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I create an adjustment free zone, like have the

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emotions you have. The plant fitness of women.

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Five, four, three, two, one, zero. Welcome to

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the show, people. Welcome to the show. Eat my

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shorts. So here is to conversation. 10 quality

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phase here, the Eagle Air Flambant. All right,

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three things for today. Okay. What do the flat

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earth, Victorian medicine and angry Zeus have

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to do with each other? Flat earth, Victorian

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medicine and an angry Zeus. Believing in them

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can get you in a lot of trouble. Actually, where

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I was going with it was the opposite. At one

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point. these were all the beliefs that you had

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to believe in or you would be exiled from your

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community or maybe even exiled from living on

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this earth. There was a time and some might say

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that time is still here where people believe

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that the earth was flat. Do you think the earth

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is flat? No. No? What's your evidence that it

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isn't? I speak. So pike's peak is supposed to

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be like so it's 14 ,000 feet I think in elevation

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and when you get to the top you're able to see

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the curvature of the earth So theoretically speaking

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it's the proof that we have of the round earth

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So if you were up there in the earthless flat

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you would just look off into the distance and

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see the ice wall Yes, that keeps us all on the

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disc Alternatively, maybe if you see pike's peak

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then you're basically looking at the earth which

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is a contact lens Like that half dome kind of

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thing who's to say I was just in Colorado Springs

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and we went to the bridge over the big yes, yes,

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and they had a video and one of the takeaways

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from this video is that the mountain that The

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pike the one that they named the mountain after

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he climbed the one next to it and they mislabeled

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it. History is full of mislabelings when it comes

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to geography. Yeah, so the one that Pike actually

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summited was the one next to it, not actual Pike

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speak. Well, that's a bummer. Yeah. Or really

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fortunate is the other mountain shore. I think

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so. Oh, go Pike. I think that he put in less

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work, but still got the accolades. Okay. And

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Victorian, Victorian medicine. Come on. Come

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on. It's a guy climbing a mountain. He's probably

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gonna be white. It's a great way to stay in shape.

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It is, yeah. Yeah, and then you get to stop people

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on the way up or the way down and see if they're

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really into it and if they're not then you can

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convince them how into it you are. When are they

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gonna put the elevator in? I don't know. I don't

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know. Whenever we were going to Colorado Springs

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we were looking up a lot of stuff to do and One

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of the videos that we watched on YouTube. It

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was about one of the waterfalls there. Yeah,

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and they were like Yeah, there's an elevator

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that you can take. I think I was real Real pretentious

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about it, but if you want the real view and you

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want the real experience then you're gonna climb

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the stairs You're telling me you're telling me

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but it doesn't matter one way the other because

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we didn't go so I can't report to you on whether

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the walk up the stairs was worth it or not. Are

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you talking about Seven Falls? I think so. Seven

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Falls was absolutely worth it. Yeah. It was a

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terrifying like trip up the stairs because it's

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just like a free standing metal staircase full

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of a ton of people who are not a hundred percent

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sure they want to make it to the top of that

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really tall staircase. But once you get up to

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the top, it is incredible. Everyone was like

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white knuckling it. All the way up. It was wobbling

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from all of the tourists and stuff. So I Think

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if I were to go and I were in the same company

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that I was in with Royal Gorge I think I'd probably

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be submitting it myself. Yeah, I don't think

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I could convince her to go I did Royal Gorge

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Probably like seven years ago and when we did

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it the person that I was with was Freaking out

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because the bridge moves yeah because I mean

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like it's a suspension bridge like it's meant

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to wobble so that it doesn't collapse and that

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was not reason enough for her to believe that

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it was actually not going to collapse at some

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point we were just gonna fall into the canyon

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first thing we did when we got there was the

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gondola yeah and I probably still have marks

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on my knee from how tightly it was grabbed with

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the entire ride yeah So we took the gondola from

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the entrance side over to the other side and

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Went and all did all the stuff over there and

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then just walked back across the bridge and then

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after that she just stayed in the in the lobby

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area and I went on the gondola two more times

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and We she can say that she did it. Yeah, but

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it was pushing her the whole way through But

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she can still say she did it They used to have

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like a mine cart that went down Into the canyon

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like down to the bottom of the canyon. Okay,

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that got taken out by a fire that destroyed everything

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in that Park except for the bridge and then there

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in the process of rebuilding that so hopefully

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next time we go That's gonna be there and then

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you can actually go down into the gorge When

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I did a pike's peak the first time I'm not really

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afraid of heights, but I don't like being the

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passenger in a car Because I don't feel like

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I have like control over the situation And the

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first time that I went to pikes peak there was

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no monorail They were in the middle of renovating

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it, but we had to drive up pikes peak and I was

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On the side of the road that just like faced

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the side of the mountain because there are no

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like guardrails or anything So I assume it ruins

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the aesthetic And it was the scariest thing I've

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ever done was being a passenger on the drive

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up and down pikes peak I'd love to go back. It

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was a lot of fun Yeah, and you should check it

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out if you're Interested if you're on the fence

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go for it. Anyways back to Victorian medicine.

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All right Have you ever been to the doctor and?

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The doctor just suggested for fixing your ailments

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just leeches leeches cocaine little bloodletting

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You know that that was that that's the one That's

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the one I was going to use, but obviously I'm

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not gonna put Victorian Oriasms in the title

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of the episode. That would be an interesting

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Instagram post. That would be a hard one to illustrate,

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yeah. So I just put Victorian medicine instead.

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Sure. Anyways, it's a lot of fooey that people

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once believed was the end all be all and this

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is going to be medicine forever and then turns

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out maybe don't put leeches on your body to suck

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all the bad humors out and the last thing angry

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juice sky goes boom people say oh god you're

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just angry honestly i think that would bring

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some some whimsy to life these days if you just

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like saw a thunderstorm and were like oh god's

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pissed off and so you just go on a sacrificing

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spree i'm not suggesting we take all of the uh

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the olympus beliefs I'm saying we could take

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some of them, but at the same time Isn't it crazy?

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That electricity just shoots from the sky and

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can zap you and make you go boom Yeah, either

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explain lightning to me or I'm gonna start believing

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that Zeus is causing it Hindsight's 2020 what

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we know now just looking back at them. They just

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look like total idiots, but those were the experts

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of the time Sounds like a lot of But that also

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led me into things that we believe now not necessarily

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in regards to medicine or Status on curvature

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of the earth or big sky go boom, but just things

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that we were taught as Children that maybe don't

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hold as much water now or maybe even didn't hold

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as much water then But we were still taught them

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anyways. Yeah Like the big one that I the one

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that really just Driving factor behind this episode

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was love thy neighbor. I Can't tell you the last

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time I have been around neighbors that I have

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enjoyed Time with I don't know that I've known

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any of my neighbors since my first apartment

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Yeah, like I obviously I knew the ones growing

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up cuz we were Lot more involved with them, but

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as far as like since I've been living in apartments.

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I've known to probably of my neighbors and that

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was more of just like Just like in passing and

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we just happened to show up at the same things

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enough times that we became like friendly. Yeah.

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Yeah, it's like we live in a Neighborhood that

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is I mean, I think most these houses were probably

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built early 2000s and these people majority of

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them have lived here since then like they were

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new new tenants for those and so there's some

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territorial chest beating that goes on like the

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first thing that I noticed was whenever we moved

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in I have a personal truck wife has a car and

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then I have a work vehicle that I have to leave

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at my house and I park it At the curb right in

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front of our house first interaction we had with

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the person across the street was an older lady

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and She came up. She's like hey, how you doing?

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She's like introducing herself to the kids and

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all this other stuff and she Just fakes the conversation.

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That's just it's just basic like cordial stuff

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like it's like whatever it's inconsequential

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and then she was like So I just want to ask can

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you put the truck somewhere else like the one

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that's on the curb? I was like No. I don't have

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anywhere else to put it. Yeah. Like this is in

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front of our house, so I can park it there. But

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I mean, it's it's not going to be here all the

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time. And then after that, it was just like complete

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flip. And she is just the ics bitch. Yeah. Yeah.

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That you've ever met. And still to this day,

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we've been here four years, three years going

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forward. I don't remember. Haven't said she hasn't

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said anything since that. I'll wave to her. She'll

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ignore me. And she's just a very unpleasant person.

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So why just based on? Proximity do I need to

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love this person? I mean, is that is that phrase

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actually based on proximity? Or is it just like

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love another person as you would love yourself

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kind of thing? I mean, I think it's both I think

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that you should want to feel like you are involved

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in your community and other people should feel

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the same involvement with you and I think that

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that comes with being able to have these conversations

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with these people and being able to have a, uh,

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amicable relationship. Right. Uh, the guy next

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to us who his house was for rent. He rented the

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house and then he decided to offer to buy it

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from them and they sold it to him. And so he's

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been here maybe half as long as the old heads

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that are here. Yeah. And I think his deal is

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that he got the same nonsense that I got. And

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so now that he is a resident, he gets to push

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all that onto me, but it's like 10 fold. Yeah.

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He says some of the most just weirdest stuff.

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Weird how? Well, again, with the truck on the

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curb, he is next to us. So we share that same

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curb. He came to my door one time and said, Hey,

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man, what's what's going on with this truck on

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the curb? I was like, what do you mean? Like,

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I just why? Why are you pulled up onto my property?

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What? What are you talking about, man? And apparently

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I pulled up maybe like six inches a foot more

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than I usually did like towards his house and

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he thought that it was egregious enough to come

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to my door and Chastise me for where the truck

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was parked and that I was parked on his property

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Yeah, and this is the same man who half -assed

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half -assedly put up Christmas lights He ran

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like a string above his garage Eve and then One

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from the post by his door just randomly to a

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tree and left it up for like six months I think

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he put him up in like like mid December and then

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they came down like end of July He's like he's

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a redneck woman. Yeah, and then he I Guess he

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thinks he's got a green thumb because he's just

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got potted plants all over the place He does

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take care of his yard. I'll give him that yeah,

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but He also just has re -inputted plants everywhere.

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Yeah, I don't I don't know what's going on with

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him Because every interaction with him has made

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it to where I don't want to know what's going

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on with him. That's fair. So we just co -habitate

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and Try to make the best of it. I feel like we've

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become such an anti -social society in just like

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a general sense that there Feels like there's

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so much weight on every interaction that we have.

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Mm -hmm. And so now we expect if things don't

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go Our way from the get -go that we just have

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to be the like chest beating assholes kind of

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thing. That's fair. Yeah, I mean even if you're

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not even if you're not basing this on community

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just Interactions in general. Yeah, I get that

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you don't know what everyone is dealing with

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at all times during their lives But I feel like

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common courtesy is just out the window and that

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is it shouldn't be groundbreaking when you go

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somewhere and someone says, hey, how you doing?

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But it is, especially unlike, I want to put your

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industry on blast, but I do feel like since COVID,

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since all the lockdowns and everything, like

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service industry has just gone in the toilet.

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I've had a couple of conversations about that

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specific thing that like since COVID happened,

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it changed the perspective for both sides. for

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the patrons and for the people that work it.

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So for the people that work it, they were told

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they were these like essential workers or whatever.

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Like, I worked at a BJs during COVID. I was not

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in this. I worked at a very lame chain restaurant

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during COVID. I was not an essential worker.

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But they brought me back because, you know, both

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Texas and because we were in desperate need of

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employees and the people that came back. were

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a 50 -50 of the ones that were just like so excited

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to be out of lockdown and away from their homes

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for a while. And the people who were just so

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far up their own butts about how we did things,

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like no one is requiring you to go to a restaurant.

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I don't know why anyone would go to a restaurant

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if they had this like, you're not doing this,

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this, and this, right? Like, I know. I have 10

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tables right now, like I have to move at the

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pace that I'm moving. There are things that are

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going to get sacrificed and I'm trying to like

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Like I'm trying to keep both healthy and I'm

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trying to keep as clean as possible. But there

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are some things that just like will fall by the

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wayside. And so it was so deeply demoralizing

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for a lot of people in the industry that they

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came back to something that had just changed

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so drastically so fast. And people felt in a

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lot of ways that they were given free reign to

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treat us like we weren't people anymore. And

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so it was a... Yeah, things got worse on both

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sides. And then when inflation got like continuously

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worse and things got more expensive, people were

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more pissed off about the tipping thing. And

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because of also because of COVID, every everyone

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who gave you a thing who did who passed a food

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or a drink over a counter served you for the

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amount of times that or the amount of time that

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it takes to get from an espresso machine to the

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front counter would like give you an iPad with

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a tip option. And so like It pissed off everyone.

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Yeah, no one of my least favorite things that

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I just I still cannot wrap my head around is

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You go to a game like a sporting event. You're

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paying $50 for parking You paid easily $100 per

00:17:48.950 --> 00:17:52.509
ticket you go in you wait 45 minutes on the line

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to get carnival food and they just go get the

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prepackaged thing or they fill up a cup they

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hand it to you they flip their computer around

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and there's an option for a 25 % tip and I think

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that one of the biggest issues that people have

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is like where is the line for you are paying

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You were being paid to do this job versus this

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is a job that you went above and beyond for to

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get a tip. I don't know if this is a controversial

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take, because I know that like tipping in its

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entirety is really controversial right now, but

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I don't... More than just a city in China. I

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don't like tipping people that get paid hourly.

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I think that it's... You mean like an hourly

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wage, like a regular hourly wage, not like the

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213 that servers get. I don't get paid that 213.

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I've never seen it. in all of my time serving.

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It's not, it's not a real number, but I don't

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like tipping people that make hourly. And part

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of that, this might sound like a cop out. But

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part of that is because I think that if you perpetuate

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the system and you're, say you're tipping baristas,

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people who are making hopefully a decent amount

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of money, if you start tipping people like that,

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then are people in those roles, then they're

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those companies are going to decide, Oh, well,

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these people are making a good amount of tips.

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We're just going to move them to the same Payscale

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the servers you're gonna make them make to 13

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an hour and then people are going to like car

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hops at Sonic Mm -hmm the fact that those people

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make to 13 an hour and it's not widely known

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that they're actual like servers They don't make

00:19:20.359 --> 00:19:24.259
they make 13 an hour. Oh, I've never seen Sonic

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busy enough to justify to 13 an hour and so Realistically

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like they that just gives them the ability to

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pitch the job as like you'll be making 12 to

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15 dollars an hour Which no one is ever going

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to make $12 to $15 an hour at Sonic. They're

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going to make $7 .25 and that's because they

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didn't make enough in tips to cover the difference

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between $2 .13 and $7 .25. I can get very heated

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about tipping culture. I'm surprised because,

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I mean, you have been in the serving industry

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for way longer than I was. I just passed 10 years.

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comforting I guess to know that the issue is

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on both sides and it's not just you look like

00:20:05.079 --> 00:20:08.200
a dick for just saying hey these people shouldn't

00:20:08.200 --> 00:20:10.660
be tipped like they're just doing their job why

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am I and there's there's nothing to go above

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and beyond for like there's I was still waiting

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in line for 45 minutes was there anything you

00:20:18.579 --> 00:20:22.099
could have done about that and then you get the

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people I mean I don't I guess once the option

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was available to them then all of a sudden well

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if you're not gonna tip and I'm just not gonna

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do my job I'll just do it whenever I feel like

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doing it and it's just I don't know what the

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solution is but it is very frustrating to have

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spill into all sorts of aspects of life I think

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the the solution in that case is to eradicate

00:20:47.160 --> 00:20:49.559
tipping entirely I say that for the record as

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a person like I said who has been tipped or in

00:20:52.140 --> 00:20:55.140
tipped jobs for 10 years now. I think eventually

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the solution is just to stop tipping because

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it doesn't make any sense. Like I've benefited

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from the system the way that it is but it would

00:21:02.640 --> 00:21:05.319
make so much more sense if we adopted the like

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the European model or the model of almost any

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other country and give people that do like service

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jobs and hourly wage and then you can tip if

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it's appropriate based on the level of they you

00:21:18.859 --> 00:21:20.930
feel like they went above and beyond. Yeah. Like

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I worked in a place where like the amount that

00:21:25.130 --> 00:21:29.490
a guest would spend was very high. And so it

00:21:29.490 --> 00:21:32.130
kind of enabled this kind of mentality with a

00:21:32.130 --> 00:21:34.150
lot of people that I worked with that like because

00:21:34.150 --> 00:21:37.450
we had high standards that we deserved more than

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like 20 % of the bill to which I think it's ridiculous.

00:21:41.259 --> 00:21:43.559
because I'm grateful that you gave me anything.

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Yeah, some tips are stupid. Sometimes it is genuinely

00:21:47.599 --> 00:21:50.319
a slight to you because a person agreed to go

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out to a restaurant knowing that... the person

00:21:52.299 --> 00:21:53.599
that was taking care of them and was creating

00:21:53.599 --> 00:21:55.319
this experience for them was making two thirteen

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an hour and they actively chose to not tip. Yeah,

00:21:58.019 --> 00:22:00.519
it's an unwritten social contract. Right. But

00:22:00.519 --> 00:22:03.140
at the same time, like I think there is a, for

00:22:03.140 --> 00:22:05.059
lack of a better term, a tipping point where

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like it's just it's kind of absurd the things

00:22:08.019 --> 00:22:09.740
that some of the people that are still in the

00:22:09.740 --> 00:22:12.420
service industry expect at this point. Like at

00:22:12.420 --> 00:22:14.440
the end of the day, like you're serving food,

00:22:14.720 --> 00:22:16.579
you're making like you're being super friendly

00:22:16.579 --> 00:22:19.839
with them. Like maybe I'll get along. Cool. That

00:22:19.839 --> 00:22:23.019
is your job. Yeah. And then you've got companies

00:22:23.019 --> 00:22:27.279
that try to straddle the line like Casablanita.

00:22:27.920 --> 00:22:31.539
There is a added gratuity. I don't remember how

00:22:31.539 --> 00:22:34.799
much it was. But the reasoning is so that our

00:22:34.799 --> 00:22:38.279
servers can have a living wage. Okay. Then if

00:22:38.279 --> 00:22:40.200
you're going to add it on anyways, then just

00:22:40.200 --> 00:22:42.900
add it to the price of the food. But then you

00:22:42.900 --> 00:22:44.599
don't want to add it to the price of the food

00:22:44.599 --> 00:22:48.099
because then that makes the food less desirable.

00:22:48.680 --> 00:22:50.859
And then you're not going to have as much Business

00:22:50.859 --> 00:22:53.940
and so what you're saying is like you're putting

00:22:53.940 --> 00:22:57.599
it on the customer Saying hey these are the prices

00:22:57.599 --> 00:23:00.019
of our food, but you're gonna have to pay this

00:23:00.019 --> 00:23:03.220
and you're not gonna have any Say in it we're

00:23:03.220 --> 00:23:05.920
gonna force you to pay it because if you don't

00:23:05.920 --> 00:23:09.519
then these servers don't have a living wage Well,

00:23:09.519 --> 00:23:13.079
then maybe restructure your system Don't try

00:23:13.079 --> 00:23:15.119
to put this guilt trip on me saying oh well We

00:23:15.119 --> 00:23:18.019
had to do this 15 % because otherwise all these

00:23:18.019 --> 00:23:20.920
servers are gonna be out on the streets One last

00:23:20.920 --> 00:23:25.359
little soap box about tipping. I recently left

00:23:25.359 --> 00:23:28.400
a job where apparently this is a pretty common

00:23:28.400 --> 00:23:31.059
practice. I was at the same job for four years

00:23:31.059 --> 00:23:33.599
before this one. And apparently it's pretty common

00:23:33.599 --> 00:23:37.059
practice that your tips to your server are split

00:23:37.059 --> 00:23:39.380
between all of the members of the service staff

00:23:39.380 --> 00:23:42.880
as well as the people that seat you, the people

00:23:42.880 --> 00:23:44.660
that run your food, and the people who clean

00:23:44.660 --> 00:23:48.000
your tables. Which I had a problem with the one

00:23:48.000 --> 00:23:50.960
that cleans your tables. Because if you're doing

00:23:50.960 --> 00:23:54.420
your job, because I worked at a child's play

00:23:54.420 --> 00:23:57.880
of serving, I didn't ever step up to anything

00:23:57.880 --> 00:24:00.740
that was ever serious. But we did have stuff

00:24:00.740 --> 00:24:03.839
like that. Like we had, we had a essay, a server

00:24:03.839 --> 00:24:06.299
assistant, funny because they were usually Mexican.

00:24:06.799 --> 00:24:11.859
They were my essay. Anyways, if you're doing

00:24:11.859 --> 00:24:14.559
your job the right way, then whenever that table

00:24:14.559 --> 00:24:16.500
is gone, there shouldn't be much work for them

00:24:16.500 --> 00:24:19.809
to do. And so you have this person that is supposed

00:24:19.809 --> 00:24:21.549
to come up behind you and get your table ready

00:24:21.549 --> 00:24:24.269
for the next person But then you're being chastised

00:24:24.269 --> 00:24:26.630
if you don't have full hands in full hands out

00:24:26.630 --> 00:24:30.109
So you you go out you're running food But you

00:24:30.109 --> 00:24:33.170
come in with the dirty dishes to put in the the

00:24:33.170 --> 00:24:35.569
pit and those get washed so they can be reused

00:24:35.569 --> 00:24:39.029
So then why are we having all these extra people

00:24:39.029 --> 00:24:41.230
here if at the end of them getting up? There's

00:24:41.230 --> 00:24:43.769
maybe like two cups to go and then you just wipe

00:24:43.769 --> 00:24:47.180
the table down Why are we paying for people to

00:24:47.180 --> 00:24:50.119
run the food when you're expecting all the servers

00:24:50.119 --> 00:24:52.240
that have all this other stuff to do are also

00:24:52.240 --> 00:24:55.259
running the food? Like we're paying one person

00:24:55.259 --> 00:24:58.059
to run the food, but maybe you've only been to

00:24:58.059 --> 00:25:00.539
my table four times in one night And I owe you

00:25:00.539 --> 00:25:03.240
$20 because that if that if that's upsetting

00:25:03.240 --> 00:25:05.559
to you then you would you would be driven absolutely

00:25:05.559 --> 00:25:08.599
crazy by the the tip system that That's why I

00:25:08.599 --> 00:25:10.579
got out. Yeah. I mean, that's one of the reasons

00:25:10.579 --> 00:25:16.450
but that was why I did not like the job anymore.

00:25:16.950 --> 00:25:19.049
Yeah. The place that I most recently worked at,

00:25:19.809 --> 00:25:22.690
they didn't hire anyone but servers. So the people

00:25:22.690 --> 00:25:24.789
that hosted were servers, the people that ran

00:25:24.789 --> 00:25:27.250
food were servers, the people that like bartended

00:25:27.250 --> 00:25:28.990
were servers. And the reason that they did that

00:25:28.990 --> 00:25:31.309
was because everyone that did any one of those

00:25:31.309 --> 00:25:34.029
like support jobs or actual serving was making

00:25:34.029 --> 00:25:35.869
the exact same amount of money. And it was so

00:25:35.869 --> 00:25:37.289
that the restaurant didn't have to pay anybody.

00:25:37.650 --> 00:25:41.140
Everyone made two 13 an hour. And if I Say I

00:25:41.140 --> 00:25:43.519
made $200 and a night I would probably take home

00:25:43.519 --> 00:25:46.819
75 because hosts don't contribute anything to

00:25:46.819 --> 00:25:48.619
a tip pool. Runners don't contribute anything

00:25:48.619 --> 00:25:50.960
to a tip pool. Anyone that busses tables doesn't

00:25:50.960 --> 00:25:52.940
contribute anything to a tip pool. But my money

00:25:52.940 --> 00:25:55.759
is everyone's money. Yeah. So if you're if you're

00:25:55.759 --> 00:25:58.980
one of the hosts or you're one of the bus people

00:25:58.980 --> 00:26:04.579
and you just see someone that is being the worst

00:26:04.579 --> 00:26:06.619
to one of their tables and do they say anything?

00:26:07.180 --> 00:26:09.140
like do they say hey you treat this table right

00:26:09.140 --> 00:26:11.559
you're messing with my money there were there

00:26:11.559 --> 00:26:13.599
were a couple of people who i guess had come

00:26:13.599 --> 00:26:15.059
from like restaurants that were in a different

00:26:15.059 --> 00:26:18.000
system and i i hadn't worked in a system like

00:26:18.000 --> 00:26:20.740
this where everyone was making all of the same

00:26:20.740 --> 00:26:23.359
money um but i still helped out all of my teammates

00:26:23.359 --> 00:26:25.500
because if the restaurant does better the restaurant

00:26:25.500 --> 00:26:29.700
does better and there were people at my last

00:26:29.700 --> 00:26:32.019
job that would be upset that they would have

00:26:32.019 --> 00:26:34.549
to like ring in food for somebody else because

00:26:34.549 --> 00:26:37.069
when they went to drop something off the table

00:26:37.069 --> 00:26:39.630
was like, hey, can I also get this? Like that's

00:26:39.630 --> 00:26:41.750
still your job. You're taking care of everybody

00:26:41.750 --> 00:26:43.650
in the restaurant just because that's not, you're

00:26:43.650 --> 00:26:45.809
not technically the person that's taking care

00:26:45.809 --> 00:26:49.809
of them. You, you cannot possibly have the, this

00:26:49.809 --> 00:26:52.950
is just my section of the restaurant mentality

00:26:52.950 --> 00:26:56.869
if you're sharing your money. And so it's, it

00:26:56.869 --> 00:27:00.089
just got to a point of just abject ridiculousness,

00:27:00.450 --> 00:27:02.799
which I think the industry and its entirety is

00:27:02.799 --> 00:27:04.559
getting that way because of the the greed of

00:27:04.559 --> 00:27:06.880
the companies that run them. All of the hospitality

00:27:06.880 --> 00:27:09.099
groups that have decided that the more people

00:27:09.099 --> 00:27:11.019
that they can hire at two thirteen an hour, the

00:27:11.019 --> 00:27:13.539
better. What do you think the breaking point

00:27:13.539 --> 00:27:17.079
is going to be? Inflation is going to be used

00:27:17.079 --> 00:27:19.559
as the scapegoat for restaurants raising their

00:27:19.559 --> 00:27:23.220
prices to a laughable extent. I think that eventually

00:27:23.220 --> 00:27:26.069
it's going to get like if you Look at the trends

00:27:26.069 --> 00:27:29.829
with how Gen Z versus the Millennial spend at

00:27:29.829 --> 00:27:32.750
restaurants. Gen Z is going back to Chili's,

00:27:32.769 --> 00:27:35.349
to Applebee's, to all of these like chain restaurants

00:27:35.349 --> 00:27:37.619
that like Millennials kind of turned up their

00:27:37.619 --> 00:27:39.660
noses at because millennials wanted like the

00:27:39.660 --> 00:27:42.460
more hipster food, the thing with a concept behind

00:27:42.460 --> 00:27:46.539
it. And so so many restaurants took that and

00:27:46.539 --> 00:27:49.460
used it as an insane ego boost. They were like,

00:27:49.519 --> 00:27:51.819
we can call it farm to table and charge whatever

00:27:51.819 --> 00:27:54.460
we want for it. And so I think that those things

00:27:54.460 --> 00:27:56.539
are on their way out. And because of that, the

00:27:56.539 --> 00:27:58.420
industry in its entirety is going to collapse

00:27:58.420 --> 00:28:02.180
one day. The dining experience is so ruined because

00:28:02.180 --> 00:28:04.119
of how expensive absolutely everything has gotten.

00:28:04.319 --> 00:28:07.309
And there's no way to to rectify that with a

00:28:07.309 --> 00:28:10.089
good enough experience. I can make sure that

00:28:10.089 --> 00:28:11.710
you enjoy your food. I'll make sure that everything

00:28:11.710 --> 00:28:14.250
gets to your table on time. You get refills and

00:28:14.250 --> 00:28:16.269
all the things you need, whatever. But at the

00:28:16.269 --> 00:28:18.349
end of the day, if the only thing that you're

00:28:18.349 --> 00:28:20.089
taking away from your experience is how much

00:28:20.089 --> 00:28:21.650
money you spent, you're not going to go back.

00:28:22.049 --> 00:28:24.170
It's not going to be worth it to you no matter

00:28:24.170 --> 00:28:26.789
how much you enjoyed everything. And the more

00:28:26.789 --> 00:28:28.829
experiences you have, where your takeaway from

00:28:28.829 --> 00:28:32.410
it is just how expensive it was, then eventually

00:28:32.410 --> 00:28:34.509
the industry is... It's going to meet its end.

00:28:34.690 --> 00:28:37.369
Yeah. And even those chain places, the prices

00:28:37.369 --> 00:28:39.410
are ridiculous from what they used to be. Yeah.

00:28:39.670 --> 00:28:41.970
I mean, I sound like I'm just screaming at the

00:28:41.970 --> 00:28:44.109
clouds when I say that there used to be a two

00:28:44.109 --> 00:28:46.109
for 20 where two people could eat at Chili's

00:28:46.109 --> 00:28:50.269
for $20. An appetizer, two entrees and two drinks

00:28:50.269 --> 00:28:54.930
for $20. Yeah. And now that's like part of one

00:28:54.930 --> 00:28:57.549
person's meal. Right. That being said, these

00:28:57.549 --> 00:28:59.930
millennials are going to Chili's this evening.

00:29:00.289 --> 00:29:04.099
So. We also have a real fun story from the last

00:29:04.099 --> 00:29:06.279
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00:29:22.750 --> 00:29:25.410
right, number two. Number two. Have you ever

00:29:25.410 --> 00:29:27.670
been told, I think you probably hear this in

00:29:27.670 --> 00:29:30.710
school, you'll need this in the future. I think

00:29:30.710 --> 00:29:32.950
in a lot of the context that like that's been

00:29:32.950 --> 00:29:35.450
used in, I was a little too young for that to

00:29:35.450 --> 00:29:38.450
have made sense. Because I was already like,

00:29:38.769 --> 00:29:40.710
I still had there were still cell phones and

00:29:40.710 --> 00:29:43.500
stuff from the earliest memories that I have.

00:29:43.980 --> 00:29:45.839
They weren't as widespread, but I don't think

00:29:45.839 --> 00:29:47.960
I got like the, you have to be able to do this

00:29:47.960 --> 00:29:49.960
math by hand because you're never gonna have

00:29:49.960 --> 00:29:52.480
a calculator with you. Or you need to memorize

00:29:52.480 --> 00:29:54.819
these facts and be able to recite them back to

00:29:54.819 --> 00:29:57.339
me because you're not just gonna have some easy

00:29:57.339 --> 00:29:59.940
way to look it up in the future when you need

00:29:59.940 --> 00:30:02.160
this information. To be fair, that mentality

00:30:02.160 --> 00:30:04.180
is why I am great at trivia. It's why both of

00:30:04.180 --> 00:30:05.900
us are great at trivia, I'm sure. We are, yeah.

00:30:06.220 --> 00:30:10.059
The elderly gentleman that I am. All throughout

00:30:10.059 --> 00:30:12.839
school it was you need to have this you need

00:30:12.839 --> 00:30:14.640
to be able to do this by hand because you're

00:30:14.640 --> 00:30:18.960
not going to be able to use Calculators or this

00:30:18.960 --> 00:30:21.700
or that or whatever whenever you're older and

00:30:21.700 --> 00:30:24.180
now it's just all in our pockets Literally anything

00:30:24.180 --> 00:30:28.779
there's a picture from an ad from I would almost

00:30:28.779 --> 00:30:33.109
say the mid 90s and it is just all the technology

00:30:33.109 --> 00:30:36.009
of the day. It was like, I don't know, 50 different

00:30:36.009 --> 00:30:38.529
things. It was a CD player. It was a cassette

00:30:38.529 --> 00:30:43.089
player. It was a boom box. It was a TV. It was

00:30:43.089 --> 00:30:45.289
a Game Boy. It was all this other stuff. And

00:30:45.289 --> 00:30:47.769
all that stuff is just in one device in our pockets

00:30:47.769 --> 00:30:50.049
at all times. Yeah. I think there's a lot of

00:30:50.049 --> 00:30:52.069
merit still to that one, that you need to be

00:30:52.069 --> 00:30:54.950
able to do this. Not, obviously, because there's

00:30:54.950 --> 00:30:56.569
no way that you'll be able to do it by yourself

00:30:56.569 --> 00:30:58.930
in the future if you don't learn now. But I think

00:30:58.930 --> 00:31:02.009
there is a lot of merit to knowing how to get

00:31:02.009 --> 00:31:04.170
from point A to point B, even if you don't use

00:31:04.170 --> 00:31:06.450
it regularly. Like, I don't think I could do

00:31:06.450 --> 00:31:09.579
long division, because it's been... a million

00:31:09.579 --> 00:31:12.119
years since I've had to do long division, developing

00:31:12.119 --> 00:31:14.920
that skill and being able to have, having been

00:31:14.920 --> 00:31:17.039
able to do it at some point in my life, it would

00:31:17.039 --> 00:31:19.160
be able to be picked back, picked back up if

00:31:19.160 --> 00:31:20.960
I needed it. Yeah. Like having an understanding

00:31:20.960 --> 00:31:23.799
of the concept, but maybe not being so beat over

00:31:23.799 --> 00:31:26.180
the head with it. Right. Yeah. Oh, now I get

00:31:26.180 --> 00:31:28.640
that. And there's, I mean, there's, there is

00:31:28.640 --> 00:31:31.519
still merits to anything. on this list there's

00:31:31.519 --> 00:31:34.019
still merits to love thy neighbor there's still

00:31:34.019 --> 00:31:36.960
merits for you'll need this information in the

00:31:36.960 --> 00:31:41.720
future but i just think that people really underestimated

00:31:41.720 --> 00:31:44.140
what the future would look like and so these

00:31:44.140 --> 00:31:47.579
things don't hold the weight that they used to

00:31:47.579 --> 00:31:51.220
imagine if the zoom was the like take -off music

00:31:51.220 --> 00:31:53.180
player imagine what would be technologically

00:31:53.180 --> 00:31:55.460
if it wasn't the ipod and we just had the zoo

00:31:55.460 --> 00:31:58.720
phone and then like i don't know what Bill Gates

00:31:58.720 --> 00:32:01.960
was the Steve Jobs. Yeah. Bill Gates had the

00:32:01.960 --> 00:32:04.059
black turtle necks. The illegitimate children.

00:32:04.259 --> 00:32:06.680
The black turtle necks? The thing that gave him

00:32:06.680 --> 00:32:10.319
power? It might be. But the last, yeah, because

00:32:10.319 --> 00:32:13.359
I think the last photo of Steve Jobs before he

00:32:13.359 --> 00:32:17.980
died is him in a deep V. So maybe if he had thrown

00:32:17.980 --> 00:32:19.660
on that black turtle neck one more time he could

00:32:19.660 --> 00:32:21.579
have powered through. Maybe he gave it up because

00:32:21.579 --> 00:32:24.839
he was killed by a PC. Maybe. Maybe they couldn't

00:32:24.839 --> 00:32:27.150
find the eye cure fast enough. How do you feel

00:32:27.150 --> 00:32:30.410
about the phrase hard work always pays off? I

00:32:30.410 --> 00:32:32.549
think it's absolute nonsense. I don't think it

00:32:32.549 --> 00:32:35.009
always pays off. I think it can pay off, but

00:32:35.009 --> 00:32:37.690
I think that a lot of things are dumb luck and

00:32:37.690 --> 00:32:41.549
the right connections at this point. No, my networking

00:32:41.549 --> 00:32:46.289
is so vital for any kind of work relationship.

00:32:47.009 --> 00:32:51.470
It's pretty frustrating as someone who maybe

00:32:51.470 --> 00:32:54.390
isn't as much of an extrovert as the next guy.

00:32:55.680 --> 00:33:00.619
you try to rest your laurels on, okay, well,

00:33:00.779 --> 00:33:04.279
maybe I can't yuck it up with these guys as much,

00:33:04.279 --> 00:33:07.339
but if I just put my nose to the grindstone and

00:33:07.339 --> 00:33:09.740
really, really knock it out of the park, then

00:33:09.740 --> 00:33:11.480
that's going to get me somewhere. It doesn't.

00:33:12.019 --> 00:33:13.519
It doesn't. The other guy is going to win every

00:33:13.519 --> 00:33:15.619
time. And so that's something that I've gotten

00:33:15.619 --> 00:33:18.339
better about is the, the schmoozing. I don't

00:33:18.339 --> 00:33:21.339
like it, but it's just a, it's just a fact of

00:33:21.339 --> 00:33:24.779
life. And it's just the way of the world. I think

00:33:24.779 --> 00:33:28.019
this particular idiom, aphorism, I don't know

00:33:28.019 --> 00:33:31.380
what the term is. I think it's an idiom. I think

00:33:31.380 --> 00:33:36.019
it's idiotic. Sure. I think this particular idiom

00:33:36.019 --> 00:33:41.500
grinds my gears. And it's because I worked incredibly

00:33:41.500 --> 00:33:45.460
hard to get a degree. Yeah. And in the time that

00:33:45.460 --> 00:33:47.460
I was trying to get a degree, I did have to work,

00:33:47.680 --> 00:33:51.259
which I think most people that are are getting

00:33:51.259 --> 00:33:53.700
their hydro... higher education degree have to

00:33:53.700 --> 00:33:57.359
work during that time. Whenever I finished school,

00:33:57.640 --> 00:34:02.519
I applied to everything that I could to get from

00:34:02.519 --> 00:34:07.680
food service into a job in my field. And I like

00:34:07.680 --> 00:34:10.519
agriculture. Honestly, I should have tried agriculture.

00:34:10.840 --> 00:34:13.039
I think I would have had better luck being a

00:34:13.039 --> 00:34:16.760
farmhand. But I applied to everything in my field

00:34:16.760 --> 00:34:19.139
and got nothing. And I knew that I had applied

00:34:19.139 --> 00:34:22.869
to jobs that like were based on the job descriptions

00:34:22.869 --> 00:34:25.309
out of my wheelhouse because a lot of the like

00:34:25.309 --> 00:34:28.250
almost every quote -unquote entry level job required

00:34:28.250 --> 00:34:30.690
years of experience or like internships or things

00:34:30.690 --> 00:34:33.309
that like I did not have the time or the opportunity

00:34:33.309 --> 00:34:37.010
to do when I was in school and so I I feel like

00:34:37.010 --> 00:34:38.650
I set myself up for failure and then I worked

00:34:38.650 --> 00:34:41.730
incredibly hard for a piece of paper that I cannot

00:34:41.730 --> 00:34:45.409
use but I can't get the opportunity to use because

00:34:45.409 --> 00:34:47.429
it doesn't really matter. Like I didn't have

00:34:47.429 --> 00:34:49.809
the the right connections. I didn't know any

00:34:49.809 --> 00:34:52.449
of the right people and I didn't have I didn't

00:34:52.449 --> 00:34:54.730
I guess put in enough effort to schmooze whenever

00:34:54.730 --> 00:34:56.889
I was in school to make connections with people

00:34:56.889 --> 00:35:00.710
who had connections Yeah, and you also fall into

00:35:00.710 --> 00:35:05.449
the trap of you've created a I wouldn't say it's

00:35:05.449 --> 00:35:08.570
a career because you I don't think people get

00:35:08.570 --> 00:35:12.590
into the service industry To say this is what

00:35:12.590 --> 00:35:16.579
am I doing forever? So it's like a It's a career

00:35:16.579 --> 00:35:20.500
like path, but it's it's not where you hope to

00:35:20.500 --> 00:35:23.539
end up. And so you have to flush all that down

00:35:23.539 --> 00:35:26.760
the toilet and start all over again from scratch

00:35:26.760 --> 00:35:28.719
when you're when you have your degree and you're

00:35:28.719 --> 00:35:31.880
moving on into something else. And I understand

00:35:31.880 --> 00:35:36.219
that you can do internships, you can and most

00:35:36.219 --> 00:35:39.099
of them are unpaid and take up all your time

00:35:39.099 --> 00:35:43.199
the time a normal job would take up. You can

00:35:43.840 --> 00:35:47.820
you maybe are trying to get a degree in a field

00:35:47.820 --> 00:35:50.460
that you're already working in. So it's it's

00:35:50.460 --> 00:35:54.800
you just by virtue of being already in the industry,

00:35:54.800 --> 00:35:58.699
you'll be able to work up faster. But usually

00:35:58.699 --> 00:36:02.059
for most people, it means just throwing everything

00:36:02.059 --> 00:36:04.719
away and starting from scratch and starting from

00:36:04.719 --> 00:36:08.519
the bottom. And maybe in five, six years, you're

00:36:08.519 --> 00:36:10.460
back to where you started. And then you're working

00:36:10.460 --> 00:36:15.269
up from there. And It's just it every day. It

00:36:15.269 --> 00:36:19.789
just seems like more and more one college degrees

00:36:19.789 --> 00:36:22.530
aren't worth it because I would say right now

00:36:22.530 --> 00:36:25.349
my college degree is not worth it. I couldn't

00:36:25.349 --> 00:36:27.449
tell you where my actual piece of paper is. I

00:36:27.449 --> 00:36:30.170
don't know where my degree is. Yeah, I don't

00:36:30.170 --> 00:36:34.070
currently use it. I'm hoping to but the plans

00:36:34.070 --> 00:36:35.690
that I have with the company that I'm at now,

00:36:35.730 --> 00:36:37.730
I don't need it. It's something to say that I

00:36:37.730 --> 00:36:40.349
have. I think I could still say that I have it

00:36:40.349 --> 00:36:44.340
and not ever need to verify it. But it just is

00:36:44.340 --> 00:36:47.619
it's it's rough to put all that time into that.

00:36:47.699 --> 00:36:50.440
And then you get into the other side and you

00:36:50.440 --> 00:36:52.420
think that you finally got it all together and

00:36:52.420 --> 00:36:55.480
everything's going to be peaches and cream. But

00:36:55.480 --> 00:36:58.400
you get hit with that hard reality that, uh,

00:36:58.579 --> 00:37:01.019
you know, actually none of that really matters

00:37:01.019 --> 00:37:02.920
because now you're just back to square one. Right.

00:37:03.380 --> 00:37:05.940
Whenever, whenever it was job hunting, a lot

00:37:05.940 --> 00:37:08.840
of the things that I found, um, because I like

00:37:09.150 --> 00:37:11.829
reached out to like career coaches and people

00:37:11.829 --> 00:37:13.510
who would give like advice on the specific kind

00:37:13.510 --> 00:37:16.130
of thing. Um, and a lot of it was like, you just

00:37:16.130 --> 00:37:17.630
need to get your foot in the door at the company

00:37:17.630 --> 00:37:19.570
and then prove that you can do the thing, whatever,

00:37:19.610 --> 00:37:21.510
which I don't think is something that still happens

00:37:21.510 --> 00:37:24.050
these days. Like the work your way up from the

00:37:24.050 --> 00:37:27.150
mail room is not, it's not real. It's not because

00:37:27.150 --> 00:37:32.030
then you have somebody who did a thing on the

00:37:32.030 --> 00:37:34.190
internet went viral and then we want them for

00:37:34.190 --> 00:37:36.550
this company. Right. But a lot of that, like

00:37:36.960 --> 00:37:39.099
It was talking about how they need to make sure

00:37:39.099 --> 00:37:41.940
that you have like this experience to make sure

00:37:41.940 --> 00:37:43.539
that you're like worth it as an employee essentially.

00:37:43.880 --> 00:37:46.320
Like yeah, I spent four years proving that I

00:37:46.320 --> 00:37:48.820
can do this stuff. I graduated with honors. Like

00:37:48.820 --> 00:37:51.179
I don't know what else you need for me to pay

00:37:51.179 --> 00:37:55.079
me not a livable wage. Yeah, I like to sit here

00:37:55.079 --> 00:37:58.900
and say yeah, we're real glad that you have all

00:37:58.900 --> 00:38:01.420
this knowledge for this industry fresh in your

00:38:01.420 --> 00:38:03.579
mind because you just graduated but you know,

00:38:04.199 --> 00:38:07.389
we can't trust you. We're going to start you

00:38:07.389 --> 00:38:09.590
here, but don't worry. Don't worry. You'll move

00:38:09.590 --> 00:38:13.269
up real fast. And that actually leads into another

00:38:13.269 --> 00:38:17.710
one of the words of non -wisdom. What's the opposite

00:38:17.710 --> 00:38:20.309
of wisdom? Idiocy? That's what I was going to

00:38:20.309 --> 00:38:23.929
say. Words of idiocy that we used to, that we

00:38:23.929 --> 00:38:27.030
had beaten to our heads was work for one job

00:38:27.030 --> 00:38:29.429
and rise up. You can't do that anymore. You are

00:38:29.429 --> 00:38:33.090
so expendable. You're with a job for 10 years.

00:38:33.510 --> 00:38:35.809
Something gets rough for them. they start looking

00:38:35.809 --> 00:38:38.909
at the people that make the most money or make

00:38:38.909 --> 00:38:41.769
more money than they'd like to not not that not

00:38:41.769 --> 00:38:44.010
the head people not the people at the head of

00:38:44.010 --> 00:38:48.369
table but they want the people that are more

00:38:48.369 --> 00:38:50.929
expensive and you're gonna be gone well it's

00:38:50.929 --> 00:38:53.170
cost -cutting because the company is really taking

00:38:53.170 --> 00:38:56.530
a hit right now because of ABC and D so we're

00:38:56.530 --> 00:38:59.110
sorry but we're just gonna have to let you go

00:38:59.579 --> 00:39:01.340
I've read something a little while ago talking

00:39:01.340 --> 00:39:04.400
about how Gen Z people are doing this thing that

00:39:04.400 --> 00:39:06.139
just like pisses off the boomers, which to be

00:39:06.139 --> 00:39:08.659
fair, it doesn't piss off the boomers. But they

00:39:08.659 --> 00:39:10.119
were talking about how Gen Z is doing something

00:39:10.119 --> 00:39:12.219
called job hopping, where it was like, you'll

00:39:12.219 --> 00:39:14.840
stay at a job for six months or whatever, and

00:39:14.840 --> 00:39:16.500
then you'll leave. And I absolutely support that

00:39:16.500 --> 00:39:19.360
because there's nothing that the companies are

00:39:19.360 --> 00:39:22.119
doing in the situation to feed back into you.

00:39:22.940 --> 00:39:26.019
It's a job. It's not a career. There was a job

00:39:26.019 --> 00:39:28.420
that I did for... It was there for like eight

00:39:28.420 --> 00:39:30.880
months and I love my coworkers. But there was

00:39:30.880 --> 00:39:33.119
a certain point where everything had changed

00:39:33.119 --> 00:39:37.599
hands in upper management. And so they decided

00:39:37.599 --> 00:39:40.260
that the best way to approach all of the change

00:39:40.260 --> 00:39:44.900
that was happening was to set weekly Q &As with

00:39:44.900 --> 00:39:49.760
our CEO. Every week, for months, they would take

00:39:49.760 --> 00:39:52.579
every member of the company. They would put us

00:39:52.579 --> 00:39:54.219
on a Zoom call and then they would just tell

00:39:54.219 --> 00:39:56.920
us like, we're downsizing. We're just like trying

00:39:56.920 --> 00:39:59.679
to make sure this company makes sense. We're

00:39:59.679 --> 00:40:01.639
restructuring. We're trying to figure out how

00:40:01.639 --> 00:40:04.440
these pieces fit into this puzzle. And the entire

00:40:04.440 --> 00:40:06.860
thing was just like, people would be asking the

00:40:06.860 --> 00:40:08.679
one question that everybody wanted to know that

00:40:08.679 --> 00:40:10.199
they weren't going to outright tell us, which

00:40:10.199 --> 00:40:13.599
was, are we getting laid off? For months, they

00:40:13.599 --> 00:40:17.099
just would skirt the fact that 100 out of 150

00:40:17.099 --> 00:40:20.320
questions, where are we getting laid off? And

00:40:20.320 --> 00:40:22.400
then they just cut everybody. And like at that

00:40:22.400 --> 00:40:25.280
point, why would I want to stay? If you spent

00:40:25.280 --> 00:40:27.079
two months telling me that I'm about to lose

00:40:27.079 --> 00:40:29.559
my job, what reason do I have to want to try?

00:40:29.920 --> 00:40:33.059
Yeah, I mean there's no there's no loyalty anymore

00:40:33.059 --> 00:40:39.539
and okay, that's if the Bottom line and the profit

00:40:39.539 --> 00:40:41.659
margin is more important than the people that

00:40:41.659 --> 00:40:46.159
make that profit then That is fine. That's your

00:40:46.159 --> 00:40:48.780
choice, but I don't owe you anything. I don't

00:40:48.780 --> 00:40:53.460
have to sit here and kiss the ring when Something

00:40:53.460 --> 00:40:56.300
goes south with me. Oh, well, you you have cancer.

00:40:56.639 --> 00:40:59.159
We really need you in here. Okay. Well, I got

00:40:59.159 --> 00:41:02.639
chemo Okay, well, can you come in after and that

00:41:02.639 --> 00:41:08.039
was based on a post I found on reddit a Meta

00:41:08.039 --> 00:41:10.519
the name I the asshole was like, how are you

00:41:10.519 --> 00:41:13.559
asking yourself this question? Yeah, if you're

00:41:13.559 --> 00:41:15.679
an asshole because you told your boss you weren't

00:41:15.679 --> 00:41:19.420
gonna come in post chemo and I know a lot of

00:41:19.420 --> 00:41:22.820
this is going to affect older generations and

00:41:22.820 --> 00:41:24.760
well just pull yourself up by your bootstraps

00:41:24.760 --> 00:41:28.480
and and do all this and do all that but this

00:41:28.480 --> 00:41:31.820
is a completely different system this is i won't

00:41:31.820 --> 00:41:33.480
say that's a completely different system than

00:41:33.480 --> 00:41:36.360
the one they have it's a completely different

00:41:36.360 --> 00:41:39.619
system than what they were raised in but then

00:41:39.619 --> 00:41:42.739
they did the same thing peter dingledge did uh

00:41:42.739 --> 00:41:45.000
they got their success and then they shut the

00:41:45.000 --> 00:41:48.920
door right behind them and so now all these younger

00:41:48.920 --> 00:41:50.820
generations are picking up all the pieces from

00:41:50.820 --> 00:41:52.780
and just trying to make something work. Yeah.

00:41:53.199 --> 00:41:56.639
And then you get all these, all these older people

00:41:56.639 --> 00:41:58.679
coming on the news saying, Oh, well, younger

00:41:58.679 --> 00:42:00.400
generations don't want to work anymore. They

00:42:00.400 --> 00:42:01.800
don't want to do this. They don't want to do

00:42:01.800 --> 00:42:05.380
that. And all the all that other stuff. And I

00:42:05.380 --> 00:42:09.099
mean, it's true. But it's also not as cut and

00:42:09.099 --> 00:42:11.119
dry as these people are just lazy. It's these

00:42:11.119 --> 00:42:15.059
people are just tired of it. These people are

00:42:15.059 --> 00:42:20.710
it's so bad that a CEO for a pharmaceutical company

00:42:20.710 --> 00:42:23.889
can be gunned down in the middle of the streets

00:42:23.889 --> 00:42:26.329
in New York City and people are praising the

00:42:26.329 --> 00:42:29.010
shooter. And for the record, don't agree with

00:42:29.010 --> 00:42:32.210
it. There's all I have UnitedHealthcare. There's

00:42:32.210 --> 00:42:34.550
a whole bunch of stuff that they do that I don't

00:42:34.550 --> 00:42:36.849
agree with. That doesn't give someone the right

00:42:36.849 --> 00:42:42.829
to murder their CEO who was a father, a husband,

00:42:43.150 --> 00:42:45.010
I don't know whatever his deal was, but it doesn't

00:42:45.010 --> 00:42:48.260
matter. And for people to justify it by saying,

00:42:48.320 --> 00:42:51.920
oh, well, he was a shit dad because I read this

00:42:51.920 --> 00:42:54.480
story on this one place. Oh, he was a shit husband

00:42:54.480 --> 00:42:56.659
because maybe they were getting a divorce and

00:42:56.659 --> 00:42:59.019
all this other stuff. Like if you have to justify

00:42:59.019 --> 00:43:01.460
it that hard, then you completely lost the point.

00:43:01.739 --> 00:43:04.920
Like it's either about the decisions he made

00:43:04.920 --> 00:43:07.940
with the health care company as the CEO or it

00:43:07.940 --> 00:43:10.119
isn't. But you can't say, well, it was because

00:43:10.119 --> 00:43:12.519
of that. But then he also deserved it because

00:43:12.519 --> 00:43:15.090
of all these personal reasons. Well, you wouldn't

00:43:15.090 --> 00:43:17.070
know these personal reasons if he hadn't been

00:43:17.070 --> 00:43:19.349
gunned down in the middle of the street in New

00:43:19.349 --> 00:43:23.289
York City. I'm not as against that particular

00:43:23.289 --> 00:43:26.630
situation as you are. Not condoning murder, obviously,

00:43:27.010 --> 00:43:32.949
but in the terms of what he did as the CEO, there

00:43:32.949 --> 00:43:35.889
were a lot of, like, cost -cutting measures or

00:43:35.889 --> 00:43:37.949
profit -boosting things and stuff that were just

00:43:37.949 --> 00:43:43.130
so incredibly inhuman that, like... I think it's

00:43:43.130 --> 00:43:47.269
tough to to justify his humanity in a lot of

00:43:47.269 --> 00:43:50.989
ways. Yeah. Again, not condoning murder, but

00:43:50.989 --> 00:43:55.110
I think that if you are giving him that level

00:43:55.110 --> 00:43:57.070
of humanity, like, yeah, he was a father, he

00:43:57.070 --> 00:43:59.090
was someone's son, he was all of these things

00:43:59.090 --> 00:44:01.150
like, yeah, but so were all of the people that

00:44:01.150 --> 00:44:03.469
died because they didn't have access to proper

00:44:03.469 --> 00:44:05.929
health care because of choices that that man

00:44:05.929 --> 00:44:08.650
made. And then he goes on to earnings calls to

00:44:08.650 --> 00:44:11.519
brag about it. Yeah. Don't condone what happened,

00:44:11.539 --> 00:44:14.159
but I also don't feel a whole lot of sympathy

00:44:14.159 --> 00:44:18.760
for it, but it's it's also it's the People are

00:44:18.760 --> 00:44:21.179
just a number. That's the that's the attitude

00:44:21.179 --> 00:44:24.460
with everything even outside of healthcare is

00:44:24.460 --> 00:44:27.519
that people are completely expendable people

00:44:27.519 --> 00:44:32.800
have no no background or they have no Familial

00:44:32.800 --> 00:44:35.659
ties. They are just a drone that is meant to

00:44:35.659 --> 00:44:39.199
do a thing until they are no longer Useful to

00:44:39.199 --> 00:44:42.639
do that thing and then they can be let go and

00:44:42.639 --> 00:44:48.239
so I come I completely get the mindset behind

00:44:48.239 --> 00:44:54.900
the motivation it's not as cut and dry as CNN

00:44:54.900 --> 00:44:57.139
wants to make it it's not cut and dry as Fox

00:44:57.139 --> 00:44:59.639
News wants to make it there's definitely a bunch

00:44:59.639 --> 00:45:03.199
of gray area and I think I mean I'm definitely

00:45:03.199 --> 00:45:06.360
not in the center I fall towards one side But

00:45:06.360 --> 00:45:09.619
I'm not just completely on that bandwagon. But

00:45:09.619 --> 00:45:11.659
I mean, we're just going to see more and more

00:45:11.659 --> 00:45:15.420
of this as the system begins to crumble more

00:45:15.420 --> 00:45:17.719
and more every day. So there was a thing that

00:45:17.719 --> 00:45:19.980
happened. I don't remember exactly what it was

00:45:19.980 --> 00:45:21.599
because there have been a billion things that

00:45:21.599 --> 00:45:24.539
have happened since. But after after the CEO

00:45:24.539 --> 00:45:26.780
was shot, there was something that happened with

00:45:26.780 --> 00:45:28.940
Blue Cross Blue Shield, where they had made a

00:45:28.940 --> 00:45:31.019
decision and they walked it back immediately,

00:45:31.139 --> 00:45:34.889
immediately afterwards. I think it was. probably

00:45:34.889 --> 00:45:36.590
remarkably stupid for them to have done that.

00:45:36.710 --> 00:45:41.010
Yes. Because if you are under the impression,

00:45:41.190 --> 00:45:43.190
because I assume it was some incredibly high

00:45:43.190 --> 00:45:45.550
-up person in the company that was like, oh shit,

00:45:45.610 --> 00:45:48.309
I don't want to die next. Yeah. If you are proving

00:45:48.309 --> 00:45:50.269
to the American people that you have the ability

00:45:50.269 --> 00:45:54.389
to not make decisions that would decimate plenty

00:45:54.389 --> 00:45:56.989
of families, and you're only going to do the

00:45:56.989 --> 00:45:59.769
right thing whenever one of your compatriots

00:45:59.769 --> 00:46:02.230
gets murdered, then I think you're maybe you're

00:46:02.230 --> 00:46:04.210
maybe telling the wrong. perpetuating the wrong

00:46:04.210 --> 00:46:07.190
narrative. In a way, it's rewarding bad behavior.

00:46:07.690 --> 00:46:10.489
That's saying, Oh, so there's consequences to

00:46:10.489 --> 00:46:13.730
this. Well, then maybe I'll just maybe that's

00:46:13.730 --> 00:46:16.510
not the right way to phrase it. So so someone

00:46:16.510 --> 00:46:21.909
does something bad. And then so on the the Blue

00:46:21.909 --> 00:46:24.690
Cross Blue Shield side, it's oh, okay, so there

00:46:24.690 --> 00:46:27.429
can be consequences for me making these decisions.

00:46:27.590 --> 00:46:30.090
Let's reverse it. But then on the other hand,

00:46:30.170 --> 00:46:33.539
you're also saying Okay, so if we murder people

00:46:33.539 --> 00:46:36.559
we get our way and so it's a double -edged sword.

00:46:36.800 --> 00:46:38.860
Yeah, I think it was the wrong decision, too

00:46:38.860 --> 00:46:42.519
Because just the optics of it as a business and

00:46:42.519 --> 00:46:46.500
if if you sit back and think about the fact that

00:46:46.500 --> 00:46:50.039
These people have been raking in millions and

00:46:50.039 --> 00:46:53.219
millions and millions of dollars every year as

00:46:53.219 --> 00:46:55.519
the ones who quote -unquote make these decisions

00:46:55.519 --> 00:47:00.679
Consequence free Maybe they have a protest or

00:47:00.679 --> 00:47:03.199
something once a year outside their building

00:47:03.199 --> 00:47:06.940
when they're walking to their town car or whatever

00:47:06.940 --> 00:47:10.920
Yeah, and then now you're showing them. Hey No

00:47:10.920 --> 00:47:15.480
Not anymore. So I do I do understand that aspect

00:47:15.480 --> 00:47:22.219
of it and I I do maybe I'm a little closer to

00:47:22.219 --> 00:47:25.800
the situation just because I at face value have

00:47:25.800 --> 00:47:30.840
a lot more Similarities father. Yeah and father

00:47:30.840 --> 00:47:34.039
and it's just yeah, I mean maybe that probably

00:47:34.039 --> 00:47:37.800
has a lot to do with it sure, but you also Having

00:47:37.800 --> 00:47:40.099
known you for in all of my life. You would never

00:47:40.099 --> 00:47:43.800
make a decision or a series of decisions That

00:47:43.800 --> 00:47:46.119
would be such a net negative for so many people

00:47:46.119 --> 00:47:49.199
No, so you you can't really put yourself on the

00:47:49.199 --> 00:47:52.340
same playing field because you wouldn't I Don't

00:47:52.340 --> 00:47:54.139
think ever be in a situation where you would

00:47:54.139 --> 00:47:57.199
do something so completely disregarding of human

00:47:57.199 --> 00:48:01.760
life But I think that he also was put in a position

00:48:01.760 --> 00:48:06.539
where, okay, you either make this as valuable

00:48:06.539 --> 00:48:09.500
to the stakeholders as possible or you don't

00:48:09.500 --> 00:48:11.860
get a salary anymore. You get accustomed to that

00:48:11.860 --> 00:48:16.179
salary. Now, someone with completely unquakeable

00:48:16.179 --> 00:48:19.760
morals would probably say, okay, keep your salary.

00:48:19.960 --> 00:48:21.480
I'm not doing this, but then you're going to

00:48:21.480 --> 00:48:24.119
get someone else in who is, okay, stakeholders

00:48:24.119 --> 00:48:26.119
want what? Okay, here we go. One, two, three,

00:48:26.139 --> 00:48:28.980
four. So he's justified in it because he was

00:48:28.980 --> 00:48:31.179
looking at the paycheck not the people. I'm not

00:48:31.179 --> 00:48:33.820
saying he's justified in it I'm not saying his

00:48:33.820 --> 00:48:37.860
hands were clean in it. I'm saying that It's

00:48:37.860 --> 00:48:42.440
it's not cut and dry It's it's it's not it's

00:48:42.440 --> 00:48:44.880
not he was doing this so this thing happened

00:48:44.880 --> 00:48:48.699
to him and That was good because of that that

00:48:48.699 --> 00:48:52.260
was bad because of that. I'm saying that he was

00:48:52.260 --> 00:48:54.179
fulfilling a job whether he was doing it for

00:48:54.179 --> 00:48:56.280
the right reasons or not is irrelevant because

00:48:56.280 --> 00:49:00.699
either way he's dead. My main concern is just

00:49:00.699 --> 00:49:04.340
the fact that things have gotten so bad that

00:49:04.340 --> 00:49:08.579
it's something to be praised and it's something

00:49:08.579 --> 00:49:11.860
that people feel comfortable saying out loud

00:49:11.860 --> 00:49:15.219
because I mean even even if this were to happen

00:49:15.219 --> 00:49:19.889
I don't know 20 years ago then people wouldn't

00:49:19.889 --> 00:49:24.269
be publicly saying hurrah it would be be private

00:49:24.269 --> 00:49:26.090
and then this is them and this is another thing

00:49:26.090 --> 00:49:30.150
that has been torpedoed by the internet and places

00:49:30.150 --> 00:49:33.469
like twitter and and 24 -hour news cycles and

00:49:33.469 --> 00:49:39.210
all that stuff is that everyone has to have this

00:49:39.210 --> 00:49:44.349
opinion that is either meant to just echo the

00:49:44.349 --> 00:49:47.809
people around them or Be so quote -unquote controversial,

00:49:48.050 --> 00:49:50.590
which I don't think there's a controversial anymore

00:49:50.590 --> 00:49:53.789
Controversial opinion anymore. Yeah on the internet.

00:49:53.869 --> 00:49:56.530
I think everything is just so such an attempt

00:49:56.530 --> 00:50:00.349
to be controversial that This is just what we

00:50:00.349 --> 00:50:03.670
live in now. Yeah, like a middle of the road

00:50:03.670 --> 00:50:07.789
Comment or opinion is the controversial one.

00:50:08.070 --> 00:50:10.150
I mean even in a lot of the places that like

00:50:10.150 --> 00:50:11.989
you and I disagree on things that have been said

00:50:11.989 --> 00:50:14.659
in this podcast or just in general I think so

00:50:14.659 --> 00:50:16.559
much of the merit in these conversations is that

00:50:16.559 --> 00:50:19.320
I don't think I'm glued to any of the opinions

00:50:19.320 --> 00:50:21.460
that I have. I'm always willing to listen to

00:50:21.460 --> 00:50:23.380
the other side of things, even if I don't end

00:50:23.380 --> 00:50:26.280
the conversation agreeing with you or like changing

00:50:26.280 --> 00:50:28.340
anything. I don't think that it's necessarily

00:50:28.340 --> 00:50:30.599
like, like in this situation, I don't think we're

00:50:30.599 --> 00:50:33.519
going to agree. Because although I will absolutely

00:50:33.519 --> 00:50:35.380
recognize that there are a lot more nuances to

00:50:35.380 --> 00:50:37.699
the situation, I don't I don't have any sympathy

00:50:37.699 --> 00:50:41.030
in it, which I absolutely recognizes. at least

00:50:41.030 --> 00:50:43.070
partly because you you can identify with this

00:50:43.070 --> 00:50:45.989
man more than I can. But this is a conversation

00:50:45.989 --> 00:50:48.809
that I've had also a lot of times recently about

00:50:48.809 --> 00:50:53.250
like how deeply specific our algorithm gets into

00:50:53.250 --> 00:50:56.550
our brain. And so like the things that I was

00:50:56.550 --> 00:50:58.969
always shown after this particular situation

00:50:58.969 --> 00:51:02.170
happened was it was jokes, it was thirst traps,

00:51:02.289 --> 00:51:06.690
it was like, which bold choice is are, but it

00:51:06.690 --> 00:51:08.530
would just be people making light of just the

00:51:08.530 --> 00:51:10.690
most ridiculous situation. At the end of the

00:51:10.690 --> 00:51:13.869
day, it's the people's coping mechanism for a

00:51:13.869 --> 00:51:16.550
world that makes absolutely no sense anymore.

00:51:17.630 --> 00:51:19.530
The fact that there was ever room for us to be

00:51:19.530 --> 00:51:23.550
cheering for a CEO or a person in general getting

00:51:23.550 --> 00:51:27.550
murdered in broad daylight. It's a societal collapse.

00:51:28.210 --> 00:51:30.289
But I think that the conversation that I've been

00:51:30.289 --> 00:51:33.199
having about this is that you have to... try

00:51:33.199 --> 00:51:35.599
to do your best whenever you're doom scrolling,

00:51:35.699 --> 00:51:37.440
which is difficult because you're only getting

00:51:37.440 --> 00:51:40.679
maybe 60 seconds of a video at a time to think

00:51:40.679 --> 00:51:43.199
critically about what is being fed to you, why

00:51:43.199 --> 00:51:44.760
it's being fed to you, and who stands to gain

00:51:44.760 --> 00:51:46.920
from you having a more intense opinion about

00:51:46.920 --> 00:51:51.440
the situation. Nate will be fed a lot of those

00:51:51.440 --> 00:51:55.219
videos of people that are recording in restaurants,

00:51:55.539 --> 00:51:58.539
and they're upset because someone has misgendered

00:51:58.539 --> 00:52:03.019
them. Oh, who's the big one? Lily, Latina. So

00:52:03.019 --> 00:52:06.300
in this particular situation, this person is

00:52:06.300 --> 00:52:10.179
upset because a server called them by the wrong

00:52:10.179 --> 00:52:14.039
gender. And so they go just bananas. They're

00:52:14.039 --> 00:52:16.219
complaining about this person and talking about

00:52:16.219 --> 00:52:19.539
how deeply offensive it is despite the fact that

00:52:19.539 --> 00:52:22.980
the waiter in the video is apologetic and corrects

00:52:22.980 --> 00:52:26.110
themselves. And so like it's just it's frustrating

00:52:26.110 --> 00:52:28.269
that that is the conversation because that's

00:52:28.269 --> 00:52:30.170
not indicative of an entire community. Nothing

00:52:30.170 --> 00:52:32.070
that you see online is indicative of the entire

00:52:32.070 --> 00:52:34.929
community. Yeah. And also this person puts them

00:52:34.929 --> 00:52:37.670
in this position in order to have these confrontations.

00:52:37.949 --> 00:52:40.809
Right. And so like, yeah, if that if that is

00:52:40.809 --> 00:52:43.570
your purview of the trans community, like, of

00:52:43.570 --> 00:52:44.889
course, you're going to have a negative opinion

00:52:44.889 --> 00:52:48.230
because these people are just out to start fights,

00:52:48.329 --> 00:52:51.050
which is not in any way, shape, or form accurate.

00:52:51.530 --> 00:52:54.829
Yeah. And so, like, it's more important now than

00:52:54.829 --> 00:52:57.349
ever to actually use your brain. Think about

00:52:57.349 --> 00:52:59.369
who stands to gain from the things that you're

00:52:59.369 --> 00:53:02.449
seeing. Yeah. And everything, I can't tell you

00:53:02.449 --> 00:53:06.369
how many times, especially since the stuff that

00:53:06.369 --> 00:53:08.949
happened with the stabbing in Frisco, and then

00:53:08.949 --> 00:53:12.010
the stuff that is now happening in Minnesota,

00:53:12.550 --> 00:53:16.610
I think. They've got battling Gibson Go, so it's

00:53:16.610 --> 00:53:20.500
called. What? What is it? It's like... It's a

00:53:20.500 --> 00:53:23.619
donation platform. Yeah, it's gifts and go it's

00:53:23.619 --> 00:53:25.699
a fundraising platform like I can't remember

00:53:25.699 --> 00:53:28.019
what the big one is Kickstarter kicks go fund

00:53:28.019 --> 00:53:32.579
me go fund me. Yeah And so they are for whatever

00:53:32.579 --> 00:53:36.159
reason they were the platform that was tasked

00:53:36.159 --> 00:53:40.679
with taking in the donations for the white kid

00:53:40.679 --> 00:53:45.760
that was stabbed in Frisco the guy that is being

00:53:45.760 --> 00:53:50.030
accused of his unaliving his um his legal funds

00:53:50.030 --> 00:53:54.750
and then last week some extremely strange story

00:53:54.750 --> 00:53:59.409
of the unsupervised five -year -old at the park

00:53:59.409 --> 00:54:01.690
starts going through this woman's diaper bag

00:54:01.690 --> 00:54:05.070
she verbally berates the kid calls him the n

00:54:05.070 --> 00:54:09.469
-word is being recorded by a Somali potential

00:54:09.469 --> 00:54:12.769
pedophile that picks up 16 year olds at the gas

00:54:12.769 --> 00:54:17.190
station and Then it comes out that this child

00:54:17.190 --> 00:54:20.349
was five years old, which he's about as tall

00:54:20.349 --> 00:54:22.889
as Max is. So I don't buy five years old, but

00:54:22.889 --> 00:54:26.190
then also autistic and then black. And then this

00:54:26.190 --> 00:54:28.269
woman, it's a wild story. You should look into

00:54:28.269 --> 00:54:33.469
it. Anyways, this turned into just the white

00:54:33.469 --> 00:54:36.190
woman in Minnesota versus the black kid from

00:54:36.190 --> 00:54:38.909
Frisco and who could raise the most money. And

00:54:38.909 --> 00:54:42.300
it's, it's like its own civil war because. Both

00:54:42.300 --> 00:54:45.619
comments, when you were filling out like a donation,

00:54:45.920 --> 00:54:48.079
you could write a comment. Both of them had to

00:54:48.079 --> 00:54:50.260
be turned off because they were so killed the

00:54:50.260 --> 00:54:52.940
whites, killed the black. And both the one is

00:54:52.940 --> 00:54:58.059
at like $519 ,000. The other one is on its way

00:54:58.059 --> 00:55:01.440
to set like five, close to 600, on its way to

00:55:01.440 --> 00:55:03.780
a million. The legal fund one is the one that's

00:55:03.780 --> 00:55:06.239
set for $519 ,000 right now. And then that one,

00:55:06.320 --> 00:55:09.199
it came out that they're... moving into a big

00:55:09.199 --> 00:55:11.639
rental house in Frisco and a gated community

00:55:11.639 --> 00:55:14.260
with security and all this other stuff. It's

00:55:14.260 --> 00:55:17.219
like something like $4 ,000 a month rent and

00:55:17.219 --> 00:55:19.639
all that. And then the other one, the one in

00:55:19.639 --> 00:55:22.920
Minnesota is talking about how she needs to relocate

00:55:22.920 --> 00:55:24.739
because she's been doxxed and all this other

00:55:24.739 --> 00:55:28.920
stuff. And I get that. I get the backlash from

00:55:28.920 --> 00:55:32.380
it because one, it was a child. Two, it was racially

00:55:32.380 --> 00:55:35.010
motivated. And so that stuff that's gonna get

00:55:35.010 --> 00:55:37.369
you doxed, should it? I don't know. I'm not the

00:55:37.369 --> 00:55:41.000
judge and jury for that. I know that I wouldn't

00:55:41.000 --> 00:55:42.840
do it and I would just go about my business,

00:55:42.840 --> 00:55:46.099
but it's turned into all this, this extra fluff

00:55:46.099 --> 00:55:48.699
that it doesn't need to be. And, uh, the one

00:55:48.699 --> 00:55:50.880
in Frisco, we don't know the whole story. The

00:55:50.880 --> 00:55:52.639
one in Minnesota, we don't know the whole story.

00:55:52.780 --> 00:55:55.079
There's just bits and pieces, enough of it to

00:55:55.079 --> 00:55:57.579
where people feel like they can make a decision.

00:55:57.579 --> 00:56:00.460
And a lot of it is probably racially motivated,

00:56:00.460 --> 00:56:04.719
just like the stuff with the, with the CEO of

00:56:04.719 --> 00:56:07.219
United healthcare was financially motivated.

00:56:07.480 --> 00:56:10.800
Uh, and people just. posting the most vile stuff

00:56:10.800 --> 00:56:13.579
about all of it about this woman saying that

00:56:13.579 --> 00:56:15.800
she's a single mother and she's I mean she's

00:56:15.800 --> 00:56:17.360
all tatted up so you know they're gonna have

00:56:17.360 --> 00:56:20.340
lots to say about that and then calling the butt

00:56:20.340 --> 00:56:24.000
get it and just all this stuff and it's just

00:56:24.000 --> 00:56:28.719
it's also indicative of how when these phrases

00:56:28.719 --> 00:56:34.539
were popularized when they were in like the public

00:56:34.539 --> 00:56:37.920
consciousness most prevalently they could not

00:56:37.920 --> 00:56:40.219
have foreseen the way the world would look by

00:56:40.219 --> 00:56:42.960
now. And yet these things are still, these things

00:56:42.960 --> 00:56:45.960
are still taught like I'm, I'm cognizant enough

00:56:45.960 --> 00:56:49.860
that most of the stuff like these isms that we

00:56:49.860 --> 00:56:51.780
were taught are just bullshit at this point.

00:56:51.940 --> 00:56:53.619
And so when I'm talking to my kids about it,

00:56:53.619 --> 00:56:57.340
I have ways to rework them to where they actually

00:56:57.340 --> 00:56:59.860
make sense in today's era. Like you were saying

00:56:59.860 --> 00:57:02.519
that you'll need this for the future. It's okay.

00:57:02.659 --> 00:57:04.900
Well, you may not think you need it, but what

00:57:04.900 --> 00:57:07.170
if your phone dies? What if you don't have a

00:57:07.170 --> 00:57:09.329
phone available to you? You still need to know

00:57:09.329 --> 00:57:11.269
the process of this. So you need to know what

00:57:11.269 --> 00:57:13.769
the phone is doing, whether you're actually doing

00:57:13.769 --> 00:57:16.530
the move in the decimal or any of that stuff.

00:57:16.769 --> 00:57:18.369
You need to understand the process behind it.

00:57:18.429 --> 00:57:20.409
That's why we're doing this. Love thy neighbor.

00:57:20.869 --> 00:57:23.889
You need to make an effort to be kind to people.

00:57:24.130 --> 00:57:26.130
Know that most people are not going to be kind

00:57:26.130 --> 00:57:29.909
back to you. Maybe not most people, but the ones

00:57:29.909 --> 00:57:32.369
that are not kind in return are the ones that

00:57:32.369 --> 00:57:33.610
are going to stick out. So it's going to feel

00:57:33.610 --> 00:57:36.920
like. A majority of people are not kind to you

00:57:36.920 --> 00:57:38.860
even though you feel like you've given your best

00:57:38.860 --> 00:57:42.420
foot forward. Hard work always pays off. It's

00:57:42.420 --> 00:57:44.780
not going to. You can put everything you have

00:57:44.780 --> 00:57:47.079
into something and it's not going to pan out.

00:57:47.199 --> 00:57:49.260
But you know what? At least you tried and you

00:57:49.260 --> 00:57:51.179
move on. You put all that hard work into something

00:57:51.179 --> 00:57:52.980
else and maybe that does pay off. That's when

00:57:52.980 --> 00:57:55.119
you get to those points where like Leslie Jones

00:57:55.119 --> 00:57:58.659
was in her 50s or something when she was on SNL.

00:57:59.300 --> 00:58:01.519
Like Samuel L. Jackson was like 60 when he was

00:58:01.519 --> 00:58:04.010
in... No. Pulp Fiction, things like that, or

00:58:04.010 --> 00:58:07.210
41 News and Pulp Fiction. Yeah, which it's also

00:58:07.210 --> 00:58:10.269
been weighing heavy on my heart since we recorded

00:58:10.269 --> 00:58:12.650
yesterday's Friday's episode, the last episode.

00:58:13.269 --> 00:58:16.510
Reservoir Dogs was from 92 and Pulp Fiction was

00:58:16.510 --> 00:58:19.369
from 94. I said that Reservoir Dogs was from

00:58:19.369 --> 00:58:22.170
94 and Pulp Fiction was from 96. Please don't

00:58:22.170 --> 00:58:25.030
chastise us. Or if you're going to... at least

00:58:25.030 --> 00:58:28.989
leave a comment on X, Instagram, Facebook, or

00:58:28.989 --> 00:58:32.690
in a five star review on iTunes, Spotify, or

00:58:32.690 --> 00:58:34.670
Amazon Music. Wherever you get your podcast.

00:58:34.909 --> 00:58:37.639
Plug number two. All right. So I, I don't know

00:58:37.639 --> 00:58:39.019
how many you have left, but I am going to throw

00:58:39.019 --> 00:58:41.380
a couple of mine out. So money can't buy happiness.

00:58:41.739 --> 00:58:44.039
That is one of the ones that pisses me off to

00:58:44.039 --> 00:58:47.079
no end. Because yeah, I'm not looking to like

00:58:47.079 --> 00:58:49.960
make myself happy with a number. What I am looking

00:58:49.960 --> 00:58:52.420
to be able to pay my bills. Yeah, I am looking

00:58:52.420 --> 00:58:54.599
to be able to go on a vacation, not have to think

00:58:54.599 --> 00:58:56.659
about everything I spend. That's true. Yeah.

00:58:57.119 --> 00:58:59.940
I mean, money may not buy the actual happiness,

00:58:59.940 --> 00:59:02.619
but money puts you in a position to be happy.

00:59:03.000 --> 00:59:05.400
It puts me in a situation where like I I don't

00:59:05.400 --> 00:59:07.699
have to stress out about a fun thing because

00:59:07.699 --> 00:59:10.039
there are consequences to it. Yes. And I think

00:59:10.039 --> 00:59:12.099
that's like, that ties back into restaurants.

00:59:12.400 --> 00:59:13.940
Like, you don't want to go out to a nice restaurant

00:59:13.940 --> 00:59:15.780
because you put stress on yourself because of

00:59:15.780 --> 00:59:17.559
how much money you're spending. Yeah. At that

00:59:17.559 --> 00:59:19.980
point, don't go. But I still want to have nice

00:59:19.980 --> 00:59:21.800
things. I still want to be able to go out and

00:59:21.800 --> 00:59:24.699
do stuff. It's ridiculous. Yeah. Yeah. I mean,

00:59:25.000 --> 00:59:27.960
that's another thing that I try to instill in

00:59:27.960 --> 00:59:31.559
the children like I made sure from very early

00:59:31.559 --> 00:59:35.320
on, they had. they understood the value of money

00:59:35.320 --> 00:59:38.559
because money is going to be a uh it's going

00:59:38.559 --> 00:59:41.260
to be a common factor in everything they do for

00:59:41.260 --> 00:59:43.760
the rest of their lives right where you can say

00:59:43.760 --> 00:59:45.880
there's stuff more important there than money

00:59:45.880 --> 00:59:48.800
there's not really not because somewhere down

00:59:48.800 --> 00:59:52.750
the line money is involved whether it's You you

00:59:52.750 --> 00:59:54.150
don't want to go out because you want to save

00:59:54.150 --> 00:59:56.730
the money. Okay. Well, maybe going out is where

00:59:56.730 --> 00:59:59.030
where you meet a spouse or you meet someone that

00:59:59.030 --> 01:00:01.309
you date and send your life on a whole nother

01:00:01.309 --> 01:00:04.429
trajectory. Yeah, maybe you don't want to spend

01:00:04.429 --> 01:00:08.170
the money on on this this podcast equipment.

01:00:08.670 --> 01:00:13.010
Well, maybe podcasting is something that is going

01:00:13.010 --> 01:00:15.070
to be something something you can enjoy and it's

01:00:15.070 --> 01:00:17.869
going to be a sustainable way to make more money

01:00:17.869 --> 01:00:21.219
in the future. The gaping flaw in Money Can't

01:00:21.219 --> 01:00:24.300
Buy Happiness is that it's always framed wrong.

01:00:24.780 --> 01:00:27.000
Money Can't Buy Happiness, like, I'm not trying

01:00:27.000 --> 01:00:29.579
to buy a Lamborghini. I don't need a yacht. I

01:00:29.579 --> 01:00:31.480
don't need a mansion. I just want to be able

01:00:31.480 --> 01:00:34.340
to, like, buy foods that are not full of processed

01:00:34.340 --> 01:00:37.039
nonsense. And live comfortably. I want to be

01:00:37.039 --> 01:00:40.679
able to pay my rent. I want to, like, be able

01:00:40.679 --> 01:00:43.139
to blow a tire and not freak out about how I'm

01:00:43.139 --> 01:00:46.159
going to replace it. Like, I'm not looking for...

01:00:46.159 --> 01:00:49.179
for the Silver Spoon lifestyle, I just want comfortability.

01:00:49.699 --> 01:00:51.460
Yeah. Money would buy my happiness. It would

01:00:51.460 --> 01:00:54.280
buy my peace. Yeah. And for most situations,

01:00:54.579 --> 01:00:58.159
peace is happiness. Respect your elders. Not

01:00:58.159 --> 01:01:01.539
everyone deserves respect. Correct. You, you

01:01:01.539 --> 01:01:03.599
earn it just because you've been on this earth

01:01:03.599 --> 01:01:07.099
longer than me doesn't mean that you haven't

01:01:07.099 --> 01:01:09.260
just had the opportunity to be an asshole for

01:01:09.260 --> 01:01:12.380
longer than me. There was a particular situation

01:01:12.380 --> 01:01:15.699
in a previous job that I had in which I was being

01:01:15.699 --> 01:01:18.320
things were being said about me, um, to my coworkers

01:01:18.320 --> 01:01:22.260
from member of management. And I was spoken to

01:01:22.260 --> 01:01:26.179
by upper management about the situation. And

01:01:26.179 --> 01:01:28.639
upper management told me in the situation that

01:01:28.639 --> 01:01:31.519
he came from a different generation. So the things

01:01:31.519 --> 01:01:34.239
that he said to me were him just like coming

01:01:34.239 --> 01:01:36.440
from the place that he was coming from. Was this

01:01:36.440 --> 01:01:38.900
the back of house person? Yes. Yeah. And one

01:01:38.900 --> 01:01:40.900
of the things that he said to me was that I had

01:01:40.900 --> 01:01:42.900
had a conversation about something that had happened,

01:01:43.239 --> 01:01:45.659
an interaction that I had, and he decided to

01:01:45.659 --> 01:01:47.760
take it upon himself to escalate the situation

01:01:47.760 --> 01:01:50.159
after I'd already handled it, because quote unquote,

01:01:50.320 --> 01:01:52.579
a man needed to say it for it to be taken seriously,

01:01:52.940 --> 01:01:56.199
which is both an absolutely bananas thing to

01:01:56.199 --> 01:01:58.809
say to a human being and... the fact that it

01:01:58.809 --> 01:02:00.909
was defended by upper management because he was

01:02:00.909 --> 01:02:03.309
from a different generation and you know at that

01:02:03.309 --> 01:02:05.789
point just like didn't know better. This man

01:02:05.789 --> 01:02:09.070
was 40 for the record. 14 years older than me.

01:02:09.329 --> 01:02:12.929
14 years. You know those Gen Xers man completely

01:02:12.929 --> 01:02:15.289
different world. But in the situation like he's

01:02:15.289 --> 01:02:17.949
not allowed to act that way just because he's

01:02:17.949 --> 01:02:20.269
older than me. There's no justification in you

01:02:20.269 --> 01:02:24.190
being a shitty person just because you're older.

01:02:24.670 --> 01:02:26.349
I will not respect you because you're older than

01:02:26.349 --> 01:02:28.170
me I will respect you because you deserve respect

01:02:28.170 --> 01:02:30.789
or you don't and I won't Suck it up buttercup.

01:02:31.030 --> 01:02:34.250
I think this one particularly like affects men

01:02:34.250 --> 01:02:37.090
in our society. Yes, I would agree with that

01:02:37.090 --> 01:02:41.230
It's inherently a very demeaning thing to say

01:02:41.230 --> 01:02:43.309
and it's not meant to be it's not meant to be

01:02:43.309 --> 01:02:45.869
helpful It's not meant to be encouraging like

01:02:45.869 --> 01:02:49.130
hey, it'll be okay. You don't get feelings. Stop

01:02:49.130 --> 01:02:53.550
it. Yeah, so my my son is Very in tune to his

01:02:53.550 --> 01:02:58.269
emotions. It's not something that I am altogether

01:02:58.269 --> 01:03:02.190
used to but I mean I think that I was I was pretty

01:03:02.190 --> 01:03:05.090
emotional when I was his age I think just hearing

01:03:05.090 --> 01:03:08.309
back stories of of ways I reacted to stuff but

01:03:08.309 --> 01:03:15.809
I still have to find a way to rectify how I was

01:03:15.809 --> 01:03:19.090
treated just experiences I've had when I was

01:03:19.090 --> 01:03:23.039
maybe showing emotions Versus how I wish I would

01:03:23.039 --> 01:03:26.119
have been treated and then finds find some middle

01:03:26.119 --> 01:03:29.380
ground for me to approach him with and I mean

01:03:29.380 --> 01:03:31.420
this isn't something that I have had to deal

01:03:31.420 --> 01:03:34.480
with with my daughters Because you approach it

01:03:34.480 --> 01:03:36.139
in a completely different manner But it's just

01:03:36.139 --> 01:03:38.440
because of the things that I've experienced in

01:03:38.440 --> 01:03:41.980
the ways I was treated in the ways that I Treated

01:03:41.980 --> 01:03:44.500
other people it needs a completely different

01:03:44.500 --> 01:03:48.860
approach and so yeah suck it up buttercup is

01:03:48.860 --> 01:03:51.679
not meant to be helpful At all it's meant to

01:03:51.679 --> 01:03:54.679
say just shut up and do what you're supposed

01:03:54.679 --> 01:03:57.260
to do. I've made a lot of male friends for most

01:03:57.260 --> 01:03:59.760
of my life and I think a lot of that stems from

01:03:59.760 --> 01:04:02.139
the fact that like I create a judgment -free

01:04:02.139 --> 01:04:04.099
zone like have the emotions you have. You're

01:04:04.099 --> 01:04:07.860
the plant fitness of women. Was that a sexism?

01:04:07.980 --> 01:04:09.800
Did I just do a sexism? I feel like I want to

01:04:09.800 --> 01:04:12.139
sound the lunk alarm for that statement. But

01:04:12.139 --> 01:04:15.019
no like I try to create like yeah like a space.

01:04:15.539 --> 01:04:18.420
I've had a lot of feedback from like male friends

01:04:18.420 --> 01:04:20.219
and stuff that like there's not. there's not

01:04:20.219 --> 01:04:22.420
kind of a platform. And like, I've spent a long

01:04:22.420 --> 01:04:25.280
time having conversations with my current partner

01:04:25.280 --> 01:04:27.360
about like the fact that there's really just

01:04:27.360 --> 01:04:30.300
not a societal willingness to accept that men

01:04:30.300 --> 01:04:33.619
also go through things. The world is hard. Oh,

01:04:33.659 --> 01:04:35.960
it is. I can cry in public. No one's gonna bat

01:04:35.960 --> 01:04:39.260
an eye. But if you cried in public, it would...

01:04:39.260 --> 01:04:40.900
No, if you cried in public, you're gonna have

01:04:40.900 --> 01:04:43.599
a huddle of women. It's gonna be okay. What's

01:04:43.599 --> 01:04:46.420
going on? If a man's crying public, there is

01:04:46.420 --> 01:04:50.610
a 20 foot... Radius of a no -go zone and that's

01:04:50.610 --> 01:04:53.710
ridiculous suck it up buttercup nonsense not

01:04:53.710 --> 01:04:56.829
fit for 2025 All right, and my last one treat

01:04:56.829 --> 01:04:58.969
others how you want to be treated that is how

01:04:58.969 --> 01:05:01.969
you get abused Yeah, I think that that would

01:05:01.969 --> 01:05:05.369
probably be pretty prevalent in the the DV arena.

01:05:05.550 --> 01:05:09.630
Yeah, just women not just women. I mean I've

01:05:09.630 --> 01:05:13.320
had some experiences with being on the receiving

01:05:13.320 --> 01:05:17.280
end no i i definitely see how you think that

01:05:17.280 --> 01:05:19.639
if you and this goes back into i don't know if

01:05:19.639 --> 01:05:21.940
i had this one i mean it's it's kind of like

01:05:21.940 --> 01:05:24.860
work one job rise up and hard work pays off it's

01:05:24.860 --> 01:05:28.920
the um it's that if you keep going after the

01:05:28.920 --> 01:05:31.079
thing that you want dress for the job you want

01:05:31.079 --> 01:05:33.260
not the job you have yeah then then eventually

01:05:33.260 --> 01:05:35.019
everything's gonna happen everything's gonna

01:05:35.019 --> 01:05:37.260
fall into place for you everything's gonna land

01:05:37.260 --> 01:05:40.639
where it's supposed to land and So think that

01:05:40.639 --> 01:05:43.219
that is definitely a justification for staying

01:05:43.219 --> 01:05:46.159
in those kind of relationships. And I do believe

01:05:46.159 --> 01:05:49.579
that people can change. I think that I am a glowing

01:05:49.579 --> 01:05:53.019
beacon for that sentiment because I take my life

01:05:53.019 --> 01:05:54.679
three years ago, completely different person.

01:05:55.159 --> 01:05:59.340
But I had the motivation. I had a reason. I had

01:05:59.340 --> 01:06:02.760
a goal in mind. If you are just doing what you

01:06:02.760 --> 01:06:04.679
think you need to do and waiting for someone

01:06:04.679 --> 01:06:06.400
else to do it and they don't have any motivation,

01:06:06.579 --> 01:06:07.719
they don't have a goal, they don't have a reason.

01:06:08.159 --> 01:06:09.460
They're not going to change. They have no reason.

01:06:09.980 --> 01:06:12.800
There's nothing incentivizing them to change.

01:06:13.119 --> 01:06:15.760
If they can still have their crappy behavior

01:06:15.760 --> 01:06:20.159
and get everything that they want, what is the

01:06:20.159 --> 01:06:22.739
motivator for them to change? Oh, well, I'm going

01:06:22.739 --> 01:06:25.420
to leave. OK, no, you're not. So that one is

01:06:25.420 --> 01:06:28.559
a bunch of bull too. All of these things are

01:06:28.559 --> 01:06:30.960
great things in theory. They're great things

01:06:30.960 --> 01:06:33.940
that in a perfect world make sense. May have

01:06:33.940 --> 01:06:37.690
existed legitimately in a bygone era. Or maybe

01:06:37.690 --> 01:06:40.670
even when these things were created, when they

01:06:40.670 --> 01:06:44.949
were popularized, it was kind of a manifestation.

01:06:45.550 --> 01:06:47.329
Sure, coded nonsense. Yeah, like we're going

01:06:47.329 --> 01:06:50.050
to say this in hope that it takes off and then

01:06:50.050 --> 01:06:52.250
hope that it becomes true. And maybe it did take

01:06:52.250 --> 01:06:54.309
off, but it doesn't mean it became true. That

01:06:54.309 --> 01:06:57.449
doesn't mean that it is a thing that everyone

01:06:57.449 --> 01:07:01.329
built their entire lives around because it was

01:07:01.329 --> 01:07:03.090
a thing that that was just beaten into their

01:07:03.090 --> 01:07:05.150
head since they were kids. I don't know. It's

01:07:05.150 --> 01:07:08.789
just. Think that these sayings are really indicative

01:07:08.789 --> 01:07:13.409
of the differences in Generations for sure. Yeah,

01:07:13.409 --> 01:07:16.190
and I think that a lot of the issues that we

01:07:16.190 --> 01:07:19.469
have a lot of the I hate using the word systemic

01:07:19.469 --> 01:07:23.429
but systemic problems that we have is based on

01:07:23.429 --> 01:07:27.869
the fact that there is such a great divide between

01:07:27.869 --> 01:07:31.150
generations and Saying that someone is stuck

01:07:31.150 --> 01:07:33.369
in their ways because this is just the way they've

01:07:33.369 --> 01:07:36.699
always do it done it. Okay But that's not that's

01:07:36.699 --> 01:07:39.460
not a good excuse because that just means that

01:07:39.460 --> 01:07:42.480
no one stopped them along the way and said, hey,

01:07:42.579 --> 01:07:45.159
maybe don't be a dick. Above all of the things

01:07:45.159 --> 01:07:48.239
there from a different generation, which is not

01:07:48.239 --> 01:07:49.840
one of the ones that I wrote down. That one might

01:07:49.840 --> 01:07:51.619
be the one that irritates me the most. Yeah.

01:07:51.949 --> 01:07:54.710
is because like yeah see you were you're from

01:07:54.710 --> 01:07:58.570
the 50s so you were raised in 50s 60s mentality

01:07:58.570 --> 01:08:01.889
sure if you're still kicking it like you're you

01:08:01.889 --> 01:08:04.130
existed for all of the time between then and

01:08:04.130 --> 01:08:08.269
now you should be more worldly than me i'm 26

01:08:08.269 --> 01:08:10.610
years old if you're telling me that you grew

01:08:10.610 --> 01:08:13.570
and then you just decided oh 30s the right age

01:08:13.570 --> 01:08:16.670
i'm gonna stop progressing as a human being and

01:08:16.670 --> 01:08:18.689
so you just lived all of the time between then

01:08:18.689 --> 01:08:22.159
and now being the same jerk that you've always

01:08:22.159 --> 01:08:25.979
been because that was the perfect era. Then I

01:08:25.979 --> 01:08:28.000
think you don't belong in society. But then you

01:08:28.000 --> 01:08:30.359
also you also continue that because you've been

01:08:30.359 --> 01:08:33.220
allowed to continue that. Right. Anyone who enables

01:08:33.220 --> 01:08:35.739
it by saying things like they're from a different

01:08:35.739 --> 01:08:38.520
generation needs to check themselves. It's stupid

01:08:38.520 --> 01:08:42.460
on every front. I agree. Well, on that cheery

01:08:42.460 --> 01:08:44.399
note, this episode definitely had a lot more

01:08:44.399 --> 01:08:46.560
meat to it than I thought it would. Yeah. I saw

01:08:46.560 --> 01:08:48.960
Love Thy Neighbor on our list and I was trying

01:08:48.960 --> 01:08:51.699
to figure out a way to expound upon that to make

01:08:51.699 --> 01:08:53.439
it a full episode and we probably could have

01:08:53.439 --> 01:08:56.279
left the tipping thing as its own. In fact, I

01:08:56.279 --> 01:08:58.000
don't even know if tipping is listed on. It was

01:08:58.000 --> 01:09:00.520
just a John Oliver episode, so I don't think

01:09:00.520 --> 01:09:03.039
it needs to be an us episode too. All right,

01:09:03.140 --> 01:09:05.920
got any closing thoughts? I think we covered

01:09:05.920 --> 01:09:08.859
a lot of good ground today. Yeah. I think that

01:09:08.859 --> 01:09:13.630
we... proved to the world that we can be more

01:09:13.630 --> 01:09:17.550
than just silly movie reviews and jokes about

01:09:17.550 --> 01:09:21.109
obscenely large nipples. And because I've missed

01:09:21.109 --> 01:09:23.409
a couple of episodes, and Night Shyamalan still

01:09:23.409 --> 01:09:25.510
sucks. Not to take away from the poignancy of

01:09:25.510 --> 01:09:27.829
this episode, but it feels important that I throw

01:09:27.829 --> 01:09:29.989
that back in. Yeah, that's a throwback. It's

01:09:29.989 --> 01:09:32.050
a throwback at this point. Yeah. We said we were

01:09:32.050 --> 01:09:35.069
going to mention it in every episode, and we

01:09:35.069 --> 01:09:37.460
dropped the ball. We're sorry guys. Tell us how

01:09:37.460 --> 01:09:40.460
disappointed you are in a comment on X Instagram,

01:09:40.800 --> 01:09:44.760
Facebook or in a five star review on Apple Music,

01:09:44.920 --> 01:09:47.619
Amazon Music or Spotify. I swear that's my last

01:09:47.619 --> 01:09:51.380
one. But it's not mine. Check out. No, I'm just

01:09:51.380 --> 01:09:56.500
kidding. All right, guys. I would say my closing

01:09:56.500 --> 01:10:00.920
words of wisdom, not idiocy. This is something

01:10:00.920 --> 01:10:03.220
that you will be able to take. It's universal.

01:10:03.560 --> 01:10:06.350
It will be true until the end of time. or until

01:10:06.350 --> 01:10:11.270
the AI relieves us of life on this earth is just

01:10:11.270 --> 01:10:14.130
live your life just live it however you want

01:10:14.130 --> 01:10:16.750
to live your life to the fullest because you

01:10:16.750 --> 01:10:20.310
only get as far as we know one shot and as long

01:10:20.310 --> 01:10:23.649
as you're gonna say one opportunity I was well

01:10:23.649 --> 01:10:25.810
you should have jumped in faster I thought you

01:10:25.810 --> 01:10:29.670
were gonna finish it and as long as the way you

01:10:29.670 --> 01:10:31.890
are living your life does not impede anyone else

01:10:31.890 --> 01:10:38.779
from living their lives then you're golden Do

01:10:38.779 --> 01:10:42.600
no harm, but take no shit Don't you mean take

01:10:42.600 --> 01:10:48.079
no crap just bouncing back and forth? I Do not

01:10:48.079 --> 01:10:52.579
I'm not censoring that one. Okay. All right We'll

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see you next time