WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.359 OK, so you've shared some really insightful chapters 00:00:03.359 --> 00:00:06.080 with us all digging into grief. It's it's such 00:00:06.080 --> 00:00:08.820 a complex thing. It really is. So for this deep 00:00:08.820 --> 00:00:11.939 dive, the idea is to kind of pull out the core 00:00:11.939 --> 00:00:15.080 insights from these readings, you know, offer 00:00:15.080 --> 00:00:18.960 something that feels helpful, maybe validating, 00:00:18.960 --> 00:00:21.280 but doesn't just overwhelm you with information. 00:00:21.899 --> 00:00:24.199 Exactly. We're looking at these chapters from 00:00:24.199 --> 00:00:27.219 books on grief. And what's striking is how they, 00:00:27.339 --> 00:00:30.120 well. They really push back against some common, 00:00:30.160 --> 00:00:33.119 maybe not so helpful ideas about loss. OK, yeah, 00:00:33.179 --> 00:00:35.460 let's unpack that. One of the first things these 00:00:35.460 --> 00:00:38.240 chapters seem to challenge is that feeling or 00:00:38.240 --> 00:00:40.740 sometimes that direct comment that you should 00:00:40.740 --> 00:00:43.579 be over it by now. That pressure. Yeah, that 00:00:43.579 --> 00:00:45.479 pressure. Exactly. Like there's some hidden deadline 00:00:45.479 --> 00:00:47.560 for healing. And the harm in that, which these 00:00:47.560 --> 00:00:50.100 chapters really explore, is that, well, grief 00:00:50.100 --> 00:00:52.670 just isn't. linear it doesn't stick to a schedule 00:00:52.670 --> 00:00:55.250 loss becomes well it becomes part of your life 00:00:55.250 --> 00:00:56.890 something you learn to carry not something you 00:00:56.890 --> 00:00:59.369 just get over and leave behind you integrate 00:00:59.369 --> 00:01:02.549 it yeah sort of precisely one source puts it 00:01:02.549 --> 00:01:05.769 so well i thought you never get over it you get 00:01:05.769 --> 00:01:09.489 through it and you carry them with you wow that 00:01:09.489 --> 00:01:11.569 lands differently doesn't it yeah okay then there's 00:01:11.569 --> 00:01:14.450 that other common one stay strong often said 00:01:14.450 --> 00:01:16.530 with good intentions i think oh absolutely good 00:01:16.530 --> 00:01:18.530 intentions but the chapters point out how that 00:01:18.530 --> 00:01:23.359 can um kind of force you to bottle things up 00:01:23.359 --> 00:01:26.920 to suppress the very feelings that need air right 00:01:26.920 --> 00:01:30.859 like being vulnerable is weak exactly but grief 00:01:30.859 --> 00:01:33.480 it actually needs vulnerability these chapters 00:01:33.480 --> 00:01:35.340 suggest a better way maybe like you don't have 00:01:35.340 --> 00:01:37.260 to be strong you just have to be real i like 00:01:37.260 --> 00:01:39.500 that real not just strong it shifts the focus 00:01:39.500 --> 00:01:42.459 inward then there's a everything happens for 00:01:42.459 --> 00:01:44.840 a reason that one can be really jarring when 00:01:44.840 --> 00:01:46.620 you're in the thick of it oh definitely well 00:01:47.079 --> 00:01:49.159 Maybe some people find comfort in that perspective 00:01:49.159 --> 00:01:51.640 later on, right at the start. It can feel like 00:01:51.640 --> 00:01:54.000 it just dismisses the pain, especially if the 00:01:54.000 --> 00:01:58.500 loss feels senseless. Completely. The sources 00:01:58.500 --> 00:02:01.599 really highlight how trying to slap a reason 00:02:01.599 --> 00:02:04.819 onto deep emotional pain can feel incredibly 00:02:04.819 --> 00:02:07.439 invalidating. Sometimes just acknowledging the 00:02:07.439 --> 00:02:10.460 hurt without trying to explain it away is more 00:02:10.460 --> 00:02:13.379 helpful. Yeah. As one chapter says pretty powerfully, 00:02:13.500 --> 00:02:16.080 not everything needs a reason to be worthy of 00:02:16.080 --> 00:02:19.550 mourning. That's potent. And what about they're 00:02:19.550 --> 00:02:21.389 in a better place? Another one that comes from 00:02:21.389 --> 00:02:24.469 a good place, usually. Usually, yes. But again, 00:02:24.569 --> 00:02:26.490 the timing and the impact, the chapters note 00:02:26.490 --> 00:02:28.770 that even if you believe that, it doesn't actually 00:02:28.770 --> 00:02:31.150 take away the ache of their absence here right 00:02:31.150 --> 00:02:33.259 now. Right. The missing them is still very present. 00:02:33.460 --> 00:02:36.939 Exactly. Platitudes, even kind ones, can sometimes 00:02:36.939 --> 00:02:39.780 just skim over the raw grief. So the sources 00:02:39.780 --> 00:02:42.159 suggest something more grounded, maybe. Like, 00:02:42.199 --> 00:02:44.639 wherever they are, I know you miss them deeply. 00:02:44.780 --> 00:02:47.259 That's okay. That acknowledges the feeling right 00:02:47.259 --> 00:02:50.139 here, right now. Okay, and the last big myth 00:02:50.139 --> 00:02:53.020 they tackle. Time heals all wounds. We hear that 00:02:53.020 --> 00:02:55.979 all the time. We do, and it's such an oversimplification, 00:02:55.979 --> 00:02:58.240 isn't it? The chapters argue that time alone 00:02:58.240 --> 00:03:00.740 isn't the magic healer. So what is then? Well, 00:03:00.819 --> 00:03:02.719 it's more about what happens within that time. 00:03:03.240 --> 00:03:07.020 Intention, actively grieving, remembering. That 00:03:07.020 --> 00:03:10.199 matters. And they also point out that some wounds, 00:03:10.240 --> 00:03:13.259 they leave marks, permanent ones. But maybe those 00:03:13.259 --> 00:03:16.000 marks signify love, not failure to heal. Ah, 00:03:16.099 --> 00:03:19.139 okay. So it's not about erasing the wound. Not 00:03:19.139 --> 00:03:21.599 necessarily. One source offered this thought. 00:03:21.740 --> 00:03:25.319 Time can soften pain, but love continues in different 00:03:25.319 --> 00:03:27.780 form. It seems like a running theme in these 00:03:27.780 --> 00:03:30.159 chapters is how much our language matters around 00:03:30.159 --> 00:03:33.460 grief. The words we use to ourselves or to others. 00:03:33.639 --> 00:03:35.819 Absolutely critical. They can either open a door 00:03:35.819 --> 00:03:38.879 for mourning or kind of slam it shut. These readings 00:03:38.879 --> 00:03:41.120 really empower you, I think, to rewrite that 00:03:41.120 --> 00:03:43.159 script if you need to, to feel what you feel 00:03:43.159 --> 00:03:45.520 without judgment. Which kind of leads into this 00:03:45.520 --> 00:03:47.419 other concept they explore, continuing bonds. 00:03:47.879 --> 00:03:49.759 This sounds different from the usual advice. 00:03:50.270 --> 00:03:51.689 It is. It moves away from that idea that you 00:03:51.689 --> 00:03:53.750 have to move on and sort of forget. Instead, 00:03:53.870 --> 00:03:55.770 it's about finding healthy ways to stay connected 00:03:55.770 --> 00:03:57.830 to the person who died as you move forward with 00:03:57.830 --> 00:03:59.789 their memory. So healing doesn't mean cutting 00:03:59.789 --> 00:04:03.069 ties. Not according to this perspective. The 00:04:03.069 --> 00:04:05.629 chapters argue that love doesn't just stop because 00:04:05.629 --> 00:04:08.550 someone isn't physically here. Keeping that connection 00:04:08.550 --> 00:04:10.870 alive, thinking about them, talking to them, 00:04:10.949 --> 00:04:16.069 feeling that bond is actually seen as natural, 00:04:16.430 --> 00:04:18.569 healthy even. How did you do that practically? 00:04:19.040 --> 00:04:21.259 Well, one way the chapter suggests is writing 00:04:21.259 --> 00:04:24.399 letters to the person you lost. Hmm. Letters. 00:04:24.620 --> 00:04:27.519 Yeah. And they stress it's not about being Shakespeare, 00:04:27.720 --> 00:04:30.879 you know. Just be honest. Pour out what you miss, 00:04:31.040 --> 00:04:32.920 what you wish you could tell them, memories, 00:04:33.079 --> 00:04:36.279 struggles, anything. Just the act itself is what 00:04:36.279 --> 00:04:38.160 matters. Exactly. It keeps that conversation, 00:04:38.259 --> 00:04:40.620 that relationship going in a new way. There is 00:04:40.620 --> 00:04:42.500 this example in one chapter. Right. Something 00:04:42.500 --> 00:04:44.920 like, Dude, Dad, I heard our favorite song. Nearly 00:04:44.920 --> 00:04:46.660 dropped the milk. I miss your laugh, how you 00:04:46.660 --> 00:04:49.079 made things feel safe. Just simple, real stuff. 00:04:49.240 --> 00:04:52.399 That makes it feel very accessible, real. Yeah. 00:04:52.639 --> 00:04:54.819 And beyond letters, the chapters also talk about 00:04:54.819 --> 00:04:57.639 rituals, honoring memories. Like lighting a candle, 00:04:57.759 --> 00:05:02.120 maybe. Or keeping photos close. Or cooking their 00:05:02.120 --> 00:05:04.500 favorite meal, playing their music, wearing something 00:05:04.500 --> 00:05:07.879 of theirs, creating a memory box, visiting places 00:05:07.879 --> 00:05:11.199 you love together. Simple things, but done intentionally, 00:05:11.560 --> 00:05:13.699 they become sacred acts. So you don't have to 00:05:13.699 --> 00:05:16.399 stop including them. No. The point these sources 00:05:16.399 --> 00:05:19.490 make is that love adapts. It doesn't die. Continuing 00:05:19.490 --> 00:05:22.170 bonds are a form of resilience, really. It's 00:05:22.170 --> 00:05:25.009 about letting go of the intensity of the pain, 00:05:25.069 --> 00:05:28.189 maybe, but not the love. That's a really important 00:05:28.189 --> 00:05:31.110 distinction. Letting go of pain, not love. Yeah. 00:05:31.410 --> 00:05:34.569 But, you know, there are those days, especially 00:05:34.569 --> 00:05:38.060 early on. When just existing feels like too much. 00:05:38.079 --> 00:05:40.220 When you feel like you just can't cope. Absolutely. 00:05:40.759 --> 00:05:42.600 Overwhelming days. And the chapters offer some 00:05:42.600 --> 00:05:44.540 really practical ideas for those moments. They 00:05:44.540 --> 00:05:47.079 call them small anchors in the storm. Anchors. 00:05:47.079 --> 00:05:48.860 I like that. What kind of things? Really basic 00:05:48.860 --> 00:05:51.120 grounding things like breathing. Just focusing 00:05:51.120 --> 00:05:54.319 on your breath for a moment. Slow inhales. Longer 00:05:54.319 --> 00:05:57.500 exhales. Like a four count in. Four count hold. 00:05:57.620 --> 00:05:59.720 Six or eight count out. Just something to remind 00:05:59.720 --> 00:06:02.660 you you're right here right now. Pulls you back 00:06:02.660 --> 00:06:05.420 from the chaos a bit. Exactly. Or granding techniques, 00:06:05.600 --> 00:06:07.680 like the 5 -4 -3 -2 -1 method. You know, name 00:06:07.680 --> 00:06:09.779 five things you see, four things you can touch. 00:06:09.980 --> 00:06:12.240 Three you hear, two you smell, one you taste. 00:06:12.439 --> 00:06:14.720 Yeah, that one. It forces your mind back into 00:06:14.720 --> 00:06:17.319 the present moment, using your senses. Simple, 00:06:17.500 --> 00:06:20.699 but sounds like it could be effective. And journaling, 00:06:20.699 --> 00:06:23.860 too. Not necessarily long entries, but just jotting 00:06:23.860 --> 00:06:26.420 down words, feelings, even scribbles. A gentle 00:06:26.420 --> 00:06:28.959 release when talking feels too hard. These chapters 00:06:28.959 --> 00:06:31.540 also talk about emotional safety, right? Protecting 00:06:31.540 --> 00:06:34.509 yourself. Super important. Grief makes you feel 00:06:34.509 --> 00:06:39.290 raw, exposed. So creating safety might mean limiting 00:06:39.290 --> 00:06:41.709 time with draining people or in stressful places. 00:06:42.050 --> 00:06:44.790 Setting boundaries. Definitely. And really allowing 00:06:44.790 --> 00:06:46.689 yourself to rest without feeling guilty about 00:06:46.689 --> 00:06:49.670 it. One chapter mentioned creating a grief nest, 00:06:49.850 --> 00:06:52.110 like a physical space that feels comforting and 00:06:52.110 --> 00:06:54.949 safe where you can just be. A grief nest. That's 00:06:54.949 --> 00:06:58.310 a lovely image. But what if? Yeah. What if these 00:06:58.310 --> 00:07:00.370 small anchors aren't enough? When do you ask 00:07:00.370 --> 00:07:02.629 for more support? That's hard to ask sometimes. 00:07:02.930 --> 00:07:06.230 So hard. The chapters acknowledge that. They 00:07:06.230 --> 00:07:08.310 suggest looking for signs like feeling stuck 00:07:08.310 --> 00:07:10.589 in deep despair, pulling away from everyone, 00:07:10.829 --> 00:07:14.189 finding basic tasks impossible, major issues 00:07:14.189 --> 00:07:17.069 with eating or sleeping, or, importantly, having 00:07:17.069 --> 00:07:19.110 thoughts of harming yourself. Those are definite 00:07:19.110 --> 00:07:21.889 red flags. Absolutely. And they even offer simple 00:07:21.889 --> 00:07:23.689 ways to ask for help, like, I just need someone 00:07:23.689 --> 00:07:25.810 to sit with me, or could you check in on me tomorrow, 00:07:25.990 --> 00:07:29.490 or I just need someone to listen, not... Kicks 00:07:29.490 --> 00:07:31.470 the pressure off finding the right words. Yeah. 00:07:31.589 --> 00:07:34.149 And they really emphasize the value of grief 00:07:34.149 --> 00:07:37.230 counselors or therapists, framing it not as weakness, 00:07:37.290 --> 00:07:40.350 but as courage, as self -care. That's crucial. 00:07:40.589 --> 00:07:43.470 Taking that step is brave. Totally. So on those 00:07:43.470 --> 00:07:45.949 really tough days, coping might just mean doing 00:07:45.949 --> 00:07:48.670 one tiny thing. Surviving the day is enough sometimes. 00:07:49.089 --> 00:07:51.810 Okay. Shifting gears a bit. The chapters also 00:07:51.810 --> 00:07:55.470 get into finding meaning after loss, which feels... 00:07:56.000 --> 00:07:58.500 Tricky. Very tricky. And they're careful up front. 00:07:58.579 --> 00:08:01.079 They state clearly there's no silver lining that 00:08:01.079 --> 00:08:03.500 makes the loss okay. No lesson learned replaces 00:08:03.500 --> 00:08:05.779 the person. Good. That feels important to say. 00:08:05.959 --> 00:08:09.259 It is. But then they introduce this idea of post 00:08:09.259 --> 00:08:13.040 -traumatic growth. Not erasing the pain, but 00:08:13.040 --> 00:08:15.360 the possibility that transformation can come 00:08:15.360 --> 00:08:17.480 through suffering. Growth. What does that look 00:08:17.480 --> 00:08:20.300 like? It could be things like deeper empathy 00:08:20.300 --> 00:08:23.500 for others, maybe? More clarity on your own values? 00:08:24.040 --> 00:08:26.879 a renewed appreciation for life sometimes, or 00:08:26.879 --> 00:08:29.759 finding the courage to live more fully, not because 00:08:29.759 --> 00:08:31.759 of the loss, but emerging from the experience. 00:08:32.080 --> 00:08:34.379 Okay, that makes sense. And they talk about identity 00:08:34.379 --> 00:08:37.539 too, right? Like, who am I now? Yes, that's a 00:08:37.539 --> 00:08:40.500 huge piece. Losing someone close, especially 00:08:40.500 --> 00:08:42.580 if they were central to your life, often shakes 00:08:42.580 --> 00:08:44.529 your sense of self. You might have to let go 00:08:44.529 --> 00:08:46.870 of old roles or ways of being. So how does a 00:08:46.870 --> 00:08:49.409 new self emerge? Gradually. The sources suggest 00:08:49.409 --> 00:08:51.470 it involves honoring the person's legacy and 00:08:51.470 --> 00:08:54.169 how you live, but also allowing yourself to rediscover 00:08:54.169 --> 00:08:57.590 joy, to find new connections, to become, well, 00:08:57.690 --> 00:09:00.370 whoever you are becoming now. It's an integration. 00:09:00.450 --> 00:09:02.970 And sometimes people turn that pain into purpose. 00:09:03.309 --> 00:09:06.559 Yeah, that comes up too. For some, channeling 00:09:06.559 --> 00:09:09.019 grief into helping others or creating art or 00:09:09.019 --> 00:09:12.299 advocating for a cause related to the loss, that 00:09:12.299 --> 00:09:14.539 becomes part of their path forward, transforming 00:09:14.539 --> 00:09:17.220 pain into something meaningful. But the key is 00:09:17.220 --> 00:09:19.679 you make the meaning. It's not just handed to 00:09:19.679 --> 00:09:22.460 you. Exactly. It's not found. It's made. It's 00:09:22.460 --> 00:09:25.519 about asking, OK, what now? What kind of life 00:09:25.519 --> 00:09:27.840 do I want to live carrying this love forward? 00:09:28.299 --> 00:09:30.259 That's a powerful question and something these 00:09:30.259 --> 00:09:33.220 chapters also really foreground is the physical 00:09:33.220 --> 00:09:35.820 side of grief. It's not just in your head or 00:09:35.820 --> 00:09:37.840 heart. Oh, absolutely not. The body keeps the 00:09:37.840 --> 00:09:40.580 score, as they say. Grief lives in the body. 00:09:40.720 --> 00:09:43.320 Chest tightness, stomach issues, aches, pains. 00:09:43.620 --> 00:09:46.580 Fatigue, like bone deep exhaustion. Huge fatigue. 00:09:46.659 --> 00:09:49.919 Getting sick more often, maybe trembling, sleep 00:09:49.919 --> 00:09:52.080 going completely haywire, even panic attacks. 00:09:52.340 --> 00:09:55.320 These are real physical responses, not imagined. 00:09:55.519 --> 00:09:57.700 So what do the chapters suggest for dealing with 00:09:57.700 --> 00:10:00.399 those physical things like sleep, appetite, energy? 00:10:00.740 --> 00:10:04.620 Gently. That's the key theme. For sleep, maybe 00:10:04.620 --> 00:10:07.919 calming routines, soothing sounds, but also just... 00:10:08.490 --> 00:10:10.629 Accepting wakefulness sometimes, not fighting 00:10:10.629 --> 00:10:13.409 it. For appetite, keeping easy snacks around, 00:10:13.669 --> 00:10:16.309 small meals, no guilt if you can't eat much. 00:10:16.470 --> 00:10:19.230 Energy. Redefining productivity. Getting out 00:10:19.230 --> 00:10:21.169 of bed might be the day's biggest achievement. 00:10:21.330 --> 00:10:23.429 And that's okay. Taking a breath is productive. 00:10:23.769 --> 00:10:26.350 Small acts count. It sounds like being incredibly 00:10:26.350 --> 00:10:28.909 kind to your body. Exactly. Gentle movement, 00:10:29.009 --> 00:10:32.129 like a slow walk or stretching. Staying hydrated, 00:10:32.509 --> 00:10:35.809 simple food, the comfort of touch, maybe a weighted 00:10:35.809 --> 00:10:39.429 blanket, or just feeling sunlight, warm baths, 00:10:39.429 --> 00:10:43.029 and rest, rest, rest without judgment. Be patient 00:10:43.029 --> 00:10:44.970 with your body. It's carrying a heavy load. A 00:10:44.970 --> 00:10:47.610 very heavy load. Slow down. Be gentle. Yeah, 00:10:47.669 --> 00:10:50.159 we can't talk grief. Without mentioning the famous 00:10:50.159 --> 00:10:53.460 five stages, right? Denial, anger. Bargaining, 00:10:53.500 --> 00:10:55.980 depression, acceptance. And the chapters address 00:10:55.980 --> 00:10:59.039 them, but with a big caveat. They are not a neat 00:10:59.039 --> 00:11:00.840 checklist, not linear, not something you tick 00:11:00.840 --> 00:11:03.100 off and you're done. Ah, good clarification. 00:11:03.519 --> 00:11:05.799 So how should we think about them? More like. 00:11:06.059 --> 00:11:08.159 Common experiences or feelings that can arise 00:11:08.159 --> 00:11:10.480 in grief. But grief is messy. It's like waves. 00:11:10.799 --> 00:11:13.039 You might feel anger one day, acceptance the 00:11:13.039 --> 00:11:15.240 next, then denial again. You might skip some 00:11:15.240 --> 00:11:17.440 entirely. So they offer a description, not a 00:11:17.440 --> 00:11:19.919 prescription. Exactly. Denial as maybe a shock 00:11:19.919 --> 00:11:23.000 absorber initially. Anger as grief with energy, 00:11:23.200 --> 00:11:26.379 maybe masking pain or fear. Bargaining as those, 00:11:26.559 --> 00:11:30.179 if only, often tied to guilt. Depression is that 00:11:30.179 --> 00:11:34.759 deep, profound sadness. And acceptance. Not as 00:11:34.759 --> 00:11:37.840 being okay with the loss, but learning to live 00:11:37.840 --> 00:11:41.059 with it, integrating it, finding ways to move 00:11:41.059 --> 00:11:43.179 forward. And you can bounce between them. Totally. 00:11:43.320 --> 00:11:46.340 Back and forth. Or feel multiple things at once. 00:11:46.519 --> 00:11:48.840 Everyone's grief is unique, shaped by the relationship, 00:11:49.139 --> 00:11:51.460 the circumstances, your own history. There's 00:11:51.460 --> 00:11:53.799 just no single right way. Permission to feel 00:11:53.799 --> 00:11:55.960 whatever comes up. That's the core message. Feel 00:11:55.960 --> 00:11:58.539 it all without judging yourself or how you grieve. 00:11:58.720 --> 00:12:00.559 And finally, these chapters talk about how grief 00:12:00.559 --> 00:12:03.909 changes shape over time. Yeah. It evolves. That 00:12:03.909 --> 00:12:07.730 sharp, acute pain often softens. It doesn't necessarily 00:12:07.730 --> 00:12:10.269 disappear, but it changes. How does it change? 00:12:10.490 --> 00:12:13.149 It's described less like a constant storm and 00:12:13.149 --> 00:12:17.870 more like a quiet ache sometimes. A longing that 00:12:17.870 --> 00:12:21.289 gets woven into your days. A whisper instead 00:12:21.289 --> 00:12:25.289 of a scream. And is it okay to feel better? Sometimes 00:12:25.289 --> 00:12:27.470 people feel guilty about moments of lightness. 00:12:27.730 --> 00:12:31.429 That guilt is so common. But the chapters really 00:12:31.429 --> 00:12:34.919 reassure you. Feeling moments of joy or peace 00:12:34.919 --> 00:12:37.879 means you're healing. It does not mean you're 00:12:37.879 --> 00:12:40.159 forgetting or that you loved the person any less. 00:12:40.379 --> 00:12:43.480 So healing looks like what? coexisting with the 00:12:43.480 --> 00:12:46.139 sadness yeah kind of sorrow and joy learning 00:12:46.139 --> 00:12:48.720 to live side by side being able to remember without 00:12:48.720 --> 00:12:51.360 being completely overwhelmed every time living 00:12:51.360 --> 00:12:53.200 fully while still honoring the love and hard 00:12:53.200 --> 00:12:55.620 days will still happen oh definitely anniversaries 00:12:55.620 --> 00:12:57.899 birthdays unexpected triggers intense emotions 00:12:57.899 --> 00:13:00.460 can still surface but that's a sign of love enduring 00:13:00.460 --> 00:13:02.559 not a sign you're failing at grief and those 00:13:02.559 --> 00:13:04.679 moments of light seeing beauty again connecting 00:13:04.679 --> 00:13:07.299 with people laughing They're not betrayals. The 00:13:07.299 --> 00:13:09.240 chapters frame them as testaments to your own 00:13:09.240 --> 00:13:11.460 strength, your resilience. It's okay to live 00:13:11.460 --> 00:13:13.779 again, to laugh again. You carry the love forward, 00:13:14.000 --> 00:13:16.700 maybe as a quiet strength inside you. So wrapping 00:13:16.700 --> 00:13:20.240 this up, the big takeaway seems to be that grief 00:13:20.240 --> 00:13:23.279 is just incredibly personal, always evolving, 00:13:23.460 --> 00:13:25.960 no right or wrong way. Exactly. It's fundamentally 00:13:25.960 --> 00:13:27.879 about love, really, about figuring out how to 00:13:27.879 --> 00:13:30.100 carry that love forward when someone's physical 00:13:30.100 --> 00:13:32.940 presence is gone, allowing all the feelings. 00:13:33.019 --> 00:13:35.440 And challenging those myths, honoring the connection, 00:13:35.679 --> 00:13:37.960 finding those small anchors, letting grief change. 00:13:38.259 --> 00:13:40.019 That's all part of it. It's all part of your 00:13:40.019 --> 00:13:43.200 unique journey through it. So a final thought 00:13:43.200 --> 00:13:46.059 for you listening. Maybe reflect on how the love 00:13:46.059 --> 00:13:48.259 you share still shapes you, how it shows up in 00:13:48.259 --> 00:13:51.259 your life now. And perhaps what's one small intentional 00:13:51.259 --> 00:13:54.460 thing you could do today, just today, to honor 00:13:54.460 --> 00:13:55.279 that enduring bond?