WEBVTT 00:00:16.129 --> 00:00:19.170 Hey ForeverGodGirl, I'm your host, Iz and welcome 00:00:19.170 --> 00:00:23.410 or welcome back to the ForeverGodGirl Podcast! Now in today's 00:00:23.410 --> 00:00:26.649 episode we are continuing our series sexual purity 00:00:26.649 --> 00:00:30.109 part three how to handle having a crush on someone 00:00:30.170 --> 00:00:33.810 A crush? A crush is an initial, often short -lived, 00:00:34.109 --> 00:00:36.649 feeling of attraction based on an impression 00:00:36.649 --> 00:00:40.189 of someone. Okay, so I have a question. Is there 00:00:40.189 --> 00:00:42.869 a specific age to have a crush? There isn't a 00:00:42.869 --> 00:00:45.450 specific age because research shows that even 00:00:45.450 --> 00:00:47.950 little kids can have crushes from four or five 00:00:47.950 --> 00:00:50.250 years old, eight to nine years old, teenagers, 00:00:50.350 --> 00:00:53.990 and even adults. Okay, so the next question is, 00:00:54.310 --> 00:00:57.390 is it bad or sinful to have a crush? This is 00:00:57.390 --> 00:01:00.649 a big misconception. No, it's neither bad nor 00:01:00.649 --> 00:01:03.289 sinful. In fact, it's normal and we will find 00:01:03.289 --> 00:01:05.469 ourselves liking someone of the opposite gender. 00:01:06.230 --> 00:01:08.489 Experiencing attraction to the opposite sex is 00:01:08.489 --> 00:01:11.189 the natural design of God. The issue comes in 00:01:11.189 --> 00:01:13.609 when we act upon our feelings for someone in 00:01:13.609 --> 00:01:16.370 a premature, inappropriate, or obsessive manner. 00:01:16.670 --> 00:01:19.349 So now that we know what a crush is, what do 00:01:19.349 --> 00:01:21.250 we do when we find ourselves having a crush? 00:01:21.709 --> 00:01:24.450 Do we pray about it first? Do we tell our friends? 00:01:24.609 --> 00:01:27.189 Do we tell our parents? Really, we know that 00:01:27.189 --> 00:01:29.349 we should pray first. And we should talk to a 00:01:29.349 --> 00:01:31.989 trusted adult or a mature and trusted friend 00:01:31.989 --> 00:01:35.329 who will give us biblical Christ -centered advice. 00:01:35.609 --> 00:01:37.969 And there's no shame in needing advice or wisdom 00:01:37.969 --> 00:01:49.420 because in James 1 -5 it says, It's also important 00:01:49.420 --> 00:01:52.200 to pause, sort out, and write down our thoughts 00:01:52.200 --> 00:01:54.879 and emotions, and allow ourselves time to process 00:01:54.879 --> 00:01:57.200 our emotions so we don't act impulsively. Cause 00:01:57.200 --> 00:02:00.299 remember what it says in Proverbs 4 .23, above 00:02:00.299 --> 00:02:02.540 all else, guard your heart for everything you 00:02:02.540 --> 00:02:04.900 do flows from it. Especially when it comes to 00:02:04.900 --> 00:02:07.239 crushes, we need to follow the spirit of truth, 00:02:07.459 --> 00:02:10.400 aka the Holy Spirit, and not follow our heart, 00:02:10.599 --> 00:02:13.080 aka our feelings. Cause our feelings are great 00:02:13.080 --> 00:02:15.699 indicators, but not great leaders. Which brings 00:02:15.699 --> 00:02:18.599 me into our next question. How do we handle our 00:02:18.599 --> 00:02:21.379 emotions in a healthy and holy way? Because especially 00:02:21.379 --> 00:02:23.800 when we have a crush, our emotions can get kind 00:02:23.800 --> 00:02:25.719 of intense. So here's the first thing we need 00:02:25.719 --> 00:02:28.509 to know. Just because I have a crush does not 00:02:28.509 --> 00:02:30.610 mean I have to pursue a relationship because 00:02:30.610 --> 00:02:33.090 we really don't want to be getting into any relationships 00:02:33.090 --> 00:02:36.449 prematurely, unprepared, and for the wrong reasons. 00:02:36.990 --> 00:02:39.449 In Songs of Solomon 8 verse 4, it says, women 00:02:39.449 --> 00:02:42.969 of Jerusalem, promise me, do not awaken love, 00:02:43.270 --> 00:02:46.689 do not arouse love until the right time. In fact, 00:02:46.770 --> 00:02:49.050 right now what we should be doing is evaluating 00:02:49.050 --> 00:02:52.430 our emotions and ask ourselves, why am I having 00:02:52.430 --> 00:02:54.969 a crush? Is it because I think this person is 00:02:54.969 --> 00:02:57.139 attractive or? Or is it because all my other 00:02:57.139 --> 00:02:59.000 friends are having boyfriends and crushes and 00:02:59.000 --> 00:03:01.680 I'm the only one who doesn't? Now also with having 00:03:01.680 --> 00:03:04.039 a crush, it can be really easy to daydream about 00:03:04.039 --> 00:03:06.780 them, to fantasize about them, to make up fake 00:03:06.780 --> 00:03:09.379 scenarios with them. Am I right or am I right? 00:03:09.560 --> 00:03:12.419 It can be really easy to imagine being in a relationship 00:03:12.419 --> 00:03:14.919 with a person and making up fake scenarios in 00:03:14.919 --> 00:03:17.199 our head or pretending to do certain things with 00:03:17.199 --> 00:03:20.319 them. But if you're doing that, stop right now. 00:03:20.659 --> 00:03:24.099 Why? Because 1. If we're thinking about someone 00:03:24.099 --> 00:03:26.400 more than Jesus, then that person is an idol. 00:03:27.020 --> 00:03:30.560 2. Fantasies can quickly become sensual and sexual 00:03:30.560 --> 00:03:32.939 even if we don't initially intend for it to be 00:03:32.939 --> 00:03:37.080 like that. And 3. Fantasies warp reality. Because 00:03:37.080 --> 00:03:39.599 when we're fantasizing or imagining someone being 00:03:39.599 --> 00:03:42.180 a certain way, then our crush becomes a lack 00:03:42.180 --> 00:03:45.360 of solid information. Also, we can make a person's 00:03:45.360 --> 00:03:47.539 personality in our mind and then become hurt, 00:03:47.919 --> 00:03:50.939 confused, misguided, and manipulated when the 00:03:50.939 --> 00:03:53.520 person is completely different than the fantasy. 00:03:54.000 --> 00:03:56.340 And four, sometimes, honestly, your crush may 00:03:56.340 --> 00:03:58.639 not have the same mutual attraction to you. And 00:03:58.639 --> 00:04:00.719 that's okay, because as humans, we don't have 00:04:00.719 --> 00:04:02.939 to like everyone. Because remember, if your crush 00:04:02.939 --> 00:04:04.939 doesn't like you back, that does not determine 00:04:04.939 --> 00:04:08.139 your worth. Our worth is set in Jesus Christ 00:04:08.139 --> 00:04:10.659 because we are daughters and sons of the Most 00:04:10.659 --> 00:04:14.319 High King. This episode is such a breather for 00:04:14.319 --> 00:04:17.459 me. Thank God. I have like five different crushes. 00:04:17.740 --> 00:04:20.839 Oof. Well, you know, having frequent crushes 00:04:20.839 --> 00:04:23.959 is not the best thing because a crush can turn 00:04:23.959 --> 00:04:27.579 into luck. What is lust? A strong, sensual, or 00:04:27.579 --> 00:04:30.879 sexual desire. In fact, in Proverbs 6 verse 25, 00:04:31.040 --> 00:04:33.579 it says, do not lust after her beauty or give 00:04:33.579 --> 00:04:36.660 way to her enticing glances. Now this goes for 00:04:36.660 --> 00:04:39.379 both males and females. And let's get one thing 00:04:39.379 --> 00:04:42.379 straight. Lust is not the same thing as love. 00:04:42.839 --> 00:04:45.600 And having a crush is not inherently lust, but 00:04:45.600 --> 00:04:48.259 it can turn into lust if we aren't careful. So 00:04:48.259 --> 00:04:51.120 if I find myself having frequent crushes, here's 00:04:51.120 --> 00:04:54.089 what I do. I need to pray and get godly counseling 00:04:54.089 --> 00:04:57.490 about healthy emotions and resist lust through 00:04:57.490 --> 00:05:00.870 the power of the Holy Spirit. In 2 Timothy 2 00:05:00.870 --> 00:05:04.170 22 it says run away from anything that stimulates 00:05:04.170 --> 00:05:07.509 youthful lusts. Instead pursue righteous living, 00:05:07.930 --> 00:05:11.490 faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship 00:05:11.490 --> 00:05:14.129 of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts. 00:05:14.310 --> 00:05:16.370 But like our physical bodies, that's in the process 00:05:16.370 --> 00:05:18.810 of growth, during our teen years it is the same 00:05:18.810 --> 00:05:20.689 with our emotional state, which is also in the 00:05:20.689 --> 00:05:23.360 process of growth. As teenagers, we are simply 00:05:23.360 --> 00:05:26.339 not equipped or ready for the psychological complexity 00:05:26.339 --> 00:05:30.199 of romantic sexual relationships. Now it's time 00:05:30.199 --> 00:05:32.699 for our special segment. In today's special segment, 00:05:32.839 --> 00:05:36.240 you know it, hot takes. Today's hot take is very 00:05:36.240 --> 00:05:39.100 fitting for today's pod because I asked, is it 00:05:39.100 --> 00:05:41.920 bad or sinful to have a crush? Now I know I already 00:05:41.920 --> 00:05:44.300 answered this question earlier in today's episode, 00:05:44.439 --> 00:05:47.079 but I wanted to see what you had to say. The 00:05:47.079 --> 00:05:51.600 results are in. 10 % said yes, it's pure. lustful. 00:05:51.899 --> 00:05:55.100 80 % said no it's a normal part of God's design 00:05:55.100 --> 00:05:58.920 and 10 % said OMG no it's good to be boy crazy. 00:05:59.319 --> 00:06:01.819 These results were very interesting to me because 00:06:01.819 --> 00:06:04.500 I didn't expect anyone to press the first option 00:06:04.500 --> 00:06:06.920 or the last option and even though it's a small 00:06:06.920 --> 00:06:09.319 percentage we want to make sure we have accurate 00:06:09.319 --> 00:06:11.870 understanding. But just remember, we don't want 00:06:11.870 --> 00:06:14.670 to be on any of those extremes. If you didn't 00:06:14.670 --> 00:06:16.810 get a chance to vote, then follow us on Instagram 00:06:16.810 --> 00:06:19.610 at ForeverGodGirlPodcast so you can be a part 00:06:19.610 --> 00:06:21.529 of the polls. And remember to ask your parents 00:06:21.529 --> 00:06:24.209 first. That was such a great special segment. 00:06:24.550 --> 00:06:26.470 But now it's time to talk about something even 00:06:26.470 --> 00:06:29.629 more important and even more exciting, salvation. 00:06:30.310 --> 00:06:33.910 Here's a word from Zye. So if you have a personal 00:06:33.910 --> 00:06:37.189 relationship with Jesus Christ, then this message 00:06:37.189 --> 00:06:40.319 will help you. But if you don't have a personal 00:06:40.319 --> 00:06:43.620 relationship with Jesus Christ, I invite you 00:06:43.620 --> 00:06:46.319 to give your heart to the Lord today. To receive 00:06:46.319 --> 00:06:49.879 him into your heart, go to Romans 10, 9 -10. 00:06:50.220 --> 00:06:53.000 It says, If you confess with your mouth the Lord 00:06:53.000 --> 00:06:56.600 Jesus, and believe in your heart that God has 00:06:56.600 --> 00:06:58.920 raised him from the dead, you will be saved. 00:06:59.199 --> 00:07:01.819 For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, 00:07:02.279 --> 00:07:05.699 and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. 00:07:06.189 --> 00:07:09.970 If you said this prayer with sincerity you are 00:07:09.970 --> 00:07:13.310 saved and now have eternal life with Jesus You 00:07:13.310 --> 00:07:17.819 are saved from all your sins past present and 00:07:17.819 --> 00:07:20.699 future sins you may commit. This truth is not 00:07:20.699 --> 00:07:25.040 a free pass to sin anytime. Instead, Jesus gives 00:07:25.040 --> 00:07:29.100 you power over all wrong choices and empowers 00:07:29.100 --> 00:07:32.879 you to spread the gospel to others. You are saved 00:07:32.879 --> 00:07:36.360 forever and your name is written in the Book 00:07:36.360 --> 00:07:38.879 of Life. Did you just give your life to Jesus? 00:07:39.500 --> 00:07:42.259 Because if you did, give yourself a pat on the 00:07:42.259 --> 00:07:44.959 back. We are so godly proud of you. Thank you 00:07:44.959 --> 00:07:47.019 so much for listening to this podcast episode. 00:07:47.399 --> 00:07:49.040 I trust that it helped you and that you learned 00:07:49.040 --> 00:07:53.720 something. And remember, Psalm 119 verse 9, how 00:07:53.720 --> 00:07:57.100 can a young person stay pure? By obeying your 00:07:57.100 --> 00:08:00.019 word. Hey, ForeverGodGirl, did you like this 00:08:00.019 --> 00:08:03.680 episode? 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