Four and a half weeks before your girl gets to
walk away from the corporate world. Yes, four
and a half weeks, people. We are almost there.
Your girl is back. She's ready to get down with
the get down. Welcome back, you guys. Episode
61 of Shit, That's Just Life. Podcast with your
girl, your favorite life coach here. You all.
Life out there, it's lifing again. I tell you
that for sure. It's not missing a beat. Things
are happening. I'm ready to talk about it. I'm
ready to give you an update on my life. Yes,
you guys, I am so over being a government worker,
being a corporate worker, all the above. Being
a worker. No, I'm just kidding. But seriously,
I'm just over being in a corporate world. This
is officially my last dance. Four and a half
weeks, babe. I'm ready to walk out. stroll out
crawl out fly out whatever you need to do i'm
ready to be out okay that's all that matters
you know you guys it's time to get started sticks
and stones baby there's that's just how my life
been going right now i've been getting nothing
but sticks and stones i'm trying to ignore a
lot of things yes yes i'm back thriving in discomfort
because i'm ready to go ready to go from the
corporate world but i'm trying to stick to the
plan we came up with a plan when i say we me
and my baby we came up with a plan so i'm trying
to stick to the plan but when i tell y 'all if
somebody breathes wrong i'm gonna be like you
know what i can't do this anymore i just cannot
nope i cannot i don't even need this No, but
let's get started, people. Episode 61, shit,
that's just like, let's get started. Ha, let's
get started. Woo -hoo. Yee -hee. Woo -hoo. Yee
-hee. I'm so ready to exit the corporate world.
Like, it's not even funny. I can't stress this
enough. I'm ready to just go. But I can't. I
can't just go. I still have a little more wrapping
up to do. I'm ready to put my feet in the sand,
though. I'm ready to do my winter in England.
There's just so many things that a girl wants
to do that doesn't involve a corporate job. It
doesn't. It just doesn't. Okay? I do not dream
of labor. So do not ask me about a dream job.
No, but seriously, you guys, we're here. I'm
going to give you a life update. You know, I'm
preparing to move. Yes, I am. I told you guys
that last time. Your girl is preparing to move.
Where will I be moving to? England. I'll be going
off to England soon, darlings. I'll be partying
from England for a while. To be with my man.
My man to be with me. Yes. And I'm ready to explore.
I'm so ready to explore England again. It was
so fun waking up. I miss pastries. I miss the
bakery. I miss England weather. There's so much
over there that I miss, you know, you guys. But
I've been appreciative of being back in the U
.S. Talking to my civilians. Yeah. Getting to
know my Uber drivers again. Like, just out there
thriving, you know? Being a girl, you know? That's
what I love about being a civilian part -time.
I get to be a girl, you know? I get to be a lovely,
beautiful, curious, courageous girl, you know?
So, it's beautiful out there. It's lovely people
out there. And I mean, out in the world as well
as out in the England side there, UK. But outside
of that, you guys, me preparing to go, I have
to learn how to range or fold again. I forgot
how to range or fold. And I have so many clothes
and I don't know why. I truly don't know why
my boyfriend keeps saying, you don't need all
those clothes. Like, no, sir, you don't need
all of them. I need every single piece of clothing
that I have. I barely have any clothing. And
he's always saying, you have nothing in my clothing.
No, I don't. I don't see it. This is not real
clothing. These are just like little sheets of
fabric. This is not full clothing. So, I'm going
to ranger fold. Have to look that up on YouTube
again. And I'm going to hope that I can fit every
single thing up in these suitcases. Because I
don't know. they're he's expecting it's you know
like i'm bringing all these clothes so i don't
know what he's expecting i'm not throwing away
anything anything is not being thrown away um
i don't know what else to say but i'm so ready
you know i'm nervous about moving in with my
man i'm i'm nervous i haven't had the move in
situation for a long time i'm nervous about i
think i'm like i think i should just Walk on
edge chills for a while. You know. Because. My
brain just starts to wow. You know. My brain
will be like. Girl you can do anything. You can
say anything. You can piss him off. You can make
him happy. I won't do that though. You know.
So. I will be a little more humble. I will still
poke the bear. no but i will be nice i will be
nice i was yeah i will be nice i will be very
very very happy to be in my man's presence for
a love me long time yeah just for a little bit
longer i'm excited about that i'm excited about
seeing what these podcast studios look like in
the uk do they deliver the same i hope so your
girl will be out there to get a studio so be
ready people We're going to the UK. We'll be
filming from the UK. You'll be hearing me from
the UK. We'll be doing everything from the UK.
Eventually. Okay. But it's time to get into the
news, people. I have a little surprise at the
end of this episode, of course. Though not always.
Probably not. But it's because I missed you.
So I have a lovely surprise for you guys, the
listeners. But let's get into the news. And we'll
start slowly because it's been a hectic week
for the civilians out there because I'm almost
a civilian myself again. But I'm four and a half
weeks shy from being one. So just don't count
me out yet. I'll be there. But for the civilians
that are out there, love Islanders. You guys
love Islanders episode. I think it was 16 where
Kenny and Janae. Yeah. These two are done for
now. You know, I am getting the feeling that
Kenny is a Virgo or something. And I have to
double check his sign for sure. Like, I really
need to look up his zodiac sign again. But we
know for sure. That Janae is a Sagittarius. I
would like to say my mom was a Sag. So, just
because this topic is not that important. My
mom was a Sag. Oh, Kenny is a Pisces. Okay, there
we go. So, my mom was a Sagittarius. And the
thing is, it was always the mouth. You know,
just a tad bit controlling. You know, kind of
reminds me of Janae. If you got a problem with
somebody, she wants you to have a problem with
them too. So, you know, it's one of those issues.
And I really feel bad for these two because they
are very cute together when they get along. But
when they don't get along, it's like, okay, there's
no real... chemistry here you can tell that this
may this love may have been built off co -weakening
you know because it was a it was a co -weakening
that it was very convenient it was probably built
off of conveniency versus true chemistry partially
because they were like the only two villas to
you know he was new to the villa bombshell she
kind of didn't have nobody else you know You
know, it's a full little story if you have not
watched the full episode there, the full season,
season 16. You need to watch it. I think it's
16 for sure. But I definitely feel like people
in the comments were coming for Kenny so crazy,
you know. And I'm the girl's girl too, but I'm
very neutral. So I'm a very neutral person where
I stand in the middle. To hear both sides and
everybody, you know, I could just empathize with
both sides. So I definitely empathize with both
sides. As you watch the show, Kenny is in a journey
where he's just trying to figure out his future.
And it's clear as day that Janae's in a journey
where she knows exactly what she wants. Well,
those two are clearly in two different journeys.
Kenny loves the 9 to 5 situation. janae loves
being an influencer kenny doesn't really see
a full beneficial situation from being an influencer
i'm guessing you know you just don't see it fully
benefiting him on a positive level like it might
impact his future in a way that he really didn't
want it to so i would like to say kenny we can
switch positions With that being said, I'm just
being honest. I'm currently looking to be not
a non -defiber. You're trying to be a non -defiber.
I know where you can put an application. And
we may just look at it fast. Just heads up. Because
I would love to switch places. I'm not in a journey
where I'm trying to figure out my future anymore.
I'm actually in a journey where I'm just keeping
going. You know? I'm doing my best. I'm keeping
going. And I'm just proceeding. towards what
i would like to do in life you know so i think
i'm just hearing those two you hear that these
two these journeys are just so different you
know she may be a lewd man controlling as well
that is a major pressure pointer for a man to
me sometimes i feel like she kind of wants him
to react the way a woman will react towards situations
and you know men shouldn't do that in my eyes
but hey that's up on them i will pray that you
guys both get it together because the dating
pool right now sucks so so i'm hoping you guys
come back together because there's nothing outside
there's nothing out there at all you might as
well just go back in the house and just deal
with each other's bs because all the other stuff
outside is not even worth it but you know it's
like gonna it's gonna be like Pulled the needle
from a haystack. So, good luck. Really, good
luck. And I wish you commenters would stop coming
for Kenny like that. He just needs time to breathe.
Seriously, you know. The man needs time to breathe,
clearly. Alright, on to the next one. Not sure
if you guys heard about Jay -Z's alleged son,
Ramir. Mr. Ramir Saturday? Okay. I'm going to
stick with Ramir. So with the Ramirez situation
of Jay -Z's alleged son, me and my boyfriend
was talking about this topic. I thought it was
pretty interesting. My boyfriend was like, so
if he is his son, what does he want? He was like,
what, he wants some money or something? What
is it that he really wants from him, even if
he is his son? And I was, a part of me was like,
you know, I don't know. But then again, I was
like, no, if that was my dad. If LeBron James
was my dad and he hadn't been around, he's out
here making millions, I would probably be trying
to connect with him as well. He's missed too
many birthdays, first off. Secondly, why are
you not wanting to be my dad? What the heck happened?
So I guess if this is his son, he may just want
a little clarity because at the end of the day,
he's still a child. If this is not his son, this
looks a little weird. This may look like a little
shakedown. But also, I told my boyfriend, I think
this all could be put to rest if my boy Jay -Z
just does a DNA test. Now, there are pros and
cons to that answer, of course, if he does a...
You know, paternity test, DNA test there. Pros
and cons. If he is found father, the father.
Allegedly, I heard that there was the mother
was 16 years old. So Jay -Z was 22. I don't know
the laws back then. I wasn't there. I wasn't
really thought of. until 98 so I'm not sure what
the laws were about then I think it I'm gonna
see what year this happened but yeah I'm not
sure what the laws were back then so I'm not
sure if anything was illegal anything like that
but what I can say is I do think this whole topic
is distracting as well as it's uh I don't want
to say demeaning, but it's definitely distracting.
It's a really, it's a low blow. It's a lose -lose.
It's going to be, damn if he do, damn if he doesn't.
That's how I feel. I was like, you know, now
I see why Jay -Z's being quiet. It's too many
voices, you know. It's a lot of people talking
at the moment. So it would be hard if he just
started saying, even responding to certain accusations
without. needing to address another accusation
like it would just be too much for me i don't
know baby boy i'm good this is too much why they
can't let her brother just breathe i don't know
i swear ever since diddy has been coming for
everybody think i came for like you know so much
you know i don't know but i'm gonna move on because
i'm i'm not ramir And I'm not coming for Jay
-Z. I'm not alleging to be the son. So I'm going
to move on. I'm going to move right along. I'm
giving my opinion, okay? Now, you guys, I'm not
sure if you saw the Donald Trump, Mr. Donald
Trump alleges Beyonce, Oprah, and Al Sharpton.
He's basically alleging them accepting illegal
funds. from the democrat democrats campaign i
thought that was hilarious look at the cat look
at the pot count the cat black because why you
literally had elon musk help with like what one
million to help with that uh campaign of yours
to get where you are in life right now Oh, sticks
and stones. It's like what's good for the goose
isn't good for the gander. Why not, sir? Why
not? I'm a little I was a little flustered when
I saw that. I'm like, no, he did it. No, he did
it. You know, hey, but I see Donald is on a blame
game rally at the moment, you know, just blaming
different people for different situations. That's
what I'm noticing. He must be on a blame game.
You know, I'm trying to figure it out. The man
is not being direct. He didn't blame Barack recently
for some things. You know, everybody around him
is doing something except him. So I've came to
that conclusion. You know, everyone around him
has something to say. And he clearly is the one
that wants to be, hey, sticks and stones. You
know, people let them say what they got to say.
It doesn't mean anything. But, yeah, he can say
whatever he has to say, and it's supposed to
mean it all. Crazy, crazy, crazy. But, you guys,
I am ready to switch it up. I'm ready to switch
it up real quick. I'm ready to switch it up real
quick. I gave you the news for the day. I'm ready
to switch it up real quick. So you all, I did
the Nicki Minaj challenge and nailed it. In heels.
I will, of course, try to post it eventually.
But I did do the challenge. Nailed it, of course.
I've also been... looking and hunting around
for an engagement ring um I don't know if I'll
get one but if I do I have a few pictures of
what I would like you know I have a few looks
um I'm still looking I would hate to come with
anything less than 500 options because I know
my man loves me, so I know he would at least
want the best for me. So he wants me to come
with at least 500 options that I can thrive from.
You know, I can just go and thrive and pick and
dream and, you know, all the above. You know,
I will show him eventually my 500 options of
things. So, yeah, I saw like a diamond cut. princess
there was something they're so beautiful they
they didn't stop these rings specifically it
was a gold princess cut diamond engagement ring
ah beautiful beautiful yeah beautiful and i'm
gonna keep looking like i stated i want at least
500 options i want to be able to Throw down.
I'm only going to present him with 10 at a time,
but it's going to be a total of 500. So don't
worry. You won't be able to get this one wrong
because you're going to have so many options.
Yes, you guys. So many options. I'm ready. Now,
when I get engaged, I will need to look into
everything else. What are the rings? I said the
rings. What are the colors of the wedding going
to look like? What are the, what am I going to
wear? And trust me, I don't want to get married
in the same year because your girl is only 27.
So I just wouldn't mind getting engaged. That
is like a pending marriage for your girl. So
everything is happening too fast, too slow, all
the above. Yes, we know. But yeah, everything
is happening for me. Slowly, we're not going
to rush into the engagement, partially because
your girl still got to get to the UK again. Run
it back. Of course. But no, seriously, we're
not going to rush into anything crazy, but your
girl will keep manifesting. Yeah, I would be
crazy not to keep opening up to the pod, manifesting.
I'm so ready to get to the UK and meet the people.
stop the people and interview the people see
what's going on down here see how the relationships
are going in the UK I want to know how the dating
pool is down there because down here baby in
the US we're struggling yeah we're struggling
I mean I'm good clearly but you know I've seen
a lot of people I got a lot of other people that
are single trying to date calling me but then
when I give them a little actual advice sometimes
they actually don't take it so you know there's
that's just life so shit um but yeah you guys
it was a pleasure I missed you you know it is
a lovely Wednesday the birds are chirping out
there the sun is shining this is my last summer
in Texas for a minute I said for a minute and
that's just what I mean uh yeah it's gonna be
my last Summer in Texas with my mini. Ready to
do winter in the UK with my man. I'm ready to
rub my feet on him. Put my feet all up on him.
Everything. Yeah. So, I'm ready for that princess
treatment again. I'm just, yeah. I'm in need.
Mm -hmm. I'm spoiled. So, I have to get back
to being spoiled. Mm -hmm. Mm -hmm. Mm -hmm.
Mm -hmm. No. But the life is life out there.
The birds are chirping. Uber drivers are still
driving. And I got more stories. So. At the end
of this episode, you will hear an Uber driver
and me conversate. You know, sticks and stones,
baby, sticks and stones. Girls just being girls.
All right? That's just what it is. I'm going
to let you hear that conversation. And I'm going
to head out so you can listen to the story. You
can listen to the conversation. You can hear
episode 61 go out with a bang. Episode 61, go
out with a bang. Like I said, episode 61, going
out with a bang. He asked you, like, what do
you bring to the table? Yeah. I'm like, first
of all, you can't live in my house. You got to
buy me a house. Yeah. You're not going to live
in my house. And so I think he was used to just.
It was more of like an ego situation? I think
so because he was like, who been cutting your
yard? Your yard don't look good. I was like,
boy, you better sit down. You're not going to
do anything with my yard. Thank you. I have a
yard person. I have one that come treat the weeds.
I have a different one that mows. No, we're not
doing it. I can't cut it for you. No, you cannot.
Yeah, that's not where you need it. That's not
at all. That's what he need to focus on. Where
am I needed? I think, you know, But, you know,
she gave me. Like I said, I've been divorced
since 2004. I'm not remarried. I want to meet
a great guy. But I'm not willing to settle. That's
the difference. Because I've dated several guys
over the years. And they just, you know, it just
didn't work. Once I got them out of my system,
you know, I would take a few months, pull them
back. And then after that, I'm ready to move
on again. Yeah, see, me, I pray for a unicorn.
I know it sounds crazy. Wait a minute. Like what?
I pray for a baby girl. I pray for a unicorn.
What that mean though? So that means they say
like when anytime that you, if you are a spiritual
or religious person, me, I'm not religious. I'm
more spiritual. So I go to God whenever time
I got a problem. So anytime I'm nervous or I'm
confused or I'm looking for something, I go to
God. So if I'm looking, when I was looking for
a man, I went to God. So partially I got it from,
I listened to, um, an interview from Viola Davis
and Oprah Winfrey. And Viola Davis explained
how she prayed for her man because a friend told
her to do that. A friend told her to pray for
your man. And I know it sounds crazy, but no,
really, pray for your man. So that's what I do.
Look, he don't know what to do. Yes, they are.
But with that being said, I prayed for my unicorn.
Yes. And I basically, I was like, Lord, because
I would watch a lot of shows for starters. And
I would be like, Lord, my man got to have an
accent. Oh, but then he got to be smart. Oh,
but he can't be doing all this, Lord. He can't
be ghetto now. And then I was like, Lord, make
sure his tags are not expired. Lord, make sure
his tags are not expired. Babe, I done been around
too many people and they had tags expired. I'm
like, it was just little. things. Lord, make
sure he has a little job. Lord, he ain't got
to have everything, but if he got these little
aspects, I can work with him. Yeah, we can go
far. You get what I'm saying? And that's what
I got. I got me a nice unicorn, and I've been
able to work with him. He's been able to work
with me, and now we five months going into six
months. I love the fact that he's asking you
to agree. Yes. Because, you know, he's black,
but he's not American black. right he's a but
he's british yeah well i'm saying yeah it's very
different yeah it's very different very different
from other places that do different things and
especially the ones in texas there's something
wrong with them too yeah the texas people are
very interesting that's all i can say yeah very
very interesting And it's nothing like just having
that reinsurance. And he's such a sweetheart.
Like, I went to go visit him, and he had flowers.
And while picking me up from the airport, he
had flowers in the car. He had a full cooler
with wine, food. Oh, baby, my man was ready.
I said, that's how you get ready. Hardworking,
educated, very much in her feminist side. That's
what's hard. It was hard for him to find someone
that was in her feminist side. He met a lot of
women, but they were more in their masculine
energy, so they're more demanding. You were just
chill. I was a chill. I'm a sweetheart, so I
don't have the energy. You're not trying to control
something. You're not trying to control it. You're
not trying to be a man. Nope, I'm not God. I'm
not going to play God. So I'm not going to try
to control something. Yeah, so I'm a person that
speaks her mind, meaning he will know how I feel.
I mean, you're not just like going to shrink.
You'll say what you know. I say exactly how I
feel and I make it clear. So I can be very logical
and just like I can be very emotional. And that's
the thing, you know, some people cannot balance
both. yeah he was just like it's always nice
to have that balance of logic and emotion you
know it's just like the fact that you have both
is just it's very refreshing because i know when
to be emotional i know when to be logical yeah
yeah and that's and that's apparently why he's
attracted to you because he's like oh my gosh
you know he probably doesn't even believe this
is real he doesn't i'm serious yeah it's still
so real for me though like a britishman i'm like
i didn't even know britishmen were black what
the You know, and it's just but I learned a lot
that how basically, you know each each parts
of Africa South Africa different parts of Africa
were colonized and that's basically how In different
areas so learning the culture It just gives me
a refreshing on life, you know And, oh, I see
myself down there pretty darn often. Yes, I do.
I've been there. It was pretty nice. It's beautiful.
Everybody's walking around. Everybody's just
parking their car and walking. It's nothing like
Texas where you walk and people look at you like,
oh, you ain't got no money. Oh, you broke. What
you got going? Yeah. So, could you have dual
citizenship, though? Yeah, you can. Yes, yes,
yes, yes, you can. So, I'm excited. I'm excited.
I'm just excited. Ready to explore. So you just
need to get on it. Now you just need to do something
with this job. Oh, baby, that job is doing something
with itself. As long as our president is our
president, that job is doing what it needs to
do with itself. That is crazy. I just, it's just,
it don't even make sense. So you, so since you've
been there a little bit of time, you've seen,
you saw kind of the shift a little bit. Yes.
Yes, yes, yes. From when I first came versus
where we are right now. To where we are now.
It's definitely a major shift. So they really
want y 'all to do all this work? Yes, they do.
For the same money? Yes, they do. Okay. Yeah,
yeah, yeah. Say so. More labor, less workers,
of course. Wow. That's insane. And that's the
thing about it. It's like, so how is this supposed
to get done? Because like I said, I'm going to
do what I normally do. I'm not doing nobody.
I'm not doing the job of two or three people.
Yeah, I'm not doing two or three other people
jobs. No, thank you. I'm going to actually move
slow when you need me to do their job. I mean,
slower than slow, actually. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Excellent. Yeah, because rushing through it ain't
going to get you nowhere. Oh, no, I'm not. I
don't want to age like dog years. You get what
I'm saying? I notice a lot of things will have
you aging like dog years faster than you can
say fast. Wow. So I was like, you know what?
I'm going to enjoy my 20s. Plan accurately. I
say, if you want to make God laugh, make plans.
That's what I'm doing. Let's go back to this
list. I'm trying to take some notes from you
real quick. I get the list. His tags ain't expired.
What else? In order to find your unicorn, to
find your unicorn, like I said, I pray for my
unicorn specifically. And I threw things in the
air. I watched a lot of shows. That's for starters.
I watch a lot of love shows. So I see things.
Oh, did you really? Oh, yeah, yeah. I see things
where I'm like, oh, I can't take that. So I pray
for little things. Lord, make sure my man ain't
got no kids. lord make sure because you don't
have any i don't have any children so i was it's
just little things that i would like you know
what any guys that had kids i've never made anyone
my serious partner that had children but i did
indulge with someone that had kids okay you did
yeah yeah to the point you're indulging i was
indulging because i was young and i still am
yeah no yeah i was just i was they're older they
were older than me so i was just having fun all
right they got their kids i think i can give
in depth But that takes you elsewhere because
then they were ready for me to be, you know,
in a higher position of the relationship. Meaning,
you know, hey, ready for you to help over here.
And I'm like, help? You mean H -E -L -P? So what
is that? So now, what it is, is not noticing.
I noticed before a package was a package. but
people that called me to be in that package i
i basically stated no and they didn't respect
that yeah but i already knew that was the thing
i already knew a package was a package so i would
never set myself up for failure meaning i wouldn't
come in a situation thinking i could do something
knowing damn well i ain't got no business over
here so i was like I told that person like, I
actually don't think that I should actually play
that role because I don't think I would be good
at it. Why? Because I'm only 24. I barely even
know how to spell the motherfucking word. So
I'm being realistic here. I would hate to play
in an innocent child's face. Oh, girl. That's
what they are. They're innocent children. This
person is just somebody that's looking for love
and help and assistance and all of the above.
It takes two to tango. So, you know, me, I'm
like, I don't know if I can tango. So not with
that situation specifically. But you needed someone
with no children anyway. Yeah. I said that to
anybody. I was like, you know, if you're young,
don't. Don't settle. Yeah. It's called settle.
And it's not that that person is a bad person
or anything. It's just like. There's options.
Y 'all not equally yoked. Yeah. There's options
out there. And I just stayed single longer. I'd
rather stay single longer than to sign up for
more. after this car yeah i don't know what they
well too bad you um already met your guy because
i got one son i got twin boys okay and they're
uh 30 they'll be 31 in um in august and so one
of them is dating the other one he's like mom
i just want to be able to have everything in
order before i start that but he's just you know
he's he's tell him he's overthinking it and let
him know he's overthinking it because you will
never have everything together well he's just
talking about money saved and you know just trying
to be able because he said i need to be ready
to take care of a family well he's he's overthinking
that you need to think of think about dating
as one one make a u -turn yeah make a u -turn
when you're ready but um make a u -turn because
i'm on your left side oh okay so why did this
it always does that it does that okay so okay
i say think of it as one can you go by they always
confuse but i specifically will tell you yeah
but you don't have to go through just go just
go around okay gotcha so i wonder why maps your
way over there that is just yours ai system girl
they be having me all over the place sometimes
but you're gonna be okay though walking through
there oh always yes i walk through there that's
why oh you sure okay because i want to just dump
you out because it's dark but let him know not
to overthink it don't overthink yeah i think
he would if he met someone because he's not not
that he's particular but he's kind of shy my
boyfriend was shy yeah let me show you I want
to leave you with a piece of advice before I
leave. Tell me, girl, because I need... Listen,
I'm not ever too old to learn, so tell me. I'm
a life coach, so I'll leave you with a nice piece
of advice when it comes to just dating. First
things first. When it comes to just dating, have
fun. I know. Have fun. Don't forget to have fun.
That's the point of dating. The point of it is
to have fun. You can actually pull to the front.
Pull down a little bit more. Because they're
screaming they can't get in. Yeah. It's like,
oh, y 'all need to get in? Y 'all need to get
in, get in. sorry um sorry charlie have fun but
also go in with an intention you know have have
good intentions okay he's a really sweet boy
that's why i call him my baby boy he's like mom
okay no are you a dreamer or are you a realist
i'm a realist you're a realist okay so you may
need to dream a little i do dream and here and
there here and there i'm real like reality yeah
only because i i do accounting and you know it's
just like numbers i'm in the side the box person
yeah and it's like okay hey numbers this gotta
work we gotta do this we gotta do that so yeah
but you i probably do need to dream a little
but let me tell you a couple of things so i have
dated i've dated like i have one friend she's
like i have a type yeah i'm just gonna say it
i have a type that i'm attracted to okay i have
to be attracted to because i'm not it's it just
doesn't it won't work for me okay so and i think
that an attraction should be there of a person
so that's the one thing so the last couple of
guys i dated i tried to take away okay let me
let me open my mind i did girl i was so damn
mad i was like no the hell you didn't you weren't
even my fucking type don't settle now I wasn't
selling. I was trying to have an open mind about
giving someone an opportunity that I probably
never would have before. And that's what you
don't do. You have something like, like I said,
pray for your unicorn so you're not out here
looking for anything. I wasn't looking. See,
the guys approach me. And then I'll be like,
okay, well, let me see. It typically happens
when you're not looking. Yeah, and that's exactly
what happened with those. I wasn't looking. But
it really just made me mad because these are
guys that pursued me. Yeah. And then after a
year, I was like, oh, hey, you know. Where we
at? Where we at? They couldn't. Now, you know,
I already said, I already told you, you know,
my children are grown. You know, I, you know,
I've been taking care of myself, you know, and
it's not that I need them and I want one. I want
one in my life, you know, for the companionship
and all the things I want. Yeah. And I never,
now I'm saying this to you, but I've never said
to a man, I don't need you. Yeah. But they come
in, it's like, oh yeah, you know, they both,
you know, they're talking about their marriage
mind. And okay, I'm not talking about marriage
now. I'm just saying, hey. in the future of me
dating i date with intention with intention my
intention so they said the same thing but they
just said it so then once we get a year on down
the road and i'm like okay how do you think things
are going what do you what would you how could
i make our relationship better you know all those
types of conversations coming and then all of
a sudden oh well you know what i i don't really
know what i want so how about this let me let
me give you and honey i was like you don't know
what you want okay so how about this never give
somebody a year of your time oh and here's the
thing i really wouldn't have this is having an
open mind once again and i was like no i'm not
i'm not doing that no effing more yeah period
six months look six is it i see that's it's been
my thing i will go up to a year but that is a
lot of time but here's the thing the last one
he only got seven months actually month two my
boyfriend asked me to be his girlfriend he met
me january 27th january february 14th he asked
me to be his girlfriend yeah and it don't take
i know it doesn't take a long time month six
one month five for me he i'm out there in the
uk yeah some things are morally more action than
any anything is also partially because If we
lived in the States, he would have the opportunity
to just come to my house. Pull up. Yeah. We're
far. Right. So we have no option but to communicate
on the phone first, like little kids. Yeah, but
no, that's not little kids. That's like for real.
No, it's taking baby steps. That's what it is.
It's communicating on the phone first, getting
to know each other like that via communication.
Then, fly me out. And we see how it is out there.
And when we come back, when I come back, we'll
see where we still at. Yeah, see, that's good.
Yeah, I definitely have learned lessons from
all of that. And I'm like, okay. But here's the
thing. I'm 59. I'm too old for games with these
dudes. And these are the men that are old are
the ones playing. I'm like, you're too damn old
to be walking around talking about you don't
know what you want. Two months. Two months. Two
months in. If you were on that second month and
you still screaming, I don't know. No. See, they
weren't screaming, I don't know. That's the thing.
The hook, they coming in, oh yeah, all this.
But then, all of a sudden, at what point did
you decide? Because you didn't tell me about
that we were not going in that direction. Because
if after the first three or four months, it didn't
feel... Because a man know. A man know a woman
when he first see her, I want her. You know what
I mean? Also remember, a man doesn't have a plan.
Not always. They have plans to do things. Like,
my boyfriend had plans. But when I started getting
specific on, so how you going to get there? So
when you going to do it? What's your strategy?
What is the concept? What is the world plan?
And he didn't have a full situation. But partially,
I can be forgiving. Why? He's not from the U
.S. And he got to learn a whole bunch just to
come on over here. So I said, you know what?
You need help. But it's a good thing to know
where your brain is. It's good to know that you
have a plan to get to X, Y, and Z. You don't
know how you're going to get there, but you do
got a plan to get there. A bunch of them will
say they have vision, but they can't articulate
it or get there. And that's the problem. But
I know exactly what you're saying. If you can
articulate your vision, me as a woman, my job
is to find a plan. We find plans. Like you said,
accounting, we look at what's in the box and
we make the plan. Typically, somebody else would
just be speaking and dreaming and wishing and
hoping. We make the plan. Make the plan. You
better say it. That's it. Well, honey, thank
you for all of your wisdom, young sister. Of
course. And I know that you and your guy are
going to just be great. I pray we do. Y 'all
are going to be great. Yeah, I pray for my unicorn
when I got him. Hey, I'm about to hit my knees
on something. Okay. Get on the knees and get
to praying. Come on, Lord. Yeah, yeah. And you
pray for your specifics.