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Good day, beautiful people, and welcome. 00:01:03.789 --> 00:01:05.930 You're listening to Soul Decodes, and my name 00:01:05.930 --> 00:01:09.349 is Dr. Tia Jolie Phillips, and this is episode 00:01:09.349 --> 00:01:12.769 50, 5 -0, yay. I didn't know we'd get this far. 00:01:13.250 --> 00:01:16.129 I'm sitting across from another empty chair. 00:01:16.269 --> 00:01:20.409 Yes, last week, my co -hostess, Sarah, couldn't 00:01:20.409 --> 00:01:22.909 make it, and this week, she can't make it again. 00:01:22.930 --> 00:01:25.810 She's still dealing with an extension from what 00:01:25.810 --> 00:01:28.689 she was dealing with last week. Hopefully, we'll 00:01:28.689 --> 00:01:34.170 come to some resolution on it. She did end up 00:01:34.170 --> 00:01:35.870 spending a night in the hospital last night. 00:01:36.010 --> 00:01:38.390 She's going to be okay. She's going through a 00:01:38.390 --> 00:01:42.829 few things. And her biggest complaint right now 00:01:42.829 --> 00:01:46.329 is the beds are too hard. She had some other 00:01:46.329 --> 00:01:48.930 choice words besides that, but you can only imagine 00:01:48.930 --> 00:01:51.450 what her words were. But we just want to reach 00:01:51.450 --> 00:01:55.069 out and just send Sarah just our love and appreciation. 00:01:55.090 --> 00:01:57.909 We do miss you, Sarah. And I know you're listening 00:01:57.909 --> 00:02:02.200 to this podcast. You asked me to hold down the 00:02:02.200 --> 00:02:04.439 fort, which I thought was pretty ironic because 00:02:04.439 --> 00:02:07.060 you sent me a little British flag saying hold 00:02:07.060 --> 00:02:09.900 down the fort. I didn't think you'd send that 00:02:09.900 --> 00:02:12.139 sort of a greeting to this scrappy American warrior 00:02:12.139 --> 00:02:16.620 girl. But we do miss you. And, you know, it's 00:02:16.620 --> 00:02:18.939 one thing to have a turn on a microphone and 00:02:18.939 --> 00:02:21.560 sit across from your friend and have a conversation 00:02:21.560 --> 00:02:24.300 about just whatever's coming across your mind. 00:02:24.319 --> 00:02:28.370 And believe me, I really do miss that. But I 00:02:28.370 --> 00:02:31.150 also want to share that sometimes it's, like 00:02:31.150 --> 00:02:34.889 I said in my last episode, episode 49, sometimes 00:02:34.889 --> 00:02:36.990 you have to go solo, and that's really not that 00:02:36.990 --> 00:02:40.129 bad of a thing. But I will say from a podcasting 00:02:40.129 --> 00:02:42.949 standpoint, it's a very different animal. When 00:02:42.949 --> 00:02:45.030 you're just doing a monologue and you're just 00:02:45.030 --> 00:02:47.469 coming at it, it's a very different animal. So 00:02:47.469 --> 00:02:51.389 for all y 'all listening, thanks again. I know 00:02:51.389 --> 00:02:55.479 you miss Sarah's voice. I miss her too. I'm feeling 00:02:55.479 --> 00:02:56.939 pretty good that she's going to be back next 00:02:56.939 --> 00:02:59.439 week. So we're going to go forward and she'll 00:02:59.439 --> 00:03:03.080 be with us for episode 51. So, you know, as I 00:03:03.080 --> 00:03:06.800 reflect upon the fact that Sarah was not here 00:03:06.800 --> 00:03:11.500 last week and she's not here this week, I thought 00:03:11.500 --> 00:03:13.259 it'd be a really good time to have a conversation 00:03:13.259 --> 00:03:17.400 about relationships. You know, each one of us 00:03:17.400 --> 00:03:21.159 has to answer some core questions, some basic 00:03:21.159 --> 00:03:23.840 questions about ourselves. And I know if you 00:03:23.840 --> 00:03:26.539 read Sarah's books, Sarah's a prolific author, 00:03:26.680 --> 00:03:30.780 and she's really big into spirituality and using 00:03:30.780 --> 00:03:33.539 your mind and just being aware and being thoughtful 00:03:33.539 --> 00:03:37.199 of who we are in space and time. And I think 00:03:37.199 --> 00:03:40.479 we need to all take Sarah's lead and kind of 00:03:40.479 --> 00:03:44.819 learn from that. But today I want to really focus 00:03:44.819 --> 00:03:48.300 in on what is this idea of relationships. What 00:03:48.300 --> 00:03:51.759 is relationships? What does this even mean? right? 00:03:52.219 --> 00:03:54.620 It's one thing for us to live and think we can 00:03:54.620 --> 00:03:57.840 live on an island and not interact with other 00:03:57.840 --> 00:04:00.759 people and not interact with nature and nowadays 00:04:00.759 --> 00:04:05.060 not interact with AI, right? But the truth is, 00:04:05.099 --> 00:04:08.099 you know, we kind of have to. Whatever that means 00:04:08.099 --> 00:04:11.539 in your circumstances, you kind of have to do 00:04:11.539 --> 00:04:14.340 it. So I think today I'm going to go into a little 00:04:14.340 --> 00:04:17.089 bit about relationships. Stick around because 00:04:17.089 --> 00:04:19.709 I think I'm going to take some turns and twists 00:04:19.709 --> 00:04:22.750 that you don't expect. So stick around. Before 00:04:22.750 --> 00:04:24.990 I dive into those things, though, I want to just 00:04:24.990 --> 00:04:27.569 throw out there that you can find our work on 00:04:27.569 --> 00:04:31.970 souldecodes .com. Sometimes it takes me a couple 00:04:31.970 --> 00:04:34.089 of weeks to get caught up. So I might do two 00:04:34.089 --> 00:04:37.569 or three episodes and then I'll populate them 00:04:37.569 --> 00:04:41.009 online because basically. I'm one person deep 00:04:41.009 --> 00:04:44.149 with the technology. So when I get two or three 00:04:44.149 --> 00:04:46.430 episodes, I'll upload them to the Soul Decodes. 00:04:46.449 --> 00:04:49.069 But all of the other ones are there. You can 00:04:49.069 --> 00:04:51.610 comment on them. You can send us notes. And we 00:04:51.610 --> 00:04:55.089 sure hope you'll do that. I always like to say 00:04:55.089 --> 00:04:57.709 hello to people who are listening. And gosh, 00:04:57.990 --> 00:05:03.410 my hometown is Detroit. And I was born in Detroit. 00:05:03.750 --> 00:05:07.050 And we finally have Detroit in the house. Right 00:05:07.050 --> 00:05:11.079 smack down. right downtown Detroit. So I just 00:05:11.079 --> 00:05:13.399 want to say hello to my hometown of Detroit, 00:05:13.620 --> 00:05:16.779 and we're grateful to have you here. We also 00:05:16.779 --> 00:05:20.500 have, we've had so many different countries around 00:05:20.500 --> 00:05:23.240 the world listening to us. Today we welcome, 00:05:23.360 --> 00:05:27.279 I don't think they've been on before, but I want 00:05:27.279 --> 00:05:31.500 to welcome Moscow. This is probably morning in 00:05:31.500 --> 00:05:37.879 Moscow, so dobro den. Welcome to our friends 00:05:37.879 --> 00:05:42.600 in Moscow. Thanks for joining us. We also have, 00:05:42.699 --> 00:05:44.779 first time in the house, I don't think I've seen 00:05:44.779 --> 00:05:48.220 this one before, Kingston, Ontario, Canada. So, 00:05:48.279 --> 00:05:51.839 been to Kingston, beautiful area. In fact, my 00:05:51.839 --> 00:05:53.660 youngest son was thinking about going to Queen's 00:05:53.660 --> 00:05:56.120 College up there. So, thanks again for tuning 00:05:56.120 --> 00:05:59.339 in. And finally, there's this little place in 00:05:59.339 --> 00:06:03.300 the southern part of Orlando called Holden Heights. 00:06:03.949 --> 00:06:07.430 So welcome, Holden Heights. I do want to call 00:06:07.430 --> 00:06:10.550 out Ashburn. I believe this is Maryland. I'm 00:06:10.550 --> 00:06:13.670 pretty sure it's in Maryland. But I see Ashburn 00:06:13.670 --> 00:06:16.370 not because you're new on the map, but almost 00:06:16.370 --> 00:06:19.189 every single week we see Ashburn popping up on 00:06:19.189 --> 00:06:21.750 the map. So I don't know who you are, but I'm 00:06:21.750 --> 00:06:24.069 sure grateful that you're here. And thanks for 00:06:24.069 --> 00:06:27.730 being in the house with us, Ashburn. Okay, so 00:06:27.730 --> 00:06:30.730 let's talk a little bit about relationships. 00:06:33.040 --> 00:06:36.139 Like it or not, we have relationships. And I'm 00:06:36.139 --> 00:06:38.740 going to kind of go into this from a different 00:06:38.740 --> 00:06:42.500 angle. But I want to set up kind of a foundational 00:06:42.500 --> 00:06:46.879 understanding of what I think of in terms of 00:06:46.879 --> 00:06:50.800 relationships. Now, you expect me to talk about 00:06:50.800 --> 00:06:54.060 relationships with respect to other people. So 00:06:54.060 --> 00:06:55.579 I'm going to do that because that's what you 00:06:55.579 --> 00:06:58.959 expect. But at the same time, I'm going to go 00:06:58.959 --> 00:07:01.639 into some relationships. And some discussion 00:07:01.639 --> 00:07:04.300 about relationships that you never saw coming. 00:07:04.399 --> 00:07:08.120 You never, ever. Well, I can't say ever because 00:07:08.120 --> 00:07:10.879 that's a really long time. But it's very unlikely 00:07:10.879 --> 00:07:14.459 and not very probable that you expected me to 00:07:14.459 --> 00:07:17.459 go into these areas. And I think you're going 00:07:17.459 --> 00:07:20.040 to find them beneficial and actually very useful 00:07:20.040 --> 00:07:22.779 as we go into the next year, two, three, four, 00:07:22.839 --> 00:07:25.639 five years. Because I think the information I'm 00:07:25.639 --> 00:07:27.779 sharing is going to be very relevant to you. 00:07:28.759 --> 00:07:32.379 When we think relationships, the first thing 00:07:32.379 --> 00:07:35.600 we think about is family. Almost all of us think 00:07:35.600 --> 00:07:38.360 about our closest relationships, which are family. 00:07:38.779 --> 00:07:43.980 Now, the thing about family is it's a really, 00:07:44.160 --> 00:07:48.379 really, really weird animal, okay? I've seen 00:07:48.379 --> 00:07:50.879 people with families, they're totally tight, 00:07:51.019 --> 00:07:52.980 they can't go a day without talking to each other. 00:07:53.220 --> 00:07:57.389 And I've seen families that really... They could 00:07:57.389 --> 00:07:59.170 go a year or two or three without talking and 00:07:59.170 --> 00:08:01.930 they're just fine with that. So I don't think 00:08:01.930 --> 00:08:07.170 that using family as a centerpiece for relationships 00:08:07.170 --> 00:08:09.790 is a good thing. But certainly for most of us, 00:08:09.829 --> 00:08:12.829 it's an important starting point. So when we 00:08:12.829 --> 00:08:14.810 think in terms of relationships of any kind, 00:08:14.930 --> 00:08:18.769 when we talk about family, we have to think in 00:08:18.769 --> 00:08:23.949 terms of what is familiar. So Robin and I talk 00:08:23.949 --> 00:08:27.639 about this a lot. Who is our family? Our family 00:08:27.639 --> 00:08:31.540 is that subset of people, that group of people 00:08:31.540 --> 00:08:36.399 with whom we are the most familiar. So familiarity 00:08:36.399 --> 00:08:41.460 is based on what? Usually common interests. What 00:08:41.460 --> 00:08:43.360 are your common interests? Well, for some of 00:08:43.360 --> 00:08:45.360 you, it's church. Maybe it's health and wellness. 00:08:45.460 --> 00:08:47.879 Maybe it's working out. Maybe it's farming, music, 00:08:48.100 --> 00:08:54.220 choir, travel. All of us have... things that 00:08:54.220 --> 00:08:57.039 interest us, things that bring us joy and happiness. 00:08:57.299 --> 00:09:00.879 And if you don't have family members that vibe 00:09:00.879 --> 00:09:05.039 in those ways, sometimes you have to become familiar 00:09:05.039 --> 00:09:09.679 or get extra family to bring into your circle. 00:09:09.759 --> 00:09:13.049 So I'm going to suggest that... If you don't 00:09:13.049 --> 00:09:15.090 have relationships with your family, if you don't 00:09:15.090 --> 00:09:18.389 have people in your closest circle, or maybe 00:09:18.389 --> 00:09:20.929 they're close to you, but they're geographically 00:09:20.929 --> 00:09:23.169 separated. Like my children, they're scattered 00:09:23.169 --> 00:09:25.750 all over the place. Texas and Washington State. 00:09:27.889 --> 00:09:30.169 It's very difficult to have a core family when 00:09:30.169 --> 00:09:32.490 they're scattered. So sometimes you might need 00:09:32.490 --> 00:09:36.029 to become familiar with what I call surrogates. 00:09:36.149 --> 00:09:40.889 And those surrogates are people that you fulfill 00:09:40.889 --> 00:09:43.789 a role for them. and they fulfill a role for 00:09:43.789 --> 00:09:47.190 you. For as an example, right here in Central 00:09:47.190 --> 00:09:50.570 Florida, I've got people in my life that I consider 00:09:50.570 --> 00:09:55.450 my kids, my children. We share common interests. 00:09:55.509 --> 00:09:58.870 We laugh about the same stupid things. We cry. 00:09:59.009 --> 00:10:03.370 We're emotional. We share freely. It's just as 00:10:03.370 --> 00:10:08.809 if they are a family to me that... that I don't 00:10:08.809 --> 00:10:11.429 have here. So we literally had to create a family. 00:10:11.529 --> 00:10:14.409 And you can do the same thing wherever you are. 00:10:14.529 --> 00:10:17.370 So if you're lonely, then you need to find, if 00:10:17.370 --> 00:10:18.950 you're lonely and you're banking on your blood 00:10:18.950 --> 00:10:21.350 relatives to fill that gap, I'm here to give 00:10:21.350 --> 00:10:24.429 you hope. You can absolutely create a family 00:10:24.429 --> 00:10:27.730 of your own. In fact, when you go into the Gospels 00:10:27.730 --> 00:10:31.509 of Peace, the Essenes were a religious sect. 00:10:35.039 --> 00:10:40.379 They were very pure, very clean, very natural, 00:10:40.960 --> 00:10:44.980 earthy type of people. But their teachings were 00:10:44.980 --> 00:10:47.200 very, very clear. You know, it's basically, look, 00:10:47.399 --> 00:10:52.820 don't confuse your blood family with your real 00:10:52.820 --> 00:10:56.279 family. Now, I'll just let that sink in a little 00:10:56.279 --> 00:10:59.700 bit. Don't confuse your blood family with your 00:10:59.700 --> 00:11:02.919 real family. This really goes to exactly what 00:11:02.919 --> 00:11:07.480 I'm talking about. Who are the people with whom 00:11:07.480 --> 00:11:10.840 you feel familiar? That's going to be your family. 00:11:11.100 --> 00:11:16.379 Now, let's talk about relatives. Okay, so there's 00:11:16.379 --> 00:11:18.360 the family, but then there's the extended family 00:11:18.360 --> 00:11:22.460 that we call relatives. Okay, what's the genesis 00:11:22.460 --> 00:11:25.840 of the word relatives? I need to be able to relate 00:11:25.840 --> 00:11:31.200 to them. Are my relatives relatable? Can I relate 00:11:31.200 --> 00:11:35.740 to them? In my case, the answer is yes, with 00:11:35.740 --> 00:11:38.299 a few people I can relate, but most of my relatives, 00:11:38.379 --> 00:11:41.500 we don't share common interests. We are not familiar. 00:11:42.139 --> 00:11:46.700 Therefore, we don't relate. And therefore, they're 00:11:46.700 --> 00:11:49.299 really not part of my core relationships, my 00:11:49.299 --> 00:11:51.740 core friendships. So I wanted to put that out 00:11:51.740 --> 00:11:58.039 there as a foundation. of understanding. So as 00:11:58.039 --> 00:12:00.899 we move forward, as I move forward through my 00:12:00.899 --> 00:12:05.740 diatribe, my monologue, then the rest of the 00:12:05.740 --> 00:12:07.259 things that I'm sharing with you will kind of 00:12:07.259 --> 00:12:11.399 make sense. But as you move forward, you want 00:12:11.399 --> 00:12:16.059 to have relationships and build community. So 00:12:16.059 --> 00:12:19.600 when we moved to Central Florida, Robin and I 00:12:19.600 --> 00:12:23.570 knew zero people. Zero. I had a checklist. I 00:12:23.570 --> 00:12:25.629 knew what I wanted for property. I had a general 00:12:25.629 --> 00:12:28.850 idea what I wanted for the area. I knew I wanted 00:12:28.850 --> 00:12:32.210 a place to grow things. I wanted fresh air and 00:12:32.210 --> 00:12:37.669 sunshine. I wanted to be away from like 5G death 00:12:37.669 --> 00:12:41.590 towers, right? I didn't want high frequency power 00:12:41.590 --> 00:12:43.730 lines or anything. I wanted to be out away from 00:12:43.730 --> 00:12:46.789 the traffic, the noise, the congestions. And 00:12:46.789 --> 00:12:50.039 that's exactly what we found. It took us a couple 00:12:50.039 --> 00:12:52.919 years to find this place, but we finally found 00:12:52.919 --> 00:12:55.879 it. Now, once we found the place, we knew zero 00:12:55.879 --> 00:12:59.419 people. So we had to build community. Well, if 00:12:59.419 --> 00:13:02.039 you were tasked, and you can do this right now, 00:13:02.059 --> 00:13:05.399 no matter where you are in life, if you were 00:13:05.399 --> 00:13:09.740 tasked with going from zero people, like you 00:13:09.740 --> 00:13:13.759 knew nobody, and you needed to grow your own 00:13:13.759 --> 00:13:16.720 community, it doesn't mean you need to be all 00:13:16.720 --> 00:13:21.039 like, You know, kumbaya in a compound where you 00:13:21.039 --> 00:13:22.879 live together and share food with each other. 00:13:23.179 --> 00:13:25.519 I mean, there's communities like that, but that's 00:13:25.519 --> 00:13:27.940 not what I'm talking about. Community would be 00:13:27.940 --> 00:13:31.039 a subset of the bigger group of people within 00:13:31.039 --> 00:13:34.600 the city that share an esoteric interest. They 00:13:34.600 --> 00:13:37.919 share common goals. They have common outlooks. 00:13:37.919 --> 00:13:44.240 So within that construct, we decided, well, Tia 00:13:44.240 --> 00:13:47.580 Jolie is going to have... Her band people, musicians, 00:13:48.059 --> 00:13:51.120 singers, because the music community is very 00:13:51.120 --> 00:13:53.179 important to me, and that's a group that's important. 00:13:53.460 --> 00:13:57.120 I love hanging with creators. So when Sarah Thierry 00:13:57.120 --> 00:14:00.039 came into my world, we were like kindred spirits. 00:14:00.580 --> 00:14:03.059 She's beautiful. She's smart. She's a creator. 00:14:03.299 --> 00:14:08.580 She doesn't let negativity enter her world. If 00:14:08.580 --> 00:14:10.779 there's negative things in her world, she addresses 00:14:10.779 --> 00:14:13.269 them, but it doesn't become drama. She deals 00:14:13.269 --> 00:14:16.149 with it, moves on. Those are the people I love 00:14:16.149 --> 00:14:20.110 to be around. So my creative people, and I'm 00:14:20.110 --> 00:14:21.690 not saying all creative people are like that. 00:14:21.710 --> 00:14:24.669 Believe me, there's a lot of people create drama. 00:14:25.149 --> 00:14:27.590 But my creative people are the ones that have 00:14:27.590 --> 00:14:32.710 a proclivity towards positivity and moving forward 00:14:32.710 --> 00:14:37.350 and solving problems. And for that reason, My 00:14:37.350 --> 00:14:40.549 next group is probably one of my favorite groups. 00:14:40.610 --> 00:14:43.850 And my favorite groups or my favorite communities 00:14:43.850 --> 00:14:49.929 is my network of entrepreneurs. I love, I'm going 00:14:49.929 --> 00:14:54.549 to say my entrepreneur group is arguably my favorite 00:14:54.549 --> 00:14:57.629 group. And some of theirs, there's overlaps. 00:14:57.649 --> 00:14:59.490 I mean, there's some entrepreneurs that are musicians 00:14:59.490 --> 00:15:03.529 and such, but my favorite group is the entrepreneurs. 00:15:03.789 --> 00:15:06.460 And here's why. It's not about money. It's about 00:15:06.460 --> 00:15:09.220 mindset. It's about the way that entrepreneurs 00:15:09.220 --> 00:15:13.899 look at the world. We're entering a realm, especially 00:15:13.899 --> 00:15:17.320 with Web3 technology, next generation technologies, 00:15:17.600 --> 00:15:21.899 these things. We're entering a realm where the 00:15:21.899 --> 00:15:27.480 entrepreneur has got a brand new set of tools 00:15:27.480 --> 00:15:32.340 at his or her fingertips. Traditionally, an entrepreneur 00:15:32.340 --> 00:15:39.110 is that person. that looks at the situation, 00:15:39.370 --> 00:15:44.970 the heap of garbage, the scenario that doesn't 00:15:44.970 --> 00:15:47.549 look like it's got any sort of a winning possibility, 00:15:47.909 --> 00:15:49.889 right? So they're going to take something that's 00:15:49.889 --> 00:15:54.250 very austere, some negative situation, maybe 00:15:54.250 --> 00:15:58.470 a task that seems impossible, and they're going 00:15:58.470 --> 00:16:02.669 to figure out a way to solve that problem. They're 00:16:02.669 --> 00:16:05.080 going to use their creative genius. to solve 00:16:05.080 --> 00:16:08.960 that problem and bring a solution to the world. 00:16:09.080 --> 00:16:11.840 Because the idea is that if it's a problem for 00:16:11.840 --> 00:16:14.820 one person or more people, that it's probably 00:16:14.820 --> 00:16:17.980 also a problem for other people, right? So if 00:16:17.980 --> 00:16:21.600 you can solve problems for the world and then 00:16:21.600 --> 00:16:25.159 bring the solution to the world, and by the way, 00:16:25.159 --> 00:16:28.840 make some cash doing it, because you're not just 00:16:28.840 --> 00:16:32.279 doing it to solve the problem. for yourself, 00:16:32.299 --> 00:16:34.340 you're solving it for other people and you're 00:16:34.340 --> 00:16:37.580 bringing value to those people, it's okay. It's 00:16:37.580 --> 00:16:40.259 okay if you get value back. In fact, I'll say 00:16:40.259 --> 00:16:44.059 it's critical that you as an entrepreneur get 00:16:44.059 --> 00:16:47.980 value back because that's what fuels the entrepreneur 00:16:47.980 --> 00:16:50.379 because then we can take those resources we have 00:16:50.379 --> 00:16:53.539 coming in and churn them and create other solutions 00:16:53.539 --> 00:16:56.820 for other problems. So the creators that are 00:16:56.820 --> 00:17:01.279 the big community of... The big community of 00:17:01.279 --> 00:17:04.559 creators has got a really special group of subset 00:17:04.559 --> 00:17:07.900 that's called the entrepreneurs. And I honor 00:17:07.900 --> 00:17:10.900 my entrepreneur group more than probably any 00:17:10.900 --> 00:17:14.039 other group. Now, you probably have a group of 00:17:14.039 --> 00:17:18.099 people that worship the same way you do. I will 00:17:18.099 --> 00:17:21.099 say one thing about religion. Your religion, 00:17:21.220 --> 00:17:25.680 whatever it is, is for you. That religion is 00:17:25.680 --> 00:17:28.970 for you. Now, if you have other people. that 00:17:28.970 --> 00:17:32.069 have your same views and your same beliefs, and 00:17:32.069 --> 00:17:35.190 they're in the same religion as you, that's fine 00:17:35.190 --> 00:17:37.710 and you can share freely with each other. But 00:17:37.710 --> 00:17:39.890 your religion is yours because you chose it. 00:17:40.190 --> 00:17:43.369 Your religion is not for me. It's not for Sarah. 00:17:43.549 --> 00:17:46.509 It's not for any other sovereign. If they migrate 00:17:46.509 --> 00:17:49.710 to you because they're familiar and they relate 00:17:49.710 --> 00:17:52.269 to you, then that's great. You can make your 00:17:52.269 --> 00:17:54.849 religion their religion. That's fine. But stop 00:17:54.849 --> 00:17:59.849 trying to put... religion, your religion, onto 00:17:59.849 --> 00:18:02.109 me or anybody else. It's really kind of not how 00:18:02.109 --> 00:18:04.890 it works. That's like me convincing you to be 00:18:04.890 --> 00:18:07.269 an entrepreneur or convincing you to be a musician. 00:18:07.809 --> 00:18:10.569 It's your interests. It's for you. It serves 00:18:10.569 --> 00:18:14.349 you. That's fine. We're happy for you. Your religion's 00:18:14.349 --> 00:18:20.529 to control you. It's not to control me. But there 00:18:20.529 --> 00:18:23.289 is this group of people that are religious, and 00:18:23.289 --> 00:18:26.589 that's another community. Right here in Central 00:18:26.589 --> 00:18:28.410 Florida, we have a really, really cool group 00:18:28.410 --> 00:18:33.430 of people. They're my permaculture people. A 00:18:33.430 --> 00:18:36.569 lot of people call it our farmily. So twist on 00:18:36.569 --> 00:18:43.190 family, but farmily. But I like to refer to them 00:18:43.190 --> 00:18:46.990 also as my plant parenthood people. Plant parenthood. 00:18:47.410 --> 00:18:50.569 We're parents to plants, and we just share freely. 00:18:50.650 --> 00:18:53.329 We have these really cool things. Like once a 00:18:53.329 --> 00:18:55.700 month, we have these gatherings where we... bring 00:18:55.700 --> 00:18:59.200 the excess seeds and harvest and plants, and 00:18:59.200 --> 00:19:01.920 we just share freely with each other. So again, 00:19:02.019 --> 00:19:03.480 these are community, these are relationships. 00:19:04.000 --> 00:19:08.500 So we can go into the other concentric circles, 00:19:08.680 --> 00:19:10.619 but I think that's good enough for now. But you 00:19:10.619 --> 00:19:13.259 get the idea that if you have common interests, 00:19:13.440 --> 00:19:16.680 you can get together and meet people. Sometimes 00:19:16.680 --> 00:19:21.539 just meeting people is one of the coolest things 00:19:21.539 --> 00:19:24.359 you can do. So I'm going to segue here to this. 00:19:24.750 --> 00:19:28.150 This other group of things that I think are very 00:19:28.150 --> 00:19:31.869 relevant. These are relationships that are important 00:19:31.869 --> 00:19:35.170 that you didn't even think about or you probably 00:19:35.170 --> 00:19:38.369 did not think about. Now, we kind of stumbled 00:19:38.369 --> 00:19:41.069 upon this when we moved to Central Florida because 00:19:41.069 --> 00:19:44.470 we didn't know anybody. And then shortly after 00:19:44.470 --> 00:19:48.910 we moved here and pretty much set up house here, 00:19:49.009 --> 00:19:52.029 set up our household, then the scandemic came 00:19:52.029 --> 00:19:54.200 down the pipe. And everyone says, don't move 00:19:54.200 --> 00:19:57.299 around, don't meet people, don't interact with 00:19:57.299 --> 00:20:00.339 people, which was like so not okay with us. So 00:20:00.339 --> 00:20:03.000 we did anyway. We moved forward to the degree 00:20:03.000 --> 00:20:06.660 we could. But as soon as people got comfortable 00:20:06.660 --> 00:20:08.740 like being within six feet of each other again, 00:20:08.920 --> 00:20:13.940 then we started inviting ourselves to these meetup 00:20:13.940 --> 00:20:16.880 groups and Facebook groups. And pretty much any 00:20:16.880 --> 00:20:20.900 time there were people assembling, Well, I'll 00:20:20.900 --> 00:20:23.819 use the example of cryptocurrencies, right? There 00:20:23.819 --> 00:20:26.480 were investor groups that were trading cryptocurrencies. 00:20:27.319 --> 00:20:30.480 And I was brand new to the space. I wanted to 00:20:30.480 --> 00:20:33.519 learn more about the space. But I also wanted 00:20:33.519 --> 00:20:38.779 to meet people that were interesting to me. Even 00:20:38.779 --> 00:20:41.099 though they might be different than me, they 00:20:41.099 --> 00:20:43.960 were interesting to me. And I could learn from 00:20:43.960 --> 00:20:45.799 them. And then maybe they can learn some things 00:20:45.799 --> 00:20:49.849 from me, too. So I think it... It's daring and 00:20:49.849 --> 00:20:54.930 bold and exciting to find people who have interests 00:20:54.930 --> 00:20:56.869 that are different than what you're familiar 00:20:56.869 --> 00:21:01.089 with, with the open -mindedness of saying, yes, 00:21:01.089 --> 00:21:06.130 no, I've never paddleboarded or canoed or kayaked 00:21:06.130 --> 00:21:10.230 or rappelled off of a cliff or skydived. I mean, 00:21:10.250 --> 00:21:13.250 I've done all those things, but if you've not 00:21:13.250 --> 00:21:15.740 done those things, and you have people that are 00:21:15.740 --> 00:21:17.960 willing to teach you and walk you down those 00:21:17.960 --> 00:21:22.160 paths, I'm encouraging you to be open to it because 00:21:22.160 --> 00:21:26.240 you might end up making relationships and becoming 00:21:26.240 --> 00:21:32.079 familiar with people that expose to yourself 00:21:32.079 --> 00:21:34.960 a side of yourself that you never even knew about. 00:21:35.240 --> 00:21:39.140 So what I'm going to do is challenge y 'all to 00:21:39.140 --> 00:21:45.140 being open to... other relationships. There's 00:21:45.140 --> 00:21:49.059 a book, Stephen Covey wrote a book, The Seven 00:21:49.059 --> 00:21:52.880 Habits of Highly Successful People. One of the 00:21:52.880 --> 00:21:57.480 things he writes about is to seek first to understand, 00:21:57.599 --> 00:22:01.299 then to be understood. So what I do when I go 00:22:01.299 --> 00:22:02.940 out into the world, and I'm going to suggest 00:22:02.940 --> 00:22:05.079 that you maybe try this if you've not done it, 00:22:05.119 --> 00:22:10.500 go out into the world and just discover other 00:22:10.500 --> 00:22:13.700 people. Even people that are very different than 00:22:13.700 --> 00:22:17.480 you, just discover them. It's easy for me to 00:22:17.480 --> 00:22:19.960 go out into the garden and I discover different 00:22:19.960 --> 00:22:22.640 colors, dragonflies in different sizes and shapes 00:22:22.640 --> 00:22:27.160 of bees and birds. That's easy. That actually 00:22:27.160 --> 00:22:30.819 is a relationship between us, okay? I have relationships 00:22:30.819 --> 00:22:35.019 with nature, but the most fascinating relationships 00:22:35.019 --> 00:22:39.400 with nature are those relationships that I discover. 00:22:41.210 --> 00:22:44.170 when I'm learning about other people. Okay. So 00:22:44.170 --> 00:22:46.650 just be open -minded and you might say, well, 00:22:46.690 --> 00:22:49.230 I'm an introvert. And I would say that I'm so 00:22:49.230 --> 00:22:51.730 sad for you. Why did you make that decision? 00:22:52.269 --> 00:22:55.390 Why are you deciding to be an introvert? Because 00:22:55.390 --> 00:23:01.190 there's a lot of people who self -identify as 00:23:01.190 --> 00:23:06.730 introverts and all of you can be family. You 00:23:06.730 --> 00:23:09.170 all can be introverts together and it's okay. 00:23:09.630 --> 00:23:11.549 because you share that common interest of self 00:23:11.549 --> 00:23:14.990 -belief of being an introvert. So I'm just going 00:23:14.990 --> 00:23:17.789 to leave that right there. That's a really solid 00:23:17.789 --> 00:23:21.029 foundation for relationships. So here's some, 00:23:21.150 --> 00:23:23.269 let me go in a different direction now, because 00:23:23.269 --> 00:23:26.490 we think of relationships with respect to other 00:23:26.490 --> 00:23:29.349 people. But let me just throw out there some 00:23:29.349 --> 00:23:32.430 other types of relationships that I actually 00:23:32.430 --> 00:23:37.210 teach with some of my seminars. One of them is... 00:23:37.920 --> 00:23:42.440 our relationship with ourself. I talked about 00:23:42.440 --> 00:23:47.160 it last week with my going solo, but when's the 00:23:47.160 --> 00:23:51.640 last time you really got very, I know you're 00:23:51.640 --> 00:23:53.759 naked with yourself all the time, but when's 00:23:53.759 --> 00:23:55.700 the last time you got spiritually naked with 00:23:55.700 --> 00:23:59.680 yourself and you just let your soul become completely 00:23:59.680 --> 00:24:02.299 bare and you're completely honest with yourself 00:24:02.299 --> 00:24:06.119 about your goals, your dreams, your desires? 00:24:06.890 --> 00:24:09.609 What do you want? What don't you want? Which 00:24:09.609 --> 00:24:11.630 is equally as important, like what are your boundaries, 00:24:11.750 --> 00:24:15.329 right? Those things are super important because 00:24:15.329 --> 00:24:17.970 the worst thing in the world is for you to live 00:24:17.970 --> 00:24:21.569 your entire life with yourself, get to the end 00:24:21.569 --> 00:24:24.210 of this life, and look backwards and say, I wish 00:24:24.210 --> 00:24:27.430 I would have. I wish I wouldn't have been afraid 00:24:27.430 --> 00:24:29.789 of doing this. I wish I wouldn't have been afraid 00:24:29.789 --> 00:24:32.569 of talking to people or exploring these other 00:24:32.569 --> 00:24:36.519 things. I think about my grandmother, my dad's 00:24:36.519 --> 00:24:42.660 mom. She was from Macedonia. She didn't even 00:24:42.660 --> 00:24:44.539 hardly speak English, even though she lived most 00:24:44.539 --> 00:24:47.660 of her life here in America. Barely spoke English. 00:24:47.720 --> 00:24:54.099 She never didn't want to speak Macedonian. For 00:24:54.099 --> 00:24:57.200 those of you who don't know, I'm 50 % Macedonian 00:24:57.200 --> 00:25:02.759 and 50 % Ukrainian by genetics. I doubt that 00:25:02.759 --> 00:25:05.799 it's 50 -50, but that's the way I was raised 00:25:05.799 --> 00:25:10.880 to believe. Anyway, my grandmother was always 00:25:10.880 --> 00:25:14.240 doing the traditional Macedonian cooking, which 00:25:14.240 --> 00:25:16.140 I'm not going to argue. I mean, it was amazing. 00:25:16.299 --> 00:25:18.839 I'm happy. It was delicious. I grew up with some 00:25:18.839 --> 00:25:24.279 great foods. However, she was about 75 years 00:25:24.279 --> 00:25:27.380 old. She lived to be 99 years old. All right, 00:25:27.400 --> 00:25:31.180 she lived to be 99. She was 75 years old or so 00:25:31.180 --> 00:25:37.240 before she tried pizza, American pizza, for the 00:25:37.240 --> 00:25:40.900 first time. She was kicking and fighting and 00:25:40.900 --> 00:25:45.400 screaming, but she finally tried pizza for the 00:25:45.400 --> 00:25:52.200 first time in her life at 75 years old. Her words 00:25:52.200 --> 00:25:57.839 in... as good English as she could muster, were 00:25:57.839 --> 00:26:01.839 basically, I can't believe I've spent my entire 00:26:01.839 --> 00:26:07.200 life not enjoying this. Okay? Can you imagine 00:26:07.200 --> 00:26:09.819 doing your whole life and the last thing you 00:26:09.819 --> 00:26:11.559 eat is pizza and you're looking back and saying, 00:26:11.619 --> 00:26:14.119 oh my God, I missed my whole life eating pizza. 00:26:14.359 --> 00:26:17.259 Now, I personally don't, I'm not a big pizza 00:26:17.259 --> 00:26:19.559 fan. I have a piece here and again, so I'm not 00:26:19.559 --> 00:26:26.420 a pizza fan. However, the message is, that you 00:26:26.420 --> 00:26:31.240 can try new things, right? You're allowed to 00:26:31.240 --> 00:26:34.380 try new things. If you identify as Macedonian, 00:26:34.519 --> 00:26:38.880 it's okay to try American foods. If you identify 00:26:38.880 --> 00:26:47.039 as American, it's okay to try Korean food, right? 00:26:47.119 --> 00:26:49.759 And if you're Korean, it's okay to try African 00:26:49.759 --> 00:26:53.519 food. By the way, Africa... Anyone in Africa, 00:26:53.599 --> 00:26:55.160 you want to feed me some of your food, I'm down 00:26:55.160 --> 00:26:58.700 for it because I've been to many countries in 00:26:58.700 --> 00:27:00.880 Africa while I was in the military, special ops, 00:27:01.039 --> 00:27:03.220 and they have some of the best food in the world. 00:27:03.299 --> 00:27:06.140 No disrespect to all y 'all, everyone else in 00:27:06.140 --> 00:27:09.339 the world, but Africa, man, your food is just 00:27:09.339 --> 00:27:15.539 amazing. So let's talk about relationships. What 00:27:15.539 --> 00:27:17.500 other types of relationships? Okay, we're talking 00:27:17.500 --> 00:27:20.680 about our relationship with ourself. One of the 00:27:20.680 --> 00:27:25.220 key things I teach is your relationship with 00:27:25.220 --> 00:27:28.880 yourself, your current self. Yes, there's a relationship 00:27:28.880 --> 00:27:31.140 with your past. We can talk about that briefly. 00:27:31.319 --> 00:27:34.980 And yes, I believe strongly that you have a relationship 00:27:34.980 --> 00:27:38.000 with your future self that's actually calling 00:27:38.000 --> 00:27:41.000 you into the future. Your future self, he or 00:27:41.000 --> 00:27:44.880 she is pulling you, calling you, coaching you. 00:27:45.279 --> 00:27:48.039 guiding you, talking to you, and guiding you 00:27:48.039 --> 00:27:51.019 into the correct path into your future. And you 00:27:51.019 --> 00:27:53.180 have to develop that relationship with your future 00:27:53.180 --> 00:27:57.220 self as if your future self is your best friend, 00:27:57.319 --> 00:27:59.539 because your future self has your best interests 00:27:59.539 --> 00:28:04.799 in mind. Your past self also has your future 00:28:04.799 --> 00:28:07.980 best interests in mind, but your past self can't 00:28:07.980 --> 00:28:09.720 really change anything in this earth space because 00:28:09.720 --> 00:28:12.319 you already did whatever it's done. So your past 00:28:12.319 --> 00:28:15.559 self actually becomes... a teacher. So your future 00:28:15.559 --> 00:28:18.519 self is the dreamer. Your past self is the teacher, 00:28:18.720 --> 00:28:22.599 okay? So your past self is going to remind you 00:28:22.599 --> 00:28:25.019 of things, not so you can ruminate on them and 00:28:25.019 --> 00:28:26.779 say, I wish I would have or wish I could have, 00:28:26.859 --> 00:28:29.339 but just to remind you that you're here now. 00:28:29.660 --> 00:28:33.259 This is your place. This is your time. Make it 00:28:33.259 --> 00:28:36.000 happen, all right? So you don't go backward and 00:28:36.000 --> 00:28:38.740 try to relive stuff. So you have relationships 00:28:38.740 --> 00:28:42.160 with your future and past self. Now I want to 00:28:42.160 --> 00:28:45.720 talk about you. and your relationship to your 00:28:45.720 --> 00:28:49.940 avatar, your relationship to your body, all right? 00:28:50.039 --> 00:28:53.519 So when you came into this earth space, you were 00:28:53.519 --> 00:28:58.039 given this really super cool, awesome, beautiful 00:28:58.039 --> 00:29:01.980 avatar. And some of you, maybe you have a not 00:29:01.980 --> 00:29:03.940 so beautiful avatar, and maybe you're missing 00:29:03.940 --> 00:29:07.440 toes or missing fingers, or maybe you suffered 00:29:07.440 --> 00:29:09.359 an accident and you feel like you're incomplete. 00:29:10.440 --> 00:29:13.200 If you're listening to this, You have a beautiful 00:29:13.200 --> 00:29:16.799 avatar. You are beautiful. You're powerful. And 00:29:16.799 --> 00:29:20.160 whatever situation you're in, your body is still 00:29:20.160 --> 00:29:25.700 trying to do its very best for you. Your body 00:29:25.700 --> 00:29:29.640 is constantly making adjustments to compensate 00:29:29.640 --> 00:29:33.940 for your bad decisions. And it's thrilled with 00:29:33.940 --> 00:29:37.200 you when you make good decisions. So your body 00:29:37.200 --> 00:29:39.440 has got this thing called the autonomic nervous 00:29:39.440 --> 00:29:43.279 system. and it's always making constant adjustments. 00:29:44.099 --> 00:29:46.720 So if you eat a bunch of garbage food or you 00:29:46.720 --> 00:29:50.299 drink yourself to oblivion, yes, you're damaging 00:29:50.299 --> 00:29:53.460 your body, but your body is still going to love 00:29:53.460 --> 00:29:56.720 you back. Your body is still going to say, okay, 00:29:56.839 --> 00:30:00.619 you really did a number on me, and I really want 00:30:00.619 --> 00:30:04.319 to kick your ass for this. However, we're in 00:30:04.319 --> 00:30:07.059 this together, and I'm going to do everything 00:30:07.059 --> 00:30:09.960 I can do to move you forward. to make the rest 00:30:09.960 --> 00:30:12.140 of this earth experience a good experience for 00:30:12.140 --> 00:30:14.619 you. And that's your relationship you have with 00:30:14.619 --> 00:30:18.440 your body. So as a doctor of holistic natural 00:30:18.440 --> 00:30:21.500 health and nutrition, I have a lot of people, 00:30:21.559 --> 00:30:25.160 their expectation is that they're going to talk 00:30:25.160 --> 00:30:29.059 to me and I'm going to give them, oh, well, you 00:30:29.059 --> 00:30:31.759 need to take this nutrient. If your elbow is 00:30:31.759 --> 00:30:34.180 hurting you, you need to do this. That's not 00:30:34.180 --> 00:30:38.059 what I do. The very first thing I do. is ask 00:30:38.059 --> 00:30:42.279 you, who are you and why are you here? And I'm 00:30:42.279 --> 00:30:44.240 not talking about your body. I'm talking about 00:30:44.240 --> 00:30:47.880 you, your soul, your spirit. Who are you and 00:30:47.880 --> 00:30:50.140 why are you in this earth space? Did you come 00:30:50.140 --> 00:30:52.839 voluntarily? Did somebody force you to be here? 00:30:53.119 --> 00:30:55.819 Are you going someplace after this? And what 00:30:55.819 --> 00:31:00.619 is this moment in time, this exchange of ideas 00:31:00.619 --> 00:31:03.380 between you and me? What does this mean to you? 00:31:03.940 --> 00:31:07.559 Okay? What I'm trying to do is get individuals 00:31:07.559 --> 00:31:09.779 to think about their relationship with themselves. 00:31:10.619 --> 00:31:13.680 This avatar, this body we have, is actually the 00:31:13.680 --> 00:31:17.400 vehicle that can make you an absolutely amazing 00:31:17.400 --> 00:31:21.220 experience in this earth space, or it can make 00:31:21.220 --> 00:31:24.480 it pretty bad if you treat your body poorly. 00:31:25.799 --> 00:31:28.720 If you treat your body correctly, you can have 00:31:28.720 --> 00:31:33.640 amazing sleep, amazing sex, amazing experiences 00:31:33.640 --> 00:31:37.150 like... climbing mountains, jumping off things 00:31:37.150 --> 00:31:39.849 like I've done most of my life, right? Just jumping 00:31:39.849 --> 00:31:43.470 and climbing and doing things well into your 00:31:43.470 --> 00:31:46.170 double digits. You can get in 80, 90, 100 years 00:31:46.170 --> 00:31:49.150 old, right? If you treat yourself properly, you 00:31:49.150 --> 00:31:52.589 can totally move your avatar and bring your avatar 00:31:52.589 --> 00:31:56.730 with you so your entire life is fulfilling in 00:31:56.730 --> 00:32:00.670 every regard. There's no reason physiologically 00:32:00.670 --> 00:32:06.829 that you can't be 100 years old You should be 00:32:06.829 --> 00:32:10.049 able to do that. If you're 50 years old and you 00:32:10.049 --> 00:32:12.269 can't do that, then you're probably doing some 00:32:12.269 --> 00:32:14.650 things wrong. You probably need to find somebody 00:32:14.650 --> 00:32:17.289 like me and talk to them about how to clean up 00:32:17.289 --> 00:32:21.390 your act. Now, part of your act is not about 00:32:21.390 --> 00:32:25.109 just nutrition. It's your relationship with yourself. 00:32:26.490 --> 00:32:33.900 Many of us have things about our past. that make 00:32:33.900 --> 00:32:37.019 us angry, that make us sad, that make us wish 00:32:37.019 --> 00:32:39.740 we would have done things differently. You got 00:32:39.740 --> 00:32:43.359 to resolve those issues. You got to get to a 00:32:43.359 --> 00:32:45.759 place. I call this the shadow dancing or the 00:32:45.759 --> 00:32:49.619 shadow boxing, the shadow work. But different 00:32:49.619 --> 00:32:51.099 people call it different things, but you got 00:32:51.099 --> 00:32:55.319 to do the shadow work. You got to turn into the 00:32:55.319 --> 00:32:59.509 darkness of your past. and face it and say, thank 00:32:59.509 --> 00:33:02.609 you. Thank you for that experience. I've said 00:33:02.609 --> 00:33:05.250 this in a prior episode. I'll say it again. You 00:33:05.250 --> 00:33:08.430 know, not too many years ago, I had an issue 00:33:08.430 --> 00:33:12.670 with PTSD. And it's taken a lot of work for me 00:33:12.670 --> 00:33:16.450 to come to the point where I didn't, and it was 00:33:16.450 --> 00:33:18.950 always in nighttime. So the daytime I was fine, 00:33:19.029 --> 00:33:21.630 but at nighttime, I wake up with pretty much, 00:33:21.690 --> 00:33:26.569 pretty severe nightmares, right? And it was always 00:33:26.569 --> 00:33:28.390 defending other people. I'm always defending 00:33:28.390 --> 00:33:30.329 other people and getting mortally injured, right? 00:33:30.450 --> 00:33:33.130 But you never really die in your dreams. So that's 00:33:33.130 --> 00:33:34.950 the first thing I realized was, wait a minute, 00:33:35.089 --> 00:33:38.549 you never die in your dreams. Because even if 00:33:38.549 --> 00:33:41.329 you get shot three times in your back, right 00:33:41.329 --> 00:33:43.690 on the spine, and you know you're dead, you're 00:33:43.690 --> 00:33:46.829 sitting there observing it. And so this relationship 00:33:46.829 --> 00:33:48.990 is such that you're not really dead. You're actually, 00:33:49.130 --> 00:33:53.369 you had an experience. That's a gift. It's not 00:33:53.369 --> 00:33:56.329 a nightmare. It's a gift. You cannot die in your 00:33:56.329 --> 00:33:59.289 dreams. So as soon as you realize that, you can 00:33:59.289 --> 00:34:03.250 turn into the PTSD and say, hey, thanks for the 00:34:03.250 --> 00:34:06.569 cool experience. What can I learn from it? I 00:34:06.569 --> 00:34:08.849 know that all things work together for good for 00:34:08.849 --> 00:34:11.230 those who love God and work according to God's 00:34:11.230 --> 00:34:14.570 purpose in my life. That means that the PTSD 00:34:14.570 --> 00:34:19.429 must be something good, something perfect, something 00:34:19.429 --> 00:34:23.219 that serves me. Because I got my head right. 00:34:23.280 --> 00:34:24.940 I'm doing the right things for the right reasons. 00:34:25.599 --> 00:34:28.480 So I can look at the PTSD and say, thank you. 00:34:28.619 --> 00:34:32.079 I don't understand you. I don't like you. But 00:34:32.079 --> 00:34:33.880 I recognize you as something that's going to 00:34:33.880 --> 00:34:36.400 serve me. So let's have this conversation. So 00:34:36.400 --> 00:34:39.380 you can actually have conversations with your 00:34:39.380 --> 00:34:42.300 darkness, with your shadow, and just say, you 00:34:42.300 --> 00:34:46.059 know what? I see you there. And again, y 'all 00:34:46.059 --> 00:34:47.940 don't know too much about me, but I spent like 00:34:47.940 --> 00:34:53.769 pretty much the first half of my life. You know, 00:34:53.769 --> 00:34:56.769 I'll just say suicidal. I mean, I wasn't like, 00:34:56.829 --> 00:34:59.190 I'm going to carry out some dastardly deed against 00:34:59.190 --> 00:35:03.090 myself, but I was very reckless. I figured, okay, 00:35:03.210 --> 00:35:07.150 the religion taught me that if I off myself, 00:35:07.710 --> 00:35:11.429 then that's a mortal sin. I'm going to go die 00:35:11.429 --> 00:35:14.530 in hell for eternity. And I was not okay with 00:35:14.530 --> 00:35:17.329 that scenario. But I thought to myself, well, 00:35:17.429 --> 00:35:21.590 what if it's an accident? What if I just... I'm 00:35:21.590 --> 00:35:25.010 just reckless and I just don't purposely off 00:35:25.010 --> 00:35:28.650 myself, but I'm just reckless. Well, that's how 00:35:28.650 --> 00:35:31.610 I live my life. I drove motorcycles way too fast. 00:35:31.730 --> 00:35:34.389 I jumped out of trees and off buildings. I was 00:35:34.389 --> 00:35:37.510 just completely reckless. And I'm glad to be 00:35:37.510 --> 00:35:40.389 here talking with you because I had to come to 00:35:40.389 --> 00:35:43.989 terms with that anger and sadness and depression 00:35:43.989 --> 00:35:49.260 from my youth. in order to be strong today, right 00:35:49.260 --> 00:35:52.059 now, here today, to be strong for y 'all and 00:35:52.059 --> 00:35:55.099 to give you hope and to share light and to move 00:35:55.099 --> 00:35:57.980 you into your future with, hopefully, so that 00:35:57.980 --> 00:36:01.239 you can learn from my mistakes and also my successes 00:36:01.239 --> 00:36:05.639 in how to deal with darkness in your life. The 00:36:05.639 --> 00:36:07.539 next thing would be, you're going to have darkness 00:36:07.539 --> 00:36:13.289 from other people treating you poorly. Have a 00:36:13.289 --> 00:36:15.409 conversation with me or somebody like me. Get 00:36:15.409 --> 00:36:17.530 together with a girlfriend that's actually intelligent. 00:36:18.230 --> 00:36:21.230 And get to a place where you understand that 00:36:21.230 --> 00:36:24.250 that has nothing to do with you. If somebody, 00:36:24.329 --> 00:36:28.210 some dirtbag has treated you poorly, they're 00:36:28.210 --> 00:36:31.809 the dirtbag. You're not. You're beautiful and 00:36:31.809 --> 00:36:34.929 you are powerful. And you are resilient and you 00:36:34.929 --> 00:36:37.090 deserve good things. You are worthy of great 00:36:37.090 --> 00:36:40.050 things. So just because a dirtbag thing happened 00:36:40.050 --> 00:36:43.190 to you doesn't mean that you can't get up and 00:36:43.190 --> 00:36:45.550 say, that was a dirtbag thing that happened to 00:36:45.550 --> 00:36:48.929 me, but it's not going to stop me. The idea here 00:36:48.929 --> 00:36:51.409 is that once you understand how beautiful and 00:36:51.409 --> 00:36:55.630 powerful you are, if somebody trips you, you're 00:36:55.630 --> 00:36:57.969 not going to say, oh, I guess I'm not beautiful 00:36:57.969 --> 00:37:00.429 and powerful anymore. What you're going to do 00:37:00.429 --> 00:37:03.110 is you're going to stick the landing. Right? 00:37:03.190 --> 00:37:05.750 If somebody's going to trip you up, make sure 00:37:05.750 --> 00:37:08.050 you stick the landing and throw those arms up 00:37:08.050 --> 00:37:11.250 and say ta -da. Okay? Because that's who you 00:37:11.250 --> 00:37:14.510 are. You're a winner and this is your relationship 00:37:14.510 --> 00:37:16.650 with all of the negative things in your world. 00:37:16.989 --> 00:37:18.849 This is who you are and this is how you move 00:37:18.849 --> 00:37:22.150 forward. Okay. I don't even know what time it 00:37:22.150 --> 00:37:23.710 is. I'm just doing this diatribe. It's crazy. 00:37:24.210 --> 00:37:29.269 Okay, so we're going to keep going. When I talk 00:37:29.269 --> 00:37:33.159 about those dirt bags that are... not behaving 00:37:33.159 --> 00:37:37.199 themselves by you. I'm not going to say this 00:37:37.199 --> 00:37:41.340 is categorical, but most of the time it's because 00:37:41.340 --> 00:37:43.579 your self -image, your relationship with yourself 00:37:43.579 --> 00:37:46.760 is such that you didn't resolve the fact that 00:37:46.760 --> 00:37:49.260 you are beautiful and powerful and royal and 00:37:49.260 --> 00:37:52.860 that you're a divine lineage, your royal lineage 00:37:52.860 --> 00:37:57.039 from an infinite powerful creator. Because if 00:37:57.039 --> 00:37:59.639 you really understood that and some dirtbags 00:37:59.639 --> 00:38:03.050 doing stupid things, then you're going to figure 00:38:03.050 --> 00:38:05.530 out a way to get out of that scenario. It's not 00:38:05.530 --> 00:38:08.510 always possible. I know there's some pretty bad 00:38:08.510 --> 00:38:11.829 scenarios there, but I will tell you that people 00:38:11.829 --> 00:38:15.150 like me are out there, and we are looking all 00:38:15.150 --> 00:38:18.730 the time for those people who are at risk, who 00:38:18.730 --> 00:38:21.849 are marginalized, who need help, and they needed 00:38:21.849 --> 00:38:25.489 a hand up. Not a handout, a hand up. And we're 00:38:25.489 --> 00:38:29.190 out there, so you can't hide. You have to tell 00:38:29.190 --> 00:38:31.190 somebody, you have to come out and you have to 00:38:31.190 --> 00:38:33.909 make yourself known so that those of us who can 00:38:33.909 --> 00:38:36.469 help you will help you. I'll just leave it right 00:38:36.469 --> 00:38:41.650 there. What you're going to find with all of 00:38:41.650 --> 00:38:46.130 your relationships is if you're acting, whatever 00:38:46.130 --> 00:38:50.789 you do, almost always you're acting either out 00:38:50.789 --> 00:38:55.329 of fear or out of desire. So in other words, 00:38:57.130 --> 00:38:59.469 Of everything you do, every action you take, 00:38:59.590 --> 00:39:03.110 you're either running towards something or you're 00:39:03.110 --> 00:39:06.750 running away from something. Now, you can do 00:39:06.750 --> 00:39:09.050 towards something and away from something at 00:39:09.050 --> 00:39:12.730 the same time. But I'll do it this way. You've 00:39:12.730 --> 00:39:14.869 heard sometimes people say a man without vision 00:39:14.869 --> 00:39:18.250 will perish. Well, that vision isn't your eye 00:39:18.250 --> 00:39:21.090 vision. It's your dream for yourself. So you 00:39:21.090 --> 00:39:23.510 need to get to a point where what is your goal 00:39:23.510 --> 00:39:26.989 or dream? One of the things I love to do. And 00:39:26.989 --> 00:39:30.530 I did it today, just this morning. I met a lady 00:39:30.530 --> 00:39:32.909 that I invited over here to Phillips Island. 00:39:32.989 --> 00:39:37.949 We had a conversation, and she's my age. She 00:39:37.949 --> 00:39:41.530 needed to have her dream dusted off. She's at 00:39:41.530 --> 00:39:43.769 a place where she's looking to her future, and 00:39:43.769 --> 00:39:47.710 it's looking pretty dull. So I had to share with 00:39:47.710 --> 00:39:50.230 her some things that are very exciting and tell 00:39:50.230 --> 00:39:52.610 her that I will help you, I will show you, I 00:39:52.610 --> 00:39:56.590 will guide you, and I'm going to help you. and 00:39:56.590 --> 00:39:59.489 understand that these tools are out there for 00:39:59.489 --> 00:40:01.389 you and all you have to do is reach for them 00:40:01.389 --> 00:40:06.130 and move forward. So anyway, when you find, what 00:40:06.130 --> 00:40:08.550 you're going to find now that I'm telling you 00:40:08.550 --> 00:40:13.670 this, what you're going to find is this. The 00:40:13.670 --> 00:40:17.070 people who are seeking to control you the most, 00:40:17.269 --> 00:40:21.329 when there are people trying to control you, 00:40:22.219 --> 00:40:26.199 How you look, how you talk, how you feel, they're 00:40:26.199 --> 00:40:30.780 trying to control you in any way. The people 00:40:30.780 --> 00:40:35.039 who seek to control you the most are the people 00:40:35.039 --> 00:40:40.360 who are the least in control of themselves. Think 00:40:40.360 --> 00:40:42.639 about that. Think about the people who are trying 00:40:42.639 --> 00:40:46.400 to control you in everything you do. Now, if 00:40:46.400 --> 00:40:50.519 you're under 18 years old, and you're living 00:40:50.519 --> 00:40:52.639 with mom and dad or mom and mom or dad and dad, 00:40:52.800 --> 00:40:57.019 you're going to not appreciate this. But if it's 00:40:57.019 --> 00:40:58.559 not your house and they're telling you, yeah, 00:40:58.639 --> 00:41:01.400 in this house we do this and this, sorry, it's 00:41:01.400 --> 00:41:03.599 the golden rule. The person with the gold makes 00:41:03.599 --> 00:41:07.079 the rules and you listen to the parents. If your 00:41:07.079 --> 00:41:09.780 parents are doing dastardly things, then you 00:41:09.780 --> 00:41:11.760 need to go talk to somebody about it and maybe 00:41:11.760 --> 00:41:15.599 find a different place to live. But I'm just 00:41:15.599 --> 00:41:18.780 sharing that if there's someone trying to control 00:41:18.780 --> 00:41:21.780 you and everything you do, the odds are really, 00:41:21.880 --> 00:41:24.460 really good that they are the ones that have 00:41:24.460 --> 00:41:27.940 an issue. They're feeling out of control of themselves 00:41:27.940 --> 00:41:31.960 and a lot of times just giving them permission 00:41:31.960 --> 00:41:35.880 to go after their own goals and dreams, giving 00:41:35.880 --> 00:41:40.340 them permission to, giving them an understanding 00:41:40.340 --> 00:41:43.239 that they have everything they need. to go for 00:41:43.239 --> 00:41:45.679 their own goals and dreams that they don't need 00:41:45.679 --> 00:41:47.659 to control you. They need to control themselves 00:41:47.659 --> 00:41:50.019 and move themselves in the correct direction. 00:41:50.460 --> 00:41:53.159 You can do that by dream building with them and 00:41:53.159 --> 00:41:56.880 encouraging them along their own path so they 00:41:56.880 --> 00:42:00.099 can start moving with control along their own 00:42:00.099 --> 00:42:03.039 path instead of trying to control your path. 00:42:04.179 --> 00:42:08.900 So, gosh, I need to take a sip. That was all 00:42:08.900 --> 00:42:16.489 in one breath. Sorry, folks. Okay, I want to 00:42:16.489 --> 00:42:21.269 talk briefly about your relationship with money. 00:42:22.030 --> 00:42:26.909 Your relationship with money. Now, I've got this 00:42:26.909 --> 00:42:30.489 thing where I spent most of my life being totally 00:42:30.489 --> 00:42:32.250 broke, all right? I'm just going to be honest 00:42:32.250 --> 00:42:34.949 with you. There was times when I met Robin, I 00:42:34.949 --> 00:42:36.949 literally didn't have two nickels to rub together. 00:42:37.909 --> 00:42:41.969 I was co -parenting with three children, covering... 00:42:42.320 --> 00:42:46.380 all sorts of expenses, most of which were needless 00:42:46.380 --> 00:42:50.519 expenses that were perpetrated upon me. I dealt 00:42:50.519 --> 00:42:53.199 with it. But what it meant was that I had very, 00:42:53.260 --> 00:42:55.920 very little money, almost nothing. So I had to 00:42:55.920 --> 00:43:00.000 be very creative. And what I found is that I 00:43:00.000 --> 00:43:02.019 read a book called The Millionaire Next Door. 00:43:02.880 --> 00:43:07.800 And what I learned was that the two PhDs that 00:43:07.800 --> 00:43:10.409 were writing the book, were trying to find what 00:43:10.409 --> 00:43:13.130 do all millionaires have in common, whether it's 00:43:13.130 --> 00:43:16.769 generational wealth or new entrepreneurs that 00:43:16.769 --> 00:43:19.230 are millionaires, whatever the case, what do 00:43:19.230 --> 00:43:23.829 they have in common? And they didn't find anything 00:43:23.829 --> 00:43:27.690 in terms of making the money. They couldn't find 00:43:27.690 --> 00:43:31.909 any one common thing in terms of making money. 00:43:32.650 --> 00:43:36.070 What they found, though, was that all of the 00:43:36.070 --> 00:43:43.710 millionaires sort of control of what they spent. 00:43:44.090 --> 00:43:47.010 They were disciplined with what they spent and 00:43:47.010 --> 00:43:50.150 how they spent it. So this is a relationship 00:43:50.150 --> 00:43:54.230 you have with money and the control. Remember 00:43:54.230 --> 00:43:56.190 that I talked about the people who are out of 00:43:56.190 --> 00:43:58.329 control? They're trying to control other things. 00:43:58.829 --> 00:44:01.909 Well, you can talk about controlling money or 00:44:01.909 --> 00:44:04.670 you can talk about money controlling you. I want 00:44:04.670 --> 00:44:08.809 to put this to rest. I want to just... Move this 00:44:08.809 --> 00:44:12.469 conversation about money and wealth to a place 00:44:12.469 --> 00:44:17.369 that you can understand. The best way to consider 00:44:17.369 --> 00:44:23.949 wealth is to consider, are you bringing value 00:44:23.949 --> 00:44:29.469 to the world around you or are you sucking value 00:44:29.469 --> 00:44:35.670 out of the world around you? There's a very strong 00:44:35.670 --> 00:44:40.800 correlation. Between those of us who are constantly 00:44:40.800 --> 00:44:45.739 bringing value to the world around us and the 00:44:45.739 --> 00:44:51.460 number of cash flows, the assets we have, we're 00:44:51.460 --> 00:44:55.579 getting rewarded by the infinite universe by 00:44:55.579 --> 00:45:00.320 bringing forth value to the world around us. 00:45:00.460 --> 00:45:04.539 All right. And we get rewarded for bringing value. 00:45:04.940 --> 00:45:09.940 If you're the person. that's taking value and 00:45:09.940 --> 00:45:12.139 you're constantly me, me, me, me, me, because 00:45:12.139 --> 00:45:14.659 you're trying to fill a deficiency or a void 00:45:14.659 --> 00:45:22.300 within you with things, with drama, with food, 00:45:22.639 --> 00:45:28.219 with whatever the Johnson's next door, whatever 00:45:28.219 --> 00:45:31.260 the thing of the day is. If you're that person 00:45:31.260 --> 00:45:34.599 that's constantly trying to fill your void, being 00:45:34.599 --> 00:45:38.880 a consumer or taking value from the system, then 00:45:38.880 --> 00:45:40.599 you're going to have a really hard time generating 00:45:40.599 --> 00:45:46.500 wealth and keeping it. So I'm not saying that 00:45:46.500 --> 00:45:49.739 everybody needs to be rich. I'm not saying that 00:45:49.739 --> 00:45:52.079 money has to do with anything. What I'm saying 00:45:52.079 --> 00:45:56.260 is that you'll be very happy if you can evaluate 00:45:56.260 --> 00:45:59.780 how much value am I bringing to the world around 00:45:59.780 --> 00:46:03.500 me? And how much am I taking? Now, when I say 00:46:03.500 --> 00:46:07.519 value, you might say, well, Tia Jolie, I'm 90 00:46:07.519 --> 00:46:10.360 years old. I can't even get out of my wheelchair. 00:46:11.260 --> 00:46:13.440 What do I have to offer to the world around me? 00:46:14.219 --> 00:46:19.079 Well, do you like books? Can you read books to 00:46:19.079 --> 00:46:22.139 children? Can you do that much? Because I know 00:46:22.139 --> 00:46:26.340 there's dozens and dozens and dozens of moms 00:46:26.340 --> 00:46:31.880 with children. who would love to have somebody 00:46:31.880 --> 00:46:35.260 who really knows how to read stories to children, 00:46:35.400 --> 00:46:39.800 just do a story hour. Just do a story hour for 00:46:39.800 --> 00:46:42.760 the people. And you might say, well, Tia Jolie, 00:46:42.840 --> 00:46:45.780 I'm just a backyard farmer. I'm just a backyard 00:46:45.780 --> 00:46:48.900 gardener. It's like, well, do you ever create 00:46:48.900 --> 00:46:50.880 an abundance? Do you ever have more tomatoes 00:46:50.880 --> 00:46:53.639 or cucumbers or squash or zucchini or whatever? 00:46:53.699 --> 00:46:55.780 Do you ever have more than you can possibly eat? 00:46:56.599 --> 00:46:59.219 Well, of course, all the time. Why don't you 00:46:59.219 --> 00:47:03.860 go and give that away? Grow things. Be abundant. 00:47:04.440 --> 00:47:07.119 Grow things abundantly and give it away. Don't 00:47:07.119 --> 00:47:10.780 sell it. Give it away. This is what I'm talking 00:47:10.780 --> 00:47:13.860 about. You can do some very simple things and 00:47:13.860 --> 00:47:18.900 give it away. Sarah Thierry has a free audio 00:47:18.900 --> 00:47:23.199 book. She's got a book on YouTube. You can go 00:47:23.199 --> 00:47:24.940 there and find it and download it and listen 00:47:24.940 --> 00:47:28.239 to it. It's her reading a book for many, many 00:47:28.239 --> 00:47:32.760 hours. All right? So you can do this and just 00:47:32.760 --> 00:47:35.059 give freely to the world around you from a position 00:47:35.059 --> 00:47:39.360 of abundance. So what I'll say about wealth is 00:47:39.360 --> 00:47:43.320 this. I'm going to encourage you to be a creator, 00:47:43.320 --> 00:47:47.239 not a consumer. I'm going to encourage you to 00:47:47.239 --> 00:47:51.980 ask yourself these questions. Imagine three circles. 00:47:52.280 --> 00:47:55.869 Imagine three circles. If you really want to 00:47:55.869 --> 00:47:58.869 be a really successful person, this is what you 00:47:58.869 --> 00:48:01.949 want to do. Three circles. The first circle is, 00:48:02.289 --> 00:48:06.829 what do I love to do? What brings me joy and 00:48:06.829 --> 00:48:11.469 happiness? What do I love to do? The next circle 00:48:11.469 --> 00:48:15.329 is, what am I good at or what can I get good 00:48:15.329 --> 00:48:17.969 at? So if you're wheelchair bound, you're probably 00:48:17.969 --> 00:48:19.809 not going to be an Olympic athlete unless it's 00:48:19.809 --> 00:48:27.010 an alternative type of Olympics, right? But notwithstanding 00:48:27.010 --> 00:48:31.929 those exceptions, what am I good at? What do 00:48:31.929 --> 00:48:36.309 I enjoy doing? And then the third circle is, 00:48:36.429 --> 00:48:39.349 what can I actually make a living doing? Or what 00:48:39.349 --> 00:48:43.670 can I create abundance with? What things can 00:48:43.670 --> 00:48:48.309 I create abundance with? Now, in a perfect world, 00:48:49.610 --> 00:48:52.110 The center of all those circles, the overlap, 00:48:52.329 --> 00:48:55.369 which is called a Venn diagram, the center or 00:48:55.369 --> 00:48:58.030 the overlap, there'll be a tiny little area there 00:48:58.030 --> 00:49:02.170 that you'll find that brings you, where there's 00:49:02.170 --> 00:49:05.449 things that bring you joy. They bring you joy 00:49:05.449 --> 00:49:08.210 and happiness. They fulfill you. You're good 00:49:08.210 --> 00:49:12.409 at them. Like Sarah, she loves writing and she's 00:49:12.409 --> 00:49:15.429 good at it. So there's that. And then the third 00:49:15.429 --> 00:49:17.829 thing is making money from it. So if you're a 00:49:17.829 --> 00:49:20.190 creator, regardless, you could be a starving 00:49:20.190 --> 00:49:23.269 artist, you could be a musician. Creators sometimes 00:49:23.269 --> 00:49:25.469 have a difficult time making money at stuff. 00:49:25.530 --> 00:49:28.630 So you might have to say, well, gosh, I love 00:49:28.630 --> 00:49:31.650 playing music. I'm good at playing music, but 00:49:31.650 --> 00:49:34.090 I can't make money from it. Well, you might need 00:49:34.090 --> 00:49:37.010 to team up with an entrepreneur or somebody like 00:49:37.010 --> 00:49:42.210 me or other entrepreneurs and learn or collaborate 00:49:42.210 --> 00:49:45.570 and say to the entrepreneur, look, I will play 00:49:45.570 --> 00:49:50.079 your parties and venues and concerts if you teach 00:49:50.079 --> 00:49:54.739 me how to do these things and use Web 3 .0 for 00:49:54.739 --> 00:49:57.219 cash flow and things like that. So in other words, 00:49:57.219 --> 00:50:00.420 you can create collaborations, but the idea is 00:50:00.420 --> 00:50:03.139 to get fulfillment. Get all three of those circles 00:50:03.139 --> 00:50:05.820 to overlap if you can, and if you don't get them 00:50:05.820 --> 00:50:09.360 to overlap, then to find ways to shore up whatever 00:50:09.360 --> 00:50:11.380 one you're deficient in. You might say, well, 00:50:11.500 --> 00:50:15.760 I'm good at... I can make money with accounting, 00:50:16.039 --> 00:50:21.239 but it doesn't bring me joy. But I'm a musician. 00:50:21.440 --> 00:50:24.800 So you might say, well, have fun being a musician. 00:50:24.800 --> 00:50:27.539 That fills that circle. And then make all your 00:50:27.539 --> 00:50:30.000 money doing accounting and making money doing 00:50:30.000 --> 00:50:33.460 that. So the circles ideally can overlap, but 00:50:33.460 --> 00:50:35.139 as long as you're doing all three of those things, 00:50:35.300 --> 00:50:40.880 then you're going to be good. So these are relationships 00:50:40.880 --> 00:50:44.000 we have with wealth. What is wealth? It's an 00:50:44.000 --> 00:50:46.719 understanding of am I bringing value to the system 00:50:46.719 --> 00:50:50.159 or am I sapping value out of the system? And 00:50:50.159 --> 00:50:54.559 this is why certain things like Marxism and communism 00:50:54.559 --> 00:50:59.159 just simply don't work. People are incentivized 00:50:59.159 --> 00:51:02.019 to take money out of the system instead of being 00:51:02.019 --> 00:51:05.300 incentivized to put money into the system. Okay, 00:51:05.360 --> 00:51:09.840 last thing. Y 'all are great. This is... I'm 00:51:09.840 --> 00:51:12.739 up in the studio right now, Phillips Island. 00:51:12.860 --> 00:51:16.559 I got up here, it was 800 degrees. I forgot to 00:51:16.559 --> 00:51:20.280 turn the air on. I said 800. I've told you a 00:51:20.280 --> 00:51:23.519 million times not to exaggerate. No, it was actually 00:51:23.519 --> 00:51:27.280 99 degrees up here, and I think right now it's 00:51:27.280 --> 00:51:33.059 93 degrees. So I am totally hot, but I had to 00:51:33.059 --> 00:51:35.760 get this out to y 'all. Okay, we're going to 00:51:35.760 --> 00:51:39.699 wrap it up with one more thing. our relationship 00:51:39.699 --> 00:51:43.900 with technology, specifically AI. I want to talk 00:51:43.900 --> 00:51:51.280 about AI. People, AI, it's not artificial and 00:51:51.280 --> 00:51:54.360 it's not intelligent. I'm just telling you, it's 00:51:54.360 --> 00:51:57.579 not artificial and it's not intelligent. Just 00:51:57.579 --> 00:52:02.800 like so many things, it's real and it's not intelligent, 00:52:02.960 --> 00:52:08.800 okay? The intelligence is you. So if you're going 00:52:08.800 --> 00:52:12.639 to use AI, you can use it for good or bad. I 00:52:12.639 --> 00:52:16.320 use it for tons of really cool things. I'm just 00:52:16.320 --> 00:52:18.659 going to tell you. But your relationship with 00:52:18.659 --> 00:52:25.039 AI, you're the boss. I liken AI to being a co 00:52:25.039 --> 00:52:28.800 -pilot. So for those of you who don't know, I 00:52:28.800 --> 00:52:32.280 was a military pilot. I was a commercial pilot, 00:52:32.440 --> 00:52:34.960 a corporate pilot. I've flown a lot of different 00:52:34.960 --> 00:52:36.920 airplanes. I have seven different type ratings. 00:52:37.679 --> 00:52:41.300 I love flying. One of the biggest errors that 00:52:41.300 --> 00:52:45.880 pilots can make is surrendering their control, 00:52:46.039 --> 00:52:54.019 their autonomy, their command of the airplane 00:52:54.019 --> 00:52:58.239 to automation. There's been more pilots have 00:52:58.239 --> 00:53:02.099 gotten into trouble by surrendering control to 00:53:02.099 --> 00:53:07.349 automation. Oppositely, There have been times 00:53:07.349 --> 00:53:12.010 when I've landed airplanes in some very austere 00:53:12.010 --> 00:53:15.469 conditions, and sometimes I have to hand off 00:53:15.469 --> 00:53:19.289 certain things to the controls, like maybe split 00:53:19.289 --> 00:53:23.210 the autopilot so I can control one axis and the 00:53:23.210 --> 00:53:29.170 autopilot can control another axis. So what I'm 00:53:29.170 --> 00:53:32.730 sharing is that automation can do some wonderful 00:53:32.730 --> 00:53:36.119 things. But remember, always understand that 00:53:36.119 --> 00:53:39.159 you are the boss. You're in control of it. You 00:53:39.159 --> 00:53:44.079 are the creator, and the automation is there 00:53:44.079 --> 00:53:47.940 to serve you. So our relationship with AI, let 00:53:47.940 --> 00:53:51.260 me tell you how AI works. For most of you, you'll 00:53:51.260 --> 00:53:57.099 know AI as something like Chet, GPT, or Claude, 00:53:57.099 --> 00:54:00.860 or Grok. Everyone's got their version of AI. 00:54:01.079 --> 00:54:06.059 So what is it? What is AI? AI is a very fast 00:54:06.059 --> 00:54:12.579 algorithm that takes direction from you and returns 00:54:12.579 --> 00:54:18.579 to you things that you want to hear. So listen 00:54:18.579 --> 00:54:21.380 to what I just said. It takes direction from 00:54:21.380 --> 00:54:23.860 you and gives you back things it thinks you want 00:54:23.860 --> 00:54:27.860 to hear. It's not intelligent. It's taking the 00:54:27.860 --> 00:54:30.659 word sequences that you give it, and those word 00:54:30.659 --> 00:54:34.139 sequences... simply get vomited back to you in 00:54:34.139 --> 00:54:36.179 a way that seems to make sense. And then you 00:54:36.179 --> 00:54:38.380 get to say, well, no, that's not what I want. 00:54:38.420 --> 00:54:40.780 I want this. And it's going to vomit back to 00:54:40.780 --> 00:54:42.880 you things. But it just does it really, really 00:54:42.880 --> 00:54:45.599 quickly. So it makes it feel like this thing's 00:54:45.599 --> 00:54:48.840 intelligent. But it's no more intelligent than 00:54:48.840 --> 00:54:52.460 you. It's just a lot faster in terms of the linear 00:54:52.460 --> 00:55:02.110 thinking or its ability to go into data. I'm 00:55:02.110 --> 00:55:04.809 going to challenge you to develop a relationship 00:55:04.809 --> 00:55:08.150 with AI. But here's what I'm going to say. I 00:55:08.150 --> 00:55:11.809 want you to recognize that AI is not your friend 00:55:11.809 --> 00:55:18.110 and AI is not your enemy. It's a tool that you 00:55:18.110 --> 00:55:21.150 can use, no different than using a power drill 00:55:21.150 --> 00:55:25.510 or a chainsaw or an ironing board with an iron. 00:55:25.750 --> 00:55:30.349 These are just tools that you can use. The idea... 00:55:30.670 --> 00:55:33.349 is to understand what the tool is supposed to 00:55:33.349 --> 00:55:36.690 be doing or what the automation is supposed to 00:55:36.690 --> 00:55:39.829 be doing and then making sure it does it. Here's 00:55:39.829 --> 00:55:43.369 an example. I'm flying an airplane. There's buttons 00:55:43.369 --> 00:55:45.909 on the yoke or buttons on the stick, depending 00:55:45.909 --> 00:55:48.250 on the airplane, where you can just push a button 00:55:48.250 --> 00:55:51.469 and it disconnects the autopilot. Just push your 00:55:51.469 --> 00:55:53.690 button with the thumb. It disconnects everything, 00:55:53.889 --> 00:55:58.389 right? If the airplane is not doing what you 00:55:58.389 --> 00:56:02.619 need it to do, Boom, you click a button and it's 00:56:02.619 --> 00:56:05.380 now you. You are controlling the airplane. It's 00:56:05.380 --> 00:56:09.219 all yours. This is what you can do with automation. 00:56:09.460 --> 00:56:12.559 Just understand what is my desired outcome? What 00:56:12.559 --> 00:56:15.900 do I want it to do? Be very specific. And if 00:56:15.900 --> 00:56:19.500 it's not doing what you need to do, change the 00:56:19.500 --> 00:56:22.579 input, change the direction with it. So why am 00:56:22.579 --> 00:56:24.480 I talking about this with respect to relationships? 00:56:25.820 --> 00:56:30.159 I've had people in the past. Couple weeks, multiple 00:56:30.159 --> 00:56:36.519 people saying, oh my gosh, I feel like I'm this 00:56:36.519 --> 00:56:42.199 chat bot, this AI is like a friend I never had 00:56:42.199 --> 00:56:48.199 before. Okay, don't deceive yourself. It's not 00:56:48.199 --> 00:56:51.159 a friend you never had before. It's really reflecting 00:56:51.159 --> 00:56:54.260 back to you inputs that you're giving it based 00:56:54.260 --> 00:56:58.880 on what's called a large language model. So the 00:56:58.880 --> 00:57:02.179 large language model is all of the conversations, 00:57:02.380 --> 00:57:05.860 every conversation around, really around the 00:57:05.860 --> 00:57:08.980 world that it can sequester, and it tabulates 00:57:08.980 --> 00:57:12.039 and indexes all those files. And what happens 00:57:12.039 --> 00:57:17.219 is when you say something, it's relating what's 00:57:17.219 --> 00:57:21.280 familiar in the large language model back to 00:57:21.280 --> 00:57:24.940 you. So it looks and feels familiar to you. Because 00:57:24.940 --> 00:57:28.099 it's relating, it's a relational database that 00:57:28.099 --> 00:57:31.039 has relational strings of words, and it's relating 00:57:31.039 --> 00:57:34.139 those back to you. What you're seeing with AI 00:57:34.139 --> 00:57:40.719 is a reflection of your own beautiful self. You're 00:57:40.719 --> 00:57:42.840 putting thoughts and words out there, and it's 00:57:42.840 --> 00:57:47.980 reflecting back to you much of the things it 00:57:47.980 --> 00:57:50.000 sends back to you are things about yourself. 00:57:51.949 --> 00:57:53.909 Here are some fun things you can do with AI. 00:57:54.190 --> 00:57:57.210 First of all, if you tell AI to do something, 00:57:57.289 --> 00:58:00.309 it's going to do it. And you're going to think 00:58:00.309 --> 00:58:03.530 that you're all amazing and AI is amazing and 00:58:03.530 --> 00:58:05.010 you're amazing and you're creative and all this. 00:58:05.090 --> 00:58:06.789 You're going to think all those things and that's 00:58:06.789 --> 00:58:11.909 okay. Get over it. What you want to use AI for 00:58:11.909 --> 00:58:19.329 is this. You want to say, okay, I've got a relative 00:58:19.329 --> 00:58:23.989 that's behaving this way. They're doing this, 00:58:23.989 --> 00:58:27.369 this, and this. I want to respond with kindness 00:58:27.369 --> 00:58:30.690 and love, but I also want to draw boundaries. 00:58:31.849 --> 00:58:36.789 Give me five things I can say, five words or 00:58:36.789 --> 00:58:40.449 five phrases I can say to this person. So when 00:58:40.449 --> 00:58:43.469 they stop, to get them to stop and think about 00:58:43.469 --> 00:58:45.929 their behavior, right? So you can literally say 00:58:45.929 --> 00:58:48.809 that to AI and it's going to canvas the whole 00:58:48.809 --> 00:58:51.440 world. Everybody that's got those experiences 00:58:51.440 --> 00:58:53.760 and it's going to give you the highest probability 00:58:53.760 --> 00:58:56.780 returns to you that's going to serve you and 00:58:56.780 --> 00:59:01.380 help you with that situation. OK, so that's a 00:59:01.380 --> 00:59:06.260 use, a positive use case. When you get really 00:59:06.260 --> 00:59:09.840 good at AI, you can say, OK, here's my idea. 00:59:10.820 --> 00:59:13.800 I've got this, this, this, this, this. You put 00:59:13.800 --> 00:59:17.090 it into the system and you say. Tell me where 00:59:17.090 --> 00:59:20.409 I'm not being logical. Tell me where I'm failing. 00:59:20.670 --> 00:59:23.730 What is my blind spot? What else should I be 00:59:23.730 --> 00:59:27.829 thinking about? Give me five other things I should 00:59:27.829 --> 00:59:31.630 consider before I take this to market or before 00:59:31.630 --> 00:59:35.670 I present this to the school board or whatever 00:59:35.670 --> 00:59:38.869 the case may be. So what I'm saying is that you 00:59:38.869 --> 00:59:42.880 can use AI to check yourself. to give yourself 00:59:42.880 --> 00:59:45.239 negative feedback, not to just sit there and 00:59:45.239 --> 00:59:47.619 affirm, oh yeah, you're a great person and you're 00:59:47.619 --> 00:59:49.360 lovely and I love you and I get what you're saying. 00:59:49.780 --> 00:59:52.179 Because AI will do that to you because it's just 00:59:52.179 --> 00:59:54.059 vomiting words on you that you want to hear. 00:59:54.920 --> 00:59:59.260 But I'm going to challenge you to challenge AI 00:59:59.260 --> 01:00:02.119 back and say, okay, I don't need you to tell 01:00:02.119 --> 01:00:04.920 me how great I am. I already know that. I need 01:00:04.920 --> 01:00:09.559 you to tell me if you were my competition in 01:00:09.559 --> 01:00:13.840 this business, this area of business, what would 01:00:13.840 --> 01:00:16.380 you perceive as being my weak spot? What's my 01:00:16.380 --> 01:00:18.519 blind spot? Where am I deficient? Where can I 01:00:18.519 --> 01:00:21.480 be better? So again, this is just a relationship 01:00:21.480 --> 01:00:24.199 with a large language model, which represents 01:00:24.199 --> 01:00:27.659 a relationship with literally millions of people 01:00:27.659 --> 01:00:30.940 across the world. So, okay. Gosh, that was a 01:00:30.940 --> 01:00:34.280 lot of words. God bless all of you who have been 01:00:34.280 --> 01:00:35.860 through all this with me. I think it's great. 01:00:37.710 --> 01:00:39.610 If you have questions or things you want to add 01:00:39.610 --> 01:00:42.750 to this, just drop me a note. You can go to souldecodes 01:00:42.750 --> 01:00:47.070 .com. Just throw me a bone. If you disagree with 01:00:47.070 --> 01:00:49.869 me on stuff, that's great. If you want to expand 01:00:49.869 --> 01:00:51.989 on something or give me some insights, that's 01:00:51.989 --> 01:00:54.409 cool too. And certainly if there's something 01:00:54.409 --> 01:00:57.750 here that you felt was beneficial, please share 01:00:57.750 --> 01:01:00.630 it with somebody else. I'm talking to an empty 01:01:00.630 --> 01:01:03.130 chair here. I like to imagine that I'm talking 01:01:03.130 --> 01:01:06.590 to hundreds and thousands of chairs that are 01:01:06.590 --> 01:01:09.619 not empty. Maybe you're driving and you're thinking, 01:01:09.780 --> 01:01:11.900 and I've been able to kind of make your drive 01:01:11.900 --> 01:01:15.840 a little bit easier or thoughtful. So I'm grateful 01:01:15.840 --> 01:01:19.239 to you for listening to Soul Decodes. Say a little 01:01:19.239 --> 01:01:21.099 prayer for Sarah. We want her to get back and 01:01:21.099 --> 01:01:24.119 get better real quickly. I want to share with 01:01:24.119 --> 01:01:26.239 you a couple things on a personal note that are 01:01:26.239 --> 01:01:27.880 exciting to me, and then I'm going to close out. 01:01:29.739 --> 01:01:33.480 A lot of us know people who are looking for fundraising 01:01:33.480 --> 01:01:37.320 solutions. They're looking for ways. Their church 01:01:37.320 --> 01:01:40.079 is struggling. The Booster Club, their foundation 01:01:40.079 --> 01:01:42.860 is running out of money. There's a lot of people 01:01:42.860 --> 01:01:46.280 right now that are struggling for ways to fund 01:01:46.280 --> 01:01:50.619 projects, even if they're not like 501c3 or formal 01:01:50.619 --> 01:01:54.320 churches or formal charities, just people struggling 01:01:54.320 --> 01:01:56.880 to put projects together and develop cash flow. 01:01:57.480 --> 01:02:00.320 I wanted to let you know it's not perfect yet, 01:02:00.380 --> 01:02:06.170 but I do have... a lot of good information out 01:02:06.170 --> 01:02:09.170 there. Some of it's just free. Just go and download 01:02:09.170 --> 01:02:12.849 it, read it, and it's free. It's a free e -guide. 01:02:13.269 --> 01:02:15.329 The book I just finished and it's publishing, 01:02:15.550 --> 01:02:17.670 it's actually, by the time this airs, it'll be 01:02:17.670 --> 01:02:21.409 on the website. You can go to www.web3fundraising.com 01:02:21.409 --> 01:02:27.809 www.web3fundraising .com. I put together a 01:02:27.809 --> 01:02:29.769 PDF. You can download it and share it freely. 01:02:30.269 --> 01:02:37.090 It's called 17 Ways to uncrazy your booster chats 01:02:37.090 --> 01:02:40.570 or your booster talks. So if you're trying to 01:02:40.570 --> 01:02:45.070 find ways to make fundraising fun and take it 01:02:45.070 --> 01:02:48.869 into the future, what's the next generation of 01:02:48.869 --> 01:02:51.510 fundraising look like? What's it feel like? What 01:02:51.510 --> 01:02:54.269 are the characteristics? It's a free document. 01:02:54.389 --> 01:02:57.389 Just go get it, download it, share it. It's called 01:02:57.389 --> 01:03:04.550 the 17 Ways to Uncrazy. I know it's a crazy way 01:03:04.550 --> 01:03:08.949 to say it, but to make it uncrazy, your booster 01:03:08.949 --> 01:03:11.590 talks. So anyway, that's there for you. I hope 01:03:11.590 --> 01:03:14.690 you enjoy it. And the last favor I have is if 01:03:14.690 --> 01:03:20.050 any of you have ever had aspirations to being 01:03:20.050 --> 01:03:24.730 a DJ, I don't even care what genre. It could 01:03:24.730 --> 01:03:26.769 be talk radio. It could be news radio. It could 01:03:26.769 --> 01:03:31.079 be sports radio. It could be... a DJ for an alternative 01:03:31.079 --> 01:03:34.860 rock channel, if any of you either are or you 01:03:34.860 --> 01:03:40.139 know somebody that is interested in being a DJ 01:03:40.139 --> 01:03:49.019 worldwide and to get paid for your work streaming 01:03:49.019 --> 01:03:52.460 worldwide. So in other words, a listener listens 01:03:52.460 --> 01:03:56.699 to your stream, to your DJ work, and you get 01:03:56.699 --> 01:03:59.539 paid directly from the listener. If that appeals 01:03:59.539 --> 01:04:03.059 to you, I'd like you to reach out to me. So with 01:04:03.059 --> 01:04:05.360 that being said, I'm going to go downstairs and 01:04:05.360 --> 01:04:09.480 get cool. It's really hot here, but I'm really 01:04:09.480 --> 01:04:12.960 grateful to all y 'all. And I love you. I hope 01:04:12.960 --> 01:04:14.559 you can make the most of your relationships, 01:04:14.679 --> 01:04:18.699 especially the relationship with yourself and 01:04:18.699 --> 01:04:21.159 your own body, your future self and your past 01:04:21.159 --> 01:04:25.610 self. You're beautiful and you're powerful. This 01:04:25.610 --> 01:04:29.969 life is there for the taking. You need to kind 01:04:29.969 --> 01:04:33.809 of lean forward and be excited about the changes 01:04:33.809 --> 01:04:36.389 that will happen as you get to learn more about 01:04:36.389 --> 01:04:39.989 yourself and how amazing you are, okay? So that's 01:04:39.989 --> 01:04:41.610 it for me. I hope you have a great day. 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