WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:04.500 I totally understand the fact that it's just 00:00:04.500 --> 00:00:08.039 so much to teach us civilians. It's so much we 00:00:08.039 --> 00:00:11.179 need to learn. It's just so much. Like, if it's 00:00:11.179 --> 00:00:13.759 not one thing, it's another. We can't be told 00:00:13.759 --> 00:00:17.399 what to do. When you hate when someone younger 00:00:17.399 --> 00:00:25.960 is educating you, it's always something. Welcome, 00:00:26.140 --> 00:00:30.640 welcome, welcome, welcome back. Episode 62 with 00:00:30.640 --> 00:00:33.280 your girl, your favorite life coach here is Cecil. 00:00:35.320 --> 00:00:39.460 Welcome back, you guys. I'm back. I'm better. 00:00:40.060 --> 00:00:44.039 I'm ready. Okay. I hope you guys have been doing 00:00:44.039 --> 00:00:47.500 well out there. A little life update for you 00:00:47.500 --> 00:00:51.700 guys from me. I am, like I stated, if you were 00:00:51.700 --> 00:00:54.719 listening on the last couple episodes there on 00:00:54.719 --> 00:00:58.799 the pod, your girl will be moving soon. Your 00:00:58.799 --> 00:01:02.960 girl will be heading to England, you know, getting 00:01:02.960 --> 00:01:06.680 some hot tea. Yeah, uh -huh. I'm gonna head to 00:01:06.680 --> 00:01:10.840 England, gonna have fun. I'm excited, truly, 00:01:11.579 --> 00:01:16.540 ready to see what the people have to offer. You 00:01:16.540 --> 00:01:19.939 know, I went there in June, and maybe, let me 00:01:19.939 --> 00:01:24.500 tell you, the food, okay, the food was spectacular. 00:01:25.390 --> 00:01:28.390 There was real Indians giving out real Indian 00:01:28.390 --> 00:01:33.909 food. Okay, that's very rare. Chinese, giving 00:01:33.909 --> 00:01:36.829 out Chinese food. It was just real authentic, 00:01:37.230 --> 00:01:40.790 okay. I had a great time though, down there. 00:01:41.010 --> 00:01:45.950 Truly, I'm ready to go back. The weather, the 00:01:45.950 --> 00:01:49.969 weather was perfect. Yeah, I was down there with 00:01:49.969 --> 00:01:56.189 my scarves. with my bouquets, everything. I had 00:01:56.189 --> 00:02:00.810 my pearls, I was clenching them. Yes, my pinky 00:02:00.810 --> 00:02:06.609 was up. Yeah, I was living life down to the fullest 00:02:06.609 --> 00:02:11.069 down there, ready to go back, ready to really 00:02:11.069 --> 00:02:14.349 explore the weather more in the winter time. 00:02:14.509 --> 00:02:17.370 I'm curious to how the weather is in the winter 00:02:17.370 --> 00:02:22.780 time. The summertime did not. The summertime 00:02:22.780 --> 00:02:26.900 got me where I needed to be, got me through, 00:02:27.199 --> 00:02:31.219 got me just feeling free and okay. Your girl 00:02:31.219 --> 00:02:34.719 was a girl down there, okay. I had nothing but 00:02:34.719 --> 00:02:39.060 breakfast every morning, pastries. I went to 00:02:39.060 --> 00:02:43.879 the bakery. It was another life, you know. It 00:02:43.879 --> 00:02:48.400 was a good time, a good day, a new life. Okay, 00:02:48.560 --> 00:02:51.680 but yeah, it was a good time. I'm ready to go 00:02:51.680 --> 00:02:56.939 back and just explore. Really ready to see their 00:02:56.939 --> 00:03:00.759 nightlife. I'm ready to see the grown and sexy 00:03:00.759 --> 00:03:05.819 vibes, the lounges, and just explore more out 00:03:05.819 --> 00:03:09.139 there. You know, be with my man, my man be with 00:03:09.139 --> 00:03:12.379 me. I'm ready to get out there a little more. 00:03:12.599 --> 00:03:16.199 Curious to see how the girl groups are down there. 00:03:16.500 --> 00:03:20.729 You know, the other females. I am looking for 00:03:20.729 --> 00:03:24.310 more female friends. I'm not sure how this is 00:03:24.310 --> 00:03:28.909 gonna go though, because right now, my main female 00:03:28.909 --> 00:03:35.090 friends are my sisters. So now that I'm trying 00:03:35.090 --> 00:03:38.770 to step outside just my sisters, we're gonna 00:03:38.770 --> 00:03:42.349 see what that looks like, okay? I'm not nervous. 00:03:43.150 --> 00:03:48.400 I'm just nervous. So I'm going to see what that 00:03:48.400 --> 00:03:51.840 looks like for me to hang out with other people 00:03:51.840 --> 00:03:57.539 from other cultures. And yeah, the moment that 00:03:57.539 --> 00:04:00.159 they rubbed me the wrong way, I'm going home 00:04:00.159 --> 00:04:03.740 to my man. But I'll try again the next day, for 00:04:03.740 --> 00:04:08.240 sure. I never give up. So I'm excited about that. 00:04:08.460 --> 00:04:13.039 I'm excited just getting out there and helping 00:04:13.039 --> 00:04:15.919 my boyfriend remodel. his apartment, because 00:04:15.919 --> 00:04:18.199 once I come, we need to redecorate some things. 00:04:19.459 --> 00:04:22.540 No, seriously, we do need to redecorate, make 00:04:22.540 --> 00:04:26.819 more room for your gals. I have a whole closet 00:04:26.819 --> 00:04:30.000 that I will be keeping. I will not be throwing 00:04:30.000 --> 00:04:35.240 anything away, so let them know in advance. Everything 00:04:35.240 --> 00:04:38.740 that I purchase will be going in your closet, 00:04:39.160 --> 00:04:41.399 sir. Okay, I don't know what we're gonna do with 00:04:41.399 --> 00:04:43.699 your stuff, but we'll find a way. we will find 00:04:43.699 --> 00:04:47.680 a way. I never give up, okay? I'm definitely 00:04:47.680 --> 00:04:50.519 ready to just see how potting is going to be 00:04:50.519 --> 00:04:54.800 out there. A part of me felt like, should I just 00:04:54.800 --> 00:04:57.180 go up to people talking to them? And then I was 00:04:57.180 --> 00:04:58.519 like, yeah, you know, I don't have the energy 00:04:58.519 --> 00:05:03.720 for that one. So I'm excited to just explore 00:05:03.720 --> 00:05:07.920 on a different level to see how different entrepreneurs 00:05:07.920 --> 00:05:12.819 help their community grow down there. different 00:05:12.819 --> 00:05:16.319 life coaches down there. Let's see what advice 00:05:16.319 --> 00:05:18.860 they give to their community to help them thrive 00:05:18.860 --> 00:05:23.600 and make them feel more safe and help them laugh 00:05:23.600 --> 00:05:26.560 more, okay? Sometimes I feel like we don't laugh 00:05:26.560 --> 00:05:30.040 enough, you know? Especially down in England. 00:05:30.120 --> 00:05:32.240 I feel like they don't laugh enough down there, 00:05:32.240 --> 00:05:35.240 you know? I had a lovely time, but a few of them 00:05:35.240 --> 00:05:37.759 were a little, you know, they were a little up 00:05:37.759 --> 00:05:39.980 there. They didn't want to laugh about anything. 00:05:40.399 --> 00:05:44.920 So I'm, I'm curious to see what gets them going. 00:05:45.459 --> 00:05:48.519 What makes them smile a little bit more. You 00:05:48.519 --> 00:05:52.480 know, um, a lot of them were, they were really 00:05:52.480 --> 00:05:56.879 real intrigued by this American. So I'm ready 00:05:56.879 --> 00:06:01.240 to go back. Um, really ready to just navigate 00:06:01.240 --> 00:06:04.759 more into it. But yeah, that's just what's going 00:06:04.759 --> 00:06:09.079 on with me. You guys leaving the U S. which means 00:06:09.079 --> 00:06:13.459 I'll be leaving my twin, my twin sister. I'm 00:06:13.459 --> 00:06:15.040 going to be leaving her, but we're going to, 00:06:15.040 --> 00:06:17.980 we've been spending so much time together before 00:06:17.980 --> 00:06:20.379 I leave, you know, so we're going to keep doing 00:06:20.379 --> 00:06:23.879 that, keep just making more memories, keep growing 00:06:23.879 --> 00:06:27.120 with each other. And I told her, you know, I'm 00:06:27.120 --> 00:06:32.579 just a flight away. But yes, you can just come 00:06:32.579 --> 00:06:34.339 on over there. I'm just a flight away. I won't 00:06:34.339 --> 00:06:37.579 be far, so. That's just to anybody in the family. 00:06:37.860 --> 00:06:41.939 You know, you guys come on over. I won't be rushing 00:06:41.939 --> 00:06:45.579 back to Kansas City, but I will go back to Kansas 00:06:45.579 --> 00:06:48.259 City eventually. I will see my family and friends 00:06:48.259 --> 00:06:51.139 eventually. FaceTime is working perfectly for 00:06:51.139 --> 00:06:54.699 now until you guys come on through to Texas and 00:06:54.699 --> 00:06:59.540 or England. But you guys, I am going to switch 00:06:59.540 --> 00:07:01.920 it up here. Now that I've told you guys a little 00:07:01.920 --> 00:07:05.259 life update for me on this wonderful episode 00:07:05.259 --> 00:07:10.459 62. I don't know if you guys have been watching 00:07:10.459 --> 00:07:18.060 the news, but as someone that is currently going 00:07:18.060 --> 00:07:21.360 through a transition from leaving the corporate 00:07:21.360 --> 00:07:24.180 world all the way to full -blown entrepreneur 00:07:24.180 --> 00:07:27.240 here. I don't know if you guys are watching, 00:07:27.319 --> 00:07:31.329 but did you see Mr. You know, our current president, 00:07:31.589 --> 00:07:36.490 Mr. Donald Trump, they're about to spend at least 00:07:36.490 --> 00:07:42.310 200 million on a ballroom. 200 million on a ballroom. 00:07:43.449 --> 00:07:49.029 Now, I don't ask for much, but he can take away 00:07:49.029 --> 00:07:52.009 these student loans. That's it. That's all I'm 00:07:52.009 --> 00:07:54.930 saying. These student loans and here you are 00:07:54.930 --> 00:07:58.009 with a ballroom and you probably got two at feet. 00:07:58.089 --> 00:08:01.389 Like, what are we doing here? Like, why are we 00:08:01.389 --> 00:08:05.509 spending money and we can't even dance? I'm just 00:08:05.509 --> 00:08:10.269 saying here, people. Yeah. All that money could 00:08:10.269 --> 00:08:13.829 be going elsewhere. We got health care problems, 00:08:14.490 --> 00:08:17.629 SNAP benefits being taken, and he's spending 00:08:17.629 --> 00:08:21.149 $200 million on a ball roll. I'm guessing this 00:08:21.149 --> 00:08:24.629 was a part of that big, beautiful deal. You know? 00:08:25.410 --> 00:08:29.180 So, yeah. This is why England is calling my name 00:08:29.180 --> 00:08:35.200 partially as well. Yeah, I just, um... I don't 00:08:35.200 --> 00:08:37.639 know what else to do with saying, people, you 00:08:37.639 --> 00:08:40.419 know? Shit, that's just life. You know, I'm watching 00:08:40.419 --> 00:08:43.080 it right in front of me. And sometimes I tell 00:08:43.080 --> 00:08:45.159 you, I feel like I'm just dreaming and I'm not, 00:08:45.360 --> 00:08:48.039 you know? Somebody pitched me, you know? But 00:08:48.039 --> 00:08:51.500 it's okay. I think if I can persevere through 00:08:51.500 --> 00:08:54.399 this, you guys can too. Persevere doesn't look 00:08:54.399 --> 00:08:59.419 perfect though, so... Yeah, you know, 200 million 00:08:59.419 --> 00:09:04.360 on a ballroom. That's crazy. It's just crazy. 00:09:04.720 --> 00:09:07.179 Like, who's invited to this ballroom specifically? 00:09:08.059 --> 00:09:11.220 Will I get an invite? Will this be a neighborhood 00:09:11.220 --> 00:09:15.220 situation? City by city, be able to invite? Like, 00:09:15.299 --> 00:09:17.960 what are we doing 200 million on a ballroom? 00:09:18.139 --> 00:09:20.659 Like, this is, this is crazy. It's beyond me, 00:09:20.700 --> 00:09:23.799 but I'm gonna move on. It's okay. I'm gonna move 00:09:23.799 --> 00:09:30.539 right along. You guys, I also saw that Camilla 00:09:30.539 --> 00:09:34.700 Harris, my girl, Ms. Harris, is not running. 00:09:35.360 --> 00:09:38.759 She's not running from president. She verbally 00:09:38.759 --> 00:09:43.360 is just stating that she's over it, basically. 00:09:44.799 --> 00:09:46.919 She didn't say it specifically, but that it's 00:09:46.919 --> 00:09:51.980 just the message that I concurred from her. I 00:09:51.980 --> 00:09:57.159 don't think she wants to keep just I don't even 00:09:57.159 --> 00:10:00.659 want to say fighting because you're not even 00:10:00.659 --> 00:10:07.460 fighting anymore. You're throwing glass at a 00:10:07.460 --> 00:10:13.940 brick wall at this point. Educating a lot of 00:10:13.940 --> 00:10:21.919 civilians to just vote, read more and or just 00:10:21.919 --> 00:10:25.000 research. fact check, you know, just do your 00:10:25.000 --> 00:10:27.759 fact checking, everything, you know, don't believe 00:10:27.759 --> 00:10:32.500 everything you see, you know, find some resources 00:10:32.500 --> 00:10:37.360 here, try to back it up. I think she's over trying 00:10:37.360 --> 00:10:40.899 to prove the point that we need to stay focused 00:10:40.899 --> 00:10:44.879 to the big picture. And I don't blame her. As 00:10:44.879 --> 00:10:46.940 somebody that's just going through the transition 00:10:46.940 --> 00:10:52.200 from leaving the corporate, I do not blame. Ms. 00:10:52.340 --> 00:10:56.259 Harris for saying, you know, this might not be 00:10:56.259 --> 00:11:00.299 it, you know. Now, I do hope she's just playing 00:11:00.299 --> 00:11:04.120 because she know we need a plan B or C or D right 00:11:04.120 --> 00:11:08.759 about right now. But if she's not kidding, then 00:11:08.759 --> 00:11:13.879 I totally understand the fact that it's just 00:11:13.879 --> 00:11:17.360 so much to teach the civilians. It's so much 00:11:17.360 --> 00:11:20.159 we need to learn. It's so much we think we know. 00:11:22.379 --> 00:11:27.879 We're so easily to talk. We hardly want to listen. 00:11:28.299 --> 00:11:31.139 It's just so much. Like, if it's not one thing, 00:11:31.259 --> 00:11:35.100 it's another. We can't be told what to do. You 00:11:35.100 --> 00:11:38.740 hate when someone younger is educating you. It's 00:11:38.740 --> 00:11:41.139 always something. You know, you just can't win 00:11:41.139 --> 00:11:45.279 for losing. So I am not upset with Ms. Harris 00:11:45.279 --> 00:11:49.440 saying that she's not willing to run. Oh, my 00:11:49.440 --> 00:11:53.419 baby girl, you know, keep your grays. Yeah, don't 00:11:53.419 --> 00:11:56.840 get any more gray hair. You can't control everything. 00:11:57.340 --> 00:12:01.100 I always tell myself to just know when to not 00:12:01.100 --> 00:12:04.139 want to be the hero. Okay. No one to stop trying 00:12:04.139 --> 00:12:08.340 to play hero because we're going to need Jesus 00:12:08.340 --> 00:12:12.039 at this point. Okay. We've had a great president 00:12:12.039 --> 00:12:15.360 of Obama. We had a lovely run with Ms. Harris, 00:12:15.519 --> 00:12:19.750 trying her best. And we got Mr. Chomp. So at 00:12:19.750 --> 00:12:21.730 this point, we're just gonna need Jesus and I 00:12:21.730 --> 00:12:25.129 think we should all be okay with that. Yep. Yep. 00:12:25.730 --> 00:12:30.070 That's another one with that one. Now, I don't 00:12:30.070 --> 00:12:33.230 know. Lastly, you guys, before we kind of wrap 00:12:33.230 --> 00:12:38.230 up episode 62, I don't know if you guys saw the 00:12:38.230 --> 00:12:44.210 Shannon Sharp situation here. Shannon Sharp and 00:12:44.210 --> 00:12:51.379 Gilbert. Mr. Gilbert Arenas. You know, just two 00:12:51.379 --> 00:12:57.000 black men that are, you know, that have built 00:12:57.000 --> 00:13:00.500 themselves up, you know, been in the industry 00:13:00.500 --> 00:13:05.399 for a very long time. And it's just unfortunate 00:13:05.399 --> 00:13:10.320 that they are in such situations. Let's just 00:13:10.320 --> 00:13:12.460 say that because I know you guys know they're 00:13:12.460 --> 00:13:16.659 out there. To be more specific here now, former 00:13:16.659 --> 00:13:23.100 NBA Gilbert Arenas, aka Mr. Agent Zero, has been 00:13:23.100 --> 00:13:25.720 hit with federal charges for allegedly running 00:13:25.720 --> 00:13:29.259 high stakes underground poker games out of his, 00:13:29.259 --> 00:13:36.639 um, Encino Mansion. Okay? So, basically, it's 00:13:36.639 --> 00:13:40.940 just including that, hm, there was, like, operated... 00:13:40.919 --> 00:13:45.600 illegal gambling businesses from 2021 to 2022. 00:13:46.779 --> 00:13:49.820 The feds claimed that arenas rented the house 00:13:49.820 --> 00:13:55.620 out and had staged it for games, which featured 00:13:55.620 --> 00:14:00.120 chiefs, valets, armed security, and even young 00:14:00.120 --> 00:14:05.440 women offering massages and companionship with 00:14:05.440 --> 00:14:10.720 the place. Okay. players were charged per pot 00:14:10.720 --> 00:14:16.740 and the house was collected as a cut. Well, see, 00:14:17.460 --> 00:14:24.299 like I said, unfortunate situations. Yeah. The 00:14:24.299 --> 00:14:28.480 thing is, we all know there's always something 00:14:28.480 --> 00:14:31.320 going on. You know, I can say that there's always 00:14:31.320 --> 00:14:35.639 something more going on in the industry, but 00:14:35.639 --> 00:14:43.580 I do... focus on how vast it is us to get busted 00:14:43.580 --> 00:14:49.360 and crucified for it, you know, because I can 00:14:49.360 --> 00:14:51.940 only imagine how many people are doing the same 00:14:51.940 --> 00:15:00.059 thing the same way and or worse. Just that's 00:15:00.059 --> 00:15:03.879 just what I'm guessing here. I'm just curious 00:15:03.879 --> 00:15:08.919 of what made it come out this year, you know? 00:15:09.720 --> 00:15:14.120 I look at timing, especially with the Shannon 00:15:14.120 --> 00:15:18.120 Shark here, ESPN cuts ties with Shannon Shark 00:15:18.120 --> 00:15:21.299 weeks after announcement with the settlement 00:15:21.299 --> 00:15:25.120 with basically his ex -girlfriend who accused 00:15:25.120 --> 00:15:28.600 him of sexual assault. He basically did a settlement 00:15:28.600 --> 00:15:30.799 there. And I was just like, you know, what a 00:15:30.799 --> 00:15:34.820 kwee -kate ink that all this is happening. right 00:15:34.820 --> 00:15:37.360 when he's about to get, he's about to get this, 00:15:37.460 --> 00:15:41.960 what, $100 million deal? And just what a co -equity 00:15:41.960 --> 00:15:46.740 that all this news is happening right when he's 00:15:46.740 --> 00:15:51.279 about to thrive. He's about to take off. He's 00:15:51.279 --> 00:15:55.860 about to set himself, his family, his neighbors, 00:15:56.419 --> 00:15:59.299 you know. He's about to do a lot for himself 00:15:59.299 --> 00:16:02.740 and his family in a way. financially. And it's 00:16:02.740 --> 00:16:07.419 just unfortunately, it's unfortunate that as 00:16:07.419 --> 00:16:12.539 you grow, the more snakes are in the grass, the 00:16:12.539 --> 00:16:14.960 more people are willing to just make sure you 00:16:14.960 --> 00:16:16.679 don't get to where you get to where you want 00:16:16.679 --> 00:16:19.879 to go. You know, it's just like a more money's 00:16:19.879 --> 00:16:23.139 more problems. That's really what they mean. 00:16:23.539 --> 00:16:26.019 Because these people are thriving and yet it 00:16:26.019 --> 00:16:28.899 doesn't stop. You know, I thought as you can 00:16:28.899 --> 00:16:31.500 get a little money, People start leaving you 00:16:31.500 --> 00:16:35.039 a lot, but that is not the case. The more money 00:16:35.039 --> 00:16:38.580 you get, the more they want to come for ya. You 00:16:38.580 --> 00:16:42.440 know? So, I'm just gonna advise anybody out there. 00:16:43.039 --> 00:16:47.600 Y 'all be careful. You know? Cover your tracks. 00:16:48.320 --> 00:16:52.460 C -Y -A. Cover your ass. Okay? In every aspect. 00:16:52.720 --> 00:16:55.559 You know? Try not to do nothing. You wouldn't 00:16:55.559 --> 00:16:58.720 want to be ashamed of. So I can stay here, people, 00:16:58.799 --> 00:17:02.309 because... We're all human. And I say, try to 00:17:02.309 --> 00:17:04.049 get to know your people that you're next to. 00:17:05.109 --> 00:17:08.509 You know, don't take much at all. I think that's 00:17:08.509 --> 00:17:10.910 what it is. Somebody probably always has somebody 00:17:10.910 --> 00:17:13.569 in the circle that they thought they could trust, 00:17:14.130 --> 00:17:17.589 and then they could, you know? But I think we 00:17:17.589 --> 00:17:19.609 all got somebody around us that just might sell 00:17:19.609 --> 00:17:21.470 us out for a little something, but we hope they 00:17:21.470 --> 00:17:24.130 won't, you know? But I think get to know your 00:17:24.130 --> 00:17:27.789 partners, get to know your friends, keep your 00:17:27.789 --> 00:17:30.140 friends close to your enemies closer. you know, 00:17:30.220 --> 00:17:32.180 that it's not just the same people. I think it's 00:17:32.180 --> 00:17:34.400 something you should really think and, you know, 00:17:34.619 --> 00:17:38.420 take into account. Yeah, it's just unfortunate 00:17:38.420 --> 00:17:42.720 that our black men are being targeted, you know, 00:17:42.720 --> 00:17:46.599 but I do pray that our black men move a little 00:17:46.599 --> 00:17:51.099 more cautiously because they know that being 00:17:51.099 --> 00:17:54.559 black strong and or trying to thrive with all 00:17:54.559 --> 00:17:59.750 three is a challenge within itself. You know, 00:18:00.170 --> 00:18:04.309 so I just think that going straight before the 00:18:04.309 --> 00:18:07.730 juggler and just trying to be successful, hey, 00:18:08.029 --> 00:18:12.329 CYA, cover your ass and be a little more cautious. 00:18:12.829 --> 00:18:16.410 All right, yeah, be a little more cautious. All 00:18:16.410 --> 00:18:27.740 right. So, you know, and the thing is, Cat Williams 00:18:27.740 --> 00:18:32.720 and Monique, they were warning Shannon about 00:18:32.720 --> 00:18:35.900 all this, you know, wanting him to just kind 00:18:35.900 --> 00:18:40.000 of be a little safe around what you do when, 00:18:40.799 --> 00:18:47.319 how you do it. That was crazy about which ways 00:18:47.319 --> 00:18:51.019 to go when dating, you know, which is a little 00:18:51.019 --> 00:18:55.059 more... a little more there on the protective 00:18:55.059 --> 00:18:59.140 side of you, you know, which, which sides really 00:18:59.140 --> 00:19:03.339 want to make sure that you prosper and you grow, 00:19:03.980 --> 00:19:07.400 whether you piss them off or not. Yeah, I think 00:19:07.400 --> 00:19:10.140 Cat Williams and Monique kind of try to shove 00:19:10.140 --> 00:19:14.779 him towards just, hey, why women is not for you? 00:19:15.119 --> 00:19:17.599 They may be for other people, but I don't think 00:19:17.599 --> 00:19:20.920 they're for you. You know, we love every girl, 00:19:21.099 --> 00:19:24.569 every woman. but I think some folks are not for 00:19:24.569 --> 00:19:27.309 some people. I think there were some people out 00:19:27.309 --> 00:19:30.190 here giving you a little push for the leadership 00:19:30.190 --> 00:19:33.250 of that in the event. Like I said, be a little 00:19:33.250 --> 00:19:36.789 more cautious. That's all I can advise people 00:19:36.789 --> 00:19:40.890 on from my end here. On my end here, I'm gonna 00:19:40.890 --> 00:19:44.369 switch it up lastly, because we're getting to 00:19:44.369 --> 00:19:48.910 the end. It's been a great, great week for me. 00:19:49.570 --> 00:19:52.990 Besides just preparing to move getting back into 00:19:52.990 --> 00:19:57.230 the stoop to yo with you guys Back into the content 00:19:57.230 --> 00:20:00.930 world because I'm back in a better Show of the 00:20:00.930 --> 00:20:03.390 week for me that shit. That's just life here 00:20:03.390 --> 00:20:07.789 people is Beyond the villa love Island. Mm -hmm. 00:20:08.210 --> 00:20:09.569 I don't know if y 'all been watching I don't 00:20:09.569 --> 00:20:13.230 know if you guys been Tuning in and keeping up 00:20:13.230 --> 00:20:18.730 with Janae and Kenny but I I've been keeping 00:20:18.730 --> 00:20:22.089 up with Janae and Kenny. Now, none of them called 00:20:22.089 --> 00:20:24.630 me directly yet. I'm still waiting on the call. 00:20:24.890 --> 00:20:29.210 Don't worry about it, it's coming. But I can 00:20:29.210 --> 00:20:35.089 tell you my honest thoughts. My honest thoughts 00:20:35.089 --> 00:20:45.190 were I officially thought that Janae was the 00:20:45.190 --> 00:20:51.420 issue. by default. Why? Because she's bubbly. 00:20:51.819 --> 00:20:56.160 I'm bubbly, you know? So she's bubbly, she's 00:20:56.160 --> 00:20:59.039 ready. So, you know, sometimes you just have 00:20:59.039 --> 00:21:04.200 to calm down for a second. Especially when dealing 00:21:04.200 --> 00:21:07.700 with someone like Kenny. I had to go back and 00:21:07.700 --> 00:21:11.240 keep watching the show to release the... Kenny's 00:21:11.240 --> 00:21:13.779 character in a way, you know, Kenny character 00:21:13.779 --> 00:21:18.160 is one of those fellas that are still Maturing 00:21:18.160 --> 00:21:21.140 and not even maturing and when I say maturing 00:21:21.140 --> 00:21:23.819 I mean he's maturing in his confidence level 00:21:23.819 --> 00:21:28.000 So he's maturing and how well he presents himself 00:21:28.000 --> 00:21:32.599 confidently. Well, he you know presents his presence 00:21:32.599 --> 00:21:36.660 Masculine Lee How will he speaks up? you know, 00:21:36.740 --> 00:21:39.339 put his foot down. He's still maturing in that 00:21:39.339 --> 00:21:42.740 area of just level of confidence. Janaye's already 00:21:42.740 --> 00:21:45.680 there. She's already surpassed it. She's already, 00:21:45.920 --> 00:21:48.200 she knows what she wants. You know, she knows 00:21:48.200 --> 00:21:50.519 what she doesn't want. She's dating with intention. 00:21:51.119 --> 00:21:55.380 So with that and watching the show, I can honestly 00:21:55.380 --> 00:22:01.299 say that Janaye will be fine. Yeah, she's going 00:22:01.299 --> 00:22:05.160 to be fine. Now she will mourn their memories. 00:22:05.599 --> 00:22:12.640 But I can tell that she had a feeling. Somewhere, 00:22:12.980 --> 00:22:16.839 somewhere, she had a little feeling that he's 00:22:16.839 --> 00:22:20.539 not truly feeling me and I'm not going to change. 00:22:20.920 --> 00:22:25.519 So either he's going to get up here because I'm 00:22:25.519 --> 00:22:29.740 not coming down there. So that's just, I could 00:22:29.740 --> 00:22:32.220 tell she had that little feeling, but she was 00:22:32.220 --> 00:22:34.980 very hopeful. She's like, you know, I'm gonna 00:22:34.980 --> 00:22:40.019 ride it out. I'm hopeful. I'm respectful and 00:22:40.019 --> 00:22:42.900 I want this to work. So I can tell, that's just 00:22:42.900 --> 00:22:46.039 my inner thoughts when I look at the show and 00:22:46.039 --> 00:22:50.079 watching people on TV. I can tell that she is 00:22:50.079 --> 00:22:52.440 very genuine. She genuinely knows what she wants 00:22:52.440 --> 00:22:55.819 and she more than likely was getting the hint 00:22:55.819 --> 00:22:58.519 that he didn't. And I think that he's just, when 00:22:58.519 --> 00:23:02.160 he looks at her and he hears her, he's trying 00:23:02.160 --> 00:23:05.890 to navigate where he fits in. It's just like, 00:23:06.029 --> 00:23:08.549 where do I fit in? And that's just for him to 00:23:08.549 --> 00:23:11.009 learn outside of her. If you want to learn where 00:23:11.009 --> 00:23:13.630 you fit in somewhere, you got to learn how to 00:23:13.630 --> 00:23:17.150 stand out. So Kenny just has to learn how to 00:23:17.150 --> 00:23:19.630 stand out because he really doesn't need to fit 00:23:19.630 --> 00:23:22.569 in. He actually stands out. So he just needs 00:23:22.569 --> 00:23:25.230 to learn that on his own. You know, that's why 00:23:25.230 --> 00:23:29.049 I think his maturity level of confidence is just 00:23:29.049 --> 00:23:32.180 still growing. And you can tell. You can't knock 00:23:32.180 --> 00:23:36.819 a man for trying. And I wouldn't. So that's just 00:23:36.819 --> 00:23:40.539 the show of the week. They have been going like 00:23:40.539 --> 00:23:45.380 crazy. They've been very, very subtle online. 00:23:45.500 --> 00:23:48.079 They have not said much. You know, they've been 00:23:48.079 --> 00:23:51.180 throwing little subliminals here and there. That 00:23:51.180 --> 00:23:54.559 was nothing for me. I needed enough something. 00:23:54.799 --> 00:23:57.279 There was not enough meat on the bone. So I had 00:23:57.279 --> 00:23:59.980 to go watch the show. and give my own opinion. 00:24:00.099 --> 00:24:04.440 And that's just what I did. So that's just life. 00:24:04.880 --> 00:24:08.859 This is episode 62 with your girl, your favorite 00:24:08.859 --> 00:24:11.519 life coach here. And I'm gonna give you a piece 00:24:11.519 --> 00:24:13.400 of advice before I get up out of here, before 00:24:13.400 --> 00:24:16.200 I go smell the roses, okay? Before the roses 00:24:16.200 --> 00:24:22.920 come smell me. Piece of advice. When you're going 00:24:22.920 --> 00:24:28.220 towards the goal in your life, never forget the 00:24:28.220 --> 00:24:34.440 main picture, which is family, which is being 00:24:34.440 --> 00:24:39.140 true to yourself, and just being ready to grow, 00:24:39.759 --> 00:24:43.579 okay? Always be ready to grow, all right? Just 00:24:43.579 --> 00:24:47.920 never be hesitant, be willing to listen, and 00:24:47.920 --> 00:24:52.440 don't stop giving yourself positive self -talk, 00:24:52.640 --> 00:24:56.970 okay? You are a queen. You are a baddie. You 00:24:56.970 --> 00:25:00.569 are growing, and shit, that's just life.