Hello and welcome to the first episode of the Simple Minded Stories podcast.
You may have heard or listened to the Simple Minded podcast before and that was kind of
just a jumble of a bunch of different people talking over each other.
So we decided to do something that you might be able to listen to before bed or while doing
school work or whatever you want to put this on and listen to it while doing.
So basically what we're going to be doing is we're going to be doing Am I the Asshole Reddit Stories.
I'm here with myself obviously Andrew.
I'm here with Troy, say hi Troy.
Hello.
So I'm just going to go ahead and get right into it so I don't take up any more of your useless time.
And I will begin now.
So this first story is from similar fuel 9593 on the subreddit r slash Am I the Asshole.
And it begins as follows.
Am I the asshole for leaving my wife and kids?
I'm sure that the title will lead to most to say yes, but I feel right in my reasons to leave.
This happened years ago.
I married the wrong woman.
My ex is internally a very angry person and wanted to be a very controlling usually in varying dramatic ways
and eventually years of this caused our divorce.
Together we had three boys three and four years apart. My eldest daughter was not or my eldest was nine when the divorce happened.
My ex took them to her parents house a 20 minute drive from our house that I had built myself 10 years prior.
She burned my house down not long after while I was at work.
No one was hurt and I have no real proof it was her.
Nothing really came of it.
The fire was suspicious, but it was in the days before doorbell cameras.
I think she just lit a massive fire in the fireplace.
So I left.
I had a job that was very specialized high in demand generally everywhere and back then you could get a job with a smile and a handshake.
First I went to a major city in Canada that starts with T.
SIT Toronto.
I don't know why you had to censor Toronto.
Save cash for about a year and then move to a small town about 2,500 kilometers from home.
In this small town I kept the same job ended up meeting other women and we had one child together.
She and I are still married.
My kids from previous marriage would come to stay with us for some summers during school break.
I thought they enjoyed the summers.
They built go carts and raced them one year.
We were always camping, etc.
My eldest dropped out of high school at home and my younger two from the previous marriage eventually moved in with us for their last years of high school.
They grew up.
They've had children.
I have 10 grandchildren and they're starting to grow up too.
I'm dying.
Okay, that's a crazy start to a paragraph here.
I'm dying.
Good days and bad but the good are quickly getting rarer.
My kids are talking to each other about it individually to me.
My youngest son from my current marriage called my second youngest for support after having dealt with me on a particularly bad day.
My youngest thinks his older brothers hold a great deal of resent towards him for being my replacement family and me for leaving them with a mother that didn't spend child support on things like electricity or running water.
I haven't spoken to my oldest children about my conversation with my youngest yet.
I'm not sure if I should bring it up or let them if they want to.
I felt justified with my decision but I'm no longer sure I'm at peace with it.
Am I the asshole?
I don't know.
That's a slippery slope.
I feel like I can't agree that you're not the asshole for leaving your wife and kids.
But, you know, burnt your house down.
So who knows?
Yeah, so I mean, okay.
So here's the thing is that I think that moving that far away would say 2,500 kilometers that he said?
Yeah, 2,500 kilometers.
Moving that far away just I think caused way too much stress on the kids.
Like being having to, you know, go that far from summer to summer or every other summer like he said.
Just to, you know, see your dad or see your mother, you know, just going back and forth.
I mean, I, there, he went, he went to the job, right?
He, that's why he moved that far, right?
Like he was a job opportunity I'm guessing.
It says here, I had a job that was very specialized, high in demand generally everywhere.
And back then you could get a job with a smile and a handshake.
So I guess, I mean, it sounds like he had, like, I mean, in today's world, like a construction job,
like there's never really a shortage of construction workers, you know what I mean?
Right.
Like that's kind of something you can get into and then get a job anywhere that does construction.
Kind of a thing.
So I mean, I don't know if he necessarily had to move 2,500 kilometers from home.
But I mean, the same time I kind of see where he's coming from, like if I had a, if I had a crazy ex-wife
that like burnt my house down, I'd probably want to move pretty damn far away too.
He said that he moved to Toronto, right?
Yeah, he moved to Toronto, saved cash for a year and, oh, it says first I went to a major city in Canada,
saved cash for about a year and then moved to a small town about 2,500 kilometers from home.
So I don't know if he lived in Canada for a little while and then decided to move 2,500 kilometers from there.
Still, I'm still in Canada.
No, I understand.
I'm saying it says he went there and then saved cash for a year.
But then moved to a small town 2,500 kilometers from home.
So I don't know if that's the house that burnt down home or the Toronto home.
I think it's, I think it's the, I mean, I'm guessing that the, that, yeah, I'm guessing home was the area of where the house basically burnt down.
I have a, that's a crazy thing by the way, 10 grandkids.
Yeah, it's a lot of grandkids.
Well, that's not a lot of grandkids.
Well, three boys, right?
Yeah, three boys.
But then he also said that he had a, he had a daughter, no, no, didn't actually say daughter.
Just said we had another child.
So I mean, four kids, 10 grandkids.
That's not like a, that's not absurd.
Okay.
I mean, that's still, I mean, still like quite a few grandkids, I suppose.
I mean, my opinion on it is that I think that there was a lot of things that he had the right to be an asshole in doing.
Obviously, you know, if your wife burns your house down and, you know, it, like he said, it wasn't confirmed like he didn't have enough information or evidence that he actually did it.
But he had a strong hunch. She probably did do it.
So him, you know, moving away, trying to get away from that, I completely understand that trying to get away from that life in general.
I mean, he built the house.
So, yeah, Logan, what's your input on this?
What do you think?
I've really not been listening.
Can't lie.
Okay. All right. Well, you'll just have to listen to the first story in this episode, then I suppose and let me know a side note.
But I'll say, I'll say he's not fully in the wrong, but he's also a little bit in the wrong.
I mean, like 2,500 miles away or kilometers, whatever, 2,000 miles, something like that.
That's not like, that's not a short distance.
That's like New York to like, I don't know.
I don't think it's California. No, like New York, but that's far.
That's a long, that's a long, a long ways.
So, I mean, it's, that's, I think the only part of it where it's like, you're the asshole.
I mean, I don't know.
It's just the distance. The distance was unneeded. It was stressful for the kids.
That's a problem. Is that putting, putting that much, putting that much distance between, between your, between, well, you're a kid, right?
Imagine having that much distance between your biological mother and your biological father and having to deal with the stress of literally travel.
Like, I mean, I don't care if it's plain, you're still have to go on plain travel.
Like it's just not fun just to see the person that made you, you know, like, it's just not, it's just not cool.
Because, you know, usually, you know, you would, if, if a couple were to split up, no matter the severity usually of the breakup, you know, sometimes if it's, if it's, you know, so some, there's some relationships that end where there's still like best friends afterwards.
So like, you know, but I feel like generally, even if she burns your house down, I think that moving like two towns away, like would be fine, you know.
Yeah. Yeah.
It would suffice. I just, I just think that it's, it was unneeded.
You know, the thing is, is that if he is a specialized worker, construction worker, let's just say, moving to Toronto is a really good move.
Obviously, the city. So there's a lot of job opportunities from there.
But he just didn't put his kids first, which I think that a any man, any man that's that's has any ounce of responsibility.
Or, I guess, you know, any kind of prize with his kids where he actually like focuses on them. I don't think he would do that to his kids. You know, it was pretty selfish.
This is, this is a comment. This is a comment on this post. Someone named Ella said, you're the asshole. You weren't a father to your kids, period.
My father-in-law left his family after a series of mistresses, oldest child 12, youngest four, and immediately moved overseas to avoid court ordered child support payments.
He moved back to the States when his youngest turned 18 under the misconception that he wouldn't be on the hook for back child support payments once she was an adult.
He missed all his children's weddings in their most critical development years.
While overseas, he voted a new foreign citizen wife, younger than his oldest child.
He now has a daughter the same age as his granddaughter. He's in his 70s. He's trying to make amends. His children repossesses.
His children's repossess. What the hell repossess? I think it's spelled wrong range from overly hostile to skeptical to cautiously dubious.
I don't know what that means. OP is the asshole and my husband's mom was relatively stable. I can't imagine leaving my kids to grow up with an arsonist.
I mean, that's pretty much it.
It's both said, but not really actually. It's not well said whatsoever.
Well, half of that was spelled wrong guys.
I see what they mean. But I don't know if I got the story wrong because we were just talking about this for the last five minutes.
They went to still go see him though. It's not like they he moved away from his family.
Yeah, but actually in the in the thing it says right here.
He said though he was like, oh yeah, they came over they even built go carts one of the go carts were always camping.
It also says would come to stay with us for summers. But then right before that it says my youngest thinks his older brothers had hold a great deal of resent towards him for being my replacement family.
And for me leaving them with a mother that didn't spend child support on things like electricity or running water.
Like I feel like if I'm the father in this situation, I'm not going to like leave my kids with a mother that's that's not paying the electricity or water bill.
Like that sounds. I don't know. I think in that part he's the asshole.
But if you damn well knows that like they're not being taken care of and he's fine with it, then he's the asshole.
Yeah, but here's the thing.
He was like, we'll put this in like two or three different categories.
He's not the asshole, obviously for leaving.
You know, he actually holds integrity where, you know, he no bullshit.
He left because she burnt down his fucking house that he built with his hands.
And he's fine for that. Fine for a living. That's fine.
But the way he handled the fact that he had kids, the way you handle leaving, I think was wrong.
Yeah. Yes. So he is an asshole for the way you know, leaving.
That's I think exactly what I think as well.
I think that he's the asshole. But I think that there were there was just like that one pivotal thing removed really far away.
I think that was like the that was the the pivotal moment in his life where things just where he turned into the asshole.
I think that leaving leaving was acceptable when you have that that that knowledge, but not necessarily not necessarily like proof that your wife burned down your house.
I think that that was justified. The leaving was justified, but not the not the moving 2000 miles away.
That's where that's where I'd say that was that was where he became the asshole.
Yeah. So that's that's that story. Like that's that's definitely that's definitely how I mean that's that's how I think I think that was a lot of what he did wasn't necessary and irresponsible.
So he is the asshole.
He's the asshole. I'll add a sound effect there maybe if I really feel the need in post.
So moving swiftly on. This one's coming in from United underscore dog 8 9 4 6 in the am I the asshole subreddits.
I got to put on my narrator voice here.
Am I the asshole for being unhappy about my daughter being punished for not standing up for her teacher.
All right.
Yesterday my eighth grade daughter's English class was doing a group activity and my daughter was placed in a group with three other people, two guys and another girl.
They were working at a table outside of the classroom.
Her teacher suddenly called one of the boys who my daughter barely knows who was in her group into her office to meet privately and when he came back he was really angry.
The class just handed in a major essay the other day and the teacher believes that he plagiarized it and told him she'd be giving him a zero and having a conference with his parents.
To my knowledge he didn't have any super specific proof like it was setting off an AI detector or like it setting off an AI detector.
Her reasoning was that his writing on this essay seemed dramatically different from that of his previous essays.
The boy insisted that this was not the case and that he wrote it all by himself.
He was really angry and went on a big rant about the teacher and the situation when he returned to the group.
He said some pretty nasty stuff about her calling her a fat bitch, dick bag, and fucking liar.
Unbeknownst to him, the teacher was watching and listening in on this conversation the whole time.
The other girl in the group expressed some agreement with the boy as he ranted while my daughter and the other boy remained quiet and just sat and listened.
This was confirmed by the teacher herself.
After a few minutes of listening to him rant and complain, the teacher came out and told him he had to go to the principal's office.
Near the end of the class, the teacher gave the other three people in the group, including my daughter, forms for after-school Friday detention.
Even though my daughter said absolutely nothing agreeing with the boy, her teacher says she should have said something instead of just sitting and listening to him call her names.
When I spoke to her principal about it, he also sided with the teacher.
He said he thinks it's unacceptable for a student to just sit idly by if they hear their classmates using offensive language about a teacher or peer, and that my daughter had a responsibility to stand up for her teacher or report it.
It seems really unfair and ridiculous to me that my daughter can be punished for something someone else said and did, and I don't think I'm done fighting this detention.
Am I the asshole?
No.
You're not the asshole.
Not even a little bit.
I'll go first here.
Go for it.
So the teacher, she's a big girl. She can handle an eighth grader talking shit, alright?
She doesn't need another eighth grade girl that probably weighs 80 pounds to literally...
You can't say that. I'm gonna tell on you.
Make sure that you get justice. That's not her role.
And that's a big thing in school too.
A big thing in school, having gone through it now, is you just gotta kinda stand your own lane.
You don't wanna be labeled something that you don't want to be labeled.
That's what I did. That's why I was so quiet.
It just goes to shit. The teacher obviously doesn't understand the dynamic in the classroom nowadays.
She's still stuck back in when there were no phones and people didn't say things about each other just because they could.
Kids are always nasty. Kids are terrible.
But in this situation, the teacher should have punished this one person to set an example.
Because I'm gonna have to censor all this again, but calling her a fat bitch, a big, big, big, big, big liar is crazy.
That's crazy work.
That's probably something I would have said at some point in my life, but not when the teacher's listening.
That's where I'm thinking, I don't know.
That was obviously too far. Him going to the principal, if that would have been the end of the story right there, props to the teacher.
Props to the teacher for sending that kid into the principal's office and having him deal with his punishment.
But to punish the entire group is just, that's stupid. That's pettiness.
That's like a teacher who didn't get enough attention in school or got the wrong types of attention in school and realized that she had this sliver of power that she could abuse.
And I think that that's shitty. That's shitty of the teacher.
So we'll conclude just the overall thing about the dad. The dad's completely in the right.
I would only wonder what my dad would do in this situation. I don't even want to know.
But let's, I just want to move on to something else. Let's, hey, eighth grade guy, let's talk about shit talking 101.
I just feel like whenever I shit talk someone that's in the same room as me, I make sure they're not fucking or listening to me.
No, no, in the beginning, it does say, it does say they were working at a table outside of the classroom.
So the teacher's desk was probably near the door or something or the teacher was standing by the door while listening to this kid just rant on about her.
But at the same time, though, I just still wouldn't be caught lacking.
Yeah, I know for sure.
Like he was just talking to, like if you're outside the classroom and she's sitting inside and she can still hear you out there talking shit about her, you gotta talk, you gotta talk quite.
You gotta, you gotta, you gotta like. Exactly.
There's no way. I'm just saying to shit talking 101, that guy does not have it.
Comment, top comment on this post, not the asshole. Feels pretty harsh to expect a middle schooler to stand up in a situation like that, especially when the teacher was watching the whole thing unfold.
Your daughter didn't join in the comments. She just stayed quiet, which is pretty common when kids don't want to get involved in drama.
It's tough to expect someone, especially a kid to know the right move in that situation. The comment right underneath that, hell, adults sit quietly and say nothing when they don't want to get involved in drama.
It's natural. And as a mother of a middle schooler myself, I'd be raising hell. It's not my child's responsibility to stand up for a grown adult, not the asshole.
This age is such a difficult time for kids.
I think that that was said pretty well. Like that kind of encompasses everything that we were just saying. Like this teacher, the teacher's in the wrong, the principal's in the wrong.
I mean, like if it was my kid, right, I would be going to the school board. Like because the principal is going to be standing up for the teacher, I get that that's kind of like his role or whatever.
But I think that it's also in a place of learning, you're supposed to learn from mistakes and learn how to do things right, do things the right way.
And I get that maybe, maybe in some type of way, they could have gone about the situation differently.
I wouldn't have given all the kids detention, but I would have said, hey, if this happens, you don't want to be the person that gets brought into drama like this.
Like you want to be able to not necessarily tell the teacher, but I guess that's like what the whole, all the teachers are going to be pushing for at schools. I mean, like see something, say something type of thing.
But like, obviously not many kids are going to do that. But I think that this is ridiculous, honestly.
I think it, okay. This is a whole other string of conversation, but I think that the that that entire message itself is actually, in my opinion, at least a really bad thing to push, because in real life, if you apply that, you can get in some pretty serious
trouble. Like, see something, say something. Yes, because you don't want to get it most of the time with with things that you see in the world or even in school.
This is this is talking about in school too. Like, if you I've had this out of new for like, in a way, I didn't necessarily tell but like, I like kind of alerted, and I got involved.
And like, it was like a whole thing. And like, if I could go back, I wouldn't do that. Because, I mean, you know, I follow the don't be a hero thing. That's what I will always follow.
Because it just kind of, it saves yourself. And in a world that we live in where anything can be pinned on anyone, you know, for like, even if you're innocent, you're if you're involved in the situation.
You're living in Gotham City. That's crazy. Well, no, it's true. I mean, like, like, that's why I personally, I just wouldn't involve myself. But, you know, I go to, I don't know.
In this situation, definitely not the asshole. No. All right, moving swiftly on, we have bad wife eight from the subreddit r slash am I the asshole?
All right, am I the asshole for thinking my husband was cheating after he suddenly became very concerned with his fitness and hygiene? It's gonna be a good one.
All right. My husband has never really cared too much about how he looks. Now, that doesn't mean he doesn't care at all. He's kept a healthy weight. He showers every day and brushes his teeth twice a day.
But he dresses for comfort, doesn't work out, cuts his own hair, doesn't shave on the weekends and never puts anything on that makes him smell good other than deodorant.
But recently, pretty much overnight, he's changed all of that. He started going to the gym, lost 20 pounds with some definition.
He also bought new clothes and because has become very concerned about his personal hygiene. He whitened his teeth, all the hair on his body is now neatly trimmed and he smells great pretty much all day.
I asked him multiple times why he's doing this all of a sudden and he just told me that he wanted to. So I conclude that he's either cheating on me or looking to cheat.
This was all so out of character that I didn't have another explanation. I looked through every device he has, I tracked his phone, searched his car and found nothing.
So I confront him and of course he denies anything is going on. I press him more on his sudden changes and he finally breaks and asks me when was the last time I initiated sex.
I stopped and thought for a minute and said I couldn't remember, but he did. It was five years in two months ago.
I joined him in the shower and that was the last time I did it. Now we've had plenty of sex since then, but he always starts it.
I usually don't turn him down, but admittedly I usually give him a hard time about it. I'm into it once we get going, but it takes some time to get there.
I didn't say anything at first and then he kind of shook his head, grumbled and went away into the other room.
I felt like garbage and have apologized over and over, but he's a little hurt that I would think that he would cheat. That's not really in his character and I should have known that.
We have made up and I've initiated plenty of sex this past week, now that I know what it was all for.
The new nice smelling hard body is greatly appreciated, but I still feel bad, both for thinking he cheated and for making him go to these lengths just to get some attention from me.
So am I the asshole?
Yeah.
Okay, let's see why. Why do you think so?
At least in my opinion, being with someone for how long they've been together.
No, but it did say that the last time she initiated sex was five years and two months ago.
I'm just saying, being together for five plus years, you...
It's definitely more than that though.
Yeah, five plus, so we know it's more than five. You should show some genuine interest in your partner.
And I would say if I put myself in that guy's position, and I just realized that she never initiates, she never shows that she has any interest in starting anything, I too would want to basically advertise myself to be better.
Right?
So, it's always good to do self-improvement. It doesn't matter when it is, how it comes up, it doesn't matter if you slowly get into it or do it right away.
He took initiative and he started doing it, right?
Yeah.
And I applaud that. Just going to that far, whitening your teeth, trimming, gym, eating right, whatever.
Good on him for that, but the reason he did it, it is really sad. And even if she didn't realize it, that she realized that she didn't initiate anything in the past five years somehow, she didn't realize that.
She might not be the asshole, but she's insanely ignorant, if that's the case. But definitely giving her husband some bad signals, which I think makes her an asshole.
But also thinking that he's cheating just because he's self-improving is insanely radical.
I mean, a guy should be able to improve himself without any question. And honestly, in my eyes, I would be thinking that he would be doing it for the relationship, I would say.
Just making himself look better for his partner, not for someone else. I think that's selfish and unreasonable to think that he would be doing it for someone else other than her, if there is no suspicion.
I'll agree. I did forget to mention, just before we started this last story, we do have one more person that just joined the call. He's going to be one of the regulars on this podcast.
Say hi, Braden.
What's up, gang?
There we go. There's Braden.
So my take on this is that I'm going to play Devil's Advocate a little bit here. And now this is a little bit out of character here, because I don't usually agree with this kind of stuff.
But I'll say that she is both the asshole and not the asshole. So the asshole part was going through his phone and tracking him and immediately jumping to the conclusion that he has to be cheating.
That's the asshole part. So I know that's a lot of it, but I think that also looking at it from a different perspective, looking at it from the female's perspective, not as the whole story, if you just look at it from what she knows, she knows that he's going to the gym.
He's whitening his teeth, he's shaving, and obviously they're not having sex, right? I mean, that was mentioned.
And so I mean, part of it is a little bit like, okay, but I think that it also could have all just been fixed if they both knew how to communicate better.
She didn't say, hey, why are you doing this, right?
And like she said in this thing, I confront him, which that's a bad way to go about it in the beginning. You should be saying, oh, I guess right here it says I asked him multiple times why he's doing this, he just told me he wanted to.
So I think that it's both like this could have been a mature conversation instead of going all the way into this whole cheating thing.
And I get where she's coming from thinking like, oh, he's cheating on me because one, they're not having sex. And two, I mean, she's saying like, I don't know, he's got really into this overnight, which makes it sound like he found this woman or something that's giving him the attention that she's not.
And so I can get that. Like I understand that. But I also think that if they would have had that grown up conversation, like him saying, hey, I've noticed that you don't really initiate sex anymore.
I want to start trying to be better with fitness and hygiene and all these different things so that we re re re like rejuvenize our relationship right like re re re re enter that honeymoon stage again, kind of a thing.
And I think that that's that's there's two parts to the story. And I think that that's that's the that's the thing. So I think they're the asshole and also not the asshole at the same time.
They did asshole things, but they also did, I think, reasonable asshole things are non asshole things.
Braden, what's your what's your take on the story? I just want to add in here. Thanks everybody for listening. What's this guy's name on Reddit? What's this? Do we have a name or do we just have a situation here?
We do not have a name. No, we have I mean, I have the I'm assuming it's a throwaway account because the username is right, right, right.
So, right, right. So I just want to mention my personal sponsor and what this guy needs in his life. Clash.gg and repet.com.
I think this lady has a huge awakening and she has the greatest husband on planet Earth. And she should take this moment and reflect on herself and realize the dick she was being and the beautiful future she has with this specimen here.
This guy seems like an absolute Chad. Going to the gym and lost 20 pounds. I mean, that's just and this is he's doing all of this for her.
Yeah, doing all of this to make himself look better for her.
That is yeah, that's definitely a Chad move. Yeah, that's that's awesome. I think this is guy this guy deserves a free card at this point. Just go rail attend because that's crazy.
That's crazy. Oh, man. All right. So usually, we would end on three stories, but I think that we're going to have to do a four.
We're going to have to do a fourth chat. So I like this. Let me let me swiftly move on into the next story here by weekend drive 4023 sounds like another throwaway account, but I guess you never know.
Coming from the subreddit r slash am I the asshole posted five hours ago. That's kind of crazy. All right.
All right. Entering narrator mode. Am I the asshole if I allow my absent father into my life now that my mother died. He never wanted to know about us and I don't want to betray her and accept him but I'm 15 and alone.
All right. Wow. This is the first line or first sentence in this entire thing. Mom died of cancer.
Okay.
Mom died of cancer and uncle will take care of me legally, but out of nowhere my dad appeared. Wow this this person loves periods. Holy hell.
I've never seen this man period, but it was weird how much I resemble him period. Good Lord.
All right. I'm going to try to put this together nicely for you guys, but just bear with me here.
Same light brown hair. Same green eyes. Same body structure.
Most of my family from my mother's side was short and the women were all curvy. Mom's pushing out 10s.
So it seems I have much more in common with him.
He wants to get to know me to be my father. I hate him, but I also wanted to hug him because I feel so alone.
I was an affair child. My mother had me very young. She was 23 and he was 37. He knew about my existence.
From time to time he sent my mother money, but I spent my childhood watching her be depressed and sad.
He had money back then too, but I honestly believed she loved him. He was married and divorced that women only two years.
He was married and divorced that woman only two years ago because guess what? He cheated on her with a 26 year old.
Wow. There's a lot going on right now.
I feel I betray my mother if I accept him in my life. He didn't even apologize.
He just told me that being an adult is pretty hard and he couldn't be there for me because at that point life was weird and he had many things going on.
So it's been a month since I met him. He already bought me plenty of gifts. I'm 15. Just turn 15, but he already has plans to buy me a sports car.
In Europe you cannot drive a car until you're 18. He's just trying to buy my love I suppose.
He bought me jewels. He asked me if I wanted to plan a vacation in the winter and he said he'll pay for it.
He doesn't have other kids. He's not married right now, though he is with a woman who was around his age. She was nice to me too.
I don't want to betray my mother, but I'm curious about him. I remember being a little girl how much I wanted to have my father present at my school events and mother tried to contact him, but he never showed up.
We weren't poor, but we struggled a lot financially. He had several houses and apartments and didn't care for us.
He told my uncle that he would want custody of me. I wasn't sure, but yesterday after this post I told him that maybe I would like that and he looked happy.
Later in the evening texted me that he needs to actually think harder if he can do that and maybe my uncle will be more suited.
But he still wants to be in my life. I asked how. He left me on red.
My uncle contacted him today to tell him to eff off and leave me alone, that I don't need his money or his presence.
He was really angry with him and I wish I didn't tell him everything or anything. Now my dad is angry with my uncle.
That's the end of the story.
So who's the ass? Who's the ass? Is he saying?
He's saying am I the ass? Okay, okay, okay. Here. The 15 year old is saying am I the asshole for allowing my father into my life after my mom died?
Absolutely not.
No, I don't think so. As a human who has experienced a portion of this, not on this extreme, but forgiveness is a huge thing.
At 15 years old you need an adult in your life.
Yeah, but it's saying that your uncle...
Unless you're being physically or mentally abused, you should be accepting it and at least give them a try.
Especially if it seems like they're trying to put in effort anyway.
Yeah, I know the guy was obviously trying to buy the love, but on the other hand, obviously he does want to spend time with the kid.
He's putting the investment into buying that love because he wants that person in his life.
Some people just don't know how to show love and that's their way of trying.
Maybe he's not a complete asshole and he is trying.
He wants him in his life so he wants to keep him somehow so he doesn't really know how to do it.
I think that I would let him in, but I wouldn't give him custody.
It's saying at the end here, he told my uncle that he would want custody of me.
I think that given his past track record, you have to give him more of a warm-up period.
Don't just sign some papers and say, you're my guardian now because this person obviously wasn't in your life for 15 years.
Then your mother passed away, unfortunately. Sorry for your loss if you're listening to this.
Your mother passed away and now this guy wants to be part of your life.
I think that maybe he misses her and wants some sort of a connection with her again.
To bring this child back into his life might be his way of realizing that he didn't spend the time that he should have with the mother and his child, apparently, as well, obviously.
I think that right here in the end, he's saying, yesterday after this post, I told him maybe I would like that.
He looked happy. Later in the evening, he texted me that he needs to think harder if he can do this.
Maybe the uncle would be more suited.
I think that this guy wants to be a part of his life but also doesn't want that almost burden.
Maybe your uncle is going to be more suited or something like that.
It kind of makes it seem more like he's the one that doesn't know if he wants to deal with it versus the other way around.
I don't know if I'm ready to take care of you.
I don't know if I want to take care of you type of thing.
That's him being responsible at least.
That's true.
He knows that he can't give everything that he needs to give.
He's being completely, openly honest and saying that I don't know if I can do it.
At least there's that.
Here's the thing.
I did think of it from another perspective.
I don't know if I can forgive that but to be fair forgiveness is a big thing in life.
I could see that side too.
Here's the top comment.
We'll read this real quick here.
It's by Sweet Interview.
Sweet Interview says,
It's clear your dad was making promises he didn't want to keep.
It was just empty words he thought he could get away with.
He's not your dad.
He's just a sperm donor who takes care of no one but himself.
I'm so sorry you're going through all this.
Please stick with your uncle as he seems to actually care about you.
It will take some adjusting but things will get easier with time.
Don't blame your uncle.
He's the only one trying to protect you and I guarantee it made no difference to your dad's decision.
He was already out the door and across the town at least mentally by then.
I'm so sorry but people like your dad are just empty words saying anything he thinks you want to hear without caring for the damage it causes you.
I don't know.
I'm sorry for giving that guy any credit.
I don't know.
A fair chance should be given because he probably doesn't seem like a very responsible guy from his past record.
I think that he should stay in the kids life but I don't necessarily think that it should be a custody situation.
I think the uncle should keep custody and like that comment said I think that the dad might have just been trying to get her onto or get the original post onto his side.
And then not really expecting the daughter to be like or the son or daughter to say like this is like that's fine.
Yeah like I want you to have custody of me or whatever.
You know what I'm saying.
Can we reverse and can you explain to me what family being Kirby had anything to do with him?
Kirby had anything to do with the discussion.
Oh yeah.
It was trying to explain that this the kid that's writing the story right here weekend dry that this kid was the affair child right.
So like the mom had a husband and then had an affair with said husband or with a different man.
And then that was that she was that the original posting person was the product of the mom and this other guy.
I got excited.
I thought we were alluding to these 47 year old father or whatever having ulterior motives for the daughter.
15 years old.
Braden 15 years old.
All right.
So I think that I think that I don't know I wouldn't say that the kids the asshole the kid is just trying to figure out life like any other person.
I think that the dad is the asshole for leaving and not wanting anything to do with them and then coming into the kids life and like just expecting to win them over with money.
That's it would work on me.
That's for fucking sure.
But I think that words car.
Yeah exactly like you mean to tell me you'll buy me a GTR.
Sure.
No but I think that these guys are probably loaded.
Yeah I don't know I think that it's a slippery slope.
You can't really you can't obviously do the custody thing but you also shouldn't completely block this guy out of your life because he seems like he maybe wants to put in a little bit.
We're also looking at one side of the story this guy might actually be like like I said like he might miss the mom and be in just wanting to have a second chance with the daughter or the son.
Yeah.
I think that this I think it's a girl.
Well no I think I think the story she said little girl when I was a little girl.
I think she said that is that what it is.
Do control F and then.
Right.
I think that is the control F girl and the girl I remember being a little girl. Yes.
Okay I've been right this whole time.
Anyways I think I think that this is this is one of those situations where you're both there not not you're both the guys the asshole and the kids just trying to figure out what the hell is going on.
You know so they can they can't as an asshole.
I mean no she's she's just trying.
She's confused and doesn't know what to do.
And I think that that's that's a that's why you know you see how the counseling and Counter Strike Global offensive you're going to have a great life.
Type shit.
No so I think that that just about wraps it up unless you guys have anything you'd like to like to add here right at the end.
I think that something that we can we can gain from this Troy just said something similar but we had to cut it out just because of recording issues but
what I think he was trying to say here is that like people people who have both parents are really fortunate in this sense like you don't have to experience this type of thing so like people who are more fortunate should
should kind of recognize that and be grateful because obviously there's people out here that are going through things like this and that's that's that's kind of a shitty thing to have to go through.
I mean anyone's anyone's mom dying regardless of the age but I mean 15 that's that's rough.
You go through the first 15 years of your life thinking like oh my mom's always going to be here and I'm always going to have this person and then like one day they're just gone and you don't you can't you can't take that back and you can't you can't get the time that you spent with that person back so I think that.
There's kind of a there's there's a lesson in this that you can you always want to you always want to appreciate those around you because they're not always going to be there.
You know and that's that's something that I I've never really had to deal with this I mean my my grandpa died and that was the closest thing that I've had to someone close passing away.
But I know that not everything is forever and then and you don't you don't realize that until until something's gone. You don't ever really realize what you had until I mean until you don't have it anymore.
And so I think that's what he was trying to say before you know the recording kind of got messed up there but I think that overall we had we had some pretty good stories in here.
We had we had the guy leaving his wife and kids we had the dog that the standing up to the teacher story we had the the fitness and hygiene cheating accusations and we also had this absent father story.
I think that that it was a overall pretty productive episode if you did like this this podcast and you wanted to drop a follow or favorite the podcast that you get alerts every time that a new one comes out.
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Troy actually volunteered to give away $10,000 in cash.
No way did he actually Troy dude.
Thanks man.
You shouldn't have.
Well you guys heard it here. $10,000 giveaway from Troy himself.
I think this is not allowed by the way.
It's actually not allowed.
I don't think you can fake give away to the audience.
All right. Well let me just.
Because I got something.
Oh my god I'm dying here.
No I think that we here will clarify real quick Troy's not actually giving away $10,000 in cash.
He's giving it away in check.
No Troy is not doing a giveaway. I'm not doing a giveaway.
Brayden's not going to give away and Logan's been absent this entire episode.
I think he said three words total.
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