WEBVTT 00:00:01.380 --> 00:00:07.000 I'm almost there. Yes, I'm officially 13 days 00:00:07.000 --> 00:00:12.140 away, you guys. I'm almost a full freaking civilian 00:00:12.140 --> 00:00:19.460 again. I'm almost there. I'm excited. 13 days 00:00:19.460 --> 00:00:24.199 before I cloud your whole Instagram, TikTok, 00:00:24.640 --> 00:00:29.850 YouTube with my face. Okay. 13 days till you 00:00:29.850 --> 00:00:34.070 see nothing but me living eating breathing doing 00:00:34.070 --> 00:00:37.810 it all over again living eating breathing exercising 00:00:37.810 --> 00:00:42.170 doing it all over again okay i'm ready you guys 00:00:42.170 --> 00:00:47.390 welcome back episode 64 with your girl favorite 00:00:47.390 --> 00:00:51.189 life coach here cecile cecilia i'm here you guys 00:00:51.189 --> 00:00:55.270 what's been going on Okay, I need to know what's 00:00:55.270 --> 00:00:59.090 been going on before I really get into my life 00:00:59.090 --> 00:01:03.429 update. I hope you guys have been well out there. 00:01:03.689 --> 00:01:06.769 I'm excited because I'm 13 days away from moving 00:01:06.769 --> 00:01:11.069 to England for a while, okay? 13 days away from 00:01:11.069 --> 00:01:14.689 stepping away from the corporate world forever. 00:01:15.689 --> 00:01:20.689 13 days away. I'm ecstatic. You can probably 00:01:20.689 --> 00:01:22.930 tell hearing it in my voice, but we're about 00:01:22.930 --> 00:01:26.409 to get started. This is episode 64 with your 00:01:26.409 --> 00:01:29.450 girl, because shit, that's just life. We are 00:01:29.450 --> 00:01:31.670 growing every day. We're trying to figure it 00:01:31.670 --> 00:01:35.430 out. We're trying to navigate. Baby, I know I 00:01:35.430 --> 00:01:38.689 am, but I'm going to get started, okay? Let's 00:01:38.689 --> 00:01:47.430 get started. Let's get it started. Let's get 00:01:47.430 --> 00:01:52.000 started. So first things first, I'm ready to 00:01:52.000 --> 00:01:57.400 be in my man's arms. Yeah, I am. I'm ready to 00:01:57.400 --> 00:02:00.859 just lay on him's chest. Lay on him's chest. 00:02:01.079 --> 00:02:05.560 Yes, I am. Not his. Not lay on his chest. Him 00:02:05.560 --> 00:02:09.900 chest. I'm ready to just be miscombobulated via 00:02:09.900 --> 00:02:13.800 words in the presence of me and my man. Okay? 00:02:13.960 --> 00:02:19.789 Yes. But my time is not here yet. My time is 00:02:19.789 --> 00:02:23.129 not here to shine. Not yet anyway. We're 13 days 00:02:23.129 --> 00:02:28.370 away. So until then, I'm still a worker. I'm 00:02:28.370 --> 00:02:31.870 still an employee for the government. Yeah, yeah, 00:02:31.889 --> 00:02:36.729 yeah. But it's okay because I'm headed out. Like 00:02:36.729 --> 00:02:39.490 I said, I already put my two weeks in. So I'm 00:02:39.490 --> 00:02:43.090 moving like I understand people, but I got to 00:02:43.090 --> 00:02:48.050 go. Just being honest, you know. I had a lovely 00:02:48.050 --> 00:02:51.110 journey just learning the system, learning how 00:02:51.110 --> 00:02:55.969 to navigate with different people from different 00:02:55.969 --> 00:03:00.729 cultures, okay? How to navigate with different 00:03:00.729 --> 00:03:04.949 tones. Yeah, every person has a different tone 00:03:04.949 --> 00:03:07.030 when they're calling for something. So I have 00:03:07.030 --> 00:03:11.469 to navigate through each tone, okay? But you 00:03:11.469 --> 00:03:14.650 guys, I'm ready to get into my life update, okay? 00:03:17.610 --> 00:03:23.550 So, you guys, my niece on my mom's side, she's 00:03:23.550 --> 00:03:28.909 officially a ninth grader. My baby girl is officially 00:03:28.909 --> 00:03:35.590 fresh meat, okay? Now, anyone that's listening, 00:03:35.810 --> 00:03:39.909 you wish her luck, okay? You wish my baby nothing 00:03:39.909 --> 00:03:45.650 but luck, love, pure, okay? Because everybody 00:03:45.650 --> 00:03:49.360 that knows, how high school is you know how you're 00:03:49.360 --> 00:03:52.979 trying to go in and just observe first sometimes 00:03:52.979 --> 00:03:56.800 you get judged for just observing okay you're 00:03:56.800 --> 00:03:59.039 trying to see what works for you which friend 00:03:59.039 --> 00:04:01.599 group works for you if you're going to be into 00:04:01.599 --> 00:04:04.680 your sports this year will you be having more 00:04:04.680 --> 00:04:08.379 sporty friends she's gotta get into high school 00:04:08.379 --> 00:04:12.419 and really start navigating okay my baby girl 00:04:12.419 --> 00:04:16.920 is there and I'm going to wish my baby girl luck. 00:04:17.439 --> 00:04:20.439 She was looking very beautiful on her first day. 00:04:21.339 --> 00:04:24.879 She's getting ready to just transformation into 00:04:24.879 --> 00:04:28.160 a beautiful woman. She's going to make me cry. 00:04:29.120 --> 00:04:32.360 She's going to make me cry because she's growing 00:04:32.360 --> 00:04:37.259 so fast. But I love it. I love to see my niece 00:04:37.259 --> 00:04:41.139 growing. She's traveled for the summer. Now she's 00:04:41.139 --> 00:04:44.439 officially preparing to be the fresh meat. of 00:04:44.439 --> 00:04:49.639 the year I'm excited for my girl okay if you're 00:04:49.639 --> 00:04:51.459 listening girl which I'm sure you're probably 00:04:51.459 --> 00:04:56.040 not if you are if your mom lets you listen have 00:04:56.040 --> 00:04:59.819 a good first year try your best to see what works 00:04:59.819 --> 00:05:04.360 for you really keep tuning into yourself you 00:05:04.360 --> 00:05:06.600 know here and there just like you can tune into 00:05:06.600 --> 00:05:09.220 other people tune into yourself do I like this 00:05:09.220 --> 00:05:13.069 does this make me comfortable Not what everybody 00:05:13.069 --> 00:05:16.370 else thinks, but do I enjoy it? You know, that 00:05:16.370 --> 00:05:19.730 is my advice to my niece. Turning into fresh 00:05:19.730 --> 00:05:24.129 meat as a ninth grader. Hey, if there's any bullies, 00:05:24.129 --> 00:05:25.990 you know who to call. I'm not touching nobody 00:05:25.990 --> 00:05:29.410 else's kids, but I do got somebody's back. That's 00:05:29.410 --> 00:05:34.250 what I'm saying. But you all, outside of my niece, 00:05:34.490 --> 00:05:37.170 outside of my niece just going to the ninth grade, 00:05:37.410 --> 00:05:41.470 I want to give a special shout out. To the friend 00:05:41.470 --> 00:05:44.709 of the pod here, the friend of the show, my friend 00:05:44.709 --> 00:05:50.110 Ramirez. Birthday was two days ago, you guys. 00:05:50.790 --> 00:05:54.149 Ramirez's birthday was on the 17th. I'm excited 00:05:54.149 --> 00:05:58.189 to say my boy is just looking at him getting 00:05:58.189 --> 00:06:02.829 grown. Happy birthday, my boy, okay? We will 00:06:02.829 --> 00:06:05.769 be going out before I hit England. There will 00:06:05.769 --> 00:06:09.680 be a night of drunkness, okay? We will wake up 00:06:09.680 --> 00:06:11.339 like, why did we ever do this in the beginning? 00:06:11.860 --> 00:06:15.740 Okay. Okay. It's going to be needed. So we're 00:06:15.740 --> 00:06:17.500 going to do it. Period. It's not a question. 00:06:17.680 --> 00:06:19.620 If you're listening, it's more of a request. 00:06:19.800 --> 00:06:24.639 So be ready. Okay. Outside of your birthday, 00:06:24.720 --> 00:06:30.939 Ramirez. You guys, I'm just ready to really get 00:06:30.939 --> 00:06:37.240 to England. Seriously. I'm soaking in all the 00:06:37.240 --> 00:06:40.860 moments that I'm having before I leave. I am 00:06:40.860 --> 00:06:45.399 being very observant for everybody because I'm 00:06:45.399 --> 00:06:48.639 just being anxious of going to England. So now 00:06:48.639 --> 00:06:51.620 whenever I get anxious, I just try to take a 00:06:51.620 --> 00:06:55.379 step back and be observant. So I observe every 00:06:55.379 --> 00:07:00.240 spectrum of my conversations. So I have Uber 00:07:00.240 --> 00:07:03.199 conversations, keeping them going while I'm headed 00:07:03.199 --> 00:07:08.459 out of the U .S. I've had conversations with 00:07:08.459 --> 00:07:12.420 my twin, conversations with my brothers, my family. 00:07:13.259 --> 00:07:15.959 We're all growing. And it's funny, we're all 00:07:15.959 --> 00:07:19.420 growing. I'm headed to the UK. What the fudge? 00:07:19.420 --> 00:07:23.000 But it's okay. We're here for growth. Growth 00:07:23.000 --> 00:07:25.980 does not happen when we want it to happen, but 00:07:25.980 --> 00:07:29.060 it does happen. Okay? So I'm here for the growth. 00:07:29.240 --> 00:07:34.089 I'm observing the full... Not the opportunity, 00:07:34.310 --> 00:07:38.930 but I'm observing the full dynamic of watching 00:07:38.930 --> 00:07:43.629 me leave, me say goodbye, friends miss me, the 00:07:43.629 --> 00:07:45.930 conversations that we are trying to have before 00:07:45.930 --> 00:07:48.449 we disconnect because we're going to be talking, 00:07:48.470 --> 00:07:51.410 but not as much. So we're trying to have all 00:07:51.410 --> 00:07:53.970 these parties. Okay, girl, we need to plan for 00:07:53.970 --> 00:07:57.370 this, this, this. Okay? So I'm observing everything 00:07:57.370 --> 00:08:01.399 and watching how we're all just scrambling. before 00:08:01.399 --> 00:08:04.160 i get to the uk i'm trying to send down gifts 00:08:04.160 --> 00:08:06.500 to my niece because i'm like baby girl once i 00:08:06.500 --> 00:08:10.740 get to the uk i'm gonna send the gift but it's 00:08:10.740 --> 00:08:12.300 gonna be a minute before i get to the post office 00:08:12.300 --> 00:08:14.560 because it's not as close as the one out here 00:08:14.560 --> 00:08:18.600 you know it's a lot it's a lot so i'm sending 00:08:18.600 --> 00:08:22.959 down gifts to the uk to the us um which is in 00:08:22.959 --> 00:08:25.660 kansas city we are in the us i'm tripping i'm 00:08:25.660 --> 00:08:30.180 sorry i'm sending gifts to kansas city while 00:08:30.180 --> 00:08:33.080 I'm still in the U .S. in Dallas. But you see, 00:08:33.139 --> 00:08:35.639 my brain is thinking that we're already in the 00:08:35.639 --> 00:08:39.360 U .K. My mouth is hungry for the food out there. 00:08:40.379 --> 00:08:45.960 I'm ready to go. But I do have some things I 00:08:45.960 --> 00:08:50.799 need to wrap up, meaning I lost my new coach 00:08:50.799 --> 00:08:54.519 glasses. I know it sounds stupid, but I did. 00:08:55.139 --> 00:08:59.039 Had to reorder them. They're telling me they 00:08:59.039 --> 00:09:02.360 won't be here until the 27th. Well, good golly, 00:09:02.360 --> 00:09:04.759 the thing, my flight is not booked until the 00:09:04.759 --> 00:09:09.559 1st. So, the 27th, I have to stop and grab my 00:09:09.559 --> 00:09:13.500 glasses, okay? That's exciting. I just need to 00:09:13.500 --> 00:09:16.500 stop losing shit, okay? I'm also going to get 00:09:16.500 --> 00:09:19.120 an air tag. I'm going to either look for an air 00:09:19.120 --> 00:09:23.139 tag and or an Alexa to put on my glasses. I'm 00:09:23.139 --> 00:09:27.059 sick of losing stuff. I need something. Something. 00:09:27.879 --> 00:09:30.980 I'm like, there's no way I should be able to 00:09:30.980 --> 00:09:33.799 not call my glasses. Something. All this AI, 00:09:34.019 --> 00:09:36.440 all this technology. I need something for the 00:09:36.440 --> 00:09:41.059 glasses, people. Okay? So I'm going to replace 00:09:41.059 --> 00:09:45.559 my glasses, you all. But I'm really wrapping 00:09:45.559 --> 00:09:49.600 up. I've also been reading a book. If you guys 00:09:49.600 --> 00:09:52.659 read books, I'm not sure if you do. I'm not sure 00:09:52.659 --> 00:09:56.740 if you even just listen to the audiobooks. A 00:09:56.740 --> 00:09:58.840 book called Way, Way Up There by Curtis Spears. 00:09:59.080 --> 00:10:02.779 I want to advise everyone to tune in to that 00:10:02.779 --> 00:10:07.080 book. I love reading. I try to read. Well, let 00:10:07.080 --> 00:10:10.340 me just stop lying. I love reading, but I just 00:10:10.340 --> 00:10:14.779 started back reading. And I'm going to challenge 00:10:14.779 --> 00:10:18.200 myself to read at least two books, two to three 00:10:18.200 --> 00:10:21.559 books a month. Especially considering I will 00:10:21.559 --> 00:10:25.240 not be no longer a corporate worker. I got time. 00:10:25.360 --> 00:10:27.659 I have nothing but time to maybe learn a language, 00:10:27.980 --> 00:10:31.460 try some new food, keep working out, live life, 00:10:31.740 --> 00:10:35.639 paint my toenails, maybe start an argument. I'm 00:10:35.639 --> 00:10:38.759 just kidding. No. No, seriously. I have time 00:10:38.759 --> 00:10:44.759 to really just sit back, maybe massage my man's 00:10:44.759 --> 00:10:47.899 face because we do a lot of face care, skin care, 00:10:48.139 --> 00:10:53.389 you know, maybe do that. Maybe he will massage 00:10:53.389 --> 00:10:57.210 my face, massage me up. You know, I don't have 00:10:57.210 --> 00:11:02.009 nothing but time. I'm ready to go, people. I 00:11:02.009 --> 00:11:05.230 think ready to go is me, okay? Whatever, however 00:11:05.230 --> 00:11:09.970 capacity you need to hear it. Where is the jet? 00:11:10.330 --> 00:11:12.929 Because I don't even want to take the flight 00:11:12.929 --> 00:11:15.809 to the airport. I want to just, we need a PJ. 00:11:16.230 --> 00:11:22.039 Bring the PJ. to come get me the pj i do not 00:11:22.039 --> 00:11:25.779 have bring it bring the pj to come get me so 00:11:25.779 --> 00:11:30.000 we can just get to england with no problems clearly 00:11:30.000 --> 00:11:35.700 i'm anxious but you guys before i leave you guys 00:11:35.700 --> 00:11:38.919 with a lovely surprise of course i always do 00:11:38.919 --> 00:11:43.980 i missed you you missed me it is a lovely lovely 00:11:43.980 --> 00:11:47.950 wednesday So before I leave you guys with a lovely 00:11:47.950 --> 00:11:50.809 surprise, which is an Uber story, of course it 00:11:50.809 --> 00:11:53.409 is, before I leave you guys with an Uber surprise, 00:11:53.590 --> 00:11:57.470 you guys, hopefully next time you hear from me, 00:11:57.470 --> 00:12:00.509 which you won't, I'm lying, you're going to hear 00:12:00.509 --> 00:12:03.129 from me, but I know I won't be in the UK the 00:12:03.129 --> 00:12:05.370 next time you hear from me, but I'll still be 00:12:05.370 --> 00:12:09.370 talking about it. So hopefully I won't be talking 00:12:09.370 --> 00:12:12.210 about it, but I can just feel it in my soul right 00:12:12.210 --> 00:12:15.570 now. I won't be in the UK by the time I drop 00:12:15.570 --> 00:12:20.549 my next episode. I know I won't. So I will not 00:12:20.549 --> 00:12:23.710 complain because I'm too old for that. But I'll 00:12:23.710 --> 00:12:27.309 read a book, okay? Anytime I'm finding myself 00:12:27.309 --> 00:12:30.330 wanting to complain, I pick up a book, okay? 00:12:30.509 --> 00:12:34.809 There's nothing to do but lay my butt down, lay 00:12:34.809 --> 00:12:37.909 my eyes on some words and start to read whenever 00:12:37.909 --> 00:12:41.590 things are not going my way, okay? But shit, 00:12:41.629 --> 00:12:44.350 that's just life, you guys. Find a good remedy 00:12:44.350 --> 00:12:46.450 for when things are not going your way, okay? 00:12:46.509 --> 00:12:50.669 Maybe read a book. Maybe step outside. Take some 00:12:50.669 --> 00:12:54.350 breathers in and breathers out. But I know the 00:12:54.350 --> 00:12:58.169 birds are chirping. I know that the UK is waiting 00:12:58.169 --> 00:13:00.809 for me. I know that my partner is waiting for 00:13:00.809 --> 00:13:04.309 me. So I will not try to be so anxious, okay? 00:13:04.909 --> 00:13:09.070 And we will give Ramirez another happy birthday. 00:13:10.559 --> 00:13:14.279 okay happy birthday Ramirez happy birthday Ramirez 00:13:14.279 --> 00:13:17.320 happy birthday Ramirez happy birthday Ramirez 00:13:17.320 --> 00:13:20.759 my boy just came back from Italy happy birthday 00:13:20.759 --> 00:13:23.820 Ramirez okay I need to hear all about that Italy 00:13:23.820 --> 00:13:28.059 trip I'm gonna hope that he bought me a keychain 00:13:28.059 --> 00:13:32.320 or something that shows that he truly was in 00:13:32.320 --> 00:13:35.539 Italy if he brought nothing back I'm just gonna 00:13:35.539 --> 00:13:39.159 say he never went okay that's it but before we 00:13:39.159 --> 00:13:43.139 get out of here Thank you for tuning in another 00:13:43.139 --> 00:13:45.879 episode with your girl, with your favorite life 00:13:45.879 --> 00:13:49.440 coach, Cecile. But before I start the surprise, 00:13:49.980 --> 00:13:55.740 okay, you guys, as a government worker today, 00:13:55.860 --> 00:13:59.519 let me tell you a story. As a government worker 00:13:59.519 --> 00:14:05.259 today, I had to let the VPN disconnect. You're 00:14:05.259 --> 00:14:08.000 probably thinking, what does that mean? Well, 00:14:08.059 --> 00:14:12.860 if you know what a VPN is, you know, if it disconnects, 00:14:12.860 --> 00:14:16.960 there's no connection. Let's just say that. So 00:14:16.960 --> 00:14:21.279 I was talking to a civilian. He proceeded to 00:14:21.279 --> 00:14:28.299 talk more privileged, more demanding, didn't 00:14:28.299 --> 00:14:35.539 want to listen to the actual law. I just didn't 00:14:35.539 --> 00:14:38.340 really have it in me like I have had it in me 00:14:38.340 --> 00:14:40.700 for the last two years. I didn't have it in me 00:14:40.700 --> 00:14:44.480 to keep going back and forth when I'm giving 00:14:44.480 --> 00:14:51.679 direction, and you called for direction. So let's 00:14:51.679 --> 00:14:57.259 just say the VPN disconnected, okay? And when 00:14:57.259 --> 00:15:00.360 it got back connected, they went on over there. 00:15:01.740 --> 00:15:05.080 I don't have it in me anymore. I've already input 00:15:05.080 --> 00:15:08.720 my two weeks, so I don't feel bad, okay? But 00:15:08.720 --> 00:15:13.740 let's just say when you call people and you need 00:15:13.740 --> 00:15:19.500 something, folks, watch your tone, okay? Remember, 00:15:19.600 --> 00:15:22.679 you're calling them. They're not calling you. 00:15:23.799 --> 00:15:27.759 So with that being said, we're going to play 00:15:27.759 --> 00:15:33.610 the surprise for the Uber story. Okay? This is 00:15:33.610 --> 00:15:36.610 episode 64. Because shit, that's just life. Okay? 00:15:36.870 --> 00:15:40.190 Some things you're not supposed to take because 00:15:40.190 --> 00:15:43.169 they shouldn't be given out. All right? Meaning 00:15:43.169 --> 00:15:45.750 some people should learn how to talk to you when 00:15:45.750 --> 00:15:47.649 you've done nothing to them. Not you personally. 00:15:47.889 --> 00:15:50.389 So they should not be talking to you crazy personally. 00:15:50.889 --> 00:15:54.850 Okay? Let the VPN disconnect. That's all I'm 00:15:54.850 --> 00:15:56.809 going to advise you. Because shit, that's just 00:15:56.809 --> 00:15:59.830 life. We got to learn. And sometimes we got to 00:15:59.830 --> 00:16:02.429 learn the hard way. But I've already put in my 00:16:02.429 --> 00:16:05.350 two weeks, so God forbid if anyone's listening, 00:16:05.549 --> 00:16:09.429 which I'm sure you are, the Uber story's next. 00:16:11.450 --> 00:16:15.169 Hold on to your seats. Uber story's about to 00:16:15.169 --> 00:16:46.840 start. get it so i'm not just a podcaster i'm 00:16:46.840 --> 00:16:49.379 a life coach oh good for you oh damn so you know 00:16:49.379 --> 00:16:52.840 a lot right so it just sounds like you first 00:16:52.840 --> 00:16:55.679 off if you're going to give anybody advice first 00:16:55.679 --> 00:16:58.139 thing you gotta you gotta remember is that whatever 00:16:58.139 --> 00:17:01.220 you know you know based off your journey so you're 00:17:01.220 --> 00:17:03.200 not trying to tell them anything you're just 00:17:03.200 --> 00:17:06.099 giving them advice tips you get what i'm saying 00:17:06.099 --> 00:17:09.220 so i think make it clear first things first i'm 00:17:09.220 --> 00:17:11.259 not here to tell anybody how to do their job 00:17:11.949 --> 00:17:14.410 second thing second i'm just here to give advice 00:17:14.410 --> 00:17:18.269 and or tips so take it or leave it that's all 00:17:18.269 --> 00:17:20.309 it is so you gotta have confidence in knowing 00:17:20.309 --> 00:18:18.869 that here's my thing You got to work what you 00:18:18.869 --> 00:18:20.529 got. And Uber has provided me the opportunity 00:18:20.529 --> 00:18:24.349 to work with my kids. Right. And it's not ideally 00:18:24.349 --> 00:18:27.349 for other people to work with your kids in the 00:18:27.349 --> 00:18:30.450 park. But for me, I saw it as a means to make 00:18:30.450 --> 00:18:33.089 a livelihood, take care of my kids, support them. 00:18:33.390 --> 00:18:35.970 Especially during the pandemic when nobody was 00:18:35.970 --> 00:18:37.849 even willing to open the doors for me for my 00:18:37.849 --> 00:18:40.589 kids to watch them. Yeah. And I think, well, 00:18:40.630 --> 00:18:42.450 first things first, if you're going to give advice, 00:18:42.789 --> 00:18:57.039 be okay. nervous about doing uber or or dash 00:18:57.039 --> 00:19:00.119 but she don't have a babysitter for two months 00:19:00.119 --> 00:19:03.119 before i decided to even do yeah with my kids 00:19:03.119 --> 00:19:05.759 yeah the thing is you're speaking from a perspective 00:19:05.759 --> 00:19:09.619 that they couldn't relate to it's like hey family 00:19:09.619 --> 00:19:12.640 how about you have this amount of children and 00:19:12.640 --> 00:19:15.440 need to pay these bills and need to do this and 00:19:15.440 --> 00:19:18.079 have less help you tell me how would you juggle 00:19:18.079 --> 00:19:37.130 these apples But they don't know if it's safe 00:19:37.130 --> 00:19:40.309 to try X, Y, and Z. So I think that's why it 00:19:40.309 --> 00:19:43.549 would be a good thing if you were willing to, 00:19:43.650 --> 00:19:47.829 you know, step on the course there and just get 00:19:47.829 --> 00:19:50.029 with your boys. Come up with a plan. Okay, you 00:19:50.029 --> 00:19:52.750 want mommy to do this? Well, I'm going to need 00:19:52.750 --> 00:19:54.109 some helpers. I'm going to need some workers. 00:19:54.869 --> 00:20:42.890 You get what I'm saying? have access everything 00:20:42.890 --> 00:20:45.250 at home yeah you'll be asking what you guys are 00:20:45.250 --> 00:20:47.970 doing and then after that i'm gonna see what's 00:20:47.970 --> 00:20:49.670 the way i'm gonna get you guys iphone so you 00:20:49.670 --> 00:20:52.690 guys can video chat me while i'm working so you 00:20:52.690 --> 00:20:55.529 guys can call me yeah i have to find my app i 00:20:55.529 --> 00:20:58.450 know you guys are at home you know yeah it takes 00:20:58.450 --> 00:21:01.170 away the worry okay being a single mom to know 00:21:01.170 --> 00:21:02.849 that my kids are still okay and they're at home 00:21:02.849 --> 00:21:05.210 and should they need me and have access to me 00:21:05.210 --> 00:21:08.109 they still have that yeah there's nothing wrong 00:21:08.109 --> 00:21:12.640 with it if anything it's you can think of you're 00:21:12.640 --> 00:21:15.140 thinking 10 steps ahead you know you're already 00:21:15.140 --> 00:21:17.599 saying hey i'm gonna get cameras in there i'll 00:21:17.599 --> 00:21:19.900 play it back so i can watch how y 'all fool day 00:21:19.900 --> 00:21:23.200 really lit you get what i'm saying anything happens 00:21:23.200 --> 00:21:25.640 i have it on camera uh -huh you can play it back 00:21:25.640 --> 00:21:27.380 i know how it happened i know it's responsible 00:21:27.380 --> 00:21:30.619 and stuff like that yeah and the naysayers i 00:21:30.619 --> 00:21:32.700 wouldn't listen to them the same people that 00:21:32.700 --> 00:21:35.359 would judge you online are the same people that 00:21:35.359 --> 00:21:37.240 probably are leaving their children at home they 00:21:37.240 --> 00:21:40.400 just ain't putting it on camera You get it? They're 00:21:40.400 --> 00:21:43.440 just not talking about what are the other options 00:21:43.440 --> 00:21:45.200 instead of doing it. You get what I'm saying? 00:21:45.619 --> 00:21:49.220 So I would not, if I was you, don't look at what 00:21:49.220 --> 00:21:51.140 the outside will say. Because like I said, the 00:21:51.140 --> 00:21:54.599 same people that would be like, no, she didn't. 00:21:54.599 --> 00:21:58.299 You've experienced that? Oh, yes. Yeah, I've 00:21:58.299 --> 00:22:00.059 literally watched people judge people. And I 00:22:00.059 --> 00:22:02.079 was like, hold on, but you just did. All right, 00:22:02.099 --> 00:22:04.980 never mind. So it's easier to judge somebody 00:22:04.980 --> 00:22:07.180 than it is to actually go out there and figure 00:22:07.180 --> 00:22:09.980 out, okay. What would I do if I was in the same 00:22:09.980 --> 00:22:12.680 predicament? You know, it's easier for you to 00:22:12.680 --> 00:22:15.480 judge. So I think that you should continue to 00:22:15.480 --> 00:22:20.180 invest into yourself. Bet on yourself. If you 00:22:20.180 --> 00:22:23.259 learn the algorithms, listen to them. You should 00:22:23.259 --> 00:22:25.220 do a YouTube channel. Yeah, because the thing 00:22:25.220 --> 00:22:28.460 is, you wouldn't be wasting your time. And when 00:22:28.460 --> 00:22:30.599 you have time, it doesn't have to be long clips. 00:22:30.799 --> 00:22:32.640 You know, if you want to do a 10 -minute clip, 00:22:32.839 --> 00:22:34.900 here's a piece of advice on how to do something. 00:22:35.480 --> 00:22:40.079 And put it up there and keep it pushing. keep 00:22:40.079 --> 00:22:43.900 it pushing you know the algorithms you know what 00:22:43.900 --> 00:22:47.819 are you waiting on girl you know so that's just 00:22:47.819 --> 00:22:50.599 how it is though i mean enjoy the journey but 00:22:50.599 --> 00:22:52.380 have fun with it especially if your children 00:22:52.380 --> 00:22:54.779 will be on a journey with you oh they will be 00:22:54.779 --> 00:22:57.680 somebody will be coming in the camera while you're 00:22:57.680 --> 00:23:00.660 trying to give advice something that another 00:23:00.660 --> 00:23:02.400 mother watching would be like girl i totally 00:23:02.400 --> 00:23:06.579 understand they never sit down you know so i 00:23:06.579 --> 00:23:10.490 wouldn't i wouldn't encourage and bring the children 00:23:10.490 --> 00:23:11.710 with you because they're going to make you feel 00:23:11.710 --> 00:23:14.430 young. They may catch on faster than you and 00:23:14.430 --> 00:23:39.730 be like, Mom, we'll do the edits tonight. See, 00:23:39.789 --> 00:23:42.490 Pisces are always on the move towards the next 00:23:42.490 --> 00:23:44.849 thing. That's more like a Sagittarius, isn't 00:23:44.849 --> 00:23:48.269 it? No. I've never met a Pisces that wasn't always, 00:23:48.690 --> 00:23:52.509 let's just say, hustling their way through. Always 00:23:52.509 --> 00:23:56.269 bringing a penny to the table. They never go 00:23:56.269 --> 00:24:13.400 without, let's just say that. yeah they always 00:24:13.400 --> 00:24:15.400 the aries and the pisces one thing they're gonna 00:24:15.400 --> 00:24:17.099 do they're gonna find a way to get that money 00:24:17.099 --> 00:24:20.420 yeah that's the truth so that's nice they're 00:24:20.420 --> 00:24:24.299 more um more calm the aries are more calm more 00:24:24.299 --> 00:24:27.500 behind the scenes so even if you start your youtube 00:24:27.500 --> 00:24:30.519 channel and you're just doing audio do that it 00:24:30.519 --> 00:24:33.039 doesn't have to be it doesn't have to be your 00:24:33.039 --> 00:24:35.480 face yeah because i was telling you like another 00:24:35.480 --> 00:24:37.140 thing that i could do for content because i have 00:24:37.140 --> 00:24:39.779 a dash cam i don't know that application i would 00:24:39.779 --> 00:24:41.339 have to use to like block out license plates 00:24:41.339 --> 00:24:43.839 yeah but i told my kids like i could just like 00:24:43.839 --> 00:24:46.660 upload the my memory card from my dash cam and 00:24:46.660 --> 00:24:49.000 i could just do like a voiceover yes you know 00:24:49.000 --> 00:24:51.400 i think because i even when i was like during 00:24:51.400 --> 00:24:54.319 the pandemic i will find that um that simulation 00:24:54.319 --> 00:24:57.289 of relaxation watching other people drive yes 00:24:57.289 --> 00:24:59.309 other people upload the footage from their dash 00:24:59.309 --> 00:25:01.470 cam uh -huh and they're driving through the city 00:25:01.470 --> 00:25:03.849 and it's like dude i find that relaxing yes yes 00:25:03.849 --> 00:25:07.109 do whatever you find relaxing believe it or not 00:25:07.109 --> 00:25:10.390 it's about 10 000 other people to be like you 00:25:10.390 --> 00:25:11.930 know what i've been waiting for somebody to do 00:25:11.930 --> 00:25:14.789 this you know and then you can change your audio 00:25:14.789 --> 00:25:18.369 music on how you okay Tonight we're listening 00:25:18.369 --> 00:25:21.890 to some slow jams while we ride through. You 00:25:21.890 --> 00:25:23.910 know? So you can change your music while you're 00:25:23.910 --> 00:25:26.690 watching somebody ride through the cam, you know? 00:25:26.809 --> 00:25:29.910 So you can be very unique. You know, have your 00:25:29.910 --> 00:25:31.829 own vibe. And next you know. No, you know what? 00:25:31.849 --> 00:25:33.329 You're completely right about that. You'll be 00:25:33.329 --> 00:25:36.529 on TV? When it comes to different types of content, 00:25:36.769 --> 00:25:39.990 I remember there was this DJ. I used to like 00:25:39.990 --> 00:25:42.789 listening to him on his YouTube channel because... 00:25:43.119 --> 00:25:45.380 He set the vibe, like, he would record himself 00:25:45.380 --> 00:25:48.960 in his living room. Yeah. All the lights up, 00:25:48.960 --> 00:25:50.140 and he would have, like, these, like, ambient 00:25:50.140 --> 00:25:53.299 lights, like, purple, orange, red. Yeah. And 00:25:53.299 --> 00:25:56.319 he would just record himself with his DJ set 00:25:56.319 --> 00:25:58.700 and just play music all night. Okay. For, like, 00:25:58.700 --> 00:26:01.180 five hours straight all night. And he was like, 00:26:01.220 --> 00:26:03.539 dude, like, I would be driving in my car, and 00:26:03.539 --> 00:26:06.000 I would, like, have my camera. Not my camera, 00:26:06.059 --> 00:26:09.359 my actual phone. And I would have the other one 00:26:09.359 --> 00:26:11.710 to do Uber when I was doing food delivery. And 00:26:11.710 --> 00:26:13.890 I would just listen to him, like, jam out in 00:26:13.890 --> 00:26:16.470 his living room. Yeah. And you just got to continue 00:26:16.470 --> 00:26:20.250 to be comfortable within yourself, being comfortable 00:26:20.250 --> 00:26:22.210 within your skin. When you be comfortable within 00:26:22.210 --> 00:26:24.549 your skin, you're going to be wanting to share 00:26:24.549 --> 00:26:27.589 different ways to relax your mind. Okay. Hey, 00:26:27.589 --> 00:26:31.150 you guys, got a ride tonight. Here's a little 00:26:31.150 --> 00:26:34.829 audio. Here's a little music by, I don't know, 00:26:34.930 --> 00:26:37.690 Selena Gomez. And we're going to play it right 00:26:37.690 --> 00:26:40.549 over the video. Have a good night. How does that 00:26:40.549 --> 00:26:42.299 work? with the with the copyrights with youtube 00:26:42.299 --> 00:26:44.380 you you literally will put it at the bottle i 00:26:44.380 --> 00:26:46.359 do not own these copyrights and then youtube 00:26:46.359 --> 00:26:48.759 will allow you there you go don't sit there act 00:26:48.759 --> 00:26:50.980 like you own the copyrights you need to say i 00:26:50.980 --> 00:26:55.440 do not own these copyrights but yes it's stuff 00:26:55.440 --> 00:26:57.700 easy things like that just hey i do not own the 00:26:57.700 --> 00:27:01.059 copyrights next you know the music the uh the 00:27:01.059 --> 00:27:03.819 video is out there and you look up and you'll 00:27:03.819 --> 00:27:05.920 be up you have your own youtube channel now you 00:27:05.920 --> 00:27:09.000 on tv okay you get what i'm saying And it doesn't 00:27:09.000 --> 00:27:11.220 even have to be your face. It's your voice. That's 00:27:11.220 --> 00:27:12.140 what I'm thinking. You know what I'm saying? 00:27:12.220 --> 00:27:13.259 That's what I'm leaning more towards, something 00:27:13.259 --> 00:27:15.799 like that. More audio. Yeah. Like I said, I started 00:27:15.799 --> 00:27:19.859 my podcast with just audio. So Uber drivers, 00:27:20.019 --> 00:27:23.519 y 'all built my pod. So nobody's face was there. 00:27:23.599 --> 00:27:24.839 It was just audio. Well, hey, you're paying for 00:27:24.839 --> 00:27:26.299 the ride. Might as well get something out of 00:27:26.299 --> 00:27:28.880 it. Might as well. You see? You see? You know, 00:27:28.920 --> 00:27:31.900 baby. Invest into yourself. Like, might as well 00:27:31.900 --> 00:27:33.640 get some content out of it. I already paid for 00:27:33.640 --> 00:27:35.859 it. Baby, might as well build the business. Exactly. 00:27:36.140 --> 00:27:38.849 Okay. And hey, maybe you do your LLC and you 00:27:38.849 --> 00:27:41.890 get re exactly the tax deduction off of that 00:27:41.890 --> 00:27:44.750 well yeah oh babe we're already doing it i had 00:27:44.750 --> 00:27:48.150 to use this uber for content yes yes tax deduction 00:27:48.150 --> 00:27:51.490 yes so you learn you learn more as you go everything 00:27:51.490 --> 00:27:56.569 you do in life is of investment so you just gotta 00:27:56.569 --> 00:27:59.829 go get your llc make it make sense okay now that 00:27:59.829 --> 00:28:03.359 we're talking about that i just i just Okay, 00:28:03.359 --> 00:28:05.339 congratulations. So, I'm trying to do something. 00:28:05.539 --> 00:28:08.619 Yeah, and don't stop. And like I stated, content 00:28:08.619 --> 00:28:12.460 can be you cleaning up the kids' bedroom. You 00:28:12.460 --> 00:28:15.119 get what I'm saying? Putting music over it. Like, 00:28:15.119 --> 00:28:17.700 anything you do, it doesn't have to be you stopping 00:28:17.700 --> 00:28:19.579 to stand in front of the camera. You know what? 00:28:19.640 --> 00:28:22.359 Now you're motivating me because, dude, yesterday, 00:28:22.420 --> 00:28:26.579 my kid's grandma, she gave me like a tripod stand. 00:28:26.720 --> 00:28:29.539 Yep. For the phone. And I ended up telling her, 00:28:29.579 --> 00:28:31.440 like, man, I don't need this. Nah. But she still 00:28:31.440 --> 00:28:33.420 gave it to me. Yeah. Maybe that's probably a 00:28:33.420 --> 00:28:34.619 sign that I need to do content. That is a sign. 00:28:34.779 --> 00:28:36.640 Everything you do. I feel like the universe is 00:28:36.640 --> 00:28:39.359 telling me do content. Girl, do it. Okay? Everything 00:28:39.359 --> 00:28:42.599 you do is content. So you cleaning up that dirty 00:28:42.599 --> 00:28:45.059 room from dirty to clean, that's content, baby. 00:28:45.740 --> 00:28:48.740 Watching you do it. Watching you get up, make 00:28:48.740 --> 00:28:51.420 the food, help them out before they go to school. 00:28:51.539 --> 00:28:54.819 Watching the daily routine is a content. You 00:28:54.819 --> 00:28:56.079 give it to them. I got a lot of content to make 00:28:56.079 --> 00:28:58.740 then. Okay. Push play. I have a daily routine. 00:28:58.799 --> 00:29:00.720 I have a daily schedule that I go by every day. 00:29:00.910 --> 00:29:03.450 yes and you just push play people won't find 00:29:03.450 --> 00:29:04.970 that boring you're recording myself doing the 00:29:04.970 --> 00:29:06.910 same thing every day nope because the thing is 00:29:06.910 --> 00:29:09.650 what they're gonna see is consistency okay one 00:29:09.650 --> 00:29:13.109 thing she ain't doing is not showing up you get 00:29:13.109 --> 00:29:14.609 what i'm saying okay she take care of her kids 00:29:14.609 --> 00:29:17.529 yeah you know and they look at it as relative 00:29:17.529 --> 00:29:20.069 some people that are new stepping into motherhood 00:29:20.069 --> 00:29:22.619 they see how the heck do you navigate both yeah 00:29:22.619 --> 00:29:24.660 and they're gonna they're gonna see you navigate 00:29:24.660 --> 00:29:26.720 both they're gonna see days where you're just 00:29:26.720 --> 00:29:28.900 like all right y 'all we're just gonna watch 00:29:28.900 --> 00:29:31.000 the boys clean up the room today and i'm just 00:29:31.000 --> 00:29:33.640 gonna sit here you get what i'm saying yeah and 00:29:33.640 --> 00:29:35.400 they're just cleaning up and that's content boom 00:29:35.400 --> 00:29:37.660 y 'all gonna clean up y 'all room today i'm just 00:29:37.660 --> 00:29:39.980 gonna push play and then i'll y 'all edit later 00:29:39.980 --> 00:29:43.359 you know but everything is out there look into 00:29:43.359 --> 00:29:46.250 cap cut That is the editor, literally. You make 00:29:46.250 --> 00:29:48.410 the videos, you put it to CapCut, it edits for 00:29:48.410 --> 00:29:51.009 you. CapCut, C -A -P? Mm -hmm, CapCut. And Cut, 00:29:51.009 --> 00:29:53.529 C -U -T? Yep, put together, CapCut. It does the 00:29:53.529 --> 00:29:55.650 editing for you. And can you do it on your phone? 00:29:55.710 --> 00:29:58.109 Yes. Okay. It's all on your phone. I'm going 00:29:58.109 --> 00:30:01.109 to download the app. Keep going. You have a mother 00:30:01.109 --> 00:30:05.210 with an LLC? Girl, go blossom. Okay? Yes, it's 00:30:05.210 --> 00:30:09.349 crazy. So, I got a question, though. Sure. If 00:30:09.349 --> 00:30:12.730 you can go back in time and give your young, 00:30:12.950 --> 00:30:15.170 because I'm at the age of 27. Okay. If you can 00:30:15.170 --> 00:30:17.569 go back in time and give your young 27 -year 00:30:17.569 --> 00:30:20.450 -old self advice. You see, I was at a different 00:30:20.450 --> 00:30:23.309 point in my life at 27. What would it be? At 00:30:23.309 --> 00:30:26.230 27, I was already one year separated from my 00:30:26.230 --> 00:30:32.390 kid's dad. And I had, well, 27 was a rough year 00:30:32.390 --> 00:30:33.950 for me, I'm going to be honest. That was 2020. 00:30:34.410 --> 00:30:36.990 Okay. So that was honestly the hardest year of 00:30:36.990 --> 00:30:40.920 my life. But any, if I could go further back, 00:30:40.980 --> 00:30:44.960 though. Okay. Be, choose the person that you 00:30:44.960 --> 00:30:46.940 have kids with, choose them wisely. Choose them 00:30:46.940 --> 00:30:49.980 wisely. Choose them wisely. Okay. Because people 00:30:49.980 --> 00:30:51.700 could be liars, people could sell you a dream. 00:30:52.220 --> 00:30:54.359 At least that's what happened in my case. I knew 00:30:54.359 --> 00:30:56.559 I did not want kids and I did not want to settle 00:30:56.559 --> 00:31:01.140 down. But because I thought I was in love, and 00:31:01.140 --> 00:31:05.259 I was, it's kind of hard because I was really 00:31:05.259 --> 00:31:09.890 young and naive. Sometimes being a woman. You 00:31:09.890 --> 00:31:12.930 want to be taken care of. Yeah. And you want 00:31:12.930 --> 00:31:14.869 to trust your partner that he's doing that for 00:31:14.869 --> 00:31:17.730 you. And he's leading you in the right direction. 00:31:18.029 --> 00:31:21.569 Yeah. But I learned my best advice is trust myself. 00:31:22.390 --> 00:31:25.349 Don't depend. Don't trust anybody else. Don't 00:31:25.349 --> 00:31:27.809 follow nobody. Don't. And I know that's kind 00:31:27.809 --> 00:31:29.269 of contradictory because you're going to go with 00:31:29.269 --> 00:31:33.650 your boyfriend. Yeah. I know. I would say don't 00:31:33.650 --> 00:31:35.869 be naive. Yeah. Well, of course. Follow your 00:31:35.869 --> 00:31:38.079 gut. If you know something's wrong and this is 00:31:38.079 --> 00:31:39.640 not what you want to do, follow your gut. Because 00:31:39.640 --> 00:31:41.339 that's one thing I did not do. I did not follow 00:31:41.339 --> 00:31:45.000 my gut. Okay. Yeah, I always say the best way 00:31:45.000 --> 00:31:49.400 in life is to have three special alphabets that 00:31:49.400 --> 00:31:52.980 you go by. And me, mine is a CYA. Okay. Cover 00:31:52.980 --> 00:31:55.859 your ass. Yeah. Always. And you see, that's one 00:31:55.859 --> 00:31:59.730 thing I did do. So something I did do. Even though 00:31:59.730 --> 00:32:02.289 I loved him and everything, I did not put nothing 00:32:02.289 --> 00:32:05.069 under his name. Because when we got separated, 00:32:05.210 --> 00:32:08.069 he wanted to go after everything I had. And it 00:32:08.069 --> 00:32:12.910 was just really ridiculous. And no, I think that's 00:32:12.910 --> 00:32:14.569 probably the best advice I could probably give 00:32:14.569 --> 00:32:17.750 anyone is trust yourself. Even when you don't 00:32:17.750 --> 00:32:19.910 think you could do it, even when you don't think 00:32:19.910 --> 00:32:25.420 that you're capable, always trust yourself. Regardless. 00:32:25.559 --> 00:32:27.460 Don't trust anybody else. Don't depend on anybody 00:32:27.460 --> 00:32:31.519 else. Okay. Follow your gut. Because your gut, 00:32:31.519 --> 00:32:36.180 I believe, I'm Christian. Yeah. I believe your 00:32:36.180 --> 00:32:39.240 gut is the Holy Spirit inside you, guiding you. 00:32:39.380 --> 00:32:43.539 Yes. And follow that. Yeah. If you know this 00:32:43.539 --> 00:32:46.240 person is not right for you, don't even convince 00:32:46.240 --> 00:32:48.859 yourself to be with them. Yeah. It's going to 00:32:48.859 --> 00:32:50.539 hurt to leave, especially a relationship. It 00:32:50.539 --> 00:32:53.559 hurts a lot to leave people behind. But at the 00:32:53.559 --> 00:32:55.380 end of the day, you have to live with yourself 00:32:55.380 --> 00:32:57.279 and you have to develop that relationship with 00:32:57.279 --> 00:32:59.480 yourself to love yourself and trust yourself. 00:33:00.059 --> 00:33:03.940 The minute you start doing things that you know 00:33:03.940 --> 00:33:06.579 are not right, slowly but surely you start losing 00:33:06.579 --> 00:33:08.640 trust in yourself. When you start doing things 00:33:08.640 --> 00:33:10.940 that you know you shouldn't be doing, doing things 00:33:10.940 --> 00:33:13.740 that your gut is telling you not to do, you will 00:33:13.740 --> 00:33:16.359 slowly stop losing trust in yourself and you 00:33:16.359 --> 00:33:18.680 will start questioning everything about yourself. 00:33:19.039 --> 00:33:22.980 So I would say trust yourself all the time. If 00:33:22.980 --> 00:33:24.400 you know you shouldn't be doing something, don't 00:33:24.400 --> 00:33:25.339 do it. If you know you shouldn't be with this 00:33:25.339 --> 00:33:27.400 person, don't be with them. If you know this 00:33:27.400 --> 00:33:29.160 person is giving you advice and you know it's 00:33:29.160 --> 00:33:32.420 wrong, don't even listen to them. Always follow 00:33:32.420 --> 00:33:35.900 your gut. That would be the only advice I would 00:33:35.900 --> 00:33:38.380 say to live by. At least for me. That's what 00:33:38.380 --> 00:33:41.480 I learned. You know? Okay. Especially when you're 00:33:41.480 --> 00:33:44.920 young and you're making those choices. I get 00:33:44.920 --> 00:33:48.940 that, too. Just staying within yourself, knowing 00:33:48.940 --> 00:33:50.900 that if you're feeling like you're going to get 00:33:50.900 --> 00:33:53.759 your own morals, take a step back. You get what 00:33:53.759 --> 00:33:55.099 I'm saying? Yeah, don't go against yourself. 00:33:55.380 --> 00:33:57.740 But for you, I'll leave you with a piece of advice 00:33:57.740 --> 00:34:01.319 as a life coach here. As a life coach here, in 00:34:01.319 --> 00:34:03.960 the beginning of starting my business, the first 00:34:03.960 --> 00:34:05.559 thing I thought I needed was a business plan. 00:34:06.000 --> 00:34:09.500 But I can honestly tell you, for the business 00:34:09.500 --> 00:34:12.739 plan, Just start the business. Yeah, that's what 00:34:12.739 --> 00:34:15.679 I told myself when I did the LLC. It was $300, 00:34:15.679 --> 00:34:17.500 but I was like, let me just do it now. Just start 00:34:17.500 --> 00:34:20.400 it. I don't even have a plan. You make a plan 00:34:20.400 --> 00:34:22.820 later. All I have is the name. Let me take the 00:34:22.820 --> 00:34:25.400 baby steps. Yes, you make a plan later. I'll 00:34:25.400 --> 00:34:27.559 figure it out. To start a business plan is just 00:34:27.559 --> 00:34:29.360 to start the business. That's the first plan. 00:34:29.420 --> 00:34:31.099 Start the business and then come up with a full 00:34:31.099 --> 00:34:34.199 plan later, okay? It was a pleasure with you, 00:34:34.260 --> 00:34:37.199 a lovely Uber driver again. Thank you. All right, 00:34:37.260 --> 00:34:38.039 have a good day.