WEBVTT 00:00:05.580 --> 00:00:08.000 Have you ever introduced yourself and felt like 00:00:08.000 --> 00:00:11.160 your job title or your child's name came before 00:00:11.160 --> 00:00:14.099 your own? Now that I'm leaving education and 00:00:14.099 --> 00:00:16.899 my only daughter is heading to college, what 00:00:16.899 --> 00:00:21.059 is my identity? Who am I now? This is exactly 00:00:21.059 --> 00:00:23.359 what we're going to explore in today's episode. 00:00:24.039 --> 00:00:26.399 When you strip away all the roles you play in 00:00:26.399 --> 00:00:29.899 your life, who are you? And what do you value? 00:00:30.640 --> 00:00:33.000 I'm hoping today you will see the crucial need 00:00:33.000 --> 00:00:36.479 for us to have a clear, personal identity that 00:00:36.479 --> 00:00:39.079 exists independently of being a parent, spouse, 00:00:39.179 --> 00:00:42.460 or an employee. They're more than a role. And 00:00:42.460 --> 00:00:44.640 when our identity is tied solely to the roles 00:00:44.640 --> 00:00:48.920 we play, partner, parent, employee, we risk losing 00:00:48.920 --> 00:00:52.700 ourselves when those roles shift or change. Kids 00:00:52.700 --> 00:00:57.359 grow up, relationships evolve, jobs end. But 00:00:57.359 --> 00:01:00.890 you remain. Having a strong personal identity 00:01:00.890 --> 00:01:04.150 means you know who you are at your core beyond 00:01:04.150 --> 00:01:07.569 what you do for others. I'm going to help you 00:01:07.569 --> 00:01:10.489 identify your core values today and offer you 00:01:10.489 --> 00:01:13.689 a free gift at the end of the episode to help 00:01:13.689 --> 00:01:16.670 you dive deeper into today's lesson on identity. 00:01:18.609 --> 00:01:20.489 Thank you for joining me for another episode 00:01:20.489 --> 00:01:23.349 of Life Snacks Lesson Plan. I'm Rachel and I 00:01:23.349 --> 00:01:26.349 started this podcast during my 29th and last 00:01:26.349 --> 00:01:28.829 year as a high school teacher. The goal of my 00:01:28.829 --> 00:01:31.329 work with Life's Next Lesson Plan, as well as 00:01:31.329 --> 00:01:34.310 my Live and Learn Patreon, is to create a connection 00:01:34.310 --> 00:01:37.109 where we are all teachers. We all have lessons 00:01:37.109 --> 00:01:40.069 and stories to share that can help others. I'm 00:01:40.069 --> 00:01:42.469 so fortunate to be able to extend the four walls 00:01:42.469 --> 00:01:46.090 of my previous classroom to an unlimited audience 00:01:46.090 --> 00:01:49.290 where we can all learn from each other. And my 00:01:49.290 --> 00:01:51.670 guests are some of the most inspirational people 00:01:51.670 --> 00:01:54.810 with the best stories and lessons I know, which 00:01:54.810 --> 00:01:57.989 is why I want to share them with you. Their words 00:01:57.989 --> 00:02:00.650 are something everyone should hear. It is my 00:02:00.650 --> 00:02:02.430 hope that you are able to take away something 00:02:02.430 --> 00:02:05.409 from each episode to apply to your own life, 00:02:05.709 --> 00:02:08.550 whether that be a career search, path to a more 00:02:08.550 --> 00:02:12.270 fulfilling life, or new ideas on current topics. 00:02:18.370 --> 00:02:21.669 So let's start at the beginning of how losing 00:02:21.669 --> 00:02:24.490 our core identity happens throughout our different 00:02:24.490 --> 00:02:32.069 chapters in life. So first, society often defines 00:02:32.069 --> 00:02:34.689 individuals through their roles, right? Like, 00:02:34.689 --> 00:02:38.469 she's a great mom, he's a successful CEO. A lot 00:02:38.469 --> 00:02:42.349 of times, that's how we are identified in, you 00:02:42.349 --> 00:02:46.750 know, our full -time jobs or, you know, our relation 00:02:46.750 --> 00:02:51.800 to others. So this becomes In different chapters 00:02:51.800 --> 00:02:55.740 of our lives, of course, being a parent becomes 00:02:55.740 --> 00:02:59.740 all -consuming. Having a demanding career can 00:02:59.740 --> 00:03:02.919 very easily overshadow your personal identity. 00:03:03.580 --> 00:03:07.569 So it's just... I guess important to acknowledge 00:03:07.569 --> 00:03:11.330 when you're in those stages of life and those 00:03:11.330 --> 00:03:14.750 are your priorities at the time that beneath 00:03:14.750 --> 00:03:18.150 all of that and all of that is important of course 00:03:18.150 --> 00:03:21.530 and that is providing you purpose that at any 00:03:21.530 --> 00:03:26.969 moment that any of that changes who are you beneath 00:03:26.969 --> 00:03:32.120 there. Obviously in my own situation, I'm heading 00:03:32.120 --> 00:03:35.840 into two major life transitions at the same time. 00:03:36.099 --> 00:03:38.560 Did not plan it that way. It's just the way that 00:03:38.560 --> 00:03:42.099 it's going to happen. And I've been thinking 00:03:42.099 --> 00:03:46.539 for years about it because obviously I knew my 00:03:46.539 --> 00:03:49.900 only child was going to be turning 18 and going 00:03:49.900 --> 00:03:54.289 to college. And I have for... multiple years, 00:03:54.669 --> 00:03:57.870 been thinking about my next path outside of education. 00:03:58.090 --> 00:04:00.889 I knew it was probably getting to be near the 00:04:00.889 --> 00:04:05.650 time that I needed to do something else for my 00:04:05.650 --> 00:04:09.689 sanity and patience and all of that overall well 00:04:09.689 --> 00:04:13.189 -being. And so I had actually thought about it. 00:04:13.210 --> 00:04:17.589 This all corresponded, of course, to with five 00:04:17.589 --> 00:04:20.970 years ago, I got a divorce, you know, in 2020. 00:04:21.689 --> 00:04:26.250 And so your identity shifts there as well. You're 00:04:26.250 --> 00:04:32.149 now a single parent. And so through that healing 00:04:32.149 --> 00:04:35.870 journey, I think It definitely forces you when 00:04:35.870 --> 00:04:38.829 you're on your own and you're no longer in charge 00:04:38.829 --> 00:04:42.370 necessarily of a full household. It's just you 00:04:42.370 --> 00:04:45.649 and your child. And you're shifting to a full 00:04:45.649 --> 00:04:47.949 -time parent, to a part -time parent. I think 00:04:47.949 --> 00:04:51.569 at that point was the first time I started really 00:04:51.569 --> 00:04:55.709 thinking about who am I and what do I enjoy, 00:04:55.790 --> 00:04:58.410 right? Because you're so caught up in the everyday 00:04:58.410 --> 00:05:02.569 of just kind of surviving through each day. I 00:05:02.569 --> 00:05:05.490 cannot imagine how it works for parents of more 00:05:05.490 --> 00:05:07.730 than one child. I just don't think I'm built 00:05:07.730 --> 00:05:11.649 for that. But that was kind of the first time 00:05:11.649 --> 00:05:16.189 where I think, again, double whammy of going 00:05:16.189 --> 00:05:19.569 through a divorce during a pandemic where you're 00:05:19.569 --> 00:05:22.689 suddenly very isolated and you are now single. 00:05:23.110 --> 00:05:26.240 It's like... what do I like to do, right? So 00:05:26.240 --> 00:05:29.899 at that point is when I really started realizing 00:05:29.899 --> 00:05:32.639 like how many things that I enjoyed that I had 00:05:32.639 --> 00:05:37.000 maybe put aside. And, you know, Then I started 00:05:37.000 --> 00:05:39.339 thinking about, oh my gosh, well, this is really 00:05:39.339 --> 00:05:43.279 what my life is going to look like in retirement 00:05:43.279 --> 00:05:48.199 or in my empty nest stage. And so I probably 00:05:48.199 --> 00:05:51.180 needed to start thinking about this anyway. So 00:05:51.180 --> 00:05:54.259 the timing of it just worked out in that it sort 00:05:54.259 --> 00:05:58.139 of forced me a little bit earlier than, you know, 00:05:58.220 --> 00:05:59.839 right before my daughter's leaving for college 00:05:59.839 --> 00:06:02.819 or right before I'm leaving my profession to 00:06:02.819 --> 00:06:06.089 think about like, what do I enjoy do? if it's 00:06:06.089 --> 00:06:09.670 just me. And as I've talked about in previous 00:06:09.670 --> 00:06:12.230 episodes, it was also during that time where 00:06:12.230 --> 00:06:14.870 I had claimed like, I'm never dating again. I 00:06:14.870 --> 00:06:17.110 am going to be single for the rest of my life. 00:06:17.350 --> 00:06:20.370 And so because I had that mindset, it was like, 00:06:20.470 --> 00:06:23.209 okay, if I am going to be single for the rest 00:06:23.209 --> 00:06:26.410 of my life, how am I going to go through life? 00:06:26.470 --> 00:06:29.470 Like what do I enjoy and how will I fill my time? 00:06:29.610 --> 00:06:32.980 And not that. You know, obviously I wouldn't 00:06:32.980 --> 00:06:35.600 still have a career and still have my child to 00:06:35.600 --> 00:06:38.579 visit but it really forced me to think about 00:06:38.579 --> 00:06:41.879 just like what brings me joy and how do I want 00:06:41.879 --> 00:06:45.300 to fill my life and As we've also talked about 00:06:45.300 --> 00:06:49.360 as you age your priorities shift like what you 00:06:49.360 --> 00:06:53.699 once enjoyed doing maybe is no longer important 00:06:53.699 --> 00:06:57.160 to you or You know, it just looks different. 00:06:57.399 --> 00:07:01.600 So That was, this has kind of been like a five 00:07:01.600 --> 00:07:05.740 -year journey and I'm somewhat grateful for that. 00:07:05.920 --> 00:07:08.759 I think looking back now in the time it was, 00:07:08.800 --> 00:07:12.160 oh my gosh, so overwhelming and difficult. And 00:07:12.160 --> 00:07:15.060 there were days where I honestly didn't know 00:07:15.060 --> 00:07:17.300 if I was going to make it through. Those of you 00:07:17.300 --> 00:07:20.680 who know me really well know that there were 00:07:20.680 --> 00:07:23.819 some desperate phone calls and some very difficult 00:07:23.819 --> 00:07:28.790 times of self -doubt and just like, If this is 00:07:28.790 --> 00:07:30.589 what my life is going to look like and this is 00:07:30.589 --> 00:07:33.569 how I'm going to feel like what's the point a 00:07:33.569 --> 00:07:37.649 lot of tears and so Yes, now I can see it as 00:07:37.649 --> 00:07:40.850 a blessing and it actually worked out for the 00:07:40.850 --> 00:07:45.610 best Oh life how you tend to do that I can't 00:07:45.610 --> 00:07:49.230 imagine like not having thought about this and 00:07:49.230 --> 00:07:52.170 at all and then all of a sudden my one child 00:07:52.170 --> 00:07:55.399 is gone and my job after 29 years is totally 00:07:55.399 --> 00:07:59.399 different. Like I can't imagine. And so it forced 00:07:59.399 --> 00:08:03.339 me to have like a five year runway to think about 00:08:03.339 --> 00:08:08.019 this. So with that idea, I think it makes you 00:08:08.019 --> 00:08:11.660 more resilient in the face of change when you 00:08:11.660 --> 00:08:15.420 do have a major life change that's coming up. 00:08:15.600 --> 00:08:18.860 If you don't have a strong identity, I can see 00:08:18.860 --> 00:08:22.560 how that would be really unsettling. But You 00:08:22.560 --> 00:08:25.139 know, if you go through a divorce, a job loss, 00:08:25.420 --> 00:08:28.800 empty nest, you know, a major illness that shifts 00:08:28.800 --> 00:08:33.779 your life and everything that you thought you 00:08:33.779 --> 00:08:37.860 were suddenly gone or changed, that would be 00:08:37.860 --> 00:08:42.399 terrifying and really empty and lonely. And so 00:08:42.399 --> 00:08:45.539 I think having that strong connection to who 00:08:45.539 --> 00:08:49.580 you are at your core, you will always have that. 00:08:49.720 --> 00:08:53.740 to fall back on when other things change. And 00:08:53.740 --> 00:08:55.799 that's why I wanted to talk about this topic 00:08:55.799 --> 00:08:59.419 today, because the more resilient we are, right, 00:08:59.879 --> 00:09:03.500 the more we are able to weather all of these 00:09:03.500 --> 00:09:05.960 different life changes and these storms that 00:09:05.960 --> 00:09:09.860 are inevitably going to come up in life. So I 00:09:09.860 --> 00:09:16.230 think keeping once I found kind of and tapped 00:09:16.230 --> 00:09:18.509 into like, this is what I enjoy. And I tried 00:09:18.509 --> 00:09:21.649 a lot of different things. Exercise had always 00:09:21.649 --> 00:09:24.690 been there for me throughout, you know, no matter 00:09:24.690 --> 00:09:28.960 what I, I look at it as. more mental health really 00:09:28.960 --> 00:09:32.240 than physical health if I'm being honest. I do 00:09:32.240 --> 00:09:35.279 not feel right if I haven't done something to 00:09:35.279 --> 00:09:38.240 start my day that has to do with movement. It's 00:09:38.240 --> 00:09:41.820 just a habit I think for me and it definitely 00:09:41.820 --> 00:09:46.179 makes me more emotionally stable and if that 00:09:46.179 --> 00:09:48.700 part of my life like that is one of my hugest 00:09:48.700 --> 00:09:51.620 fears definitely if something were to happen 00:09:51.620 --> 00:09:54.860 to jeopardize that is a big part of my identity 00:09:54.860 --> 00:09:59.539 and that would really really rock me so I need 00:09:59.539 --> 00:10:03.860 other things as well as that that I can do and 00:10:03.860 --> 00:10:07.840 that bring me joy so that I can remain emotionally 00:10:07.840 --> 00:10:11.179 stable as I get older and I'm not able to do 00:10:11.179 --> 00:10:15.860 some of the active things that I do now, although 00:10:15.860 --> 00:10:19.419 it's my goal to do them as long as I can, but 00:10:19.419 --> 00:10:22.720 it just having that anchor I think helps you 00:10:22.720 --> 00:10:26.379 weather all of life's storms a little bit more 00:10:26.379 --> 00:10:33.879 gracefully. I think too that the more you are 00:10:33.879 --> 00:10:39.549 in tune with who you are and what brings you 00:10:39.549 --> 00:10:42.809 joy and on the other hand, what doesn't. I think 00:10:42.809 --> 00:10:46.750 it really helps you with setting healthy boundaries 00:10:46.750 --> 00:10:50.509 as well where. If you really sit and evaluate, 00:10:50.769 --> 00:10:53.090 which I'm hoping my free resource is going to 00:10:53.090 --> 00:10:55.789 help you do, it's some of the prompts that I 00:10:55.789 --> 00:10:58.789 kind of walked through when I was sort of reshaping 00:10:58.789 --> 00:11:01.450 what I wanted my life to look like. It's like 00:11:01.450 --> 00:11:04.690 when you know who you want to be surrounded by 00:11:04.690 --> 00:11:07.750 and how you want to feel when you're around those 00:11:07.750 --> 00:11:11.580 people and, you know, who you want cheering you 00:11:11.580 --> 00:11:15.399 on and who has been bringing you down, it really 00:11:15.399 --> 00:11:19.659 helps you establish healthy boundaries. And I 00:11:19.659 --> 00:11:23.000 think that's both in relationships and in your 00:11:23.000 --> 00:11:27.080 work. I mean, I could do a whole episode on just 00:11:27.080 --> 00:11:30.179 like how I changed at the end of my career to 00:11:30.179 --> 00:11:34.919 try to separate myself from some of the things 00:11:34.919 --> 00:11:37.399 I just didn't want to devote my energy to. And 00:11:37.399 --> 00:11:39.740 I've definitely alluded to this in my personal 00:11:39.740 --> 00:11:43.779 life as well, just like I've made some really 00:11:43.779 --> 00:11:47.460 difficult decisions about boundaries and definitely 00:11:47.460 --> 00:11:51.639 used my voice to stand up for myself and, you 00:11:51.639 --> 00:11:54.830 know. they usually say that the people who are 00:11:54.830 --> 00:11:57.309 most offended by your boundaries are the people 00:11:57.309 --> 00:12:00.169 who needed them in the first place, right? So 00:12:00.169 --> 00:12:03.649 I definitely would say that that's like an unintended 00:12:03.649 --> 00:12:08.590 benefit of really knowing who you are and what 00:12:08.590 --> 00:12:13.419 you want your life to look like. And so if you 00:12:13.419 --> 00:12:16.620 communicate your needs and you are comfortable 00:12:16.620 --> 00:12:19.220 with saying like, this just isn't gonna be a 00:12:19.220 --> 00:12:22.720 part of my life or this is how I'm going to build 00:12:22.720 --> 00:12:26.120 more authentic connections in my life, you're 00:12:26.120 --> 00:12:30.159 less likely to lose yourself when it comes to 00:12:30.159 --> 00:12:34.659 being in a new relationship or becoming codependent, 00:12:34.659 --> 00:12:37.899 you know, in a relationship. And I would definitely 00:12:37.899 --> 00:12:41.039 say as I've alluded to before in multiple episodes 00:12:41.039 --> 00:12:46.360 that Had I not had that time alone and said to 00:12:46.360 --> 00:12:50.179 myself, like, I am fine being alone for the rest 00:12:50.179 --> 00:12:53.620 of my life. If I do, when I, when I got to the 00:12:53.620 --> 00:12:55.700 point of saying, okay, maybe I'm ready to date 00:12:55.700 --> 00:12:58.399 again. Maybe I'm ready to let someone else in 00:12:58.399 --> 00:13:04.279 my life. I am not going to settle. You know, 00:13:04.539 --> 00:13:08.879 Again ever and if that means I'll be alone forever 00:13:08.879 --> 00:13:11.340 totally fine But like here are the things that 00:13:11.340 --> 00:13:15.399 I'm looking for and if they're not there It's 00:13:15.399 --> 00:13:18.320 not going to end up in a serious relationship 00:13:18.320 --> 00:13:22.100 and I really feel like and I've heard many stories 00:13:22.100 --> 00:13:26.259 about this that when you are at your strongest 00:13:26.259 --> 00:13:30.659 and at You're most in tune with what you want 00:13:30.659 --> 00:13:33.620 and you are healed and you're putting a different 00:13:33.620 --> 00:13:36.600 energy out into the world You are definitely 00:13:36.600 --> 00:13:40.200 going to attract what is right for you. At least 00:13:40.200 --> 00:13:42.919 that's what happened for me So I guess before 00:13:42.919 --> 00:13:45.720 we you know get into today's lesson and head 00:13:45.720 --> 00:13:49.139 off into break in a moment in a moment if you 00:13:49.139 --> 00:13:52.200 think about this is what they call the boom moment 00:13:52.200 --> 00:13:56.960 like when your identity loss is becoming apparent 00:13:56.960 --> 00:14:00.240 or you know that something is on the horizon 00:14:00.240 --> 00:14:03.639 you know again it's a divorce a separation a 00:14:03.639 --> 00:14:07.100 career change job loss empty nest retirement 00:14:07.670 --> 00:14:10.690 illness, disability, you know, you feel your 00:14:10.690 --> 00:14:13.009 kids pulling away and becoming more independent. 00:14:13.049 --> 00:14:15.629 I think even, you know, when a child gets their 00:14:15.629 --> 00:14:19.750 license, it's, it is a transition, definitely. 00:14:20.330 --> 00:14:25.070 If you can anticipate that or, you know, in anticipation 00:14:25.070 --> 00:14:30.039 of that or just for your own well -being to really 00:14:30.039 --> 00:14:34.700 think ahead of time about how you can look inward 00:14:34.700 --> 00:14:39.100 and do some of this work. The earlier I think 00:14:39.100 --> 00:14:41.539 you're just going to set yourself up for success, 00:14:41.679 --> 00:14:44.889 and it's just good. no matter what, if there 00:14:44.889 --> 00:14:47.809 isn't a major life change on the horizon. Like, 00:14:47.809 --> 00:14:50.210 when's the last time you sat down and said, like, 00:14:50.210 --> 00:14:53.409 who am I surrounding myself with? And how do 00:14:53.409 --> 00:14:55.929 they make me feel? And how could I make changes 00:14:55.929 --> 00:14:59.409 to that? Or, you know, how am I incorporating, 00:14:59.590 --> 00:15:01.970 even if it's 10 minutes of something that brings 00:15:01.970 --> 00:15:04.730 me joy, it's really hard when you're caught up 00:15:04.730 --> 00:15:07.529 in the hustle and bustle. But like, when's the 00:15:07.529 --> 00:15:10.429 last time that you sat down and actually thought 00:15:10.429 --> 00:15:12.980 about that? So I want you to just think about 00:15:12.980 --> 00:15:15.639 that as we head into the break. We're going to 00:15:15.639 --> 00:15:18.759 have some ads and ask the teacher anything. And 00:15:18.759 --> 00:15:21.620 then we'll be back with our lesson for today. 00:15:23.840 --> 00:15:27.559 100 % of men and women have hormones. And with 00:15:27.559 --> 00:15:30.200 the increased presence of processed foods and 00:15:30.200 --> 00:15:32.799 environmental toxins, it's more important than 00:15:32.799 --> 00:15:35.200 ever to make mindful choices in the products 00:15:35.200 --> 00:15:38.679 we use every day. That's why I trust Q and Grace. 00:15:38.940 --> 00:15:42.120 high -performing clean products designed to support 00:15:42.120 --> 00:15:45.200 hormone health while reducing exposure to harmful 00:15:45.200 --> 00:15:49.179 chemicals. 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So the first question 00:19:52.470 --> 00:19:56.609 I have today is What's one small habit or mindset 00:19:56.609 --> 00:20:00.130 shift that's made a huge difference in your life? 00:20:00.630 --> 00:20:03.390 This is like asking an English teacher to pick 00:20:03.390 --> 00:20:06.950 their favorite book like I'm gonna say though 00:20:06.950 --> 00:20:10.369 if I had to narrow it down to recently a recent 00:20:10.369 --> 00:20:16.460 mindset shift, I would say is You can't control 00:20:16.460 --> 00:20:20.000 or change other people's behavior and it's not 00:20:20.000 --> 00:20:24.440 a reflection of you. I think so many times in 00:20:24.440 --> 00:20:27.579 my life I take a lot of things personally or 00:20:27.579 --> 00:20:31.240 because I'm a recovering codependent I think 00:20:31.240 --> 00:20:34.180 I've always felt like oh I can you know, I can 00:20:34.180 --> 00:20:38.460 help them or I can change them or I can fix them 00:20:38.460 --> 00:20:43.859 Hmm resonate with any of you You know, I've I've 00:20:43.859 --> 00:20:47.140 done so much for this person. Like, you know, 00:20:47.140 --> 00:20:50.500 of course I can I can improve their life or make 00:20:50.500 --> 00:20:57.019 them treat me better. No, no, no, no, no. And 00:20:57.019 --> 00:20:59.819 the amount of energy and anguish you will go 00:20:59.819 --> 00:21:05.279 through. Again, it's sometimes some of the people 00:21:05.279 --> 00:21:09.099 who are closest to you who should love you unconditionally. 00:21:10.279 --> 00:21:13.339 You just. can't control who they are and how 00:21:13.339 --> 00:21:16.400 they're going to treat you and I think I spent 00:21:16.400 --> 00:21:19.920 so many years just in disbelief of like how is 00:21:19.920 --> 00:21:23.420 this possible that you know I always held out 00:21:23.420 --> 00:21:26.619 hope that like one day it's going to change and 00:21:26.619 --> 00:21:30.380 as years go by I think you just realize they're 00:21:30.380 --> 00:21:34.670 not going to and Once you make peace with that 00:21:34.670 --> 00:21:37.950 and realize it has nothing to do with you, you 00:21:37.950 --> 00:21:40.549 can free yourself of a lot of that. And this 00:21:40.549 --> 00:21:42.609 kind of goes hand in hand with the conversation 00:21:42.609 --> 00:21:45.730 that we had with boundaries. And we teach people 00:21:45.730 --> 00:21:48.710 how to treat us. If we let people continually 00:21:48.710 --> 00:21:53.230 act a certain way to us and don't put our foot 00:21:53.230 --> 00:21:56.329 down or voice our opinion or set a boundary, 00:21:56.710 --> 00:21:59.289 it's going to continue to happen. Like it's not 00:21:59.289 --> 00:22:02.109 going to change. The longer people are in a habit, 00:22:02.240 --> 00:22:05.099 The less likely they are to change. So I think 00:22:05.099 --> 00:22:08.579 that's just a recent kind of realization or mindset 00:22:08.579 --> 00:22:11.799 shift. Like, thank you, Mel Robbins. You just 00:22:11.799 --> 00:22:14.619 have to let it go. You just have to let them. 00:22:14.920 --> 00:22:18.079 Right. And maybe they'll realize their mistake 00:22:18.079 --> 00:22:21.319 and maybe they won't. And maybe it's not as important 00:22:21.319 --> 00:22:26.000 to them as it is to you. And so you find other 00:22:26.000 --> 00:22:29.440 people and things that bring you joy. That's 00:22:29.440 --> 00:22:32.839 been a huge one for me. Number two, how do you 00:22:32.839 --> 00:22:35.759 handle vulnerability when sharing personal experiences 00:22:35.759 --> 00:22:39.440 with your audience? Yeah, I don't know. I think 00:22:39.440 --> 00:22:43.019 sometimes when so many things have happened to 00:22:43.019 --> 00:22:45.480 you and you've just lived a life, you're like, 00:22:45.740 --> 00:22:49.079 I have a lot of really good valuable life experience 00:22:49.079 --> 00:22:52.779 that I think other people could benefit from. 00:22:53.220 --> 00:22:57.109 And it's sort of that teacher mentality of If 00:22:57.109 --> 00:23:00.529 this helps one person, it's worth it. And at 00:23:00.529 --> 00:23:02.990 this point, I think everything they say, like 00:23:02.990 --> 00:23:06.269 as you approach your sixties, you just don't 00:23:06.269 --> 00:23:09.390 give a crap what people think about you or about 00:23:09.390 --> 00:23:13.329 your life. And I spent a lot of time in my life 00:23:13.329 --> 00:23:17.309 being ashamed for how I grew up until I realized 00:23:17.309 --> 00:23:21.049 like there was nothing I could do about that. 00:23:21.230 --> 00:23:25.430 you know, before I was 16 and had a car and could 00:23:25.430 --> 00:23:28.130 make decisions about my life, there was not a 00:23:28.130 --> 00:23:32.349 lot I could do. But I will say that once I had 00:23:32.349 --> 00:23:35.869 independence and once my life was mine to build, 00:23:36.490 --> 00:23:39.329 the only thing that kept me moving forward was 00:23:39.329 --> 00:23:42.910 the mindset of this is all on you. Because it 00:23:42.910 --> 00:23:47.309 truly was and people who know me know like that 00:23:47.309 --> 00:23:52.269 it was all on me. And you know, once you go through 00:23:52.269 --> 00:23:57.869 some difficult things and build wisdom. I think 00:23:57.869 --> 00:24:01.450 it just feels like it could be helpful to someone 00:24:01.450 --> 00:24:04.970 else. And I don't give a crap what people think 00:24:04.970 --> 00:24:08.769 about me because and I used to definitely a lot 00:24:08.769 --> 00:24:12.009 because the people who care about me know what 00:24:12.009 --> 00:24:14.690 I've been through and respect me for it. And 00:24:14.690 --> 00:24:17.470 I've been told many, many times like you're the 00:24:17.470 --> 00:24:19.390 one of the one of the strongest people I know. 00:24:21.210 --> 00:24:25.289 They're a lot stronger people. And in taking 00:24:25.289 --> 00:24:28.730 my own advice, I'm trying to surround myself 00:24:28.730 --> 00:24:32.990 or flood my mind with messages of people I think 00:24:32.990 --> 00:24:37.289 are strong, truly strong, and have mental mindsets 00:24:37.289 --> 00:24:41.230 of just, I mean, that's why immersing myself 00:24:41.230 --> 00:24:44.750 so much. And like Siri Lindley lately, once I 00:24:44.750 --> 00:24:47.210 discovered her, thank you, Anna Strelo again. 00:24:47.609 --> 00:24:50.589 Holy cow. You want to talk about a strong person 00:24:50.589 --> 00:24:55.789 and a strong mental mindset? Yeah. And her sharing 00:24:55.789 --> 00:24:59.529 her vulnerability has helped me and other, you 00:24:59.529 --> 00:25:01.849 know, my favorite author during the pandemic, 00:25:02.190 --> 00:25:05.170 Glennon Doyle, who by the way, her new book comes 00:25:05.170 --> 00:25:09.789 out, um, this week or May 6th. Yeah. So yeah, 00:25:09.930 --> 00:25:12.930 they, Them sharing their vulnerability helped 00:25:12.930 --> 00:25:18.990 me and I have a very small platform But I know 00:25:18.990 --> 00:25:22.509 because people have told me that sharing different 00:25:22.509 --> 00:25:25.190 aspects of my journey has helped them So I think 00:25:25.190 --> 00:25:28.329 that makes it easier And sometimes it just feels 00:25:28.329 --> 00:25:30.529 good, right? It's like kind of going to therapy 00:25:30.529 --> 00:25:33.529 And then it opens up lines of communication to 00:25:33.529 --> 00:25:39.079 have these important talks in your life As we 00:25:39.079 --> 00:25:41.519 come back from break, I realized we probably 00:25:41.519 --> 00:25:45.480 had the majority of the lesson already, and now 00:25:45.480 --> 00:25:49.720 we're just going to kind of reflect and apply. 00:25:50.160 --> 00:25:52.119 And I'd like to talk a little bit about the free 00:25:52.119 --> 00:25:55.180 resource that I worked on for you guys, you know, 00:25:55.299 --> 00:25:57.740 taking some of the things that I've learned through 00:25:57.740 --> 00:26:00.500 my journey of doing this work for myself and 00:26:00.500 --> 00:26:03.569 put it in the journal. There'll be a link to 00:26:03.569 --> 00:26:05.369 that in the show notes and all you'll have to 00:26:05.369 --> 00:26:09.410 do is follow the link and fill in your name and 00:26:09.410 --> 00:26:14.250 it'll send you the free journal. It's not long. 00:26:14.289 --> 00:26:17.910 There's only like six prompts or so, but it'll 00:26:17.910 --> 00:26:21.190 start with a list of 50 core values and kind 00:26:21.190 --> 00:26:23.990 of going through thinking about that took me 00:26:23.990 --> 00:26:27.089 a really long time actually to just. It starts 00:26:27.089 --> 00:26:29.970 with narrowing it to ten and then to five and 00:26:29.970 --> 00:26:32.630 then to three and that gets harder as you go 00:26:32.630 --> 00:26:36.329 But it's really important work to think about 00:26:36.329 --> 00:26:38.650 at this stage of your life because certainly 00:26:38.650 --> 00:26:43.119 that will change as you age just like Right now 00:26:43.119 --> 00:26:46.059 in this chapter. What is most important to me? 00:26:46.519 --> 00:26:49.140 So let's just kind of talk about that a little 00:26:49.140 --> 00:26:52.059 bit and how we can cultivate You know this core 00:26:52.059 --> 00:26:54.880 identity and you know, I've asked you already 00:26:54.880 --> 00:26:58.400 in the episode to just start by saying Who am 00:26:58.400 --> 00:27:02.220 I? outside of any roles that I have, just like 00:27:02.220 --> 00:27:05.660 if it's me, you know, living my life and there 00:27:05.660 --> 00:27:08.220 are no other people around me, I'm starting from 00:27:08.220 --> 00:27:12.480 scratch. What things do I want to have in my 00:27:12.480 --> 00:27:15.880 life? And how do I want to fill my time? And 00:27:15.880 --> 00:27:17.799 who do I want to be surrounded with? So just 00:27:17.799 --> 00:27:21.680 kind of starting with that question. And then, 00:27:21.920 --> 00:27:25.480 in fact, I did an entire episode on this just 00:27:26.000 --> 00:27:29.960 time management versus energy management. I think 00:27:29.960 --> 00:27:33.200 that was episode 21. And this was actually a 00:27:33.200 --> 00:27:36.220 new idea for me because I had been so hyper fixated 00:27:36.220 --> 00:27:39.740 on how to control my time, which is something 00:27:39.740 --> 00:27:43.200 that is finite, right? We only have 24 hours 00:27:43.200 --> 00:27:48.460 in a day versus how you manage your energy. and 00:27:48.460 --> 00:27:51.720 this idea of ultradian rhythms, which I had never 00:27:51.720 --> 00:27:54.220 heard of before, and I talk about in that episode, 00:27:54.259 --> 00:27:58.460 and how if you are short on time, even how you 00:27:58.460 --> 00:28:03.279 pack that time begets energy, right? And so the 00:28:03.279 --> 00:28:08.640 more energy that you are taking in joy and not... 00:28:08.730 --> 00:28:11.970 this leads to not burning out, right? Versus 00:28:11.970 --> 00:28:14.569 we can't really control time. I used to think 00:28:14.569 --> 00:28:17.369 that, you know, I'm gonna do all these things 00:28:17.369 --> 00:28:19.789 before eight o 'clock in the morning and then 00:28:19.789 --> 00:28:21.930 I'll have control over the rest of my day and 00:28:21.930 --> 00:28:25.730 that just leads to exhaustion. And so yeah, I 00:28:25.730 --> 00:28:28.230 did a whole episode on that, but just this idea 00:28:28.230 --> 00:28:32.869 of like, that episode I had listeners walk through. 00:28:33.390 --> 00:28:36.849 a list of things that zap their energy and a 00:28:36.849 --> 00:28:40.549 list of things that renew their energy. And so 00:28:40.549 --> 00:28:44.410 thinking about with this topic of what would 00:28:44.410 --> 00:28:48.470 you put on your list, activities or hobbies that 00:28:48.470 --> 00:28:51.589 bring you joy. And again, depending on what season 00:28:51.589 --> 00:28:53.990 of life you're in, maybe we're talking about 00:28:53.990 --> 00:28:57.890 just 10, 15 minutes a day, but that has a compounding 00:28:57.890 --> 00:29:01.589 effect, right? Adds up over time. And then when 00:29:01.589 --> 00:29:03.710 you get more time and you're in different season 00:29:03.710 --> 00:29:08.150 in life you can expand that so this is another 00:29:08.150 --> 00:29:12.009 thing where you know if we're already doing that 00:29:12.009 --> 00:29:15.750 maybe it's time to try something new and I definitely 00:29:15.750 --> 00:29:18.269 I mean I remember thinking in the pandemic like 00:29:18.269 --> 00:29:21.349 what are my hobbies because all of us were home 00:29:21.349 --> 00:29:24.589 and it's like besides watching TV scrolling on 00:29:24.589 --> 00:29:28.359 your phone and teaching online? Like, yes, I 00:29:28.359 --> 00:29:31.519 was working out, but what did I enjoy doing? 00:29:31.799 --> 00:29:37.299 Reading? Okay. And I was like, I can't just have 00:29:37.299 --> 00:29:40.259 these activities in retirement when my daughter 00:29:40.259 --> 00:29:43.640 is gone. And if I am alone, I need to try something 00:29:43.640 --> 00:29:47.579 new. And that's when I tried CycleBar, when we 00:29:47.579 --> 00:29:50.410 were allowed to, obviously, again, and during 00:29:50.410 --> 00:29:53.730 that season, I, wow, I don't know what I would 00:29:53.730 --> 00:29:56.970 have done without that. It was such a good outlet 00:29:56.970 --> 00:30:01.670 for me and obviously a healthy one. And that 00:30:01.670 --> 00:30:04.750 just led to meeting cool people and, you know, 00:30:04.829 --> 00:30:07.529 talk, you know, I met, you know, other people 00:30:07.529 --> 00:30:10.720 who were single, you know, and I could. talk 00:30:10.720 --> 00:30:13.380 to them about what brought them joy, and it just 00:30:13.380 --> 00:30:17.200 opens up your community, right? And you learn 00:30:17.200 --> 00:30:20.099 things from other people. So that kind of goes 00:30:20.099 --> 00:30:23.200 hand in hand with prioritizing your me time. 00:30:23.960 --> 00:30:26.859 And again, depending on what season you are in 00:30:26.859 --> 00:30:30.539 in life, you have more or less me time. I have 00:30:30.539 --> 00:30:33.539 more me time now than I've ever had in my life 00:30:33.539 --> 00:30:38.039 and will continue on that path. And so, you know, 00:30:38.240 --> 00:30:41.799 even if you have 10, 15 minutes a day know a 00:30:41.799 --> 00:30:45.619 lot of moms prioritize even just 10 or 15 minutes 00:30:45.619 --> 00:30:49.400 before their kids get up for journaling or silent 00:30:49.400 --> 00:30:52.579 reflection or meditation or you know a lot of 00:30:52.579 --> 00:30:55.380 busy moms will get up and work out before their 00:30:55.380 --> 00:30:57.960 kids are up or before they go to work but like 00:30:57.960 --> 00:31:02.559 how can you find little small pockets of time 00:31:02.559 --> 00:31:05.700 to just devote to yourself and then how are you 00:31:05.700 --> 00:31:07.779 filling that hopefully you're filling that with 00:31:08.119 --> 00:31:12.299 things that give you energy. And then I think 00:31:12.299 --> 00:31:16.839 it's really important too, and this was a reality 00:31:16.839 --> 00:31:19.779 slap during the pandemic going through a divorce, 00:31:19.880 --> 00:31:23.839 but who's in your support system? That was really 00:31:23.839 --> 00:31:28.220 eye -opening to me as well. I remember the people 00:31:28.220 --> 00:31:31.819 who would text or call me multiple times a week, 00:31:31.819 --> 00:31:36.059 and I knew that if I were in crisis, and I did, 00:31:36.420 --> 00:31:40.039 call them. in crisis and they wouldn't judge 00:31:40.039 --> 00:31:42.799 me and other people did judge me like you should 00:31:42.799 --> 00:31:44.740 be stronger than this I thought you were stronger 00:31:44.740 --> 00:31:47.079 now that they would say that necessarily but 00:31:47.079 --> 00:31:51.680 I felt it in some messages or I had people who 00:31:51.680 --> 00:31:55.099 you know yes I I have health anxiety and it's 00:31:55.099 --> 00:31:56.960 gotten much better but like kind of roll their 00:31:56.960 --> 00:31:59.769 eyes about like You know you're being ridiculous, 00:31:59.950 --> 00:32:02.049 right? It's like, yeah, well, this is how I'm 00:32:02.049 --> 00:32:04.250 feeling at this time. And again, unless you're 00:32:04.250 --> 00:32:08.509 living in my body, don't judge me. So I think 00:32:08.509 --> 00:32:12.029 going hand in hand with these major life transitions, 00:32:12.170 --> 00:32:15.009 just thinking about who you're surrounding yourself 00:32:15.009 --> 00:32:18.009 with, and even if that's just one person you 00:32:18.009 --> 00:32:23.589 know you can call, that is so helpful. And if 00:32:23.589 --> 00:32:28.990 you don't have anyone like that, I'm here and 00:32:28.990 --> 00:32:31.130 I might not know you and I may not have ever 00:32:31.130 --> 00:32:34.990 met you. I have met certain people who I've interviewed 00:32:34.990 --> 00:32:38.069 on this podcast, who I've never met, who I feel 00:32:38.069 --> 00:32:41.869 a strong connection to. And so, so what? Send 00:32:41.869 --> 00:32:45.549 me an email, reach out on social media, like 00:32:45.549 --> 00:32:49.750 nobody. should go through a difficult time alone. 00:32:49.809 --> 00:32:51.690 And this does not mean you have to bury your 00:32:51.690 --> 00:32:55.390 entire soul to them, but you are important. And 00:32:55.390 --> 00:32:57.849 I have been through things at multiple stages 00:32:57.849 --> 00:33:01.349 in my life where I did not feel important to 00:33:01.349 --> 00:33:05.269 anyone or did not feel that anyone would miss 00:33:05.269 --> 00:33:08.230 me if I wasn't here. And that is true. And that 00:33:08.230 --> 00:33:11.089 is very vulnerable, but that is true. And that 00:33:11.089 --> 00:33:15.099 is a big product of how I grew up. Um, which 00:33:15.099 --> 00:33:19.779 again, I have learned is not my fault. And I 00:33:19.779 --> 00:33:22.319 was ashamed about that for a long time. I can't 00:33:22.319 --> 00:33:24.960 help it. Right. And I have healed and I have 00:33:24.960 --> 00:33:27.599 grown through it and come out stronger on the 00:33:27.599 --> 00:33:33.299 other side. I never want anybody to feel the 00:33:33.299 --> 00:33:35.859 way I felt in some of those moments. So I'm being 00:33:35.859 --> 00:33:39.759 very serious here and obviously getting emotional 00:33:39.759 --> 00:33:43.460 thinking back to those times. Never feel like 00:33:43.460 --> 00:33:47.549 that. Okay, someone is always there. And maybe 00:33:47.549 --> 00:33:49.829 that's the reason that you're hearing this message 00:33:49.829 --> 00:33:54.829 today. Okay, learning to enjoy our own company. 00:33:54.990 --> 00:33:58.049 Let's talk about that. Whoa, that we had to learn 00:33:58.049 --> 00:34:00.210 during the pandemic and less, you know, I had 00:34:00.210 --> 00:34:02.730 one child with me 50 % of the time, but some 00:34:02.730 --> 00:34:04.849 people were crawling in kids and you were like, 00:34:04.849 --> 00:34:10.489 Oh my God. You know, but again, if you are not 00:34:10.489 --> 00:34:14.800 settling and You are deciding, like, if all else 00:34:14.800 --> 00:34:18.079 is gone in my life, I need to enjoy my own company, 00:34:18.320 --> 00:34:21.480 even if that means singing in my car to ridiculous 00:34:21.480 --> 00:34:25.019 music and sounding horrible. So what? I had fun. 00:34:26.239 --> 00:34:29.940 So really think about that. Like, if you are 00:34:29.940 --> 00:34:32.159 alone and you, you know, sometimes busy moms 00:34:32.159 --> 00:34:35.099 are like, please, can I just have some time to 00:34:35.099 --> 00:34:37.559 myself? And I'm just going to sit and stare at 00:34:37.559 --> 00:34:40.880 a wall. Do it. Like, I've been there, done that. 00:34:41.260 --> 00:34:43.739 Many times I have driven in my car in complete 00:34:43.739 --> 00:34:46.260 silence or gone on a walk, right, in complete 00:34:46.260 --> 00:34:50.480 silence. So, you know, just thinking about what 00:34:50.480 --> 00:34:54.079 you enjoy when it's just you and how you choose 00:34:54.079 --> 00:34:57.960 to spend your time. Okay, so this is a lot of 00:34:57.960 --> 00:35:01.039 what I'm going to have you explore in the journal 00:35:01.039 --> 00:35:03.420 that I've created for you. And I'm so excited. 00:35:04.320 --> 00:35:07.119 I've never made anything like this before that 00:35:07.119 --> 00:35:10.179 was like outside of a classroom. But I was thinking 00:35:10.179 --> 00:35:12.760 a lot about how much journaling we did when I 00:35:12.760 --> 00:35:14.679 taught creative writing and how many students 00:35:14.679 --> 00:35:16.599 were like, oh, I used to journal and I loved 00:35:16.599 --> 00:35:20.059 it. And this forced me to do it again. And all 00:35:20.059 --> 00:35:22.800 the research around journaling. And even though 00:35:22.800 --> 00:35:26.550 this is a really short, you know, five, six prompt 00:35:26.550 --> 00:35:29.869 journal. If that's something that you enjoy doing 00:35:29.869 --> 00:35:31.769 or something that you've never done but you want 00:35:31.769 --> 00:35:34.809 to try, I think this is a nice entry point to 00:35:34.809 --> 00:35:37.829 that. So all you'll have to do is just either 00:35:37.829 --> 00:35:41.369 go down in the show notes. If you are on Apple 00:35:41.369 --> 00:35:44.369 Podcasts, there will be a link there. Or I can 00:35:44.369 --> 00:35:47.550 just tell you to go directly to my website at 00:35:47.550 --> 00:35:50.650 Life's Next Lesson Plan dot com and just go to 00:35:50.650 --> 00:35:53.619 the freebies tab. There's a bunch of freebies 00:35:53.619 --> 00:35:56.440 from past episodes, but this one will be the 00:35:56.440 --> 00:35:59.300 first one there. And then all you have to do 00:35:59.300 --> 00:36:02.380 is just go ahead and click. Put in your name 00:36:02.380 --> 00:36:04.500 and click and the journal will show up for you. 00:36:04.500 --> 00:36:08.300 And I'm so excited to hear, you know, you trying 00:36:08.300 --> 00:36:10.980 it and what you think and what you discover about 00:36:10.980 --> 00:36:14.920 yourself. So I hope that this episode was helpful 00:36:14.920 --> 00:36:18.039 for you today. And again, they just seem to be 00:36:18.039 --> 00:36:20.760 getting a more a little raw and vulnerable. So. 00:36:21.480 --> 00:36:30.739 Bear with me, but this is life, right? I hope 00:36:30.739 --> 00:36:35.239 today's episode was of value to you. And I really 00:36:35.239 --> 00:36:39.539 do hope that you check out the journal and spend 00:36:39.539 --> 00:36:42.699 some time, you know, even if you just do one 00:36:42.699 --> 00:36:46.349 prompt. at least to get started just thinking 00:36:46.349 --> 00:36:48.829 about some of these things and if you already 00:36:48.829 --> 00:36:52.590 have done this work I would love to hear any 00:36:52.590 --> 00:36:55.570 tips that you have because I feel like I'm still 00:36:55.570 --> 00:36:58.329 partially on this journey and kind of in the 00:36:58.329 --> 00:37:01.250 thick of it although I've done some work already 00:37:01.250 --> 00:37:04.769 with this so I'd love for you to share you know 00:37:04.769 --> 00:37:07.429 any helpful tips that you have for me or for 00:37:07.429 --> 00:37:12.800 others. And next week's episode, oh boy, this 00:37:12.800 --> 00:37:15.980 is, you know, as I've referred to in previous 00:37:15.980 --> 00:37:18.380 or actually just this episode, someone who I 00:37:18.380 --> 00:37:21.690 had never met. whose book I have now purchased 00:37:21.690 --> 00:37:24.869 and actually even shared it with Brett in the 00:37:24.869 --> 00:37:28.489 sauna and oh my goodness I have been surrounded 00:37:28.489 --> 00:37:32.110 by brilliant people my whole career and you know 00:37:32.110 --> 00:37:35.550 I think teachers sometimes are a little bit snobbish 00:37:35.550 --> 00:37:38.230 about like oh we're so smart and everybody I 00:37:38.230 --> 00:37:42.909 teach with is so smart holy cow what an amazing 00:37:42.909 --> 00:37:45.210 guest I have coming up for you actually my next 00:37:45.210 --> 00:37:48.909 two guests just I got, I have to say, a little 00:37:48.909 --> 00:37:51.369 nervous because I didn't know either one of them 00:37:51.369 --> 00:37:54.110 and they're kind of in that realm of people where 00:37:54.110 --> 00:37:57.809 I'm following them because I want to be them 00:37:57.809 --> 00:38:00.590 or I want to adopt parts of their mindset, right? 00:38:01.269 --> 00:38:04.750 So really looking forward to that for you. Also 00:38:04.750 --> 00:38:08.590 on my YouTube channel, Life's Next Lesson Plan, 00:38:08.789 --> 00:38:12.269 we just picked up our camper yesterday as of 00:38:12.269 --> 00:38:15.019 recording this. I'm actually recording this one 00:38:15.019 --> 00:38:17.079 in my car because it's early in the morning and 00:38:17.079 --> 00:38:20.320 I didn't want to wake anybody up but I did if 00:38:20.320 --> 00:38:22.260 it was a little warmer although I could have 00:38:22.260 --> 00:38:24.960 turned on the fireplace and the camper I did 00:38:24.960 --> 00:38:28.059 think about recording in there and I will I think 00:38:28.059 --> 00:38:30.900 do a lot of episodes in there because it is super 00:38:30.900 --> 00:38:34.699 comfy and cozy and a little bit you know nicer 00:38:34.699 --> 00:38:37.920 than just sitting in my car to get away from 00:38:37.920 --> 00:38:40.139 people but right now the campers in our driveway 00:38:40.139 --> 00:38:42.440 I guess when it's in storage that'll be a little 00:38:42.440 --> 00:38:45.300 bit harder to do but anyway all of that to say 00:38:45.300 --> 00:38:48.500 that I will have some footage now on my YouTube 00:38:48.500 --> 00:38:51.539 channel about the camper and I have a whole playlist 00:38:51.539 --> 00:38:55.519 there on not only counting down my last let's 00:38:55.519 --> 00:38:58.579 see tomorrow will be 32 days left of teaching 00:38:59.440 --> 00:39:01.920 The kids noticed that I'm starting to take things 00:39:01.920 --> 00:39:04.039 off the wall and it's starting to look a little 00:39:04.039 --> 00:39:07.679 bit more bare in the classroom. So I have that 00:39:07.679 --> 00:39:11.219 countdown on YouTube, but I also have my empty 00:39:11.219 --> 00:39:15.099 nest playlist on there, which involves all things 00:39:15.099 --> 00:39:17.679 transitioning to an empty nest, which is what 00:39:17.679 --> 00:39:21.179 we've talked about today. So lots of places to 00:39:21.179 --> 00:39:23.659 connect with me and I meant what I said today. 00:39:24.400 --> 00:39:27.500 I'm thinking about you. even if you don't know 00:39:27.500 --> 00:39:31.059 it, even if I don't know you yet, and I worry 00:39:31.059 --> 00:39:34.280 about you, I care about you, I know we all have 00:39:34.280 --> 00:39:37.320 to weather our storms in our own way, but please, 00:39:37.480 --> 00:39:39.440 please, please don't ever feel like you don't 00:39:39.440 --> 00:39:43.440 have someone to go to. We'll see you again next 00:39:43.440 --> 00:39:43.739 week.