Last week you went to the HRC dinner and I know
this because my spouse went with you and your
spouse and I believe your sister in law person.
Right. And we talked about on last week's show
that you were going to go. But now. You have
gone and the HRC dinner was on National Coming
Out Day. How was the dinner like how was the
event itself? Let's start there. I will say this
year going to try to. you know, not to be too
critical here, but I there were some issues this
year that hasn't happened in previous years.
So and I believe that you caught on to this Alex,
they downsized, they went into a smaller venue.
And I believe that is due to some corporate sponsors
pulling support like local Seattle corporate
sponsor sponsors pulling support. So they went
into a smaller area. which made it a little hectic
because when you walk in you have like a silent
auction going on so you're supposed to walk around
the items well there wasn't really anywhere to
stand so everyone was standing in front of silent
auction items and yeah chatting so it was a little
chaotic but once you got actually into like the
dinner part I'm not gonna lie There were like
two times where I was trying not to cry because
it was very sad so one guest speaker was a survivor
of the 2016 Orlando shooting that happened and
I believe like 49 people including his partner
died So he was talking about that and very inspirational
very it was a great it was a great speech I am
very moving, but definitely tried not to cry.
I there was a lot of things about it. Let me
pause here. So I it was on national coming out
day. I wore makeup and address to this event.
And then I posted on social media. I am coming
out officially as trans. I am to pretty much
like everyone. that I did not deem super important
that I should tell before they just find out
on social media and I was expecting so I like
did it kind of shut off my phone and I was expecting
to wake up the next day having to delete and
block a lot of people from Florida. So back to
the speeches. A lot of it was about trans rights
and That kind of stuff so definitely very moving
very emotional um Yeah, the food this year was
okay Yes, I heard about the food I'm so So you
have you have like three options you have I'm
also gonna partially put that on the venue yeah,
I I would agree with that and so you have a I
don't care what you give me option. Then you
have a vegetarian option and then you have a
gluten free option. I got the I don't care what
you give me option, which was some fish on a
bed of corn. It was okay. But the person next
to me got the vegetarian option and somehow had
like fettuccine Alfredo and I was like so wanted
that. I was like, oh, man, I should get the.
And they didn't tell you ahead of time, like
which one was they were like, I don't care, vegetarian
or gluten free. That's all you got to know ahead
of time. Well, it was like a meat option, like,
you know, like, do you want do you want meat
or do you want gluten free or do you want vegetarian?
And I chose the meat one. But they didn't tell
you what each option actually meant. That's no.
That's weird, right? That's weird. That's definitely
weird. No, it's not weird. That's just. Man,
come on. Because what if I did better? You know?
Yeah, I'm just eating corn. I don't know. Yeah.
Anyways, it was a great time. It was a great
night. Loved it. I am actually one. As I thought
it was funny, no one else thought it was funny.
There is a local furry bar in Seattle. It is
called. I think barely furry or hardly furry.
I have heard about it. I have not seen it. I
have not gone. Sounds like a great time. They
do make their own beer. I do kind of want to
check it out. They had like a little gift basket
for auction. No one was bidding on it and I want
it. And I kind of like, I don't know. I thought
it was funny. So I want a beanie and like a scarf
from thing barely. Furry. My wife unsurprisingly
won wine. A lot of wine. Yes, I'm aware. She
is. So she literally is sitting there and she
goes, Hey, I want some wine. I was like, Oh,
good. Good for you. She goes, No. Can you help
me carry it back to your car? And then I said,
Well, how much did you win? And her response
was literally. I don't know. I was like, oh,
no, I was like, oh, here we go. She texted me
during the thing to be like, can I bid on that?
I was like, yeah, I mean, you're supporting it.
It cuts. You go to look for those that have not
been to like a nonprofit like benefit Gala dinner.
Right. They do these auctions, these things all
the time. Because what you're doing is the local
businesses who are supplying the prizes, they
don't. Make the the company pay for the prizes,
right? So like the wine companies are like here
have 20 bottles of free wine and go auction it
whatever right they get a tax write -off when
you buy it all the cash that you spend to auction
buy it is Is given to the the nonprofit organization
in this case the HRC the human rights campaign
If you drink wine on game nights, dude, I wish
you would drink more of that wine I've got so
much No, you people do not go to the HRC in furry
costume, or are you asking about the bar? The
HRC is a formal event. Slightly furry. That's
what it's called. Slightly furry. That is the
name. Did you catch the question about pronouns
in the chat? I did not. Where is that one? Are
you sticking with them or are you going to see
her now? Well, have we decided yet? So so much
has happened in the past week. So literally that
same week I did go talk about HRT in Seattle
at a place called Planned Parenthood not a place
I would have expected to be a good place to go
talk to HRT. However, it is a great place. So
if you're listening to this and you are thinking
about transitioning I highly recommend Planned
Parenthood why because as I was sitting there
everyone coming and going was trans second They
are super friendly, the nicest medical staff
I have ever talked to because they're trying
to put you at ease. Third, they will assign you
a transition specialist that will help you with
the entire process of working with surgeons and
doctors and everything that you want, even if
it's not something that they offer. And they
work with the doctor and they work with your
insurance company. So it's like a one stop shop.
So that is really great. Again, did not expect
Planned Parenthood to be Like the place to go,
but evidently it is news to me. So there, you
know, there, you know, so I did get clear to
start HRT whenever I want. And then I did meet
with the psychiatrist who stated that, yes, this.
Everything kind of checks out and they I have
to have like a second appointment with them and
then they will be writing a letter to my insurance
company. I'm stating that I have gender dysphoria.
Why does that matter? Because I want insurance
to cover everything and I don't want to pay out
of pocket. So back to pronouns, why does this
all tie to pronouns? I feel like the crazy guy
from always sunny with the different strings
and I'm just like, why does this matter? Me personally,
I'm sticking with they them. This is a little
weird. thing for me I Kind of feel like I have
not this is me just me not speaking for the trans
community at all I've been told I have a weird
way of thinking about this whatever I am I feel
like I have not earned she her pronouns yet,
that is just me I am to each your own so I will
switch to she her pronouns at some point, I think
probably after I go through puberty of HRT. And
we are testing out like a name change. So I don't
know, I'll probably stay J on the channel. But
who knows? That's that's everything. What else
do you want to know? HRT also I have a eight
pound Triangle block of Beecher's cheese in my
fridge right now from the HRC event. There you
go. It's a giant triangle of cheese. Beecher's
cheese is fucking awesome. Yeah. Amazing. But
that's a lot of cheese. Eight pounds of cheese.
As the. The First I I'm gonna echo the chat and
say good for you Jay. I'm happy for you I want
you to to do what is gonna make you The most
complete of a person Does that make sense? Yeah,
that makes sense be a complete person Okay, and
that's the important thing, right? That's what
we want for everyone Public Okay I want you to
be a complete person. I'm happy for you. We're
here to support you. Obviously, my spouse supports
you, et cetera, et cetera. You know, we do that.
We do the deeper talks, folks with people when
Jay and I are not in front of cameras. So fuck
you. Jay knows how I feel anyway, but I do want
to say yes. Okay. In case you guys didn't figure
this out, this channel is a place where we talk
about this kind of stuff as much as Jay is comfortable,
right? Where we will talk about these things
and we will have these subjects, okay? And if
you're not comfortable with that, here's what
I'm gonna do, actually. If you're not comfortable
with it, I wanna challenge you. I want to challenge
you to stick the fuck around. Right? Don't be
an asshole in chat because even if you don't
agree with it and even if it makes you uncomfortable,
that doesn't mean you need to open your mouth.
We talked about this earlier in the show. You
can keep some thoughts to yourself. Hold it in.
But I do want to challenge you to stick the fuck
around. I want you to stick around so that maybe
you learn some stuff. And maybe just maybe I'm
not saying we're trying to force an agenda. What
I'm saying is, is. Allow for the fact that maybe
the reason you're fucking uncomfortable is because
you've been around it a whole lot and you just
don't know a lot about it. And here's the thing,
at the end of the day. Jay is still the person
who. Who I go do movie reviews with, right? We
go to dinner. They are my wife's co -worker.
They are someone who is in our lives, right?
At the end of the day, regardless of what Jay's
pronouns were or whether Jay had a beard or does
not have a beard or was using he, him, or they,
it doesn't fucking matter. The fact of the matter
is, Jay is still the same person. Okay? Again,
if you're uncomfortable, I challenge you to stick
around and see if that helps. Okay, I can't don't
be a dickhead in my chat or my comment section,
but Stick around to see if it helps Okay No,
that was actually entirely coincidence the color
my wife periodically will change the colors She'll
log into the app and be like now it's fucking
red because Alice's man Okay No, it's entirely
good That's a blue lightsaber that won't change
colors. Hang on right there. Okay, so that is
a blue lightsaber these lights up here These
LEDs they will change colors. I have one set
of studio light that comes this way I used to
have two but what I'm burned out or no, sorry
the cord cable ripped Lighting is a pain in the
ass in case you didn't know It is oh my god That
somebody somebody to chat in YouTube chat is
calling me Spicy Mr. Rogers. I like it. I like
it. Oh, yeah. There it goes. There it goes. I
don't know. Maybe that'll be our new segment.
Spicy Mr. Rogers. Spicy Mr. We're going to have
to come up. We're going to have to come up with.
Actually, that's not a terrible idea. We you
know what we need to do. That will be it. This
will be an improvement for the show. We're going
to get we're going to get some standardized segments.
I see a lot of shows do this. We don't. We haven't.
You know, we didn't get some. Maybe maybe we
do need like. I can. Spicy Mr. Rogers is inspiring
me. Maybe it's maybe it's fucking some some Sesame
Street shit we need to do on this show. Right.
To help people out, fucking meet your neighbor's
time. Yep. I love it. Oh, that is good. Oh, I
love that. Yeah, I'm writing this down. Write
that down. I am writing it down right now. Oh,
God. Spicy Mr. Rogers, Sesame Street segment.
Oh, that one's really good. Yeah. Purple's purple
is appropriate. OK. And again, just to put everybody's
fucking minds at ease, if you thought that everybody
on this show or anybody on this show the whole
time was completely heterosexual, you were 100
% wrong. Suck it, nerds. Okay, if you thought
that was the case, because it ain't true. Ain't
nobody here fucking straight. Okay. And again,
if you're uncomfortable with that, I encourage
you to stick around. OK. Because you might learn
some shit. We're also not going to pressure Jay
to share any more or less of their process than
they feel like sharing. Hey, we still will talk
about politics and video games and movies. Yeah,
because that's interesting. That is really interesting.
OK. Bojay and I are waiting for shrinking season
three. Maybe that'll be a segment. You all need
to watch shrinking. Oh, my God. It's one by the
way. Real quick, talking about therapy. Everyone
says, like, become a lawyer, become a doctor,
become an engineer. Yeah. I talked to my therapist
about, like, one, how do you become a licensed
therapist? I can't. Hey, how much do they make
like industry standard? How much do you typically
pay fresh out of college? You have a license.
How much do you get paid? Not much. Oh, it is
a lot. Is it? It's a lot for that kind of therapist
or for a straight counselor, for any sort of
licensed therapist. OK. And they are making a
hundred and thirty dollars per hour. And typically,
she said her colleagues, all of her friends do
somewhere around thirty two therapy hours per
week. Do the math on that. Spoiler alert. It's
like two hundred and twenty five thousand dollars
a year. Yeah, but that's before they account
for their overhead costs and stuff like that.
Office do to do to do. So, no, that's if you
work for an office like the office is paying
you to be. Oh, yeah, that's what they pay. They're
charging more. The office is charging more than
that to cover their overhead costs like rent
a check. Dog Dad said a career change on top
of everything, Jay. Well, I that I mean. That
is way. Can I can I hit that? Can I let me get
this out is you were worried you were going to
have to make a career change today. I take it
that did not come to pass. Dang. You actually
like I talk to people, don't you? My wife says
words. Occasionally I hear her. Yeah, so my.
company who just had layoffs who this week is
currently really trying to hammer out budget
stuff. My boss's boss said, Hey, Jay, I want
to talk to you about your position. Ooh, mysterious.
And then someone else asked. Hey Jay because
this was like tomorrow. I want to talk to you
about your position then another person Who would
be the person that would probably be packing
up my stuff as I'm being? Laid off or fired was
like hey, I just want to make sure you're gonna
be in the office tomorrow, and I was like Yeah,
I'm gonna be there yeah, I'll be there cool awesome,
but turned out Huge misunderstanding. I'm. Very
yeah. It was a huge misunderstanding. I am. And
then they asked me, you know. If I would like
to have my. Job as a redefined it and I said.
I feel like I'm not going to have a job if I
say no, so yes, I would still like to keep my
job as you redefine my job. Thank you. Yeah,
that was today. Having a job is good, though.
Having a job is really good, especially in this
market right now. Yep. So all right, folks, 9
45. We've been going here.