WEBVTT 00:00:00.400 --> 00:00:07.940 Two weeks, baby. Two weeks, baby. I will be officially 00:00:07.940 --> 00:00:13.080 out of the corporate world. Yes, two weeks. God 00:00:13.080 --> 00:00:17.019 darn it. I'm excited. I'm excited to be a civilian. 00:00:17.780 --> 00:00:23.000 I'm excited to be broke. No, seriously, I'm just 00:00:23.000 --> 00:00:27.280 excited to go out into the world every day, wake 00:00:27.280 --> 00:00:30.280 up and have a new routine that doesn't involve 00:00:30.280 --> 00:00:34.679 going into someone's building for eight hours, 00:00:35.060 --> 00:00:37.340 sitting on my behind, trying to talk to people 00:00:37.340 --> 00:00:41.100 on the phone. Okay? Trying to educate folks through 00:00:41.100 --> 00:00:45.439 the phone. No more. All right? I've had my share 00:00:45.439 --> 00:00:49.979 fair of being a service worker. So when you see 00:00:49.979 --> 00:00:51.950 me... which you probably won't. But when you 00:00:51.950 --> 00:00:56.229 do, you thank me for my service. My two to going 00:00:56.229 --> 00:01:00.890 on three years service. All right. So this year 00:01:00.890 --> 00:01:04.090 would have been two years. Next year would have 00:01:04.090 --> 00:01:09.250 been three. But you thank me for my service. 00:01:09.430 --> 00:01:12.890 All right. I'm blessed to have learned everything 00:01:12.890 --> 00:01:18.739 I've learned. I am just ready to blossom. I'm 00:01:18.739 --> 00:01:23.439 ready to continue to be loose, lost, sometimes 00:01:23.439 --> 00:01:28.420 lonely. This is episode 63 with your favorite 00:01:28.420 --> 00:01:31.340 life coach here, Cecile. Because shit, that's 00:01:31.340 --> 00:01:32.780 just like you guys. We're going to figure it 00:01:32.780 --> 00:01:35.799 out every day. We learning. We're not giving 00:01:35.799 --> 00:01:40.519 up. Episode 63, let's get started. Let's get 00:01:40.519 --> 00:01:52.250 started. Hey, let's get started. Ah. Okay, we're 00:01:52.250 --> 00:01:55.909 here episode 63 all -star first of course life 00:01:55.909 --> 00:01:59.269 update Life update what's going on with you girl 00:01:59.269 --> 00:02:04.890 me? I'm slowly stressing you all Yes, I'm excited 00:02:04.890 --> 00:02:07.090 about leaving, but I am slowly stressing when 00:02:07.090 --> 00:02:12.590 I tell you there was so much for me to pack I'm 00:02:12.590 --> 00:02:15.849 not kidding. I have so much clothes and partially 00:02:15.849 --> 00:02:19.250 all these clothes that I have It's from my prior 00:02:19.250 --> 00:02:21.789 journey as a fashion designer. I have so many 00:02:21.789 --> 00:02:25.090 clothes. You get what I'm saying? I'm trying 00:02:25.090 --> 00:02:30.689 to figure out what do I put up in my containers? 00:02:31.770 --> 00:02:34.689 What do I take with me? Do I start to give things 00:02:34.689 --> 00:02:38.849 away? I don't know. A part of me just want to 00:02:38.849 --> 00:02:40.930 keep a lot of things as a hoarder. I've never 00:02:40.930 --> 00:02:42.930 been one, but now I'm like, you know, this is 00:02:42.930 --> 00:02:46.129 why people are hoarders. I'm trying to keep little 00:02:46.129 --> 00:02:49.710 projects for myself. So I'm trying to discipline 00:02:49.710 --> 00:02:52.389 myself, like, okay, girl, you can't keep everything. 00:02:54.009 --> 00:02:56.389 Because this is only your 20s era that you're 00:02:56.389 --> 00:02:58.389 putting in this box, babe. We got more eras to 00:02:58.389 --> 00:03:04.710 go. So I'm going to slowly start giving things 00:03:04.710 --> 00:03:06.710 away to different charity. Because I would love 00:03:06.710 --> 00:03:08.370 to see just a homeless person with something 00:03:08.370 --> 00:03:11.710 I had on, I made, you know, one of my Cecile 00:03:11.710 --> 00:03:16.430 shirts on a homeless, I would love it. So I'm 00:03:16.430 --> 00:03:20.449 gonna give a lot of stuff away to charity. Trying 00:03:20.449 --> 00:03:25.270 to really downsize it all into a suitcase. But 00:03:25.270 --> 00:03:28.389 for now, I'm going to put some things in charity. 00:03:28.870 --> 00:03:30.810 A lot of things I'm gonna keep because like I 00:03:30.810 --> 00:03:34.409 stated, I work hard. That sewing machine did 00:03:34.409 --> 00:03:38.550 not make itself. Those clothes did not put themselves 00:03:38.550 --> 00:03:40.689 under that sewing machine. The sewing machine 00:03:40.689 --> 00:03:42.689 didn't buy itself is really what I meant to say. 00:03:42.789 --> 00:03:45.430 Yeah. The sewing machine did not purchase itself. 00:03:45.550 --> 00:03:47.449 It cost a little too much money for me to take 00:03:47.449 --> 00:03:50.430 it back. I'm not doing that, okay? We're keeping 00:03:50.430 --> 00:03:53.889 the sewing machine. Every year I make my own 00:03:53.889 --> 00:03:57.250 birthday dress, or birthday outfit, whatever 00:03:57.250 --> 00:04:02.930 my look is, is made by me. So I'm like, I have 00:04:02.930 --> 00:04:06.250 to take the sewing machine. I have to. I have 00:04:06.250 --> 00:04:08.569 to take my sewing machine because I definitely 00:04:08.569 --> 00:04:11.620 will be creating my look for January. I don't 00:04:11.620 --> 00:04:13.560 want to sit around waiting on nobody's company 00:04:13.560 --> 00:04:15.719 to try to send me a dress that's too big or too 00:04:15.719 --> 00:04:20.259 small. You guys just keep it. I have so much 00:04:20.259 --> 00:04:27.540 to freaking pack. Besides that, I'm ready to 00:04:27.540 --> 00:04:31.259 dip my foot over there in England again. Love 00:04:31.259 --> 00:04:34.300 the weather. I'm ready to go to the parks. Oh, 00:04:34.300 --> 00:04:36.379 it's lovely just going to the park, acting like 00:04:36.379 --> 00:04:39.819 a Karen all my life. Over there, I'm definitely 00:04:39.819 --> 00:04:44.839 a Karen. So it's very nice to just navigate. 00:04:45.060 --> 00:04:46.899 Now I'm ready to see how the heck am I going 00:04:46.899 --> 00:04:49.759 to pod over there? What are the people I'm going 00:04:49.759 --> 00:04:51.160 to, who are the people I'm going to run into? 00:04:52.699 --> 00:04:56.399 Where are the higher ups? I don't know. I'm just 00:04:56.399 --> 00:04:58.639 nervous though. I'm so excited, but yet I'm so 00:04:58.639 --> 00:05:01.019 nervous because I'm like, I'm literally coming 00:05:01.019 --> 00:05:05.360 from the US to the UK. Oh my God. Oh my God. 00:05:05.800 --> 00:05:09.819 So yes, you guys, your girl is nervous, but yet 00:05:09.819 --> 00:05:14.000 ready. Okay. Outside of that, I've been catching 00:05:14.000 --> 00:05:18.459 up with my family, having some family time. My 00:05:18.459 --> 00:05:23.040 brother. and my boyfriend have been really kicking 00:05:23.040 --> 00:05:26.379 it off, you know? That was the last on my list 00:05:26.379 --> 00:05:31.180 to ever expect. But my boyfriend is such a sweetheart 00:05:31.180 --> 00:05:36.399 with such a vibrant, vibrant vibe, a vibrant 00:05:36.399 --> 00:05:40.980 aura that he brings. So I was not really surprised 00:05:40.980 --> 00:05:43.680 that he was able to kick it off with my brother, 00:05:43.680 --> 00:05:48.329 but I was surprised that the Leo got back in 00:05:48.329 --> 00:05:53.149 touch as quickly. So besides my family just connecting 00:05:53.149 --> 00:05:57.350 slowly but surely, I'm just trying to figure 00:05:57.350 --> 00:06:00.209 out how I'm gonna wrap up down here, okay? I'm 00:06:00.209 --> 00:06:03.990 trying to figure out also besides just packing, 00:06:04.689 --> 00:06:07.870 who's gonna do my hair in the UK? I need to know. 00:06:08.730 --> 00:06:10.689 Anyone, if you're listening, please comment. 00:06:11.490 --> 00:06:14.829 Let me know. Send a girl a DM. If you know any 00:06:14.829 --> 00:06:18.449 person in the UK that can do a nappy -headed 00:06:18.449 --> 00:06:20.670 girl's hair. No, I'm not nappy -headed. I'm sorry. 00:06:22.170 --> 00:06:25.290 But there are my days. I do have days where things 00:06:25.290 --> 00:06:29.410 are not always meshing perfectly. But there are 00:06:29.410 --> 00:06:32.509 other days where I'm just nice and curly -headed. 00:06:33.250 --> 00:06:35.269 So I'm just trying to figure out who's going 00:06:35.269 --> 00:06:38.370 to do my hair. Are we talking braids? Sew in. 00:06:38.850 --> 00:06:41.189 There's just a lot to do. It's not just packing 00:06:41.189 --> 00:06:43.699 for a girl. You get what I'm saying? It's not 00:06:43.699 --> 00:06:47.259 just, oh, throwing up a few bras, throwing some. 00:06:47.600 --> 00:06:52.420 No, I got heels, boots, shoes. I don't even know 00:06:52.420 --> 00:06:55.319 if my boyfriend is ready for all this. Like, 00:06:55.319 --> 00:06:58.680 sir, did you literally prepare for me to come 00:06:58.680 --> 00:07:01.120 take over your apartment, basically? Because 00:07:01.120 --> 00:07:03.639 it's not just me, it's me and my things, and 00:07:03.639 --> 00:07:08.259 my things have to go where I go, okay? Slowly 00:07:08.259 --> 00:07:11.449 but surely, I'm trying to figure it out. Outside 00:07:11.449 --> 00:07:13.769 of that, you guys, there's so much going on in 00:07:13.769 --> 00:07:17.310 the world besides me drama, all right? And this 00:07:17.310 --> 00:07:19.269 episode 63, we're gonna get back to it. We're 00:07:19.269 --> 00:07:22.970 gonna get right into the worldly, culturally 00:07:22.970 --> 00:07:26.350 news out there that's going on in society. You 00:07:26.350 --> 00:07:30.389 know, the social networks out there are just 00:07:30.389 --> 00:07:32.250 putting out all the news. I don't know if you 00:07:32.250 --> 00:07:36.750 guys heard about the BET Awards and the Sone 00:07:36.750 --> 00:07:40.279 Train Awards being suspended indefinitely. by 00:07:40.279 --> 00:07:44.720 BET, by the BET CEO Scott Mills. They stated 00:07:44.720 --> 00:07:49.540 the network is re -imaging these awards to show, 00:07:49.879 --> 00:07:54.120 to show and better fit the involving media landscape. 00:07:54.759 --> 00:08:01.040 Now, I'm nervous. And they also even say this 00:08:01.040 --> 00:08:03.459 includes potentially moving them to streaming 00:08:03.459 --> 00:08:06.220 and other platforms. Yeah, I'm definitely nervous. 00:08:06.459 --> 00:08:09.759 Okay. I definitely have always loved the Soul 00:08:09.759 --> 00:08:12.220 Train Awards and the BET Awards. I literally 00:08:12.220 --> 00:08:16.079 run home just to watch the BET Awards. Literally, 00:08:16.319 --> 00:08:20.360 you know, cook dinner, steal. Now, the dinner 00:08:20.360 --> 00:08:24.279 changes. It was Rotel, but now we're just making 00:08:24.279 --> 00:08:28.339 pizza for the hip -hop awards. But we're still 00:08:28.339 --> 00:08:31.199 running to the screen. We're still rushing to 00:08:31.199 --> 00:08:34.840 see who's gonna perform. We still want to see 00:08:34.840 --> 00:08:38.000 who's nominated and who's won best album of the 00:08:38.000 --> 00:08:43.799 year, you name it. So I'm a little saddened the 00:08:43.799 --> 00:08:48.039 fact that it just feels like we're losing everything. 00:08:48.779 --> 00:08:51.139 This is the folks, the culture, we are losing 00:08:51.139 --> 00:08:55.039 out on a lot. So I'm like, okay, I'm eager to 00:08:55.039 --> 00:08:57.500 see how fast you guys get it up there, because 00:08:57.500 --> 00:08:59.320 I'm going to miss the BET Awards. I think you 00:08:59.320 --> 00:09:02.320 should move fast if you're going to be re -imaging. 00:09:02.490 --> 00:09:05.789 Okay, don't forget about the black folks. Okay, 00:09:05.970 --> 00:09:07.789 because I'm going to miss the hip hop awards. 00:09:08.009 --> 00:09:11.549 I love hip hop. All right. All right. Now the 00:09:11.549 --> 00:09:16.009 Soul Train Awards. That was more of a as a kid, 00:09:16.009 --> 00:09:21.049 I would just run to the screen. But I've learned 00:09:21.049 --> 00:09:25.009 a lot of artists through watching the Soul Train 00:09:25.009 --> 00:09:28.470 Awards as a child. So I'm just like, dang, that's 00:09:28.470 --> 00:09:31.320 that's a part of history. That's a part of my 00:09:31.320 --> 00:09:34.580 growing up upbringing the shows and watching 00:09:34.580 --> 00:09:36.740 everybody on the solo train and they would be 00:09:36.740 --> 00:09:39.200 in their in their roller skates and all that 00:09:39.200 --> 00:09:44.080 just like it was a part of being why do they 00:09:44.080 --> 00:09:48.460 need to be re -imaging things i don't know i 00:09:48.460 --> 00:09:51.100 guess it's just not working now that things are 00:09:51.100 --> 00:09:54.620 moving towards streaming platforms so hopefully 00:09:54.620 --> 00:09:57.340 however they re -image they just bring it back 00:09:57.340 --> 00:10:01.159 okay just bring it back Don't take it away forever. 00:10:01.840 --> 00:10:04.299 Reimage it, do what you gotta do. Come back and 00:10:04.299 --> 00:10:06.240 come back stronger. Some of us are still waiting. 00:10:06.679 --> 00:10:10.440 That's all I'm saying. I'm 27. And I would not 00:10:10.440 --> 00:10:15.419 not go to a Soul Train award. If someone sent 00:10:15.419 --> 00:10:18.740 me a ticket or if I got an invitation to go to 00:10:18.740 --> 00:10:21.820 the Soul Train awards, I definitely would accept. 00:10:23.100 --> 00:10:27.000 So you all, please, anyone that's listening. 00:10:27.519 --> 00:10:31.960 We need the Soul Train Awards. It's just as important 00:10:31.960 --> 00:10:34.460 as the hip -hop awards, just as important as 00:10:34.460 --> 00:10:38.480 our upbringing coming up. It was in a lot of 00:10:38.480 --> 00:10:44.200 our Gen Z upbringings. Anyone that's Gen Z, like 00:10:44.200 --> 00:10:48.860 me. So a lot of Gen Zs, hey, it was in your upbringing 00:10:48.860 --> 00:10:52.059 just like it was in mine, okay? I feel like everything 00:10:52.059 --> 00:10:54.200 is changing nowadays. It's just changing right 00:10:54.200 --> 00:10:56.240 in front of us, every day, every night, by the 00:10:56.240 --> 00:10:59.480 hour. it's crazy we can hardly keep up sometimes 00:10:59.480 --> 00:11:03.100 okay that's just one thing but i'll move forward 00:11:03.100 --> 00:11:07.299 people okay next thing i don't know if you all 00:11:07.299 --> 00:11:14.679 been watching but trump to federal he was trying 00:11:14.679 --> 00:11:20.360 to federalize the dc police and deploy the national 00:11:20.360 --> 00:11:23.039 guards to fight criminal fight crime i'm sorry 00:11:23.799 --> 00:11:26.440 So he was trying to deploy the National Guard 00:11:26.440 --> 00:11:29.500 to fight crime, you know, in D .C. And I'm seeing 00:11:29.500 --> 00:11:31.820 that he's trying to, like, recommend this in 00:11:31.820 --> 00:11:36.840 different states. Make sure you vote. Make sure 00:11:36.840 --> 00:11:40.899 you vote. If you are hearing someone say words 00:11:40.899 --> 00:11:43.820 you don't understand, Google the words. Okay? 00:11:44.279 --> 00:11:46.120 Never be afraid to be like, okay, you said what? 00:11:47.460 --> 00:11:50.059 Okay, let's Google everything someone says if 00:11:50.059 --> 00:11:53.500 you don't know. Just look it up, you know? Ask 00:11:53.500 --> 00:11:55.899 them what they mean on that word. Ask for clarity. 00:11:56.580 --> 00:11:59.639 But I definitely, as someone that's leaving the 00:11:59.639 --> 00:12:02.940 government, that's learned the government jargon, 00:12:03.500 --> 00:12:05.840 all I can say is the more questions you ask, 00:12:06.179 --> 00:12:10.500 the better you can learn that sometimes in this 00:12:10.500 --> 00:12:12.720 world we get direct answers, sometimes in this 00:12:12.720 --> 00:12:16.320 world we get beat around the bush answers, okay? 00:12:17.259 --> 00:12:21.039 So I say anyone that's listening, hearing about 00:12:21.039 --> 00:12:25.299 these National Guard just trying to be deployed 00:12:25.299 --> 00:12:30.320 to fight crime. Continue to vote in your state, 00:12:30.620 --> 00:12:34.419 okay? So I think that's definitely important. 00:12:35.019 --> 00:12:37.740 I pray it doesn't come to Texas while I'm here. 00:12:38.740 --> 00:12:41.419 What they do when I leave, I don't know. But 00:12:41.419 --> 00:12:44.580 while I'm here, I just pray you guys chill because 00:12:44.580 --> 00:12:49.240 it's already going crazy. He's also already talking 00:12:49.240 --> 00:12:53.659 about jail time for homeless. Folks in Washington 00:12:53.659 --> 00:12:57.159 DC, jail time for anyone who refuses shelter. 00:13:00.259 --> 00:13:04.299 Baby, first off, why do you think they're going 00:13:04.299 --> 00:13:08.460 to refuse shelter? Secondly, what's the repercussions 00:13:08.460 --> 00:13:10.779 with the shelter? Because one thing about Trump 00:13:10.779 --> 00:13:13.159 is just nothing is ever as good as it sounds. 00:13:13.480 --> 00:13:16.539 So I'm sure there's more to it when it comes 00:13:16.539 --> 00:13:18.860 to this shelter situation. That's probably why 00:13:18.860 --> 00:13:22.180 everybody's a little skeptical. All right? So 00:13:22.180 --> 00:13:25.259 I'm gonna have to look more into it, but I will 00:13:25.259 --> 00:13:27.820 have to need more meat on the bone about this 00:13:27.820 --> 00:13:32.679 shelter for him to wanna put folks in jail if 00:13:32.679 --> 00:13:36.559 they refuse shelter. I'm telling you, there's 00:13:36.559 --> 00:13:38.559 gotta be something behind that one, but I'll 00:13:38.559 --> 00:13:41.500 do my due diligence and learn more. But for now, 00:13:41.620 --> 00:13:44.639 we're gonna move on to the next topic here, people. 00:13:45.659 --> 00:13:50.840 Okay. Next topic here. I'm not sure if you guys 00:13:50.840 --> 00:13:54.100 have been watching The Shade Room, getting your 00:13:54.100 --> 00:13:58.480 news. My girl, Mariah the Sciences, she has a 00:13:58.480 --> 00:14:02.519 topic, you guys, about dating a man and or a 00:14:02.519 --> 00:14:06.899 woman with children, okay? I'ma let you guys 00:14:06.899 --> 00:14:11.179 hear Mariah's comment from a pod that she did 00:14:11.179 --> 00:14:15.220 before you hear mine, okay? All right, let's 00:14:15.220 --> 00:14:18.679 go here. Other ladies out there that are thinking, 00:14:19.019 --> 00:14:21.320 well, I don't want to date a man with kids. And 00:14:21.320 --> 00:14:25.559 you're like judging the idea of someone who has 00:14:25.559 --> 00:14:29.799 had that happen. I feel like dating somebody 00:14:29.799 --> 00:14:33.440 with kids has taught me more about a family unit 00:14:33.440 --> 00:14:36.340 than anything I could have ever imagined because 00:14:36.340 --> 00:14:39.080 you're seeing it in real time. You know, you're 00:14:39.080 --> 00:14:42.940 seeing like. The ins and outs of parenting, regardless 00:14:42.940 --> 00:14:44.940 if somebody is together or not together, you're 00:14:44.940 --> 00:14:48.440 seeing just, it's really, parenting is very interesting. 00:14:48.679 --> 00:14:54.500 It's hard. It is. Even kids. Yeah. And I agree. 00:14:56.559 --> 00:15:00.179 I agree that parenting may be a difficult situation. 00:15:00.240 --> 00:15:03.419 I'm not a mother. I'm not a father. Nor am I 00:15:03.419 --> 00:15:07.019 a stepmother. But I have dealt with people in 00:15:07.019 --> 00:15:10.289 the past. before I was solidified and taken. 00:15:11.190 --> 00:15:14.049 I've dealt with people in the past that have 00:15:14.049 --> 00:15:18.470 had children with multiple mothers. You know, 00:15:18.610 --> 00:15:22.210 there was multiple baby mothers. And just like 00:15:22.210 --> 00:15:25.429 in her predicament, I've learned a lot. Yeah, 00:15:25.429 --> 00:15:29.169 you see a family dynamic in front of you. You 00:15:29.169 --> 00:15:35.419 also see a full package of journeys. Let's just 00:15:35.419 --> 00:15:38.759 say that, okay? I see a full package of a journey 00:15:38.759 --> 00:15:42.899 in front of me. And I think that has a lot within 00:15:42.899 --> 00:15:46.539 itself to unpack. So I've always stated to people, 00:15:46.940 --> 00:15:49.120 know a package is a package when you see one. 00:15:51.600 --> 00:15:55.940 I definitely at times felt like I was settling. 00:15:56.679 --> 00:15:58.559 But then again, there was times where I was like, 00:15:58.720 --> 00:16:01.159 well, I eventually want a kid anyway. So what 00:16:01.159 --> 00:16:05.110 the heck is the problem? Well. It's different 00:16:05.110 --> 00:16:06.990 when you're the mother and then someone else 00:16:06.990 --> 00:16:09.610 is the mother of another child and you're playing 00:16:09.610 --> 00:16:14.649 stepmother, okay? So it's different when two 00:16:14.649 --> 00:16:17.750 people have to communicate nonstop whatsoever, 00:16:17.750 --> 00:16:21.429 partially because they have a child in the world. 00:16:22.230 --> 00:16:25.350 That's a different type of feeling. That, you 00:16:25.350 --> 00:16:28.429 know, you're just connected to a person all the 00:16:28.429 --> 00:16:32.399 time. Sometimes there's no boundaries. That's 00:16:32.399 --> 00:16:34.799 why I couldn't do the dating the person with 00:16:34.799 --> 00:16:39.879 a kid it was Trying to nip boundaries. You know 00:16:39.879 --> 00:16:42.559 like okay. I know this is happening, but why 00:16:42.559 --> 00:16:45.440 do y 'all got to do this? That didn't work for 00:16:45.440 --> 00:16:50.679 me like I needed Really structured value boundaries 00:16:50.679 --> 00:16:54.039 when it comes to Someone else having a child 00:16:54.039 --> 00:16:57.860 that is in my you know I'm saying so I don't 00:16:57.860 --> 00:17:01.940 see how she did it, but she doing it, okay? I 00:17:01.940 --> 00:17:05.400 would advise anybody out there, keep in mind, 00:17:05.960 --> 00:17:08.480 there's multiple people on this world. There's 00:17:08.480 --> 00:17:10.740 multiple people in the U .S. There's multiple 00:17:10.740 --> 00:17:14.299 people outside of the U .S., okay? My man wasn't 00:17:14.299 --> 00:17:18.359 in the U .S. You know, I'm not married or anything, 00:17:18.619 --> 00:17:23.440 but my man wasn't in the U .S., so kudos to Mariah 00:17:23.440 --> 00:17:28.410 for... Thugging it out, literally, okay? Because 00:17:28.410 --> 00:17:31.490 I'm pretty sure that's not an easy journey and 00:17:31.490 --> 00:17:36.970 she's learning a lot on the way, but I got off 00:17:36.970 --> 00:17:39.869 that train. Yeah, yeah, I can say that for sure. 00:17:40.190 --> 00:17:42.809 Head, heel high. I got off that train. That train 00:17:42.809 --> 00:17:46.130 was gone for me. Like I said, boundaries is major 00:17:46.130 --> 00:17:49.369 for me, especially if you guys are no longer 00:17:49.369 --> 00:17:53.509 together because with... Having a nice human 00:17:53.509 --> 00:17:56.569 being a lot of times, which is a child, having 00:17:56.569 --> 00:17:59.390 a child in this world makes somebody either bitter, 00:18:00.390 --> 00:18:04.829 somebody's either over doing something, meaning 00:18:04.829 --> 00:18:07.930 they just overstaying their welcome when it comes 00:18:07.930 --> 00:18:11.849 to certain things. Always trying to be involved 00:18:11.849 --> 00:18:14.230 when it's just clearly this is for the child. 00:18:15.089 --> 00:18:17.349 That's it, clearly for the child. So I don't 00:18:17.349 --> 00:18:20.829 know how she did it, but she did it. Okay, Mariah. 00:18:21.049 --> 00:18:24.930 I hear you, girl. What a journey that you decided 00:18:24.930 --> 00:18:29.069 to pick up and learn from. Kudos to you. All 00:18:29.069 --> 00:18:30.490 right. I'm going to move on to the next topic 00:18:30.490 --> 00:18:34.410 because, baby, I'm getting triggered. And I don't 00:18:34.410 --> 00:18:36.049 even want to think about the man that I was talking 00:18:36.049 --> 00:18:37.890 to, the Aggies. I don't got time for that. Mm 00:18:37.890 --> 00:18:41.509 -mm. No. I'm past it. I'm sitting with the Karens 00:18:41.509 --> 00:18:47.049 now. Leave me alone. Mm -mm. Let's move on. But 00:18:47.049 --> 00:18:51.009 let's get into shit that's just life. Show of 00:18:51.009 --> 00:18:56.009 the week, of course. Vanderpump Rules is the 00:18:56.009 --> 00:18:58.690 show of the week. I'm not sure if you guys ever 00:18:58.690 --> 00:19:04.109 seen Vanderpump Rules on Bravo, on Peacock. Vanderpump 00:19:04.109 --> 00:19:09.650 Rules is the show of the week, you guys. I had 00:19:09.650 --> 00:19:11.930 to watch it because I see the new one, it's coming 00:19:11.930 --> 00:19:15.069 out soon. So I had to go back and watch the old 00:19:15.069 --> 00:19:18.690 one. I specifically wanted to know where the 00:19:18.690 --> 00:19:22.650 heck did Ariana come from? You know, Ariana from 00:19:22.650 --> 00:19:26.089 Love Island, the host. So she came from Vanderpump 00:19:26.089 --> 00:19:28.569 Rules and I was able to watch her journey from 00:19:28.569 --> 00:19:35.730 there and now I'm ready to report on it. Ariana 00:19:35.730 --> 00:19:44.759 in the smallest form. She basically had a great 00:19:44.759 --> 00:19:49.460 boyfriend for nine years up until a certain time. 00:19:50.000 --> 00:19:56.539 He decided to sleep with her best friend. Yes, 00:19:56.619 --> 00:19:58.799 her boyfriend of nine years decided to sleep 00:19:58.799 --> 00:20:01.440 with her best friend of how many years she's 00:20:01.440 --> 00:20:05.839 been knowing that best friend forever. And to 00:20:05.839 --> 00:20:07.799 put the icing on the cake, he was sleeping with 00:20:07.799 --> 00:20:12.200 the best friend. for seven months and that's 00:20:12.200 --> 00:20:15.539 just that's not even the whole show but that's 00:20:15.539 --> 00:20:18.339 ariana's story from there at the end over here 00:20:18.339 --> 00:20:22.119 because she had a whole journey with him i would 00:20:22.119 --> 00:20:32.579 like to say that if my boyfriend of nine years 00:20:32.579 --> 00:20:36.960 decided to do anything and his brain told him 00:20:36.960 --> 00:20:41.380 to do it with my friend, I probably wouldn't 00:20:41.380 --> 00:20:46.839 be on the podcast. I can say that. I won't say 00:20:46.839 --> 00:20:49.359 anything else because I don't really incriminate 00:20:49.359 --> 00:20:53.599 myself. But I'm just saying I wouldn't be on 00:20:53.599 --> 00:20:57.460 the pod. I would, I would barely be on a TV show, 00:20:57.539 --> 00:21:01.539 okay? I would not need my face plastered around 00:21:01.539 --> 00:21:05.690 because the damage I may do to those two. individuals 00:21:05.690 --> 00:21:14.490 um yeah nine years and then the best friend that 00:21:14.490 --> 00:21:20.789 she was always there for um yeah i really really 00:21:20.789 --> 00:21:24.809 need to know what raquel slash rachel sign was 00:21:24.809 --> 00:21:27.069 what's her zodiac sign what is it not even was 00:21:27.069 --> 00:21:29.930 what is it i need to figure out what her zodiac 00:21:29.930 --> 00:21:33.549 sign is that made her go after her own best friend's 00:21:33.549 --> 00:21:37.160 boyfriend I need to know. I really need to know 00:21:37.160 --> 00:21:39.279 because when I was watching the show I was feeling 00:21:39.279 --> 00:21:43.740 sad for her for being the lost lonely and the 00:21:43.740 --> 00:21:46.319 loose. I really did feel sorry for Rachel being 00:21:46.319 --> 00:21:49.519 the lost lonely and the loose at the time on 00:21:49.519 --> 00:21:52.720 the show. It was obvious the girl was lost after 00:21:52.720 --> 00:21:56.960 her breakup with her partner. She was once a 00:21:56.960 --> 00:22:00.440 fiance. She had to let him go. Baby girl was 00:22:00.440 --> 00:22:03.099 lost after that because fiancee ended up getting 00:22:03.099 --> 00:22:06.240 another girl the next week Or even the next month 00:22:06.240 --> 00:22:08.220 wasn't even the next week. It was the next month 00:22:08.220 --> 00:22:11.299 He ended up getting another girl the next month. 00:22:11.420 --> 00:22:14.740 So of course it left her Destroyed, of course, 00:22:14.799 --> 00:22:19.099 it left her just lonely and lost out there Now 00:22:19.099 --> 00:22:22.660 where did the loose come from? Hmm. I have no 00:22:22.660 --> 00:22:27.799 idea but her high self Went to go talk to her 00:22:27.799 --> 00:22:32.220 own best friend's man. Too loose for me. Mm -mm. 00:22:32.579 --> 00:22:36.480 That's when I was like, okay, let's put a muzzle 00:22:36.480 --> 00:22:39.039 top on this now, people. We're doing too much. 00:22:39.279 --> 00:22:44.920 Let's back up. Reassess. Self -reflect. Why are 00:22:44.920 --> 00:22:48.279 we doing this? Okay. I need to figure out what 00:22:48.279 --> 00:22:51.279 that girl's zodiac sign is because why would 00:22:51.279 --> 00:22:55.190 she do that on God's green earth? and then think 00:22:55.190 --> 00:22:58.529 she can sleep at night. I don't know. I have 00:22:58.529 --> 00:22:59.950 to figure out what her zodiac sign is because 00:22:59.950 --> 00:23:03.650 I really want to know. I mean, besides her being 00:23:03.650 --> 00:23:10.170 lonely because of her prior person leaving her 00:23:10.170 --> 00:23:12.269 and then flaunting his new person in front of 00:23:12.269 --> 00:23:15.349 her, I would have reacted differently. I may 00:23:15.349 --> 00:23:18.730 have put a drink up to his face. Yeah, because 00:23:18.730 --> 00:23:20.809 you're trying to get a rise out of me and I'm 00:23:20.809 --> 00:23:22.490 gonna give you what you're looking for. Yes. 00:23:23.920 --> 00:23:26.799 i'm just being honest i would have probably right 00:23:26.799 --> 00:23:29.759 with a nice little glass of something chardonnay 00:23:29.759 --> 00:23:33.839 tequila something good okay i don't see how she's 00:23:33.839 --> 00:23:36.980 doing it but she's navigating but i think she's 00:23:36.980 --> 00:23:39.799 getting lost and just trying to figure out who 00:23:39.799 --> 00:23:41.920 do i talk to next do i talk to somebody in the 00:23:41.920 --> 00:23:45.220 circle somebody outside the circle bookie talking 00:23:45.220 --> 00:23:48.240 to somebody outside the circle i wanted to tell 00:23:48.240 --> 00:23:50.759 her that but nobody can hear me through the screen 00:23:50.759 --> 00:23:54.920 so if she's listening Anyone that's listening 00:23:54.920 --> 00:23:59.000 that watches Vanderpump Rules tell Rachel says, 00:23:59.299 --> 00:24:02.619 Raquel, any time in life you're thinking about 00:24:02.619 --> 00:24:05.079 something, think outside the box. Think outside 00:24:05.079 --> 00:24:09.880 the box. Think outside the circle, okay? Don't 00:24:09.880 --> 00:24:13.000 stay within the circle, okay? Because the circle 00:24:13.000 --> 00:24:15.839 is even crumbling within itself. Think outside 00:24:15.839 --> 00:24:21.359 the box. These people were crazy. But I'm probably 00:24:21.359 --> 00:24:24.500 no better. because this is episode 63. Oh shit. 00:24:24.740 --> 00:24:26.680 That's just life. And we are just growing. We 00:24:26.680 --> 00:24:29.099 are all growing out here, baby. Okay? Nothing's 00:24:29.099 --> 00:24:33.039 perfect. I left you guys with something beautiful 00:24:33.039 --> 00:24:35.940 at the end of this episode here. Got a lovely 00:24:35.940 --> 00:24:40.220 uber story. Okay? People out in the world are 00:24:40.220 --> 00:24:44.799 actually still loose, lost, and lonely as well. 00:24:44.920 --> 00:24:49.119 It's not just Vanderpump Rules cast. Okay? It's 00:24:49.119 --> 00:24:52.130 just, it's not just them. It's a little bit of 00:24:52.130 --> 00:24:57.829 everybody This uber story will help Conclude 00:24:57.829 --> 00:25:01.309 my statement. It's not just the vanderpump rules. 00:25:01.430 --> 00:25:05.529 It's everyone lost lonely and loose just out 00:25:05.529 --> 00:25:11.430 here doing anything Me too. Look at me just about 00:25:11.430 --> 00:25:14.089 to run off to England like girl. Who do you think 00:25:14.089 --> 00:25:19.690 you are? You're just a loose little No, I'm not. 00:25:19.910 --> 00:25:23.470 I'm kidding. But it's been a pleasure doing this 00:25:23.470 --> 00:25:26.930 episode with you guys, releasing, because I'm 00:25:26.930 --> 00:25:29.690 about to be out there into the world again. I'm 00:25:29.690 --> 00:25:34.589 about to be a civilian full time. Two motherfucking 00:25:34.589 --> 00:25:38.849 weeks. All right? Two weeks. I'll be a civilian 00:25:38.849 --> 00:25:43.029 full time. No corporate life. You heard me. I 00:25:43.029 --> 00:25:45.289 may be homeless some weeks. I may be rich some 00:25:45.289 --> 00:25:50.299 weeks. I'm ready. Either way. Let's go. Episode 00:25:50.299 --> 00:25:55.359 63. It was a blast. It was a success. Uber driver 00:25:55.359 --> 00:25:59.980 story coming up next. Stay tuned. Stay here. 00:26:00.339 --> 00:26:05.180 Episode 63. It has been a blast. It has been 00:26:05.180 --> 00:26:09.980 a blast. Now it's time for us to hear the Uber 00:26:09.980 --> 00:26:13.960 story. To hear the Uber story. What? I said hear 00:26:13.960 --> 00:26:18.230 the Uber story. What? Hear the Uber story. He 00:26:18.230 --> 00:26:21.309 goes back out of retaliation and he goes, well, 00:26:21.309 --> 00:26:24.150 you know, Nathan's super late all the time. He's 00:26:24.150 --> 00:26:25.630 super lazy. He doesn't know how to do anything. 00:26:25.650 --> 00:26:28.009 He doesn't do anything. And you know, this, the 00:26:28.009 --> 00:26:30.309 Stephen guy, he had been there for four years. 00:26:30.450 --> 00:26:32.589 He thought he had diplomat community because 00:26:32.589 --> 00:26:34.089 he was really good at his job. He was a full 00:26:34.089 --> 00:26:36.849 -time employee. I was a contractor. So instead 00:26:36.849 --> 00:26:39.349 of hashing it out with him, they thought it'd 00:26:39.349 --> 00:26:41.349 be easier just to cut the contractor, which was 00:26:41.349 --> 00:26:44.890 me. And you know, it's... You know, if anyone, 00:26:45.509 --> 00:26:47.130 I mean, I've already talked to two different 00:26:47.130 --> 00:26:49.109 legal firms about it. And I think the biggest 00:26:49.109 --> 00:26:52.369 reason why they both have sort of shied away 00:26:52.369 --> 00:26:56.789 from my case is because I was a contractor. And, 00:26:56.789 --> 00:27:01.170 you know, I mean, contractors are super expendable. 00:27:01.450 --> 00:27:04.430 And, you know, if you break wind the wrong way, 00:27:04.609 --> 00:27:06.769 they can let you go. They don't need like a good 00:27:06.769 --> 00:27:10.309 reason, whereas they kind of need to feel justified. 00:27:10.670 --> 00:27:12.809 If you you don't have the same protection as 00:27:12.809 --> 00:27:15.430 you do as like a full -time employee And you 00:27:15.430 --> 00:27:18.390 know Texas well, Texas might do a few things, 00:27:18.569 --> 00:27:21.289 right? One of the glaring weaknesses in the Texas 00:27:21.289 --> 00:27:24.450 system is they don't give a shit about workers 00:27:24.450 --> 00:27:26.990 rights They just support big business all the 00:27:26.990 --> 00:27:30.569 way I would pay Union that would gladly pay union 00:27:30.569 --> 00:27:32.730 dues any day of the week because at least like 00:27:32.730 --> 00:27:35.289 I would probably sell my job and I probably be 00:27:35.289 --> 00:27:40.599 converted by now, you know, so Yeah, I can definitely 00:27:40.599 --> 00:27:46.220 I know the benefits behind having the union Because 00:27:46.220 --> 00:27:48.220 they really fight for your right well they do 00:27:48.220 --> 00:27:51.380 they do especially if you do nothing wrong If 00:27:51.380 --> 00:27:53.519 you do nothing wrong like if you're true if you're 00:27:53.519 --> 00:27:56.799 truly blameless They will back you up 100 % And 00:27:56.799 --> 00:27:59.619 you know like people in my situation or you anything 00:27:59.619 --> 00:28:03.180 similar you have no like real recourse You know 00:28:03.180 --> 00:28:05.519 I mean you're a contractor. They can just let 00:28:05.519 --> 00:28:08.450 you go for like Like I said, you could fart the 00:28:08.450 --> 00:28:11.369 wrong way. And like, they're just like, oh, well, 00:28:11.970 --> 00:28:17.009 that's it, sorry. Yeah. Whoa. I like the whole 00:28:17.009 --> 00:28:19.670 part of a union because, like I said, not only 00:28:19.670 --> 00:28:22.069 do they fight for your rights, but they also 00:28:22.069 --> 00:28:25.809 make sure that everything is working in your 00:28:25.809 --> 00:28:28.890 ability at work. You get what I'm saying? Yeah. 00:28:29.430 --> 00:28:32.549 Nobody's crossing the line. Exactly. Nobody's 00:28:32.549 --> 00:28:36.160 willing to try to... Overdo their power because 00:28:36.160 --> 00:28:39.599 overstep their balance, right? Not across the 00:28:39.599 --> 00:28:42.460 boundaries of Whatever their job description 00:28:42.460 --> 00:28:44.880 is this is and that's just what I stand for, 00:28:44.940 --> 00:28:48.299 you know, don't overdo it Don't make things personal 00:28:48.299 --> 00:28:51.660 at work. I mean I would I would like I said I 00:28:51.660 --> 00:28:55.380 would glad I was brought up with the idea that 00:28:55.380 --> 00:28:57.920 you know Yeah, I was raised with the idea that 00:28:57.920 --> 00:29:01.289 unions have over like live their purpose But 00:29:01.289 --> 00:29:03.869 with my like with my experience in the world 00:29:03.869 --> 00:29:06.509 and like, you know in the workforce and everything 00:29:06.509 --> 00:29:10.210 I'm like no no unions still have their place 00:29:10.210 --> 00:29:14.450 today. They they certainly do III I'm a huge 00:29:14.450 --> 00:29:16.670 advocate something like there's something a lot 00:29:16.670 --> 00:29:18.529 of times when you know your listeners or other 00:29:18.529 --> 00:29:20.990 people out there You just might become like a 00:29:20.990 --> 00:29:23.329 victim of misfortune. You do nothing wrong You 00:29:23.329 --> 00:29:25.750 say nothing wrong and you just you know, you're 00:29:25.750 --> 00:29:28.049 you're good at your job. You do what you do you're 00:29:28.049 --> 00:29:31.430 never late to work even and Like you said, you 00:29:31.430 --> 00:29:33.569 can do everything right, and you can still fail. 00:29:33.750 --> 00:29:36.589 Or not fail. Because I feel like when you say 00:29:36.589 --> 00:29:40.250 fail, it kind of implies that you did something 00:29:40.250 --> 00:29:42.829 wrong. But you could still lose. Like I said, 00:29:42.970 --> 00:29:44.630 you can go a long way and still go the wrong 00:29:44.630 --> 00:29:46.589 way. Exactly. Yeah, you can get still screwed 00:29:46.589 --> 00:29:50.410 for doing nothing wrong. Failure isn't always 00:29:50.410 --> 00:29:54.029 a bad thing. Failure just kind of helps you. 00:29:54.250 --> 00:29:56.930 It strengthens you in a way. It's stressing you 00:29:56.930 --> 00:29:59.670 to learn how to, I say, CYA, which is cover your 00:29:59.670 --> 00:30:03.029 own ass. Well, I've already known to, like, document 00:30:03.029 --> 00:30:07.009 myself and document situations. I mean, I was 00:30:07.009 --> 00:30:10.309 a turd that won't flush. I mean, I considered 00:30:10.309 --> 00:30:13.089 myself the turd that won't flush before. And, 00:30:13.269 --> 00:30:15.430 like, I've tried to stay strong. It's just really, 00:30:15.430 --> 00:30:19.430 really difficult sometimes. I mean, it's really... 00:30:19.430 --> 00:30:21.390 It's hard to do when you're doing it by your 00:30:21.390 --> 00:30:24.847 damn self. It's not easy, man. It's really... 00:30:25.299 --> 00:30:27.920 So that's it, that's just what it is. You've 00:30:27.920 --> 00:30:30.000 been doing it, but doing it by yourself is doing 00:30:30.000 --> 00:30:32.160 it differently. I mean, I've had, I've had, like, 00:30:32.220 --> 00:30:34.740 I told you, I told you, I told you, like, what 00:30:34.740 --> 00:30:36.579 happened with those interviews I've had. Yeah. 00:30:36.740 --> 00:30:40.420 I mean, I've interviewed with so many good big 00:30:40.420 --> 00:30:44.140 companies out there that I think that I'm, I 00:30:44.140 --> 00:30:47.180 think I've run out of companies to talk to, you 00:30:47.180 --> 00:30:50.690 know? I mean, I don't know. You just don't know 00:30:50.690 --> 00:30:52.890 what else to do. I mean, I'm like an Elf in South 00:30:52.890 --> 00:30:56.910 Sarah way from like maybe You know doing gay 00:30:56.910 --> 00:31:02.529 porn even or making a deal with the devil I mean 00:31:02.529 --> 00:31:04.490 like if I were to make a deal with the devil 00:31:04.490 --> 00:31:06.750 I'd make sure I got my money's worth out of it, 00:31:06.809 --> 00:31:09.579 and you know I would even try to like finagle 00:31:09.579 --> 00:31:13.099 like like a deal like exchange for my soul. I'll 00:31:13.099 --> 00:31:17.319 give you five other ones I'm sorry bad joke. 00:31:17.380 --> 00:31:19.440 No, but I get it. You're just in a predicament. 00:31:19.579 --> 00:31:23.079 What the hell do I do? You know, you're also 00:31:23.079 --> 00:31:25.660 panicking Right over here on the left. Yeah, 00:31:25.660 --> 00:31:29.160 you can do a u -turn. Oh, okay Yeah, you know, 00:31:29.160 --> 00:31:32.299 here's a car coming off. Yeah, you're panicking. 00:31:32.299 --> 00:31:35.309 That's what you're doing. I know I without actually 00:31:35.309 --> 00:31:38.329 panicking i'm pretty level -headed but to a certain 00:31:38.329 --> 00:31:41.069 extent you don't even know oh man that's just 00:31:41.069 --> 00:31:43.869 it's just frustrating because it's it's it's 00:31:43.869 --> 00:31:48.009 like you know a situation of like despair and 00:31:48.009 --> 00:31:50.890 what is you know it's like well i mean every 00:31:50.890 --> 00:31:53.089 time i get hopeful about something and i think 00:31:53.089 --> 00:31:55.390 like okay this is finally going to take me out 00:31:55.390 --> 00:31:57.769 of the situation well don't think like that you 00:31:57.769 --> 00:32:00.690 think you need to think more mindful like well 00:32:00.690 --> 00:32:04.490 if it does it does if it don't it don't yeah 00:32:04.490 --> 00:32:08.630 yeah try that one no no I have it's just I mean 00:32:08.630 --> 00:32:14.430 what yeah yeah try it try it sucks rhinoceros 00:32:14.430 --> 00:32:21.690 penis of course of course you have a good rest 00:32:21.690 --> 00:32:25.230 of your night okay okay shit that's just life 00:32:25.230 --> 00:32:29.650 okay sometimes yeah it does we're gonna make 00:32:29.650 --> 00:32:32.759 the best out of it okay You got this. Do I have 00:32:32.759 --> 00:32:35.220 a choice? You have no choice. You're gonna persevere. 00:32:35.220 --> 00:32:37.440 You got it Well, like I said, I'm the turd that 00:32:37.440 --> 00:32:39.700 won't flush. You the turd that won't flush. Exactly. 00:32:39.740 --> 00:32:43.240 That's it Makes no sense guys, but you know this. 00:32:43.319 --> 00:32:51.500 There's box office And there's Oscars Jerry Been 00:32:51.500 --> 00:32:53.180 a while, huh? Ain't been to the show. You wouldn't 00:32:53.180 --> 00:32:56.279 know Wouldn't been to the show. You wouldn't 00:32:56.279 --> 00:32:59.319 know. Uh -oh Haven't been to the show so you 00:32:59.319 --> 00:33:01.160 wouldn't know what it is to win.