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Hey everybody, welcome back to Food for Thought,

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Thoughts If It Were You, 

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Season 3. It's your host, Neogentrics. If you

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missed out on our last discussion over on the

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Wisdom Map channel, this is a rehashing of that.

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I'm going to go ahead and add it to this. You're

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going to get the chance to listen to it. If you've

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got any comments, concerns, or things you want

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me to talk about later, feel free to leave it

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in the comment section. And I'll get back to

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it as soon as I can. I thank you guys all for

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listening and have a great rest of your day.

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Now let's begin this chat. It's your boy, Dark

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Cancer. I haven't been here in a while, guys,

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but I figured I'd come back and give y 'all a

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dosing of what I'm about and what's going on

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in my life. Let's see what's going on with you

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guys. I'm open to topics of discussion as to

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whatever anyone has to say. If anyone has any

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topics they want to discuss, I'm open to that.

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But in the meantime, I want to go ahead and mention

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something. If you want to know why I haven't

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been active in a while... It's simple. Within

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the last year or so, I've already lost about

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six or so people in my life, one of which was

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my grandmother. I lost my cousin, which was her

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sister's daughter. And just a week and a half

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ago, I lost my aunt, who was the pastor of our

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church. Now, I'm not telling you that because,

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you know, it's relevant to what I'm about to

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discuss today. I'm telling you that is the reason

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why Dark Cancer, your buddy here, Neogentrix,

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has gone silent. Don't let that keep you going,

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keep you barred. We're going to step forward

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and move out of that. But I want to go ahead

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and bring it up because I want to discuss one

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little thing. Loss. The impact and impact of

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loss for each person is different based off of

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the emotional value that person has. Everybody

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has a certain limit of how much loss that they

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can take to the limit of how much they can handle

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before they intentionally lose it. Some people

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can handle it in small. doses. Some people can

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handle it in larger quantities and capacities.

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Some people can't handle it at all. Each person's

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different. And in that regard, depending on what

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the occurrence is, it's based off of the connection

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you have with you and that other person. Like

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for me, I've lost about six family members within

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the last year. All of which weren't anyone far

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or distant. They're all really close relatives.

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I lost my grandma. I was really close with my

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grandma. I used to visit her when we came back

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to Houston once every week if I could help it

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and spend the night sometimes when I just didn't

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feel like driving back home while I was working

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overnight. This is an occurrence that's a regular

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occurrence for me, or it was, until she passed

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last year. You can imagine how everyone else

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felt. When she died and passed, there was a lot

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of tears shed by a lot of people, except for

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yours, truly. I'm not saying this to make myself

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sound... better or heartless it's just that i

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don't know what it what it is or what it uh how

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the effect works for certain people but for me

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a person who's not emotionally minded i'm not

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bound by that certain things seem to tie my emotions

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to my actions more so than anything else and

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with each person i believe that that same fact

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is true if you're a person who leans more heavily

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on your emotions then Impacts like this and other

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effects like this, when someone passes or something

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happens or something goes wrong, you're going

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to be more inclined to react more in an emotional

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note than more of a rational effect. Each person

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has this similar, I wouldn't say effigy, about

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how they perform their actions or what they go

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about doing in a day -to -day effect. Some people,

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it's more effective to try to act more logically,

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but at the same time, acting that way and being

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that way are two different things. You can say

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you're a logical person. You can say that you

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think more effectively, more than more emotionally,

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but this isn't true. For you to essentially think

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more logically and be logic -minded despite whatever

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happens, you have to be able to innately not

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only... disregard your own emotions, but temporarily

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shut them down long enough to do what you have

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to do. This is a quality I know most men have,

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but recently in the current generation are unable

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to use. And I say that under the guise of, oh,

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you're supposed to be a man, you have to show

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that you're strong, you can't cry in front of

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a woman, you know, that whole masculinity thing.

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and i'm not saying that it's a good thing i'm

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not saying that men should be that way it's actually

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a bad thing because not being able to express

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your emotions at all speaking from experience

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because i'm unable to do so um makes it hard

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for people to understand you your actions and

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what you're trying to do now that's coming from

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the side of a person who like me in my situation

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i'm unable to uh display my emotions freely i

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have to have something to basically force it

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out of me, or have my girlfriend constantly get

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on my last everlasting nerve to the point where

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I have to show some type of emotion, even if

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it's the wrong thing entirely. Is this a trait

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that everybody should have and be able to use?

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Yes, women should be able to use this ability

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too. They should be able to suppress their emotions

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to think as rationally as possible, regardless

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of the circumstances, regardless of how mad or

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pissed off they are. But at the same time, the

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opposite is true as well. Men should also be

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able to access their emotions and use it when

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they need to, but not just because, you know,

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oh, he's burning hot mad or he's pissed off that

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such and such slept with whoever. That's not

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what I'm talking about. Those are justifiable

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reasons to be upset or show emotion like, oh,

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your mom just died. But what I'm saying is holding

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that in is not healthy. Okay. The more you fight.

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your emotions, the harder it is to control them.

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But at the same time, if you learn what triggers

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each emotion, you should be at some point able

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to indoctrinate yourself to the point where it's

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a mental state to act or be a certain way on

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command. Is this entirely possible? Yes. Is this

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probable? Something that's, you know, copyable,

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something that people can do continuously, religiously,

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repetitively. No, actually, it's not. Because

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if it was possible for people to actually do

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this and on a regular day -to -day basis be able

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to apply it to how they go about life and how

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they interact with their people, then it wouldn't

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be a problem that people have to consider or

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think about when it comes down to making a decision

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of what they want. Or don't want to do. From

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a day to day standpoint. Let's say you work a

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job. That really irritates the ever living hell

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out of you. To the point where when you come

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home. Let's say you have a significant other.

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I'm going to use my girlfriend for example. The

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job she has is really irritating. And it gets

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on her nerves. Hold that thought. Anyway. Her

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job, for what it is that she does, like I said,

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she used to work for a company that's kind of

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like CPS. She doesn't work for CPS. Okay, so

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she has to deal with people on a day -to -day

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basis. People who have kids, but don't raise

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their kids, don't take care of their kids, or

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they treat their kids wrong, or there's someone

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in the family that's abusive to kids. But for

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whatever reason... You know, no one's doing anything.

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Everyone's turning a blind eye to it. Or people

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just being stupid, or people calling in false

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reports. I mean, these are things that happen

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on a day -to -day basis, on an occurrence. Whether

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you have to visit someone in a jail cell, in

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their household, you have to inspect their house.

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I mean, come on. This is all standard CPS. At

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this point, if you don't know what CPS is, what

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they do, how they function, or how they work,

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you're leaving... In the Dark Ages. Okay, it's

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a regular occurrence. It's a government organization

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that exists. My point being this. Every time

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she comes home, she'll act like she's fine. She'll

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be like, oh, hey, love, how you doing? How you

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doing today? Are you okay? Did you get to sleep?

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She's more concerned about how I'm doing until

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I turn around and say, I'm fine, but how was

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your day? Now her emotions change. Her facial

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expressions change. Everything drops. I start

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getting non -responsive answers. I start seeing

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her voice tone drop as in it's like completely

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and utterly uninteresting. Oh, my day was fine.

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And then now I'm having to sit here and pick

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at her because I'm trying to get her to tell

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me what's going on. Is this normal? Should you

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do this? Definitely not. Do not go picking on

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your significant other or your partner. That's

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not smart. I do it because I know I can handle

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her response because I know how she's going to

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respond. I know that if I pick at her long enough,

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she'll get upset and she'll finally respond to

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me. But see, this is me intentionally aggravating

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a specific nerve that I know is going to cause

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her to become emotional. But I know if I don't

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make her emotional, she won't respond to me.

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There are some days where I don't have to do

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this at all. She'll come home and I'll be like,

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hey love, how's your day going? And the first

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thing out of her mouth is... God, today was irritating.

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People are freaking stupid. And then go on a

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rant about how her day went. This is an emotional

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response triggered by actions throughout the

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day. Usually she's pretty good at controlling

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herself. She's gotten better. And I praise her

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for that. But on the off, no, there are times

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and places where she just can't handle it. And

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it's beyond even her control because she's just

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so infuriated. Not because she's upset. Well,

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actually, it's mainly because she's upset. But

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not because she's pissed. Mostly due to the fact

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that stupidity in itself, and people are stupid

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no matter where you go, has a volley that everybody

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has a tolerance for, usually a very small amount,

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up to a certain degree. For me, I don't tolerate

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stupidity around me unless I absolutely have

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to, job -wise or not job -wise. But for a lot

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of people, Their patience wears thin within the

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first five minutes, especially of meeting somebody.

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Just to give an example, okay? Like, let's just

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say you're working at an office depot or a home

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depot. And someone comes in wanting to get their

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resume printed on resume paper. But on the counter,

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right there next to them is a book that says

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resume papers. You know, stuff that they can

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use and look through. And they still walk up

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to the counter and ask you, can I see your resume

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papers, please? Why, but the app froze. Anyway,

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so they're sitting right there. They ask you

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to see the resume papers for whatever reason.

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The book's there. We both know the book is there.

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You see the book is there. I see the book is

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there. But they're still asking you because they

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want to see it. It's like, hey, can I see the

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resume papers? Can I see the book or whatever?

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So you being probably like me going to be irritated

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by this level of stupidity. Like, do you not

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see this here or are you just blind or can you

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not read? So my response, my natural response

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is to just pick up the book and put it in front

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of them. Or. Your response may be as irritated

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as you probably are at the moment. To me, it's

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right there in front of you. Don't you see it?

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Of course, this is probably not the best response,

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but this is typically how 85 % of people are

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going to respond. Especially when you realize

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that it's something so obvious and so stupid.

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And then the typical response for that person

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is, Oh, I didn't realize it was there. Thank

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you. And then they look through it. Or, you're

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going to get the Karen response. What are you

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talking about? Are you saying I'm blind? Of course

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I knew it was here. I just wanted to make sure

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that this is the right one. Okay, now they're

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heated. But you see my point. If you're unable

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to control your emotions, regardless of how you

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feel about what people say, your responses become

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so abstract that they're either attacking or

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you're trying to defend yourself. Emotions are

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the most dangerous thing that a human has. I

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guess you could say emotions are what make us

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human, but at the same time, emotions is what

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causes a lot of problems. Humans kill other humans

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based off of an emotional feeling, thought, or

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pattern of some sort. Either you're jealous,

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you hate somebody, you don't like them, or you

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just simply want to see what it does. The only

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exception to this is people who are mentally

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out of it who need mental help. Like, they just

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like watching stuff burn. They like lighting

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stuff on fire. They like pulling the trigger

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of a gun because they like hearing how it sounds.

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You know, I like bowling. I like hearing pins

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fall when I throw a bowling ball. I wouldn't

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kill someone with a bowling ball, though. You

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know? And a lot of these people who like lighting

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stuff on fire, they don't want to kill nobody.

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Most people don't. Most of them don't have any

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intent of killing anybody. They just want to

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light a building on fire to see, oh, I want to

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see how this building burns. You know, that's

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just how they are. But you see, it's an emotional

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response. There's a trigger. Every emotional

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action that you do, there is a trigger that'll

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cause or make you do certain actions. Either

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it's going to be triggered by someone else, your

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own actions, or someone else's actions. What

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do you guys think? I know it's, what, 5 .40 in

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the morning? 5 .45? I know it's early. But, I

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mean, I want to hear from you guys. I want to

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hear your thoughts on this topic. I want to hear

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your thoughts on emotions, on how you feel or

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what you think you feel about the whole roundabout

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way of how emotions work. Because if I have to

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look at this analytically, like I said, in my

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mind, I don't think emotionally. Okay? I only

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add emotional responses later after I've already

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calculated how many different outcomes I'm going

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to use. I'm the typical type of guy that most

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people hate because I look at everything as cold

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hard facts. Not because, you know, I think the

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world is black and white. I look at it this way

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because it's, I guess the best way to put it

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for me is it's a survival instinct. More so for

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me than it is for other people. There are people

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who work in data analytics and stuff who look

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at data all day long and that's how they think.

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And they think that the world is black and white.

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For me, I look at it as black or white with a

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gray area in the middle only when necessary as

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a survival tactic. This is how my family raised

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me. This is how I am. This is how I was raised.

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Because I need to be able to put myself in a

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position where the most optimal position for

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me to survive is going to be effective. I can't

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let my emotions get in the way because then I

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can't think straight. If I think, hey, I need

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to eat, but... shelter is the main prerogative

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that I need more than eating because I just feel

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hungry, then yeah, I'm going to eat, but now

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I don't have anywhere to stay. But if I procure

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myself a place to stay first, then it'll be easier

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for me to get food later because I have somewhere

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to bring it back to and I can store it. See the

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thought process there? But of course, a lot of

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people aren't going to look at it this way. Like

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I said, people are prone to think with their

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emotions first because of how they feel or what

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they feel should be correct. A lot of times I

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get people asking me questions on, hey, what

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should I do about this situation? And my response

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is, do you want the logical answer or the emotional

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answer? 85 % of the time, people say they want

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the logical answer, but in reality, they want

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the emotional response. They want to know that

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their emotions are assured, that what they're

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doing is what they should be doing because that's

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what they want to do. so in this regard you know

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hey i just found out my girlfriend was cheating

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on me with this other guy but it's not entirely

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her fault because she did try to resist him and

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he kind of forced himself on him of course in

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that sentence he she he uh hold on let me rephrase

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what i was gonna say she didn't want it but he

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kind of forced himself on her there's two things

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wrong with this sentence and while She claimed

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that her friend or her girlfriend or whatever,

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or boyfriend, if it's a guy or girl, it doesn't

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matter. You decide based off your gender or non

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-gender. He claimed that he, I'm sorry, she,

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he claimed that she only cheated on her, on him

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because she was pressured into doing so by the

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other person. Okay. That makes sense. Where this

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sentence falls apart is that she initially resisted.

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Okay, initially resisted. Why didn't she keep

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resisting? Because nowadays, and I'm not going

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to deny this, and I know you guys can't deny

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it either, women have way more power wagging

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around in their finger than most guys. To the

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point where all they have to do is scream sexual

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assault and a guy gets arrested. This hasn't

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changed. If anything, it got worse. You know,

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but to each their own. That's a different topic.

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Okay. What I'm saying is that within the preface

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of what I'm saying is that you said initially

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she resisted, but then was pressured into it.

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Okay. Okay. But now I can look at this two ways.

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She resisted and he forced her to do it, but

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you didn't say she forced, she was forced. Or

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I could look at it the other way. She was either

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drugged or she wanted to do it, but she was hesitant

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until he coerced her to do it. That means that

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the only reason she did what she did, she either

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intended to do it from the get -go, but just

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really wasn't sure until someone added an emotional

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backing, allowing her or creating an opportunity

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for her to do it. Or the other one was she was

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drugged. And since we have already factored out

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that, the drugged option wasn't a possibility,

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it had to be the latter. Which means that at

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some point there was some level of attraction

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between her and the other person, guy or girl,

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doesn't matter, and she was basically coerced

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into doing so using some type of emotional response.

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But had she been able to control her emotions

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even just a little bit more than she did before,

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this whole situation would have been avoided,

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and the guy wouldn't be sitting there distraught

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that his girlfriend basically cheated on him

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from the get -go. Of course, now I gotta deal

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with him because, you know, he's obviously upset,

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and... You know, it's not right for people to

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take revenge even if the reason is justified

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because I don't want him to end up with his ass

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in jail just because he went and attacked the

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other person, male or female or trans or whatever.

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You know, because he's upset because that person

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took his girlfriend from him or caused her to

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do such and such or whatever. My response to

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him would be, do you want the logical response

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or do you want the emotional response? The logical

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response is to just let it go and move on. The

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emotional response is, how do you feel about

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the whole situation? Do you still care for her?

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And if so, do you still trust her? If we got

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into this point where, do you still care for

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her? And he says, yes, okay. Now we're at, do

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you trust her? Now there's a logical and an emotional

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response for this question too. Do you trust

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her? If the answer is no, walk away. If the answer

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is yes, do you think that you can still give

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her another shot? But then let's go back to the

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do you trust her or not? Let's say he said no.

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There are two options here. He could walk away.

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That's the logical response. The emotional response

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is you can still give her another chance, but

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now she's on a short leash. You see how that

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response doesn't seem right because a lot of

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people are going to pick that because they don't

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want to let it go. And that's because they're

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emotionally tied to that person now. They don't

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think they can live without them. They don't

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want to live without them. They want them to

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still be there with them, for them, while they're

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there. Everything that you do will have an emotional

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or a logical response. How you go about it and

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how you decide will be based purely on what you

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think you should or shouldn't do. Okay? And for

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each person, that's a little bit different. I

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don't know why I got in my car. I don't know

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why I did that. So, but this also depends on

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you. You can choose to take the emotional route

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throughout your day. You can choose to take the

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logical route throughout your day. Some responses

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don't even have an emotional option, but this

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also depends on what you do and where you work.

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If you work in a job setting, okay, usually when

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you're doing something, you have multiple different

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options of what you can and can't do. These are

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logical options because you're working on the

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job and these are things that you have and have

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not to do. However, let's say something happens

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at work while you're working on said project.

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You have option A, B, C, D, and E. But then someone

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of your coworkers does something that makes it

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so that options C, D, and E are not possible.

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However, you can still do them. But it can cause

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problems. This creates an object F. So now you

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have A, B, C, D, E, and F. But C, D, and E are

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not possible because of that coworker. However,

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they are possible with option F where you use

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an emotional response to get the job done. However,

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in doing so, now you made yourself a target for

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that person. This is a workplace experience.

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So you can take it how you will. But what I'm

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saying is just because someone's evil where you

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work and what they're doing doesn't mean you

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have to have the emotional response of retaliation.

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There are some places where this is justified,

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but 85 % of the time it's not. And I say this

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because if you're mainly focused on survival,

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let's say you like your job, okay? You really

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love your job. You get paid a lot. You know,

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your day -to -day life depends on this job. And

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unless you have another job lined up, you really

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don't want to risk it, right? So if that's the

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case, and you really want to keep this job, the

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emotional response should be the last possible

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option. Unless you're one of those people who

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love a good little bit of malicious compliance.

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At that point, all I can say is just make sure

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you cover your own butt. And if you've ever worked

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at fast food, then you understand covering your

00:24:05.519 --> 00:24:11.079
butt is a must. When you take the emotional response,

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you're always going to end up putting yourself

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in a position That usually creates a room for

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retaliation against you again. Remember. I'm

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pretty sure you've all heard the phrase, two

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wrongs don't make it right. And in this case,

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it does. But it applies mostly more to the emotional

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factor than the logical one. Is the logical answer

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usually going to be better? 85 % of the time,

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that is true. But in a workplace environment,

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this only depends on where you work, who you

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work with, and the people type you work with.

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If you work with the type of people who are nitpicky

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about the dumbest stuff or... they're the kind

00:24:45.319 --> 00:24:47.700
of people that likes to micromanage, then the

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emotional response is probably the worst option.

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Because at this point, if you start becoming

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emotionally triggered by certain things, or you

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start doing stuff based on your own emotions,

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then in this case, you're just leading into the

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fact that they're trying to trap you and you'll

00:25:02.819 --> 00:25:05.319
just walk right out the door, not realizing that

00:25:05.319 --> 00:25:07.539
you just fired yourself, even though they are

00:25:07.539 --> 00:25:09.920
the ones who were pulling the strings. You've

00:25:09.920 --> 00:25:12.640
turned yourself into a little puppet. If you,

00:25:12.660 --> 00:25:15.539
on the other hand, Take the logical approach

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and just wait it out. Yeah, your emotions are

00:25:18.460 --> 00:25:19.440
still going to be steaming. You're still going

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to be brewing like hot coffee in the morning

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when people are getting ready to go from a Starbucks.

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But if you just wait and bide your time, little

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by little, just watching what they're doing,

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taking note of everything, keeping a copy of

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every email, printing them out. Just keeping

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track of everything. If you wait long enough,

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an opportunity will present itself. Or, until

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you have enough evidence, you know, you can push

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it towards the union if you work under a union.

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You can push it towards corporate if you work

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under a corporate. Or if it's just some mom and

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pop shop, you know, you can push it towards legal.

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Because no matter where you live in the United

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States, employees are generally covered under

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employment laws that govern, for most companies,

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how you should get paid, how you should be treated.

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And obviously, Something that's apparently taken

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extremely seriously, especially now, is discrimination

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against race, color, and sex. Race, color, sex,

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oh, and your mental state. Because people who

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need ADA or, what's the word I'm looking for

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here? I'm trying to think. Handicap. Same category.

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I fell into the same category and I forgot what

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it was called. But, you know, discrimination

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of any kind is still wrong. And see, that's the

00:26:42.359 --> 00:26:44.500
other thing I want to talk about. On the topic

00:26:44.500 --> 00:26:49.920
of emotional and analytical responses. Let's

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talk about disability real quick. Because discrimination

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and disabilities kind of go hand in hand. Discrimination,

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let me see. I'm trying to think about how I'm

00:27:16.890 --> 00:27:21.470
going to word this. So, let's keep this simple,

00:27:21.470 --> 00:27:31.230
right? If... If you're being, okay. If you're

00:27:31.230 --> 00:27:32.710
a person who's with a disability, I'm pretty

00:27:32.710 --> 00:27:34.150
sure you've been discriminated against quite

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a bit. Because either people are entitled to

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the point where they think that, you know, Because

00:27:42.400 --> 00:27:45.220
you're crippled for whatever reason, because

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that's what a disability is, you're crippled

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in some way or another. Certain abilities or

00:27:48.420 --> 00:27:50.599
features of your body, limbs or whatever, just

00:27:50.599 --> 00:27:56.440
don't work like they should. Okay. I know, I

00:27:56.440 --> 00:27:59.880
know, I know. By definition, a lot of people

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were going to consider being crippled a person

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who can't walk. But technically, that's not true.

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A cripple is a person who has a limited use or

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mobility or range of use. for said limb or body

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part or feature. So you're either crippled by

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the fact that you can't see, you're crippled

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because you have arms but you can't use them,

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or you don't have hands, you have nubs, or you

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don't have legs, or you have leg nubs. It doesn't

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matter what the cripple issue is. Everybody's

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pretty much the same in that same category. Okay.

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There are people out there who don't believe

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that other people are crippled or whatnot because

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to them, okay, in their mind, and this is one

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of those, this is, no, here's where logic is

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a bad thing. Like I said, every situation depends

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on the person. In their mind, they're thinking,

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oh, their body is complete from head to toe.

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They must be able to use their hands and feet.

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So if they see you sitting in a wheelchair or

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walking with crutches, in their mind, unless

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they see a cast or something that clearly displays

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that you're an injured person or you need those

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items, they're like, oh, you're not crippled.

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You're just faking being one. And then they try

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to lay out some whack logic that doesn't make

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any sense. And it doesn't make sense because

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if you're trying to be logical in any sense of

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the word, it should make sense, right? Everything

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should follow a set string, a set direction.

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It's like when you solve a math problem. You

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have to start at the beginning and go to the

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end. Obviously, if you're going to add up something,

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I'm not talking about advanced math. I'm trying

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to keep this as simple as possible. If you add

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4 plus 4, you get 8. You're not going to add

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4 plus 4 and get 12. That doesn't make any sense.

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You see what I'm saying? And a lot of the times

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when I hear these stories, it's a person saying,

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oh, you're not cripple or you're not... handicap

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you have both your legs and hands so you should

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be able to walk why are you sitting in that wheelchair

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give it to someone who needs it or in parking

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space areas you know there are now parking spaces

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for family with children where adults or moms

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or dads who have little ones who need to get

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out quickly to get to the store to get what they

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need and leave like infants or whatever those

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spaces are available some stores have them some

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walmart some kroger's i think they call them

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um uh What's the word? For moms that are carrying

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or for parents who have little bitty kids or

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babies or whatever. They're in the very, very

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front of the store. Usually there's like one

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or two spaces specified for that. It's becoming

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more of an occurrence now than it used to be,

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but it's there. And there are people who have

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complained that watching... And this is the one

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that got on my nerves the other day. So this

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is my emotional response to this. A dad got out

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with his, I think he had an eight -month -old

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child and a one -year -old. And he parked in

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that space and he was getting ready to leave.

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And this lady, I don't know where, came out of

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nowhere. And so I fussed at him for parking in

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that space saying it's for women with children,

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even though the sign doesn't clearly say that.

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It says customers with kids. That's what the

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sign said. And complained that he was parking

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in that space illegally and that he needed to

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move because it was for people like her who have

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three kids in her car, all of which are of the

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age range between 8 and 12. Which, when you consider

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this, yeah, she has kids. But does she really

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need to be parked that far in the front? No,

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she really doesn't because everybody's old enough

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to be able to walk on their own. I can see the

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eight -year -old maybe needing to walk next to

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her mom, but she's not in dire need of that parking

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space. You see what I'm saying? It's just a level

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of entitlement at this point. She tried to declare

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that the space was valid for him using logic

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based off of her emotions. This is something

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that you should never do. If you're going to

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apply logic to something, you first need to eliminate

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the emotional factor. Because as soon as your

00:32:16.099 --> 00:32:18.500
emotions start to inflict on your logic of what

00:32:18.500 --> 00:32:22.039
you're trying to create, whatever it is, it skews

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your logic because you're trying to prove the

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point that you're right. And 85 % of the time,

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being right is not the best answer. Obviously,

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in relationships, this is applied because what

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was the phrase years ago that used to be true?

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Happy wife, happy life. Obviously being rational

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in thought when that thought process was still

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legit and believable, you know, before everyone

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decided that they were going to be equal and

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regardless of how the stands work or the fact

00:32:51.839 --> 00:32:53.460
that no one's really getting married anymore

00:32:53.460 --> 00:32:56.279
nowadays out of fear or just lack of commitment,

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but whatever. Under the guise of happy wife,

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happy life, the understanding is that as long

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as she's happy, regardless of how she feels,

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or regardless of how the guy feels, which I'm

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going to be honest with you, 85 % of the time,

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he feels like crap. And I've watched it happen.

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As long as she's happy, he gets to have a good

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day. If we're going to talk about the fairity

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of how logic works, that whole ideology is skewed.

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Because that means that... as long as it's emotional

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based, as long as her emotions are intact, it's

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basically what it's saying. However she felt

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that day, he gets to have a good day. Or nowadays,

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if that still is true, you know, she gets to

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have a good day because, you know, you can have

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a woman -on -woman marriage or whatever. You

00:33:45.319 --> 00:33:47.670
can't apply logic to this. But if you listen

00:33:47.670 --> 00:33:49.670
to the logic behind the whole thought process

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of how it's supposed to work, it shouldn't work.

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Because that's not fair. Emotions and logic cannot

00:33:57.069 --> 00:34:01.250
be applied together if fairity is an issue. Because

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it doesn't work that way. If you want a fair

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household where everybody is an equal opportunity

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employer of the way the rules work, then it has

00:34:11.030 --> 00:34:13.849
to be applied to both sides. It can't not be

00:34:13.849 --> 00:34:16.489
applied to only one side. If you've ever done

00:34:16.489 --> 00:34:19.250
math or ever done any form of algebra, you know

00:34:19.250 --> 00:34:21.250
that when you solve an equation, both sides have

00:34:21.250 --> 00:34:23.269
to be equal for it to be a balanced equation.

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That's the only way it works. Otherwise, you're

00:34:26.389 --> 00:34:28.789
solving it like a regular math problem, like

00:34:28.789 --> 00:34:33.449
2 plus 2 is 4. So when it comes to relationships,

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if you want it to be equal and fair under the

00:34:36.269 --> 00:34:38.269
guise that, you know, you're still using the

00:34:38.269 --> 00:34:40.809
happy wife, happy life scenario, then that means

00:34:40.809 --> 00:34:43.690
that it needs to be the same in reverse as well.

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She shouldn't be happy and satisfied if her man

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isn't happy or satisfied or a woman if she's

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married to a female. I'm not going to keep specifying

00:34:55.530 --> 00:34:57.289
that every time, okay? I'm just going to say

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that once that I don't care what the orientation

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is or who you're married to. I'm just using the

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traditional sense because it's the easiest one

00:35:04.489 --> 00:35:07.929
I can reference at the moment. And it's less

00:35:07.929 --> 00:35:12.150
stuff to say every single time. Okay, but my

00:35:12.150 --> 00:35:16.750
point is this. If it's going to be fair for him...

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then she has to also contribute as well. Remember,

00:35:20.260 --> 00:35:22.440
relationships are two -sided. We don't live in

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the time frame anymore where the guy just goes

00:35:24.079 --> 00:35:25.920
to work and the lady stays home as a homemaker.

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That's not possible anymore, especially now,

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because people now have to get two or three jobs

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or get paid minimum, hear me, minimum $55 an

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hour or more just to be able to afford a regular

00:35:39.179 --> 00:35:42.599
apartment that has one or two bedrooms. Even

00:35:42.599 --> 00:35:48.130
an efficiency now starts out minimum $350. That's

00:35:48.130 --> 00:35:52.010
unheard of. So my point being this, if the household

00:35:52.010 --> 00:35:54.329
is to work and both partners are supposed to

00:35:54.329 --> 00:35:56.329
contribute, then that means that both partners'

00:35:56.429 --> 00:35:59.050
happiness should depend on each other, not one

00:35:59.050 --> 00:36:01.190
or the other. It would be different if the wife

00:36:01.190 --> 00:36:04.269
stayed home in this scenario. But if she's working

00:36:04.269 --> 00:36:08.170
just like he is, then that whole philosophy...

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Of her being happy so he's happy isn't true anymore.

00:36:12.039 --> 00:36:14.539
It can't be true. Because that means that they

00:36:14.539 --> 00:36:17.099
both have to be happy to some extent. She can't

00:36:17.099 --> 00:36:19.320
come home complaining about how bad her day was.

00:36:19.500 --> 00:36:22.099
And expect him to understand and not ask him

00:36:22.099 --> 00:36:26.539
how his day was. That's not fair. Because that

00:36:26.539 --> 00:36:28.940
means that she comes home to drop her heavy load

00:36:28.940 --> 00:36:32.900
on him. He still has his heavy load. He's unable

00:36:32.900 --> 00:36:35.360
to talk to her about it. Because one of two reasons.

00:36:35.380 --> 00:36:37.760
Either he's being macho and trying to be a man

00:36:37.760 --> 00:36:39.500
about it. Which is not helpful. Because that

00:36:39.500 --> 00:36:41.320
means it's going to emotionally tear him apart.

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This creates stress. Which is why a lot of guys'

00:36:44.639 --> 00:36:47.199
hairs turn white before women's do. Unless they

00:36:47.199 --> 00:36:49.639
have kids. Which is a whole other issue. Or their

00:36:49.639 --> 00:36:51.760
lifestyle is already stressful. So there's that.

00:36:53.400 --> 00:36:56.599
And it just puts more emotional strain on him.

00:36:57.239 --> 00:36:59.119
And since guys aren't ones to talk about their

00:36:59.119 --> 00:37:02.309
emotions. Except nowadays. They're not going

00:37:02.309 --> 00:37:03.530
to say anything. They're just going to sit there

00:37:03.530 --> 00:37:06.309
quietly because that's how it was. Especially

00:37:06.309 --> 00:37:08.070
for millennials. If you're a millennial in this

00:37:08.070 --> 00:37:13.210
audience, you already understand this. You're

00:37:13.210 --> 00:37:15.030
going to work yourself to the bone, not think

00:37:15.030 --> 00:37:17.469
nothing about it, and just do what you have to

00:37:17.469 --> 00:37:22.949
do to survive. And it's just how it was. It still

00:37:22.949 --> 00:37:24.670
kind of is that way now, it's just a lot worse.

00:37:25.889 --> 00:37:28.530
But it's the general consensus of the thought.

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It's something that has been this way for years,

00:37:31.230 --> 00:37:33.090
and they're trying to change the dynamic. And

00:37:33.090 --> 00:37:34.590
I'm happy they're trying to change the dynamic.

00:37:34.769 --> 00:37:36.590
But in the response to them trying to change

00:37:36.590 --> 00:37:38.809
the dynamic, they're also making an environment

00:37:38.809 --> 00:37:41.150
that's not healthy or safe for anyone to live

00:37:41.150 --> 00:37:44.590
in. Also, keep in mind that now that the family

00:37:44.590 --> 00:37:49.989
aspect has been taken to the point where women

00:37:49.989 --> 00:37:55.090
and their husbands, or women and their women,

00:37:55.150 --> 00:37:58.190
or husbands and their husbands, I don't know.

00:37:58.639 --> 00:38:01.619
whatever works for you, are now both working?

00:38:03.400 --> 00:38:06.199
Now, ask yourself this. Since we're talking about

00:38:06.199 --> 00:38:10.780
emotional and logical answers, how is this going

00:38:10.780 --> 00:38:13.059
to affect the kid and is it healthy for the child?

00:38:16.159 --> 00:38:17.559
How is it going to affect the kid? It's going

00:38:17.559 --> 00:38:19.179
to affect the kid on an emotional note because

00:38:19.179 --> 00:38:22.300
one, neither parent is present enough to give

00:38:22.300 --> 00:38:23.639
them the love and attention and affection they

00:38:23.639 --> 00:38:27.099
need to help them grow. Is this healthy for the

00:38:27.099 --> 00:38:31.199
kid? No. It's not. And it never will be unless

00:38:31.199 --> 00:38:33.460
one of them either gives in and spends more time

00:38:33.460 --> 00:38:36.900
with the kid or they make a more proactive choice

00:38:36.900 --> 00:38:40.699
to be more involved in his life regardless of

00:38:40.699 --> 00:38:42.380
the fact that neither one of them are home. Now,

00:38:42.420 --> 00:38:44.500
here's the thing. If the kid is in school during

00:38:44.500 --> 00:38:46.480
the day, it's perfectly fine for both husband

00:38:46.480 --> 00:38:49.940
and wife to be at work, obviously. But then there's

00:38:49.940 --> 00:38:51.480
the other fact. You got to remember that you're

00:38:51.480 --> 00:38:55.519
married. So your actions that you do when you're

00:38:55.519 --> 00:38:58.719
out in the workforce. affect how your home life

00:38:58.719 --> 00:39:01.480
is going to be the more open you are with people

00:39:01.480 --> 00:39:04.460
on the outside the more of an open chance it

00:39:04.460 --> 00:39:06.880
creates for them to attack your home life especially

00:39:06.880 --> 00:39:09.380
if they don't like you or they don't like your

00:39:09.380 --> 00:39:11.880
husband or they don't like your kid and the more

00:39:11.880 --> 00:39:14.139
information they have about you and your family

00:39:14.139 --> 00:39:16.539
the more of an opportunity or a chance it gives

00:39:16.539 --> 00:39:21.300
them to come after you The more appropriate response

00:39:21.300 --> 00:39:24.760
here would be to just not do anything. Just go

00:39:24.760 --> 00:39:27.880
to work, be friendly, but keep your home life

00:39:27.880 --> 00:39:31.320
out of it. A lot of people tend to get emotional.

00:39:31.320 --> 00:39:33.699
They tend to think about, oh, I heard about that

00:39:33.699 --> 00:39:36.019
and start talking about family life and talking

00:39:36.019 --> 00:39:38.800
about their home situations regarding that said

00:39:38.800 --> 00:39:41.320
topic to the point where, oh, now I have a friend

00:39:41.320 --> 00:39:43.320
at work. I can talk to them about anything. How

00:39:43.320 --> 00:39:44.719
do you know you have a friend at work? You don't

00:39:44.719 --> 00:39:47.710
know that. People tend to create emotional connections

00:39:47.710 --> 00:39:49.170
with other people because they want to get a

00:39:49.170 --> 00:39:50.750
response out of them. They want to get an action

00:39:50.750 --> 00:39:53.489
out of them. They want to make them do something.

00:39:54.469 --> 00:39:56.550
I've often heard the phrase that, oh, my girlfriend's

00:39:56.550 --> 00:39:57.869
just doing that because she wants to get a rise

00:39:57.869 --> 00:40:01.769
out of me. And my response to this is this. If

00:40:01.769 --> 00:40:03.869
you know she's doing that to get a rise out of

00:40:03.869 --> 00:40:06.789
you, why haven't you put a stop to it? You can't

00:40:06.789 --> 00:40:09.349
sit here and tell me that that's just how she

00:40:09.349 --> 00:40:12.360
is. I can't make her stop. Yes, you can. Actually,

00:40:12.420 --> 00:40:14.119
a matter of fact, you can. You can make anybody

00:40:14.119 --> 00:40:17.500
who's doing you wrong stop at any time. Or you

00:40:17.500 --> 00:40:20.480
can just walk away. It's as simple as that. You

00:40:20.480 --> 00:40:22.360
don't have to sit there and take it. That's bullying.

00:40:23.179 --> 00:40:26.000
Essentially by its definition. Again, utilizing

00:40:26.000 --> 00:40:28.739
a person's emotional response to trigger a certain

00:40:28.739 --> 00:40:30.880
action and cause them to do or be a certain way.

00:40:31.099 --> 00:40:33.079
My thing is this. If someone is doing something

00:40:33.079 --> 00:40:36.460
that they're hurting you. Okay? If they're doing

00:40:36.460 --> 00:40:38.800
something and it's hurting you. And it's causing

00:40:38.800 --> 00:40:41.980
you to either be upset, sad, or dismembered in

00:40:41.980 --> 00:40:45.019
some way mentally because of what they're doing.

00:40:45.139 --> 00:40:47.440
That means they're not attacking you. They're

00:40:47.440 --> 00:40:49.699
attacking your emotions. They're trying to get

00:40:49.699 --> 00:40:55.000
you to mentally break. Okay? And while mentally

00:40:55.000 --> 00:40:56.699
breaking someone is not a healthy discourse,

00:40:56.960 --> 00:40:59.320
it is more than likely a way of getting people

00:40:59.320 --> 00:41:02.019
to do whatever they want. People who market a

00:41:02.019 --> 00:41:04.889
lot of stuff... They focus on this aspect, which

00:41:04.889 --> 00:41:06.969
is why years ago, before we got to the point

00:41:06.969 --> 00:41:09.070
where we are now, people were afraid of people

00:41:09.070 --> 00:41:12.050
who went to the store and marketed things, especially

00:41:12.050 --> 00:41:14.650
people who did door -to -door sales, for obvious

00:41:14.650 --> 00:41:22.369
reasons. Because they focused on hitting the

00:41:22.369 --> 00:41:26.190
woman at home while the guy was at work. And

00:41:26.190 --> 00:41:28.900
in this regard, By targeting the woman at home

00:41:28.900 --> 00:41:31.960
while the man was at work, they managed to always,

00:41:32.019 --> 00:41:34.500
in some way or another, coerce her into buying

00:41:34.500 --> 00:41:37.300
something that they didn't need. Which is why

00:41:37.300 --> 00:41:39.159
door -to -door sales nowadays, or soliciting,

00:41:39.219 --> 00:41:42.159
is generally not as common as it used to be,

00:41:42.199 --> 00:41:43.400
to the point where people are now hanging signs

00:41:43.400 --> 00:41:46.559
on their doors, Do not solicit, I will harm you,

00:41:46.599 --> 00:41:48.659
or some type of threat in some way or another.

00:41:55.319 --> 00:41:57.820
Emotional threats, emotional backing, emotional

00:41:57.820 --> 00:42:01.000
support, and emotional targeting are all clear

00:42:01.000 --> 00:42:02.739
schemes that other people or other companies

00:42:02.739 --> 00:42:05.000
use to make you do whatever they want you to

00:42:05.000 --> 00:42:07.960
do. Let's say you work for a corporate company.

00:42:09.300 --> 00:42:11.039
You like the company. You're working there to

00:42:11.039 --> 00:42:14.760
do whatever you can. Let's say the company has

00:42:14.760 --> 00:42:16.380
issues. They're running into problems. They're

00:42:16.380 --> 00:42:18.300
trying to make all their numbers work. They're

00:42:18.300 --> 00:42:20.280
trying to get their things back within range

00:42:20.280 --> 00:42:24.179
where it's safe and it's healthy. Okay? They

00:42:24.179 --> 00:42:25.699
don't know what the issue is, but they have a

00:42:25.699 --> 00:42:27.480
manager there who they task with trying to figure

00:42:27.480 --> 00:42:29.519
out what the problem is and resolve it. Let's

00:42:29.519 --> 00:42:31.219
say instead of solving the problem, the manager

00:42:31.219 --> 00:42:33.460
decides to cut everyone's overtime, but then

00:42:33.460 --> 00:42:37.199
makes them do the same amount of work. Of course,

00:42:37.199 --> 00:42:38.760
this isn't going to sit well with anybody and

00:42:38.760 --> 00:42:40.139
a lot of people are going to protest, but how

00:42:40.139 --> 00:42:42.179
do you think he's going to respond? He's like,

00:42:42.199 --> 00:42:44.360
oh, well, if you don't like it, you can just

00:42:44.360 --> 00:42:48.059
go ahead and quit. I can replace you. This is

00:42:48.059 --> 00:42:51.159
an attack on your emotional state because mentally

00:42:51.159 --> 00:42:53.400
you're like. Oh, yeah, I can get another job.

00:42:53.760 --> 00:42:56.280
But because you're already invested in this company,

00:42:56.360 --> 00:42:57.780
you're already in a certain position where you're

00:42:57.780 --> 00:43:00.579
making a decent amount of money. You're going

00:43:00.579 --> 00:43:03.199
to retract and not fight back because you don't

00:43:03.199 --> 00:43:06.840
want to lose your job. Now, if you're a person

00:43:06.840 --> 00:43:08.760
who has a stronger will, this isn't going to

00:43:08.760 --> 00:43:10.420
affect you. And that's a whole different topic

00:43:10.420 --> 00:43:12.039
on its own. But let me go ahead and point out

00:43:12.039 --> 00:43:14.860
that a personal's emotional state and the level

00:43:14.860 --> 00:43:17.500
of their ability to control it is based off of

00:43:17.500 --> 00:43:21.000
that person's willpower. A lot of people start

00:43:21.000 --> 00:43:22.559
off with a high amount of willpower and self

00:43:22.559 --> 00:43:25.139
-esteem. But over time, especially when going

00:43:25.139 --> 00:43:26.980
through public school, that self -esteem can

00:43:26.980 --> 00:43:29.820
either go up or down based off of how you interact

00:43:29.820 --> 00:43:32.659
with other people. Usually the people who are

00:43:32.659 --> 00:43:35.099
in school who've been bullied or had to suffer

00:43:35.099 --> 00:43:37.139
the worst, usually when they get out, usually

00:43:37.139 --> 00:43:40.280
their self -esteem isn't exactly high, but their

00:43:40.280 --> 00:43:42.460
willpower to do what they can to survive will

00:43:42.460 --> 00:43:45.219
be. So they're able to endure a lot more because

00:43:45.219 --> 00:43:47.380
in their mind, they endured worse when they were

00:43:47.380 --> 00:43:49.610
younger. But as for the ones who didn't have

00:43:49.610 --> 00:43:52.610
to endure this crap, let's say you had that bully

00:43:52.610 --> 00:43:55.510
football player jock that constantly beats you

00:43:55.510 --> 00:43:58.329
down. Well, now he's in that position where he's

00:43:58.329 --> 00:44:00.730
under you. You're the nerd in charge. And you're

00:44:00.730 --> 00:44:02.849
like, hey, if you don't get your act together,

00:44:02.989 --> 00:44:05.010
I'm going to have to fire you. Okay, well, now

00:44:05.010 --> 00:44:07.530
he's in a sense of fear and panic because in

00:44:07.530 --> 00:44:10.809
his mind, oh, shit, I need this job. I can't

00:44:10.809 --> 00:44:12.489
get anything else because I can't play football

00:44:12.489 --> 00:44:14.429
anymore because let's just say he tore his ACL

00:44:14.429 --> 00:44:18.119
and he can't run no more. Now he's in the position

00:44:18.119 --> 00:44:20.980
of fear because his self -esteem and willpower

00:44:20.980 --> 00:44:23.119
to fight back to make sure he keeps his job is

00:44:23.119 --> 00:44:26.079
gone Now he's like okay. Yes, sir. I'll do as

00:44:26.079 --> 00:44:31.679
you say because I want to keep my job The weight

00:44:31.679 --> 00:44:33.539
of emotions on a person's psyche and how they

00:44:33.539 --> 00:44:35.820
react and do things is based off of the amount

00:44:35.820 --> 00:44:39.059
of willpower and amount of self -confidence that

00:44:39.059 --> 00:44:41.920
a person has. If they don't have any, then it's

00:44:41.920 --> 00:44:43.599
going to be easier for them to subject to whoever

00:44:43.599 --> 00:44:46.239
the stronger power is. This is why a lot of countries

00:44:46.239 --> 00:44:49.000
are easy to take over, and a lot of these monarchs

00:44:49.000 --> 00:44:50.500
don't have to go through and kill a lot of people.

00:44:50.559 --> 00:44:52.000
They just have to kill significant people that

00:44:52.000 --> 00:44:54.539
people consider idolized, which is not a good

00:44:54.539 --> 00:44:58.559
thing. You know, biblically and all that. And

00:44:58.559 --> 00:45:00.059
then take control of everybody and point guns

00:45:00.059 --> 00:45:01.780
at everyone that says, hey, if you disobey me,

00:45:01.820 --> 00:45:04.519
I'll just kill you. We both know he's not going

00:45:04.519 --> 00:45:06.400
to do it because then he doesn't have any people

00:45:06.400 --> 00:45:08.699
to rule over. But the people standing there don't

00:45:08.699 --> 00:45:11.179
realize that. In their mind, they're afraid.

00:45:12.000 --> 00:45:13.559
Because they just watched a guy that they highly

00:45:13.559 --> 00:45:17.760
respected get shot down in front of them. It's

00:45:17.760 --> 00:45:20.639
a mental game. They intentionally trick you into

00:45:20.639 --> 00:45:22.360
thinking that they're going to do something when

00:45:22.360 --> 00:45:24.639
they're not. It's how robbers are able to get

00:45:24.639 --> 00:45:26.320
away with robbing people. They point a gun in

00:45:26.320 --> 00:45:28.099
your face. It could be a fake gun. You don't

00:45:28.099 --> 00:45:29.969
know that. Make a point of gunning your face

00:45:29.969 --> 00:45:31.750
and say, give me all the cash in your register.

00:45:31.849 --> 00:45:33.849
You're going to do it. Not because policy says

00:45:33.849 --> 00:45:35.610
to do it, but because you don't want to get shot

00:45:35.610 --> 00:45:39.389
in the face. And while this sounds like, oh,

00:45:39.389 --> 00:45:41.030
this is just common sense. People are going to

00:45:41.030 --> 00:45:48.269
do this regardless. No, it's a fear tactic. But

00:45:48.269 --> 00:45:50.349
yeah, that's the general idea. The general sense

00:45:50.349 --> 00:45:52.889
is between logic and emotional response. People

00:45:52.889 --> 00:45:56.630
know logically that if they push you to a certain

00:45:56.630 --> 00:45:59.699
point. They can get an emotional rise out of

00:45:59.699 --> 00:46:01.780
you and make you do whatever they want. This

00:46:01.780 --> 00:46:04.460
is why adding logic to emotion is a bad idea.

00:46:05.559 --> 00:46:07.579
It's something that should be avoided at all

00:46:07.579 --> 00:46:10.139
costs. But because marketing companies thrive

00:46:10.139 --> 00:46:12.840
on making money and getting businesses to sell

00:46:12.840 --> 00:46:15.320
their stuff by making you buy stuff you don't

00:46:15.320 --> 00:46:17.960
need, they have to employ this tactic. But at

00:46:17.960 --> 00:46:31.369
the same time, it's a double -edged sword. What

00:46:31.369 --> 00:46:38.050
about you, listener? What do you think? Have

00:46:38.050 --> 00:46:39.969
I hit the point on the head? Have I hit the nail

00:46:39.969 --> 00:46:42.130
on the head? Or are there other points to be

00:46:42.130 --> 00:46:45.429
made? Or do you disagree with me? In any regard.

00:46:46.010 --> 00:46:47.889
Do you think I'm wrong? Do you think I missed

00:46:47.889 --> 00:46:50.030
something? Let me hear your thoughts. Let me

00:46:50.030 --> 00:46:56.869
hear what you have to say. You know. I'm not

00:46:56.869 --> 00:47:01.309
going through... research papers and looking

00:47:01.309 --> 00:47:04.309
this stuff up online and doing scientific research.

00:47:04.849 --> 00:47:09.010
I don't have to. The work's already done. And

00:47:09.010 --> 00:47:11.570
the very proof that all of this exists is under

00:47:11.570 --> 00:47:14.650
the guise of everyday life. We all go through

00:47:14.650 --> 00:47:18.809
it. We all see it. We all interact with it. Unfortunately,

00:47:18.929 --> 00:47:21.250
in my case, I don't have the ability to use my

00:47:21.250 --> 00:47:23.929
emotions like everybody else, but because I understand

00:47:23.929 --> 00:47:26.710
the basic concept of what an emotion is and how

00:47:26.710 --> 00:47:30.989
most of them work. That same marketing tactic

00:47:30.989 --> 00:47:33.849
I can use to get my way by leveraging people

00:47:33.849 --> 00:47:36.769
to do what I want them to do, but in the position

00:47:36.769 --> 00:47:38.389
of forcing them, making them think that what

00:47:38.389 --> 00:47:43.869
they're trying to do is their idea and not mine.

00:47:46.230 --> 00:47:48.949
Think of it like subliminally programming someone

00:47:48.949 --> 00:47:51.190
to do something, which is what the boob tube

00:47:51.190 --> 00:47:53.949
or TV set does every day when you sit there and

00:47:53.949 --> 00:47:57.690
watch the news. To each their own with that logic.

00:48:07.820 --> 00:48:11.840
At any rate, in these last three minutes, I'm

00:48:11.840 --> 00:48:13.219
going to open the floor up. Anyone who wants

00:48:13.219 --> 00:48:21.239
to say anything, feel free. I'm all ears. I'd

00:48:21.239 --> 00:48:23.199
love to hear your thoughts and concerns or opinions

00:48:23.199 --> 00:48:31.079
on most of these topics. Moving forward. Like

00:48:31.079 --> 00:48:33.860
I said, for each one of these episodes, for each

00:48:33.860 --> 00:48:35.639
one of these discussions, live discussions and

00:48:35.639 --> 00:48:43.090
talks, They'll be posted to my podcast channel.

00:48:44.949 --> 00:48:46.550
So you can go back and listen to them later if

00:48:46.550 --> 00:48:47.909
you're not able to listen to it on this platform

00:48:47.909 --> 00:48:51.429
on Food for Thought by Dark Cancer Productions.

00:48:51.530 --> 00:48:55.570
But like I said, every day is a different day.

00:48:55.670 --> 00:48:57.550
How we go about what we do every day is what

00:48:57.550 --> 00:49:01.159
makes our day more. how you feel about that day,

00:49:01.219 --> 00:49:03.159
how you think your day is going to go, how you

00:49:03.159 --> 00:49:05.260
steel yourself to handle that day, and how you

00:49:05.260 --> 00:49:07.000
steel yourself to handle all that's happening.

00:49:08.599 --> 00:49:12.579
Every little thing matters. You may not think

00:49:12.579 --> 00:49:15.239
so. You may not act so. You may think, oh, I

00:49:15.239 --> 00:49:16.500
just wake up every morning and I go to work.

00:49:18.460 --> 00:49:20.179
But what you need to know is that if you're married

00:49:20.179 --> 00:49:26.340
and you have a partner, right? How you start

00:49:26.340 --> 00:49:28.039
that day with your partner determines how your

00:49:28.039 --> 00:49:29.679
partner's day is going to play out and if they're

00:49:29.679 --> 00:49:33.300
going to be able to steal themselves to go about

00:49:33.300 --> 00:49:35.500
the day regardless of what's going to come and

00:49:35.500 --> 00:49:39.960
beat them down to the ground. Remember, even

00:49:39.960 --> 00:49:41.980
if you're a fighter and you can handle this emotional

00:49:41.980 --> 00:49:45.179
stress from bullies and other people pushing

00:49:45.179 --> 00:49:48.820
you and pushing you and backing you into a corner,

00:49:49.179 --> 00:49:52.920
the other person may not be able to. And don't

00:49:52.920 --> 00:49:54.840
be so self -conscious that you only think about

00:49:54.840 --> 00:49:56.800
defending yourself. There are people out there

00:49:56.800 --> 00:49:59.519
who need help, not because they're in danger,

00:49:59.699 --> 00:50:02.179
not because they're going to get hurt, not because

00:50:02.179 --> 00:50:06.320
they lack the skill to do anything. No, they're

00:50:06.320 --> 00:50:08.000
going to need your help because, like I said,

00:50:08.039 --> 00:50:10.599
not everybody has the willpower. Not everybody

00:50:10.599 --> 00:50:13.940
has that same mental fortitude. Obviously, not

00:50:13.940 --> 00:50:16.400
everyone is like me who doesn't have the emotional

00:50:16.400 --> 00:50:20.079
thought processes at all. I'm a special case,

00:50:20.239 --> 00:50:24.210
one of the few. Now, there are times I wish I

00:50:24.210 --> 00:50:25.929
could use my emotions like other people, because

00:50:25.929 --> 00:50:27.710
then I can transcribe my emotions better and

00:50:27.710 --> 00:50:30.190
explain them to people, but I can't. Half the

00:50:30.190 --> 00:50:31.929
time, I don't know how I feel about a topic.

00:50:32.349 --> 00:50:35.909
Like, things that should make me mad, I'm just

00:50:35.909 --> 00:50:38.190
slightly irritated by, or I just don't care.

00:50:39.150 --> 00:50:41.829
I've watched six family members die, and I have

00:50:41.829 --> 00:50:45.429
yet to cry or feel sad about any of them. And

00:50:45.429 --> 00:50:46.949
I'm pretty sure a lot of you out there listening

00:50:46.949 --> 00:50:49.289
to me right now are going to be like, that ain't

00:50:49.289 --> 00:50:51.780
normal. Because I know my girlfriend told me

00:50:51.780 --> 00:50:54.239
it wasn't normal. She never explained why it

00:50:54.239 --> 00:50:56.340
wasn't normal. I still don't know why that's

00:50:56.340 --> 00:50:58.380
not normal. A lot of people would tell me, oh,

00:50:58.460 --> 00:51:00.820
everyone just kind of, you know, grieves differently.

00:51:01.719 --> 00:51:04.380
That may be. But that would mean that I'm in

00:51:04.380 --> 00:51:07.820
a state of grief. And I'm not. If you understand

00:51:07.820 --> 00:51:22.400
where I'm coming from. At any rate, like I said,

00:51:22.500 --> 00:51:24.800
if you enjoy listening to what I have to say,

00:51:24.920 --> 00:51:27.159
or you want to see me cover a different topic,

00:51:27.420 --> 00:51:29.559
or you have your own questions about things that

00:51:29.559 --> 00:51:31.780
you want me to answer, go ahead and shoot me

00:51:31.780 --> 00:51:34.719
a question here on Wisdom. It's been a great

00:51:34.719 --> 00:51:36.559
place to talk to you guys, hear your thoughts,

00:51:36.820 --> 00:51:39.480
or just have you all listen to whatever random

00:51:39.480 --> 00:51:41.739
nonsense comes out of my head for whatever reason

00:51:41.739 --> 00:51:43.679
I decided to go look it up. Usually most of the

00:51:43.679 --> 00:51:47.099
topics I discuss are because I got bored, thought

00:51:47.099 --> 00:51:49.389
the topic was interesting, Went and researched

00:51:49.389 --> 00:51:51.070
it and decided to come here and talk about it

00:51:51.070 --> 00:51:52.650
and hear what you guys had to say. It's a learning

00:51:52.650 --> 00:51:55.449
experience for both of us. The app's called Wisdom

00:51:55.449 --> 00:51:57.690
for a reason. We share our wisdom with each other

00:51:57.690 --> 00:52:01.690
to help each other grow and move forward. Whether

00:52:01.690 --> 00:52:04.929
physically, emotionally, logically, or verbally.

00:52:05.710 --> 00:52:07.650
Obviously, we can't do it written on paper because

00:52:07.650 --> 00:52:10.449
paper can't tell you how a person feels, just

00:52:10.449 --> 00:52:12.489
what they're thinking. And the same goes for

00:52:12.489 --> 00:52:15.329
text messages. Actually, before I go, let me

00:52:15.329 --> 00:52:17.719
go ahead and hit on that real quick. Text messaging

00:52:17.719 --> 00:52:20.239
someone how you feel is a bad idea from the get

00:52:20.239 --> 00:52:23.159
-go. Messages cannot survey how you feel. And

00:52:23.159 --> 00:52:26.699
while emojis give a temporary simulation, they

00:52:26.699 --> 00:52:28.940
can also be mistranslated depending on the person

00:52:28.940 --> 00:52:31.820
that they're being sent to. And unless that person

00:52:31.820 --> 00:52:34.639
knows you well enough, they're not going to understand

00:52:34.639 --> 00:52:36.579
what you're saying. It's like a person who's

00:52:36.579 --> 00:52:38.860
replying to someone and they just said, okay.

00:52:39.420 --> 00:52:42.699
Or if they say, just okay. If you say, okay,

00:52:42.739 --> 00:52:45.880
oh yeah, I understand what you're saying. The

00:52:45.880 --> 00:52:47.530
person's going to be like, all right. But if

00:52:47.530 --> 00:52:50.530
you just reply K, it just sounds like you're

00:52:50.530 --> 00:52:52.829
like, oh, okay, whatever. Like you're tuning

00:52:52.829 --> 00:52:54.750
them out. And that's going to irritate somebody.

00:52:55.389 --> 00:52:57.170
A lot of people don't like that response. It's

00:52:57.170 --> 00:52:58.530
just going ahead and throwing that out there.

00:52:59.070 --> 00:53:01.130
Trust me, I learned it the hard way from one

00:53:01.130 --> 00:53:03.750
of my exes. She hated when I responded with the

00:53:03.750 --> 00:53:07.929
word K or KK. Because in her eyes, in her mind,

00:53:08.070 --> 00:53:13.889
I'm just ignoring her message. So, but like I

00:53:13.889 --> 00:53:15.980
said. If you have any questions, concerns, or

00:53:15.980 --> 00:53:18.659
whatever, hit me up on here on Wisdom. Ask your

00:53:18.659 --> 00:53:21.239
questions. I will answer them. Or I'll turn them

00:53:21.239 --> 00:53:22.960
into a topic for next time. We can discuss a

00:53:22.960 --> 00:53:25.460
little bit more. Or if you want to hear some

00:53:25.460 --> 00:53:28.199
of the other podcasts I cover that I do over

00:53:28.199 --> 00:53:30.360
educational topics and things that people should

00:53:30.360 --> 00:53:32.199
or should not know or things that they should

00:53:32.199 --> 00:53:34.599
have known, like learning processes, what they

00:53:34.599 --> 00:53:36.820
are, and how to apply them, feel free to check

00:53:36.820 --> 00:53:39.400
out my podcast, Food for Thought by Dark Answer

00:53:39.400 --> 00:53:42.610
Productions. And the coming soon YouTube channel

00:53:42.610 --> 00:53:44.230
that I'm going to post these on there so you'll

00:53:44.230 --> 00:53:45.869
get to see me in video form soon, hopefully.

00:53:48.070 --> 00:53:52.789
That link will be on my podcast channel. At any

00:53:52.789 --> 00:53:55.070
rate, I'll talk to you guys later. Hopefully

00:53:55.070 --> 00:53:59.210
y 'all have a good morning. It's 625 here. And

00:53:59.210 --> 00:54:00.369
I wish you the best. Stay blessed.