WEBVTT 00:00:01.140 --> 00:00:05.799 Hello, beautiful souls. Welcome back to SunDeep 00:00:05.799 --> 00:00:10.960 Talks. You know, I was sitting in my kitchen 00:00:10.960 --> 00:00:17.379 this morning just watching the steam rise from 00:00:17.379 --> 00:00:23.179 my coffee. And I had this thought. Actually, 00:00:23.899 --> 00:00:27.780 it wasn't really a thought. It was more like 00:00:27.780 --> 00:00:31.399 this feeling that just... hit me in the chest 00:00:31.399 --> 00:00:37.859 I was thinking about you about us about everyone 00:00:37.859 --> 00:00:44.020 listening to this who's leading something building 00:00:44.020 --> 00:00:48.960 something carrying something heavy or anything 00:00:48.960 --> 00:00:52.159 that is going through them in their journeys 00:00:52.159 --> 00:00:59.200 leaders CEOs, executives, founders individuals 00:00:59.549 --> 00:01:06.730 leading even their homes or anything I was thinking 00:01:06.730 --> 00:01:11.469 about all of this this came to my mind and I 00:01:11.469 --> 00:01:17.109 realized we are all walking around with this 00:01:17.109 --> 00:01:21.010 question that that nobody is asking out loud 00:01:21.010 --> 00:01:26.370 to us or even in any way in any way any form 00:01:27.849 --> 00:01:32.370 At least nobody asked me until I started asking 00:01:32.370 --> 00:01:39.409 myself. The question is, what are you becoming 00:01:39.409 --> 00:01:47.930 through all of this? I mean, not what are you 00:01:47.930 --> 00:01:53.250 achieving? Not what are you building? What are 00:01:53.250 --> 00:01:55.650 you becoming? Specifically, I'm saying this. 00:01:58.860 --> 00:02:01.620 and most of the time we don't even have time 00:02:01.620 --> 00:02:09.620 to realize or self -introspect what is happening 00:02:09.620 --> 00:02:12.599 around us what we are actually becoming we are 00:02:12.599 --> 00:02:18.080 so busy in a different form of becoming that 00:02:18.080 --> 00:02:23.360 we don't get time or stillness of any kind even 00:02:23.360 --> 00:02:28.659 while we are in a calm position we don't Find 00:02:28.659 --> 00:02:32.379 ourselves calm. So so that's why I'm saying this 00:02:32.379 --> 00:02:40.819 Because What I noticed I mean what I would say 00:02:40.819 --> 00:02:44.740 what what I have noticed and Also, tell me if 00:02:44.740 --> 00:02:49.240 this sounds familiar You can be absolutely crushing 00:02:49.240 --> 00:02:53.360 it on paper Your business is growing your team 00:02:53.360 --> 00:02:57.409 respects you people are people are saying all 00:02:57.409 --> 00:03:00.889 the right things about your leadership and even 00:03:00.889 --> 00:03:06.949 maybe wrong but you are lying in bed at night 00:03:06.949 --> 00:03:12.009 and you feel empty like completely numb even 00:03:12.009 --> 00:03:17.349 in silence you feel that you are not silent like 00:03:17.349 --> 00:03:22.430 you are and when i would say when you just get 00:03:22.430 --> 00:03:27.979 a just get a glimpse of that silence And you 00:03:27.979 --> 00:03:31.539 you feel like you're performing your own life 00:03:31.539 --> 00:03:37.780 instead of living it Some might say It's a part 00:03:37.780 --> 00:03:40.840 of life. It's a phase of life At certain time 00:03:40.840 --> 00:03:43.580 you have to be more focused or career some will 00:03:43.580 --> 00:03:51.800 say What what's different in that But it's different 00:03:51.800 --> 00:03:57.879 because Nobody Rarely people think about it like 00:03:57.879 --> 00:04:00.080 that. They follow the pattern, they follow the 00:04:00.080 --> 00:04:05.000 schedule, they follow the timelines. But still, 00:04:05.340 --> 00:04:09.000 those who care, those who have their voices more 00:04:09.000 --> 00:04:13.120 louder than their performances, they might be 00:04:13.120 --> 00:04:15.919 having these questions more than anyone else. 00:04:16.339 --> 00:04:19.420 They might rate themselves more than anyone else. 00:04:20.100 --> 00:04:29.040 So tell me, you ever feel that way? I mean, it 00:04:29.040 --> 00:04:36.459 is so powerful. I felt it for years. I would 00:04:36.459 --> 00:04:39.720 be in these board meetings giving presentations, 00:04:39.839 --> 00:04:44.040 making decisions that affected people's lives 00:04:44.040 --> 00:04:48.819 in many ways. And I would catch myself thinking, 00:04:49.639 --> 00:04:55.579 who is this person talking? This isn't me. I 00:04:55.579 --> 00:05:01.139 mean, I'm so busy in performance. I'm so loud 00:05:01.139 --> 00:05:03.860 in this performance. I'm so trying to be something 00:05:03.860 --> 00:05:06.800 in this performance. But who is this person? 00:05:07.500 --> 00:05:12.439 This isn't me. It's like, you know when you are 00:05:12.439 --> 00:05:16.639 a kid and you put on your parents clothes. You're 00:05:16.639 --> 00:05:22.720 swimming in this outfit that... that doesn't 00:05:22.720 --> 00:05:27.579 fit but everyone's telling you how grown up you 00:05:27.579 --> 00:05:32.120 are looking or how grown up you look that's what 00:05:32.120 --> 00:05:36.680 leadership felt like for me for the longest time 00:05:36.680 --> 00:05:41.660 and and the crazy part is nobody talks about 00:05:41.660 --> 00:05:47.259 this we we talk about strategy we talk about 00:05:47.259 --> 00:05:52.100 scaling we talk about culture and vision and 00:05:52.100 --> 00:05:56.240 all these important things that sound so prophetic 00:05:56.240 --> 00:06:02.180 that sounds so futuristic that sounds so hustleful 00:06:02.180 --> 00:06:07.680 I would say but nobody talks about the fact that 00:06:07.680 --> 00:06:13.819 leadership changes you and not always in ways 00:06:13.819 --> 00:06:18.459 you signed up for I mean this is This is the 00:06:18.459 --> 00:06:23.120 dynamic, this is the uncertainty about leadership 00:06:23.120 --> 00:06:27.959 and most amazing part also I would say. Like, 00:06:28.800 --> 00:06:33.839 I remember this one day, I was maybe three years 00:06:33.839 --> 00:06:37.459 into building my first company and my mom called 00:06:37.459 --> 00:06:42.959 me. Just a regular call. You know, she come from 00:06:42.959 --> 00:06:46.920 a very traditional background. They really know 00:06:46.920 --> 00:06:50.720 about, my parents really don't know about all 00:06:50.720 --> 00:06:54.959 of this, what this business culture is all about. 00:06:55.259 --> 00:06:58.600 We belong to a family where government jobs are 00:06:58.600 --> 00:07:06.800 more prominent and where people go more into 00:07:06.800 --> 00:07:10.120 serving nation in different ways like army, government 00:07:10.120 --> 00:07:17.339 jobs, civil services and etc. so business is 00:07:17.339 --> 00:07:24.399 not common maybe I'm one of the first so just 00:07:24.399 --> 00:07:29.660 just a regular call as usual you know she she's 00:07:29.660 --> 00:07:37.100 asking how I'm doing and I'm giving her the standard 00:07:37.100 --> 00:07:43.980 update the pro update yes work is good Team is 00:07:43.980 --> 00:07:48.120 growing, things are happening. We just closed 00:07:48.120 --> 00:07:52.060 something, we were starting something new. And 00:07:52.060 --> 00:07:54.800 I don't even bother to go in detail about that 00:07:54.800 --> 00:07:59.160 because she will really understand. And it's 00:07:59.160 --> 00:08:03.040 good she don't understand. And she goes quieter 00:08:03.040 --> 00:08:08.279 for a second. Then she says, Yes, that's wonderful, 00:08:08.439 --> 00:08:14.930 beta. I mean sun. In Hindi we say it beta. How 00:08:14.930 --> 00:08:19.029 are you doing? What's going on? Everything is 00:08:19.029 --> 00:08:25.730 fine, cool. And I just, I froze. Because I realized 00:08:25.730 --> 00:08:28.829 I didn't know how to answer that question anymore. 00:08:31.009 --> 00:08:33.590 The space that needed to answer that question, 00:08:34.389 --> 00:08:38.929 the phases, the attention and the moments that 00:08:38.929 --> 00:08:43.870 needed to answer that question were totally invisible. 00:08:44.590 --> 00:08:48.149 Had become so good at being the CEO the leader 00:08:48.149 --> 00:08:54.669 the leader I often say artificial leader We are 00:08:54.669 --> 00:08:56.610 so fond of artificial intelligence nowadays, 00:08:56.610 --> 00:09:00.049 but I would say the artificial leader the person 00:09:00.049 --> 00:09:06.029 with all the answers like AI That I would forgotten 00:09:06.029 --> 00:09:11.889 I would say that I didn't I didn't forgotten 00:09:11.889 --> 00:09:19.289 who I was underneath all of that. That's when 00:09:19.289 --> 00:09:26.269 it hit me. Not 100 % but I would say a sort of 00:09:26.269 --> 00:09:29.690 initiation and many other circumstances were 00:09:29.690 --> 00:09:34.929 responsible for further happenings in various 00:09:34.929 --> 00:09:41.850 areas of life. I wasn't just running a business. 00:09:42.870 --> 00:09:45.840 The business was running me. that was one of 00:09:45.840 --> 00:09:52.080 the most heaviest feeling I would say I would 00:09:52.080 --> 00:09:56.360 say was prevailing around after this question 00:09:56.360 --> 00:10:00.240 not around but after this question this strike 00:10:00.240 --> 00:10:03.259 that came to me this awakening that happened 00:10:03.259 --> 00:10:07.500 to me somehow and I was becoming someone I don't 00:10:07.500 --> 00:10:12.840 recognize that time maybe you know what I'm talking 00:10:12.840 --> 00:10:17.200 about i don't know how many would relate to this 00:10:17.200 --> 00:10:23.059 professional and yet i would say some sort of 00:10:23.059 --> 00:10:27.019 philosophical some sort of self -improvement 00:10:27.019 --> 00:10:30.600 some sort of awakening some sort of realizations 00:10:30.600 --> 00:10:34.580 spiritual non -spiritual universal you can name 00:10:34.580 --> 00:10:38.320 it in any sense whatever suits you to your callings 00:10:38.320 --> 00:10:46.370 to your inner callings so maybe If you can relate 00:10:46.370 --> 00:10:49.110 yourself with that, maybe you have been there. 00:10:49.409 --> 00:10:53.929 I can only guess. But I don't think all of them, 00:10:54.129 --> 00:10:57.990 but maybe many of them. And maybe many of them 00:10:57.990 --> 00:11:05.149 are there right now. You are successful by every 00:11:05.149 --> 00:11:09.070 metrics or even facing challenges. Not okay, 00:11:09.309 --> 00:11:13.110 but not very bad too. I mean all that matters. 00:11:13.480 --> 00:11:18.879 to the outside world but inside inside you feel 00:11:18.879 --> 00:11:25.019 like you are wearing a mask that's gotten so 00:11:25.019 --> 00:11:30.279 comfortable you have forgotten what you actually 00:11:30.279 --> 00:11:35.720 i mean look like or what what you have what what 00:11:35.720 --> 00:11:38.100 your actual face look like looks like i would 00:11:38.100 --> 00:11:43.539 say and now you feel it is impossible to switch 00:11:43.539 --> 00:11:47.840 yourself i mean initially it was like you have 00:11:47.840 --> 00:11:50.779 two zones when you started one was more emotional 00:11:50.779 --> 00:11:55.059 one was more thinking from heart more using brain 00:11:55.059 --> 00:12:00.320 also but heart was more over there but then with 00:12:00.320 --> 00:12:04.960 you know with conditioning of brain you become 00:12:04.960 --> 00:12:09.159 more brain centric and and you become your mind 00:12:09.159 --> 00:12:15.039 become more dominated by your brain actually 00:12:15.039 --> 00:12:22.440 that mind is that field you know that joins the 00:12:22.440 --> 00:12:26.120 brain and heart concept alignment it decided 00:12:26.120 --> 00:12:29.360 decide how both are going to work or both are 00:12:29.360 --> 00:12:36.940 going to create your journey so here's what I 00:12:36.940 --> 00:12:40.440 want to share with you today basically the reason 00:12:40.440 --> 00:12:43.679 not as some guru or expert or anything I'm nobody 00:12:43.679 --> 00:12:47.059 like that none of that trust me i'm figuring 00:12:47.059 --> 00:12:51.299 this out as i go but as someone who's been in 00:12:51.299 --> 00:12:55.779 that place and found a way back to myself this 00:12:55.779 --> 00:12:59.620 is i can say certainly this is what i at least 00:12:59.620 --> 00:13:09.220 i am the thing is we think becoming is automatic 00:13:09.220 --> 00:13:12.539 now this is the part where you need a little 00:13:12.539 --> 00:13:17.419 bit more focus what i'm saying the thing is we 00:13:17.419 --> 00:13:24.059 think becoming is automatic we think that as 00:13:24.059 --> 00:13:29.879 we build and lead and grow like phases of life 00:13:29.879 --> 00:13:34.720 childhood youth adulthood like that we will naturally 00:13:34.720 --> 00:13:40.940 become the person we are meant to be but that's 00:13:40.830 --> 00:13:45.350 not how it works. Why I am saying this? There 00:13:45.350 --> 00:13:48.870 is a reason. If you can go deeper, you have understood 00:13:48.870 --> 00:13:56.090 it by now. But still I am saying, we never become, 00:13:57.230 --> 00:14:01.730 and that becoming never happen automatic. Automatically, 00:14:02.889 --> 00:14:05.289 automatically what happens, automatically you 00:14:05.289 --> 00:14:12.870 just do what you do. for that becoming you need 00:14:12.870 --> 00:14:15.769 a lot of homework you need a lot of inner calling 00:14:15.769 --> 00:14:20.110 listening a lot more thing we will discuss that 00:14:20.110 --> 00:14:24.450 so what actually happens in this every decision 00:14:24.450 --> 00:14:29.629 you make every pressure you absorb every mask 00:14:29.629 --> 00:14:34.789 you put on to get through the day in any form 00:14:34.789 --> 00:14:40.210 it all adds up somehow and before you know it 00:14:40.210 --> 00:14:46.149 you are not becoming anything you are just accumulating 00:14:46.149 --> 00:14:50.409 that's the better term I would say accumulating 00:14:50.409 --> 00:14:56.009 responsibilities expectations versions of yourself 00:14:56.009 --> 00:15:01.269 that other people need you to be and you also 00:15:01.269 --> 00:15:08.200 see that version of yours living most of Your 00:15:08.200 --> 00:15:12.440 I mean your schedule In 24 hours, you might be 00:15:12.440 --> 00:15:18.080 living that person now almost full 24 hours But 00:15:18.080 --> 00:15:21.779 here's the thing and and this might sound crazy 00:15:21.779 --> 00:15:30.080 You can change this Right now today You can start 00:15:30.080 --> 00:15:34.080 asking yourself Very simple sounding question, 00:15:34.100 --> 00:15:39.830 but it's still very powerful and may impact those 00:15:39.830 --> 00:15:44.429 who are actually in this state more than those 00:15:44.429 --> 00:15:48.549 who are just considering this as just a vague 00:15:48.549 --> 00:15:54.409 thing or anything like that. So, who I am becoming 00:15:54.409 --> 00:15:58.830 through this work, through this leadership and 00:15:58.830 --> 00:16:04.509 through this life I am building, I mean they 00:16:04.509 --> 00:16:08.669 are deep, they sound so simple. And when you 00:16:08.669 --> 00:16:12.450 ask that question, really ask it, I mean, not 00:16:12.450 --> 00:16:16.289 just think it, you might be surprised by what 00:16:16.289 --> 00:16:22.330 comes up. Okay, I will tell you what came up 00:16:22.330 --> 00:16:25.950 for me when I finally sat with that question. 00:16:28.009 --> 00:16:30.490 I'm again saying there were so many other things 00:16:30.490 --> 00:16:34.629 responsible in many ways and for a very long 00:16:34.629 --> 00:16:40.389 time. Nothing happens overnight, nothing. Rise, 00:16:40.669 --> 00:16:46.649 downfall, all have their own time. So when I 00:16:46.649 --> 00:16:51.789 finally sat with that question, I realized I 00:16:51.789 --> 00:16:59.970 was becoming harder, yet more vulnerable, more 00:16:59.970 --> 00:17:04.349 cynical. I was becoming someone who had answers 00:17:04.349 --> 00:17:08.329 for everyone else. You know, whatever comes up 00:17:08.329 --> 00:17:10.930 to me in a day -to -day life, I was like pro 00:17:10.930 --> 00:17:14.170 in doing, yes, yes, this is like this, this is 00:17:14.170 --> 00:17:15.910 like this, let's do this, do this, like that. 00:17:16.210 --> 00:17:18.109 And everyone, I was having solutions for everyone, 00:17:19.029 --> 00:17:23.650 for every situation. And I very well know how 00:17:23.650 --> 00:17:27.329 to tackle things, okay, because that's being 00:17:27.329 --> 00:17:29.960 an entrepreneur, being a business owner. you 00:17:29.960 --> 00:17:35.480 know all these things and you have to be very 00:17:35.480 --> 00:17:41.240 good in that but I couldn't hear my own inner 00:17:41.240 --> 00:17:48.400 voice anymore and I was feeling a lot of louder 00:17:48.400 --> 00:17:51.819 voices coming from inside every single day and 00:17:51.819 --> 00:17:54.440 every time when I feel myself in a position where 00:17:54.440 --> 00:17:59.400 I feel like whatever is happening now It's not 00:17:59.400 --> 00:18:02.519 working, somehow it's not working. The result 00:18:02.519 --> 00:18:04.980 is coming, the growth is happening, the things 00:18:04.980 --> 00:18:08.380 are changing or if I go like that, it might take 00:18:08.380 --> 00:18:11.740 me to the places where I can't even imagine that 00:18:11.740 --> 00:18:17.000 I would have reached so fast, so timely. Yes, 00:18:17.279 --> 00:18:23.079 so timely and so fast. I was becoming successful, 00:18:23.220 --> 00:18:27.200 sure, but I was also becoming someone. I didn't 00:18:27.200 --> 00:18:31.319 particularly like spending time with them. Because 00:18:31.319 --> 00:18:36.680 I was never spending time with me the way we 00:18:36.680 --> 00:18:41.039 truly spend time with ourselves. I was spending 00:18:41.039 --> 00:18:45.559 time with a version, those who are constantly 00:18:45.559 --> 00:18:49.299 strategizing things. constantly planning the 00:18:49.299 --> 00:18:52.279 next move the next thing and next thing and next 00:18:52.279 --> 00:18:55.759 thing and this and then solving that oh my god 00:18:55.759 --> 00:19:00.039 what a problem solver I was becoming and that 00:19:00.039 --> 00:19:06.000 scared me because I realized if I kept going 00:19:06.000 --> 00:19:10.180 down that path I might win the business game 00:19:10.180 --> 00:19:14.339 and I was winning I was going great so fast and 00:19:14.339 --> 00:19:19.170 so good Knowing what resources I carry, knowing 00:19:19.170 --> 00:19:21.130 what are my situations, knowing all the risk 00:19:21.130 --> 00:19:25.170 of circumstances but lose myself completely. 00:19:28.650 --> 00:19:33.650 So I started doing something different. I started 00:19:33.650 --> 00:19:38.470 treating my own becoming as seriously I treated 00:19:38.470 --> 00:19:42.349 my business growth and that didn't happen overnight 00:19:42.349 --> 00:19:46.569 again. I started it very slowly and it was not 00:19:46.569 --> 00:19:50.349 easy at all. It was a hell lot of a journey. 00:19:52.069 --> 00:19:58.109 For me, at least, I would love to hear how you 00:19:58.109 --> 00:20:01.609 made it and how things are going at your side. 00:20:02.890 --> 00:20:07.430 So I started asking myself, what kind of leader 00:20:07.430 --> 00:20:11.029 do I want to become? And also I would say leadership 00:20:11.029 --> 00:20:14.059 is something like... It's the only thing that 00:20:14.059 --> 00:20:17.519 I know since my childhood since all the memories 00:20:17.519 --> 00:20:21.759 that I have in Various forms not in the forms 00:20:21.759 --> 00:20:25.000 that weren't called leadership, but in many other 00:20:25.000 --> 00:20:28.200 forms in many other shapes and sizes and patterns 00:20:28.200 --> 00:20:33.500 What what kind of leader do I want to become 00:20:33.500 --> 00:20:36.519 this question I was talking about Not what kind 00:20:36.519 --> 00:20:40.640 of result do I want to achieve? I was never worried 00:20:40.640 --> 00:20:43.769 about What will happen and what what outcome 00:20:43.769 --> 00:20:48.849 will come? Just I always know one thing I have 00:20:48.849 --> 00:20:52.549 to do my stuff in a best possible way the best 00:20:52.549 --> 00:20:57.390 give your everything to it and then outcome rarely 00:20:57.390 --> 00:21:01.009 matters to be very frank and 99 .9 percent I 00:21:01.009 --> 00:21:04.029 would say from my experience Outcome will always 00:21:04.029 --> 00:21:07.990 come in your favor When this is the mindset and 00:21:07.990 --> 00:21:11.410 when this is the approach So what kind of person? 00:21:11.450 --> 00:21:15.430 Do I want to be while I'm achieving them? That's 00:21:15.430 --> 00:21:20.849 the question. And you know what? Everything changed. 00:21:22.130 --> 00:21:26.349 Everything changed. So that's why I'm saying 00:21:26.349 --> 00:21:34.009 that's what started happening in my life. Again, 00:21:34.069 --> 00:21:36.950 not overnight, not in some dramatic movie like 00:21:36.950 --> 00:21:42.619 way, but slowly, gradually. millions of moments 00:21:42.619 --> 00:21:50.039 hundreds of awakenings and lot of self -introspection 00:21:50.039 --> 00:21:54.599 doing something out of the box taking decisions 00:21:54.599 --> 00:22:01.200 that that is almost impossible sometime to understand 00:22:01.200 --> 00:22:07.500 now that and I mean how I made them possible 00:22:07.500 --> 00:22:12.859 at that time and and now when I see through my 00:22:12.859 --> 00:22:16.000 journey I see I have done this many times and 00:22:16.000 --> 00:22:20.359 in every phase I have made these decisions that 00:22:20.359 --> 00:22:23.819 I don't even understand how and from where I 00:22:23.819 --> 00:22:30.900 got that courage so I started remembering who 00:22:30.900 --> 00:22:36.579 I was before I became who I thought I need to 00:22:36.579 --> 00:22:42.720 be because We all have some theories for ourselves, 00:22:43.339 --> 00:22:47.259 some perceptions around our journeys, our goals, 00:22:47.579 --> 00:22:51.920 our ambitions, and some dreams, some visions, 00:22:52.400 --> 00:22:58.359 some imaginations, some hypothetical, you know, 00:22:58.619 --> 00:23:05.180 dissections of our existence. So that, I mean, 00:23:05.559 --> 00:23:07.849 most people have those who... I mean, entrepreneurs, 00:23:08.130 --> 00:23:10.970 leaders, founders, CEOs, executives, C -suits, 00:23:11.069 --> 00:23:12.930 all those people I would say they have these 00:23:12.930 --> 00:23:15.549 kind of thing at some stage, sometime, at least, 00:23:16.390 --> 00:23:23.910 ever. Listen, I don't know what you are carrying 00:23:23.910 --> 00:23:28.529 right now. Yes, I really don't know. I don't 00:23:28.529 --> 00:23:33.769 know what pressure you are under, what expectations 00:23:33.769 --> 00:23:37.779 you are trying to meet, and... what version of 00:23:37.779 --> 00:23:42.359 yourself you think you need to be to succeed 00:23:42.359 --> 00:23:46.619 yes I know nothing about that but I have been 00:23:46.619 --> 00:23:50.980 through all of that and more and more my journey 00:23:50.980 --> 00:23:55.480 is so diverse I mean so diverse and I have learned 00:23:55.480 --> 00:24:04.039 so so deeply so painfully so lovingly so I mean 00:24:04.039 --> 00:24:06.609 name it and I have learned it through that ways 00:24:06.609 --> 00:24:10.930 not because it is not like that I have seen so 00:24:10.930 --> 00:24:14.609 much no it's not like that I'm seeing more than 00:24:14.609 --> 00:24:18.009 that with each passing day and even in single 00:24:18.009 --> 00:24:20.950 moments we are learning more than that what I 00:24:20.950 --> 00:24:23.690 have seen so far and you too can relate this 00:24:23.690 --> 00:24:27.529 with yourself no one I would say those who have 00:24:27.529 --> 00:24:31.849 the ability to to introspect they all are blessed 00:24:31.849 --> 00:24:42.450 with this kind of learning so but I know this 00:24:42.450 --> 00:24:45.589 I know if I know something I know this that you 00:24:45.589 --> 00:24:50.569 don't have to sacrifice who you are to become 00:24:50.569 --> 00:24:56.869 who you mean to be yes again this is not easy 00:24:56.869 --> 00:25:00.950 I would say this is not easy but this is 100 00:25:00.950 --> 00:25:06.480 % achievable and possible and actually What I 00:25:06.480 --> 00:25:11.700 said is You don't have to sacrifice who you are 00:25:11.700 --> 00:25:16.460 to become who you are mean to be And actually 00:25:16.460 --> 00:25:20.859 it is it's it's the opposite The more you remember 00:25:20.859 --> 00:25:26.099 who you are Your actual values your actual voice 00:25:26.099 --> 00:25:31.960 your actual way of being in the world The more 00:25:31.960 --> 00:25:36.599 powerful your leadership becomes exactly this 00:25:36.599 --> 00:25:41.259 from these parts the depth the wisdom the ability 00:25:41.259 --> 00:25:44.339 to vision to lead they all come through these 00:25:44.339 --> 00:25:49.059 channels these gateways because people don't 00:25:49.059 --> 00:25:52.700 follow strategies never it looks like they are 00:25:52.700 --> 00:25:56.160 following but they really follow human beings 00:25:56.160 --> 00:26:01.660 and human beings can sense authenticity from 00:26:01.660 --> 00:26:11.440 a I mean mile away Say the if I'm wrong So here's 00:26:11.440 --> 00:26:17.259 what I want you to do not tomorrow Not next week, 00:26:17.299 --> 00:26:21.299 but right now while you are listening to this 00:26:21.299 --> 00:26:27.319 Ask yourself what I am becoming and don't Give 00:26:27.319 --> 00:26:32.480 me the LinkedIn answer the chat GPT answer or 00:26:32.480 --> 00:26:36.200 any sort of those answers don't tell me about 00:26:36.200 --> 00:26:39.140 your goals or your vision or your five -year 00:26:39.140 --> 00:26:45.400 plan tell me what kind of person am i becoming 00:26:45.400 --> 00:26:49.819 through the way i show up every day am i becoming 00:26:49.819 --> 00:26:55.900 kinder or harder more open or more closed more 00:26:55.900 --> 00:26:59.759 myself or more of what i think other people need 00:26:59.759 --> 00:27:06.170 me to be and then and this is the important part 00:27:06.170 --> 00:27:11.789 decide if that's who you want to become out of 00:27:11.789 --> 00:27:17.630 your findings decide if that's who you want to 00:27:17.630 --> 00:27:23.230 become because there is another secret i would 00:27:23.230 --> 00:27:28.150 say that people really or nobody tells us you 00:27:28.150 --> 00:27:34.500 get to choose every single day you get to choose 00:27:34.500 --> 00:27:41.640 who you are becoming you know what's beautiful 00:27:41.640 --> 00:27:47.059 about this when you start leading from who you 00:27:47.059 --> 00:27:50.759 actually are instead of who you think you should 00:27:50.759 --> 00:27:57.920 be everything gets easier not immediately because 00:27:57.920 --> 00:28:01.839 your actions will reflect so many things that 00:28:01.839 --> 00:28:05.410 are not easy you will require a lot of courage 00:28:05.410 --> 00:28:09.750 but slowly and slowly everything gets easier 00:28:09.750 --> 00:28:15.730 the decisions become clear more clearer because 00:28:15.730 --> 00:28:20.130 you are not fighting against yourself anymore 00:28:20.130 --> 00:28:24.710 that's the biggest relief the relationships become 00:28:24.710 --> 00:28:28.509 deeper because you are not performing for people 00:28:28.509 --> 00:28:34.920 anymore another big relief the work becomes more 00:28:34.920 --> 00:28:40.339 meaningful because it's coming from a real place 00:28:40.339 --> 00:28:44.539 that you carry and that a place that you love 00:28:44.539 --> 00:28:50.059 so much and your team they will feel it they 00:28:50.059 --> 00:28:53.440 will feel the difference between a leader who 00:28:53.440 --> 00:28:57.519 I mean who's performing leadership and a leader 00:28:57.519 --> 00:29:06.990 who is embodying it Look, I'm not saying this 00:29:06.990 --> 00:29:13.130 is easy, okay? Never. Becoming yourself in a 00:29:13.130 --> 00:29:16.609 world that's constantly telling you who you should 00:29:16.609 --> 00:29:20.430 be, that's probably the hardest work you will 00:29:20.430 --> 00:29:25.609 ever do. It's not like, you know, you're just 00:29:25.609 --> 00:29:30.410 planning about it and it starts happening. No, 00:29:30.430 --> 00:29:34.130 it will come with lot of sacrifices, lot of... 00:29:34.059 --> 00:29:40.019 courage lot of moves that you will take and I 00:29:40.019 --> 00:29:44.180 can't even share how much you have to be responsible 00:29:44.180 --> 00:29:49.099 for all of that but if you really need the relief 00:29:49.099 --> 00:29:53.420 you want to set free and you want to still achieve 00:29:53.420 --> 00:30:00.319 then I would say it's the most important work 00:30:00.319 --> 00:30:03.579 because I mean because at the end of the day 00:30:03.579 --> 00:30:06.440 you can build the biggest company you have the 00:30:06.440 --> 00:30:10.599 most impressive title achieve every goal you 00:30:10.599 --> 00:30:13.380 set for yourself but if you lose yourself in 00:30:13.380 --> 00:30:21.140 the process what's the point so it's time for 00:30:21.140 --> 00:30:26.420 some invitation yes and here is my invitation 00:30:26.420 --> 00:30:31.390 for you my challenge my request And deep down 00:30:31.390 --> 00:30:37.069 my prayers, please stop performing your life 00:30:37.069 --> 00:30:43.769 and start living it. Stop being the leader you 00:30:43.769 --> 00:30:47.789 think you should be and start being the leader 00:30:47.789 --> 00:30:54.769 you actually are. Stop asking what you need to 00:30:54.769 --> 00:31:02.529 do and start asking who you want to become. and 00:31:02.529 --> 00:31:07.210 trust me on this just trust me the world needs 00:31:07.210 --> 00:31:14.329 you who you as I mean as who you actually are 00:31:14.329 --> 00:31:19.349 not the polished version not the strategic version 00:31:19.349 --> 00:31:22.829 not the version that looks good on paper good 00:31:22.829 --> 00:31:27.990 in suits good in dresses that's okay that's also 00:31:27.990 --> 00:31:32.359 important nothing is nothing is like of no use 00:31:32.359 --> 00:31:36.259 but what's the point when you use yourself in 00:31:36.259 --> 00:31:39.299 the process now that's the question the world 00:31:39.299 --> 00:31:43.259 needs your actual voice your actual heart your 00:31:43.259 --> 00:31:51.240 actual way of seeing things so what are you becoming 00:31:51.240 --> 00:31:57.420 really this is the question that's the work that's 00:31:57.420 --> 00:32:03.299 the path way back to yourself And when you find 00:32:03.299 --> 00:32:07.599 that answer, when you really find it, everything 00:32:07.599 --> 00:32:12.099 else will fall into place. And the life will 00:32:12.099 --> 00:32:17.140 be, life will be more and more loving, more and 00:32:17.140 --> 00:32:22.240 more grateful, more and more abundant I would 00:32:22.240 --> 00:32:25.099 say, in many ways. Earlier it was in one way 00:32:25.099 --> 00:32:27.519 and causing you many other ways, damaging many 00:32:27.519 --> 00:32:31.029 other ways. Now it will build every other ways 00:32:31.029 --> 00:32:37.190 also. It will grow you in all dimensions. Your 00:32:37.190 --> 00:32:39.450 work life, your personal life, your relationships, 00:32:39.690 --> 00:32:43.269 your family, your social. You will see the holistic 00:32:43.269 --> 00:32:51.890 difference. This has been SunDeep Talks. Thank 00:32:51.890 --> 00:32:54.569 you for being here. Thank you for listening. 00:32:55.490 --> 00:32:59.000 Thank you for being... brave enough to ask the 00:32:59.000 --> 00:33:03.019 real questions. Keep becoming. Keep remembering. 00:33:04.000 --> 00:33:06.920 Keep leading from your soul. I will see you next 00:33:06.920 --> 00:33:07.200 time.