What do you do when you're standing at the edge
of something new or even just in the scary parts
of contemplating a change? But you have no idea
what comes next. Feedback from my last solo episode,
number 35, about my transition out of teaching
and my next steps confirmed what I already knew.
Many people, educators especially, are worried
about how many more years they have left in them.
and how to respond to feeling the mixed emotions
that come along with being in those feelings.
This episode is all about giving yourself permission
to not have it all figured out. There is this
pressure to have a five -year plan, especially
teachers who've lived by bells and calendars
for decades. I remember how I felt the day after
I resigned or especially the day after I got
the email saying the school board had approved
my resignation and I still didn't have a job
locked in or secured. I felt totally unmoored,
but also still optimistic. So for anyone standing
at a crossroads, unsure of what's next, this
conversation is meant to offer comfort guidance,
and a gentle push toward trusting the process.
I see you out there. You don't need to know the
whole path. You just need the courage to take
the next step. Today I'll share what helped me
sit with the unknown, what I've learned from
others who've been here, and how you can trust
yourself even when the road isn't clear. I'll
offer specific advice and resources from professionals
in this area. with the hope of helping you gain
some clarity with your thoughts. So let's dig
in. Thank you for joining me for another episode
of Life's Next Lesson Plan. I'm Rachel and I
started this podcast during my 29th and last
year as a high school teacher. The goal of my
work with Life's Next Lesson Plan as well as
my Live and Learn Patreon is to create a connection
where we are all teachers. We all have lessons
and stories to share that can help others. I'm
so fortunate to be able to extend the four walls
of my previous classroom to an unlimited audience.
where we can all learn from each other. And my
guests are some of the most inspirational people
with the best stories and lessons I know, which
is why I want to share them with you. Their words
are something everyone should hear. It is my
hope that you are able to take away something
from each episode to apply to your own life,
whether that be a career search, path to a more
fulfilling life, or new ideas on current topics.
Before we begin today, I just want to say I understand
the feelings the mixed feelings that come with
leaving a career after three decades. That was
part of your identity that you poured your heart
and soul into that affected others' lives. There
is guilt. There is guilt from other people. There
are a lot of messages, okay? And this was not
a decision that I all of a sudden one day woke
up and made. I had been having thoughts and conversations
and trying to plan for it for years. Now there
did become a time after a conversation where
I was like, I have to do this. I have to just
rip the bandaid or I'm going to continue to stay
in my comfort zone. But that did not just happen
overnight. That was after years of conversations
and crying and mixed emotions. So please know
that I understand all of it. Okay. Now also understand
that I am anybody who knows me, a recovering
perfectionist, a very type A first born Leo planner.
Okay, any of you who know my life story know
know that I was the oldest child of four and
a first generation college student. I put myself
through college working multiple jobs, you know,
from the time that I was 18, it was, you know,
on me. Okay, so I have never been without a job.
I have always known that if I am going to quit
a job, I have to already have a job secured.
This is the first time in my life now. I did
have months and months and months to prepare
to get a job, but I was in limbo. Like I made
the decision, I resigned, the school board approved
my resignation, and I still did not have a job,
okay? And... at the end there was sort of putting
all my eggs into one basket. Although as I did
share in my last episode, I had a fallback, fallback,
fallback. So it was the last resort working,
you know, taking my part -time job that I hold
just because I'm that kind of insecure person
who needs. security, financially, just I've grown
up that way. If you listen to my last guest episode
on money scarcity mindset, there is a reason
I was drawn to her and her message. So I did
have that. And that is what ultimately, you know,
I said to myself, it is that bad that if I quit
teaching and I have to work for It's not minimum
wage, but it's not much more. And be a manager
at this big retailer, I will do it. And at any
point, I can still do that, and I will hold onto
that job for four hours a month until I feel
like I don't need to. That's just who I am. So
know that, okay? It is totally normal. to feel
freaked out, scared. Believe me, I have a daughter
starting college and I've done this at the same
time. So all I know is that I really had to dig
into personal development and switch my mindset.
to want of abundance instead of scarcity. I have
lived my whole life in a scarcity mindset and
that's why I brought the last guest on for you.
That's why I'm going to be sharing some people
today who I think can help us switch these mindsets
a little bit and know that it's okay. Now one
thing I do want to warn against especially for
teachers and again I don't know except for the
transitioning teacher program I went through,
which is called ADA, Applied Instructional Design
Academy, and actually it was very well done.
Every single person in my cohort was an educator
who successfully transitioned out of education
and into instructional design. They're all employed
instructional designers now, every single one
but me. Most of them are working hybrid or remotely
and enjoying it. So they pursued it. Some got
jobs right away. Some it took quite a long time,
like a year and a half, I would say the longest.
But there are many posts on LinkedIn for transitioning
teachers because this is a huge market right
now. Okay, so please be careful. They're very
convincing, you know, it's desperate times, right?
So we want help. And by all means, if you feel
you find one that you think could help you, I
just want you to be aware that this is big business
right now. And vet, you know, if you do end up
giving your money to someone, please be sure
to vet them, okay? So. With that, I'm going to
talk today about some references that we can
use to help us through this transition. Some
TED Talks, some books, some personal development,
which I think, you know, the more you fill your
mind with positive thinking, The more you manifest,
and I never manifested anything in my life until
the last year or two or three of my life, I now
believe it works. If you have a list and you
will not settle and you keep saying to yourself,
I am going to get what's on this list, I deserve
it, I'm worthy, I've worked hard, I'm a good
person, it will happen. And again, I've had a
lot of guests who have stories that confirm that.
And now I'm actually a living, breathing example
of that. And I never, it's like, that'll never
happen for me, right? That was always my mindset.
So the first resource I'm going to talk about
today is Emily P. Freeman. She's a best -selling
author. She's the host of the Next Right Thing
podcast. And she has a very gentle kind of soulful
approach to her space. And she focuses on seasons
of decision -making, change, or overwhelm. She
draws from her background in spiritual formation
and creative leadership to guide readers through
practical yet grace -filled decisions. So her
mission is basically to help people stop the
constant striving for clarity and instead develop
the inner confidence to take the next right step
peacefully, even when you don't have the full
picture, which for people like me, I always wanted
a crystal ball. Just tell me how it happened,
you know, how it all works out. I've had to let
go of that mindset, okay? So. The next right
thing, I kind of pulled like the top five takeaways.
And number one, I've already mentioned that you
don't need the full picture to move forward.
This is the one and only time I've kind of done
that. Like you don't have to have it all figured
out, just do the next right thing. So this book
talks about kind of analysis paralysis, right?
Where we sort of paralyze ourselves waiting for
this moment of clarity. And really what we should
be doing, and this is what I ended up doing,
is to just take one small step at a time. And
eventually all of those steps will compound into
clarity and action. And I've always said on this
podcast, baby steps. And this is a prime example
of that. Number two, decision fatigue is real
and simplifying the process helps. So she talks
about modern life, how overwhelming it is with
choices and noise and the antidote for that is
not more information. Instead, it's stillness
and reflection and asking better questions, journaling,
turning inward. I would again mention my free
identity journal, getting in touch with your
top three core values, what you want your next
chapter to look like. OK? Number three. She says
to make room for soul space, meaning create space
for your soul to breathe. I know for some of
you this might sound woo woo, but this is more
just like stop, take a breath, stop rushing.
It's not a race. Sit with your thoughts. Listen
to your intuition. I had many guests talk about
that. And I would say especially women, we get
a pull and a pull and oftentimes we have to ignore
it. It's not the right time or I can't put myself
first. And again, that's where I think an identity
journal can really help. Like what is my inner
voice saying to me? And if I took one step to
follow it, that's what my journal walks you through.
What would be one step? And then what would be
the next baby step? and eventually you're there.
Number four, naming your desire clarifies direction.
This is what I talked about all the way back
to dating when I said I'm never dating again
and then eventually decided that I would and
everybody told me make a list, make a list, make
a list and do not settle. for what's not on that
list. Again, you have to be okay being alone.
You have to be okay. Maybe the first step in
your transition is not your forever step, right?
But it is one step forward in the direction of
what you're dreaming or hoping for. So first
you have to name without judgment, what you want.
And don't listen to what other people think you
want or think you should do or think you have.
I did that for many years and it made me miserable.
And so my life doesn't have to look like anybody
else's life. And I think when you get to be my
age, it's definitely a benefit of your fifties
and sixties. You don't care what people think
about your decisions because they're not living
my life, right? They don't have to wake up every
day and do what I do. So That brings me to the
last number five takeaway for this resource and
that is let peace not fear be your guide. Oh
boy, decisions made from anxiety and decisions
made from peace are very different. I made a
lot of decisions from anxiety that all ended
up pretty poorly. And until you are comfortable
and at peace with yourself, it's going to be
a rocky road. Okay, so you need to choose a path
that aligns with your truest self, what matters
to you, your core values. And again. go to Life's
NextLessonPlan .com slash freebies and my free
journal walks you through these steps. Okay,
we're gonna transition to my second resource,
which is William Bridges' PhD. He was an American
author, a speaker, and a consultant. best known
for his work with transitions and the psychological
process people go through when facing change.
So he had a groundbreaking book called Transitions,
Making Sense of Life's Changes that introduced
the idea that change is external, what people
see on the outside, but transition is internal,
all the work you did internally. So he has a
bridges transition model that a lot of organizations
have used. It's big in personal development to
help people move through major life and career
changes with more awareness and resilience. So
he has this neutral zone that he talks about,
which is what I'm referencing today, that it
might be messy. which is necessary. So this like
middle phase of a transition, the space between
an ending and a new beginning, which is what
I'm in now, it's very uncomfortable. disorienting,
it's uncertain. I mean, especially before I had
locked in a job, you know, living in limbo is
psychologically exhausting. It's exciting because
again, as long as you're taking steps in the
right direction and being open -minded, it's
uncertain but it can still be exciting and this
is where the real transformation happens. There's
a little bit of risk and a little bit of messiness.
But you know, what What good comes from not taking
a risk? Again, that comfort zone is safe and
secure, but is it happy? Right? So... This neutral
zone, a couple of takeaways from that, is this
idea of limbo. And he actually would argue that
limbo's not a bad thing. It's actually a crucial
development stage. So this neutral zone may feel
like limbo, feel like being stuck, but it's actually
an essential time of reflection, experimentation,
and realignment. And now that I look back, I
definitely see that. Being in this space allows
for you to detach from who you were. and begin
imagining who you might become. And this is where
that identity work comes into play, right? So
this is time between your old reality and your
new one. And again, it's okay to mourn and to
celebrate the old reality. Those feelings are
normal, okay? Number two, your productivity may
dip. but your creativity rises. So you may feel
foggy or less effective during this time, kind
of scatterbrained. So Bridges would argue that
the neutral zone is when you get new ideas. Well,
looky here. I started a podcast during this period.
For some reason, I had a pull to do something
out of my comfort zone and very creative. And
so I went with my imagination, my vision, and
I followed it. Still no idea where it's going
to lead me, but the journey, you know, enjoying
the journey and not the end destination is new
for me. And I'm definitely enjoying the journey.
I have no idea when or where or what the end
destination is. People keep asking me, are you
going to keep doing your podcast? Are you going
to keep doing your podcast? And I keep saying,
I'll do what feels right. Right? If I'm still
enjoying it, if I still have time for it, yes.
If not, then I'll make a decision that's right
for me. And you should do the same. Resisting
this sort of neutral zone delays your growth.
So again, rushing this part to skip to get to
the good part, which is something that I tend
to want to do, can backfire. This impulsivity,
right? And trying to resist the discomfort. can
lead to burnout, poor decisions, and needing
to repeat the cycle again. So take your time.
Do it right the first time, right? We're a rush,
rush, hustle culture, and I really did do this
because I believed that it would pay off, and
it did. Number four, rituals and reflection help
you navigate. So as I've already said, this is
a great time to journal, Sit with yourself and
your feelings and thoughts. Have conversations
with mentors who you think have good advice and
who can guide you. Huh, that's part of what I've
done with my guests here, right? It forced me
to have these conversations. I always, one of
my favorite books is A Curious Mind, where, you
know, Brian Grazer, the film producer, had a
list of people that he wanted to have curiosity
conversations with. That's what I'm doing. How
fun is that? To say, I want to talk to this person,
and I think the world should hear their message.
And it could be helpful to someone. So I've brought
some people to you, but also I've tried to seek
out people who could help me. say goodbye to
my previous identity and open their arms to what
might come next and who might understand it and
help with the transition. So hopefully you have
found some of those guests helpful in that realm
as well. And then lastly, clarity comes after
the confusion. So you have to sit with that aimless
feeling for a while, okay? If you stay in it
and you see it through, you will eventually emerge
to clarity. Not being forced, but naturally when
the time is right. Easier said than done. Totally
get it. Lots of whining on my part of like, can
it just be wrapped up already? It took four months,
right, of unknown and even longer before that.
before my job conversation started. You know,
I was interviewing for years with nothing. So
this is the time again for you to recognize your
values, your passions, and how you want to shape
your future. So don't fear the fog. Get comfortable
with being uncomfortable. That's where transformation
happens, okay? So we're going to take a little
break here before I move into my last two resources
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Teacher Anything, and today's first question
is, how am I building community in this new phase
of life? Such a good question. I talked about
this a lot in the identity episode of, you know,
when parts of your identity fall away seem kind
of lost and you need to surround yourself with
maybe new people who fit the new version of you
better. And so I joined an all -female bike group.
But it also is kind of a social group. So I just
started went to the first meeting We actually
had a cooking class together, which was super
fun There's a bunch of bike rides and trips planned
as well as other outings and yoga So really enjoying
that so far What I love, and this is how I set
up my Instagram too, is that anybody that I'm
following is someone that I would like to aspire
to be more like. And these women, such butt kickers
and such great people, like they're energetic.
They're healthy, they're fun, they're vibrant.
Some of them are current teachers, retired teachers,
lawyers. I mean, you name it, but their number
one value or one of their top three values is
health and vibrancy and being active. And that
aligns with my values. So that is one of the
things that I've done. I'm also trying to, again,
you know, When you're busy with teaching and
you're so exhausted, you know, always say, I
wish I had more time for this or I wish I had
more time to see these people. And so I've tried
to reach out more and make a point. I typically
am the type of person who like waits for someone
to contact me. But I've told myself that if it's
important to me, then I will reach out. And that
is hard for me, I'm going to admit. But I've
been doing more of that. And so just again, trying
to put myself in situations, you know, you are
who you surround yourself with. And so trying
to find community and people who align with my
core values. Great question. Love that question.
Second question, how do I balance honoring my
past with embracing my future? Oh, this has been...
I'm gonna be honest, when I'm recording this,
I have 20 days to go in teaching. And when it
airs, it'll be even probably half that. It has
been really hard having made this decision over
100 school days ago and sticking with it because
I probably stayed a year too long. So I have
to continually remind myself to stay positive,
to focus on the positives. I have really nice
classes here at the end. They have done some
really incredible work, some of the best work
of my career, really trying to focus on that,
really trying to focus on, you know, the parts
of my legacy that I've shared with you, these
guests who I taught in my classroom or educators
and professionals who I've connected with because
of my long teaching career. And I'm proud of
my career. I'm not so proud of, you know, how
I've felt the last few years, but I've done my
best and tried to stick it out. And overall,
wow, I had such an amazing career. I worked with
such brilliant people, and that is going to be
really, really hard. But I also know Oh my gosh,
I'm going to have some of the best bosses. It's
funny because some of the teachers that I currently
teach English with were actually classmates of
my bosses. And they're like, that's gonna be
your boss? Oh my gosh, like, you're so lucky.
So, you know, who knows? I, you know, I don't
know what the next chapter is gonna bring. I
don't know if it ends up being, you know, my
forever until retirement. I'm not sure. I'm just
so excited and happy that I found something that
met my list, right? These are the things that
I want to have. And they met that. And all you
can do is keep taking those baby steps forward.
Thank you so much. I love these questions. I
hope you continue to enjoy them. Please send
more to me on Instagram at Life's Next Lesson
Plan or on my website. There's a question box
at Life'sNextLessonPlan .com. So with that, we're
going to continue on with my last two resources.
I'm going to leave my favorite one for last and
then give you some action steps and takeaways
for today. So, our next person is Bruce Feiler,
who is a bestselling author, speaker, and journalist
known for exploring themes of meaning, family,
and navigating change. He has a book called Life
is in the Transitions, Mastering Change at Any
Age, and he draws from over 225 in -depth life
story interviews to create a modern guide for
navigating personal upheaval. His work is deeply
human, research -backed, and full of empathy
for the messiness of life. So I really like that.
He also has this term that he's created called
Life Quake. which is a sudden, dramatic, and
often unexpected disruption. So this is something
you don't plan for, like a divorce, a job loss,
an illness, an identity crisis that really shakes
your foundation. And these sometimes are inevitable,
right? Like you're going to have maybe one or
probably more life quake. occur and so life is
not linear it's full of twists and turns and
these life quakes and So the key isn't necessarily
avoiding them. It's just being prepared to navigate
them when and if they happen Okay, so top five
takeaways from life is in the transitions number
one disruption is normal not a detour so in these
interviews and stories Filer found that people
experience a major life quake on average about
every 12 to 18 months. Certainly my life feels
like that. And a truly disruptive big one, three
to five times in life. And I can identify with
that. You know, every life quake has a transition
attached. As hard as these things are, and I
will attest to the fact that, whew, you don't
know sometimes if you're gonna make it out, definitely
stronger when you come out on the other side
and certainly more knowledgeable. So although
you may not have control of this happening to
you, you certainly have control of how you move
through it, right? So... I think he's going to
echo a lot of the things you've already heard
that there's a grieving, right, and a letting
go of what was. There's, you know, these three
stages. There's the messy middle, this uncertainty
and experimentation and maybe limbo. And then
there's the new beginning and it's an integration
and a reinvention and that can be messy too.
And so just giving yourself grace and understanding
where you are in the process can bring calm.
and clarity. Okay and then reframing your own
story to make meaning out of chaos is one of
his suggestions too. And so telling your own
story can help you heal and actually make you
feel less alone. So people ask me a lot, you
know, how can you be so vulnerable on your podcast?
And it actually does make you feel less alone
because people do reach out and share their own
stories or again become vulnerable with you based
on things they're going through because you have
had the courage to share it. And I think that
is what is important. So I kind of rushed through
his takeaways pretty quickly, but I want to get
to the last one, my favorite one. So I think,
you know, again, if you love real life stories
like I do, you know, more of that journalistic
real life nonfiction, I think this book would
be really cool of hearing real people's stories
and reminders that, you know, this is part of
life and you can't avoid it, but you can learn
from it. Okay. Favorite for last is Glennon Doyle
and oh my god her book Untamed was life -changing
for me and she has a podcast with her wife and
her sister and now a brand new book that's just
sitting here waiting for me called We Can Do
Hard Things same title as their podcast and I'm
trying to finish an academic book first before
I dig into it but Rest assured, I'll probably
have another podcast about that book itself,
because I'm sure it's packed with great takeaways.
But this, We Can Do Hard Things, everybody has
heard this. This is like Glennon Doyle's rallying
cry for her followers. so real and has been so
vulnerable. And I think that's what has inspired
me and why I like her and why so many people
gravitate to her. And she prides herself on being
messy and having fear and anxiety and not having
it all figured out, but sharing the messy steps
of it and facing the fear with truth and love.
And one of her quotes that I love from Untamed
is that, You know, being human is not about feeling
happy. It's about feeling everything, of course,
right? We all have feelings and we feel deeply,
which she does. So I think the top five takeaways,
if you can boil her wisdom down to five, her
philosophy number one, clarity comes through
action. not overthinking, and this is what we've
talked about before, is that just waiting and
waiting for clarity or reacting too quickly can
backfire. And so you have to take small brave
actions that align with your inner knowing. and
she always uses this phrase your inner knowing
your intuition right your core values yes yes
yes yes yes she also has a journal an untamed
journal that corresponds with her book untamed
and i would highly recommend that as well number
two takeaway pain is a signal not a problem i
mean we all feel pain right and A lot of us avoid
it, try to avoid it and see it as an enemy, but
it can also be bad. There's my dog. He feels
strongly also. Emotional discomfort isn't something
to avoid. It's a signal for change or growth
or deeper honesty with ourselves. So if you are
uncomfortable, you're in pain, you're angry,
you're confused, you're hurt, you don't have
a problem. You have life, right? Finding mentors,
finding professionals, finding a way through
it, knowing that it's temporary. And I know for
a fact from experience when you're in it, you're
like, it doesn't feel temporary. And again, where's
the crystal ball that shows me that I will get
out of this, but it is, and there is a way out.
And there is always a way to seek better. And
her third takeaway is you can honor yourself
without abandoning others. So she talks a lot
about self -trust and that being sacred, but
you can honor your truth even if it disrupts
others' expectations. So I've talked a lot about
like society's messages and just like being true
to yourself. Don't worry what other people say,
you know, being brave is not selfish. It means
that you are trying to live an aligned life.
And so again, this comes with who you surround
yourself with and the messages that you allow
into your life. This goes along with all my conversations
about boundaries and surrounding yourself with
people who lift you up and people who you want
to be more like as much as possible. Number four
takeaway is staying true to yourself could cost
you, but so will abandoning yourself. So this
kind of goes hand in hand with what we were just
talking about, but both paths cost something.
You know, a lot of people say like, choose your
hard. So what's harder? You know, what are you
willing to give up your piece or your performance?
So, you know, I had to go through this definitely
when I was making my decision, like financially
was probably the the biggest difficulty and like
money can bring you stability but not happiness
and there's even research that shows that after
a certain salary point I think it's a hundred
thousand dollars any money above that does not
bring added happiness and in fact if I look at
my own habits I know that sometimes when I have
less money I'm smarter about money. That's probably
a good lesson for me if I'm being honest. But
this just is like one of her hard -hitting, I
think, gut punchers. It's like, you know, are
you going to give up what's important to you
and what makes you happy just because of what
someone else thinks or said? And that's harder,
I think, when you're younger and easier when
you're older. But it leads into her last takeaway.
which is you're allowed to change your mind and
your life. Like, you know, it's funny because
I think especially teaching, you know, teachers
a lot of times are lifers. They stay in that
career or in education for their entire lives.
And there's almost like a, I don't want to say
a pressure, but it's just like how it's been,
right? And I don't know, you know, there's this
big like, well, I've got to use the degree that
I paid for. Okay, well, I worked 29 years, I
invested my money, I, you know, built up a pension
in Social Security. And yeah, I'm walking away
short of that. But I'm not done working, right?
And it's going to look different. And I'm not
going to be in the Wisconsin retirement system
anymore. But I've evolved. And hardly anybody
anymore stays in the same career for three decades,
right? I think there's a statistic that people
change jobs like every three to five years or
something crazy like that. So you're not who
you were five years ago. Oh my gosh, myself five
years ago, I was going through a pandemic and
a divorce with a middle schooler. It's crazy,
you know, how I have evolved in five years. It's
been a huge evolution for me. And so who you
were five years from now shouldn't be informing
or defining who you have to be now. And I think
sometimes people, I don't know, our society gives
us a message like, well, if you're constantly
changing, you know, you're flaky or you're unsettled
or you're impulsive. And I'm not saying change
jobs every three months, right? But like, it's
okay to grow and change and evolve and, you know,
take steps in a different direction that feel
more aligned to yourself. So Glennon Doyle overall,
her messaging is, you know, has been such a lifeline
to me in many stages of my life. You don't need
to be certain or fearless. You need to be truthful,
trust your inner voice, and go one step at a
time, even if it's hard, right? Because her motto
is we can do hard things. And so I highly recommend
her book Untamed and the journal to go with it.
And again, I had pre -ordered her We Can Do Hard
Things. I know it's going to be amazing. I've
listened to her podcast with her wife and her
sister, and they're all super brilliant, all
offering different perspectives. So I'm so excited
to dig into that as well. So let's get into our
kind of reflection and then action steps here.
So a couple questions for you. What if you stop
trying to figure it out and instead just listen
to what's tugging at your heart? Okay, think
about that for a minute. I had this in my identity
journal as well. What's the smallest next step
you could take today, even if nothing comes of
it for years? Okay, it would just be a small
step and I want you to do a little visualization
as well. So if it's one year from now and you're
thriving and you're so happy and you're living
aligned, what do you wish you'd started today?
And that can go along with that first step. And
I'm going to give one last plug for my free identity
journal. And again, there are many journals out
there. This one's short and free to get you started.
Highly recommend Glennon Doyle's Untamed Journal
as well, or any ritual of small daily reflection
during a chapter of unknown. I hope you enjoyed
all of this information. And, you know, to recap,
not knowing what's next isn't a failure. It's
a beginning and it's an opportunity. And yes,
I know it's scary, but it can also be exciting.
Okay, so you are in the stage of becoming, right?
Becoming a new version of yourself if you wish
to do so. I would love, love, love to hear. about
your decisions and next steps that you're taking.
So as always, you can reach out to me on Life's
Next Lesson Plan on Instagram or Facebook. I
would love for you to dig into either my journal
or the Glennon Doyle Journal and hear how you're
liking it or what you've discovered. And I'd
really like you to just ask yourself what's one
thing you're letting go of, and one small thing
you're stepping into, or you would like to step
into, okay? You can find more of my shenanigans
on my YouTube channel, Life's Next Lesson Plan,
where I count down my last final days. and some
camping adventures, as well as empty nest life
and all good stuff like that, as well as my website.
There's additional freebies there. Life's next
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if you have enjoyed it until next time. Stay
brave, stay curious and remember. Life's next
lesson plan doesn't come with an answer key,
but always begins with showing up. See you next
time.