WEBVTT 00:00:00.810 --> 00:00:06.950 Four and a half weeks before your girl gets to 00:00:06.950 --> 00:00:12.189 walk away from the corporate world. Yes, four 00:00:12.189 --> 00:00:16.190 and a half weeks, people. We are almost there. 00:00:16.390 --> 00:00:22.149 Your girl is back. She's ready to get down with 00:00:22.149 --> 00:00:24.910 the get down. Welcome back, you guys. Episode 00:00:24.910 --> 00:00:29.809 61 of Shit, That's Just Life. Podcast with your 00:00:29.809 --> 00:00:35.810 girl, your favorite life coach here. You all. 00:00:36.710 --> 00:00:41.310 Life out there, it's lifing again. I tell you 00:00:41.310 --> 00:00:45.450 that for sure. It's not missing a beat. Things 00:00:45.450 --> 00:00:48.829 are happening. I'm ready to talk about it. I'm 00:00:48.829 --> 00:00:53.109 ready to give you an update on my life. Yes, 00:00:53.109 --> 00:00:57.270 you guys, I am so over being a government worker, 00:00:57.450 --> 00:01:02.850 being a corporate worker, all the above. Being 00:01:02.850 --> 00:01:05.790 a worker. No, I'm just kidding. But seriously, 00:01:06.069 --> 00:01:09.489 I'm just over being in a corporate world. This 00:01:09.489 --> 00:01:14.430 is officially my last dance. Four and a half 00:01:14.430 --> 00:01:18.299 weeks, babe. I'm ready to walk out. stroll out 00:01:18.299 --> 00:01:22.500 crawl out fly out whatever you need to do i'm 00:01:22.500 --> 00:01:25.840 ready to be out okay that's all that matters 00:01:25.840 --> 00:01:29.859 you know you guys it's time to get started sticks 00:01:29.859 --> 00:01:34.040 and stones baby there's that's just how my life 00:01:34.040 --> 00:01:35.920 been going right now i've been getting nothing 00:01:35.920 --> 00:01:38.480 but sticks and stones i'm trying to ignore a 00:01:38.480 --> 00:01:42.760 lot of things yes yes i'm back thriving in discomfort 00:01:43.420 --> 00:01:47.200 because i'm ready to go ready to go from the 00:01:47.200 --> 00:01:50.200 corporate world but i'm trying to stick to the 00:01:50.200 --> 00:01:54.060 plan we came up with a plan when i say we me 00:01:54.060 --> 00:01:56.980 and my baby we came up with a plan so i'm trying 00:01:56.980 --> 00:02:02.079 to stick to the plan but when i tell y 'all if 00:02:02.079 --> 00:02:04.700 somebody breathes wrong i'm gonna be like you 00:02:04.700 --> 00:02:07.819 know what i can't do this anymore i just cannot 00:02:07.819 --> 00:02:13.199 nope i cannot i don't even need this No, but 00:02:13.199 --> 00:02:15.879 let's get started, people. Episode 61, shit, 00:02:15.919 --> 00:02:20.580 that's just like, let's get started. Ha, let's 00:02:20.580 --> 00:02:29.620 get started. Woo -hoo. Yee -hee. Woo -hoo. Yee 00:02:29.620 --> 00:02:34.240 -hee. I'm so ready to exit the corporate world. 00:02:34.319 --> 00:02:37.340 Like, it's not even funny. I can't stress this 00:02:37.340 --> 00:02:44.659 enough. I'm ready to just go. But I can't. I 00:02:44.659 --> 00:02:47.159 can't just go. I still have a little more wrapping 00:02:47.159 --> 00:02:51.060 up to do. I'm ready to put my feet in the sand, 00:02:51.060 --> 00:02:54.500 though. I'm ready to do my winter in England. 00:02:55.000 --> 00:02:58.139 There's just so many things that a girl wants 00:02:58.139 --> 00:03:04.719 to do that doesn't involve a corporate job. It 00:03:04.719 --> 00:03:08.139 doesn't. It just doesn't. Okay? I do not dream 00:03:08.139 --> 00:03:10.759 of labor. So do not ask me about a dream job. 00:03:11.240 --> 00:03:15.560 No, but seriously, you guys, we're here. I'm 00:03:15.560 --> 00:03:17.560 going to give you a life update. You know, I'm 00:03:17.560 --> 00:03:22.580 preparing to move. Yes, I am. I told you guys 00:03:22.580 --> 00:03:25.039 that last time. Your girl is preparing to move. 00:03:25.639 --> 00:03:33.819 Where will I be moving to? England. I'll be going 00:03:33.819 --> 00:03:38.300 off to England soon, darlings. I'll be partying 00:03:38.300 --> 00:03:41.949 from England for a while. To be with my man. 00:03:42.050 --> 00:03:45.750 My man to be with me. Yes. And I'm ready to explore. 00:03:45.889 --> 00:03:48.430 I'm so ready to explore England again. It was 00:03:48.430 --> 00:03:52.530 so fun waking up. I miss pastries. I miss the 00:03:52.530 --> 00:03:57.689 bakery. I miss England weather. There's so much 00:03:57.689 --> 00:04:00.750 over there that I miss, you know, you guys. But 00:04:00.750 --> 00:04:03.270 I've been appreciative of being back in the U 00:04:03.270 --> 00:04:08.979 .S. Talking to my civilians. Yeah. Getting to 00:04:08.979 --> 00:04:12.680 know my Uber drivers again. Like, just out there 00:04:12.680 --> 00:04:16.779 thriving, you know? Being a girl, you know? That's 00:04:16.779 --> 00:04:19.800 what I love about being a civilian part -time. 00:04:19.939 --> 00:04:23.139 I get to be a girl, you know? I get to be a lovely, 00:04:23.279 --> 00:04:28.639 beautiful, curious, courageous girl, you know? 00:04:28.759 --> 00:04:33.579 So, it's beautiful out there. It's lovely people 00:04:33.579 --> 00:04:37.519 out there. And I mean, out in the world as well 00:04:37.519 --> 00:04:44.540 as out in the England side there, UK. But outside 00:04:44.540 --> 00:04:48.060 of that, you guys, me preparing to go, I have 00:04:48.060 --> 00:04:51.060 to learn how to range or fold again. I forgot 00:04:51.060 --> 00:04:53.600 how to range or fold. And I have so many clothes 00:04:53.600 --> 00:04:56.800 and I don't know why. I truly don't know why 00:04:56.800 --> 00:04:59.100 my boyfriend keeps saying, you don't need all 00:04:59.100 --> 00:05:01.379 those clothes. Like, no, sir, you don't need 00:05:01.379 --> 00:05:04.079 all of them. I need every single piece of clothing 00:05:04.079 --> 00:05:07.769 that I have. I barely have any clothing. And 00:05:07.769 --> 00:05:10.069 he's always saying, you have nothing in my clothing. 00:05:10.310 --> 00:05:13.550 No, I don't. I don't see it. This is not real 00:05:13.550 --> 00:05:16.269 clothing. These are just like little sheets of 00:05:16.269 --> 00:05:22.670 fabric. This is not full clothing. So, I'm going 00:05:22.670 --> 00:05:25.449 to ranger fold. Have to look that up on YouTube 00:05:25.449 --> 00:05:28.810 again. And I'm going to hope that I can fit every 00:05:28.810 --> 00:05:32.970 single thing up in these suitcases. Because I 00:05:32.970 --> 00:05:37.290 don't know. they're he's expecting it's you know 00:05:37.290 --> 00:05:39.930 like i'm bringing all these clothes so i don't 00:05:39.930 --> 00:05:41.990 know what he's expecting i'm not throwing away 00:05:41.990 --> 00:05:45.389 anything anything is not being thrown away um 00:05:45.389 --> 00:05:49.029 i don't know what else to say but i'm so ready 00:05:49.029 --> 00:05:52.449 you know i'm nervous about moving in with my 00:05:52.449 --> 00:05:55.870 man i'm i'm nervous i haven't had the move in 00:05:55.870 --> 00:06:02.430 situation for a long time i'm nervous about i 00:06:02.430 --> 00:06:05.199 think i'm like i think i should just Walk on 00:06:05.199 --> 00:06:10.740 edge chills for a while. You know. Because. My 00:06:10.740 --> 00:06:14.639 brain just starts to wow. You know. My brain 00:06:14.639 --> 00:06:17.620 will be like. Girl you can do anything. You can 00:06:17.620 --> 00:06:21.579 say anything. You can piss him off. You can make 00:06:21.579 --> 00:06:24.579 him happy. I won't do that though. You know. 00:06:25.019 --> 00:06:31.199 So. I will be a little more humble. I will still 00:06:31.199 --> 00:06:35.980 poke the bear. no but i will be nice i will be 00:06:35.980 --> 00:06:38.839 nice i was yeah i will be nice i will be very 00:06:38.839 --> 00:06:43.240 very very happy to be in my man's presence for 00:06:43.240 --> 00:06:46.779 a love me long time yeah just for a little bit 00:06:46.779 --> 00:06:49.899 longer i'm excited about that i'm excited about 00:06:49.899 --> 00:06:52.839 seeing what these podcast studios look like in 00:06:52.839 --> 00:06:56.920 the uk do they deliver the same i hope so your 00:06:56.920 --> 00:07:00.759 girl will be out there to get a studio so be 00:07:00.759 --> 00:07:04.000 ready people We're going to the UK. We'll be 00:07:04.000 --> 00:07:06.420 filming from the UK. You'll be hearing me from 00:07:06.420 --> 00:07:09.240 the UK. We'll be doing everything from the UK. 00:07:10.040 --> 00:07:15.220 Eventually. Okay. But it's time to get into the 00:07:15.220 --> 00:07:18.279 news, people. I have a little surprise at the 00:07:18.279 --> 00:07:20.899 end of this episode, of course. Though not always. 00:07:21.180 --> 00:07:23.319 Probably not. But it's because I missed you. 00:07:23.360 --> 00:07:26.720 So I have a lovely surprise for you guys, the 00:07:26.720 --> 00:07:31.720 listeners. But let's get into the news. And we'll 00:07:31.720 --> 00:07:35.899 start slowly because it's been a hectic week 00:07:35.899 --> 00:07:38.720 for the civilians out there because I'm almost 00:07:38.720 --> 00:07:42.699 a civilian myself again. But I'm four and a half 00:07:42.699 --> 00:07:45.220 weeks shy from being one. So just don't count 00:07:45.220 --> 00:07:48.899 me out yet. I'll be there. But for the civilians 00:07:48.899 --> 00:07:52.879 that are out there, love Islanders. You guys 00:07:52.879 --> 00:07:57.220 love Islanders episode. I think it was 16 where 00:07:57.220 --> 00:08:01.579 Kenny and Janae. Yeah. These two are done for 00:08:01.579 --> 00:08:08.660 now. You know, I am getting the feeling that 00:08:08.660 --> 00:08:15.519 Kenny is a Virgo or something. And I have to 00:08:15.519 --> 00:08:18.740 double check his sign for sure. Like, I really 00:08:18.740 --> 00:08:24.220 need to look up his zodiac sign again. But we 00:08:24.220 --> 00:08:31.800 know for sure. That Janae is a Sagittarius. I 00:08:31.800 --> 00:08:37.659 would like to say my mom was a Sag. So, just 00:08:37.659 --> 00:08:40.919 because this topic is not that important. My 00:08:40.919 --> 00:08:43.940 mom was a Sag. Oh, Kenny is a Pisces. Okay, there 00:08:43.940 --> 00:08:49.220 we go. So, my mom was a Sagittarius. And the 00:08:49.220 --> 00:08:52.759 thing is, it was always the mouth. You know, 00:08:52.759 --> 00:08:57.000 just a tad bit controlling. You know, kind of 00:08:57.000 --> 00:08:59.220 reminds me of Janae. If you got a problem with 00:08:59.220 --> 00:09:00.720 somebody, she wants you to have a problem with 00:09:00.720 --> 00:09:06.320 them too. So, you know, it's one of those issues. 00:09:06.639 --> 00:09:10.059 And I really feel bad for these two because they 00:09:10.059 --> 00:09:13.000 are very cute together when they get along. But 00:09:13.000 --> 00:09:17.120 when they don't get along, it's like, okay, there's 00:09:17.120 --> 00:09:22.480 no real... chemistry here you can tell that this 00:09:22.480 --> 00:09:27.299 may this love may have been built off co -weakening 00:09:27.299 --> 00:09:29.980 you know because it was a it was a co -weakening 00:09:29.980 --> 00:09:33.179 that it was very convenient it was probably built 00:09:33.179 --> 00:09:37.740 off of conveniency versus true chemistry partially 00:09:37.740 --> 00:09:41.279 because they were like the only two villas to 00:09:41.279 --> 00:09:44.799 you know he was new to the villa bombshell she 00:09:44.799 --> 00:09:48.159 kind of didn't have nobody else you know You 00:09:48.159 --> 00:09:50.220 know, it's a full little story if you have not 00:09:50.220 --> 00:09:53.980 watched the full episode there, the full season, 00:09:54.159 --> 00:09:56.980 season 16. You need to watch it. I think it's 00:09:56.980 --> 00:10:02.399 16 for sure. But I definitely feel like people 00:10:02.399 --> 00:10:05.940 in the comments were coming for Kenny so crazy, 00:10:06.080 --> 00:10:10.759 you know. And I'm the girl's girl too, but I'm 00:10:10.759 --> 00:10:13.480 very neutral. So I'm a very neutral person where 00:10:13.480 --> 00:10:16.399 I stand in the middle. To hear both sides and 00:10:16.399 --> 00:10:19.000 everybody, you know, I could just empathize with 00:10:19.000 --> 00:10:22.000 both sides. So I definitely empathize with both 00:10:22.000 --> 00:10:25.740 sides. As you watch the show, Kenny is in a journey 00:10:25.740 --> 00:10:27.639 where he's just trying to figure out his future. 00:10:28.320 --> 00:10:31.600 And it's clear as day that Janae's in a journey 00:10:31.600 --> 00:10:34.779 where she knows exactly what she wants. Well, 00:10:34.879 --> 00:10:38.879 those two are clearly in two different journeys. 00:10:40.720 --> 00:10:44.809 Kenny loves the 9 to 5 situation. janae loves 00:10:44.809 --> 00:10:47.909 being an influencer kenny doesn't really see 00:10:47.909 --> 00:10:51.669 a full beneficial situation from being an influencer 00:10:51.669 --> 00:10:54.750 i'm guessing you know you just don't see it fully 00:10:54.750 --> 00:10:58.029 benefiting him on a positive level like it might 00:10:58.029 --> 00:11:00.950 impact his future in a way that he really didn't 00:11:00.950 --> 00:11:07.389 want it to so i would like to say kenny we can 00:11:07.389 --> 00:11:11.120 switch positions With that being said, I'm just 00:11:11.120 --> 00:11:13.799 being honest. I'm currently looking to be not 00:11:13.799 --> 00:11:16.399 a non -defiber. You're trying to be a non -defiber. 00:11:16.980 --> 00:11:20.240 I know where you can put an application. And 00:11:20.240 --> 00:11:23.620 we may just look at it fast. Just heads up. Because 00:11:23.620 --> 00:11:26.659 I would love to switch places. I'm not in a journey 00:11:26.659 --> 00:11:28.559 where I'm trying to figure out my future anymore. 00:11:28.740 --> 00:11:32.820 I'm actually in a journey where I'm just keeping 00:11:32.820 --> 00:11:36.320 going. You know? I'm doing my best. I'm keeping 00:11:36.320 --> 00:11:39.700 going. And I'm just proceeding. towards what 00:11:39.700 --> 00:11:42.960 i would like to do in life you know so i think 00:11:42.960 --> 00:11:45.919 i'm just hearing those two you hear that these 00:11:45.919 --> 00:11:49.220 two these journeys are just so different you 00:11:49.220 --> 00:11:52.600 know she may be a lewd man controlling as well 00:11:52.600 --> 00:11:59.320 that is a major pressure pointer for a man to 00:11:59.320 --> 00:12:04.000 me sometimes i feel like she kind of wants him 00:12:04.000 --> 00:12:06.519 to react the way a woman will react towards situations 00:12:06.519 --> 00:12:10.519 and you know men shouldn't do that in my eyes 00:12:10.519 --> 00:12:15.200 but hey that's up on them i will pray that you 00:12:15.200 --> 00:12:18.179 guys both get it together because the dating 00:12:18.179 --> 00:12:22.320 pool right now sucks so so i'm hoping you guys 00:12:22.320 --> 00:12:24.399 come back together because there's nothing outside 00:12:24.399 --> 00:12:27.480 there's nothing out there at all you might as 00:12:27.480 --> 00:12:29.700 well just go back in the house and just deal 00:12:29.700 --> 00:12:32.519 with each other's bs because all the other stuff 00:12:32.519 --> 00:12:36.200 outside is not even worth it but you know it's 00:12:36.200 --> 00:12:38.309 like gonna it's gonna be like Pulled the needle 00:12:38.309 --> 00:12:41.350 from a haystack. So, good luck. Really, good 00:12:41.350 --> 00:12:44.649 luck. And I wish you commenters would stop coming 00:12:44.649 --> 00:12:47.409 for Kenny like that. He just needs time to breathe. 00:12:47.809 --> 00:12:50.490 Seriously, you know. The man needs time to breathe, 00:12:50.570 --> 00:12:55.549 clearly. Alright, on to the next one. Not sure 00:12:55.549 --> 00:12:59.049 if you guys heard about Jay -Z's alleged son, 00:12:59.409 --> 00:13:05.690 Ramir. Mr. Ramir Saturday? Okay. I'm going to 00:13:05.690 --> 00:13:09.360 stick with Ramir. So with the Ramirez situation 00:13:09.360 --> 00:13:14.460 of Jay -Z's alleged son, me and my boyfriend 00:13:14.460 --> 00:13:16.240 was talking about this topic. I thought it was 00:13:16.240 --> 00:13:19.340 pretty interesting. My boyfriend was like, so 00:13:19.340 --> 00:13:22.620 if he is his son, what does he want? He was like, 00:13:22.639 --> 00:13:24.460 what, he wants some money or something? What 00:13:24.460 --> 00:13:27.379 is it that he really wants from him, even if 00:13:27.379 --> 00:13:31.539 he is his son? And I was, a part of me was like, 00:13:31.600 --> 00:13:33.419 you know, I don't know. But then again, I was 00:13:33.419 --> 00:13:37.679 like, no, if that was my dad. If LeBron James 00:13:37.679 --> 00:13:44.379 was my dad and he hadn't been around, he's out 00:13:44.379 --> 00:13:49.840 here making millions, I would probably be trying 00:13:49.840 --> 00:13:51.879 to connect with him as well. He's missed too 00:13:51.879 --> 00:13:57.539 many birthdays, first off. Secondly, why are 00:13:57.539 --> 00:14:00.779 you not wanting to be my dad? What the heck happened? 00:14:02.379 --> 00:14:05.580 So I guess if this is his son, he may just want 00:14:05.580 --> 00:14:08.100 a little clarity because at the end of the day, 00:14:08.220 --> 00:14:13.879 he's still a child. If this is not his son, this 00:14:13.879 --> 00:14:16.399 looks a little weird. This may look like a little 00:14:16.399 --> 00:14:20.960 shakedown. But also, I told my boyfriend, I think 00:14:20.960 --> 00:14:24.139 this all could be put to rest if my boy Jay -Z 00:14:24.139 --> 00:14:27.940 just does a DNA test. Now, there are pros and 00:14:27.940 --> 00:14:30.659 cons to that answer, of course, if he does a... 00:14:31.600 --> 00:14:35.639 You know, paternity test, DNA test there. Pros 00:14:35.639 --> 00:14:40.980 and cons. If he is found father, the father. 00:14:42.460 --> 00:14:48.039 Allegedly, I heard that there was the mother 00:14:48.039 --> 00:14:53.700 was 16 years old. So Jay -Z was 22. I don't know 00:14:53.700 --> 00:14:57.879 the laws back then. I wasn't there. I wasn't 00:14:57.879 --> 00:15:02.659 really thought of. until 98 so I'm not sure what 00:15:02.659 --> 00:15:05.039 the laws were about then I think it I'm gonna 00:15:05.039 --> 00:15:08.759 see what year this happened but yeah I'm not 00:15:08.759 --> 00:15:10.500 sure what the laws were back then so I'm not 00:15:10.500 --> 00:15:13.440 sure if anything was illegal anything like that 00:15:13.440 --> 00:15:19.620 but what I can say is I do think this whole topic 00:15:19.620 --> 00:15:27.460 is distracting as well as it's uh I don't want 00:15:27.460 --> 00:15:29.519 to say demeaning, but it's definitely distracting. 00:15:30.860 --> 00:15:34.559 It's a really, it's a low blow. It's a lose -lose. 00:15:35.500 --> 00:15:38.120 It's going to be, damn if he do, damn if he doesn't. 00:15:38.500 --> 00:15:40.879 That's how I feel. I was like, you know, now 00:15:40.879 --> 00:15:43.000 I see why Jay -Z's being quiet. It's too many 00:15:43.000 --> 00:15:46.179 voices, you know. It's a lot of people talking 00:15:46.179 --> 00:15:49.820 at the moment. So it would be hard if he just 00:15:49.820 --> 00:15:54.159 started saying, even responding to certain accusations 00:15:54.159 --> 00:15:59.289 without. needing to address another accusation 00:15:59.289 --> 00:16:02.049 like it would just be too much for me i don't 00:16:02.049 --> 00:16:05.970 know baby boy i'm good this is too much why they 00:16:05.970 --> 00:16:07.830 can't let her brother just breathe i don't know 00:16:07.830 --> 00:16:11.350 i swear ever since diddy has been coming for 00:16:11.350 --> 00:16:17.269 everybody think i came for like you know so much 00:16:17.269 --> 00:16:21.870 you know i don't know but i'm gonna move on because 00:16:21.870 --> 00:16:26.450 i'm i'm not ramir And I'm not coming for Jay 00:16:26.450 --> 00:16:29.309 -Z. I'm not alleging to be the son. So I'm going 00:16:29.309 --> 00:16:33.230 to move on. I'm going to move right along. I'm 00:16:33.230 --> 00:16:37.830 giving my opinion, okay? Now, you guys, I'm not 00:16:37.830 --> 00:16:42.070 sure if you saw the Donald Trump, Mr. Donald 00:16:42.070 --> 00:16:46.009 Trump alleges Beyonce, Oprah, and Al Sharpton. 00:16:48.169 --> 00:16:51.570 He's basically alleging them accepting illegal 00:16:51.570 --> 00:16:56.769 funds. from the democrat democrats campaign i 00:16:56.769 --> 00:17:01.629 thought that was hilarious look at the cat look 00:17:01.629 --> 00:17:07.809 at the pot count the cat black because why you 00:17:07.809 --> 00:17:13.289 literally had elon musk help with like what one 00:17:13.289 --> 00:17:17.210 million to help with that uh campaign of yours 00:17:17.210 --> 00:17:21.880 to get where you are in life right now Oh, sticks 00:17:21.880 --> 00:17:24.460 and stones. It's like what's good for the goose 00:17:24.460 --> 00:17:27.420 isn't good for the gander. Why not, sir? Why 00:17:27.420 --> 00:17:31.859 not? I'm a little I was a little flustered when 00:17:31.859 --> 00:17:35.839 I saw that. I'm like, no, he did it. No, he did 00:17:35.839 --> 00:17:43.019 it. You know, hey, but I see Donald is on a blame 00:17:43.019 --> 00:17:46.940 game rally at the moment, you know, just blaming 00:17:46.940 --> 00:17:51.069 different people for different situations. That's 00:17:51.069 --> 00:17:53.069 what I'm noticing. He must be on a blame game. 00:17:54.470 --> 00:17:58.490 You know, I'm trying to figure it out. The man 00:17:58.490 --> 00:18:04.410 is not being direct. He didn't blame Barack recently 00:18:04.410 --> 00:18:08.650 for some things. You know, everybody around him 00:18:08.650 --> 00:18:12.150 is doing something except him. So I've came to 00:18:12.150 --> 00:18:15.450 that conclusion. You know, everyone around him 00:18:15.450 --> 00:18:19.289 has something to say. And he clearly is the one 00:18:19.289 --> 00:18:22.690 that wants to be, hey, sticks and stones. You 00:18:22.690 --> 00:18:24.869 know, people let them say what they got to say. 00:18:24.930 --> 00:18:29.890 It doesn't mean anything. But, yeah, he can say 00:18:29.890 --> 00:18:31.670 whatever he has to say, and it's supposed to 00:18:31.670 --> 00:18:39.190 mean it all. Crazy, crazy, crazy. But, you guys, 00:18:39.430 --> 00:18:45.880 I am ready to switch it up. I'm ready to switch 00:18:45.880 --> 00:18:48.859 it up real quick. I'm ready to switch it up real 00:18:48.859 --> 00:18:52.380 quick. I gave you the news for the day. I'm ready 00:18:52.380 --> 00:18:56.819 to switch it up real quick. So you all, I did 00:18:56.819 --> 00:19:01.200 the Nicki Minaj challenge and nailed it. In heels. 00:19:01.619 --> 00:19:06.119 I will, of course, try to post it eventually. 00:19:06.859 --> 00:19:10.759 But I did do the challenge. Nailed it, of course. 00:19:11.359 --> 00:19:17.079 I've also been... looking and hunting around 00:19:17.079 --> 00:19:24.819 for an engagement ring um I don't know if I'll 00:19:24.819 --> 00:19:29.599 get one but if I do I have a few pictures of 00:19:29.599 --> 00:19:33.180 what I would like you know I have a few looks 00:19:33.180 --> 00:19:37.259 um I'm still looking I would hate to come with 00:19:37.259 --> 00:19:42.150 anything less than 500 options because I know 00:19:42.150 --> 00:19:44.609 my man loves me, so I know he would at least 00:19:44.609 --> 00:19:46.670 want the best for me. So he wants me to come 00:19:46.670 --> 00:19:50.130 with at least 500 options that I can thrive from. 00:19:50.289 --> 00:19:54.589 You know, I can just go and thrive and pick and 00:19:54.589 --> 00:19:58.390 dream and, you know, all the above. You know, 00:19:58.390 --> 00:20:02.990 I will show him eventually my 500 options of 00:20:02.990 --> 00:20:09.599 things. So, yeah, I saw like a diamond cut. princess 00:20:09.599 --> 00:20:14.799 there was something they're so beautiful they 00:20:14.799 --> 00:20:17.859 they didn't stop these rings specifically it 00:20:17.859 --> 00:20:21.559 was a gold princess cut diamond engagement ring 00:20:21.559 --> 00:20:29.859 ah beautiful beautiful yeah beautiful and i'm 00:20:29.859 --> 00:20:32.259 gonna keep looking like i stated i want at least 00:20:32.259 --> 00:20:35.900 500 options i want to be able to Throw down. 00:20:36.059 --> 00:20:38.339 I'm only going to present him with 10 at a time, 00:20:38.380 --> 00:20:42.059 but it's going to be a total of 500. So don't 00:20:42.059 --> 00:20:44.819 worry. You won't be able to get this one wrong 00:20:44.819 --> 00:20:47.140 because you're going to have so many options. 00:20:50.099 --> 00:20:53.640 Yes, you guys. So many options. I'm ready. Now, 00:20:53.880 --> 00:20:56.880 when I get engaged, I will need to look into 00:20:56.880 --> 00:21:01.140 everything else. What are the rings? I said the 00:21:01.140 --> 00:21:04.720 rings. What are the colors of the wedding going 00:21:04.720 --> 00:21:07.339 to look like? What are the, what am I going to 00:21:07.339 --> 00:21:09.680 wear? And trust me, I don't want to get married 00:21:09.680 --> 00:21:11.720 in the same year because your girl is only 27. 00:21:12.519 --> 00:21:16.779 So I just wouldn't mind getting engaged. That 00:21:16.779 --> 00:21:22.400 is like a pending marriage for your girl. So 00:21:22.400 --> 00:21:27.180 everything is happening too fast, too slow, all 00:21:27.180 --> 00:21:30.829 the above. Yes, we know. But yeah, everything 00:21:30.829 --> 00:21:33.849 is happening for me. Slowly, we're not going 00:21:33.849 --> 00:21:36.410 to rush into the engagement, partially because 00:21:36.410 --> 00:21:40.309 your girl still got to get to the UK again. Run 00:21:40.309 --> 00:21:43.470 it back. Of course. But no, seriously, we're 00:21:43.470 --> 00:21:45.869 not going to rush into anything crazy, but your 00:21:45.869 --> 00:21:48.289 girl will keep manifesting. Yeah, I would be 00:21:48.289 --> 00:21:52.710 crazy not to keep opening up to the pod, manifesting. 00:21:53.250 --> 00:21:56.589 I'm so ready to get to the UK and meet the people. 00:21:57.069 --> 00:22:00.630 stop the people and interview the people see 00:22:00.630 --> 00:22:03.390 what's going on down here see how the relationships 00:22:03.390 --> 00:22:06.390 are going in the UK I want to know how the dating 00:22:06.390 --> 00:22:11.289 pool is down there because down here baby in 00:22:11.289 --> 00:22:14.089 the US we're struggling yeah we're struggling 00:22:14.089 --> 00:22:17.890 I mean I'm good clearly but you know I've seen 00:22:17.890 --> 00:22:20.369 a lot of people I got a lot of other people that 00:22:20.369 --> 00:22:24.690 are single trying to date calling me but then 00:22:24.690 --> 00:22:27.599 when I give them a little actual advice sometimes 00:22:27.599 --> 00:22:30.799 they actually don't take it so you know there's 00:22:30.799 --> 00:22:35.440 that's just life so shit um but yeah you guys 00:22:35.440 --> 00:22:39.279 it was a pleasure I missed you you know it is 00:22:39.279 --> 00:22:42.819 a lovely Wednesday the birds are chirping out 00:22:42.819 --> 00:22:47.099 there the sun is shining this is my last summer 00:22:47.099 --> 00:22:51.920 in Texas for a minute I said for a minute and 00:22:51.920 --> 00:22:54.839 that's just what I mean uh yeah it's gonna be 00:22:54.839 --> 00:22:57.589 my last Summer in Texas with my mini. Ready to 00:22:57.589 --> 00:23:00.650 do winter in the UK with my man. I'm ready to 00:23:00.650 --> 00:23:03.710 rub my feet on him. Put my feet all up on him. 00:23:04.029 --> 00:23:07.950 Everything. Yeah. So, I'm ready for that princess 00:23:07.950 --> 00:23:10.289 treatment again. I'm just, yeah. I'm in need. 00:23:10.450 --> 00:23:12.789 Mm -hmm. I'm spoiled. So, I have to get back 00:23:12.789 --> 00:23:14.750 to being spoiled. Mm -hmm. Mm -hmm. Mm -hmm. 00:23:14.750 --> 00:23:18.109 Mm -hmm. No. But the life is life out there. 00:23:18.289 --> 00:23:21.230 The birds are chirping. Uber drivers are still 00:23:21.230 --> 00:23:25.980 driving. And I got more stories. So. At the end 00:23:25.980 --> 00:23:28.779 of this episode, you will hear an Uber driver 00:23:28.779 --> 00:23:31.799 and me conversate. You know, sticks and stones, 00:23:31.900 --> 00:23:35.259 baby, sticks and stones. Girls just being girls. 00:23:35.799 --> 00:23:38.519 All right? That's just what it is. I'm going 00:23:38.519 --> 00:23:43.099 to let you hear that conversation. And I'm going 00:23:43.099 --> 00:23:46.819 to head out so you can listen to the story. You 00:23:46.819 --> 00:23:50.240 can listen to the conversation. You can hear 00:23:50.240 --> 00:23:56.069 episode 61 go out with a bang. Episode 61, go 00:23:56.069 --> 00:23:59.529 out with a bang. Like I said, episode 61, going 00:23:59.529 --> 00:24:02.750 out with a bang. He asked you, like, what do 00:24:02.750 --> 00:24:05.250 you bring to the table? Yeah. I'm like, first 00:24:05.250 --> 00:24:07.809 of all, you can't live in my house. You got to 00:24:07.809 --> 00:24:09.930 buy me a house. Yeah. You're not going to live 00:24:09.930 --> 00:24:12.769 in my house. And so I think he was used to just. 00:24:38.599 --> 00:24:40.799 It was more of like an ego situation? I think 00:24:40.799 --> 00:24:42.859 so because he was like, who been cutting your 00:24:42.859 --> 00:24:44.500 yard? Your yard don't look good. I was like, 00:24:44.579 --> 00:24:46.220 boy, you better sit down. You're not going to 00:24:46.220 --> 00:24:49.039 do anything with my yard. Thank you. I have a 00:24:49.039 --> 00:24:51.460 yard person. I have one that come treat the weeds. 00:24:51.619 --> 00:24:53.460 I have a different one that mows. No, we're not 00:24:53.460 --> 00:24:55.319 doing it. I can't cut it for you. No, you cannot. 00:24:55.740 --> 00:24:58.039 Yeah, that's not where you need it. That's not 00:24:58.039 --> 00:25:00.440 at all. That's what he need to focus on. Where 00:25:00.440 --> 00:25:07.769 am I needed? I think, you know, But, you know, 00:25:07.809 --> 00:25:11.069 she gave me. Like I said, I've been divorced 00:25:11.069 --> 00:25:14.230 since 2004. I'm not remarried. I want to meet 00:25:14.230 --> 00:25:17.549 a great guy. But I'm not willing to settle. That's 00:25:17.549 --> 00:25:19.670 the difference. Because I've dated several guys 00:25:19.670 --> 00:25:22.130 over the years. And they just, you know, it just 00:25:22.130 --> 00:25:24.089 didn't work. Once I got them out of my system, 00:25:24.190 --> 00:25:26.109 you know, I would take a few months, pull them 00:25:26.109 --> 00:25:28.630 back. And then after that, I'm ready to move 00:25:28.630 --> 00:25:31.829 on again. Yeah, see, me, I pray for a unicorn. 00:25:32.930 --> 00:25:35.130 I know it sounds crazy. Wait a minute. Like what? 00:25:35.319 --> 00:25:37.339 I pray for a baby girl. I pray for a unicorn. 00:25:37.700 --> 00:25:39.839 What that mean though? So that means they say 00:25:39.839 --> 00:25:42.759 like when anytime that you, if you are a spiritual 00:25:42.759 --> 00:25:45.279 or religious person, me, I'm not religious. I'm 00:25:45.279 --> 00:25:47.940 more spiritual. So I go to God whenever time 00:25:47.940 --> 00:25:51.859 I got a problem. So anytime I'm nervous or I'm 00:25:51.859 --> 00:25:54.960 confused or I'm looking for something, I go to 00:25:54.960 --> 00:25:57.299 God. So if I'm looking, when I was looking for 00:25:57.299 --> 00:26:01.339 a man, I went to God. So partially I got it from, 00:26:01.400 --> 00:26:05.339 I listened to, um, an interview from Viola Davis 00:26:05.339 --> 00:26:08.880 and Oprah Winfrey. And Viola Davis explained 00:26:08.880 --> 00:26:11.819 how she prayed for her man because a friend told 00:26:11.819 --> 00:26:14.680 her to do that. A friend told her to pray for 00:26:14.680 --> 00:26:17.259 your man. And I know it sounds crazy, but no, 00:26:17.299 --> 00:26:19.460 really, pray for your man. So that's what I do. 00:26:20.980 --> 00:26:28.420 Look, he don't know what to do. Yes, they are. 00:26:28.859 --> 00:26:31.660 But with that being said, I prayed for my unicorn. 00:26:32.839 --> 00:26:36.789 Yes. And I basically, I was like, Lord, because 00:26:36.789 --> 00:26:38.710 I would watch a lot of shows for starters. And 00:26:38.710 --> 00:26:40.690 I would be like, Lord, my man got to have an 00:26:40.690 --> 00:26:43.490 accent. Oh, but then he got to be smart. Oh, 00:26:43.509 --> 00:26:45.789 but he can't be doing all this, Lord. He can't 00:26:45.789 --> 00:26:48.130 be ghetto now. And then I was like, Lord, make 00:26:48.130 --> 00:26:51.750 sure his tags are not expired. Lord, make sure 00:26:51.750 --> 00:26:57.390 his tags are not expired. Babe, I done been around 00:26:57.390 --> 00:27:01.569 too many people and they had tags expired. I'm 00:27:01.569 --> 00:27:03.220 like, it was just little. things. Lord, make 00:27:03.220 --> 00:27:05.480 sure he has a little job. Lord, he ain't got 00:27:05.480 --> 00:27:07.440 to have everything, but if he got these little 00:27:07.440 --> 00:27:10.839 aspects, I can work with him. Yeah, we can go 00:27:10.839 --> 00:27:14.099 far. You get what I'm saying? And that's what 00:27:14.099 --> 00:27:16.460 I got. I got me a nice unicorn, and I've been 00:27:16.460 --> 00:27:18.180 able to work with him. He's been able to work 00:27:18.180 --> 00:27:21.099 with me, and now we five months going into six 00:27:21.099 --> 00:27:24.119 months. I love the fact that he's asking you 00:27:24.119 --> 00:27:28.380 to agree. Yes. Because, you know, he's black, 00:27:28.460 --> 00:27:30.740 but he's not American black. right he's a but 00:27:30.740 --> 00:27:33.160 he's british yeah well i'm saying yeah it's very 00:27:33.160 --> 00:27:35.380 different yeah it's very different very different 00:27:35.380 --> 00:27:38.299 from other places that do different things and 00:27:38.299 --> 00:27:42.559 especially the ones in texas there's something 00:27:42.559 --> 00:27:46.759 wrong with them too yeah the texas people are 00:27:46.759 --> 00:27:49.779 very interesting that's all i can say yeah very 00:27:49.779 --> 00:28:01.769 very interesting And it's nothing like just having 00:28:01.769 --> 00:28:03.730 that reinsurance. And he's such a sweetheart. 00:28:03.890 --> 00:28:07.390 Like, I went to go visit him, and he had flowers. 00:28:07.410 --> 00:28:11.009 And while picking me up from the airport, he 00:28:11.009 --> 00:28:14.130 had flowers in the car. He had a full cooler 00:28:14.130 --> 00:28:18.869 with wine, food. Oh, baby, my man was ready. 00:28:19.430 --> 00:28:43.400 I said, that's how you get ready. Hardworking, 00:28:43.400 --> 00:28:50.160 educated, very much in her feminist side. That's 00:28:50.160 --> 00:28:52.480 what's hard. It was hard for him to find someone 00:28:52.480 --> 00:28:56.019 that was in her feminist side. He met a lot of 00:28:56.019 --> 00:28:58.559 women, but they were more in their masculine 00:28:58.559 --> 00:29:01.759 energy, so they're more demanding. You were just 00:29:01.759 --> 00:29:05.440 chill. I was a chill. I'm a sweetheart, so I 00:29:05.440 --> 00:29:09.599 don't have the energy. You're not trying to control 00:29:09.599 --> 00:29:11.660 something. You're not trying to control it. You're 00:29:11.660 --> 00:29:14.089 not trying to be a man. Nope, I'm not God. I'm 00:29:14.089 --> 00:29:16.210 not going to play God. So I'm not going to try 00:29:16.210 --> 00:29:20.589 to control something. Yeah, so I'm a person that 00:29:20.589 --> 00:29:23.329 speaks her mind, meaning he will know how I feel. 00:29:23.430 --> 00:29:24.730 I mean, you're not just like going to shrink. 00:29:24.970 --> 00:29:27.430 You'll say what you know. I say exactly how I 00:29:27.430 --> 00:29:30.230 feel and I make it clear. So I can be very logical 00:29:30.230 --> 00:29:33.490 and just like I can be very emotional. And that's 00:29:33.490 --> 00:29:35.549 the thing, you know, some people cannot balance 00:29:35.549 --> 00:29:39.200 both. yeah he was just like it's always nice 00:29:39.200 --> 00:29:42.200 to have that balance of logic and emotion you 00:29:42.200 --> 00:29:44.299 know it's just like the fact that you have both 00:29:44.299 --> 00:29:46.480 is just it's very refreshing because i know when 00:29:46.480 --> 00:29:48.460 to be emotional i know when to be logical yeah 00:29:48.460 --> 00:29:51.539 yeah and that's and that's apparently why he's 00:29:51.539 --> 00:29:53.559 attracted to you because he's like oh my gosh 00:29:53.559 --> 00:29:55.339 you know he probably doesn't even believe this 00:29:55.339 --> 00:29:58.940 is real he doesn't i'm serious yeah it's still 00:29:58.940 --> 00:30:01.259 so real for me though like a britishman i'm like 00:30:01.259 --> 00:30:03.640 i didn't even know britishmen were black what 00:30:03.640 --> 00:30:06.609 the You know, and it's just but I learned a lot 00:30:06.609 --> 00:30:10.549 that how basically, you know each each parts 00:30:10.549 --> 00:30:13.569 of Africa South Africa different parts of Africa 00:30:13.569 --> 00:30:19.170 were colonized and that's basically how In different 00:30:19.170 --> 00:30:24.009 areas so learning the culture It just gives me 00:30:24.009 --> 00:30:28.890 a refreshing on life, you know And, oh, I see 00:30:28.890 --> 00:30:30.950 myself down there pretty darn often. Yes, I do. 00:30:31.029 --> 00:30:33.250 I've been there. It was pretty nice. It's beautiful. 00:30:33.710 --> 00:30:36.230 Everybody's walking around. Everybody's just 00:30:36.230 --> 00:30:38.049 parking their car and walking. It's nothing like 00:30:38.049 --> 00:30:40.069 Texas where you walk and people look at you like, 00:30:40.190 --> 00:30:42.589 oh, you ain't got no money. Oh, you broke. What 00:30:42.589 --> 00:30:46.309 you got going? Yeah. So, could you have dual 00:30:46.309 --> 00:30:49.910 citizenship, though? Yeah, you can. Yes, yes, 00:30:49.950 --> 00:30:52.630 yes, yes, you can. So, I'm excited. I'm excited. 00:30:52.710 --> 00:30:54.269 I'm just excited. Ready to explore. So you just 00:30:54.269 --> 00:30:55.950 need to get on it. Now you just need to do something 00:30:55.950 --> 00:30:58.750 with this job. Oh, baby, that job is doing something 00:30:58.750 --> 00:31:03.210 with itself. As long as our president is our 00:31:03.210 --> 00:31:05.309 president, that job is doing what it needs to 00:31:05.309 --> 00:31:08.769 do with itself. That is crazy. I just, it's just, 00:31:08.789 --> 00:31:12.089 it don't even make sense. So you, so since you've 00:31:12.089 --> 00:31:14.250 been there a little bit of time, you've seen, 00:31:14.289 --> 00:31:17.150 you saw kind of the shift a little bit. Yes. 00:31:17.450 --> 00:31:19.750 Yes, yes, yes. From when I first came versus 00:31:19.750 --> 00:31:21.289 where we are right now. To where we are now. 00:31:21.680 --> 00:31:23.559 It's definitely a major shift. So they really 00:31:23.559 --> 00:31:25.519 want y 'all to do all this work? Yes, they do. 00:31:25.559 --> 00:31:29.700 For the same money? Yes, they do. Okay. Yeah, 00:31:29.700 --> 00:31:32.500 yeah, yeah. Say so. More labor, less workers, 00:31:32.599 --> 00:31:35.920 of course. Wow. That's insane. And that's the 00:31:35.920 --> 00:31:38.039 thing about it. It's like, so how is this supposed 00:31:38.039 --> 00:31:40.119 to get done? Because like I said, I'm going to 00:31:40.119 --> 00:31:42.019 do what I normally do. I'm not doing nobody. 00:31:42.099 --> 00:31:43.960 I'm not doing the job of two or three people. 00:31:44.119 --> 00:31:46.400 Yeah, I'm not doing two or three other people 00:31:46.400 --> 00:31:48.640 jobs. No, thank you. I'm going to actually move 00:31:48.640 --> 00:31:50.839 slow when you need me to do their job. I mean, 00:31:50.880 --> 00:31:53.039 slower than slow, actually. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 00:31:53.059 --> 00:31:55.200 Excellent. Yeah, because rushing through it ain't 00:31:55.200 --> 00:31:57.359 going to get you nowhere. Oh, no, I'm not. I 00:31:57.359 --> 00:32:00.119 don't want to age like dog years. You get what 00:32:00.119 --> 00:32:01.819 I'm saying? I notice a lot of things will have 00:32:01.819 --> 00:32:04.559 you aging like dog years faster than you can 00:32:04.559 --> 00:32:07.500 say fast. Wow. So I was like, you know what? 00:32:07.599 --> 00:32:13.609 I'm going to enjoy my 20s. Plan accurately. I 00:32:13.609 --> 00:32:16.990 say, if you want to make God laugh, make plans. 00:32:17.329 --> 00:32:21.509 That's what I'm doing. Let's go back to this 00:32:21.509 --> 00:32:24.049 list. I'm trying to take some notes from you 00:32:24.049 --> 00:32:29.109 real quick. I get the list. His tags ain't expired. 00:32:29.369 --> 00:32:35.269 What else? In order to find your unicorn, to 00:32:35.269 --> 00:32:37.730 find your unicorn, like I said, I pray for my 00:32:37.730 --> 00:32:41.180 unicorn specifically. And I threw things in the 00:32:41.180 --> 00:32:43.599 air. I watched a lot of shows. That's for starters. 00:32:43.759 --> 00:32:46.779 I watch a lot of love shows. So I see things. 00:32:46.839 --> 00:32:48.759 Oh, did you really? Oh, yeah, yeah. I see things 00:32:48.759 --> 00:32:50.940 where I'm like, oh, I can't take that. So I pray 00:32:50.940 --> 00:32:53.220 for little things. Lord, make sure my man ain't 00:32:53.220 --> 00:32:55.970 got no kids. lord make sure because you don't 00:32:55.970 --> 00:32:58.289 have any i don't have any children so i was it's 00:32:58.289 --> 00:33:00.390 just little things that i would like you know 00:33:00.390 --> 00:33:03.690 what any guys that had kids i've never made anyone 00:33:03.690 --> 00:33:07.769 my serious partner that had children but i did 00:33:07.769 --> 00:33:10.509 indulge with someone that had kids okay you did 00:33:10.509 --> 00:33:12.650 yeah yeah to the point you're indulging i was 00:33:12.650 --> 00:33:14.410 indulging because i was young and i still am 00:33:14.410 --> 00:33:17.890 yeah no yeah i was just i was they're older they 00:33:17.890 --> 00:33:19.869 were older than me so i was just having fun all 00:33:19.869 --> 00:33:21.410 right they got their kids i think i can give 00:33:21.410 --> 00:33:24.279 in depth But that takes you elsewhere because 00:33:24.279 --> 00:33:28.519 then they were ready for me to be, you know, 00:33:28.519 --> 00:33:31.579 in a higher position of the relationship. Meaning, 00:33:31.680 --> 00:33:33.680 you know, hey, ready for you to help over here. 00:33:33.799 --> 00:33:39.619 And I'm like, help? You mean H -E -L -P? So what 00:33:39.619 --> 00:33:43.400 is that? So now, what it is, is not noticing. 00:33:43.420 --> 00:33:47.259 I noticed before a package was a package. but 00:33:47.259 --> 00:33:49.759 people that called me to be in that package i 00:33:49.759 --> 00:33:52.819 i basically stated no and they didn't respect 00:33:52.819 --> 00:33:54.720 that yeah but i already knew that was the thing 00:33:54.720 --> 00:33:57.420 i already knew a package was a package so i would 00:33:57.420 --> 00:34:00.099 never set myself up for failure meaning i wouldn't 00:34:00.099 --> 00:34:02.579 come in a situation thinking i could do something 00:34:02.579 --> 00:34:04.099 knowing damn well i ain't got no business over 00:34:04.099 --> 00:34:10.019 here so i was like I told that person like, I 00:34:10.019 --> 00:34:12.519 actually don't think that I should actually play 00:34:12.519 --> 00:34:14.340 that role because I don't think I would be good 00:34:14.340 --> 00:34:19.250 at it. Why? Because I'm only 24. I barely even 00:34:19.250 --> 00:34:21.329 know how to spell the motherfucking word. So 00:34:21.329 --> 00:34:24.329 I'm being realistic here. I would hate to play 00:34:24.329 --> 00:34:29.230 in an innocent child's face. Oh, girl. That's 00:34:29.230 --> 00:34:31.750 what they are. They're innocent children. This 00:34:31.750 --> 00:34:34.269 person is just somebody that's looking for love 00:34:34.269 --> 00:34:36.550 and help and assistance and all of the above. 00:34:36.650 --> 00:34:43.349 It takes two to tango. So, you know, me, I'm 00:34:43.349 --> 00:34:47.190 like, I don't know if I can tango. So not with 00:34:47.190 --> 00:34:49.110 that situation specifically. But you needed someone 00:34:49.110 --> 00:34:51.170 with no children anyway. Yeah. I said that to 00:34:51.170 --> 00:34:52.789 anybody. I was like, you know, if you're young, 00:34:52.929 --> 00:34:55.670 don't. Don't settle. Yeah. It's called settle. 00:34:55.710 --> 00:34:58.230 And it's not that that person is a bad person 00:34:58.230 --> 00:35:00.070 or anything. It's just like. There's options. 00:35:00.510 --> 00:35:02.869 Y 'all not equally yoked. Yeah. There's options 00:35:02.869 --> 00:35:05.690 out there. And I just stayed single longer. I'd 00:35:05.690 --> 00:35:07.829 rather stay single longer than to sign up for 00:35:07.829 --> 00:35:12.309 more. after this car yeah i don't know what they 00:35:12.309 --> 00:35:14.730 well too bad you um already met your guy because 00:35:14.730 --> 00:35:17.750 i got one son i got twin boys okay and they're 00:35:17.750 --> 00:35:22.469 uh 30 they'll be 31 in um in august and so one 00:35:22.469 --> 00:35:24.489 of them is dating the other one he's like mom 00:35:24.489 --> 00:35:26.750 i just want to be able to have everything in 00:35:26.750 --> 00:35:29.030 order before i start that but he's just you know 00:35:29.030 --> 00:35:31.690 he's he's tell him he's overthinking it and let 00:35:31.690 --> 00:35:33.369 him know he's overthinking it because you will 00:35:33.369 --> 00:35:35.230 never have everything together well he's just 00:35:35.230 --> 00:35:37.369 talking about money saved and you know just trying 00:35:37.369 --> 00:35:38.929 to be able because he said i need to be ready 00:35:38.929 --> 00:35:41.889 to take care of a family well he's he's overthinking 00:35:41.889 --> 00:35:43.829 that you need to think of think about dating 00:35:43.829 --> 00:35:46.530 as one one make a u -turn yeah make a u -turn 00:35:46.530 --> 00:35:48.869 when you're ready but um make a u -turn because 00:35:48.869 --> 00:35:51.210 i'm on your left side oh okay so why did this 00:35:51.210 --> 00:35:53.570 it always does that it does that okay so okay 00:35:53.570 --> 00:35:56.750 i say think of it as one can you go by they always 00:35:56.750 --> 00:35:59.489 confuse but i specifically will tell you yeah 00:35:59.489 --> 00:36:02.070 but you don't have to go through just go just 00:36:02.070 --> 00:36:04.869 go around okay gotcha so i wonder why maps your 00:36:04.869 --> 00:36:09.449 way over there that is just yours ai system girl 00:36:09.449 --> 00:36:11.849 they be having me all over the place sometimes 00:36:11.849 --> 00:36:14.050 but you're gonna be okay though walking through 00:36:14.050 --> 00:36:16.650 there oh always yes i walk through there that's 00:36:16.650 --> 00:36:19.090 why oh you sure okay because i want to just dump 00:36:19.090 --> 00:36:21.190 you out because it's dark but let him know not 00:36:21.190 --> 00:36:23.710 to overthink it don't overthink yeah i think 00:36:23.710 --> 00:36:26.250 he would if he met someone because he's not not 00:36:26.250 --> 00:36:29.090 that he's particular but he's kind of shy my 00:36:29.090 --> 00:36:33.679 boyfriend was shy yeah let me show you I want 00:36:33.679 --> 00:36:35.460 to leave you with a piece of advice before I 00:36:35.460 --> 00:36:37.320 leave. Tell me, girl, because I need... Listen, 00:36:37.400 --> 00:36:39.800 I'm not ever too old to learn, so tell me. I'm 00:36:39.800 --> 00:36:41.980 a life coach, so I'll leave you with a nice piece 00:36:41.980 --> 00:36:44.719 of advice when it comes to just dating. First 00:36:44.719 --> 00:36:47.460 things first. When it comes to just dating, have 00:36:47.460 --> 00:36:50.760 fun. I know. Have fun. Don't forget to have fun. 00:36:50.900 --> 00:36:53.579 That's the point of dating. The point of it is 00:36:53.579 --> 00:36:55.059 to have fun. You can actually pull to the front. 00:36:55.099 --> 00:36:57.579 Pull down a little bit more. Because they're 00:36:57.579 --> 00:36:59.519 screaming they can't get in. Yeah. It's like, 00:36:59.579 --> 00:37:01.179 oh, y 'all need to get in? Y 'all need to get 00:37:01.179 --> 00:37:07.230 in, get in. sorry um sorry charlie have fun but 00:37:07.230 --> 00:37:10.429 also go in with an intention you know have have 00:37:10.429 --> 00:37:13.630 good intentions okay he's a really sweet boy 00:37:13.630 --> 00:37:15.449 that's why i call him my baby boy he's like mom 00:37:15.449 --> 00:37:20.030 okay no are you a dreamer or are you a realist 00:37:20.030 --> 00:37:24.269 i'm a realist you're a realist okay so you may 00:37:24.269 --> 00:37:28.510 need to dream a little i do dream and here and 00:37:28.510 --> 00:37:31.389 there here and there i'm real like reality yeah 00:37:31.389 --> 00:37:34.929 only because i i do accounting and you know it's 00:37:34.929 --> 00:37:37.969 just like numbers i'm in the side the box person 00:37:37.969 --> 00:37:40.769 yeah and it's like okay hey numbers this gotta 00:37:40.769 --> 00:37:43.050 work we gotta do this we gotta do that so yeah 00:37:43.050 --> 00:37:45.170 but you i probably do need to dream a little 00:37:45.170 --> 00:37:48.170 but let me tell you a couple of things so i have 00:37:48.170 --> 00:37:50.849 dated i've dated like i have one friend she's 00:37:50.849 --> 00:37:53.619 like i have a type yeah i'm just gonna say it 00:37:53.619 --> 00:37:56.539 i have a type that i'm attracted to okay i have 00:37:56.539 --> 00:37:59.519 to be attracted to because i'm not it's it just 00:37:59.519 --> 00:38:02.079 doesn't it won't work for me okay so and i think 00:38:02.079 --> 00:38:04.739 that an attraction should be there of a person 00:38:04.739 --> 00:38:08.440 so that's the one thing so the last couple of 00:38:08.440 --> 00:38:12.000 guys i dated i tried to take away okay let me 00:38:12.000 --> 00:38:14.659 let me open my mind i did girl i was so damn 00:38:14.659 --> 00:38:16.920 mad i was like no the hell you didn't you weren't 00:38:16.920 --> 00:38:21.400 even my fucking type don't settle now I wasn't 00:38:21.400 --> 00:38:23.559 selling. I was trying to have an open mind about 00:38:23.559 --> 00:38:26.119 giving someone an opportunity that I probably 00:38:26.119 --> 00:38:28.780 never would have before. And that's what you 00:38:28.780 --> 00:38:30.719 don't do. You have something like, like I said, 00:38:30.840 --> 00:38:33.579 pray for your unicorn so you're not out here 00:38:33.579 --> 00:38:36.699 looking for anything. I wasn't looking. See, 00:38:36.760 --> 00:38:40.260 the guys approach me. And then I'll be like, 00:38:40.360 --> 00:38:42.579 okay, well, let me see. It typically happens 00:38:42.579 --> 00:38:44.940 when you're not looking. Yeah, and that's exactly 00:38:44.940 --> 00:38:48.569 what happened with those. I wasn't looking. But 00:38:48.569 --> 00:38:51.550 it really just made me mad because these are 00:38:51.550 --> 00:38:54.510 guys that pursued me. Yeah. And then after a 00:38:54.510 --> 00:38:56.349 year, I was like, oh, hey, you know. Where we 00:38:56.349 --> 00:38:59.170 at? Where we at? They couldn't. Now, you know, 00:38:59.210 --> 00:39:01.130 I already said, I already told you, you know, 00:39:01.170 --> 00:39:04.869 my children are grown. You know, I, you know, 00:39:04.889 --> 00:39:06.730 I've been taking care of myself, you know, and 00:39:06.730 --> 00:39:09.900 it's not that I need them and I want one. I want 00:39:09.900 --> 00:39:12.239 one in my life, you know, for the companionship 00:39:12.239 --> 00:39:13.920 and all the things I want. Yeah. And I never, 00:39:14.000 --> 00:39:16.139 now I'm saying this to you, but I've never said 00:39:16.139 --> 00:39:18.980 to a man, I don't need you. Yeah. But they come 00:39:18.980 --> 00:39:20.900 in, it's like, oh yeah, you know, they both, 00:39:21.000 --> 00:39:22.579 you know, they're talking about their marriage 00:39:22.579 --> 00:39:25.360 mind. And okay, I'm not talking about marriage 00:39:25.360 --> 00:39:28.190 now. I'm just saying, hey. in the future of me 00:39:28.190 --> 00:39:30.949 dating i date with intention with intention my 00:39:30.949 --> 00:39:33.230 intention so they said the same thing but they 00:39:33.230 --> 00:39:36.369 just said it so then once we get a year on down 00:39:36.369 --> 00:39:39.269 the road and i'm like okay how do you think things 00:39:39.269 --> 00:39:41.750 are going what do you what would you how could 00:39:41.750 --> 00:39:43.750 i make our relationship better you know all those 00:39:43.750 --> 00:39:46.110 types of conversations coming and then all of 00:39:46.110 --> 00:39:48.769 a sudden oh well you know what i i don't really 00:39:48.769 --> 00:39:50.809 know what i want so how about this let me let 00:39:50.809 --> 00:39:53.130 me give you and honey i was like you don't know 00:39:53.130 --> 00:39:55.230 what you want okay so how about this never give 00:39:55.230 --> 00:39:58.929 somebody a year of your time oh and here's the 00:39:58.929 --> 00:40:02.250 thing i really wouldn't have this is having an 00:40:02.250 --> 00:40:05.610 open mind once again and i was like no i'm not 00:40:05.610 --> 00:40:09.309 i'm not doing that no effing more yeah period 00:40:09.309 --> 00:40:12.989 six months look six is it i see that's it's been 00:40:12.989 --> 00:40:16.269 my thing i will go up to a year but that is a 00:40:16.269 --> 00:40:18.630 lot of time but here's the thing the last one 00:40:18.630 --> 00:40:22.320 he only got seven months actually month two my 00:40:22.320 --> 00:40:25.559 boyfriend asked me to be his girlfriend he met 00:40:25.559 --> 00:40:28.900 me january 27th january february 14th he asked 00:40:28.900 --> 00:40:31.179 me to be his girlfriend yeah and it don't take 00:40:31.179 --> 00:40:33.739 i know it doesn't take a long time month six 00:40:33.739 --> 00:40:36.900 one month five for me he i'm out there in the 00:40:36.900 --> 00:40:41.800 uk yeah some things are morally more action than 00:40:41.800 --> 00:40:45.050 any anything is also partially because If we 00:40:45.050 --> 00:40:47.130 lived in the States, he would have the opportunity 00:40:47.130 --> 00:40:50.929 to just come to my house. Pull up. Yeah. We're 00:40:50.929 --> 00:40:55.409 far. Right. So we have no option but to communicate 00:40:55.409 --> 00:40:58.389 on the phone first, like little kids. Yeah, but 00:40:58.389 --> 00:41:00.909 no, that's not little kids. That's like for real. 00:41:00.909 --> 00:41:03.489 No, it's taking baby steps. That's what it is. 00:41:03.550 --> 00:41:06.090 It's communicating on the phone first, getting 00:41:06.090 --> 00:41:07.630 to know each other like that via communication. 00:41:08.150 --> 00:41:11.570 Then, fly me out. And we see how it is out there. 00:41:12.030 --> 00:41:14.329 And when we come back, when I come back, we'll 00:41:14.329 --> 00:41:16.190 see where we still at. Yeah, see, that's good. 00:41:16.309 --> 00:41:18.210 Yeah, I definitely have learned lessons from 00:41:18.210 --> 00:41:20.590 all of that. And I'm like, okay. But here's the 00:41:20.590 --> 00:41:24.789 thing. I'm 59. I'm too old for games with these 00:41:24.789 --> 00:41:27.650 dudes. And these are the men that are old are 00:41:27.650 --> 00:41:30.170 the ones playing. I'm like, you're too damn old 00:41:30.170 --> 00:41:31.949 to be walking around talking about you don't 00:41:31.949 --> 00:41:34.849 know what you want. Two months. Two months. Two 00:41:34.849 --> 00:41:37.110 months in. If you were on that second month and 00:41:37.110 --> 00:41:39.900 you still screaming, I don't know. No. See, they 00:41:39.900 --> 00:41:41.739 weren't screaming, I don't know. That's the thing. 00:41:41.900 --> 00:41:45.139 The hook, they coming in, oh yeah, all this. 00:41:45.300 --> 00:41:48.099 But then, all of a sudden, at what point did 00:41:48.099 --> 00:41:50.460 you decide? Because you didn't tell me about 00:41:50.460 --> 00:41:53.019 that we were not going in that direction. Because 00:41:53.019 --> 00:41:57.079 if after the first three or four months, it didn't 00:41:57.079 --> 00:42:00.960 feel... Because a man know. A man know a woman 00:42:00.960 --> 00:42:04.460 when he first see her, I want her. You know what 00:42:04.460 --> 00:42:07.460 I mean? Also remember, a man doesn't have a plan. 00:42:07.539 --> 00:42:11.500 Not always. They have plans to do things. Like, 00:42:11.519 --> 00:42:14.239 my boyfriend had plans. But when I started getting 00:42:14.239 --> 00:42:16.579 specific on, so how you going to get there? So 00:42:16.579 --> 00:42:18.440 when you going to do it? What's your strategy? 00:42:18.840 --> 00:42:21.679 What is the concept? What is the world plan? 00:42:22.000 --> 00:42:25.159 And he didn't have a full situation. But partially, 00:42:25.199 --> 00:42:28.139 I can be forgiving. Why? He's not from the U 00:42:28.139 --> 00:42:30.599 .S. And he got to learn a whole bunch just to 00:42:30.599 --> 00:42:32.719 come on over here. So I said, you know what? 00:42:32.800 --> 00:42:34.780 You need help. But it's a good thing to know 00:42:34.780 --> 00:42:36.739 where your brain is. It's good to know that you 00:42:36.739 --> 00:42:39.219 have a plan to get to X, Y, and Z. You don't 00:42:39.219 --> 00:42:40.420 know how you're going to get there, but you do 00:42:40.420 --> 00:42:42.820 got a plan to get there. A bunch of them will 00:42:42.820 --> 00:42:44.860 say they have vision, but they can't articulate 00:42:44.860 --> 00:42:47.219 it or get there. And that's the problem. But 00:42:47.219 --> 00:42:48.079 I know exactly what you're saying. If you can 00:42:48.079 --> 00:42:50.840 articulate your vision, me as a woman, my job 00:42:50.840 --> 00:42:54.360 is to find a plan. We find plans. Like you said, 00:42:54.400 --> 00:42:57.159 accounting, we look at what's in the box and 00:42:57.159 --> 00:42:59.760 we make the plan. Typically, somebody else would 00:42:59.760 --> 00:43:01.659 just be speaking and dreaming and wishing and 00:43:01.659 --> 00:43:04.320 hoping. We make the plan. Make the plan. You 00:43:04.320 --> 00:43:06.420 better say it. That's it. Well, honey, thank 00:43:06.420 --> 00:43:10.460 you for all of your wisdom, young sister. Of 00:43:10.460 --> 00:43:13.280 course. And I know that you and your guy are 00:43:13.280 --> 00:43:15.099 going to just be great. I pray we do. Y 'all 00:43:15.099 --> 00:43:16.920 are going to be great. Yeah, I pray for my unicorn 00:43:16.920 --> 00:43:20.909 when I got him. Hey, I'm about to hit my knees 00:43:20.909 --> 00:43:23.929 on something. Okay. Get on the knees and get 00:43:23.929 --> 00:43:27.130 to praying. Come on, Lord. Yeah, yeah. And you 00:43:27.130 --> 00:43:28.429 pray for your specifics.