1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:08,000 Hello and welcome to the first episode of the Simple Minded Stories podcast. 2 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:13,560 You may have heard or listened to the Simple Minded podcast before and that was kind of 3 00:00:13,560 --> 00:00:17,400 just a jumble of a bunch of different people talking over each other. 4 00:00:17,400 --> 00:00:22,080 So we decided to do something that you might be able to listen to before bed or while doing 5 00:00:22,080 --> 00:00:27,640 school work or whatever you want to put this on and listen to it while doing. 6 00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:31,640 So basically what we're going to be doing is we're going to be doing Am I the Asshole Reddit Stories. 7 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:34,640 I'm here with myself obviously Andrew. 8 00:00:34,640 --> 00:00:37,640 I'm here with Troy, say hi Troy. 9 00:00:37,640 --> 00:00:38,640 Hello. 10 00:00:38,640 --> 00:00:44,640 So I'm just going to go ahead and get right into it so I don't take up any more of your useless time. 11 00:00:44,640 --> 00:00:46,640 And I will begin now. 12 00:00:46,640 --> 00:00:55,640 So this first story is from similar fuel 9593 on the subreddit r slash Am I the Asshole. 13 00:00:55,640 --> 00:00:57,640 And it begins as follows. 14 00:00:57,640 --> 00:01:01,640 Am I the asshole for leaving my wife and kids? 15 00:01:01,640 --> 00:01:07,640 I'm sure that the title will lead to most to say yes, but I feel right in my reasons to leave. 16 00:01:07,640 --> 00:01:08,640 This happened years ago. 17 00:01:08,640 --> 00:01:10,640 I married the wrong woman. 18 00:01:10,640 --> 00:01:16,640 My ex is internally a very angry person and wanted to be a very controlling usually in varying dramatic ways 19 00:01:16,640 --> 00:01:19,640 and eventually years of this caused our divorce. 20 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:26,640 Together we had three boys three and four years apart. My eldest daughter was not or my eldest was nine when the divorce happened. 21 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:32,640 My ex took them to her parents house a 20 minute drive from our house that I had built myself 10 years prior. 22 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:37,640 She burned my house down not long after while I was at work. 23 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:40,640 No one was hurt and I have no real proof it was her. 24 00:01:40,640 --> 00:01:42,640 Nothing really came of it. 25 00:01:42,640 --> 00:01:46,640 The fire was suspicious, but it was in the days before doorbell cameras. 26 00:01:46,640 --> 00:01:50,640 I think she just lit a massive fire in the fireplace. 27 00:01:50,640 --> 00:01:51,640 So I left. 28 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:58,640 I had a job that was very specialized high in demand generally everywhere and back then you could get a job with a smile and a handshake. 29 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:01,640 First I went to a major city in Canada that starts with T. 30 00:02:01,640 --> 00:02:03,640 SIT Toronto. 31 00:02:03,640 --> 00:02:05,640 I don't know why you had to censor Toronto. 32 00:02:05,640 --> 00:02:12,640 Save cash for about a year and then move to a small town about 2,500 kilometers from home. 33 00:02:12,640 --> 00:02:19,640 In this small town I kept the same job ended up meeting other women and we had one child together. 34 00:02:19,640 --> 00:02:21,640 She and I are still married. 35 00:02:21,640 --> 00:02:26,640 My kids from previous marriage would come to stay with us for some summers during school break. 36 00:02:26,640 --> 00:02:28,640 I thought they enjoyed the summers. 37 00:02:28,640 --> 00:02:30,640 They built go carts and raced them one year. 38 00:02:30,640 --> 00:02:33,640 We were always camping, etc. 39 00:02:33,640 --> 00:02:41,640 My eldest dropped out of high school at home and my younger two from the previous marriage eventually moved in with us for their last years of high school. 40 00:02:41,640 --> 00:02:42,640 They grew up. 41 00:02:42,640 --> 00:02:43,640 They've had children. 42 00:02:43,640 --> 00:02:46,640 I have 10 grandchildren and they're starting to grow up too. 43 00:02:46,640 --> 00:02:47,640 I'm dying. 44 00:02:47,640 --> 00:02:50,640 Okay, that's a crazy start to a paragraph here. 45 00:02:50,640 --> 00:02:52,640 I'm dying. 46 00:02:52,640 --> 00:02:55,640 Good days and bad but the good are quickly getting rarer. 47 00:02:55,640 --> 00:02:59,640 My kids are talking to each other about it individually to me. 48 00:02:59,640 --> 00:03:06,640 My youngest son from my current marriage called my second youngest for support after having dealt with me on a particularly bad day. 49 00:03:06,640 --> 00:03:18,640 My youngest thinks his older brothers hold a great deal of resent towards him for being my replacement family and me for leaving them with a mother that didn't spend child support on things like electricity or running water. 50 00:03:18,640 --> 00:03:22,640 I haven't spoken to my oldest children about my conversation with my youngest yet. 51 00:03:22,640 --> 00:03:25,640 I'm not sure if I should bring it up or let them if they want to. 52 00:03:25,640 --> 00:03:29,640 I felt justified with my decision but I'm no longer sure I'm at peace with it. 53 00:03:29,640 --> 00:03:31,640 Am I the asshole? 54 00:03:32,640 --> 00:03:33,640 I don't know. 55 00:03:33,640 --> 00:03:36,640 That's a slippery slope. 56 00:03:36,640 --> 00:03:39,640 I feel like I can't agree that you're not the asshole for leaving your wife and kids. 57 00:03:39,640 --> 00:03:43,640 But, you know, burnt your house down. 58 00:03:43,640 --> 00:03:44,640 So who knows? 59 00:03:44,640 --> 00:03:47,640 Yeah, so I mean, okay. 60 00:03:47,640 --> 00:03:54,640 So here's the thing is that I think that moving that far away would say 2,500 kilometers that he said? 61 00:03:54,640 --> 00:03:56,640 Yeah, 2,500 kilometers. 62 00:03:56,640 --> 00:04:02,640 Moving that far away just I think caused way too much stress on the kids. 63 00:04:02,640 --> 00:04:09,640 Like being having to, you know, go that far from summer to summer or every other summer like he said. 64 00:04:09,640 --> 00:04:15,640 Just to, you know, see your dad or see your mother, you know, just going back and forth. 65 00:04:15,640 --> 00:04:19,640 I mean, I, there, he went, he went to the job, right? 66 00:04:19,640 --> 00:04:21,640 He, that's why he moved that far, right? 67 00:04:21,640 --> 00:04:24,640 Like he was a job opportunity I'm guessing. 68 00:04:24,640 --> 00:04:31,640 It says here, I had a job that was very specialized, high in demand generally everywhere. 69 00:04:31,640 --> 00:04:34,640 And back then you could get a job with a smile and a handshake. 70 00:04:34,640 --> 00:04:40,640 So I guess, I mean, it sounds like he had, like, I mean, in today's world, like a construction job, 71 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:44,640 like there's never really a shortage of construction workers, you know what I mean? 72 00:04:44,640 --> 00:04:45,640 Right. 73 00:04:45,640 --> 00:04:49,640 Like that's kind of something you can get into and then get a job anywhere that does construction. 74 00:04:49,640 --> 00:04:50,640 Kind of a thing. 75 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:56,640 So I mean, I don't know if he necessarily had to move 2,500 kilometers from home. 76 00:04:56,640 --> 00:05:04,640 But I mean, the same time I kind of see where he's coming from, like if I had a, if I had a crazy ex-wife 77 00:05:04,640 --> 00:05:08,640 that like burnt my house down, I'd probably want to move pretty damn far away too. 78 00:05:08,640 --> 00:05:11,640 He said that he moved to Toronto, right? 79 00:05:11,640 --> 00:05:19,640 Yeah, he moved to Toronto, saved cash for a year and, oh, it says first I went to a major city in Canada, 80 00:05:19,640 --> 00:05:26,640 saved cash for about a year and then moved to a small town about 2,500 kilometers from home. 81 00:05:26,640 --> 00:05:36,640 So I don't know if he lived in Canada for a little while and then decided to move 2,500 kilometers from there. 82 00:05:36,640 --> 00:05:38,640 Still, I'm still in Canada. 83 00:05:38,640 --> 00:05:40,640 No, I understand. 84 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:44,640 I'm saying it says he went there and then saved cash for a year. 85 00:05:44,640 --> 00:05:49,640 But then moved to a small town 2,500 kilometers from home. 86 00:05:49,640 --> 00:05:55,640 So I don't know if that's the house that burnt down home or the Toronto home. 87 00:05:55,640 --> 00:06:05,640 I think it's, I think it's the, I mean, I'm guessing that the, that, yeah, I'm guessing home was the area of where the house basically burnt down. 88 00:06:05,640 --> 00:06:12,640 I have a, that's a crazy thing by the way, 10 grandkids. 89 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:13,640 Yeah, it's a lot of grandkids. 90 00:06:13,640 --> 00:06:16,640 Well, that's not a lot of grandkids. 91 00:06:16,640 --> 00:06:17,640 Well, three boys, right? 92 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:18,640 Yeah, three boys. 93 00:06:18,640 --> 00:06:25,640 But then he also said that he had a, he had a daughter, no, no, didn't actually say daughter. 94 00:06:25,640 --> 00:06:27,640 Just said we had another child. 95 00:06:27,640 --> 00:06:29,640 So I mean, four kids, 10 grandkids. 96 00:06:29,640 --> 00:06:31,640 That's not like a, that's not absurd. 97 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:32,640 Okay. 98 00:06:32,640 --> 00:06:39,640 I mean, that's still, I mean, still like quite a few grandkids, I suppose. 99 00:06:39,640 --> 00:06:51,640 I mean, my opinion on it is that I think that there was a lot of things that he had the right to be an asshole in doing. 100 00:06:51,640 --> 00:07:05,640 Obviously, you know, if your wife burns your house down and, you know, it, like he said, it wasn't confirmed like he didn't have enough information or evidence that he actually did it. 101 00:07:05,640 --> 00:07:09,640 But he had a strong hunch. She probably did do it. 102 00:07:09,640 --> 00:07:17,640 So him, you know, moving away, trying to get away from that, I completely understand that trying to get away from that life in general. 103 00:07:17,640 --> 00:07:19,640 I mean, he built the house. 104 00:07:19,640 --> 00:07:22,640 So, yeah, Logan, what's your input on this? 105 00:07:22,640 --> 00:07:26,640 What do you think? 106 00:07:26,640 --> 00:07:28,640 I've really not been listening. 107 00:07:28,640 --> 00:07:30,640 Can't lie. 108 00:07:30,640 --> 00:07:39,640 Okay. All right. Well, you'll just have to listen to the first story in this episode, then I suppose and let me know a side note. 109 00:07:39,640 --> 00:07:45,640 But I'll say, I'll say he's not fully in the wrong, but he's also a little bit in the wrong. 110 00:07:45,640 --> 00:07:51,640 I mean, like 2,500 miles away or kilometers, whatever, 2,000 miles, something like that. 111 00:07:51,640 --> 00:07:54,640 That's not like, that's not a short distance. 112 00:07:54,640 --> 00:07:59,640 That's like New York to like, I don't know. 113 00:07:59,640 --> 00:08:05,640 I don't think it's California. No, like New York, but that's far. 114 00:08:05,640 --> 00:08:08,640 That's a long, that's a long, a long ways. 115 00:08:08,640 --> 00:08:15,640 So, I mean, it's, that's, I think the only part of it where it's like, you're the asshole. 116 00:08:15,640 --> 00:08:18,640 I mean, I don't know. 117 00:08:18,640 --> 00:08:23,640 It's just the distance. The distance was unneeded. It was stressful for the kids. 118 00:08:23,640 --> 00:08:32,640 That's a problem. Is that putting, putting that much, putting that much distance between, between your, between, well, you're a kid, right? 119 00:08:32,640 --> 00:08:41,640 Imagine having that much distance between your biological mother and your biological father and having to deal with the stress of literally travel. 120 00:08:41,640 --> 00:08:45,640 Like, I mean, I don't care if it's plain, you're still have to go on plain travel. 121 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:52,640 Like it's just not fun just to see the person that made you, you know, like, it's just not, it's just not cool. 122 00:08:52,640 --> 00:09:11,640 Because, you know, usually, you know, you would, if, if a couple were to split up, no matter the severity usually of the breakup, you know, sometimes if it's, if it's, you know, so some, there's some relationships that end where there's still like best friends afterwards. 123 00:09:11,640 --> 00:09:25,640 So like, you know, but I feel like generally, even if she burns your house down, I think that moving like two towns away, like would be fine, you know. 124 00:09:25,640 --> 00:09:26,640 Yeah. Yeah. 125 00:09:26,640 --> 00:09:32,640 It would suffice. I just, I just think that it's, it was unneeded. 126 00:09:32,640 --> 00:09:40,640 You know, the thing is, is that if he is a specialized worker, construction worker, let's just say, moving to Toronto is a really good move. 127 00:09:40,640 --> 00:09:46,640 Obviously, the city. So there's a lot of job opportunities from there. 128 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:58,640 But he just didn't put his kids first, which I think that a any man, any man that's that's has any ounce of responsibility. 129 00:09:58,640 --> 00:10:11,640 Or, I guess, you know, any kind of prize with his kids where he actually like focuses on them. I don't think he would do that to his kids. You know, it was pretty selfish. 130 00:10:11,640 --> 00:10:21,640 This is, this is a comment. This is a comment on this post. Someone named Ella said, you're the asshole. You weren't a father to your kids, period. 131 00:10:21,640 --> 00:10:34,640 My father-in-law left his family after a series of mistresses, oldest child 12, youngest four, and immediately moved overseas to avoid court ordered child support payments. 132 00:10:34,640 --> 00:10:41,640 He moved back to the States when his youngest turned 18 under the misconception that he wouldn't be on the hook for back child support payments once she was an adult. 133 00:10:41,640 --> 00:10:45,640 He missed all his children's weddings in their most critical development years. 134 00:10:45,640 --> 00:10:51,640 While overseas, he voted a new foreign citizen wife, younger than his oldest child. 135 00:10:51,640 --> 00:10:59,640 He now has a daughter the same age as his granddaughter. He's in his 70s. He's trying to make amends. His children repossesses. 136 00:10:59,640 --> 00:11:11,640 His children's repossess. What the hell repossess? I think it's spelled wrong range from overly hostile to skeptical to cautiously dubious. 137 00:11:11,640 --> 00:11:22,640 I don't know what that means. OP is the asshole and my husband's mom was relatively stable. I can't imagine leaving my kids to grow up with an arsonist. 138 00:11:22,640 --> 00:11:25,640 I mean, that's pretty much it. 139 00:11:25,640 --> 00:11:29,640 It's both said, but not really actually. It's not well said whatsoever. 140 00:11:29,640 --> 00:11:32,640 Well, half of that was spelled wrong guys. 141 00:11:32,640 --> 00:11:41,640 I see what they mean. But I don't know if I got the story wrong because we were just talking about this for the last five minutes. 142 00:11:41,640 --> 00:11:46,640 They went to still go see him though. It's not like they he moved away from his family. 143 00:11:46,640 --> 00:11:50,640 Yeah, but actually in the in the thing it says right here. 144 00:11:50,640 --> 00:11:58,640 He said though he was like, oh yeah, they came over they even built go carts one of the go carts were always camping. 145 00:11:58,640 --> 00:12:10,640 It also says would come to stay with us for summers. But then right before that it says my youngest thinks his older brothers had hold a great deal of resent towards him for being my replacement family. 146 00:12:10,640 --> 00:12:18,640 And for me leaving them with a mother that didn't spend child support on things like electricity or running water. 147 00:12:18,640 --> 00:12:28,640 Like I feel like if I'm the father in this situation, I'm not going to like leave my kids with a mother that's that's not paying the electricity or water bill. 148 00:12:28,640 --> 00:12:31,640 Like that sounds. I don't know. I think in that part he's the asshole. 149 00:12:31,640 --> 00:12:36,640 But if you damn well knows that like they're not being taken care of and he's fine with it, then he's the asshole. 150 00:12:36,640 --> 00:12:38,640 Yeah, but here's the thing. 151 00:12:38,640 --> 00:12:42,640 He was like, we'll put this in like two or three different categories. 152 00:12:42,640 --> 00:12:46,640 He's not the asshole, obviously for leaving. 153 00:12:46,640 --> 00:12:51,640 You know, he actually holds integrity where, you know, he no bullshit. 154 00:12:51,640 --> 00:12:55,640 He left because she burnt down his fucking house that he built with his hands. 155 00:12:55,640 --> 00:12:59,640 And he's fine for that. Fine for a living. That's fine. 156 00:12:59,640 --> 00:13:06,640 But the way he handled the fact that he had kids, the way you handle leaving, I think was wrong. 157 00:13:06,640 --> 00:13:09,640 Yeah. Yes. So he is an asshole for the way you know, leaving. 158 00:13:09,640 --> 00:13:12,640 That's I think exactly what I think as well. 159 00:13:12,640 --> 00:13:19,640 I think that he's the asshole. But I think that there were there was just like that one pivotal thing removed really far away. 160 00:13:19,640 --> 00:13:28,640 I think that was like the that was the the pivotal moment in his life where things just where he turned into the asshole. 161 00:13:28,640 --> 00:13:41,640 I think that leaving leaving was acceptable when you have that that that knowledge, but not necessarily not necessarily like proof that your wife burned down your house. 162 00:13:41,640 --> 00:13:48,640 I think that that was justified. The leaving was justified, but not the not the moving 2000 miles away. 163 00:13:48,640 --> 00:13:52,640 That's where that's where I'd say that was that was where he became the asshole. 164 00:13:52,640 --> 00:14:04,640 Yeah. So that's that's that story. Like that's that's definitely that's definitely how I mean that's that's how I think I think that was a lot of what he did wasn't necessary and irresponsible. 165 00:14:04,640 --> 00:14:06,640 So he is the asshole. 166 00:14:06,640 --> 00:14:12,640 He's the asshole. I'll add a sound effect there maybe if I really feel the need in post. 167 00:14:12,640 --> 00:14:25,640 So moving swiftly on. This one's coming in from United underscore dog 8 9 4 6 in the am I the asshole subreddits. 168 00:14:25,640 --> 00:14:29,640 I got to put on my narrator voice here. 169 00:14:29,640 --> 00:14:37,640 Am I the asshole for being unhappy about my daughter being punished for not standing up for her teacher. 170 00:14:37,640 --> 00:14:38,640 All right. 171 00:14:38,640 --> 00:14:47,640 Yesterday my eighth grade daughter's English class was doing a group activity and my daughter was placed in a group with three other people, two guys and another girl. 172 00:14:47,640 --> 00:14:50,640 They were working at a table outside of the classroom. 173 00:14:50,640 --> 00:15:00,640 Her teacher suddenly called one of the boys who my daughter barely knows who was in her group into her office to meet privately and when he came back he was really angry. 174 00:15:00,640 --> 00:15:09,640 The class just handed in a major essay the other day and the teacher believes that he plagiarized it and told him she'd be giving him a zero and having a conference with his parents. 175 00:15:09,640 --> 00:15:18,640 To my knowledge he didn't have any super specific proof like it was setting off an AI detector or like it setting off an AI detector. 176 00:15:18,640 --> 00:15:24,640 Her reasoning was that his writing on this essay seemed dramatically different from that of his previous essays. 177 00:15:24,640 --> 00:15:29,640 The boy insisted that this was not the case and that he wrote it all by himself. 178 00:15:29,640 --> 00:15:35,640 He was really angry and went on a big rant about the teacher and the situation when he returned to the group. 179 00:15:35,640 --> 00:15:43,640 He said some pretty nasty stuff about her calling her a fat bitch, dick bag, and fucking liar. 180 00:15:43,640 --> 00:15:49,640 Unbeknownst to him, the teacher was watching and listening in on this conversation the whole time. 181 00:15:49,640 --> 00:15:57,640 The other girl in the group expressed some agreement with the boy as he ranted while my daughter and the other boy remained quiet and just sat and listened. 182 00:15:57,640 --> 00:15:59,640 This was confirmed by the teacher herself. 183 00:15:59,640 --> 00:16:06,640 After a few minutes of listening to him rant and complain, the teacher came out and told him he had to go to the principal's office. 184 00:16:06,640 --> 00:16:13,640 Near the end of the class, the teacher gave the other three people in the group, including my daughter, forms for after-school Friday detention. 185 00:16:13,640 --> 00:16:22,640 Even though my daughter said absolutely nothing agreeing with the boy, her teacher says she should have said something instead of just sitting and listening to him call her names. 186 00:16:22,640 --> 00:16:27,640 When I spoke to her principal about it, he also sided with the teacher. 187 00:16:27,640 --> 00:16:40,640 He said he thinks it's unacceptable for a student to just sit idly by if they hear their classmates using offensive language about a teacher or peer, and that my daughter had a responsibility to stand up for her teacher or report it. 188 00:16:40,640 --> 00:16:48,640 It seems really unfair and ridiculous to me that my daughter can be punished for something someone else said and did, and I don't think I'm done fighting this detention. 189 00:16:48,640 --> 00:16:49,640 Am I the asshole? 190 00:16:49,640 --> 00:16:50,640 No. 191 00:16:50,640 --> 00:16:51,640 You're not the asshole. 192 00:16:51,640 --> 00:16:53,640 Not even a little bit. 193 00:16:53,640 --> 00:16:57,640 I'll go first here. 194 00:16:57,640 --> 00:16:58,640 Go for it. 195 00:16:58,640 --> 00:17:05,640 So the teacher, she's a big girl. She can handle an eighth grader talking shit, alright? 196 00:17:05,640 --> 00:17:13,640 She doesn't need another eighth grade girl that probably weighs 80 pounds to literally... 197 00:17:13,640 --> 00:17:18,640 You can't say that. I'm gonna tell on you. 198 00:17:18,640 --> 00:17:23,640 Make sure that you get justice. That's not her role. 199 00:17:23,640 --> 00:17:25,640 And that's a big thing in school too. 200 00:17:25,640 --> 00:17:32,640 A big thing in school, having gone through it now, is you just gotta kinda stand your own lane. 201 00:17:32,640 --> 00:17:37,640 You don't wanna be labeled something that you don't want to be labeled. 202 00:17:37,640 --> 00:17:40,640 That's what I did. That's why I was so quiet. 203 00:17:40,640 --> 00:17:51,640 It just goes to shit. The teacher obviously doesn't understand the dynamic in the classroom nowadays. 204 00:17:51,640 --> 00:17:59,640 She's still stuck back in when there were no phones and people didn't say things about each other just because they could. 205 00:17:59,640 --> 00:18:02,640 Kids are always nasty. Kids are terrible. 206 00:18:02,640 --> 00:18:13,640 But in this situation, the teacher should have punished this one person to set an example. 207 00:18:13,640 --> 00:18:22,640 Because I'm gonna have to censor all this again, but calling her a fat bitch, a big, big, big, big, big liar is crazy. 208 00:18:22,640 --> 00:18:24,640 That's crazy work. 209 00:18:24,640 --> 00:18:32,640 That's probably something I would have said at some point in my life, but not when the teacher's listening. 210 00:18:32,640 --> 00:18:37,640 That's where I'm thinking, I don't know. 211 00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:45,640 That was obviously too far. Him going to the principal, if that would have been the end of the story right there, props to the teacher. 212 00:18:45,640 --> 00:18:52,640 Props to the teacher for sending that kid into the principal's office and having him deal with his punishment. 213 00:18:52,640 --> 00:18:59,640 But to punish the entire group is just, that's stupid. That's pettiness. 214 00:18:59,640 --> 00:19:10,640 That's like a teacher who didn't get enough attention in school or got the wrong types of attention in school and realized that she had this sliver of power that she could abuse. 215 00:19:10,640 --> 00:19:16,640 And I think that that's shitty. That's shitty of the teacher. 216 00:19:16,640 --> 00:19:24,640 So we'll conclude just the overall thing about the dad. The dad's completely in the right. 217 00:19:24,640 --> 00:19:29,640 I would only wonder what my dad would do in this situation. I don't even want to know. 218 00:19:29,640 --> 00:19:39,640 But let's, I just want to move on to something else. Let's, hey, eighth grade guy, let's talk about shit talking 101. 219 00:19:39,640 --> 00:19:49,640 I just feel like whenever I shit talk someone that's in the same room as me, I make sure they're not fucking or listening to me. 220 00:19:49,640 --> 00:19:56,640 No, no, in the beginning, it does say, it does say they were working at a table outside of the classroom. 221 00:19:56,640 --> 00:20:03,640 So the teacher's desk was probably near the door or something or the teacher was standing by the door while listening to this kid just rant on about her. 222 00:20:03,640 --> 00:20:09,640 But at the same time, though, I just still wouldn't be caught lacking. 223 00:20:09,640 --> 00:20:11,640 Yeah, I know for sure. 224 00:20:11,640 --> 00:20:22,640 Like he was just talking to, like if you're outside the classroom and she's sitting inside and she can still hear you out there talking shit about her, you gotta talk, you gotta talk quite. 225 00:20:22,640 --> 00:20:24,640 You gotta, you gotta, you gotta like. Exactly. 226 00:20:24,640 --> 00:20:29,640 There's no way. I'm just saying to shit talking 101, that guy does not have it. 227 00:20:29,640 --> 00:20:39,640 Comment, top comment on this post, not the asshole. Feels pretty harsh to expect a middle schooler to stand up in a situation like that, especially when the teacher was watching the whole thing unfold. 228 00:20:39,640 --> 00:20:45,640 Your daughter didn't join in the comments. She just stayed quiet, which is pretty common when kids don't want to get involved in drama. 229 00:20:45,640 --> 00:20:55,640 It's tough to expect someone, especially a kid to know the right move in that situation. The comment right underneath that, hell, adults sit quietly and say nothing when they don't want to get involved in drama. 230 00:20:55,640 --> 00:21:04,640 It's natural. And as a mother of a middle schooler myself, I'd be raising hell. It's not my child's responsibility to stand up for a grown adult, not the asshole. 231 00:21:04,640 --> 00:21:08,640 This age is such a difficult time for kids. 232 00:21:08,640 --> 00:21:15,640 I think that that was said pretty well. Like that kind of encompasses everything that we were just saying. Like this teacher, the teacher's in the wrong, the principal's in the wrong. 233 00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:28,640 I mean, like if it was my kid, right, I would be going to the school board. Like because the principal is going to be standing up for the teacher, I get that that's kind of like his role or whatever. 234 00:21:28,640 --> 00:21:36,640 But I think that it's also in a place of learning, you're supposed to learn from mistakes and learn how to do things right, do things the right way. 235 00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:45,640 And I get that maybe, maybe in some type of way, they could have gone about the situation differently. 236 00:21:45,640 --> 00:21:56,640 I wouldn't have given all the kids detention, but I would have said, hey, if this happens, you don't want to be the person that gets brought into drama like this. 237 00:21:56,640 --> 00:22:07,640 Like you want to be able to not necessarily tell the teacher, but I guess that's like what the whole, all the teachers are going to be pushing for at schools. I mean, like see something, say something type of thing. 238 00:22:07,640 --> 00:22:13,640 But like, obviously not many kids are going to do that. But I think that this is ridiculous, honestly. 239 00:22:13,640 --> 00:22:35,640 I think it, okay. This is a whole other string of conversation, but I think that the that that entire message itself is actually, in my opinion, at least a really bad thing to push, because in real life, if you apply that, you can get in some pretty serious 240 00:22:35,640 --> 00:22:47,640 trouble. Like, see something, say something. Yes, because you don't want to get it most of the time with with things that you see in the world or even in school. 241 00:22:47,640 --> 00:23:00,640 This is this is talking about in school too. Like, if you I've had this out of new for like, in a way, I didn't necessarily tell but like, I like kind of alerted, and I got involved. 242 00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:15,640 And like, it was like a whole thing. And like, if I could go back, I wouldn't do that. Because, I mean, you know, I follow the don't be a hero thing. That's what I will always follow. 243 00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:29,640 Because it just kind of, it saves yourself. And in a world that we live in where anything can be pinned on anyone, you know, for like, even if you're innocent, you're if you're involved in the situation. 244 00:23:29,640 --> 00:23:40,640 You're living in Gotham City. That's crazy. Well, no, it's true. I mean, like, like, that's why I personally, I just wouldn't involve myself. But, you know, I go to, I don't know. 245 00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:53,640 In this situation, definitely not the asshole. No. All right, moving swiftly on, we have bad wife eight from the subreddit r slash am I the asshole? 246 00:23:53,640 --> 00:24:02,640 All right, am I the asshole for thinking my husband was cheating after he suddenly became very concerned with his fitness and hygiene? It's gonna be a good one. 247 00:24:02,640 --> 00:24:14,640 All right. My husband has never really cared too much about how he looks. Now, that doesn't mean he doesn't care at all. He's kept a healthy weight. He showers every day and brushes his teeth twice a day. 248 00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:23,640 But he dresses for comfort, doesn't work out, cuts his own hair, doesn't shave on the weekends and never puts anything on that makes him smell good other than deodorant. 249 00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:31,640 But recently, pretty much overnight, he's changed all of that. He started going to the gym, lost 20 pounds with some definition. 250 00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:41,640 He also bought new clothes and because has become very concerned about his personal hygiene. He whitened his teeth, all the hair on his body is now neatly trimmed and he smells great pretty much all day. 251 00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:50,640 I asked him multiple times why he's doing this all of a sudden and he just told me that he wanted to. So I conclude that he's either cheating on me or looking to cheat. 252 00:24:50,640 --> 00:25:02,640 This was all so out of character that I didn't have another explanation. I looked through every device he has, I tracked his phone, searched his car and found nothing. 253 00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:12,640 So I confront him and of course he denies anything is going on. I press him more on his sudden changes and he finally breaks and asks me when was the last time I initiated sex. 254 00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:20,640 I stopped and thought for a minute and said I couldn't remember, but he did. It was five years in two months ago. 255 00:25:20,640 --> 00:25:27,640 I joined him in the shower and that was the last time I did it. Now we've had plenty of sex since then, but he always starts it. 256 00:25:27,640 --> 00:25:35,640 I usually don't turn him down, but admittedly I usually give him a hard time about it. I'm into it once we get going, but it takes some time to get there. 257 00:25:35,640 --> 00:25:40,640 I didn't say anything at first and then he kind of shook his head, grumbled and went away into the other room. 258 00:25:40,640 --> 00:25:49,640 I felt like garbage and have apologized over and over, but he's a little hurt that I would think that he would cheat. That's not really in his character and I should have known that. 259 00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:58,640 We have made up and I've initiated plenty of sex this past week, now that I know what it was all for. 260 00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:07,640 The new nice smelling hard body is greatly appreciated, but I still feel bad, both for thinking he cheated and for making him go to these lengths just to get some attention from me. 261 00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:10,640 So am I the asshole? 262 00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:12,640 Yeah. 263 00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:16,640 Okay, let's see why. Why do you think so? 264 00:26:16,640 --> 00:26:28,640 At least in my opinion, being with someone for how long they've been together. 265 00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:34,640 No, but it did say that the last time she initiated sex was five years and two months ago. 266 00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:39,640 I'm just saying, being together for five plus years, you... 267 00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:41,640 It's definitely more than that though. 268 00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:49,640 Yeah, five plus, so we know it's more than five. You should show some genuine interest in your partner. 269 00:26:49,640 --> 00:27:07,640 And I would say if I put myself in that guy's position, and I just realized that she never initiates, she never shows that she has any interest in starting anything, I too would want to basically advertise myself to be better. 270 00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:08,640 Right? 271 00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:17,640 So, it's always good to do self-improvement. It doesn't matter when it is, how it comes up, it doesn't matter if you slowly get into it or do it right away. 272 00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:21,640 He took initiative and he started doing it, right? 273 00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:22,640 Yeah. 274 00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:31,640 And I applaud that. Just going to that far, whitening your teeth, trimming, gym, eating right, whatever. 275 00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:48,640 Good on him for that, but the reason he did it, it is really sad. And even if she didn't realize it, that she realized that she didn't initiate anything in the past five years somehow, she didn't realize that. 276 00:27:48,640 --> 00:28:01,640 She might not be the asshole, but she's insanely ignorant, if that's the case. But definitely giving her husband some bad signals, which I think makes her an asshole. 277 00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:09,640 But also thinking that he's cheating just because he's self-improving is insanely radical. 278 00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:24,640 I mean, a guy should be able to improve himself without any question. And honestly, in my eyes, I would be thinking that he would be doing it for the relationship, I would say. 279 00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:38,640 Just making himself look better for his partner, not for someone else. I think that's selfish and unreasonable to think that he would be doing it for someone else other than her, if there is no suspicion. 280 00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:53,640 I'll agree. I did forget to mention, just before we started this last story, we do have one more person that just joined the call. He's going to be one of the regulars on this podcast. 281 00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:55,640 Say hi, Braden. 282 00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:57,640 What's up, gang? 283 00:28:57,640 --> 00:28:59,640 There we go. There's Braden. 284 00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:12,640 So my take on this is that I'm going to play Devil's Advocate a little bit here. And now this is a little bit out of character here, because I don't usually agree with this kind of stuff. 285 00:29:12,640 --> 00:29:31,640 But I'll say that she is both the asshole and not the asshole. So the asshole part was going through his phone and tracking him and immediately jumping to the conclusion that he has to be cheating. 286 00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:50,640 That's the asshole part. So I know that's a lot of it, but I think that also looking at it from a different perspective, looking at it from the female's perspective, not as the whole story, if you just look at it from what she knows, she knows that he's going to the gym. 287 00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:57,640 He's whitening his teeth, he's shaving, and obviously they're not having sex, right? I mean, that was mentioned. 288 00:29:57,640 --> 00:30:13,640 And so I mean, part of it is a little bit like, okay, but I think that it also could have all just been fixed if they both knew how to communicate better. 289 00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:19,640 She didn't say, hey, why are you doing this, right? 290 00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:36,640 And like she said in this thing, I confront him, which that's a bad way to go about it in the beginning. You should be saying, oh, I guess right here it says I asked him multiple times why he's doing this, he just told me he wanted to. 291 00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:42,640 So I think that it's both like this could have been a mature conversation instead of going all the way into this whole cheating thing. 292 00:30:42,640 --> 00:31:03,640 And I get where she's coming from thinking like, oh, he's cheating on me because one, they're not having sex. And two, I mean, she's saying like, I don't know, he's got really into this overnight, which makes it sound like he found this woman or something that's giving him the attention that she's not. 293 00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:13,640 And so I can get that. Like I understand that. But I also think that if they would have had that grown up conversation, like him saying, hey, I've noticed that you don't really initiate sex anymore. 294 00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:28,640 I want to start trying to be better with fitness and hygiene and all these different things so that we re re re like rejuvenize our relationship right like re re re re enter that honeymoon stage again, kind of a thing. 295 00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:39,640 And I think that that's that's there's two parts to the story. And I think that that's that's the that's the thing. So I think they're the asshole and also not the asshole at the same time. 296 00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:46,640 They did asshole things, but they also did, I think, reasonable asshole things are non asshole things. 297 00:31:46,640 --> 00:32:00,640 Braden, what's your what's your take on the story? I just want to add in here. Thanks everybody for listening. What's this guy's name on Reddit? What's this? Do we have a name or do we just have a situation here? 298 00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:08,640 We do not have a name. No, we have I mean, I have the I'm assuming it's a throwaway account because the username is right, right, right. 299 00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:19,640 So, right, right. So I just want to mention my personal sponsor and what this guy needs in his life. Clash.gg and repet.com. 300 00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:35,640 I think this lady has a huge awakening and she has the greatest husband on planet Earth. And she should take this moment and reflect on herself and realize the dick she was being and the beautiful future she has with this specimen here. 301 00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:45,640 This guy seems like an absolute Chad. Going to the gym and lost 20 pounds. I mean, that's just and this is he's doing all of this for her. 302 00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:50,640 Yeah, doing all of this to make himself look better for her. 303 00:32:50,640 --> 00:33:02,640 That is yeah, that's definitely a Chad move. Yeah, that's that's awesome. I think this is guy this guy deserves a free card at this point. Just go rail attend because that's crazy. 304 00:33:02,640 --> 00:33:13,640 That's crazy. Oh, man. All right. So usually, we would end on three stories, but I think that we're going to have to do a four. 305 00:33:13,640 --> 00:33:27,640 We're going to have to do a fourth chat. So I like this. Let me let me swiftly move on into the next story here by weekend drive 4023 sounds like another throwaway account, but I guess you never know. 306 00:33:27,640 --> 00:33:38,640 Coming from the subreddit r slash am I the asshole posted five hours ago. That's kind of crazy. All right. 307 00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:52,640 All right. Entering narrator mode. Am I the asshole if I allow my absent father into my life now that my mother died. He never wanted to know about us and I don't want to betray her and accept him but I'm 15 and alone. 308 00:33:52,640 --> 00:34:01,640 All right. Wow. This is the first line or first sentence in this entire thing. Mom died of cancer. 309 00:34:01,640 --> 00:34:02,640 Okay. 310 00:34:02,640 --> 00:34:11,640 Mom died of cancer and uncle will take care of me legally, but out of nowhere my dad appeared. Wow this this person loves periods. Holy hell. 311 00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:18,640 I've never seen this man period, but it was weird how much I resemble him period. Good Lord. 312 00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:23,640 All right. I'm going to try to put this together nicely for you guys, but just bear with me here. 313 00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:28,640 Same light brown hair. Same green eyes. Same body structure. 314 00:34:28,640 --> 00:34:34,640 Most of my family from my mother's side was short and the women were all curvy. Mom's pushing out 10s. 315 00:34:34,640 --> 00:34:38,640 So it seems I have much more in common with him. 316 00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:44,640 He wants to get to know me to be my father. I hate him, but I also wanted to hug him because I feel so alone. 317 00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:51,640 I was an affair child. My mother had me very young. She was 23 and he was 37. He knew about my existence. 318 00:34:51,640 --> 00:34:57,640 From time to time he sent my mother money, but I spent my childhood watching her be depressed and sad. 319 00:34:57,640 --> 00:35:04,640 He had money back then too, but I honestly believed she loved him. He was married and divorced that women only two years. 320 00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:10,640 He was married and divorced that woman only two years ago because guess what? He cheated on her with a 26 year old. 321 00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:13,640 Wow. There's a lot going on right now. 322 00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:19,640 I feel I betray my mother if I accept him in my life. He didn't even apologize. 323 00:35:19,640 --> 00:35:26,640 He just told me that being an adult is pretty hard and he couldn't be there for me because at that point life was weird and he had many things going on. 324 00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:34,640 So it's been a month since I met him. He already bought me plenty of gifts. I'm 15. Just turn 15, but he already has plans to buy me a sports car. 325 00:35:34,640 --> 00:35:39,640 In Europe you cannot drive a car until you're 18. He's just trying to buy my love I suppose. 326 00:35:39,640 --> 00:35:45,640 He bought me jewels. He asked me if I wanted to plan a vacation in the winter and he said he'll pay for it. 327 00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:51,640 He doesn't have other kids. He's not married right now, though he is with a woman who was around his age. She was nice to me too. 328 00:35:51,640 --> 00:36:01,640 I don't want to betray my mother, but I'm curious about him. I remember being a little girl how much I wanted to have my father present at my school events and mother tried to contact him, but he never showed up. 329 00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:07,640 We weren't poor, but we struggled a lot financially. He had several houses and apartments and didn't care for us. 330 00:36:07,640 --> 00:36:15,640 He told my uncle that he would want custody of me. I wasn't sure, but yesterday after this post I told him that maybe I would like that and he looked happy. 331 00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:21,640 Later in the evening texted me that he needs to actually think harder if he can do that and maybe my uncle will be more suited. 332 00:36:21,640 --> 00:36:26,640 But he still wants to be in my life. I asked how. He left me on red. 333 00:36:26,640 --> 00:36:33,640 My uncle contacted him today to tell him to eff off and leave me alone, that I don't need his money or his presence. 334 00:36:33,640 --> 00:36:40,640 He was really angry with him and I wish I didn't tell him everything or anything. Now my dad is angry with my uncle. 335 00:36:40,640 --> 00:36:44,640 That's the end of the story. 336 00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:49,640 So who's the ass? Who's the ass? Is he saying? 337 00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:57,640 He's saying am I the ass? Okay, okay, okay. Here. The 15 year old is saying am I the asshole for allowing my father into my life after my mom died? 338 00:36:57,640 --> 00:36:59,640 Absolutely not. 339 00:36:59,640 --> 00:37:08,640 No, I don't think so. As a human who has experienced a portion of this, not on this extreme, but forgiveness is a huge thing. 340 00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:11,640 At 15 years old you need an adult in your life. 341 00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:13,640 Yeah, but it's saying that your uncle... 342 00:37:13,640 --> 00:37:20,640 Unless you're being physically or mentally abused, you should be accepting it and at least give them a try. 343 00:37:20,640 --> 00:37:23,640 Especially if it seems like they're trying to put in effort anyway. 344 00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:32,640 Yeah, I know the guy was obviously trying to buy the love, but on the other hand, obviously he does want to spend time with the kid. 345 00:37:32,640 --> 00:37:38,640 He's putting the investment into buying that love because he wants that person in his life. 346 00:37:38,640 --> 00:37:42,640 Some people just don't know how to show love and that's their way of trying. 347 00:37:42,640 --> 00:37:46,640 Maybe he's not a complete asshole and he is trying. 348 00:37:46,640 --> 00:37:53,640 He wants him in his life so he wants to keep him somehow so he doesn't really know how to do it. 349 00:37:53,640 --> 00:38:03,640 I think that I would let him in, but I wouldn't give him custody. 350 00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:08,640 It's saying at the end here, he told my uncle that he would want custody of me. 351 00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:17,640 I think that given his past track record, you have to give him more of a warm-up period. 352 00:38:17,640 --> 00:38:25,640 Don't just sign some papers and say, you're my guardian now because this person obviously wasn't in your life for 15 years. 353 00:38:25,640 --> 00:38:30,640 Then your mother passed away, unfortunately. Sorry for your loss if you're listening to this. 354 00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:36,640 Your mother passed away and now this guy wants to be part of your life. 355 00:38:36,640 --> 00:38:43,640 I think that maybe he misses her and wants some sort of a connection with her again. 356 00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:56,640 To bring this child back into his life might be his way of realizing that he didn't spend the time that he should have with the mother and his child, apparently, as well, obviously. 357 00:38:56,640 --> 00:39:07,640 I think that right here in the end, he's saying, yesterday after this post, I told him maybe I would like that. 358 00:39:07,640 --> 00:39:13,640 He looked happy. Later in the evening, he texted me that he needs to think harder if he can do this. 359 00:39:13,640 --> 00:39:16,640 Maybe the uncle would be more suited. 360 00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:26,640 I think that this guy wants to be a part of his life but also doesn't want that almost burden. 361 00:39:26,640 --> 00:39:29,640 Maybe your uncle is going to be more suited or something like that. 362 00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:39,640 It kind of makes it seem more like he's the one that doesn't know if he wants to deal with it versus the other way around. 363 00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:42,640 I don't know if I'm ready to take care of you. 364 00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:46,640 I don't know if I want to take care of you type of thing. 365 00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:48,640 That's him being responsible at least. 366 00:39:48,640 --> 00:39:49,640 That's true. 367 00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:52,640 He knows that he can't give everything that he needs to give. 368 00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:59,640 He's being completely, openly honest and saying that I don't know if I can do it. 369 00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:01,640 At least there's that. 370 00:40:01,640 --> 00:40:03,640 Here's the thing. 371 00:40:03,640 --> 00:40:06,640 I did think of it from another perspective. 372 00:40:06,640 --> 00:40:16,640 I don't know if I can forgive that but to be fair forgiveness is a big thing in life. 373 00:40:16,640 --> 00:40:17,640 I could see that side too. 374 00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:21,640 Here's the top comment. 375 00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:27,640 We'll read this real quick here. 376 00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:37,640 It's by Sweet Interview. 377 00:40:37,640 --> 00:40:39,640 Sweet Interview says, 378 00:40:39,640 --> 00:41:04,640 It's clear your dad was making promises he didn't want to keep. 379 00:41:04,640 --> 00:41:07,640 It was just empty words he thought he could get away with. 380 00:41:07,640 --> 00:41:09,640 He's not your dad. 381 00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:14,640 He's just a sperm donor who takes care of no one but himself. 382 00:41:14,640 --> 00:41:16,640 I'm so sorry you're going through all this. 383 00:41:16,640 --> 00:41:18,640 Please stick with your uncle as he seems to actually care about you. 384 00:41:18,640 --> 00:41:21,640 It will take some adjusting but things will get easier with time. 385 00:41:21,640 --> 00:41:22,640 Don't blame your uncle. 386 00:41:22,640 --> 00:41:27,640 He's the only one trying to protect you and I guarantee it made no difference to your dad's decision. 387 00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:30,640 He was already out the door and across the town at least mentally by then. 388 00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:36,640 I'm so sorry but people like your dad are just empty words saying anything he thinks you want to hear without caring for the damage it causes you. 389 00:41:36,640 --> 00:41:39,640 I don't know. 390 00:41:39,640 --> 00:41:42,640 I'm sorry for giving that guy any credit. 391 00:41:42,640 --> 00:41:44,640 I don't know. 392 00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:53,640 A fair chance should be given because he probably doesn't seem like a very responsible guy from his past record. 393 00:41:53,640 --> 00:42:02,640 I think that he should stay in the kids life but I don't necessarily think that it should be a custody situation. 394 00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:15,640 I think the uncle should keep custody and like that comment said I think that the dad might have just been trying to get her onto or get the original post onto his side. 395 00:42:15,640 --> 00:42:23,640 And then not really expecting the daughter to be like or the son or daughter to say like this is like that's fine. 396 00:42:23,640 --> 00:42:25,640 Yeah like I want you to have custody of me or whatever. 397 00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:27,640 You know what I'm saying. 398 00:42:27,640 --> 00:42:31,640 Can we reverse and can you explain to me what family being Kirby had anything to do with him? 399 00:42:31,640 --> 00:42:34,640 Kirby had anything to do with the discussion. 400 00:42:34,640 --> 00:42:36,640 Oh yeah. 401 00:42:36,640 --> 00:42:38,640 Oh yeah. 402 00:42:38,640 --> 00:42:46,640 It was trying to explain that this the kid that's writing the story right here weekend dry that this kid was the affair child right. 403 00:42:46,640 --> 00:42:53,640 So like the mom had a husband and then had an affair with said husband or with a different man. 404 00:42:53,640 --> 00:43:01,640 And then that was that she was that the original posting person was the product of the mom and this other guy. 405 00:43:01,640 --> 00:43:03,640 I got excited. 406 00:43:03,640 --> 00:43:09,640 I thought we were alluding to these 47 year old father or whatever having ulterior motives for the daughter. 407 00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:11,640 15 years old. 408 00:43:11,640 --> 00:43:14,640 Braden 15 years old. 409 00:43:14,640 --> 00:43:16,640 All right. 410 00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:27,640 So I think that I think that I don't know I wouldn't say that the kids the asshole the kid is just trying to figure out life like any other person. 411 00:43:27,640 --> 00:43:38,640 I think that the dad is the asshole for leaving and not wanting anything to do with them and then coming into the kids life and like just expecting to win them over with money. 412 00:43:38,640 --> 00:43:40,640 That's it would work on me. 413 00:43:40,640 --> 00:43:42,640 That's for fucking sure. 414 00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:44,640 But I think that words car. 415 00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:47,640 Yeah exactly like you mean to tell me you'll buy me a GTR. 416 00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:49,640 Sure. 417 00:43:49,640 --> 00:43:53,640 No but I think that these guys are probably loaded. 418 00:43:53,640 --> 00:43:57,640 Yeah I don't know I think that it's a slippery slope. 419 00:43:57,640 --> 00:44:07,640 You can't really you can't obviously do the custody thing but you also shouldn't completely block this guy out of your life because he seems like he maybe wants to put in a little bit. 420 00:44:07,640 --> 00:44:17,640 We're also looking at one side of the story this guy might actually be like like I said like he might miss the mom and be in just wanting to have a second chance with the daughter or the son. 421 00:44:17,640 --> 00:44:18,640 Yeah. 422 00:44:18,640 --> 00:44:20,640 I think that this I think it's a girl. 423 00:44:20,640 --> 00:44:25,640 Well no I think I think the story she said little girl when I was a little girl. 424 00:44:25,640 --> 00:44:27,640 I think she said that is that what it is. 425 00:44:27,640 --> 00:44:29,640 Do control F and then. 426 00:44:29,640 --> 00:44:30,640 Right. 427 00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:38,640 I think that is the control F girl and the girl I remember being a little girl. Yes. 428 00:44:38,640 --> 00:44:40,640 Okay I've been right this whole time. 429 00:44:40,640 --> 00:44:52,640 Anyways I think I think that this is this is one of those situations where you're both there not not you're both the guys the asshole and the kids just trying to figure out what the hell is going on. 430 00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:54,640 You know so they can they can't as an asshole. 431 00:44:54,640 --> 00:44:57,640 I mean no she's she's just trying. 432 00:44:57,640 --> 00:45:00,640 She's confused and doesn't know what to do. 433 00:45:00,640 --> 00:45:08,640 And I think that that's that's a that's why you know you see how the counseling and Counter Strike Global offensive you're going to have a great life. 434 00:45:08,640 --> 00:45:10,640 Type shit. 435 00:45:10,640 --> 00:45:17,640 No so I think that that just about wraps it up unless you guys have anything you'd like to like to add here right at the end. 436 00:45:17,640 --> 00:45:26,640 I think that something that we can we can gain from this Troy just said something similar but we had to cut it out just because of recording issues but 437 00:45:26,640 --> 00:45:39,640 what I think he was trying to say here is that like people people who have both parents are really fortunate in this sense like you don't have to experience this type of thing so like people who are more fortunate should 438 00:45:39,640 --> 00:45:50,640 should kind of recognize that and be grateful because obviously there's people out here that are going through things like this and that's that's that's kind of a shitty thing to have to go through. 439 00:45:50,640 --> 00:45:56,640 I mean anyone's anyone's mom dying regardless of the age but I mean 15 that's that's rough. 440 00:45:56,640 --> 00:46:12,640 You go through the first 15 years of your life thinking like oh my mom's always going to be here and I'm always going to have this person and then like one day they're just gone and you don't you can't you can't take that back and you can't you can't get the time that you spent with that person back so I think that. 441 00:46:12,640 --> 00:46:20,640 There's kind of a there's there's a lesson in this that you can you always want to you always want to appreciate those around you because they're not always going to be there. 442 00:46:20,640 --> 00:46:30,640 You know and that's that's something that I I've never really had to deal with this I mean my my grandpa died and that was the closest thing that I've had to someone close passing away. 443 00:46:30,640 --> 00:46:43,640 But I know that not everything is forever and then and you don't you don't realize that until until something's gone. You don't ever really realize what you had until I mean until you don't have it anymore. 444 00:46:43,640 --> 00:46:55,640 And so I think that's what he was trying to say before you know the recording kind of got messed up there but I think that overall we had we had some pretty good stories in here. 445 00:46:55,640 --> 00:47:09,640 We had we had the guy leaving his wife and kids we had the dog that the standing up to the teacher story we had the the fitness and hygiene cheating accusations and we also had this absent father story. 446 00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:21,640 I think that that it was a overall pretty productive episode if you did like this this podcast and you wanted to drop a follow or favorite the podcast that you get alerts every time that a new one comes out. 447 00:47:21,640 --> 00:47:28,640 That would be awesome. I'm not going to lie to you and tell you that we're going to have this this crazy good upload schedule because we probably won't. 448 00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:39,640 So that's why following and turning on notifications if you did like this would be very very important if you want to hear more because chances are good the next episode will be 2028. 449 00:47:39,640 --> 00:47:56,640 So you you leave a follow and do some do some post or push notifications whatever you got to do. If you did like this it would really be helpful and appreciated if you like and follow to join the giveaway. 450 00:47:56,640 --> 00:48:00,640 Troy actually volunteered to give away $10,000 in cash. 451 00:48:00,640 --> 00:48:03,640 No way did he actually Troy dude. 452 00:48:03,640 --> 00:48:04,640 Thanks man. 453 00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:05,640 You shouldn't have. 454 00:48:05,640 --> 00:48:10,640 Well you guys heard it here. $10,000 giveaway from Troy himself. 455 00:48:10,640 --> 00:48:12,640 I think this is not allowed by the way. 456 00:48:12,640 --> 00:48:14,640 It's actually not allowed. 457 00:48:14,640 --> 00:48:17,640 I don't think you can fake give away to the audience. 458 00:48:17,640 --> 00:48:18,640 All right. Well let me just. 459 00:48:18,640 --> 00:48:19,640 Because I got something. 460 00:48:19,640 --> 00:48:21,640 Oh my god I'm dying here. 461 00:48:21,640 --> 00:48:28,640 No I think that we here will clarify real quick Troy's not actually giving away $10,000 in cash. 462 00:48:28,640 --> 00:48:30,640 He's giving it away in check. 463 00:48:30,640 --> 00:48:35,640 No Troy is not doing a giveaway. I'm not doing a giveaway. 464 00:48:35,640 --> 00:48:38,640 Brayden's not going to give away and Logan's been absent this entire episode. 465 00:48:38,640 --> 00:48:40,640 I think he said three words total. 466 00:48:40,640 --> 00:48:44,640 But that is going to conclude this episode. 467 00:48:44,640 --> 00:48:51,640 If you guys again did enjoy please make sure to hit that follow button so you get notified when we release a new episode. 468 00:48:51,640 --> 00:48:53,640 Thank you all for listening watching. 469 00:48:53,640 --> 00:48:58,640 I can't say watching because there's no video but thank you guys for listening and I hope to see you guys in the next one. 470 00:48:58,640 --> 00:49:00,640 See ya.