Dr. Jerry, you got the whole world waiting.
Been ready for you to start the conversation.
No point of view.
We got the haters confused.
We would have to you to bring us all the good news.
Positive five lives and the six appeal to Dr.
Andre Jerry, can I get an interview?
You, you, you, you, you, you, you.
Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to Live with Dr.
Andre Jerry, the internationally broadcast radio show that
keeps you engaged and informed on business and entertainment.
I'm your guest host, Freddie Valoy.
And I'm excited to be here with you tonight.
Dr. Jerry is traveling on business this week.
He has entrusted me with his very last show of the year.
So let's make it a good one.
I was actually a guest this time last year on Dr.
Andre Jerry show, and it was a, it was an interesting time for me.
So it was an interesting time.
If you don't know just a little bit about myself, I'm Freddie Valoy.
I'm a comedian out of New York City.
Just moved back to New York earlier this year.
And when I was on the show last was it was for this Wednesday show.
And my girlfriend of 10 years had just broken up with me.
And I was on my way to move to New York at the end of January.
And all that has happened.
There's been a year of growth.
There's been taking some lumps early on in the dating world.
But, you know, like we do, we adapt, we overcome, we get better.
So if anybody's listening to this, go ahead and send this link to over to
somebody, anybody that's going through a breakup and just let them know that time
does heal all things.
Now, that's probably the least fun answer that anybody could give, right?
Time heals all things because we don't want time.
We want the magic bullet.
We want the pain to go away right away, right?
We want the pain to go away right away.
We don't want time to heal this part, you know, when it comes to heartbreak.
But it's there for a reason.
And, you know, we should be able to learn from any type of situation that we
get ourselves in.
So it's been a year now.
I'm in New York City.
I would say that my heart is healed.
The relationship ended on good terms.
We did the best we could, but it was just time to move on.
And we still have a good relationship, which is good.
So that's me catching you up.
This year in New York City has been very, it's been a ventral.
It has been a ventral.
And I will say that this is my first Christmas in New York City.
First Christmas in New York City in a very long time.
So I want to ask you, listener, how's your Christmas going?
How's it going over there?
Are you, are you having yourself?
Oh, Mary little.
Oh, Mary little Christmas.
Listen, I can't sing, but I'm going to do it anyway, because that's what we do.
Right.
Just because you can sing doesn't mean you shouldn't.
Maybe not public in a live show, right?
Maybe, maybe that's the thing.
That's the kicker, right?
Not publicly on a live show.
I should be singing by myself like into a pillow or something like that.
If you can't tell, this is going to be a very different episode from Dr.
Andre Jerry's.
Like I said, I'm a comedian.
So we're going to be, we're going to be getting silly here.
So this is that time of the year where it's international waters, y'all.
This is international waters.
Do you have one of those jobs where it's okay to take the gas off at the end of the
year?
Or do you have one of those jobs where you got to go pedal to the metal?
Which one are you?
Huh?
What are you doing in between Christmas and New Year's?
So that timeframe, a lot can happen though.
That's where a lot of like last minute growth happened.
Are you ready to, ready to gear up to go to the gym in January?
Get up on those fitness goals.
Hopefully not fail a 60 year in a row.
Come on.
You don't want to do that.
Shake it up.
This is what you got to do.
All right.
I'm going to give you some advice.
And some advice for the advice.
Ready?
If you're going to, if you're thinking of starting your fitness goals in the
new year, just go ahead and start it this week.
This is the best week to do it.
The gyms are a lot emptier than they're going to be.
Right?
Here's the little added bonus is that when you start this week, next week
goes around, you get to feel superior to the people that waited for the next year.
You get to go, wow, what happened to this gym?
All these people, all these New Year's resolution people.
So you get to have the one up on people.
So if you are a petty person, that could work for you.
Right?
It could work.
Sometimes I give my mind to listen to the advice as good advice or it could be
advice to make you a worse person.
Cause some people don't want to be good people.
Some people want to be bad people.
And I wouldn't say you're bad, but you're an egotistical person and you want
to feel a little bit better than anybody.
Start your goal a week early.
Trust me.
You'll feel superior.
You get to walk your chest even higher in the gym.
Have yourself a merry little Christmas.
That's my favorite Christmas song.
That's my favorite Christmas.
I would say compared to the buildup to Christmas, the right after, I sort of got
the day after Christmas is done.
It's almost like we forget about it.
Cause weird.
I feel a little weird still talking about Christmas, but I like that.
I think it's, is it being cross me?
Have yourself a merry little Christmas.
It is such a, it's a very reflective song.
It's an interesting song for me.
Cause the way I look at that song, it's like a, it's like a sad song and a happy
song at the same time.
It's one of those songs where it's playing.
You're in your study.
You don't even need to actually physically have a study, but you're in your study
in your mind, right?
Swirling around a glass of whiskey.
If you're recovering alcoholic, maybe just a glass of seltzer water with a
little bit of lime squeezed in there, right?
Swirling your glass around.
Are you just watching the drink swirl and you're just thinking back at your year?
If you give a little laugh, like, cause you remembered something good, but then
immediately you make a, you, you wince a little ego.
That was, that was rough.
I shouldn't have said that to that girl.
Hey, you start, you start, you reflect on the good and the bad.
It's a very balanced, reflected type of song.
That's your favorite Christmas song and why I like to ask a lot of questions.
I like to ask a lot of questions, but by myself, just have you guys answer them in
your heads, communicating telepathically at this point.
What is your history with Christmas?
Huh?
What's your relationship with Christmas?
If you don't know, I run a podcast called Fred talk.
Um, you can look for it anywhere, Spotify, Apple.
Um, and it's pretty much this, me talking, asking questions.
So if you're interested in this, feel free to follow me.
It's Fred talk, all one word.
Yes, I got it.
It was a plan word on Ted talk.
It's like a Ted talk, but cooler.
How I look at it.
It's funnier, much funnier than most Ted talks.
A lot of Ted talks, not funny.
Okay.
So if you're looking for more laughs in your life, we're looking to smile a little
bit, uh, follow me on Spotify, Apple, YouTube.
So what is, what is, there's your favorite Christmas song.
It's a relationship with Christmas.
Huh?
Some people have bad upbringings.
Maybe you don't like Christmas.
Some people have grown up with great Christmases their whole lives.
And they, they can't understand how other people would have bad Christmases.
But what is yours?
Me recently, I had fully become a Christmas person.
My ex that I was with for 10 years.
I was a Christmas person.
My ex that I was with for 10 years, uh, she really worked to make me really
appreciate Christmas.
And this winter in my first winter in New York City, I was able to experience
Christmas in full go.
Uh, Ron McCormick show, which played earlier on, uh, big shout out to them.
Uh, Ron was giving, uh, uh, you know, saying really good words about New York,
which I love because you don't hear that a lot.
A lot of people think New York city is mad max.
And it's, it's quite the opposite.
I'll tell you.
Uh, but, but, uh, but Ron's, uh, passionate about the, the Knicks,
especially him calling it the Knickerbockers, uh, really, really.
I thought that was, I thought that was awesome.
It warmed my heart.
So it was a great lead in to hear.
So what is, what is your relationship with Christmas?
Uh, I'm, I'm, I'm full go now.
I've had some interesting, I've, you know, interesting time and Christmas here
in New York City.
I did a 1920s holiday train.
It ran on like the New York city subway platform and all that on the F line.
Uh, it was so cool.
The design was awesome.
It was a green train.
You walk in wicker seats, but spring loaded wicker seats, uh, uh, ceiling fans,
white handles.
If you haven't been to that, if you've been on a subway, you know, that, that right
now it's plastic and metal.
It's not very, if you go side by side, the aesthetic from the 1920s to the modern
train cars, it is like leaves and bounds, you know, the 1920s cars were pimping
and these, these new trains are just all business.
But anyway, we get to these holiday train and I don't know, I don't know why,
but I think it's a thing.
Um, autistic people really enjoy trains.
And I can't, I can't, I can't, I don't know what the callers, but I gotta look up
why, but I didn't see, there seems to be a correlation of like autistic people
loving trains.
And I've had to see that in full display on this holiday train.
So the energy was pure.
It was awesome.
If you're ever looking to do Christmas in New York City, I highly recommend it
and put this on your calendar.
Nostalgia, nostalgia train.
It runs every Saturday in December and it's, it is, it is awesome.
And you will likely get a free tour of the train or at least like random facts
from some of the riders.
We talked to a guy, I call him Ralph, I just want to keep his name.
Uh, uh, keep it anonymous.
Talk to a guy named Ralph, built like a Ralph, right?
Kind of short stocky, has a belly.
He had onto Navy pants, a brown cardigan and a conductor's hat.
And he was passionately, passionately talking about the play trains passionately.
Hey, this is the R188.
These are in service of 50 years.
Then they retire them.
Did you know that after they retire in New York City trains, one of the things
they do with them is that they dip them, they put them into the ocean so they
can coral, so they can grow coral on them, which I think is pretty cool.
And I learned that from Ralph and Ralph was really passionate.
And I'm thinking, wow, the MTA was, you know, they went all out for this.
The MTA is the Metropolitan Transit Authority.
They run the trains in New York City.
I'm like, wow, they got a, got a guy given facts, almost like a tour guide on
this train.
This is amazing.
Then there were some things that made me go, maybe he's just autistic and just
loves talking about trains.
Then I saw a model train that he had and we started to get a little bit closer.
But this guy's going off on his presentation.
This is the R188.
One train card costs $1 million.
One zero, zero, zero.
This guy had a heavy Brooklyn accent to a real character.
They don't make, you know, New Yorkers like this anymore.
A guy with the heavy accent and all that, they don't make him like that anymore.
So this guy was fascinating, his passion.
I mean, you ever sit in front of someone when they're passionately talking about
something?
It's amazing.
You can feel it.
You can feel that energy.
You can feel that charisma.
And we got to experience it.
We got to experience that with Ralph.
The best part was when our child came up.
This kid had to be about eight years old and Ralph's going off about the R188 trains
or whatever, giving his facts.
And this little kid walks up and goes, I want the R188 for Halloween.
And Ralph's reaction instead of being like, oh, that's really cool kid.
Good for you, buddy.
He goes, hey, hey, hey, slow down, kids.
Right?
This is like a 30-year-old man talking to a child like that.
So I am dying laughing.
Me and the girl I'm with are trying to acknowledge the kid.
So he doesn't turn into a supervillain with this interaction.
And my girl's like, oh, wow, how'd you make it?
You know, blah, blah, blah.
Ralph gets back into his presentation.
And that same thing happens about three or four more times where the kid interrupts Ralph.
And Ralph just really just like, just does not let him speak.
At one point he goes, hey, slow down, Junior.
Slow down, Junior.
I am literally, I'm crying laughing at this.
I'm like, because, you know, I guess certain people on the spectrum have social cues.
Like, they didn't know he should be talking to the kid like that.
It was, it was funny.
It was funny about it.
Finally, there's a break in the conversation.
And I go, hey, man, do you work for the MTA?
He looks at me.
He looks at his buddy.
So I'm like, I'm at his two o'clock.
His buddy's at his 12 o'clock.
He looks at me, looks at his buddy at 12 o'clock and points to me at two o'clock and goes,
this guy doesn't get it, huh?
He goes, then he looks back at me and goes, do you think the MTA knows what I know?
Do you, I, I offended him and that was rightfully put in my place.
I had never felt so good be put to be put in my place.
It was, it was great.
I was literally crying from laughter.
It was a magical time on this train.
It was pure energy.
It was great.
So if you're ever in New York, you plan on a trip to New York City,
a soldier train that's definitely on the list of things you got to do,
of course, with the tree and all the touristy stuff, don't get lost in the saucy either.
It's okay to do touristy stuff.
Some people think they're too cool to see touristy things,
but people, there is a reason that these things have become popular.
So don't, don't let your pride get in the way of some really cool, like human ingenuity.
All right.
Let's not, let's not do that.
Have you also know, oh, Mary Lugo Christmas.
What, what is your, I feel like I'm getting better.
This is your favorite Christmas song.
Why?
Think about that or what?
Reflect, this is the best, best week of the year to do a little bit of reflection.
I was on the, another subway story.
I was on, on the subway and there was a Jehovah Witness, not a Jehovah Witness.
Oh gosh.
Out of the same, Mormon, out of the same.
That's what it was.
The latter day of the same on the train.
It was a Monday around 530.
And you know, they were out there proselytizing, trying to get people to go to their church,
which, which, hey, hey, listen, listen, listen.
530 on a Monday, 530 PM, I would say arguably the best time to get someone to switch religions.
So Monday, you just finished the first day of the week of the job.
You probably ate your, your catching people at a week moment there.
So whoever figured that out for the church of Latter-day Saints, good on y'all, man.
Good on y'all.
You guys are strategizing out there.
Hey, but they're going around.
Excuse me, sir.
Would you like to go to church with me?
Or this Sunday?
That's what they would ask.
One of the guys was a really like hip dude, really hip guy, white dude with some really
like trendy glasses.
He looked really hip, super cool.
It was like a mix of Justin Timberlake and Jack Harlow.
If you don't know the reference, it's just two cool white guys from different time periods
put together, curly, blonde hair, really smooth guy.
I'm like, wow, this guy must get a lot of people going to their church.
So he's walking around the train.
He's like, excuse me, sir.
Would you like to go to church with me on Sunday?
And everybody said no.
Everybody said no because that's life, y'all.
That is life.
You go around trying to get people to your church and they're going to tell you no.
But then he got to me.
He goes, excuse me, sir.
Excuse me, sir.
Would you like to go to church with me this Sunday?
And I turned to him.
This is a true story, y'all.
You're bored out there in these streets.
No?
Turn to him after he says, excuse me, sir.
Would you like to go to church on Sunday?
I go to church on Sunday.
I turn to him and go, excuse me, y'all have hoes.
He's like, what?
He's taking it back.
I said, sir, does the church of Latter-day Saints, do y'all have hoes?
He takes a long pause.
I almost crunches up his face like he's thinking.
He goes, I think we have something for you, man.
I think we got a little something like, oh man,
Elder Moss was his name that was on his name tag.
Before he left, I go, hey, Elder Moss, Elder Moss, he's Elder.
I know that's not your first name.
What does Elder mean?
It seems like a position in the church.
And he was like, oh, it means we're missionaries.
And I was like, oh, that's great.
What do you call these doggies-styles in your church?
Oh, wow.
Look at that.
Making stupid little jokes here, guys.
I have him fun.
He did.
I think he took my invite from the church.
He was disappointed at the joke.
He was like, OK, all right, buddy, I see what you're doing.
So there are some characters out here in New York City.
Great neighborhoods.
I was walking through Chinatown one time.
Everybody knows China.
Almost every place kind of has a Chinatown, especially big cities.
And I was talking to this girl on the phone.
This is like dating stuff.
Is anybody else an overshare?
Is anybody else overshare?
I suck at being mysterious with the ladies.
I've gotten that as feedback.
But you just got to find a woman that don't care about mystery.
Mystery is fake.
Mystery is fake news.
It's not a thing.
You just, maybe I'm just hating.
Maybe, all right, all right, guys.
I'm jealous of mysterious guys because I literally can't keep my mouth shut.
This girl goes, hey, what are you doing?
And I go, oh, I'm walking through Chinatown.
And she goes, oh, have you ever gotten a massage from that neighborhood, right?
Chinatown massage.
I'm thinking, hey, Larry, I'm just going to be straight up and tell her.
I go, hey, listen, I've thought about getting a happy ending a bunch of times in my life.
So many times.
But I just can't get over a couple of humps.
The main hump is, I don't because I, you know, I don't want to be getting a happy ending.
And then I'm going to be thinking, wow, two weeks earlier, this lady was probably in the shipping container, right?
Because you find out, they find out later in life that a lot of these sex workers, they're been kidnapped.
There's sex trafficking going on.
That doesn't quite do it for me, right?
Hey, sex trafficking does not give me a boner.
I'm sorry.
I'm just not that kind of guy.
So I can't get over that hump.
But let's just say that I could get over that hump.
And by the way, this is just my thought.
If you go out and get happy endings, dude, you go ahead and do it, bro.
This is America.
You do.
This is the land of opportunity and happy endings if you want them from sea to sea, baby.
All right.
So this is no judgment.
I'm just just riffing here, guys.
And I'm just telling you what I think, but we can all have different different opinions on things.
Respect you.
If you go get a happy ending right after the show, I respect that.
Do you?
Let's say I can't get over the sex trafficking hump and I'm like, all right, I can, you know,
I've heard do this thing.
Another thing that I can't get over is I like to kiss before I have sex.
It's just something I do.
You know, it's part of the whole four play thing.
Like, tell her all of this that I just told you.
Her response was, oh, yeah, I was talking about just a normal, like, back rub or a regular massage.
Jump the gun on that one, y'all.
Jump the gun.
I'll be more mysterious.
She's still talking to me though.
So at least we know that she is super cool.
At least we know that she's super cool.
So I say this to say, I've been in New York for a year.
I know the news has been, you know, portraying us like this is like, you know, I'm post apocalyptic, whatever.
I would say don't let the news brainwash you from a good time, right?
Don't be that person.
Don't let the news brainwash you from a good time.
New York's good to go.
The most you'll see is some homeless people and some crazies.
But as far as like outright crime, I personally haven't seen that.
But we also have to take it to effect.
I'm six feet, 220 pounds.
You know, I don't look like a guy.
I give off undercover cop buy.
So maybe my perspective of the city is a little bit different than, you know, like a woman or maybe a guy that's under 200 pounds or under one foot or an untrained, you know, person.
It could be different.
You don't know.
But I would say that New York passes the vibe check.
If you've been like thinking about doing it, but you're like, ah, the news says dangerous.
I'm out here.
I'm also not liable for anything that happens.
Also, any, any opinions, any opinions expressed during this episode of live with Dr. Andre Jerry are not the, the, the opinions of Dr. Andre Jerry or the Z-man or engineer.
Right.
These are all just me.
This is me right here.
This is the takeover.
The takeover.
All right, we got to, the singing will be done with the singing in a second.
Go.
All right.
We got to start with the singing in a second.
Anybody.
I was, I don't know what the, the listener demographic is, but you guys know what the.
Is.
Is know what the.
Is the.
Is something started by Gen Z or something.
But it's something that we, I think, I think it transcends generations.
This is when women need to get over themselves.
No, no, the, it's actually, it's a thing where a guy can do something very small.
It's not even a red flag.
The guy does something very small.
It turns the woman off where they go, wow, I no longer want to have sex with the guy.
Right.
So this could be the ones I've heard where a man was trying to switch lanes and they wouldn't let him in.
So the girl got the egg.
Watching a guy get knocked out.
That was, that's kind of like, you know, you can see that.
The egg, the egg, what else, what else, what else.
I would say the best example is switching lanes, right?
Cause then I guess I'm conscious of the girls like, wow, this guy, strangers don't even respect this guy.
Why should I respect him?
So that is the egg.
I was thinking, wow, if I was a girl, if I was a girl, what would give me the egg?
And here's what would give me the egg.
If I was a girl and a guy took me out on a date and we went to the ice cream shop.
And we were going to the ice cream shop and he wanted a taste test ice cream at all.
I don't want one, two, three.
Oh, if you're a guy that tastes ice cream and I'm a girl, there's no chance again in these pants, buddy.
I'm sorry.
I need my men to be decisive about their ice cream choices.
Right.
I don't care what you choose.
When you walk in, you go, I already know what I want.
What do you want?
I'm going to go, ooh, ooh, ooh.
I like a man that knows what he wants.
So if I was a girl, that would give me the egg.
Indecisive about ice cream.
Are you trying to get in these, trying to get in this?
Huh?
I don't know.
Huh.
Here's another thing.
Before we were brought together to a commercial break here in a few minutes.
Another thing that bugs me that I'm sure, I think most people would agree with me on this.
What mental illness?
Which mental illness is the one where people keep their keyboard sound on as they're texting the public setting?
I don't know.
I was a couple of friends and they'll be texting and you just hear that.
Like, like, like, like.
You can hear that keyboard.
You can turn that off and setting.
Don't do that.
If you're going to leave anything in 2003, let's leave the keyboard sounds off.
Right.
Bring that into 2024.
Nobody wants to hear.
you're texting your girlfriend as she questions you about,
you know, these panties are these that I found in the car,
right?
Nobody wants to hear you lie to your girlfriend about why you
are, how you didn't cheat on her.
Even though you maybe you did, maybe you did.
You got a little drunk at the holiday party and you didn't,
maybe they physically cheat on her,
but you emotionally cheated and you told some girl at your
office information about your marriage that you probably
shouldn't have. Huh?
Nobody wants to hear that sweet text.
Click, click, click, click, click, click, click, click, click.
Right?
Girlfriend's like, hey, why'd you tell her you were single?
And you're like, I thought she was asking about my tax status.
All right? We're not married.
I filed for taxes and I'm single.
I thought that's what she said.
Nobody wants to hear that lie.
The text message, click, click, click, click, click, click.
Right?
Nobody wants to hear you texting your drug dealer.
Right?
You got your order weed that was supposed to be there at 2pm
or whatever.
And then now it's 11 o'clock at night.
You still don't have your drugs.
Nobody wants to hear that.
So leave that in 2023.
No more keyboard sounds on.
We're checking things off, y'all.
We're checking things off.
No keyboard sounds on.
If I'm ever president, I'm not deporting Mexicans.
I'm not deporting anything.
I'm not, you don't even gotta live here.
No, you don't have to be born here or stay.
I, what do you provide and what do you do for the country?
That's how I would be president.
So people that leave their keyboard sounds on,
y'all are going into internment camps.
Yes.
So they keep the, oh, here's another one.
People that park their cars on the white line
and parking lots, you see it, you don't fix it.
Immediate deportation, no trial.
That's the kind of presidency that I would have.
Those are the kind of people I'm trying to deport.
You come here from somewhere else and you're hardworking.
You don't, you have etiquette when you're out there.
It's gonna be an etiquette-based system.
It is going to be an etiquette-based system.
Vote for me at 2050, Freddie Valoy,
when my comedy career fails and I run for president.
So we are gonna move on.
Don't go anywhere, folks.
Oh, Dr. Andre gave you a script
and I'm really like reading from the script.
Obviously for the riff I just did, that was just
off the top, y'all, all right?
But this transition, hold on, ready?
Don't go anywhere, folks.
We're just heating up.
I would say that we're already cooking at this point.
That's the only thing I would change.
We were already cooking, we were on fire.
Coming up after the break, we died deeper
into our discussion and talked more about blank.
I should fill in that blank.
Actually, when we get back, I have some headlines, right?
A little bit of riff for a little bit
and now I got some headlines that we're gonna read
or not we, I'm gonna read and we'll talk about that.
So stay tuned, because you all wanna miss what's next.
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Waves of sadness from out of nowhere.
Instantly you feel a weight of despair.
A subtle heaviness that leaves you drained.
And a lingering loneliness that remains.
Suddenly, there is no reason to smile.
And then you become angry for a while.
Lashing out at anyone near,
especially the ones you hold dear.
Imprisoned by your own emotions,
unsettled by the lack of control.
Trying to make sense of it all,
meanwhile it takes its toll.
Distancing yourself from family, pushing your friends away,
knowing in your heart that maybe
you'll need their support one day.
As your despondency becomes palpable and more real,
you find it difficult to express how you feel.
So you become quiet and do your best to disguise it.
But there is no denying it.
There is something wrong
because nothing you do feels right.
The sadness is overwhelming, but you're too angry to cry.
Deep into the pit of self-pity you're hurled,
where you realize you're not depressed,
you're mad at the world.
This poem written by Dr. Andre Gerry
is entitled Mad at the World.
From his literary debut,
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My name is Freddie Valour, your guest host for today.
We're going to continue our conversation about blank.
Remember y'all, I'm reading from this script
Oh, so this blank, we're going to switch gears.
I told you some stories about some experiences
in New York City, Christmas time in New York City.
We're going to change gears now.
We're going to change gears on, go to some headlines
that I found on the internet, very big.
And we're going to read through some of these y'all.
So buckle in.
The first one that I found that was weird was a study.
Sniffing women's tears reduces male aggravation
by 44% study fines.
I mean, this is just fellas,
if you're looking for a way to reduce male aggression,
I would say stay away from trying to smell women's tears
unless you got consent.
But this is just, this is a big one
for the Crete bucket right here.
This is, this is creepy sniffing, sniffing women's tears.
I'm just picturing like some dude at the gym going on
road rage and his boys like, hold on, dude, hold on.
He opens up like a vial of his girlfriend's tears.
He's just like, literally like the Hulk.
Is that all the Hulk needed?
Calm down.
Just needed to sniff Betty Ross's tears.
Sniffing women's tears reduces male aggression.
It makes sense though, because I do,
I do sniff the tears, is it the smell of the tears?
Cause I think just a woman in general crying
does something to a man.
It makes you go, oh, what is happening?
Like for most men, if you're not crazy,
it breaks you down a little bit,
it makes you stop and go, what is happening?
It is the full stop.
That's why some women use it as manipulation
and they'll cry, not be held accountable for something
which is crap.
Imagine a guy doing that, a grown man doing that.
That would be so funny.
We would make fun of him as we should.
Should jump him.
If a guy's crying, cause he's been logically cornered
in an argument, that would just be ridiculous.
A lot of people don't like the double standard,
but I do.
You pro double standard between men and women.
Some people are like, well, they get to do this.
It's like, yeah, but then there's also things
that we get to do.
It is way better to be a dude.
I'm sorry.
It is like, we don't get periods,
we gotta get pregnant.
It is so much easier being a dude and I love that.
I love that.
I don't have anything to prove as a guy.
If we do as a man, but me personally,
be around women sometimes and they'll try to
be into an argument of like,
women are so much smarter than men.
I'm like, yeah, that's fine. I don't care.
I don't care if you're a smarter.
Who cares if you're smarter?
That would be funny to see a guy just crying,
just having a temper tantrum,
trying to have an adult conversation.
And I'm obviously not all women are like that,
but it is a tool that you guys have.
Women evolutionarily are just better at manipulation
than guys are.
Guys are just, they're right for the taking,
especially today, dude.
Can't, don't try to compete with a woman
on the mental games, dog.
They play the long game, dog.
Obviously these are unhealed people.
Most people are unhealed, so we're generalizing here.
But yeah, don't get into a mind game with the lady.
It's, they've had years of evolution.
We're just now starting to get better.
Dudes are just starting to go to therapy now.
Dudes are just starting to go to therapy.
And if you're not going to therapy, I highly recommend it.
Highly recommend it, it makes you super man.
If you're into personal development,
if you're into getting better as a person,
I highly recommend therapy.
Especially if you're single because going to therapy
will get you some, you know,
will get you in bed with some ladies.
What was a lot of people on whatever you're into, right?
Whatever you're into, there's people out there
that like therapy is a turn on,
especially depending on what pocket
the people you hang out with.
But let's just say you don't even want to tell
the world that you're doing therapy.
Just the benefits from it,
you'll be able to control your emotions,
not get triggered, not get emotionally hijacked by things.
It is great.
10 out of 10 recommend therapy.
And also you might get a little boozy.
You know what I'm saying?
Come on, come on.
By the same token now.
All right, ladies, by the same token,
when a man tells you,
because there's a lot of women right now that love,
like when they hear about a guy goes to therapy,
they love that.
I told the girl from that, this guy goes to therapy
and she like almost fell to the ground.
She was like, oh my God, that's so hot.
I'm like, get up, you dummy.
Like you didn't even ask any follow up question.
Right, so ladies, when a guy tells you,
if you're into that,
the guy tells you he's going to therapy,
make sure you just follow up with some questions, right?
When was the last time you went?
How often does he go?
Ask him to send you a copy of an invoice or something
or a screenshot of the telehealth medicine
because you can do therapy on your phone now and it works.
So just ask some follow up questions
because these F boys, these fuck boys are evolving.
I'm gonna say F boy,
I'm trying to keep the cursing to a minimum,
mostly happy, but the F boys are evolving out here.
Men still lie and it's just,
this is liars and then women lie too, right?
Some people tell you they're pregnant when they're not,
just so they can get extra $400, right?
It's a cold world out there.
Y'all keep your head on a swivel, okay?
Keep your head on a swivel.
The ladies make sure to ask
and follow up questions on therapy.
So snitching women's tears can reduce male aggression
or just go to therapy, less weird.
If you have a tear plug, if you have a tear dealer,
if you got somebody selling tears on the black market,
let me know, because I would like to test this out for myself.
I'm always down for like little relaxing things.
I look at this as maybe like an essential oil type thing,
right?
You carry it in a vial, you open it up,
people believe in essential oils.
And some people are like, oh, it's bullshit,
but like it's placebo, but placebo like works.
I think it was like a 78%.
Don't fact check me on it.
Actually do fact check on these numbers,
but it was a pretty high number
on how effective placebo effect is.
And people bring that up as if it's bad.
I'm like, yo, who works at works?
It just goes to show you how the mind is a powerful thing.
So make sure you protect that, you know?
Protect that mind of yours.
Okay, moving on to the next headline.
An unaccompanied six-year-old child put on the wrong
spirit airlines flight.
Okay, all right.
I get that kids have it easy nowadays.
I get that they, you know, they don't have much adversity
to overcome because of modernization and things like that.
But this is an interesting exercise.
Putting your kid an unaccompanied minor,
you know, they do that.
I used to do that when I used to take trips
to the Dominican Republic.
My mom would drop us off at the airport
and like one of the flight attendants would make sure
that we get to like the next person
down in the Dominican Republic on a company minor.
But they are accompanied by the airline.
So,
they're airlines?
Come on.
Come on, y'all.
I vote we call CPS on this family.
Who the hell puts their kid unaccompanied
on a spirit airline flight?
I don't think this is on spirit.
Our airlines, they lost the kid,
an unaccompanied six-year-old child,
but on wrong spirit airlines flight.
Yeah.
Yeah, no, no, you don't, you don't,
how do you trust spirit airlines with your kids?
I vote we take the kids away.
Let's read this.
According to CNN, an unaccompanied six-year-old child
flying on spirit airlines to visit his grandmother
in Fort Myers, Florida,
was instead put on a flight to Orlando.
The child was under the care and supervision
of a spirit team member.
And as soon as we discovered the error,
we took immediate steps to communicate with the family
and reconnect them.
No, that is crazy.
After the plane was initially supposed to be on,
landed on her grandson, it wasn't on it.
Holy shit, that is crazy.
How is spirit airlines still going?
Is it really that?
People in, and, you know,
I guess people need affordable flights, you know?
That's one thing Europe has figured out, man.
They got that Ryanair,
which I guess is the spirit of Europe.
Maybe sounds like it's a little better,
but flights are cheap.
Even here, train tickets are expensive.
Train tickets are about as much as plane tickets.
Everything's just getting higher, but, you know,
Biden inflation is another episode that we might do.
If you, you know, that might be another episode
on a company six-year-old.
That's not happening.
Let's call CPS, let's move on to the next story.
All right, here's a little,
I got this from psychology facts on Instagram.
Kissing for one minute burns 26 calories.
That's a lot of calories.
What kind of kiss on are you doing in one minute?
Is this like aggressive, like,
like young people kissing, like, oh, oh,
did you make it noises like that?
Kissing for one minute burns 26 calories.
I wonder how many calories twerking burns.
That has to, you know, dry rain your hips like that
and throwing that thing around, as they say.
That has to burn a few calories.
It really does.
I mean, you know, that has to,
kissing for one minute burns 26 calories.
That's crazy.
That means you could burn like, oh,
I'm getting into quick math and I,
already I was gonna disassociate.
I feel like if you kiss for an hour,
then that seems like a good amount of calories,
let alone any of the other stuff you can do, right?
All right, moving on, moving on.
You got it here.
Couple's goals.
Question mark.
Cameron Diaz says separate bedrooms
should be normalized in relationships.
Okay.
I agree with Cameron, but I didn't initially, okay?
I agree with this because when I first heard of this,
you told me what it told me this eight years ago.
Yeah, like five years ago.
You sleep in separate bedrooms.
I'm thinking these people don't love each other.
They're already reneging on their vows.
They, you know, these people,
they, this was a business proposition for them.
There's no love in this marriage.
That's what I would, that's what I would,
that's what I would think.
But a lot of guys, I spoke to a friend and she was getting
bad sleep, sleeping with her partner in the same room.
So they started sleeping in separate rooms.
Her snoring was keeping him up.
She couldn't sleep.
She was having terrible sleep for days on end, weeks on end.
And when you don't, when you,
when you have terrible sleep for that long,
that many days in a row, you become a different person.
Become a different person.
Sleep is so freaking important.
You know, you want to get your six to eight hours in, right?
Your sleep is off.
It's like, it's like having a sniper rifle in the scopes off.
It's like, you're shot, no matter how, you know,
you got to, you got to adjust for shitty sleep
and do different things, you know?
So I'm, so, so, so now I'm on board.
I'm like, Cameron Diaz, I'm with you separate bedroom
should be normalized.
I'd rather my partner get good sleep.
So they still love me later on, you know?
They don't turn into a different person.
What do you think, listen, would you sleep in separate bedroom?
When was the last time you got kicked out
and I had to sleep on the couch
because you said something you shouldn't have said
to white over the girlfriend, huh?
Let's reflect back on that one.
So I agree with you, Cameron Diaz.
She came out of hiding to let us know that.
It's good to see you're still alive.
She kind of looks the same too.
Good for her.
Moving on.
All right, this next, all right, I'm gonna challenge you.
I'm gonna challenge you to listen to this next headline
and not respond like a child, but I bet you can't.
I bet you can't, this one's a classic.
Ready?
The James Webb telescope captures new images of Uranus.
Come on.
The James Webb telescope captures new images of Uranus.
How's it looking these days, y'all?
Some of us try to be slick too.
I'll pronounce it Uranus.
They just sound like, you know, like classy,
but also like not to say Uranus,
but I saw this and I had to include it in
because I'm a silly man child, y'all.
Hey, listen, Uranus is looking good over here.
I'm looking at the pictures.
I know this is your radio, but just take my words for it,
y'all, Uranus is looking nice.
This thing is high def.
There's other things around Uranus.
There's other little like sparkles
and other galaxies right around, not a galaxy.
I think there is a galaxy.
Yeah, I'm seeing a whole other galaxy,
not too far from Uranus.
This is crazy.
So look, we cover a little bit of space in this episode too.
We cover the relationships, New York City, sniffing tears.
Now we're covering Uranus, y'all.
Look at that, look at all the stars,
all the glitz and the glam around that yam.
Ah, bad.
All right.
Let's see.
How's Uranus doing, y'all?
Boom, all right, moving on.
Research says, we're going into some relationships stuff here,
research says that over 50% of women
have a backup partner in mind.
I mean, this is kind of a given, right?
There's always somebody out there trying to take your girl.
There's always, even if she doesn't consciously
have a backup, subconsciously she does,
because once again, talking about the evolution of women,
they have been, have evolved to move on.
Because for a long time throughout history,
a lot of men died in wars.
A lot of men died in war.
So to keep the DNA, to keep the information,
genetic information moving on,
women had to find ways to cope to like find another husband
to take care.
This is like for most of history because of war.
So I would say this research of 50%,
there's probably even more,
I had to guess with that backup partner in mind,
because you gotta survive.
You gotta survive.
Ever look at like the woman you're with
or the girl you're with or somebody you wanna be with
and think, oh, I wanna start a family with it.
It's almost like for a breeding purpose.
I like the way she takes groceries in on one trip.
That's what I wanna start a family with.
That's the kind of woman I want.
Woman that in a pinch she can bring in groceries on her own.
I saw a video on Instagram,
this lady brought in her own groceries
to where she had to use her head to close the trunk.
And she did it successfully.
Didn't get her hair caught in the trunk
or anything like that.
And I saw that, I was like,
that lady's not gonna be single for long.
That's someone you wanna start a family with.
All right.
That's someone you wanna start a family with.
Let's see, let's do some more headlines here, y'all.
How y'all doing?
Are y'all still with me?
Some people like a solo thing
and others are like, what is going on?
And I totally understand it.
I guess so.
Oh, Mary little Christmas.
What's up? This is the last week.
We're in between Christmas and New Year's.
This is International Waters, y'all.
International Waters.
So I'm gonna go through some advice.
We're gonna end here with some advice
from a relationship account on Instagram called Tinder Platinum.
It says never ever bore her.
So if you're a guy listening to this,
maybe you'll get some advice.
And if you're a woman listening to this, I would like to,
I guess I can't know because we don't do callers,
but keep it to yourself and be like,
oh, this actually would work, this should not.
Now, please know that I'm going blind into this post.
I haven't read through this.
And my history with this account,
because sometimes I'll say things
and I'm like, dude, you're way off the money.
And I'll start off disagreeing with him
and sometimes agree.
So I don't really know.
I don't know.
I don't sometimes agree.
So I don't really know what I'm walking into here.
So we're gonna see how, how to never bore a girl.
Here we go, how to never bore her.
When you approach her, do not get into interview mode
where you just ask questions.
You don't want to bore her and make her lose her
the little interest he has when you approach her.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
You gotta be funny, maybe a little self-deprecating,
maybe poke fun at her or something like that.
Going into 60 minutes with whoever you are.
But also all of this stuff is all just practice.
Because after being in a relationship for 10 years
and getting back into the dating world,
there were some definite lumps.
And I was a person that like,
didn't really have issues getting women,
but like after you're out the game for 10 years,
you don't do something for 10 years, you lose the skill.
And if you're single and you're like,
how do I go out there and I, you know, put myself out there?
You literally just go put yourself out there.
Start by waving at women,
start by complimenting something, not their body.
You can compliment their hair or like a dress
if they're wearing it, but don't make it too sexual.
Make it like fun, like you're kind of like the semi-gay
from be like, hey girls, the colors on that dress are popping.
Like make it fun, make it like hearted.
Don't like stare down the barrel of her eyes
and be like those, that's a nice skirt you have there.
You know, read the room.
I'm going to interview Moe, be fun, be someone she's like,
oh, be someone that she wants to go,
oh wow, I wanna go have a coffee with that guy.
I wanna go sit on his lap or whatever women think
when someone's hit on them.
The next piece to not bore her,
you just, you don't just directly get to her and say,
hey, I'm blank, what's your name?
Oh, whoa, I usually just go with that,
but in this case, she's gonna be like,
why would I care if your name or blank or ABC?
All right, and why should I tell you who I am?
I disagree with that.
You can go up and go, just be honest.
I would say approaching a woman being vulnerable.
Hey, listen, I know this is weird.
I'm a nervous myself.
My name is Freddie, what's your name?
I would love to take you out.
That's it.
Not everybody's gonna say yes,
but some people will and when they do,
you're gonna completely forget about all the people
that say no.
If you're listening to this and you're like,
I gotta put myself out there,
this is your sign from the universe
to put yourself out there.
This guess, if anything, this guess takeover
was only for the sole purpose to get you back out there
and into the street to help you with that heartbreak.
If I did it, you can, all right?
I know you can.
Moving on to the next, how not to bore her.
He says, be the guy.
Be the guy who approaches women for his own fun.
Be the guy who doesn't care if she'll give her number or not.
Be the guy who is humorous,
knows well about his surroundings and notices, right?
Reads the room.
Yeah, if you can get to the place mentally
where you don't care if you get her number or not,
you're in a good spot.
And the way I would frame that in your head
is instead of being like,
I'm gonna go out and get a girlfriend.
Or I'm gonna go out and I'm going to get a girl's number.
Don't think about it like that.
Instead be like, I'm gonna get rejected by five women.
Oh, but get rejected by five women,
but like you're trying to get her number,
but your goal is to get rejected.
Which means you just gotta approach
and be a halfway decent human being.
Fellows, the bar is so low for men right now.
Men are having a rebuilding year these past couple of years
and it was just good.
It happened, right?
Women had to come up.
I was necessary.
I feel like there's gonna be another swing coming along
because like we do, we adapt, we overcome.
But I do think,
yeah, you wanna go in there thinking,
I'm trying to get rejected by five women today.
That's a good mindset to be in
because you don't wanna let the inevitable failure,
quote unquote, and it's not really failure,
get to you to where you just go back to your home
and now you're recluse.
You've gotta put yourself out there.
And what kind of energy are you giving off?
Are you taking care of yourself? You're sleeping?
Are you washing your ass, huh?
I get some kind of physical activity, right?
If you do walk at least for an hour a day,
like what kind of energy are you putting out there?
Be cognizant of that.
Doesn't care, approaches women if it's fun.
Humorous, yeah.
Moving on to the next one, your approach to girl.
Okay, be calm and confident while approaching women.
This is hard.
This, this one's too, man.
It's not my try to approach women in the cold.
And it is not cool to be talking
when it's like 15 degrees out.
You're like, hey, what's going on?
It is not, yeah, it is not a good feeling.
It doesn't make you feel powerful.
It's not loose.
Literally you're just like tight and bunched up.
And then ladies like, okay,
someone's got to really see through
to see the good person you are to overcome that.
But yes, be calm and confident while approaching women.
How?
What the guy says,
keep in mind that there's lots of them.
There are.
Is it the funny way to word it?
Not every woman would like you, very true.
If she doesn't show interest in you,
she's gonna miss the fun.
She'll get along with you.
Yeah, sometimes are you a fun person?
You're a fun person, that's the case.
Relax your anxiety by saying it's just practice.
Yeah, know what they say in sales.
A no is just one step closer to a yes.
Ha, ha, ha.
A no is just one step closer to a yes.
So I'll remember that.
Be respectful, but be adventurous yourself.
And if yourself isn't working,
change yourself a little bit.
Just change yourself as a tad bit.
We all, we're all in the process of changing ourselves.
We're all evolving, we're all growing.
Just do that in a way where a woman might wanna,
you know, spend a couple hours with you.
Maybe steps, right?
Act in a way that a woman wanna give you her number, right?
Then if you can't get past the number point,
like past the first date, then act in a manner
that gets you the second date.
What does that mean?
I don't know.
I'm just getting you started on your journey.
So maybe I have a friend that's a guy friend
that's down in the dump, send him this
or have him subscribe to my podcast Fred Donner.
F-R-E-D-T-A-L-K, one word.
It's a relationship podcast.
Today I gave you a medley of what the podcast entails.
I usually cover some headline, some relationship advice,
also go through some stories and whatnot.
And just, you know, keeping you guys interested.
So sadly, our time together has come to an end.
I'm reading off the script again, guys.
By the way, I love this.
Shout out to Dr. Andre Jerry for being very polished.
I'm a mess, fly by the seat of my pants.
So I'm loving this.
This script reading is fun.
So sadly, our time has come together and come to an end.
But before we go, I want to extend my gratitude
to Dr. Andre Jerry for the opportunity
to guest host this incredible radio show.
Thank you to our listeners for tuning in
and being an active part of today's engaging discussion.
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This is Freddie Beloit signing off.
Thank you and have a great evening.
I'm going back to Saudi, Saudi, Saudi.
I'm going back to Saudi, wasted.