Good morning Hey, hey, hey Welcome back episode
81 of shit. That's just life with your favorite
life coach here. We are here people Mm -hmm.
We're here on this lovely Lovely Wednesday all
the way from the United Kingdom. I am here. I
hope you guys are listening any of our British
folks. I hope you're listening, okay? It's a
lovely Wednesday. The sun is shining. Mm -hmm.
No birds are chirping, but the sun is shining.
All right? I'm ready to get into it. There's
a lot on the agenda today, but I just needed
to say we're at episode 81. Mm -hmm. We're here.
I'm proud of myself. I am proud of myself for
getting this far, for being consistent, just
proud of myself. Yes, new girl has went shopping.
It's just so much to get into. So a life update
is coming, of course, but I just wanted to start
off the intro by saying good morning love. So
let's get started. Welcome back episode 81. We're
here. Let's get into it. I'm ready Let's get
it started. Hi. Let's get it started. Hey Okay,
so let's do a life update first shall we we shall
okay, so Me again, I went shopping yesterday
Mm -hmm. There is a lovely outlet over here in
the UK and Your girls stopped by Mac cosmetics.
Mm -hmm had to Get me some more consume concealer
Also needed to give me some more serum for my
face for my morning routine and my night routine
on the face. Also, your girl had to stop at Victoria's
Secret. Now, they were trying to sell your girl
inside of Mac. I'm talking about every time,
everywhere, every place. They were trying to
sell me something. I bought too much, but...
I was there to get the things that I needed and
I got what I needed. I probably bought two extra
things that was not on my list. I did need them,
but they just wasn't on my list. Sometimes you
don't know what you need until you get to the
store. So I got to the store, got what I needed,
got the other two things that were not on the
list, and walked out feeling lovely. The outlet
over here is huge. And I'm glad I was able, everything
was just in a walking distance. So I was able
to just hit the next door, hit the next door.
Went into Victoria's Secret. We call that Victoria
Don't Tell Nobody out there in Missouri, United
States in Missouri. We call it Victoria Don't
Tell Nobody. So we went there. I went there and
I got me some strapless bras because I have a
wedding anniversary party to attend. The colors
are black and white, so your girl had to get
ready. Yeah, I have to be fashionably ready,
of course. So I'm excited. I'm so excited about
this event. It's coming up on Saturday. Today
is Wednesday. So I'll be potting in the morning
on Saturday before all the activities get to
festering. I'll probably try to record Friday
night because it would be so many activities
on Saturday. But outside of that, Your girl has
finished the home. The home is lovely. With the
decoring, I finished everything. I had to move
some things out, arrange some things before I
actually get to slap some colors on some things.
But everything is completely done when it comes
to organizing. Now it's time for the aesthetics.
Okay, now it's time for the Virgo to shine. It's
time for me to shine on the aesthetics as well.
I'm ready. I'm ready. I'm ready. Like seriously.
I put in so much work to help organize everything.
I'm ready to see what the aesthetics will look
like once we slap these bad boys on in every
room. I need to see what this is going to be.
Like I'm ready to do me a nice bubble bath. the
aesthetics going give me a wooden tray for the
bath wait i'm ready to relax on a whole nother
level i'm so excited like you guys don't even
you don't even understand how excited i am the
fact that we got so far on this decorating on
this organizing first just oh baby let's put
ourselves on the back i'm so excited but outside
of that people It's been a lovely, lovely time
this week besides working and all that. So after
going shopping, after organizing the home, I
then found time to work out. So I went to the
gym yesterday, two -hour session, had to get
in there. Like I said, I have a wedding anniversary
party. that I need to attend. So I have to be
looking the parts. I need to be filling the parts.
I know there will be lots of food. So I need
to be gaining weight afterwards, but I need to
be losing weight first. Okay. So I am in the
gym. I'm hoping to get back in the gym a few
days before the anniversary party. So that's
just what's going on with me. A little life update
with me. Home is ready. I'm ready. I've bought
so much makeup it makes no sense. But I got some
good lip liner. So I think that's all that matters.
So outside of that, life has just been good so
far. Praying every day, waking up, feeling grateful,
having good meals at night. Life has been pretty
good. It really has. So with that being said,
of course, I'm going to shake it up and get into
some topics here people. So the first topic that
I would like to get into is about the girl Lala
that was just unfortunately murdered by her boyfriend.
So I have an auto clip. that you can hear so
you can get a little more information you can
hear what i'm talking about maybe go turn on
the news or get on your shade room on your instagram
tune in but for now sit back relax just listen
to the audio clip let's switch it up here people
all right stay in your seats sit back the audio
clip is playing now murdered by her man This
popular TikToker, known for her lavish wigs,
shot a Tesla parked nearby, caught it on camera.
Did you see that video? I didn't. It's too traumatizing.
Police say it was her boyfriend who pulled the
trigger. You can't trust every man that you see
and meet. Social media outraged. Were the signs
there? Of course my boyfriend made me mad. I
had to buy a hug. The former college football
player at the center of a murder investigation.
I like women. in trans limit. It's called being
trans -attracted. And now the family making headlines
themselves at odds over what Girl La La La should
be wearing at her own funeral. I ain't attending
no funeral with my son that God gave to me as
a boy in no wig. I'm Justin Carter and this is
TSR Investigates. But before we get in toward
roommates, for more TSR Investigates, make sure
you go ahead and like this video and subscribe
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episodes of this show. and more. This is the
kind of stuff that as trans folks we're always
telling people that we have to be aware of that
we can be killed especially by people that we
know and sometimes by people that we say we love.
The news has not only rocked the trans community
but Girl La La La's nearly half million followers
on social media. This happened on November 14th
in Lauderdale Lakes Florida and just as the sun
had set a 911 call, someone frantically asking
for help. In fact, it was a suspect, 25 -year
-old Shanoid White Jr., who police say moments
before had shot his transgender girlfriend and
influencer, 21 -year -old Maurice Harrison, also
known as Girl La La La. What he didn't know at
the time, that there was a Tesla recording the
entire encounter just a few doors down. Stay
on the phone with me, OK? Yes, hello? At this
point, the damage had already been done. You
can hear someone even moaning in the background.
According to court records, Shanoid White Jr.
told investigators he got into an argument with
Girl La La La and there was a fight in his car
over a gun that he had. But video from a neighbor's
Tesla appears to show White get out of the car
with the gun in his hand as he races over to
the passenger side and if you look close girl
la la la her limp body slumps outside of the
door white seems to pull her up by her hair to
then get her back into the car I don't know why
the shade room always sounds like the first 48
but let's get into it my opinion first so hearing
that clipped and just getting that piece of information
crazy the fact that it was her own boyfriend
he or she yes it was their own boyfriend and
i'm just baffled that the boat the police says
her boyfriend mr shea shea on white is now being
charged with first degree murder with the fire
uh firearm um killing someone and then calling
when after the killing is done like that's something
you see on a movie that is supposed to be fake
not real this is crazy baffling that the fact
that he called the police without telling them
the full story um Yeah, well, I'm glad that he
called the police and didn't just do his due
diligence of wanting to murder someone and just
leaving. So I'm glad he actually called for help.
But it is upsetting that it was your own spouse,
your own partner. It's just like you can't really
trust who you land in a bed with all the time.
Guess not. Or you just can't trust anybody. But
specifically in this case, it looks like you
can't really trust who you're in in the bed with.
That's why I always advise people for life decisions.
Continue to get to know folks. Every day somebody
wakes up feeling different and please don't paint
those red flags purple. Okay? Like, it's just
not healthy painting red flags purple. Like,
this is crazy. The story itself is crazy. both
of the parties were young, so it's crazy. One
was 21 year old, Maurice Harrison, also known
as Girl La La, was 21. Like, 21? People are hardly
making it past 21 nowadays, I'm noticing. Like,
that is the age where people are just, things
are becoming lights off when it shouldn't be.
You know, so it's just, it's very unfortunate
here. Also reading it says, loved ones and advocates
are speaking out about the warning signs of abuse,
the ongoing violence against transgender and
black women, and the family disputes over how
the honor girl la la identity, identity, identity.
So they were the family itself was arguing about.
the transgender's identity, which I think is
just so crazy because the baby has already passed
away. However, the baby wanted to be remembered
on Earth, let her be remembered just like this.
Like, it's not that deep. It's really not that
deep. The deep part is the fact that the girl
has passed away. Girlala has passed away. That's
the part. that you guys should be stuck on. Not
whether she should be in a wig, in some makeup,
in some concealer. It's not that deep. It really
isn't. It really isn't. And if the girl Lala
was here, you guys wouldn't even be having this
problem. But if the girl Lala was here, I'm pretty
sure she would want to be remembered in how she
was on her daily, how she was feeling, in her
baddie style. Period. Like, it's just not that
deep for you guys to want to have a dilemma over
how someone should be buried when they're already
passed away at 21. Like, I think that says enough.
Let the child be the child. stop fighting over
the identity this is crazy but that's just the
first topic of the day this is a lovely wednesday
again this is the news that you get on a hump
day but like i said stop arguing people life
decision after somebody passed away is just let
them be who they were okay let them flourish
let their soul rest all the arguing and bickering
like the like the baby didn't just pass away
like this girl just passed away oh goodness it's
just crazy but i'm gonna move on because girl
la la my condolences go out to the family prayers
to that soul of girl la la's and like i said
the most important thing that should be focused
is just having a proper funeral nothing else
Making sure everything comes together when it
comes to the funeral not the identity not the
hair not the nails Just make sure everything
needs to be there Okay Focus on the actual issue,
you know focus on grieving Just take a step back
from all the extra emotions. That's what I would
advise but that's just that's just me as a life
coach here I'm gonna move on move on to the next
topic of course so let's move on over here move
on over here yeah we're gonna move on okay let's
switch it up okay so on another note here switching
it up bringing it back because like i said the
shade room sounds like verse 48 and sometimes
i just need to turn down channel turn off the
channel switch it up okay but I was watching
a video with JT, the city girl, and she was performing
in Orlando, Florida, having a concert there.
But the crowd was just not really reacting to
anything. They were not giving standing ovations,
barely clapping their hands. And I think... She's
really trying to figure out where she stands
in the music station. She even mentioned the
fact that, hey, I don't even know if I'm young
or considered the OG. Like, where do I stand?
She's 33. Her music has had a diverse to it.
She went from, you know, being a city girl outside
to... Dibbing and dabbing in different sounds.
So she's trying to figure out, am I OG? Am I
young? What do I do at 33? I think looking for
club bangers without going extra to the mouth.
So no need to be a city girl anymore. Just be
Jateeva. I think she do good beats and all that
good. good mixes. If I was her, I would just
keep doing a mix. Like, keep being on remixes.
Like, that's just me. I'm not the rapper here,
but I would just keep doing remixes until you
find your niche, until you really get into the
flow of where you want to be recognized. Because,
like she said, she don't know if she's young,
she don't know if she's old. But from the age,
girl, I can tell you, you are young. You're getting
older, but you're young. 33 is young, you're
just getting older. Figuring out her corral.
Typically, I'm gonna say age is 25 and up. Because
after a certain age, you relate to different
people, different mindsets, it will be 25 and
up. I think the crowd she had was either younger
than that, yeah they had to be younger than that,
because she then brought out an artist called
YK. So when she brought out the YK artist, everybody
went crazy. And I know that artist. I know her
music. So everybody went crazy when she came
out, but when JT was out there, JT was trying
to figure out, okay, why is it the crowd not
giving me any reaction? What are we doing here?
So, like I said, as a live coach here at Jateeva,
if you're listening, Jatee, for sure, you need
to just keep doing remixes, I think, until you
figure out what your mission is, what are you
here for when it comes to music again, realigning
with that, how does the music bring you joy,
realigning to that. The diversity was fun, but
now we got to get back to the center of the seed,
which is you. And that takes a while. That's
not something that's done overnight. That's something
you have to, like, focus on yourself, play with
the music, figure out what's your genre, what's
your new crowd, how are you going to shift the
crowd that you do have, shift that audience,
and see if they agree to what you're doing. But
first things first, you got to tune in with yourself.
Tune in with yourself, darling, okay? That's
the advice that I would like to give JT, because...
She seems like she's looking for a life coach.
I'm here. If anybody that's listening and you
guys know the City Girl JT, just let her know
I am giving out advice, okay? She just needs
to focus on herself. That's it. Before she expands
anymore, get back to the root of the seed and
focus on yourself. But that was just a little
something something because I've seen that piece
of news out there, people. This episode, episode
81, will be short. We will not have a long episode
because there's much more shopping I need to
get done before this wedding anniversary. Yes,
I have so much to get done. I tried on some outfits
last night. Now I need to get to the sewing machine
and adjust the dress. So that's just off topic,
but heads up. this topic today's show will be
short. So I'm gonna keep it going. Get ready
to close up the show because I have a little
piece of advice to give to you. Yes, I do. Okay.
Before I give you that piece of advice, I want
you to know a fun fact that I learned about myself
this week is I have to continue to be very emotionally
expressive. Okay, I need to be vocal when it
comes to my emotions because typically I have
to keep things to myself and I assume people
know but they don't and they're not my readers,
so I Will be more vocal when it comes to just
being emotionally expressive towards my partner
my friends my family Vocalizing that hey, I Do
need you of course I need you You know, you're
the best, right? I've had fun with you this time.
You know, different ways. Uh -huh. Yeah, I think
I gotta keep going. But different ways of being
emotionally expressive. Because as I see people's
reactions, they're like, I can't believe you
said that. I never knew you felt that way. And
I'm just like, really? You didn't? Oh, well,
I guess you're not a mind reader. My apologies.
But yes, it takes me a long way. It gets me far
if I continue to be emotionally expressive. And
that's just my goal here. Continue to be emotionally
expressive. With Sebby in today, people, I'm
going to shake it up and give you a piece of
advice and head out of here. Because like I said,
it's a lovely Wednesday. There's so much more
to do, so much more to get into. But we'll end
on that note, OK? So let's do it. It's from your
favorite life coach here, Cecile. The piece of
advice that I will give you is this. If you're
going to overthink, at least overthink all the
ways it could work out in your favor. Okay? The
best scenario in every version of your life that
turns out better than expected. So that's just
the advice I'm going to give to you. Alright,
if you're going to overthink, you better overthink
all the best ways that it can work out in your
favor. Alright, so with that being said, darling,
it was fun. It's feeling good. I love it here.
You love it here. But today was only a short
episode because your girl got to get back out
there and it's a lovely Wednesday. So this was
episode 81 of Shit That's Just Life. You guys
got a little news out of me. I was able to give
you some news. But now I must go. Episode 82
is coming, of course, because we have a wedding
to get ready for. Well, actually, it's a wedding
anniversary. So we have one of those to get for,
get ready for. And I'm going to head out. I have
a few guests coming on the podcast really soon.
So stay tuned. Get ready for the guests, of course.
They'll be coming in the next few episodes. But
for now, au revoir. I love you. adios it's time
to go i have to go love you all thank you for
tuning in god bless prayers and condolences to
any family out there in need anyone going through
funeral arrangements people passing away prayers
and thoughts sent to everyone love you i'm out
of here bye