WEBVTT 00:00:20.489 --> 00:00:23.170 hey hey hey everybody welcome back it's your 00:00:23.170 --> 00:00:26.250 host neogentrics and we're back here on food for 00:00:26.250 --> 00:00:29.550 thought thoughts if it were you season two it's 00:00:29.550 --> 00:00:34.009 been a little bit it is about i want to say five 00:00:34.009 --> 00:00:35.829 o 'clock in the morning at the time of this recording 00:00:35.829 --> 00:00:41.570 so it's a great wednesday morning and i'm happy 00:00:41.570 --> 00:00:44.590 to see everybody is doing well continuing in 00:00:44.590 --> 00:00:48.149 the same format as we were before We're going 00:00:48.149 --> 00:00:50.710 to look at something else towards personal development. 00:00:51.070 --> 00:00:53.350 I guess you could say this is part three of what 00:00:53.350 --> 00:00:55.750 I've been covering. We're going to talk about 00:00:55.750 --> 00:00:58.070 your personal development top tips. Things that 00:00:58.070 --> 00:01:00.950 you should probably keep in mind so that you 00:01:00.950 --> 00:01:03.210 can move forward. This will be a short one, so 00:01:03.210 --> 00:01:05.609 look forward to another episode coming out a 00:01:05.609 --> 00:01:08.810 little bit later today on a different topic, 00:01:08.909 --> 00:01:12.230 okay? As we go through what we have to discuss 00:01:12.230 --> 00:01:14.709 today, it might become clearer what I'm going 00:01:14.709 --> 00:01:19.569 to cover later. let's get started with personal 00:01:19.569 --> 00:01:23.969 development top tips and you know when that topic 00:01:23.969 --> 00:01:27.109 comes to rise I want you to understand that you 00:01:27.109 --> 00:01:29.250 know sometimes it can be hard to know where to 00:01:29.250 --> 00:01:31.549 start when it comes to personal development as 00:01:31.549 --> 00:01:35.290 is evident from all the other things that I've 00:01:35.290 --> 00:01:39.510 covered up to this point so one of the questions 00:01:39.510 --> 00:01:43.430 that I've received is should I try to eliminate 00:01:43.430 --> 00:01:47.959 my weakness Should I focus on my strengths and 00:01:47.959 --> 00:01:51.099 build them up even further? Or should I just 00:01:51.099 --> 00:01:56.319 do something completely new? Well, you may by 00:01:56.319 --> 00:02:00.500 now be in a state of analysis paralysis, if you 00:02:00.500 --> 00:02:05.120 will. And you may not be sure as to what you 00:02:05.120 --> 00:02:09.900 want to do. But I'm here to help you get started 00:02:09.900 --> 00:02:12.719 and keep you focused on what really matters in 00:02:12.719 --> 00:02:16.830 moving forward. in your development let's get 00:02:16.830 --> 00:02:36.310 started all right everybody welcome back we're 00:02:36.310 --> 00:02:40.349 going to cover the tips top tips that we need 00:02:40.349 --> 00:02:42.889 that you can use for your personal development 00:02:43.849 --> 00:02:46.909 There are seven in total. I'm not going to go 00:02:46.909 --> 00:02:49.610 too in -depth into each one, as you know, each 00:02:49.610 --> 00:02:51.770 one of these topics could be their own individual 00:02:51.770 --> 00:02:54.430 podcast. But I'm going to cover as much information 00:02:54.430 --> 00:02:57.509 as I can, as always, in this short amount of 00:02:57.509 --> 00:03:00.789 time. Moving forward, starting with this first 00:03:00.789 --> 00:03:04.610 one. Why are you trying to develop? This is a 00:03:04.610 --> 00:03:07.189 question that everyone has asked, very few people 00:03:07.189 --> 00:03:10.909 give an answer to, and two ways I could think 00:03:10.909 --> 00:03:13.219 of doing it before I go any further. would be 00:03:13.219 --> 00:03:15.800 to develop your personal vision and then refine 00:03:15.800 --> 00:03:19.539 and narrow that vision these two things in particular 00:03:19.539 --> 00:03:21.860 on their own are not something simple that anybody 00:03:21.860 --> 00:03:26.400 can do but it is achievable it just takes a little 00:03:26.400 --> 00:03:29.020 practice something i'll definitely dive more 00:03:29.020 --> 00:03:33.740 into on a later date but The answer to all the 00:03:33.740 --> 00:03:36.159 questions about what and where, you know, what 00:03:36.159 --> 00:03:38.319 should I do, should I address my weakness or 00:03:38.319 --> 00:03:40.639 build my strengths, where should I begin, all 00:03:40.639 --> 00:03:43.039 become clearer once you actually identify the 00:03:43.039 --> 00:03:47.979 fact as to why you want to change. Learning... 00:03:48.360 --> 00:03:51.020 in that of itself can be interesting, it can 00:03:51.020 --> 00:03:53.280 be fun, it can be a way to develop and improve 00:03:53.280 --> 00:03:56.699 specific different purposes in your life. It's 00:03:56.699 --> 00:03:59.120 important to be clear about this purpose so you 00:03:59.120 --> 00:04:02.039 can assess whether or not your learning and development 00:04:02.039 --> 00:04:03.919 activities are moving you closer to your goals 00:04:03.919 --> 00:04:07.099 or further away, or taking you to something that 00:04:07.099 --> 00:04:08.860 you never would have considered to be a goal 00:04:08.860 --> 00:04:14.060 in the first place. It's also easier to get motivated 00:04:14.060 --> 00:04:16.060 when you have a clear picture of where you want 00:04:16.060 --> 00:04:18.699 to be in the end of the process. as you're moving 00:04:18.699 --> 00:04:23.019 forward but this depends on the person the second 00:04:23.019 --> 00:04:25.279 thing i want you to make note of is the planning 00:04:25.279 --> 00:04:28.720 of your development planning your personal development 00:04:28.720 --> 00:04:30.600 and documenting your plan will help you make 00:04:30.600 --> 00:04:37.000 it more uh as they say realistic or in some people's 00:04:37.000 --> 00:04:39.620 cases more materialistic something that's easy 00:04:39.620 --> 00:04:42.680 to see and essentially just make it physical 00:04:43.790 --> 00:04:45.970 There is something about writing things down 00:04:45.970 --> 00:04:53.129 that makes the exaggeration of it look ridiculous. 00:04:53.290 --> 00:04:59.970 And unrealistic stands out like a sore thumb. 00:05:00.189 --> 00:05:02.329 Anything unrealistic stands out like a sore thumb 00:05:02.329 --> 00:05:04.730 at this point, once it's been written down. Because 00:05:04.730 --> 00:05:06.769 once you look at it on paper, it doesn't seem 00:05:06.769 --> 00:05:09.870 nearly as crazy as it does when you just sit 00:05:09.870 --> 00:05:14.129 there and think about it. Make a plan. for your 00:05:14.129 --> 00:05:17.129 personal development, which includes time limits 00:05:17.129 --> 00:05:20.009 and stages of development. And this will force 00:05:20.009 --> 00:05:22.449 you to be as realistic as you can about what 00:05:22.449 --> 00:05:25.910 you can achieve and by when. Of course, writing 00:05:25.910 --> 00:05:28.990 it down does not bind you irrevocably to that 00:05:28.990 --> 00:05:31.949 paper in that list at that time. Everyone's lives 00:05:31.949 --> 00:05:35.310 changes. Your priorities may as well alter after 00:05:35.310 --> 00:05:39.110 you've planned your big development cycle. Who 00:05:39.110 --> 00:05:40.709 knows what's going to happen to you tomorrow? 00:05:41.209 --> 00:05:44.149 A bus could come out and slam into your job and 00:05:44.149 --> 00:05:46.290 the whole place gets shut down for two to three 00:05:46.290 --> 00:05:49.269 days while they rebuild. Or a random storm comes 00:05:49.269 --> 00:05:51.209 through and you're stuck at home because the 00:05:51.209 --> 00:05:54.069 roads are flooded. You never know. But a written 00:05:54.069 --> 00:05:56.189 plan, however, gives you something to look back 00:05:56.189 --> 00:05:59.050 on and a way of keeping tabs on the goals that 00:05:59.050 --> 00:06:02.550 you're focused on doing. Even formally altering 00:06:02.550 --> 00:06:06.079 them if necessary as you go. Douglas Adams said, 00:06:06.199 --> 00:06:09.040 I may not have gone where I intended to go, but 00:06:09.040 --> 00:06:11.620 I think I've ended up where I needed to be. Stating 00:06:11.620 --> 00:06:14.500 that even though you plan to be at a certain 00:06:14.500 --> 00:06:16.800 place at a certain time doesn't necessarily mean 00:06:16.800 --> 00:06:19.300 that you need to be specifically at that point 00:06:19.300 --> 00:06:22.500 at that time. You just may need to be nearby 00:06:22.500 --> 00:06:26.339 or heading to that point to get to the destination 00:06:26.339 --> 00:06:29.100 you need to be. And this also applies to a lot 00:06:29.100 --> 00:06:56.420 of other things in your life as well. Okay, so 00:06:56.420 --> 00:07:01.240 we understand that why you're trying to develop, 00:07:01.339 --> 00:07:03.720 and we understand the whole planning you're developing 00:07:03.720 --> 00:07:05.860 and why those are important. But let's look at 00:07:05.860 --> 00:07:08.160 number three, shall we? Documenting your plans. 00:07:08.699 --> 00:07:12.100 This may seem trivial considering what we just 00:07:12.100 --> 00:07:16.220 talked about about 15, 20 seconds ago, but... 00:07:17.610 --> 00:07:19.629 I want you to know that writing down your plans 00:07:19.629 --> 00:07:21.769 and activities enables you to review your progress 00:07:21.769 --> 00:07:24.250 as you progress moving forward. You know, keeping 00:07:24.250 --> 00:07:28.209 detailed records may sound like something that 00:07:28.209 --> 00:07:30.769 you would prefer to avoid, especially since a 00:07:30.769 --> 00:07:32.430 lot of people don't want to put in all that extra 00:07:32.430 --> 00:07:34.910 effort and don't want to try, you know, so on 00:07:34.910 --> 00:07:38.610 and so forth. But your personal development activities, 00:07:39.149 --> 00:07:42.529 if documented carefully, not only enable you 00:07:42.529 --> 00:07:44.970 to review your progress, but also provide a record 00:07:44.970 --> 00:07:48.620 of your thinking over time. it's incredibly easy 00:07:48.620 --> 00:07:53.720 um to forget how you felt about things at different 00:07:53.720 --> 00:07:56.120 stages this is why keeping a diary of everything 00:07:56.120 --> 00:07:59.000 that you do is important even why you thought 00:07:59.000 --> 00:08:02.360 a particular goal was important is is noteworthy 00:08:03.069 --> 00:08:05.930 Okay, carefully documenting your thoughts will 00:08:05.930 --> 00:08:08.910 help show you what works best, what doesn't work, 00:08:08.990 --> 00:08:11.290 what you can do, what you can't do, what you've 00:08:11.290 --> 00:08:13.709 enjoyed, what you've disliked, quite possibly 00:08:13.709 --> 00:08:15.889 point to you more suitable activities and areas 00:08:15.889 --> 00:08:20.449 for development. For example, for me. trying 00:08:20.449 --> 00:08:22.589 to write a book i've never done this before i 00:08:22.589 --> 00:08:24.050 didn't know where to start i didn't know what 00:08:24.050 --> 00:08:25.850 to use i didn't know what programs were allowed 00:08:25.850 --> 00:08:28.529 what fonts what systems what things and then 00:08:28.529 --> 00:08:30.149 i found out that by a little bit of trial and 00:08:30.149 --> 00:08:32.029 error and doing a lot of research and writing 00:08:32.029 --> 00:08:34.210 down everything that i tried things that i knew 00:08:34.210 --> 00:08:36.990 work things i knew it didn't work i found ways 00:08:36.990 --> 00:08:39.970 to around most of everything and i self -published 00:08:39.970 --> 00:08:42.230 my books mind you in the process of doing this 00:08:42.230 --> 00:08:44.350 i didn't expect anyone to read it i didn't expect 00:08:44.350 --> 00:08:47.220 anyone to see it okay But I did it because I 00:08:47.220 --> 00:08:48.860 enjoyed it and I wanted to move forward and I 00:08:48.860 --> 00:08:51.519 wanted to become an author. I am one now. I may 00:08:51.519 --> 00:08:53.659 not be popular, but I'm doing it. But the thing 00:08:53.659 --> 00:08:56.039 is, I kept documenting everything I did. I documented 00:08:56.039 --> 00:08:59.240 what worked. I documented what didn't work. And 00:08:59.240 --> 00:09:01.580 I'm still making progress, even if it's not a 00:09:01.580 --> 00:09:04.740 lot at the moment. Which brings me to the fourth 00:09:04.740 --> 00:09:07.860 point. You need to make sure you know what works 00:09:07.860 --> 00:09:10.549 for you. Okay? It's important to find out what 00:09:10.549 --> 00:09:13.210 personal development works best in your field 00:09:13.210 --> 00:09:16.070 or area that you're aiming for or whatever type 00:09:16.070 --> 00:09:18.029 of personal improvement goal you have that you're 00:09:18.029 --> 00:09:20.870 aiming towards. There's an enormous range of 00:09:20.870 --> 00:09:22.990 development activities available to everybody, 00:09:23.049 --> 00:09:24.990 from formal training sessions through online 00:09:24.990 --> 00:09:28.009 training to experimental learning, reading, discussing 00:09:28.009 --> 00:09:30.529 other ideas and topics with other people. And 00:09:30.529 --> 00:09:33.929 as with anything, it's important to find out 00:09:33.929 --> 00:09:37.169 what works best for you, as in, what do you enjoy 00:09:37.169 --> 00:09:41.009 the most? What helps you learn and develop quickly 00:09:41.009 --> 00:09:44.769 and effectively? What keeps your mind motivated, 00:09:44.830 --> 00:09:48.090 stimulated, and focused on the set topic? One 00:09:48.090 --> 00:09:49.750 of the things I've covered in the past is your 00:09:49.750 --> 00:09:53.470 personal SWOT analysis, and this helps you decide 00:09:53.470 --> 00:09:58.470 on what you need to do and what works for you 00:09:58.470 --> 00:10:04.009 in a productive sense. You can also find out 00:10:04.009 --> 00:10:06.070 more of these techniques by checking out some 00:10:06.070 --> 00:10:09.700 of my other videos. videos and podcast episodes 00:10:09.700 --> 00:10:13.000 that I've made before on that specific topic 00:10:13.000 --> 00:10:18.759 on recording stuff. But my point is, by documenting 00:10:18.759 --> 00:10:20.919 your experiences and including feedback from 00:10:20.919 --> 00:10:23.100 other people about your progress, you can also 00:10:23.100 --> 00:10:25.100 assess the relative effectiveness of different 00:10:25.100 --> 00:10:27.679 learning techniques that you need. Which brings 00:10:27.679 --> 00:10:32.480 me to number five, focus. Focus, focus, focus, 00:10:32.620 --> 00:10:34.759 focus, focus. I don't think I can say that enough. 00:10:35.309 --> 00:10:37.509 What is really important in your personal development 00:10:37.509 --> 00:10:39.370 is the question at this point that should be 00:10:39.370 --> 00:10:42.590 asked. And I want you to understand that personal 00:10:42.590 --> 00:10:44.610 development is a lifelong process. It's not something 00:10:44.610 --> 00:10:46.389 that can be done in three to eight weeks. Now, 00:10:46.549 --> 00:10:49.809 skill learning can be, but personal development 00:10:49.809 --> 00:10:52.330 is an ongoing thing, which is why it's sometimes 00:10:52.330 --> 00:10:57.090 described as lifelong learning. Okay. And in 00:10:57.090 --> 00:10:59.529 practice, although it can be hard to remember 00:10:59.529 --> 00:11:03.929 this. This means you do not have to do everything 00:11:03.929 --> 00:11:07.090 all at once I don't know why everyone tries but 00:11:07.090 --> 00:11:09.889 you can take your time unless you're in a hurry 00:11:09.889 --> 00:11:13.289 for specific things But I digress taking your 00:11:13.289 --> 00:11:17.190 time is the best option that you can do Okay 00:11:17.190 --> 00:11:23.330 Now with that being said I can get this working 00:11:24.970 --> 00:11:27.389 Your personal vision to identify what really 00:11:27.389 --> 00:11:30.710 matters now is what you have to do first to achieve 00:11:30.710 --> 00:11:33.529 your vision. And you need to concentrate on that. 00:11:33.610 --> 00:11:36.789 Only once you've achieved that, or at least made 00:11:36.789 --> 00:11:40.529 reasonable progress, should you move on. Uh, 00:11:40.850 --> 00:11:45.649 butterfly style, if you know what I mean. Personal 00:11:45.649 --> 00:11:47.950 development fitting from subject to subject, 00:11:48.129 --> 00:11:52.409 and that may keep you interested, but will... 00:11:52.679 --> 00:11:55.240 probably be less satisfying and or effective 00:11:55.240 --> 00:12:23.720 in the long term. Okay? Okay, everybody. It's 00:12:23.720 --> 00:12:25.779 about time we wrap this up with the top tips. 00:12:26.200 --> 00:12:28.700 So we've covered the next three, which is documenting 00:12:28.700 --> 00:12:31.019 your plan, finding out what works for you, and 00:12:31.019 --> 00:12:35.039 focusing. So what else could there possibly be? 00:12:36.200 --> 00:12:39.379 The sixth thing is to grasp any new opportunities. 00:12:40.159 --> 00:12:43.000 Don't be afraid to take an opportunity that you... 00:12:43.320 --> 00:12:45.779 you know, had not considered before. Just because 00:12:45.779 --> 00:12:47.799 it's not something that you thought of or would 00:12:47.799 --> 00:12:50.200 have considered working before doesn't mean that 00:12:50.200 --> 00:12:53.500 it's not a possible solution or may not or may 00:12:53.500 --> 00:12:56.980 help you get closer to your desired goal. Okay? 00:12:57.240 --> 00:12:59.460 Not everything in life or personal development 00:12:59.460 --> 00:13:01.559 is predictable. This is the first thing you have 00:13:01.559 --> 00:13:03.419 to keep in mind. Sometimes you may be offered 00:13:03.419 --> 00:13:05.779 an amazing opportunity to do something that doesn't 00:13:05.779 --> 00:13:08.960 fit your immediate priorities, but which sounds 00:13:08.960 --> 00:13:11.980 too good to miss. It is worth considering. I 00:13:11.980 --> 00:13:13.879 mean, Whether taking this opportunity will slow 00:13:13.879 --> 00:13:15.460 down your progress towards your ultimate goal, 00:13:15.639 --> 00:13:19.539 and if so, whether that even matters or not in 00:13:19.539 --> 00:13:22.419 the long run. In some cases, if it does slow 00:13:22.419 --> 00:13:25.600 you down, is the skill at least worth having? 00:13:26.860 --> 00:13:29.539 You know, it's not worth turning down something 00:13:29.539 --> 00:13:31.440 simply because you've never thought of doing 00:13:31.440 --> 00:13:33.940 it, or therefore it doesn't feature in your life 00:13:33.940 --> 00:13:38.159 plans. Sometimes taking a little short step to 00:13:38.159 --> 00:13:40.539 the side to take a break from your life development 00:13:40.539 --> 00:13:43.820 plans and whatnot might be the kind of break 00:13:43.820 --> 00:13:47.500 you need to help you move forward faster. Ultimately, 00:13:47.700 --> 00:13:50.059 being offered this kind of opportunity probably 00:13:50.059 --> 00:13:52.399 helps you to find your goals better in some cases. 00:13:52.980 --> 00:13:54.919 I mean, if it sounds very exciting and you really 00:13:54.919 --> 00:13:58.320 want to do it, then just do it. If it changes 00:13:58.320 --> 00:14:00.960 your goal and vision, so be it, as long as it 00:14:00.960 --> 00:14:04.799 helps you grow and move forward. I'm sorry, as 00:14:04.799 --> 00:14:07.480 Chad Michael Murray once said, our biggest regrets 00:14:07.480 --> 00:14:10.159 are not for the things we have done, but for 00:14:10.159 --> 00:14:13.100 the things we haven't done. And he's made a good 00:14:13.100 --> 00:14:15.580 point of this. I mean, there's a lot of times 00:14:15.580 --> 00:14:17.539 in life where you're offered an opportunity and 00:14:17.539 --> 00:14:21.960 you're like, well, it's not in my plan, or it's 00:14:21.960 --> 00:14:25.519 not necessary, or I don't need that. We all say 00:14:25.519 --> 00:14:27.179 that. We all consider it. We all think about 00:14:27.179 --> 00:14:29.820 it. At the same time, some people are so happy 00:14:29.820 --> 00:14:31.259 to jump for these opportunities that they run 00:14:31.259 --> 00:14:33.960 over the people in front of them. Not realizing 00:14:33.960 --> 00:14:36.100 that the very people they're running over and 00:14:36.100 --> 00:14:37.980 ignoring are probably the ones they're either 00:14:37.980 --> 00:14:39.419 going to work with or the ones who are supposed 00:14:39.419 --> 00:14:41.860 to help them progress forward. Thus making the 00:14:41.860 --> 00:14:44.580 opportunity void despite the fact that they just 00:14:44.580 --> 00:14:50.679 got it. Last but not least is number seven. Let 00:14:50.679 --> 00:14:53.460 your personal development evolve. Don't let it 00:14:53.460 --> 00:14:55.700 stay stagnant. Yes, your priorities will change 00:14:55.700 --> 00:14:59.840 and that's okay. Few if any of us will ever say 00:14:59.840 --> 00:15:03.240 that we are exactly the same person. at 35 that 00:15:03.240 --> 00:15:07.179 we were at 15 or even 25 i'm 27 about to go 28 00:15:07.179 --> 00:15:10.500 and i decided to start writing a book in 2016 00:15:10.500 --> 00:15:13.860 i am not the same person as a matter of fact 00:15:13.860 --> 00:15:16.100 i doubt i could think the same way i did then 00:15:16.100 --> 00:15:21.820 that i do now however as you grow and change 00:15:21.820 --> 00:15:23.840 taking on new responsibilities and work or at 00:15:23.840 --> 00:15:26.720 home you know so your priorities and goals will 00:15:26.720 --> 00:15:31.950 change is normal The key is to recognize that 00:15:31.950 --> 00:15:36.029 this is fine. It's okay. What matters is to ensure 00:15:36.029 --> 00:15:37.889 that your personal development activities continue 00:15:37.889 --> 00:15:41.389 to take you where you want to go. Regularly review 00:15:41.389 --> 00:15:43.389 and revise your personal development activities. 00:15:43.629 --> 00:15:47.529 Then plans and anything you do will ensure, from 00:15:47.529 --> 00:15:49.690 that point forward, that they continue to change 00:15:49.690 --> 00:15:52.610 with your priorities and remain relevant as you 00:15:52.610 --> 00:16:00.779 grow. Okay? With that being said... It's been 00:16:00.779 --> 00:16:03.559 a pleasure. I really enjoy doing these podcasts 00:16:03.559 --> 00:16:05.159 with you guys and I thank you guys for sticking 00:16:05.159 --> 00:16:07.779 around with me. If you like what you see here, 00:16:07.940 --> 00:16:09.799 feel free to check out some of my other podcasts 00:16:09.799 --> 00:16:13.960 or support me on Patreon or on anchors .fm forward 00:16:13.960 --> 00:16:17.059 slash neogentrics on the website or buy one of 00:16:17.059 --> 00:16:19.220 my books on Amazon. Go ahead and read one of 00:16:19.220 --> 00:16:21.919 those and see if the same person who you're listening 00:16:21.919 --> 00:16:24.879 to now could possibly be the same person who 00:16:24.879 --> 00:16:27.340 wrote those books and let me know if what I've 00:16:27.340 --> 00:16:31.899 done then Still matches the me now. This has 00:16:31.899 --> 00:16:33.860 been Food for Thought, Thoughts If It Were You, 00:16:33.919 --> 00:16:35.700 and I'm your host, Neogentrix. Enjoy the rest 00:16:35.700 --> 00:16:36.179 of your day.