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Dr. Jerry, you got the whole world waiting and ready for you to start the conversation.

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No point of view. We got the haters confused. Leave it up to you to bring us all the good news.

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Positive vibes and the sex appeal to Dr. Andre Jerry. Can I get an interview?

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Hello everyone and welcome to live with Dr. Andre. Hey, thank you so much for tuning in to our

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show tonight. I appreciate your listenership and your support of the Artist First Rio Network.

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Want to give a shout out to my pack buddies from work. These are a group of guys that I came into

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the government with. We started out as interns, Stephanie, Jason, Michelle, Steven,

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Steven, I know you're not listening. But anyway, shout out to my pack buddies. So listen, for

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tonight's episode, I think I'm just going to keep it lighthearted and just talk about trending topics

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and what's been happening the past few weeks. So right now as we speak, Tropical Storm Helene is

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headed towards the Florida Panhandle. And you know, it's expected to upgrade to hurricane status by

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the time it hits landfall about a category three hurricane. Of course, I'm broadcasting live from

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my home in Warner Robbins. So of course, all of the local news outlets here are down until the storm

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and assessing the potential damage it could bring to the region. Of course, at the time of this

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broadcast, it's a little too soon to know what the true impact will be. But we're praying for a

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minimal impact. And for everyone that is in the path of the storm, we pray that you're protected.

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And you know, for me, this storm really is coming at the worst time. I have Airbnb guests who are

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coming in on Friday. I'm traveling myself this weekend, or at least I'm supposed to be, I'm in

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the process of relocating to another state. So hopefully my travel plans won't need to change,

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but we'll just have to see. But you know, really, none of that is important at the end of the day.

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I just want for everyone to stay safe and for this storm to pass with no casualties.

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That's my prayer. So yeah, so anyway, I am relocating to another state. Yes, I'm changing jobs

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once again. And yeah, I'm going to go ahead and fully embrace my status as a job popper. I'm a job

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popper. I just, you know, I wasn't always this way. I wasn't. I used to be a good little employee.

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I promise you, I used to, you know, I was loyal, you know, to a fault. I put in the long hours at

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work. I would go above and beyond. I still do to a certain extent. I would put up with a lot of BS,

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you know, and just toxic workplaces, toxic environments, toxic bosses, you know, just

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take one for the team. But then one day I had the blue, and this is when I had left. I graduated

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from the internship with the government and I left and I went and took a contracting job

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still working in the federal sector, but as a contractor and just out the blue after working

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for like maybe eight, nine months, I was laid off. No warning, no advanced notice, nothing, just laid

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off. Along with 12 other people who, you know, were also relatively new to the company, but it was

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just completely out of the blue. And I don't know if you've ever been laid off before, but it's very

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devastating. It's a lot of things. It's more than devastating. It's humiliating, you know, your pride

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is very disorienting as well. And we're not even talking about the financial ramifications

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of being laid off, which can be crippling. But it's completely devastating. I'm not going to

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get into the entire story. Perhaps maybe in a later episode, I'll talk about that whole ordeal

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when I was laid off and, you know, what that whole thing was like. But yeah, that is why

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now I just, I don't give a damn about these jobs. I try not to get caught up in, you know,

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personalities and office politics. I'm just there to number one, get my money. Okay, get my money,

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bring value to the organization or the team where I can, you know, using my skill set and my

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expertise. I'm going to learn and absorb as much as possible so I can make myself more marketable

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and knowledgeable for the next job, you know, expand my network. I'm not really at a job to

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make friends, you know, I'll make connections, you know, and oftentimes that can lead to,

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you know, your next opportunity. But just, you know, I've been around the block with these jobs

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working in the private sector, the public sector, owning my business for 15 near 20 years,

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working for nonprofits, you know, I've done it all. And there's just some things that I put in

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place when I go to a job. There's some things I've just learned over the years. I don't really mix

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and mingle with my coworkers too much. You have to walk a tightrope. You don't want to be anti-social,

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you know, but you don't want to hang out with that same crowd that's always going to lunch at

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the same time or the one that takes all these different breaks and stuff like that. You really

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kind of have to assist the landscape, determine who has the high work ethic, who in your organization

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is getting the awards all the time and getting recognition. Those are the people you want to

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make connections with, not the everyday run of the meal person that's just doing the bare minimum,

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doing the bare minimum. You want to stand out to a certain extent. Like I said, make connections,

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not friends. This may be a no brainer for a lot of people, but don't sleep with your co-workers.

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I know some of you are laughing. I don't care. I've been there. I have made this dreadful mistake.

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You want to talk about hell. Just don't do it. I don't care how fine he or she may be.

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Do not sleep with your co-workers. It's never going to end well and it's just stupid.

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Don't do it. I can give you a whole... That's another episode. I can tell you about my instance

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where I crossed the line with that. Just a bad idea. Don't do it. You never want to

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outshine your boss. Now that I'm thinking about it, for the past, I won't say the past.

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I won't even say a number. Pretty much every job I have, I have an issue with my boss.

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I don't go in with the idea that I'm going to have an issue. I'm there to work hard. I'm there to

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do what I need to do. I'm actually there to make my boss look good if I can. But it seems like

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every time, it may start off well, but I end up having some type of issue with my boss or supervisor.

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I had to do some thinking. I'm like, you know, after a while, the problem... What's the common

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denominator? The problem seems to be me. What am I doing wrong? What am I doing to where I'm having

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issues with my supervisor at every job? We're talking about male supervisors. I

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did have an issue with the woman supervisor too. Me and her fill out. It's me.

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I'm just admitting live on the air that I'm the problem. But I've learned that you can't

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outshine your boss. And I don't try to do that. I don't. But a lot of times when

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you can do things unintentionally is what I'm saying. I've learned from a good friend of mine

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that I'm working with now that less is best. You don't always want to... You need to downplay what

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you know. That sounds kind of like the antithesis of what I'm normally used to. You know, usually

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when you go into a job, especially as the new guy, you want to show your aptitude and show what you

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can do. I have to admit that there's something to be said for that piece of advice. Downplay

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what you know. Ask questions. Don't be so quick to show everybody your complete skill set because

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it could end up having the opposite effect. That's what I've learned. So when I go into this new role

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next month, I will make some tweaks to how I operate in the workplace. Okay. I want to tell

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you something else too. Another trap that I fell in. We've all heard this saying at work.

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If you see something, say something. We've all heard that, right? That's bullshit.

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That's bullshit. I'm sorry. If you see something, I don't care if it's sexual harassment. This is

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just me talking. You don't have to take my word for it. This is just an opinion. I don't care what I

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see in the workplace. I'm not saying a damn thing anymore. I don't see nothing. I don't hear nothing.

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I'm turning my head the other way. I'm not going to watch somebody just really get, you know, fucked

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up. Excuse my language. But for the most part, I'm not reporting anything. I'm going to turn my head

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and look the other way because that see something say something that is a trap. I've learned that

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that's a trap. And what I think it is, is it's intended to shine a light on who your narcs are

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in companies. Because trust me, as you go up the chain in management and in leadership, you see

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just how f'd up some of these people are and how messed up some of the things that they are doing

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is a lot of corruption that goes on as you ascend the ranks. I've seen it for myself. And

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those people in leadership that are doing these things, they don't want narcs in their midst.

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They're not going to let anybody come up the ranks that has a history of basically being a whistleblower

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and reporting shit. If you see something at work, if you can, in good conscious turn of a blind eye,

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you don't have to police everything. Just don't just turn, turn, turn aside. Don't see anything,

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don't hear anything. I've just learned that that's the best route to go. And if you want to get out

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the door, the quickest way to get out the door is to start reporting stuff. Just, just turn a blind

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eye. You don't have to take my word for this. It's just my opinion. Okay. And lastly, always be plotting

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your next move. So when I go into a new job, I always operate with this idea that

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you know, I could be let go in the next four to six months. So I'm always polishing off my resume.

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I'm always on go with the resume. I'm always, you know, spending a good portion of my day,

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maybe two hours, maybe an hour searching for the next opportunity. Some people may have an issue

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with that. Some people may say, why would you say that? I'm just telling you what you need to do.

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These jobs do not care about you. So you always have to be plotting your next move, keeping your

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resume polished off. That's just a practice of mine. So you never know when the next opportunity

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is going to come from. There's nothing worse than an opportunity presenting itself. And you

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don't have your resume together. Or you have to, you know, tell the person, hey, give me until

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tomorrow, I need to brush up my resume or whatever. That's just being unprepared. Always be prepared

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for the next opportunity and always operate from the standpoint that I could be let go at any day.

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It's happened to me. It changed the way I moved. And I just, I don't care about these jobs anymore

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like that. They don't care about me. So, you know, I'll do what I can. I will bring value where I can,

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but I'm always operating like, hey, this is not good. I'm just passing through, you know. So

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there are a few exceptions to what I'm saying. You know, some, maybe if you work for a smaller

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employer, you know, it's a different culture, but these huge organizations, huge companies,

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they don't really care about you like that. They don't care about your bills. They don't care about

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your family. They don't care about you. Some pains, you know. And so if forgot, for being,

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for some reason, they have to let you go. They're not going to give you no advanced notice. So if

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you're not feeling well and you want to call out, but you're kind of shy about calling,

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forget that. Call out sick. If you want to support your child's game or a school play or just

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something else that you have to do, just feel like not going in that day. Take your sick leave,

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take your PTO and don't feel bad about it. And don't ask permission. When I need to take

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PTO, I just tell my supervisor or whomever, I'll be taking PTO on Thursday and we'll return to

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the office Friday morning. And that's typically in an email and you can give them one, but you

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really don't owe them an explanation. You know, no one should be asking you why you're taking PTO.

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You know, it's for personal reasons. That's all they need to know. So

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I know I sound a little jaded. Maybe I am. I don't care. But when you've been laid off,

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it really changes your outlook with regard to how you operate on these jobs.

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Because at the end of the day, you're just output for them. You're just a number.

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Just my opinion. Anyway, so let's shift gears a bit. Are you guys sick of politics yet?

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You probably are. I know it's a lot. I know you're probably already over it. But you know,

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either way it goes, this is going to be over very soon. We only have, what is it? We have 41 days

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until election day. So we're kind of in a home stretch here. So I want to say if you haven't

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registered and you want to cast your vote in this election, and this could be a crucial vote,

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you know, it's very crucial to the outcome of this election. Everything's going to be so close.

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There's still time to register. So if you need to register to vote, just go to vote.com or vote.gov

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rather, vote.gov. And when you log on, you'll see a red button on the homepage that says

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select your state or territory to begin. If you click on that and follow the prompts,

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and by the way, you can also, if you just want to check the status of your voter registration,

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you can still follow these steps and you'll see the same thing. Just go to vote.gov,

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follow the same steps, you'll see a link on the second page that says, check my voter registration.

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And it'll, you know, it'll give you the prompts from there.

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And by the way, look, don't let anyone disenfranchise your vote. There's a lot of

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intimidation going on already with this election. I really want to encourage you to vote early if

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you can. Check your state's, Secretary of State's website and find out when early voting begins.

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If you can vote early, that really is the best route to go. This is not the election to be voting

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on election day. I think there's going to be so much chaos and shenanigans going on,

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you know, a lot of voter intimidation, a lot of confusion. A couple of things to note when you're

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voting. You don't have to tell anyone when you're actually going to vote. You don't have to tell

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anyone who you're voting for. Remember that your vote is private. What goes on in that voter booth

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is between you and the voting machine, you know. So there shouldn't be anyone asking or inquiring

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about who you're voting for today. That's, that's a personal piece of information. Okay, that's

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private. And also, once you cast your ballot, you should be shown a confirmation page that shows

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where your ballot was cast. Once it's cast, there should be no more tampering with that.

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They'll show you your voter confirmation page and it'll go in some type of box, but there shouldn't

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be any marks or anything on your ballot after you've cast your vote. Okay, so watch that. Watch

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that type of stuff. I've already mentioned to vote early. Like I said, this is not the election to

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be voting on the day of the election. And if you get to your voter precinct and you have any issues,

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you are well within your right to ask for the precinct manager. Okay, I used to be a poll

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worker. These people work extremely hard. It's not on a volunteer basis. They don't make a lot of

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money for that day. Maybe like a, at the time I did it was like $150. They probably make probably

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200 or 250 now for that day, but they work extremely hard in long hours. And so, you know,

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most of them are operating within their due diligence and, you know, within the

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balance of the law. But if you have an issue with anyone, whether it's another voter or elector,

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or one of the poll workers, always ask for the precinct manager. And if for some reason they

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try to turn you away and say, this isn't your precinct or give you any type of pushback about

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voting, you always are within your right to ask for a provisional ballot. Okay, ask for provisional

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ballot. And what that is, is basically just a paper ballot, essentially, that has all the

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information that the electronic ballot has. And you just cast your vote there and it goes in a

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folder or a box with all the other provisional ballots. Those have to be counted as well.

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Some of them will end up not being allocated to that particular precinct, but they are still

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counted at the end of the day. And they still have to go through the process of being

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confirmed as a legit ballot or not. So if there's any issue or question, always ask for a provisional

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ballot and they have to give you one. So just keep those types of things in mind because,

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you know, in my opinion, I think Trump already knows he's likely going to lose this election.

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The numbers just don't seem to be there for him to win by the popular vote. So I think his angle

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this time will be to try to win through the Electoral College the same way he did when he

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beat Hillary and also use voter suppression tactics, which is going on currently. And remember,

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guys, he's already appointed election officials in various states. They're already in place,

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you know, and their sole purpose really is just to disrupt voting processes in key states where

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the margins will be really tight. So like I said, they'll very likely be a lot of shenanigans on

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election day, lots of confusion, especially while votes are being counted. I anticipate

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challenges left and right, recounts left and right across the board. I think we'll probably be in a

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situation where we won't know the outcome of the election when we go to bed that night. I think it

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could be probably days or even weeks if Trump pulls his usual stunts with the election denialism

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and the lawsuits and all that type of stuff. And not to mention the state of turmoil and tension

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that the country could be experiencing during that time. Just think about that.

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You know, we already know that a lot of these Trump people are just crazy and they don't have

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any issue with rioting or vandalizing or killing. There's really no limit with them. You know,

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and I'm concerned myself about the level of walllessness that could be going on on and after

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election day. So, you know, just be ready and make sure that you're prepared for whatever.

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You know, I'm not trying to be an alarmist here. You know, I'm just saying please vote early,

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if you can, because I wouldn't be caught dead out in the streets on election day. Okay,

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don't say I didn't warn you. But anyway, on that note, guys, let's take a quick break and when

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we come back, I promise you will shift gears to something a little bit more lighthearted.

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I'll tell you guys about the wedding that I was in last week. So, you definitely won't want to miss

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it. Stay tuned and we'll be right back.

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Back to Saudi wasted can't take it taking me a break from all the Tito's I've been drinking

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spending all my dimes on that black box wine cuz I'm trying to keep these hating ass niggas off

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my mind. I'm flying first class don't need a buddy pass just a diplomatic pass or to get me

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through the airport. I'm chilling at the lounge. They never keep me waiting. Keep pouring them

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drinks till I reach my destination. I'm going back to Saudi Saudi Saudi. I'm going back to Saudi.

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I'm going back to Saudi Saudi Saudi. I'm going back to Saudi Saudi. I'm going back to Saudi.

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It's like my second home. The Arabs are exotic. I can't leave them alone. They like the taste

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of chocolate. Sexy erotic. And if you like the finer things than money ain't no object. I'm going

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back to Saudi Saudi Saudi. I'm going back to Saudi. I'm going back to Saudi. Just in the nick of time.

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I'll party with the Saudis at the end of Ramadan. And when they on that Shisha. It's nice to meet

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you. So let's go do our thing while we sip Saudi champagne. I'm going back to Saudi Saudi Saudi.

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I'm going back to Saudi Saudi.

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If I meet a chic, I may never come home. Just give me a week. I just might show my camel toe.

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I'm going back to Saudi Saudi Saudi. I'm going back to Saudi. I'm going back to Saudi Saudi.

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I'm going back to Saudi Saudi.

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You're back live with Dr. Andre Giri.

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Okay everybody. Welcome back to live with Dr. Andre. I'm so glad you stayed with us through

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the commercial break. Shout out to Edwin and all my friends in Puerto Rico who are tuning in tonight.

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Hey so if you're just joining us before the break we were talking about me relocating to another

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state and embracing my status as a proud job hopper and we were talking about how at the end of the

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day these jobs don't care about you. They really don't. If you let them, I'm not going to go on

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another tangent here, but if you let them they will use up your talent and your skills and your time

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and your passion and could potentially just let you go at the drop of a hat with no warning or notice.

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Like I said before, yes I'm jaded by my own experiences. I am, but I'm grateful that it happened at the end of the day.

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Because you know what if I had not had the experience of being laid off and all the

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cascading effects that came with that. I think, no I don't even think, I know I would be arrogant.

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I would be high-minded, definitely less humble, not as kind. And I don't think I would be as

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willing to lend a helping hand to others. I think I would be one of those people where, yeah I would

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help, but I would also have this kind of air of, oh well you just need to pull yourself up by the

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bootstraps like I did and you know get out and I think I would have been that type of person.

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You know, but when you experience losing your livelihood and falling on hard times and not

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knowing how you're going to pay your bills, having to rebuild from scratch basically,

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you want to talk about resilience and faith. You know, so you know sometimes God just has to kind

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of drag you. He has to just kind of drag you through the mud like he did with me before he can really

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exalt you and place you where he wants to place you. Because back then I wasn't ready. If God would

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have kept exalting me and I would have kept going up the ladder like I was doing without

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having that crash and fall, I just would have been terrible. I know me. I just would have

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been too much. So he had to bring me down just so I can have the compassion and the humility

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that can sustain the type of success that I'm enjoying today. Because you know it just wasn't

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sustainable with that attitude that I was starting to develop back then. So I'm grateful

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that I was laid off. I needed that experience. I really did. But anyway look, we were supposed to

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talk about something more lighthearted. I promised you that. Okay, so last week I was in a wedding.

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I didn't attend a wedding. I was in a wedding and it was a great experience. So last year my friend

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Renata, shout out to Renata. Y'all know my friend Renata, right? Okay, so Renata also is, she has

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a show on the artist's first radio network. It's called Relevant with Renata. Great show.

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Give me if I get this wrong, Renata, but I think it's on every second Monday at seven,

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from seven to eight. So check it out. It's a really great show. But Renata and I are really

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good friends. I've known her for years and years now. We met while we were, where she was on one

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of her book tours that was coming through Robbins Air Force Base. And you know, I'm a book nerd.

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I love books. I love authors. And I remember being so enamored with her and so impressed by her that

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I bought like, I bought like five or six copies of her bestselling book, transitioning from a weekend

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to a war zone. If you follow me on Instagram, you know this is true. There's a picture of me holding

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like five or six of her books. I bought books for my sister who's in the Navy. I bought books for

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people who couldn't read. I just bought books for just everybody because she was, she was so

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impressive. And I mean, she's obviously a very beautiful woman, but she has this spirit about

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her where you just enjoy talking with her. And I remember back then, I hadn't released my book

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yet. I was just an aspiring author and I was telling her how, you know, I'm working on my own book.

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And you know, I just remember her being very encouraging and very supportive. And you know,

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she told me, look, you got to write this book. And I'm going to keep in contact with you. I'm

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going to stay, you know, on you until you finish this book. She was just very encouraging like that.

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And so she did just that. And you know, every now and then she would come through Robbins. I

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were running to her again. Every time I ran into this woman, she was asking about the book,

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Andre, have you, have you been, have you been working on your book? How's your book going?

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And it got to a point where I was like, okay, next time, next time she asked me about this

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book, I'm going to have it done, you know, so she really stayed on top of me encouraged me.

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She's texting me now. I love you too, Renata. But she is a big reason why I released my book

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so soon or so early, because I was going to do it. But has she not stayed on top of me and also

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my father or not father in law? What are you butch my brother in law? I've been okay. I've been

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drinking whatever this is a casual show today. Don't judge me. Okay. I've been drinking tea.

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Those but listen, Renata played a really big role in making sure my book got released when it did

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because she would not let up. And so we just, you know, we clicked and we stayed in touch and

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she's been a good friend over the years and she asked me to not only be in her wedding,

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but she asked me about a year or so ago to emcee her event. She throws this event every year called

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relevant with Renata. And I mean, it's an extravaganza. She goes all out and, you know, the food,

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the DJ, the music, the, you know, the artists that she has performed. And so I was honored when she

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asked me to emcee the event. And, and so it was shortly after that event where

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her boyfriend at the time surprised her with engagement and, you know, and that was so beautiful.

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And I was able to be a part of that. And her fiance asked me to be one of his groomsmen.

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This was last year. And of course, I, you know, accepted and was honored that they would even

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ask, you know, because at that point he had only known me for a few months. So I was completely

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honored. So I was completely honored. But, you know, we get to this year and, you know, it's finally

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here. I want to tell you about this wedding. I've been in a wedding before I was the groomsman.

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Was that the groomsman or the best man? But was that your best man? I think I was your best man.

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But I was the first wedding I was in was my sister's wedding. I was the either the groomsman or the

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best man I can't remember. And that was a beautiful wedding. And so this was my second opportunity to

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be a groomsman. This wedding, my sister's wedding was nice. It was beautiful. Don't get me wrong.

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But this wedding last week, Renata, this was a, this was a real housewives of Atlanta wedding.

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Like, let's just talk about the venue. The venue was the Atlanta White House.

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I lived in Atlanta for, for, you know, over a decade. So I'm familiar with the Atlanta White

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House and how beautiful of a venue that is. But I've never been that up close and personal

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with that venue. It is just breathtaking. The architecture, the, the, the landscaping,

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just the ambience of it. It's just completely beautiful. So this was the venue for the wedding.

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And let me kind of tell you how everything went. So first of all, everything's just completely laid

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out. Okay. Even before the wedding, digital invitations, everything's laid out to the, to the

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tea. You don't have any question about what I'm supposed to do, where I'm supposed to be. Everything

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is, is spelled completely out. Okay. At the venue, you already talked about how beautiful it is.

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She had an onsite barber for the groomsmen. She had an onsite hairstylist for the bridesmaid,

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bridesmaids. She had an onsite, I think manicure and pedicurist for the ladies.

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There were lodging quarters onsite for everyone that was, you know, in the wedding party. So,

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you know, you don't have to worry about getting a hotel and all this other stuff or, you know,

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people showing up later, showing up missing on a day of the wedding. Everything was just

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meticulously thought out and planned out. It was an outside wedding. The weather was beautiful. It

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was a little hot, but I'll take hot over rain. It was, you couldn't ask for a more beautiful day.

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I do feel bad about that poor wedding planner. And, Renata, you know, this is true. Your family

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wore that girl out. The women, they wore it with her name, Eunice. I think she did a remarkable job,

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but the women wore her out. So, I don't know if Eunice is listening to the show, but just from

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me to you, you did an exceptional job, you know, but, you know, it's hard to please everyone,

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but everything was just beautiful. The reception after the wedding was beautiful. I want to tell

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you this. I cried. First of all, I was nervous. Like, I was the one getting married. Okay. So,

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that's the lead up to the whole thing. And then I almost cried when Renata came down the staircase.

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I don't know why. I mean, first of all, I've never seen her look so beautiful. Never have seen her

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look so beautiful. She's beautiful on a bad day, but when she came down the stairs, I started off

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like, Andre, you are not going to do this. Okay. But, um, she, her dress, everything was just,

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I can't wait until she, you know, releases the pictures, but it's just, everything was just

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gorgeous at the reception. I almost cried again when she came in with her then groom or husband.

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And she was just waving at everybody on both sides of the reception hall. And she just,

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that was my first glimpse up close and personal, how beautiful and happy she looked. And, um,

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and I cried. Oh, I cried. And I was like, hope nobody see, I tried to dab my eyes in private,

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you know, hoping nobody saw me. But it was just completely beautiful. The photographers did a

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wonderful job. There was a drone camera that was getting aerial shots of everything. It was just

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beautiful. Um, when I get married, I do not want all of that. I really don't. It, because it would

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just stress me out just making sure that everything is, you know, happening, you know, in accordance

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to the, the wedding plans and all of that. I think I'll be very stressed. So I just want something

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a little bit more simple, but in terms of elegance, in terms of pageantry, I think I'll be

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going on about it. When you see the pictures in the video, you'll see I'm not exaggerating. So

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Renata, I know you're listening. Thank you so much for allowing me to be a part of your wedding.

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It was so beautiful. It was so inspiring. Um, there was no drama, you know,

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and I'm not going to be exaggerating. I'm not going to be exaggerating. I'm not going to be

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so. It was so inspiring. Um, there was no drama, you know, everybody was just happy.

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Everybody was exuberant. And I could tell that they were just caught up in the, the, the, the

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love story of it all. Um, Daryl and Renata really have a beautiful love story. And they shared

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little bit of that during the reception but just a beautiful wedding and I wish

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everybody could see it from the vantage point that I did but that yeah that was

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it that that that was it you know I think that I'm trying to picture myself with

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that type of wedding and I think I'm gonna stick to what I don't want that I

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just want something simple on a beach and just me and the person I'm marrying

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maybe a witness or two I don't even I don't want all of that I just want

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something simple and elegant and peaceful so I think that's what I'm gonna go

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for so I think I've said enough about the wedding I'm just kind of spitballing

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God I don't have a script this time I told you this is gonna be laid back and

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I was just gonna let it flow so if I'm rambling you just have to forgive me on

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this one but what else is happening this is so embarrassing that I don't have

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that was pretty much all I wanted to talk about today I mean I couldn't just you

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can listen to me ramble for another what 15 minutes but I'm not gonna do that to

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you I don't really have anything more of substance to talk about other than the

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you know the beautiful wedding the stuff that's going on with the election we all

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know that this is a very important election so make sure that you get

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registered if you're not make sure you vote early if you can help it at all

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remember that these jobs do not care about you okay I'm not saying don't do

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your best on your job I'm not saying don't add value and bring value but I'm

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just saying just remember that they don't love you like that so brush off your

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resume start applying for jobs as if you found out you're gonna be canned in a

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few months just operate with that mindset and you know what I want to share

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something else real quick on that time I know I keep going back to the job stuff

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you can tell that really irks me but I learned this from a colleague of mine at

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my last job and he said what he does is although he's gainfully employed he

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applies for and accepts invitations to interview for other jobs and he'll go so

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far as even to get a job offer in writing and what he does with that job

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offer he takes it to his current employer and uses it as a negotiating tool to get

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raises so he'll basically take the offer letter that shows the salary that the

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new job is offering and he takes it and leverages that document and says hey

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this company is willing to pay me X amount can you meet or exceed this and I

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had never thought about that before but you can learn from any anybody this guy

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was younger than me I want to say he's in his late 20 no no he's the early 30s

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but you can learn from anyone and ever since he told me about that I've been

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implementing that and it works wonders and I always I was always negotiating my

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salary anyway but now I even have more leverage because I do accept the

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interviews you know and if I have to take PTO or if I can schedule the

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interview around my lunch breaks or whatever but yeah I operate while I'm

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on the job as though I'm unemployed you know you just have to do that you have

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to make sure that you take care of you first just like these companies take

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care of them first so I'm not gonna be the dead horse on that you guys already

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know what to do and you you've heard my opinion on the matter so I think this is

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a good point to close out the show I had a great time you know even though this

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is not scripted and I just kind of spitball things but I hope you took away

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something for from it I hope you enjoyed tonight's broadcast I hope you learned

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something new or laughed a little bit or took away something positive like I

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always say is my intention to leave you more informed than when you came so I

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want you to tune in for our next episode it's going to air Wednesday October

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23rd at 8 p.m. Eastern of course exclusively on the artist first radio

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network I'm not sure what the topic is gonna be for that show but I'll come up

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with something how about that all right I hope you guys have fun this was great

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thanks again for tuning in and have a good night everybody