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Enjoy the show. Welcome to Soul Decodes. Join
us as we wander off the path to find the ideas
that fascinate. We talk about spirituality, the
mind, the ego, wellness, and hidden history with
tips, travels, and tales. Charms for a better
life. Hello, everybody, and welcome. This is
Dr. Tia Jolie Phillips, and you're in the Treehouse
Studio. We're with Sarah. Hi, Sarah. Hi. Sarah
Thierry, acclaimed author, prolific author at
that, philanthropist, thinker. What's on your
mind today? Well, we're here with Lenka, and
I think you should introduce Lenka. So Lenka
and I, we've known each other probably for about
a year or two. Lenka Brady. Lenka Brady, and
God, she's so multidimensional. There's so much
to this lady, it's crazy. But yesterday, we were
at a networking meeting, and... On a complete
whim, you and I, Sarah, we knew we were going
to talk about gratitude today, but she mentioned
gratitude. And I thought, there's no coincidence
there. So let's just, so I said, would you be
open to, if you want to talk about gratitude,
let's bring you into the studio, have you over
at the treehouse, and let's talk about gratitude.
Well, thank you for doing it quickly. I love
it when life gets going. I've got to make sure
my schedule is clear. She just showed up. Anyway,
welcome to the studio. Thank you for having me.
This is so amazing. I love it. What did you like?
You were taking pictures and stuff? I just walked
in. I had no idea at all that... First of all,
my first time doing a podcast. So I really never
knew what goes behind it. So I appreciate the
behind the scenes. You know, I'm always about
story, right? How do you tell a story about what
you do? And I am literally watching the story
in the making. So this is incredible. You said
you had listened to our previous episode with
our mutual friend, David, right? Yeah. So shout
out to David, right? Yay. Yes. Other than just
that, you really don't have any real knowledge
of what we do. No, no. So Sarah, why don't you
give us the summary? What is Soul Decodes all
about? So Soul Decodes is penetrating the mysteries,
which might not be mysteries at all, with being
a human being. And we're all souls. And we're
incarnating on this planet. Tia Jolie and I concur
that we might be doing this more than once. We
might be reincarnating. So explore that. We also
explore the power of the mind and that we're
in a quantum field. And when we're in that quantum
field, it's mirroring back our states of mind
and we're here to manifest. We talk about manifestation
is a big one because we both have kind of big
dreams. What are your dreams? Tell me a little
bit about you because I don't know you that well.
I was going to say, let's just spend five minutes
for people who don't know Lenka Brady. Like if
you can condense your ears. From a little girl
up. From a little girl up. But just, you know,
what's the essence of who you are and what you
do and what's important to you, those types of
things, just for our listeners. So everything
you've said already is resonating with me because
I'm all about the human mind. So we have that
in common and certainly manifestation. Linka
Brady comes from Eastern Europe, a little girl
that grew up during communism. Which part of
Eastern Europe? The Czech Republic. Okay. And
you were a little girl then? I was there until
I was 19. So I went through the phase of post
-communism, Velvet Revolution. I was actually
in a group of students who was marching out and
trying to figure out how we can get rid of...
The government, right? That was oppressing us.
And once we became a democratic country through
the Velvet Revolution, we saw that there's so
much more to living in the world. And I started
having these thoughts and ideas about exploring.
I just felt like there's so much more to living.
And so I told my mom and dad when I was 19, I
need to go. I need to see things. And could you
speak English at that point? pretty perfect now
so well i appreciate it it's been 30 years but
um So after the revolution, because English was
not allowed in schools, they opened all these
fast track courses, degrees, and I pursued elementary
education, English track for elementary kids.
And so I went to school for that, got my bachelor's
degree, and that's how I got, I was introduced
to English. And it was so much fun. I loved it.
The first word that I really found. love it was
umbrella I just loved umbrella so every time
it rains I'm like go get my umbrella just the
way the tongue rolls it's amazing it's wonderful
it gives me this feeling of like it's a shield
as well yes absolutely right yeah yeah there
you go so um they my mom and dad I mean when
I really look back and think about it I have
absolutely no idea how they said yes to me getting
250 dollars They sent me off. They did. But there
I am going flying into New York. Winging it.
Winging it. Seriously. One suitcase, 250 in my
pocket. I knew another young girl that had already
been there. And so we met up at the airport and
we started just exploring. cleaning homes and
we flew to Sarasota and we were cleaning homes
and apparently I'm a good cleaner. So you were
supporting yourself, cleaning homes and traveling.
You really had your shit together. That's great.
It's so young. Mastering another language, another
environment entirely. It was amazing. Did you
love it? Did you love America? Do you know what
I love the most? Three things. I always had a
poster of a palm tree over my bed at home and
ocean because I never thought I would be able
to see it or touch it, feel it, smell it, none
of it. So when I ended up in Sarasota, it was
the first time that I got to see the ocean and
the sand and the palm trees. And it just was
such a powerful moment in my life. The second
thing was that I was able to communicate and
do it all on my own, that I was able to figure
out any solution. for whatever problem with literally
250 bucks in my pocket. It made you very powerful.
It did. It sure did. And it showed me that I
am capable of anything. I didn't know it back
then. Now, when I go back there, I think that
created the foundation. It was a very rigorous
experience. Absolutely. It created the foundation
to what I believe I'm really good at today. And
third is the trust. that my parents had in me,
believed in me and the confidence that I, I had
a very tough upbringing. My dad was really strong.
So within the family structure, was it a happy
family environment? We had a great family. I
mean, we had our family issues, you know, I don't
necessarily want to go into details, but my dad
was very, very strict with us. And interesting.
Later on, I got my NLP certification, Neuro Linguistic
Programming. So I'm very much aligned with, I
just love the language of the brain. Through
timeline therapy, we went back to a couple of
times when dad always told me, not bad, but you
could do better. You could do better. Back then,
when I think about those lessons, I thought my
dad was not. didn't have confidence in me or
thought that I wasn't good enough. Now he was
just trying to motivate you and you did because
you did it. Yes. Yeah, he got to you. Yes. And
that is why I'm so resilient today. It was because
my dad saw the incredible potential in me. I
didn't see it back then. And I honestly didn't
see it until after NLP. When I went through the
certification, I went through it twice. Once
as a human, because I wanted to understand myself
and how I form my beliefs. And NLP for the listeners
is Neuro Linguistic Programming. And it's reprogramming
your own mind. Yes. Yeah. It teaches you how
you make decisions, where they come from, limiting
beliefs, all that stuff. So the limiting belief
that I had developed because I didn't, my dad
believed in me, I was able to, through timeline
therapy, where you basically go back into your
past, where you formed a certain belief about
yourself, I was able to look at it through different
lenses, fresh eyes, and see that he was actually
trying to motivate me, encourage me, that he
believed in me, that I am truly capable of so
much more in life. And so I take that, I brought
that back into my current, reframed it. And it
is what helps me overcome whatever challenges
today. So the upbringing that I went through,
the Velvet Revolution, communism, all that, you
can't do this, you can't do that, I took with
me to today, I can do it all. I mean, I'm ready.
Bring it, you know, whatever you want to throw
at me. through all of that i have built this
ability to share my wisdom and experience especially
with the people in my life and help them feel
themselves as powerful as as i do myself and
you can impart that through helping them reprogram
their own mind with regards to their human potential
yeah yeah beautiful yeah what a calling yeah
i love it yeah that was your training i love
yes yeah there you have it so bring us forward
into today you've taken all of these skill sets
these experiences and Like really some really
cool background I didn't even know about. But
now you've got, what do you do now? So I work
with women primarily and I help them start and
develop their businesses and grow them or pivot
in life. I truly take joy in helping someone
realize when things are not working, what it
is that's really not working, whether it's your
mindset that's just maybe you don't believe that
you deserve success and you sabotage yourself
and your success or you have fear of success
or you're making small decisions in life, creating
small goals for yourself and you're not achieving
the success that you really want. Or I help them
create a concept, vision for an idea that they
have. I help them develop it through business
concepts like creating minimum viable product,
understanding how lean business methodologies
truly work. If you don't get, if you're not making
revenue, you're not spending, you should not
be spending a lot of money. I've taken it all,
even the experiences of me being able to take
the $250, one suitcase and build. my personal
empire, I love to call it that way, through the
decisions in life, being in corporate, getting
the corporate experience here, the typical American
corporate experience that I only heard about,
and then launching a few companies and learning.
Some failed, some were incredibly successful,
learning through a process, so I pass it on to
my clients. So I've written a book called The
Mirror World, which is available at IMS, and
I'll get you a copy. sign that i love that and
it's basically talking about this voice yes the
ego structure is not your soul at all and it
will diminish you and it will come from here
yeah and that you've got to get out of that thinking
so i think you're going to love this book it's
only eight thousand words a literary 45 minute
read and it's a journal and it talks about these
two structures that we have in our mind and we
can literally do anything but it's how we believe
and what we believe reality to be and we're manifesting
reality through aligning with the high frequencies
already in the quantum field yes so i think it's
really great work that you're doing i don't think
people know the critical importance of thinking
correctly absolutely it's vital yeah it's where
creation takes place yes so lenka if you could
take yourself today and look backwards at uh
teenage lenka what would you say you did that
was like amazing and you're so glad you did it.
And then what would you say you should do differently?
Well, that's an interesting one. Oh, good one.
Yeah. So what's amazing is that I decided to
give it a chance and come here into the United
States. That's one of those things that, gosh,
knowing what I know today, I don't know. Maybe
it was the lack of really fear. Oh my gosh, how
did I do this? I slept on a mattress that I found
on the corner of a street. That would have been
in your life plan. At 19, you're going to get
catapulted out of this environment. You couldn't
have resisted that. That's pretty fascinating
too because I was talking to Robin about this.
When I was in my early 20s, I was an aircraft
commander flying worldwide. for the Air Force,
dropping troops and equipment in Africa. When
I look back at that, I'm like, I can't even believe
it. It's like, how did I even do that? It freaks
me out now. But when you're young, you don't
know what you don't know. And you just go do
it. But I think that's fascinating that you said
that. So what would you do differently? Gosh,
honestly, I... When I look at every pivotal moment
in my life, it really shaped me into the person
I am today. I love my life. That's beautiful.
So therefore you wouldn't do it. I don't think
there's anything really I would change. That's
such a good answer because I do the same thing.
I wouldn't trade a thing. Because even when I
look back. There was a property that I sold really
cheaply and I shouldn't have done it. I would
change that. Actually, but you learned from it
though. Yeah. Dumbo. I've had some bad investments
myself and trust me, would I have changed it?
But it's, this is what I. That's how I look at
it. Whenever it's a bad decision, bad investment,
it leads you to people that help you explain
things to you. You learn new things. You meet
new people. There's like, I think it's meant
to be. It has to happen that way. Yes, maybe
financially you've lost something, but you might
have gained by so much more by meeting the right
people that should be in your life to help you
make better decisions going forward. So I, yeah,
sometimes some lessons are incredible. incredibly
costly and maybe put you back when it comes to
finances, but mentally. I'd probably just blown
through the money anyway. So, I mean, it was
just, there's certain, but they were very, very,
I wouldn't change anything either. I had quite
an outrageous upbringing. I've written about
it in my novel and I've talked about it a bit
in the earlier podcast, but I wouldn't change
a damn thing either. It's important because you've
arrived at a point of self -acceptance and self
-love and therefore you wouldn't change anything.
Yeah. So very important. You're not living with
regret. A lot of people live with regrets. And
that's just such a mindfuck to do that. And not
only that, so many people really do not enjoy
or love their life. And that's where I come in.
They don't know why. They don't know how to operate
their life. Exactly. They don't know what their
mind is. They're caught in thought form. Yes.
Yeah. So this is so cool. I especially appreciate
how you're taking your life experiences, your
wisdom from these past few decades and really
paying it forward. Like you're taking... Women
that are maybe at a crossroads or maybe stuck
and you're investing in them and paying it forward
with the hope that maybe they can do the same.
Yeah. Yeah. I'm really, really big on paying
it forward. Karma, all of that energy. Right.
I really believe it's like what you put out there
is what you get back. And it's interesting. It's
like it's kind of like when you walk into a room
full of people and you scan the room, you're
always drawn. in a specific corner to specific
people and it's that energy that connects you
for whatever reason so i believe that the people
that are in my life today are in my life for
a reason we are connected for mission purpose
vision whatever that may be the people that have
kind of dropped off those were seasonal you know
for a little bit and they need yes yes right
yes they were there for a season they had their
value but they don't linger absolutely yes absolutely
so so i want to segue to uh to gratitude that's
the theme of today we don't script anything i
gave you a basic concept we're going to talk
about gratitude nothing else is scripted so we
always joke about it because she doesn't know
the next thing out of my mouth because i don't
even know yeah yeah it's just what it is but
i do i did take some time to get some quotes
for some yes i did the same and i just want to
throw this out yeah let's do it just to kind
of chum the waters a little bit and just see
see what your thoughts are and if you have a
comment we'll just yeah just let's just do a
round table and like some of the first things
that come to mind but i like this one from cicero
um for those who don't know cicero is a roman
philosopher um basically a statesman of sorts
you know If you can believe history. Thierry
Jolie is a reincarnation of him. Right. So, but
this is the, there's a quote I pulled. It says,
gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues,
but the parent of all others. Oh, I love it.
So what are your thoughts on this? Okay. So the
parent of all others. It's not, yeah. It's the
parent of all other virtues. So without gratitude,
no other virtue can exist. That's the way I read
that. What are your thoughts? That's what I think.
Without gratitude, no other virtue can exist.
It is the bedrock of that. My life changed the
moment I... There's two things that happened
in my life. As soon as I realized that my life
is... I'm in this life because I asked for it.
Yes, you chose it. I'm not a victim. I chose
this life. That changed my whole world. I bet.
It's like, okay. You have to take responsibility.
Well, that's awesome because now it's like...
Now you're powerful. Now I'm powerful because
now I own this. Yes, exactly. Whatever this world
is, I own it. And for that, I give gratitude.
So that means even if somebody is serving up
a shit sandwich, it's like, this is what I needed.
This is what I wanted. I asked for this. I'm
not saying if somebody punches me in the face,
I asked for the punch, but I'm saying the overall
experience is for my benefit. So what are your
thoughts, Lenka, about that? Gratitude, is it
the parent of other virtues or how does it fit
into your world? I can't imagine living my life
without being grateful for all the opportunities
that have been provided and given to me. So for
me, gratitude is everything. It's aligned with
the energy and everything else that I talked
about, paying it forward, right? So whenever
you're grateful for something, I always look
for ways to give back. Give back and show that
if something good came into my life, and made
me feel amazing and special and valued and valuable
i would love for someone else to feel the same
what's going to happen to you it's going to come
back to you yes because the whole thing is a
rotation giving and receiving exactly the same
thing so and it's how the world should go yeah
so absolutely it is apparent because that's where
it all begins that's where it all starts right
yeah did you have a question or did you yeah
so because when you're done i got another one
so okay so Why is gratitude the antidote to entitlement
is the question. Because entitlement assumes
the world owes you something. Gratitude recognizes
everything as a gift. It restores humility, wonder,
and perspective. Yeah. I loved that. That's beautiful.
So was that Desmond? Yes, that's Desmond. Okay.
So did you have any thoughts on that, Lenka?
I can tell you this entitlement is not in my
vocabulary and there's a lot of negativity and
negative emotions that are associated with it,
which. I view people that have those negative
emotions as people that are hurting deeply. And
so it's almost like an onion. Let's peel the
layers to figure out where it's coming from and
why you feel this way. Because underneath it,
I am sure we can figure out for you to be grateful
for something and reframe whatever circumstance
that made you feel entitled. into something better.
I think we're entitled to inner peace. We're
entitled to happiness. We're entitled to freedom
of expression. So that word has a lot of negative
connotations. But I think there's some basic
things that we're entitled to. Yeah, I was going
to say, you know, that's a good conversation.
What is entitlement? Because you're coming from
Because our previous guest, two episodes ago,
we had Carlos Solos. He came over in 1961 from
Cuba. And similar, really kind of experience.
Like he came into this America concept and he's
like, what? And he sang songs about America.
He was just so grateful. And I did the same thing.
But it's not because he came here saying. I'm
coming to America. Where's my bit? Where's my
$5 ,000 credit card or debit card? He came here
because he wanted the opportunity. And he started
a graphics company in Claremont, a very big one
in Claremont. And he started just as a little
apprentice and he was willing to go to every
department. Once he had done that, he realized
I can do this. And that's when he set out on
his own business. When you're talking about your
story, Lenka, you mentioned I could feel. the
gratitude as you reflected on your story i could
feel the gratitude but it wasn't because you
came through with america owes me something it
was the idea that i get to do me yeah i get to
do me now how profound does gratitude go because
i have this i mean i'm really grateful and i
put i put this in my book the mirror world i'm
grateful for things that people might overlook
like toilet paper that's a really important one
plumbing to be able to walk on a grass to for
the sun i mean you could bring gratitude into
just like a day and but you have to actually
consciously do that with your mind yeah because
your mind will get caught up in thought forms
which will just a load of bullshit just rehashed
yeah so gratitude is is you're flexing your spiritual
muscle and it is a place you want to live because
when you're grateful more of what you're grateful
for gets supplied back to you so it's a daily
waking practice i find so many i'm gonna have
to write a list of the weird shit that i'm grateful
oh yeah no absolutely there's and it comes yeah
even even in tough circumstances sometimes i
can i'll look for what i'm grateful for yeah
it's it's such a fine line so when you think
about entitlement versus earning the right to
feel certain way right or gratitude versus or
aligning yourself with reminding yourself where
you came from, right? It's the daily reminders
and affirmations and also manifestation of what
is really important to you. So whenever you or
I lose myself, in let's say luxury today i have
earned the right to live night in a nice home
and drive a nice car and being able to go to
a nice dinner earning the right is different
yes entitlement there's the distinction i believe
so in my in my head in my world because i've
worked very hard and i've saved and i was very
disciplined right so i deserve The right to feel
a certain way because I gave myself the permission
to feel this way. That's such a huge statement.
One of my business mentors, he makes a quarter
million a month his way. He and his spouse, they
give away 10%. That's their belief system. They're
going to give away 10%. But they also have 10
% that they have. That they must spend on themselves.
I love that. Can you imagine? It's like, okay,
we have this 25 grand a month. We must spend
on ourselves. But they do. Oh, I love that. Isn't
that amazing? But it dovetails with what you're
saying. Very romantic as well. That's beautiful.
Because now you can really get to enjoy your
life. You can travel first class if you feel
like it. They just recently took, they wanted
to go see the Eagles play in Vegas in the dome,
in the sphere thing. Sphere. They ended up taking
another couple with them, all expense paid. So
it's when you do those things. Because you are
here to enjoy this existence, this quantum field.
You're here to enjoy it. That's one of the reasons
that we're here and make the most of it. And
I know who you're talking about. He's using money
to enjoy and get beautiful experiences. My point
was what Lenka was saying. There's a big difference.
We talked about this a couple episodes ago. Big
difference between equal opportunity. Equal outcome.
And equal outcome. If somebody feels like there
should be an equal outcome, because I have family
members, extended family members. So that's the
entitlement. It's like, oh, Sarah's a millionaire.
You owe me something. Well, no, you worked your
fanny off for that. I'll show you how to be a
millionaire. But just because I'm a millionaire
doesn't mean you need it. I owe you something.
I owe you my love, my compassion. And you'd help
them if you wanted to. Yeah, but I have to say.
Is this a charitable act or a welfare act? If
it's charity, that means they can't do it for
themselves and I can help them. If it's welfare,
that means you can do it for yourself. You're
just being lazy. You're choosing not to. So I'm
big on charitable giving, but I'm zero on welfare
giving. If they can do it, I want to teach them.
That's why even in the chamber, in the networking,
I've got these people who are always looking
for handouts, handouts, handouts. I'm like, Look,
I'll teach you how to make as much cash flow
as you want, but I'm not going to give you what
you're asking for because I can teach you. I
think if it's an exchange, in an exchange you
could barter that. I can do this and then you
can do that. You could use this as a way of exchanging.
Well, I barter a lot, but that's quid pro quo.
I'm just talking about flat out. Give me money
because I'm running for office. Charity. I'm
running for office. I need to win. Give me money.
No. I'll teach you how to make it. a virtual
endowment that gives you cash flow the rest of
your life, I'm not going to give you money for
your politics. Yeah. I'm going to teach you a
trade, basically. I'm going to teach you how
to be permanently wealthy. Yeah. Right? Yeah.
So anyway, but I appreciate what you said, Lenka.
And something you said, I'm going to dovetail
right into it. Did you have something on that,
Lenka? No, go for it. So I'm not a big Albert
Einstein fan by any stretch, but there is a quote
here I want to share with you and get your take.
I love this. Whether he said it or not, it's
not relevant. But he said there are only two
ways to live your life. One is as though nothing
is a miracle. The other is as though everything
is a miracle. Yeah. And you were talking about
walking barefoot in the sunshine. Yeah. And you
look at a bumblebee. Yeah, I was just going to
say butterfly. Yeah. How is it you're even flying,
you little fat fella? I was like, you're such
a beautiful miracle. I woke up at 3 o 'clock
this morning. I came downstairs because my dog
wanted to pee. And I went out. And I'm in the
country, so there's not too much light pollution.
And I just looked up at all the stars. And it
almost brought me to tears. It was just so stunning
and so beautiful. And I was glad to be awake
and glad I noticed it. And I think it's just
flexing that muscle because I spent a lot of
my life getting trapped in negative thought forms.
This is how I was able to get out of that. And
I prefer the frequency that I'm in when I'm aligned
in gratitude to everything that's beautiful about
this place. And it opens your eyes to so many
incredible things. And again, energetically,
I don't even know if it's a word. The energy
that you put out there will bring people like
that back into your life. So it's even more positive,
even more magical stuff happening. Because if
you believe that, if you see the good things
in people, if you see the positive, if you see
the miracles in things, miracles will be happening
to you because you are in a mindset that is able
to see it that way. If you close mind it. if
you um if if your energy is is just you're stuck
you're trapped yes yeah then you will not be
able to see the beautiful butterfly you will
not be able to see the stars right you can correct
you have to cultivate yes yes and it's a lot
of attraction right it's just refocusing your
attention yeah yeah and part of it's a decision
you halfway you halfway answered my a question
i was going to ask my question was how do you
perceive the world being If we trained ourselves
to seek out the miracles around us instead of
seeking out the problems, how do you perceive
the future in a place where we seek out miracles?
I think you and I had this chat yesterday about
the world being nicer, calmer, wiser, smarter.
pleasant one of the things that connected here
joely and i when we first met a couple of years
ago we both had this idea that what we're working
towards is heaven on earth yeah and that's what
that is that's the natural that's actually the
common thread like even though we're very different
like in a lot of ways like she's this stuffy
british chick i'm a scrappy american girl like
we're so different on some things you definitely
look different for sure you have a different
energy but i think you have so much in common
but that's the one thing that tied us immediately
because you i was recalling this yesterday the
Right after we met each other, you invited me
to your property, beautiful property. And you
put out this beautiful spread. You had these
fruits and vegetables and dips. Oh, I did a veganist.
I couldn't even eat so much. But it was such
a beautiful thing that you did. And to me, I
was just, if we could cultivate a world where...
Even if we disagree with somebody, we can at
least look at them and recognize them for being
the miracle that they are, even if we disagree.
When you really think about it, if you are walking
into a room, if you're talking to people already
expecting something bad to happen, you have preconceived
notions of this person to be... out there to
get you, to steal from you, to be a bad person,
you will treat them as such. And you will have
a completely different conversation with them
because you will not, you will only focus on
what you have already decided that they are.
Versus, and that goes back to your question,
what is the world going to look like? Listen,
we all have our differences, right? We all have
different upbringings. We all have different
experiences. But it doesn't mean that I'm better
than you or I'm worse than you. It simply means
that maybe I form my decisions differently. Would
you sit with me for a cup of coffee so I can
explain to you where my decisions are coming
from and why? It doesn't mean that I'm a bad
person. I'm actually a really good person, right?
But it will take 5 -10 minutes for you to get
to know me. And it's that jump into Kung Fu.
conclusions based on whatever is happening in
your head and your world. Well, you're calling
something in. You're calling that in as though
it were. Absolutely. You're going to go in and
you'll be mining for every crappy scenario. You're
going to create it because that's your mindset.
It will get reflected. And then you're going
to blame a reality for it and not hold yourself
accountable. It's a horrible, and I've been in
those loops and they're not fun, but there is
a way out of it. And it's NLP. You have to reproach.
program your mind and use language precise language
to do that and i mean have a belief system i
believe that we're all evolving that we check
in and out of this planet loads of times that
we're going to go on eternally to do something
else out there in the cosmos and a lot of people
believe that you have one life and then you're
going to die and you're either going to be extinct
you're going to go to hell or you're going to
go to heaven and that's it and it depends what
the premise of your existence is the premise
of my existence is i'm evolving into something
and i have been for a very long time and it's
a journey i this is a really cool conversation
what what would you say for each of you this
whoever wants to answer can answer but what's
one of the things that right this minute besides
being with each other um is one of the biggest
things you're grateful for in your life it could
be anything but Christ, I've just got just uploads.
It's like there's just a thousand things. Is
there anything like just that jumped off the
table at you? Right there. I don't know. I don't
know where this thought came from because I was
in a whole bunch. But Molly, my dog, I've got
this little black dog. She loved you when she
met you. She gave you her blessing. I got a picture.
So she just came into my mind. I don't know where
that thought came from. But Molly. But that was
good. Yeah. Do you have anything? Maybe Molly
is somehow intersecting with my consciousness
and saying, choose me. Make it me, mom. Make
it me, mom. Any thoughts? I think for me, it's
that one thing immediately that I had to think
of is, and it's kind of interesting that this
is where my mind went. Making a drive two and
a half years ago, almost three years ago at this
point. um it was a sunday afternoon and i told
my husband it's like let's go look at this miniola
area i heard so much about it and we went for
a drive and we never left we moved to miniola
and i've rebuilt my life completely and um where
did you come from winter garden okay not too
far no everything has changed everything my life
is so much better more meaningful more purposeful
i love where I am. Every day I remind myself.
And so it was that one drive Sunday afternoon
where we just hopped in the car because I saw
something on the news and I needed to figure
out what it was because I felt like I had a calling.
Yes, I was going to say, it's destiny going like
this. So for me, sitting here with the two of
you amazing ladies, I wouldn't be here. I wouldn't
have met you. So going back, like, how did I
get here? It is that one Sunday afternoon drive
two and a half, three years ago. She summoned
us into her world. Seriously, right? That's what
we did with each other. One decision. And so
I empower people, my friends, everyone in my
life, like make a decision that is aligned with
whatever vision of yourself you have and be confident
about it. Be comfortable that right or wrong,
good or bad. You're meant to make that decision.
Feel good about it. Something good will come
out of it. You've been impulsed to make that
decision. So assuming that destiny was Mineola,
that this is where you're supposed to nest, you're
not actually going to be able to avoid that impulse
because there are certain destinies in the program
that we're in. So there are certain things that
you can't avoid. But what you did, you felt it.
You got in your car that day and you went for
a drive. So you obeyed. That impulse. To be obedient.
Yes, to be obedient, yeah. Yep. Well, you also,
just being here today was spontaneous because
you weren't sure if you could make it and you
were going to rearrange your schedule, weren't
you? Yeah, yeah. So that was somewhat spontaneous.
Yeah. Quick, quick turnaround. And there's a
lot of alignment though. Well, that's when things
are supposed to happen, they do happen easily.
Yes, a lot of alignment, a lot of it. And that
goes with everything I do. If I don't feel the
alignment with my core values, my mission with
the person I am, where I see myself in the future,
my gut tells me so. And I've learned to listen
to my gut. Yes, your intuition. Right, my intuition,
the fear of something. It's like, Lenka, wait
a minute, slow down, something is off. That's
great. And you pay attention to that. Yeah. And
take it seriously. Yeah, for sure. I got to have
you help me with my football picks then. Oh,
I suck at that. Ask my husband. She's not psychic.
She's just intuitive. Get that intuition going
for me. So I'm going to just say that there's
two things jumped into my mind when I asked you
that question. One is I'm grateful for Robin.
Nice. You know, December will be 30 years for
us. Oh, my gosh. And she's been through a lot.
That's incredible. What date? December 12th.
Okay. 12th, 12th. But I've been through a lot.
You know, she stepped into a scenario because
I was a single parent with three children. And
neither of us wanted a relationship, but she
had just left an alcoholic. Psycho. One of those
people. And so we just wanted to be friends,
just to help each other. That was it. There was
nothing else. But then years later now, it's
like completely, we're ready. We're just getting
started. 30 years, we're just getting started.
Nice. That's beautiful. Amazing. So that's the
number one thing. But, you know, as you were
talking, Lenka, it made me think that so much
of who we are and what we do is based on a series
of decisions. And, like, here's an example. You
were talking about your puppy. You know, our
mind kind of networks and thinks of different
things by association. One of the decisions I
made was, look, we made a decision to not have
pets, right? Because we like to travel and stuff.
So I value what you just said. But one of the
things you said, Lenka, was about making certain
decisions about being happy and those types of,
that feeling about... You know, how you navigate
yourself through your next thing you experience,
right? Choose what you think about. Yeah, but
welcoming in certain things and then not, you
know. Flush those. Kind of. Yeah. Flush the monkey
mind. I'm grateful for you. Like this podcast,
Sarah, you've changed my world. I love this.
Thank you. But I'm also grateful because. You
know, we've learned how to make sequential decisions
for ourselves to help us navigate our future
and to make our present more valuable. So if
you wake up 10 years ago, if I woke up at three
in the morning because there's a loud noise or
something, I would be pissed. Yeah, you'd be
bitching about it. I'd be like, are you freaking
kidding me? Yeah, me too. Get the damn muffler
fixed or whatever. Just seriously. But now you've
got to look at the stars. But now it's a different
thing. I've made a decision if I wake up at three.
I'm going to wake up with gratitude. I'm going
to feel how soft my bed sheets are. I'm going
to fluff my pillow. I'm going to find the cool
spot on the bed. Yeah, I'm going to have a drink
of water. Right. But I'm going to get into that
lucid. But it's a decision. But it's a decision.
That's what I'm saying is I'm glad that I've
learned from people like you. Not to be reactive.
Right. I'm in control. Yeah. Yes, I'm awake at
three, but I'm going to own it. I'm going to
make the most of it. This is a great opportunity.
I'm going to listen to the frogs. No, really.
Look at the stars. Yes, exactly. And so choosing
your reaction is fundamental to being awake.
Yeah, I mean, there's just so much to be grateful
for, even if you wake up when you don't want
to wake up. There's a reason. Let's just own
it. I made a vow years ago that I never wanted
to wake up to an alarm. Because I had horrible
experience with alarms. It was just because I
had to do jobs that I didn't want to do. And
I just didn't like being woken out of sleep.
So I cultivated my life where I can set my own
schedule. So I never have to have an alarm again.
So I'm grateful for that. That's beautiful to
not have that thing blaring. So that's very cool.
I'm grateful for life itself. My life hasn't
always been easy. But there's nothing that I
would change about it. And I can choose what
I think about pretty much. I mean, I still get
caught in thought forms. And for me, I'm grateful
for the fact that with grace, I guess, I've been
able to do that because my mind was pretty messed
up when I was younger. So you just hit off almost
perfectly a quote. You're an author. I didn't
know this guy's name, William Arthur Ward. I've
not heard of him. Oh, really? He's a 20th century
American. William Arthur Ward. He sounds very
English. Yeah, a 20th century American writer.
And he's a teacher known for inspirational living
and stuff. But you nailed it. You almost nailed
his quote. He says, gratitude can transform common
days into Thanksgiving. Turn routine jobs into
joy and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.
Yeah, it's beautiful. Which is almost exactly
what you just said. I think it's what we should
try and do because we're going to be happier
as a result. And then the energy you give off,
that then manifests. And we were talking about
manifesting. We're all here to manifest a certain
life to a certain degree. Now, some of us have
a tighter curriculum. Some of us have more freedom.
There's some karma. There's certain things involved.
choose some of our life circumstances so we do
we do have some latitude what we're here to do
i believe is manifest the life of our choosing
without inducing any karma that we're going to
have to be reborn to experience so you've got
to balance your karma in this lifetime manifest
the life of your choosing and then if you want
you can graduate because we're in we're in a
big training ground earth is a training ground
wow powerful and i love it couldn't i could not
have said it obviously better but all of it is
um i'm actually learning quite a bit but um yet
again it's it's almost like a testament to what
i believe so powerfully uh about my own life
and where i'm heading where my journey is taking
me. So thank you. Well, I can't, I can't, so
I'm going to, I'm, we'll have to, I'll have to
exchange numbers with you. Cause I'd like to
send you my books and then you can get to know
a little bit more about what I'm working on.
So for both of you, you know, each of us has
run into people in our lives who are not gracious,
not, they don't have any gratitude about anything,
right? There's those people. They're everywhere.
They tend to suck as well. How do you deal with
those? Because I think there are times where
I've been like that. I think there's times where
I haven't shown gratitude and I haven't been
gracious. They're there. So how do you deal with
them then when they're there? Well, I have to
forgive them and just let them be on their journey.
Let them go through their process. Yeah, go through
your process because I have to do the same thing.
And you will come out of it and life will be
easier when you do. What do you do? And forgiveness
is such a big part of gratitude, right? Yes.
So that's beautiful. Well, being an educator
and always someone who tries to help people,
I listen. I listen to see what is happening and
I ask questions to figure out where is the negativity
or the circumstance, where is it coming from?
And if I feel that they are open, then I engage
in conversations and try to see maybe reframe,
help them see things in different light, put
in different context, you know, things like that.
But if there's too much toxic energy, then like
you... Bless the mess. Bless the mess and move
on. Oh, love that. I'm going to have to write
it down. It's not mine. It's not my quote. That's
beautiful. It's quite good, isn't it? I've been
using it for years. But you bless the mess and
move on. Yes, I know. Bless their hearts, right?
Like I said, oh, bless your heart and I move
on. But bless the mess. That's even better. yeah
so i i do try i do try um but if it gets to the
point that it's actually that i'm the one that's
absorbing the negativity oh that's suffocating
yes suffocating and then i just draw the line
and you're under you're under no spiritual obligation
to align with that and one thing that uh when
the one of the first times i was at your house
you explained that you don't let negativity into
your house like if somebody's gonna be foul in
your house it's like You were pretty stalwart
in terms of just no negative in your house. I
like that. I actually liked it a lot. I had somebody,
oh, some time ago, there was just a business
meeting and this guest was in my house. We had
like 30 of us here and it was a guest and she
was foul. She was foul. What, in a foul mood?
Yeah. Just saying foul shit. That too. Like,
her mouth was foul. She was just, everything
was foul. Oh, God. And I literally pulled her
to the front. Frog marched her out. I perp walked
her out. But basically, I walked her to the front
door and I explained to her, it's like, you know,
I love having you here. Good luck, baby. I'm
grateful. I said, I know you're going through
a lot. Because she had been through a lot. She's
going through a lot. But I invited her here because
she was going through a lot, not with the expectations
she's going to come and poop on the parade. The
negativity is too heavy. So I brought her to
the front, away from everyone. I said, I love
having you here. I know you're going through
a lot, but I cannot have you dropping F -bombs
in my kitchen with my closest people. I said,
you're welcome. I hope I haven't done that. I
said, you're welcome to stay if you want to stay,
but this is not okay. But were her F -bombs,
they were like, well, fuck you and fuck you F
-bombs? Because I say fuck quite a lot on the
show. Yeah, but just about the world around.
There was no gratitude. It was the complete...
It was like darkness over the entire world, and
I'm going to bring it into Tia Jolie's kitchen.
no, but you're not because I have an umbrella.
I have an umbrella. That's very sweet. My home
is my sanctuary so I can completely understand
and this would not, no, there's no way. Yeah,
so I mean, I had to kind of isolate it. I mean,
she ended up apologizing and staying and she
was kind the rest of the time. You know what
would have been interesting about that? You might
have actually told her something that she can
actually work with. Like, is Tia Jolie right?
And that could have been a breakthrough in something
she, because you called her out. A lot of people,
wouldn't have the gumption to do that they would
just suffer it and just wait till she's gone
and not have her back again so that was you could
have woken her to it well i always i always sandwich
things like i never attack the character i always
just i i give i edify the character because she's
a miracle she's a beautiful divine sovereign
but then i address the behavior yeah i'm i love
you being here i love you as a person i know
you're going through stuff and i want you to
be part of my circle but This behavior over here
is not okay. That's wonderful. I'm not saying
she's the jerk. I'm saying her behavior is the
jerk. And she apologized. Oh, she changed it
on a dime. It could have been life -changing.
I just saw her in the past week or two, and she
was perfect. That's good. Maybe it's just around
me. You shocked her. Maybe she knows I'm armed
or something. I don't know, but it worked. I'm
not saying that she's that way all the time forever.
I don't think that's the case. She might have
woken up to something, and sometimes it does
take explaining this and having the gumption
to say it to someone. You could have helped her.
I didn't know Robin before we were married or
anything, but when you go through a divorce and
when you're going through that darkness, it's
easy to let that bleed over other places. She
recounted a story of her going to work and one
of her close friends pulled her aside and said,
I know you're going through some stuff and it's
pretty trashy, but you don't need to bring all
your stuff to work because nobody wants to hang
around with you. Those are my words. Yes, it's
quite ruthless. It was basically like... We want
you to be with us, but we don't want to hear
about your divorce. We want to be with you and
play softball or go bowling or whatever. I think
people can find life difficult enough without
having this major drain, this vampirical Debbie
downer type mentality. So, but we can all, we
can all be down. We've all been down, but there's
a certain place that you can exhibit that. And
it wouldn't be in the workplace because everyone's
getting up to going to work and they have an
expectation that they want to have somewhat of
a decent time. It's bad enough going to work.
Yeah, exactly. Time and place. yeah exactly I
can understand people needing to get like vent
and kind of do the shadow work Because all of
us have done the shadow work. Sit and stare in
the mirror and do it. Yeah, but it doesn't need
to be at work or something like that. But did
you have any other questions or anything? No,
I just had that. And Lenka, while she's looking
that up, what are your thoughts? Do you have
any questions or is there any aspect of... Oh,
let me just read this one real quick because
we're talking about forgiveness. Why is gratitude
the gateway to forgiveness? When you're grateful
for the lessons embedded in past pain, resentment
loses its grip. transform wounds into wisdom.
So that was the link with gratitude. You know
what? Oh, Desmond's hot. But that tangentially
peaks on something. But let me give it to Lenka
here and then I'm going to cover that real quick
because there's something huge about that that's
about holistic health. I've got another one.
Yeah, I'll double back to that. Which is holistic.
Go ahead. I just wanted to tee it up for you,
Lenka, if you had anything. No, the word resentment,
we haven't talked about it. We talked about forgiveness.
So gratitude, you have forgiveness. And then
resentment, that's the negative. I would almost
say that resentment is the parent of all the
negative emotions. So you have gratitude, right?
It's almost the opposite. And that's where the
negativity is brewing, the toxic behavior, toxic
energy. I think the Buddhists say resentment
broils innards. Oh, there you have it. And I
can see that image in my head. Oh, absolutely.
That's nasty. It is nasty, isn't it? But it's
kind of true. So while you were saying that,
see, I have a lot of people come into my world
because I can give them the most amazing nutrition
and coach them on their diet and all this stuff.
But there's this part of them where there's something
within them. Where they've not forgiven, like
we can forgive other people, but they've not
forgiven themselves. Well, let me tell you what
I'm thinking. They've not forgiven themselves.
Well, they don't know what they're doing here.
To me, it all comes down to what is your belief
system? Why do you think you're on this planet
living? Why were you born? If you don't understand
the premise of your existence, you're going to
be resentful because you don't know how to orient
yourself on this planet. And it is going to cause
resentment because you don't know why you're
born, what you're doing. doing how the doing
happens how powerful you are you've gone through
all these traumas because most people have been
through some type of trauma and you can't make
any sense of it i mean that is enough just to
have a have a resentment as a platform without
even knowing that this would all be in your subconscious
you wouldn't even know that that's why you feel
like and so you'll be manifesting choices behaviors
decisions that are negative and it'll be mirroring
that yep absolutely so what i was sharing is
that each one of us it's it's relatively easy
to forgive somebody else but we have a hard time
sometimes forgiving ourselves but if you take
that what desmond presented there if you can
get to the point where you forgive yourself for
maybe a bad relationship or a bad business decision
or something yeah right so maybe a bad real estate
purchase and you could just forgive yourself
for that then that's going to be the gateway
to you being having grace towards yourself Having
gratitude for yourself. Self -love. And self
-love. So it's important. We talk about forgiveness.
A lot of times it's secondary. I would say it's
even more of a priority to forgive yourself.
The highest priority. Because I see people come
in my door for health and wellness. And I can
talk to them about it. And they can't stand themselves.
Right. And within five minutes, I have them crying.
That's why there's tissues there, by the way.
But they're crying because they've never entered
a world where I tell them, look, you've got a
double standard. Because you You're so beautiful
towards everybody else, but you've got to be
that beautiful towards yourself too. Quite, quite.
So why do you have a double standard? Because
you're beautiful, and I want you to see yourself
the way I see you, as a divine, perfect, beautiful,
sovereign little girl. Well, a lot of people
were told that they were sinners, that they were
born into sin. Some think shit went down years
ago. That's how you're from those limited beliefs.
And then you've got a savior that's going to
have to die for your sins because you're not
going to be able to ever do that. I mean, we
have a really flaky premise in the Western world,
especially about who God is. what's our relationship
to god is that's not helpful yeah well and we're
raised based on someone else's perception of
what we should become so you think about it you're
born and your mind is clear You know, it's clean
canvas. Mom and dad and everyone around you.
Your ego hasn't formed. Not at all. And your
belief system, nothing, right? Your values. So
all of a sudden, as you grow, you start forming
your values and developing certain beliefs based
on what people tell you, what they teach you.
I think some you form, but I think most of them,
they're just... thrown at you you've inherited
this all this bullshit you've just inherited
you don't know why you have but then if we're
choosing our lives and we're choosing to come
into this world and we've done that for a reason
we've chosen certain programming and then it's
kind of deprogramming yeah it's funny you say
that because you know there's this whole field
of study called epigenetics because i hear all
the time it's like oh i'm depressed because my
mom was depressed and she was depressed and all
this stuff it's like stop It's not genetic. It's
not your DNA. The only thing that double helix
does is produces proteins and folds them one
way or the other. 98 % of your genome is sensing
who you are, what your thoughts are, what you
do, what your decisions are. You control your
expression of your DNA. Therefore, your sadness
and your depression is probably something. Where
you went from zero to six years old listening
to mom and dad argue. Just mimicking it. And
you're just, this is the way people behave, therefore
I'm going to behave this way. Yeah, there was
no conscious decision making. Yeah, and that's
to your point. it's what you know you're mirroring
the same behaviors that you have been around
and there's a reason for that because we're choosing
our lives so you don't want to devalue that but
we i remember years ago i was i was a stewardess
of british airways for five years i did long
haul out of london and i was getting my suitcase
across to my car and i had this download this
revelation that all I was at that point was a
conglomerate of the opinions of other people
that I realized I actually didn't have an independent
thought and it was scary but it was revolutionary
I felt much lighter because I realized that's
what you've been doing because I was starting
to I recognized I was sounding like other people
so I was just mimicking yeah I'd put this belief
system together which I just mimic it mimicked
and inherited and then at 25 I was able to dismantle
that And that's what, but then I was supposed
to do that because we, like I keep saying this,
but if we're choosing our lives, there is a reason
that we have all this brainwashing. And part
of it is to deal with the context of what we're
going to be, the person we're going to be as
a result of that, and then develop because of
it. Yeah. And then start manifesting because
that will be our platform. But you did all the
hard work, right? You have decided to live your
life your way. a lot of people that choose not
to do the hard work and therefore they're almost
like the victims of their upbringing the victims
of what has been said to them told to them things
that they were made to believe you grew up in
poverty you grew up certain way so that is how
you're going to live your life because you the
individual just go through life believing that
that's all it is instead of finding the courage
within yourself and say no no absolutely not
i want to live my life my way and you find the
courage to do the hard work to change your belief
system so i wish there was a way more awareness
more maybe this podcast is incredible for people
to listen to and see that you don't have to be
the product of your past you become the product
of your future whatever your future want to be
anything you want it's all there in the quantum
field every variation of every is all embedded
in absolutely and we do have the power to choose
you've got to be able to control your mind yeah
in order to do that yeah so lenka i want to kind
of pull this all together and just find out you
know you're obviously helping move the bar move
the chains forward for uh women for people in
general what is your business how do people find
out about you is this Where are you in this journey?
In Mineola. What can we do to help you? Yes,
in Mineola, my favorite place on earth. Yeah,
yeah, yeah. How do people find out about your
work? Is there anything you need from us? How
do we help you to your next level? Well, first
of all, thank you for this incredible opportunity.
It's the first time that I've had a chance to
actually speak about gratitude. Well, you've
done really well. I mean, if this is your first
podcast, you're a pro. I appreciate it. I love
opportunities to do things that take me out of
my comfort zone. So thank you, Tia, for saying
something. You look totally comfortable. I would
be very smart. I think it's because it's a topic
that I love and have passion for. If we talked
about something, I don't know anything about
it, I'm sure. Yeah, I threw some math at me.
I was like, oh my gosh, no, I need to go now.
But yeah, listen, Start a Business LLC is my
company. It's this website. I would love for
people, women to connect with me. I appreciate,
I am with Chamber of Commerce. I hang out with
pretty much with, in Claremont on every Monday
during our events. So come find me, talk to me.
You might be surprised to know that our, outside
the United States, our number one country listening
to us is Singapore. No way. Yeah, we have like
dozens of countries. Ah, well then. They probably
will not come to Claremont, that's for sure,
right? But if you give me the website, your website,
would that be relevant to people across the world?
Absolutely. Yeah, we do virtual support as well.
And so bootcamps and things like that for women
that are trying to find themselves or pivot in
life. So we'll go ahead and put that. We'll put
that. In the show notes. Is there anything else
you'd want to share with our audience? A life
lesson that you want to project into the future
via this podcast? I think the life lesson is
what I just shared a few minutes ago. Don't believe
that you are not the product of your past. Believe
that you can make your life whatever you want
it to make. And I think I cannot feel stronger
about that. It's like you have the power to,
oh my gosh, okay, this is what I'm going to share
with you. You have the power to decide, to undecide
what you've decided about yourself in the past.
And you have the power to decide. Something very
new about yourself. So it's a mumble jumble,
right? But you really have the power. You have
the power to decide who you want to be. And the
creator of the universe gave us a forum in which
to express that power. You can call anything
in. That was beautiful. Thank you for sharing
that. Now that was it, what I just said. That
was my grand finale. Well, I'm grateful to both
of you. You've been listening to Soul Decodes.
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things. Thank you in advance for sharing. We've
got good listenership and it's growing. And I'm
looking forward to our next guest. And I'm also
looking forward to... Time alone with you, because
we have to talk about your project and what's
next with your project. We'll do that. But anyway,
thanks for joining us on Soul Decodes. Sarah
Thierry, Lenka Brady, and Tia Julie Phillips.
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