WEBVTT 00:00:09.859 --> 00:00:12.699 Hey everyone, this is Josh from Encounter Church 00:00:12.699 --> 00:00:15.279 Henley, and thanks so much for tuning into our 00:00:15.279 --> 00:00:19.000 podcast. Our prayer is that through this podcast, 00:00:19.019 --> 00:00:20.820 you can have an encounter with Jesus that will 00:00:20.820 --> 00:00:24.359 change your life. And now get ready for an inspiring 00:00:24.359 --> 00:00:27.960 message from our preaching team. You know, my 00:00:27.960 --> 00:00:30.780 favourite thing about the change of this weather 00:00:30.780 --> 00:00:35.780 is being able to Open up all the doors, open 00:00:35.780 --> 00:00:40.520 up all the windows, sit on my couch and listen 00:00:40.520 --> 00:00:46.240 to the aircraft go overhead. You know, one of 00:00:46.240 --> 00:00:49.840 my favourite apps on my phone is the flight radar 00:00:49.840 --> 00:00:54.380 app. I'm sure you can all relate sitting. I got 00:00:54.380 --> 00:01:00.740 some genuine nods in the crowd. You know, we 00:01:00.740 --> 00:01:03.840 had Hannah's parents come over when they were 00:01:03.840 --> 00:01:09.500 down from England earlier this year. And I tell 00:01:09.500 --> 00:01:13.439 you what, I found my people. We were sitting 00:01:13.439 --> 00:01:17.540 there on the couch. We were chatting away. And 00:01:17.540 --> 00:01:22.180 then there was the whirring overhead. The conversation 00:01:22.180 --> 00:01:25.840 stopped. Ears turned. What would that be? Was 00:01:25.840 --> 00:01:29.939 it a domestic 737 from Melbourne? A Dash 8 from 00:01:29.939 --> 00:01:33.159 Port Lincoln. Maybe someone even suggested a 00:01:33.159 --> 00:01:36.579 helicopter. The Dash 8 -400, because it's propeller, 00:01:36.700 --> 00:01:38.879 can sometimes sound like a helicopter you see, 00:01:38.900 --> 00:01:42.799 so it can be a little deceiving. Don't worry, 00:01:42.939 --> 00:01:45.900 everyone. The answer was found. We pulled out 00:01:45.900 --> 00:01:48.400 the flight radar out and we found out it was 00:01:48.400 --> 00:01:50.040 one of the flights coming, one of the regional 00:01:50.040 --> 00:01:56.879 flights. And the conversation continued. In this 00:01:56.879 --> 00:02:01.120 moment, Tim looked at me with obvious awe and 00:02:01.120 --> 00:02:07.140 admiration and love in his eyes, but then he 00:02:07.140 --> 00:02:13.599 opened his mouth and he said, my God, you are 00:02:13.599 --> 00:02:20.539 just like your father. Now compliment or like 00:02:20.539 --> 00:02:24.580 savage, maybe it was just cold hard facts. This 00:02:24.580 --> 00:02:27.919 is not the first time in our 10 years of marriage 00:02:27.919 --> 00:02:32.419 that I have been compared to my parents. It might 00:02:32.419 --> 00:02:38.240 not be the last. You see, my mum moved to Western 00:02:38.240 --> 00:02:41.719 Australia when I was 18 years old, and I was 00:02:41.719 --> 00:02:44.939 visiting her one time, and she kept asking me 00:02:44.939 --> 00:02:47.379 to drive, which I thought was odd. I didn't really 00:02:47.379 --> 00:02:51.120 want to. I mean, this is your... your car, your 00:02:51.120 --> 00:02:53.060 city, why do you want me to drive? And she said, 00:02:53.060 --> 00:02:55.500 oh, don't worry, there's just a little issue 00:02:55.500 --> 00:03:02.580 with my license. And I said, OK, I will drive. 00:03:02.639 --> 00:03:04.099 But you've got to tell me why. You see, eight 00:03:04.099 --> 00:03:08.960 years ago, she had neglected to change her state 00:03:08.960 --> 00:03:12.919 license from an SA driver's license to a WA license 00:03:12.919 --> 00:03:16.539 in the three month time frame you had. And then 00:03:16.539 --> 00:03:19.889 her license had expired. And it's a little difficult 00:03:19.889 --> 00:03:26.469 to renew NSA license in WA. And so she just hadn't. 00:03:27.669 --> 00:03:32.990 And you see this, the shame and the guilt of 00:03:32.990 --> 00:03:37.129 avoidance of this matter had crippled her. Probably 00:03:37.129 --> 00:03:40.069 for the first six months and then probably 12 00:03:40.069 --> 00:03:43.189 until the eight year mark, where all of a sudden 00:03:43.189 --> 00:03:46.490 it had caught up with her. And then she dealt 00:03:46.490 --> 00:03:49.930 with it. with more avoidance and sticking her 00:03:49.930 --> 00:03:52.330 head in the sand and lying to the cops when they 00:03:52.330 --> 00:03:54.509 pulled her over and saying, yes, officer, of 00:03:54.509 --> 00:03:58.330 course, I had no idea I would deal with this 00:03:58.330 --> 00:04:03.050 straight away. And I remember telling, calling 00:04:03.050 --> 00:04:05.349 Tim on the phone, telling him what had happened 00:04:05.349 --> 00:04:11.150 and that familiar, my God, you are just like 00:04:11.150 --> 00:04:16.870 your mother. Now I know why you are the way you 00:04:16.870 --> 00:04:23.829 are. Vindication. It is not my fault. You see, 00:04:23.970 --> 00:04:28.129 I had not neglected to transfer my license, but 00:04:28.129 --> 00:04:30.709 there was definitely times in my relationship 00:04:30.709 --> 00:04:39.230 with Tim when a task had too many steps and it 00:04:39.230 --> 00:04:42.290 felt overwhelming. and these feelings of shame 00:04:42.290 --> 00:04:46.269 and guilt had crept up. And so I would respond 00:04:46.269 --> 00:04:50.810 with, I'll deal with that later and later and 00:04:50.810 --> 00:04:53.689 later and eight years later until maybe my lack 00:04:53.689 --> 00:04:56.949 of replying caught up with me and not paying 00:04:56.949 --> 00:05:00.430 the phone bill led to not being able to make 00:05:00.430 --> 00:05:04.290 phone calls. I was forced to make the decision. 00:05:05.170 --> 00:05:08.129 Would I continue to put my head in the sand and 00:05:08.129 --> 00:05:13.930 avoid it? Would I lie my way out of it or alternatively 00:05:13.930 --> 00:05:18.269 choose a new path? You know, I don't know about 00:05:18.269 --> 00:05:21.790 you, but I hear amongst our modern culture this 00:05:21.790 --> 00:05:25.670 myth that we are this self -made person. You 00:05:25.670 --> 00:05:29.310 know, we are told that we can be completely independent, 00:05:29.490 --> 00:05:34.490 a blank slate, forging our own identity, isolated 00:05:34.490 --> 00:05:37.990 from our environment. I've decided who I am. 00:05:38.139 --> 00:05:42.720 No one made me this way. I am who I want to be. 00:05:43.660 --> 00:05:47.360 But everything in culture tells a different story. 00:05:49.480 --> 00:05:53.100 There's boom in personalized therapy or genealogy 00:05:53.100 --> 00:05:56.199 packs in this and will tell you who you are. 00:05:57.120 --> 00:06:00.959 Self -help aimed at breaking cycles. People are 00:06:00.959 --> 00:06:04.949 increasingly turning to tools and experts. to 00:06:04.949 --> 00:06:09.170 help them understand why they feel stuck in a 00:06:09.170 --> 00:06:14.529 loop of fear and reactivity. Why? Well because 00:06:14.529 --> 00:06:17.810 deep down we know that when we have this pressure 00:06:17.810 --> 00:06:21.990 or stress and these moments they reveal a truth 00:06:21.990 --> 00:06:25.449 and that is we're running these scripts and patterns 00:06:25.449 --> 00:06:29.949 in our life. But unfortunately we carry this 00:06:29.949 --> 00:06:36.560 emotional DNA of our past. We are shaped by the 00:06:36.560 --> 00:06:42.220 good and the bad of our origin. I want to highlight 00:06:42.220 --> 00:06:45.079 that, like the good as well, like the good as 00:06:45.079 --> 00:06:49.379 well. You know, the novelist, could someone just 00:06:49.379 --> 00:06:51.300 grab me a drink of water while we're at a pause 00:06:51.300 --> 00:06:54.819 and turn the air con up if possible? It's a bit 00:06:54.819 --> 00:06:59.639 warm in here. The novelist William Faulkner famously 00:06:59.639 --> 00:07:02.160 wrote, apparently famously, Tim's probably read 00:07:02.160 --> 00:07:07.600 it, famously wrote, the past is never dead, it's 00:07:07.600 --> 00:07:12.220 not even past. Meaning that the past continues 00:07:12.220 --> 00:07:16.240 to influence and shape the very present, with 00:07:16.240 --> 00:07:19.060 past events, memories and actions resonating 00:07:19.060 --> 00:07:23.259 into our current realities and behaviours. You 00:07:23.259 --> 00:07:26.879 know, I hear a deeper attunement to this reality 00:07:26.879 --> 00:07:30.120 from other cultures. Indigenous brothers and 00:07:30.120 --> 00:07:33.000 speakers talk about a connection to ancestors. 00:07:34.879 --> 00:07:39.779 You know, this unavoidable past delivers to us 00:07:39.779 --> 00:07:45.540 a generational inheritance. We inherit it. This 00:07:45.540 --> 00:07:50.959 unasked for special little gift. How kind. Thank 00:07:50.959 --> 00:07:59.300 you. Full of love and sacrifice. fear and failure. 00:08:00.699 --> 00:08:02.819 And regardless of your background and beliefs, 00:08:02.920 --> 00:08:08.420 when life gets hard, which part of your generational 00:08:08.420 --> 00:08:12.120 inheritance do you instinctively operate from? 00:08:13.139 --> 00:08:17.439 Which patterns come to the forefront? Is it patterns 00:08:17.439 --> 00:08:22.379 of peace from an inheritance of grace? Or is 00:08:22.379 --> 00:08:24.920 it the patterns and inheritance of brokenness? 00:08:28.430 --> 00:08:31.129 We're in the middle of a series called It's All 00:08:31.129 --> 00:08:33.009 About Family, and we're talking about what does 00:08:33.009 --> 00:08:36.289 the family of God reflect about our own families? 00:08:37.470 --> 00:08:39.809 Human families are complex and don't live up 00:08:39.809 --> 00:08:41.929 to God's intention for His families, that's for 00:08:41.929 --> 00:08:45.769 sure. They also profoundly shape us as human 00:08:45.769 --> 00:08:49.929 beings. We are products of nature and nurture, 00:08:51.090 --> 00:08:54.529 handed down from our family of origin. And this 00:08:54.529 --> 00:08:58.049 has huge implications for our discipleship. And 00:08:58.049 --> 00:09:00.870 last week, Pastor Texas spoke about God's family. 00:09:01.570 --> 00:09:04.070 And this week, we're gonna talk about our families. 00:09:06.009 --> 00:09:09.330 The Bible shows us that generational patterns, 00:09:10.029 --> 00:09:14.970 both sin and genuine faith, are inherited as 00:09:14.970 --> 00:09:18.710 generational inheritance. And to forge our own 00:09:18.710 --> 00:09:23.269 path, we must discern the patterns we carry. 00:09:23.909 --> 00:09:27.409 and then actively submit them to the Lordship 00:09:27.409 --> 00:09:30.870 of Jesus, the only one who provides a new way. 00:09:32.190 --> 00:09:35.370 So let's talk about the inheritance of brokenness. 00:09:36.490 --> 00:09:40.169 We heard a bit about that in Genesis. Genesis 00:09:40.169 --> 00:09:46.350 12. Abraham, called by God, faces a simple problem. 00:09:46.990 --> 00:09:52.549 Famine. His response is to not trust God. who 00:09:52.549 --> 00:09:57.370 just called him, but to rely on self -preservation 00:09:57.370 --> 00:10:02.210 through deception. She's not my wife. She's my 00:10:02.210 --> 00:10:05.710 sister. Please tell everyone you are my sister, 00:10:05.789 --> 00:10:08.850 then I will be treated well, and my life will 00:10:08.850 --> 00:10:12.210 be spared because of you. This is the original 00:10:12.210 --> 00:10:16.350 inheritance of brokenness. When survival is threatened, 00:10:16.669 --> 00:10:19.429 we want to protect ourselves at the expense of 00:10:19.429 --> 00:10:23.399 others. This is universal, like this isn't unique. 00:10:23.500 --> 00:10:26.299 We all kind of experience this. We call it survival 00:10:26.299 --> 00:10:29.840 strategies or survival mechanism, all rooted 00:10:29.840 --> 00:10:35.679 in fear. Years later in Genesis 20, Abraham with 00:10:35.679 --> 00:10:38.940 a new name, a little bit longer, repeats the 00:10:38.940 --> 00:10:43.980 same exact line. Repetition solidifies this pattern. 00:10:44.399 --> 00:10:48.139 making the inheritance of brokenness a deeply 00:10:48.139 --> 00:10:53.419 ingrained habit in his life, even for a man of 00:10:53.419 --> 00:10:58.179 faith. And the devastating truth about this generational 00:10:58.179 --> 00:11:02.740 inheritance is we see Abraham's son Isaac repeat 00:11:02.740 --> 00:11:07.480 the exact same lie in Genesis 26. When faced 00:11:07.480 --> 00:11:11.200 with the same situation, famine, in the same 00:11:11.200 --> 00:11:19.519 place, We'll read Genesis 26. Just let me know 00:11:19.519 --> 00:11:23.460 if anything sounds familiar. So Isaac stayed 00:11:23.460 --> 00:11:26.919 in the place. When the man of that place asked 00:11:26.919 --> 00:11:30.659 him about his wife, he said, she is my sister, 00:11:31.639 --> 00:11:34.399 because he was afraid to say she is my wife. 00:11:34.879 --> 00:11:37.940 He thought the man of this place might kill me 00:11:37.940 --> 00:11:40.220 on the account of Rebecca because she is so beautiful. 00:11:41.480 --> 00:11:44.879 When Isaac had been there a long time, the king 00:11:44.879 --> 00:11:46.759 of the Philistines looked down from a window 00:11:46.759 --> 00:11:50.259 and saw Isaac caressing his wife, Rebecca. So 00:11:50.259 --> 00:11:53.000 he summoned Isaac and said, she is really your 00:11:53.000 --> 00:11:56.299 wife. Why did you say she is my sister? Isaac 00:11:56.299 --> 00:11:59.620 answered him, because I thought I might lose 00:11:59.620 --> 00:12:04.240 my life on account of her. How familiar are those 00:12:04.240 --> 00:12:07.000 words? Yet they are not the same passage. They 00:12:07.000 --> 00:12:11.340 are not the same man. They are his son. Unresolved 00:12:11.340 --> 00:12:15.399 fear and sinful coping mechanisms are not isolated 00:12:15.399 --> 00:12:19.519 incidents. They are seeds that grow into generational 00:12:19.519 --> 00:12:22.659 habits defining one part of our inheritance. 00:12:24.620 --> 00:12:28.799 I wonder what survival strategies you have inherited. 00:12:30.379 --> 00:12:34.080 Do you have a pattern of lying? of retreating, 00:12:34.299 --> 00:12:37.519 of self -preservation, of self -sacrifice in 00:12:37.519 --> 00:12:41.000 the face of stress, loss, grief, fear of uncertainty, 00:12:42.080 --> 00:12:48.500 of avoidance. Are there patterns of living in 00:12:48.500 --> 00:12:53.379 your family that are accepted because, oh, that's 00:12:53.379 --> 00:12:59.220 just the way we do things? Volatile anger, screaming 00:12:59.220 --> 00:13:03.100 arguments, slamming doors. Silent treatment, 00:13:03.220 --> 00:13:05.179 walking out the house and disappearing for a 00:13:05.179 --> 00:13:09.019 few hours, denial of responsibility or maybe 00:13:09.019 --> 00:13:12.940 complete blame shift and displacement is just 00:13:12.940 --> 00:13:17.440 normal. You know, it's difficult to grow and 00:13:17.440 --> 00:13:20.740 change if it's all we've ever known, if it's 00:13:20.740 --> 00:13:24.539 all we're ever surrounded by. And it's difficult 00:13:24.539 --> 00:13:28.539 to hold someone to account if everyone else does 00:13:28.539 --> 00:13:33.779 it as well. This is an inheritance of brokenness 00:13:33.779 --> 00:13:39.779 An alternative because we are shaped by the good 00:13:39.779 --> 00:13:47.240 and the not so good of our origin An inheritance 00:13:47.240 --> 00:13:55.500 of grace To Timothy 1 5 Paul praises Timothy 00:13:55.500 --> 00:13:59.720 for his genuine faith I remember your genuine 00:13:59.720 --> 00:14:02.679 faith for you share the faith that first filled 00:14:02.679 --> 00:14:05.360 your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice. 00:14:06.879 --> 00:14:09.980 And I know that the same faith continues strong 00:14:09.980 --> 00:14:16.600 in you. This inheritance of grace is built on 00:14:16.600 --> 00:14:20.059 tangible and emotional and spiritual habits. 00:14:21.450 --> 00:14:24.509 And there are three aspects to this inheritance 00:14:24.509 --> 00:14:26.730 of grace, because like what is an inheritance 00:14:26.730 --> 00:14:29.690 of grace? Because that sounds a lot better than 00:14:29.690 --> 00:14:31.470 an inheritance of brokenness, right? Like that 00:14:31.470 --> 00:14:33.850 should be the one we want. So how do we get that? 00:14:33.850 --> 00:14:39.190 How do we do that one? Well, it's emotional resilience. 00:14:40.570 --> 00:14:44.350 Lois and Eunice taught Timothy a pattern of peace. 00:14:45.070 --> 00:14:49.840 How to trust God during hardship. This is the 00:14:49.840 --> 00:14:53.399 ability to face fear without defaulting to lying 00:14:53.399 --> 00:15:00.500 like Abraham. It's authentic connection. Their 00:15:00.500 --> 00:15:03.840 faith was genuine and shared. They modeled vulnerability, 00:15:04.360 --> 00:15:07.740 showing Timothy that it was safe to be honest 00:15:07.740 --> 00:15:11.000 with God and others, providing like a counter 00:15:11.000 --> 00:15:13.139 script to the brokenness that they are surrounded 00:15:13.139 --> 00:15:20.029 by. An intentional discipleship. They actively 00:15:20.029 --> 00:15:23.029 taught the scriptures, proving that a pattern 00:15:23.029 --> 00:15:27.450 of peace in our lives requires time and attention 00:15:27.450 --> 00:15:32.870 and instruction. I wonder if you can identify 00:15:32.870 --> 00:15:35.789 the threads of an inheritance of grace in your 00:15:35.789 --> 00:15:39.509 life. Ways of living that have been modeled to 00:15:39.509 --> 00:15:42.690 you, passed down from generation to generation, 00:15:43.409 --> 00:15:46.809 family values that live on. You know, I grew 00:15:46.809 --> 00:15:50.929 up in a family blooming with brilliant hospitality, 00:15:51.149 --> 00:15:54.330 but I didn't realize that this was a pattern 00:15:54.330 --> 00:15:56.750 of peace until I came across people who didn't 00:15:56.750 --> 00:16:03.149 do it. I didn't realize it was an inheritance. 00:16:06.470 --> 00:16:08.830 There's things that we're building in our family. 00:16:09.169 --> 00:16:11.929 Little foods of kind. These are things that we 00:16:11.929 --> 00:16:15.860 have to intentionally disciple. Because the family 00:16:15.860 --> 00:16:19.360 unit is a powerful method of an inheritance and 00:16:19.360 --> 00:16:23.639 transference. The power of this method is that 00:16:23.639 --> 00:16:28.879 the patterns, it's more than just words. These 00:16:28.879 --> 00:16:32.059 things are passed on through emotional reactivity, 00:16:32.159 --> 00:16:35.039 the way we respond in situations, through non 00:16:35.039 --> 00:16:38.299 -verbal cues, through unspoken family rules. 00:16:38.659 --> 00:16:41.100 Don't talk about our problems. Never show weakness. 00:16:41.580 --> 00:16:45.720 Always offer a cup of tea and biscuits. The same 00:16:45.720 --> 00:16:51.500 mechanism that transmits Abraham's fear and Isaac's 00:16:51.500 --> 00:16:55.600 deception of brokenness is the same that transmits 00:16:55.600 --> 00:16:59.840 Lois's security and Eunice's devotion, the family. 00:17:00.860 --> 00:17:05.259 We inherit both sides of generational inheritance. 00:17:06.720 --> 00:17:11.450 And so we must examine what has been passed on 00:17:11.450 --> 00:17:14.849 to us and discern which patterns we are running. 00:17:17.410 --> 00:17:20.750 Steve Cuss writes in Managing Leadership Anxiety, 00:17:21.750 --> 00:17:25.109 emotional health is not the absence of anxiety. 00:17:26.230 --> 00:17:33.049 It is the presence of an active awareness that 00:17:33.049 --> 00:17:41.200 can choose a different response. We are often 00:17:41.200 --> 00:17:44.119 caught in a moment of emotional crisis where 00:17:44.119 --> 00:17:46.799 our inheritance of brokenness and our inheritance 00:17:46.799 --> 00:17:52.200 of grace collide. It's very rarely a simple binary 00:17:52.200 --> 00:17:57.160 choice. It's a messy tangle. For example, you 00:17:57.160 --> 00:18:00.460 might inherit your grandmother's hospitality, 00:18:01.299 --> 00:18:03.099 but your grandfather's passive aggressiveness. 00:18:04.900 --> 00:18:07.660 You know, you host a great party. but you feel 00:18:07.660 --> 00:18:09.779 resentful for days afterwards because they didn't 00:18:09.779 --> 00:18:14.279 help you clean up. Both patterns are running 00:18:14.279 --> 00:18:18.720 rampant in our life at the same time. This is 00:18:18.720 --> 00:18:22.680 why awareness is critical. We must be honest 00:18:22.680 --> 00:18:26.099 about the complexity of our inheritance, acknowledging 00:18:26.099 --> 00:18:30.940 that walking with Jesus is a process of slowly 00:18:30.940 --> 00:18:34.759 distangling and not always instant transformation. 00:18:36.109 --> 00:18:38.769 You know, we are caught between the patterns 00:18:38.769 --> 00:18:42.190 of brokenness and the patterns of peace. So how 00:18:42.190 --> 00:18:45.049 do we move on from consciously running our old 00:18:45.049 --> 00:18:48.410 patterns of fear to intentionally choosing a 00:18:48.410 --> 00:18:52.829 new way in Christ? Because it is important work. 00:18:53.470 --> 00:18:56.190 We must engage in this repatterning work because 00:18:56.190 --> 00:19:00.440 the alternative is tragic. We will pass on a 00:19:00.440 --> 00:19:03.779 toxic inheritance of brokenness to the next generation, 00:19:04.420 --> 00:19:08.579 continuing cycles of pain. The pattern of peace 00:19:08.579 --> 00:19:13.779 leads to freedom, not fear. Every single person 00:19:13.779 --> 00:19:17.740 longs for a true identity and security. A deep 00:19:17.740 --> 00:19:21.099 peace the world cannot offer. The inheritance 00:19:21.099 --> 00:19:24.599 of brokenness traps you. The inheritance of grace. 00:19:24.920 --> 00:19:28.579 offers a radical opportunity for you to be a 00:19:28.579 --> 00:19:32.859 healing agent in your lineage. It means the patterns 00:19:32.859 --> 00:19:38.259 of sin stop here with you by the power of Christ. 00:19:39.950 --> 00:19:43.349 The Bible calls us to this radical change. Romans 00:19:43.349 --> 00:19:45.910 12 2 says, don't copy the behavior and customs 00:19:45.910 --> 00:19:49.130 of this world, but let God transform you into 00:19:49.130 --> 00:19:52.849 a new person by changing the way you think. Choosing 00:19:52.849 --> 00:19:56.230 the new way is choosing transformation. Look, 00:19:56.369 --> 00:19:59.490 and growing up Christian doesn't get you out 00:19:59.490 --> 00:20:03.730 of this work. You've likely inherited both sides 00:20:03.730 --> 00:20:07.990 of this inheritance still. And it starts with 00:20:07.990 --> 00:20:13.170 this. Step one. discerning the patterns. We must 00:20:13.170 --> 00:20:16.250 name the old unhelpful patterns that surface 00:20:16.250 --> 00:20:19.829 when you're stressed. That is not who you are 00:20:19.829 --> 00:20:22.930 in Christ, but a part of you running an old program. 00:20:24.450 --> 00:20:29.390 When your partner points out a flaw, do you immediately 00:20:29.390 --> 00:20:33.730 shut down, get defensive, like Abraham running 00:20:33.730 --> 00:20:39.269 away from the famine? Ask yourself, Where does 00:20:39.269 --> 00:20:43.670 this reaction come from? What pattern from my 00:20:43.670 --> 00:20:49.930 family am I repeating? Ask God's Spirit to help 00:20:49.930 --> 00:20:54.349 you discern, invite Him into that process of 00:20:54.349 --> 00:20:58.309 deep, and this is the key, humble reflection. 00:21:00.730 --> 00:21:05.130 Discern the patterns. Step two, you can't just 00:21:05.130 --> 00:21:06.710 work out what's going on, but you have to do 00:21:06.710 --> 00:21:10.289 something with it. Step two, repentance and lament. 00:21:11.210 --> 00:21:14.490 We lament the pain of the broken patterns and 00:21:14.490 --> 00:21:18.789 repent of our participation in them. Lament simply 00:21:18.789 --> 00:21:23.029 means to express grief and sorrow. And repent 00:21:23.029 --> 00:21:26.230 means to turn away from sinful behavior patterns 00:21:26.230 --> 00:21:29.329 reactions. We confess the sin and the mechanism 00:21:29.329 --> 00:21:32.890 of sin. This is where we acknowledge the inherited 00:21:32.890 --> 00:21:36.430 pain and the choice to run the pattern. Simply 00:21:36.430 --> 00:21:40.390 this, we lament God, I inherited fear around 00:21:40.390 --> 00:21:46.069 money and I lament the anxiety that brings. I 00:21:46.069 --> 00:21:50.089 confess that I chose to hide my mistakes instead 00:21:50.089 --> 00:21:55.549 of trusting your provision in the truth. We bring 00:21:55.549 --> 00:21:59.069 discern the patterns that we're running and then 00:21:59.069 --> 00:22:02.390 we repent and lament. Lament and repent, probably 00:22:02.390 --> 00:22:07.279 that would be a better way to go. But step three 00:22:07.279 --> 00:22:11.059 is this. The answer to resolving generational 00:22:11.059 --> 00:22:14.720 inheritance is not self -help or trying harder. 00:22:15.359 --> 00:22:18.619 It is the finished work of the gospel. The reason 00:22:18.619 --> 00:22:21.039 that we can stand up to the inherited script 00:22:21.039 --> 00:22:23.500 of fear is because our deepest need in security 00:22:23.500 --> 00:22:27.299 is met in Christ. When Christ died on the cross, 00:22:27.500 --> 00:22:29.920 your old performance -based anxiety, the one 00:22:29.920 --> 00:22:32.559 that had to run old patterns to protect us for 00:22:32.559 --> 00:22:35.440 those survival strategies, the ones that was 00:22:35.440 --> 00:22:38.839 doing its best to just cope and do what it could, 00:22:39.319 --> 00:22:42.759 died with Him. Your security is no longer tied 00:22:42.759 --> 00:22:46.980 to running those patterns perfectly. When Christ 00:22:46.980 --> 00:22:50.740 rose, He gave you a new secure identity in Him. 00:22:52.000 --> 00:22:56.380 And this security frees you to fail. This freedom 00:22:56.380 --> 00:23:00.559 allows the Holy Spirit to guide the pattern of 00:23:00.559 --> 00:23:04.119 peace instead of your old patterns. This choice 00:23:04.119 --> 00:23:07.440 isn't about immediate perfection. It's about 00:23:07.440 --> 00:23:12.259 direction. You will not do this perfectly. You 00:23:12.259 --> 00:23:16.119 will trip up and the fearful part will come up 00:23:16.119 --> 00:23:19.599 again. But here is the central premise of the 00:23:19.599 --> 00:23:22.480 Gospel. Because your identity is not based on 00:23:22.480 --> 00:23:24.759 your performance, but based on Christ's finished 00:23:24.759 --> 00:23:29.140 work, you are eternally secure. You are known 00:23:29.140 --> 00:23:34.799 and you are loved. This security frees you to 00:23:34.799 --> 00:23:37.859 stop relying on fearful family patterns for survival 00:23:37.859 --> 00:23:43.920 and instead trust God even when you fail. And 00:23:43.920 --> 00:23:46.380 you know what? The church is a great place to 00:23:46.380 --> 00:23:49.380 start practicing these new patterns. The church 00:23:49.380 --> 00:23:52.460 is the community that God provides for you to 00:23:52.460 --> 00:23:54.920 practice these new counter -cultural scripts 00:23:54.920 --> 00:23:59.079 of grace, truth and non -anxious presence. It 00:23:59.079 --> 00:24:01.380 can be a place of a new system of origin for 00:24:01.380 --> 00:24:04.480 some of us who don't have examples of patterns 00:24:04.480 --> 00:24:08.579 of peace. We are called to be accountable and 00:24:08.579 --> 00:24:13.920 connected together. Invite the band to come back 00:24:13.920 --> 00:24:22.859 up. You know, you are not a victim of your past. 00:24:24.740 --> 00:24:29.079 Nor are you captive to your inherited inheritance 00:24:29.079 --> 00:24:34.480 of brokenness. Because of the Gospel, you are 00:24:34.480 --> 00:24:40.180 a new creation. By submitting your history, both 00:24:40.180 --> 00:24:42.759 sides of your generational inheritance, to Christ 00:24:42.759 --> 00:24:46.119 today, you are not just changing your own future, 00:24:46.599 --> 00:24:48.940 but you are changing the inheritance of generations 00:24:48.940 --> 00:24:52.940 to come. And you know, when I was writing this 00:24:52.940 --> 00:24:55.809 sermon, And then I was reading it, and I was 00:24:55.809 --> 00:24:57.369 reading it, and I had the script, and it wasn't 00:24:57.369 --> 00:25:00.990 until I was reading it today that I felt this 00:25:00.990 --> 00:25:04.490 strong conviction from God. And it's this, I 00:25:04.490 --> 00:25:09.589 am convicted that I want the statement, my God, 00:25:10.910 --> 00:25:15.630 you are just like your mother, to be the most 00:25:15.630 --> 00:25:25.849 encouraging thing, my children here. I will be 00:25:25.849 --> 00:25:28.549 going over to see my family in WA next week. 00:25:30.430 --> 00:25:32.730 And it's often in these situations outside of 00:25:32.730 --> 00:25:37.109 normal supports, less accountability, more vulnerability, 00:25:39.329 --> 00:25:40.730 that I can kind of get away with doing what I 00:25:40.730 --> 00:25:46.089 want. Now we default into patterns of brokenness 00:25:46.089 --> 00:25:49.789 that we inherited. But you know what? That doesn't 00:25:49.789 --> 00:25:55.000 serve me. That does no good. And it doesn't bring 00:25:55.000 --> 00:26:00.160 glory to God. I also know that God has redeemed 00:26:00.160 --> 00:26:03.359 those parts of me, so I can trust that He is 00:26:03.359 --> 00:26:06.140 with me, even though going over there into that 00:26:06.140 --> 00:26:10.559 environment's a little anxious, a little scary. 00:26:12.240 --> 00:26:14.500 You know, I have an opportunity next week to 00:26:14.500 --> 00:26:16.859 live out these patterns of peace that I've learned 00:26:16.859 --> 00:26:21.279 from my church family, even if those around me, 00:26:21.339 --> 00:26:25.769 they aren't living that way. I have an opportunity 00:26:25.769 --> 00:26:30.029 to model emotional resilience, authentic connection 00:26:30.029 --> 00:26:33.950 and intentional discipleship to my family, not 00:26:33.950 --> 00:26:36.650 just to the generations to come, but to the generations 00:26:36.650 --> 00:26:41.470 that went before, to my brother, knowing that 00:26:41.470 --> 00:26:47.210 the grace of God goes before me, goes with me, 00:26:47.250 --> 00:26:53.029 and goes after me. So where do you need to stop 00:26:53.029 --> 00:26:57.970 running the inherited pattern of brokenness this 00:26:57.970 --> 00:27:04.789 week? And start leaning into the gospel -empowered 00:27:04.789 --> 00:27:11.990 grace that wants to live out in your life, supported 00:27:11.990 --> 00:27:19.150 by all of us. You know, there was... God really 00:27:19.150 --> 00:27:21.670 gave me one sentence. that to share with you 00:27:21.670 --> 00:27:24.869 guys. So you've heard nothing else and that's 00:27:24.869 --> 00:27:27.670 fine. This is the sentence to write down if you 00:27:27.670 --> 00:27:31.369 haven't got your notebook out already. And it's 00:27:31.369 --> 00:27:37.950 this. The patterns of your past do not define 00:27:37.950 --> 00:27:47.089 the promises of your future. No matter where 00:27:47.089 --> 00:27:49.730 you have come from, what you are carrying, What 00:27:49.730 --> 00:27:53.230 patterns you've been taught, you've inherited, 00:27:54.289 --> 00:27:59.549 you live out. The patterns of the past do not 00:27:59.549 --> 00:28:01.690 define the promises of your future. And church, 00:28:02.089 --> 00:28:07.009 the promises of your future are good. They are 00:28:07.009 --> 00:28:17.950 good. We believe in a good, good God. He is above 00:28:17.950 --> 00:28:25.549 it all. He's above it all. Thanks so much for 00:28:25.549 --> 00:28:28.130 tuning into this week's message. 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