Hello, hello, hello. Welcome back, you guys.
I hope you miss me. I miss you, family. I hope
you guys week has been going great because the
weekend is here. So lovely Saturday. I hope your
Saturday is going good. You are back with me.
I am back with you. Your favorite life coach,
me, Cecile, is here. Shit, that's just like podcasts.
We're back, people. Episode 87, I'm ready to
get into it. I miss you all. I miss venting to
you all. I miss being here on a daily, on a daily
paces. I'm preparing to bring back the content,
though. So, I miss you all because I'm ready
to get back into the content part of these episodes,
but... Have to be patient because I have to order
things and the delivery is not the next day So
I have to be patient Okay, but I had a good weekend
you guys Your girl went to her first business
Seminar out here in the UK. I'm so proud of myself
I'm proud of myself for getting up early and
going making it on time Enjoying the people now
I loved everything they were saying, and it kind
of resonated with what I'm doing, you know? It
definitely let me know, it gave me confirmation
that the things that I have in my planning journal,
I'm on the right track. That's what it let me
know. It also let me know that that business
expo, Those people were about to charge $3 ,600
just to follow the same plan that I have in my
journal. So it's good that I went out there,
and it's good that I was able to mingle next
time I will be staying longer, because I should
have stayed longer. My boyfriend beat me up about
that. He was like, you should have stayed until
the whole thing is over. He's right. But a part
of me was just feeling like it's time to go.
So I left. I left pretty early, but I also stayed
long enough. Like if you ask me 9 to noon, that's
pretty long because the seminar was literally
from 9 to 5. That's literally a 8 hour shift
and nobody's getting paid. I don't know if I
can do that. So I enjoyed the seminar once I
was able to conclude what the business really
wanted from Us the civilians. I was like, okay,
I love the business expo Love what you guys are
trying to do in the uk, but I just don't have
the 3600 to hand out to you right here right
now I really don't But on the other note here,
um, your girl is back in the gym I'm back on
my health is wealth journey. I never left it,
but now I'm taking it more I'm cranking it up.
I'm taking it on a higher level. I'm doing my
app workouts like crazy Leg workouts. I'm gonna
have apps this summer. That's not a question.
I'm gonna have my app showing all my content
No, but I'm gonna have apps. I'm I'm aiming to
have a nice Six pack. I don't know. I don't know
what kind of pack is gonna be but I'm ready for
my body to be banging. Once again, the gym progress,
the fitness progress, the journey, I am looking
well. I'm looking very, very good. I can do not,
but I'm going to keep going. That's what I tell
myself. I'm determined to keep going. OK. I don't
know if you all have been turning on your Netflix
channel and I'm just switching topics here. I'm
sorry, but I'm switching topics. Netflix has
almost everything now. They have the documentaries.
They have the podcasts. They're two seconds from
having porn on their show. Netflix is providing
it all. I'm not mad at Netflix. As much as I
am on the side of saying not one person should
have power to everything, I'm not upset about
Netflix having access to everything. Now there
are pros and cons because I have family members
that are young that may have access to you know
Netflix and if we all have the same account all
it takes is for you to go on to Switch users,
you know what I'm saying? If you switch users
now, they like watching when I was just watching
That's that's the con in all of this. That's
what I'm I'm not okay with that's the thing they
need to be able to get something separate for
the children. Because if that's the case, if
Netflix is going to have everything, this needs
to be PG. Like, if they're going to have everything,
this can't be PG. These people, they better have
some type of lock on this so these children are
not out here taking the next step and watching
Netflix, watching everything on Netflix like
the adults are. I'm going to hope. there's a
safety plan for the children. That's all I'm
just going to say, you guys. But, you all, I
do have a topic I want to talk about. I'm going
to switch it up and get right into it. Okay?
Okay. Now, the next topic I would like to talk
about is Mrs. Baku Abbey. I think that's how
you say her name. Basically, that is R. Kelly's
daughter. She shares how she coped while her
family faced public controversy. And I'm going
to let you guys hear the audio clip that she
speaks on and she was on Reginae Carter's podcast.
So I'll let you guys hear the audio clip. And
of course, yes, you will hear my personal opinion
after we hear the audio clip. So stay near your
seats. Don't go anywhere and just listen closely.
Okay. All right. The audio clip is playing now.
Well, one, I'm going to get a camera when I say
this. Please don't. I love my father, OK? It's
a big misconception that there is hate or animosity
towards him. It's none of that. At the end of
the day, I went through what I went through.
My family went through what they went through.
And I'm going to hold people accountable. However,
that does not reflect how I feel about that man.
I love my dad. support him as the artist that
he is, but as a human being, you have a responsibility
to uphold, and that's that. Your family was tied
to this controversy. I just want to know, how
was your mental? Like, what did you do to...
yourself yeah I think I'm honestly I'm still
learning I'm learning different coping mechanisms
and like what is actually the healthiest for
me I think is no secret at all that I've definitely
struggled with like mental health substance abuse
now to be clear we're not talking hard drugs
i'm talking weed and alcohol like let's start
there but at the end of the day at certain points
in my life that was definitely something i struggled
with like for real though um and that was the
way that i was coping through but i think more
than anything i try my best to just keep my focus
on god like i don't know what your spiritual
beliefs are but i 100 believe in the lord okay
okay so you guys heard it you guys heard the
audio clip so now from my own personal review
here i can say i do agree that there are multiple
ways of coping multiple coping mechanisms i do
think sometimes we just got to explore different
ones because what works for one person doesn't
work for the next I'm glad that she's taking
her mental health serious, especially considering
that her family was at the forefront and first
page. All her business was out there. So I can
only imagine what that did to her mental. So
I'm glad that she's focusing on that. And that
is something that we all need to do, especially
not just. celebrities and artists and celebrities'
children. No, anyone that finds themselves in
a pickle or their family is going through rough
patches and it starts to affect their mental.
Take a break. Go through the different steps.
Try different methodisms that will help your
brain and help your mental stay intact. Don't
be afraid to try different stuff because And
that doesn't always mean drugs, baby. Okay. You
can try drawing, going out for walks, reading.
It's always multiple healthy ways. Getting out
there, being more proactive is just always healthy
ways to get out there and try to really keep
that mental intact, especially if you want a
loved one to one that's nearly very close to
your heart is going through things. I know that
that can affect one person. I know from First
hand experience. Okay, but my family starts to
go through things and then they start to call
me Maybe I start to stress but I don't stress
too hard because then I always tell myself do
not stress over things You cannot control so
anything I can't control I don't stress over
but I will still a prayer I will send whatever
help I can but Over stretching over stretching
myself out over overthinking overdoing anything
I Try not to overdo it. No not anymore. I used
to go full -blown fledge out nowadays I'm like
dope protect my peace. I'll send a prayer I'll
send you multiple Suggestions and advice in different
different avenues towards making your mental
health better I'll send you a lot of suggestions.
Hey girl. Try this go here Hey, have you ever
done this? Would you be ever be willing to try
something like this? I will switch it up, but
that's just my personal view. Okay I'm glad you
guys were able to tune in today and Listen to
me your favorite life coach Go on and on and
just broadcast and tell you guys what's going
on out there in the world And I'm glad you were
able to listen to my personal opinion. All right.
Thank you for tuning in every day on that note
I will leave you guys with the business expo
audio that I did go to. Like I said, when I went,
they were saying some very good things. They
were saying things people need to hear. You might
even hear some things that you heard before,
but make sure you listen through the whole pod.
This is things we need to hear as entrepreneurs,
as young people that are trying to get out there
into the world and take our business to a whole
nother level. These are the talks that we should
be having. So I'll let you guys hear the audio
clip. Like I stated, this was episode 87. Thank
you for tuning in every day. Of course, before
I leave out with the audio clip, I'm going to
leave you with a piece of advice because what
kind of life coach would I be if I didn't leave
you with a piece of advice? OK, so with that
being said, my good people, piece of advice.
Consistency wins because it's not what you do
once in a while that matters. It's what you do
every day. And on that note, stay close, keep
your ears to the speakers, keep on the podcast
because the audio clip from the business expo
is starting now. Thank you for tuning in. Success
without fulfillment is the ultimate failure.
By the way, said with love, no judgment, if you're
not taking notes, you will retain three times
more information and you will be five times more
likely to take action on the information provided
if you make notes. It's not for me, you know,
it's not school, you don't have to do, but I'm
telling you, if you want to retain this information,
I highly recommend that you make notes. Not for
me, I'm going to change my life, but it will
change yours. Now let me explain the quote. Let
me ask you this. If you master social media and
you get loads of leads, more than you can ever
possibly imagine, you're like, oh my god, we've
got more leads than we've ever had. But those
leads don't translate into sales. Is that real
success? Yes or no, team? Participate with me,
team. Yes or no? Let's imagine that you get loads
of leads and you turn them into sales and you
turn them into revenue. The seasoned entrepreneurs
that know the answer to this. That revenue does
not translate into profit. Is that real success?
Yes or no? Revenue is vanity. Profit is sanity.
Let's imagine that you get revenue into profit.
You're now number one in your industry in space.
You're now award -winning. You're now the top
dog, the guru in your industry. And now the people
that you love complain they don't see you anymore.
Is that real success? Yes or no team? No. Yes
or no team? No. Trust me, it's not. or you're
crushing it in business and now your doctor tells
you if you don't slow down a little bit, you
might have a stroke or a heart attack. Is that
real success? It's mercy. So what that means
to you is success without fulfillment is your
ultimate failure. You need to be really clear.
Social media is not why you're here. You're here
for what it can do for you. Be really clear about
that. The reason I'm going so hard on that straight
out of the game is because a mentor did this
on me once. He said, what are you really here?
And I just gave him the honor of learning a bit
of that story. He was like, no. And because we
had a rapport and a relationship, I was willing
to tell him the real answer. I said, well, if
you want the real answer, I said, it goes back
to my childhood. I've already told you. Raised
on a council estate in Birmingham. Raised by
my mum, single parent. My mother and dad broke
up and got a rapport. My mum and I, any given
time, went through jobs. My mum didn't get to
come to school, plays. Didn't watch me play football
or was working. Naively as a kid, I assumed if
your mom's got three jobs, financially, you're
probably doing alright. Anybody that's had an
upbringing like that knows that's obviously not
the case. We probably ran out of pay -as -you
-go electric tokens at least once a week. We
were broke. So as a kid growing up, I made a
decision. I said, when I grow up, so I don't
grow up, yeah, you don't grow up. I said, when
I grow up, I want to make sure I have two things.
One, financial freedom. And the second one more
important than that, time freedom. Here's why.
You can't always make more money, T, but you
can't make more time. Anybody in the room that's
lost a loved one knows the thing or two about
that. So know this thing, you're not here on
social media, you're here for what it can do
for you. Be really clear about that. Second point,
once we know what it is that we want, next thing
we've got to do, is we've actually got to get...
The right knowledge, the right skills, the right
resources to get us to where we want to get to.
This is where we now need to know what is the
right marketing, because really social media
is marketing. What is the right marketing to
you fellows? Oh you didn't hear that, okay sorry.
Got me carried away there. You need to know the
right marketing to get to your outcome. We call
this the marketing recipe, let me explain. Isn't
it true, team, that all the recipe is is ingredients
and an order and sequence in which to mix those
ingredients. That's nice. If you mix the ingredients
in the right order, you get the right result.
If you mix the ingredients in the wrong order,
you get my wife's banana bread, and that's the
story for another day. That joke just fell in
my head. Here's the thing, team. When it comes
to social media, it's like a recipe. Right now,
you know what you know, you know what you don't
know, but you don't know what you don't know.
There's a mouthful for you on a Friday morning.
Let me explain what I mean. Participate, we'll
be honest to you. When you learn to drive, those
of you that don't drive will still get the point.
When you learn to drive, do you have to get an
instructor to teach you? Yes or no? Yes. Who
said no? Make them around your streets. Get in
the train. When you learn social media, do you
have to get an instructor to teach you? Yes or
no? Yes. No. No. The answer's no. Thank you for
those of you that said yes. I know he wants us
to say yes. No. The answer is no. You don't have
to be an instructor. You can figure it out for
yourself. And that's why many of you in this
room may be having to figure it out here. Because
you've been trying to do it for yourself. Trying
to figure everything out for yourself. And why
would you get an instructor when you don't have
to? Of course. Of course you would try and figure
it out for yourself. And just so you know, trying
to figure it out for myself, that used to be
me. Posting, posting, posting, posting, getting
nowhere fast. Then I went to an event similar
to this. In Birmingham, there was a guy on stage
that day, a social media event. His name was
Chris Black. I now call him Coach Chris. We're
good friends now. And Coach Chris was talking
about the power of social media. And he was saying,
stop doing this, do more of this, and you'll
be successful. And there was an opportunity that
day to invest in coaching with Coach Chris at
the end of that event. There was an opportunity
that day to go to the back of the room and invest
in Coach Chris's social media training. Of course
there was. I wasn't naive enough to think there
wouldn't be that opportunity. It was a bloody
free event. So I had a decision to make that
day. Do I keep trying to figure everything out
for myself? Or do I take the help and support
that's being offered? Do you want to know what
my first response was? First response was this.
I'm not doing it. Let me tell you why that was
my first response. It goes back to my childhood.
My mum's advice to me as a kid, Miles, don't
rely on other people because your dad left. Figure
everything out for yourself. Good advice, because
it makes me very independent, but it also makes
me very guided to help and support. Just so you
know, team, not everybody's out to get you. Just
so you know. So after checking with my intuition,
that's the same way to my next point. I went
to the back of the room that day. I enrolled
in Coach Chris's social media training. A thousand
pound investment that day turned into £464 ,000
in 18 months. Good decision, yes or no team?
Yes. Yes or no team? Yes. Yes or no team? Yes.
Yes or no team? Yes. Yes or no team? Yes. Yes
or no team? Yes. Yes or no team? Yes. Yes or
no team? Yes. Yes or no team? Yes. Yes or no
team? Yes. Yes or no team? Yes. Yes or no team?
Yes. Yes or no team? Yes. Yes or no team? Yes.
Yes or no team? Yes. Yes or no team? Yes. Yes
or no team? Yes. Yes or no team? Yes. Yes or
no team? Yes or no team? Yes. Yes or no team?
Yes. Yes or no team? Yes or no team? Yes or no
team? Yes. Yes or no team? Yes or no team? Yes.
Yes or no team? Yes or no team We're going to
be your instructors here today. We're going to
teach you when to accelerate, when to break,
and everything in between in accordance with
social media. Would it help you if we were your
instructors today? Yes or no, team? Yes! And
that's what we're going to do here today. Next
point. Next point. Let's assume then that we
know what it is we want. Let's assume then that
we now know that there is a specific marketing
recipe that we need to follow. If we don't do
this next thing, we are still not going to get
to where we want to get to. So the next thing,
the most obvious thing of them all, is we have
to take action. But not any other action team.
We've got to take what I call good action. Let
me explain what I mean. Every single one of you
in this room has an intuition, an instinct that's
telling you what to do and what not to do. Here's
the challenge. Rookie entrepreneurs hear the
intuition, but they don't always follow it. Here's
why. Because the brain is more powerful than
the intuition. Here's the problem, though. The
brain doesn't know the difference between rational
fear and irrational fear. Let me explain. Rational
fear. Participate in the honesty. You're in a
zoo, and hear a zookeeper shout over your shoulder.
Here's another option. You're in the middle of
Middlesbrough and your intuition is telling you
to go live on Facebook and you don't because
there's people around and you get a little bit
scared. Do you understand that that is irrational
fear and there's no actual line that can jump
out and kill you? Yes or no team? Yes. Do you
understand the difference? Here's the problem
though. The brain doesn't know the difference.
So how do we override that? That fear of failure,
that fear of rejection, that fear of what all
people think, how do we override it? Mel Robbins
wrote a great book on this many years ago, it's
called Five Seconds of War, if you haven't read
it, I've just seen the book, Five Seconds. She
basically said, the next time your intuition
tells you to do something, you've got five seconds.
to take action on your intuition telling you
what to do. Because if you don't, you'll stay
where you are. So the difference between a rookie
entrepreneur and a successful entrepreneur is
rookie entrepreneurs hear the intuition and don't
act on it out of fear. Successful entrepreneurs
hear the intuition and they know if their intuition
is telling them to do it, they must do it. I
guarantee every single one of you in this room
has had the experience where your intuition has
told you to do something, and you haven't done
it, and made no reflection of this and regret
that. Like a few years ago, it was happening
in Las Vegas for a work thing, my wife calls
it a holiday, it was a work thing. It was a bit
of a holiday. The evening after the event, there
was a drinks reception. So I went out. Now, there
was a group of us. Half of the group had committed
all in. Following all in, They're going, they've
paid for it, and there's space that's still available
since Skyline went to the Grand Canyon. Half
the other group stayed up a little bit later
to drink. That was me. I stayed out of the group.
My larval didn't go off, and I missed the bus
at dawn, 4am, to go to the Grand Canyon to Skyline.
I now have some regret about that. I did the
morning after because I missed that opportunity.
Now I have since skydived. There was a report
of us. No offence if you reported us, but it
ain't the grand canyon, right? Do you get the
point? Yes, I do. My intuition was telling me
go to bed, Myles. This is a once in a lifetime,
Myles. You've never skydived before, and here's
your opportunity to do it in an amazing place.
I missed the opportunity. You're all with me
so far, isn't it? So here's what you've got to
do. The next time your intuition tells you to
do something, you've got to act on it. Now the
good thing is, when you start to do it more often,
your intuition grows like a muscle. So I was
at an event a few years ago, similar to the event
I spoke about with Coach Chris, but this time
it's a big event in London, Earl's Court, 2 ,000
people, called the National Achievers' Congress.
And the headline speaker was Richard Branson.
I was really excited, right? Big fan of Richard
Branson. There was a guy speaking at the end
of day one. His name was Coach Andy. Coach Andy
was talking about when you learn how to speak,
when you learn how to communicate better, you
can help a lot more people and earn a lot more
money and a lot less time. I was like, I like
the sound of that. Here's why that was significant
for me. Because you know the business I've just
told you about, £1 ,000 in, £464 ,000 out? That
business, a sales training business for gyms
and health clubs, that's my background because
my mom ran a gym or mentioned that, that business
required me to travel all over the country three,
four days a week to earn a day rate of £3 ,000
a day. Wow, some of you, £3 ,000 a day, sounds
good. Yeah, it was good financially, but it wasn't
good from a time point of view. because I have
to travel all over the country to earn those
day rates. Are you guys with me? Yes or no? Yes.
So what that means is, this is why I went so
hard at the beginning of the day, is you can
always make more money if you can't make more
time. So if you think your goal is to make more
money, you're wrong. Because if you make more
money, you don't have the time that's irrelevant.
If you can't spend time with the people you love.
Are you guys with me? Yes or no? Yes. So Coach
Andy's talking about this opportunity, and it's
clearly teaching me how I could speak to more
people in one go. and do more of what I do with
my business, but have a lot more time to myself,
and to my family, and to my wife and my children.
I had the decision to make that then, because
Coach Andy, at that National Achievers' Congress,
obviously, bless you, obviously, there was an
opportunity to go to the back of the room again,
free of bed, wasn't naive enough to think there
wouldn't be, to enroll in Coach Andy's presenting
training. 3 ,000 pound investment. This time
I listened to regulation straight away. Went
to the bank, enrolled in his training. £3 ,000
investment that day. That's turning to £2 million
in sales so far. Was that a good investment?
Was that a good decision? Yes, Murphy? Absolutely.
That changed my freaking life. Not so much from
a financial point of view, but more from a time
point of view. It gave me time back. Here's what
it also did. That's had a positive knock -on
effect to my family in a way you can never possibly
imagine. One of my children, Sage, is six years
old. And Sage recently was at school, and her
teacher, Mrs. O 'Kane, said to the class, children,
I don't know why I'm doing a Victorian accent
for Mrs. O 'Kane. Leave the acting alone, guys.
Leave the acting alone. Children, who'd be willing
to help them in the next part of the presentation?
Now, I tell myself, Sage, you're up in five seconds,
because it sounds fair as a story, because I've
just told you the whole five -second rule thing,
right? Anyway, Sage gets up, helps Mrs. O 'Kane
with the presentation, does it, all the other
kids give her a little, right, Sage sits back
down, after school I pick her up, we scoot her
in home, and I said to her, because Mrs. O 'Kane
had told me what Sage did, Sage, how did you
have the courage to get up and do that in front
of the class? Honestly, proper improvisation,
at last, what are you doing today? So here's
the thing, if you're not going to fulfil your
true potential for you, Do it for the people
that you love. I want to give you a shortcut,
T. Do you want a shortcut to just figure all
this stuff out? So just tell me straight, yes
or no? Yes! Look around this room just for a
minute. Don't look at anybody too long, they
can freak him out. Do you know what this room
is? This room is what I call the judgment freezer.
Let me explain what I mean. Out there in the
global world, after Harry Potter... People out
there may judge you for going for your dream.
For going big, for dreaming big, for wanting
to fulfill your true potential. Out there, people
may judge you. Not in here. Because isn't it
true, team, that every single one of you in this
room, although you are independent, different
and unique, you're all here because you want
to take your life and all your business to the
next level. Yes or no, team? Yes! Yes or no,
team? Yes! So, here's number one. Number one
is spend more time with people like you. Jim
Roane has a saying for this, who you spend time
with is who you become. Spend more time with
people like you. Spend more time with people
like you. People at the same level of ambition
as you. Similar level of drive as you. Similar
level of passion as you. Similar level of positivity
as you. Because if you don't, you'll be dragged
back by the people that don't. Jim Roane said
it best, who you spend time with is who you become.
Miles Grant said, if you spend time with five
successful ambitious people, you'll be the sixth.
If you spend time with five whiny negative people
like idiots, you'll be the same. Thank you. Alright?
So who do you spend time with as you become?
Second point is you want to spend time with people
that are more successful than you. Here's why
this is important. If you're the smartest person
in the room, you are in the wrong room. If you're
the fittest person in your group, you're in the
wrong group. If you've got the most wealth in
your group, you're in the wrong group. Your ego
will hate being the dumbest person in the room,
but your bank balance will love it. Because there's
no growth if you're the smartest person in the
room, where the growth is, is by spending time
with people that are better than you. Case in
point, you've all heard of Usain Bolt this night,
the runner, right? Fall into this, I watched
a documentary on him recently, he's 14 years
old, it's not that old, he was. And he was the
fastest 14 -year -old in Jamaica. So he's fast,
right? And his trainer gets him a lane to go
to the Olympic stadium in Kingston to race against
the men that were getting ready for the next
Olympics. Look to this, little Usain, lane 8,
and all these drogue men ready for the next Olympics.
The crowd goes wild. Usain's running as fast
as he can, runs through the finish line, dead
last. Gets back on the bus. Gets in the minivan,
sits in the back of the minivan. Salking. Why's
he salking, Tim? Because he can't last, because
he's used to winning. His trainer turns around,
in the front of the minima, looks at him, and
I'm not going to use the trainer's accent because
my grandmother from Jamaica will tell you he's
great. His trainer turns around and looks at
him and says, you say, that's why we need to
start racing against boys now, and start racing
against men. The rest is history, right? Who
you spend time with is who you become. Every
single one of you needs to spend more time with
people like you, and you need to spend more time
with people that are more successful than you,
because that's how you move to the next level.
You've never been there before. You need people
to pull you up. It's easier that way. A great
example of this from me in my life, aside from
the two examples I've given you, Coach Chris
and Coach Andy, is Adam Stuck. Raise your hand
if you've heard of Adam Stuck, by the way. Okay,
so Adam is the founder of Big Business Entrepreneurs.
Adam was on Rich House, Paul House. Adam was
at Nega Run with Richard Branson a few weeks
ago. Adam shared the stage with Al Pacino, John
Travolta, Floyd Mayweather, Randy Zuckerberg,
you made him, right? Incredible entrepreneur.
After initially being annoyed by the fact that
Adam's the same age as me and considerably more
successful, after getting over myself about that,
I've realised that if I spend more time with
people like Adam, that's probably going to have
a positive impact on me. You with me, yes or
no? Yes. So anyway, it is my duty to shamelessly
put Adam's book, Millionaire Success Secrets,
right, which is on Amazon, which you can get
it, everything that Adam's, you know, Adam's
brain is in this book. Highly recommend that
you get it, it's on Amazon, it's really, really
good. Now. Team, is it alright if I use the F
word today? Yes. So, I wonder if you can turn
around and face me at the back of the room. Based
on everything that I've just said to you about
judgment, free zone, good action, five second
rule, follow your intuition when you tell you
to do something, as I dangle this book out here
now, what is your intuition telling you to do?
So why are you not setting us to grub it?