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Friday Night Live. It's March 20th. March Madness
in the house, and we are in the house. Yo, welcome
again to Friday Night Live. As always, I'm El
Michael Burt, and tonight, I hope everything
feels different because this is week five. We
are in, you know, just at the culmination of
this whole process of breaking the illusion.
Causing your purpose to live in life right after
disruption after trauma whatever it is right
So this is not another week of me giving you
you know ideas and concepts Okay, this is not
me. Just you know giving you another Message
or you know any ideas or what this is truly about
a celebration of who you're becoming or who you're
under coming But let me just be clear about Celebration
what I mean by that all right what I mean by
celebration, okay? And I'm not talking about
fake excitement. I'm not talking about clapping
for ourselves and then going back to sleep and
say, you know what, this was really great. This
was wonderful. So what? You know what I mean?
And just really going back to sleep after you
experienced some kind of transformation in your
life, right? And I definitely don't mean saying,
yeah, while I was powerful, you know, it's good
for you, it's good for you, but doesn't do anything
for me, you know? And then maybe you say, I ain't
gonna do anything with it, right? And it's a
possibility that's where you are and who you
are. But what I'm really truly talking about
is celebration, as you see here on the slide,
celebration with evidence. And I'm gonna get
into what that is in a moment. Listen, we went
through 30 days, 30 days as of the 18th through
what we call a Stanley Challenge. And we turned
that Stanley Challenge into a personal transformation
challenge for us here on the Thrivable Journey,
breaking through the illusion. And there's many
illusions that are there, but we want to break
through the illusion that we live, that we as
human beings are living. We're subject to all
the stuff that's happening in the world, that
we're subject to all the old stories that we've
been living that are not really who we're. who
we are. It's 30 days of truly looking at your
life and telling the truth of who you are, where
you are, where you're not, where you want to
go. It's 30 days of separating facts from the
story. We were dealing with healing and saying,
healing is not a straight line. So we did 30
days of healing. We talked about authorship.
30 days of really authoring your life and saying,
I don't need your permission to become who I'm
becoming. And we then started to live in possibility.
And then we started to declare things for our
life. And then we took that possibility, that
declaration of who we said we are, and start
putting it into action. And it ain't a small
feat, yo. It's not a small feat. And if you stayed
with this journey in any real way, then something
inside of your life shifted. Sometimes they say
like, You know, it has to be big or has to be
grand or has to be flashy Transformation doesn't
work that way, right? It doesn't happen all at
once or you know Not even when people you know
could even say that they can see it inside of
you, right? so transformation happens it compounds
moment by moment and You really want to just
kind of take stock at what has shifted in your
life. All right, so Let's look at that, and we're
going to go through that too. Nice. Next slide.
All right. So something inside of you shifted,
right? And tonight is about seeing that clearly
for yourself, for myself as well, because I went
through this whole process with you. Even though
I was teaching it, I was going through it with
you, OK? But if you cannot see what changed,
You will discount your own growth and you don't
want to do that and when people discount their
own growth They start acting like nothing happened.
I talked about that today with our producer but
producer Yvonne like sometimes we Don't acknowledge
the shift that happened with the change to happen
because we you know It's our life and sometimes
we don't notice it and tonight. We're going to
talk about that right and tonight We're going
to acknowledge and create what's next after you
know the shift that we've that we've gone through
Because listen something did shift something
happened a transformation occurred and I know
occurred it for me And so if it occurred for
me and I'm teaching it I know if you've been
you know walking with us in any kind of way That
it has shifted for you as well. So tonight we're
going to ask one simple question All right, what
changed when you started to live in the transformation
the shift the movement? That you had in your
life and you know like we have here now when
you heard about it now when you liked it or disagreed
or agreed with it but when you actually truly
lived it which is the question right that is
the question all right and so what we're going
to do is we're back at it again right we're going
to be going through the the the exercises of
you know Putting this into play in our lives.
So Once again, you take out your phone notes,
you know screenshot do whatever you got to do
so we can start putting this down and really
applying it to our life and so there are many
questions we're gonna ask and we're gonna go
through some of these things so you can apply
them to your life and Look at the shift that
clearly happened in your life or didn't happen
and if that is the case then you have a chance
tonight to really look at that and We have tons
of clips on the Thrival Journey on Instagram.
You can always go through those clips. They're
there from day one to day 30. And they can guide
you. And then you can come back to Friday Night
Lives. We have these posted on YouTube. on the
RSS platform for, you know, for our podcast.
So you have different ways of really going through
this even if you're just now joining right now.
So go ahead and take your phone out, screenshot,
piece of paper, however you want to do it, okay?
And we're going to go through what this, what
the last 30 days was. So right here on the, on
the, on the presentation, my evidence from the
last 30 days. What is it? And we're not talking
about the intentions, right? We're not talking
about your intentions or your goals or what you
meant to do and not actually did, but the true
evidence that showed up in your life. And I'll
talk about mine in a moment. And here is the
question I really truly want you to sit with
tonight, which is here. What is different now
because you actually practice this work over
the last 30 days? what has transformed in your
life, right? What is different? What has transformed?
We take account of that and see what it is for
you. So what you do see or what do you see now
that you didn't see before the 30 days that,
you know, you wanted to have show up in your
life, you know, something that you really wanted,
something that was important to you that that
that you wanted to have shift in your life. You
know, what did you do that you would not have
done 30 days ago that you now are doing or what
no longer through the 30 day shift doesn't have
the same grip on you, you know, or what part
of you has gotten stronger or clear, more honest
about who you are. So looking on the inside,
what shifted on the inside. So we have to start
looking on the inside first before we see the
evidence on the outside. So what happens on the
inside internally it starts there and then the
world your world starts to shift with your internal
Being that's alignment, right? That's alignment
either good or bad. It's alignment, right? And
what you have to do is name it because if you
cannot name what has transformed to change You'll
start acting like nothing changed and went and
that is when you know how people really truly
talk themselves out of their own growth and we
don't want to do that we want to talk ourselves
into our own growth okay and um here we go once
again hold on we want to talk ourselves into
our own growth give me a moment here and then
here we go doing the thing again sorry give me
a moment um as i'm doing this. There we go. All
right. We got to get into, I got to get a new
system, y 'all got to get a new system. All right.
Is it it? One, two, three, four, five, six. All
right. Here we go. Yes. Now that's it. So what
we're going to do is really make this, make this
true. Okay. Let's look at this right now. And
I want you to write this. this down for yourself
take a picture however you want to do it well
what do you see more clearly now one thing I
see more clearly now is you just want to make
it real for yourself okay so write that down
one thing I see more clearly now is okay and
we have most everything what I'm going to say
is right here which is maybe you see more clearly
we have been living in the story we talk always
talk about fact versus story instead of living
the facts of what that story That meant to you
or what you made that moment mean to you, right?
We talked about permission You know, maybe you
are now no longer waiting for permission for
people to say, you know This is who you become
but you're really taking ownership or power over
your life Okay, or maybe you see more clearly
that you know one heart days that does not define
your whole life I mean many a times in in my
old habits one of the things I always did was
when I went through hard days, I was like, my
gosh, this is not supposed to be. I thought that
life was supposed to be easy. Things that I thought
and I wanted out of life should come to me automatically
because maybe at a point in my life that that
was my reality, but that's not always reality,
okay? Or we talked about connecting with who
you are and really keeping your energy. high
so maybe more you see more clearly that the people
you've been around or the things you've been
doing they've been draining your energy you don't
want that right or we're talking about who you're
becoming so maybe you see more clearly what your
next season is asking of you and actually I can
see that for myself right now so whatever it
is you know I want you to write this down take
a picture however you want to do it because you
want clarity around that and clarity by itself
right there is evidence as well. And if you can
see something now that you could not see before,
that is what truly matters as well, okay? So
you wanna do that for yourself. All right, so
moving on to the next thing. Make sure this thing
works. There we go. Thank you for cooperating,
my friend. All right, the next thing is one thing
that I actually did in the last 30 days that
mattered is... All right. And I can hear it's
not what you plan, what you what you had in your
mind, but what you truly actually did. Maybe
you had the hard conversation that you didn't
want to have all right. We talked about that
You know we talked about setting your boundaries
Like I take on Sunday nights or certain days
on Sundays like it's all it's mine I can't give
it to give it away to nobody that is not gonna
happen right or Maybe you finally told the truth
about something in your life that you wanted
to connect with the disconnect with or whatever
it is maybe you did that and then we again we
We talked about energy and things that drain
you. And maybe you stop allowing that or whatever
it was to stop draining you, whatever it is for
you. And there's many things that you probably
did that now matters to you that you shifted.
Some old habit that you said, no longer, I'm
not doing that. I'm not keeping it in my life.
I'm becoming this new identity that I'm creating
for myself to align with the future that I see
for myself. That's what you did right and that
will be a powerful stance for you to take okay?
And what it is is that is action you take an
action into your life Making the action the action
right there by itself is evidence as well, okay?
And what it is that you know a lot of people
you know In this process people really wait for
they want something dramatic to happen or a big
old breakthrough before they truly allow themselves
to believe that they are transforming. And let
me tell you something, that is not how it works.
You know, transformation is a compounding moment,
one after another, right? And sometimes the evidence
is just a conversation. You know, sometimes the
evidence is a decision or choice that you made,
or an honest moment that you look back on and
be like, oh, man, that was a true moment when
I was really authentically myself. whatever it
is, you know, like today, you know, it's all
week. I've been, you know, really setting up
my businesses and really creating a structure
around them. And I'm like, man, I feel great.
So I'm doing a lot of follow through this week,
you know, and. you know one of the things we
have here is you know maybe it's one day you
didn't abandon yourself and you're really compounding
your actions and you're doing it consistently
and I tell you sometimes it's really hard to
connect with that but what you always what you
will see after you know maybe a low energy moment
that you look back you're like man I did that
I did that for myself I showed up for myself
and that is a powerful stance you want to take
um uh when you're in the space of transformation
for yourself here all right we're on to the next
one here which is we talked about agreements
as well i think this is last week we talked about
agreements so the question is what no longer
runs you the same way all right one oh one old
agreement that does not run me the same way anymore
is whatever that is you know um And I want to
let you know that those agreements and and it's
a it's an important distinction. All right, and
what and in those agree agreements. Sometimes
they don't disappear completely right away, right?
But what it does do, it doesn't run you anymore.
The old agreements, the old identity, the old
way of being the old habits that will show up.
They might not disappear completely. But over
time, when you when they show up you don't give
those things authority anymore right they knock
on your door and they're like you know like ah
nah you can't come in you know um you maybe they
speak to you but you know it doesn't sound like
the full truth anymore or you know for example
you know you maybe maybe the story was uh i am
not good enough right you lived in that story
for so long that it was the truth for you. Not
the truth, but the truth for you. But going through
the transformation, aligning yourself with the
future that you're becoming, the purpose that
you're living on, the life in the world, and
aligning with your purpose, you're like, you
know what? I can hear you. It shows up. But you
know what? Nah. Yeah, I don't believe you. You
know, thank you for showing up. Goodbye. Right?
Or maybe, you know, like I said, it knocked on
your door, but you're like, you know what? Keep
knocking. But you ain't coming in. Right? So
That is a shift in your life. Just that small
thing. Again, it's not dramatic, but it's a belief
that you start living in that then shifts who
you're becoming. So then you start aligning with
the future that you created for yourself. That
new identity that you're believing yourself to
be. You know, maybe the old agreement that you
had was, you know, I'm gonna wait till I feel
ready. I did that a lot. I don't feel ready,
so I ain't gonna move until I feel ready. Sometimes
you ain't ever gonna feel ready, right? And then
sometimes you people are like, I need everybody
to understand me before I move or before I act,
you know? And you want to continue to start living
the identity, the future identity that you see
for yourself and continue to move forward. So,
which agreement does not run you the same way
anymore? And I want you to look at that. I want
you to write that down. Because when an old agreement
truly starts losing power, your new identity
or new self starts becoming available. Right?
You want to really connect with that day in and
day out, moment to moment. Because we do, as
human beings, we shift. You know, some days I
was talking to my producer like, you know, three
days in. Like, I'm powerful, right? Like, get
this done. Get this done. You know, day four,
you're like, I don't feel it. I don't feel it.
But that's when you got to show up for yourself.
That's when the authorship shows up. You be like,
you know what? This is my page, this to my book
that I'm writing, and I'm gonna step into it
powerfully, because the new identity that I'm
becoming, the new future that I'm creating for
myself, that's who I'm connecting to and what
I'm connecting to, all right? And so, we're gonna
continue to do that for your life, all right?
And now we move it on to what do you trust more
now, right? One part of myself or yourself I
trust more now is whatever that is, right? And
this matters because this whole journey is not
about just changing behavior. It is truly about
rebuilding trust with yourself. And I tell you,
in my life, every time I show up for myself and
at the end of the day, I'm like, man, I did that.
I did that for myself. I did that for the people
that I'm connected with and that are connected
with me, you know? And if I continue to show
up for myself powerfully, every day by the time
I go to bed at night, I can feel great about
what I've done in that day. And I know that my
power inside is growing and I start to love myself
more, start to trust myself more. And you start
to really look at yourself because that's the
voice inside. that will start to amplify on the
outside. So, you know, trust yourself more to,
we talked about healing, recovery, you know,
trust yourself to act without having to waiting
for everybody else. You know, you could trust
yourself without making things dramatic, right?
Because again, those transformations are small
internal shifts that you continue to create moment
for moment. you know just trust yourself for
doing you know the follow -throughs and and not
disappearing when moments get hard in life you
know what part of yourself do you trust more
now just really acknowledge whatever that is
and just say it you know say what it is what
it is for yourself maybe it's like we have here
on the on the um on the on the presentation here
maybe it's your voice Maybe it's your discernment
or your ability to recover from trauma or disruption
or whatever happened. Maybe it's your ability
to say no when there's somebody in your ear and
they want you to say yes. Or maybe it's your
willingness to act instead of or in spite of.
And maybe it's your commitment to what you committed
to and to yourself. Because again, are the trust
moments like? that's evidence as well, okay?
So I want you to continue to look at that and
say, I trust my self, all right? And I want you
to continue to write this here. So we're gonna
go through these different stances here and I
want you to look at these and really apply them
to yourself, okay? So number one. For so yeah
over these last 30 days again, just really truly
apply these to your life and Build from what?
Transformed the transformation transformation
that you went through these last 30 days So what
challenged me most over the last 30 days? All
right. What was it? You know Or look at what
got in your way or what kept showing up or what
pulled on you or you know What tried to take
you back into the old ways of being you know
what transformed? in you in the last 30 days
okay next one write this challenge uh write this
down what this challenge taught me is you know
maybe it taught you more structure i know for
me it taught me more structure put more structure
in place for me so we talked about you know putting
those blocks in your life blocks of times in
your life so you can fill on whatever it is that
you want to fill on that you want to create in
your life You know, one of the things that I've
been dealing with for years was just writing
a book. And so the thing that I did now was like,
you know what? I'm going to, nine o 'clock on
like three or four days out of the week, I'm
going to put that structure in my life and start
writing my book. Now, what I will say is not
every hour I'll sit down. I'm like, yeah, I got
this. I got this. Sometimes it's like, you know,
ain't got nothing but at least I sat there for
the hour and did something for the hour because
that that's where the hour belonged to writing
that book okay so um you know maybe the challenge
taught you that your energy matters and you don't
want to waste it on anybody you know one of the
things that I just what I just heard is we need
to treat our energy like it's the most precious
and most uh uh expensive thing that we have.
Our energy and our time. We just can't give to
everybody or everything, right? So look at that.
You know, look at what you spend your energy
on and make sure that it matters to the forward
movement of who you're becoming, okay? Or maybe
this challenge taught you that you know what
to do, but you keep negotiating yourself out
of, you know, doing that thing. Do that thing
and stop negotiating. yourself out of who you're
becoming, okay? Or maybe it taught you some things
in your life need to change if the next version
of who you are becoming is who you want to become.
So live that right. Live that out in life. Live
it out. Live it out loud, okay? LOL. Live out
loud, okay? And write what it taught you. all
right and or number three uh the evidence that
i am not the same person i was 30 to go 30 days
ago is um evidence comes in all kind of ways
like we talked about you know maybe it's that
you're more honest with yourself more authentic
with yourself maybe from disruption or trauma
or whatever may be maybe you recover fast faster
or um you know you say look one higher moment
is not going to take over my whole day or my
whole week I can shift who I'm becoming at any
moment, any time. All right? And maybe that you're
more clear about who you are, what you want,
and who you're becoming in your life. And we
talked about permission. Maybe you're no longer
waiting for permission for people to say, oh,
you could become this. Oh, no. It's up to you.
You have the authorship over your life. You're
taking action. And you want to make room for
what truly matters. All right? So number four.
One practice that I am taking with me in the
next seven days. So whatever it is, write that
down. Whatever that is, the practice that you're
taking with me over the next seven days, okay?
I want you to know that, look, movement is movement.
Don't talk yourself out of your shift. Don't
be dramatic about it, because sometimes it is
the simple things that really matter, okay? Like
I said, movement is movement. growth is growth.
I truly want you to honor that. Alright, so honor
that over the next seven days. This next week,
don't try to do a 90 day thing right now. You
know, just make it small. Just be more authentic
with yourself the next seven days, whatever it
is, you know, you know, make promise to yourself
daily every day and honor that promise. You know,
protect yourself, protect your energy, protect
your spirit, protect your soul. You know, you
want to do that. all of the time and you also
want to protect your time alright and I want
you to write that down alright and then the next
thing number five is in the next seven days I
will keep proving this version of me by doing
what alright whatever it is whatever is write
it down you know make it real for yourself and
honor your growth honor your transformation honor
who you becoming and honor that future identity
That you are aligning with in your life. Okay,
so before I close let me just say this I'm proud
of you for staying with this whole journey for
the 30 days 30 plus days and You know, I'm proud
of you for staying with yourself and a lot of
people, you know, they'll leave themselves, you
know when the moment gets uncomfortable When
it gets hard and if you stay with us these there's
30 plus days you didn't you stay with it You
stay with the question you stay with the hard
moments you stay with the you know the the Checking
yourself out and seeing you know, you know what's
working. What's not working with yourself You
know you stay with the truth of who you're becoming
and you stay with your becoming or unbecoming
So honor that and you want to protect that and
you have evidence now over these days And I don't
want you to reduce what? what's changed, what
transformed in your life to a moment. I want
you to build from this and continue to build
in your becoming, you know, and I'll say it again,
do not reduce what has transformed you, what
has transformed in you to a moment and look at
everything that you wrote tonight, you know,
look at the evidence, you know, look at the challenge
that you went through, look at the lessons that
we went through and look at what's next for you.
all right look at look at who you're becoming
and allow it to be that's something that you
can build on okay and I want to thank you for
walking you know through these 30 days you know
it's a powerful thing and it's look if you stay
with this and you've been consistent you did
something and I want to thank you for you know
staying in the work and you experienced 30 days
of this work and some of the things that shifted
and that's really truly just a taste of what's
possible, you know, 30, 30 second, two minute
clips, you know, there's just a taste of what's
available for you. And if you are truly really
looking at, you know, your life in a different
way and you want to connect or get realigned
with who you're becoming and live in that purpose
and stop living in the story of the disruption
of the trauma and break through the illusion
that, you know, it's not real. and you want to
truly become your full, authentic self, I do
have a thing where you can get on a discovery
call with me. It's a 45 -minute call. We do a
enrollment conversation of who it is that you
see yourself becoming. And I have a coaching
program that will allow you to connect with that
person. And it's a 12 -week program. And I want
you to... Really connect and get a line and get
that reset for yourself. So here's the link you
can Book a discovery call here. It will be in
the description where you can actually do that
for yourself and I you know, I look forward to
Seeing you and talking with you and just you
know seeing who you are and who you are becoming
Alright again, thank you for the 30 -day journey.
I appreciate it. Stay tuned for the next set
We're working on it right now. So I'm not I'm
not sure what we're going to do but state state
Hey, stay connected, and I will see you next
time. Take care. Much love.