hello hello hello welcome back welcome back welcome
back yeah we're back yeah episode 60 darling
i'm here i'm here i'm here i'm a little sick
yeah i'm a little sick here i am breezing through
it but the fever is fevering i don't know where
this came from partially it's because every uber
ride i take the ac is on blast and then you go
outside texas weather is on 100 115 degrees so
your girl is just breathing through you know
i am for sure getting better but yeah you girls
breathing through for sure also Speaking of Uber
rides, I had an Uber ride and I thought it was
pretty interesting. The fella said he was in
the 1%, you know, the 1 % tally of life. You
know, if y 'all know taxes or y 'all know anything
about the 1%. He was up in there in the 1%. Until...
He got fired. Well, not really fired. His department
started really downsizing where he was at. So
now he's no longer at the position where he was
at. And basically, I ain't going to say he in
the middle class because I don't think he in
the middle class. But he could be close. He could
be knocking at the middle class door. So, interesting.
I was thinking. With him saying that, was he
ever truly in the 1 %? If all it took was for
your job to start downsizing and or firing folks,
were you truly in the 1 %? I don't know. We gonna
find out. Cause shit, that's just life. Episode
60, let's get started. Ha, let's get started.
curious like just really thinking was he truly
in the one percent because in my eyes i was like
maybe he wasn't in the one percent maybe the
job was just carrying him like sir you thought
you were flying that's why you were in the one
percent but no you wasn't flying you were being
carried that's why when they let you go when
they downsized on that On that side of the group.
Now you're down here. You know, you with the
folks. The regular shmegular folks. You know?
But I could be, you know, I could be crazy. I'm
learning every day. I could be crazy. You know?
Yeah, yeah. That's just me. But we're here. We're
back. Episode 60. Yeah, people. Let's get into
it. You know? Let's do a life update here, people.
I got me. Of course. You got me. I got me. You
got me. We're here. Of course. Plus, we have
a special guest. The one and the only. She's
back. She's better than ever. Clevisa. hey girl
hey reread my twin she's here what's going on
everybody how y 'all doing i'm just welcome on
this beautiful episode 60 she's here let's get
into it let's get into it let's do it so life
update um i'll start with myself of course uh
for me man you know no There's been a lot going
on with work. If it's not work, I'm really focusing
on just wrapping up out here in the U .S. I'm
about to be like Eleanor Generous and just go
to the U .K. Yep. I'm headed to the U .K. for
a few months, and I'm going to get started out
there, ready to explore above and beyond. But
I have so much to wrap up in the U .S. before
I do that. So, yeah, I'm doing that. Um, you
know, in the wraps of Wrapping Up, there was
a, I'm still in corporate right now, and I'm
headed out of there, but we had a corporate party,
you know, and they asked us to bring something.
I had to bring, you know, the paper plates and
the napkins. Right. Now, I started to use the
napkins that are in the bathroom. Which you could
have. Because there's still all those napkins
you brought home. Yeah. I was bringing napkins,
hey. But I'm going to use those because I'm like,
those are still napkins. Napkins are napkins.
You know, the ones that they give to us at work,
I was going to use those. Yeah, why not? But
instead, I used my money to go buy the napkins,
and I got some plates, too. And whatever they
didn't use, I just bought back home. We can use
them. Save us some time on doing some dishes.
Yeah. Outside of that, I also saw a lady be carried
out in an ambulance. In a stretcher? In a stretcher.
Wow. I wonder what happened. I know what happened.
I said she's overworking herself. She's at this
job. It's clear as day what's happening. Yeah.
I don't even need to know what her health history
is. Whatever it is. She shouldn't be here. It's
probably a lot of stress. Yeah, this is going
to add on to whatever the health problems you
got, just being honest. And then taking on another
stressor, which is her now, she might not, she's
going to be having time off from work because
that was not expected. And the thing is, this
is what happens when you're trying to get to
a paycheck. Yeah, and God will sit you down,
you know, and tell you, hey. I need to take care
of your body. Mm -hmm. That's exactly what I
was thinking. I was like, she's being sat down
to rest. She needs to rest. Whatever she has
going on, that lady needs to rest. I'm over here
sick as a dog. I had to call in like, hey, I
am not feeling well. The PTO, the sick leave
that I have available, put it all towards today.
I will make it up in the next video. I have to
kill my little bug, whatever this is. This ain't
going to fly with me. Uh -uh. But I'm not going
to do it fighting myself going back and forth
with these Uber drivers, getting up there to
the building and it's cold too. Uh -uh. I'm sick
as a dog. What am I going to do, people? You
know? You're lucky I got tea and herbs over here.
You know cuz anybody said no honey or no anybody
will nothing that job didn't see me a day better
They didn't see me a night quill basket of nothing
get well something nothing a text Huh? You know,
but it's alright shit. That's just fine. We have
way more than a paycheck people I am not expecting
anything more from what they are speaking for
me. There's me to come to work They expect me
to call in sick if I got the PTO. And I got it.
So that's what I did. So. We are here. You know.
But I'm ready to get into it you guys. My shit
that's just life show of the week. I'm ready
to kind of recap on that bad boy. Before we get
into the big bang of course. Yeah. So. Shit,
that's like shit. That's just like show of the
week is Basketball Wives, Atlanta. Mm -hmm. Ty
Young. Or is it L .A.? Actually, I think it's
Basketball Wives, L .A. Do you think it's L .A.?
I don't think it's L .A. I think it is Basketball
Wives, L .A. With Ty Young and me. I can confirm
it. So, let's just say if it's Atlanta, then
we have to play a basketball game up to five.
We gotta get whoever shoots and makes the five
points. And if it's LA, I mean, that's up to
you. Uh -oh, people. What is it? It's right here.
Basketball wise. What? That's it. Oh, so it's
not nothing. They tell us nothing more. What?
The most recent basketball wife. Well, it looks
like we both won. So the most recent basketball
wives were, you know, Shandell, Jackie, Ty Young,
Ming. I would love to comment on every single
one of those characters, but I'm not. I'm going
to stick to specifically Ty and Ming. Specifically.
Right. Just because my girl is here. My girl,
my motherfucking road dog. You hear it. Yeah.
I need to know. And it's based off our topic
as well because I watched the show. This is partially
why I brought the topic to you. Right. And I've
watched it too. You know, you put me on. So I
watched a few episodes with you. So I'm here
pretty much. And I think it's just whatever Ty
is going through, I'm like, everybody's going
through. When I watched that, I'm like, hold
on. She going through the same thing. With us
relating to one another. Yes. So, I'm like, okay.
I'm going to make my first opinion on this show.
And you can kind of just let me know how you
feel. So, when I watched the episodes of basically
Ty finding out that Ming had the boy's name tattooed
on her. And, you know, I'm like, in the LGBTQ
community. If I was in that sucker locked in,
like all the way locked in, I would be like,
hoe, get out. You know, that's just me being
non -classy. But if I was in there being classy,
I would be like, are you serious? I mean, beyond
that point, it's not even words. You know, you
got a man name tattooed on you? Yeah, that's
tough. Are you serious? That's what I will say.
Seriously, like, I can only imagine. And I didn't
know she was hurt until, like, the next few scenes
where it really showed, like, the way she was
reacting to responses. I'm like, oh, baby girl's
hurt. Yeah, I mean, but also, Ty knew what she
was doing. If a woman is showing that she might
be interested in men, That's up to you if you
want to keep messing with her. You have to know
your boundaries whether you want to mess with
a woman like that or someone that's strictly
all for women. But I do feel bad for my girl
Ty. Do you know who she is? Yeah. I definitely
feel like Ty should... That's the question. Ty,
do you know who you are? Yeah. Because, you know,
you can ask people all day. You can say things
like, you know, I'm Ty Young. You know who I
am? I think she may have a little ego. She may
not have a big ego, but she has a little one.
You know, her friend Ming may have a big one.
But Ty has a little ego. That's why her little
ego is, if you play me, then, you know, I'm going
to play you back. It's like, if you play me,
I'm going to show you who Ty Young can be. In
other words, I'm on demon time. Yes. Right. Sounds
like. You know? I played the game right, but
now you think it's sweet. So now, you know, it's
just time to pull out the demon side. Yeah. Welcome
to death row, you know, baby? Yeah, that's what
I'm assuming that she's thinking. But that's
the problem. Why not just pull away from somebody
that makes you need to go into that side? That's
the question. Right. Because that side is not
even... Necessary. Yeah, not at all. Not necessary
unless you're fighting for you and that person,
not fighting that person. You get what I'm saying?
Not going demon time against the person that
you actually want to be with. You don't demon
time against everybody else because the world
is already on demon time. You know what I'm saying?
Yeah. So we already got enough bigger fish to
fry. So I thought it was interesting that she
reacted the way she did in a way. I was like,
okay, I think, does she not know who she is for
a second? But she kept it cool. You know, she
did keep it very calm and collective. But certain
things I wouldn't have even liked the comment
when she gave back Ming the ring. She gave Ming
a ring that Ming gave her. She was like, hey,
here's your sunglasses. Oh, and by the way, there's
a ring that you gave Ming when we first started
dating that's in there. And Ming was like, okay,
yeah, I did give her this ring when we started
dating. And, you know, I could tell Ming would
kind of be like, damn, like she really gave it
back. Yeah. I was like, that's the only way she'll
know I'm serious. Well, I think she'll know you're
serious if you just stop calling her. I'm just
being honest. It's going to take more than just
a ring. Here's the reason why she said, well,
stop calling me. Yeah, it takes more than just
a ring. All you got to do is cut communication.
You can keep all the gifts in the world. All
you got to do is just stop talking to somebody
if you really want to stop talking to somebody.
Yeah, like the ring don't even mean anything,
but the ring can also be another entrance. Like,
hey, I want to leave you alone, but I got this
ring, so that's access. But if you're really
over someone, I'm not even going to give the
ring back. I'm going to go upon it. I'm really
curious on what the age difference is between
them as well. i don't think it'll be too significant
maybe like two to three years i might have to
look into it yeah i have to look into it but
yeah just even not even age difference maturity
level of where they both are they both mature
they're just ego little ego big ego that's it
right that's what i see little ego big ego but
they need a uh Pipe it down, both of them. Pipe
it down a little bit. You know, and walk away
authentically. Yeah. You don't need to walk away.
When she gave her back the ring, she was like,
oh, Todd was like, here's the ring back. She
was like, you can give your new guy the ring
so he can represent you like you represent him
since you got his name tattooed on your arm.
Oh, yeah, that was definitely petty. I was like,
wait, what? We don't care about things that other
people do to themselves, okay? If we gonna play
ball, play ball, okay? Yeah, you know, sometimes
we look for closure, but... sometimes just closing
that door and not going back is closer you don't
need to verbally address it or yeah you can just
like you gave her back the ring you don't need
to let her know oh it's for him for you to give
to him and him to get to her and him to get all
that's not necessary ty if you know who you are
keep it going because i'm pretty sure you got
a whole top 10 list waiting on you she knows
but yeah also sometimes we don't have a top 10
waiting on us and Because you're good looking,
you automatically have a lot of women. Oh, men
feel the same way. Yeah, men too. Men feel the
same way, but it's okay. We're going to get right
into the next topic here. Before we do that though,
we're going to send our condolences to Michael
Jamal Warner family. Hearing that he passed away,
drowning at age 54. Just going to send my condolences
out to him and his family. Well, he's masculine.
But we're going to send our condolences out to
him directly. In spirit. I'm going to send my
condolences out to his family as well. In person.
So, condolences to the family of Michael Jamal
Warner. Alright? On the Cosby Show. His art was
just perfected. A little bit of everywhere. He
did art with Tracy Ellis Morgan. Like, it was
just so much. I'm sorry. Tracy Ellis Ross. She
did so much. He did so much with her. And I like
a few of their stuff. Their things together.
A few of their little projects that they did
together. Movies and segments and shows. Yeah.
Love their artwork there. But. See my sickness
can only have me thinking so partially. Tracy
Ellis Morton. What? It's Tracy Ellis Ross. Alright.
Sorry. But. We're going to get into the next
topic here because I need to know and I really
want to be nosy because I got to be in. Everybody
is out here dating. Question is, do they know
what they're looking for? You know? Yeah. Shit,
that's just life. We're going to figure it out.
Do they know what they're looking for? Are you
looking for a young, younger person, older person?
what's the age limit that you need you need to
have here is it a three to five year situation
let's get into it i want to know all right okay
okay okay we are here on this last topic here
young versus older when it comes to dating experiences
miss clarissa you know i personally am in a relationship
right now So, I can tell you from my experience,
I am indeed, I'm neutral. I'm very neutral. I
like to be right in the middle, darling. I have
been up, I have been down, now I am right there
in the middle. I like to be neutral. I have dated
older, dated younger, I've dated right at my
age, and it just didn't work out. now your girl
is very much neutral when i say neutral to me
it means just being at a three to five year age
you know three to five year year apart age group
there so yeah we can be three to five years of
age apart on my end but i want to know for you
what is what was must be your best experience
has it been dating older or dating younger I
mean, honestly, my best experience has been dating
women around my age. Maybe that's like two or
three years older than me or under me. But yeah,
I don't think I can go lower than that. I mean,
because it is a maturity difference. And yeah,
I've tried talking to a 30 -year -old. Maybe.
I thought I was the 30 -year -old. So, you know,
everybody is the same, but I think what works
for me is I just like dating around my age, two,
three years max. But I am open to dating women
in their 30s. Again, maybe she just wasn't the
right one, but that was the only one that I talked
to around that age. But so far, everybody else
has been in that two - to three -year range.
Yeah, like 25, 26, 28. So, yeah. Okay, that's
not horrible. All right. Was the two - to three
-year range more beneficial than the 30 -year
-old? Yeah. I mean, the 30 -year -old, he really
didn't do anything. I mean, she had a child,
too. And so, yeah, I think I'm just over women
with children, no offense. Yeah, no, that could
be a boundary. Yeah, and she wanted to drink
a lot. And I don't even drink, you know. But,
yeah, with the 25, yeah, some of them are young.
I mean, but I do feel like there are some younger
individuals that are mature, maybe because they
had to grow up and play, like, a mother role.
uh while they're younger so that's where their
maturity comes in at so yeah i can definitely
foresee that i mean i've been curious especially
in the lgbq community like what is what is really
hindering girl on girl if females are easier
than a little bit a little bit more than men
then why can't the lgb become Why isn't everybody
over there almost caked up? Like, everybody should
kind of have a person. I mean, yeah, everybody
should have a person. But then again, some of
them don't want just one person. Yeah. Multiple
women. Yeah. Yeah. So it's just some things move
too fast. You meet her one day, then you move
in the next week. So sometimes you can move a
little bit too fast. If you're being intentional,
I mean, it'll just happen naturally as far as
all of that love stuff moving in. So, yeah. It
won't be a week, but it'll be soon. Yeah. Oh,
I learned my lesson. I learned my lesson. It'll
be soon, but it won't be a week. It's just like
when you are with someone and your feelings begin
to grow stronger for them, you just want to be
in their presence like 25, 8. But then that's
where you have to place those boundaries. Because,
yeah. You can get distracted by that. Yes. My
thing is, baby, if I'm laying with you all day,
how we going to make the money? How does rent
going to get paid? How do we grow? On the material
side, how do you want this? But we're just caked
up and just laying around. I think we keep being
curious. How do we keep being curious? If we're
with each other every day, all day, every day,
we gotta miss each other you know yeah we need
curiosity oh what was she doing today i wonder
what she's been up to curiosity that really helps
i think you know especially just trying to get
all the way into your relationship you know curiosity
is the key interesting and uh when it comes to
young versus older when it comes to dating experiences
Which one would you think would creep off first?
Would the younger people start talking to other
people first, or would it be the older people
that kind of creep off first and start talking
to extra other people and be sneaky? What's been
your experience? I mean, honestly, like I said,
I only talked to an older woman that was a three
-year -old. They're 30 years old. Yeah, that's
the oldest I've talked to. And, I mean, you just
never know, man. I mean, you don't know what
they got going on when they leave my house, you
know. And they're not going to. It's just a sneaky
situation. But I do feel like the younger ones
might sneak off to someone else. Because us young
ones, we want options, you know. Let's say if
they're not providing, then we want to move on
to the next. or yeah it's just i don't even know
if age really plays a part of that one so but
i think you're right i think you like you just
said that young want options yeah so i don't
know why you want young yeah i mean not all of
them want options but yeah older women they some
of them come with they know what they want they
are more intentional and they're ready to settle
down and so yeah Yeah, so if you ask me, I think
you should look into a little older. Yeah. I
mean, hey, I'm single, so hey. Because, yeah,
I mean, like you said, they know what they want.
They're more intentional. They're not here to
waste any time. Every hour is precious. Every
minute is precious to them. So they know how
to live like that. Hey, I'm going to be with
my family. Hey, I'll be with you later. Yeah,
they know how to rotate. They know how to also
communicate. So, kudos to the older women. Uh
-huh, uh -huh, uh -huh, uh -huh. Yeah, I think
that'll be... I think if you're going to do two
to three years, it should be two to three years
older than you. Yeah. Nothing younger than you.
Let the young that want options, let them have
options. But the ones that know they won't, they've
been through their option phase. Let's just say
that. you know yes like even with some young
ones sometimes we want options or people want
options until um until we read that until we
meet the right person yeah so i feel like yeah
that just shows that we just didn't notice that
we knew what we wanted but we didn't know how
to say it yeah but me um when i meet the right
person i'll be like oh i know what this was i
pray for it Some things, if you don't, and that's
the thing, you can get something that you've
always been asking for and not even know that's
what you've been asking for. That's where you
can mess up on. So it's like, be intentional
when you ask for stuff. Because you can mess
something, you can mess a good thing up real
quick. You know? I think everybody can. I know
I have messed up a good thing real quick. By
either rushing or not having a purpose in the
relationship. So I definitely know that I may
have messed up some things. Or just working too
much. I feel like I would always work too much.
Not knowing what's right in front of me. Yeah.
That's it. Slow it down. Pump the brakes. But
for me, mine was three to five. If you're going
to do two to three, I think you should be two
to three older. Nothing younger. Nothing that's
trying to navigate through options. Yeah, 23
is just a no -go. 23, 24. 25. 25 is bad. I mean,
it's a two -year difference, you know, but, yeah.
But it's still backwards. I know. I think 25
would be fun to play with, but 25 to be serious
with is, it takes a lot. And I know some 25 -year
-olds that got their stuff together, but still,
the way they talk. It's like you can have all
the money in the world, but the way you talk
just shows that you're not up to par, bookie.
You may be letting all this masculine energy
of you making money get to you, you know? Yeah,
and I just feel like it's the person itself because,
you know, all 30 -year -olds or people older
than that don't have it all together, you know?
Some of them are still just working a full time
and don't really see anything past that. still
wants you to provide for them and a fairy tale
trick on them you know trick whatever name drinking
on themselves yeah so i'm just like i don't even
know if age really matters anymore to me you
know i'm just like well no you don't want to
settle so that i don't know not settling age
does matter you just have to set it to know nobody's
perfect and yet everybody wants a fairy tale
situation young and or older everybody want a
fairy tale situation you know Yeah. But at the
end of the day, life is about how you make it,
and every fairy tale that you have can come true
if you work hard for it, you know? Yeah, that's
true. Like, it's not a fairy tale if we put our
hands together and actually get there, but we
still got to be grateful. We got to do all that
while we're there, you know? Ooh, child, I remember
when me and Dennis, we went to London, right?
Mm -hmm. We were arguing in London. It never
in my wildest dreams that I picture myself arguing
with anybody in London. I was like, this is so
ghetto. That's what I was thinking in my head.
I was like, this is beyond me. This is ghetto.
I've never in my wildest dreams thought about
arguing. But I'm like, we can call this for the
train. You know, but it just shows I had to.
I had to meddle the tone because I was like,
you know what? The last thing I need is negative
energy on the trip that I always wanted to be
on. Get it together. We ended up being good.
You know, I ended up apologizing, whatever I
needed to do, because maybe the mood needed to
be switched. We were in London, maybe. I always
wanted to be there, you know? When we get to
Paris, I don't want to hear a peep. You know?
I'm just saying. But seriously, you just want
to be able to celebrate and be present of where
you are because these are rare situations, you
know. It might happen again. It may not happen
again. But just in case it doesn't, I want to
be grateful for the time that we are here, you
know. But life isn't perfect. People aren't perfect.
Moments aren't perfect. But you make the best
of what you have, you know. So that's what I've
been doing. With the young, with the old, with
life, you know, with the past, with the future,
with the present. Making the best that I can.
Making the best of it all, people. Okay? But
it was a pleasure doing episode 60 with my girl,
my twin, my amigo. Amiga. Yeah. It was a plundery.
Episode 60. I'm going to wrap it up here. 6 -0.
Let's go. Let's go. Let's get started. Well,
actually, we're going to end this bad boy. Let's
get out of here. Let's get out of here.