I'm almost there. Yes, I'm officially 13 days
away, you guys. I'm almost a full freaking civilian
again. I'm almost there. I'm excited. 13 days
before I cloud your whole Instagram, TikTok,
YouTube with my face. Okay. 13 days till you
see nothing but me living eating breathing doing
it all over again living eating breathing exercising
doing it all over again okay i'm ready you guys
welcome back episode 64 with your girl favorite
life coach here cecile cecilia i'm here you guys
what's been going on Okay, I need to know what's
been going on before I really get into my life
update. I hope you guys have been well out there.
I'm excited because I'm 13 days away from moving
to England for a while, okay? 13 days away from
stepping away from the corporate world forever.
13 days away. I'm ecstatic. You can probably
tell hearing it in my voice, but we're about
to get started. This is episode 64 with your
girl, because shit, that's just life. We are
growing every day. We're trying to figure it
out. We're trying to navigate. Baby, I know I
am, but I'm going to get started, okay? Let's
get started. Let's get it started. Let's get
started. So first things first, I'm ready to
be in my man's arms. Yeah, I am. I'm ready to
just lay on him's chest. Lay on him's chest.
Yes, I am. Not his. Not lay on his chest. Him
chest. I'm ready to just be miscombobulated via
words in the presence of me and my man. Okay?
Yes. But my time is not here yet. My time is
not here to shine. Not yet anyway. We're 13 days
away. So until then, I'm still a worker. I'm
still an employee for the government. Yeah, yeah,
yeah. But it's okay because I'm headed out. Like
I said, I already put my two weeks in. So I'm
moving like I understand people, but I got to
go. Just being honest, you know. I had a lovely
journey just learning the system, learning how
to navigate with different people from different
cultures, okay? How to navigate with different
tones. Yeah, every person has a different tone
when they're calling for something. So I have
to navigate through each tone, okay? But you
guys, I'm ready to get into my life update, okay?
So, you guys, my niece on my mom's side, she's
officially a ninth grader. My baby girl is officially
fresh meat, okay? Now, anyone that's listening,
you wish her luck, okay? You wish my baby nothing
but luck, love, pure, okay? Because everybody
that knows, how high school is you know how you're
trying to go in and just observe first sometimes
you get judged for just observing okay you're
trying to see what works for you which friend
group works for you if you're going to be into
your sports this year will you be having more
sporty friends she's gotta get into high school
and really start navigating okay my baby girl
is there and I'm going to wish my baby girl luck.
She was looking very beautiful on her first day.
She's getting ready to just transformation into
a beautiful woman. She's going to make me cry.
She's going to make me cry because she's growing
so fast. But I love it. I love to see my niece
growing. She's traveled for the summer. Now she's
officially preparing to be the fresh meat. of
the year I'm excited for my girl okay if you're
listening girl which I'm sure you're probably
not if you are if your mom lets you listen have
a good first year try your best to see what works
for you really keep tuning into yourself you
know here and there just like you can tune into
other people tune into yourself do I like this
does this make me comfortable Not what everybody
else thinks, but do I enjoy it? You know, that
is my advice to my niece. Turning into fresh
meat as a ninth grader. Hey, if there's any bullies,
you know who to call. I'm not touching nobody
else's kids, but I do got somebody's back. That's
what I'm saying. But you all, outside of my niece,
outside of my niece just going to the ninth grade,
I want to give a special shout out. To the friend
of the pod here, the friend of the show, my friend
Ramirez. Birthday was two days ago, you guys.
Ramirez's birthday was on the 17th. I'm excited
to say my boy is just looking at him getting
grown. Happy birthday, my boy, okay? We will
be going out before I hit England. There will
be a night of drunkness, okay? We will wake up
like, why did we ever do this in the beginning?
Okay. Okay. It's going to be needed. So we're
going to do it. Period. It's not a question.
If you're listening, it's more of a request.
So be ready. Okay. Outside of your birthday,
Ramirez. You guys, I'm just ready to really get
to England. Seriously. I'm soaking in all the
moments that I'm having before I leave. I am
being very observant for everybody because I'm
just being anxious of going to England. So now
whenever I get anxious, I just try to take a
step back and be observant. So I observe every
spectrum of my conversations. So I have Uber
conversations, keeping them going while I'm headed
out of the U .S. I've had conversations with
my twin, conversations with my brothers, my family.
We're all growing. And it's funny, we're all
growing. I'm headed to the UK. What the fudge?
But it's okay. We're here for growth. Growth
does not happen when we want it to happen, but
it does happen. Okay? So I'm here for the growth.
I'm observing the full... Not the opportunity,
but I'm observing the full dynamic of watching
me leave, me say goodbye, friends miss me, the
conversations that we are trying to have before
we disconnect because we're going to be talking,
but not as much. So we're trying to have all
these parties. Okay, girl, we need to plan for
this, this, this. Okay? So I'm observing everything
and watching how we're all just scrambling. before
i get to the uk i'm trying to send down gifts
to my niece because i'm like baby girl once i
get to the uk i'm gonna send the gift but it's
gonna be a minute before i get to the post office
because it's not as close as the one out here
you know it's a lot it's a lot so i'm sending
down gifts to the uk to the us um which is in
kansas city we are in the us i'm tripping i'm
sorry i'm sending gifts to kansas city while
I'm still in the U .S. in Dallas. But you see,
my brain is thinking that we're already in the
U .K. My mouth is hungry for the food out there.
I'm ready to go. But I do have some things I
need to wrap up, meaning I lost my new coach
glasses. I know it sounds stupid, but I did.
Had to reorder them. They're telling me they
won't be here until the 27th. Well, good golly,
the thing, my flight is not booked until the
1st. So, the 27th, I have to stop and grab my
glasses, okay? That's exciting. I just need to
stop losing shit, okay? I'm also going to get
an air tag. I'm going to either look for an air
tag and or an Alexa to put on my glasses. I'm
sick of losing stuff. I need something. Something.
I'm like, there's no way I should be able to
not call my glasses. Something. All this AI,
all this technology. I need something for the
glasses, people. Okay? So I'm going to replace
my glasses, you all. But I'm really wrapping
up. I've also been reading a book. If you guys
read books, I'm not sure if you do. I'm not sure
if you even just listen to the audiobooks. A
book called Way, Way Up There by Curtis Spears.
I want to advise everyone to tune in to that
book. I love reading. I try to read. Well, let
me just stop lying. I love reading, but I just
started back reading. And I'm going to challenge
myself to read at least two books, two to three
books a month. Especially considering I will
not be no longer a corporate worker. I got time.
I have nothing but time to maybe learn a language,
try some new food, keep working out, live life,
paint my toenails, maybe start an argument. I'm
just kidding. No. No, seriously. I have time
to really just sit back, maybe massage my man's
face because we do a lot of face care, skin care,
you know, maybe do that. Maybe he will massage
my face, massage me up. You know, I don't have
nothing but time. I'm ready to go, people. I
think ready to go is me, okay? Whatever, however
capacity you need to hear it. Where is the jet?
Because I don't even want to take the flight
to the airport. I want to just, we need a PJ.
Bring the PJ. to come get me the pj i do not
have bring it bring the pj to come get me so
we can just get to england with no problems clearly
i'm anxious but you guys before i leave you guys
with a lovely surprise of course i always do
i missed you you missed me it is a lovely lovely
wednesday So before I leave you guys with a lovely
surprise, which is an Uber story, of course it
is, before I leave you guys with an Uber surprise,
you guys, hopefully next time you hear from me,
which you won't, I'm lying, you're going to hear
from me, but I know I won't be in the UK the
next time you hear from me, but I'll still be
talking about it. So hopefully I won't be talking
about it, but I can just feel it in my soul right
now. I won't be in the UK by the time I drop
my next episode. I know I won't. So I will not
complain because I'm too old for that. But I'll
read a book, okay? Anytime I'm finding myself
wanting to complain, I pick up a book, okay?
There's nothing to do but lay my butt down, lay
my eyes on some words and start to read whenever
things are not going my way, okay? But shit,
that's just life, you guys. Find a good remedy
for when things are not going your way, okay?
Maybe read a book. Maybe step outside. Take some
breathers in and breathers out. But I know the
birds are chirping. I know that the UK is waiting
for me. I know that my partner is waiting for
me. So I will not try to be so anxious, okay?
And we will give Ramirez another happy birthday.
okay happy birthday Ramirez happy birthday Ramirez
happy birthday Ramirez happy birthday Ramirez
my boy just came back from Italy happy birthday
Ramirez okay I need to hear all about that Italy
trip I'm gonna hope that he bought me a keychain
or something that shows that he truly was in
Italy if he brought nothing back I'm just gonna
say he never went okay that's it but before we
get out of here Thank you for tuning in another
episode with your girl, with your favorite life
coach, Cecile. But before I start the surprise,
okay, you guys, as a government worker today,
let me tell you a story. As a government worker
today, I had to let the VPN disconnect. You're
probably thinking, what does that mean? Well,
if you know what a VPN is, you know, if it disconnects,
there's no connection. Let's just say that. So
I was talking to a civilian. He proceeded to
talk more privileged, more demanding, didn't
want to listen to the actual law. I just didn't
really have it in me like I have had it in me
for the last two years. I didn't have it in me
to keep going back and forth when I'm giving
direction, and you called for direction. So let's
just say the VPN disconnected, okay? And when
it got back connected, they went on over there.
I don't have it in me anymore. I've already input
my two weeks, so I don't feel bad, okay? But
let's just say when you call people and you need
something, folks, watch your tone, okay? Remember,
you're calling them. They're not calling you.
So with that being said, we're going to play
the surprise for the Uber story. Okay? This is
episode 64. Because shit, that's just life. Okay?
Some things you're not supposed to take because
they shouldn't be given out. All right? Meaning
some people should learn how to talk to you when
you've done nothing to them. Not you personally.
So they should not be talking to you crazy personally.
Okay? Let the VPN disconnect. That's all I'm
going to advise you. Because shit, that's just
life. We got to learn. And sometimes we got to
learn the hard way. But I've already put in my
two weeks, so God forbid if anyone's listening,
which I'm sure you are, the Uber story's next.
Hold on to your seats. Uber story's about to
start. get it so i'm not just a podcaster i'm
a life coach oh good for you oh damn so you know
a lot right so it just sounds like you first
off if you're going to give anybody advice first
thing you gotta you gotta remember is that whatever
you know you know based off your journey so you're
not trying to tell them anything you're just
giving them advice tips you get what i'm saying
so i think make it clear first things first i'm
not here to tell anybody how to do their job
second thing second i'm just here to give advice
and or tips so take it or leave it that's all
it is so you gotta have confidence in knowing
that here's my thing You got to work what you
got. And Uber has provided me the opportunity
to work with my kids. Right. And it's not ideally
for other people to work with your kids in the
park. But for me, I saw it as a means to make
a livelihood, take care of my kids, support them.
Especially during the pandemic when nobody was
even willing to open the doors for me for my
kids to watch them. Yeah. And I think, well,
first things first, if you're going to give advice,
be okay. nervous about doing uber or or dash
but she don't have a babysitter for two months
before i decided to even do yeah with my kids
yeah the thing is you're speaking from a perspective
that they couldn't relate to it's like hey family
how about you have this amount of children and
need to pay these bills and need to do this and
have less help you tell me how would you juggle
these apples But they don't know if it's safe
to try X, Y, and Z. So I think that's why it
would be a good thing if you were willing to,
you know, step on the course there and just get
with your boys. Come up with a plan. Okay, you
want mommy to do this? Well, I'm going to need
some helpers. I'm going to need some workers.
You get what I'm saying? have access everything
at home yeah you'll be asking what you guys are
doing and then after that i'm gonna see what's
the way i'm gonna get you guys iphone so you
guys can video chat me while i'm working so you
guys can call me yeah i have to find my app i
know you guys are at home you know yeah it takes
away the worry okay being a single mom to know
that my kids are still okay and they're at home
and should they need me and have access to me
they still have that yeah there's nothing wrong
with it if anything it's you can think of you're
thinking 10 steps ahead you know you're already
saying hey i'm gonna get cameras in there i'll
play it back so i can watch how y 'all fool day
really lit you get what i'm saying anything happens
i have it on camera uh -huh you can play it back
i know how it happened i know it's responsible
and stuff like that yeah and the naysayers i
wouldn't listen to them the same people that
would judge you online are the same people that
probably are leaving their children at home they
just ain't putting it on camera You get it? They're
just not talking about what are the other options
instead of doing it. You get what I'm saying?
So I would not, if I was you, don't look at what
the outside will say. Because like I said, the
same people that would be like, no, she didn't.
You've experienced that? Oh, yes. Yeah, I've
literally watched people judge people. And I
was like, hold on, but you just did. All right,
never mind. So it's easier to judge somebody
than it is to actually go out there and figure
out, okay. What would I do if I was in the same
predicament? You know, it's easier for you to
judge. So I think that you should continue to
invest into yourself. Bet on yourself. If you
learn the algorithms, listen to them. You should
do a YouTube channel. Yeah, because the thing
is, you wouldn't be wasting your time. And when
you have time, it doesn't have to be long clips.
You know, if you want to do a 10 -minute clip,
here's a piece of advice on how to do something.
And put it up there and keep it pushing. keep
it pushing you know the algorithms you know what
are you waiting on girl you know so that's just
how it is though i mean enjoy the journey but
have fun with it especially if your children
will be on a journey with you oh they will be
somebody will be coming in the camera while you're
trying to give advice something that another
mother watching would be like girl i totally
understand they never sit down you know so i
wouldn't i wouldn't encourage and bring the children
with you because they're going to make you feel
young. They may catch on faster than you and
be like, Mom, we'll do the edits tonight. See,
Pisces are always on the move towards the next
thing. That's more like a Sagittarius, isn't
it? No. I've never met a Pisces that wasn't always,
let's just say, hustling their way through. Always
bringing a penny to the table. They never go
without, let's just say that. yeah they always
the aries and the pisces one thing they're gonna
do they're gonna find a way to get that money
yeah that's the truth so that's nice they're
more um more calm the aries are more calm more
behind the scenes so even if you start your youtube
channel and you're just doing audio do that it
doesn't have to be it doesn't have to be your
face yeah because i was telling you like another
thing that i could do for content because i have
a dash cam i don't know that application i would
have to use to like block out license plates
yeah but i told my kids like i could just like
upload the my memory card from my dash cam and
i could just do like a voiceover yes you know
i think because i even when i was like during
the pandemic i will find that um that simulation
of relaxation watching other people drive yes
other people upload the footage from their dash
cam uh -huh and they're driving through the city
and it's like dude i find that relaxing yes yes
do whatever you find relaxing believe it or not
it's about 10 000 other people to be like you
know what i've been waiting for somebody to do
this you know and then you can change your audio
music on how you okay Tonight we're listening
to some slow jams while we ride through. You
know? So you can change your music while you're
watching somebody ride through the cam, you know?
So you can be very unique. You know, have your
own vibe. And next you know. No, you know what?
You're completely right about that. You'll be
on TV? When it comes to different types of content,
I remember there was this DJ. I used to like
listening to him on his YouTube channel because...
He set the vibe, like, he would record himself
in his living room. Yeah. All the lights up,
and he would have, like, these, like, ambient
lights, like, purple, orange, red. Yeah. And
he would just record himself with his DJ set
and just play music all night. Okay. For, like,
five hours straight all night. And he was like,
dude, like, I would be driving in my car, and
I would, like, have my camera. Not my camera,
my actual phone. And I would have the other one
to do Uber when I was doing food delivery. And
I would just listen to him, like, jam out in
his living room. Yeah. And you just got to continue
to be comfortable within yourself, being comfortable
within your skin. When you be comfortable within
your skin, you're going to be wanting to share
different ways to relax your mind. Okay. Hey,
you guys, got a ride tonight. Here's a little
audio. Here's a little music by, I don't know,
Selena Gomez. And we're going to play it right
over the video. Have a good night. How does that
work? with the with the copyrights with youtube
you you literally will put it at the bottle i
do not own these copyrights and then youtube
will allow you there you go don't sit there act
like you own the copyrights you need to say i
do not own these copyrights but yes it's stuff
easy things like that just hey i do not own the
copyrights next you know the music the uh the
video is out there and you look up and you'll
be up you have your own youtube channel now you
on tv okay you get what i'm saying And it doesn't
even have to be your face. It's your voice. That's
what I'm thinking. You know what I'm saying?
That's what I'm leaning more towards, something
like that. More audio. Yeah. Like I said, I started
my podcast with just audio. So Uber drivers,
y 'all built my pod. So nobody's face was there.
It was just audio. Well, hey, you're paying for
the ride. Might as well get something out of
it. Might as well. You see? You see? You know,
baby. Invest into yourself. Like, might as well
get some content out of it. I already paid for
it. Baby, might as well build the business. Exactly.
Okay. And hey, maybe you do your LLC and you
get re exactly the tax deduction off of that
well yeah oh babe we're already doing it i had
to use this uber for content yes yes tax deduction
yes so you learn you learn more as you go everything
you do in life is of investment so you just gotta
go get your llc make it make sense okay now that
we're talking about that i just i just Okay,
congratulations. So, I'm trying to do something.
Yeah, and don't stop. And like I stated, content
can be you cleaning up the kids' bedroom. You
get what I'm saying? Putting music over it. Like,
anything you do, it doesn't have to be you stopping
to stand in front of the camera. You know what?
Now you're motivating me because, dude, yesterday,
my kid's grandma, she gave me like a tripod stand.
Yep. For the phone. And I ended up telling her,
like, man, I don't need this. Nah. But she still
gave it to me. Yeah. Maybe that's probably a
sign that I need to do content. That is a sign.
Everything you do. I feel like the universe is
telling me do content. Girl, do it. Okay? Everything
you do is content. So you cleaning up that dirty
room from dirty to clean, that's content, baby.
Watching you do it. Watching you get up, make
the food, help them out before they go to school.
Watching the daily routine is a content. You
give it to them. I got a lot of content to make
then. Okay. Push play. I have a daily routine.
I have a daily schedule that I go by every day.
yes and you just push play people won't find
that boring you're recording myself doing the
same thing every day nope because the thing is
what they're gonna see is consistency okay one
thing she ain't doing is not showing up you get
what i'm saying okay she take care of her kids
yeah you know and they look at it as relative
some people that are new stepping into motherhood
they see how the heck do you navigate both yeah
and they're gonna they're gonna see you navigate
both they're gonna see days where you're just
like all right y 'all we're just gonna watch
the boys clean up the room today and i'm just
gonna sit here you get what i'm saying yeah and
they're just cleaning up and that's content boom
y 'all gonna clean up y 'all room today i'm just
gonna push play and then i'll y 'all edit later
you know but everything is out there look into
cap cut That is the editor, literally. You make
the videos, you put it to CapCut, it edits for
you. CapCut, C -A -P? Mm -hmm, CapCut. And Cut,
C -U -T? Yep, put together, CapCut. It does the
editing for you. And can you do it on your phone?
Yes. Okay. It's all on your phone. I'm going
to download the app. Keep going. You have a mother
with an LLC? Girl, go blossom. Okay? Yes, it's
crazy. So, I got a question, though. Sure. If
you can go back in time and give your young,
because I'm at the age of 27. Okay. If you can
go back in time and give your young 27 -year
-old self advice. You see, I was at a different
point in my life at 27. What would it be? At
27, I was already one year separated from my
kid's dad. And I had, well, 27 was a rough year
for me, I'm going to be honest. That was 2020.
Okay. So that was honestly the hardest year of
my life. But any, if I could go further back,
though. Okay. Be, choose the person that you
have kids with, choose them wisely. Choose them
wisely. Choose them wisely. Okay. Because people
could be liars, people could sell you a dream.
At least that's what happened in my case. I knew
I did not want kids and I did not want to settle
down. But because I thought I was in love, and
I was, it's kind of hard because I was really
young and naive. Sometimes being a woman. You
want to be taken care of. Yeah. And you want
to trust your partner that he's doing that for
you. And he's leading you in the right direction.
Yeah. But I learned my best advice is trust myself.
Don't depend. Don't trust anybody else. Don't
follow nobody. Don't. And I know that's kind
of contradictory because you're going to go with
your boyfriend. Yeah. I know. I would say don't
be naive. Yeah. Well, of course. Follow your
gut. If you know something's wrong and this is
not what you want to do, follow your gut. Because
that's one thing I did not do. I did not follow
my gut. Okay. Yeah, I always say the best way
in life is to have three special alphabets that
you go by. And me, mine is a CYA. Okay. Cover
your ass. Yeah. Always. And you see, that's one
thing I did do. So something I did do. Even though
I loved him and everything, I did not put nothing
under his name. Because when we got separated,
he wanted to go after everything I had. And it
was just really ridiculous. And no, I think that's
probably the best advice I could probably give
anyone is trust yourself. Even when you don't
think you could do it, even when you don't think
that you're capable, always trust yourself. Regardless.
Don't trust anybody else. Don't depend on anybody
else. Okay. Follow your gut. Because your gut,
I believe, I'm Christian. Yeah. I believe your
gut is the Holy Spirit inside you, guiding you.
Yes. And follow that. Yeah. If you know this
person is not right for you, don't even convince
yourself to be with them. Yeah. It's going to
hurt to leave, especially a relationship. It
hurts a lot to leave people behind. But at the
end of the day, you have to live with yourself
and you have to develop that relationship with
yourself to love yourself and trust yourself.
The minute you start doing things that you know
are not right, slowly but surely you start losing
trust in yourself. When you start doing things
that you know you shouldn't be doing, doing things
that your gut is telling you not to do, you will
slowly stop losing trust in yourself and you
will start questioning everything about yourself.
So I would say trust yourself all the time. If
you know you shouldn't be doing something, don't
do it. If you know you shouldn't be with this
person, don't be with them. If you know this
person is giving you advice and you know it's
wrong, don't even listen to them. Always follow
your gut. That would be the only advice I would
say to live by. At least for me. That's what
I learned. You know? Okay. Especially when you're
young and you're making those choices. I get
that, too. Just staying within yourself, knowing
that if you're feeling like you're going to get
your own morals, take a step back. You get what
I'm saying? Yeah, don't go against yourself.
But for you, I'll leave you with a piece of advice
as a life coach here. As a life coach here, in
the beginning of starting my business, the first
thing I thought I needed was a business plan.
But I can honestly tell you, for the business
plan, Just start the business. Yeah, that's what
I told myself when I did the LLC. It was $300,
but I was like, let me just do it now. Just start
it. I don't even have a plan. You make a plan
later. All I have is the name. Let me take the
baby steps. Yes, you make a plan later. I'll
figure it out. To start a business plan is just
to start the business. That's the first plan.
Start the business and then come up with a full
plan later, okay? It was a pleasure with you,
a lovely Uber driver again. Thank you. All right,
have a good day.