1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,000 Yo. 2 00:00:07,800 --> 00:00:12,080 I like to welcome everybody back to a brand new episode of the 3 00:00:12,080 --> 00:00:13,800 Cognitive Collage podcast. 4 00:00:13,880 --> 00:00:15,760 I am your host, Quentin Gold. 5 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:19,080 My friends and family call me QG for short. 6 00:00:21,680 --> 00:00:24,880 I think I want to start this week's episode off with 7 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:31,440 what is the greatest individual attribute you could have in 8 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:35,160 life? What do you think is the most useful in life? I should 9 00:00:35,160 --> 00:00:40,120 say, like, when I say that, I mean things like honesty, 10 00:00:40,800 --> 00:00:46,640 loyalty, respect. Like, what what what attribute do you think 11 00:00:46,640 --> 00:00:48,480 is most beneficial to life? 12 00:00:48,480 --> 00:00:58,480 If you ask me, I would have to say adaptability. Adaptability 13 00:00:58,480 --> 00:01:03,200 is so key to everything in life from a professional 14 00:01:03,200 --> 00:01:06,880 standpoint to a personal standpoint, because having 15 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:12,040 the ability to adapt to a situation or adapt to a person 16 00:01:12,200 --> 00:01:15,640 in general. Now you might be around somebody you realize 17 00:01:15,640 --> 00:01:20,160 like they're hypersensitive. You know what I mean? So you 18 00:01:20,160 --> 00:01:23,360 have that ability to go, okay, I can take a step back. You 19 00:01:23,360 --> 00:01:29,880 know what I mean? Or you have like the individual is 20 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:34,320 confrontational. I mean, having the ability to match their 21 00:01:34,320 --> 00:01:36,120 energy or diffuse their energy. 22 00:01:38,960 --> 00:01:44,320 And I think having adaptability has never been more important 23 00:01:44,320 --> 00:01:50,320 in life than this current day and age. So I say this, like, I'm 24 00:01:50,320 --> 00:01:55,120 not a political podcast, which I state a lot, you know, I have 25 00:01:55,120 --> 00:01:58,320 my opinions on shit, but I usually don't discuss 26 00:01:58,360 --> 00:02:04,400 religion or politics, at least not in a like debatable slash 27 00:02:04,600 --> 00:02:08,720 like definitive type of manner. Like, I know this to be true. I 28 00:02:08,720 --> 00:02:11,960 know this to be fact like who the fuck am I? So I don't do that. 29 00:02:11,960 --> 00:02:16,320 So if you're not living under a rock, and even if you are, 30 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:29,360 lose travels. So down Trump is one election. And man, it's like, 31 00:02:30,560 --> 00:02:34,840 it is what it is. Honestly, what's kind of bring me full 32 00:02:34,840 --> 00:02:39,160 circle on this adaptability thing. Because right now, it's 33 00:02:39,160 --> 00:02:44,920 a lot of fear, mongering going on on social media. And media in 34 00:02:44,920 --> 00:02:51,040 general. Man down at Trump's back office, like, you know, 35 00:02:53,400 --> 00:02:57,880 Project 25 gonna make the slaves again. First of all, this 36 00:02:57,880 --> 00:03:01,560 ain't Mississippi. No disrespect to Mississippi. This ain't the 37 00:03:01,560 --> 00:03:06,160 17 or 1800s or the early 1900s. Niggas got guns and niggas 38 00:03:06,160 --> 00:03:12,400 ain't going to that. I mean, now the economy, I believe is 39 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:17,920 gonna be super fucked. And they're they're really hard 40 00:03:17,920 --> 00:03:27,600 nose on pushing, you know, this deportation chip. But I don't 41 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:30,240 know this to be true, but at least based off of the statistics 42 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:34,880 that I read, the people who's most at risk of being deported 43 00:03:34,880 --> 00:03:40,880 there was that demographic, according to, you know, graphs 44 00:03:40,880 --> 00:03:46,880 and charts and research that kind of push, push Trump over the 45 00:03:46,880 --> 00:03:54,880 edge to win. So Frankenstein third, you create the monster 46 00:03:54,880 --> 00:04:02,880 that eventually destroys. But it's crazy because America is 47 00:04:02,880 --> 00:04:06,320 supposed to be like considered like in the solemn type of 48 00:04:06,320 --> 00:04:10,880 country where, you know, if things are rough, wherever you're 49 00:04:10,880 --> 00:04:13,680 from, this is supposed to be the land of opportunity to land 50 00:04:13,680 --> 00:04:18,480 it free. Come get a fresh start here. You know, and some people 51 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:21,600 argue, well, that's legal channels to go through that. But 52 00:04:21,600 --> 00:04:28,320 if the danger is imminent, I can't wait to three, four, five, 53 00:04:28,320 --> 00:04:36,320 ten years to be, you know, but at the same time, if you bypass 54 00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:42,640 that process, you are exposed to, you know, legal ramifications 55 00:04:42,640 --> 00:04:48,320 and at this point, basically federal ramifications. So 56 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:56,320 sad times. But again, it speaks to like adaptability. You 57 00:04:56,320 --> 00:05:02,320 know what I mean? Like, even if you send like one family member 58 00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:06,320 over here, and you allow them to get established and then 59 00:05:06,320 --> 00:05:10,320 reach back to get somebody else, I know it's long and it's 60 00:05:10,320 --> 00:05:14,320 drawn out and you want your family to be separated, but 61 00:05:14,320 --> 00:05:18,320 it's not what you do is how you do, I guess. Honestly, I'm not 62 00:05:18,320 --> 00:05:22,320 even qualified to speak on this shit if I'm being honest. But 63 00:05:22,320 --> 00:05:26,320 it's been dominating like my timeline so much is like 64 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:30,320 unavoidable at this point. So 65 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:36,320 but off of that batch of this adaptability shit, like 66 00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:41,320 I think adaptability and having the ability to read the room. 67 00:05:41,320 --> 00:05:45,320 That's important. I've been noticing a lot of that lately too. 68 00:05:45,320 --> 00:05:50,320 Like people would the lack of with the lack of the skill set 69 00:05:50,320 --> 00:05:54,320 to be able to read the room. I see it when like, you know, I 70 00:05:54,320 --> 00:05:58,320 might see it from a far away like a nigga might be certain 71 00:05:58,320 --> 00:06:04,320 with a female and she's clearly not interested. The fake laughs 72 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:08,320 at the jokes to all that's crazy over and over and I'm 73 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:12,320 niggas just sitting there like, yeah, that is crazy. Like a 74 00:06:12,320 --> 00:06:18,320 fucking goof. Like read the room or you know, everybody 75 00:06:18,320 --> 00:06:21,320 chilling and having a good time. Niggas talking about like some, 76 00:06:21,320 --> 00:06:24,320 you know, retro vintage 90s shit having fun and then out of 77 00:06:24,320 --> 00:06:28,320 the blue, some random ass nigga like, yeah, I kill anybody 78 00:06:28,320 --> 00:06:31,320 because you know niggas know not to play with me like, where's 79 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:35,320 that energy coming from? That ain't even the vibe of the room. 80 00:06:35,320 --> 00:06:40,320 I agree to room my nigga and then have the ability to adapt. 81 00:06:40,320 --> 00:06:43,320 And you know, sometimes if you don't know what to say, saying 82 00:06:43,320 --> 00:06:49,320 nothing usually says the most. Like I'm that person. I can get 83 00:06:49,320 --> 00:06:52,320 in the room for anybody and I can engage in any type of 84 00:06:52,320 --> 00:06:58,320 conversation, but I'm cognitive enough. No pun intended to 85 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:02,320 recognize when okay, this is outside of my wheelhouse. So I'll 86 00:07:02,320 --> 00:07:06,320 just sit back and I'll just observe and just listen. And if 87 00:07:06,320 --> 00:07:09,320 something does speak my interest, I'll even make like a 88 00:07:09,320 --> 00:07:11,320 middle note of it. I'll literally pull out my phone and just 89 00:07:11,320 --> 00:07:15,320 jot it in my notes. Like I'm gonna look that up later. So if I'm 90 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:19,320 ever in this, you know, arena again with these particular 91 00:07:19,320 --> 00:07:22,320 people and similar topics come up, I now feel confident to 92 00:07:22,320 --> 00:07:26,320 engage in those conversations because I'm a bit more woke 93 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:31,320 red on what they're discussing. But you know, a lot of people 94 00:07:31,320 --> 00:07:34,320 don't have that like wear though, they'll just jump in the 95 00:07:34,320 --> 00:07:37,320 midst of it and start talking about some other shit. That's 96 00:07:37,320 --> 00:07:41,320 not, you know, and lying or conducive with the current 97 00:07:41,320 --> 00:07:47,320 conversation. They talk for the sake of speaking. I mean, like 98 00:07:47,320 --> 00:07:50,320 most people like listen, but they don't hear you. Oh, flip 99 00:07:50,320 --> 00:07:53,320 that they'll hear you, but they ain't really listening. And 100 00:07:53,320 --> 00:08:00,320 I mean, I've never been that guy. I'm I'm in or tennis, like I 101 00:08:00,320 --> 00:08:04,320 pay attention to like the most my new details, because they 102 00:08:04,320 --> 00:08:08,320 say, you know, the devil's in the details. Like if I get an 103 00:08:08,320 --> 00:08:11,320 application, if I get an update for like one of my apps or 104 00:08:11,320 --> 00:08:14,320 some shit like that, I actually read all that shit before 105 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:20,320 accepted. And that was the point in time where I didn't. And 106 00:08:20,320 --> 00:08:25,320 you know, my phone, I got an update once and one of the 107 00:08:25,320 --> 00:08:28,320 functions of my phone that like I use on the regular basis 108 00:08:28,320 --> 00:08:33,320 along with this new update, it removed that function. And then 109 00:08:33,320 --> 00:08:38,320 you know, I just accept my phone updates. And then about a day 110 00:08:38,320 --> 00:08:41,320 or so later, I go to use that functionality that I'm used to 111 00:08:41,320 --> 00:08:43,320 and it's no longer acceptable. And now I'm confused. Like 112 00:08:43,320 --> 00:08:46,320 why the fuck. So then you know, I do a quick Google Google 113 00:08:46,320 --> 00:08:49,320 search. Yo, why doesn't such and such work on this particular 114 00:08:49,320 --> 00:08:53,320 phone brand? And then it goes, Hey, at the recent update, this 115 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:55,320 is removed. If you agree to it, there's no reverse. And I'm 116 00:08:55,320 --> 00:08:59,320 like, fuck, I should write it. So after that, moving forward, 117 00:08:59,320 --> 00:09:02,320 I was just like, yeah, I'm just gonna read whatever the fuck 118 00:09:02,320 --> 00:09:07,320 pop my phone because shit, we ain't got nothing but time. Or 119 00:09:07,320 --> 00:09:15,320 do it. Well, time to tell. Or will it. I don't know why I'm 120 00:09:15,320 --> 00:09:22,320 doing that. But I think it's a lures. Lately, I've been 121 00:09:22,320 --> 00:09:27,320 watching like a lot of videos on social media. So there's this 122 00:09:27,320 --> 00:09:32,320 lady. And she has like to disable. I want to say they like 123 00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:36,320 her niece. I don't believe they're like her daughters, but 124 00:09:36,320 --> 00:09:42,320 one name is like Brea. And I can't remember the other one's 125 00:09:42,320 --> 00:09:48,320 name. But like, I don't know. I watched the video and I get 126 00:09:48,320 --> 00:09:51,320 it like, you know, they're mentally disabled and I'm not 127 00:09:51,320 --> 00:09:54,320 laughing at them having a disability. I don't laugh at 128 00:09:54,320 --> 00:09:57,320 people who have certain senses that's outside of their control. 129 00:09:57,320 --> 00:10:02,320 And I've always been that way. Like even like growing up, you 130 00:10:02,320 --> 00:10:05,320 know, school, like, I might have on like a decent pair of 131 00:10:05,320 --> 00:10:08,320 sneakers. And if the kid in the class had on some ran down 132 00:10:08,320 --> 00:10:13,320 shit, like even then, like I had the mindset, at least I was 133 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:17,320 evolved enough to recognize that he doesn't purchase his own 134 00:10:17,320 --> 00:10:19,320 tennis shoes. And this might be the only thing his parents 135 00:10:19,320 --> 00:10:23,320 can afford. So why would I tease him for that? 136 00:10:23,320 --> 00:10:27,320 I mean, I've never been that guy. So even speaking to this 137 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:30,320 like viral video that's been going around of these two young 138 00:10:30,320 --> 00:10:34,320 ladies in there, I believe it's that aunt or that grandma, 139 00:10:34,320 --> 00:10:39,320 I think it's the aunt. But I'm laughing because the video is 140 00:10:39,320 --> 00:10:42,320 funny. I'm not laughing because they have a disability. 141 00:10:42,320 --> 00:10:47,320 The disability isn't what makes it funny. But you know, so the 142 00:10:47,320 --> 00:10:51,320 one girl, it's like, when the video start, like she's shown 143 00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:55,320 like the sleeve of her t shirt and she go, look what she did 144 00:10:55,320 --> 00:11:00,320 to my Ariana Grande shirt. And then on it's like, what did she 145 00:11:00,320 --> 00:11:05,320 turn? Like that ax in the straight. And then the girl 146 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:09,320 Brea, I thought she was nonverbal, but then I saw another 147 00:11:09,320 --> 00:11:11,320 video where like she said, like, thank you and like God 148 00:11:11,320 --> 00:11:16,320 bless your sister. So she can speak. But she's sitting there 149 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:21,320 with her. She's typically quiet. And the girl, Ariana Grande 150 00:11:21,320 --> 00:11:25,320 shirt, she take like her palm of her hand and like pushes her 151 00:11:25,320 --> 00:11:30,320 in the shoulder with it. And then like the sister who so the 152 00:11:30,320 --> 00:11:33,320 girls are the girls like kind of stand up. So the sister hit 153 00:11:33,320 --> 00:11:37,320 like sit down and like hit with her like palm of her hand. 154 00:11:37,320 --> 00:11:42,320 And the girl falls into the chair and she puts her two arms 155 00:11:42,320 --> 00:11:45,320 above her head and start waving them side to side like in 156 00:11:45,320 --> 00:11:52,320 a rabbit's succession. And for some reason, anytime it comes 157 00:11:52,320 --> 00:11:55,320 across my timeline, I can't help but watch it and I laugh 158 00:11:55,320 --> 00:12:00,320 every time. But what I do take from that video that most 159 00:12:00,320 --> 00:12:03,320 people probably don't take into account when they watch it is 160 00:12:03,320 --> 00:12:07,320 that these girls look clean. They look well fed. And they 161 00:12:07,320 --> 00:12:11,320 look to have like a decent home. And the aunt of mom or 162 00:12:11,320 --> 00:12:16,320 whoever this woman is, she's taking very good care of these 163 00:12:16,320 --> 00:12:20,320 two girls. And that takes like an immense amount of like 164 00:12:20,320 --> 00:12:26,320 patience and understanding. And so as much as I laugh at the 165 00:12:26,320 --> 00:12:29,320 video, it kind of warms my heart at the same time that these 166 00:12:29,320 --> 00:12:32,320 girls are being taken care of like they could be in a hospital 167 00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:36,320 somewhere, you know, being mistreated or like, you know, 168 00:12:36,320 --> 00:12:42,320 ignored. So I don't know why I just started talking about that 169 00:12:42,320 --> 00:12:47,320 but like that video like popped in my head. I like obscure 170 00:12:47,320 --> 00:12:52,320 shit. You know what I'm saying? Like whatever's like trendy 171 00:12:52,320 --> 00:12:55,320 and I'm not trying to like avoid trendy shit for the sake of 172 00:12:55,320 --> 00:12:58,320 being like, I'm different from y'all. It ain't that. It's just 173 00:12:58,320 --> 00:13:04,320 like, well, most people find human like I do sometimes but 174 00:13:04,320 --> 00:13:07,320 for the most part I'd be like, they don't get me wrong. Like, 175 00:13:07,320 --> 00:13:12,320 I love like, like a sitcom like like Martin. It's like 176 00:13:12,320 --> 00:13:16,320 universally loved. And don't get me wrong. I love Martin as 177 00:13:16,320 --> 00:13:22,320 well. But I've always been more of a curvy enthusiasm type of 178 00:13:22,320 --> 00:13:27,320 guy or a phraser. I might have said this before but like, I'm 179 00:13:27,320 --> 00:13:31,320 a very, very big fan of like draw human. You know what I 180 00:13:31,320 --> 00:13:37,320 mean? Like I like, I like Senokoo shit. I like, I just like 181 00:13:37,320 --> 00:13:43,320 clever, clever shit. But on the, you know, on the opposite 182 00:13:43,320 --> 00:13:47,320 side of that spectrum, like I'll still live like a fart joke. 183 00:13:47,320 --> 00:13:53,320 Me and my best friend, we talked about this maybe about like 184 00:13:53,320 --> 00:13:58,320 a week ago about, you know, entering like that phase of 185 00:13:58,320 --> 00:14:02,320 like a second childhood type of shit. Because, you know, when 186 00:14:02,320 --> 00:14:08,320 you're a kid, you can't wait to get older. But you never 187 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:11,320 stop to think in the process of rushing to get older. Everything 188 00:14:11,320 --> 00:14:18,320 else around you gets older as well. Parents, pets, you know, 189 00:14:18,320 --> 00:14:22,320 things that you think is just always going to be there. You 190 00:14:22,320 --> 00:14:24,320 know what I mean? So you're like, man, I can't waste me to 191 00:14:24,320 --> 00:14:28,320 get older. But you rushing everything else around you too. 192 00:14:28,320 --> 00:14:33,320 If I had any regrets in life, it would be not appreciating my 193 00:14:33,320 --> 00:14:37,320 youth as much as I should have. So like I said, me and my best 194 00:14:37,320 --> 00:14:39,320 friend and shit, like we've been talking about this recently 195 00:14:39,320 --> 00:14:42,320 and it's like, all right, nigga, fuck it. We're going to start 196 00:14:42,320 --> 00:14:46,320 our second childhood, fuck it. What's niggas already kind of 197 00:14:46,320 --> 00:14:50,320 in the midst of? I mean, yeah, granted, we got bills to pay, 198 00:14:50,320 --> 00:14:54,320 we got jobs, we got card notes, we got all that type of shit. But 199 00:14:54,320 --> 00:14:57,320 yeah, this nigga watch anime, I watch anime, I watch old 200 00:14:57,320 --> 00:15:01,320 cartoons. So do he. He's like up to date with like comic books 201 00:15:01,320 --> 00:15:05,320 and mongers and shit. So we might talk about like some real 202 00:15:05,320 --> 00:15:11,320 life shit, like, you know, some past emotional trauma or some 203 00:15:11,320 --> 00:15:15,320 shit, like talk our way through that shit, like drawing the 204 00:15:15,320 --> 00:15:18,320 similarities that we probably both experienced in our lives. 205 00:15:18,320 --> 00:15:20,320 And in the midst of that shit, you remember that episode of 206 00:15:20,320 --> 00:15:24,320 Godfield and Friends when, you know, and then we'll just laugh 207 00:15:24,320 --> 00:15:27,320 about Godfield and Friends, or we'll have like debates about 208 00:15:27,320 --> 00:15:31,320 what's better, Cartoon Network or Nickelodeon. So I'm a 209 00:15:31,320 --> 00:15:34,320 Nickelodeon guy through and through. He's a Cartoon Network 210 00:15:34,320 --> 00:15:40,320 guy. But I can recognize that Cartoon Network has some fucking 211 00:15:40,320 --> 00:15:45,320 heavy hitters. Wrackless show, heavy hitter. Adventure time, 212 00:15:45,320 --> 00:15:50,320 heavy hitter. There's a show called Craig of the Creek, which 213 00:15:50,320 --> 00:15:54,320 might be one of my favorite, like newer shows. I think because 214 00:15:54,320 --> 00:16:01,320 I don't know. I think it embraces like it's age group, like 215 00:16:01,320 --> 00:16:06,320 the jokes on like adult jokes that's like underlined or covered 216 00:16:06,320 --> 00:16:11,320 up with like child humor. Like it's the kids in the, they go to 217 00:16:11,320 --> 00:16:17,320 the creek, they still play pretend and, you know, like, I 218 00:16:17,320 --> 00:16:20,320 think that's what the youth is missing. Like these kids never 219 00:16:20,320 --> 00:16:26,320 know what life was like pre-internet. Imagine right now as 220 00:16:26,320 --> 00:16:31,320 a fucking full grown adult. You leave out for work and get in 221 00:16:31,320 --> 00:16:35,320 your car and you're about to publicity a job and you realize, 222 00:16:35,320 --> 00:16:40,320 oh shit, I forgot my cell phone. You'll probably go into 223 00:16:40,320 --> 00:16:44,320 work, punch in, tell your boss that you got some kind of family 224 00:16:44,320 --> 00:16:46,320 emergency. You'll probably go back home and get that fucking 225 00:16:46,320 --> 00:16:50,320 phone. If not just banger you turn and like say the days are 226 00:16:50,320 --> 00:16:54,320 washed and then call them and you know, they may have my 227 00:16:54,320 --> 00:16:57,320 tires got flat. I've been trying to reach out with my phone 228 00:16:57,320 --> 00:17:02,320 died. You'll do anything to not have that feeling of not having 229 00:17:02,320 --> 00:17:06,320 shit. Even more, even more simple than that. Yo, let's say 230 00:17:06,320 --> 00:17:09,320 you got to use the bathroom and you get up and you rush to 231 00:17:09,320 --> 00:17:12,320 the bathroom and once you get in the bathroom and realize like, 232 00:17:12,320 --> 00:17:17,320 oh fuck, I left my phone on the nightstand. You would be blown. 233 00:17:17,320 --> 00:17:21,320 You're like, damn, you're just an angel, you know, taking 234 00:17:21,320 --> 00:17:25,320 the shit. Nothing to research, nothing to look up, no funny 235 00:17:25,320 --> 00:17:29,320 videos to watch. You're just sitting there, shitting with 236 00:17:29,320 --> 00:17:36,320 your thoughts. If for some people that's like unbearable, I 237 00:17:36,320 --> 00:17:39,320 think that's one of the good things and one of the bad 238 00:17:39,320 --> 00:17:44,320 things about social media. Like it supply you with like a 239 00:17:44,320 --> 00:17:49,320 constant dose of distractions. You know what I mean? What's 240 00:17:49,320 --> 00:17:52,320 kind of keeping you from, you know, dealing with shit that 241 00:17:52,320 --> 00:17:55,320 you need to face you go, you know what, fuck it, I'm going to 242 00:17:55,320 --> 00:18:00,320 watch this viral cat video. You're like, there's some real 243 00:18:00,320 --> 00:18:03,320 shit going on. Like you probably should look into why you're 244 00:18:03,320 --> 00:18:10,320 not in case not, you know, performing well, you know, hey, 245 00:18:10,320 --> 00:18:13,320 you guys fucking small lump on the back of your arm, like 246 00:18:13,320 --> 00:18:17,320 maybe you should go to the doctors. Nah, I'm going to watch 247 00:18:17,320 --> 00:18:22,320 this video of niggas getting pranked in Walmart instead. So 248 00:18:22,320 --> 00:18:26,320 the beauty of that is that it can help like, you know, more 249 00:18:26,320 --> 00:18:30,320 or less like reboot your computer, give you like a first 250 00:18:30,320 --> 00:18:33,320 sense of, I'm going to just, you know, take my mind off of 251 00:18:33,320 --> 00:18:37,320 shit. But the bad side of that is that like, yo, this shit 252 00:18:37,320 --> 00:18:41,320 could have you like ignore what's important. And most people 253 00:18:41,320 --> 00:18:44,320 in life, including myself, depending on what it is, but 254 00:18:44,320 --> 00:18:48,320 I try not to do it. It's like most of the time people 255 00:18:48,320 --> 00:18:50,320 rather go around the problem than go through the problem. 256 00:18:50,320 --> 00:18:54,320 And when you take that route, you typically end up back in 257 00:18:54,320 --> 00:18:56,320 the place where you started. Because instead of you 258 00:18:56,320 --> 00:18:58,320 actually getting through what you needed to get through, 259 00:18:58,320 --> 00:19:01,320 you just, you know, circumvented around this shit and came 260 00:19:01,320 --> 00:19:04,320 right back around to it. And then in your head, you're like 261 00:19:04,320 --> 00:19:07,320 why do I keep going through this? No, that's the thing, 262 00:19:07,320 --> 00:19:10,320 you never did. You never went through it. You went around it. 263 00:19:10,320 --> 00:19:15,320 So I tend not to avoid like uncomfortable conversations. 264 00:19:15,320 --> 00:19:19,320 You know, I'm not opposed to that shit. And I'm not opposed 265 00:19:19,320 --> 00:19:22,320 to like being wrong. I'm not just going to give you that. 266 00:19:22,320 --> 00:19:25,320 But I ain't going to argue you down even about where you stand 267 00:19:25,320 --> 00:19:28,320 in that shit. It's just like, we can have a discussion. 268 00:19:28,320 --> 00:19:31,320 And if we don't, shit, no harm, no fail, man. 269 00:19:31,320 --> 00:19:36,320 You know, not to be grim or, you know, standoffish, but, 270 00:19:36,320 --> 00:19:41,320 you know, I'm from the school of going alone, dialing on. 271 00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:44,320 And, you know, if you can happen to have some company in 272 00:19:44,320 --> 00:19:49,320 between those two points, great. If not, they're great. 273 00:19:49,320 --> 00:19:53,320 If this not affecting like my livelihood and any capacity, 274 00:19:53,320 --> 00:19:56,320 it's not affecting where I lay my head, the vehicle I drive, 275 00:19:56,320 --> 00:20:01,320 the check that get deposited into my account every few weeks. 276 00:20:01,320 --> 00:20:04,320 At that point, it's just emotion. And I'm not a real emotional 277 00:20:04,320 --> 00:20:07,320 nigga. Like I had my moments, but for the most part, 278 00:20:07,320 --> 00:20:11,320 like I'm more logical for emotion. You know what I mean? 279 00:20:11,320 --> 00:20:20,320 I think for most, most niggas I know, I would say two of the 280 00:20:20,320 --> 00:20:27,320 most important attributes to have, not even attributes, but 281 00:20:27,320 --> 00:20:31,320 having these two, like in your arsenal of sorts, adapting to 282 00:20:31,320 --> 00:20:35,320 situations can save you a trip to prison. It can save you from 283 00:20:35,320 --> 00:20:39,320 heartbreak. It can save you from a lot of different, like, 284 00:20:39,320 --> 00:20:43,320 you know, negative things in life. Having the ability to 285 00:20:43,320 --> 00:20:46,320 control your emotion and having the ability to control your 286 00:20:46,320 --> 00:20:51,320 horny. And most niggas can't do those things. Somebody you're 287 00:20:51,320 --> 00:20:55,320 fending, you slob to fucking handle, you lose yourself in the 288 00:20:55,320 --> 00:20:57,320 moment. And then when you come back down from ego, oh, fuck 289 00:20:57,320 --> 00:21:03,320 what did I do? But at that point, it's consequences. And then 290 00:21:03,320 --> 00:21:08,320 on the flip side of that shit, it's like, you know, not having 291 00:21:08,320 --> 00:21:11,320 the ability to control your horny or have you putting on your 292 00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:17,320 freshest fit jewelry and all, shoot down to the projects one in 293 00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:20,320 the morning to go see a bitch who could kill us if you die. 294 00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:25,320 It's like shit, man. See you're there, little boy. I'ma crash 295 00:21:25,320 --> 00:21:32,320 how shit. It's stupid. But, you know, if you if you gain the 296 00:21:32,320 --> 00:21:36,320 ability or adaptability to control those two things, like I 297 00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:41,320 think you can go so much further in life. I've been able to 298 00:21:41,320 --> 00:21:47,320 control mine like years ago. And I've like, I've exceeded in 299 00:21:47,320 --> 00:21:50,320 life and like leaps and bounds. You know what I'm saying? 300 00:21:50,320 --> 00:21:55,320 Like, from feeling like I'm going nowhere to like, I can go 301 00:21:55,320 --> 00:22:00,320 as I want. And it was being able to control my emotion. And, 302 00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:05,320 you know, not falling fucking victim for every fat ass face 303 00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:09,320 that smile at me. It's just like, all right. As you were 304 00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:18,320 fed. All yours. Probably not. I don't know, man. If if life 305 00:22:18,320 --> 00:22:24,320 did have like a checklist. I'm I can say this. I say this 306 00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:28,320 truthfully and not from a certain space. I'm checking every 307 00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:34,320 box. At least from my standard to my standpoint, like the 308 00:22:34,320 --> 00:22:38,320 things that I deemed to be important or essential, or, you 309 00:22:38,320 --> 00:22:45,320 know, as goals. You know, yo, my house check, get a car 310 00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:50,320 check. Excuse me, get a career check. You know what I mean? 311 00:22:50,320 --> 00:22:56,320 Like, in all the other essential, like, you know, checkpoints, 312 00:22:56,320 --> 00:23:02,320 I'm checking the boxes, man. And I think it all starts with 313 00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:13,320 my ability to adapt. You know, you date somebody and y'all might 314 00:23:13,320 --> 00:23:16,320 not click initially, or maybe I'll do but then you realize 315 00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:20,320 that, all right, we have some differences in personality. And 316 00:23:20,320 --> 00:23:25,320 it's like, all right, you got a choice. You stand on your, you 317 00:23:25,320 --> 00:23:28,320 know, stand on your square and fight this shit too for now, 318 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:33,320 or have the ability to adapt or compromise or whatever 319 00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:37,320 euphemism you want to use for finding some level common ground. 320 00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:40,320 You know what I mean? It took me a while to figure that shit out 321 00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:46,320 too, but I'm thankful that I did. You know what I mean? Like, 322 00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:50,320 with any relationship, whether it's like a friendship or, you 323 00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:53,320 know, a more intimate relationship with your partner, 324 00:23:53,320 --> 00:24:00,320 whatever the case may be, I feel like, you know, any relationship, 325 00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:03,320 even like one from a professional standpoint, I think 326 00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:08,320 everything in life is about wars and battles. A battle I'm willing 327 00:24:08,320 --> 00:24:13,320 to lose. A war I'll fight to the death. Just for me, wars like 328 00:24:13,320 --> 00:24:17,320 principle based shit. Battles is just like, it means a lot to 329 00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:21,320 you, not to me. All right, I ain't really, I ain't tripping 330 00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:25,320 about it. You know what I mean? Like, you never want to make the 331 00:24:25,320 --> 00:24:29,320 mistake of like trying to find somebody for you if you got to 332 00:24:29,320 --> 00:24:33,320 lose who you are in the process. It's not worth it. And you'll 333 00:24:33,320 --> 00:24:37,320 build resentment over time and then you'll start blaming this 334 00:24:37,320 --> 00:24:40,320 person for the decision that you made. Because when it comes to 335 00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:44,320 relationships, for the most part, like, ain't nobody a hostage. 336 00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:48,320 You know what I mean? You can leave at any point, but I think 337 00:24:48,320 --> 00:24:52,320 a lot of times people are confused, love with 338 00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:58,320 comfortability. And that's vastly different. Where, you know, 339 00:24:58,320 --> 00:25:01,320 you'll finally build up enough confidence to expose what you 340 00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:06,320 deem to be a flaw with you personally to this person that's 341 00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:09,320 not you, and they accept that flaw and you'll confuse that 342 00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:12,320 with them loving you. No? It might just have a little 343 00:25:12,320 --> 00:25:18,320 bit of a difference between being comfortable and being 344 00:25:18,320 --> 00:25:22,320 complacent. You know what I mean? Like, when do you know when 345 00:25:22,320 --> 00:25:28,320 it's good enough? And when do you know that, you know what, 346 00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:32,320 I'm just going to settle for this. Like, what's the difference 347 00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:36,320 between comfortability and 348 00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:50,320 complacent? Hmm. I don't know. I want you all to do that this 349 00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:53,320 week. Think about any situation that you are in, whether it's 350 00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:58,320 jobs, relationships, whatever. Stop and ask yourself, am I doing 351 00:25:58,320 --> 00:26:02,320 this because I don't think I can do any better than this? Or 352 00:26:02,320 --> 00:26:06,320 am I doing this because I feel like it's just good enough? 353 00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:11,320 Because sometimes good enough is better than better. 354 00:26:11,320 --> 00:26:17,320 That grass ain't always greener. But then sometimes it's the 355 00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:20,320 greenest shit you ever saw in your life. And it's really up to 356 00:26:20,320 --> 00:26:25,320 you to make those decisions on do I stay put or do I pursue 357 00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:34,320 more? Talking surface is shit. This is episode nine, by the 358 00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:38,320 way. Like, I've been doing this shit for nine weeks. This is 359 00:26:38,320 --> 00:26:43,320 crazy. And I still haven't got bored of it yet. I still enjoy 360 00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:45,320 it. 361 00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:48,320 Yeah. 362 00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:54,320 Well, I'm not gonna hold up too much of your time. You know, 363 00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:58,320 I'm here for a good time, not a long time. 364 00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:04,320 So, with that being said, whoever's hearing us, whatever 365 00:27:04,320 --> 00:27:07,320 goal you're currently chasing, I hope you get one step closer 366 00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:10,320 to achieving that goal. If not a comment from that goal all 367 00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:15,320 together. I want everybody to be safe. I want everybody to be 368 00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:19,320 productive. I want everybody to be positive. You know what I'm 369 00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:22,320 saying? Walk away from the bullshit if you got the ability 370 00:27:22,320 --> 00:27:28,320 to. Or stand on your square if you feel your backs against the 371 00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:32,320 wall and there's no else for you to go before. Whatever 372 00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:38,320 decision you make, stand firm and approach with confidence. 373 00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:42,320 And out of everything I said to death, if there's any of it 374 00:27:42,320 --> 00:27:48,320 that you don't agree with, my Instagram is QG music. 375 00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:53,320 That's QG M. U. S. I. C. 376 00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:58,320 at instagram.com. 377 00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:18,320 Peace.