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Dr. Jerry, you got the whole world waiting.

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Been ready for you to start the conversation.

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No point of view, we got the haters confused.

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Leave it up to you to bring us all the good news.

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Positive vibes and the sex appeal too.

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Dr. Andre Jerry, can I get an interview?

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Hello everybody, good evening and thank you for joining me

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for a special holiday edition of Live with Dr. Andre Jerry.

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Listen, I hope each and every one of you have been enjoying your loved ones

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this holiday season, keeping an attitude of gratitude,

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and remembering those who may be away from their loved ones right now.

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Shout out to our deployed active duty military and civilian personnel

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who are protecting our freedoms abroad.

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We sincerely appreciate the sacrifices you guys are making on behalf of our great country.

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And let's also keep in mind those who may have lost loved ones this year

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and may be grieving a loss this holiday.

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Our prayers are with you and we're sending thoughts of peace and comfort your way.

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Last but not least, I want to send a special shout out to our incarcerated loved ones

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who often feel, I'm sure, forgotten and discarded during the holidays.

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If you're listening, I want to remind you that you are not forgotten.

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You're in our hearts and you're loved.

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Listen, I'm glad you all are tuning in for tonight's show

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because we're capping off this year with an awesome interview that I know you guys will enjoy.

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So before I introduce tonight's guest, I want to take a brief moment to express appreciation

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to my engineer Z-Man for everything he does behind the scenes to make my show a success.

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A big thank you to each one of my guests that have appeared on the show this year.

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And of course, much love to my audience for your listenership

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and your support of the Artist First Network.

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So now, as promised, we have a very entertaining show this evening.

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For anyone who knows the real Andre and putting aside the doctor title and all of that for a moment,

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I'm a very silly guy. I like to laugh. I like to sometimes make inappropriate jokes,

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record funny skits and send them to my friends, you know, anything comedy related,

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which is why I was super excited to book my next guest for the final show of the year.

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Now, my next guest is a rare native New Yorker with a southern charm and a flair for making people laugh.

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He's made a huge name for himself in the stand-up comedy circuit in the Raleigh-Durham and Charlotte,

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North Carolina area and has performed in numerous comedy venues along the East Coast.

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He's also the host of Date Live with Freddie Valoy, a really interesting dating show

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where viewers get to slide into contestants' DMs.

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He's also the host of his own podcast, Fred Talk, which was recently nominated for a Comedy Award.

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So please help me welcome the rom-com Don himself, Mr. Freddie Valoy. Freddie, welcome to the show, man.

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Thanks for having me, Dr. Andre. I appreciate it. Thank you.

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No problem, man. Listen, the pleasure is all mine. I'm excited to finally have you on the show.

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It feels like we have been planning it forever, but the good thing is after tonight,

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you'll probably only get one DM from me instead of 12 each week.

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Thanks for putting up with my perfectionist behavior. And again, thanks for putting us in your date book.

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We really appreciate it, man.

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No, you did a good job. You're very thorough and you teed it up perfectly. So I'm ready.

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All right. Well, let's get started. Well, listen, the first thing I want to do is congratulate you

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on your recent nominations for the 22 Raleigh Comedy Awards.

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Your podcast, Fred Talk, was nominated for Best Podcast or Radio Show,

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and your stand-up show at Nickel Point Brewery, which you co-produced alongside Tyler Wood,

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was nominated for Best Independent Show. And somehow, you also managed to get nominated for Best Dressed Comedian.

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Now, that's why I think some funny shit is going on because either you're banging someone on the nomination committee

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or one of these people has some type of Hawaiian shirt fetish.

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I'm with you, Dr. Andre. Listen, I don't put much thought into what I wear.

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If it has a floral print and some short shorts and some band, and that's where I'm going.

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So I have no idea how I was nominated.

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Right. No, but seriously though, at least two of those nominations are well deserved.

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So I'm sure you'll get at least one, if not more, awards tomorrow. It's tomorrow, right?

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Yeah, it is tomorrow, tomorrow night, the awards. I'll let you know. I'll DM you and let you know how it goes.

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Okay, awesome. I voted for you yesterday, so hopefully you'll do well tomorrow.

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But yeah, excited to hear about how you're doing.

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So look, before we get into your comedy exploits, why don't you tell our listeners a little bit about yourself,

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your backstory, and what kind of got you interested in comedy?

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Yeah, yeah, backstory. I'm from Yonkers, New York. For those of you that don't really know what Yonkers is,

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if you've heard of DMX, Mary J. Blige, Steven Tyler, they all came from Yonkers.

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And actually, Mary J. Blige and Steven Tyler went to the same high school as I had been, Roosevelt High School,

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which is kind of cool. I feel like that's a little sign. I feel like I'm right in the middle of that, you know what I'm saying, personality-wise.

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So yeah, after high school, I moved to North Carolina, where I've spent about the same time. I've been here about 18 years.

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And I started comedy five years ago. I was in the midst of depression, probably at my lowest point in life.

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And I was like, I got to try something new. And I was listening to Bill Burr's podcast,

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and one of his listeners wrote in for some advice. And they asked, you know, how do you start stand-up comedy?

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He said, write five minutes and hit an open mic. And up until that point, I had no idea that that's how you start comedy.

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I thought you had to like go to some kind of school, know some people that do somebody. I had no idea.

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And I was like, you know what? That's all I got to do. You know, people told me my whole life that I'm funny.

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I was like, let me go see if that's true. So I did. I went to an open mic. I did pretty good, especially for my first set.

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And yeah, after that, I mean, it was it. I just kept going up almost, you know, multiple times a week.

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And yeah, so now now now we're here. You know, about two years in was where I decided I was like, I think I can do this.

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I think I can go for this and try to make it a professional thing. So wow. So this all started with depression and a five minute sit.

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That's what that is. Yeah, yeah. That might be the name of my first special.

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Now I don't think about it. I take it. So I feel like you were a class clown in school. Is that true?

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Yes, I was. But but I didn't know that. Yeah, I didn't know that until later because everybody in my high school is funny.

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It was just it was my high school was wild. Yeah, I was a class clown. But what saved me was I had really good grades.

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I graduated 16th in my class in high school. So like, you know, and I knew when to say the jokes.

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And then I didn't know. So years later, when I started comedy, people from my high school started hitting me up and they were like, oh, we just make so much sense that you're doing this.

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You were one of the funniest dudes in high school. I was like, damn, I didn't I didn't know it was that funny.

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You know, and they were like, now you're definitely like top five. And I was like, wow, I didn't even think I was top 20.

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So, yeah, it just kind of all made sense. It was one of those things where you, you know, you listen to the universe kind of thing and it just feels right.

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You just got to keep going with it. Wow. It kind of mirrors my story a little bit.

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So I was the nerd coming up in school and then something happened. I think after 10th grade or something like that, I got really get got really the glasses and started dressing a little better.

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And one of the teachers said something to me in class. I can't remember what I said to her, but apparently the class thought it was hilarious.

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And that was kind of like my first taste of popularity. And so ever since that moment, every class, everybody will look to me to say something just.

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And so it just became this like thing. And so I went from making A's and B's to making C's and D's because I got so caught up in the popularity.

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I mean, when you go from being the nerd and all that, people are like switching the flip and girls are liking you and they're, come on, Dre, what are you going to say?

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10th grade through 12th grade just couldn't tell me a damn thing. So that's good.

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I like that. It is a lot of power being being the funny guy, you know, when they're looking to you to bring some levity. So I can see why you went from A's and B's to C's and D's. It's too much fun.

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I think I feel like I have like pent up jokes and just stuff inside me because I don't know if you went through this, but my grandma was kind of mean.

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And so she would either fuzz at us or threaten to whoop us if we if we laugh. Did you go through that at all?

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Yes, but yes, but I never stopped making jokes. I never saw I used to prank my grandmother and get my and get my butt whoopens. It was it was worth it.

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So listen, there's like a general sentiment out there and I feel this way too. You can correct me if I'm wrong.

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That comedians kind of derive their skill from personal pain or trauma. What are your thoughts on that?

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And do you use past trauma or personal pain to kind of fuel your creativity when you're on stage?

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Yeah, so I do agree with that. It does. It's at least true enough where I mean, I don't even know eight or nine out of 10 comedians I know have just had crazy past.

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Typically, it makes you more creative because you got you got to figure things out and you got to process.

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I definitely could agree with that. It definitely like when I talk about my past, I grew up before my father went to prison.

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He was very abusive to my mother and all that. So the those formative years that like, you know, age like from ages like, you know, newborn to eight years old was very chaotic time for me.

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And that's very important in like child development and all that. So I think that's where I got a lot of this ADHD funny guy flighty personality from. And then I, you know, I started molding it through like middle school and high school and stuff like that.

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Wow. They tried to put that on me to that ADHD stuff and put me on really. That's when really first came out or was really hot. So any kid that had any type of behavior issue or was just showing out in class, they just wanted to just kind of blanket, put ADHD on them and prescribe them.

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And, you know, that stuff just kind of made me a zombie didn't really do anything. I think I still acted a fool even in my zombie state. But yeah, it's interesting that we kind of both had the same thing going on.

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Yeah, they prescribed me adderall like in my late 20s. I was on it for a couple of years. But then, you know, like you said, it changes. It changed my favorite part about me, my ability to connect with people, my ability to like make people laugh.

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It just made me kind of like almost like it was just like a robot like I was the next. What am I doing? It was I turned to like a very short, irritable person. I didn't like it. So I got off. And if I just if I work out and meditate that, you know, helps me manage a lot of the crazy.

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So you seem like the meditate type.

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Oh, I meditate almost I would say almost every day. Yeah. 20 minutes while meditating the sauna. I do cold showers, cold plunges if I can get my hands on anything because all that stuff just helps, you know, hone in the crazy energy.

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Yeah, yeah, I don't know if I can do the cold showers. I've never taken an ice bath either. That just seems like it's just painful. But I definitely do meditate now. I started maybe six months ago, and I started out with five minutes and then I worked my way up to 10 and now I'm at 15.

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And I just stuck with it. It was crazy at first. I mean, you get all types of thoughts come into your, your head and it's just so hard to quiet your mind. It requires a discipline. So you get better with it over time. Definitely. Definitely. Absolutely. Yeah, that's why. Yeah. So they call it a meditation practice. And you did a good move by starting with the five minutes.

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Because a lot of people think they need to commit to the 20 or whatever. And they're just like, I can't do it. I can't calm my brain. I'm like, you can't do five minutes, start with one minute then one minute will get you there. Meditation gives you that that extra one or two seconds before you flip that flip out on somebody. You know what I'm saying? Again, it really does. It really helps in this crazy world.

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It really does help ground you. And I feel bad for people who have kids and stuff like that and have like these crazy hectic households and schedules. It's like, I don't know how they're going to find time, but you can always do it in the car. It doesn't always have to be. I go into my closet, you know, so it kind of doubles as a meditation room or prayer room. It gives me that, that ambiance. And sometimes I use the white noise app from my cell phone, but it definitely helps. And I think 20 minutes is a good round trip.

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Good round number. I don't think I'll try to go beyond that. But yeah, it's definitely helpful. Now I want to talk about since you've been in comedy for a few years now, I kind of want to learn what your process is before a show.

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Do you sit out and write things out like a script and then, you know, test it out on stage or do you kind of just have in your mind what you're going to say and just recall it once you're on stage?

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No, I do the latter. I don't write anything down. I tried writing when I first started, but I found that when I was on stage, because I have a photographic memory, I was just kind of reading it off the paper that I wrote it off in my head.

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So it took me out of the moment. For the last few years, I just go up on stage with a thought and I just start riffing. I just, you know, let it out and I record my sets and I keep the funny stuff and I edit where I can and I'll just keep riffing on it.

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But my goal for next year is I would like to put pen to paper, just to give it another shot to see if maybe now I have the tools now to be able to write while still being present on stage.

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So everybody does it differently too. Bill Byrd doesn't write anything. Patrice O'Neill didn't write anything, but then there's like, you know, George Carlin wrote pen to paper. I don't think Richard Pryor would put pen to paper.

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Yeah, so it just depends on what type of comic you are. I see. I think if I eventually I'm going to try stand up comedy, I think I'll start off with a five minute sit and see if I get booed and just, you know, even if I get booed, I'm gonna come back and try it again.

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I've just always wanted to try that. But I think I would have to write my shit down. I think I would be terrified if I got up there not knowing what I'm going to say and, you know, God forbid you make a, not a gaffe, but like this awkward silence for a couple of seconds.

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Like boo, get off of you. You know, I don't have to write my stuff down. But when you have a joke that you are testing and it doesn't quite land, do you just toss it or do you go back and retool it? What do you do?

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I tried a few times before I toss it. If it doesn't work in like the first five sets, maybe I'll put it aside because it also could be like there's some jokes from my first year that I tried that weren't funny.

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That when I came back, you know, a few years later, I had the tools to make it funny because maybe it was a little too like too much of a traumatic thing that it was hard to make funny on stage. But yeah, I, I, I, I, I just lost.

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I just lost my place. Yeah. Yeah. I worked through it and I give it about a week. If not, then I'll set it aside. But as a bit grows, I just keep adding just to make it funny. Typically they say you want to laugh like every seven to 15 seconds ish.

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It could be longer if the laugh at the end is bigger, you know, there's no absolute. But yeah, as long as I get consistent laughter, or I'm like just in the pocket, I don't mind a little silence. That's another level of stand up that I just figured out probably a year or two ago.

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Just getting comfortable in the silence and giving myself room to create more. So, you know, I have my set, you know, right now I got about 30 I got about 40 minutes or so. And I, you know, I know the jokes. I know the punchline. But every time I go up on stage, I allow myself room to maybe add some tags or add to the joke in the moment on stage.

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So there's a little bit of improvisation. And it just helps me be more it feels more like president in the moment, because it gets tough when you're rocking the same set and you feel like you're trapped in it. Right. You kind of lose you lose the feeling and then the crowd can feel that too.

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Right. So you kind of use a good mix of strategies when you're on stage, it sounds like and you're really big into engaging the audience and asking questions, right?

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Yes, I like to ask questions. I'm cool with crowd work. I'm cool with, you know, actually. It's scary.

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Yeah, and I've always wanted, you know, I was always afraid when I went to comedy clubs, I was afraid to sit too close to the front because it's always that one comic that wants to drag you into their bit.

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It's like, dude, I just want to sit here and drink and listen and I don't comment on my fucking shirt and don't ask me any questions. I just want to laugh. But I think it's good. You do it in a way where it actually kind of is well incorporated into your bit.

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And it's questions that are interesting and won't piss a lot of people off. So I like the way you use it as a strategy.

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No, yeah, I like to I like to keep it fun up there. I want to be I want to be silly. You know, I don't want to make anybody feel uncomfortable. There was one one time I had a heckler one of my bits.

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It's on the more sexual and and she was like, did she just did not like it. The whole crowd was feeling it. They were laughing and she kept talking out loud.

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Like if you don't like something about a comedy show, you just don't say anything. But she kept talking and I tried to ignore her and she kept going. So finally, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, lady, what are you doing? You're short circuiting out here.

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Like she just she just kept like shaking her head. And then she was like, I don't she was like, I don't like what you're talking about.

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Okay, we'll get the fuck out. Yeah. Yeah. So I finally was like, all right, well, what do you like to do in bed? And and the whole she's like in the middle. She's in the middle of the audience and the whole everybody just turns to her.

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And she just got quiet and I was like, if you want to talk, we can keep talking. And everyone started clapping and I got out of that one. That was probably one of my best.

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I love it. Yeah. Man, isn't it incredible how hecklers have like become such a prominent fixture in comedy and even in politics, especially over the years. I feel like, okay, so I feel like the most famous heckler of all time now is Will Smith.

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I mean, there's nothing he can do after this that will overshadow that moment with Chris Rock. He could go on the moon and film a movie and we would still be like, but why you slap that man though?

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Yeah. Yeah. He, he, he just posted somewhere. He was today. I saw he's like in Antarctica or something like that. I'm like, he's really trying to get back in the good graces. But yeah, you're not going to forget, sir. No. Yeah. Yeah.

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Especially the way he did it because he laughed at the joke. And then all of a sudden he looked at his wife and he was like, oh, I gotta, you know, I gotta do this. But why like why slap Chris Rock? He's like 5'2", 130 pounds.

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The whole thing was weird. Yeah. I just thought it was so messed up and he needs to get out of that toxic marriage. He really does. He knew that she was funny and then he looked over her and she's going to have that scowl.

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We were just going to have to talk about that at home. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Let me just, yeah. He just, he didn't want to get in trouble. I've, you know, I've seen it before. If you get with the wrong woman, that will put you in compromise in a situation.

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Right. And you know, a close second to Will Smith would be that heckler who threw a beer can at, what was her name? Was it Ariel? Elias or something like that? Yes. Yes. Would you not have fucked him up? I mean, the show would have been over.

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Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. 100%. And I was a division one wrestler. I was a cage fighter for a little bit. Like I'm like, I feel like I just did that to train me for hecklers in case they try to rush me on the stage. Oh my God.

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I don't, I don't understand hecklers. Like who in the hell goes to a comedy show with the intent to be an asshole? And I don't buy that. Oh, they were drunk. Alcohol. I feel like it just amplifies who you already are. And I think it was a guy that did this. And you're going to throw a full beer can at a young lady who's just out there trying to live her dream and make people laugh. Like what? That's so messed up.

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And she, and she was so nice about it too. She was like, Hey, we're all here together. I don't care who you voted for, you know, things like that. And she was, you know, she, I guess she voted for Trump, the lady in the crowd. And I'm like, man, typically that side is complaining about people that can't take jokes. And now you're out here throwing beer cans. Come on.

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Right. Wow. It was crazy. I think my natural reflex would have been of course to duck the can, but immediately after that would have ran into the crowd. Yeah. Yeah. Especially if I could see who did it, but it just would have been on the jokes would have stopped. It just, I feel like, okay. I feel like nowadays every single comedian has to have this heckler procedure kind of locked in loaded. Do you have one in terms of, you know, definitively what you're going to do? Do you know where is the line for you?

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So my, for me, anything like that high stakes situation, I just gotta be present. I can't be thinking about what I'm going to say. I just gotta be present and listen. And then typically things will come. So I'll ask questions. And from there, I'll find like my point where I can make it funny and also make sure that the crowds on my side.

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Like if you're having a good show and somebody bothers it, that makes it very easy because they're like, come on, you know, we're out here having a good time. He tried to give you a chance. So they're on your side and the crowds not on your side. Then you got, you just got a lot of work to do. But for me, it's just, I just gotta be present. Even when I go on stage and typically it works itself out. Yeah. Yeah. Totally agree.

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So I want to kind of switch gears and talk about your podcast because I listened to a few episodes. It's a really great, great podcast. It's very entertaining. It's funny as hell. How long have you been doing your show and kind of what gravitated you toward this particular platform in addition to the standup show that you do?

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Yeah, so it's been running about four years now and I jumped on it because that was, uh, you know, a lot of comedians at the time. I think I started in 2015, I believe something like that. Oh man. Uh, 2018 and comedians had podcasts and I was like, I throughout my life, I've just been in these situations.

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Before even podcasts existed, whatever, well, I'll be talking to a stranger, having a really good conversation either on a plane train, whatever. And I would end my head. I would think, damn, I wish I could, I wish I could have had this recorded. This is an awesome conversation.

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I had that multiple times throughout my life. So when I knew podcasting existed and the, the, the, the barrier to entry so low, you just gotta, you know, it's easy to figure out. I was like, this seems like a good avenue. Um, when I first started the show, I did a lot more like

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entrepreneurs, just like different walks of life. Um, and as time goes on, now I try to keep it more towards relationships. If I can, I'll do some current events stuff, but I typically try to keep it to relationships. Um, yeah, that, that, that, so, so, you know, with a podcast, I have flexibility to change the, the style and the theme and all that. So today we're doing more, uh, more relationship stuff than we, yeah, than we had before, probably in the last year or so.

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So, so yeah, I noticed that you have a good mix of, um, topics and you switch it up and I've heard you, uh, or, or seen on your podcast where you refer to certain episodes as dolo cast. What is that?

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So that's just me going solo, just dolo. It's just me just on the mic talking about a topic or a couple of different topics. So, um, I just wanted to, uh, delineate between like, cause most of them are conversations with other people, but then I have those solo ones just like for the people that like them.

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You know, some people like, some people can't just listen to one person talk. Other people are like, no, this is great. I actually like this more. So, um, I have a little bit, a mix of both of conversations and then solos.

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Right. Well, I mean, the good thing is that regardless of the topic, you always find a way to make it funny and entertaining, but you know, there was one episode in particular that stood out to me.

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You were, I wouldn't say emotional, but you were very candid about recently finding out about one of your close friends having brain cancer and with a low chance of survival. And basically that entire episode was you sort of just trying to reconcile that news.

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How's your friend? I think his name is Christian. How's he doing these days? And how did that news about his diagnosis impact your, your friendship?

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It impacted our friendship. I mean, we talk more. I feel like I'm, I'm learning more about life just in talking through them and like appreciating the small moments. Um, things have progressed pretty quick for him in the last couple of months.

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So he's lost, um, function on his left side, his right, right, right, you know, right leg, left leg. So he's, you know, he has to travel in a wheelchair now.

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Um, but one thing, I mean, one thing that came out of it is that we are talking a lot more and he's tasked me with the, uh, with the honored responsibility of, um, he's creating like a video log for his daughter. So he has a separate YouTube channel called the hitchhiker's guide to cancer where he kind of updates all his friends and family on the progression of everything.

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He got tired of like phone calls every week. Yeah. So he, so he just sends people there, but then he has another project that's just for his daughter for later. He's not going to, not going to be public, but, um, where he just, you know, there's a topic and, and we just talk about it.

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Like one of them this week, we did one on finance, another one we did one on education and he just gives her, gives her his thoughts on education. And now he thinks if she wants to take the advice, how do you think she should proceed with whatever topic we're talking about? So we're, you know, mending relationships, finances, education, um, anything that, you know, we're trying to do a hundred episodes of that.

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So he has an idea of, so his daughter has an idea of who, who is like who his dad is and not just watching the other YouTube, watching the progression, you know, so you, there's a little bit more laughter and just like it's uniquely like, uh, deeply philosophical with some silly in there. So it's good.

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I love it. I love how he, he took it and kind of flipped it a bit and not made it this whole woe is me not to say that it's not, it's very woe is me, but he seemed to take a different approach to it and, um, make it informative, find a way to engage family and friends and his children, um, in a way that's not so doom and gloom, but, you know, really gives them hope.

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And then God forbid if anything happens to him, they have this, you know, all of these videos where he's talking about numerous, uh, different topics and, you know, that's something that they always can refer back to. So I really like how he handled that unfortunate news.

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Yeah, yeah. He's a, he's a great man. I met him, um, a few years ago and he's just, you know, he's a person I look up to. He's like, I'm the oldest of my, uh, out of my siblings and I look at Christian as a, as an older brother. Like, you know, when, when I talk to him, I want to have good news. Like, yo, I'm doing this, that, you know, we like, he'll go to a comedy show and he'll call me up and be like, yo, he's like, this dude opened up for Kevin Hart. I think you're funny and a man you on your way, bro. You keep going, keep working. Like he's always, yeah, he's, he's ever since.

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I met him has just always been super supportive and not looking for anything in return other than like friendship and, you know, good times, like just, you know, authenticity and, and just, just, there's no, uh, ulterior motives, anything like that.

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He just wants to have a good time and meet, meet good people. And he's done that. Like he has so many, he's connected so many people, so many good people. Um, yeah, it's really, really sad that he's the friend that got cancer.

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I'll be thinking like, why couldn't it be the friend that owes me $400? Why couldn't he?

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I mean, we all want that on anybody, but I definitely, like, why, why this guy, all people, but you know, he's just, sounds like, you know, just an awesome friend. You know, we would be, anyone would be lucky to have a friend like, like Christian, Christian.

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So I hate that he's going through this, but I really take a lot of solace in the way he is navigating it. And I think that's also inspiring other people who have similar diagnoses and are going through other things.

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They see how he's reacting to this and it encourages them to also take that same approach. But Fred, we need to take a quick commercial break.

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But when we return, what I want to do is take a page from your book and play a few rounds of Ask Me Anything and kind of find out what we can expect from this breakout comedy star in 2023.

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So hang tight, folks. We will be right back.

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You're back live with Dr. Andre Jerry.

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All right, everybody. Welcome back. If you're just joining us, we're live tonight with the rom-com Don himself and apparently one of the best dressed comedians in the Raleigh-Durham area, Freddie the Lord.

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So Freddie, before we went to break, we promised the viewers we'd play a few rounds of Ask Me Anything, which if any of you follow Freddie on IG, you know that's one of his go-to prompts for his IG stories, which are awesome, by the way.

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And I think you even had an Ask Me Anything episode on Fred Talk, right?

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Yes, I answered a couple of them on Instagram, but I took the bulk of the questions on my podcast. Like instead of the responses being a minute long, I had a little bit more time to just keep riffing on, you know, my responses and all that.

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So, right. It was an awesome show. So yeah, it's just a fun way to kind of get inside your head a little bit. So are you ready?

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Yes, sir.

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All right. So I'll first ask me anything question.

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If you had a gay best friend, and he asked you to, would you pretend to be his boyfriend at a social event so he wouldn't look like the sad lonely gay guy?

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Absolutely. 100%.

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I love it.

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Just because I like new experiences and just that whole, yeah, I feel like we're tricking everybody. Yeah, we'll go in arms crossed. I'm not going to kiss him or anything like that, you know, but you know, I'll, yeah, easily.

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Okay, that's awesome. That's awesome. That just means you're a great best friend. So that's totally awesome.

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All right. Second question. Why? And when I asked this, I don't disagree. But why is Adam Levine a schmuck?

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Oh, he cheated on his wife. We come out, you know, that's just, yeah. And then also when you look through the text messages, you would think his texting game was a lot better. It was just very corny.

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Like this, like, oh my God, your body so hot. Yeah, like, it was just real corny. So this was a whole drama. See, I don't keep up with celebrity news and stuff. So he had a wife and he cheated on her and then the text got leaked.

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Yes. Yeah, the girl, the girl leaked the text messages and he just, I just expect them a little bit more from from from Adam Levine. But then you got to think about a lot of musicians. You know, they were music dorks in high school and that, you know, you don't never really grow out of that.

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I'm a dork in a different way, you know, but that when I remembered that I had a little more empathy for the guy, but he did cheat on his wife. So that still classified them as a schmuck. Well, I agree. See, I consider him a schmuck before I found out this information.

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But he sings that music that just I don't like when music comes off like corporate music, like anything to me by the black eyed peas or what's his name? The Weeknd or what's the other guy who I sometimes get annoyed with him because I can't tell if he looks like a lesbian to me.

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Are you a lesbian? Are you just looking on Mars? Yeah. And I don't like it every time I hear it. I just I have to turn. I just have to turn.

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I'm with you on that. But yeah, but Adam Levine, yes, totally. Yeah, it's like corporate pop music. Like they know the formula. They're like, we do this, this beat with a guy that looks like this and it's going to work. Right.

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OK, so the next question, what is your obsession with anime? Oh my God. Oh, I love this question. I so you could already tell I'm upset. So anime to me is like it's gotten me closer to God.

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Is that like because, you know, a lot of us? Yes, a lot of our stories. I've been an atheist for a long time. But a lot of our stories and movies, all that, like the hero's journey. We see that a lot in movies.

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A lot of those stories are or the story arc is derived from the Bible. And you could you could see a lot of that in that. And people learn from that. So I feel like for me, anime is like very inspirational. It gets me up. It gets me going. Gets me to the gym.

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It pushes me to be my best self. And that first happened to me when I was a teenager. I just started wrestling. So I was in like training mode and I got put on the Dragon Ball Z. And that whole thing is just, you know, the main character is trying to be the strongest.

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Throwing hands and that was in line with, you know, just kind of like how I was living my life. And then I've been kind of on and off. Same thing with like Marvel Comics, DC Comics throughout my life. You know, I read comics and kind of be on and off. And then recently I was this was last year.

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I was like, man, I didn't watch anime in, you know, almost a decade or something like that. So I was like, man, let me get back on anime. See what's up. And I just I just I remember I was sitting in my house and I was like I was about 25 pounds heavier than I am now.

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And I was watching this this the main character who's a young kid go after his dream. And I was sitting there the whole time. I'm like, look at this. Look at this child going after his dream. And I'm over here sitting in my in my couch eating Chinese food for the third day in a row.

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Haven't been to the gym in a week. And it literally it got me motivated. So I just yeah, I just I've literally just been for like a year straight on my downtime whenever I have time. That's typically what I watch is anime.

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It's just cool, you know, especially those bad ass moments where they're shooting like an energy ball, but also from a writing standpoint, it doesn't because here's the thing when I was watching, you know, I watched stuff with my my girl or whatever.

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I could predict what's going to happen in the movie. This is this. This is that, you know, I could I just saw it coming. So it took a lot of the surprise out for me. Whereas like anime, I wasn't familiar with the tropes.

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And there's there's some really good storytelling there. I love it so much. I had no clue. But I mean, you explained that now at least I get your obsession with it because I've watched it here and there usually when I'm hanging out with my nephew, Brian, but I never it just never I've never got it.

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But I appreciate you breaking it down. I can if it does all that then definitely you have a right to be obsessed over would you rather give up anime or porn porn I already gave up porn. So that's easy.

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All right, we're gonna keep it rolling. Name something a woman could do on the first date with you that will make you delete her number.

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Hmm. Oh, be rude to the service staff or something like be really yeah yeah yeah that's easy. I'll stop the date right there. I'm like, listen, you got to go. I'll pay for you. That's a hard stop. Yeah, that's hard. I used to be a server to. Yeah, I'll be like, I don't even know this person.

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Who even does that now except what's that chick from what is that show key and peel when he dresses up like that woman. And she's always being like rude. Yeah, is it Meg or something.

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I'm like, God, Meg, what are you doing? And then she would just be such a bitch to like the server or anyone that I don't know. But yeah, that's a hard stop for me. I don't like when anyone is rude to wait staff flight attendance, anything like that. It's just no.

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What's what's one of yours. What's one of your hard stops.

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Answering a phone call in the middle of a date. Now, unless it's your mom or kids or something like that. But if you're just answering a call like hello. Oh hey, you're the girl. Bye. I don't like that. Okay, so I used to do this but then someone I was dating kind of put me on to it.

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So what rude I don't know people don't do this now, but it's rude to be on the phone with someone and then the click over and answer another call. Like, if you're on a phone with someone, unless it's just an emergency.

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You just need to call that person back.

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So when when I'm on the phone with someone if someone puts me on hold to answer another call I'm kind of not saying I'll cut them off but it's kind of like, I don't like that.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah, you better yeah they're ready to be closing a business deal, or, like you said, you know, talking of is an emergency with the family or something like that.

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Close friends they can switch over but if I'm talking to a girl trying to get to know her yeah I'm going to want. Yeah, that's just weird. Especially, another thing would be if I'm on a date, and it's like one word responses.

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And I'm like, not really into it kind of thing like yeah what I need I need a girl to like be able to hold a conversation for me to proceed.

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Yeah, I would during my you know my, you know, early 20s.

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You know you put up with a lot more just to try to close at the end of the night and I'm just not I don't have the patience, or, yeah, I don't even have the walk for that that type of life anymore.

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I would have to have a hot girl stuff you know if I just if I just ride the clock out I'm gonna get laid, like, nope.

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Right, I'm with you on that.

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I am an iPhone user, and I don't know it's not a deal breaker for me at all I don't even I don't even like being in group chat. So when people are like, I want to get an Android just so people don't invite me to group chat like, like, yeah, but I'm not a team anything I just happened to have an iPhone.

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But now, I feel like girls that have Android are probably better in bed too honestly so that really, you know, better than iPhone users.

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All right, well, we can't end this without talking about love is blind. Okay, season three.

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Oh, I can't stand this show, but one of my good friends Craig made me watch and I have to say it was entertaining. Okay, so just a few things before and then I'll let you weigh in.

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I could not stand the teeth.

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I knew he was going to punk out at the last minute, I knew he was going to do it. He just looked like a piece of shit to me.

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And the jokester guy I don't know his name but apparently he said a lot of dumb shit and then he played it all back at the end and I think he got dumped at the end too.

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Then there was. I didn't like miss yoga. What was her name. She was with the Nigerian dude, I didn't like her.

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Okay, okay. All right.

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She felt like she was like fame hungry or something she wasn't in it for the right reason. I didn't feel bad when he didn't choose her at the end but I wouldn't feel her up until they're like, you know, full of shit, kind of.

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Yes, and then one last thing I'll say before I let you. I didn't like that alpha female chick I don't know if she was she Iranian or whatever. She just was very stoic.

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And just look kind of like almost like she could be a lesbian and she also looked like she would kick the guy's ass if he got out of line.

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Oh, yeah, 100% yeah yeah. I saw start with Barty. I definitely saw what you what you saw there. Definitely like he was a fuck boy to 25 year old Jim bro.

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At this point I mean if you a woman in her 30 you 30 and you get with a 25 year old Jim bro you should know what's going to go down like this is you know I'm saying light skin do to the world the world is his oyster.

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Yeah, so he, I definitely saw that he was going to be into it he seemed fame hungry.

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Goofy dude and and an Arab uptight girl. Yeah, I did not I did not like her. I thought he was they just one were very incompatible.

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He was like a open creative mindset type and she was a very, she was very closed off and just not. Yeah, she was just not fun.

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I'm sure I bet you they'll be way better with somebody else. And then I'm glad that way that they get married. No, no they didn't they.

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The girl turned him down. And then she had her friends like storm out. Oh, yeah. And the way they stormed out you could tell it was planned because one of the friends look back in a way like yeah yeah motherfucker like you.

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Yeah, it was very much like that. I was like oh this was planned. It was just very weird and I'm glad they showed. She was very, you know, and I'm sure you know her mom died early.

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So when you have to when you have to be an adult too early, you know things happen I understand that but she would just took everything the wrong way, even the whole.

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She made it seem like he was commenting on her eating habits. And when they showed the footage at the end, it was totally was not that he was, he was telling her hey why are you eating those, we're going to eat a big ass meal later at this restaurant, you can tell was like probably his favorite restaurant where they go and pig out.

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He was just like trust me, save your appetite. And she flipped it on some on some oh he's, he's telling me not to eat these oranges because I gained weight and that was not it. So I'm so glad you tried it. Yeah, I'm so glad. Yeah, I'm so glad they showed that footage and then Israeli girl and skinny dude.

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He was he yeah, they were my favorite. I was like, oh, they love each other. They're awesome. But by the reunion episode, I jumped off because they were too like, almost like they could tell they were the best couple and they started almost like talking down to the other right.

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And then the dude was like unjustifiably just like siding with the woman and beating up on that dude Cole and Cole was crying. He got man you don't do that.

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Yeah, he got wrong. So I think you do that if it's justified if what happened happened but that's not what happened. And they jumped on him. I thought that was so unfair.

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And then the last couple, the Nigerian dude and curly hair girl yoga girl. Yeah, he was my least favorite at the beginning and then by the end, because you saw a shift in her energy. She went from like closed off. And I was with you. I'm like, oh, she's Instagram girl looking for fame, whatever.

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Then on the boat ride, you saw a shift sheet that was the first time you saw them kiss. And with the way they kiss I was like, oh damn, she's like into him. So when I found out at the reunion episode that they actually stayed together, even though they declined the marriage, when they decide to stay to stay together, I was like, oh, they ended up being my favorite couple by the end of the reunion. So I hope this fit together.

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And I hope they work it out. So that yeah, that was, but I like watching those shows because although it's like semi scripted, I look at it as a good, a good character study, you know, you're watching in on other people's drama, sure how they would, how they would handle it. And when I watch it, I like to pause it.

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I like to watch it with somebody else. And I like to pause it and be like, all right, what do you think just went on there? Would you believe them? Do you think he's lying? Like, try to see if you could catch micro expressions or whatever. So it's a fun little like game for me to watch those shows.

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Yeah, it was interesting. I wanted to hate it at first, but I had to agree that it was, it was really good. And I didn't, I don't know, the Nigerian guy and the yoga girl, I was hoping that at the end that he would, I just felt like he should focus on his career.

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I just don't think she was quite ready nor do I, I wasn't sure if she was the right fit, but maybe if they date a few more years and then, you know, if they still feel like they want to get married, then maybe go ahead. But I don't know. It's a very interesting show.

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And I kind of Googled it a little bit today and I found out that filming is, you know, is already completed for season four. I think you should audition to be a cast member for season five. Would you be interested in that?

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I can do that now. Yeah. Yeah. I actually, I think I would.

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Wow. You'd be great on that show.

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Yeah, I would. That would be a lot of fun. Just because, yeah, yeah, I think it would be a lot of fun to be on that. That's actually a pretty good idea.

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Wow. Well, hey, we put it out there. We'll see what happens. We will see what happens. Well, Freddie, we're getting really close to having to wrap up this episode, but while we still have a few minutes, tell our listeners about your upcoming shows and what you got next in store for you for 2023.

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Oh, so 2023. I'm actually moving to New York in February. Oh, really? Yeah. To really pursue this stand up comedy. I had some projects I was going to release in January, but some things happen and I got to push them off.

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But date live will be back in the spring and that's my show where I interview single people for like 10 minutes and and you know, I make it a very fun conversation, ask them some fun questions. And if any of the viewers like them, they could slide in their DMs.

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So that'll that'll be coming back next year. So just follow me on Instagram at Freddie Valoi, my first and last name. You know, like you said, I'm a fun follow. I asked relationship questions. I had silly questions, but that'll be where I keep people posted on what's coming.

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What's coming up for me, you know, in the future.

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Right, definitely follow Freddie on Instagram. His stories are the best, very thought provoking questions, very funny. I respond to pretty much most, you know, all of them. But yeah, really great follow. So definitely check them out on social media.

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We're going to go ahead and wrap this show for the night, folks, but be sure to join me for my next episode, which airs Wednesday, January 25 at 8 p.m. Eastern. I want to say good night to everybody. And I want to thank again, Freddie Valoi for being on the show today. We had a great time. I hate to wrap it up. But everyone have a safe and happy new year. Take care, everybody.

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Bye.