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So I'm going to be talking about the positive feedback loop.

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Now, this is something that when it comes to me editing my videos or posting

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content or in my property business, right?

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When it comes to anything that I do, that requires me to stay disciplined

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for long periods of time, I always look for positive feedback loops to make sure

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that I, you know, stay like a bit motivated and I find the small wins

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in order for me to keep going.

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Now this could be translated across the board, right?

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I'm going to use a couple of examples that work for me, right?

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But try and make sure that it tailors to you as well, because this is so

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effective across all kinds of businesses, whether, and even just personal life as well.

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So like the gym or learning instrument or anything like that, right?

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So let's say in business, my goal is to earn, I don't know,

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one million a year, right?

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Which is fantastic.

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Love that goal.

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But if I say that's all that makes me happy and anything but that makes me sad,

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then it's a pointless goal because I'm going to hate the journey all the way there.

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And by the time I get there, that happiness will not be able to make up for

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the years of sadness that led up to it.

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So let's say I'm building my business, right?

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And it goes like this.

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It goes down, it goes up, it goes up, goes down, goes up, goes up, goes up.

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Wow.

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I'm not an artist.

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These little apps, it might be someone, let's say I work, I work in property

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investment, right?

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So I'm going to keep it tailored to that.

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So that up here is me reaching out to estate agents, letting them know what I'm

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looking for, emailing them.

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I'm looking for this, did I do?

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Have you got anything?

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Have you got anything?

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And see at the top of the peak here, brilliant.

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And a state agent has sent me a property that I like.

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Fantastic.

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And then I go back down and then I go back down and then I go back down and

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then I go back down and then I go back down because that's business.

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But I start to do new things.

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I start reaching out to find clients.

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Right?

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Yes, I go up here and reaching out, emails, messages, going to

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networking events, doing my pitch.

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Da da da da.

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That's the climb.

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Someone wants to meet me for a coffee.

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I was not even on board with a client.

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Someone's just interested in what I do.

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Awesome.

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Buzzing.

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It doesn't go well.

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Ah, well, that's okay.

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I look out for more clients.

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I start posting social media content, casting a wide net, YouTube, Instagram,

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TikTok, Facebook, casting a wide net, messaging everyone that I know, all

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the contacts in my phone.

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Boom.

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And then up here, not only do they want to meet me for a coffee, but they want

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to work with me.

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It's a client on boarded.

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So we've got properties coming away.

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We've got deals coming away.

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We've got a client meeting us for a coffee, which is great.

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Someone shows interest in what it is I do.

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And then I've got a client.

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So I'm finding happiness along the way.

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You always hear these successful people and they're like, Oh, look, it's the

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journey, not the destination.

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And see when you're going down those bits, you're like, fuck your journey.

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I want the million, but you got to be able to make sure that the journey.

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It's not only just going up, but you're enjoying it on the way.

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That's a terrible smiley face.

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There we go.

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Right.

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And there's loads of other ones.

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There's loads of other ones.

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You open up an office.

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Fantastic.

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You start getting leads through social media content.

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Amazing.

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And you start doing all these other things, which lead you all the

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way up to that 1 million pound goal.

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You haven't decided that's what's going to make you happy because let's be

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honest, money does make you happy.

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It buys so many things that otherwise you wouldn't be able to get without

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money and it buys you freedom.

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But you do not want to hit that journey all the way up.

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You've got to find the wins.

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Fantastic.

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Like someone just brought a deal to me and I didn't even have to reach out to them.

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My reputation is out there.

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People are coming to me now.

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That's fantastic.

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My God, like that means everything.

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That's incredible.

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Right.

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So yes, that 1 million pound a year is a beautiful goal, but if you attach all of

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your happiness to it, it's going to be a disaster.

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You're going to hate all of this and think about what happens to your chances of

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succeeding.

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You're going to drop off here.

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You're either going to drop off here because all of these little wins don't exist.

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All you are is just pissed off the whole way, angry the whole way.

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Oh, about time someone brought me a deal.

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About time a client showed interest in me.

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You're not even grateful because your attachment, I'm not even grateful for

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your attachment or your happiness is attached to something else.

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You've got to find these positive feedback loops.

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They are showing you that you're making progress, right?

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They're showing you that in real time, you are working your way up to that goal of

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1 million pounds a year or freedom or paying off your parents mortgage or any of

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these other things, right?

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You have to have these indicators that show you that you are doing the right thing

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and you are on the right path.

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Because if you hate the whole destination off, like I said earlier, you are going to

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drop off and then you're going to be miserable and in 30 years time, you're going

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to wonder what if, because you're going to see someone else that was on the same

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path as you at the beginning who done all these positive feedback loops and not

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only enjoyed it, but reached their goal and then you're going to be jealous of

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them.

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Oh, they're lucky.

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Oh, that must be nice, right?

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That'll be you.

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So make sure you're the person that enjoys the journey simply because it's about

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sustainability.

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It's about longevity.

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You want to be in this for the long run.

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This is decades.

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It's decades.

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It's not days, right?

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So you can't be miserable the whole way.

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Yes, you are going to be miserable in these times, right?

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Believe me.

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Like I've said in previous videos, I want to quit a million times.

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I've wanted to quit.

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So people have had to talk me out of quitting, right?

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So when I found this way of thinking to make sure that I enjoy the process, I

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accept that I'm going to feel crap sometimes.

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It's part of it.

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But if I celebrate the small wins, then I know I'm on the right path.

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I know I'm going to hit that goal and I enjoyed the journey.

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I can look back and think, yeah, I enjoyed that journey.

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I appreciated it.

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I took it in while I could.

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So if you're learning an instrument, apply it there.

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Be happy that you learned a few chords.

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Be happy that you can finally play the intro to a song that you really like.

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And if you're doing fitness, just be happy that you're now doing a few days in a row.

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You went three days this week.

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That's, you're buzzing.

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You could only go two days before.

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ungs,

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Now you're less sore and you're going three days.

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And if you're in business, just make sure that you celebrate all of the wins because

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because there's a lot of them that you might be disregarding

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there's a lot of them that you might be disregarding.

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People have started to like your social media content.

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people have started to like your social media content, your brand is getting out there

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Your brand is getting out there.

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You're starting to have leads come your way.

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you're starting to have leads come your way

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People are taking you seriously.

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people are taking you seriously, it's not just a phase

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It's not just a phase.

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people are starting to say, oh shit he knows his stuff, it's real

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I believe him, now I'm going to support him, I'm going to send people his way

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now I don't want to be unrealistic and just say to you

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always be happy, you're buzzing all the time

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that is not it, you're going to be stressed 90% of the time

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but that 10% of the time you're not stressed and you're celebrating the wins

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and you're excited for yourself, that 10% is what's going to get you to that end goal that you want to reach from the beginning

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because if you're 100% stressed and 100% miserable

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you will quit and then you'll be wondering what if for the rest of your life

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and that will crush you

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oh it's not like me to end on a positive note so I'm going to try to do a positive video next time

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I feel like that was positive but I got a bit tense at the end as always

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so hope you enjoyed my famous drawing and I'll see you in the next one