he's going to the park he'll sit he will sit

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in the stroller and make it all the way to the

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park in his stroller and so we've been trying

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to do that pretty much any day that it's been

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nice out right now we'll go obviously we'll take

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the baby and then um either michael or i will

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sit with the baby and then one of us will kind

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of run around the playground with colt and help

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him down the slide and on the swings and that

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has just been super fun because he is just like

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so animated and so outgoing and playful and is

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he going down the slide feet or like not backwards

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yet not backwards yeah he goes feet like sits

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on his back and goes down and then his like his

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head gets thrown back for sure yeah but he loves

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it he like laughs at the end Lloyd just like

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one day decided that he was no longer going down

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on his belly i love it just turned around went

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down the slide like on his butt and then you're

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like you're a big kid now and he has not looked

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back and he loves the slide and i love it i love

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that i don't have to like help him with it um

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which like i totally would obviously and i did

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but it's it's just so much more like fun to catch

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him at the bottom yeah yeah and it's fun watching

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your kid like starting to be independent and

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learn how to do these things on their own oh

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yeah yeah Okay, next question. Do you have any

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nicknames? So I have two. I have some of my friends

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will call me Rick. So actually my friend Carly

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gave me that nickname because everyone calls

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her Carl. And so then it just turned into Carl

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and Rick. And then Stuart gave me this nickname.

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So anyone who actually knows me through Stuart

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will call me Drew. And that's what he calls me.

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Where did that come from? So when we first met,

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and you know when you first meet and you're like

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doing the awkward like trying to get to know

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each other and you don't really know what questions

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to ask, it came up that I love Nancy Drew. So

00:14:12.830 --> 00:14:14.769
for a while he called me Nancy Drew and then

00:14:14.769 --> 00:14:17.450
it dropped down to just Drew ever since. That's

00:14:17.450 --> 00:14:19.570
just what he's called me. Yeah, to the point

00:14:19.570 --> 00:14:21.690
where like if he calls me Erica, it's weird.

00:14:21.750 --> 00:14:23.690
I'm like, am I in trouble? Yeah, like are you

00:14:23.690 --> 00:14:27.480
mad at me? What's going on? I did tell him he

00:14:27.480 --> 00:14:29.299
had to call me Erica in our wedding vows. That

00:14:29.299 --> 00:14:31.059
was my like one rule for our wedding vows. Please

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don't call me Drew. But yeah, so he calls me

00:14:34.919 --> 00:14:38.919
Drew like any of his friends. Like we went out

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for a friend's wedding in the fall and everyone

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there called me Drew because that's the only

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way they know me or like his coworkers. If I

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meet them, that's what they call me. Do you think

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people actually think your name is Drew? And

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the main thing, most people I think know it's

00:14:54.000 --> 00:14:56.700
a nickname. Yeah. Most people assume it's my

00:14:56.700 --> 00:14:59.720
middle name. Got it. And then when I'm like,

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no, that's not my middle name, they're very confused.

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Like it actually has nothing to do with my name.

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I don't have a D in anywhere in any of my names.

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Yeah. Yeah. So yeah. What about you? So my friends

00:15:09.679 --> 00:15:14.519
call me Lars and I really don't know where it

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start. I think it was in high school it started.

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I also have a One of my best friends name is

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Sarah. So we're Lars and SARS, which SARS is

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like a disease or something like that, which

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is funny. But yeah, that's kind of been my main

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nickname. And then sometimes Michael will call

00:15:33.350 --> 00:15:36.710
me Squeaky and that's my contact in his phone.

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The origin of it is one time I like lost my voice

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because I was sick and so I then I just had like

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a squeaky voice after and then for some reason

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it just like just stuck it changed in his phone

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and It's like says squeaky with like a bird emoji

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next to it, which yeah, it's funny like In my

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phone, he's hubby with a heart. In his phone,

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I'm squeaky with a bird. Yep. That sounds about

00:16:02.210 --> 00:16:06.110
right for a husband and wife. Yeah. Yeah. So

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those are my main nicknames. I don't think I

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really have any more that I can think of. Yeah.

00:16:14.570 --> 00:16:16.889
All right. Do you have any nicknames for your

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kids? Ooh, yes. I mean, I feel like there's like

00:16:21.750 --> 00:16:26.279
the classic ones of like bubs, bubba. But for

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Colt, we call him Colty. And then for Cruz, we

00:16:29.940 --> 00:16:33.200
call him Cruzy. So it's Colty and Cruzy. And

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then our dog is Brisket. So we call him Brisky.

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So it's all just like the E. The E at the end.

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Yep. So yeah, those are our main ones. What about

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you? So Lloyd, we call Bug because we started

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calling him Bugaboo and then it just dropped

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to Bug. Zayda, Stuart calls her Ducky. I haven't

00:16:51.919 --> 00:16:54.200
picked up Duckie yet, but we also call her our

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little peanut or our little jelly bean sometimes

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because she's so tiny. I love it. She is a little

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peanut. Yep. She's so cute. OK, did your family

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have any weird traditions growing up? So I added

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this question specifically because of a weird

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tradition my family had that like it took me

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to being an adult to realize how weird it is.

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So for context. There was a company called Next

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Computer that was a company for a very short

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period of time. When Steve Jobs got fired from

00:17:26.150 --> 00:17:28.769
Apple, he started Next Computer and then Apple

00:17:28.769 --> 00:17:32.470
ended up acquiring Next. But my dad at one point

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in time, I think he like toured the factory or

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something like that. And so we have these. Branded

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mugs for my parents do I guess have these branded

00:17:40.460 --> 00:17:42.920
next computer mugs? So it's this computer company

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from the 90s that no one's ever heard of That

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they have and for some reason they only come

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out at Christmas time They're not Christmas mugs

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like there's nothing about them that are Christmas

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related that are holiday related It's not like

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they have trees on them They're just glass mugs

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with the next computer logo that for some reason

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we only pull out for Christmas for eggnog I love

00:18:04.630 --> 00:18:07.849
that. Super random. That's so funny. That's our

00:18:07.849 --> 00:18:09.970
family tradition. That's so random and weird.

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Oh my gosh. What about you? I couldn't really

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think of any weird ones. The two that I could

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think of that were just like actually sweet traditions

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that... hold on to. So every Friday night in

00:18:25.309 --> 00:18:28.109
my family we would have pizza and movie night

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and what it looked like is we had like this glorified

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tablecloth basically that was ginormous that

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we would put out in the living room and then

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we would so it was me and my three siblings growing

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up and I'm the youngest we would sit and we would

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eat our pizza and our dinner while watching the

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movie like on the ground. But every single week

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it like so it would be like me, my brother, my

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sister, and then my other brother sitting in

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a line. And then every week it would shift where

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then since I was first closest to the TV, then

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the next week I would be like the farthest from

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the TV. And so we like would shift every single

00:19:08.210 --> 00:19:10.730
week. So then we'd watch the movie and then we'd

00:19:10.730 --> 00:19:12.650
always have milkshakes at the end of the night,

00:19:12.769 --> 00:19:16.309
too. So that was like. Such a fun like childhood

00:19:16.309 --> 00:19:18.970
tradition growing up. I also feel like as a mom

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now. I understand stuff like that more, where

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it's like, yes, it's sweet and it's fun, but

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it's also a little bit of desperation of like,

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pizza. Don't have to think about what's gonna

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be, what we're gonna have for dinner, because

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we know it, always know what's gonna be pizza.

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And there's just this fun thing of like watching

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a movie, but also I'm just tired. Yes, like,

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oh, I get to sit here and veg out for a second

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too. Yep. Yeah. And then the other one is Christmas

00:19:43.519 --> 00:19:46.650
related, so. On Christmas Eve, we would always,

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all of us, no matter what age we were, would

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sleep in my parents' room. And another thing

00:19:53.150 --> 00:19:54.930
that would shift would be like me and my sister

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that would sleep in my parents' bed. And my parents

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always slept on the ground by the door to block

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the door so that we wouldn't escape in the night

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and try to go open our gifts. So then one year

00:20:07.049 --> 00:20:08.950
would be me and my sister in the bed and then

00:20:08.950 --> 00:20:10.750
my brothers sleeping on the ground and then it

00:20:10.750 --> 00:20:13.569
would shift. But that was always just such a

00:20:13.569 --> 00:20:16.180
fun. tradition, even though like none of us got

00:20:16.180 --> 00:20:21.500
sleep. It was terrible sleep. Um, but it just,

00:20:21.519 --> 00:20:24.400
yeah, it was such a fun, like childhood memory

00:20:24.400 --> 00:20:27.660
that we'll probably do with our kids too. So

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that's super fun. Yeah. Which then that leads

00:20:29.720 --> 00:20:32.579
us to our next question, which is as your family,

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do you have any traditions or any traditions

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you want to start? I think for sure that one

00:20:37.779 --> 00:20:41.059
we want to do with the kids. One thing that we

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do now, it's not healthy at all but every Saturday

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morning we get McDonald's breakfast and we can

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always like it's one of those things where it's

00:20:50.230 --> 00:20:52.210
like you don't have to think you don't have to

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you don't have to do much other than go and pick

00:20:54.670 --> 00:20:58.049
up the food and it's fun like Colt loves it and

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it's fun and um sometimes he goes like with Michael

00:21:01.910 --> 00:21:03.730
to the drive -through and gets it or sometimes

00:21:03.730 --> 00:21:05.769
we'll go try to sit inside somewhere and have

00:21:05.769 --> 00:21:09.420
it but it's always McDonald's breakfast. What's

00:21:09.420 --> 00:21:11.819
your go -to McDonald's breakfast order? Always

00:21:11.819 --> 00:21:14.559
the sausage, egg, and cheese McGriddle. That's

00:21:14.559 --> 00:21:17.700
my go -to. Yes, but I get a round egg. I like

00:21:17.700 --> 00:21:20.799
the round egg instead of like the, I don't know,

00:21:21.059 --> 00:21:25.000
the square egg. And a large Diet Coke. Okay.

00:21:25.200 --> 00:21:29.279
Yeah. Gotta have that crispy Diet Coke from McDonald's.

00:21:29.640 --> 00:21:31.839
Yeah. Yep. Yep. Yep. So that's all we have right

00:21:31.839 --> 00:21:34.700
now. I think as the boys get older, we'll for

00:21:34.700 --> 00:21:38.460
sure have more of that kick in, but Right now,

00:21:38.539 --> 00:21:40.740
just the McDonald's breakfast. Yeah, I think

00:21:40.740 --> 00:21:42.759
that's one of the things I'm excited to have

00:21:42.759 --> 00:21:44.839
the kids start to get older is for them to care

00:21:44.839 --> 00:21:47.400
about stuff like traditions. Yeah, how about

00:21:47.400 --> 00:21:50.819
you? So we also have a Saturday morning breakfast

00:21:50.819 --> 00:21:52.920
routine where we call it Daterday Breakfast.

00:21:53.519 --> 00:21:55.099
And really it just means Stuart's in charge of

00:21:55.099 --> 00:21:57.740
breakfast. So sometimes that does mean he just

00:21:57.740 --> 00:22:00.240
goes and picks up McDonald's for us. Most of

00:22:00.240 --> 00:22:02.799
the time he makes something. Some weeks it'll

00:22:02.799 --> 00:22:06.069
be something kind of special. My birthday was

00:22:06.069 --> 00:22:08.109
recently, so we made French toast because I like

00:22:08.109 --> 00:22:10.390
French toast. And sometimes he'll make biscuits

00:22:10.390 --> 00:22:12.750
and gravy if we're going crazy. Most of the time

00:22:12.750 --> 00:22:15.329
it's just like what we have in the house, like

00:22:15.329 --> 00:22:19.269
eggs and bacon. And then the other one we have

00:22:19.269 --> 00:22:23.269
is we do like our family Christmas on Christmas

00:22:23.269 --> 00:22:26.589
Eve. So everything's just shifted a day earlier.

00:22:26.609 --> 00:22:30.079
So we do like. We open pajamas the night before

00:22:30.079 --> 00:22:33.039
and then the morning of Christmas Eve, we do

00:22:33.039 --> 00:22:37.039
gifts and monkey bread for breakfast and all

00:22:37.039 --> 00:22:39.720
of that. Partially just then on Christmas Day,

00:22:39.779 --> 00:22:41.559
we can spend it with our families and there's

00:22:41.559 --> 00:22:44.579
less like pressure that way. Yep. That time.

00:22:44.660 --> 00:22:49.019
Yeah. Nice. Nice. OK, what is your guilty pleasure?

00:22:49.500 --> 00:22:52.779
So we love bad dating shows like The Bachelor.

00:22:53.240 --> 00:22:57.730
Love is blind. all of those and it started we

00:22:57.730 --> 00:23:00.170
like used to watch it watch them with friends

00:23:00.170 --> 00:23:02.190
and it was like oh it's like an experience because

00:23:02.190 --> 00:23:03.930
you're watching with friends and then you don't

00:23:03.930 --> 00:23:06.430
feel as like I don't know right and then COVID

00:23:06.430 --> 00:23:08.170
happened so like obviously we weren't watching

00:23:08.170 --> 00:23:10.269
with friends anymore but we still kept watching

00:23:10.269 --> 00:23:13.430
all of these just like bad dating shows it makes

00:23:13.430 --> 00:23:15.630
you feel good about your life a little bit yeah

00:23:15.630 --> 00:23:19.009
yeah like okay I don't have my stuff together

00:23:19.009 --> 00:23:21.390
but at least I'm not that bad yes that's probably

00:23:21.390 --> 00:23:25.000
my biggest guilty pleasure okay I also enjoy

00:23:25.000 --> 00:23:27.759
the bad dating shows. Love is Blind is a big

00:23:27.759 --> 00:23:31.559
one. I also really love the Kardashians. Just

00:23:31.559 --> 00:23:33.220
Bad Reality TV in general. Yeah, Bad Reality

00:23:33.220 --> 00:23:36.359
TV. The other thing, My Guilty Pleasure, which

00:23:36.359 --> 00:23:39.240
I blame it on being like a pregnancy craving,

00:23:40.039 --> 00:23:43.619
but Dilly Bars from Dairy Queen. They're basically

00:23:43.619 --> 00:23:46.339
just like ice cream bars, but the Heath ones

00:23:46.339 --> 00:23:49.200
specifically. I'm a big Heath fan, Heath Bar

00:23:49.200 --> 00:23:53.099
fan, but yeah. When I was pregnant with Cruz,

00:23:53.279 --> 00:23:55.539
I pretty much had one every single night. Perfect.

00:23:55.640 --> 00:23:59.000
And now that has kind of just continued. And

00:23:59.000 --> 00:24:01.200
you need the calories. Yeah, I eat it while watching

00:24:01.200 --> 00:24:04.920
the bad reality TV. Yeah. Yeah. It's kind of

00:24:04.920 --> 00:24:08.039
an expensive guilty pleasure because when I realize

00:24:08.039 --> 00:24:10.980
I want the dilly bar, which is every night, but

00:24:10.980 --> 00:24:14.140
it's usually around like 8 30 PM and I don't

00:24:14.140 --> 00:24:16.720
really want to drive to go get it. So we door

00:24:16.720 --> 00:24:20.670
dash it. and you know DoorDash is just outrageously

00:24:20.670 --> 00:24:21.430
expensive. So instead of it being like a seven

00:24:21.430 --> 00:24:23.430
dollar thing, it's like a seventy dollar thing.

00:24:23.630 --> 00:24:26.029
Exactly. For no real reason. Yes. And the funny

00:24:26.029 --> 00:24:29.049
part is, so they come in like a pack of six that

00:24:29.049 --> 00:24:33.369
you can buy and many, many, many times, probably

00:24:33.369 --> 00:24:37.150
four or five times so far, we've DoorDashed it

00:24:37.150 --> 00:24:39.930
and then they send the wrong flavor. Of dilly

00:24:39.930 --> 00:24:43.089
bar and I only like the heath flavor, of course,

00:24:43.109 --> 00:24:45.089
and especially when you're pregnant then yeah,

00:24:45.109 --> 00:24:48.029
it's unacceptable so michael has then had to

00:24:48.029 --> 00:24:51.710
drive to dairy queen to go get the pregnancy

00:24:51.710 --> 00:24:55.750
craving and Now I don't really have the excuse

00:24:55.750 --> 00:24:59.109
of pregnancy craving but Then we just have to

00:24:59.109 --> 00:25:01.309
reorder through door dash. They do give us a

00:25:01.309 --> 00:25:04.700
refund when it's wrong, but all that to say It

00:25:04.700 --> 00:25:07.539
is an expensive guilty pleasure that I have right

00:25:07.539 --> 00:25:10.779
now. To go with that, it's less expensive, but

00:25:10.779 --> 00:25:14.220
in like kind of unhealthy. We like to get the

00:25:14.220 --> 00:25:17.599
whatever like insane flavor that Oreo has to

00:25:17.599 --> 00:25:19.799
watch again, watch while or eat while we're watching

00:25:19.799 --> 00:25:22.299
The Bachelor. But to try all the different flavors.

00:25:22.519 --> 00:25:24.660
Yeah. And some of them you're like, that makes

00:25:24.660 --> 00:25:27.450
perfect sense. Peanut butter and chocolate. That's

00:25:27.450 --> 00:25:29.809
a classic combination. And then some of them

00:25:29.809 --> 00:25:31.289
are like, I don't know why we're trying this,

00:25:31.410 --> 00:25:34.269
but we have to. What's your favorite one? And

00:25:34.269 --> 00:25:37.130
then what's the weirdest one you've tried? So

00:25:37.130 --> 00:25:40.769
one of the most recent ones we tried was the

00:25:40.769 --> 00:25:43.069
Irish cream one, which we're pretty excited for.

00:25:43.170 --> 00:25:44.630
We're like, that sounds really good. Yeah. But

00:25:44.630 --> 00:25:48.269
it just tastes like alcohol. We're like, that's

00:25:48.269 --> 00:25:52.529
super like, how do you get this to taste like

00:25:52.529 --> 00:25:55.670
alcohol, especially since Irish cream? Doesn't.

00:25:56.470 --> 00:26:00.250
Like, so that's probably one of the worst or

00:26:00.250 --> 00:26:02.509
weirdest ones. I'm trying to think one of the

00:26:02.509 --> 00:26:05.390
best. Oh, actually, the Post Malone came out

00:26:05.390 --> 00:26:07.609
with an Oreo flavor recently, you know, naturally,

00:26:07.650 --> 00:26:10.490
as you do. And it was like caramel something

00:26:10.490 --> 00:26:13.309
and it was very good. So that was probably one

00:26:13.309 --> 00:26:16.910
of the best ones that we've had. Nice. What is

00:26:16.910 --> 00:26:19.910
your favorite kids movie or movie to watch with?

00:26:19.930 --> 00:26:23.269
I guess Cold Cruise doesn't really care. Probably.

00:26:24.269 --> 00:26:29.150
My favorite kids movie growing up was Toy Story.

00:26:29.609 --> 00:26:33.069
Classic. Yeah, classic. Toy Story 1 for sure.

00:26:33.349 --> 00:26:35.549
I do enjoy the others. Which also, have you watched

00:26:35.549 --> 00:26:37.950
that on Disney Plus recently? Uh -huh. Because

00:26:37.950 --> 00:26:41.569
they've definitely like changed some things in

00:26:41.569 --> 00:26:44.230
the background and I like called it out when

00:26:44.230 --> 00:26:45.630
we watched it the other day. I was like, that

00:26:45.630 --> 00:26:47.809
moving truck is different. Stuart told me I was

00:26:47.809 --> 00:26:49.980
crazy. I was like... No, I'm not great. I know

00:26:49.980 --> 00:26:52.140
my picks. Like I will look it up right now. It

00:26:52.140 --> 00:26:53.680
is different. We have this on DVD. I'll pull

00:26:53.680 --> 00:26:56.180
out the DVD if we need to. Yeah. OK, I'm going

00:26:56.180 --> 00:26:57.640
to have to watch it with that in mind. Yeah,

00:26:57.640 --> 00:26:59.559
they've changed like just a couple of the background

00:26:59.559 --> 00:27:02.359
things that if you aren't paying attention, you

00:27:02.359 --> 00:27:04.400
don't really notice. Yeah. But it just threw

00:27:04.400 --> 00:27:07.220
me off. Like modernize it or to? I think just

00:27:07.220 --> 00:27:08.960
to add more detail more than anything. So it

00:27:08.960 --> 00:27:11.779
didn't really feel like more current necessarily.

00:27:11.839 --> 00:27:14.420
Just like I think there's like a name on the

00:27:14.420 --> 00:27:17.160
moving truck or something like that that wasn't

00:27:17.160 --> 00:27:20.539
there. There was like one scene where there was

00:27:20.539 --> 00:27:22.880
more detail to a building in the background and

00:27:22.880 --> 00:27:24.660
some weird stuff like that. Okay, I'm gonna have

00:27:24.660 --> 00:27:27.380
to watch it. But that has been a fun one to watch

00:27:27.380 --> 00:27:30.259
with Colt too. I think we're in the middle of

00:27:30.259 --> 00:27:33.339
Toy Story 4 right now. Just kind of watching

00:27:33.339 --> 00:27:35.700
those through. Which he doesn't pay attention

00:27:35.700 --> 00:27:39.099
for super long, so it takes us a while to get

00:27:39.099 --> 00:27:42.980
through them. Few weeks ago. We decided we were

00:27:42.980 --> 00:27:45.279
gonna have like dinner in front of the TV and

00:27:45.279 --> 00:27:47.299
watch Toy Story And that was just that was a

00:27:47.299 --> 00:27:49.819
fun little time, but that one's been fun to watch

00:27:49.819 --> 00:27:53.200
with him cars has been fun Really anything that's

00:27:53.200 --> 00:27:57.640
kind of like more. I don't know more action Okay

00:27:57.640 --> 00:28:01.680
packed in a sense keeps him interested Yeah,

00:28:02.039 --> 00:28:04.599
which he like now at his age. He'll sit in front

00:28:04.599 --> 00:28:07.279
of the TV for like I don't know ten minutes Yeah,

00:28:07.279 --> 00:28:10.980
that's what he loses interest. Yeah um so it's

00:28:10.980 --> 00:28:14.660
yeah it's been fun it i do think it'll be fun

00:28:14.660 --> 00:28:17.640
whenever he can sit and like make it through

00:28:17.640 --> 00:28:20.980
a movie not that we'll do that all the time but

00:28:20.980 --> 00:28:23.339
that'll just be a fun little like movie we could

00:28:23.339 --> 00:28:26.140
have movie nights right then you can have the

00:28:26.140 --> 00:28:28.660
like pizza and movie nights as a family and it's

00:28:28.660 --> 00:28:30.519
fun instead of stressful because he's not running

00:28:30.519 --> 00:28:33.880
around yeah Yeah. Okay. How about for you? I

00:28:33.880 --> 00:28:36.559
mean, Sam, I would watch pretty much any Pixar

00:28:36.559 --> 00:28:39.119
movie, at least any classic Pixar movie. Some

00:28:39.119 --> 00:28:40.980
of the new ones we have been less interested

00:28:40.980 --> 00:28:43.859
in. One of my favorites, I think, is Inside Out.

00:28:44.299 --> 00:28:46.480
Oh, that is a good one. I haven't watched the

00:28:46.480 --> 00:28:49.279
second one yet, have you? We actually just watched

00:28:49.279 --> 00:28:51.000
it this week, but Stuart and I saw it when it

00:28:51.000 --> 00:28:53.039
was in theaters because Inside Out 1 was the

00:28:53.039 --> 00:28:55.859
first movie we saw in theaters together. So when

00:28:55.859 --> 00:28:57.140
it came out in theaters, we're like, we have

00:28:57.140 --> 00:28:59.799
to go on a date and do this. And Inside Out 2,

00:28:59.799 --> 00:29:03.819
it is good. It definitely doesn't because she's

00:29:03.819 --> 00:29:07.420
old. Riley is older than it. It has like older

00:29:07.420 --> 00:29:09.920
themes, like not necessarily not in like a weird

00:29:09.920 --> 00:29:13.240
way or anything like that, just in more of like

00:29:13.240 --> 00:29:17.380
this is more for like 12 year olds than for eight

00:29:17.380 --> 00:29:21.039
year olds. Yeah. So it's just like grew up with

00:29:21.039 --> 00:29:23.359
it. Kind of like the Toy Story. Exactly. Yeah.

00:29:23.359 --> 00:29:25.500
So it's kind of more of that vibe of like if

00:29:25.500 --> 00:29:28.400
you watch the first one about the same age as

00:29:28.400 --> 00:29:31.910
Riley, then. You'd be the appropriate age when

00:29:31.910 --> 00:29:34.730
this one came out, but like it's for like little

00:29:34.730 --> 00:29:37.049
little kids It's just like above their head,

00:29:37.369 --> 00:29:39.869
you know, it's not inappropriate. It's just they're

00:29:39.869 --> 00:29:42.109
not really gonna understand what's going on Yeah,

00:29:42.710 --> 00:29:44.769
like they're not gonna understand that they're

00:29:44.769 --> 00:29:47.029
depicting a panic attack kind of thing. Yeah,

00:29:47.029 --> 00:29:51.730
but it was really good. So Okay, what is your

00:29:51.730 --> 00:29:56.049
go -to drink order? so this is I'm a bad person

00:29:56.049 --> 00:29:59.430
for a question like this because I'm a very mood

00:29:59.430 --> 00:30:02.789
-based drink order, like just ordering things

00:30:02.789 --> 00:30:07.710
in general. But I do like iced tea and hot chocolate.

00:30:07.930 --> 00:30:09.630
But like if I had to pick like two things, it'd

00:30:09.630 --> 00:30:11.210
be like iced tea in the summer and hot chocolate

00:30:11.210 --> 00:30:14.089
in the winter probably. I also like... a Sonic

00:30:14.089 --> 00:30:18.269
Limeade. Ooh. That's like a Cherry Limeade. Their

00:30:18.269 --> 00:30:21.230
Cherry Limeade is the move for sure. That's Michael.

00:30:21.430 --> 00:30:24.289
Michael loves Sonic Cherry Limeade. Sonic has

00:30:24.289 --> 00:30:26.210
gotten so much more money. And if you order through

00:30:26.210 --> 00:30:28.430
the app, it's always happy hour. So you can't

00:30:28.430 --> 00:30:30.890
like not do that. Hey, that's good to know. Yeah.

00:30:31.150 --> 00:30:33.730
Yeah. There's a tip for all you listeners out

00:30:33.730 --> 00:30:37.750
there. Yeah. Okay. Mine. I mentioned McDonald's.

00:30:37.750 --> 00:30:41.579
I love like a McDonald's Diet Coke. And it really

00:30:41.579 --> 00:30:45.140
any time of the day, it's just like it's the

00:30:45.140 --> 00:30:49.339
the carbonation of it is so good that I just

00:30:49.339 --> 00:30:51.799
that's how I feel about Dr Pepper too. Yeah.

00:30:52.099 --> 00:30:56.180
And then like coffee wise, I'm a big coffee person.

00:30:56.380 --> 00:30:58.480
I usually have to have at least one coffee a

00:30:58.480 --> 00:31:02.200
day. I do love just like an iced latte with like

00:31:02.200 --> 00:31:04.640
a little sweetener of some sort in it, vanilla

00:31:04.640 --> 00:31:08.019
or honey. At Starbucks, I'm always an iced brown

00:31:08.019 --> 00:31:12.019
sugar shaken espresso. with cold foam. Gotta

00:31:12.019 --> 00:31:14.000
add the cold foam. Gotta add it. So I'm like,

00:31:14.160 --> 00:31:17.200
I think, I would say I'm like a sweet drink person.

00:31:17.460 --> 00:31:19.359
I like sweet drinks. I don't do coffee, but I

00:31:19.359 --> 00:31:21.460
like sweet drinks. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Those are

00:31:21.460 --> 00:31:24.579
mine. All right. What is the best piece of parenting

00:31:24.579 --> 00:31:27.740
advice you've received? I would say, I don't

00:31:27.740 --> 00:31:29.880
know if I'm probably going to butcher the wording

00:31:29.880 --> 00:31:35.079
honestly, but I heard this actually recently.

00:31:35.519 --> 00:31:38.799
And I forget who was from, but just going into

00:31:38.799 --> 00:31:43.099
like having two kids. And with Colt, I was very

00:31:43.099 --> 00:31:47.539
like schedule oriented, very strict, like, oh,

00:31:47.619 --> 00:31:50.859
your wake window is supposed to be two to three

00:31:50.859 --> 00:31:54.480
hours. So like it has to be that. And so like,

00:31:54.960 --> 00:31:57.220
if you wasn't taking a nap at the three hour

00:31:57.220 --> 00:32:00.319
mark, I was like, what did I do wrong? I messed

00:32:00.319 --> 00:32:02.880
up the day, like the whole schedule shifting.

00:32:03.549 --> 00:32:06.309
And I feel like this time around, someone told

00:32:06.309 --> 00:32:11.049
me like, you need to just go with the flow. Like,

00:32:11.170 --> 00:32:14.349
don't worry so much about the schedule and the

00:32:14.349 --> 00:32:18.910
wake windows and just go off of cues and how

00:32:18.910 --> 00:32:20.589
your kids are doing and how they're feeling.

00:32:21.390 --> 00:32:24.309
And I feel like that, it may not be necessarily

00:32:24.309 --> 00:32:26.829
the best parenting advice I've received in general,

00:32:26.829 --> 00:32:30.430
but for this season, that's like what I'm holding

00:32:30.430 --> 00:32:34.500
onto when... when naps get screwed up or like

00:32:34.500 --> 00:32:36.539
we're not sleeping much the night before and

00:32:36.539 --> 00:32:39.500
it's messing with the day I'm trying to just

00:32:39.500 --> 00:32:43.200
be like okay with the fact that like the schedule

00:32:43.200 --> 00:32:46.299
is gonna shift and kids are gonna like kids are

00:32:46.299 --> 00:32:49.160
like like us as adults where like you have a

00:32:49.160 --> 00:32:50.779
bad night's sleep and you're tired throughout

00:32:50.779 --> 00:32:53.259
the day so you're gonna sleep try to take a nap

00:32:53.259 --> 00:32:56.839
an extra nap during the day yeah and vice versa

00:32:56.839 --> 00:33:00.809
same thing so Yeah, I would say that it's season

00:33:00.809 --> 00:33:03.710
oriented advice that I am holding onto. What

00:33:03.710 --> 00:33:06.049
about you? I think one thing that's helped me

00:33:06.049 --> 00:33:08.549
again, especially in this season. So when we

00:33:08.549 --> 00:33:10.890
had my mom on in one of our like first episodes,

00:33:10.950 --> 00:33:14.049
she said something about how like kids aren't

00:33:14.049 --> 00:33:16.650
doing things intentionally to like ruin your

00:33:16.650 --> 00:33:18.289
day or make you mad or something like that. I

00:33:18.289 --> 00:33:20.569
don't remember exactly how she said it. But Lloyd

00:33:20.569 --> 00:33:22.930
is definitely in like a season where it definitely

00:33:22.930 --> 00:33:26.089
feels like he's doing things intentionally to

00:33:26.089 --> 00:33:28.829
like. piss me off which I know isn't true but

00:33:28.829 --> 00:33:31.950
then it's like he climbs on the table and I try

00:33:31.950 --> 00:33:35.630
to like redirect him and he just like starts

00:33:35.630 --> 00:33:38.950
giggling and it feels like so intentional that

00:33:38.950 --> 00:33:42.269
he's like trying to spite me or something uh

00:33:42.269 --> 00:33:44.670
-huh so like keeping that in the back of my head

00:33:44.670 --> 00:33:47.640
has been Super helpful. I'm not good at remembering

00:33:47.640 --> 00:33:51.059
it every time. Yeah, but like okay. He's just

00:33:51.059 --> 00:33:54.720
a little guy he's he's learning things and he's

00:33:54.720 --> 00:33:58.039
not doing this like intentionally to Make my

00:33:58.039 --> 00:34:01.180
day harder make it worse. Yeah, even if whatever

00:34:01.180 --> 00:34:03.460
he's doing is making my day harder making it

00:34:03.460 --> 00:34:06.519
worse So I think that's probably at least the

00:34:06.519 --> 00:34:09.739
big one for this season right now. Yeah, that's

00:34:09.739 --> 00:34:11.920
good Yeah, I totally feel that too. You're not

00:34:11.920 --> 00:34:14.809
alone and like feeling like your kids are doing

00:34:14.809 --> 00:34:17.710
things on purpose yeah it's it i don't know what

00:34:17.710 --> 00:34:21.550
it is that feels so intentional but it does it's

00:34:21.550 --> 00:34:24.630
like they know exactly what to do yeah and when

00:34:24.630 --> 00:34:29.210
to do it to piss you off yep i feel it okay next

00:34:29.210 --> 00:34:33.170
question what is your go -to feel -good movie

00:34:33.170 --> 00:34:37.909
mine is miracle on ice it's a good one anytime

00:34:37.909 --> 00:34:41.690
i'm like bad day sad something like that like

00:34:41.690 --> 00:34:44.059
i could put that on Which is funny cuz I'm not

00:34:44.059 --> 00:34:46.440
really a hockey fan. Yeah, I mean like did you

00:34:46.440 --> 00:34:49.219
watch it a lot like growing up? Yeah, my parents

00:34:49.219 --> 00:34:51.059
really like the movie. So that's probably part

00:34:51.059 --> 00:34:53.780
of it It's a little bit nostalgic, but then like

00:34:53.780 --> 00:34:56.119
I'm ready to go beat the Soviets after I watch

00:34:56.119 --> 00:34:58.179
it You know, you're you're just in a good mood

00:34:58.179 --> 00:35:01.599
and yeah, it's got a great ending It's based

00:35:01.599 --> 00:35:03.480
on a true story, which makes it even better.

00:35:03.739 --> 00:35:07.179
So that's like I think Stewart just like put

00:35:07.179 --> 00:35:09.199
it on one day that he knew I was in a bad mood

00:35:09.199 --> 00:35:14.449
It's like this helps things. That's good Mine

00:35:14.449 --> 00:35:18.730
I'm not a huge movie person in general, but I

00:35:18.730 --> 00:35:21.690
would say the movie that I've seen the most is

00:35:21.690 --> 00:35:24.550
probably 500 days of summer. I haven't seen it

00:35:24.550 --> 00:35:27.570
in so many years. Yeah, but there was a time

00:35:27.570 --> 00:35:30.590
where I would watch that all of the time and

00:35:30.590 --> 00:35:33.550
it doesn't necessarily have like the best happy

00:35:33.550 --> 00:35:35.170
ending. It's just kind of like definitely not

00:35:35.170 --> 00:35:38.210
a classic goal happy ending. No, no, it still

00:35:38.210 --> 00:35:40.989
ends like joyful and happy, but it's not like

00:35:41.700 --> 00:35:44.199
Love story that you're wanting. Yeah. Yeah, he

00:35:44.199 --> 00:35:46.059
doesn't get the girl No, he does not get the

00:35:46.059 --> 00:35:48.980
girl, but he does end up happy and that's okay.

00:35:49.519 --> 00:35:53.559
So that's probably my feel -good movie. I also

00:35:53.559 --> 00:35:56.739
Loved growing up John Tucker must die. That's

00:35:56.739 --> 00:36:00.420
like that's also yeah that one or she's the man

00:36:00.420 --> 00:36:03.860
those are like that I like 90s. Yeah, I want

00:36:03.860 --> 00:36:07.440
to watch like put on a movie that I I know makes

00:36:07.440 --> 00:36:10.239
me laugh or feel like makes me feel good, but

00:36:10.239 --> 00:36:12.800
I don't have to pay attention to a ton. Those

00:36:12.800 --> 00:36:15.480
are John Tucker must die or she's the man. Love

00:36:15.480 --> 00:36:18.460
it. Yeah. I also love 27 dresses. Oh, that's

00:36:18.460 --> 00:36:20.179
a good one too. I think that's like probably

00:36:20.179 --> 00:36:23.719
my like go -to rom -com. That's funny. And that's

00:36:23.719 --> 00:36:26.320
a classic. Yeah. Yeah. And she does get the guy.

00:36:26.440 --> 00:36:29.039
She does get the guy at the end. Yeah. Love it.

00:36:29.400 --> 00:36:32.300
All right. What is the best book about parenting

00:36:32.300 --> 00:36:35.820
that you've read or parenting book? I, this is

00:36:35.820 --> 00:36:38.340
a confession, I've actually never read a parenting

00:36:38.340 --> 00:36:41.480
book. I haven't read that many. Yeah. I've read,

00:36:42.280 --> 00:36:46.780
so I read Bringing Up Bei Bei. Okay. Which I

00:36:46.780 --> 00:36:48.840
just thought was super interesting and like I

00:36:48.840 --> 00:36:51.639
would kind of recommend it. So it's an American

00:36:51.639 --> 00:36:54.820
mom raising her kids in France and kind of just

00:36:54.820 --> 00:36:57.420
like comparing a lot of the like different parenting

00:36:57.420 --> 00:37:00.730
tactics. And there's a lot of things and I'm

00:37:00.730 --> 00:37:04.449
like, oh yeah, that does make sense. Like this

00:37:04.449 --> 00:37:06.250
is how we do it in America and it clearly doesn't

00:37:06.250 --> 00:37:09.210
work very well. And this is how, you know, they

00:37:09.210 --> 00:37:11.530
do it differently. And I also just thought it

00:37:11.530 --> 00:37:14.050
was really interesting to hear the differences

00:37:14.050 --> 00:37:17.329
of like how different cultures handle motherhood

00:37:17.329 --> 00:37:20.789
and handle parenting. And then another one that

00:37:20.789 --> 00:37:24.489
I read recently, it's what a difference a mom

00:37:24.489 --> 00:37:26.769
makes. And it's specifically about being a mom

00:37:26.769 --> 00:37:29.929
to boys. Um, and there were, I mean, there's

00:37:29.929 --> 00:37:31.230
some things in it that I was like, I don't know

00:37:31.230 --> 00:37:33.710
that I necessarily agree with that, but it was

00:37:33.710 --> 00:37:37.230
super helpful again, like as a mom of a boy of

00:37:37.230 --> 00:37:40.670
looking at some just like challenges that come

00:37:40.670 --> 00:37:43.929
up both at like this age and then knowing what's

00:37:43.929 --> 00:37:46.150
going to come down the road of things he's going

00:37:46.150 --> 00:37:47.849
to have questions about and stuff like that and

00:37:47.849 --> 00:37:50.570
how to approach it in like a healthy way and

00:37:50.570 --> 00:37:52.909
like knowing how boys think, especially for me,

00:37:52.909 --> 00:37:56.760
like I did not grow up with brothers. So. You're

00:37:56.760 --> 00:38:00.860
like this is new territory. So that was I think

00:38:00.860 --> 00:38:03.239
it was just like super insightful for me. Mm

00:38:03.239 --> 00:38:08.219
-hmm Okay, what is your favorite random fact?

00:38:09.119 --> 00:38:13.179
Okay, so this is another one I put on here But

00:38:13.179 --> 00:38:16.500
we recently learned Stuart and I I don't know

00:38:16.500 --> 00:38:19.159
I think he found this fact is that there's a

00:38:19.159 --> 00:38:21.889
prison Don't remember which country but there's

00:38:21.889 --> 00:38:24.150
a prison that instead of using guard dogs They

00:38:24.150 --> 00:38:27.969
use guard geese because geese are loud and they

00:38:27.969 --> 00:38:30.989
can't be bribed like a dog can be bribed And

00:38:30.989 --> 00:38:33.469
I think it's the funniest thing in that all prisons

00:38:33.469 --> 00:38:37.469
should use geese now Honestly, it's genius. It's

00:38:37.469 --> 00:38:40.489
so funny. It's like why didn't people think of

00:38:40.489 --> 00:38:43.250
this before? Yeah, and geese are just mean like

00:38:43.250 --> 00:38:45.789
yeah I mean, I wouldn't want to try to escape.

00:38:46.150 --> 00:38:49.610
Yeah, if there's we were you know, we were on

00:38:49.610 --> 00:38:51.309
like a walk the other day and Lloyd wanted to

00:38:51.309 --> 00:38:53.449
go say hi to a goose. I was like, no, this is

00:38:53.449 --> 00:38:55.369
going to be a very traumatic event if you try

00:38:55.369 --> 00:38:58.889
to do that. Yeah. So I get it. Geese are mean.

00:38:59.030 --> 00:39:02.289
They're mean. And they're very loud. Yes. My

00:39:02.289 --> 00:39:04.690
favorite random fact is that I don't have a favorite

00:39:04.690 --> 00:39:08.809
random fact because I just, I feel like I like

00:39:08.809 --> 00:39:11.570
hear random facts like that. And then I just

00:39:11.570 --> 00:39:13.920
never remember them. That's fair. You probably

00:39:13.920 --> 00:39:15.539
have more important things to think about is

00:39:15.539 --> 00:39:17.980
really what it is. I don't know. I just have

00:39:17.980 --> 00:39:20.260
never been, I've never been one of those people

00:39:20.260 --> 00:39:23.420
that like holds onto random facts or like remembers

00:39:23.420 --> 00:39:26.559
movie quotes. Like I just don't remember those

00:39:26.559 --> 00:39:30.159
things. Like, yeah, I could kind of like paraphrase

00:39:30.159 --> 00:39:33.219
it for you, but there's people that just like

00:39:33.219 --> 00:39:36.559
know those things like no other. Stewart is really

00:39:36.559 --> 00:39:39.829
good, especially at Trivia. movie quotes that's

00:39:39.829 --> 00:39:42.130
I see I think that's fun all of them I think

00:39:42.130 --> 00:39:45.070
that's so fun and I just like I can't hang with

00:39:45.070 --> 00:39:48.530
that because I just can't remember so that's

00:39:48.530 --> 00:39:52.929
fine sorry everybody all right so this one is

00:39:52.929 --> 00:39:56.610
for you and I won't really have an answer so

00:39:56.610 --> 00:39:59.230
what advice would you have for someone who's

00:39:59.230 --> 00:40:02.619
stepping into the IUI process Yeah I would say

00:40:02.619 --> 00:40:06.400
so IUI is intrauterine insemination and that's

00:40:06.400 --> 00:40:11.179
what Michael and I did fertility treatment wise

00:40:11.179 --> 00:40:15.199
to get pregnant with colt. And I would say probably

00:40:15.199 --> 00:40:20.659
my advice stepping into it is really that like

00:40:20.659 --> 00:40:23.300
I actually heard this advice not too long ago

00:40:23.300 --> 00:40:27.380
from a fertility page that I follow, but that

00:40:27.380 --> 00:40:29.719
you, yes, you're stepping into this really hard

00:40:29.719 --> 00:40:32.539
process, but you've already walked through probably

00:40:32.539 --> 00:40:36.260
the most difficult part, but which is the months

00:40:36.260 --> 00:40:39.159
and months of disappointment of trying to get

00:40:39.159 --> 00:40:42.639
pregnant and not getting pregnant. And now you're

00:40:42.639 --> 00:40:44.960
stepping into this process that, yes, it's hard.

00:40:45.579 --> 00:40:49.219
There's lots of different parts to it with medication

00:40:49.219 --> 00:40:52.420
and testing and all the things, but now you're.

00:40:52.440 --> 00:40:54.639
you're getting to the point where you're reaching

00:40:54.639 --> 00:40:59.500
the end and so I would just say like my advice

00:40:59.500 --> 00:41:02.320
is to hold on to the fact that you're reaching

00:41:02.320 --> 00:41:05.619
some results and that you've already made it

00:41:05.619 --> 00:41:08.079
through all this hard and that you can make it

00:41:08.079 --> 00:41:11.619
through this difficult part too so hopefully

00:41:11.619 --> 00:41:15.159
that makes sense but yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah

00:41:15.159 --> 00:41:19.679
next question is what is a current book you're

00:41:19.679 --> 00:41:22.889
reading So right now I'm reading the Count of

00:41:22.889 --> 00:41:25.610
Monte Cristo which according to my Kindle if

00:41:25.610 --> 00:41:27.769
I read an hour a day I will be done in about

00:41:27.769 --> 00:41:31.050
two months. Oh my gosh, and how long is how many

00:41:31.050 --> 00:41:33.949
pages is this book? It's a really long book.

00:41:34.170 --> 00:41:36.110
I know in a Kindle it's different, but yeah,

00:41:36.110 --> 00:41:38.329
I don't remember how many pages it actually is

00:41:38.460 --> 00:41:40.059
It's like, I mean, it's like over a thousand

00:41:40.059 --> 00:41:42.539
pages for sure. Wow. But I was like, I feel like

00:41:42.539 --> 00:41:44.400
I should read it. And it was like 99 cents on

00:41:44.400 --> 00:41:47.219
my Kindle. So why not? And of course, as a mom,

00:41:47.460 --> 00:41:49.460
I'm probably not going to have time to read a

00:41:49.460 --> 00:41:51.699
full hour every day. So hopefully I finish it

00:41:51.699 --> 00:41:55.559
this year. We'll see. It'll be one one book for

00:41:55.559 --> 00:41:58.800
the whole year. I'll finish it someday. What

00:41:58.800 --> 00:42:01.480
about you? What are you reading? So I the only

00:42:01.480 --> 00:42:04.239
time I really read is during night feeds. And

00:42:04.239 --> 00:42:07.059
it's not every night. It depends on how. Exhausted

00:42:07.059 --> 00:42:09.719
I am if I can keep my eyes open, but Michael

00:42:09.719 --> 00:42:12.360
got me a Kindle for that was my push present

00:42:12.360 --> 00:42:16.460
which I Thought was is such a great idea. Yeah

00:42:16.460 --> 00:42:20.340
So I'm reading this was free on the Kindle. It's

00:42:20.340 --> 00:42:24.460
called 28 summers. I I think her name is Elin

00:42:24.460 --> 00:42:27.219
Hilderbrand She's like a really popular. It's

00:42:27.219 --> 00:42:31.280
like romantic love author. I don't know and she

00:42:31.280 --> 00:42:34.389
is a ton of books. So I'm like This is the first

00:42:34.389 --> 00:42:37.650
one I've read from her and so I'm like if I like

00:42:37.650 --> 00:42:39.829
her books then there's like a bajillion more.

00:42:40.050 --> 00:42:42.150
That's always nice when you find an author that

00:42:42.150 --> 00:42:44.610
already has a bunch of books that you like because

00:42:44.610 --> 00:42:47.550
then you have the backlog to go to. Yep exactly

00:42:47.550 --> 00:42:50.929
so I'm only like three chapters in so I can't

00:42:50.929 --> 00:42:55.070
tell you if it's good or not yet but uh it's

00:42:55.070 --> 00:42:58.000
definitely one of those like just cheesy You

00:42:58.000 --> 00:43:00.099
know, sometimes that's what you need. I think

00:43:00.099 --> 00:43:03.159
for a long time, as an adult, I didn't want to

00:43:03.159 --> 00:43:06.179
read. But I think it was because I had it in

00:43:06.179 --> 00:43:09.559
my head that I should be reading really important

00:43:09.559 --> 00:43:12.920
books and books that are going to make me a better

00:43:12.920 --> 00:43:16.960
person or that are spiritual or whatever. And

00:43:16.960 --> 00:43:19.219
then at some point, for some reason, I was like,

00:43:19.300 --> 00:43:21.840
I should reread the Mary Poppins series. I read

00:43:21.840 --> 00:43:25.380
it as a kid with my mom. But I just like... want

00:43:25.380 --> 00:43:27.760
to reread it for some reason and I did and then

00:43:27.760 --> 00:43:30.239
I was like oh yeah I don't have to read anything

00:43:30.239 --> 00:43:32.480
like heavy or important I can just read because

00:43:32.480 --> 00:43:35.679
I want to exactly and if it's the most predictable

00:43:35.679 --> 00:43:39.679
book in the world that's fine if I enjoy it like

00:43:39.679 --> 00:43:42.380
that's all that kind of really matters yep exactly

00:43:42.380 --> 00:43:48.019
yeah I love that I I feel like I try to go I

00:43:48.019 --> 00:43:50.300
don't read a ton I feel like I'm reading more

00:43:50.300 --> 00:43:52.860
now as I'm like breastfeeding and stuff but I

00:43:52.860 --> 00:43:56.619
try to do like a fun book and then like a leadership

00:43:56.619 --> 00:44:00.260
book or like a learning book and then try to

00:44:00.260 --> 00:44:05.099
trade off between the two. Yeah. All right. So

00:44:05.099 --> 00:44:09.079
this is the last question we have. What is your

00:44:09.079 --> 00:44:11.960
current biggest challenge in parenting? Right

00:44:11.960 --> 00:44:17.059
now for me, so with two under two and breastfeeding

00:44:17.059 --> 00:44:21.389
and Colt is just super jealous of the baby. He's

00:44:21.389 --> 00:44:23.829
just still having a hard time adjusting, which

00:44:23.829 --> 00:44:28.289
I feel for him. He's I feel it makes me sad when

00:44:28.289 --> 00:44:30.769
he's so jealous. I know this is good. He's going

00:44:30.769 --> 00:44:34.469
to adjust eventually. But any time I feed Cruz,

00:44:34.670 --> 00:44:37.849
he's like tantruming because he's so upset that

00:44:37.849 --> 00:44:42.789
I'm not holding him or giving him the attention

00:44:42.789 --> 00:44:46.289
that he wants or needs, which then makes me sad.

00:44:46.590 --> 00:44:51.789
Then makes me honestly feel like I haven't fully

00:44:51.789 --> 00:44:55.889
fully bonded to my newborn baby Because I'm like

00:44:55.889 --> 00:44:59.630
during the day when I'm playing with Colt I'm

00:44:59.630 --> 00:45:02.570
trying to have Michael hold Cruz unless I'm feeding

00:45:02.570 --> 00:45:06.449
him right so I don't piss off Colts right and

00:45:06.449 --> 00:45:08.809
I was talking to one of my friends about it that

00:45:08.809 --> 00:45:10.929
I'm like it just makes me sad that I don't feel

00:45:10.929 --> 00:45:15.090
as like in the newborn bubble or like as bonded

00:45:15.090 --> 00:45:20.139
to my baby like my second baby who was just like

00:45:20.139 --> 00:45:23.179
just inside of me and we were together all the

00:45:23.179 --> 00:45:26.679
time. Right. And then I'm like handing him off

00:45:26.679 --> 00:45:30.260
so that I'm not having my other child's tantrum.

00:45:30.340 --> 00:45:35.500
Yeah. And I feel like disconnected in some way.

00:45:35.500 --> 00:45:39.000
And I know it's an internal like battle, but

00:45:39.000 --> 00:45:41.619
I just I don't that's my biggest challenge right

00:45:41.619 --> 00:45:44.760
now. I don't know how to fix it. I don't know

00:45:44.760 --> 00:45:48.380
if I just need to like get over this hump of

00:45:48.380 --> 00:45:53.699
difficulty and let Colt work through the jealousy.

00:45:55.219 --> 00:45:58.820
Because I have to feed my baby. I have to feed

00:45:58.820 --> 00:46:03.119
Cruz. And it's something that Colts just has

00:46:03.119 --> 00:46:06.500
to kind of accept eventually. Because Michael

00:46:06.500 --> 00:46:09.619
goes back to work in just a few weeks. There's

00:46:09.619 --> 00:46:12.480
going to be a lot more of this because it's just

00:46:12.480 --> 00:46:16.949
going to be me home with the boys. I don't know.

00:46:17.170 --> 00:46:20.650
It's a really difficult mental battle that I'm

00:46:20.650 --> 00:46:22.570
trying to work through right now and trying to

00:46:22.570 --> 00:46:24.230
figure out the right solution, but I don't know

00:46:24.230 --> 00:46:26.449
if I have it yet. Yeah. No, that's super hard

00:46:26.449 --> 00:46:28.809
to just like, cause you kind of just have to

00:46:28.809 --> 00:46:31.110
experiment. So even if people have advice, which

00:46:31.110 --> 00:46:34.789
might be helpful, it's not their kids. So it

00:46:34.789 --> 00:46:37.090
looks, it may not work. Yeah. We did the whole

00:46:37.090 --> 00:46:40.889
thing of like, we bought Cole special toys that

00:46:40.889 --> 00:46:44.679
he can only play with when I'm nursing. And he

00:46:44.679 --> 00:46:47.159
did that for a few feeds. And then he's like,

00:46:47.239 --> 00:46:50.380
I'm over it. I don't want those. I want my mom.

00:46:50.880 --> 00:46:54.019
Right. Yeah. And so I've also heard recently

00:46:54.019 --> 00:46:57.000
about having a special snack that they only get

00:46:57.000 --> 00:46:59.300
during feeds. That's smart, too. Maybe I'll try

00:46:59.300 --> 00:47:02.380
that. Like something fun. Yeah. Yeah. Something

00:47:02.380 --> 00:47:05.760
that they like. Yeah. Don't usually get like,

00:47:05.900 --> 00:47:10.300
oh, you can have this eight times a day. My child

00:47:10.300 --> 00:47:12.400
eats so much. But yeah, that's a good one to

00:47:12.400 --> 00:47:14.519
try. Maybe I'll try that. Yeah, if anyone has

00:47:14.519 --> 00:47:17.920
any other advice, I'd love like message me because

00:47:17.920 --> 00:47:20.559
I'd love some advice on that. If you've been

00:47:20.559 --> 00:47:23.980
through it or yeah, if you just have some tips,

00:47:24.039 --> 00:47:27.360
please, please let me know. I'll try anything.

00:47:27.500 --> 00:47:29.719
We'll always take all the tips. Yeah. How about

00:47:29.719 --> 00:47:32.780
you? For me right now. So I definitely thought

00:47:32.780 --> 00:47:34.820
I would have a hard time with tantrums once they

00:47:34.820 --> 00:47:36.659
came along. Yeah. And for the most part, I can

00:47:36.659 --> 00:47:40.909
handle it. But Lloyd's been super defiant lately

00:47:40.909 --> 00:47:45.510
where like he's like testing you yeah And I think

00:47:45.510 --> 00:47:47.469
I told you when you got here He's been in like

00:47:47.469 --> 00:47:51.530
he started doing the hitting and he doesn't bite

00:47:51.530 --> 00:47:56.650
us, but he'll bite Zeta and Like he's head -butting

00:47:56.650 --> 00:48:00.070
me and all of these things and so then obviously

00:48:00.070 --> 00:48:03.010
like I'm trying to teach him that he can't do

00:48:03.010 --> 00:48:06.199
these things or you know there are other things

00:48:06.199 --> 00:48:08.099
that he's just like learning and experimenting

00:48:08.099 --> 00:48:09.719
like climbing on things he's not supposed to

00:48:09.719 --> 00:48:11.820
and doing all these things he's not supposed

00:48:11.820 --> 00:48:17.460
to and I try to start like because I know saying

00:48:17.460 --> 00:48:20.639
like no or don't is just unproductive because

00:48:20.639 --> 00:48:23.199
at this point their brains just like don't really

00:48:23.199 --> 00:48:25.659
understand what that means yeah so like I know

00:48:25.659 --> 00:48:28.659
that and so I try to start with like showing

00:48:28.659 --> 00:48:31.619
him what he's supposed to do and like you know,

00:48:31.719 --> 00:48:34.119
we don't climb on the table, we stay on the floor

00:48:34.119 --> 00:48:37.780
or our water bottle stays this way instead of

00:48:37.780 --> 00:48:40.179
pouring it out. So, you know, I try to start

00:48:40.179 --> 00:48:42.300
by like showing him what we're supposed to do

00:48:42.300 --> 00:48:44.360
and then when that doesn't work, I try to like

00:48:44.360 --> 00:48:47.460
redirect him like, hey, how about we play some

00:48:47.460 --> 00:48:50.599
drums instead of headbutting mom? And then that

00:48:50.599 --> 00:48:54.820
doesn't work. And it just like escalates and

00:48:54.820 --> 00:48:57.820
I keep getting more frustrated and I get he's

00:48:57.820 --> 00:49:00.230
just learning. and it's part of development.

00:49:01.170 --> 00:49:04.349
But he also thinks it's funny when I try to redirect

00:49:04.349 --> 00:49:06.190
him or try to get him to stop doing something.

00:49:06.449 --> 00:49:09.730
He thinks it's so funny to keep doing it. And

00:49:09.730 --> 00:49:13.070
it's getting him attention. And of course some

00:49:13.070 --> 00:49:17.750
of us - They don't understand the no or the discipline.

00:49:18.269 --> 00:49:20.150
It's just the attention that they're understanding.

00:49:20.150 --> 00:49:24.369
And then of course some of this stuff is... Stuff

00:49:24.369 --> 00:49:26.789
that I can't ignore, you know, it's like like

00:49:26.789 --> 00:49:29.530
if he bites his sister I can't just like ignore

00:49:29.530 --> 00:49:31.809
that and hope that he stops someday. Yeah, like

00:49:31.809 --> 00:49:34.309
no we can't do that So I have to give him the

00:49:34.309 --> 00:49:37.429
attention and discipline But then he's getting

00:49:37.429 --> 00:49:40.889
attention. So he's excited about that Like I

00:49:40.889 --> 00:49:43.989
said earlier where I know that he's not like

00:49:43.989 --> 00:49:45.769
intentionally trying to piss me off But some

00:49:45.769 --> 00:49:51.199
days it really feels like he is And yeah, so

00:49:51.199 --> 00:49:53.460
just like trying to control my own emotions and

00:49:53.460 --> 00:49:58.000
that and not take it personally. And just figure

00:49:58.000 --> 00:50:02.420
out how to deal with redirecting him and getting

00:50:02.420 --> 00:50:05.440
him to do the right thing when he's, sometimes

00:50:05.440 --> 00:50:07.239
I think he knows he's doing something wrong because

00:50:07.239 --> 00:50:09.840
he gets that like mischievous giggle and they'll

00:50:09.840 --> 00:50:11.480
look in his eye where I'm like, you know that.

00:50:11.500 --> 00:50:14.159
You know what you're doing. Yeah. Yeah. But that's

00:50:14.159 --> 00:50:16.480
been very challenging, especially this week.

00:50:16.559 --> 00:50:19.039
I don't know. what's going on this week, but

00:50:19.039 --> 00:50:22.659
it's been way worse. Yeah. So I feel like it's

00:50:22.659 --> 00:50:24.920
been a rough week for us too. So if you're having

00:50:24.920 --> 00:50:26.980
a rough week. Yeah. Another thing, if you have

00:50:26.980 --> 00:50:30.420
advice on, I would take it because I've got no

00:50:30.420 --> 00:50:32.420
idea how to do it, how to handle this right now.

00:50:32.480 --> 00:50:37.440
Oh, yeah. OK. Well, that was fun to. answer some

00:50:37.440 --> 00:50:40.239
fun questions and hopefully yeah you got to know

00:50:40.239 --> 00:50:43.400
us a little bit better and um we'd love to answer

00:50:43.400 --> 00:50:45.880
more questions so feel free to ask us on social

00:50:45.880 --> 00:50:50.000
media or um reach out to us but do we want to

00:50:50.000 --> 00:50:53.659
close with our wins yeah do you have yours yeah

00:50:53.659 --> 00:50:55.739
so kind of going off what i was saying what i'll

00:50:55.739 --> 00:51:00.650
say is my win is with all of that with void drawing

00:51:00.650 --> 00:51:03.849
tantrums because he's almost two and especially

00:51:03.849 --> 00:51:05.849
the headbutting because like he heads butts me

00:51:05.849 --> 00:51:08.090
more than he had but like headbutts and hits

00:51:08.090 --> 00:51:11.150
me more than anyone else yeah super fun which

00:51:11.150 --> 00:51:13.510
is super fun but i'm trying to remember that's

00:51:13.510 --> 00:51:16.730
like it's because he feels safest with me and

00:51:16.730 --> 00:51:18.570
like most comfortable with me and it's because

00:51:18.570 --> 00:51:22.449
he knows that like i'm going to love him even

00:51:22.449 --> 00:51:25.510
if he headbutts me and hurts my chin or hurts

00:51:25.510 --> 00:51:28.739
whatever uh so like that's kind of the win i'm

00:51:28.739 --> 00:51:32.199
like trying to focus on right now is this sucks

00:51:32.199 --> 00:51:34.880
but like i've been a good enough mom so far that

00:51:34.880 --> 00:51:37.940
he knows he is a safe place he knows he's safe

00:51:37.940 --> 00:51:40.320
with me he knows he can throw a tantrum and i'm

00:51:40.320 --> 00:51:44.599
gonna sit with him and love him and that like

00:51:44.599 --> 00:51:47.820
i will always take care of him even when he's

00:51:47.820 --> 00:51:49.380
not behaving the way that i would like him to

00:51:49.380 --> 00:51:53.880
what about you for me so I mentioned earlier,

00:51:53.900 --> 00:51:57.079
we've been trying to go to the park every nice

00:51:57.079 --> 00:52:00.940
day that there is right now. And with Michael

00:52:00.940 --> 00:52:03.840
still on paternity leave, that's just been a

00:52:03.840 --> 00:52:06.599
fun activity for us. But yesterday we went to

00:52:06.599 --> 00:52:08.920
the park and it was so beautiful. Then it rained

00:52:08.920 --> 00:52:12.300
yesterday after that. Like almost immediately

00:52:12.300 --> 00:52:14.340
after we got home, which was perfect timing.

00:52:15.019 --> 00:52:17.800
But when we were at the park, I just, so I was

00:52:17.800 --> 00:52:20.800
like. nursing crews at the park and Michael and

00:52:20.800 --> 00:52:24.099
Colt were like playing on the swings and I just

00:52:24.099 --> 00:52:27.440
like sat there and I like looked down at crews

00:52:27.440 --> 00:52:29.699
and then looked over at Colt and I was like this

00:52:29.699 --> 00:52:33.039
is this is everything I dreamed of I was like

00:52:33.039 --> 00:52:37.800
this right here is why why I exist I was like

00:52:37.800 --> 00:52:41.940
I'm living in like the good old days yeah the

00:52:41.940 --> 00:52:47.179
when I mean I'm just like so happy with It's

00:52:47.179 --> 00:52:49.639
such a blessing to have the family that I have.

00:52:50.619 --> 00:52:54.579
And I think that was just a good reminder yesterday.

00:52:55.480 --> 00:52:58.559
In the difficult times, it's been really difficult

00:52:58.559 --> 00:53:02.440
parenting these past five weeks of adjusting.

00:53:02.960 --> 00:53:05.519
Yeah, but then you just have those quiet moments

00:53:05.519 --> 00:53:07.559
like that where you're like, oh no, but this

00:53:07.559 --> 00:53:10.300
is the best. Yeah, it really is. And through

00:53:10.300 --> 00:53:14.170
all the heart, it's just so beautiful. So yeah,

00:53:14.610 --> 00:53:17.530
I love our park days. I'm sad they're like, they're

00:53:17.530 --> 00:53:20.329
not going to be as often with Michael going back

00:53:20.329 --> 00:53:22.969
to work. Yes, I'll probably attempt to do the

00:53:22.969 --> 00:53:25.610
park with two kids. I don't think it'll look

00:53:25.610 --> 00:53:27.829
as like beautiful. We'll go together and we'll

00:53:27.829 --> 00:53:30.929
figure it out. Yes. Four kids, two moms. Let's

00:53:30.929 --> 00:53:33.469
do it. Yeah, that's fine. But yeah, that's my

00:53:33.469 --> 00:53:36.719
win. So. I love that. Yeah. Well, thanks for

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