WEBVTT 00:00:01.100 --> 00:00:08.519 Here we go, let's see Yeah, yeah, yeah, well 00:00:08.519 --> 00:00:13.859 we did a test today and It's not working. Oh 00:00:13.859 --> 00:00:16.839 There it goes. There it goes. There was a little 00:00:16.839 --> 00:00:21.879 there was a little Delay a little delay and Facebook 00:00:21.879 --> 00:00:27.100 is now Live so this is awesome. Hey, what's up? 00:00:27.100 --> 00:00:30.620 Welcome to TJ night Friday Night Live, I'm sorry, 00:00:30.679 --> 00:00:33.259 I'm sorry, I'm sorry. TTJ Friday Night Live, 00:00:34.000 --> 00:00:36.039 and I think we are good to go. I just want to 00:00:36.039 --> 00:00:38.359 make sure that we are good to go. Yes, we are 00:00:38.359 --> 00:00:44.740 good to go. Let's get to it. You know, this whole 00:00:44.740 --> 00:00:46.759 thing is very new, but I love what we're doing. 00:00:48.719 --> 00:00:53.539 And for those who, you know, are following... 00:00:53.530 --> 00:00:56.229 Following us. I thank you for following us. So 00:00:56.229 --> 00:00:58.829 for those who don't know me, I'm Michael Burt 00:00:58.829 --> 00:01:03.070 and For the last two weeks. I've been talking 00:01:03.070 --> 00:01:07.390 about breaking the illusion creating your purpose 00:01:07.390 --> 00:01:10.670 after disruption and This week we're talking 00:01:10.670 --> 00:01:14.189 about healing and healing is not a straight line 00:01:14.189 --> 00:01:16.510 and we're talking about healing in a way where 00:01:16.510 --> 00:01:19.879 you you've had some kind of disruption in your 00:01:19.879 --> 00:01:23.219 life or you had some kind of trauma in your life 00:01:23.219 --> 00:01:28.620 and you're looking to really heal from all of 00:01:28.620 --> 00:01:35.719 that, okay? And tonight is for anybody who really 00:01:35.719 --> 00:01:38.000 is saying, you know, I was doing good or I was 00:01:38.000 --> 00:01:41.200 doing better in my life coming from the past 00:01:41.200 --> 00:01:43.540 when you say I'm doing better, but you say I 00:01:43.540 --> 00:01:46.969 was doing better. then anxiety showed up or I 00:01:46.969 --> 00:01:50.769 was doing better and then sadness hit me again 00:01:50.769 --> 00:01:54.230 you know we all have our emotions right or you 00:01:54.230 --> 00:01:56.549 were doing better and then you got triggered 00:01:56.549 --> 00:02:01.409 by something or someone and you didn't like who 00:02:01.409 --> 00:02:03.989 you became in that moment you know things happen 00:02:03.989 --> 00:02:07.329 right again we're human or you know you were 00:02:07.329 --> 00:02:10.389 doing great and then happiness showed up right 00:02:10.389 --> 00:02:13.650 so I would say that right there is the moment 00:02:13.870 --> 00:02:17.289 the illusion of the past, it continues to show 00:02:17.289 --> 00:02:20.889 up for you, right? Because that's, I believe, 00:02:21.189 --> 00:02:24.569 what I assert, rather, is that when people start 00:02:24.569 --> 00:02:27.409 grading themselves, we always try to grade ourselves 00:02:27.409 --> 00:02:30.349 and say, you know, maybe I was like an A plus 00:02:30.349 --> 00:02:33.169 today, or a B, or a C, or a D. You know, we grade 00:02:33.169 --> 00:02:37.009 ourselves maybe not in the letters, but we put 00:02:37.009 --> 00:02:40.229 who we're becoming on certain emotions, right? 00:02:40.969 --> 00:02:43.310 You might start saying things like, man, I thought 00:02:43.310 --> 00:02:44.949 I was past this. You know, I thought the past 00:02:44.949 --> 00:02:47.750 was in the past. Or you might start saying that 00:02:47.750 --> 00:02:50.610 maybe I'm not healed from the disruption or the 00:02:50.610 --> 00:02:53.270 trauma that I was going through. And maybe you're 00:02:53.270 --> 00:02:55.550 like, I thought I was going through all this, 00:02:55.550 --> 00:02:58.509 and I was past all this. But man, I'm at the 00:02:58.509 --> 00:03:00.930 freaking beginning again. All right. So let me 00:03:00.930 --> 00:03:02.949 just kind of tell you something simple about 00:03:02.949 --> 00:03:08.610 all that, right? Look, healing is not a straight 00:03:08.610 --> 00:03:13.990 line. Okay, healing will have setbacks, but that 00:03:13.990 --> 00:03:17.650 doesn't mean that you're at the beginning. So 00:03:17.650 --> 00:03:21.289 if something shows up for you, has showed up 00:03:21.289 --> 00:03:24.590 for you in the past or shows up for you again, 00:03:25.930 --> 00:03:28.569 I want you to really hear me here. Like don't 00:03:28.569 --> 00:03:31.930 bring shame when those emotions show up. One 00:03:31.930 --> 00:03:33.789 of the things that I've learned and am learning 00:03:33.789 --> 00:03:37.580 is being non -resistant. So when those emotions 00:03:37.580 --> 00:03:39.939 show up, just let them be what they are, and 00:03:39.939 --> 00:03:43.340 then you can really call them out as, you know, 00:03:43.520 --> 00:03:45.639 as what they are. You know, just don't be run 00:03:45.639 --> 00:03:49.520 by them, okay? And when those feelings show up, 00:03:50.659 --> 00:03:52.919 people use the word broken, right? You're not 00:03:52.919 --> 00:03:56.240 broken, okay? What I assert is that that's your 00:03:56.240 --> 00:03:58.080 system, your nervous system bringing something 00:03:58.080 --> 00:04:01.819 up that it's finally ready to process, okay? 00:04:02.379 --> 00:04:05.979 Now... If I don't know if people here cuz I can't 00:04:05.979 --> 00:04:09.439 see I have all this other stuff going on if you're 00:04:09.439 --> 00:04:11.740 in the chat I hope you're here, you know put 00:04:11.740 --> 00:04:15.539 in there where you're from and You can type in 00:04:15.539 --> 00:04:17.579 like one word that describes what you're going 00:04:18.160 --> 00:04:20.360 Through and what's going on inside of you right 00:04:20.360 --> 00:04:23.800 now? You know one word is good like I'm you know 00:04:23.800 --> 00:04:26.800 Hank everything I'm anxious right now or things 00:04:26.800 --> 00:04:30.579 are heavy or I'm irritated or I feel shut down 00:04:30.579 --> 00:04:34.339 or I'm numb or I'm scattered or I feel tense 00:04:34.339 --> 00:04:39.180 or You may be like I feel calm. I feel clear 00:04:39.180 --> 00:04:42.620 all right and for people who are listening on 00:04:42.620 --> 00:04:48.850 the podcast You can comment on whatever RSS platform 00:04:48.850 --> 00:04:52.689 that you're on or would love for you to give 00:04:52.689 --> 00:04:55.189 a review as well. Or if you're watching the replay 00:04:55.189 --> 00:05:00.930 on any of the platforms, just say, you know, 00:05:01.110 --> 00:05:04.769 replay, type replay and say what it is that you're 00:05:04.769 --> 00:05:08.970 going through, what's going on with you on the 00:05:08.970 --> 00:05:12.899 inside, okay? And I hope you guys like we we've 00:05:12.899 --> 00:05:14.620 been working on things and we're trying to elevate 00:05:14.620 --> 00:05:16.899 We're elevating not trying to we're elevating 00:05:16.899 --> 00:05:18.500 and we've got this little slideshow for you here. 00:05:18.500 --> 00:05:22.600 Okay, so The illusions were breaking from illusion 00:05:22.600 --> 00:05:29.899 to truth. So Here we go So what we're doing tonight 00:05:29.899 --> 00:05:33.759 is this we're not going to turn this into a therapy 00:05:33.759 --> 00:05:38.019 session I'm not a therapist. I'm a coach Right? 00:05:38.379 --> 00:05:41.019 I'm a coach, entrepreneur, podcaster, all that 00:05:41.019 --> 00:05:43.300 good stuff. Right? Not a therapist. So we're 00:05:43.300 --> 00:05:45.720 not going to tell long stories. And what we're 00:05:45.720 --> 00:05:48.399 going to really get into is practicing our leadership 00:05:48.399 --> 00:05:52.199 of who we are and how we push ourselves, or not 00:05:52.199 --> 00:05:54.860 even push ourselves, but just be who we are in 00:05:54.860 --> 00:05:57.579 the messy middle. All right? Because the biggest 00:05:57.579 --> 00:06:03.100 illusion people live in during the healing is 00:06:03.100 --> 00:06:05.939 this. Like, you might still feel certain things. 00:06:06.279 --> 00:06:08.100 And because you feel those certain things, you 00:06:08.100 --> 00:06:10.660 might say, man, I am not healed or I must not 00:06:10.660 --> 00:06:14.759 be healed. And I would assert to you that that's 00:06:14.759 --> 00:06:19.720 not true. OK. And what it is is that, you know, 00:06:20.319 --> 00:06:23.379 healing isn't never feeling the thing again, 00:06:23.540 --> 00:06:26.079 because things again, we're human. So you're 00:06:26.079 --> 00:06:28.800 going to have those emotions. But healing is 00:06:28.800 --> 00:06:32.579 when the memory can be there. But like I said 00:06:32.579 --> 00:06:34.459 in the clips if you've been watching the clips 00:06:34.459 --> 00:06:36.899 on Instagram or Facebook, I've said this before 00:06:36.899 --> 00:06:41.519 Healing is the memory Right or healing is when 00:06:41.519 --> 00:06:44.459 the memory can be there for you, but it doesn't 00:06:44.459 --> 00:06:47.199 drive the car or you basically you don't allow 00:06:47.199 --> 00:06:53.560 it to Dictate your being in that moment. So let's 00:06:53.560 --> 00:06:58.279 kind of make it real for you here, so would I 00:06:58.279 --> 00:07:01.689 say what a memory shows up and you don't spiral 00:07:01.689 --> 00:07:04.209 right that's what i'm talking about or a trigger 00:07:04.209 --> 00:07:08.329 can hit and you don't explode or a heavy day 00:07:08.329 --> 00:07:11.189 can come and you don't collapse into the old 00:07:11.189 --> 00:07:13.290 identity so when you're going through those things 00:07:13.290 --> 00:07:15.629 that's healing right you're healing from the 00:07:15.629 --> 00:07:18.290 trauma you're healing from the disruption and 00:07:18.290 --> 00:07:21.569 i'm speaking from experience right not from something 00:07:21.569 --> 00:07:23.230 i heard from somebody else or that i read in 00:07:23.230 --> 00:07:25.949 the book or a book right so when you're going 00:07:25.949 --> 00:07:29.839 through that that's healing And the proof isn't 00:07:29.839 --> 00:07:34.120 that the feeling has disappeared. The proof in 00:07:34.120 --> 00:07:37.000 all of that, in that middle space, this healing 00:07:37.000 --> 00:07:41.199 space, is that you can notice the feeling without 00:07:41.199 --> 00:07:50.420 becoming who you used to be, okay? And... You 00:07:50.420 --> 00:07:57.029 know, you... Here's what I would say. the problem 00:07:57.029 --> 00:08:02.350 is when people feel something again they they 00:08:02.350 --> 00:08:04.889 don't just feel it they start talking to themselves 00:08:04.889 --> 00:08:09.009 or the mind starts going right and you start 00:08:09.009 --> 00:08:10.810 speaking in your head and you're like man here 00:08:10.810 --> 00:08:14.529 we go again or i'm never going to change or transform 00:08:14.529 --> 00:08:17.430 like or this is a big one this always happens 00:08:17.430 --> 00:08:19.430 to me or you know i'm saying like or i'm at the 00:08:19.430 --> 00:08:22.110 beginning and that self -talk right there it 00:08:22.110 --> 00:08:25.439 turns a moment into a whole situation and you 00:08:25.439 --> 00:08:28.060 start living in that in that idea of that's not 00:08:28.060 --> 00:08:30.100 even real all right you just made it up right 00:08:30.100 --> 00:08:33.000 so tonight i'm going to give you a simple practice 00:08:33.000 --> 00:08:36.639 you can use at any time that feeling shows up 00:08:36.639 --> 00:08:40.639 for you all right and like i said here the feeling 00:08:40.639 --> 00:08:43.700 shows up again the self -talk starts here we 00:08:43.700 --> 00:08:45.460 go again i'm back at the beginning i'm never 00:08:45.460 --> 00:08:48.320 going to change right i really like these these 00:08:48.320 --> 00:08:50.679 little uh these slides here i hope you like them 00:08:50.679 --> 00:08:56.350 too okay so um Here we go. So what we're going 00:08:56.350 --> 00:08:59.710 to do is talk about naming the state, right? 00:09:00.110 --> 00:09:03.149 Choosing the next move, and then just making 00:09:03.149 --> 00:09:06.129 it happen. Because when you name the state of 00:09:06.129 --> 00:09:08.389 where you at, the state of being, the emotion, 00:09:09.009 --> 00:09:12.230 you can create distance. And when you have distance, 00:09:13.230 --> 00:09:16.049 you have choice. Because you're really, like 00:09:16.049 --> 00:09:18.629 with my client today, I was saying that she's, 00:09:18.629 --> 00:09:21.769 she's, she's really noticing who she's being 00:09:21.769 --> 00:09:24.330 in moments. And she's like, I'm looking at myself. 00:09:24.529 --> 00:09:26.850 I'm watching myself. I'm seeing myself. And that's 00:09:26.850 --> 00:09:29.629 awareness. That's a place of observance. And 00:09:29.629 --> 00:09:31.490 when you have that place of observance, you have 00:09:31.490 --> 00:09:34.370 choice. And when you have choice, you can continue 00:09:34.370 --> 00:09:38.549 to lead yourself through those moments when you 00:09:38.549 --> 00:09:43.230 feel like the old identity is showing up or you're 00:09:43.230 --> 00:09:47.690 just not in the moment that you feel like you're 00:09:47.690 --> 00:09:51.299 making progress. All right? And I just really 00:09:51.299 --> 00:09:55.519 want to say this clearly. A hard moment, which 00:09:55.519 --> 00:09:59.080 we all have, it's not failure. And I've said 00:09:59.080 --> 00:10:02.820 this before, it's information, right? It's your 00:10:02.820 --> 00:10:05.799 system saying, here's what still has energy, 00:10:06.840 --> 00:10:10.679 here's what still needs leadership, or here's 00:10:10.679 --> 00:10:14.200 what you're ready to handle now, but in a different 00:10:14.200 --> 00:10:18.779 space, okay? You know, all this stuff shows up, 00:10:19.200 --> 00:10:29.070 right? And you want to really allow yourself 00:10:29.070 --> 00:10:33.049 to just allow yourself to be in those spaces, 00:10:33.190 --> 00:10:36.909 but again, don't let it dictate who you become 00:10:36.909 --> 00:10:39.710 or who you be. Okay? So here's the practice, 00:10:39.830 --> 00:10:41.429 y 'all. We're gonna do a live practice. I want 00:10:41.429 --> 00:10:44.809 you to grab your phone, your phone notes or whatever 00:10:44.809 --> 00:10:48.070 you need to do, a piece of paper. Something simple 00:10:48.070 --> 00:10:49.909 something easy. This is we're not going deep 00:10:49.909 --> 00:10:55.490 here. Just a practice that you can use when You 00:10:55.490 --> 00:10:57.769 when things like that show up in your that in 00:10:57.769 --> 00:11:00.710 your that healing space, you know We're always 00:11:00.710 --> 00:11:04.309 in a space of healing from old old things that 00:11:04.309 --> 00:11:08.850 show up old traumas old old disruptions so, you 00:11:08.850 --> 00:11:12.330 know You never ever you do get rid of things 00:11:12.330 --> 00:11:14.870 but things always show up. So this is the practice 00:11:14.870 --> 00:11:18.370 they can use when when emotions from the past 00:11:18.370 --> 00:11:22.669 show up okay so one line each just keep it simple 00:11:22.669 --> 00:11:28.509 keep it clean and like right here on the the 00:11:28.509 --> 00:11:31.629 screen just write it that write it this way my 00:11:31.629 --> 00:11:35.110 state right now is whatever your state is you 00:11:35.110 --> 00:11:38.110 know just pick one word don't make it complicated 00:11:38.110 --> 00:11:40.429 like we said earlier like when we when you came 00:11:40.429 --> 00:11:44.509 in said is am i heavy am i calm am i clear am 00:11:44.509 --> 00:11:47.379 i irritated you know all those things just don't 00:11:47.379 --> 00:11:50.879 make it complicated okay and then what you're 00:11:50.879 --> 00:11:55.620 going to do is write what triggered it or what 00:11:55.620 --> 00:11:58.159 caught what allowed you to allow that emotion 00:11:58.159 --> 00:12:02.940 to show up for you when um you now say that things 00:12:02.940 --> 00:12:05.500 are heavy or whatever it is what triggered it 00:12:05.500 --> 00:12:08.480 was a straight line all right keep it simple 00:12:08.480 --> 00:12:12.279 you know um some a lot of things trigger people 00:12:12.279 --> 00:12:16.440 a text or memory a conversation a bill, you know, 00:12:16.659 --> 00:12:20.960 some memory of a place, a thought, even a tone 00:12:20.960 --> 00:12:23.779 where somebody says something to you in a certain 00:12:23.779 --> 00:12:27.200 way, and you're like, uh -uh, who you talking 00:12:27.200 --> 00:12:31.340 to do like that, right? So anything like that 00:12:31.340 --> 00:12:34.700 can show up for you, right? Now write this down, 00:12:34.759 --> 00:12:40.559 which is when I'm in this state, right, when 00:12:40.559 --> 00:12:45.250 I'm in this state, my default pattern is That's 00:12:45.250 --> 00:12:48.850 number three When I'm in this state my default 00:12:48.850 --> 00:12:51.850 pattern is what do you what do you usually do 00:12:51.850 --> 00:12:54.309 when you get triggered? Okay, do you isolate? 00:12:54.950 --> 00:13:00.190 Do you scroll on social media? You know, do you 00:13:00.190 --> 00:13:04.549 snap at people? or do you shut down or Like what 00:13:04.549 --> 00:13:06.850 a lot of people do is you people please because 00:13:06.850 --> 00:13:09.309 you're overcompensating for something right or 00:13:09.309 --> 00:13:14.340 do you overthink or what I used to a portion 00:13:14.340 --> 00:13:16.940 of my life. What I did was just avoid, all right? 00:13:17.100 --> 00:13:19.620 Tell the truth on yourself. That's just, that's 00:13:19.620 --> 00:13:23.360 between you, you and you, right? And then after 00:13:23.360 --> 00:13:26.700 that, you write down what my next move is in 00:13:26.700 --> 00:13:30.039 the next two hours is. Now in this space right 00:13:30.039 --> 00:13:31.820 here, you, people want to make it complicated. 00:13:31.980 --> 00:13:33.940 Just don't make it complicated. It's not your 00:13:33.940 --> 00:13:38.279 whole life plan, right? It, we're not, hey, I'm 00:13:38.279 --> 00:13:40.759 not Ayanna Van Zandt. This is not fixing your 00:13:40.759 --> 00:13:44.019 whole life, right? We're not fix your life. Just 00:13:44.019 --> 00:13:49.860 something simple, something easy. My next move 00:13:49.860 --> 00:13:52.340 in the next two hours is whatever that might 00:13:52.340 --> 00:13:56.559 be for you. Just your one next move. And it could 00:13:56.559 --> 00:13:59.519 look like anything, like a breath or a walk or 00:13:59.519 --> 00:14:02.559 a glass of water, an honest text to someone, 00:14:03.320 --> 00:14:05.259 one boundary that you're setting up for yourself, 00:14:05.700 --> 00:14:11.139 or just a small action that interrupts. the default 00:14:11.139 --> 00:14:13.980 pattern that shows up for you when those old 00:14:13.980 --> 00:14:16.960 emotions and old feelings or disruptive feelings 00:14:16.960 --> 00:14:23.580 show up okay and then number five my 24 hour 00:14:23.580 --> 00:14:25.480 proof is or basically what you're going to do 00:14:25.480 --> 00:14:30.080 in the next 24 hours i will prove i'm leading 00:14:30.080 --> 00:14:36.139 myself by all right one proof step meaning you 00:14:36.139 --> 00:14:38.620 know something that you can actually finish okay 00:14:38.860 --> 00:14:42.340 just make it simple whatever that next thing 00:14:42.340 --> 00:14:45.320 is in the next 24 hours to continue to lead yourself 00:14:45.320 --> 00:14:47.899 to your future identity walk through this messy 00:14:47.899 --> 00:14:52.440 middle of healing and make it easy so that you 00:14:52.440 --> 00:14:56.820 can actually finish very simple okay that is 00:14:56.820 --> 00:15:03.360 the practice that is the practice okay now again 00:15:03.360 --> 00:15:07.519 it's going to make it very easy very simple um 00:15:07.559 --> 00:15:12.539 just the state, the trigger, the default pattern, 00:15:12.919 --> 00:15:15.679 the next move in the next two hours, and then 00:15:15.679 --> 00:15:18.580 the proof, the 24 -hour proof that you've made 00:15:18.580 --> 00:15:21.059 it through whatever that emotion shows up. And 00:15:21.059 --> 00:15:22.899 what you do is you continue to do that over and 00:15:22.899 --> 00:15:26.259 over again so that you can make that emotion 00:15:26.259 --> 00:15:31.899 that shows up flat. So it doesn't allow you to 00:15:31.899 --> 00:15:35.879 lose who you're becoming in this healing space, 00:15:36.220 --> 00:15:41.259 okay? All right. Now, like I said right here, 00:15:41.519 --> 00:15:45.240 do something easy. Water, food, a 10 -minute 00:15:45.240 --> 00:15:47.100 walk, an honest text, you know, you can read 00:15:47.100 --> 00:15:50.080 it here, a boundary, 10 -minute on whatever the 00:15:50.080 --> 00:15:54.279 task is, or the phone down for 30 minutes. If 00:15:54.279 --> 00:15:56.779 you've been watching the clips, I mean, sometimes 00:15:56.779 --> 00:15:59.039 I take a nap, you know, if I just got to get 00:15:59.039 --> 00:16:02.639 away for a minute and just breathe out and just 00:16:02.639 --> 00:16:07.759 take a nap, okay? Now, just a quick... just quick 00:16:07.759 --> 00:16:11.200 coaching coaching session for you in these moments 00:16:11.200 --> 00:16:14.899 what happens is in our minds we try to revert 00:16:14.899 --> 00:16:17.340 back because we're we kind of shame ourselves 00:16:17.340 --> 00:16:20.220 don't shame yourself what's what's showing up 00:16:20.220 --> 00:16:25.159 is just information um just what i remember somebody 00:16:25.159 --> 00:16:27.080 i was watching something or reading something 00:16:27.080 --> 00:16:31.600 i can't remember what it was but um in what in 00:16:31.600 --> 00:16:34.259 my business and one of my businesses i have to 00:16:34.259 --> 00:16:38.720 do sales right and i The story that I have around 00:16:38.720 --> 00:16:42.320 sales is that I hate it. But I heard somebody 00:16:42.320 --> 00:16:45.360 say, you know what sales is? I mean, what a no 00:16:45.360 --> 00:16:47.840 is, because I don't like to hear no. And I made 00:16:47.840 --> 00:16:51.139 that mean something. I don't now, because I got 00:16:51.139 --> 00:16:54.519 that flat. But I was like, I hate hearing no. 00:16:54.679 --> 00:16:57.960 I hated hearing no. And when I heard someone 00:16:57.960 --> 00:17:00.519 say, this is a lady who was talking about something. 00:17:01.279 --> 00:17:06.119 She said, no, all it is is information. A no? 00:17:07.300 --> 00:17:12.779 is information. That's it. Sometimes what happens 00:17:12.779 --> 00:17:18.200 is what we made no mean for us is that I'm not 00:17:18.200 --> 00:17:20.839 good enough or nobody likes me or whatever the 00:17:20.839 --> 00:17:23.740 story may be. And the no is just a no, right? 00:17:24.180 --> 00:17:27.279 So in this process, don't make the next move 00:17:27.279 --> 00:17:33.079 too big. Just make it small if you need to also 00:17:33.079 --> 00:17:36.940 put a time on it. When are you doing it by? uh 00:17:36.940 --> 00:17:41.619 your your default pattern is it is the pass right 00:17:41.619 --> 00:17:45.240 trying to drive you um and what we're doing is 00:17:45.240 --> 00:17:49.079 now leading yourself through all that and not 00:17:49.079 --> 00:17:51.420 letting the emotion or the default pattern the 00:17:51.420 --> 00:17:56.319 old identity speak for you you get to lead it 00:17:56.319 --> 00:18:01.539 all right and when you get proof of going going 00:18:01.539 --> 00:18:04.480 through all of this in your last step step five 00:18:04.480 --> 00:18:08.549 your proof It's not about being perfect. Right? 00:18:08.930 --> 00:18:12.329 Your proof is that you're a leader for yourself. 00:18:12.710 --> 00:18:16.789 Okay? Self leadership is one of the first mastery 00:18:16.789 --> 00:18:19.930 of becoming a leader for other people. So you 00:18:19.930 --> 00:18:22.589 want to start to lead yourself through things 00:18:22.589 --> 00:18:28.910 and just be there for yourself. Then we show 00:18:28.910 --> 00:18:32.329 up for yourself over and over again through this 00:18:32.329 --> 00:18:34.849 healing space. You get to know yourself in a 00:18:34.849 --> 00:18:37.410 different way. You get to step forward into the 00:18:37.410 --> 00:18:41.190 identity that's calling you forward, and you're 00:18:41.190 --> 00:18:45.890 really stepping up into a new realm of being. 00:18:47.309 --> 00:18:52.930 Okay? And these steps might be, you know, easy 00:18:52.930 --> 00:18:58.609 and simple sounding, but simplicity is probably 00:18:58.609 --> 00:19:01.089 the best way to do this thing. You know, we sometimes, 00:19:01.109 --> 00:19:03.450 as humans, try to make things complex. I know 00:19:03.450 --> 00:19:07.720 I do. Let's not do that. Okay, let's not make 00:19:07.720 --> 00:19:12.240 things complex. All right, family. And if anything 00:19:12.240 --> 00:19:16.920 else comes up for you this week, you know, here's 00:19:16.920 --> 00:19:21.200 what I want you to stop doing. Stop turning a 00:19:21.200 --> 00:19:24.920 feeling into a verdict about who you are. I know, 00:19:24.920 --> 00:19:27.779 you know, sometimes we just do that, you know? 00:19:28.180 --> 00:19:31.960 What I said earlier today was a feeling is like 00:19:31.960 --> 00:19:34.460 a weather system. It just moves right through 00:19:34.460 --> 00:19:38.319 you. But if you let it drive the car, you, it 00:19:38.319 --> 00:19:40.019 starts making decisions for you and you don't 00:19:40.019 --> 00:19:43.059 want to do that. It starts picking your ideas, 00:19:43.299 --> 00:19:46.140 your tones, what you're making things mean. Somebody 00:19:46.140 --> 00:19:48.099 might say something to you and you're like, what 00:19:48.099 --> 00:19:49.279 you talking about? You know what I'm saying? 00:19:50.640 --> 00:19:54.539 Your being just shifts. You don't want it to 00:19:54.539 --> 00:19:57.400 start picking your actions and you don't want 00:19:57.400 --> 00:20:00.539 it to start picking your future. You get to do 00:20:00.539 --> 00:20:03.920 that. And that's why I keep saying, name the 00:20:03.920 --> 00:20:08.369 state. you choose the next move and Whatever 00:20:08.369 --> 00:20:10.750 just to clarify some things about leadership. 00:20:10.750 --> 00:20:13.390 I talked about it earlier Self leadership is 00:20:13.390 --> 00:20:16.049 when you can tell the truth about what's happening 00:20:16.049 --> 00:20:18.410 inside of you, you know That's why we said it 00:20:18.410 --> 00:20:21.170 earlier by saying, you know, what's going on 00:20:21.170 --> 00:20:23.829 inside of you? You know, you want to call that 00:20:23.829 --> 00:20:28.250 stuff out so you can create the space Between 00:20:28.250 --> 00:20:30.410 you and the emotion and then you could observe 00:20:30.410 --> 00:20:35.210 it for yourself. Okay, so Self -leadership is 00:20:35.210 --> 00:20:38.890 when you call, when you tell the truth about 00:20:38.890 --> 00:20:42.730 what's happening and you don't let it run your 00:20:42.730 --> 00:20:46.910 life, right? It sounds much like, you know, this 00:20:46.910 --> 00:20:50.410 is anxiety, not I have it, right? This is anxiety 00:20:50.410 --> 00:20:54.769 or this is heaviness or this is irritation. And 00:20:54.769 --> 00:20:57.849 I'm still going to choose my next move from who 00:20:57.849 --> 00:21:01.829 I said I am, the future identity that I'm. that 00:21:01.829 --> 00:21:03.809 I created for myself is now calling me forward, 00:21:03.970 --> 00:21:07.809 right? Not from the mood or not from the trigger 00:21:07.809 --> 00:21:12.029 and not from the old pattern. Okay? So if you 00:21:12.029 --> 00:21:16.730 take nothing else from week two, this week, healing 00:21:16.730 --> 00:21:21.730 is not a straight line. Take this, you know, 00:21:22.369 --> 00:21:25.809 you don't need a perfect day. You just need the 00:21:25.809 --> 00:21:29.930 next move, right? And the next move done with 00:21:29.930 --> 00:21:33.859 integrity. can change your whole night. And when 00:21:33.859 --> 00:21:36.140 I talk about integrity, I'm not talking about 00:21:36.140 --> 00:21:40.019 in a space where right versus wrong or wrong 00:21:40.019 --> 00:21:43.039 versus right, not a moral situation, but integrity 00:21:43.039 --> 00:21:46.900 is in the space of I'm doing what I said I'm 00:21:46.900 --> 00:21:49.059 going to do and I'm going to do it by a certain 00:21:49.059 --> 00:21:54.640 time. Okay. And if you want something that you 00:21:54.640 --> 00:21:58.220 can let me find it here. If you want something 00:21:58.220 --> 00:22:04.339 that You that you can use or sit with after these 00:22:04.339 --> 00:22:07.519 these Friday night lives I got a free chapter 00:22:07.519 --> 00:22:12.980 of the empowered path for you It's it's you know, 00:22:12.980 --> 00:22:17.400 it's a practice that you can return to when your 00:22:17.400 --> 00:22:19.539 mind gets loud you need you know, you need to 00:22:19.539 --> 00:22:25.559 come back to yourself and Let me see Here is 00:22:25.559 --> 00:22:31.440 the link for you here Let me get it for you here. 00:22:34.559 --> 00:22:39.819 That is the link. Holla, holla, holla. That's 00:22:39.819 --> 00:22:41.660 the link for you. And that's for the first chapter 00:22:41.660 --> 00:22:46.880 there, OK? And I want you to stay with the Thrivo 00:22:46.880 --> 00:22:50.759 journey, OK? We're coming to an end here. 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And what we're doing also is 00:23:17.170 --> 00:23:20.009 doing it as a preview and we have the chat open. 00:23:20.329 --> 00:23:23.630 I'll be there if you want to. you know communicate 00:23:23.630 --> 00:23:27.549 in the chat with me and we'll do that while the 00:23:27.549 --> 00:23:31.369 live is premiering okay and so i just want to 00:23:31.369 --> 00:23:33.789 say thank you for being here i love you keep 00:23:33.789 --> 00:23:37.549 amen keep it simple this week name it choose 00:23:37.549 --> 00:23:43.329 it choose the next move and then do the next 00:23:43.329 --> 00:23:46.309 thing okay you're powerful human beings and that's 00:23:46.309 --> 00:23:50.809 what i stand for in my life in your life and 00:23:50.809 --> 00:23:57.319 we can do this human life thing better okay and 00:23:57.319 --> 00:24:01.440 um ivan is calling in with the following question 00:24:01.440 --> 00:24:05.980 testing the future cam is off okay well that's 00:24:05.980 --> 00:24:08.220 interesting so now that you know that live you 00:24:08.220 --> 00:24:14.440 can call in with a um with a live question i 00:24:14.440 --> 00:24:16.440 don't know how you i guess are we going to test 00:24:16.440 --> 00:24:20.559 this live while we're doing this um let's see 00:24:20.559 --> 00:24:24.960 here I don't know if we're gonna do it. There 00:24:24.960 --> 00:24:28.299 it goes, I can hear you. And what's your question? 00:24:29.720 --> 00:24:34.119 Yes. Hi, Michael, thanks for having me on the 00:24:34.119 --> 00:24:37.059 show, having a really great time. So I was curious 00:24:37.059 --> 00:24:40.480 to know when you talk about your, you know, taking 00:24:40.480 --> 00:24:44.000 the 10 minute break to just relax your mind, 00:24:44.299 --> 00:24:46.599 what do you say to somebody who has a hard time 00:24:46.599 --> 00:24:52.220 taking that 10 minutes? I would ask yourself, 00:24:53.220 --> 00:24:57.619 what is it about you that you can't take 10 minutes? 00:24:58.920 --> 00:25:00.660 What's showing up for you that you can't take 00:25:00.660 --> 00:25:14.059 10 minutes? So basically, try to understand what 00:25:14.059 --> 00:25:17.240 it is that's stopping you. Yes. Do you feel that 00:25:17.240 --> 00:25:20.559 sometimes that that might Hold a person back 00:25:20.559 --> 00:25:22.599 and maybe they just need to stop whatever they're 00:25:22.599 --> 00:25:25.779 doing and just go just go for it Take that 10 00:25:25.779 --> 00:25:28.619 -minute walk or that 10 -minute break or meditate 00:25:28.619 --> 00:25:31.920 for the 10 minutes. Whatever it is. Yes, you 00:25:31.920 --> 00:25:37.299 know if if you can't find the 10 minutes walk 00:25:37.299 --> 00:25:40.740 do something that's That really allows you to 00:25:40.740 --> 00:25:43.079 take your mind off of the moment that triggers 00:25:43.079 --> 00:25:46.740 you or that showed up for you It might be you 00:25:46.740 --> 00:25:50.920 know playing a video game for a second or You 00:25:50.920 --> 00:25:54.119 know something that's relevant to allowing yourself 00:25:54.119 --> 00:25:57.059 to really settle your steady steady yourself 00:25:57.059 --> 00:26:00.920 and Relax your nervous system. So what a 10 -minute 00:26:00.920 --> 00:26:04.000 walk is just an example but if you can't allow 00:26:04.000 --> 00:26:06.420 yourself to show up for yourself in that way, 00:26:06.680 --> 00:26:11.640 then I would say go within and Look at like what's 00:26:11.640 --> 00:26:15.500 stopping you from? Taking that 10 minutes for 00:26:15.500 --> 00:26:23.910 yourself That make sense Thank you, and thank 00:26:23.910 --> 00:26:30.890 you for being here All right, so that was amazing 00:26:30.890 --> 00:26:34.849 And we did that's the first time we did that 00:26:34.849 --> 00:26:39.849 so this is amazing so This is what we do so continue 00:26:39.849 --> 00:26:43.109 to come on Friday night lives and I look forward 00:26:43.109 --> 00:26:47.170 to seeing you here and Have an amazing, amazing 00:26:47.170 --> 00:26:49.089 weekend and the rest of the week. Y 'all take 00:26:49.089 --> 00:26:53.130 care. And let's make thriving our new normal. 00:26:53.690 --> 00:26:54.049 Bye bye.