Hey ForeverGodGirl, I'm your host, Iz and welcome
or welcome back to the ForeverGodGirl Podcast! Now in today's
episode we are continuing our series sexual purity
part three how to handle having a crush on someone
A crush? A crush is an initial, often short -lived,
feeling of attraction based on an impression
of someone. Okay, so I have a question. Is there
a specific age to have a crush? There isn't a
specific age because research shows that even
little kids can have crushes from four or five
years old, eight to nine years old, teenagers,
and even adults. Okay, so the next question is,
is it bad or sinful to have a crush? This is
a big misconception. No, it's neither bad nor
sinful. In fact, it's normal and we will find
ourselves liking someone of the opposite gender.
Experiencing attraction to the opposite sex is
the natural design of God. The issue comes in
when we act upon our feelings for someone in
a premature, inappropriate, or obsessive manner.
So now that we know what a crush is, what do
we do when we find ourselves having a crush?
Do we pray about it first? Do we tell our friends?
Do we tell our parents? Really, we know that
we should pray first. And we should talk to a
trusted adult or a mature and trusted friend
who will give us biblical Christ -centered advice.
And there's no shame in needing advice or wisdom
because in James 1 -5 it says, It's also important
to pause, sort out, and write down our thoughts
and emotions, and allow ourselves time to process
our emotions so we don't act impulsively. Cause
remember what it says in Proverbs 4 .23, above
all else, guard your heart for everything you
do flows from it. Especially when it comes to
crushes, we need to follow the spirit of truth,
aka the Holy Spirit, and not follow our heart,
aka our feelings. Cause our feelings are great
indicators, but not great leaders. Which brings
me into our next question. How do we handle our
emotions in a healthy and holy way? Because especially
when we have a crush, our emotions can get kind
of intense. So here's the first thing we need
to know. Just because I have a crush does not
mean I have to pursue a relationship because
we really don't want to be getting into any relationships
prematurely, unprepared, and for the wrong reasons.
In Songs of Solomon 8 verse 4, it says, women
of Jerusalem, promise me, do not awaken love,
do not arouse love until the right time. In fact,
right now what we should be doing is evaluating
our emotions and ask ourselves, why am I having
a crush? Is it because I think this person is
attractive or? Or is it because all my other
friends are having boyfriends and crushes and
I'm the only one who doesn't? Now also with having
a crush, it can be really easy to daydream about
them, to fantasize about them, to make up fake
scenarios with them. Am I right or am I right?
It can be really easy to imagine being in a relationship
with a person and making up fake scenarios in
our head or pretending to do certain things with
them. But if you're doing that, stop right now.
Why? Because 1. If we're thinking about someone
more than Jesus, then that person is an idol.
2. Fantasies can quickly become sensual and sexual
even if we don't initially intend for it to be
like that. And 3. Fantasies warp reality. Because
when we're fantasizing or imagining someone being
a certain way, then our crush becomes a lack
of solid information. Also, we can make a person's
personality in our mind and then become hurt,
confused, misguided, and manipulated when the
person is completely different than the fantasy.
And four, sometimes, honestly, your crush may
not have the same mutual attraction to you. And
that's okay, because as humans, we don't have
to like everyone. Because remember, if your crush
doesn't like you back, that does not determine
your worth. Our worth is set in Jesus Christ
because we are daughters and sons of the Most
High King. This episode is such a breather for
me. Thank God. I have like five different crushes.
Oof. Well, you know, having frequent crushes
is not the best thing because a crush can turn
into luck. What is lust? A strong, sensual, or
sexual desire. In fact, in Proverbs 6 verse 25,
it says, do not lust after her beauty or give
way to her enticing glances. Now this goes for
both males and females. And let's get one thing
straight. Lust is not the same thing as love.
And having a crush is not inherently lust, but
it can turn into lust if we aren't careful. So
if I find myself having frequent crushes, here's
what I do. I need to pray and get godly counseling
about healthy emotions and resist lust through
the power of the Holy Spirit. In 2 Timothy 2
22 it says run away from anything that stimulates
youthful lusts. Instead pursue righteous living,
faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship
of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.
But like our physical bodies, that's in the process
of growth, during our teen years it is the same
with our emotional state, which is also in the
process of growth. As teenagers, we are simply
not equipped or ready for the psychological complexity
of romantic sexual relationships. Now it's time
for our special segment. In today's special segment,
you know it, hot takes. Today's hot take is very
fitting for today's pod because I asked, is it
bad or sinful to have a crush? Now I know I already
answered this question earlier in today's episode,
but I wanted to see what you had to say. The
results are in. 10 % said yes, it's pure. lustful.
80 % said no it's a normal part of God's design
and 10 % said OMG no it's good to be boy crazy.
These results were very interesting to me because
I didn't expect anyone to press the first option
or the last option and even though it's a small
percentage we want to make sure we have accurate
understanding. But just remember, we don't want
to be on any of those extremes. If you didn't
get a chance to vote, then follow us on Instagram
at ForeverGodGirlPodcast so you can be a part
of the polls. And remember to ask your parents
first. That was such a great special segment.
But now it's time to talk about something even
more important and even more exciting, salvation.
Here's a word from Zye. So if you have a personal
relationship with Jesus Christ, then this message
will help you. But if you don't have a personal
relationship with Jesus Christ, I invite you
to give your heart to the Lord today. To receive
him into your heart, go to Romans 10, 9 -10.
It says, If you confess with your mouth the Lord
Jesus, and believe in your heart that God has
raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
For with the heart one believes unto righteousness,
and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
If you said this prayer with sincerity you are
saved and now have eternal life with Jesus You
are saved from all your sins past present and
future sins you may commit. This truth is not
a free pass to sin anytime. Instead, Jesus gives
you power over all wrong choices and empowers
you to spread the gospel to others. You are saved
forever and your name is written in the Book
of Life. Did you just give your life to Jesus?
Because if you did, give yourself a pat on the
back. We are so godly proud of you. Thank you
so much for listening to this podcast episode.
I trust that it helped you and that you learned
something. And remember, Psalm 119 verse 9, how
can a young person stay pure? By obeying your
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