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Okay, so this week's show is part five of our
popular random rants and real talk series where
we touch on a little bit of everything from pop
culture to trending topics and news, how to unlock
your best life, which is the title of one of
my books I released earlier this year that's
available on Amazon. And sometimes I talk about
what's going on in my personal life as well.
And we all have our experiences or challenges
that we've overcome or are currently working
to overcome. And if we be open and honest about
those, it could benefit a lot of people. And
oftentimes, just hearing a little bit about what
someone else is going through can help the next
person to work through something similar that
may be going on in their life. or at the very
least help them to feel less alone. So that's
what this show is all about. I'm sharing information
that will in some small or large way change your
perspective or your thought process or give you
insights that will hopefully change your life
for the better. It's about sharing. This is a
sharing economy. That's how we all get ahead.
sharing a little bit of your time with me this
evening, and in turn, I'm sharing information
with you that I believe will be of value to you.
And of course, if you feel like it is, then share
this show with someone, like, share, subscribe,
leave a comment, all those things. You know,
I used to do this a lot anyway, but especially
so since I've become a full -time content creator.
I always make a point to support other content
creators. Doesn't matter if it's a podcast, a
radio show, YouTube, TikTok, LinkedIn. I'm making
a point to engage with other people's content.
Not just any content of course. It has to be
content that's meaningful and that of course
adds value. Whether it made me laugh a little
bit or cry or inspire me in some way or just
give me a lift or some form of encouragement.
I make sure that I engage with that type of content
because if you think about it someone put their
time and their energy into creating that post
creating that video or that skit that was comedic
and a lot of times people may watch it back you
know two three times and not even like it and
i feel like if you're going to watch it multiple
times like that at least hit the like button
or forward it to somebody show some type of appreciation
for content creators because no one's really
watching TV that much anymore. You know, pretty
much all the content is now created by people
just like you and me. So, you know, the content
creators need to show them some love because
one day you're going to be a content creator
and you're going to understand and appreciate
a lot more everything that goes into consistently
creating content and how likes and shares and
subs are like currency for us. You know, not
to mention it gives you a boost. It gives you
some encouragement and validation, which in turn
keeps you going. So remember that next time you
come across content that adds value to your life,
okay? All right, so in keeping with the theme
of this week's show, and I know this is random,
but I want to tell you about a dream that I had
last night. I used to not be this way but I take
my dreams very seriously now because I believe
that every dream that we have contains messages
and valuable insights from the spiritual realm.
Yes, I believe when we fall asleep that our consciousness
goes someplace else. I believe we astral project
to other dimensions and You know, I believe we
have interdimensional communications. And I'm
not forcing you to believe that, of course. That's
just what I believe. You know, so whenever I
wake up from a dream, I either take out my pad
and pen, which is usually right by my bed, and
write down as many details as I can remember.
Or I just type them in the notes app on my phone.
Because I don't know what it is about dreams.
But for the most part, and not all dreams, of
course, but... For me, the details seem to fade
very quickly after I wake up. You know, it's
not like a regular conversation or a regular
happenstance where you can easily recall the
details. Dream details are very different. They're
very fleeting. And so you have to jot down as
many of those details as you can remember as
quickly as you can while you still have them.
Because I found that really about 10 minutes
after waking up, it's gone. You can't recall
the dream. You don't have enough detail to that
dream to really piece anything significant together.
So you got to act fast. But once I have everything
jotted down, and this was before chat GPT. With
chat, GPT is different. But before this, I would
Google just to find out what the symbolism for
the dream was. Because everything in a dream
symbolizes something. So if it's a person, It
doesn't matter. An object, like it could be your
job, a house, whatever your state of being in
the dream was, the person you dreamed about,
whether they're living or past, all those aspects
mean something. So what I would do is Google
certain aspects of my dream. I would Google something
like dreams about my mother laughing or dreams
about my aunt and a green snake climbing up a
tree. You know, something like that, that type
of prompt. And Google would pull up these sites,
and you have to be a little careful with some
of these sites too, but Google would pull up
sites that had information on certain images
and what they symbolized. And that's how I learned,
at least at a cursory level, how to interpret
dreams and things of that nature, because of
course every dream is different, but there is...
symbolism that's going to be universal. So like
if you're dreaming about your mother and your
mother is still living, that's going to symbolize
nurturing and protection, intuition. And if you
see your mother in your dream, that can symbolize
something like a need for comfort or reassurance
or some type of inner conflict with how you're
handling something in your life that's going
on currently. Or it could be, you know, like
an unresolved dynamic between you and your mother.
If you dream about your mother and she's passed
already, then that's going to symbolize memory
and a spiritual connection. And it's almost like
spiritual guidance, like your mother visiting
you from another realm. And that type of dream,
it can be like a need of support or validation
in your life or just needing to feel her presence
during a major life change or transition or something
you have going on. maternal aspect being there.
So that's just a little of the symbolism that
I learned about dreams using Google. But like
I said, now with ChatGPT, all you have to do
is type in the details of the dream and tell
ChatGPT to interpret the dream for you. So it's
a lot easier. It's super easy. But I want to
tell you about this dream that I had, and then
I'll share with you the interpretation that I
got from ChatGPT. OK, so here's the dream. Started
a new job, which is weird because I'm retired.
But anyway, I started a new job and I was excited
I held this fresh energy, you know, I was excited
ready to go But almost from day one I could feel
this this shade from the people who I was working
with and the person who was you know in charge
of training me there was this little clique of
guys was about three or four of them and I could
just tell that they weren't feeling me. They
weren't feeling me at all. The ringleader of
this clique was the one who was in charge of
training me, right? And I could just tell that
he was setting me up to fail. You know, he'd
smile and, you know, be fake and all of that,
but I noticed he would deliberately leave out...
key aspects of the functions of my job that I
needed to do. Just as a way of throwing me off
and making sure that I'm not, you know, successful.
Just classic microaggressions type stuff, like
a quiet sabotage. But here's the thing, none
of it worked. I always pick up very quickly,
it was the same in this dream. And the women
at the job though, all the women at the job liked
me a lot. And they could see right through this
bs from the guy was training me all where he
was you know leading stuff out and this they
probably was doing so they kind of pull me aside
and they make sure i had everything that i needed
and this one lady who was like the uh... she
like a big ball director something like that
but in the dream it was angela oakley for real
help while the lab i know i know but that's who
it was in the dream but she wasn't the housewife
Angela Oakley she was she was like a boss lady,
you know Not to say that she's not dead in her
real life, but you get what I mean She was playing
a different role, but that's the character that
I saw in my dream. She was confident She was
classy. She was a little cutthroat, but it was
in a good way She clocked all that shade that
was going on and she was like no, we're not gonna
do that Let me bring you over here where I'm
in And so she pulled me out of that toxic training
environment and she brought me into her department,
okay? And when I got to her department, everything
was completely different. It was a different
vibe. It was more elegant and more top level,
high level, totally different vibe, right? So
she started mentoring me directly. And she started
inviting me to these after -hour projects. And
that's sort of where the real work happened.
You know, it was a lot of late nights, but there
were less people in the office. And there was
more exclusive access to things and different
projects that the general population weren't
pretty to. And so I started to see how the company
really worked behind the scenes. And so one night,
Angela... calls me into her office. Okay, so
in her office, she has this entire one side that's
sort of like a lounge area with a big elegant
lounge chair with the big furry pillows. She
has a bar fully stocked. It's just very chill,
very nice. So I walk in and she is completely
naked and laid up with a C -level executive that,
you know, I was familiar with. And I could just
tell that they were in post -sexual bliss, right?
And I wasn't, you know, I was caught off guard
when I saw it, but I played it cool. I didn't
stare. I didn't really react because I could
sort of discern that this was intentional on
her part. You know, it was kind of a test. I
just... gave her this nod and grabbed what I
needed and I dipped out of there. And you know,
she had a little smirk on her face and that smirk
said it all. That smirk was like, you passed.
The next day, when I came into the office, I
had a completely different office. She upgraded
my office. She gave me a new title, made it all
official. I earned my place next to her. Sort
of as her... Deputy or what have you and so just
like that I was elevated to director of whatever,
you know just that quickly so That was the dream.
All right, and now I'm going to give you the
interpretation that chat GPT gave me and I've
been doing dream interpretations for so long.
I already knew some of this but I'm gonna just
sort of read verbatim what chat GPT said about
this dream they gave five core themes and symbols
based on everything I just told you, which I
typed into the chat. It said, number one, that
new job equaled a new spiritual assignment or
a new season in your life. That's what the new
job represented. It says, starting a new job
often represents stepping into a new phase of
life or calling or responsibility, particularly
one that challenges your self -worth, discernment,
and ability to navigate adversity with integrity.
The number two thing, it said the male clique,
that represented institutionalized gatekeeping
and undermining spirits. We all know those undermining
spirits on the job. It said this group represents
resistance you face from the status quo, male
dominated competitive hierarchical systems that
thrive on exclusion and control. It says that
these men are symbolic of workplace sabotage,
covert jealousy, spirit of intimidation, masked
as mentorship, stuff we've all had to deal with
in our careers. And it says they also signify
external projections of your own past experiences,
perhaps a subconscious echo of real life environments
where your excellence was perceived as a threat,
okay? Number three. Angela Oakley. It said that
she represented the divine, feminine, elevated
intuition or a secret ally. And it says, though
she's depicted as a real housewife, Angela is
the archetype of the mentor with the hidden power,
a feminine force who sees your potential, protects
your path, and ushers you into inner sanctum.
She also represents divine timing. female empowerment
in male -dominated spaces and a version of yourself
that's politically astute, unbothered by perceptions,
and knows how to play the long game. Number four,
remember there are just five. Number four says
the after -hours encounter equals or represents
spiritual testing ground and rite of passage.
Witnessing Angela's vulnerable moment wasn't
about sex, it was about secrecy, power, and discretion.
This was your test of spiritual maturity. Would
you judge or understand? Emotional control. Would
you be rattled or remain unshaken? And strategic
discernment. Could you keep your mouth closed
even when you knew too much? Your response, a
nod and smirk, indicated that you're ready to
lead without scandal, observe without reacting,
and operate with poise in complex environments.
And then the last point. it made was the promotion.
The promotion that came afterwards equals cosmic
validation and favor. It says Angela's act of
elevating your role the next day affirms this
dream is about divine positioning. You're being
shown what happens when you pass hitting tests,
when you keep integrity amid chaos, and you don't
let distractions derail your purpose. Okay, so
that's the feedback that I got from chat GPT
and as you can see They're very Robust gives
a very robust interpretation of the dream, especially
if you give it the right prompts So I want you
to try this out next time you have a dream and
let me know send me a message or an email Let
me know if this works the same for you, but it's
a very useful tool for a lot of things I don't
think dream interpretation is something that
we often think chat GPT would be good for but
did an excellent job of my dream interpretation.
But yes, this dream was very reminiscent of some
real encounters that, you know, in situations
that I've experienced early in my career, maybe
not as risque as the dreams I had last night,
but definitely scandalous. You know, I've worked
across multiple sectors from the federal government
and industry, politics at the local state and
the congressional level. And I've served as a
diplomat, as you know, in foreign military sales.
So I've had a front row seat to some of the inner
workings of powerful governments and corporations.
And trust me, most people would be shocked at
the type of stuff that really goes on behind
the veil. Maybe one day I'll write a book with
some fictionalized stories or some things that
I've encountered over the years. But what I can
share with you today is, at many of these corporations,
and this happens in the public sector as well,
in a lot of these corporations, especially early
in your career, they will try you. They will
try you. And what I mean by that is this. If
you're someone that they're particularly interested
in, in terms of being someone that they feel
would be a good fit in a leadership role, or
someone that they internally selected to ascend
the ranks, or even if you're just someone that
they notice who is ambitious and on an upward
trajectory, oftentimes what they'll do, they'll
try you and they'll Make a determination as to
whether you are someone that's going to be trustworthy
or have the Company's best interest in mind or
someone that's going to act in the best interest
of the company, you know I'll give an example
pretty much every company has these mandatory
trainings, you know, but a lot of times there's
Training or courses in addition to that that
focuses on these particular topics Stuff like
workplace harassment. What's another one? Fraud,
waste, and abuse. That's a really big one. Sometimes
they'll have courses on see something, say something,
things like that. There have been, on occasion,
instances where shortly after an intern or a
new hire or a recently promoted employee, they'll
be placed in this situation. where they observe,
witness, or otherwise be exposed to some questionable
behavior by a colleague. It's usually either
a lead or a supervisor, but sometimes it's just
a co -worker. But oftentimes these situations
are manufactured. They're manufactured and they're
intended to be tests. And not so much to gauge
your integrity or your honesty, like one would
think. You know, but it's to determine if you're
someone who can be trusted to keep their mouth
shut. You know, they're not going to let you
quote unquote in the club if you are a snitch.
That's just point blank period. When you start
getting into middle management and leadership,
that's a really tight knit group. The people
at that level, they want people that They can
trust they want people that they can work with
they're not interested in working alongside,
you know stuffy Goody two shoes Karen types,
you know type of people is gonna be reporting
every damn thing and they don't respect that
type of stuff They respect people who see something
Don't say anything Right people who are just
like look that shit don't have nothing to do
with me I'm just going to turn a blind eye to
it and just let it be business as usual. Or as
my mom would say, did the check clear? That's
what she did. Did my check clear? OK, thank you.
That's all I'm worried about. So what I'm saying
is that, especially to these young folks just
starting out in their careers, if you want to
be upwardly mobile and you want to ascend the
ranks and get promoted faster than your peers,
You're gonna have to know your job. I Didn't
say be the best at your job. That's a myth. I
said know your job Because there were a lot of
my colleagues who were much better logisticians
than me, but I surpassed them all so know your
job and most importantly have discretion Knowing
your job and having discretion, those two things
alone will get you further than aptitude will.
Right? So just like in that dream that I had,
Angela Oakley, she intended for me to see her
in a compromised position. Literally, you know,
a sexual position. But because she had plans
for me, but she wanted to first gauge my level
of discretion. So even in the dream, I didn't
gasp when I saw her. I didn't, you know, get
all flustered and run out of the office apologizing
for what I saw. I didn't do none of that. I kept
my composure. I didn't react. I followed through
with the task at hand, got whatever paperwork
I needed. And, you know, and aside from the wink
and nod that I gave her, I didn't acknowledge
what I saw. We didn't talk about it. You know,
at the end of the day, that wasn't any of my
business. You know, so... I know that's a bit
extreme and pornographic, but it really is a
fairly accurate example of the types of encounters
one might have as they ascend the ranks in certain
corporate cultures. I mean, I could really tell
you some stories. And I can only imagine, had
I not retired early, some of the craziness I
probably would have seen in DC, at the Pentagon
level, which would have likely been my next assignment
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It was time for me to pivot and to step fully
in my purpose and live where I want to live and
pursue my passion and my purpose. Help other
people achieve their goals and find their purpose
and unlock their best life. So I made the right
move. Now I can focus on helping others make
the right move for their lives. So I'm happy
about the move that I made. Okay, so, all right,
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Welcome back to Live with Dr. Andre Jerry. Hey,
if you're just tuning in, tonight is part five
of our increasingly popular Random Rants and
Real Talk series. And before the break, I shared
a powerful dream that I had last night and along
with its interpretation from SatGPT. So I also
talked about the lessons from that dream and
how we can apply it to real life, especially
in corporate spaces. where things like gatekeeping
and sabotage and silent tests are all too common.
But I wanna shift gears a little bit and talk
about health and wellness for a moment. Now,
of course, I'm not a licensed medical practitioner.
Always consult your doctor or your medical providers
for any type of professional advice, okay? I'm
just gonna tell you about some things that...
I've been doing and incorporating into my regimen,
and maybe it's something you want to think about
and talk to your doctor about, okay? If you follow
me on YouTube and TikTok, you know that daily
meditation is part of my self -care and wellness
routine. Really, it has been for years since
back when I was first deployed to Saudi Arabia.
This was not too long after I lost my mom and
my aunt. like within a month of each other back
in 2020. That was a really difficult period of
my life and you know I just needed something
to help keep me grounded and centered and something
just to help me work through the grieving process
and some of the other things that I was going
through and it helped a lot but I'll be honest
with you I wasn't really consistent with it.
the way that I am now. Since moving back to San
Juan, I've been meditating consistently once,
sometimes twice a day. And I've noticed a difference
in my mood and my mental clarity and just my
overall peace of mind. And I started to post
some, not all of them, but some of my meditation
sessions. And I did that to encourage others
to think about adopting this practice. And I
also wanted people to see that there's really
not that much to it, other than finding a quiet
spot in your house or your office, a lot of people
meditating in their car, wherever you can be
alone for at least a minimum of five minutes.
You can sit in silence or you can go to YouTube
and find chakra bowls or meditation music, ocean
waves. A lot of people use waterfalls and all
types of things. Whatever sound is going to promote
calmness and peace for you. Just allow yourself
to be still for a few moments and quiet your
thoughts. Like anything else, it's going to take
practice, but you'll get better and better each
time. Really, it won't be long before you have
the hang of it. Maybe you'll extend your sessions
from 5 minutes to 10 and then 20, even 30 minutes.
My longest session was about 45 minutes. And,
you know, afterwards you just feel great and
more calm and more at peace. Now, I haven't,
in full disclosure, I haven't meditated today.
So what I'll probably do is have a 20 or 30 minute
session right before... And I'll probably use
a guided meditation for that just so it can just
ease me right on into sleep. But the key is just
be flexible. Be flexible. Don't beat yourself
up if you miss a day or miss a regular time like
I did today. Just get in it when you can. You
know, get it when you can. But I definitely encourage
you to start the practice of meditating and make
it a habit. It only takes 20 or 21 days to form
a new habit. And if you're trying to stop something
like drinking or smoking or, I'm trying not to
be crass, masturbating or something like that,
all types of bad habits. People get so caught
up in not doing a thing, really the easiest thing
to do is to replace the bad habit with another
good habit. So every time you have the urge to
drink or the urge to masturbate or the urge to
whatever, just do your new habit. and let that
be the replacement, it just makes it easier.
It took me years and years to figure that out,
but just sharing that with you. Okay. Keeping
on the topic of health and wellness, I want to
talk about intermittent fasting. I'm all about
incorporating practices in my lifestyle that
aid in a better and more improved life. For me,
intermittent fasting has... really been a great
addition. For anyone that's not familiar with
what intermittent fasting is, it's just simply
a period of time that you set for yourself where
you abstain from eating. We basically do it every
day. We do it every night when we go to sleep.
That's why the first meal of the day is called
break fast, okay? Most people who intermittent
fast, they have a schedule where they only eat
during certain hours. For me, I don't eat anything
after 8 p .m. and I wait a minimum of 12 hours
in between my last meal of the day and my first
meal of the day. So if I have dinner or have
my last meal at 730 at night, the earliest I
can eat is the next day at 730 a .m. You know,
I like to get my body at least 12 hours where
it doesn't have to utilize or expend any energy
digesting food. So that's just an example of
intermittent fasting. Lately I've switched it
up a bit and I've changed to more of an alternate
day fasting schedule. And I like this a little
better and I'm going to explain what that is
and why I prefer this approach. Alternative day
fasting is basically where you alternate between
the days where you eat and the days where you
have a low or no calorie intake. And this is
something my friend Craig put me on to recently.
So what I do, I alternate between days where
I eat regularly and the days where I eat, I only
consume, or the days where I don't take in any
caloric or low calories, I just consume fruit.
So like today, I'm only eating fruit having water
and you can drink black coffee or tea if coffee
is not your thing. So this is my low calorie
day. So like I said, just only eating fruit,
water, black tea. Tomorrow I'll go back to a
regular eating schedule. For me, I like this
better because I'm eating less. I'm eating less,
but I'm still getting, you know, a nutrient -rich
diet with a lot more fiber. a lot more minerals.
So it feels more balanced to me and it's helping
me to save off illnesses and sickness and colds
and things like that. And also what I like about
this is I noticed that I drink a lot more water
using this method. Because like right now I'm
getting, you know, I'm feeling a little bit of
hunger pain. I just drink a big... glass of water
or something like that, and it just, it kind
of fills you up and can get you through those
last hours. You know, because once I go to bed,
that's it. You know, you don't think about food
so much. So yeah, for me, this works. By all
means, like I said, consult with your physician
or your medical health practitioner before you
adopt any type of new regimen like this, like
an alternate day fasting or intermittent fasting
or any type of fasting. Because they can... have
complications if you're on medications or you
have other health issues and stuff like that
so don't look don't take my advice you know call
your doctor you know i'm not licensed like that
to give health advice i'm just telling you what
works for me um okay so in addition to the meditation
and the fasting i've also incorporated stretching
and cardio back into my routine i don't do it
every day uh but at least three four times Week
for sure. The stretching is very easy to incorporate
with my meditation You'll see that on some of
our videos. I'll do some light stretching after
my meditation and then after that I just go into
the full -blown 20 minute session of stretching
and Again, you're going to feel great after 20
minutes of stretching making sure your neck and
your back are loose all that type of stuff So
I've been slowly incorporating additional things
into my routine, and that kind of pile a bunch
of stuff on. Just enough to keep my body toned
and tight, especially the core area, which is
traditionally a lot harder to keep together once
you get past 40. So planks are really good. I
do different variations of planks to keep my
core. solid and not too loose. I've incorporated
jump roping into my exercise regimen. Jump roping
is really good cardio. Like if you're not really
into the running and walking so much, jump roping
is excellent cardio exercise. Just put you on
a couple of songs that last maybe three, four,
five minutes each. Jump rope to about three songs.
That's a good... 10 minute, 12 minute workout,
you'll feel a lot better afterwards. Sometimes
I get small weights, like five pound weights,
and I just dance to a couple of songs with it.
And stuff like that is good cardio. Anything
but the gym. I'll be honest with you, I can't
stand the gym. I can't stand it, I get too distracted.
always end up comparing my body to the other
guys and I end up getting discouraged or feel
like my workout ain't hitting on shit look at
this guy you know or I'll see a guy that's super
cute or has a nice ass and I'm trying to peek
them out without getting caught I'm just being
honest with you you know the gym is just too
much for me you know not to mention I'm sort
of not so what I'm very frugal okay I was gonna
say a cheap MF, but you know, I'm trying to word
it a little differently I'm very frugal, you
know, so I'm not really excited to pay a membership
fee every month To a place that I'm gonna go
to and frequently, you know I'm not gonna go
every day and plus the gym is just a place that
brings out All of my insecurities and it just
makes me feel like shit Especially when you see
a woman that has more muscles than you, then
it's just like, why are you here? Just go home.
Nothing you're gonna do here matters. Just go
home. So I don't like the gym. I don't at all.
I much prefer a home workout, something I can
do in the privacy of my own home and not feel
like an out of shape freak or get distracted
by other bodies and all of that. Plus I don't
like when there is like too many people in the
gym. That makes me freak out. I just, I don't
do very well in crowded environments. That's
not my thing. I'm very introverted. I get my
energy from being in silent spaces and small
groups. You know, it's one thing if I got to
brave a crowd for work or, you know, give a talk
or a speech or something like that. That's different.
But just to recreationally expose myself to A
crowded gym? No, no. I'm not paying for that.
If someone wants to gift me a membership or free
membership or something like that, then okay,
sure, I'll go. But I'm not gonna pay to feel
like shit. I'm just not. So no thank you to the
gym. See, so I ran it enough about that. Well,
let's see, what else here? Oh, something else
before we wrap up tonight's episode. Some of
you have sent a couple of messages asking for
an update on my friendship with Craig Now one
of the previous episodes I talked about Friendships
and I went on a whole rant about that because
I'm at this space in my life where I can't deal
with any type of toxic friendships or half -assed
friendships or One -sided friendships and I'm
not doing that. I'm not gonna be the person who's
calling all the time texting all the time the
one reaching out all the time. All that stuff
is whack to me. I don't like it. It's stupid.
At 40 -something, almost 50 years old, who needs
friendships like that, okay? That wasn't so much
the case with Craig. Craig and I had some different
stuff going on. His girlfriend and I just don't
jive. We got along great at first, and my mom
loved her. She was like best friends with my
mom. And my mom didn't make friends really quickly
with other women. She was more of a guy's gal.
But she just loved Craig's girlfriend. They would
go on little trips and hang out on the weekends
and everything. And for a while, we got along
great as well. But it just took a turn somewhere.
And I think it was when I temporarily moved in.
I would have these long stretches from where
I came back from Saudi Arabia or whatever country
I was in at the time. And so instead of getting
a hotel, and you know, because I had a tenant
in my home, Greg would open up his Airbnb to
me. And so I would be there during my breaks
when I came back to the States for, you know,
two weeks, sometimes a month at a time. And it
was during one of those stints where You know
issues just start to spring up and Traditionally
Craig and I have always been like with them buddies
like really close always doing things and so
we were watching you know Netflix and different
movies and stuff together hanging out and It
seemed like He enjoys spending more time with
me than with her So she made this this is how
it all started and I'm not gonna spend too much
time on this But it all started with her making
this one little comment. Craig and I were on
the couch watching something. And Craig was like,
hey, babe, come in here and watch this show with
us with me and Andre. It's da da da da da da
da da. And she was like, no, no, you guys go
ahead and enjoy your movie. Kind of like that.
And that's where it started. And it just went
downhill from there. And it got to a point where
I was like, let me just get out of here. And
the dynamic when you Have a best friend and you
don't get along with their girlfriend or their
significant other. That's a really shitty crappy
Dynamic it just sucks. I tell people that all
the time It just sucks when you don't get along
with your best friend's girlfriend or whatever
So that's where it started That was the issue
with Craig and Craig and I never had a falling
out It was just that she got so toxic that I
just bowed out from I'm like look Have it, you
know, I'm not I can't be around her. She's just
too I don't know what she's going through right
now But she's a little too toxic for me. So y
'all have fun type thing So it was nothing between
Craig and I But then I went to Saudi Arabia and
I went back for another long stretch when I came
back Craig was like a full -blown atheist and
Looking back he was working toward that for a
while, but he just wasn't very vocal about it.
Well, by the time I came back this last time,
he was like full -blown atheist, mad atheist,
confrontational atheist. And it was just too
much for me. And I'm not so much religious, I'm
more so spiritual, but I read my Bible every
day and I pray and I have great faith, you know,
and I just... It's one thing if you want to be
an atheist, okay, but don't tell me that FD this
and you know all this type of I can't do I can't
deal with all that so when you Added that whole
aspect of Craig to the toxic girlfriend. I just
kind of pulled away So that was the thing with
Craig and it created this distance And so that's
that's the quickly catch you up with the thing
with Craig and so lately uh... the past couple
of shows i've been i've been talking about friendship
and i will always bring up craig of craig it's
like my best friend that for replace best friend
dynamic that i used to have with john and uh...
and for a lot of people been asking me how do
you know how things going to do you know any
change and uh... it's all good we talked on a
video chat this past weekend and we had opportunity
to catch up we're on the phone for like an hour
talking catching up But it's good Craig. He looks
good. He's all fit now he's lost about 20 25
pounds doing the alternate day fasting you remember
I told you about he is the one that uh that recommended
that I try that and His arms are all like cut
his belly's gone. He has abs his face is Chiseled
you don't have that round face anymore. He meditates
I don't know if it's daily, but he meditates
now. He sent me some pictures of his meditation
room. He just seems more happier and more lighthearted.
He's still an atheist, but he's not so angry
about it and vocal, like he was last time we
spoke. And we're both doing better with keeping
in touch. We're doing better with that. We talked
a little bit yesterday and we text back and forth
a little bit today. We're meeting each other
halfway. And, you know, we have some similar
interests, again, that we can talk about and
share. So things are a lot better between Craig
and me. I'm happy to report. And, you know, that's
all I can ask from my friends is, you know, to
meet you halfway, that's all you can really ask
of anyone. Like I said, I can't do the one -sided
thing anymore. It's not fair to me. It's not
fair to the other person. Like my friend Renata,
I owe you a call Renata. She's always one reaching
out, you know with a phone call I'm more of a
text guy I can be a little bit more reciprocal
with the phone calls out. I'll admit that you
know, so I'll be calling you Renata I'll be calling
the only reason why I haven't called you this
week because I know you're you're in Virginia
your own, you know vacation or what have you
But yeah, I owe you a call but make sure that
You do right by your your real friends, okay?
Real friends are very hard to come by So treat
them like gold All right. So listen look that's
gonna do it for this, you know episode of live
with dr. Andre Jerry and this this part five
of our random rants and real talk I hope I said
something tonight that resonated with you, you
know Whether it was the dream the interpretation
the meditation stuff or just a reminder to value
the discretion, especially in your career, take
that with you and let it marinate. You know,
apply some of this stuff because we're all navigating
different things. And you know, like I said,
sometimes it just takes one message or someone
sharing something or, you know, they can have
a moment of clarity and shift their whole perspective
on things. So again, that's why I do this show.
So as always, thank you so much for sharing your
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well, stay grounded, and always, always protect
your peace. All right, good night, everybody.