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Hey Forever GodGirl, I'm your host, Iz, and

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welcome or welcome back to the Forever GodGirl

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Podcast. In today's episode, we're gonna talk

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about friendship breakups and boundaries. So

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many times we hear people talk about finding

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godly friends and why it's important to have

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godly friends. But what happens when we found

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them, yet we're still drifting apart? Well firstly,

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it doesn't mean that those people are bad friends,

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and it doesn't mean that you are fake or immature.

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Sometimes the assignment and purpose of that

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friendship is just finished. Okay, we have to

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look at this from a different perspective. Pruning.

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Pruning is positive. In John 15, God prunes the

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branches that are bearing fruit so that they

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can bear more fruit. Sometimes a friendship has

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to be pruned so that you can both grow in the

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directions God is calling you. So if God is calling

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you to something and calling your friend to something

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else, sometimes that friction can be uncomfortable.

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And guess what? That's okay. We have to trust

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God because he knows who needs us and who we

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need at different times. A great example from

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the Bible is Paul and Barnabas the versus Paul and

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Silas. If we go to Acts chapter 15, verses 36

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through 40, it says, Paul and Barnabas separate.

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After some time, Paul said to Barnabas, let's

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go back and visit each city where we previously

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preached the word of the Lord to see how the

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new believers are doing. Barnabas agreed and

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wanted to take along John Mark. But Paul disagreed

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strongly since John Mark had deserted them in

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Pamphylia and had not continued with them in

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their work. Not only did Paul strongly disagree,

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other versions say that Paul and Barnabas had

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a sharp disagreement. So what did they do? They

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separated from each other. Barnabas took John

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Mark with him and sailed for Cyprus, while Paul

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chose Silas, and as he left, the believers entrusted

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him to the Lord's gracious care. He traveled

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throughout Syria and Cecilia. strengthening the

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churches there. Okay, great story, but what does

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this even have to do with the episode? Well listen,

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Paul and Barnabas were great friends until a

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disagreement had them go in separate directions.

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The thing to remember is neither of them were

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wrong, but God had different assignments for

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the both of them. And then, instead of seeing

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Paul and Barnabas, we see Paul and Silas, who

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both had the same mission and were going in the

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same direction. Now what does this mean for us?

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Okay, it means I'm gonna block this person, unfollow

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this person, and avoid this person in the hallways

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at school. Uh, no, that's not what we're gonna

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do. Because we still appreciate the different

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friendships we had at different seasons. Paul

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never cut off Barnabas, but he did move from

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an encouraging relationship to a partner in purpose.

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For even more context, when Paul first became

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a Christian, guess who welcomed him into the

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church and allowed him to go on missions and

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encouraged him? Barnabas. But guess who now became

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his partner? Silas. Sometimes we have friends

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who are like a hype man. They cheer for us, help

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us grow, and help us get started. But as we grow,

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we need a partner. Someone who isn't just cheering

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from the sidelines, but is actually on the field

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playing the game with you. It's okay to say thank

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you to the hype man while you go find your teammate.

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But now let's look at the Jesus example. Circles

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of intimacy. See, Jesus loved everyone, but he

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had his three, his 12, and the 72. He only let

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three people, Peter, James, and John, into his

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most intimate moments. And not all 72 of his

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followers were at the Last Supper. You have permission

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to move someone from your inner circle to your

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outer circle. as long as we're doing it lovingly

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and kindly, and we're forgiving any hard feelings.

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Which leads me into the next point sometimes

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we have to bless and release. No ghosting, just

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grace. We don't need a dramatic closure or a

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bunch of drama concerning the relationship, but

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just pray for the person more than you talk about

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or to them. And how are we gonna do this? shifting

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from hanging out to checking in. Decrease the

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frequency, but keep the kindness. A simple prayer

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for situations like this is, Lord, thank you

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for the role that they played in my story. Bless

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them in their next chapter as I walk into mine.

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In Jesus' name, amen. Now it's time for our special

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segment. In today's special segment, you know

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it, we got some hot takes. And these ones are

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hot. First hot take is, can Christians ghost

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people? Now if you don't know what ghosting is

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it's basically when you stop talking to someone

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abruptly and they don't know what happens to

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you after that But 50 % said yeah, sometimes

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it's necessary 50 % also said only if needed

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but don't make it a habit and then 0 % said no,

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it's not godly What do you think though next

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hot take is resting the same as being lazy? 40

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% said no, rest is important, and 60 % said it

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depends what you're doing while you're resting.

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0 % said yeah, get up and work, last one of the

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day, lots of sermon notes equals spiritual maturity,

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right? 25 % said no, revelation without application

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is dead. 25 % said yes, if you don't write it

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down, you'll forget. And then 50 % said nah,

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are you actually gonna read it again? But I really

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wanna know. What is your opinion on these hot

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takes if you didn't get a chance to vote? Make

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sure you're following us on our Instagram at

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forever god girl podcast So that you can be a

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part of the polls and remember to ask your parent

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or legal guardian for permission first That was

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an amazing special segment, but now it's time

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to talk about something more important and more

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exciting salvation Here is a word from Zi So

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if you have a personal relationship with Jesus

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Christ then this message will help you. But if

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you don't have a personal relationship with Jesus

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Christ, I invite you to give your heart to the

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Lord today. To receive him into your heart, go

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to Romans 10, 9 -10. It says, If you confess

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with your mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in

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your heart that God has raised him from the dead,

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You will be saved, for with the heart one believes

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unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession

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is made unto salvation. If you said this prayer

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with sincerity, you are saved and now have eternal

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life with Jesus. You are saved from all your

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sins, past, present, and future sins you may

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commit. This truth is not a free pass to sin

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any time. Instead, Jesus gives you power over

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all wrong choices and empowers you to spread

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the gospel to others. You are saved and your

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name is written in the Book of Life. Did you

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just give your life to Jesus? Because if you

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did give yourself a pat on the back, we are so

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godly proud of you. Thank you so much for listening

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to this podcast episode. We trust that it helped

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you and that you learned something. And remember

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God isn't just the author of your arrivals. He's

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the author of your departures too. If he's shifting

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your circle, it's only because he's making room

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for what's next. You are loved, you are seen,

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and you are never walking alone. That's how you

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help us spread the good news. See you next time.

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Bye!!!